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Well I would love my man to take care of himself by going to the gym, being athletic and going to the barber and hair salon also saving or waxing some areas. I also think makeup that emphasize the eyes for men (like in ancient Egypt) is sexy. I like to do the same for myself. Just like I love to see beauty around me, I love to see a beautiful cat or dog, it just bring me joy to see harmony. Than the same applies to me. When I see my skin is smooth, I feel strong and lean in my body, I make my ey…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/21 12:06 PM
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I totally get what you mean, and yes I’m realizing about the concept of the male gaze more and more. On the other hand, all animals groom themselves and I think for a woman to be sexual and wanting to attract a mate is natural but only when you do it because of your needs. However we don’t really need to shave or do makeup. Just taking baths, moisturizing our skin, brushing our hair is often good enough for us to feel sexy. Also I found out when I dress confortable I feel sexier.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/21 11:52 AM
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This. Also when he tried to convince people to go on his cruise despite the coronavirus at the beginning of the pandemic 😷
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/21 11:42 AM
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My biggest fear is to get married 💀
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/21 02:54 AM
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Tbh I agree with everything, but the OLD thing. I have no other ways of meeting someone, i don’t have a community, where I live friends don’t really connect you to other men, and working in a very small company there’s no one there. I’m trying religion- based apps and so far I think there is potential.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/21 01:47 AM
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Cheers to that! Let’s take back our power! Can you expand on the modesty part? What does it mean to you, is it the clothes, the attitude? Thanks!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/08/20 06:00 PM
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Oh right ok my bad I understood that he wanted a divorce. Nvm that’s low value alright
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/08/20 02:52 PM
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I read it. What did I say that is wrong, I’m genuinely interested and open to change my opinion Edit: I 100% agree on the prenup thing. I just want to understand why you consider him LV? Is it because he wants to be with another woman?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/08/20 02:26 PM
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Correct me if I am wrong but my idea of HVM is not someone wanting to stay with one woman all his life. I mean two High Value people can still get a divorce. What do you girls think?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/08/20 02:23 PM
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To anyone I recommend and will always recommend; the Tao of fully feeling. Life changing book
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/08/20 03:15 AM
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When the pandemic just started I heard of a girl that got raped in her building starecase by a man who asked her if he could help her with her groceries.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/08/20 03:13 AM
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We should tell men: If you truly love someone, having sex with them is not important. I’m so fed up with us having to accept men’s primal needs and fully them, when they shame us for our needs and our wants!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/08/20 03:12 AM
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Omg omg I love this 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/08/20 02:44 AM
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Do you think moving out now with Covid is a bad idea?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/20 07:36 PM
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What about the movie crazy rich Asian. The guy is so mean. He lets her girlfriend alone having to defend herself against HIS crazy ex and bitter mother. I really didn’t understand this relationship. He lies to her, not letting her know how rich he is, does not prepare her to what’s coming... ughhh
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/08/20 03:16 AM
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Why would you reach out to him? No other man is asking you out? To don’t have any other thing to do ( level up, read, paint, study, etc) ?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/08/20 03:07 AM
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A man that goes to the club and hits on the bottle girl is a hard pass for me. Do you imagine you and him not working out and you having to serve him and his friends and all the club knowing he « had » the bottle girl. Just work make your money and don’t entertain ANY man you meet (at the club).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/08/20 03:05 AM
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Yup so well said. It is a product and sex sell no matter in which way you trying to market it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/08/20 02:07 PM
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Yes you’re right. They might even think that I am easy... fff I’ll just wear my high heels and expensive clothes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/08/20 02:04 PM
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I am NOT an advocate of Dumb Fox at work. We need to go get those money 💰 I am using it more at the first stages of dating. For me playing dumb 🦊 means not showing my cards, acting like I am not calculating at all so that they lower their défenses and be themselves. Then they feel confortable to share SO many things and I can just vet them then and there and block them if needed :) gotta keep those cards close to your chest, nobody needs to see them. I feel you can be more evil if they only noti…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/08/20 01:54 PM
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Yes you are right, I don’t want want to be the target of Muslim men. It’s just another set of problem. Better stay under the radar
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/08/20 01:50 PM
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Yeah ... hard pass then. I’ll just do the plain jain tactic. Baggy clothes and a pit bull by my side.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/08/20 01:49 PM
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That’s why I have a screening call before the date. I never really bothered with what a guy might expect of me. As long as he doesn’t try to rape me I’ll just go my way with no remorse.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/08/20 01:47 PM
