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I agree people can and should do their own research and question themselves, especially if RP, but I often see people saying use that excuse in a very flippant manner When people just say 'go to therapy' it is legitimately annoying and out-of-touch and it's ok to challenge that I live in a country with free healthcare and even then therapy is hard to get, there are currently around 1.6 million people seeking national mental health support and the waiting lists are months to years long. Sure you …
/r/ExRedPill26/08/22 01:32 PM
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They do that with cis guys too. They're insecure themselves and project that worldview onto others who might share their insecurities. Misery loves company and all that
/r/ExRedPill26/08/22 01:27 PM
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Are you receiving this answer from other men, or from women you are trying to date? Mainly people online. I just know your shouldn't really be vulnerable with people (especially women) because that it's emotional labour Men do not feel vulnerable enough around other men to develop these friends with other men Yes I do. Why do you generalise men like that? I was taught not to generalise people
/r/ExRedPill18/08/22 12:45 PM
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But then I would ask how many people could you could you call if you were upset and crying? If you were really sick and needed someone to one stay? If you needed a place to stay? If you were depressed in the middle of the night? This is emotional labour. This is a bad thing. My friends a re dealing with their own shit the last thing I need is for them to shoulder my shit as well
/r/ExRedPill18/08/22 05:47 AM
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A few things. Individual therapy is expensive and finding a therapist that works for you is a very exhaustive process especially if you don't have have much of an idea of what is explicitly wrong with yourself. Totally ignoring this first part. People say 'go to therapy' like it's something you can just go down to the shops and buy. For a lot of people it's hard to access because either their insurance doesn't cover it, it's too expensive to pay for our of pocket, or government cuts have eroded …
/r/ExRedPill18/08/22 05:42 AM
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I didn't see any article on Psychology Today... No idea what you're talking about A lot of us women are waking up at the same time, it’s over for y’all ✌🏽 Cool. I'll kill myself I guess lol Like I said. Bitter and resentful. No man will want you if you're like this. Enjoy being alone
/r/ExRedPill16/08/22 05:23 PM
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You seem really bitter and resentful.and that isn't the energy I'm looking to see more of. I hope you find better people soon
/r/ExRedPill16/08/22 02:05 PM
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The thing is I listen to those people and have been listening to them for a while but often they don't listen to me back. That's what I mean by talking down, they don't engage in a dialogue with me and act like they know better and my experiences aren't real and important
/r/ExRedPill16/08/22 06:05 AM
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When you act like you know better than someone because you're privileged you are talking down to someone. When you don't treat someone like an equal you're talking down to them
/r/ExRedPill16/08/22 05:54 AM
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This is what I meant by talking down
/r/ExRedPill16/08/22 03:50 AM
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Why did you feel the need to speak figuratively when I told you I don't smell?
/r/ExRedPill15/08/22 07:58 PM
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I just think it's weird you believe such things and see men and women so differently, even to the point they smell things differently lol
/r/ExRedPill15/08/22 07:48 PM
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Just because you have me a hyperlink to some article written by someone I've never met doesn't mean I'm going to believe such a claim sorry No, it's not irrelevant. If you spray perfume on shit, it just smells like shit covered in perfume. Furthermore if you're applying so much that you can smell yourself for a long time afterwards, you're wearing too much perfume, which is also gross. You should be smelling cologne, not tasting it and certainly not tasting it minutes after the person walks past…
/r/ExRedPill15/08/22 07:48 PM
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The idea that women have a more sensitive sense of smell. They're not a different species
/r/ExRedPill15/08/22 07:29 PM
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I think the fact that you worry so much about your children and how they're going to navigate the world is an amazing virtue and a sign of a great parent. Teach your boys to respect themselves and not let others degrade them and they'll grow up to be great people
/r/ExRedPill15/08/22 06:59 PM
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Yeah but I don't like seeing it as something to 'figure out'. That just leads to more questions with nebulous answers
/r/ExRedPill15/08/22 06:47 PM
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That's funny because I'd rather women do the opposite to me. Isn't it wire how our experiences are so different?
