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ItsBinissTime/r/seduction05/04/15 12:07 PM
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So you think women aren't afraid that women will laugh at them, and men aren't afraid that men will kill them? The difference is that (in general, of course) insecurity doesn't make women unattractive to the opposite sex.
/r/seduction27/06/16 05:15 AM
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Like Woujo says, women don't like douches. So they're nothing to concern ourselves with. The problem is when we start calling guys douches because we're so insecure and feel inadequate and afraid of them, in which case the "correct response" is to recognize that we're the problem. I think there are two major mental shifts that need to happen if we feel threatened by what "game" we think guys out there might have. 1) I'm "King of the World". Everything that happens is for my amusement. So if you'…
/r/seduction19/06/16 07:07 PM
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Another guy's girl? Obviously not.
/r/seduction19/06/16 04:33 AM
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A shared secret is a powerful thing, and turns women on. You didn't hurt him at all.
/r/seduction19/06/16 03:32 AM
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Google kino escalation. "Light" and "Heavy" is an over simplification. Think of it as a microcosm of seduction. Escalate smoothly.
/r/seduction14/06/16 03:45 PM
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In a sense, the two are the same thing. It's a sign of receptiveness to your positive energy. That doesn't mean she's asking you to approach, or is hoping you'll sleep with her. But it's a good opportunity to take it to the next level, and just say "Hi." Eventually, you'll sometimes say "Hi" without always getting a smile first, and eventually you'll get people saying "Hi" back. And then you'll take it further with simple comments, leading to small talk, etc. You're just broadening your range - …
/r/seduction12/06/16 10:05 PM
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Also, wasn't she the one telling him his opinion was no good? Wasn't that the whole reason they were there?
/r/seduction24/04/16 05:55 PM
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Yes. Everyone does. But it happens subconsciously. She's not really aware of it. But you get to enjoy the results of it anyway.
/r/seduction24/04/16 03:16 AM
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The problem is that you're looking to her for approval and validation. You're practically begging her to define who you should be. This is unhealthy and damaging to you, and prevents you from being someone she could be attracted to. If you feel that you've failed to some degree in social calibration - you read the situation wrong and misjudged the level of familiarity, comfort, etc. - then use that knowledge to improve your behavior. Don't make it even worse by discussing it with her and seeking…
/r/seduction23/04/16 05:05 PM
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Congrats on the poetic talent. It's hard to come by. Unfortunately though, that was the opposite of seduction. When you put a woman on a pedestal, and can't interact with her as a normal person, it will likely make her feel good, but even if it makes her want to be around you more, it will murder any real attraction that could have happened. She can't help it. She's probably not aware of it. But at a deep subconscious level, the guy who worships her and the guy who turns her on are completely in…
/r/seduction17/04/16 10:58 PM
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Skepticism? ...if what you say is 100% true (and I think it's pretty close)... The issue isn't finding books, it's knowing which ones you found useful. Even if you've come to the conclusion that any one of hundreds would be, you're the one whose read them. You're the one who knows. Anyway, thanks for the titles. Looks like Joe Navarro wrote "Read 'Em and Reap". Hahaha. What body language have you found to make you feel more confident? I know about using "Superman pose" prior to social situations…
/r/seduction17/04/16 09:50 PM
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People putting themselves down (while, perhaps, not particularly healthy) is completely normal. I'm not sure there's much point to having a general opinion about such people. What's sometimes helpful to guys, is to realize that those people who don't seem to have any reason for insecurities are still insecure. For example, (in general) the more someone depends on their looks for value, the more insecure they are. If this helps to stop you from putting her on a pedestal, that's good. No matter wh…
/r/seduction17/04/16 11:50 AM
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a few books on body language... But they didn't have titles? ...more confident body language will make you a more confident person... So ... what? Should I become confident, film myself feeling confident, then study the tape for a couple of years? Or maybe, could someone whose already studied this, mention some helpful examples? Even if what you say is 100% true (and I think it's pretty close), how does it help me? If I haven't already found those books myself, read them, learned some body langu…
/r/seduction17/04/16 11:25 AM
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The good news is, if you didn't go all emo and tell her you couldn't be friends 'cause you like her too much, then putting into practice a more productive mode of interaction now, even with other women, will potentially set you up for opportunity with her in the future.
/r/seduction28/03/16 03:41 PM
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The most important thing is that you change the nature of the relationship. But relationships have momentum and they're hard to change on purpose. If you can, you should. Stop "orbiting". Be responsive, but not too available. As in, actually find better things to do with your time. But if you must pretend, just shut off your phone for a few hours at a time, for about half the day. When you get back to her, do so while doing something else. Be engaged when communicating, but make contact a low pr…
/r/seduction27/03/16 09:13 PM
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I can't really speak to the history of this community. I don't know much about it. As for "leave her better than you found her," I'd look at that as "enlightened self interest." Not only does having a positive impact generally make one feel good about oneself, it also creates the potential for future opportunities.
/r/seduction19/03/16 02:20 AM
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There's probably a little something to most of those points. But I'd sum it up by saying that general dating advice is based around some conception of how society and social dynamics "ought to" work. Meanwhile, actual seduction techniques are based around what actually has worked on a consistent basis.
