Jalakee Archive

Upvotes	Title	Category	Author	Subreddit	Date (UTC)
108	A few thoughts from an OG		Jalakee	/r/MarriedRedPill	31/07/18 03:39 PM
67	The quick n' dirty guide to the logical fallacies of TRP		Jalakee	/r/ExRedPill	31/05/19 02:56 PM

Upvotes	Comment on	Subreddit	Date (UTC)
5	I may have been too harsh? Nah man, you good. Low effort = low rewards.	/r/PussyPassDenied	20/12/20 04:49 PM
14	The red pill is not the gospel, and the wisdom of the world is foolishness. Being Christ-like is more important than being 'alpha'. If you are more focused on red pill concepts than spiritual concepts, you are a fool. That's why I left this sub and other RP subs about 2 years ago. First time I've popped in since then and I remember why I left. This secular wisdom starts to overshadow the Word and there are some really kooky, heretical opinions on here. A lot of using scripture as a prop for whatever RP theory is being argued. I'm involved in my church and am around other married, rather devout Christians at least weekly. There is still a lot of fem-centrism and soft wife-worship that goes on. It's easy to spo…	/r/RPChristians	13/04/20 03:56 PM
2	New sub dedicated to Dr. Glover's new book: Dating Essentials for Men I've seen his stuff before. Good, positive fundamental stuff you need to know without TRP ideology and extremism. Reminds me a lot of the old forums before TRP was formed.	/r/ExRedPill	07/06/19 12:46 PM
5	The quick n' dirty guide to the logical fallacies of TRP You are definitely lacking in grasping the context of my post. I understand Gaussian distribution. This is about argumentative errors. There's a high chance that all women may follow a behavioral pattern. Nonspecific and meaningless statement. There's a high probability that a man will be disrespected and dumped if he gets consistently emotional, and not in control of his frame. Qualitative opinion, not something you can prove to be factual. There's a high probability a women may marry with a ma…	/r/ExRedPill	31/05/19 06:02 PM
1	"Macho tokens" theory I think the concept of "earned" expression is off-putting and not accurate, but think of it this way: Say you have a man who is really emotionally expressive. Highs, lows, crying, outbursts, and vulnerability. He's functional, but not much of a restraint mechanism. At first this may be endearing or even refreshing for some women. Over time, a bit of compassion fatigue may set in. You can get burnt out from constantly tending to an emotionally weak partner. Why cant this guy be on an even keel fo…	/r/ExRedPill	31/05/19 01:00 PM
1	The red pill fucked my life up Sorry to hear about your downfall, but it sounds like there is a lot more to it than TRP. There are many toxic aspects to that community but also some positive things as well; it depends so much on the individual and where he/she is at in life and what circumstances they are dealing with. Many have a tendency to take it too far and cant differentiate between healthy and unhealthy beliefs. Therapy can be really good for sorting all of this out.	/r/ExRedPill	24/05/19 02:10 PM
8	HELP! OCD, Mormonism, and lack of dating success have caused me to become blackpilled and I want OUT I would suggest professional therapy. It's going to take a long time to unpack all of this and get to the root of your faulty beliefs. In reality, I can tell you from loads of personal experience that women are very sexual. Not always in the same way men are, but they want sex, like sex, have real orgasms, have sex for love and pleasure and not manipulative or social ends. Sure that happens, but do you really think the millions and millions of women out there having sex with their boyfriends, hu…	/r/ExRedPill	21/05/19 01:24 PM
2	Any comments on this essay? Keep in mind these are hypotheses, not facts. TRP is notorious for confirmation bias and cherry-picking studies to support their biology > everything thesis. They also make value or moral judgments based on that data; e.g., women are inherently unfaithful, untrustworthy, self-serving, heartless, etc. I think there is some truth to the folk wisdom of not mating out of your league, or going back further than that the Biblical wisdom of not being unequally yoked. In other words, a mate who is too f…	/r/ExRedPill	20/05/19 01:26 PM
3	Dating Essentials for Men Describes most of reddit, if we're honest.	/r/ExRedPill	19/05/19 07:37 PM
0	This PUA Youtuber says men should leave women "past their prime" to "low value men" who can't get "late Teens/early 20s". Agree or disagree? What was your experience with older and younger women? The older man/younger woman dynamic is as old as time, and anyone vehemently against that is projecting their own resentment or personal insecurity. I'm not talking about extreme or illegal age gaps; I mean normal, 5-10 year differences. There is also a big difference between a 43 and 33 year old and a 28 and 18 year old. Context is important. After age 30, I'll tell you why I didnt like dating women my age or older: -Past relationship baggage -Resentment against men in general -Many divorced an…	/r/ExRedPill	11/05/19 02:33 PM
4	how do I overcome the view that women are gold diggers? I smell a lot of confirmation bias here. I have a friend who for a few years was "dating" and sleeping with scores of women. He would ghost anyone who didnt put out in 2 dates. Naturally, the types of women who would 1) be attracted to him ( think steroid physique, outrageous expensive tattoos, 70K truck, etc) and 2) have sex with him within 2 dates were not the types of women who have the most depth or value in a long-term relationship. He was getting with typical bar/party sluts, ex-strippers …	/r/ExRedPill	09/05/19 02:24 PM