/r/ExRedPill15/08/22 06:40 PM
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We won't be able to understand one another until we can accept that we all have different experiences Would you be able to accept my experience that despite passing 'the bar' I still haven't gotten any attention from women
/r/ExRedPill15/08/22 06:39 PM
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Yeah this guy is clearly dealing with some stuff. Like I notice some smelly guys every now and then but not sitting next to someone on a train because if their gender is freakish behaviour
/r/ExRedPill15/08/22 06:37 PM
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Most women just want to be left alone tbh Good thing I do this. Damn I've already passed the bar lmao
/r/ExRedPill15/08/22 06:34 PM
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But the thing is by those standards I'm already above the bar, so knowing why the bar is low is worthless because I'm already above it
/r/ExRedPill15/08/22 06:33 PM
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I don't hate men. I just have low expectations.. Yeah same. I don't hate women I just have low expectations of them
/r/ExRedPill15/08/22 06:31 PM
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Seriously? This is being upvoted? This sub is fucking whacked out I swear. You guys have gone too far the other way lol
/r/ExRedPill15/08/22 06:30 PM
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You genuinely listen to their passions. They get wet. You compliment their hair. They're all over you. You buy them flowers and tell them they're pretty. Splooosh. And best of all, when you actually pay attention to what they like in bed and make the effort to make them cum no matter how long it takes. It is ooverrr. Yeah it's weird because I do these things or am willing to do them but no woman has ever been attracted to me. That's why I was asking, because by most accounts I'm above the bar an…
/r/ExRedPill15/08/22 06:28 PM
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I'm not American. That's a you problem This is so far off my original topic I don't even know how to respond
/r/ExRedPill15/08/22 06:25 PM
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I don't believe the majority of men fit in to the redpill/mgtow/sigma/alt-right/incel stuff and that you have a warped perception of reality and are possibly what they call 'terminally online'
/r/ExRedPill15/08/22 05:59 PM
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Ok I guess? You're not encouraging me to be better because by the standards you stated I'm already better because I have nothing to worry about. Your information is useless to me
/r/ExRedPill15/08/22 05:57 PM
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What would I learn and what would I then do with that information Like if I accept that on average men aren't as clean as women where would I go from there? What good is that information doing me? This is barely even related to my original post
/r/ExRedPill15/08/22 05:56 PM
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You're making weird misandric generalisations about men for some reason. Don't make generalisations, they're bad
/r/ExRedPill15/08/22 05:44 PM
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The CDC found that men were significantly less likely to remember to wash their hands. A lot of able bodied men can’t even pee correctly. Some airports and airlines started putting fly stickers on urinals because men will try harder to aim into the bowl to hit the fake fly rather than just simply choosing to not piss everywhere without a guide. After they introduced this, places found that they had significantly reduced cleaning costs. Statistically, a lot men are just less clean. This is genera…
/r/ExRedPill15/08/22 05:31 PM
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You're definitely going through some stuff. You give off self-loathing vibes and I hope your able to change that
/r/ExRedPill15/08/22 05:26 PM
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The fact that this is being upvoted is worrying and makes me consider if I should keep coming here
/r/ExRedPill15/08/22 04:33 PM
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So if I took a rejection well that would mean I'd be more attractive?
