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Nathaniel Branden writes about this extensively in most of his books. It is your self concept. What you believe about yourself or the reputation you have with yourself. Everything emanates from your self concept. Your thoughts, emotions, and behaviors. If you feel like you’re a loser then you will be a loser who feels like any bit of success is a chance of fate or luck. If you feel like a winner and a champion then success will feel natural to you. It’s not luck, it’s deserved.
/r/TheRedPill11/02/19 11:23 PM
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Lmao I never thought of the owner as plate material... Until now...
/r/askTRP08/02/19 10:28 PM
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This is probably the best thing to keep in mind. It’s all going to come down to my frame.
/r/askTRP08/02/19 09:52 PM
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That’s pretty much the mindset I’m trying to take on here. Obviously it sucks and there’s the initial shock of being fired after an incident like this but you’re right. People get fired all the time. It’s not like I was making a crazy amount of money in this manager position and this gym is not the be all end all of the world.
/r/askTRP08/02/19 09:39 PM
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It’s a good idea, although he is prone to these compulsive decisions quite often, and can be extremely two faced. I don’t wish to work under someone like that anyway. So if they are going to punish me for something like this then maybe it was a blessing in disguise.
/r/askTRP08/02/19 09:07 PM
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I currently have 20k in savings, and a small side hobby that I can profit from a little bit. I have a few people I can reach out to for the sake of finding another job to hold me over. I’m also a Certified Personal Trainer, and although I haven’t actually put that to use yet(because I had no time with the manager job) I do have that option to get started. Either at a gym or doing online coaching. There was no major fuckup, even though I know it was based on that cleaning incident, they didn’t sa…
/r/askTRP08/02/19 09:05 PM
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Yes. Move on and start from scratch with a more rigorous vetting process.
/r/askTRP02/02/19 02:59 AM
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And this is only what she’s told you. Imagine the shit she’s still keeping secret? Run
/r/askTRP01/02/19 07:37 PM
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With a strong frame you can do whatever you want. Be spontaneous, be a leader, have a plan, have no plan. It doesn’t matter. Exude a confidence that you have total belief in yourself at all times and not only will your GF follow bit so will others. People want and need to be around those people who appear to have the answers. Sounds to me like a shit test. Laugh and make fun of her. Don’t be afraid to walk away if she causes added drama.
/r/askTRP01/02/19 07:35 PM
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He could initiate whenever he pleases. He’s steering this ship and she’ll be lucky if he reaches out again at all. *if this isn’t your mindset then it should be.
/r/askTRP30/01/19 11:32 PM
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Unfortunately behaviors such as these are not shit tests. You have been acting correctly by not listening, acting disinterested, and not acknowledging what she is saying. As you can see, it’s still not working. That is why these are not necessarily shit tests, because you cannot pass them. You can only diffuse the behavior in the moment, or act hurt and consequently be seen as weak. (So you either move laterally or move down). It is a systemic problem on her end. She is clearly prone to behavior…
/r/askTRP30/01/19 07:54 AM
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She’s your LTR and you’re asking her for nudes? Why? Why are you guys not just fucking? If you are, then in the time away from her you should be working on your mission or being a productive man working towards a higher purpose, not sitting around jerking off to nudes.
/r/askTRP29/01/19 08:26 PM
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This is really, really bad, and I suggest you abort this endeavor and never speak of it again. Regardless of your “game” here, don’t bother giving girls who give wishy washy answers any extra effort.
/r/askTRP29/01/19 06:16 AM
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By internalizing it. When genuinely internalized, when it is truly felt as truth by you, it will emanate in your behavior. The way you speak, the way you move, everything will reflect a man of abundance. It is a paradox. You cannot genuinely be in a state of caring and be care free about the same subject at one time. You either care or you don’t. Once you find yourself not caring about loosing her, then you’ll know you’ve made progress. You will find the need to ask questions like this silly in …
/r/askTRP29/01/19 05:40 AM
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Agreed. I do not believe these are shit tests either.
/r/askTRP29/01/19 03:00 AM
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There’s a lot wrong here. I’ve come to the conclusion that all women will, to varying degrees eventually start to spill information on their orbiters and the various forms of attention they get from guys in order to prop up their own value/ego. They want to show you that they are in demand. That guys want them. The proper course of action is to never acknowledge what they say. Ignore. Brush it off. Say as little as humanly possible. The moment you start to entertain her and listen to her talk ab…
/r/askTRP29/01/19 02:57 AM
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Yes for all the reasons others listed like social standing and practice, but in Nathaniel Brandon’s book The Six Pillars of Self Esteem he talks about the concept of Reciprocal Causality. Basically it states that practicing behaviors that you wish to internalize and make automatic is important. The more you hold frame when it’s tough to do so, or when you’re thinking it’s pointless to, it creates a feedback loop for your brain. You see that you’re able to hold frame, and the belief is instilled …
/r/askTRP27/01/19 10:23 PM
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“I was growing and developing my online business” - could be as simple as buying and reselling things online
/r/askTRP24/01/19 11:00 PM
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100%. I’m sensing a set of turkey tits on this guy that no mortal man has ever seen before.
/r/askTRP20/01/19 05:58 AM
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This is your concern right now?
/r/askTRP20/01/19 02:56 AM
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You need divine intervention at this point.
/r/askTRP20/01/19 02:22 AM
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Did you use a condom?
/r/askTRP20/01/19 01:04 AM
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It’s been a fucking horrendous day for questions
/r/askTRP19/01/19 03:52 AM
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How about you just have one of us here have sex with her too
/r/askTRP19/01/19 03:49 AM