1	Need serious help on how to argue properly? Idk man. I've been in relationships that went the exact same way. Great for a time, and then the arguing started. And never got better. It was 1 step forward 2 steps back. I'd get hung up on the 'golden months' where everything was so positive, but that's only the beginning of a journey. Sometimes you get miles into the journey and realize you arent on the right path. I think the first year is really a probationary period. If you cant pass that period without doubts and relatively smooth sailing…	/r/ExRedPill	04/05/19 01:02 AM
1	Can someone please help me accept this?? I could see how you feel deceived. Plus, I would wonder what else she's withheld. Not that anyone is obligated to disclose their whole past...but if you are going to have a healthy relationship with someone there cant be any secrets. I think if you were going to get over it, it would have happened already. So it's your call. People can change. But you gotta draw your own lines.	/r/ExRedPill	04/05/19 12:42 AM
18	I came across this comment and thought it belonged here One of the biggest jokes is they act like they invented lifting weights. As if they have some sort of license on it as a male development tool and if you read their sidebar they will teach you the esoteric ways of the iron and then, maybe, you can post. They do some squats in their basement for a few months and all of sudden---not only are they experts--- but see themselves as a sexual tyrannosaurus women women find biologically impossible to resist, secretly waiting to be impregnated by these d…	/r/ExRedPill	03/05/19 12:53 PM
2	Out of a relationship Yeah you have to use what you got. Do you like any sports? Rec clubs are everywhere. Take a class at the gym. Sounds lame but you'll meet women. Also---dance classes. Trust me.	/r/ExRedPill	29/04/19 08:00 PM
1	Out of a relationship Yes. What I mean is not every guy is outgoing enough to do PUA-style approaching and like it, let alone make it work for him. That's a low-yield way to meet women anyway. I think social-circle game is the best, but the key is to just get more exposure and get comfortable.	/r/ExRedPill	29/04/19 06:43 PM
5	Out of a relationship For a long time I felt the same way as a young man. I felt I needed to have this baseline ability level with approaching and getting women to be ok with myself. Being a super introverted guy, this was like swimming upstream for me. I got confidence over time through dating tons of women I mostly met online, but I was never great at the "cold" approach. I think going from LTR to LTR when you are a younger man is not good. You need to learn how to be on your own, how to think in abundance, build y…	/r/ExRedPill	29/04/19 03:53 PM
5	Trying to redpill detox Today's RP is this toxic amalgamation of misogyny, confirmation bias, selection bias, and bad science with a some good advice sprinkled in. The good concepts like self-improvement, having a varied life, not giving in to oneitis etc are not exclusive to the RP, so learn to separate these things from the junk. You've only been into this for 2 months, so my advice is to just stop reading it. You've already learned some fundamentals---maybe the most important one which is never to put a single girl …	/r/ExRedPill	29/04/19 01:11 PM
25	God uses dread, and it works. No. When you sin, YOU turn your back on God. Stop projecting worldly philosophy onto God and His word. I encourage everybody to learn some practical fundamentals of game and then move on. The more time you spend in this philosophy the more deceived you can become, leading to toxicity, extrapolating to the Bible in dangerous ways, or even putting it above the word.	/r/RPChristians	28/04/19 11:30 PM
9	To you married RP guys How about stop treating the sidebar and pithy RP truisms like gospel. Learn some fundamentals and move on. The WORD is life. I'd tell that to myself 5 years ago and anyone else here now.	/r/RPChristians	28/04/19 02:21 PM
-8	Some thoughts I have This is all my opinion/experience, and I said as much, so I don't need to cite anything. Feel free to disagree, but be sure and provide a citation.	/r/ExRedPill	23/04/19 04:26 PM
-1	Some thoughts I have What specifically is bothering you? I also believe men suffer much more from heartbreak. The reasons are well-described in psychology: women are more apt to talk, and talk and talk and talk and talk it over with friends, family, etc. They have a broader emotional support network. They dont like to be alone and they reach out. Men tend to internalize the pain and/or self-medicate with drugs and alcohol or other self-destructive behaviors. I think men and women can fall equally as hard in love but…	/r/ExRedPill	23/04/19 03:01 PM
3	How can I stop worrying about my height? My dad is 5'7" and always had an abundance of dates when he was younger. YOU ARE OK. Be confident, dress well, and remember it's not as big of a deal as you are making it. The vast majority of women are shorter than you anyways!	/r/ExRedPill	20/04/19 02:01 PM
6	Did some soul searching. Now could use some advice. Therapy. No shame in it at all. I had major anger/abandonment issues with women for years. I got over them with forgiveness and legit therapy. Now women are the closest and most supportive people in my life.	/r/ExRedPill	18/04/19 03:45 PM
3	I stopped reading TRP a couple years ago and I’ve grown into a very bitter and hateful person. Perhaps you guys could give some advice. Sounds like you hate yourself---first and foremost---and what your life has become. Find a licensed therapist you can sort this out with. It's going to take some time and work. Also--stop doing things that make you hate yourself. Think on that for a while. I've had phases where I was a lot like you. No one wants to be around you, and then you hate yourself and them even more for it. I got over it, but some things had to change.	/r/ExRedPill	16/04/19 06:10 PM
