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valid points, and but thats not my point. if reality does not align, are you just going to keep coping? it doesnt meant you are not high value - you just have to think of the reality of the situation.
/r/seduction19/02/26 07:39 PM
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absolutely nothing.
/r/seduction17/02/26 01:39 PM
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yeah makes sense man - going to try the in real avenue more. but with OLD, even like age 30-35?I understand under 30 it's gonna be harder. but even low to mid thirties as a 40 year old? honestly when I go out the age range that ends up likeing me the most is around 28-35
/r/seduction12/02/26 01:55 PM
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Thanks man - to clarfiy Im fine with women in their late 20's to early thirties. this is usually the age range im looking at. do you still think that I'd have the same issues with 32-35 year olds as a 40 year old guy?
/r/seduction12/02/26 01:54 PM
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Wait you get dates??? Hold up. It’s probably something else then.
/r/seduction31/01/26 12:51 AM
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Just focus on school. Move after. But if chances present themselves go after them. I’m in Chicago. Luckily I found someone who is well traveled and more into ethnic men and she’s awesome too - but I got very lucky. Most women here are super into white or black men. Asian men are not desired at all. This is the city I have gotten the least success with women by far.
/r/seduction31/01/26 12:48 AM
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Fucking move. It’s not worth the uphill battle. Trust me.
/r/seduction31/01/26 12:41 AM
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I happened semi regularly (like once every three times I went out) when I peaked lookswise from 35-37, but since then I’ve rapidly aged and it maybe happens once every 6-9monthe
/r/seduction07/01/26 08:53 AM
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Sounds so simple - I thought seduction was complicated??
/r/seduction26/12/25 03:38 AM
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Haha I truly enjoy being single and having my “me” time - we will see I guess! Good to know I already have a good mindset locked in
/r/seduction26/12/25 03:38 AM
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<image> When I got down to 10% bodyfat 179 lbs. 5 foot 11. I’m adding the winter layers back on now - at about 13-14%
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/25 02:42 AM
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unfortunately, my 3 points are mostly based on reality and the real world. I really really wish it weren't the case but it is. (and it may be just a reflection of where I live) the amount of women who are in their late twetnies/thirties who are super attractive / successful / interesting/ inteligent swooning over 6 foot tall white guys with bellies that wear ballcaps and just talk about sports and drink beer and then complain about said guys being "so one dimensional" while passing up other inte…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/25 02:52 AM
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as much as I love the PPD forum and discourse from both men and women, its time for me to take a long term and perhaps permanent break. I've realized that in order for me to get over the realization that I'm unable to achieve the "minimum attraction threshold", I need to avoid this forum re-focus on aspects of my life I can control. there is no use in regurgitating the same discourse here. i don't know why it impacts me so much, I guess its mostly because im used to having control over things in…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/25 01:40 AM
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no you dont. you like that clearly defined shoulder "hump" from the correct insertion point. as opposeed to a "smooth" transition where this is no defined seperation/hump.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/25 01:26 AM
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You Mirin’?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/25 01:17 AM
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The problem is that a lot of women have high standards for the wrong things. Looks, charisma,status. Versus character, compatibility, common interests. It’s much more easy to find a guy with good long term qualities than a guy who is, like, thuper “Hawwwtttt”
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/25 12:30 AM
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It’s crazy how the smallest physical factors can make or break attraction for women. Like a guy who has the right shoulder muscle insertions can look hot even if he is not strong, vs a guy with sub optimal shoulder muscle insertions but is strong can just look meh. IYKYk
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/25 12:22 AM
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Most women are turned off by shyness as it can represent lack of confidence. Some women find it cute. What I’ve noticed is that the determining factor is looks. If you’re good looking it’s cute.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/25 12:20 AM
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What irks me is how people attribute beliefs I say here as meaning my whole life and even dating life sucks. Not true. My real life is fucking awesome and my dating life is decent - better than most. But that doesn’t mean it changes my beliefs.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/25 12:18 AM
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Excuse me did you just assume gender!
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/25 12:13 AM
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women. all the women will say that if you are well rounded and take care of yourself, have social skills, confidence, etc etc that its rare that you wont get interest. Also I tend to agree somewhat - or maybe a better angle is there are some men who don't have these things or many redeeming qualities (not even looks) that still get attention.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/25 10:14 PM
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eh I meant optimized average - so like...maybe "chadlite"
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/25 10:13 PM
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you're a man. you are a disposable. a workhorse. welcome to reality :)
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/25 10:02 PM
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I'm still trying to understand the phenom of "optimized average men" who seem like they would get some attention but get zero indicators from women - like where there is zero reason why they should struggle but still do. It's almost like there is a 6th sense that women are completely unaware of that registers there lack of attraction with them - something to subtle that neither women or men have any clue what it is. like maybe hormones or something or something in the collective conscousness tha…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/25 09:52 PM
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this sums up why I've opted out of the dating market. you realize most men get tattoos in order to attract women and appear more cool, which is ironically the ultimate sign of conformity. yet women fall for it.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/25 02:53 PM
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I'm a millenial and I even don't understand the generation below me, gen z.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/25 02:29 PM
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I'm convinced that women actually lack the mental capacity to empathize with men. I'm being completely serious. I'm constantly just surprised at the responses from ALL women (yes ALL) on this topic. which is so odd since women have shown they can empathize with other demographics with issues. I'm being dead serious here - something in the brain chemistry actually prevents from empathizing with men. what's so wrong about admitting it is way easier for a women? seriously? not saying it's NOT easy,…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/25 02:28 PM
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the external "validation"I get is inconsistent and confusing. 1) Good amount of matches on dating apps 2) No signals of interest in person - zero smiles, approaches, conversations, indicators of interest. even when I look my absolute best (in a fitted suit after a good haircut, watch, etc e.g. groosman in a wedding), I get zero signals of interest 3) Friends occasionally set me up with their friends and say stuff like "she likes you, you should go for it" 4) the only people that hit on me are wo…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/25 11:30 PM
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posted this as a reply but I think it sums up how looks function for MOST modern dating outside of high school / religoius groups / tight night social circles where the same people have constant interaction and get to really know each other. although looks aren’t the most important factor for women, women are actually far more picky about the looks type they find attractive vs men. The physical characteristics that are viscerally attractive to women are more immutable (women place more emphasis …
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/25 11:26 PM
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no, looks aren't the only thing that matters, but if you don't have the looks she's likely not going to get to know you more. you can't get the role if you can't get the audition. this crap didn't happen 5, 10+ years ago where people met more in third spaces/etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/25 11:24 PM
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the other issue is that the threshold keeps rising as a function of the perceived value of the women, often to the point where 95% of men are filtered out as "no!" based on just looks alone without even giving personality a chance.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/25 11:23 PM
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I think we’ve actually covered and are in alignment with the various looks based dating theories - as evidenced by this thread having less comments and recycling the same topics with less and less debating. Here are the main points I’ve gathered. 1) although looks aren’t the most important factor for women, women are actually far more picky about the looks type they find attractive vs men. 2) The physical characteristics that are viscerally attractive to women are more immutable (women place mor…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/25 05:08 PM
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Yup - exactly
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/25 03:56 PM
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Women sometimes set me up with overweight women even though I am objectively fit/ripped. I finally had to tell them "I prefer someone who is in shape since I'm in shape" and then I get the flak of "well...she has other great qualities or...she's still pretty..or you're being too picky" the worst one I got was "well, your'e in great shape but you're also under 6 feet and are not a traditionally hot guy, a women who is fit wouldn't be into you" in anger its crazy how women reveal the blackpill whe…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/25 03:21 PM
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depends how you define attraction. are long term qualities like honesty actually "I want to jump his bones" attractive? maybe? depends if you find him attractive already based on other things? depends on the context of how honesty is manifested. its complicated.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/25 03:01 PM
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its always tough to know which choice you would've been content with in hingsight......
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/25 02:59 PM
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relationships have objective criteria and are not 100% attraction based - so when people choose to further limit their mate selection for a relationship based on progressively narrorwing attraction criteria its objectivly "shooting yourself in the foot" a lot of people make minor exceptions - like I'm into fit women since I'm a part time personal trainer but I don't need a "super fit women"- just one that takes care of her health and is in decent shape. I think it really comes down to that. obvi…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/25 02:51 PM
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you guys (in your thirties) starting to feel regrets really materializing as time goes on? mine is that I was basically pressured by my family to NOT go into music (my true passion) - and was told to get a stable higher paying job and then use that job to support music. arguments were: "musicians don't make much money and don't have job stability" and "most musicians I know have to work day jobs anyways unrelated to music so you might as well have a higher paying job during the day" what I didn'…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/25 02:48 PM
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well I mean do you understand why that nature of that selection process for arguably one of the most important aspects of life is extremely irritating for men? I bet there are other things in life that people do in a similar vein that are incredibly irritating. imagine if you were fairly qualified for a specific career and employers kept rejecting you for overly superficial reasons like they didnt like your blazer color or didnt like your hair color. it would piss you off right? and I guess we a…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/25 02:40 PM
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oh yeah from petrucci's perspective yeah. but 99% of women would chose joe jonas playing 3 chords on an acoustic over petrucci. but I suppose that doesnt change the petrucci still found a bangin' wife!