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What the fuck is happening to this sub
/r/askTRP18/01/19 07:14 PM
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The one you prefer to have yourself, & that isn’t dependent on the transitory and warped opinions of others.
/r/askTRP17/01/19 06:32 PM
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Agreed, knowing what you want is key. If you call her a plate yet treat her as a girlfriend, giving her a response fit for a plate could blow up the whole thing. Nothing wrong with an LTR but I personally get a bad gut feeling when they initiate a talk of any kind way too soon. (Use your judgement here whether or not you think it’s too soon OP). When they bring up the talk too soon it makes me feel like the person they’re with doesn’t matter, it could be anyone, they’re just anxious to be in an …
/r/askTRP17/01/19 04:32 AM
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1) do not LTR girls in college 2) do not LTR girls that go clubbing 3) she has beta orbiters, and if you don’t get out now, you’re gunna be one of them
/r/askTRP16/01/19 04:16 AM
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1) why are you LTR’ing a girl that goes out with herds of males 2) who cares, because you’ve got options 3) if she’s going to cheat then let her, and let it save you time so you can move on. She’s going to suck that cock either way whether you like it or not (again, if you’ve vetted her properly then you should not need to feel this insecurity)
/r/askTRP08/01/19 08:45 PM
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On a deeper & less superficial sense, there really is no such thing as “value”. Your joy and fulfillment in life should not hinge in external things and what you have to offer other people. As in, you should not feel depressed if you’re ugly, short, less wealthy than someone else, less popular than someone else. These things are not really YOU. However on the level of women, dating, sex, or really just day to day interactions with people in general, value is a thing. What you have to offer IS yo…
/r/askTRP05/01/19 07:15 PM
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It’s a somewhat vicious cycle, because if you’re jerking off to porn excessively, then you will inevitably suffer from porn induced erectile dysfunction. So when you do, it affects you psychologically each and every time you have sex, because you’re too anxious worrying about “am I going to be able to get it up?” And god forbid you feel as though you’re not going to be able to, because that’ll make you even more anxious, and kill any chance of it happening. So, what you need to do is cut out all…
/r/askTRP05/01/19 12:21 AM
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The importance of not deluding yourself ^ I liked this tough live comment.
/r/askTRP04/01/19 01:48 AM
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Whenever I’ve talked about RP concepts (big mistake on my end to begin with), I’ve actually noticed that some of my friends are rather receptive to it and take to the ideas rather quickly. I feel this is because what we discuss here is the truth, and on a deep fundamental level it resonates with them and they know it to be true too. However, when heavy stuff like “there is no one”, and la woman can never love you in the way you expect her to”, then there is major resistance and downright anger. …
/r/askTRP28/12/18 04:59 AM
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Thank you sir, and this is why I come here.
/r/askTRP23/12/18 08:12 PM
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Lmao my god. The girl I’ve been seeing calls me aloof/frustrating/annoying all the time. Meanwhile, we have sex multiple times per week, she cooks me dinner, makes me breakfast, I eat/fuck her ass. She’s also texted me that she finds the aloofness endearing and wants to “crack the code”. Trust me brother, lean towards being an aloof asshole when in doubt. Sure, it’s never always black and white and some comfort is needed. But never, never open up fully. About your problems, about your deepest fe…
/r/askTRP23/12/18 05:18 AM
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This girl has zero intention of meeting. I’ve had tinder for 3 years and unfortunately I know the trends all too well. Next and move on.
/r/askTRP06/12/18 06:46 PM
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Cardio, meditation, and removing the unhealthy habits from your life. cellphone porn jerking off YouTube high sugar foods Just to name a few. These are the popular instant gratification choices
/r/askTRP06/12/18 03:49 AM
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It depends on your frequency. How many guys do you know that jerkoff once per month in the year 2018. The average frequency is more like 1-2 per day,and pornography is most likely involved each time. The problem isn’t so much jerking off so I do agree with you that the occasional masturbation with no porn involved is natural. However it’s the pornography that acts like a drug, similar to cocaine.
/r/askTRP06/12/18 03:47 AM
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It has to do with your dopamine reward system being fucked with. As I understand it, dopamine is the chemical primarily associated with motivation, ambition, drive, etc.
/r/askTRP05/12/18 06:22 PM
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Can already tell by your genetics that you have he foundation for an incredible physique. Legs looking awesome. Definitely keep bulking. Reap those gains while your test levels are still sky high at a you age
/r/askTRP28/11/18 12:50 AM
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Had a girl no show our scheduled date, then the following day she apologized but also said “in my defense I was really drunk when we made the plans” Not her most endearing moment. She was nexted minutes after.
/r/askTRP26/11/18 02:48 AM
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You fuckin head for the hills
/r/askTRP24/11/18 06:48 AM
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Lmao
/r/askTRP24/11/18 06:47 AM
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Fuck. That. Bitch.
/r/askTRP23/11/18 10:05 PM
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Porn has a big impact. It wreaks absolute havoc on your dopamine reward system and one of the effects is anxiety. Also irritability. You’re like a junky who’s nervous about getting his next fix, irritable to be talking to someone when you’d rather be watching porn, and also incredibly nervous that your disgusting habit will be found out, leading you to interact while appearing to be hiding something.
/r/askTRP22/11/18 04:53 PM
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It depends on what you want first and foremost. If she’s a plate yet in the back of your mind you were holding out hope for a LTR with her, this is most likely the reason why you’re hesitant to next her. If she was just a plate, and you had no emotional bond, and also several other plates to fuck with zero intention of LTR’ing any of them, then a soft next would suffice, while you eventually fuck her again and continue to do so without any care. Why would her vile snaps offend you? What would yo…
/r/askTRP21/11/18 06:48 PM