7	questions The important thing to understand is that the "truths" of the RP have been distorted and extrapolated over the years. Hypergamy, for example, is a real phenomenon. It's been described in the animal kingdom for decades, and it's also described in human females. All it means is that women have a tendency to mate across and up dominance hierarchies. This is not ground-breaking news---but it's an important concept to understand. It does NOT mean your girl is perpetually on the hunt for the bigger be…	/r/ExRedPill	12/04/19 01:02 PM
1	Red Pill "abundance" is not abundance. There's a balance between scarcity and abundance when you're dating. "Abundance" has gotten distorted by TRP over the years, but it's just another iteration of the old adage "there are other fish in the sea"! You dont need to spin plates to have this mentality. You just need to be confident in your ability to go out and meet new people and generate new options. Scarcity is a form of fallacious thinking whereby you believe that the woman (or man) of your affection is the ONLY potential partner fo…	/r/ExRedPill	12/04/19 12:47 PM
8	How do I stop this thinking? A lot of guys are really insecure until they find TRP. Once they start getting some success they build confidence. Then, inevitably, they get in to a relationship, and TRP poisons their mind. Even if they remove all of that negative influence, they might not be 'feeding the fire' but their underlying insecurities come back. One helpful teaching of TRP (not exclusive to TRP by any means) is to weigh actions over words. Is she really doing anything that is suspicious? What kind of fruit is she pro…	/r/ExRedPill	11/04/19 01:29 PM
3	What’s your perspective on tunnel vision within the context of dating? I think that's sound advice. What you think you like is often different than what you actually like once you've been exposed to different personalities and lifestyles. The challenge with being a Christian and doing this is the level of temptation you expose yourself too. Before I married I dated a LOT of women and I truly feel this gave me the background of experience to be able to recognize the gem I found in my wife. Had I met her 5 years earlier, I would not have appreciated her or I would ha…	/r/RPChristians	08/04/19 01:25 PM
1	What to do about boundaries being crossed? Not sure if you do this but have separate checking accounts for free spending. If she overspends, not your problem.	/r/RPChristians	08/04/19 01:04 PM
2	Are we servants? Christians are called to serve. Service is not a synonym for submission, or passivity. This is the problem with RP. Guys get so neurotic about being 'alpha' in everything that they cant even humble themselves enough to serve others. They miss the whole boat, stuck on their own self-importance.	/r/RPChristians	02/04/19 02:23 PM
2	Looking for reformed red pillers who can answer questions on what led them to the community and their experiences inside and outside the community No one is too broken, my friend. If I can learn to love women, you can learn to love men. Peace to you.	/r/ExRedPill	25/03/19 02:50 PM
1	Looking for reformed red pillers who can answer questions on what led them to the community and their experiences inside and outside the community Male. Long-time redpiller since 2005, had a blog, book, etc. Reformed now living a normal life. You can PM me.	/r/ExRedPill	25/03/19 02:36 PM
10	Q4W: when does being too nice to your partner become a turn off? You remind me of a friend of mine. He was always the uber-alpha dickhead (think steroids, tattoos, lots of money, arrogance) and did get laid quite frequently. He had short-term relationships but they were awful. About once a year he would meet a girl he fell totally head over heels for---always someone he described as a 10. Became an absolute softie---buying her jewelry, paying for vacations, saying 'I love you' within a few months, etc. Several times it blew up in his face---and I think it's b…	/r/ExRedPill	25/03/19 01:22 PM
4	The shocking truth: Betas not only live hell in this life, they often go to hell too. Defining the christian alpha. False teachings almost always have some flavor or seasoning of truth, which is part of why they are so deceptive. Some believers need to dissect material and consult theological references, the Bible, prayer, etc to discern a bad teaching, others have an intuition and I am telling you in all seriousness, this is false teaching. He is creating an amalgam of secular (red pill) teaching, making far-reaching extrapolations in an attempt to connect it to God's word (heresy), and putting forth these t…	/r/RPChristians	15/03/19 03:58 PM
6	The shocking truth: Betas not only live hell in this life, they often go to hell too. Defining the christian alpha. You are dangerously reaching here man and your stuff gives me bad vibes. Learn to separate your faith from some worldly wisdom about doing better with women.	/r/RPChristians	15/03/19 01:57 PM
8	Am I too little too late? First of all, you are NOT too late. You are actually approaching your prime. As to your questions: It takes time. And it is a numbers game. I suggest making a list of 10 things you want in a wife. Hand-write it, and stick it inside your Bible. Here is the list I made some 6 years ago, not long before I met my wife. Keep in mind I was not walking in the Lord at that time; I was a Christian in core belief only. I might articulate them differently today, but I still stand by that list. It takes pra…	/r/RPChristians	14/03/19 05:45 PM
6	Red pill/PUA ruined most my young adulthood. Do not read their BS! There many things wrong with TRP, but it is a bad philosophy for those prone to over-analyzing and social anxiety. You get into your own head so much that you stand in the way of your own success. You hyper-analyze every interaction and develop this paranoia complex that they are all manipulative sluts who are just waiting for you to make a mistake. No. The real useful tenets of RP are self-improvement, learning their basic firmware (because it is different than yours), overcoming approach anxie…	/r/ExRedPill	07/03/19 03:20 PM