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I have figured out the secret: women have to be promiscuous BUT lie and act prude. voilà ! That’s why you always lie to men
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/08/20 05:27 AM
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Have you ever thought that by trying to be nice to him and helping him you are actually holding him back. He will resent you for accepting him at his worst. He will wish you had thrown him on the street so he could realize his full potential. You have your issues, maybe you DO need to be alone for a while in order to have a clear mind.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/08/20 05:22 AM
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im just insulting women with the utmost respect, I can assure you
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/08/20 05:16 AM
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Sometimes we just need a punching bag. That was it. Still a Queen
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/08/20 05:13 AM
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I’m not sure why you would use that strategy at work. I was thinking more in a dating situation. Please be smart at work it’ll bring you 💰
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/08/20 04:45 AM
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Lol that last part 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/08/20 04:43 AM
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Leave say you need to be on your own a little bit. “I don’t feel like it’s going anywhere, and as much as I love you I just need to be on my own a little and reevaluate what I want from life”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/08/20 04:11 AM
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No usually with other women I let them in my little charade. Unless you think they could be toxic or they are your colleagues. You don’t need to worry about women going to tell on your strategy to men. Why? Because men will not listen to women ever so, they’ll just think she is jealous or something. Worst case scenario pretend to cry or to be confused 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/08/20 04:09 AM
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I would just say: “lol” and block
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/08/20 03:37 AM
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I had this shower thought the other day: vampire mythical creature is actually based on men in general. For the most part they only want to take, consume, for their own pleasure. They don’t see a beautiful cow they see a steak. They don’t see a touching sweet woman, they see a hole (sorry for the crudeness). Also, sometimes when the games is rigged, you just have to use the tools you have available to get on top. Going against the grain will get you to lose your energy and time. That’s why I am …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/08/20 03:28 AM
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That’s why we should ask for raises, for jobs, for anything we want. We need to start being entitled, we deserve it 1000% more than 80 % of men
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/08/20 03:08 AM
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To be honest I’m just thinking of all the strategies I could use for men to leave me alone. Maybe if I wear high heels, Louis Vuitton bag and a Rolex men will think I am too high maintenance and leave me alone 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/08/20 02:57 AM
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This is so smart ! I already got the faux engagement ring so there’s that. I was thinking maybe if I wear a head covering (I am Muslim) men would leave me alone, but then I’m scared it would attract more attention than less... gosh men will never understand what we have to live with everyday
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/08/20 02:48 AM
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Thanks for the advice and the video. I have been contemplating jiu jitsu for a long time but I’m not too comfortable practicing with men since it’s a very close contact sport. Maybe watching videos would be good for me !
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/08/20 02:45 AM
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Unfortunately we’re forced to do so :/ really sometimes I wish I was a man.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/08/20 02:43 AM
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No roommates I really want to live alone. I found a studio in a huge complex on the 10th floor. So I think I won’t be bothered by burglars. I was thinking if I wear unattractive clothing or maybe a head covering I would be left alone. I just don’t know what to anticipate. But they allow dogs and I was thinking of getting one!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/08/20 02:42 AM
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Trust your guts. Imagine your niece or young sister comes to you with the same situation, what would you tell her? Only do things that are advantageous to YOU. If you feel the need to help someone, there are plenty of charities or stray dogs that need a home ❤️ sending you a lot of love and encouragement!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/08/20 02:38 AM
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I felt my eyes roll to the back of my head so hard on this one. Why. Do. You. Ask. Men. Out. ? Are you actively trying to get hurt ? Oh I assure you at this rate it will happen. saying this as if I would be talking to my younger self
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/08/20 02:32 AM
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Why would a man think it’s ok to take a woman out for coffee? For me it speaks very loudly of his mindset. I can’t be with someone who has a scarcity mindset.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/08/20 02:29 AM
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women are not my competition, we’re all the victims of this male dominated world that pit us one against the other men don’t love like women do, they will never give us the love we are able to give them
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/08/20 01:54 AM
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This made me cry. I’m crying because I am a woman, at this moment I wished I was a man. I wish I could go live on my own without being scared of what might happen to me, walk without thinking that my cleavage might be showing and that I shouldn’t attract bad attention. I wish I could go into the world, explore it, have my life of my own, be congratulated for my accomplishment without being seen as an object a man could use. Thank you for sharing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/08/20 01:40 AM
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Gotta love the honesty though!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/08/20 12:24 AM
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I had people in my family disown they own child for much less !