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No, it is not.
/r/askTRP20/11/18 04:24 PM
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Yes.
/r/askTRP20/11/18 04:24 PM
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I am a pretty big wwe fan, and CM Punk, known for being straight edge, and a self proclaimed loner was also known as one of the biggest chick magnets in the company. He’s skinny fat, like comic books, and overall “nerdy shit”. Women have described his no fucks given lifestyle as sexy.
/r/askTRP20/11/18 03:51 AM
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I’m very confused. So she’s been anally ravaged by at least 5 men by the age of 18?
/r/askTRP20/11/18 12:50 AM
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She’s 18.
/r/askTRP20/11/18 12:49 AM
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I agree with you. He’s a major beta and I truly cannot blame her for being a woman and doing woman things. I’m not saying I like the female nature but it is what it is. He had many opportunities to walk, or even stand up for himself during the relationship. He didn’t.
/r/TheRedPill19/11/18 11:06 PM
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It’s a very hard portion of the pill to swallow but one of the most essential. To realize that after you break up, she’s not looking out her window thinking of you, she’s not up at night in her bed missing you, she’s not sitting around listening to songs that remind her of you. That’s all in your head. It’s your projection. She’s off sucking cocks, love bombing a new guy just like she did to you. Not giving a single thought towards your existence.
/r/TheRedPill19/11/18 08:05 PM
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I saw my best friends GF do this to him after she cheated on him, and he proceeded to break up with her. Her - “I only kissed him, so what, you’re willing throw 2 years down the drain over that?” Somehow, her cheating on my friend became his fault.
/r/TheRedPill19/11/18 08:03 PM
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I’m pretty sure all you’d need is one singular text following the incident in question that shows she’s into you. Her text of “why are you so amazing” following the incident should be, for any rational human being to say “ok, there seems to have been consent”. Idk, that’s just my brain. You should be good. I’d just soft next and eventually go cold. You’ll be fine.
/r/askTRP19/11/18 02:23 AM
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Yeah I watched a girl eat fucking Arby’s in front of me and the sauce was dripping down her chin as she conversed with me. I didn’t even wanna touch her
/r/askTRP16/11/18 08:27 PM
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I get ONEitis to a certain degree with any chick that I vibe with and hangout out with for months on end. Not the one and done hookups, but the FWB’s that you have chemistry with. At this point, I live out many of the TRP principles (lift, read, meditate, keep texting to a minimum, remain stoic, etc), yet I try to live congruently with what feels right. Essentially I ride the wave. I’ll enjoy the ONEitis while it lasts. A counterintuitive approach in a way, as opposed to internally rejecting ONE…
/r/askTRP16/11/18 01:57 PM
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easy to make plans with. Doesn’t have slut friends (this one is huge. You can indirectly see hat kind of person she is by looking at her friends. Don’t buy that whole “oh I’m the grandma of the group” line either. Where there is smoke there is fire.) A low Snapchat score and low IG follower count. (Incredibly dumb thing to judge by but it’s 2018 and social media is apart of our lives now. The score and follower count shows how much of a validation whore she is or isn’t). Doesn’t have that “I’m b…
/r/askTRP16/11/18 01:49 PM
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I agree, however you’re supposed to ignore all of their attempts at contact during the soft next period right? Then establish contact again as if nothing happened after a few days/weeks. I’ve run into a similar problem as OP. They create drama, we soft next them and ignore their texts/snaps for a week or so as we do our own thing, then as we go to establish contact again with no mention of the drama, they act bitchy/disinterested, and eventually tell us they don’t want to speak anymore. Now. Tha…
/r/askTRP13/11/18 10:23 PM
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Go the George Costanza route and dump her first.
/r/askTRP12/11/18 07:58 PM
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It actually fucks up your dopamine reward system terribly. Your levels of motivation, ambition, and overall levels of pleasure and satisfaction in normal everyday things drop substantially.
/r/askTRP10/11/18 08:32 PM
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I know what you’re getting at OP. As someone who’s meditated pretty consistently for 2 plus years. The state of presence naturally provides an outlook of abundance and outcome independence. Presence means the thinking mind is muted. The thinking mind is the ego. By caring at all what happens or feeling like you’ve been disrespected, you’re not present. The solution: Keep meditating. You’ll find that the joy and fulfillment provided by the state of presence becomes much more enticing than women.
/r/TheRedPill10/11/18 07:16 PM
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Actually, there is. A tremendous amount can be learned from failures/rejections/plates breaking/breakups/etc. I think it’s extremely beneficial to look back and reflect on past situations in order to grow and learn. There’s a fine line however, between objectively wanting to learn from mistakes and ruminating on a ONEitiis you’re secretly still not over. But there is nothing wrong with OP trying to sharpen the saw by asking.
/r/askTRP02/11/18 11:01 PM
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I think it’s very important to establish a splitting of the bill from the very first date. So she knows what to expect. If she expects to be pampered and paid for like a queen then she can go seek out the cuck best fit to do that
/r/askTRP02/11/18 07:45 PM
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Lmao the tarot card reader was the icing on top
/r/askTRP31/10/18 08:30 PM
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It’s not your problem that you’re short, it’s their problem that they’re tall. Reframe it. Own it.
/r/askTRP30/10/18 02:02 PM
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Seriously. The power of frame. Act like it’s not a big deal at all and she won’t care.
/r/askTRP30/10/18 01:57 PM
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I currently have this problem and have for a while. Although I have noticed improvement. When I’m getting a BJ, I progress to rock hard boner. In the midst, I start to unwrap the condom. As I do this, much like you, I start I go soft to a degree. The thought of the impending condom starts to kill the strength of my boner. One thing that helped me A LOT was buying bigger condoms. I buy magnums now, because the standard size acts more or less like a turniqet and cuts off the blood supply to your J…
/r/askTRP28/10/18 11:51 PM