/r/ExRedPill15/08/22 04:32 PM
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What? Sorry but I'm calling bullshit on that? Women have a more sensitive sense of smell? lmao what are they bloodhounds. You realise spreading these myths just makes women look more like a separate species and not regular relatable human beings Also I don't smell. I wear deodorant and this nice body spray from Lush
/r/ExRedPill15/08/22 03:51 PM
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Almost every time if you try to confront someone with something like this, they are going to tell you what they think you want to hear I didn't 'confront' him I confided in him how I was feeling and some of the thoughts on my mind. Your are correct that maybe he was saying what I wanted to hear because, well, he's a friend and friends try to comfort each other I'm saying all frustrated people will eventually display negative personality traits that others can pick up on and are repulsed by I gen…
/r/ExRedPill15/08/22 03:48 PM
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I think I should also point out that if this kind of thing is frequently making you frustrated, especially on a daily basis, it's going to be come across in your personality whether you notice it or not I don't believe this because I recently told a friend about my worries and frustrations regarding this topic and he said he had no idea I was feeling this way, he said it doesn't show on me
/r/ExRedPill15/08/22 03:26 PM
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I think that's just your experience. I don't notice guys smelling that much It's weird how you generalise men so much. You seem to be dealing with some stuff
/r/ExRedPill15/08/22 02:51 PM
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Honestly that makes you seem kind of weird in my eyes. Like the fact that you generalise and demonise men to the point where you refuse to share a seat with them just makes me think you have some twisted ideas
/r/ExRedPill15/08/22 02:48 PM
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That bird is the word?
/r/ExRedPill15/08/22 11:51 AM
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Accurate? No. Women don't know what it's like to be a man and navigate the world as a man and vice versa Women can tell you what women find attractive but there is no general thing that women find attractive because WOMEN ARE NOT A MONOLITH (many people really don't get this part and think they can get away with generalising women in 'positive' ways) Just because a woman generalises women it doesn't make her any more right than a RP guy, she's usually just speaking for herself
/r/ExRedPill14/08/22 06:02 PM
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So me wanting to piss on a girl's face isn't gross?
/r/ExRedPill10/08/22 08:47 AM
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There's a heavy element of masochism in it, which is were you deliberately consent to being hurt Self-harm isn't necessarily a bad thing. We all do it in different ways
/r/ExRedPill10/08/22 08:40 AM
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OP do not join the Marine Corps
/r/ExRedPill07/08/22 06:39 PM
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The part where you think only 'premium stock'people should be allowed to 'spread their seed'. First off referring to living, breathing people as 'stock' indicates a worrying lack of empathy. Second off, what exactly is a 'premium stock' person in your eyes? But what protections do women get for this non-consentual spreading of seed? If he makes me carry this child based on lies and manipulation, then what? Personally I think abortion should be legal and wildly available. Obviously this isn't the…
/r/ExRedPill07/08/22 02:09 PM
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I think the better alternative to eugenics is not eugenics. As long as we're not practicing eugenics I think people should be allowed to do what they want You seem deranged. Get help
/r/ExRedPill07/08/22 01:34 PM
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So you're saying the alternative, of men aimlessly, and with loads of bullshit justifications, "spread their seed" whilst lying to their mates about nearly everything just to do it...is the better alternative? Show me where I said literally any of this Once again? What is wrong with you? Have you ever been diagnosed?
/r/ExRedPill07/08/22 01:27 PM
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Spreading of seed should be for premium stock people. This is literally eugenics. What is wrong with you?
/r/ExRedPill07/08/22 12:15 PM
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Should I become more confident in my other traits in that case? But to be honest, I have seen way too many guys agreeing and venting about how being short, being unemployed, under average or whatever couldn't be necessarily compensated with confidence when you have guys that are tall, above average smart and confident. I am saying you have to be the best guy in the world to make it I don't really understand what you meant here. Could you elaborate? Like if a short guy was confident about being s…
/r/ExRedPill06/08/22 09:14 AM
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What do you mean 'you lot'? Just because I'm a man you think I act in a certain way? Do you think all men are like that? Well it shouldn't be hard, since you admit to being "dumb". So what? A trail of M&Ms leading into a basement? C'mon flesh it out more I'm interested to hear your ideas
/r/ExRedPill06/08/22 08:19 AM
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Are you referring to the actual ape or is that a male archetype? Because how could anyone not love a gorilla, they're astounding creatures
/r/ExRedPill06/08/22 08:14 AM
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This is a beautiful story. Thanks for this!
