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... let's not take the sex lives of dolphins as a positive example eh
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/25 01:46 PM
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What's the rates of men murdered by women compared to women murdered by men? Don't act like the threat is symmetrical.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/24 03:45 PM
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Men and women probably have equal opportunities for good sex.
/r/ExRedPill20/02/24 06:48 PM
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lasagna of wrongness I like how your mind works
/r/ExRedPill20/02/24 06:47 PM
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Your inability to believe someone who has experienced something you haven't is gonna be a problem
/r/ExRedPill20/02/24 06:44 PM
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Maybe you should try to believe what women say about our lived experience, instead.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/24 11:20 PM
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You don't understand why women would be afraid to wind up with a guy who was misogynist but hiding it early on? Really?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/24 11:14 PM
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No one is compelled to do business with someone they don't want to do business with. If people want to drop him, that's their right.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/23 01:21 PM
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Neurodivergent women are at very high risk for assault and abuse, don't be so quick to assume they have it better.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/23 09:53 PM
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Yes white people in white supremacy did a huge number on us that we are still seeing today but at the same time not every white person is evil and it would be disrespectful not only to the people who came before me but to the good people to just assume that Sure, but if a white person was "flirting" with KKK membership, you might just have a reason to think they're racist and avoid them. Same with women and RP men.
/r/ExRedPill06/08/22 10:43 PM
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No. If you're "flirting" with the idea that I'm lesser/something to be manipulated, that's 100% a deal-breaker. If I stay with you despite that for fear you'll get worse ... that's a hostage situation, not a relationship. Patriarchy is a protection racket, part 123,456,789.
/r/ExRedPill06/08/22 05:25 PM
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"Pure of heart, broad of chest, dumb of ass" is definitely a type a lot of women go for. Women who are of all levels of intellectual accomplishment themselves, btw. Even women who prefer more bookish types think guys who think they're smart when they aren't, or are really invested in being smart, are fucking exhausting.
/r/ExRedPill05/08/22 12:01 PM
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Do you also understand what women are telling you in this thread about why we give wrong numbers? (Not just saying "yes," but explaining it in your own words?)
/r/ExRedPill05/08/22 01:03 AM
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Nope, that's terrifying. If she gave you a wrong number to get you to go away ... that means she's not interested, and for whatever reason does not feel comfortable expressing that directly. It is really that bad.
/r/ExRedPill04/08/22 07:23 PM
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Yeah, what point is there to believing people when they tell you who they are? You should wait until they do damage to you, otherwise it's unfaaaaaaaaaiiiirr.
/r/ExRedPill03/08/22 10:23 AM
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IDK, as a feminist I'm thrilled that RP knows to leave us the hell alone. We need to start getting word out to other women that that's how to get these assholes off our scent. Don't hit the bars without your RBG tank top!
/r/ExRedPill03/08/22 10:22 AM
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cool story bro
/r/ExRedPill31/07/22 11:29 PM
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So you know it's bullshit, but it's harmful thinking that you can't get out of your head anyway? Therapists in general are very very good at understanding that particular dynamic.
/r/ExRedPill31/07/22 08:54 PM
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No validity whatsover, not even with regard to wolf behavior.
/r/ExRedPill31/07/22 03:51 AM
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He doesn't value you. Take safety precautions, document everything. He has no choice but to "let you go," because you aren't his property. Don't forget that.
/r/ExRedPill30/07/22 08:08 PM
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If you're one guy eating Five Guys you ain't alone!
/r/ExRedPill29/07/22 11:59 AM
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Of course they can, there are, it's horrifying that anyone has ever caused you to doubt this.
/r/ExRedPill27/07/22 11:13 AM
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I know you want to deal with your romantic problems, but you were an abused child. You have a shitload of issues from that and need to work some of them out first. You gotta start with your foundation, and that's it. The Body Keeps the Score by Bessel van der Kolk is a good book to start with. If you don't sort out some of the damage that was done to you, you won't make good choices about partners and relationships--or careers and bosses.
/r/ExRedPill24/07/22 11:46 AM
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"past 50 , try to look and act young, might still be single, and freaking out about it" To me this is the real RP type man.
/r/ExRedPill20/07/22 06:53 PM
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Current guy is a misogynistic douche, why are you even bothering?
/r/ExRedPill20/07/22 10:55 AM
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" Isn't there a manual somewhere that someone can refer back to? Like, what's the point if there is no set definition?" No, because TRP bullshit is not any kind of science The point is to make money off men (ironically, the very thing that TRP gurus think women are trying to do!)
/r/ExRedPill18/07/22 07:51 PM
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Life's too short to take homework assignments from strangers on the internet!
/r/ExRedPill15/07/22 08:29 AM
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But what if they're princes who adore you?? (I'm sorry, I'm just in a very silly mood.)
/r/ExRedPill13/07/22 03:30 PM
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But what if one, two princes kneel before you, huh? Then what?
/r/ExRedPill13/07/22 03:28 PM
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This author is just putting a science gloss on Tarot cards.
/r/ExRedPill13/07/22 03:27 PM
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Honestly, your biggest competition is a pleasant night at home with Netflix and a vibrator.
/r/ExRedPill11/07/22 11:47 PM
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Then why don't they tell each other those nice things?
/r/ExRedPill07/07/22 10:33 AM
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That's a good script. I like to hang out on some of the autism subreddits to "translate" and hear their perspective. I have ADHD, which has some symptoms in common, but not the difficulty with figurative language/social rules. (Granted, ADHDers can sometimes miss unspoken social cues because we're too busy having an argument in our heads with a fictional character or something.) I think of myself as very plain-spoken and blunt, but it's remarkable to realize how much non-literal language is just…
/r/ExRedPill30/06/22 11:48 AM
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It sounds like the OP is also having a hard time decoding neurotypical language, which sounds like lying because it's not literal. ("Why did you say you were fine when I asked how you are? You're not fine, ergo you lied.") In your experience, is this a frequent issue between autistic and non-autistic people?
/r/ExRedPill30/06/22 11:13 AM
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The next time someone shows me a baby I'm going to say "What a handsome baby!" because it strikes me as hilarious for some reason. Enjoy the compounding interest in your handsomeness over the years, my friend!
/r/ExRedPill29/06/22 12:48 PM
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It's complete fantasy on their part. Utterly ridiculous.
/r/ExRedPill29/06/22 12:46 PM
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LOL, I cannot believe you were downvoted for this. 'tis truth.
/r/ExRedPill20/06/22 05:28 PM