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It seriously cannot he overstated enough. If she’s pulling you inside of her raw, can you imagine how many strange cocks she’s let fuck her raw? This is the harsh reality.
/r/askTRP27/10/18 04:42 PM
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Vile. Next.
/r/askTRP25/10/18 02:11 AM
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However I would not be surprised if she says no this time. Girls love having the power and an opportunity to essentially “leave while winning”. He said no before and probably hurt her ego in the process. If he comes back asking, it’ll look like 1) he’s going back on his word and “crawling back to her”, and 2) it’ll give her a wide opening (in her mind) for HER to now say no and leave with her ego intact. Girls do this shit all the time.
/r/askTRP23/10/18 03:08 AM
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Go watch some porn cuck boy ;)
/r/askTRP23/10/18 03:03 AM
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Because you’re cucking yourself. Don’t be a little cuck boy
/r/askTRP22/10/18 08:33 PM
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I needed to hear this
/r/askTRP22/10/18 06:36 PM
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She sounds immature.
/r/askTRP22/10/18 04:25 AM
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It doesn’t sound like a shit test as much as it sounds like she’s just interested in you lol if through text brush it off with a “haha oh listen to ou”, or if in person, just smirk and pull her in for a kiss right then and there
/r/askTRP22/10/18 02:25 AM
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I’ve experienced the same thing
/r/TheRedPill22/10/18 12:17 AM
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What I’ve been doing recently is keeping it lighthearted/humorous, so when they send a nude I say “my my” or “my oh my”, something like that, then just ignoring them until hours later or responding the next day with a change of subject. Never elaborating on what I meant or what I thought of their pic. It’s a slippery slope. You’d think it would be sweet getting nudes, but as soon as you validate them they start to lose attraction. Keep them guessing.
/r/askTRP21/10/18 09:43 PM
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Next him.
/r/askTRP20/10/18 06:41 PM
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Woah buddy. She approached you at a store? Then texts you this? Idk dude, this sounds super fucking sketchy. Like she’s planning to to set you up & rob you, or worse. Not worth it. Block and ghost.
/r/askTRP20/10/18 06:39 PM
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I personally feel as though when she starts to say stuff like, you’re boring, etc. She he rationalizing out loud her impending branch swing onto another cock. Which, sounds like it will be the jock guy. But I mean hey, you can’t stop hypergamy, so if this relationship benefits your life, then I wouldn’t even care if she fucks him. Go ahead, let her do whatever out there, she’s going to to it regardless. All the while, start accumulating some other options for yourself, and fuck some chicks while…
/r/askTRP18/10/18 09:38 PM
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Fuck no. Especially after she flat out said “let’s see if you’re willing to wait for this pussy”. If you are, then that is your problem. Work on yourself until you are literally, genuinely, not willing to wait any pussy. Take your willingness as a sign that you are not yet where you need to be.
/r/askTRP18/10/18 05:22 PM
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Many probing questions. Ex: what are you looking for? Are you sleeping with other girls? What do you think of me? Are we going to see each other again? What are we? Where is this going? Do you like me? Are we going to be exclusive? On top of these, generally trying to get you to open up, which I would suggest staying rather stoic and not allowing yourself to become “vulnerable”. Keep your guard up and do not reveal too much about yourself. Keep it light and playful.
/r/askTRP18/10/18 03:55 PM
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Could be a weak dick game, but also consider: are you well groomed? Did you shave and clean your fucking ass before hooking up with them? Do you smell good? (Aka: shower), are you talking way too much and failing the all too common shit tests post sex? Expanding your scope of awareness here is key
/r/askTRP18/10/18 03:06 PM
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Bingo. I think you nailed it here, as did another guy when he said you lease them. That’s how I view them, but I can’t help but few this guilt or sense of being “wrong” for that point of view. Is that still blue pilled conditioning?
/r/askTRP18/10/18 03:03 PM
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Possessions is probably a bad term to use. The time you spend with any woman is fleeting. It has a shelf life. But so does the new shirt you bought or the new car you purchased. They stick around/last for a while, then they go. This is more so what I meant, rather than ownership/permanence.
/r/askTRP18/10/18 04:27 AM
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The number of profound insights in this post is overwhelming. It resonated with me to the core.
/r/TheRedPill18/10/18 03:30 AM
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I struggle with this a lot. When a woman is turned off, do I accept full responsibility and accept that I demonstrated beta behaviors that ultimately turned her off? Or, is it truly woman’s hypergamy? Did she just find someone she perceived as better? It’s a difficult balancing act, at least for me
/r/TheRedPill17/10/18 06:51 PM
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Yeah, this was like a searing knife in the gut
/r/TheRedPill17/10/18 05:47 PM
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That’s so fucked up
/r/askTRP17/10/18 04:44 PM
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Lmao why does he fucking start jerking off in front of you randomly??
/r/askTRP17/10/18 04:25 PM
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You’re right. I suppose what I meant by that it may not be 100% accurate is that it is not articulated down to a tee. But the proper way to handle this shit test is to not be/show butt hurt, laugh as if amused, and carry on just hanging out. Post date, withdraw attention and start gaming other girls. When she does reach out though, do not act angrily or short with her. Be yourself, stay humorous and keep things light, but you must make her miss you. Dread of course doesn’t really work (for long …
/r/askTRP17/10/18 02:15 AM
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Boom. Had a girl to this exact thing to me. My guess is that she is trying to establish that she controls the sex/frame before they enter into a relationship. Basically OP has been behaving in boyfriend ways to her, which is fine if that’s what he wants. She has picked up on this, also fine, but is now deploying a simple shit test (withholding sex). This is the start of her crafting & molding him into the beta provider who enters the relationship in her frame, and stays there. This may not be 10…
/r/askTRP17/10/18 12:29 AM
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Reddit name checks out
/r/askTRP16/10/18 09:55 PM
1