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/08/20 06:03 PM
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Tbh I will take a deeper look into what he is really saying. I don’t want to encourage someone who is harmful to women. He is very articulate and goes deep in analysis, but I have to keep reminding me that it doesn’t mean his conclusions are correct. I agree with him on many things, but now I’m kinda questioning everything I thought was true when I was in my pickmesha days. Edit: had an extra word
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/08/20 02:36 PM
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That part about “religious men” really got to me. If you’re Muslim you must know minder, and how all men label themselves as “very religious” lol the joke, they just want a woman that will be subservient to their needs on the account of religion without fulfilling his obligations. I get “friend” request from those “religious” husbands, really happy to be single tbh. I sometimes seriously wonder if I would be happier to be one of the wives of a wealthy man. Having all the financial benefits and o…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/08/20 02:32 PM
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Oh ok thanks I’ll definitely look into this. I always though he was out there to help LVM become HVM but never though he might just be using them for fame and money. Actually it makes more sense.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/08/20 02:25 PM
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I’m not saying to fault him, just to accept that he is living with his parents and that they are a priority. You said you stayed with him because he has “plans” to move out. I’m just saying be ready for him to stay home. YOU have to decide if his position RIGHT NOW is enough for you to stay with him. Edit for wording
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/08/20 10:46 PM
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Sounds like rationalizing a red flag to me. You have to accept a man how he is not hold out because he has “plans”. They all have plans.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/08/20 10:26 PM
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For real big earner at 50k ! ‘Mmmmmmkay
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/08/20 05:16 PM
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Tbh it could also just be sweet talk, don’t let your guard down because a guy complimented you. Be careful ❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/08/20 04:10 PM
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Thanks 💖 Feels so good to go after something you want and get it. Better feeling that what any man can give me!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/08/20 03:34 PM
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This apply also at work. Don’t be afraid to ask for a raise! Just did this week with less than a year at a company and was offered 8K more than what I am paid now 💰
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/08/20 02:04 PM
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I actually have a playlist of old romantic songs sung by male artists (1940-2000). You can’t find those type of lyrics now sadly
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/08/20 12:41 AM
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New goal: become a rich man 😻
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/08/20 05:05 PM
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I hate sarcasm. Weak men use it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/08/20 03:48 PM
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“thanks for the flowers they made my day :) “
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/08/20 08:12 AM
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Queen mindset here 👑
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/08/20 08:10 AM
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Wow I didn’t even noticed that!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/08/20 08:08 PM
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So this guy is insulting himself by saying he is desperate enough to go after “expired vaginas”. These boys don’t know that they tell on themselves when they act like that?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/08/20 08:02 PM
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I’m sorry girl but you need to re-read your post. A man is not a HVM because of his career or his ability to be a responsible human being. A HVM is a man that will treat you like a queen. You are feeling alone and looking back at a relationship with a man that lied to you and wanted to string you along. Just level up (mentally and emotionally) and I ASSURE YOU that a few months from now you will re-read your post and want to bang your head against a wall for being so desperate to be with a guy t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/08/20 08:00 PM
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I think you should really not engage at all with him. Don’t try to make him understand or explain how his behaviour is disgusting. First, you’re investing yourself too much in this interaction and the fact that he knows that he can get under your skin is bad news for you. Second, he could be dangerous, most murdered women were killed by people they knew. I would limit my interactions and not show him that he affects me. If his insistant I would say “I’m so sorry you seem like a great guy but I a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/08/20 05:37 PM
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You’re just too old to keep playing yourself like that. Own yourself become a WOMAN. Read the handbook. You have so much power in you, go find it 💖
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/08/20 04:44 PM
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To be honest it’s the same for me. Some days I feel like becoming a lesbian, some other days I feel like marrying an old/ugly man for his money, and some days when I watch old movies I feel like love exists. FDS really shattered the way I thought my life should look like. Now I know that if I first “got” myself financially and emotionally I can then choose whatever path.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/08/20 12:34 AM
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First. Stop being so mean to yourself. You are entitled to feel pain and you are not pathetic.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/08/20 12:31 AM
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Wtf are men like these living in a complete different universe?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/07/20 09:45 PM
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I feel like I am in the exact position as you, however I was never married. I want to have intimacy with someone in a relationship but to be honest these men cannot he trusted and I don’t want to be put in this position. So what I was thinking as a solution was to marry someone purely for money or convenience. That way you have the “traditional” aspect, but on the other hand you don’t really care about him since you are satisfied by the money he gives you. You can stay emotionally detached. Or f…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/07/20 03:30 PM
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Power of femininity has no age. It’s not about the “objective” beauty it’s the attitude
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/07/20 01:13 AM
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Every time I want something I dress up and look stupid. Everything gets handed to me. Edit: to be honest it’s more the attitude than the beauty. Damsel in distress works 99.999% of the time
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/07/20 01:13 AM
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Yup makes me want to vomit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/07/20 01:08 AM
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Im curious if some women here have heard of G.L Lambert and the advice he gives women?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/07/20 06:36 AM
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I would just say: I’d like to be somewhere where we could keep a 2m social distance 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/07/20 06:26 AM
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“When me president, they see. They see.” Tbh it would make me smile and I would think of swiping right 😂😅
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/07/20 06:24 AM