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You don't have to know who he is "as a philosophy lover." JP isn't a philosopher. He's barely even a psychologist. And he's not a well man.
/r/ExRedPill20/06/22 05:27 PM
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If a person or group violates rules, is abusive or rude ... and you draw attention to that behavior ... and they suffer consequences for that behavior ... it's their own damn fault. They did it to themselves. ALWAYS.
/r/ExRedPill16/06/22 10:35 AM
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Maybe stop calling women who aren't attractive "below average girls" as if women's entire worth was their beauty. (Calling yourself "subhuman" is tedious as well.)
/r/ExRedPill16/06/22 10:32 AM
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Being depressed is not the same thing as feeling sorry for yourself. Neither is having a rotten day, or experiencing trauma, or or having chronic illness, or being angry about the injustice of the world. Feeling sorry for yourself means refusing to see yourself as anything other than a victim, and insisting that the world cater to that perception. A person who feels sorry for themselves won't ever bother expending energy or compassion on someone else. I mean you can go all "Merriam Webster's def…
/r/ExRedPill12/06/22 05:18 PM
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, okay, that's enough vulnerability for once, now shut up and move on or else you're too whiny and therefore not good enough, your good qualities be damned. No, you have to toughen up, you can't complain about the world or anything else. You can't get depressed or really down no matter what, even if what you say makes sense, no you always have to have a positive can do attitude. Hell you can't even complain about rightful legitimate grievances with dating or certain toxic attitudes normalized by…
/r/ExRedPill12/06/22 05:13 PM
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get that booty like Christopher Meloni
/r/ExRedPill09/06/22 05:56 PM
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If you're a sex object, they don't want you. They want to use your body to masturbate with. It's not the same thing as being desired. As someone wanting to have sex with you the way you play tennis with a person, not someone wanting to have sex with you like you play tennis with a racket.
/r/ExRedPill09/06/22 05:55 PM
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Know, then, that this is your fantasy and not any representation of reality. Fantasy is delightful, but let's not jump off the roof thinking we're Superman.
/r/ExRedPill09/06/22 05:54 PM
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That sounds standard RP to me. They don't value women or see us as people, why wouldn't they feel that way? Women are just obstacles to pussy to them.
/r/ExRedPill04/06/22 09:32 AM
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They can deradicalize themselves if they want. No one else can do it for them. Replacement theory--ngl, if one of my friends was dating someone who spouted that, the friendship would be over. I'm Jewish.
/r/ExRedPill03/06/22 03:09 PM
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If he doesn't want to, he won't.
/r/ExRedPill03/06/22 03:08 PM
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Oh my god you again. I hope your cousin gets a restraining order.
/r/ExRedPill01/06/22 09:25 AM
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Manosphere math is special.
/r/ExRedPill30/05/22 08:42 PM
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That those guys are turned on by rape.
/r/ExRedPill29/05/22 09:17 AM
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Yes, we do. But the rights/privileges that men have that I envy, do not have to deal with dating. More about Supreme Court decisions, these days. I think most women feel the same.
/r/ExRedPill29/05/22 08:57 AM
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He will always think it is stupid for you to leave. You will never have a reason "good enough" for him. You will never have anything "good enough" for him.
/r/ExRedPill23/05/22 08:10 PM
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It's not even about sex; loneliness in general is on the rise. Plenty of people don't have close friends either.
/r/ExRedPill21/05/22 02:52 PM
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Okay.
/r/ExRedPill20/05/22 10:14 AM
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Yup. Definitely kinder than thinking there's a learning curve to recognizing red flags, or that some people are raised in abusive or dysfunctional families and don't know what love looks like, or that abusers don't reveal their true selves until they've already isolated their victim .... definitely kinder and more logical and data-based and, y'know, based than that. You've figured it out, Galaxy Brain.
/r/ExRedPill13/05/22 10:59 AM
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Red Pill: 1. Seek out unstable women 2. Play mind games to intensify their insecurity 3. Make shocked pikachu face when girlfriend behaves "irrationally" 4. Blame all women
/r/ExRedPill12/05/22 03:32 PM
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Incels and redpillers seem to believe that girls are born with an innate knowledge of who they're attracted to and fully developed social skills and intuition. That we don't have a learning process on all these things, the same as boys do.
/r/ExRedPill12/05/22 11:33 AM
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Why would anyone be with a partner who didn't bring some value?
/r/ExRedPill12/05/22 11:30 AM
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I'd also say, it's not so much about hobbies as about the attitude. My husband and I don't have any of the same hobbies, but we like to talk to each other about them, because we both tend to be focused on noticing how we learn, how things get built and done in our hobby domains, that kind of thing. "Parallel play" isn't just for kids, either. He practices piano while I write fanfic. It's nice.
/r/ExRedPill11/05/22 06:46 PM
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Yup, life is rigged, but not by women.
/r/ExRedPill11/05/22 06:38 PM
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And social media/search algorithms will provide content that reinforces those biases, too, accelerating that vicious cycle.
/r/ExRedPill07/05/22 11:20 PM
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LOL, I have my degrees, I don't take homework assignments from strangers on the internet. Too busy fighting for my civil rights for bodily autonomy, doncha know!
/r/ExRedPill07/05/22 04:04 PM
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where men are looked down upon, disrespected, and accepted whereas women are idolized, positively reinforced by other women for unacceptable behavior, and never take accountability for their actions Wow.
/r/ExRedPill07/05/22 02:17 PM
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Asking a clarifying question is not shaming.
/r/ExRedPill07/05/22 01:46 PM
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"Second, when that man says "I'm a nice guy", you insult him. " The poster doesn't even understand what he's reading/hearing if he doesn't get why the "nice guy" thing is looked down on. (Hint: It is not because women do not value kind men.)
/r/ExRedPill06/05/22 07:59 PM
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A berry-gathering matriarch.
/r/ExRedPill05/05/22 11:56 AM
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Can & have. Husband is 5'7".
/r/ExRedPill04/05/22 05:43 PM
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Oh my God you again.
/r/ExRedPill04/05/22 02:05 AM
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Yeah, well put. I want to help Scientologists, too, but I'm not going to feign respect for their cult. Same diff.
/r/ExRedPill02/05/22 10:58 AM
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Oh, it totally will. Dangle a participle in the ring? You'll lose the match in the first 5 seconds! Referees won't stand for that. And don't even think about splitting an infinitive in the weight room, my ex did that and OMG the physical therapy bills were atrocious. You gots to have grammar to box, like the greats! Joe "Syntax" Louis, Mike "The Conjugator" Tyson ...
/r/ExRedPill01/05/22 11:00 AM
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Yeah, women joke all the time about what a turnoff it is if a guy sounds illiterate when he's messaging you. (Typos, voice-to-text, ESL errors are fine because everyone's human. I'm talking consistently terrible grammar/spelling, which is like being badly groomed.)
/r/ExRedPill01/05/22 10:55 AM
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You have a fab username for a slob, on-point brand.
/r/ExRedPill01/05/22 12:57 AM
1