/r/seduction19/03/16 02:03 AM
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The only real issue is expectations. Manage yours. Manage theirs. Yours There's a special kind of stupid that people tend to catch when they get married. You need to realize that "perfect for you", coming from a married person could mean anything from "the stuff of your nightmares" to nothing at all. Ignore it. Expect nothing. And you'll be ok. Theirs When married people start talking about setting me up, I usually tell them, "I'm not really relationship material. I'm just looking to fool around…
/r/seduction19/03/16 01:55 AM
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You shouldn't be thinking fast or slow. You should be thinking smooth. Escalate with small steps. Her reaction to each tells you how she feels about the current level, and whether to progress, hang out, or back off. She doesn't realize it, but she dictates the speed. You initiate and read her reaction. In the right situation, it'll be fast. Being overly forward is a filtering technique. I think it was "Style" who [Edit: someone] told the story about a buddy yelling at all the girls walking by, "…
/r/seduction19/03/16 01:35 AM
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It sounds to me like your seduction techniques did matter. She just didn't realize it - and didn't realize you were gunna hook up 'til you invited yourself over. You should recognize that you were only able to pull off the self invite because of the dynamic you had established and built through the night. It created the situation where both the idea and the confidence made sense - where you would do it, and she would be receptive to it. Also, you need to realize that these things become techniqu…
/r/seduction17/03/16 03:42 PM
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I'm beyond confident, maybe to a fault? It's just killed my self confidence... It sounds like what you're describing is cockiness, not confidence. As in low self esteem hidden behind aggressive personality. Your polarized experience could be a result of some girls seeing through it and others not - or all of them seeing through it and some seeing opportunity. We can only guess. The one thing you seem to have going for you is some kind of idea of what you're ultimately after. So relax and work to…
/r/seduction16/03/16 03:37 PM
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So looking at "Mystery Method" now: She has put on this bitch act ... all these loser guys approach her ... she gets this constantly ... So she is very good at brushing all these guys off. She has to be... ... So Mystery's response ... ...snubbing them is important. You cannot insult them, because they are accustomed to all the hurt guys insulting them ... turn [your] back to her ... show disinterest... [Note that Mystery is assuming group interaction] It wasn't about filtering. It was for women…
/r/seduction12/03/16 01:45 PM
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Totally agree with your objection. Half disagree with your definition. Neither compliment nor insult, a neg is something in between - an accidental insult or backhanded compliment ... to lower a woman's self esteem while actively displaying a lack of interest... -- The Game Of course this isn't literally Mystery's definition. But it seems to me that the more important part of the definition here is the "lack of interest", and the almost-insult is nearly incidental. In other words, it's not so mu…
/r/seduction12/03/16 03:08 AM
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This is also important because of how getting the number effects her. It's a natural end point. She can stop thinking about you because the interaction is complete. This is why I hate the term #-close. The only thing you've closed is the rapport you had going. Even if I don't get a day time insta-date, I'd rather make actual plans, and then give her my number to text me for details. That way the date is already set, she has to invest in it, and she doesn't feel like I'm chasing, even though my i…
/r/seduction09/03/16 02:13 PM
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It's good that you question yourself. And when the two of you don't see things the same way, you should give her the benefit of the doubt. But ultimately, you have to identify the patterns. Are you mostly friends with passive people, because otherwise there are arguments? If you really can identify a tendency in yourself to be overly defensive, then you need to work on your self worth. Ultimately, you need to get to a place of enough self confidence, that you're ok with being wrong, you're not t…
/r/seduction01/03/16 04:53 PM
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It means that he was only pursuing them to prove to himself that he was capable of winning their interest and attraction. He wasn't really interested in them, he was just interested in them being interested in him, because that makes him feel valuable.
/r/seduction01/03/16 04:21 PM
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I don't think there's much point dwelling on this. There's no real way to "handle" him, because he's her problem. It's perhaps good experience, and an opportunity to practice being un-threatened. I'd stay away from the "5 closest friends" line. It's pointlessly insulting. But a little teasing is probably ok. In the imaginary world of arm-chair hypotheticals, I might just have turned to her and said, "Is he always like this? How do you put up with him?" And maybe a little jab like, "That thing we…
/r/seduction01/03/16 12:50 PM
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This seems exactly correct to me. I think you should use it as an opportunity to understand yourself better. Figure out who you're really attracted to and who you aren't. Stay friendly with those you aren't. Pursue those you are. Getting a little validation after a low point or dry spell is ok, but get over the need for it and move forward.