/r/ExRedPill06/08/22 08:13 AM
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That's cool. I think I'm pretty fun to be round and my friends think so too
/r/ExRedPill06/08/22 08:12 AM
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I mean... You don't speak for all women though do you? You can only speak for yourself Women don't pair up for the sake of having a partner? Then why do they? There are many women out there still looking to have a partner and pair up, even if they're fine on their own because many people want romance in their lives If women get "smarter", we'll probably just figure out a way to keep the "dumber men" in a basement, hooked to a feeding tube, VR machine and sperm collector, and run the world oursel…
/r/ExRedPill06/08/22 08:08 AM
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I don't really see what being interesting has to do with intelligence, I've known interesting people who weren't that intelligent I also have the basic life skills and am generally pretty capable and independent It's sad to know that this may decrease my chances, but it's better to remain myself than try and change something about me right? If anything this will make me better than intelligent people because I'll have to work harder to get a partner
/r/ExRedPill06/08/22 08:05 AM
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Yeah I generally find people who aren't smart are easier to get on with than smarter people, and that's a trait I value in a partner because obviously I have to get on with them lol
/r/ExRedPill06/08/22 07:57 AM
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I have other defining traits, I'm just wondering if this one could be considered attractive or if it isn't if I can find romance with it anyway The thing is from what I've seen most people want confidence as a trait for their partner, so just having confidence and defining yourself by that is kind of blasé in my opinion. Its like that thing, if everyones a superhero then no one would be
/r/ExRedPill06/08/22 07:35 AM
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That's weird because I've been told that confidence is attractive and even 'sexy'
/r/ExRedPill06/08/22 06:42 AM
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I feel this describes me to a tee. I know I don't know everything and never will and I'm fine with that. I'm comfortable saying 'I don't know' when someone asks me a question There's a quote that encapsulates that I think. "I know that I know nothing" - Some Greek dude
/r/ExRedPill06/08/22 06:22 AM
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What's an intellectual conversation to you? I was told confidence is attractive. While I can also be confident in my dumbness I can be confident in other things and those can be my 'back up' if needs be I don't perceive dumbness as a bad thing or not adding any benefit, I feel like being dumb helps me interpret the world differently than some. It often feels like the things I value aren't the things many other people value Its weird because I've seen examples before of unearned confidence and I …
/r/ExRedPill06/08/22 06:14 AM
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if you're unable to learn basic life skills and therefore are inept at things like cooking, cleaning, holding a decent job, and (most importantly) being EMOTIONALLY MATURE and being able to communicate with a partner, your relationships are likely to crash and burn. Good thing I can do all of these things. I'm not great at the communication bit but I'm trying to get better at it Yea I'm definitely never gonna fit the himbo aesthetic and have no real desire to. But I am an independent person who …
/r/ExRedPill06/08/22 04:10 AM
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I can connect with people but it depends on the person, obviously they have to want to connect also. It usually does take some time for me to connect with people though I'm supportive to those around me. I love watching my friends succeed and try to help them when they need it I think I'm a good listener and people have told me that but I don't really feel like a good listener because all I do is pretty basic. Its basically just nodding my head, agreeing with them and occasionally saying 'what?'…
/r/ExRedPill05/08/22 12:01 PM
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I've heard the phrase but never really understood what it meant, which makes me think I don't have it
/r/ExRedPill05/08/22 10:41 AM
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I mean... How do you know that?
/r/ExRedPill05/08/22 10:39 AM
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I'm actually the one who does the menial tasks like washing up and taking the bins out in my current shared household so I don't think that will be a problem
/r/ExRedPill05/08/22 08:20 AM
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Doesn't social media then effect our perception of reality though? Won't people learn about dating from social media then take those practices into the real world?