1	Guilt over having male friends? Or saying "we should just be friends" Ideally the guy you are dating will (or should) let you know his own boundaries. Unfortunately this rarely happens at the outset. Before I married, I would just stop dating girls I felt had questionable male friendships. I'm not going to change her, I'll just find someone else who isnt violating my own boundaries from the start. Also it's worth stating that opposite sex friendships are all about context. "Friends" with an ex for example, vs a casual friend from class.	/r/ExRedPill	28/02/19 07:34 PM
3	Negative belief about women and sexuality that I'm struggling with I'm not sure where you got this strange idea. Do yourself a favor and disabuse yourself of the notion that women like "this type or guy or that type of guy". Just stop. It's all confirmation bias happening in between your ears. Look around you; people whom you might find intolerable, unattractive, or untoward are in relationships everywhere. Young-looking, old-looking, fat, tall, short, muscular, and everything in between. In my observation, when men have a hard time getting women it is because …	/r/ExRedPill	24/02/19 04:44 PM
5	In my opinion, TRP robs you of enjoying yourself If you think of it as a toolbox you can cherry-pick from based on your weak areas, it has utility. If you take it on as an ideology, overall it does more harm than good. It turns you into a cynical, neurotic ass who preemptively abuses for fear of being abused himself. For most young guys who arent "naturals" and just want to do better with women, the tried and true method of learning some fundamentals (like physical fitness, social skills, having a social life, not being too eager or pursuing u…	/r/ExRedPill	14/02/19 03:06 PM
1	[FR] Amazing first date, but she hasn’t returned my call. Listen, ghosting happens all the time, with or without apparent reason. It could be any number of things. It may not have anything to do with you, but it's likely you came off a bit too eager. Women can smell that 10 miles away. Back off the gas, dont text or call her, date some other women.	/r/RPChristians	13/02/19 03:53 PM
6	A close friend Tells me He thinks my Wife is hot.. "Respectfully" he just told you he has the hots for your wife. Interesting problem. I think I would let it lie but keep my eye on him. He is no longer trustworthy. Think about it, have you never had a friend with a wife or gf you thought was hot?? We all have. But you dont say it overtly, that's bad manners.	/r/RPChristians	09/02/19 08:33 PM
1	From the Redpill what exactly is useful for Long term Relationship? I wouldnt say nothing. Today's redpill has be radicalized and is not representative of its roots--the men's seduction and dating forums of the early 2000's. At that time there was a much more positive, get-up-and-kick-ass slant to things. There have always been extremes, but since it came over to reddit it has become toxic; hence subs like this one popping up. For a LTR or marriage, lots of "red pill" tenets have value. Actions over words, the importance of leadership through example and action,…	/r/ExRedPill	08/02/19 03:00 PM
2	Reading blackpilled scientific studies have ruined my life I had to look up "blackpill" but it sounds to me like one big circle-jerk/confirmation bias rationalization for being a loser in life. Not calling you a loser, you can make that judgment, but I cannot stand otherwise able-bodied people who just accept that they are 'destined' to fail in life because they are afraid of failing even more. I get that everyone is dealt a different hand, but there are people who have been dealt a WAY worse hand than you and still decide to put their boots on every da…	/r/ExRedPill	08/02/19 02:47 PM
21	TRP has ruined my opinions of men since age 17. I've tried detoxing, but nothing works. You've been living your own revenge fantasy, and look where it's gotten you. You're just the mirror image of a spurned young male who found TRP. You realize that I'm sure but confirmation bias is keeping it alive. My suggestion as a guy who used to be super beta, hardcore red pill, and now a more balanced married man is to sit down and write--hand write--letters to every man who has ever hurt you. Write it from the perspective of yourself at that time, and then the perspective of you today. You …	/r/ExRedPill	02/02/19 06:14 PM
3	When you see it... In research there's a thing called "Selection Bias", where people with a certain predisposition or condition are over-represented in the data. It's no different when you are living a players life. When you are filtering and selecting for women who will sleep with you expediently, it's easy to view them all as depraved. The irony.	/r/ExRedPill	31/01/19 04:53 PM
2	Some thoughts on TRP You're what RPers would call a "natural", meaning you have been successful with women without teaching or concerted effort. You are not representative of the general population. Naturals are usually very good-looking, have a charismatic, outgoing personality, or both. Maybe 1-2% of men have the ability to sleep with 70+ women without making it their job. I was what I'd call a "half-natural". I had the looks and could be witty at times, but also a super introverted self-conscious personality and …	/r/ExRedPill	31/01/19 04:42 PM