/r/seduction01/03/16 12:29 PM
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Agreed. "Levels", "leagues", and ratings are a naive outlook on attraction. It's generally accepted that women are naturally attracted to guys who can (for lack of a better phrase) "handle the world". This is not universally true, but it is generally true. However, to one woman, an Italian suit and a German car are signs of social strength, while to another, tattoos and long hair are. Everyone has their own quirks. You never know if you might look like someone's ass-hole boss, or move like someo…
/r/seduction29/02/16 04:42 PM
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This feels all so romantic in your mind, and there's a pretty good chance it made her feel good and she appreciated it. But women have a really hard time being attracted to anyone who puts them on a pedestal. They're instinctively attracted to a guy, who has social validation from enough other people, that she can't phase him. If you make her the prize, deep down she understands that you're not. She can't help it. She's not even aware of it. There's nothing wrong with feeling and expressing attr…
/r/seduction18/02/16 09:15 AM
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As far as I know, knowing trivia about dinosaurs and the geological history of the Pacific North West has about zero to do with intelligence. Obviously he's talking about things you don't give a shit about. If you gave the smallest fuck, you would remember from whatever class that was or learned it in your Google adventures. You don't. But he brought it up. And all of a sudden maybe it really matters whether or not you know about it? This is purely an issue of self worth. If you had a good handl…
/r/seduction16/02/16 01:07 PM
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When I first learned about eye contact techniques, I took a girl out, and while she was talking I started doing the eye-eye-lips gaze. She got this little grin and kept on talking. I thought, "Crap, she knows exactly what I'm doing, " and I just started focusing more on the conversation instead. She kept bringing up all these interests, like she was trying to find common ground, but we were just too different. I actually ended up saying, "I don't think we're gunna find anything in common." Then …
/r/seduction15/02/16 08:42 AM
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Also, don't get a number just for the hell of it. Make a date. Then exchange numbers. I saw some talk where a guy said he never asks for numbers. He just invites them to something, and if they agree to go, he says, "Shoot me a text and we'll set it up.", then gives them his number. I think there must obviously have been more to it (which I don't remember) for this to be really successful, but the point is that getting a number should never be your goal. It should be a logistical after-thought.
/r/seduction13/02/16 05:28 AM
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Wrong community college. There's so many. Just find the right one.
/r/seduction13/02/16 05:20 AM
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With the last girl I kissed: Me: [holding her face - gazing into her eyes] "You are so..." "short." Her: "Heh - I think you like it."
/r/seduction13/02/16 05:11 AM
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They're two sides of the same coin. What they have in common is "outcome independence". In other words, it's the fact that you're transparently expressing yourself, without distraction or concern for their approval, that generates the attraction. Whether you're expressing interest or disinterest doesn't really play into how attractive it makes you to them. However: You might personally find it harder to maintain that outcome independent mindset when expressing interest, because it strikes a litt…
/r/seduction11/02/16 11:01 PM
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Almost no one devotes their entire life to just getting laid. And I suspect that those who come close, tend to have a very hard time of it. In most situations, a large part of being seductive is not being "needy". That means, in part, that you have some variety of interests and skills, and enough social (and perhaps professional) success to give you a strong sense of self, confidence, and fulfillment. A person whose only interest is sex, is to most people (women, anyway) not an attractive person…
/r/seduction10/02/16 07:00 AM
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This. But be careful with the teasing. Don't be that guy whose "sense of humor" is putting people down - especially if people think you're too serious. Teasing and bantering is important and creates connection, but even more important is the simple habit of finding humor in life and laughing. Once people are comfortable enough with you to laugh with you (and especially if a girl is showing interest in you), then you can poke a little fun at them to good effect.
/r/seduction10/02/16 05:55 AM
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Be honest... about the reason for your anger. Of course you have to be honest with yourself first. If you find the reason questionable or unacceptable, then get over the anger and change yourself. If it really is her giving offense and not just you taking it, then you need to talk. I remember a girl I was dating saying something that pissed me off. A series of possible responses scrolled through my mind. Two or three different variations of nasty responses occurred to me. Fight fire with fire? N…
/r/seduction03/02/16 03:55 PM
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Here's my post on Sense of Humor. It's relevant, but doesn't exactly answer your question. TL;DR: It's more important to laugh than to make others laugh.
/r/seduction03/02/16 01:46 AM
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1) How's your life? This is the only way to answer whether or not you're a chump. Chances are, if you weren't a chump to begin with, you wouldn't have come looking for seddit. If you're still a chump after putting into practice everything on the side-bar, then yeah - it's not working for you. 2) Over-analyzing is what being a beginner is all about. The more you put it into practice, the more you internalize it, and the more instinctive it becomes. But even then, as long as you're gaining useful,…
/r/seduction01/02/16 04:12 AM
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Forget about it. It's not really actionable. If it's someone screwing with you, there's nothing you can do but ignore them. If it's someone you're not interested in, there's nothing you want to do but leave them alone. If it's someone you're interested in, you should be asking them out anyway. It seems like you got some bad advice. If they're messing with you, you're adding fuel to the fire. If they're sincere, you either gave them a slap in the face by making them think you asked someone else o…
/r/seduction01/02/16 03:51 AM
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I don't think there's anything wrong with that sort of phrasing now and then, but yeah, I was talking about your attitude towards life, not about lines to deliver. You've got that abundance mentality. So sure - decide you want to go enjoy some live music at the funky coffee shop on Wednesday, and start calling girls who might want to go with you. Of course you won't be solo, whether she comes along or not. Hell, if all else fails, you can go with the guys. (Though hopefully you won't feel the ne…
/r/seduction01/02/16 12:01 AM
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they ... start fading ... which gets an automatic, hard next, because nobody has the right to devalue my time in such a way... This seems like an indication of too much investment in what she thinks, how she acts, and the whims of the universe. Be self amusing. Go out for you. Have fun in any situation. Take her along to have more fun. Also, it's all well and good not to need her, but there's nothing wrong with wanting her and expressing some interest. But ultimately, it shouldn't matter so much…
/r/seduction31/01/16 11:09 PM
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Sure. Teasing and joking are a part of banter, and a part of honest, authentic communication in all sorts of situations. But they're not a part of "negging", in my oppinion.
