So to give you some background... I met up with this girl I knew from primary school. She took me to her flat and we smashed. She is Muslim and wears a Hijab. She later confessed she regretted banging me and said she only does this with men who intend to marry her. Sort of like Islamic version of "I've never done this before". She hints out an ultimatum that I can only be with her if I intend to go for life and that if we were to break up she would have false hopes and get hurt. I reply to the shit test by saying I want to keep dating you to get to know you better because I won't rush into a relationship with someone I don't know intimately. A mature thing to say imo. So she says ok that makes sense but still appears to have regrets about how fast it went.
Fast forward today. She says she wants us to hang out in groups and suggests I meet her 2 female friends. She says they just came back from Italy and were at a mall. Then she later changes her story and tells me they will going to stay at a hotel and go partying that night and that she is thinking if going with them. She says her friends are also hijabis but then changes her story and mentions they drink sometimes. From meeting of them I could tell this girl is a slut sort of.
So I met her friend at the hotel and mind you, the girl didn't invite me to party with them. She just wanted me to meet her friend. Then for some odd reason she suggests that she will pay for me to stay at the hotel for the night so I don't have to back to my city. I suggest it's a great idea if she wants to spend the night with me. She gives me a BS reason as to why she can't since the 1 bedroom policy is for only one person??!!! And that it's too fast for us to be spending the night together. I even promised I wouldn't touch her. Mind you that I had earlier told her to stop the car and we french kissed... So anyway I tell her I would feel guilty if she just paid for me to stay at the hotel if she wasn't going to spend the night with me. Not sure what that whole thing was all about...
This girl I was actually considering LTR with if things checked out. Good thing I gave it time to discover her true personality.
My point is this... She lied to me constantly and hid many things. I dont feel I can trust her. She pretends to be an innocent hijabi but is willing to remove her hijab and go into the dirtiest nightclub in town (look up Nikki beach). She lied about the partying which she said she never does. Also when so asked her if she ever drank alcohol she said she never did and that she hates the smell... So then you will spend the night partying around drunk people? Right!! I believe you!
My issue is this. I don't care if a girl doesn't wear a scarf or if she drinks. I just can't trust someone who lies about themselves and pretends to be something they are not. Who knows what else she is hiding. Maybe she's a slut, maybe she drinks, maybe she still likes her jealous ex?? I was very straightforward about myself so I expected some honesty here.
Also she introduced me as her boyfriend which I thought was very disrespectful. Why the fuck would she think that? We haven't had that conversation and haven't dated long enough. Also that just made me look like some cuck who allows his girlfriend to party without him. I thought thatvwas insulting and explained to her that if we were together there is no way she could go party with her female friends, specially since they are sluts.
My question is this. Whatvthebfuck was all of that about? Why bring me to the hotel? Why suggest I spend the night there but not with her? How should I move forward with this? After discovering all this I lost trust and don't consider her as LTR material. Should I try to plate or just next?
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