12	My Brief Experience with TRP and takeaways I've been around this online community for a long time (since before "red pill" was coined), and I have seen it change over the years. I dont feel like writing a lot but here's the quick 'n dirty: In its earliest origins, it started as 'seduction' newsgroups and message boards in the late 1990's/early 2000's. Basically a resource for players, PUAs who wanted to share ideas, tactics, and field reports. This evolved into more holistic men's clubs; namely SoSuave.net, that had a focus on pickup and…	/r/ExRedPill	24/01/19 08:14 PM
7	Update: Thank you, planning on ending it Man, she's just a gf and she's 18. Women are like buses. There's always another one coming.	/r/RPChristians	18/01/19 03:35 PM
7	The romance is dead Women tend to be mirrors, so if you are obviously disinterested then she will reflect that back you. Of course this will make her insecure, which in turn will make her point the blame towards you. If you are 22% BF sure you could lose weight, but this is more about your obvious lack of interest. Plenty of hefty guys get laid and please their women. Frame and your desire going into it are much more important with women. Question is why is your libido so low? Check off the low-hanging fruit like p…	/r/RPChristians	15/01/19 02:41 PM
15	Female Pastors - Some thoughts about it I dont attend church but did for many years and agree for the same reasons. I find their sermons insufferable and dont think they have the same ability to lead and connect with an entire congregation as men do. Not to say there arent bad male pastors, but in general they are more organized, better teachers of the word, and impartial in the right ways. Also it sets a bad precedent for female leadership in the home, etc. Taboo opinion to have these days but whatever.	/r/RPChristians	14/01/19 02:33 PM
1	Instagram and Sex Robots - How Technology is Changing Male/Female Interactions... Private marriage is a farce that certain men in the RP community have been touting as the "solution" for years. I admit it sounds good on paper. I considered it myself at one point, until I read the law. In many states, if you are cohabiting with a woman and living as if you are a married couple, you are effectively common law married. Alabama, Colorado, District of Columbia, Georgia , Idaho , Iowa, Kansas, Montana, New Hampshire , Ohio, Oklahoma, Pennsylvania , Rhode Island, South Carolina, Tex…	/r/RPChristians	09/01/19 05:10 PM
2	For the unmarried - is marriage worth it today? You need to stop looking at marriage as this discrete entity and instead ask yourself is marriage worth it for you, with a given woman. It is a contract, both legal and moral, that you enter into with a female. Does it make sense? Well it depends. Does it make sense to take a certain job, to buy a new puppy, to buy a certain home, to have kids? There are so many factors and moving parts that go into these decisions that you cant simplify them into an algorithm or decision tree. Objectively, you …	/r/RPChristians	08/01/19 09:41 PM
2	Is overlooking a female's sexual past foolish? Idk about that, but I do think it diminishes. She was MUCH more trusting, sexually naive, bonded quickly, and was wholesale on-board with where I was going and what I wanted to do.	/r/RPChristians	03/01/19 11:36 PM
3	Is overlooking a female's sexual past foolish? Unequivocally yes. I married a virgin, and prior to my wife I was with many women. I say this not to be boastful, but I can tell you with confidence there is a marked, clear difference between the way my wife bonded with me and the way other women bonded with me. I was red pill long before I met my wife, too. There are many objective and verified reasons why you should choose a woman with the least amount of sexual partners possible, illustrated here and elsewhere. But subjectively--and excuse m…	/r/RPChristians	02/01/19 05:37 PM
10	We are all going to hell Not to sound callused but their repentance is not your problem. Love him as your brother, don't encourage him to sin, but at the end of the day worry about your own sin. That's between him and God.	/r/RPChristians	28/12/18 07:20 PM
5	How do/will you raise your kids? I think everyone has all kinds of grand ideas on how they will raise their kids until they actually have kids. With devices and technology, it's an uphill battle. But I've seen some parents successfully run a tight ship by not going against the current, but setting some hard boundaries and a work/reward system.	/r/RPChristians	26/12/18 03:10 PM
4	Should I ask my ex-wife to meet? My gosh man, move on. She left you. You can forgive, but it doesnt need to be this overt extension to her. Imagine you dumped a women because she was ultra-clingy or psycho on some level. Then she comes back at you saying she 'forgives' you for breaking up with her. You'd be like ok...definitely made the right choice there. Something my old counselor taught me is to write---hand-write---a physical letter to the person you need to forgive. First-thought basis, be completely frank. But dont send i…	/r/RPChristians	13/12/18 02:40 PM
2	Are all Christian Women the same? I havent found there to be any significant behavioral differences or proclivities between self-professed Christian women and non-Christian women. The analogy of firmware, or basic OS, is accurate. In a nutshell: they all have a tendency towards hypergamy, towards abdicating responsibility, and towards prioritizing their own reproductive needs and the needs of their children. And of course more mundane and annoying behaviors like not turning crap off, eating bites of your food instead of getting …	/r/RPChristians	26/11/18 02:22 PM
1	Gear: yea or nay No, that's not what I mean. The study you are alluding to was done in mice, and far from scientific proof of a similar phenomenon in humans. And I can tell you subjectively that I feel no permanent benefit.	/r/RPChristians	22/11/18 04:14 PM
