Do girls like dumb guys?

lilycamilly · 2022-08-05T12:37:54+00:00

I'm gonna be real with you chief, most women aren't attracted to dumbness. There are people who will tolerate it or maybe find it endearing in a partner that has other things going for them (like being kind, caring, hard-working, social, etc.) Not being good at math doesn't make you dumb, but if you're unable to learn basic life skills and therefore are inept at things like cooking, cleaning, holding a decent job, and (most importantly) being EMOTIONALLY MATURE and being able to communicate with a partner, your relationships are likely to crash and burn.

The whole "himbo" thing is in, for sure, but keep in mind you kinda have to be hunky to be a himbo. But (speaking from experience) nothing is less attractive than a manchild. You don't have to be a rocket scientist but you need to have enough intelligence to support yourself and take care of yourself.

But, keep in mind this is coming from someone who very much values education and intelligence. I'm glad you're confident in yourself but acting like being dumb is going to ATTRACT women is kind of a pipe dream, at least when it comes to long-term relationships. I hope you at least have the desire to be curious and to try and learn new things (If I met a man I liked but he had no desire to learn about my career/the things I'm interested in.... that makes me feel unimportant because those things are very intertwined with who I am as a person, getting to know them is getting to know ME). Personally, I love a man who can teach me new things.

But my man..... "Women are attracted to me because I'm confident [in my dumbness]" in the same paragraph as "I've never kissed anyone, flirted, had sex or been in a relationship"..... I don't want to be mean but dude. Open your eyes. How old are you?

Fickle-Confection-94 · 2022-08-05T12:51:35+00:00

I don't know about other women. It is kinda true that some women enjoy being around/dating men who have knowledge or who can teach them something about their personal interests.As a woman, I don't like to be around "dumb" people in general. You don't need to know EVERTHING. However, I need to be able to hold an intellectual conversation with people, friends. This standard also applies to guys I am attracted to. I would like to connect and bond with a guy who is very intelligent and understands also what i am talking about. I need to be intellectually stimulated.

To be honest, confidence for me is not enough. If a guy is dumb and confident about it. It won't help his case, it will actually make it worse. It may sound mean, but confidence needs to be back up with something. You don't need to be the smartest person out there but if you are confident about something that is usually not perceived well or doesn't add any benefit ( being dumb ), it just looks kinda weird.

Dumbness is not something that people find attractive ine general.

SweelFor- · 2022-08-05T12:59:50+00:00

I don't think you're dumb, but I think for whatever reason you've decided being dumb was like your brand or something. Why have you decided that dumbness is one of your defining characteristics?

This leads you to weird ideas, I mean I've never heard anyone say "I just hope I mean someone really dumb" to put it bluntly. I don't know why you've adopted this as how you present yourself, but I think it's inaccurate and not helpful at all.

You've presented other characteristics like being confident, why can't you use that as your defining characteristic? If you ask "do women like confident guys" then I would say yes obviously.

Andromeda_______ · 2022-08-05T10:16:06+00:00

I think people go for a "match" more than anything. A very smart woman probably wouldn't be attracted to someone who's not as smart. I find many women say they like intelligence but like all people they will be intimidated by somebody who is much much smarter than they are. This type of person makes them feel inferior, which isn't a positive for dating.

I've seen that highly intelligent people find it hard to make friends or form relationships sometimes and I definitely think it's because of the gap between their intelligence and other people.

So basically imo being dumb makes you less threatening, and more broadly appealing to a wider range of people. I often think dumb people seem happier than smart people as well. So long as you have common sense, it shouldn't matter.

joaniejoi · 2022-08-05T10:35:17+00:00

How "emotionally intelligent" would you say you are? I think there's a lot of people who value that over being academically/scientifically smart

Inareskai · 2022-08-05T08:17:30+00:00

Depends on the woman. Some will, some won't.

I don't know many people who actively value low intelligence, but they likely will value having intelligence/skills in non-academic ways. Or at the very least not be turned off/away by someone who just needs a little more time to process things.

The only way I can see it potentially being an issue would be if you use it as an excuse not to help/do things. Like 'oh I always forget to do the washing up, maybe you should do it' etc. If you did that for every shared task, that'd probably not help you in relationships. But I am going to assume that you are capable of taking care of yourself and fulfilling adult responsibilities such as cooking, cleaning and a decent level of life-admin. In which case as long as you don't pass the buck on those under the excuse of 'being dumb' then I think you'll be fine.

I know lots of couples where neither excelled in school/academic work and they need some more time to process things etc. They still have a range of other skills and are leading happy and fulfilling lives both with each other as a couple and as individuals.

JerriLaMan · 2022-08-05T15:30:46+00:00

My brother you are in luck. I'm not a smart guy. In a sense I've done not so smart choices... I don't understand math. Yo boy has never been good academically.... And I am kinda dumb :-( Didn't know how to cook. Wasn't wise. Etc.

But I dated a smart french girl for like two years. She was smart academically. When she was younger took an IQ test. Scored way higher than average on IQ test. She was hella high in emotional quotient too.
She remembered everything she read... She had like a solid good memory. Basically she was on some next level shit. Got many awards, always complimented on her intellectual abilities, etc. (she picked up everything quick)

And we dated for two years. This gal was madly in love with me. In fact she is the one that chased me. I didn't feel good enough to date such a person But she keep chasing and we eventually started dating.

And I often asked her what she saw in me , I wasn't smart or anything.