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/25 02:36 PM
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for old men in their 30s - younger, youthful, fun blonde women in college. they are just simply more sexually attractive. and then you meet one and she opens her mouth "OmG CHEcK OUT thiS tiK tok ughh Im DrUNK I want a GrillEd cheese SAmmich OMG my Shoes fell OFF tehehehe"
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/25 02:32 PM
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Because women are spoiled for choice when it comes to men, a lot of them often start getting more and more picky about superficial qualities in their primary filter, and often qualities that men can't change. Furthmore, a lot of these women don't have similar qualities themselves yet still are picky. A good example is a fit women with an average face realizing that she can get 6+ plus objectively good looking top 1-5% men on dating apps. so her bar rises to that that level not as a "oh nice to h…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/25 02:28 PM
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only if its high status music or pop music or if you're good looking. look up john petrucci or guthrie govan - guitar GODS - but their musical style is 99% male focused and they are not attractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/25 02:22 PM
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This is the issue. especially as you get better as a man, your standard in women increases. but so does it for women, so you are stuck "chasing" the carrot. hypergamy 101. if you become fit, you'll want a fit women but the fit women has very high value, so she'll want a fit guy who is ALSO 6 foot + / 250k income / charming /etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/25 03:59 AM
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man, do any men get discouraged at how much power women have to improve their physical appearance to be objectively attractive to the opposite sex vs men. There's this girl at my gym - she started a workout plan a year ago - she was overweight, not toned, no curves. she was objectively not attractive - but not ugly. average looking face. anyways, she has been consistent, putting the work in, with a cardio and weight lifting routine (mad props to her!). She was gone for around 6 months, and I see…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/25 08:01 PM
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ah, yeah, this makes sense to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/25 03:54 AM
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honestly pisses me of that women find a man more attractive to get in bed with if he has a good face/jaw but a crummy body vs a fit man with just an average...but well groomed face. we all know that when the clothes come off the women will prefer the fit guy, but becuase clothes are always on in public she only has the face to go by. my buddy has a "good for clothes" face - if that makes any sense - like he has a nice jaw, hair, face that just matches well with good clothes. but he's pasty white…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/25 03:50 AM
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I hate how the mere mention of race gets your post banned or warned. Imagine being of an undesired race (SE indian), and wanting to find answers or just pointing out that SE Asians have horrible luck, then getting your post banned. JFC
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/25 03:46 AM
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except, in general they do. its literally in my post.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/25 03:41 AM
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“Hey Sheila I know this grea…” “HOW TALL HOW TALL HOW TALL HOW TALL HOW TALL HOW TALL HOW TALL HOW TALL HOW TALL” TALLTALLTALL!!
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/25 08:40 PM
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/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/25 04:24 PM
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you could'be been born in somalia in the 1990s
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/25 03:59 PM
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38 years, 20-ish? (didn't really keep track), BMI 26 with bench of 305lb, facially I'm a a solid 6/10 - objectively average but on leaning slightly above just because I'm fit /dress well / well groomed. Salary 290k (including all sources of income), IQ 128, bachelors, I definetely have ADHD "tendencies" but not enough to require a psychiatrist or medication.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/25 03:55 PM
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interesting - what is your social/friend environment like? This has not been my experience at all where I live - but I have noticed this in other environments
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/25 03:38 PM
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actually down for this
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/25 03:12 PM
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This. There is a trend towards tallness being the most desired physical attribute. To the point where women would much rather date a tall skinny or overweight Average looking guy who is 6 foot 2 than a fit good looking guy who is 5 foot 10 I’m not exaggerating.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/25 02:22 PM
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Id put him on the upper end of average, but still within "average". hes good skin, good eyes, not overweight at least from what I can tell. but i'd stil think he is not good enough for most modern women, physically.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/25 05:24 PM
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ah yes, when I was 8 I wanted to become an astronaut and told me parents "YOU CANT TELL ME WHATS REALISTIC I KNOW WHAT I CAN ITS GONNA HAPPEN WAAAA" And then I remember all the blindly arrogant lemmings who think they have the audacity to know what is good for them with zero life experience into older age.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/25 04:57 PM
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its litearlly just starting a friendly converation, like a normal person. why is that so odd to everyon here.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/25 04:56 PM
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lol no. I'll chat with a women in public. and Im hoping other men who may be afraid to do that can see that it can be done in a way that is non-intrusive, friendly, and doesnt make the women feel unsafe or cornered. in fact, a lot of women like it. normal well adjusted women. Id say most women in fact. reddit is the minority :)
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/25 04:50 PM
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people are terrible at knowing what is good for them in the long run and the regrets they have by failing to consider wisdom passed down from people who have gone through life before that are much older than them. I believe what women tell me, but I dont trust their own projections into the future, especially when they dont align with what historical works. but yeah, elders that tell you what to consider based on their experience are just old conservative harpies if they disagree with you. boome…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/25 04:48 PM
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bullshit. I've had several relationships, flings, dates and the a lol of the foundational principles of red pill are solidified in real world examples. its not a perfect fit by all means, but it explains SO MUCH behavior.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/25 04:45 PM
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you do - but you only see what you see. there are swaths of men who are more single now, especially younger. the average age of marriage is increasing rapidly. I think we are on the precipace of men and women plain not partnering, similar to japan/korea
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/25 04:43 PM
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well I thnik the key here is to find a women that has genuine desire in you and doesnt make up rules such as "well I wait at least 2 months for sex even though I banged alpha chad in an alleyway 2 hours after meeting him when I was 19" most men fucking hate that, and the ones who say they don't have just been brainwashed and shamed by society. its not natural.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/25 04:41 PM
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the problem is you dont stop the men you dont want from approaching you and cut off the good men from approaching you. good men wil listen, the creepy sexual predator wont. you arent solving anything.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/25 04:39 PM
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how old are you? really think you are going to feel the same way when you are in your 50's 60's? people today have this blind arrogance based on their limited life experience that they know exactly how human relationships and the need for companionship operates. I truly believe only a few people are truly happy and "fine" alone in off into old age.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/25 04:35 PM
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oh, I forgot. average = ugly to women. :)
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/25 03:24 PM
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nah, I'm solidly average, which is just as bad :)
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/25 03:13 PM
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nailed it. u/AngeAware, Like most modern women, have a skewed definition of "average". I always use the term "minimum attraction threshold" - meaning the minimum amount of looks is required for her to even consider you - even accounting for improvements based on personality/etc. the thing is - the guy you posted above - if I gave that picture to the group of women that hang in my condo complex for events (like 15-20), nearly all of them would look at it and say "nah...just not my type". he doesn…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/25 03:11 PM
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women judging men without even knowing them, very typical behavior.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/25 03:05 PM
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yeah but you aren't all women.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/25 03:04 PM
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When they make the gym their personality, judge others for not going, and wear those singlets that are skinny on the back and that say something like "ALPHA WEAR" on them. IYKYK
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/25 03:03 PM
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I swear this guy has a perma smile - is he ever not smiling? "some hijackers aboard this plane......felt cute might delete later idk SMILE"
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/25 03:01 PM
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you know how good an ass looks in the right chinos :D
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/25 02:42 PM
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Revamped my wardrobe this winter - needed new clothes and decided to go full ham for once (vs my usual frugal/minimalist selection). got a super stylish peacoat, sweaters, chinos etc, paired it with an omega watch and went out to few cocktail bars to just have relaxing evening. I walk around - see MEN eyeing me - like obviously straight men but also probably a few gays. Sit down - random guy next to me compliments my outfit and watch. The funny thing is - ZERO eyes from women still. like literal…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/25 02:29 PM
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which AI bot are you?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/25 02:25 PM
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money only works if a women knows you have money. if you live a modest lifestyle with zero external displays of clear wealth why would she care? I have about 3.5 million in investments but I live in a 1 bedroom apartment, drive a toyota, and wear unnassuming clothes. to women im just like everyone else.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/25 02:25 PM
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just want until VR headsets come with a synced vibrator attachment attached to a fixture that connects to a simulation of CHAD pounding you in his penthouse overlooking the stars in the VR headset. its over for everyone then.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/25 04:01 AM
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Q4W: what gets your loins more in a tizzyyyy: ben, 5 foot 9, well groomed, fit, good haircut, great style, friendly smile, confident vibe, good conversationalist. average face. alex, 6 foot 2, messy "just got up" hair, casual outfit with exercise shorts, hoodie. average face. talks about finance and sports.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/25 03:56 AM
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Exactly. Not chadilicous enough!