Okay, you say you're not comfortable being seen as a threat. But as a middle-class white woman, I know you would have good reason to see me as a threat in certain circumstances. I'm okay with that, because you don't know me. But that tolerance-of-suspicion really does need to go both ways.
/r/ExRedPill01/05/22 12:55 AM
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Oh, wow, you're hilarious.
/r/ExRedPill01/05/22 12:52 AM
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It's sad that you got to listen to grifters, it's sad that you got to be attractive to get attractive woman, it's sad that woman often like grammar and punctuation all so sad
/r/ExRedPill30/04/22 10:40 AM
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Sex yes, good sex no
/r/ExRedPill28/04/22 08:58 PM
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They avoid me like ... well, not the plague, since people clearly don't stay the fuck away from that.
/r/ExRedPill28/04/22 01:05 PM
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Why would techniques based on manipulation, distrust, assuming the worst about your spouse, and attempting to instill fear in them make a relationship better?
/r/ExRedPill28/04/22 01:03 PM
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Getting attention is easier for women. Including very, very bad attention. Dating is not easier.
/r/ExRedPill27/04/22 09:24 PM
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The best answer I've heard is that it's not even RP so much, but that men have very few other social-support groups. Women have closer friends and we expect/are allowed to open up more with casual acquaintances, ask and offer social support. Same way cults and terrorist organizations work ... find the lonely people, give them a community, then the ideology takes over. But at that point, leaving the belief system would mean leaving the only people who understand you, so ... Thing is, men gotta so…
/r/ExRedPill27/04/22 12:10 PM
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A child. And for children who are neglected from birth, I have sympathy. For teens and 20-somethings that aren't getting the attention from attractive girls and women that they desire, I have ... considerably less.
/r/ExRedPill26/04/22 09:21 AM
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It's remarkable how little upper body strength one needs to shoot a gun, or drive a van into a group of people.
/r/ExRedPill26/04/22 09:20 AM
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You do you. I certainly hope no one else does.
/r/ExRedPill25/04/22 03:22 AM
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I strongly suggest you leave your cousin alone, your obsession with her is not healthy.
/r/ExRedPill25/04/22 03:16 AM
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So you want to kill yourself and, in the process, traumatize your cousin for life.
/r/ExRedPill25/04/22 03:02 AM
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Dude, not all women prefer men. And of those who do, yeah, plenty of us prefer guys who are a bit more approachable than Superman. ETA: Actually, any man who is concerned about his "masculinity" is a bit ... gamy-smelling, emotionally. Don't really want to deal with that. Don't really need the headache of a man who's going around trying to prove something all the time.
/r/ExRedPill25/04/22 01:33 AM
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alphafuxbetabux mindsets This isn't actually a thing, you know that?
/r/ExRedPill24/04/22 01:05 PM
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They're not equivalent at all. Sure, you find extremists and assholes in both "camps," because people are what people are. But "redpill" is a misreading of various studies jerry-rigged into a system that promises men the ability to get laid. Most RP gurus are for-profit. There is no actual substance to it. Feminism has been written about by philosophers for two hundred years. There is feminist scholarship and feminist art. There are feminist organizations in all countries I know of, that have sp…
/r/ExRedPill18/04/22 12:21 PM
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Huh?
/r/ExRedPill15/04/22 10:11 PM
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People like cars that work, and people like when other people can take care of themselves. ^ Nicely stated!
/r/ExRedPill14/04/22 08:25 PM
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If you're super smart, I suggest you read the actual studies that the black pill likes to cite. Surely with your intellect you will understand the way the modest findings are wildly misinterpreted and generalized.
/r/ExRedPill14/04/22 08:23 PM
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The idea that my husband would only fantasize about me seems weird. Why wouldn't we fantasize about other people? For one thing, if we fantasize about each other, it's more of an action plan than a daydream. It just kind of goes along with having an imagination.
/r/ExRedPill11/04/22 11:02 AM
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Why would you assume "redpill" would even work? Is an abusive relationship with a woman selected for an unstable personality, whom you have to continually gaslight and can never relax around, actually worth it? Wouldn't seeing a sex worker be a less labor-intensive way to get laid?
/r/ExRedPill08/04/22 11:42 PM
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Cats, wine, & Netflix would be an upgrade. Hell, gerbils, Mad Dog, and YouTube would be an upgrade!
/r/ExRedPill08/04/22 09:57 AM
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Adults really shouldn't get unconditional love. Trying to offer that to someone is not a gift, it's just being abject and self-negating. Boundaries are healthy, good people WANT to bring value to their partners' lives.
/r/ExRedPill06/04/22 11:48 AM
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Jesus, that sounds fucking horrible. You can do better. Alone is better.
/r/ExRedPill06/04/22 11:46 AM
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Doesn't sound like relationships are your biggest problem. Have you genuinely never been interested in anything? Why have you not made friends?
/r/ExRedPill04/04/22 03:45 AM
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Well, that should tell you everything you need to know. I hope you don't ever plan to have kids with him. Or a pet, for that matter.
/r/ExRedPill29/03/22 01:25 AM
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The fact that it teaches emotional abuse techniques and misogyny.
/r/ExRedPill28/03/22 10:59 AM
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never in my life conciously judged someone for the way they stand ^ consciously.
/r/ExRedPill24/03/22 04:44 PM
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. The difference is that women are inherently more in-tune socially than men, Not inherently, it's learned. Poor people are better at reading body language & facial expressions than rich people, too. When it's expected and/or a survival skill, you learn it.
/r/ExRedPill23/03/22 07:11 PM
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So the way I stand is the reason women don't like me. Great. That just makes me feel more resentful of women honestly, it makes them appear superficial. I find it better not to believe it Body language is incredibly important to all genders of all social animals, bro. It's not a woman thing. And if you think it's shallow, take that up with evolution.
/r/ExRedPill23/03/22 07:09 PM
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... like talking about Bruno.
/r/ExRedPill23/03/22 07:06 PM
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This is it, 100%.
/r/ExRedPill23/03/22 07:06 PM
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I feel like Pixar and Disney have really been leaning into this concept hard lately.
/r/ExRedPill23/03/22 11:11 AM
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Exactly! Quiet confidence is 100% a thing. Own who you are. Plenty of those loudmouth frat boys are very, very insecure little tykes underneath the bluster.
/r/ExRedPill23/03/22 11:11 AM
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And are you secure with being insecure? Can you say, "I'm having a bad day, I need some reassurance," and get that reassurance, and thank the person? Can you admit that you're bad at a particular skill without making your inferiority complex about it something that your partner has to deal with? Can you learn from your mistakes? Confident doesn't mean believing you're invincible or perfect. That's called "delusional." Confident means believing in your self-worth, assessing your skills accurately…
/r/ExRedPill23/03/22 11:08 AM
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There are books and recovery literature about purity culture. Start there.
/r/ExRedPill21/03/22 05:17 PM
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You might be able to stop putting women on a pedestal if you actually spoke to some of us. (Hint: No woman wants to be "on a pedestal.")
/r/ExRedPill21/03/22 10:30 AM
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Homosocial is a good point.
/r/ExRedPill20/03/22 04:07 PM
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Extreme cognitive inflexibility, absolute terror of emotions, grey areas, non-guaranteed results, generally unpleasant personality, lack of emotional intelligence, poorly educated in social sciences/humanities/logic.
/r/ExRedPill20/03/22 11:09 AM
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Does he have any desire to be "detoxified"? Cause if not, this is the man you've got. Make your decisions accordingly.
/r/ExRedPill19/03/22 10:16 PM
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Social media attention causes dopamine spikes. When she feels bad, e.g. after an argument, she does something that makes her feel better and props up her self-worth a bit. It's not rocket science.
/r/ExRedPill19/03/22 04:12 PM
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Red Pill behavior selects for BPD women and then deliberately exacerbates their symptoms. And then Red Pill ideology uses that to justify the dogma that all women behave like BPD sufferers in their most extreme state. Rinse, repeat. (Or learn to recognize red flags, float your own protective coloring to make predators stay the fuck away, and GTFO.)
/r/ExRedPill19/03/22 11:48 AM
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Anyone who has a negative reaction to a simple boundary or disagreement.
/r/ExRedPill18/03/22 02:30 PM
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Or Adrian Monk.
/r/ExRedPill18/03/22 02:47 AM
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None of these problems seem connected to being a man; plenty of people are struggling with jobs, social life, and EVERYTHING these days. But, specifically, you're having a hard time and that sucks. What would you like from people in this sub?
/r/ExRedPill15/03/22 04:49 PM
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So, you distrust this woman, allow your friends to insult her behind your back, "want her to fail," refuse to open up to her, and don't like her having contact with other men, ever. You realize she's gonna dump you and it's 100% your fault, right?
/r/ExRedPill04/03/22 02:22 PM
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Jesus, bro, you acted like a human being. Can I ask, seriously: Why even be in a relationship if you have to suppress your emotions and be a "quiet mystery" all the time? What's even the point? I mean, sure, you're getting your dick wet, but ... that's it. It's not actually a relationship if she doesn't know who you are.
/r/ExRedPill03/03/22 08:48 AM
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The concept is meaningless, so ... And are many men miserable in their marriages? And to what cause do they attribute it? So, so many citations and logical links needed.
/r/ExRedPill21/02/22 12:02 AM
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FYI, casual sex doesn't necessarily mean sex with strangers. FWB also counts as casual sex.
/r/ExRedPill07/02/22 01:36 AM
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We're too busy trying to protect reproductive rights, strengthen stalking and domestic violence laws, improve workplace conditions across the board, and trying to solve the problem of childcare. Sorry, love, y'all just are not our first priority.
/r/ExRedPill06/02/22 12:06 PM
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Do you have avoidant personality disorder? Sorting that, if you do, is step #1.
/r/ExRedPill06/02/22 12:03 PM
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Because people wouldn't buy their crap if they didn't think it sold. And the poor saps who aren't even making money off it ... are just that desperate to delude themselves.
/r/ExRedPill06/02/22 11:44 AM
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I'm sorry, but you really do have to think of your own wellbeing first. This is going to drip into your self-esteem and erode it away over time. Do you want to spend your life cajoling your partner into seeing you as fully human? Does that sound like a good way to use your wild and precious self? Your valuable, limited time and energy?
/r/ExRedPill06/02/22 11:35 AM
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​ I want a traditional marriage where the wife cooks and cleans and stays home with the kids I definitely don't want a bot or a maid or a babysitter or anything like that ​ Make up your mind, dude.
/r/seduction03/02/22 08:37 AM
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The majority of people aren't on TikTok, love.
/r/ExRedPill02/02/22 10:43 AM
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My best friend is 54, just started dating seriously a year or so ago, and has met a bunch of great guys. She dated one seriously for a while and is now exclusive with a dude who sounds just great. And this is someone who's been single her whole life. Late 20s-30s dating can be stressful for women who want biological children. And probably by extension for straight guys dating them, who may feel pressured to commit or cut bait before they're ready. It gets a bit more relaxed later on.
/r/ExRedPill01/02/22 11:24 AM
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That's how the majority of millennial relationships are.
/r/ExRedPill09/01/22 12:41 PM
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Well, it's not like they've ever hidden that part.
/r/ExRedPill03/01/22 12:11 PM
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How do RP'ers account for people in same-sex relationships, I always wonder.
/r/ExRedPill03/01/22 10:57 AM
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Huh?
/r/ExRedPill25/12/21 04:01 AM
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Especially labor organizing (sorry, I'm American, I agree with your ideology but got my own spelling). The more I look into the problem of loneliness the more I'm convinced that our insane work culture is responsible for a great deal of it. People are so consumed with mere survival they don't have the time or energy to invest in friendships.
/r/ExRedPill23/12/21 12:28 PM
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It takes women a while to figure out what they want. Priorities change. The same is also true for men, so--gasp!--sometimes the "alpha fuck" and the "beta buck" is the SAME GUY. It's just that in their early 20s, the couple partied a lot, and now neither of them do. Massive sinister strategy? No. Are men and women attracted to the same things at 30 that they are at 20? Also no.
/r/ExRedPill23/12/21 12:17 PM
21