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This on top of the fact that it’s an illusion. Objectivity doesn’t work in attractiveness, because the human experience is much more complicated. For example an average woman can trigger something from a man’s childhood, and he can become addicted to her even if “objectively” she is ranking low on the scale. Have seen this so much.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/07/20 04:20 AM
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The rating system is bull crap. Hot 10/10 women like Adriana Lima and Irina Shayk get dumped, and average looking women marry the Mark Zukerberg of the world. You decide your worth and this is not bullshit. Have you ever seen an woman you thought was “ugly” but for some reason all the men wanted to be with her and the hot women were jealous of her? I have and since then I know it’s all about how much you love yourself, and for some reason that makes you more attractive to others.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/07/20 04:14 AM
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Omg I want to be her !!!! Edit: or marry her 😍
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/07/20 04:05 AM
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You’re a queen, don’t forget that 💖
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/07/20 12:18 AM
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Yeah for him “good character” would be a doormat that cater to his needs.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/07/20 08:47 PM
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Yes. I went for massage the other day (female masseuse) and I swear it felt so amazing to be touched by someone, it’s been soooo long. I think it’s human to crave touch.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/07/20 08:36 PM
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I’ve always said this. I even wish to have my own place when I am married. It’s not normal to live 24/7 with the same person with no personal space
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/07/20 08:24 PM
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I’m so sorry for you. I hope you’re doing alright and that you were able to distance yourself. If only nunneries where still a thing ... What is wrong with men, is it because of porn or are they intrinsically this depraved. Also how do you find out ?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/07/20 03:13 PM
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Thank you very interesting perspective.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/07/20 01:36 AM
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To be honest, men in our culture don't ask their daughter to pay for rent. My dad may come from a traditional culture but he grew up in a american boarding shcool very far from his family, so I feel like he doesn't know anything about family. I've already warmed them up by taking an appartement for a few months this year because I was going to school which was far. I think there's just no way around it now, and I'll just calmly tell them it has nothing to do with them. My finances are good, I ha…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/20 11:11 PM
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I’ve deleted all dating apps after a year of using them last month. I feel so much lighter and better. I love this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/20 09:13 PM
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Good for you girl, that’s inspiring 💚
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/20 09:11 PM
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If you tell me all men are like that I swear to god I am becoming a monk or a lesbian 🤢
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/20 09:08 PM
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Hey thanks, I will try to first secure a place before I tell them anything. My dad is actually from North Africa, which he doesn’t act like unless it’s about controlling my life. Usually men from this culture are supposed to provide, but he does not act like that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/20 09:02 PM
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Yes it’s pretty crushing. And I feel like I am staying with them with the hope that I’ll be able to make everything great, that we’ll finally have this happy family I dream of. You are right that I can still support her from afar. I remember my relation with her was the best when I moved out for two months. As for my dad, keeping him at arms length is actually something he does himself, he is never interested in me or want to talk to me about anything but 1. His work and 2. How I should find a b…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/20 09:01 PM
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Thanks I need it. I feel like I am codependent on them. We moved so many times when I was young and I feel like that made me emotionally dependent on them. Like they were my closest “friends”- I’ve relied on their emotional validation for so long. So making my own decisions is pretty hard but I am trying to work on it. I feel like step one is to move out.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/20 08:57 PM
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I do not want to punish him, it’s just that the guilt tripping is very real and effects me a lot at the point of changing my decisions when he does not approve of something. I am used to doing things without telling him because I know he will guilt trip me and might even kick me out, I don’t know.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/20 08:55 PM
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I remember that one 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/20 08:49 PM
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Thank you for your post. It makes me feel I am not the only one. I cry when I think of my best friend’s relationship with her dad, I wish I had the same. I am reading the Tao of Feeling by Pete Walker, he explains it all. It’s specifically for adults who had abusive parents and how to build yourself up. I am still reading it, it’s hard because I cry almost every time I read it, but I feel so much relief. There is a chapter about dissociation and it makes me think of your comment of feeling like …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/20 06:22 AM
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Haha I live in a city where men really don’t cold approach women (except in bars) so that might be why it works for me :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/07/20 09:44 PM
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I bought a fake engagement ring, and wear it when I want to have a « good » excuse to reject men. They leave you alone when they think you are another man’s « possession »
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/07/20 06:01 PM
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You must not be a lurker since the stance on coffee dates is pretty much negative in FDS as well as texting a guy first.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/07/20 04:04 AM
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This is beautiful 💖
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/07/20 03:59 AM
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Yeah European Men doesn’t mean anything. Yes culture is more liberal there, but an asshole is an asshole is an asshole
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/20 05:43 PM
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How many men can proudly say “I don’t watch porn”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/20 05:42 PM
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Read 👏🏼 the 👏🏼 handbook 👏🏼
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/20 05:39 PM
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Date multiple men at the same time. Don’t sleep with them. Continue untill you find a worthy man.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/20 05:37 PM
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Why swipe him right?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/20 05:34 PM
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Because women have become a cheap commodity. Before if men wanted to have sex outside of marriage they had to try VERY hard or basically go to prostitute. Now it’s all easy for them. Women have stopped educating other women on how to preserve themselves and have dignity.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/20 05:29 PM
