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This sounds like projection. And that’s rooted in what they are doing and subconsciously thinking of. I was once accused of everything that my ex was doing to me. It allowed me to almost become a clairvoyant because I could anticipate her next moves.
/r/Divorce_Men11/07/26 12:03 AM
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Leg day until healed. Stay consistent
/r/Divorce_Men16/06/26 11:43 AM
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Stay the course and ask us for advice! I used chatGPT to stay compliant and in a position of advantage. Keep your honor clean. Fight from a position of advantage.
/r/Divorce_Men12/06/26 02:59 AM
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Get a lawyer. She’s fucking him and trying to replace you. Learn to grey rock her. Don’t speak to her unless it’s about the kid(s). Period. She’s now your mortal enemy. Treat her as such. Separate your finances. Redirect your paychecks to new account. Cut her off your credit cards. You have no friends anymore. No one gives a shit about your problems and half the people are glad you’ve got problems. Tell them nothing. When they ask what’s happening - “things didn’t work out like we planned and th…
/r/Divorce_Men12/06/26 02:30 AM
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I don’t acknowledge it. My circumstances require it. Holidays were used against me in marriage. And last Father’s Day she used it to abduct my kids. So I don’t do anything. My seven year old made a paper and tape Mothers Day gift that he wants to send but he did it on his own.
/r/Divorce_Men09/05/26 12:37 AM
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Use Grey Rock method. Document everything. Only speak via text or parenting app. Get a court order on visitation immediately. Ask me how I know all this? lol Very very similar story over here. Took me two years but I have 100% custody and am about to take belt to ass on the last few items. This is gonna sound a little strange but figure out who the judge and the commissioner is that’s going to be overseeing your filing go sit in the public trial hearings regarding divorces and understand how the…
/r/Divorce_Men01/05/26 03:50 PM
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/r/Divorce_Men24/04/26 05:54 AM
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I’m in the exact same position. I requested a 730 mental evaluation be conducted to reinforce that the children’s best interests are to be with me as a stable option. I intend to file for child support.
/r/Divorce_Men12/03/26 03:54 PM
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Outlive it and make a new circle of good people. It sucks that this happens!
/r/Divorce_Men25/02/26 04:45 AM
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I used Chat GPt to rehearse today as well. My kids were abducted. I fought for a year to get them back. The first three days back were surprisingly good and I didn’t want to sound game in court.
/r/Divorce_Men28/01/26 02:38 AM
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Man I read and watched the count of monte cristo as inspiration to play the long game and learn the rules to the game so that I knew them as a professional to break them like a master.
/r/Divorce_Men07/01/26 09:41 PM
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Thanks a lot. I am excited to share to give other men hope. I felt like I was held to a different standard for so long. But time was good to me. I followed orders, kept my mind together, never over reacted, kept receipts, and demonstrated stability for the best interests of my kids. This will be some momentum to get a judgment that’s fair and consistent.
/r/Divorce_Men07/01/26 07:27 PM
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Updates above fellas. Time is being good to me.
/r/Divorce_Men07/01/26 07:10 PM
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Make their day. You got this
/r/Divorce_Men27/11/25 08:55 PM
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Because we have been conditioned to accept this as a win. Fight.
/r/Divorce_Men12/11/25 01:17 AM
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You better get a lawyer if you don’t have one now document everything and go fight fight your ass off fight for your kids and if your lawyer isn’t the fighting kind get another one. Best advice I was told was a good lawyer knows the law. A great lawyer knows the judge and it’s not like they’re drinking buddies that’s even better yet, but they gotta understand how that judge receives information and how they make decision decisions because those attorneys are the ones that are able to get you a d…
/r/Divorce_Men18/10/25 06:31 PM
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Can you tell me what paid search tools you used and what you were looking for? Hope it doesn’t violate community standards
/r/Divorce_Men13/10/25 03:41 PM
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You keep that mindset and don’t let anyone take it from you… not even you. Hit the gym, read some great books, and build yourself into something that attracts the top notch women that worth the rest of your life!!!!!!! Keep up posted you badass.
/r/Divorce_Men28/08/25 10:47 PM
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You need to get your shot together dude. You’re going to be fine. Trust us. She did you a favor and you are going to learn. Let that past go and get focused on your new future. Get excited about it. I’m excited for you. And get your ass with your friends and a therapist so you can vent positively. We got you.