Doesn't RP ideology maintain that genuine connection between men and women is impossible anyway? It's entirely focused on maintaining control over women.
/r/ExRedPill19/12/21 12:49 PM
24

A woman who is emotionally strong and mentally healthy will not stand for RP bullshit for more than a few minutes.
/r/ExRedPill13/12/21 12:50 PM
1

Why are you with someone who hates you? What advice would you give to a dear, beloved Jewish friend who was dating a Nazi and only wanted him to leave all that nonsense behind? What would you tell that person?
/r/ExRedPill07/12/21 12:46 PM
3

If it's toxic, why does the particular brand of toxicity matter?
/r/ExRedPill30/11/21 11:57 AM
1

Somebody not sleeping with you is not eugenics. Even if the Nazis wouldn't have had sex with you, either.
/r/MensRights27/11/21 12:57 PM
2

The skeeviness of an age gap depends so much on the age of the younger person.
/r/ExRedPill24/11/21 12:33 PM
20

When women's only source of livelihood and social status is marriage, "marrying up" in terms of social class is logical. If we can earn our own bread, it's one option among many--for men and women both. (Why is it never "hypergamy" when someone marries a person of a higher social class, but the same sex?) The manosphere has redefined "hypergamy" to mean a man who is "better" than a woman across any dimension. Richer? Hypergamy! Taller? Hypergamy! Longer criminal record? Hypergamy!
/r/ExRedPill24/11/21 12:27 PM
8

Maybe don't date someone who hates you? If you were black would you date a racist?
/r/ExRedPill12/11/21 01:59 AM
5

You can also provide snortles of amusement!
/r/ExRedPill09/11/21 11:18 AM
8

" if there has always been such an insane level of competition among men" If you could come up with an operational definition for that question, it would be a start.
/r/ExRedPill08/11/21 11:50 AM
8

Look up how to handle intrusive anxious thoughts. This is no different from any other phobia.
/r/ExRedPill04/11/21 11:18 AM
5

Seeking love from someone who openly hates you generally does not end well.
/r/ExRedPill02/11/21 07:06 AM
28

Being attractive makes life easier in certain ways. No one denies that. It's also far from the only determinant of quality of life, career achievement and satisfaction, and romantic and sexual fulfillment.
/r/ExRedPill29/10/21 09:27 AM
2

i felt lied to and im never sure whos words i can trust on this stuff, i think yea thats gonna cause some feelings of bitterness. But no one is lying to you. People may disagree on what is attractive, and be talking from their own perspective. Or they may think you are going too far in one direction or another, and be trying to correct for that. If you ask someone how to get to Rome and one person says "go east" and one says "go west," neither of them are necessarily lying. They are just assumin…
/r/ExRedPill25/10/21 11:47 AM
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Doesn't that seem odd? When was the last time you heard a woman talking admiringly about how "mysterious" a man was? Women are busy, man. We got jobs and bills and a Netflix queue we really gotta get around to and a mom to call. Nobody's got time to sit around wondering about the motives and backstory of some inert lump that never makes conversation. How about seek connection. But don't talk and "do" so much that you aren't listening to the other person. You don't need to put on a big entertaini…
/r/ExRedPill24/10/21 11:16 AM
9

How do we have more choice than men? Both parties have to agree to date. Both parties have to agree to sex. (I mean, if they don't, it's not "date" and "sex," it's "kidnapping" and "r*pe.")
/r/ExRedPill08/10/21 11:44 AM
3

Both parties need to choose each other.
/r/ExRedPill08/10/21 11:42 AM
3

Yeah how dare we expect equality lololol
/r/ExRedPill29/09/21 01:26 AM
3

Thank you for this! I've never understood the pants-wetting horror and terror with which cheating is viewed in manosphere spaces. This helps.
/r/ExRedPill28/09/21 09:53 AM
14

WOW. Your strength amazes me--and I'm so, so goddamned sorry you ever had to be that strong in the first place. Thank you for writing this. In addition to the point you make about feminism, you tell a revealing story of how and why survivors of trauma can become attracted to bullying, aggressive people/ideologies/groups as a defense mechanism. If you believe deep down that people are evil, you'd better be in the meanest, nastiest gang in the prison block, hadn't you? I think that dynamic explain…
/r/ExRedPill25/09/21 11:47 AM
6

It would be difficult to come up with more leaps of logic than this response, or more misdirected emotion.
/r/ExRedPill18/09/21 12:15 PM
7

You mean like red-pilled guys, with all their negging and dread game? I just avoid them.
/r/ExRedPill17/09/21 10:06 PM
12

Wow, so many errors. All genders are emotional. Most people make most decisions on non-rational bases. (Not necessarily irrational, just non-rational.) Women are allowed to express a greater range of emotion, but those emotions are not taken as seriously as men's are, because the patriarchy doth fuck us all. If you hate women, you got a problem.
/r/ExRedPill17/09/21 10:05 PM
5