1	Gear: yea or nay Very personal health decision and one that should be made pragmatically and not under ignorance. TRT: I've been on it, and will be on it again. If you have a legitimate need, e.g. persistent symptoms and verifiable deficit on serial labs, then I think it's warranted. You are not doing your body harm by bringing your T up to physiologic levels. Problem is, some guys will be symptomatic within "normal" reference ranges, and most GPs are under-educated on male hormone optimization and wont take you…	/r/RPChristians	21/11/18 05:06 PM
4	Caught wife wanking off Interesting 'problem'. Chances are, as you alluded to, wanking IS very characteristic of her, you are just now realizing it. Agree with rocknrollchuck--you get one and only one opportunity to bring it up, so dont make a thing out of it. If you overshoot it then she will get self-conscious and hide it even more, and if you bring it up more than once it will have the same effect as well as a libido-killing side effect WRT you. Do NOT do the note thing for the love of God.	/r/RPChristians	15/11/18 04:22 PM
5	On being 'Red Pill'... Lot's of good advice here OP. Regarding the Red Pill community, it has value in some of its core teachings, but there are a lot of extreme permutations of this philosophy and for that reason I suggest avoiding most mainstream RP forums and material. Rollo Tomassi is the type of guy who would sniff his own farts out of a wine glass, if you get my meaning. Not a fan, never have been. I've known him since 2005. That's not to say his material doesnt also have value, but it's verbose and pretentious.…	/r/RPChristians	09/11/18 03:18 PM
2	Vetting for a wife - Need help reconciling different studies I believe this was first coined by the poster 'Desdinova' over at SoSuave.net. This was probably 10 years ago, or close. You could do a search over there and I'm sure it would come up. I've found it to be true in my own experience and it's a great way of explaining the perils of partner count to the skeptics.	/r/RPChristians	15/10/18 03:54 PM
9	Vetting for a wife - Need help reconciling different studies There's a concept call the High Score Theory (HST). It posits that, like an old school arcade game, every woman has a high score holder. The high score holder is the man who had the MOST net-positive emotional effect on her. It's not necessarily her first partner, but it certainly can be. High scores can be beaten, but at a certain point the cumulative "play time" on a particular female will preclude you even getting in the mix. It's not a wise use of your time to try an be a girl's high score w…	/r/RPChristians	15/10/18 01:40 PM
1	TRP Has Been Quarantined - Meta Thread Not surprised at all. They will be banned, along with other red pill subs. RPC might be ok. I will say that TRP, MRP are a lot darker and more hardcore than the early red pill forums, pre-reddit. But still, this is ideological policing.	/r/RPChristians	28/09/18 02:54 PM
2	Messed Up World... A "TL;DR" is always helpful for long posts. You'll get more feedback. But as to your thesis, people have been saying America is falling apart for many, many years, longer than you or I have been around. And I dont necessarily disagree, because if you look at accounts of the prophets in the Old Testament (the OT is highly under-appreciated in modern Christianity, IMO), you will find many parallels. America is becoming a Godless, faithless, and morally porous society more and more each day. We jus…	/r/RPChristians	22/09/18 02:30 PM
8	How important is a woman's sexual past to you? As someone who married a virgin, and who also slept with a lot of women prior to marriage (not boasting, trust me), I can attest there is a marked difference between her and the other girls I have been with, including prior LTRs. And I dont think it simply boils down to personality differences, because of my experience across the personality spectrum with females. I also dont think virginity is the be-all end-all of wife selection. If you find one, and she checks all your other boxes and passes …	/r/RPChristians	30/08/18 07:06 PM
15	How important is a woman's sexual past to you? Virginity should be the gold standard. The risks go up from there. There is decent empirical evidence for this and plenty of observational evidence in the manosphere that a woman's bonding capacity diminishes with increasing partners. Anyone who doesnt believe that is deluding themselves, or more likely trying to rationalize their relationship with a woman who has a high partner count. And if you really want to have your mind blown, look up microchimerism and Y-chromosomal DNA retention in human…	/r/RPChristians	29/08/18 06:16 PM
2	Potentially Getting Engaged. Asking for Guidance. Dude there are so many red flags in this post I cant even see straight. You are making concessions for her left and right and have essentially spelled out all the reasons why you should not marry her and are not even ready to get married yourself. Let me list a few: -You havent even been dating a year -You are ho-hum about her general looks ("she's not unattractive at all"...come on man.) -You cant stand her breasts, to the point you salivate over other girl's breasts -You have reservations abou…	/r/RPChristians	26/08/18 02:21 PM
2	Potentially Getting Engaged. Asking for Guidance. What you don’t like about her before marriage, you will loathe about her after marriage. That is the absolute truth.	/r/RPChristians	26/08/18 01:59 PM
3	Married Man With Girl Friends Be honest with yourself about your proclivity for cheating or even high-grade flirting. Being chummy with lots of attractive women opens doors. And also be honest about what you are getting out of it. Male- female friendships, in general, stay alive because someone is getting ego validation or there is sexual attraction. Im not talking about acquaintances or incidental friends. Social proof is a good thing, but let's call a spade a spade here. I can have fun with my boys. "Making your wife uncom…	/r/RPChristians	24/08/18 07:02 PM