/r/ExRedPill05/08/22 08:11 AM
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Ok then please listen when I say that for young men dating is often very barren, even if you aren't using online dating. This is a reality for thousands of young men, and it's increasing and you're going to hear more about it, so make sure you stay listening
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/22 01:17 PM
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So you never wanted to one up a dude who thought they were better than you? No. Is this a thing for other guys? If someone thinks they're better than me they can go ahead and think that, I'm not stopping tho their level
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/22 12:20 PM
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I'm afraid I don't see around me that desert landscape for young men, but then, I live in Europe and I'm beginning to suspect that's a rather American thing Hi I'm a young man from Europe and I'd just like to say it is the same here and it's becoming more and more normal. I've discussed this with my guy friends and literally all of them except the ones in relationships agree that even trying to date feels impossible. They often talk about how they have to wade through hundred of uninterested opt…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/22 12:18 PM
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Driving a super car....flying to Dubai or LA or Monaco for a weekend....wearing flash suits.... Honestly I wouldn't do those things even if they were guaranteed to get me laid. That shit just does not interest me at all
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/22 12:05 PM
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Fair enough. Thank you for your well wishes anyway and sorry I came across as hostile
/r/ExRedPill20/05/22 11:29 AM
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I don't want to be told I'm right, I want actionable advice on how to get what I want. It's not even love I'm after, I just want to see what sexual validation feels like Do you know anyway I can get that? It's very apparent from this thread I'm not right, but I still want what I want and still have hope it exists
/r/ExRedPill20/05/22 10:41 AM
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I get angry because most people ignore my actual query and go off on their own little tirades instead of actually helping me I think it's misogynistic to abide by gender essentialism that generalises and takes agency away from actual women. But that's not your fault, after all we live in a misogynistic society A woman can be perfectly liberated and enjoying all varieties of sexuality without specially needing to find random male nudes interesting. Ok do you know where I can find women that do? Y…
/r/ExRedPill20/05/22 10:34 AM
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Stuff like this actually give me hope. It's kinda like I wanna prove you wrong in a way. There may be uniform trends but I'm not into following trends and I want to appeal to people who also don't follow trends and do what they want. They may be rarer like you said, but it's quality not quantity One thing I see in your post is that you use a rather aggressive, off-putting tone, invalidating the opinion of the person you're talking to Sorry but you're just using RP talking points if biological es…
/r/ExRedPill20/05/22 09:37 AM
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I mean you're one individual woman who knows a few more individual women. You can't speak for all women The kinds off things women want emotionally, psychologically and sexually are incredibly wide and varied. Women aren't some math equation where you put in the right types of answers and you get a relationship or whatever. They're not riddles to be figured out, they're people.There is really no such things as 'what women want' because all women want different things This sounds like the whole '…
/r/ExRedPill20/05/22 08:49 AM
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Women are not a monolith. I'd be totally fine dating a woman with low career prospects. Having a career really isn't that important to me
/r/ExRedPill20/05/22 04:13 AM
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I just don't believe that honestly. Why are they unappealing? I find them appealing so why wouldn't a woman out there also find then appealing. How do you know what most women find unappealing? Have you spoken to most women? Women are incredibly varied They may be rare, but they'll still be out there. It's about quality, not quantity
/r/ExRedPill20/05/22 04:12 AM
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Excellent response.