/r/seduction24/01/16 05:07 PM
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A "neg" is anything with the subtext of "I'm not entranced by you." It's the verbal equivalent of turning away from her to talk to her friend. It's purpose is to project non-neediness, and to get her guard down. For example, "That's a cute haircut, but don't you think it'd look better shoulder length?" Or, "You know, you're pretty, but that's the wrong color eye shadow for you." This says, "I see you. I appreciate you. But I'm not seeking your approval. I can talk to you like a normal person." I…
/r/seduction24/01/16 01:04 PM
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In my experience the best workout for posture is rows - i.e., back and shoulder work. I think a hunched posture usually comes from a disproportionately weak back. A stronger back will straighten your posture, and pull your shoulders back. I've found that back work is even more effective than chest work at improving the apparent size of your chest. As for walking, relax and take slightly slower, slightly longer strides. This uses your leg muscles more, and leg workouts might help with smoothness/…
/r/seduction24/01/16 12:14 PM
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Friend her. She's clearly conflicted, and you can do better than dwelling on, or trying to take advantage of conflicted girls. You don't need to be the guy who gets her to do things she regrets. Let go of the neediness that makes you want to force something more from this situation. Don't pursue her sexually. On the other hand, good looking female friends who like you are a good thing to have. There are few things more attractive about a guy, to women, than other women who like him, but lack the…
/r/seduction24/01/16 05:34 AM
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It's not that big a deal. If a guy did it, we'd call it "cocky funny". Just laugh. More importantly though, for girls who clearly know they're admired for their looks, find something better to talk about. Complimenting them on their looks makes you just like every other guy. Save that compliment for the girl who doesn't know it.
/r/seduction22/01/16 12:17 PM
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Haha - My first thought.
/r/seduction20/01/16 11:01 PM
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This is a joke, not a test. It's strange that it bothers you. But if you don't feel like joking about it, ignore it. She probably won't keep going back to a joke that gets no reaction. If she does, then be honest: "I don't know why, but that joke bugs me." Leave it at that and change the subject.
/r/seduction18/01/16 11:35 PM
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We don't have enough information to really know, but you may be leaking neediness. Here are some things that may help: Keep her off the pedestal. Starting before the date (during the approach even) forget about how attractive she seems to you, and imagine her insecurities, her need for validation and attention, her clumsiness, goofiness, etc. Remember, the more someone depends on looks for their self worth, the more insecure they are. Snap out of that hypnotic fascination. Keep her human and rea…
/r/seduction17/01/16 10:53 PM
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We can't read minds, but there's a reasonable chance they don't express attraction well. So, as usual... Assume attraction, and go from there. I've found that shyness has some overlap with submissiveness. So you might try being more direct. "Come with me. We're going over here." Etc.
/r/seduction17/01/16 12:55 AM
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We can't say for certain what your friend is doing, but in general, naturals: Have confidence, justified or not. When they're interacting with others, they're not self conscious, they're not living "in their head". They interact intuitively and naturally. Are outgoing. Not being inwardly focused, they pay attention to those around them and tend to be always connecting with others in some way. Have low investment. Because of their confidence and positive experiences, they tend to be unconcerned a…
/r/seduction14/01/16 03:15 AM
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It looks like you're sitting at the wrong table. Sit at a table with chairs, like this: X O X A lot of times there are tables in a restaurant bar area that can be set up like that. This makes it easy to face each other, without being separated by the table. I'll generally put her to my right because it's easier for me to escalate kino, in this situation, with my right hand.
/r/seduction12/01/16 04:37 PM
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"If I was your boyfriend, I wouldn't want you hanging out with guys like me."
/r/seduction12/01/16 10:29 AM
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Escalate smoothly. Kissing should be a small step after a series of physical yes's, not a big suspenseful leap. I'll generally kiss in the middle of the first date or not at all. The only time I've kissed (edit: for the first time) at the end of a date, is when I've misread her and written her off as not-gunna-happen, and then she surprises me by moving in for the kiss as I'm saying goodbye. That's happened a couple of times.
/r/seduction07/01/16 03:41 AM
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Her: "What are you up to tonight?" You: "Going to the club to pick up chicks. You should come." There's nothing wrong with being friends, so long as she's really your friend. If she says she wants to be your friend, then give her the benefit of the doubt, and treat her like one. You'll find out pretty quickly how genuine she's being. If she was just trying to jerk you around, she'll have to give it up when you don't chase. If she keeps on fishing for your attention, then you either have to ignor…
/r/seduction06/01/16 03:00 AM
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Assume attraction and act accordingly. Don't act like an orbiter. No need to read her deepest thoughts before acting.