3	If you knew then what you know now Unfortunately the modern church has a bit of a franchise on purebred beta males, but I think it's more of a synergism between cultural factors and church influence. Regardless, you realized something is wrong in your approach, so you found these forums. Welcome. As someone who has been part of the RP (formerly 'Don Juan') community for many many years, I'll give you a few general cautions: 1) Red pill (I really dislike the term because it implies we have some esoteric, privileged knowledge) has …	/r/RPChristians	24/08/18 03:58 PM
1	"Three reasons why Christian parents are raising slutty girls and beta males" No. We see the same problem in non-Christian parenting, so we know there are broader cultural factors at play. Contemporary Christian parenting may exacerbate the problem, but it's not a pure cause/effect relationship.	/r/RPChristians	14/08/18 02:20 PM
1	How do you remain or accept being Christian? And it turned into a ramble warning Something tells me you arent really reading the Bible. Or at least you're reading it as a critic or an intellectual rather than a mere man seeking God. Think of it this way: There is a curated document in various translations that has survived many thousands of years; over 400 years in it's current canonical iteration, and remains the best-selling and most widely distributed book of all time. In this book are chronicles of almost every primary human struggle, and accounts of man's relationship w…	/r/RPChristians	13/08/18 08:13 PM
1	"Three reasons why Christian parents are raising slutty girls and beta males" Slutty girls and beta males are more of a cultural product than one of Christian parenting.	/r/RPChristians	13/08/18 07:35 PM
7	Here's your wife having an emotional affair on a girls' night out [X-Post TRP] The irony of these communities is that while they can be great catalysts to help get you unscrewed, too much is bad medicine. Before long you're spending your time arguing with a bunch of pretentious cocksuckers on what's red pill and what isn't. Get your fundamentals straight and move on.	/r/MarriedRedPill	12/08/18 01:45 AM
1	Sex Addicted v. Sex Starved Poison is determined by the dose, and it doesn't take much with Reddit. Adopt the fundamentals and you're good to go.	/r/MarriedRedPill	12/08/18 12:36 AM
2	Kicking Porn For Good Really appreciate what you're doing here, and I know discipleship is your thing. I 100% agree that replacing the void left by the addiction is the key to overcoming the addiction, and it cant be secular or worldly, obviously. I do not think it has to be discipleship, although certainly a righteous and worthy endeavor. It may look differently for different people, and it may evolve over time. For someone who is feeding themselves minimal to no spiritual material, just reading the Bible may be eno…	/r/RPChristians	09/08/18 03:45 PM
1	RPC approved books and podcasts? I agree, John Eldridge is quite blue-pill from what I remember. I read WaH and a few of his subsequent books before I found the manosphere, and all it did was reinforce my faulty beliefs.	/r/RPChristians	06/08/18 05:26 PM
2	How do you reconcile TRP with Christian values? Glad someone pointed that out. I found the RP community a long time ago, and in those days (10-15 years ago), stuff like that was not condoned. In fact, the focus was more for young single men rather than married men, but I do remember that advocating adultery was pretty taboo. Sure there were guys that did it but they were outliers without much influence. I stepped away from reading and community participation for a few years, mostly because it all become so redundant. Over the interval these b…	/r/RPChristians	06/08/18 05:20 PM
6	[Guide] Home Improvement - Staying Busy All good stuff, but not really relevant to being more of a family alpha. I mean there are lots of beta dweebs who have incredibly well-maintained homes. But as long as we're talking DIY-- Bidets are amazing, I dont care what anyone says. For some reason the US hasnt adopted this idea. We still think it's adequate to wipe our ass with dry paper like it's actually getting clean. I mean think about it, if you got shit anywhere else on your body, even your butt cheeks, would you use a dry piece of p…	/r/MarriedRedPill	06/08/18 02:46 PM
3	A few thoughts from an OG It's hazing, they can have their fun.	/r/MarriedRedPill	06/08/18 01:42 PM
1	I'm a Christian. I'm a "jerk." Deal with it. That's the best Christian context of Alpha/beta I've ever heard. I've always thought of it as a continuum from a behavioral standpoint, but not in the context of Christian influence. One of the biggest problems with the manosphere is and has always been the progression to ideological extremes. And it's def gotten worse.	/r/RPChristians	04/08/18 04:25 AM
1	Is there any reason to date if you don't intend to marry for a while? become very jaded because of the red pill This is common, and very easy if it is the only content you are feeding yourself. Especially today, where the reddit subs can be especially toxic. Back the "early days" of red pill stuff the tone was generally a lot more positive. There is still some good wisdom to be found, but as another poster said Biblical wisdom is on an entirely different level, and it is only evident when you read it yourself. It truly is a living Word, and no other text has survi…	/r/RPChristians	03/08/18 08:03 PM
1	A few thoughts from an OG Well my mistake then.	/r/MarriedRedPill	03/08/18 05:24 PM
6	A few thoughts from an OG You have no clue what the hell you're talking about.	/r/MarriedRedPill	03/08/18 05:24 PM