Big cities and college towns are much more accepting of unconventional people, especially in the north. I moved to New England from the midwest suburbs and tons of guys do great out here who would be, like, profiled as serial killers back where I grew up. Including my husband.
/r/ExRedPill13/09/21 01:09 AM
1

Oh, I thought you were the OP, he's in a long-distance relationship.
/r/ExRedPill12/09/21 09:40 PM
11

Why would anyone want to be with someone who doesn't trust them? Your girlfriend can't socialize with you because you're not there, and you get upset when she socializes with her friends. What do you want her to do--nothing?
/r/ExRedPill12/09/21 08:46 PM
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You don't trust her. You say you do, but you don't.
/r/ExRedPill12/09/21 01:38 PM
2

I was raised to believe in that "headship" head trip. Like a couple would somehow be unable to function unless one of them were "in charge." Then I met lesbians. Egalitarian as all hell and they get tons of shit done. I'll have what they're having, please! With a side of sausage.
/r/ExRedPill12/09/21 11:43 AM
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"Men's rights" is generally just misogyny and bad evopsych, so yeah. Litmus test: If a group is dedicated to improving the lives of men, do they want to do so by 1) deconstructing gender roles and harmful practices/beliefs related to them, or by 2) restoring the privileges they believe men had in the past?
/r/ExRedPill10/09/21 12:51 PM
9

What does it even mean to "lead in the home"? Define your terms. My apartment isn't on a five-year mission to explore new worlds, seek out new life and new civilizations. My husband and I more or less "take charge" when it makes sense for each of us to do so. He handles tech, I handle the dog. Big decisions we make jointly. A lot of things we just do independently without consulting each other, because that's how we roll. Regarding #2, all leadership should be limited, good lord. Do you want cul…
/r/ExRedPill10/09/21 12:45 PM
5

I'm a woman, I comment here for this very reason.
/r/ExRedPill08/09/21 11:39 AM
8

RP behavior selects for women who are emotionally unstable and then says "don't date emotionally unstable women."
/r/ExRedPill07/09/21 02:51 PM
11

many older guys hit on younger women or if it's mostly weirdos. why not both? Both.
/r/ExRedPill02/09/21 11:53 AM
10

Health insurance, pizza, and pockets in all our clothes.
/r/ExRedPill29/08/21 10:32 PM
1

You seem to be advocating male violence, and yet you've never explained exactly what it is you're revolting agains.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates29/08/21 11:03 AM
3

I'd imagine the biggest impact career has on dating is how many hours you have to put in and the gender balance of the industry or profession.
/r/ExRedPill24/08/21 01:10 PM
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Aside from typical youthful tactlessness, I don't see where the girl did anything wrong here. They'd only talked once and hadn't even dated yet. If anyone did anything wrong, it was the "wingman" -- but, again, it's not like he tried to horn in on an existing relationship. Yeah, it's disappointing and embarrassing, but this shit happens in your early 20s.
/r/ExRedPill23/08/21 01:37 PM
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It's harmful to the girls, so whether it's "natural" or not, a healthy society does not condone that behavior. Teens (of all genders) should not be sexualized by adults (of all genders).
/r/ExRedPill20/08/21 09:20 AM
17

You get that's not how wolves work, right? There's no science here. "Alpha" and "beta" are basically as valid as astrology.
/r/ExRedPill19/08/21 07:51 PM
3

You get that these mods are just people, right? Not actual therapists, not political activists, not PR specialists, not trained in any of this, just folks with jobs and lots of other responsibilities who mod that sub as a side activity, to help people. And now Jake3572 killed people, and the mods are trying to deal with that as best they can. The mods were trying to do good, the good thing they made got blown up by Jake3572, and now they've backed off. It's entirely human and reasonable. The mod…
/r/ExRedPill15/08/21 02:31 PM
5

m joining the ROTC for college as I’ll make more money Waaaait how old are you?
/r/ExRedPill14/08/21 07:22 PM
1

It's funny how determined this guy is to believe/prove that women who have more sex than he thinks they should are indeed being punished somehow!--even if we don't know it.
/r/ExRedPill13/08/21 03:03 PM
2

all that information is not given serious consideration by men that you would consider as potential partners as well. But if someone would judge me negatively for my promiscuous past, I don't want to be with them anyway. There would be fundamental mismatch of values and overall psychology. There are no opportunities that I'm missing out on here. Unlike Groucho Marx, I only want to be in clubs that would have someone like me as a member. It's called self-esteem.
/r/ExRedPill13/08/21 03:30 AM
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She's not your low, honey. You're hers.
/r/ExRedPill13/08/21 03:25 AM
12

Because they're assholes? /occamsrazor
/r/ExRedPill11/08/21 08:04 PM
11

I have never in my life met a woman who had a difficult time finding a relationship because they had a "reputation for being loose and easy." Other reasons, some of them quite unfair as well, but never that one.
/r/ExRedPill11/08/21 06:44 AM
12

I think you need to consider leaving. If you were a person of color, would you keep dating someone who is into white nationalism? It's just as hateful and dehumanizing ... and it is, specifically, about how to manipulate and control romantic partners. That's you. But, in the meantime, why not start building up the parts of your life that don't involve him? Strengthen relationships with your friends and family. If you've got medical stuff or paperwork you've been putting off, take care of it. Sav…
/r/ExRedPill11/08/21 03:01 AM
11

Oh. I don't make friends with people who judge others for their sexuality. Makes life much more pleasant!
/r/ExRedPill11/08/21 02:49 AM
12

What culture do you live in, and how does sex affect reputation there? I live in the Northeast US & nobody that I know cares. I certainly can't imagine a person not getting an apartment or job because it was generally known they slept around.
/r/ExRedPill11/08/21 12:19 AM
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or me, promiscuity, fundamentally should be equally perceived for all genders. However, given today’s social dynamics and the fact that sex is in fact associated with one’s reputation, I feel extremely uncomfortable at women promoting sleeping around as a sense of empowerment and equality. A woman that sleeps around will never have the same social perception as a man. So, society is hypocritical in having a double standard, but women who try to fight that double standard are wrong. Mmkay!
/r/ExRedPill11/08/21 12:11 AM
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There aren’t any women who lust after guys under 5’7, I do. I've known plenty of guys under 5'7" who get laid like tile. Heightism is definitely a thing, but categorically denying that women like me exist, or saying that we're lying, or whatever ... that's your problem. Not height.
/r/ExRedPill11/08/21 12:10 AM
10

WTAF, dude. Don't hurt people, didn't you learn that in kindergarten?
/r/ExRedPill05/08/21 06:13 PM
3

EXACTLY. It's a learning process. And especially in junior high/high school, heterosexuality is homosocial. In other words, you like the boys/girls your friends also like. It takes a while to figure out your individual taste.
/r/ExRedPill05/08/21 04:46 PM
21

When girls first start having romantic relationships, they don't know how to spot red flags, are more likely to be influenced by superficial factors, surface charm and "love bombing," and fall for fallacies like believing you can "save" a guy. Then as we get older, we learn better, and make more informed choices when it comes to romantic relationships. Also, as you get older, having a life partner becomes more of a priority than having fun this Saturday night, so values around that change, too. …
/r/ExRedPill04/08/21 09:15 PM
2

As a mutual put it, he was the living embodiment of the phrase "a little knowledge is a dangerous thing."
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/21 08:35 PM
12