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/25 10:46 PM
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Well, yeah - but what about the normal non-CHAD plebs that are not chadly chaddington enough? what if you're only 5 foot 10 vs 6 foot 2 whatever if you are put together but only have an average face
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/25 10:36 PM
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too bad social circles and friends are dwindling :(
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/25 10:35 PM
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other words, shaming of approaching by men is another avenue to prevent agency by men they deem unnattractive (90%+ of men) from having a chance, since these men will also get screened out in apps. brilliant.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/25 10:35 PM
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it isn't a bad ideea to have extra cash on hand. just don't sell all your positions. I basically trim as the prices reach certain valuation points, but never really sell out completely unless there is a clear reason. inevitavely the stock always dips in the future and I buy back in. I've trimed about 20% of my google position as it has approached 300, and about 20% of my AMD position. I've used that money to start investing in META as it went below 600 for example.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/25 10:16 PM
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Daily reminder that women would rather meet a random stranger through an app than be approached in real life in a third space like a bar, restaurant, coffee shop, gym, or even coed sports or hobbies. Daily reminder that that approach is basically backwards to what has been done historically throughout history.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/25 10:10 PM
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There is a rampant strange fetization and obsession with white, tall and sporty looking men where I live by basically all women. these men are all womens' types - and there only types it seems. you don't even have to be good looking - as long as you are literally just...tall and white. personality or connection doesn't really matter - just tall and white. also, you can't look too preened/dress too well - it'll be considered femmy. basically - the formula for success as a man is tennis shoes, ath…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/25 01:30 PM
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I wonder if there is a fundemental difference in brain Chemistry between women and men that prevents women from properly empathizing with how bad men have it today in terms of Dating imbalance. Or maybe women just don’t give a shit. Which may reflect another difference between men and women - the inability to feel empathy towards men and the disposability of men as means to an end vs actual humans.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/25 11:27 PM
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based and truth. I have chad friends as well - I went out with 5-10 years ago. women would literally grab my chad friend - by his butt, ass, crotch.....while he just chatted and smiled and danced. sometimes barely said anything. one time my female friend, who was a kinda prude, christian girl, would wait months before even going second base with a guy - met him for one night when he visited my hometown and......at 1am her hand is full on grabbing his junk underneath a table in a darker corner of…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/25 09:15 PM
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Q4W: why do you prefer to meet men on dating apps vs third spaces? why do you proactively avoid men in spaces where traditionally men and women have met in the past?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/25 03:32 PM
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nah, I think there ARE a lot of "bad" men out there - in the context of dating - using women purpusely for sex, verbally and sometimes physically abusive. I think the issue is that a lot women will date men in the face of reliable indicators of 'badness" - often justifying yellow, orange, and red flags. I see it all the fucking time. men do the same thing obviously. the giney tingles are just too much too handle "omg he didn't text me back and tried to fuck me so fast...but he is soooo hawwttttt…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/25 03:14 PM
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This. it's too textbook.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/25 01:45 PM
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Did the absolute worst post workout habit last Friday. Killed my workouts - 90 mins full body. I had plans to meet my friends at a steakhouse 30 mins later. Didn’t have time to go eat so just figured I’d just wait and get a massive steak and meal. Well, I’m starving, get to the steak spot and all spots are booked. So I guess we can hang at the bar and wait. Well, not spots opened up the entire night - so I basically had 4 old fashioneds and zero food post workout, left the bar, drunk, and no foo…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/25 04:58 PM
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Brb women complaining to average men that men stopped approaching them but please not the average men
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/25 05:09 PM
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lmao.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/25 07:00 PM
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Agreed. I got a tip screen one time at a convenience store lmao.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/25 05:34 PM
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I got once of those fancy ass lattes and tipped the barista well. I came back and just got a regular small drip coffee and put zero tip (since I already tipped well on the latte and its just a drip coffee). my payment didnt go through and I sat down - barista looks down at the screen (at my zero tip) and I could sense a look. she thinks im a cheapass even though I tipped her like 30% on the latte before. ugh.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/25 04:29 PM
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"dance monkey dance, dance monkey dance, dance monkey dance" "you arent good enough as you are" 'you arent good enough as you are" fuck that noise.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/25 04:07 PM
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shredded man here. do it. I'm almost 40 but I have tons of energy, strength, etc. men also tend to automatically respect you more. also, don't need to be shredded - just muscular/strong and around 10-15% bf. also get your form down - don't want injuries. yes, I did it originally to be more attractive to women, but all the benefits Ive found were in areas OTHER than women - and they are worth it. as it applies to women - being muscular is the "icing on the cake" - they don't actually care that mu…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/25 03:23 PM
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I don't have any crushing regrets - but one would be to take a year or two off and really pursue music. it's my true passion, but I Grew up in an asian american household where we were taught to prioritize studying and school, with no breaks. basically, straight from high school to college to workforce. I do music on the side and am very good, but, wonder what it wouldve been like if I really focused on it for a few years. I onyl get to play an hour or two at most a day. I have not taken more th…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/25 02:25 PM
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At the coffee shop again. its 8am. only me at the 10 seater coffee table. another man has sat down on the opposite side. table will be full of only men (and maybe couples) within an hour, despite the fact that 60-70% of women are at this coffee shop. men and women avoid each other actively. perverse society.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/25 02:14 PM
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oh sweet child. go down the a youtube red pill rabbit hole 10+ years ago and you'll find lots of treats.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/25 10:49 PM
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that's always been undeniable. but the RPers somehow thought tactics could be used to literally override looks. that is mostly incorrect.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/25 10:48 PM
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I used to be a RPer like 10-15 years ago. then I discovered that our society is heavily heavily leaning towards looks/image as the primary filter for dating. I still think a lot of their core principles are valid, to some extent. but things like "ignore the girl you are pursuing that doesnt like you since that will cause her to be attracted to you" is just BS
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/25 06:26 PM
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clarification: women respect the idea of marriage better than the actual marriage
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/25 06:22 PM
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socially it was better. full stop.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/25 05:30 PM
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No, its not just me lol. people would smile more/etc way more back then than today.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/25 05:29 PM
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the social atmosphere was completely different. prices were so much cheaper. that matters alot. 2012 was also during the recoverry period. I also was making barely anything in 2008-2010 due to the recession, but my fucking rent was also 300/month and I was living with best friends a college house. I could get a sack of taco bell that fed 4 people for 20 bucks.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/25 04:14 PM
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Above Average Jim in 2012: Jim walks out of his apartment unit, the cute girl next door thinks "oh, I was hoping he would be here..he's kinda cute" and smiles at him. he walks out of his 800/month apartment building in a nicer part of town, sun is out. he says hi to his other neighbor - 'what a beatiful day!". he walks to the coffee shop to get his 1.99 cold brew. the baristta greets him with a warm smile and asks him how is day is going and they make small talk. he notices one of the other bari…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/25 04:07 PM
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Missed the aurora last night. why don't we get aurora notifications from the NWS like we do with weather alerts?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/25 02:05 PM
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You don’t see the men who put in the work that get rejected. Plain and simple.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/25 05:49 PM
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how about: self improve for confidence, charisma, style, approach, approach hundredes of women and get rejected by most, improve your body so its lean and muscular, improve your income so you're more financially desirable, send tons of messages on apps and to get a far less % return vs women do. Hell, for fitness all a women has to do is not be fat. a man has to get in decent shape, build muscle. a lot o things you dont do JUST to get women, but they are kinda required and alot of men do end up …
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/25 05:45 PM
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"wow hey there sweaty, it's your pErSonALiTEE, I know a bald 4 foot 2 terminally ill wheelchair bound half human half toad hybrid creature that always has attractive women helping him clean his gigantic pus filled warts and pushing him around omg touch grass"
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/25 05:38 PM
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in totality men put in way way more energy, time, and money into courting women. full stop. end of discussion. if you can't see that then there is zero hope for you.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/25 05:35 PM