2	A few thoughts from an OG Funny how we dont see that coming, right? That's when the game gets put on hard mode. A strong argument made by some for not marrying, but this doesnt help they guy who is already married. Plus, a similar gridlock can occur even in LTRs when kids or other assets are entangled.	/r/MarriedRedPill	02/08/18 03:01 PM
2	A few thoughts from an OG You're confusing responsibility with leadership. It sound like your hand never really the wheel; and how could it when she makes $13 an hour? You have the big job, you orchestrated (I'm assuming) this second home thing, and left the details with the most responsible teenager in the house. That's actually a topic I could talk at length on---wifely responsibility (or more aptly lack thereof) in a man-lead marriage. Leaders delegate responsibility, but what do we do when our first mate is a feckin'…	/r/MarriedRedPill	02/08/18 02:57 PM
10	A few thoughts from an OG Lifting and fashion are two tangible things that are immediately accessible for most newbies, and it's a discipline that helps sets your sails in the right direction. I would never go against this advice. But weights and clothes alone arent going to take you from zero to hero. The real challenge for married men is we cant just go out and spin plates, get numbers, go on dates, NEXT, and all the other solutions applicable for single guys. Some might argue you could, but that's opening an ethical c…	/r/MarriedRedPill	01/08/18 06:23 PM
1	A few thoughts from an OG Ye olde SoSuave. So many great posters there over the years. I was a mod there for quite a while. It seems a shell of it's former self though; I think Reddit really took over.	/r/MarriedRedPill	01/08/18 06:02 PM
10	A few thoughts from an OG Yep, complacency is the shovel that digs your grave.	/r/MarriedRedPill	31/07/18 08:08 PM
8	A few thoughts from an OG My man it's so true. You think she'll have your back, right? Ride or die. Well, not really. A lot of times it goes unnoticed by her if I keep it mild. But when I get really toasted, or have a few drinks, it's just never a good outcome. They are the original buzzkill!! They want to see your reaction. That's the only reason they ever shit test. To test your nerve. And you cant call them out on it, not directly anyway. That's like calling a dog out for barking. They will gaslight you into next week…	/r/MarriedRedPill	31/07/18 08:05 PM
1	A Beginners Guide To Using Steroids Safely TBH the 1500 club, while not elite, can NOT be reached by many natural lifters. It's just not in many people's genetic cards. Those are some serious lifts. I consider myself having average at best strength genetics, and I was on gear (cycled, conservative doses) for about 2 years before I hit the 1500 club, and that was after 7 years of natural lifting prior to that. 1000 lb club, absolutely almost any man can hit that without gear. But after that it becomes almost logarithmic. 1500 club--very g…	/r/TheRedPill	27/06/18 08:12 PM
4	LEARN TO FIGHT, PUSSY Couple thoughts about fighting: Always good to know some basic attack/defense skills. Problem is these have to be learned against active opponents. You can be a master of wailing on the heavy bag, have impeccable striking form, etc but like the saying goes everyone has a plan until they get hit in the face. There is no substitute for an actively attacking/resisting partner. This can be found in most MMA gyms, jiu-jitsu clubs, boxing clubs, and obviously wrestling. Fighting can and does have seri…	/r/TheRedPill	27/06/18 06:42 PM
1	Scientific Research validates Hypergamic Instincts in Women. The Redpill verified by science. All good, new men need to hear it and pass it along. Sosuave definitely saved my bacon, there were no other resources around in the early 2000's.	/r/TheRedPill	21/06/18 05:46 PM
28	Scientific Research validates Hypergamic Instincts in Women. The Redpill verified by science. This research is nothing new, nor is the community discussion of hypergamy anything new. There are scholarly articles referencing this term going back to the early 1990's, and this was discussed colloquially on sosuave.net well over 10 years ago. I've seen this play out many times over the years. When guys first wrap their heads around this phenomenon it is so jarring to their existing worldview that they begin to devour everything they can on the subject---much it is TRP, anecdotal, non-scienti…	/r/TheRedPill	21/06/18 02:42 PM
2	Saw my[M/23] crush[F/23] giving a blowjob. I've been there homeboy, and you know I'm right. Sometimes you get answers to questions you didn't ask.	/r/TheRedPill	20/06/18 07:44 PM
3	Saw my[M/23] crush[F/23] giving a blowjob. I think if it was you she blew you'd still want to date her. Let that brew for a while.	/r/TheRedPill	20/06/18 07:34 PM
2	Discovered something interesting about my wife today... could use some redpill advice Not much to add here that hasnt been said, but I will give you this advice: DO NOT open doors you cannot close. If I were you, I would not even dip your toe in the water of being submissive and/or dominated. It WILL change the dynamics of your relationship and it WILL escalate---maybe not to absurd levels, but come on this is common sense here dont overthink it.	/r/MarriedRedPill	20/06/18 07:27 PM
2	I am quite surprised by the reaction of my buddy's GF and her 3 friends in relation to a hypothetical scenario. This is the type of shit that I can't wrap my melon around. Are men not worth anything? Lots of ways around this one OP, you were caught off guard. First, if you decided to engage their hypothetical scenario, always make them define what they are asking. "Define harassed". If they give you attitude right out of the gates for simple clarification, then leave. If they offer an acceptable clarification, then you can either A) make some ridiculous (but not overreaching or crude) joke, or B) Drop their equality framework back on them. Your response wasn't wrong per se, it was more the d…	/r/TheRedPill	20/06/18 02:51 PM