Lmao I’m the same way. I feel like they could have the massive shits as we’re fucking or something. One time I had to bail on a date after seeing a girl get Arby’s and the sauce was all over her face. That was it for me.
/r/askTRP16/10/18 08:05 PM
1

Yeah, girls literally refuse to answer that question all the time, so it’s perfectly acceptable for a man to do it as well
/r/askTRP16/10/18 05:23 PM
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Is there a real difference between shit testing and being a bitchy cunt? Like literally non stop complaining and passive aggressive behavior for seemingly no reason? I notice the latter comes from women who are very miserable in their personal life, and their passive aggressiveness is often displaced anger/projection
/r/askTRP16/10/18 04:46 PM
1

This is the rational view. I do not want to burn all of my money in rent either. My initial plan was to get a house. But my credit is extremely low as of rn. I am not so much concerned with chicks, it’ll be an added bonus to have my own place but it will be far more conducive to enter into monk mode when I need to. To meditate, avoid the hindrances that are my parents, and grow. Living at home allows me to pocket almost all of my earnings. That’s why I’m thinking that creating a schedule to wher…
/r/askTRP16/10/18 03:59 AM
12

So basically there will be very little drop off if any between the reddit mobile app and this? It looks awesome. Are all posts archived as well? Like literally every post from TRP reddit?
/r/TheRedPill15/10/18 03:23 PM
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Soft next. If she wants to bang him she will. And it sounds to me like she’s thinking about it heavily (we know women like money, status, etc). Start accumulating other options for yourself now.
/r/askTRP12/10/18 06:13 PM
1