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"woOw sO you Help KILL people...such an ick"
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/25 02:41 PM
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Why is it a mistake
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/25 04:51 AM
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Fucking nailed it. Put 100 men in front of women that she could be compatible with. She will likely filter out 90-95 of those men for not being attractive enough.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/25 01:15 AM
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Does anyone find it annoying when you try to just be friends with a woman and they repeatedly tell you things like “you are jussstttt like a brother!” Or “oh you are totally not my type at ALL” or “I’m so glad we are friends and friends only”. Keeps happening to me when I try to become legitimate friends with a woman and we start connecting more. And it always happens out of the blue - like completely unprompted. And they always have to repeat it like every time we hang out. Like last night I wa…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/25 01:06 AM
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Oh I agree. I’m just saying there is a weird height fetish that eliminates tons of men
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/25 11:12 PM
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Where I’m from there is a massive height fetish. Height is treated like a dealbreaker. 6 foot bare minimum.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/25 11:02 PM
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I self improved with the goal to attract more women (in my twenties), and the funny part was that it actually helped improve me as a person and led to a better career, physique, being more confident. without that pain I'm not sure if I would've been pushed hard enough, as I am inherently lazy. I now consider it as a "catalyst" that helped me get to where I am today. I don't really care if it attracts more women now. This is a weird take, but I think it's worth trying to use as a huge source of m…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/25 10:39 PM
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Happy Friday Everyone! <image>
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/25 10:30 PM
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very interesting - I actually know quite a few. I actually wanted to pose the question to see if people would hit on the clear reason why. the answers: 1) they are in environments where women are more predisposed to shooting for men above their level. typically large progressive cities. 2) they don't match the desired "phenotype" in that area u/Reasonable_Mouse789 hit on it 3) They are unrelatable to most people and the people they do relate to hang in environments that are basically all male. A…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/25 03:40 PM
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all good answers. I agree that in group biases can kill you if you don't "fit in" - and I think women are especially critical of that. but that makes sense - as in tribal days if they reproduced with a man outside the soceity they were at risk of being banished. I've actually seen a women's type she is attracted to CHANGE to match environments. a lot latino or asian women that come to the midwest end up changing their preference from latino/asian men to white men. I use midwest as the example si…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/25 02:59 PM
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Q4ALL: Men you know who have good careers, good social skills, confident, financially well off, are in good shape, groomed, dress fairly well, average height or above, aren't "ugly", but aren't "hot", but struggle to attract women consistently - what is the reason? I'm talking like - you don't know anyone who has had a crush or liked them, they've never really had a girlfriend, and when you are out or meet new people no one women takes a real interest in them. Yet they are still well liked by pe…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/25 02:49 PM
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definetely get matches. Im talking about real life
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/25 07:04 PM
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Oh definitely asked. Especially since there was only one spot. I forgot to add that
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/25 06:53 PM
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no, I don't. I'm basically invisible, like most men. what does that have to do with autism? are you saying it's more likely that I just missed signals, and because of that I'm more likely to be autistic.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/25 06:17 PM
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JFC this guy above experiences attention most men never get to experience and literally just wants to self reflect instead of act on it. you do realize that most men wont have a fit girl display such overt attention in their lives? you realize how rare that is? I've never had a girl at the gym show that level of interest in me, ever, not even close, and I've been going to the gym 3 times a week for 15 years. and im legit ripped - this is the best im gonna look and its still not enough. youre sit…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/25 06:02 PM
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seriously, wtf is going on. sat down at a coffee shop table where there was only one open spot. the table was full of women and one other man. (there was no other spots at the shop) when I sit down, both women on either side of me put on their headphones on and shift their body language away. within 10 minutes they both leave. in their place two men sit down. when those men sat down the remaining women shifted their body language as well to signal "don't talk to me", then left within 5-10 minute…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/25 05:09 PM
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these people who think that are usually under the age of 30 and are re-gurgitating RP rhetoric.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/25 04:25 PM
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I realized I'm a weird case that I peaked physically around 35-38. before that I had too much of babyface to be considered "Attractive". probably went up legit 2-3 points between 35-38 when my face started "maturing" however, it's short lived as now I'm basically 40 and aging is happening rapidly. so I'm falling back down to where I was before, but for another reason (looking older) feelsbadman
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/25 04:04 PM
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i always hate these "peak questions". so much of it depends on lifestyle choices. also, personality and dress can make a HUGE difference in attractiveness. I've met women in their 30s who are confident, sexy, dress well, and keep in very good shape. they've also developed charming personalities that I'd 100% take over a women in her twenties who I can't really relate to.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/25 04:01 PM
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the venn diagram never overlaps
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/25 02:55 PM
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I shall paint a picture of the types women swoooonn over by major US city: Seattle/West Coast: He's a hipster that owns a microbrewery and dons REI on the weekends on his long Mountain hikes. He's also heavy in the tech field - a little nerdy but it's kinda anticing. there is also a diversity of types that are popular - some women prefer the young pretty look - some prefer the hipster beard look. the jock look is...less popular here. throw on a ball cap and a sports jersey and you might find you…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/25 07:28 PM
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you know, there are operations for that sorta thing............if you really..wanted to :D
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/25 07:07 PM
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Go on YouTube, search “bodygame” and notice how every bodygame shiller also happens to also be above 6 foot and classically very good looking. Hmmmmm
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/25 12:22 AM
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I am that and women that are that shoot for the stars. Hypergamy doesn’t seek its own level.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/25 12:05 AM
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It’s over. Based.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/25 06:38 PM
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Yes, but no one is doing Anything wrong. Seen it happen - and most of the women start clamoring over him / he fucks multiple girls in the social circle while the Timothy’s get nothing. Biology 101. Don’t fight.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/25 06:38 PM
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First one. Smile seems more genuine and less “made up”
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/25 06:26 PM
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you can tell who the non-self reflective men are who are also born with inherent dating privilage (aka looks) based on the advice they give. there advice always sounds like this: "yo cuz you just gotta give good vibes thats your problem bro just smile, hold the eye contact, and focus on your MISSION and your GRIND trust me if you do that they sense it and just COME to you naturally. if you not gettin success it's cuz you puttin out bad energy cuz and thats all there is to it, its simple"
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/25 04:26 PM
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good news: I'm back on the dating market bad news: I'm back on the dating market I can finally run my dating experiments with full and complete transparency. this is gonna be fun. I do tons of statistics and predictive modeling at work, going to apply this. the BrP shall be revealed (blunt reality Pill, which likely include blackpill)
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/25 03:41 PM
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why are women so into "GooD ViBeS onLY"? alot of people, men, like to discuss "bleak" topics and enjoy it. doesnt mean we are not having fun either
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/25 03:40 PM
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good for you man. you have to deal with what life gives you.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/25 03:38 PM
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Cute girl next to me on plane oooo I wonder ifff watches girl put headphones on literally immediately and never takes them off for the entire flight Meet cutes are dead.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/25 04:21 AM
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there's tons of good men. theres' not many good men who are also tall, attractive, charming, confident, etc etc etc that's the issue.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/25 01:50 AM
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It’s a more recent thing that’s on trend. TALL!!
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/25 11:50 PM
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being TALL to women is like seeing a women with perfect legs in a sundress flapping in the wing, andthe outline of her nice curved body sillhouted against the sun. TALL is life. TALL is everything. have you ever heard "hey I know a guy for you, he's great, fun, attractive, fit, succesful" women: "but is he T-T-T-TALLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLL"
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/25 10:45 PM
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ok outlaw-biker-CHAD
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/25 10:40 PM
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I hope you had a trapper keeper!