"It's almost like incels who feel entitled to "female attention", except that I'm entitled to girls validating my looks in this case." It's exactly the same, though?
/r/ExRedPill25/07/21 10:27 PM
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If you read the OP's replies, he won't date conservative women because he thinks they're not into sex and want to be SAHMs. Which is ... almost as if they believe in traditional marriage! You know, like conservatives are supposed to! He wants a woman who earns her own living and has casual sex when she feels like it, but who will date a man who opposes the very laws and values that make such activities possible. Meh, it's a big world, maybe he'll get lucky! Back in the 90s I dated a New Age cons…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/21 01:47 PM
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Especially different views around abortion! Why would any heterosexual sleep with someone who isn't 100% on the same page with them about that?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/21 12:31 AM
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Of course they're not justified. Politics, particularly in the US right now, are very much an expression of values. Shared values are the cornerstone of a committed romantic relationship. And shared beliefs and understanding of contraception and abortion are the cornerstone of a no-strings-fling. I can't imagine why these angry conservative dateless men don't feel the same way.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/21 11:51 PM
3

Men "providing" for women is an extreme historical anomaly anyway. 1950s-60s for middle-class white people. In other classes/times, either men and women both contribute, or neither of them do (aristocrats).
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/21 11:46 PM
2

Get tested for ADHD. It's freaking difficult to make that happen--especially if, you know, you have ADHD--but the younger you get diagnosed the better your life will be. ETA: I mean, if you do have it, there's a good chance you'll literally start taking blue pills!
/r/ExRedPill22/07/21 10:24 PM
1

Yes.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/21 05:36 PM
2

What about the fact that it's not 1962 and they're not Don Draper?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/21 05:48 AM
2

One of them involves signing a document that will have long-term financial implications. Our legal system has an interest in ensuring that such decisions are not coerced. I'd really need to see the specific laws about prenup coercion to make a call on the specifics, and I'm not going to bother looking it up because I have a real job to do this afternoon. I find it hard to believe the law is really "If you don't sign a prenup I won't marry you," seeing as how there is never a legal obligation to …
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/21 07:44 PM
0

Which, apparently, the manosphere believes is a how-to book for women.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/21 12:14 PM
3

The OP has a weird view of coercion. We''e attempting to put it into operable terms.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/21 12:12 PM
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So, it should be illegal for women to choose wait until they're married to have sex. And if a woman wants to get married and her boyfriend does not, she must either break up with him without telling him why, or forgo what she wants for her life. And a man should be able to demand sexual exclusivity and commitment without offering it in return. And, a woman is responsible for understanding her lover's cultural and familial background, personalty and various neuroses well enough to avoid inadverte…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/21 02:44 AM
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Read the entire supplemental report, male rates of obesity aren't much different. "A plain looking skinny young woman of college age could set up an only fans account and retire for life comfortably off her $10 million earnt. She could buy herself a mansion and have a Chad butler... And she's just a 5/10. I don't see this talked about much here on ppd." Try r/sciencefiction
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/21 09:48 PM
6

Adderall and coffee, breakfast of champions.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/21 08:07 PM
4

I think when I say that, it implies as if they don't feel any different now in terms of attraction, they just are more willing to give him a chance. Again: Why, specifically, do you think a woman would do that? It's very, very unpleasant to have sex with someone you don't want to have sex with. Very unpleasant, especially when they are stronger than you and they penetrate your body. Really, take a minute to imagine it. Women generally do not want to subject themselves to that. Some will do so an…
/r/ExRedPill19/07/21 04:27 PM
3

So, I think you're right that a lot of people wouldn't have looked twice at their spouse years before they got together, but that's not a bad thing. Is it not a bad thing though? I don't see how being settled for is ever a good thing. You are misreading this. It's not settling, it's evolution of desire. I didn't like tea the first time I tasted it. Now I love tea and drink several cups a day. Am I "settling" for tea because I wasn't into it when I was younger?
/r/ExRedPill19/07/21 04:08 PM
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Because they believe he will change; because they were overly parentified in childhood and caretaking is their comfort zone, it is stability for them; because they were conditioned to believe that women have to play mom to the men in their lives and that's just how it is. A host of other reasons.
/r/ExRedPill19/07/21 04:05 PM
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I think of her getting with a guy she finds physically unattractive, that she will fuck a few times a month to keep happy, but doesn't actually want much to do with. Why would a woman do that, though? Unless she is Melania Trump or of her ilk, and the man has money? Women have jobs, income, friends, vibrators, Netflix. They don't need men they don't even like. It's interesting how the same manosphere that will complain about women not needing men anymore is also terrified of being settled for. Y…
/r/ExRedPill19/07/21 04:03 PM
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It's like this: Female desire evolves. It's not some evil scheme, it's basic cognitive/developmental psychology. Forming romantic relationships is a complex skill and all complex skills have a learning curve. That curve usually begins with imitation, and sexuality is no exception. When you're very young, you don't much know what you're attracted to. You're overly influenced by media and peers. Heterosexual desire is often homosocial--i.e., there's a lot of talking with friends about who's hot an…
/r/ExRedPill19/07/21 03:37 PM
2

I wonder this a lot too.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/21 06:23 AM
8

More like Men Getting Tweaked Over Women, amirite
/r/ExRedPill10/07/21 02:37 PM
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As a woman, though, I wish they'd take another route. They're not helping. Thing is, if a woman had strong boundaries; knows how to enjoy herself and values her own pleasure (not only sexual--food, companionship, art, geeking out over fanfiction, fancy socks, all healthy pleasures); has strong ethics and is actively kind to people, most definitely including men; and comfortably makes jokes, accepts compliments, expresses disagreement, gives compliments, and states her opinions regardless of who …
/r/ExRedPill09/07/21 11:00 AM
1

Tldr: The point I’m trying to make is he’s toxic but you already knew that. So you wrote a self-described "mountain of text" to tell the OP something you knew she already knew? Yeah, you're a red pill man all right. *laughs ass off feministly*
/r/ExRedPill09/07/21 10:47 AM
1

Literally what most incels/redpillers/MGTOW/etc would mean be "needs better solutions" is "needs better ways to make women sexually compliant." Honestly, and pleasantly, surprised that this is not what you meant. You got downvoted because that's what people assumed you meant, given that you appeared to be defending the red pill. ETA: Also mentioning "we need solutions" in a response to a post referencing the Nazi Party lights up some unfortunate associations on the ol' neural net. Not your fault…
/r/ExRedPill09/07/21 10:44 AM
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The redpill IS emotional violence, so moving from that to physical ain't a leap across the Grand Canyon.
/r/ExRedPill08/07/21 09:24 PM
3

Better solutions to ... what?
/r/ExRedPill08/07/21 09:23 PM
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I think attempting to look your best is what everyone does, or ought to, when they're looking to date. "Looksmaxxing" is weird incel lingo that, as usual, quantifies and pathologizes a normal aspect of the human experience.
/r/ExRedPill27/06/21 03:03 PM
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Right? Why even be in a relationship if you don't 1) take real joy in your partner's happiness, and 2) structure your relationship so a win for one is a win for both? I mean, if either my husband or I struck it rich, it wouldn't mean the rich one suddenly had "more power." It would mean we were rich.
/r/ExRedPill07/06/21 12:01 AM
3

Nope, it is NOT her job to save him. And he's, uh, not asking to be saved either.
/r/ExRedPill24/05/21 03:07 PM
3

By definition, yes. It may "only" be emotional abuse and manipulation, but the red pill is inherently abusive.
/r/ExRedPill24/05/21 03:06 PM
3

Especially as compared to grape ...???
/r/ExRedPill19/05/21 09:29 AM
5

I hope my daughter would have the kind of assertiveness and comfort in her own skin that would repel RP boys to begin with. If she had difficulty with self-expression or boundaries, I'd be working on that with her LONG before dating age.
/r/ExRedPill18/05/21 10:52 PM
8