Stop calling them, and stop contacting them afterwards altogether. Let them come to you .
/r/askTRP11/10/18 07:14 PM
7

But what good does that mindset do OP or anyone else? Why wouldn’t he just assume attraction? Assume she was interested and wants to cheat but is hesitant. If she doesn’t then she won’t and her actions will reflect that.
/r/askTRP11/10/18 02:01 AM
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She would have never given you her number if she wasn’t interested. She’s handing you the keys, Captain. She knows talking to you isn’t “right”, due to the BF. However, she’s giving you the reigns to pass this test, give her plausible deniability, and to lead the interaction. How this ship is steered is up to you. Ahoy.
/r/askTRP10/10/18 07:33 PM
12

People are largely unconscious meaning that they dwell on the superficial level, where things like employment, wealth, social circle, physical appearance, clothes, and status overall define your worth. Is this accurate? Not really. Spend a few months meditating and you’ll see that none of this actually defines you as a person. The idea of “worth” or “value” actually starts to make less and less sense to you. However, on this superficial level (you can call it the level of the ego I suppose), the…
/r/askTRP10/10/18 02:50 AM
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Then what does her past matter. Wrap up.
/r/askTRP09/10/18 03:47 AM
15

Define what you want first. Do you want to spin plates, or do you want an LTR.
/r/askTRP09/10/18 03:18 AM
4

No worries dude, at the end of the day it’s all learning experience. One step closer to becoming the person you know you’re capable of becoming. Don’t even bring it up. Act as if nothing happened, build tension, eye contact, flirt, escalate, make your move.
/r/askTRP08/10/18 12:59 AM
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Her ego took a massive hit when you alluded to the 10 girls, which you shouldn’t have done. I would’ve said like 10,000 or something unbelievable. Whether she did or not, which she probably did, idk, she said what she said to try and make herself more valuable/bring herself back up while simultaneously knocking you down/hurting your ego. Definitely not LTR worthy. I hate when chicks go out of their way unnecessarily to make you jealous.
/r/askTRP08/10/18 12:27 AM
2

Run
/r/askTRP07/10/18 05:56 AM
2

Yeah I’d probably go this route. Now if she hasn’t brought up the talk then you very well may be her plate and she wants to keep things strictly FWB as others have suggested. However, you won’t really be sure of that until you ask. If she doesn’t want to go the LTR route then you’ll at least know But, since you’re saying she’s showing all the signs of wanting to be LTR’d, go for it. I’ve made this mistake a few times where I was a complete autist with the red pill framework, thinking I had to fo…
/r/askTRP05/10/18 06:53 PM
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You are under no obligation to just spin plates. If you desire an LTR, go for it if you think it will be an added bonus to your already awesome life (notice how I’m operating under the assumption that you have your shit together. If not, then do not LTR, and continue to work on yourself). If you do have your shit together, and you understand AWALT, and that this will likely not last forever, that the possibility of her cheating on you with whom she perceives to be someone more “alpha” than you i…
/r/askTRP05/10/18 05:16 PM
1

This has the makings of a Seinfeld episode
/r/askTRP04/10/18 06:07 PM
1

It’s just how they are. It’s the name of the game. It truly is a numbers game as a high percentage of women, especially on apps, are not serious about ever meeting. The majority of the time, they downloaded the app due to having just split from their boyfriend or whoever. Through the apps they are seeking someone to fill the void left by their now ex. All they really want is a texting buddy to make those withdrawals pains go away. Don’t take their flaking personal. It’s also common to get some s…
/r/askTRP04/10/18 03:06 PM
2