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/25 09:09 PM
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It’s actually simple because women seem to all prefer the same attributes in a man, despite them saying otherwise Tall. Preferably the vanilla phenotype. Good looking face Confident Hair on head 100k plus job.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/25 08:18 PM
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seems to be leaning that way.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/25 03:15 PM
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Is this a justfied relationship dealbreaker or not: you are dating a women - she has communicated what she needs but also HOW she needs the needs met in order for her to be cared for. You find out that over time, its difficult for you to meet that need - or it's not being done in the "right way" to her (the "how"), or not being done with enough consistency (with the level of consisteny required being very high - do it 10 times right, but it one time wrong and she's not getting her needs met) you…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/25 02:52 PM
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hey that looks great come cook for me! (sorry I'm a guy) :D
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/25 02:49 PM
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facial neotony into adulthood is a death sentence for men but a massive halo and benefit for women. facial neotony cannot be compensated with improving other masculine aspects like muscle, wearing more mature clothes, etc. often men with facial neotony cannot grow facial hair either. most women I know don't find shohei ohtani attractive at all because he has a crazy babyface, despite being a fucking MLB wayne gretzky and being 6 foot. insane huh? why become an tall MLB superstar when it's all ab…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/25 07:25 PM
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there is some overlap, but in other areas basically zero overlap. example: a short straight guy that is objectively attractive (face, body) would be attractive to tons of gay guys, but not many straight women.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/25 07:19 PM
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probably a guy who has boned numerous women on his boat, but preselection actually makes OP more turned on by nautical CHAD so she can prove to him that she is the best.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/25 07:17 PM
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your sweet 6/10 crush hooked up with a 8/10 6 foot 2 former college athlete on spring break after night out partying and had an mind blowing orgasm from his 8 inch D that she still thinks about this day. and she used zero protection.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/25 02:47 PM
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oddly specific thing that I just hate: not having a good private bathroom situation - either at work, on trips etc. I'm visiting two friends in another city and they volunteered their place to stay at versus me getting a hotel for reasonably cheap (like 100 for 2 nights). I LOVE privacy, like I need my retreat - but they are so nice so I said yes. Well, I get here, and its the perfect nightmare sitaution for zero privacy: bathroom is basically connected to their bedroom (why????) there is NO fan…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/25 02:38 PM
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We need more women like you. The women I know where I live eliminate way way more men based on looks and personality can never ever make up for looks. I’d say 90-95% of men get eliminated on looks alone. Not even just “not my exact type but still kinda cute”. Like “no, I’m just not attracted at all and it’s never gonna work”. Standards through the stratosphere.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/25 08:03 PM
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Height has became such a weird trend lately. In the past tall ugly was still ugly. Now tall is like the ultimate halo. It cancels out everything else. Women find a tall ugly man more attractive than a good looking 5 foot 9 man
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/25 06:14 PM
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yeah, we heard it directly from women in the responses. shyness is the worst trait, period.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/25 06:01 PM
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lol he's actually based off a guy I know in my pickeball crew. he's fucking hilarious, full of energy, always fun, and literally says what I typed out.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/25 05:58 PM
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Q4W: three men approach you. what the thoughts going through your head? Timothy Approaches (a little nervously, you can tell he's been thinking about it awhile and genuinely seems likea nice guy): "well....hello, I just wanted to say Hi - I n-noticed you and think you are pretty and had to say something - well so, what brings you here?" Chad Approaches (confidentely, but you also know he's trouble and he think he can get what he wants) *flashes winning smile* "whiskey with....no rocks?" - I didn…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/25 04:24 PM
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I'd say. just be bold. no need to change your entire damn personality. think "I'm obviously the best choice, she just doesnt know it yet" or something like that
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/25 04:07 PM
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Yeah, a slutty Lorax!!!
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/25 06:10 AM
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Yeah, you know all of us PPD men are exactly the kinda guys smashing chicks in sultry Holloween customes left and right!!!!
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/25 05:23 AM
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You won’t be the first to bang on his boat. He’s high having his gold buddies every weekend for how many chicks he’s smashed by having a boat. Boat Chad.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/25 05:20 AM
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as much of a BlackP leaner than I am about looks in terms of "women pretty much all like the same attributes" - I do notice that women are like...completely divided in the body hair vs no body hair.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/25 10:17 PM
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I've always wondered when there is a huge disconnect between what man looks like with clothes on vs clothes off naked in bed - if that can be a major ick/turn off. like - since women are attracted to more immutable traits like facial structure / five o clock shadow / arm hair / shoulder width / height + being really attracted to how the man dresses. This can lead a man that doesnt really look good naked to "fraud" his looks with a nice suit / button up / nice facial hair/ grooming. but when he's…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/25 10:06 PM
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A good looking guy will attract women with a wide range of "personalities" - introverted, extroverted, shy, talkative, charismatic, meek, etc an average looking guy needs typically a "good personality" to have success with SOME women. confidence, interesting topics, charisma etc an ugly looking guy basically needs to have his personality be the "main show". people need to remember him purely based on his awesome personality.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/25 03:57 PM
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yeah, theres a lot of nuance here obviously if you dive into the layers. I'm not really talking about "arousal" but moreso "Attraction" - which is not JUST wanting to jump someone's bones and is not purely sexual. I've seen women get so excited about a man when she learns he is a high earner or has a high status experience - it builds the story in her mind of that man and adds layers on to sexual attraction elements that already exists to amplify them.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/25 02:14 PM
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oh, you can find them daily through the SEXY (Sexual Equivalency X-Mark Yield) Report. recent reports by analysts indicate SEXY rate has been wildy overvalued (much like the stock market) since the advent of online dating apps and has only risen since the pandemic, with women continually being bid up to record high valuations. According to historical trends, a overavlued SEXY rate, combined with OF subscriptions at an all time high, typically preclude societal collapse.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/25 01:59 PM
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"Sexual Market Value Equivalents" in Today's Modern Dating Society 6 foot 2 man with average face and an overweight or overly skinny build = 5 foot 9 man with a good looking face and fit body = 5 foot 7 man with a extremely handsome face, ripped body, and very good fashion sense. 6 foot 2 man that makes 50K = 5 foot 9 man that makes 150k = 5 foot 7 man who makes 500k
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/25 01:18 PM
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visited a gloryhole.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/25 04:10 AM
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The issue that the majority of men that women find attractive is so slim that the “that I’m also attracted to” qualifier has to be added. Otherwise you have men running around confused as to why women stay they want a nerd but 99% of nerds would not be physically attractive to women.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/25 11:56 PM
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Coffee shop table experiment #2. I'm sitting alone at a large table, the only guy. the only other large table is mostly full of women. I'm noticing women coming in, looking at a spot to sit, looking at the empty table I'm at., noticing me, then deciding to not sit at the table. the coffee shop is mostly full and they are deciding to eitehr leave the coffee shop or sit at the crowded women's table. it's mostly women (like 80%) that are at this coffee shop. my table wil gradually fill up with the …
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/25 02:02 PM
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What I love: Women are less judged today about sexual freedom, choosing NOT to settle down early and rear a family if they don't want to. I've met some incredible women in their 30's who are attractive, intelligent, successful and down right fun as hell. the confidence combined with feminine energy and playful nature is downright intoxicating. This is my type to a tee and I feel like women don't really reach this until their late twenties or thirties. Keep in mind I'm also in my thirties as well…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/25 01:18 PM
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why do you choose such an extreme as an example? Of course basically 100 % of 20 year old women would recoil at the though of being with a 55 year old average man? but what about a 25 year old and 40 year old good looking, successful, fit man who looks younger for his age? My "looks prime" was probably 36-37 - and the age range of women that hit on me the MOST were women between the age of 19-25.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/25 01:10 PM
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Oh yeah? What if told you they were, but the sexual marketplace is so lopsided that a girl with similar attributes as the guy gets 20x the attention.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/25 03:27 AM
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bed-time story time! The Life of a Non-Chad vs life of his looksmatch: Non-Chad: He wakes up, opens up his phone. one instagram message - oh it's a community he joined adversting something. he got a sound night of sleep again - there were zero text notifications or dating app notifications to wake up him. That girl he went on a date with last weekend, his looksmatch he thought he had a good time - hasn't texted him since 6 days ago. "that's ok, I got a date tomorrow". as the morning wears on, he…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/25 02:42 AM
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brOOOOOtal.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/25 02:22 AM
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next week: "so I saw annoying man with a girl, like how could he even get a girl? seriously? well anyways, now I'm intrigued..I have to get to know him more....how is this possible? what secrets does he hide? does he have a secret superpower, is he batman? does he just have 9 inch dick and know how to use it...yes...that must be it...nothing else seems appealing...but I must find out if he has one....Im going to just..say hi....and play flirt to see....oh whoops...he actually seemed normal..and …
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/25 02:15 AM
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honest take: I think it's outright dumb that men that are "too close" or cannot engage romantically are friendzoned, even if they would be great matches. I remember a college classmate where we got a long A TON, there was tons of chemistry, flirting sometimes, and we had so much in common. we got closer as friends, but I had a long term relationship when I knew her (so of course I was loyal to my then gf) after we broke up, we remained friends but she told me one night that being friends for so …
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/25 07:04 PM
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yeah - I think that's difficult for most men to understand is that how the vast majority of women are not attracted to us, regardless if we would be a good match otherwise. this is because to men, we find a FAR higher % of women attractive enough to date. Imagine walking in a room full of women as a man and thinking "hey a lot of these women are cute/hot - there's a lot of options here to see if we are more of a match!". This is the world men operate in. but the world women operate in is "man, S…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/25 04:33 PM
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Precisely
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/25 12:15 AM
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You’re way more attractive than you give yourself credit for, that’s why. I’m a solid 6 on my best today - in shape but avg face. The types of women they have been into have been very very consistent. NEVER had a women that is actually “hot/beautiful” hit on me, ever (above my looks league). And then women that hit on me are consistently either at or below my league (usually slightly overweight or decently in shape but with a flaw somewhere like ugly face)
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/25 10:37 PM
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I think op is talking in the context of wanting a relationship as in “improving aspects of your personality” to hopefully be more attractive. A lot of men’s temperaments/personality are fine and they are happy with who they are. Why would they dramatically change that if dating success is heavily dependent on looks. I’ll give an example: I’m introverted, analytical, I kinda suck at flirting, and I have zero motivation to be a smooth talker or super charismatic guy.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/25 10:28 PM
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Sure, if you no desire for a relationship, go ahead. But op is talking about men who want a relationship. Telling men who aren’t attractive enough for their personality to matter by saying “well then just have a horrible personality then” is pure misandry.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/25 10:23 PM
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if she is constantly telling me that "it is your privilage and favor to provide for me" then yes, i resent her and would never want to marry someone like that.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/25 02:07 PM