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We often hate what we fear. We fear them because they have that much power over us. How can we stop hating them and just not caring anymore ? 🤔 please someone tell me
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/20 05:26 PM
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Girl don’t take it so personally I’m just saying ask yourself some questions
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/20 05:21 PM
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“Hey babe, I’m going to Chad’s house we’re having a sleepover, hope it’s ok xoxo “
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/20 08:16 AM
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“I’ve been told by European men” I would replace “European men” by = men who are gaslighting you and making you believe it’s ok to sleep at a female “friend” so that you will feel guilty and they can then proceed on cheating on you. Please stay far away from those men. I don’t trust guys over the age of 25 who have close female friends.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/20 08:14 AM
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He knew you wanted to meet. He is not stupid. You are a woman and your responding to his texts. I can sense some kind of desperation from you, have you focused on leveling up? (Mentally, physically, etc)?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/20 08:10 AM
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OG HVW
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/20 08:02 AM
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Block delete. Friendship with a man is delusional.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/20 08:01 AM
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Untill you put a ring on my finger, your sexual needs are your responsibility. The time that I give you is from the goodness of my heart.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/20 07:59 AM
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I agree with many things you said!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/20 07:52 AM
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Just imagine if your sister or cousin would confess to you they did that. You would be shocked but also you would have compassion for them and want them to be better. Try to feel this same compassion and understanding for yourself 💖 people do far more extreme things just look at Mia Khalifa, but you can still come back from it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/07/20 03:42 AM
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Same for me. I was always treated with respect and asked out for dinners on OLD. The only thing that made me stop is that I’m not interested in the men I meet on OLD, I like a more genuine approach where the interest gets to build up (at work, at school or through friends )
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/20 11:44 PM
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I guy that likes you will never make you doubt
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/20 07:46 PM
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To be honest I’m not sure if my brain is working properly but I didn’t understand if that was a positive or negative exchange 🧐
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/20 04:15 AM
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Can you be my mentor 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/20 02:46 AM
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I’d be down !
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/07/20 12:52 PM
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I love Dave, I feel his anger against the dude, but he tries to be nice to the woman
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/07/20 01:38 AM
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Oh ok, I see exactly what you mean, I hate that. I just say "yes sure" and never get back to them lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/07/20 02:25 PM
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Thought about you girls when I saw that haha
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/07/20 02:23 PM
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I’m not sure about this one. Isn’t it polite for the guy to ask when you are free instead of imposing some days? However you have 100% the right to not like it, but I’m just wondering now if that’s a red flag I should consider...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/07/20 02:13 PM
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yikes
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/07/20 02:09 PM
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I feel it’s his strategy to weed out the high standard women and go directly to the doormats. Great strategy for him. It’s kind of a filter he uses. No need to waste your time and energy even you being shocked is too much energy wasted. Just delete knowing that he is not looking for a woman of your caliber.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/07/20 04:06 AM
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Haha really simple. Make them feel like they could tell you anything and you wouldn’t judge them. Smile, ask questions that are open ended. When there are silences, look at him and let him try to fill the blanks. Don’t give out too much info about yourself. For example: Him: so when was your last relationship You: oh it was a while ago. What about you, have you ever fallen in love? Him: bla bla my ex, bla, can’t forget about her, bla You: Oh I understand, it’s such a difficult situation, but may…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/07/20 11:49 PM
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Read books, start working out, paint... don’t use men as a distraction because it’s very emotionally draining.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/07/20 07:45 PM
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I prefer adopting and actual child
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/07/20 06:56 PM
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My best friend's sister's goal was to have a family. At 35 she made the choice to marry a man she didn't really love, because the most important thing for her was to have kids. She is happy with the choice she made, and all the love she wanted to give a man she uses to take care of her daughter. When push comes to shove, that's also a choice you can make, and use all the love you have inside of you to take care of your children and maybe better the community.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/07/20 03:45 PM
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I was thinking the other day how marrying a gay man would actually be ideal. He could be a wonderful dad to your children AND be your best friend. It's silly but fun to think about
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/07/20 03:38 PM
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You need to seek help. Life is not about men. Go volunteer, watch war documentaries to get in touch with the world's sufferance. Try to make a difference, read books. Make friends, try to have fun and figure out what you really like to do. Even if you find love, what happens if he passes away? Learn to stand on your own 2 feets. The suicide ideation that you have is unhealthy and has nothing to do with dating.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/07/20 03:35 PM
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wow never thought about it that way
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/07/20 03:31 PM
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Yes, I'm usually good at letting them talk and open their feelings to me. I almost catch this in the first few dates. They don't understand why I won't continue seeing them. Girls, let the men talk, they will reveal everything you need to know about them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/07/20 03:29 PM
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Ok it makes more sense to me. I was thinking that maybe Swedish men came from another planet, as they sounded to be so different from 90 % of earth's male population.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/07/20 12:40 AM
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Yes I’m wondering why you’re here too. Tbh if the guys are really as you describe them, I would understand better that someone would do 50/50. I respect that if the man is really as invested as you say. It might be a cultural thing, because in my culture 50/50 doesn’t really exist, even with friends. Also I would feel that a man that can and wants to provide is more of a gentleman and I would be more attracted to him. But like I said it’s probably cultural, if you say that women are happy in Swe…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/07/20 12:35 AM