/r/ExRedPill19/05/22 10:07 PM
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Yeah I know but I still want it. I'm not going to kill this desire in me. It isn't all it nothing, I can still enjoy my life and want sexual validation. I'm still going to seek it sorry If you feel the same way I do then you'd know not to kill that desire
/r/ExRedPill19/05/22 09:44 PM
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Your station in life is whatever you make it/want it to be Ok thanks for the encouragement
/r/ExRedPill19/05/22 09:38 PM
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Thanks for giving me a different perspective and some hope on the matter. There are some women out there who will want me sexually. Not all women, that's for certain, but I'll just focus on those that do I can emphasize with you, but that doesn’t mean I have to act on my empathy. Never said you did. But thanks for having empathy for me anyway, that's enough in this world I agree, which is why I’m surprised you still don’t respect people’s desire to stick to the status quo. I can empathize with t…
/r/ExRedPill19/05/22 08:26 PM
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A woman who goes about saying openly sexually suggestive things towards men is looked at like a whore and it can ruin her reputation That's why I suggested posting nudes online because it's a safer space where women are more comfortable to express themselves without ruining their reputation in the process. Somewhere anonymous where they can fuck the status quo Also personally I'm very attracted to people who can say fuck societies expectations. I'm personally quite like that myself and think it'…
/r/ExRedPill19/05/22 07:57 PM
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You can find better ways to feel good about your sexual appeal than in trying to evoke a response from women that women just don't really give out often / to most men. Would you care to list any? I'll still try and evoke that response in some women where I can, respectfully of course. I feel like you and other people are being to narrow-minded on the matter Personally I'm sick of feeling hopeless, and I'm making the active choice to have hope. I know I'm sexually attractive and I'm gonna flaunt …
/r/ExRedPill19/05/22 07:43 PM
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Yeah I don't do generalisations, I prefer to focus on individuals Sorry dude but the way you write just gives me bad vibes
/r/ExRedPill19/05/22 07:30 PM
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What about sexual validation instead of just compliments. Do you have any ideas on how I can get that? The people here just want to prepare you for that. I guess so. To me it feels like they want to tear me down and stick to their shitty little status quo. Maybe I'm feeling to victimised. I just wish things were different. I hate that I can't control this aspect of my life and it feels like no one has empathy for that
/r/ExRedPill19/05/22 07:14 PM
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I don't want to shift the paradigm for good. I definitely don't have the power to do that, I was just wondering if there's anything I can do to help foster an environment that allows and accepts that. Change starts small after all I wish people would get my hopes up even a little honestly. This thread has been disheartening and makes me sort of not want to bother. But it also makes me want to prove these people wrong, so I'm gonna try and focus on that energy more
/r/ExRedPill19/05/22 06:56 PM
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Can you think of anyways I may be able to introduce the ideas I'm talking about? I'm assuming you're a woman so it would be valuable to get your perspective on this Also can you just reassure me that not all women are like this? I know that it's a bit strange to ask that but the responses in this thread have me worried. People are generalising so much Consistent, personalized attention is your best bet. Shit
/r/ExRedPill19/05/22 06:39 PM
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Is there anyway to help break that cycle? Also how can you discern when someone is paying you a friendly, platonic compliment and when someone is actually flirting with you?
/r/ExRedPill19/05/22 06:20 PM
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I mean you are the one who said 'how female sexuality actually works', which implies you think it works a certain way that you understand. Sorry but when I read that I get misogynistic vibes and want to challenge it Anyway I'll just focus on the individuals like you said. I know I'm not going to appeal to the majority of people (because let's be honest, who does?) so I'll just play the odds game. I think I'm very attractive, so I like my odds
/r/ExRedPill19/05/22 05:59 PM
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I don't believe women are a hive mind that all think and act the same way sorry. No offence but I'm better than that Most men can't imagine getting too much / unwanted sexual attention. I can imagine it sucks..I can imagine it makes you feel small and powerless and lesser. I can imagine after so many years it can feel like drowning. Obviously I don't know for sure because that's their lives experiences, but from what I've listened to from women many of them feel like that The thing is you're tal…