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women framing man doing work for women as a privilage and favor. only wildly pathethic men fall for this. the love is gone, absent, men are utilities.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/25 01:20 PM
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Is the stock market supposed to feel like a free money machine? I bough AMD, SOFI, Google a while ago and every week it's like someone comes in a slips a couple thousand under my door, for doing nothing but clicking buy in april/may.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/25 12:40 PM
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I would maximize my attractiveness if i were a women and reap the rewards unabashadly. I would not purposely manipulate people - but I would shoot up in my career fast / use the halo effect to amplify everything. attractive women have by far the most power to influence, especially in their twenties
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/25 12:36 PM
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Ive noticed ot of women's idea of leagues is based off of supply/demand factors in the sexual market place and not individual qualities of the person. I keep hearing "well if you can't attract that person that means the dating market doesnt think you are in their league right?" so, you're telling me, if suddenly every man became obese, unemployed, and living at his parents, and 99% of the female population vanished suddenly, that you'd considered an obese, unemployed, living at home man in "your…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/25 07:12 PM
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costco really? you know fun it is to try all the samples together?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/25 07:06 PM
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This is why "being platonic friends" with a women (or man), never works in perpetuity, you lose the real friendship eventually. Imagine getting along with a someone great - but for whatever reason, there is not mutual attraciton, or there is someone else in the picture. you may be VERY close, share memories, connect, hang out every day, have deep 1:1 conversations, maybe take trips together. you two are CLOSE, and that's not disputable. you share vulnerabilites, and you connect over them over ye…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/25 02:35 PM
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Part of the dating dance for women is happenstance aka “meet cutes” There may be 50 men she runs into every week that may be good candidates, but as soon as she has to take the initiative and find those men the dating dance has lost its romanticism. Men have to adapt. It’s just the way it is and it’s ain’t going to change ever. Men have to be the initiators and put themselves in positions of where there will be natural exposure and interactions with these women.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/25 10:36 PM
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natural selection doesn't have foresight, it just operates in the moment and self adjusts.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/25 05:19 PM
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Every women I've been with loved for me to be very dominant in bed - alot including chocking / spanking / domination roleplay, grape play (asking me to hold them down while they try to get away as much as they could). I don't know if this is becuase I'm muscular and the women that date me share more of the fantasy or not? but in my experience, at least sexually, basically all women want to be dominated.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/25 03:06 PM
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you think it all comes out at once?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/25 11:49 PM
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theres a difference between dating and fucking people intentionally while going on dates with other people.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/25 11:44 PM
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Imagine going on a date with a women out to dinner and she has to excuse herself and use the bathroom to clean up the jizz from a couple Hours earlier from her FWB.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/25 11:36 PM
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two women in my social group are fucking a FWB to get regular sex (not even dates, just coming over and having sex) while going on new dates with guys each week - with the guys paying for fun dates / dinner dates, sometimes seeing the guy a few dates in and giving him maybe a kiss. and these are pretty normal, intelligent, women - no signs of crazy. I mean god, good luck out their gents.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/25 11:11 PM
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my ex girlfriend and her two friends were out drining one night (like 6 years ago) - and they all said "ill let you in on a secret....it's only creep when an unnattractive guy approaches and flirts with you tehehehe" dead serious.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/25 10:03 PM
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Never said it was easy! Just saying I’d rather be a women with women dating app problems.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/25 03:29 PM
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walks outside: notices every women has headphones on - on their walk, a the park, at the gym, the coffee shop, and hang out in groups and bars/restaurants away from men and in general avoid men
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/25 03:02 PM
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oh no, this debate again. women have it way easier on dating apps versus men. but they will never ever admit it. not sayin they both struggle with issues - not saying that. but overall, I'd 100% rather be a women with their problems on dating apps versus a man
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/25 02:09 PM
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how do I know you're not ai, how do you know I'm not ai. how do you know your enivironment isnt an AI simulation since your only reference point is an AI simulation if it were an AI simulation.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/25 03:31 AM
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Yeah and a lot of men don’t have the time or energy to learn level 110 super salesman top 1% charisma, especially if it doesn’t align with their natural temperament. Then you have to fucking maintain it in perpetuity.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/25 12:07 AM
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yeah, but that doest mean fit should go for fat people because "wELl ThatS whaTs in youR percentile" thats bullshit, yet alot of women are responding to this thread saying "well youre league is what the dating market says it is, and is NOT based on your attributes" kinda insane to think about.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/25 08:40 PM
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shape and healthy is the "icing on the cake" and holds little value in the grand scheme of attraction for women. that's why. conversely, it can turn an average 5/10 women into a 8/10 just on body alone.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/25 08:38 PM
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They meet men like jack all the time - but then dismiss him as “well, he’s not my exact type” it “I’m already seeing a 6 foot 2 hot doctor, maybe later”.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/25 07:55 PM
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oh totally. or failing to get into the top 10% due to one limiting factor they cannot control (height for example)
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/25 04:49 PM
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these are good more nuanced points - and keep in mind I'm saying that jack is in a "frustrating situation" due to attributes being valued differently across sexes. he may have to comprimise - but don't we all have to comprimise/bend on some things? my point was not to think Jack is unique or his situation deserves pity - but moreso just highlight what I see as a growing demographic of men in this situatino. I'd say in your situation wanting a man that makes a comparable amount - it's more about …
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/25 04:01 PM
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jack is frustrated that he cannot date women of similar attributes as him because said attributes are valued more in women vs men. that doesnt make jack a jerk, it makes his frustration perfectly reasonable.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/25 03:50 PM
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I'm surprised - I've noticed that recently alot of women will date most men as long as they are tall - meaning tallness in itself is enough, even in the absence of other characteristics.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/25 03:48 PM
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the "tall trend" is definetely here and I think was set in stone by the dating app height filters. what pisses me off is how it's started to become a "dealbreaker" versus preference. a few years ago it was "as long as he is taller than me by a few inches" now it has become "he NEEDS to be above 6 feet!!" furthermore, I've noticed their other qualities can be less than ideal, just as long as they are above 6 feet. meh body, average/meh face.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/25 03:47 PM
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no, I do agree with you, and the reason is because women have more ability to raise their physical attractiveness vs men, within the same attribute, but this does not change the fact that is probably frustrating to possess an attribute and be unable to attract someone with that same attribute. I think a lot of men are frustrated at this. let's say out an example based on your selecting of random 100 men and women again. jack is an average height average faced guy that is in great shape - people …
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/25 03:29 PM
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I agree - but in this case I think jack's limitation would be his looks, not his career/status, which is something women increasingly raise the bar higher and care about these days. I there are shared values, conversational chemistry, connection, and both people want the same thing and either party is not wanting a romantic connection, the issue is one person does not pass the looks threshold for attraction. this threshold IMO has gotten higher and higher for women, to the point where I'd say wo…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/25 03:13 PM
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edited my above comment - I was meaning to say "values" not "value" "values" = the qualities they want in a partner vs "value" = sexual marketplace
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/25 03:07 PM
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because most women in my experience dont care if you are interesting / hobbies / local arts unless they are exicted about your income / looks / job status. I dont know, maybe im just around shallow people but thats been my experience. where im at you can be the most fun/interesting/mutli faceted guy but if you don't have looks/status then you will always be friendzoned. I wish it was differnt.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/25 02:24 PM
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yeah, and women into fitness aren't going to date a fatass either.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/25 02:22 PM
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wtf did I just read
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/25 02:07 PM
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yeah - and that is the whole point of my post. and im not saying jack is going after "super hot women", just that a women who is in shape and dresses well (like) is likely considered "hotter" than jack, even if jack has the exact same attributes - because being in shape has a much bigger impact on a womens' looks than a mans.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/25 02:03 PM
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yes jack would be more than ecstatic with dating a women with similar attributes to himself.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/25 02:01 PM
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ah I didnt see what you wrote earlier. my argument is that most women similar to jack are not dating men similar to jack and are dating men above jack's league. now eventually, they may end in a relationship together - but jack is typically not these womens' first excited choice.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/25 02:00 PM
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Yeah and that’s the point of my post! Leagues and attributes are misaligned between genders.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/25 01:31 PM
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We need to get one thing straight - jack is pursuing women who have similar attributes to him. Does that make those women in the top 10% and jack blow the top 10%. In general, I’d say no.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/25 01:20 PM
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Jack is not in college!! He’s probably in his mid to late twenties. This is important as people resort to online dating apps / not meeting in public spaces then.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/25 01:13 PM
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from a "sexual marketplace" standpoint - yes. but that's not the right away to approach individual relationships - especially if you just want someone with similar attributes/values as yours.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/25 01:08 PM
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there is nothing wrong with thinking "I want a gf, it really sucks being lonely" how is that shitty? zero empathy for men.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/25 01:06 PM
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how so. if jack has a high level fiftness he's going to want someone who also values this as well - and it does not need to be to the same level at all. problem is that these women are highly valued in itself because of that - higher than jack, just because they are women. that's the issue. he's not being too picky if he's basing who he wants based on values he himself has.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/25 01:02 PM
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in my example I'm implying that jack would have similar values/attributes to the women he wants, I dont think that is "shooting out of his league" at all. where did you come up with this conclusion that jack is "outside the league" of the women he's pursuing while having the same attributes?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/25 12:58 PM
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I do agree with this - however I'd say it's been more difficult to get into a relationship with these men / they have to settle to some degree or the women has to settle to some extent. their dating lives are marred by infrequent dates or frequent dates with women they are not that excited about and dont match their value.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/25 12:57 PM
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I disagree. a lot of women go after high status men (lawyers, doctors, former athletes) while not being at the same level themselves, and in fact, far below that level.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/25 12:55 PM
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yeah that's my point exactly. he's basically a guy on the upper end of the distribution of "average".