/r/seduction06/01/16 02:31 AM
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I think that "game" has changed significantly, but it doesn't have anything to do the tech of the times. "The Game" tells of an era when nerds developed some theories about social dynamics and put them into practice with some success. But the resulting style was mostly based around putting on a persona and a show. "Mystery" had a background in performing as a walking magician at small functions. He found that he got positive attention, and was more comfortable and confident in public, when perfo…
/r/seduction02/01/16 05:23 AM
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You're not tall. Everyone else is short. Let them deal with their own awkwardness for not being on your level. But be kind to the shorties.
/r/seduction02/01/16 01:14 AM
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Most likely, you were never the person she's been looking for, so good on you for getting with her anyway. Yeah, things will change. She'll change - you'll change - the way you see each other will change. But the alignment of the stars will never be under your control, and you'll only do yourself damage by obsessing over it. Don't settle for her. Seek better opportunities.
/r/seduction02/01/16 01:09 AM
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Right. Spend your next three weeks making and pursuing other opportunities. If she ever gets back in touch, and she seems more promising than whatever you've got going on at that point, then figure out what to do with her. But a rough game plan isn't a bad thing... My immediate suggestion would be something low-investment, like "I'm going to this party." (or out drinking with these friends) "You should come." Be nice, and attentive, but don't focus on her or try to have deep, personal conversati…
/r/seduction01/01/16 09:24 PM
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Asking us if you should have /not texted a girl after a specific scenario is nonsense. Or perhaps more to the point, this sort of question demonstrates a lack of the "abundance mentality". Whether it's actually the case yet or not, we should behave as if we have too much going on to get tunnel-visioned to the point of trying to mind-read remotely for the sake of text-crafting.
/r/seduction01/01/16 03:50 AM
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So then... To the topic: How do we improve Seddit? Perhaps your point is that we should down-vote the one-off focused posts? And up vote the fundamentals, principles, theory, techniques, and practice? I would personally add down-voting the self-promoting posts (books, coaches, camps, sites, etc.), and even most links that don't include a solid point up front.
/r/seduction01/01/16 03:43 AM
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+1 I completely agree. But his video was about what women innately find attractive. In the end, you should only stick with someone who keeps turning you on, but the chance of being in a position to make that choice gets much higher when you can attract her in the first place. It's a fair question about neediness. Positive initiation is an expression of self-sufficiency: "I'm going out. You should come." "Let's meet up tomorrow.", not neediness: "Will you do this with me?" "Can I see you tonight?…
/r/seduction12/12/15 03:31 AM
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It's not really necessary or possible to divine his innermost thoughts and intentions. He isn't showing the interest and attention you want, and the situation isn't making you happy. So don't invest in that situation. Spend your time, attention, thought, and energy elsewhere. If it matters to him, he'll do something about it, and you can re-evaluate how you feel about the new situation. If it doesn't matter to him, he won't.
/r/seduction10/10/15 08:44 AM
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There's a huge difference between "This is crazy but..." and "Excuse me? Sorry, Hi. I know this is a bit random, but I am not crazy or anything. I just saw you when you were walking past and..." The article advises simply expressing appreciation/attraction, because you'll feel so much better doing that, than trying to deliver a narrative about why you should be approaching her. Either way you'll project how you feel about what you're doing. And she's far more likely to dig your vibe if you feel …
/r/seduction06/10/15 03:29 AM
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You want the Bond smirk, not a big grin. But what you really want is the feeling that produces the smirk: Comfortable in Your Environment You need to feel totally at ease. The kind of feeling that lets you spread out, take up space, make eye contact, etc. King of the Word You need to feel like the world is here for you to experience. No matter what happens, what anyone thinks, says, or does, it's all for you to see and experience, to enjoy and be amused by. Being practiced at the above makes you…
/r/seduction04/10/15 06:36 AM
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I agree, right up until the recommendation. Handle it like an adult. Call the cops, report the battery. Press charges. And sue.
/r/seduction30/09/15 08:03 PM
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Just treat her like a friend. "We're gonna grab drinks tonight, you should come along." Talk to her about guys she should meet, or hot chicks you just met. etc.
/r/seduction30/09/15 07:53 AM
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For me, it's just about being mindful, in the moment. I once heard someone describe the effect of a beautiful woman on a man as a state of hypnosis. The thing about hypnosis, is that it's entered into willingly at first, and then out of habit. We just need to realize when it's happening, and snap out of it. Remind ourselves that she's a person, like any other, with her own desires, insecurities, frustrations, etc. And she'll generally look to us to define how we relate (which is exactly why putt…
/r/seduction30/09/15 07:48 AM
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All this really means is that she's thinking about your body, and obsessing about your features. I believe the most beneficial mindset is that you're king and everything that happens is for your amusement. Assume she's joking, or awkwardly avoiding/failing-in expressing her attraction. Laugh at/with her if you're amused, and go with the joke. Ignore it if you aren't. Stop hanging with anyone you end up ignoring too much. If you don't change your mind-set, you can be sure she will pick up on the …
/r/seduction29/08/15 10:09 PM
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Get her talking. Ask simple, boring questions. Then find something interesting about whatever she expresses and be a little enthusiastic. Don't fake agreement. It's better to argue, if you can keep it light, than to fake agreement. Find out what she's into, how she feels, what makes her feel good - not so much because it matters, as because expressing these makes her feel things in conversation with you. Your job is to initiate. But her job is to take the spotlight and carry the conversation. Tr…
/r/seduction24/08/15 02:07 AM
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I did the one-hand-insta-unclasp the very first time I was with a girl. I felt like a wizard. It's never worked since.