/r/Divorce_Men28/08/25 10:34 PM
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Bifurcated status and trial set is the best I think you can do. Tell your attorney to end this hell.
/r/Divorce_Men17/06/25 05:21 PM
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You have to work hard on building a bond with them. I’d start with some experiences and memories. It’s hard, painful work.
/r/Divorce_Men02/06/25 04:20 PM
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You responded almost exactly how she wanted you to. She didn’t care if you found out. She doesn’t care if you’re hurt. And this marriage and move on. Block out all the intentional peripheral damaging information. Keep moving forward.
/r/Divorce_Men27/05/25 02:04 AM
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Don’t leave. She can leave. And get a lawyer because that verbal agreement won’t last the moment you walk out the door.
/r/Divorce_Men23/04/25 07:16 PM
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Why are you leaving? Don’t leave the house. Get a lawyer.
/r/Divorce_Men23/04/25 12:51 AM
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Move fast and get an agreement asap. I tried this approach and am now fighting for everything.
/r/Divorce_Men12/04/25 10:10 PM
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First, great on you for seeking therapy. Next, get your dick out of the dirt and start working on yourself mind, body, and soul. Become something and someone you couldn’t have imagined. Write and reflect. Learn and apply. Dream and pursue. You don’t have all the time left that you think…. How are you going to spend it? Don’t drink or do drugs. Stop basing your happiness off of the decisions of another person. Therapy will equip you to change this behavior.
/r/Divorce_Men12/04/25 06:25 PM
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Judges make decisions in the children’s best interests. You need to establish yourself as the calm and collected parent. The law wants equal and sustained contact from both parents.
/r/Divorce_Men09/04/25 05:23 PM
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That’s great. I hope this all helps you support him through the tremendous and unique stress men have in the aftermath of a divorce.
/r/Divorce_Men08/04/25 11:54 PM
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If you don’t have a date of legal separation your earnings are community property. Until you file there is no legal separation. When you file you need to back date to the day that meets the legal definition in your state.
/r/Divorce_Men24/03/25 06:03 PM
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What do you hope to learn in this subreddit?
/r/Divorce_Men22/03/25 10:06 PM
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I’m not being flippant. You can file for a modification if you sincerely believe she will leave the state.
/r/MensRights22/03/25 06:51 PM
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You need a lawyer.
/r/MensRights22/03/25 04:59 PM
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Get a consult from the local, best lawyers so she can’t use them. When you do get a lawyer, get one that has had cases with the judge and understands how they make judgments. Make sure they are CFLS if your state has the certification.
/r/Divorce_Men21/03/25 05:40 AM
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Ok recently bundled my phone with my internet provider. I also got a separate line to my current phone on a friend’s family plan. So I have two lines on one iPhone.
/r/Divorce_Men18/03/25 07:40 PM
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Tough one. Sorry man. She’s old enough in your state to decide right? Unfortunately she has probably been “influenced” heavily waaaay before you knew this was happening.
/r/Divorce_Men16/03/25 06:37 PM
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Oh the copy pasta comment didn’t transfer… lemme fix…
/r/Divorce_Men16/03/25 05:19 AM
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This is it. Here is a copy pasta from redditor above and below. He says it every time: She cheating. Stop begging. Learn to grey rock her. Don’t speak to her unless it’s about the kids. Period. She’s now your mortal enemy. Treat her as such. Separate your finances. Redirect your paychecks to new account. Cut her off your credit cards. You have no friends anymore. No one gives a shit about your problems and half the people are glad you’ve got problems. Tell them nothing. When they ask what’s happ…
/r/Divorce_Men16/03/25 04:37 AM
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I wish I could have read this a few years ago!
/r/Divorce_Men11/03/25 05:03 PM
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I tired this but suspect she used chats or apps. If she has snap chat, 99% she’s sending nudes and sexting.
/r/Divorce_Men11/03/25 12:43 PM
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It’s great to know the tactics so you can see the indications and warnings. Document everything and never let your guard down. Never.
/r/Divorce_Men11/03/25 02:09 AM
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Get a lawyer; say nothing. Do your research with what lawyer works in your area with positive outcomes with that judge. State dependent and judge dependent you won’t be as bad off as it seems if she is the top earner.