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/25 12:53 PM
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jacks in the real world (probably mid to late twenties) - well over 50% of the population is overweight.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/25 12:52 PM
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men are problems solvers - if they aren't getting connections/dates with women they will try to figure out what's wrong - and not go back to just "trying to connect with women". its obviously not working, their is another factor they need to identify.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/25 12:51 PM
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i mentioned he is also average height and average looks (facially I'd say).
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/25 12:50 PM
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I said his standards went up - implying that they were lower before
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/25 12:47 PM
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Jack is not fat or ugly. why should jack date a fat and ugly girl? yeah - and exactly - those women in general are going for the %ile of men above him. that's the issue.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/25 12:45 PM
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Are you serious? 70% of the population is overweight only 10% of men make 150K or more just those two stats combined put my example as solidly above average.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/25 12:43 PM
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I think what frustrates alot of men is that there is a perception that "leagues" is seperate from a "connection" with someon. as in, alot of men view potential romantic connections not occuring because women think a certain man is out of "her league", based on qualities that have little overlap with what would constitute a "connection". an stupidly relatable example is a hot, slim, popular girl who just happens to be best friends with a overweight, kinda dopey guy - but maybe they grew up togeth…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/25 04:17 AM
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when it comes to dating preferences, there are incredibly strong trends that indicate looks are mostly objective.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/25 04:12 AM
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most men dont have this luxury. because leagues exist. I'm one of those people that thinks that leagues actually prevent connection that would otherwise occur form occuring.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/25 04:12 AM
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I've always wondered why bruce less is objectively considered not attractive by the vast majority women - despite being insanely ripped / having a fierce persona / masculine aura / calmness and fighting ability. then it hit me - it's his facial features. they are not prominent. that's literally it. that's a crazy pill to swallow.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/25 12:59 PM
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why did you link me to that cesspool of a subreddit. its like the fem version of inkwells
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/25 12:53 PM
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always been like this man. the bar for arousal for most men is fucking low whereas for women it's high as hell. 1) a young woman who throws on a pair of yoga pants, a t shirt, messy unkempt hair but has a good figure just because she's young and has only done cardio and recreational sports will have a more positive effect than a male fitness model running shirtless down the street with a nice v taper, abs, and 10% bodyfat.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/25 12:51 PM
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there's a difference between acting sexually forward like a man and acting sexually enticing, feminine, flirting. you can still go after sex/relationship as a women and "play the part" (the fantasy men want) without coming across as too thirsty
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/25 12:46 PM
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you know he watched 72 tik tok videos titled "its SEXY when a man reads book in public, pant pant pant" and then he picked a book women are most likely to notice
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/25 12:37 PM
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I have been friends FIRST with probably 50 women since I was 16 - like actual hang out 1:1 friends in some capacity. not a SINGLE time has one of these friendships turns into something romantic. I constantly heard "I could not see you in that way EVER" or "you're just not my type at all". etc etc etc so, its a complete crock of bullshit I agree.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/25 02:56 AM
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I’ve always thought If i were a women I’d get as sexy as possible to get what I want out of life
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/25 06:08 PM
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wake me up when I can get 10 chili cheese burritos for 10 bucks again
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/25 09:36 PM
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Hey now, CHADS don't SIMP!!! :D Also, is your real name Stacey???
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/25 09:28 PM
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Textbook right out of a red pill book. Fucking textbook. 1) women notices CHAD and gets tingles 2) women realizes CHAD is fucking other women and is desirable. This creates more tingles. (Pre selection) 3) women pursues CHAD with direct proposition of sex to try to win him over. (Alpha fucks = immediate sex) 4) women gets the ultimate chad prize (congrats OP lol) Yet women deny it. :Don’t
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/25 09:02 PM
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excuse, did you say ESPRESSO CUP?! we INJECT Testosterone INFUSED HAND SMASHED Columbian coffee beans straight into our BALLS for MAXIMUM ALPHA PENETRATION ARRRRGGG
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/25 02:16 PM
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u/Ego73 ordered the SOY matcha instead. that was his mistake!