/r/seduction04/07/15 12:47 AM
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Also: /r/acne The reddit girls have got this topic wired.
/r/seduction16/06/15 06:50 AM
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This is a selfie of a panic attack. Well done. Still like to see that pic though. Hahaha.
/r/seduction16/06/15 03:46 AM
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Yeah, that probably wouldn't work with them, but more importantly, it wouldn't work with her. It projects insecurity, lack of social comfort, etc. There's an innate attraction women have for guys who don't act threatened by other guys.
/r/seduction16/06/15 02:02 AM
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Netflix and ice cream sounds sweet.
/r/seduction03/06/15 02:44 AM
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Your general idea is sound. Being friends with chicks who think you're cool and who know you're not pursuing them is good. And it's true that someone you find unattractive could have hot friends. But don't overestimate the potential there. Not only are they just as likely not to have hot friends, but In my experience, an unattractive woman who sets her sights on you will not be helpful in making promising connections with her hot friends (especially if they're real friends who know how she feels…
/r/seduction10/05/15 05:13 AM
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We should amuse ourselves, not her. When she senses that our energy isn't directed at influencing her, and that we're comfortable with ourselves, she'll be both more comfortable with us and more attracted. Moving into the "let's get it on" zone, is generally about slow vocal pacing, good tonality, lingering looks at her eyes and lips, and smoothly escalating contact.
/r/seduction10/04/15 03:51 AM
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Pure, honest, self-amused laughter is a sign of being comfortable. So I guess, do whatever helps you to relax and loosen up. Let down the filter a little, and say whatever smart-ass, off-the-wall, or corny thing comes to mind. And don't worry about amusing anyone but yourself.
/r/seduction07/04/15 06:25 AM
13

"Two minutes in heaven is better than one minute in heaven."
/r/seduction06/04/15 06:10 AM
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Women are social followers with highly tuned social radar. Because of this, how you feel about yourself has a powerful effect on them. If you feel like you're screwing up, they'll feel it, and will follow your judgement of yourself. Chances are you're feeling more in tune with your "mistakes" these days. Either you didn't "realize" they were mistakes before, or didn't spare much though on them because you needed all your focus on what you were trying to do. Now, you probably consider more things…
/r/seduction05/04/15 10:32 AM
1

Yes this is probably the wrong place. There's no way for us to know. You should have asked her.
/r/seduction03/04/15 04:26 AM
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Just completely forget about that lost text. Plan something cool and invite her along. Assume she's into you and act accordingly. Until she expresses emotions to you via text, limit its use to coordinating plans. Still though, she could always end up blowing you off, and we have no way of knowing why. This needs to be ok.
/r/seduction17/03/15 01:17 PM
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Yes. Women like/dislike bald men. Some are really into a bald head, others not so much. But how you feel about yourself will have much more influence on them than the right hair style. Women are very socially tuned, and tend to pick up on, and follow, how others feel.
/r/seduction17/03/15 01:08 PM
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Chill. Move forward with her as if it never happened. Except, make a note not to try to have a relationship with her via text message.
/r/seduction17/03/15 08:49 AM
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If she doesn't respond to the first text, give it a day, then act exactly as if you'd never sent it. Don't text or call just to make small talk. Make plans, then initiate contact to invite her along. If she doesn't respond twice, then dispense with the "Hey you"s, etc. and just let her know about the plans, and that she's invited, and leave it at that.
/r/seduction17/03/15 08:44 AM
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Definitely don't text something passive-aggressive... It won't do you any favors and just makes you look bitter. It doesn't just look bitter. It is bitter. It doesn't just make you look pathetic. It makes you pathetic. Don't demean yourself like that. Have enough positive interactions with people that those who fall through the cracks truly don't matter any more.
/r/seduction17/03/15 08:36 AM
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Didn't mean to imply that you never get any. Just pointing out that "not interested in being friends" does.
/r/seduction17/03/15 08:18 AM
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It seems like making a date, for a time that she's essentially just told you she won't be able to make it, is begging for disappointment. You're hurting yourself by forcing her to say "No" to you. She was just too nice/optimistic to rule it out up front.
/r/seduction16/03/15 09:42 PM
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It's tough to move forward from "don't even want to be friends." The other comment may be right that you accidentally went from "let's have sex" to "let's be friends" by treading too close to "let's be soul mates". I don't know. But when cool, hot chicks want to be your friend, don't say "No." This is needy behavior. To say that you can't be friends with women is to say that you can't spare energy or focus on anything other than sex - most likely because you aren't getting any. It may not seem l…
/r/seduction16/03/15 09:25 PM
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True enough. I just wondered what people think about that phrase (when they stop to think about it). Obviously it didn't kill OP's vibe. I haven't bothered to comment on it in the past, but it seems like it keeps coming up. I have to wonder if this is because I'm thinking about it wrong, or if it's because others haven't stopped to think about it.