/r/Divorce_Men10/03/25 11:52 PM
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I think it’s a catch all blaming phrase for why women don’t achieve in life. It’s evident to me that men go out and do things. Women are nurturers and create life. We’re builders, creators, and makers. And some women want to as well. We should include them and facilitate the women that want to be engineers, laborers, and front line combat troops: just meet the standards and survive the community. But they’re constrained by their biological imperative to create humans and it gets in the way of ac…
/r/MensRights08/03/25 11:10 PM
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I kept my legal costs down by doing things for myself. I let them do what they know best. A good lawyer knows the law; a great lawyer knows the judge. Don’t waste your money paying them to do your paperwork. Have them spend your money influencing the judge for your desired outcome.
/r/Divorce_Men08/03/25 02:26 AM
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Ahhh gotcha. Remember no one will know your case better than you.
/r/Divorce_Men08/03/25 01:56 AM
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Dude there’s a lot of context missing. But if you have a lawyer do what they tell you and do your best to inform them to best represent you. If you don’t do your best it will cost $$$$ as a paralegal unfuxks your messes.
/r/Divorce_Men08/03/25 01:30 AM
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Look up Bifurcated Status Judgment. If you can articulate how she benefits from delay and how it’s damaging your ability to live a fulfilled life you can get it done.
/r/Divorce_Men07/03/25 08:40 PM
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Our stories are near identical. I’m active duty as well. You have to be your best for the kids and the information eat you are in. Use the system to your advantage. You must appear to be the adult in the room. Given time and opportunity it sounds like she will easily establish that for you. Like Sun Tzu said, “Don’t stop your enemy from making a mistake.” No good faith moves. Only act in your kids best interests.
/r/Divorce_Men07/03/25 12:01 PM
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That’s the attitude we need to see here. Give each other a wonderful night.
/r/Divorce_Men15/02/25 01:41 AM
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Give us an update dude. Hope you get your soul sucked out of your body.
/r/Divorce_Men15/02/25 01:32 AM
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Following. I’m in the same situation. I didn’t proceed because I felt that I would incur fees I’d have to pay. I didn’t get a lawyer either. Sounds dumb but there’s really not much to argue about in a 50/50 state like CA.
/r/Divorce_Men13/02/25 07:43 PM
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Who filed and under what? Criminal case against you? Do you have a lawyer? PM me if you feel it necessary.
/r/Divorce_Men12/02/25 01:15 AM
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That what it appears. Did she include that in her agreement? It’s state dependent but here in CA they try to make everything 50/50
/r/Divorce_Men12/02/25 01:11 AM
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She wants to be the victim. She wants you to be the villain. Hopefully you’ve never offered her harm or threatened her. Or have substantiated DV and abuse. This is a tactic to get what she wants.
/r/Divorce_Men12/02/25 01:00 AM
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Dude you just keep working on yourself. Hobbies, health and fitness, resiliency, self care and love…. And when you are making progress you might attract that person in your mind! Get yourself out there. Surround yourself with the best people. Stay away from the negative and people that aren’t trying to get where you want to go. You may surprise yourself!!!
/r/Divorce_Men03/02/25 06:57 PM
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Bro, you can absolutely have a relationship on your terms. You’ve got to understand exactly what you’re looking for and develop your boundaries but I’ll be honest with you man you’re coming off like you would be exploitable by some of the most evil that are out there so watch out, be careful and I hope that you can find happiness.
/r/Divorce_Men03/02/25 01:59 AM
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That’s what I was hoping you would say. I’ve been doing my best to maintain my reputation as a great man and father amidst the accusations.
/r/Divorce_Men02/02/25 12:30 AM
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Bud that’s awful. Sounds like you’re ‘winning’ though. The sickness thing was something I have endured as well. She would have a bad day and keep kids home. Say they had strep throat. They have never been sick with me. They got truancy letters last year.
/r/Divorce_Men01/02/25 11:35 PM
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Tick off the judge in whose favor? I’ve done nothing but let her withhold them and document it. I can’t imagine anything I’ve done be outside the kids interests.
/r/Divorce_Men01/02/25 11:31 PM
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It was quality. Most are these delusional exaggerations and accusations that I’m violent. Them nothing happens lol. She had my youngest son (5 at the time) say, “Daddy pulled my pants down and tugged on my wiener.” This went no where. But she called all her friends, my best friends, and family to let them know. She also has changed her mind on our last son. She says, “I never wanted to have that sex.” After years of bragging about how she would ‘seduce’ me after the USMC ball. It’s always “he hi…
/r/Divorce_Men01/02/25 11:30 PM
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I looked up the link you sent me. That’s pretty much what has happened. All the allegations have been disproved. They were so minuscule.