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/25 01:39 PM
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OP is correct for a lot of women today. When women pursue men that are of higher status (looks, career, charisma, etc), those men are in general going to be less likely to commit due to their options, and are likely to be more promiscuous and prone to sleazy behavior - this is tied directly to their charisma/looks. you ever hear "oh I know he's bad but I can't help it". I know several women who choose to pursue men that have these "red/orange flags" but their logic is overcome by their attractio…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/25 01:31 PM
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it happens alot in the city I'm in - actually it's very very common and was suprising to me as well. a few women that I just met on a co-ed sports team are 30,31, and 33. their age ranges on their dating apps are low 30's through mid 40s. the last guy one of them dated was 45 (she is 31). it's usually women over 26-27 that start dating significantly older men (10,20+ years) however, women under this age stick to their age group. When I was 37 I had brief flings with two women over the summer - o…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/25 01:09 PM
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update on yesterday's coffee shop two table male/female dynamic: well, the women got up from her spot early. leaving an open table. After, a few men sat down at that table, meaning the two large tables now only had men. as predicted, as women came in, they avoided both the table I was at and the other table, and instead tried to look around for another, any spot, that was either a solo spot or next to a women, or deciding to not stay at the coffee shop. Also, Despite the table I was at having on…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/25 12:57 PM
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let me gather some local CHADS and have them sit at a table and see what happens....lol
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/25 03:15 PM
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eh- I think it's always been this way, but it's far more prounounced now
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/25 02:21 PM
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it's like that he's been told to not bother women at the gym (seriously). I'm the same way - If I see a guy using a piece I'll ask him. if I see a women I'll likely just wait - unless she is on it for a lonngggg time. very normal.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/25 02:21 PM
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In my current city, I don't think ive ever had single women or groupsask to sit next to me - or if they did they had very closed off body language. in other cities it actually happened quite frequently. I'm not mad, i just love observing how the sexes interact
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/25 02:16 PM
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no its not just me, Ive started noticing lately it's most everyone. living in a large city + widening division of sexes = everyone avoids each other. it's mostly the 20's crowd too.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/25 02:11 PM
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get the booze flowing. then the women who are shyer will become unshy around you and shos it. but, in most cases, women will make it obvious. but, compare her behavior to you vs other men. 99% of the time when a women is "touchy" with me and I think she is into me, she's that way with the middle aged 50 year old man as well. there is a women who I just met (new friend group) who kept touching my arm, my chest/abs lightly and smiling. I was like "100% into me". then I noticed her literally lightl…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/25 02:06 PM
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At a coffee shop. there are two large tables in the center. both can fit about 12 people. there is one man (me) at one table, and one women at the other table. here is what will happens (And always happens): women and men will come into the coffee shop, the women will look at the two tables and choose the women table over the man table as to not want to be bothered by men. the men will likely do the same if they see primarily women at the women table (don't want to make women uncomfortable). If …
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/25 01:55 PM
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when every women says they been sexually assaulted, half of them mean = "a man brushed his hand against my ass at a crowded bar 5 years ago and it traumatized me"
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/25 01:48 PM
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plot twist - OP is in HR
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/25 01:30 PM
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Btw - I torched that account (only had one) and split into several accounts instead for different purposes.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/25 02:23 AM
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Haha that’s silly. That wouldn’t actually work right? Right???? Women aren’t that into narrow archetypes that fit their childhood imprints of the jock image being high status and desirable, therefore, impacting whom they are attracted to all the way into adulthood right? ;)
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/25 02:20 AM
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I didn’t choose Reddit. Reddit chose me
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/25 12:31 AM
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Q4W: Why do you avoid men in public, even in social third spaces like bars, but then turn around and use dating apps to meet random strangers, while are you avoiding the real life men all around you? this post is inspired by me sitting a bar now with basically all women purposely sitting at opposite ends of the bar as men are at, while dressed up, swiping away on dating apps.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/25 11:31 PM
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agreed, its almost like a self filtering mechanism.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/25 07:31 PM
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Always found it interesting that women with previous significant trauma growing up in childhood / in past relationships found me basically completely undesirable/friend zoned after getting to know me a little (even if they found me initially attractive), but every women that I have dated where attraction developed futher were women who had stable more traditional two parent households and a strong father figure. I think it has to do with the fact that I am consider myself stable, consistent, lev…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/25 07:28 PM
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this is exactly what im talking about as well. feminine features in the absence of masculine features. women love it.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/25 03:21 PM
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Ah- in my experience this type would be too “muscular” for them. Too much masculinity.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/25 02:59 PM
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my buddies and I are noticing younger women (20-25) are into more feminine-esque men in appearance/demeanor versus when we were 20-25. less scruffiness/muscularity and more into the pretty / softer look. actually, alot of women seem to actually not like masculine features such as an athletic build and see it as a turn off. very interesting - anyone else notice the same thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/25 01:50 PM
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I think the more correct (but just as blunt/based) statement is: Most people are completely unaware of the influence looks has on non-looks dating criteria like percieved confidence, safety, chemistry, and personality. the halo effect basically. an ugly person that is confident is "aggresive", while a good looking one is "confident". a quiet ugly person is "weird, scary". a good looking quiet person is "brooding, mysterious" etc etc the most salient example of this in my dating life is the sheer…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/25 08:28 PM
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yeah, they should be. I'm in agreement with that. that's half of the issue.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/25 02:01 PM
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yeah, I agree. it's when you add the caveats like "well, but its NOT the most important thing, personality/chemistry matters just as much if not more" men interprit that as "ok so personaliy/chemistry/etc can make up for lack of looks. when often times, it cannot, especially in this modern dating age. I think a lot of it is due to the previous messaging that was given to men up to recently. now women are alot more vocal and honest that they are very selective about looks.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/25 02:00 PM
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you aren't calling a spade a spade. that's the whole point. you're missing the point.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/25 01:57 PM
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why do you always go straight to personal attacks on who wrong who and fail to actually address the point? the point is to provide you a suggestion to change the way you convey information to men. instead you dismiss it and point out "how women must have wronged me". your'e incapable of having a civil conversation with another human.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/25 01:26 PM
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you: "Therapizing ENGAGED" men are still being conveyed the message that looks are not the most important thing. when in practicality, they seem to be in this modern dating age. maybe not the poster above (she admits it), but from women as a whole. that is what matters from a PRACTICAL standpoint, because that is how men SOLVE PROBLEMS. it's not about victimhood, it's about being honest. men are being conveyed the message "looks are important, but they are not the most important thing" men inter…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/25 12:48 PM
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Is a partner desiring "the best relationship" possible and constantly holding that standard an orange flag? I think the issue lies in what each partner wants and how they define "the best relationship". for a man it is often much different than a women. this can lead to the man constantly feeling like he is "fucking up" and the women picking him apart for inconsistency in his actions for effort. I also think that this sets the bar too high, and leaves less room for grace and levity.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/25 12:31 PM
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no, I dont agree with 75% if everyone is stuck in a room and plays "swipe in real life". there are numerous ""swipe in real life" bits on youtube, and it's shown that women still reject most men.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/25 12:28 PM
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stop the virtue signaling and padding of the looks narrative e.g. "looks arent the most important thing" especially in response to arguments from men about how women seem to be very picky about looks. men have been given this message our entire lives, and it's only recently where men have been told "ok looks are very important for women", previously have told men "its your personality, its your attitude, its not your looks" its the constant lies and shaming of men for pointing out obvious facts …
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/25 12:23 PM
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attitude doesn't matter if a women cannot envision being naked with you baseed on your appearance.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/25 12:20 PM
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Q4all (but please women answer): 1) You take 100 random men and put them through a looks improvement program over a year - including really good grooming, styling, and losing weight / improving fitness to be at least "toned" 2) You do the same thing with 100 women. After the program has ended: 1) What percent of men would be considered "attractive" to the group of women, on average - as in they would be swiped right on a "tinder in real life" experiment. 2) What percent of women would be conside…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/25 03:45 AM
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A lot more to debate. Saying "looks matter but arent the only thing" completely leaves out the fact that most women find most men baseline unnattractive, lookwise, even after accounting for self improvement. but most importantly, in the modern date age most women typically require a man to meet her looks threshold or looks "type" before she can even get to the "other stuff that matters just as much". aka - although looks are not the most important thing for women, women are the most selective AB…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/25 03:35 AM
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Yes, studies show that more attractive people have more succesful life outcomes in almost every facet. why not try to maximize it to gain the advantage?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/25 03:31 AM
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I actually argue it doesnt really increase your attractiveness, as women tend to be attracted to more immutable characteristics in men, physically. muscles are the icing on a cake and don't elicit arousal unless she finds another aspect about you (often immutable like height, phenotype, facial easthetics etc) attractive. this is contrast to women, who can often go from "meh" to "attractive" JUST based on improving their body alone.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/25 03:30 AM
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You can show intent and interest and still not "chase". It's kinda like viewing the world as your "playground". If you are suddenly struck with interest, naturally, by someone - because you are genuinely interested, don't lie to yourself and say "no, I'm not showing interest, the internet told me not to" fuck it. show interest. but don't expect any interest in return. and don't act butthurt when interest isn't returned. it's more about not having a chip on your shoulder than anything because som…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/25 03:26 AM
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this "soft harems" are a thing now. women sharing (not knowingly) the same top men.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/25 01:07 PM
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both men and women are equally capable of rationale thought and logic. it's more that women tend to process emotions differently and therefore there decisions don't always follow traditional logic and reason whereas men sometimes lean too hard into logic and reason and do not consider the emotional aspect What annoys me about dealing with some women is that the "how" always seems to matter way too much, sometimes ever more than the "what". basically the delivery of information. I just want to fu…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/25 12:58 PM
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In the modern dating era in a progressive city for men and women between ~18 and 40 this is absolutely true. basically environments where people tend to meet more on social media / dating apps and are exposed to large groups of potential parteners and are less religious. in fact I'd say it's more like 90/10. in rural areas or more conservatives cities I'd say this is less true.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/25 12:55 PM
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I’ve always wanted to create a meme drawing of a women sitting with her back against a door with a gaggle of men behind it, crying saying “I just can’t find a man”, while simultaneously pushing the door back shut.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/25 11:09 PM
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Jesus - I'm a solid 6 on my best best day. does this mean I'm a 3? :D
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/25 01:00 PM
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Muscles matter only if women are already attracted to your face, height, frame. it's literally that simple.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/25 01:00 PM
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additionally, everytime I see a female friend swipe on hinge or bumble its LITERALLY exactly the image u/Lonely-Fren posted above, to the fucking tee. it's like CHAD dressed up to represent different archetypes.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/25 11:10 PM
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I sincerely hope you never reproduce, or mentor anyone young man or young woman ever. Your thoughts are literal poison and will guide away either gender to destruction if taken seriously. Have you heard of someone named hitler? He had similar thoughts about eliminating a specific group of people.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/25 09:33 PM
You can kill a man, but you can't kill an idea.

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