/r/seduction15/03/15 07:36 AM
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Set me straight on this ('cause I see this line mentioned here a lot), but isn't "...this is gonna seem really random..." a counterproductive thing to say? It's not even true. You're outgoing. You're fun. You're alpha. And you're vibing. Of course you're gunna invite her along to the fun if she seems worth it. It's essentially communicating, "I feel that what I'm about to say is incongruous with who you and I are, and with how we should be interacting." The whole point of your post is that your …
/r/seduction15/03/15 04:03 AM
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should I ... apologize for being a annoying bitch... Never go meta This. And besides, you were hurting yourself, not her. She was just turned off. Apologizing to her for it would be an annoying bitchy thing to do.
/r/seduction15/03/15 03:44 AM
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Fair enough. It was just the first example to pop up on Google.
/r/seduction12/03/15 02:06 PM
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Women don't care. Tom Hanks has been "nominated" for sexiest man alive. TOM HANKS. (Edit: He apparently never actually won the People magazine vote, I just remember being amazed he was on the list) I have nothing against him, but how much more evidence do we need that women are driven socially, not visually. They like celebrities and pretty boys (and the latest style and handbag) only because they believe everyone else likes them. Our appearance only matters to them to the degree that it informs…
/r/seduction11/03/15 08:08 AM
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They're little mini-performances that magicians give for small groups of people as they walk around a venue.
/r/seduction08/03/15 12:50 AM
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Not a failure.
/r/seduction07/03/15 04:20 AM
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I think there are multiple complimentary reasons for this. One is that putting forth effort to connect, subconsciously indicates that few people value us enough to pursue us. Being intuitive and socially driven, women are inclined to follow suit, and undervalue us in response. On the other side of the coin, putting effort into connecting is only necessary when there's some sort of barrier. The barrier itself is decreasing our chances of success, and expending energy isn't as effective as it seem…
/r/seduction03/03/15 09:44 AM
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This reminds me of a similar body language discussion about poker. "So this guy raises, gets a call, and I call. The flop comes out, he puts out a big bet, gets a call, and he starts rubbing his neck. I know that's a self pacifying gesture, so that means he's bluffing right?" No. It means he might be uncomfortable. If he is, it might be because his bluffs aren't working, but more likely its because he's putting a lot of money in with a mediocre made hand, and has two opponents chasing draws. Or …
/r/seduction27/02/15 05:02 AM
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The difference between cocky and confident is that cockiness is self focused and/or competitive. Confidence allows you to forget about yourself and focus on others in a positive, giving way. If you have true confidence, people would probably find your cockiness endearing. Edit for imaginary example: Imagine a guy dancing with a girl. He knows the dance so well that it's ingrained in his body. He doesn't have to think about it, and all is attention is on her. This is confidence. He leads her, and…
/r/seduction27/02/15 04:36 AM
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Here's a video. If you can get through the thoroughly cringe inducing first couple of minutes, you'll see something kind of amazing. This girl is attracted to this verbal spaz, just because he so clearly says whatever comes into his head. I'm not saying you should try to do exactly what he does, but learn what you can from it. I would suggest targeting women you're not interested in - where you truly don't want to pull their interest - and practice unfiltered goofiness. Practice is the only way …
/r/seduction22/02/15 12:08 PM
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Sounds like she practically invited you to come by her work. You can ward off any creepy vibe by not showing up alone. Take someone (anyone) with you. And if it makes you more comfortable, get them to make an excuse to step away after a few minutes so you can ask her out without an audience.
/r/seduction22/02/15 02:54 AM
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Again, any agreement you may imagine her having is her business, not yours. It's up to her to decide if she really has a responsibility to another person, and what that means to her about the choices she makes. You can't help yourself or her by trying to do that for her. As far as we're concerned when we've just met her, "boyfriend" is just a word that made its way into the conversation either with the intent of having a specific effect on us, or to see what effect it would have. That is, of cou…
/r/seduction16/02/15 05:23 AM
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Immediately she hugged me, and I felt it... We danced for a while, and she hugged me every ten seconds or so. I always followed that up with about a minute of hand holding... After about an hour of this, I got two kisses on the cheek, several comments from her about going back to her room... and she would often rub her butt on my dick. Seriously? Who are you gunna believe? The rumor mill, or her ass on your dick?
/r/seduction16/02/15 05:10 AM
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The whole "Getting with a taken girl is a scumbag move" meme is misogynistic in my opinion. It assumes that women are property or at least not worthy of being responsible for themselves and their own decisions. "It's a gentleman's job to try to fuck a woman." - James Maclane (Edit: found, corrected, and attributed quote) When we meet a girl, the exact value or nature of her relationships is her business not ours. It's not our job to make judgements or decisions about them, it's hers. We represen…
/r/seduction16/02/15 04:54 AM
1

If you're getting together with her, the only move I see that has a chance is to invite a bunch of other people without telling her, and then ignore her (for the most part) when you all meet up. This is a hail Mary at this point, but it seems like you've got nothing to lose anyway. It sends the message that you were even less invested in her than she is in you, which might re-open the door to attraction. With this "dis-interest" approach, it's important that you forget all about the snub. It mad…
/r/seduction15/02/15 11:58 PM
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To me it's not about social responsibility or criticizing her character. It's about acceptable ways of treating me. She thought she could string me along, and reschedule to go out with someone else. She thought wrong. I'm not the chew toy she apparently thought I was. And not just because I won't allow it, but also because I have options, and I don't have time for that crap.