And she said :

From the start I developed a good connection with her, it was like sparks went off and she wanted more. She was attracted to my understanding nature. She found my poise attractive. I was able to remain calm and level headed under stress. I was fun to be around. She was a serious gal that didn't know how to let loose sometime but I am funny and fun so she liked that, cause I'd take her outta serious mode. She felt like she could be herself with me without judgement and acceptance. And she loved that. I had a good sense of character to her as well. I was loyal, straightforward, and transparent which she valued. She found my willingness to improve attractive as well, I always strive to be better and she dig this. I have my skills like good at cars, and construction so yeah she found that hot too 😜 I am a romantic, I would say the most romantic shit and do romantic shit and well she loved this part of me. Made her wet as heck. She also liked that unlike other men she had dated I was on the more sensitive side, that I was open with my feelings
I told her one day I felt not good enough for her, that she was a smart girl with so much potential and I felt like I was dragging her down , that she could do better. I told her I felt insecure. Girl , soothed me and said she appreciated that I was strong enough to show off my insecurities and tell her. And that she valued me for this, that I just didn't act all macho and shit. I could go on and on.

But this was a woman that wanted to grow together. She was like "it's okay if you aren't smart, I'm smart, you don't need to be smart - use my intelligence it is yours to use, use my wisdom it is there for you , as long as I'm around you can use it, all my knowledge, my wisdom my intelligence is yours as well." She was definitely such a gem. I grew and matured a lot dating her, tbh.

So do some women value intelligence? Yeah. But this isn't the end goal. Many women value other things. Character. Connection. Love. Support and so forth. We had stimulating conversations in their own way. She would take me to museums and teach me history. I would listen , I'd ask questions and she would value that I wanted to learn, that I'd ask questions that I was a part of something she held dear. So yeah there are many ways to stimulate someone.

Just like smartness alone isn't enough to keep someone. Smart is just one trait. There needs to be other traits in there.

So my friend if I a dummy could date a girl that was smart as fuck, good a degree in psychology, was a teacher as well, got many awards and so forth. Could remember everything. Was very wise and so forth. High IQ.

So can you. :-) work on your strengths, and develop the ability to connect with people. There was an article I read a while back that said people are most likely to choose an average intelligence person that's funny and can connect over a person who's just smart.

Just be multi dimension. You made your brand that your dumb. But it is time for you to change that brand. maybe you can develop multiple skills like : cars, construction, cooking , etc , and that can be your new brand. You can be the guy that's skilled in a lot of things.

You got this bro. If you have questions ask away.

Snoo52682 · 2022-08-05T12:01:34+00:00

"Pure of heart, broad of chest, dumb of ass" is definitely a type a lot of women go for. Women who are of all levels of intellectual accomplishment themselves, btw.

Even women who prefer more bookish types think guys who think they're smart when they aren't, or are really invested in being smart, are fucking exhausting.

Xx_SwordWords_xX · 2022-08-05T20:27:18+00:00

I honestly think this is a social change that's happening where men will become dumber and women will become smarter, and I'm excited for it because it may pressure women into pairing up with dumb guys like me.

How do you figure?

If women get "smarter", we'll probably just figure out a way to keep the "dumber men" in a basement, hooked to a feeding tube, VR machine and sperm collector, and run the world ourselves.

We don't "pair up with men" simply for the sake of having a partner. Many women are making the move to be decidedly single, than settle for someone beneath us.

medlabunicorn · 2022-08-05T14:05:52+00:00

I don’t. I also don’t like gorillas and gym bunnies. Some women do, though. https://youtu.be/mUFObCZtGWQ

_PinkPeony_ · 2022-08-05T14:27:17+00:00

Become a buff himbo, seems like you were made for it.

xvszero · 2022-08-05T18:12:14+00:00

The answer to "do girls / women / etc. like" is always some do, some don't.

hjvdg · 2022-08-05T20:14:01+00:00

Sorry to break it to you, but intelligence is probably THE most important trait that women look for in a man in general - intelligence meaning being capable in life (work, cooking, cleaning, social skills), having interesting interests, and being knowledgable in a well-rounded way.

Intelligence is highly genetic so it makes sense why it's such an attractive trait...

If you don't try to at least develop some interests, and especially if you struggle with basic life skills, your future in dating looks bleak I'm afraid.

Magnito-was-right · 2022-08-05T20:55:34+00:00

As long as you are fun I don’t care if you are dumb. I would rather have fun hanging out with a dumb guy than be bored talking about something I have zero interest in because an intelligent guy wants to show off how knowledgeable he is on a topic.

CaptinSuspenders · 2022-08-05T21:35:16+00:00

If you have a beautiful soul it can work. Kind of like a human dog. Bitches love dogs. Also maybe get good at cooking as well.

Naus1987 · 2022-08-05T22:27:16+00:00

Your confidence will be your real golden virtue ^{.^}

Got that Homer Simpson vibe, and people love him!

HGW86 · 2022-08-06T13:29:27+00:00

Intelligence has little to zero to do with how attractive you are. I'll be honest, it kinda makes me roll my eyes when I hear anyone (regardless of gender) say they find intelligence sexy.

The reason is "intelligence" in regards to dating is so vague and poorly defined. I'm pretty sure a lot of the same women who claim to like intelligence in a man aren't going to find a socially inept autistic man attractive even if he is proficient in advanced mathematics or sciences!

Sure, if an already attractive man is great at math and science or whatever, that's a turn on, but men nor women actually find intelligence itself attractive. Especially because I've known plenty of really stupid motherfuckers in my life who were incredibly popular with women.

Title	Do girls like dumb guys?
Author	JerriLaMan
Upvotes	14
Comments	46
Date	August 5, 2022 8:07 AM UTC (3 years ago)
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