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I agree that in a committed relationship you would want to be more vulnerable. What I was saying is about sharing too much on social media. At the end of the day, I feel like what you put out in the universe comes back to you. I feel we gain much more to be more private on social media and it’s also classier (if that’s what you’re into).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/07/20 12:19 AM
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Yes I was thinking the same. Exes will think: Oh she’s still not over this, must be missing me. New guys will think: Oh she’s used to guys not treating her well, why would I?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/20 08:11 PM
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I think I did a little :P I had a big crush on him because of True Blood, what a god
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/20 06:59 PM
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Ok and during the dating phase, what do they do for you ? Just curious, because I would imagine that after paying half of the meal, they would still expect sex. Do people get married fast, or do men like to play the field while splitting the bill? Are women really happy with these arrangements? Edit: I don’t want to sound harsh, I’m just very curious because obviously Sweden and Scandinavia in general is very well developed and apparently people are happy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/20 06:16 PM
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So sad that their culture is all about 50/50. I think their men are gorgeous
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/20 02:53 PM
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I saw him once at a health supermarket. I almost fainted. I then had to proceed explaining to the cashier who this man was 😍
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/20 02:52 PM
5

reading Pride and Prejudice had the same effect :'(
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/20 01:34 AM
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I feel it applies with friends and family too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/07/20 09:26 PM
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This, I was doing this on bumble too 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/07/20 07:34 AM
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Perfect, hope he’s a good one ! 💚
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/07/20 11:13 PM
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I don’t want to rain on your parade but always assume bad intentions until he proves his commitment. It’ll save you a lot of heartache 💖
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/07/20 06:34 PM
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https://instagram.com/radwaelsherbiny?igshid=1e2eoh6hlzcsx
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/07/20 07:55 PM
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Yes, honestly I starting to think I will just marry a good man irrespective of his religion and who would respect me practicing my own. I feel its already hard to find HVM and on top of this if he has to be muslim I will never find him...smh
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/07/20 05:14 PM
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Yes you are 100% right. It's always our fault anyways. Men cannot face the reality that they are projecting their own twisted and perverted intentions onto us. They prefer making us the Jezebels
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/07/20 05:12 PM
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Arabic tv hostess who gives dating tips
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/07/20 05:08 PM
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If you are not muslim, I wouldn't recommend it. Unless you are willing to convert. Muslim men are pressured by their families to marry preferably a muslim woman for their kids to grow up in religion. Even the so called "open minded" men, will want at the end of the day to bring a somewhat pious wife to their mother.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/07/20 04:57 PM
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Interesting, I might look into it!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/07/20 04:54 PM
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I've came to realize that men categorize stuff. You will see the same man on tinder treat a woman like she is low value, but if he met her at a library he would treat her with respect. They do not understand that there are layers to things. If in his mind Tinder is for hookup, he will view all the women on it as cheap, free pr*stitutes. It's not women's fault that men are so 2 dimensional, but I feel like women choosing to OLD have to take this into account. And that's why I am not on OLD anymor…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/07/20 04:51 PM
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Yeah I am 28 and honestly I’m thinking I’d prefer staying single then marrying just about anyone. One thing for sure I deleted the dating apps, I’m thinking of maybe going to the masjid or something to meet men, at least you’ll know they are practicing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/07/20 04:02 PM
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🌈 Block, delete, ghost 🌈
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/07/20 03:55 PM
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Block, block, block
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/07/20 03:54 PM
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Trying also to find a Muslim guy, but it’s hard I’m not gonna lie. I feel like they all have girlfriends on the side, and then they are like “I dreamt of marrying a woman like you”. I didn’t dream of marrying a guy like THEM. Good luck in your search sis.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/07/20 03:53 PM
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That’s why they’ll try to make babies grow in tubes, so they can say: hey see we do it better than women !
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/07/20 07:22 AM
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Men in general don’t listen to women. With exception to your own father MAYBE. No use in arguing with them, they don’t respect us.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/07/20 07:08 AM
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I think it’s smart and contrary to some people I feel like you spend less energy that way. Men do not respond to clear communication with women, the only reason it works between men is because of the implicit threat of violence. As they see women as lower than them, they do not take seriously any attempt of being clear and direct. Even if you are right they will resent you for it. Acting dumb has brought me so much more in my relationship with men. Also a lot more peace of mind. When I tell thin…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/07/20 05:44 PM
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Not sure why I am downvoted. Can’t I have standards for my man, they do have tons for us so why not?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/07/20 03:17 PM
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The interesting thing to ponder upon now that we understand the nature of men, is what is the nature of women and how can we get what we want. Reading that men are only in for sex is depressing only if you feel that in the exchange you get nothing in return. I believe that most women feel cheated because their only requirement is to feel "love". But if your needs are met, I can bet that you wouldn't feel so cheated. Lets start to figure out what we really want and not be ashamed of asking for it…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/07/20 02:16 PM
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My opinion is that having IG or Snap is very low value for a man. If I find that the guy I am talking to is following models on IG and liking pictures, I am just not interested anymore. It's such a turn off. On another note... I've noticed even celebrity couples are not immune to this. I was following Cameron from Love is Blind, and I found him liking pictures of this half-naked girl on insta....