/r/seduction15/02/15 02:53 PM
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We learn through experience, and this is just not something we get a lot of experience with. Now you have more than most, and maybe you'll be a little more relaxed next time.
/r/seduction15/02/15 11:33 AM
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never speak to her again. I agree with everything but this. Presumably, we want to game in such a way as to maximize our chances to enter into an intimate relationship, which we find satisfying. The sad truth of this situation is that the chances are extremely minimal, and there's precious little we can do about it. Laughing her the fuck out of town is absolutely the right way to respond to her request to reschedule - not because it boosts our ego to put her in her place, but because doing so is…
/r/seduction15/02/15 11:19 AM
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If you're not into her, you're not into her. It doesn't have to be a big deal. Be more ambitious. You'll be more motivated, and it'll be hotter.
/r/seduction15/02/15 10:59 AM
1

I saw a video somewhere in which a guy says he'll sometimes pretend to be on his phone so that women will feel more comfortable looking at him as he walks buy. Then when they do, he'll catch eye contact with them, stop, and talk.
/r/seduction13/02/15 07:00 AM
1

Rings. Ear-rings. That's what they're there for.
/r/seduction12/02/15 04:38 AM
2

I've run across several presentations of studies about how physiology effects psychology in unexpectedly straight forward ways. Smiling makes you feel happy. And not because you know you're smiling. Just biting a pen, so it sticks out both sides of your mouth, and engages your facial muscles in the same way smiling does, makes you feel happier and reduces stress response. The Superman pose makes you feel confident. Standing for two minutes with your hands on your hips and your chest puffed out r…
/r/seduction11/02/15 11:27 PM
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Ask yourself why you care. It would be odd if she didn't have past/present relationships. What do you want? I assume you want to hook up with her. If that's what she wants too. Do it. Once that's happening, if you feel like you've locked in solid interest on her part in continuing to see each other, then maybe you have a decision to make. You might simply tell her that if she wants to keep seeing you she'll have to dump the other guy, as if she'd told you all about it before. This lets her know …
/r/seduction08/02/15 08:50 AM
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To generalize, straight women are almost universally attracted to "social value" in men, and are subconsciously attuned to all sorts of signs of "value". Idolizing a woman indicates "low value". If she can sense that you look up to her, are intimidated by her, feel the need for attention, etc., this will tend to automatically kill her attraction to you on a subconscious level. Some things that indicate "high value" are being comfortable with yourself in social situations, having the company and …
/r/seduction08/02/15 07:52 AM
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I agree with all of his criticisms of what he calls “pickup”, but not all of the conclusions this seems to lead him to. He’s right that “pickup” is a contrived way of acting that’s congruent with neediness, and your life will be more enjoyable if you can just internalize the social and psychological foundations, and then just “play” and let it flow, all Zen-like. That’s generally true of most pursuits/arts/disciplines, but not much help to the beginner. He tells us that before he got into the pi…
/r/seduction07/02/15 10:17 AM
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They bring back the memory of your old self... Absolutely. We should consider that we might really be the most mad at ourselves for having mishandled those situations before we knew what we were doing. It's time to let those experiences go. They happened in another lifetime, to another person. We are not that person.
/r/seduction07/02/15 09:13 AM
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I've heard several times, "lower your standards when talking to women", by which people mean, "Loosen up. Stop caring so much about what you're talking about. Just talk and entertain yourself." It sounds like a few drinks helped you do exactly that.
/r/seduction06/02/15 05:52 AM
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It could work. It's probably more effective than any other typical high-school method of meeting her. The thing about approaches is you can't get hung up on the outcome of any one. There are too many factors at work that you can't control. Keep in mind that you're good looking, chicks like you, you're self-improving, and ultimately it doesn't make that much difference to you how she reacts (there's plenty more at the mall). Just go have fun with it. Oh, and do not approach girls from behind.
/r/seduction06/02/15 05:46 AM
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To be clear, the reason I recommend not making a joke is because no matter how light-hearted (or, in fact, funny) you are about it, the subtext of bringing it up is that it's on your mind. And like the other commenters, I think you're far better off being too busy to even notice if one of your texts don't get answered.
/r/seduction06/02/15 05:34 AM
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And if you can make a funny joke about it, ignore it.
/r/seduction06/02/15 04:49 AM
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I agree with this. I'll add that the second text may have been a mistake. We probably should have taken a hint from her first reply that she's not trying to make a connection by text. We had a nice time in person. We'll be seeing her again. And she probably expects us to have better things to do than linger via text. (She certainly does.) If it was a mistake, it's not the end of the world. Just, for God's sake, lets not compound it with an avalanche of needy texting.
/r/seduction06/02/15 04:32 AM
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Sounds like a misunderstanding of the term to me. As far as I know, neither direct insults nor, as suggest in other comments, pretend insults, are "negs". My understanding is that a "neg" is simply a verbal indicator of disinterest. It's the verbal equivalent of turning away from her and engaging her friend. It's a comment with the subtext, "I don't intend to pursue you." If she's expecting, or really wanting, interest, then disinterest might make her feel insecure. But that's not the point. The…
/r/seduction05/02/15 06:40 AM
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