Basically, yes. Red pill/"alphas" etc. have or aspire to grandiose narcissism. A lot of incels display covert narcissism (a different type--google it!).
/r/ExRedPill17/05/21 04:15 PM
3

Oh, say more about the Jungian psych!
/r/ExRedPill06/05/21 10:04 PM
11

To be on a team together.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/21 02:40 PM
8

Honey, it's not really a thing. Normal men do NOT think that way. Normal men want women who are attractive, fun to be with, and supportive. Only men who are wrapped up in ideology are fixated on age like that. My best friend from high school started dating again after a long period of having to deal with family stuff & having no time. She's currently seeing three guys casually--fun, smart, decent men. She and I are both 53. My mom had the love affair of her life a few years after my dad died, wh…
/r/ExRedPill17/04/21 03:56 PM
3

I want a guy (and I got one!) who can cope with failure and loss, because these things are inevitable. No one is king of the hill forever. Life is capricious and unfair and bodies and institutions betray us all the time. No-win situations exist. Americans (and American men, in particular), can have a hard time accepting this because US culture preaches individualism and "attitude is everything" so strenuously.
/r/ExRedPill07/04/21 05:04 PM
21

What's the fucking point of being a good person "deep down"? Why not just be a good person?
/r/ExRedPill04/04/21 02:19 PM
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"Now I am a high quality person, stable life and career, and was never a jerk to her otherwise, we never fought and sometimes I did let down my guard at her prodding (when I lost my virginity question, etc), always treated her, always adventures. I hope that she sees the state of the dating pool and softens on me" ​ ... so you're still seeing this in completely transactional terms. And you're also still hoping that fear and insecurity will drive her back to you. The "high quality" of your person…
/r/ExRedPill04/04/21 01:57 PM
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He did know it would upset you. He wanted to make you uncomfortable and make you "get over it" on his timetable. It was a boundary-pushing moment. If you'd allowed him to insult you with that video and swallowed your pain about it, he'd have pushed further. And then further. Until you had no self left at all. It's what abusers do.
/r/ExRedPill25/03/21 07:55 PM
2

Location may not matter for getting a one-night stand, but it does for finding friends and long-term prospects.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/21 06:43 PM
3

"... if you look at relationships with ‘dead bedrooms’ they usually dissolve pretty quickly." Cite?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/21 04:26 PM
8

Why is "protection" so important? And why is protection against violence the only kind that counts? My husband and I have been protecting the hell out of each other for the past year by staying in lockdown, masking, and washing our hands. I bought him extra identity-theft insurance, because my workplace provides that as a benefit and he's an entrepreneur who could use it. He updates my computer while I sleep and gets rid of viruses. We protect each other.
/r/ExRedPill21/03/21 05:45 PM
2

I didn't mean to come across as condescending. I get that some people feel a calling to reach across boundaries and try to help. I've got to push back on defining this as a mere difference of opinions, though. My philosophy is that of the late James Baldwin: "We can disagree and still love each other unless your disagreement is rooted in my oppression and denial of my humanity and right to exist."
/r/ExRedPill20/03/21 07:26 PM
1

What do you think of the "review" below? If you're tempted to give it a lot of brain space ... you're still going to be vulnerable to these kinds of guys. "From a MGTOW Monk perspective ..." That's all you needed to hear. If you keep thinking these men have something worthwhile to teach you, you'll be their prey.
/r/ExRedPill19/03/21 10:11 PM
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Sex is a social, interpersonal act, so if you have poor or atypical social/interpersonal skills, sex is one of the things you will struggle with. It's unfortunate, but it isn't anyone's fault. The complaint of a porn shortage is ... unique. There's more porn out there than ever before.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/21 04:57 PM
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First of all, stop reading toxic gender shit on Reddit. Really, it's godawful here. Ban yourself or put in site blockers or something. Secondly, history, short version: Yes, women as a class have usually been oppressed relative to men. However, there are many many individual exceptions, and even in the darkest, most backward times and places, there are remarkable stories of love and friendship. And until the 19th and 20th centuries, the idea of human rights at all didn't exist in the public mind…
/r/ExRedPill19/03/21 11:36 AM
2

Don't swipe right on every girl, Tinder algorithms will tank you for that.
/r/ExRedPill18/03/21 08:46 PM
1

No, I never have. I just--like, any ONE comment that the OP mentions, and the guy would see and hear nothing of me but my dust and the trailing, fading sounds of my peals of laughter. I don't ever give second chances on shit like that. Why on earth would I? Even if a guy's not a straight-up misogynist, anyone who thinks Jordan Peterson is profound is ... not going to be someone I can have a rewarding conversation with. So why bother? There are so many awesome men in the world--because don't get …
/r/ExRedPill18/03/21 01:53 PM
1

Thanks! Yes, all of this advice applies just as much to men.
/r/ExRedPill17/03/21 08:19 PM
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Be an assertive woman with confidence and strong boundaries. Geek out over your interests and dress to please your own aesthetic. Laugh loud. Find people who share your values and don't spend emotional energy on those who don't. Take the initiative to be kind to men--compliment a colleague on a job well done or an outfit well put together, make eye contact and small talk with store clerks occasionally. Misogynists will avoid you. (Signed, a 53-year-old woman who has done this successfully all he…
/r/ExRedPill16/03/21 07:49 PM
1

Both simps and red-pillers are trying to manipulate women into "giving" them sex. There's also the alternative of not trying to do that. Of trying, instead, to find the beauty in yourself, and other people, and the world. Learning how to make authentic connections with all kinds of people in all kinds of situations. Getting to know your body and be comfortable in it.
/r/ExRedPill16/03/21 12:38 PM
1

I could not agree more! This applies not only to romantic relationships but friendships too. If you want to end the loneliness epidemic, make the economy more humane, as it was in the post-war era when labor, business, and the government were more equally balanced. People working 50+ hours with commutes, just-in-time scheduling & shift work, etc.--people do not have the downtime to create informal communities as they used to. And those communities are so important as a source of both social vett…
/r/ExRedPill15/03/21 09:23 PM
1

I could not agree more! This applies not only to romantic relationships but friendships too. If you want to end the loneliness epidemic, make the economy more humane, as it was in the post-war era when labor, business, and the government were more equally balanced. People working 50+ hours with commutes, just-in-time scheduling & shift work, etc.--people do not have the downtime to create informal communities as they used to. And those communities are so important as a source of both social vett…
/r/ExRedPill15/03/21 09:22 PM
1

I could not agree more! This applies not only to romantic relationships but friendships too. If you want to end the loneliness epidemic, make the economy more humane, as it was in the post-war era when labor, business, and the government were more equally balanced. People working 50+ hours with commutes, just-in-time scheduling & shift work, etc.--people do not have the downtime to create informal communities as they used to. And those communities are so important as a source of both social vett…
/r/ExRedPill15/03/21 09:22 PM
6

Passion and internal motivation is hot. So is self-knowledge and empathy. A lot of guys who are successful in business or the professions have those qualities. Soulless corporate climbing, ambition for the sake of ambition, bringing competitiveness and market values into every domain of human interaction are very much not hot. A lot of successful guys have those qualities. Laughing out loud at your second statement. If you don't get the extra level of creepiness of building a fucking software pr…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/21 09:03 PM
16

They're ... not attractive. And I don't mean physically. Zuckerberg doesn't have any soul behind his eyes, and he invented Facebook in order to allow guys to rate the attractiveness of female classmates. All four of them are exploitative more or less by definition. Musk is straight-up nutso. Gates seems the most human of the four. You're going some to assume that a divorce or a tumultuous romantic life = "getting screwed over by women."
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/21 08:17 PM
1