/r/ExRedPill19/05/22 05:22 PM
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I don't believe there is one set way female sexuality 'works'. Women are not a monolith and they don't all work in the same way. You kinda sound like one of those guys who thinks women can be figured out like a maths equation. I've seen plenty of ways that women's sexuality 'works'. You might be able to get it from gay guys, but I'm not sure that is what you're looking for here. I don't mind honestly. I'm secure enough to accept that
/r/ExRedPill19/05/22 05:21 PM
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Weird that this comment only just showed up now. Anyways thanks for your suggestion, I'll look into it
/r/ExRedPill19/05/22 05:18 PM
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I'm aware. I wouldn't 'overwhelm' them but I'd try to see if there was anything more there
/r/ExRedPill19/05/22 05:14 PM
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I like to think I'm pretty genuine, but can't being genuine also be considered threatening, depending on your actions? Like the genuine me is quite quiet, and I feel like that can be considered threatening (the whole quiet kid stereotype) If you don’t mind me asking, what counts is “sexual validation” to you? You mention compliments on your physical appearance, but is there anything else to it? Not judgemental at all. Thanks for being considerate I would say that to me it would be a comment or a…
/r/ExRedPill19/05/22 04:22 PM
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I hate that my station in life is decided by the genitals I was born with by a society that I don't understand. I just want to be like for who I am, I hate that I have to 'work' to be accepted
/r/ExRedPill19/05/22 04:21 PM
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I believe in a better way. It feels like people are trying to kill my hope
/r/ExRedPill19/05/22 04:06 PM
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I think to me it comes from this chivalrous idea that women are the 'fairer sex' and these paragons of beauty that need to be protected. It subverts that and I fucking love subversion in all it's forms. That and the idea of a woman devoting herself to me that much is just so unfathomable to me that it turns me on, most women wouldn't give me the time of day. Also in general I just like the 'dirtier' aspects of life. I'm quite alternative and like stuff that society deems as 'bad', same kinda rea…
/r/ExRedPill19/05/22 03:32 PM
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Thanks for the suggestion. What you suggested was kind of what I meant when I talked about posting nudes, that's a sexual kind of content that people can enjoy and hopefully review positivley. I don't expect much from it and understand that I'll mostly get attention from queer men (which I honestly don't have much of a problem with) but hopefully I can appeal to some women It’s also cynical in the way that people only value what you can offer them Yeah I agree. I said in another thread here how …
/r/ExRedPill19/05/22 03:23 PM
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How can I find women who are more liberated from societies expectations and also make myself appear safe to be around? I find the ability to say fuck societal expectations really attractive on anyone because I'm very much the same. Looking for people on my level yknow
/r/ExRedPill19/05/22 02:33 PM
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Telling him to be a 'real man' is toxic but your never going to see it because let's be honest you're a narcissist and refuse to listen to other people
/r/ExRedPill19/05/22 02:29 PM
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I literally never said that. I'm just saying you should be more open-minded and have hope that things can be better. Don't fall for lazy excuses
/r/ExRedPill19/05/22 02:27 PM
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treating them like individual people instead of an incomprehensible monolith hive mind. That's what you're doing by saying it's 'the nature of things'
/r/ExRedPill19/05/22 02:25 PM
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Grow up and be a man The toxic masculinity is real. Why do you maintain the status quo like you do? It holds people back y'know
/r/ExRedPill19/05/22 02:22 PM
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That’s just the nature of things Why? If you're gonna use that excuse at least explain why
/r/ExRedPill19/05/22 02:21 PM
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I just don't believe that 'nature' is a good excuse sorry. There are so many things in this life that go against nature. 'Thats the way things are' is lazy and narrow-minded, I think people can do better than that And even then, I'm going to rage against it, because it's the right thing to do in my opinion. Nothings gonna stop me from feeling my feelings If your not going to help me then don't comment
/r/ExRedPill19/05/22 02:19 PM
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I hate that this is being upvoted. It kills the hope that I do have Why don't women give attention to men? How can I change that? How can I get it, even if it is rare. No offence, but none of what you said actually helps me, it just makes me feel bad
/r/ExRedPill19/05/22 12:59 PM