Tell her if she wants fucking 500 dollars a week to go be a prostitute. Offer her 30 bucks per night
/r/askTRP04/10/18 03:49 AM
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It sounds like she’s desperate for money, I would low ball her severely. She’ll end up taking whatever you offer in the end
/r/askTRP03/10/18 10:57 PM
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Read. And internalize the material until it just becomes who your are and they way you now do things. A few recommendations: The Power Of Now The 6 pillars of self esteem No more mr nice guy 7 habits of highly effective people
/r/askTRP03/10/18 10:53 PM
1

Before anything else I must ask, are you by chance a pirate
/r/askTRP03/10/18 04:55 PM
4

We’ve got a pulse
/r/askTRP03/10/18 02:42 PM
1

So far this is the best
/r/askTRP03/10/18 02:23 AM
1

OP, serious question. What is it that you want from this girl? Do you wish to have sex with her say, once a week and maintain very little contact in between? Do you wish to have sex with her yet also do fun things together occasionally? Still remaining non exclusive? Or do you wish to share intimacy with her, and exclusively see/fuck only her? Establishing what you want is extremely important. Knowing the definition of a plate, FWB, and LTR is as well. You cannot really “soft next” a girl and ha…
/r/askTRP03/10/18 12:30 AM
6

Cue the Aerosmith
/r/askTRP02/10/18 07:07 PM
3

Things with that girl ended. It was an important experience to have. I kept calling her a plate, however due to being busy with work and also just having rather spend my time doing things I prefer to do like read, lift, etc, I was only seeing her. So she was more so like a gf. I called her a plate, but the dynamic was bf/gf. She had undeniable objective red flags that were not changing, and disqualified her from an LTR regardless of the fun things we did throughout the summer. (Divorced, heroin …
/r/askTRP02/10/18 05:20 AM
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I had a similar experience recently where the TRP community woke me up to what I considered a plate and something more so on the lines of a FWB or girlfriend. It sounds like you desire something more than a plate, which is totally fine. A plate however is just for fucking. If you want more, than you have to first become aware of that desire and embrace it. If that’s what brings you joy, then go for it. The best way I can describe it, as it happened to me as well, is that you’re struggling to pin…
/r/askTRP02/10/18 04:44 AM
2

No, this is Patrick.
/r/askTRP02/10/18 12:46 AM
2

1) she can never love you in the same way you expect her to 2) the importance of prioritizing your mission over women (and women being byproducts) 3) frame
/r/askTRP01/10/18 06:16 PM
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Do not meet her, especially since you haven’t fucked her. My guess is she wants you back as an orbiter. God only knows how many cocks she’s sucked and loads she swallowed in the last 5 months. Think about that the next time you imagine kissing her.
/r/askTRP29/09/18 07:57 PM
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ONEitis is developing which is natural, but you need to scale back on this girl immediately. Continue wearing condoms at all costs. Understand that all girls WILL be talking to and most likely fucking multiple guys at once when not exclusive, and even when exclusive they’re one tingle away from cheating. Once you accept this, genuinely, you start to care less. Save yourself a lot of heartache and detach now. Actively set up dates with other girls
/r/askTRP29/09/18 04:56 AM
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Thanks a lot man. My ONEitis came back around into my life mid December of last year and I found TRP by January 1st. It took all of two weeks for my fear of loss to kick in and seek out advice. It turned out to be one of the best things to ever happen to me
/r/askTRP28/09/18 10:25 PM
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Bingo. That just summed it up perfectly
/r/askTRP28/09/18 03:36 PM
5

Some of my darkest times came in college. I was a total beta loser, and I hung out with no one. I had a single room which I holed up in. Jerking off and wasting my college years being depressed. I didn’t go out, I had such bad anxiety that I didn’t even want to leave my dorm aside from going to the gym. It was not until my last 7 weeks of college did I discover that I had total control over my thoughts, emotions, and life in general. This was discovered by way of meditation. I used my isolation …
/r/askTRP28/09/18 03:34 PM
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I’d say the most important thing to understand is that DP/DR is not permanent. There have been thousands and thousands of people confirming that they recovered from it, myself included. Most of the time you find it to be just anxiety. Also, you’re not the outlier, and your case isn’t worse than anyone else’s. This is important because each person with DPDR feels as though they’ll be the one never break free from it. You can. Remember: if you’re feeling fear, you’re thinking. Thoughts cause emoti…
/r/askTRP28/09/18 03:30 PM
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Thank you. My confidence levels have totally shifted for the better now knowing I can lay the hammer down .
/r/askTRP28/09/18 03:27 PM
3