Imagine a bell curve distribution with people who are attracted to EVERYONE at the right tail end and people who are attracted to NO ONE at the left. You're closer to the left tail end. And that's fine. But you'll do better if you recognize that this distribution exists, and that you might be in a less-populated segment of it, and govern your partner-seeking accordingly, without being judgmental or clueless about other people's sexual psychology. There is a huge, huge range of human sexual behav…
/r/ExRedPill15/03/21 01:22 PM
1

"incels hate that sexuality/lust behaviour exists " ^ That sounds pretty low-sex-drive/asexual/sex-negative to me, bro. And you say you don't want girls to feel lust, or desire sexual good times. So, y'know ... find one who's asexual. They're out there. But get it out of your head that that's some kind of ideal. It's just an orientation.
/r/ExRedPill15/03/21 11:54 AM
1

Find a woman who is asexual or has a low sex drive, as you do.
/r/ExRedPill15/03/21 10:48 AM
15

It don't even exist in wolves.
/r/ExRedPill11/03/21 11:46 PM
6

I see the same thing with incels. I've tried to talk to them about sex-positive communities and polyamory--as in, those are places where nerdy introverts of moderate attractiveness are having a LOT of sex and men are not judged according to height or income--and wow, are they negative about it. They don't want the system that they complain about (patriarchy, basically) to be dismantled--they just want to be successful within that system.
/r/ExRedPill08/03/21 12:29 PM
4

Because life is easier with a partner. I want someone who has my back, who's "my person" for life's hard moments and for whom I can be the same. I want to build a life with someone (and I have), where we combine strengths and achieve things together that we couldn't have on our own. I want someone to witness my life and I want to see the world through another person's eyes.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/21 09:41 PM
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Not the thing you asked for, but you're a strong and empathetic person. And you write well. I'm sorry you've had to deal with this. My mother had an ideologically nuts sister and I know the pain those relationships can call.
/r/ExRedPill05/03/21 11:12 PM
1

This is absolutely foreign to me. For one thing, a shit-ton of my female friends are queer. And a fair number of us are polyamorous, so "I can get your man" isn't exactly the devastating insult it might be in other circles--more a promise of some blissful time alone in the house. ("You can? Can you get him in time for 'WandaVision'?") And the idea that my or any of our husbands would be turnt just because a prettier woman made a pass at them? Not happening. In general, I tend to lick my wounds b…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/21 03:22 PM
6

Sure bro. In between banging those 800 women. Cool story.
/r/ExRedPill27/02/21 06:06 PM
6

He can't explain that "logical" link, he can only sneer at people who don't immediately grasp it.
/r/ExRedPill27/02/21 03:54 PM
1

Yes, she clearly meant this 100% sincerely. /eyeroll
/r/AntiFeminists27/02/21 03:26 PM
18

Do you understand that fascism dehumanizes and devalues many/most groups of people? Your friends aren't disconnecting or "censoring" you because you're edgy, it's because the things you say actually hurt them. Because those ideas have led to people being tortured, enslaved, killed. You're demanding a non-straw-man argument when your own core belief--that "out of all the guys who like her.. [a woman] will choose the one who is genetically and economically superior"--is dancing on the Yellow Brick…
/r/ExRedPill27/02/21 08:19 AM
6

Yes, it's actually healthy for relationships for both parties to have other sources of friendship and social support. If your partner is the only close relationship you have--that's too much pressure. And of course it's good to have a wide range of friendly acquaintances in various walks of life. And yeah, I "secretly want sex" from a lot of my friends, and we're still friends! Falling madly in unrequited love would be a problem, but I find a lot of my friends sexually attractive. I assume that …
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/21 01:45 AM
8

Maybe they're not "beta orbiters," but actually friends? Crazy talk, I know.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/21 01:15 AM
15

Men could date older women if they just want to have a good time, then.
/r/ExRedPill26/02/21 10:25 PM
1

Abusers hurt a lot of people besides their victims. Like everyone who cares about their victims.
/r/ExRedPill26/02/21 09:56 PM
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Because their bullshit only works on women with limited life experience.
/r/ExRedPill26/02/21 08:45 PM
1

Height and income aren't comparable metrics at all. One is a physical trait and the other has a lot of implications around lifestyle, values, and so forth.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/21 03:18 PM
3

The post isn't calling for honorifics to be abolished.
/r/AntiFeminists26/02/21 12:10 PM
2

It would be so interesting to see what he'd do if you just replied, "Could be" every time he says something outrageous.
/r/ExRedPill16/02/21 12:46 AM
9

He's clearly getting energy from these arguments, and they drain you. Stop the vampirism, lol.
/r/ExRedPill15/02/21 10:45 PM
8

Don't let him drag you into arguments. He's treating you badly. He will not listen. Absent yourself from the relationship. I'm not saying break up with him, just ... go on strike. No arguments. Also no connection. Grey rock him (google it). He'll either become a person again, or this process will make it much easier for you to leave him.
/r/ExRedPill15/02/21 10:28 PM
2

For some reason I heard that in the voice of Jesse Pinkman from "Breaking Bad" and it made me laugh out loud.
/r/ExRedPill09/02/21 12:27 AM
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Be the discussion you want to see in the world and quit blaming women, dude.
/r/ExRedPill08/02/21 11:21 PM
2

You start off by talking about "whores who will cheat on you" and then move into talking about body count, as if these two things were related.
/r/ExRedPill06/02/21 04:48 PM
42

Yep. I have plenty of single women friends who'd like to be married--to the right guy. Not having found him, they've made rich lives with friends, work, art, pets, politics, their faith communities, etc. They may be sad that they didn't get the romantic life they wanted, but nobody gets everything they want in life. I don't know any women who obsess over their singleness the way manosphere guys do.
/r/ExRedPill02/02/21 02:05 PM
9

I believe the world events of the past four years, particularly the last year, have proven decisively that women are in no way more emotional, irrational, or less suited for leadership than men.
/r/ExRedPill30/01/21 04:48 PM
2

You didn't look up "covert narcissism," did you? LOL.
/r/ExRedPill15/01/21 04:50 PM
2

Oh honey you go look up "covert narcissism." (Then go over to an incel sub to see it in action!)
/r/ExRedPill15/01/21 12:22 PM
2

That's because the only women who will put up with that kind of behavior have BPD. You're not going to attract or keep an emotionally healthy woman with that behavior. Only a drama addict who is already deathly afraid of abandonment.
/r/ExRedPill15/01/21 12:22 PM
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I've heard red pill described as a guide for NPD men to seduce BPD women.
/r/ExRedPill13/01/21 12:44 AM
2

This is the question they never answer.
/r/MensRights11/01/21 10:58 PM
9

I'm a woman, not a "female," and no, I've never done this and neither has anyone I know.
/r/ExRedPill05/12/20 08:32 PM
4

lots of creepy or bad attention is better than absolutely none. No it isn't.
/r/ExRedPill22/11/20 12:44 PM
3

That's wholly untrue about "cute." It's been female slang for "attractive" since forever.
/r/ExRedPill14/11/20 10:52 PM
8

What are you hoping will be the (or an) end result of this discussion?
/r/ExRedPill09/11/20 10:07 PM
5

In that good guys make sure she comes first, yes (unless previously negotiated of course).
/r/ExRedPill08/11/20 09:14 PM
1

I am not dismissing your experience AT ALL when I say this: You sound awesome. Like a very cool person to know. I'm sorry you're struggling. Have you found any kind of arts community that is supportive? In terms of friendship and being accepted for who you are? If your visual art isn't connecting you with people, maybe think about doing work for performing artists (once THAT'S a thing again, sigh) -- album art, stage design? The arts community isn't perfect, but articulate sensitive men are appr…
/r/ExRedPill08/11/20 07:26 PM
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