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/07/20 04:57 AM
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honestly I'd want my man to shave his armpits and any hair he has on the back and chest. He can keep his leg hairy lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/07/20 04:52 AM
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I am starting to think that having multiple boyfriends is the way to go lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/07/20 04:49 AM
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I was wondering if any of you thought that not sharing social media was a redflag? Especially after a couple of months of talking.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/07/20 04:40 AM
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Honey the problem is that you are still trying to finding validation externally. You said: " Now I use the FDS teachings (especially pulling back to not give him the upper hand) and guys still don't like it " Bottom line is you are still trying to make guys like you. It's easy to think that everyone has better, more fulfilling lives than you do, but all that it is is projections you are making yourself, about situation and relationships you don't know anything about. Being in a relationship is n…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/07/20 04:34 AM
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Wow I’d love to know how you do it! Are those guys generous normally or do you train them to be ?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/07/20 03:01 AM
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/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/07/20 03:01 AM
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I would never be with someone in Academia, especially if he teaches. I’ve seen how my teaches were hitting on me and other girls so no thank you! Even the « nice ones » were making lists of which girls they would « do ».
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/07/20 02:55 AM
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Can you meet guys like that outside of OLD?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/07/20 05:54 PM
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Haha I was on minder and just deleted all apps recently. Single is the way for now !
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/07/20 05:43 PM
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I am also from a culture that has the ideal that the man should provide. Living in the west I was thinking of dating guys from here, but your answer makes me double think that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/06/20 07:10 PM
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But how do you find guys that would do that? How do you let a guy know that that’s what you are looking for. I’d like the man to pay everything and keep the money I make for myself.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/06/20 04:53 AM
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I’m kind of a hippie too and I’d like more feminity content that doesn’t have to do with your relation with men. Just being feminine for yourself.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/06/20 04:08 AM
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And I feel like they use it as a Rolodex of women they met so they always have a girl they can text for sex.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/06/20 09:09 AM
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I recommend the book The Tao I’d Fully Feeling, it’s a wonderful book which aims at helping abuse victims. I wasn’t abused but this book is helping a lot with accepting my emotions (still reading the book). This and the book Whole Again by Jackson Mackenzie are really God sent.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/06/20 01:05 AM
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Why respond ???
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/06/20 11:50 PM
2

I’m wondering if trying to fight the patriarchy is even possible, and shouldn’t we try to use their tactics to get what we want instead of fighting against something that will never change? I’m really on the fence about this
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/06/20 11:13 PM
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I think the problem here is more that you got attached quickly to a man without knowing anything about him. It has nothing to do with him having female friends. It has to do with you sleeping and getting attached to a man you haven’t vetted. When I date a guy and I see that he has female friends it’s such a turn off for me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/06/20 04:13 AM
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I feel like you benefit a lot when you just don’t believe what men say, and just watch their actions
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/06/20 06:42 PM
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Yes I think totally like you. I have the feeling that a lot of us are more reticent to share our views on things for fear of being ridiculed, I know I keep my feelings to myself most of the time on more conservative issues because of this. It’s nice to have a subreddit like here where we can express our common view of the world. This sub has helped me a lot figuring things out about myself and working towards bettering myself!
/r/RedPillWomen02/06/20 02:19 PM
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Read 5 verse per day Journal 5 min per day Read Tao of Healing 5 min per day Lose 2 pounds (Working on healing and bringing meaning into my life)
/r/RedPillWomen02/05/20 04:23 AM
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That’s so inspirational! Can I ask you if you used dating apps ?
/r/RedPillWomen23/04/20 10:08 PM
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Honestly I just started to research some celebrities that were looking very good for their age such as Katheryn Winnick (from Vikings) and Jessica Alba and I learned they were gluten free for a long time. Then I found out about Dr. Weston Price you should look him up if you want to know more about the consequence of the modern food industry on our health! Edit: more specifically modern wheat and un pasteurized milk.
/r/RedPillWomen16/04/20 02:18 PM
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Sounds like I could of written it, but I am turning 28. I’m exactly the same as you, I have been taking care of my skin because of the red pill since I was like 21. I literally look like a 19 y/o which is not so good when you want to try to meet men around 30-35. I have the same fears as you so I am curious what others will say about it. Also I am curious if you are following some kind of diet? ( apparently gluten free and dairy free slows aging)
/r/RedPillWomen16/04/20 01:07 PM
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Thank you I will consider the app then, seems like it could really help !
/r/RedPillWomen16/04/20 12:45 PM
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Thank you, I’ll put those on my list too! I looked up the wysa app, but I’m a little uneasy to speak to an AI bot. However I am planning to find a therapist as soon as the quarantine is over, or find one online if it’s taking to long! When you’re talking about exercises are you talking about whole again or is that another book with specific exercises ?