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Thanks and I think you're right. I'm still wrestling with the idea that I'm only listening to things that sound good to me and not what I really need to hear, but maybe they're one and the same. Anyway thanks once again, you're really nice
/r/ExRedPill19/05/22 12:53 PM
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I think I can handle not getting sexual validation because I've not gotten it my whole life and have otherwise been fine. I have internal validation but I still want the external validation. I'm fine with my baseline and I understand the importance of having it, but I still want that small lil high you describe. Why is that a bad thing Imagine if you get a gf and she doesn’t give you that external validation If my partner isn't giving me some kind of validation I'd leave. I won't depend on her f…
/r/ExRedPill19/05/22 12:40 PM
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Thanks. But is it bad that simply reading stuff in this thread and other threads here has damaged my self-esteem? I'm just not sure what to take as truth and what to take as someone's opinion. Some of the stuff I've read here has made me spiral a bit
/r/ExRedPill19/05/22 10:35 AM
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Do you like Huey Lewis and The News? I can see why that may seem narcissistic but it doesn't feel that way to me. I'm not obsessed with myself and my appearance I just think that I'm attractive and can say from a subjective point of view that yes I'd like to fuck myself if I was a different person I feel like that's a good thing no? I know what I personally find attractive, try to embody that and succeeded. Would you not find yourself attractive if you were looking from a different perspective?
/r/ExRedPill19/05/22 08:55 AM
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I hate that things are like that and that's just the way it is. I hate being told that's just not the way things work. Why don't things work that way? No one can answer and it just makes me feel disheartened that I have no control over that aspect of my life I don't want to kill this desire, I want to be able to express it in a healthy way. I do have great female friends and they do occasionally give me compliments, but I still want something more. It does give me hope that girls can like me, ev…
/r/ExRedPill19/05/22 08:44 AM
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Thank you. Sometime I feel like I'm lying to myself because I've got no evidence. But I just remind myself my opinion matters more than that
/r/ExRedPill19/05/22 08:34 AM
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I hate that the only reason I girl would like me is what I offer. Can a girl not just like me for who I am? Do I have to have a career and a house before a girl can like me? I'm so scared that I've got to change all my sensibilities as a person just for girls to be attracted to me. This just sounds like RP taking points again, the idea that a woman will never like me for who I am but what I provide to her. This is so disheartening. Please tell me not all women are like this
/r/ExRedPill19/05/22 07:52 AM
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I have self-love and it's great. But self-love only goes so far. I want some outside love but just don't know how to get it
/r/ExRedPill19/05/22 07:36 AM
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A high quality woman does not want some joker with no prospects living in mom's basement. To me a woman who can accept that is a high quality woman. To me a high quality woman is someone who is accepting and carefree and isn't concerned with a man's career or how much money he makes and is simply in it for the experience of life
/r/ExRedPill19/05/22 07:31 AM
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There are some real consequences for overindulging and using this as your only sexual outlet It's difficult for most men to have other sexual outlets, at least in my experience. Masturbation is really the only sexual outlet they can have
/r/ExRedPill19/05/22 07:27 AM
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You can also use toys to help accustom yourself to different sensations and textures other than just your hand Women have had a monopoly on using sex toys for too long in my opinion. It should be normal for guys to enjoy them to. Most guys can't get sex that easily so why not be the best you can possibly be at masturbating?
/r/ExRedPill19/05/22 07:26 AM
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Hell yes. I often think that if I was a gay man/straight woman I'd definitely fuck me
/r/ExRedPill19/05/22 07:20 AM
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Is it bad to like degrading types of porn?
/r/ExRedPill19/05/22 07:10 AM
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Is it bad to like that kind of stuff? I like the passionate stuff you describe as well but I also like the dirtier and more taboo stuff as well
/r/ExRedPill19/05/22 07:06 AM
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Personally I'm trying to watch less porn because I'm just watching something I struggle to obtain. It's like being hungry and watching people eat, it only makes things feel worse
/r/ExRedPill19/05/22 07:04 AM
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