/r/Divorce_Men01/02/25 09:51 PM
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Strong points. I’ve been very calm and methodical. It’s like Sun Tzu said, “Never stop the adversary from making a mistake.” I could write a book about how to navigate this stuff at this point. Next step for me is the courthouse unfortunately. This went from uncontested to fully contested in no time.
/r/Divorce_Men01/02/25 05:46 PM
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Same happened to me with r/interestingasfuck. It was done by a bot that checks what subs you are on.
/r/MensRights09/01/25 03:37 AM
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If you are to divorce, I’d try to keep it uncontested with the best interests of the boys as the thing all decision making revolves around. I’ve recently learned the difference between coparenting, parallel parenting, and counter parenting. That helped me. I tried to be the good guy and help everyone and ended up missing opportunities to take care of myself. You will have to consider your own happiness and mental health through this. But always be a leader and father to your boys. This could be …
/r/Divorce_Men20/12/24 12:36 AM
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Mine had a 5k retainer. They burn through those quick. Then you pay as you go. Expect to be between 20 and 30k for simple contested.
/r/Divorce_Men19/11/24 04:30 AM
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Nope. It’s the other way around. When you begin to understand them, their needs, biological imperatives, emotions, wants, and how to lead them you’ll understand. They are just as lost as men in this awful world we are creating.
/r/MensRights16/11/24 01:48 AM
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Dude. You’re generalizing. Change your scene. Change your hobbies and surround yourself with quality people. Women are wonderful. Once you discover that for yourself you’ll feel silly for your current state. Ending things definitely isn’t a solution.
/r/MensRights16/11/24 12:41 AM
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Document everything. Get a lawyer as soon as you can.
/r/Divorce_Men23/10/24 03:06 AM
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Stop. Stop thinking like that. That’s under your control. You can control the way you are thinking about this. One positive: you accept responsibility for your mistake. That’s massive. Now you need to work on yourself. It’s hard but rewarding. And you cannot envision what you will be like in 5 years. And that person is who your boys will know. They need dad for the next 50 years man. And that’s worth staying for. The last thing they need is a dad that died of cancer before he became a person in …
/r/Divorce_Men18/10/24 03:49 AM
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Tons of great advice in here. The best thing you have going for you is that you’re mindful of the challenge, capable of making change, and willing to fight for yourself. Hobbies, new friends, and goals! I took on smoking meats, brewing beer, cooking, reading, hiking, and seeing live music. Kept me busy!
/r/Divorce_Men02/09/24 06:34 PM
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It’s gets a little worse as we go. Went from Amicable to bitter angry woman in the time California makes you wait. I hate debt and I’m up to my eyes in it because I’ve tried to build her a dream. I put her through school, bought a business and the commercial property it’s in, and find her lifestyle. Now I have to get creative to pay someone to help me convince the state to end the relationship. I’m getting taken advantage of by every single entity. I hate it. How do we allow this to happen to go…
/r/Divorce_Men30/07/24 01:49 AM
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You’re right. I am still active. I pay for everything as she gets her hours to become a therapist. I put her through school with my GI Bill. It’s time for her to start earning her way. In addition I bought two mental health clinics. She works there as an intern and partner. She can do good for herself.
/r/Divorce_Men30/07/24 01:35 AM
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I’ve tried to keep things amicable. I should have listened in the beginning and got a lawyer. I’m not sure where she got the money to retain - I think it was her parents. But when I came home from a deployed training event she had lawyered up wants me to pay her legal fees. I am going to shop for the 0% interest cards so I can get this behind me and go back to having disposable income to knock down the debt.
/r/Divorce_Men30/07/24 12:14 AM
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You don’t. You banish them to the shadow realm with logic and facts. They can’t hold up. They generally cry and commit logical fallacies trying to substantiate their bullshit. If you prepare properly you’ll make them look like dummies.
/r/MensRights11/10/22 12:58 AM
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Hate and jealousy is earned, fellas. Don’t forget that… especially you OP.
/r/MensRights30/11/21 05:25 AM
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What about the cell phone data? Isn’t that sufficient?
/r/MensRights13/11/19 09:38 PM
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A life sentence!? That is ridiculous. And the lawyer is a fool.
/r/MensRights17/07/13 11:50 PM
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She probably didn't have sweat in her crack.
/r/MensRights09/07/13 05:24 AM
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