/r/RedPillWomen15/04/20 10:37 PM
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Thank you thank you thank you! This book is god-send, I am very grateful to you for recommending it. It’s hard and stuff I had buried keep coming up randomly during the day, but I think it will be worth it in the end. I’d made me realize I am somewhere between codependent and avoidant, which makes a lot of sense and explain how I “avoid” feeling stuff. I will certainly read your other recommendation once I am done. If you have anything else that you recommend reading I’ll put it on my list too. …
/r/RedPillWomen15/04/20 04:47 PM
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Yes I will definitely try once this quarantine is over, probably going to find some group or sport that I like where I can maybe meet someone that could interest me. I tried Online dating but I don’t feel it’s the same, I don’t feel the same excitement than if I was in real life, I don’t know if you have an opinion on OLD maybe ?
/r/RedPillWomen09/04/20 03:20 PM
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Yes you are right, I think it’s probably why I am still single. I am looking for external validation but it never fills up the hole inside. I’m motivated to work on myself so I can finally be in a relationship where I can finally feel something and be the best partner and maybe mother one day. Thanks for the motivation!
/r/RedPillWomen09/04/20 03:17 PM
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Yes you are right thank you
/r/RedPillWomen09/04/20 03:14 PM
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Yes I realized that I was expecting something else, but the response I got was the truth and now I can finally realize that I have some stuff to work through. So I am very grateful for all the comments and advice from this sub, it’s better than what I was expecting
/r/RedPillWomen09/04/20 03:13 PM
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Thank you for the support ❤️ I’m starting to realize he might just have been something I hold on to instead of working on myself, which I’ll start to do- and go to therapy once this quarantine is over (if it’s ever going to be! )
/r/RedPillWomen09/04/20 03:11 PM
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Thank you I will read it :) I started reading a book suggested called Whole Again, and it makes sense that I can’t feel anything for anyone because I have been repressing my own emotions I think. So anything that I can read on that I will- since I don’t have access to therapy right now. I am happy this sub made me finally realize that I need to work on myself .
/r/RedPillWomen09/04/20 03:09 PM
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Thank you elmartinas. Yes I was thinking of doing a nun mode too, but the reason I have been avoiding to do that is because 1) I’m stressed of getting older and not finding someone 2) I am scared of facing my demons and 3) I kind of feel addicted to have a man’s attention and validation. All the more reasons to do a nuns mode. Therapy is definitely on my mind now, posting here made me realize that. I will also think of faith based therapy, thanks for the suggestion. Thank you for the hopeful mes…
/r/RedPillWomen06/04/20 10:22 PM
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Yes I am sheltering myself. When I find someone interesting I never go for it, I only go for guys that are into me. I think that’s why I am hung up on Alex, because I was into him and I really showed him by flirting and stuff, when usually I don’t do this. I will try to do this maybe, make myself more open to guys that really interest me, ignoring my fears !
/r/RedPillWomen05/04/20 12:56 PM
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I bought it and started reading it, ty :)
/r/RedPillWomen05/04/20 12:53 PM
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More like advice on how to move on from someone, or maybe get closure...
/r/RedPillWomen04/04/20 06:41 PM
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For not kissing, it wasn’t intentional, I’d still want to meet someone since it’s been a very long time I was intimate and I kind of need that too... I’m just very closed emotionally, maybe it’s just my personality and not something I need to change ? I don’t know really...
/r/RedPillWomen04/04/20 06:40 PM
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Is there any particular type of therapy you would recommend? I kind of grew up in a mentality that you have to ignore bad feelings and just keep everything inside. I love my mom, but when I was younger I would tell her all the problems I had (like OCD, Anorexia, etc) and she would just tell me to try to think of something else and just concentrate to make the bad feelings go away. Managing all my issues by myself made me more resilient I think, but I may have underrated the impact they still hav…
/r/RedPillWomen04/04/20 01:57 AM
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It's not the kind of advice I was expecting but you are probably right.
/r/RedPillWomen03/04/20 07:12 PM
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I’ve had the same issue due to low self estime. Many people have told me I am good looking but I just don’t believe it deep inside, even now. So when I was around attractive or popular women I would shut down. What has helped me greatly is to keep a kind of internal smile- it’s very hard to describe it. But it’s kind of always keeping a smile inside of your head, which in turns makes me look more approachable and joyful. I’ve had women I was threatened by compliment ME after doing this, and that…
/r/RedPillWomen29/03/20 05:43 PM
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Great list, I am saving it. Would you recommend any dating app in particular, like the ones you have to pay like match and eharmony, or ones like bumble, ok Cupid and tinder ?
/r/RedPillWomen28/03/20 02:44 PM
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Oh yes such a good idea, like an at home facial. You can follow it with a mask or with a blackhead strip. Do you do it often ?
/r/RedPillWomen25/03/20 04:16 PM
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