At this point in time I am the happiest I’ve ever been. I find myself wowed at points throughout the day at how much more peaceful and fulfilled I am, as compared to this time last year, which I describe as the literal incarnation of hell. (Depersonalization). Getting over my ONEitis was brutal. But it was also one of the most important experiences I’ve ever had, and it was the catalyst for me finding TRP. Again, I am wowed at some points throughout the day. Whenever the occasional thought does …
/r/askTRP28/09/18 03:26 PM
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Can confirm this is a real occurrence. But what I have noticed is that they are more so testing your new found frame to see if this new change is genuine. It comes off in a belittling, passive aggressive, insulting type of way, but what is happening is that they have taken notice of your change, are afraid of “falling behind”, and want to know what you’re doing that got you there. If your change and new found frame is genuine, and you pass their dumb tests, you’ll be surprised at how quickly the…
/r/askTRP28/09/18 03:17 PM
1

Very true.
/r/askTRP28/09/18 02:42 PM
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Lmao 10/10
/r/askTRP28/09/18 12:47 PM
3

Haha i was waiting for it
/r/askTRP28/09/18 12:47 PM
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It’s a valid question. And it shows you 1) how much can be accomplished in just a short amount of time and 2) creates the question of what a man’s true limits are - you begin to see and feel that you are capable of accomplishments far beyond what was ever thought possible for you. A lot of these goals that I knocked out was me playing catch up. Now we start to see how far I can push this envelope. It’s truly exciting.
/r/askTRP28/09/18 06:02 AM
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Thanks man
/r/askTRP28/09/18 05:59 AM
12

This has all been accomplished in 10 months.
/r/askTRP28/09/18 05:56 AM
4

Is this confirmed to be a permanent ban or temporary? Are all the posts from TRP reddit archived on this site?
/r/askTRP27/09/18 08:49 PM
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Men. In no way shape or form will this be the end of TRP. Whether it’s on reddit or elsewhere, TRP will continue to thrive
/r/askTRP27/09/18 07:52 PM
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What the fuck. Do not tell me that it actually got banned
/r/askTRP27/09/18 07:17 PM
1

If this isn’t a regular thing I would just ignore and wouldn’t actively try to dread her. If this has happened multiple times then dread would probably make sense. Start withdrawing attention and get yourself busy.
/r/askTRP27/09/18 07:06 PM
1

Hey man, so some time has gone by and while I did not memorize your comment here, I have had some time to reflect on this scenario and decided to revisit the post. I came to this exact conclusion myself after having gone over it again in my mind, and then sure enough I see your comment here again, telling me exactly what I discovered as well. You nailed it man. That is how I should’ve gone about it. But I’m glad it happened. Because now I just learned from the experience and grew
/r/askTRP27/09/18 03:50 AM
2

I thought it would be necessary to come on here and give an update. I just fucked a girl from tinder. I feel a lot better. Thanks everyone.
/r/askTRP27/09/18 03:46 AM
2

Lmao Jesus Christ I don’t even want to know the real number for girls I’ve been with in the past
/r/askTRP26/09/18 10:57 PM
1

This is the correct answer.
/r/askTRP26/09/18 10:48 PM
3

Agreed. These are the girls that just want to be unhappy. They’re more like overgrown men with vaginas
/r/askTRP26/09/18 10:40 PM
3

I enjoyed the lol in the title
/r/askTRP26/09/18 10:07 PM
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Nothing credible other than a general understanding that human beings bond in a way that is similar to addiction. Obviously to varying degrees. For some people it’s like a mild addiction to coffee, to others it’s almost like heroine (ONEitis). The neural pathways associated with the Vice are extremely active, and the only way to get over the vice, which is in this case, a person, is to completely remove it and allow the neural pathways associated with that Vice to die off. When then happens, you…
/r/askTRP26/09/18 12:19 PM
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They’re extremely insecure and you are lucky to have dodged the bullet. Not LTR material. By extremely insecure I mean it in the least personal way possible. Their ego is fragile, and needs “hits” to stay up. You must have done something to them, or they perceived you did, to lower their ego. It is not your job to help them develop self esteem. They must figure it out on their own. Not your problem, not your cross to bear. Be thankful you’re outta there
/r/askTRP26/09/18 03:58 AM
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I have nothing to add really other than your sad feelings are normal. It’s not personal, your brain literally gets wired to that person, similar to a drug. When they are gone there is for certain withdrawal symptoms. So it’s not a matter of “being a bitch about it”, you just have to let your brain rewire - which is why blocking on everything forever cannot be overemphasized. This speeds up the healing process tremendously.
/r/askTRP26/09/18 03:11 AM
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One of to hardest things to come to grips with is the fact that she won’t change just for you, no matter how much you eventually try to rationalize it. You know it deep down, that she’s not LTR material. But you wonder...Male I can make it work with her? Nope. This is a fundamental “problem” on behalf of the girl. Accepting this is crucial for getting over the anger phase. Something I myself have not done yet either
/r/askTRP26/09/18 01:26 AM
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That’s awesome to hear man. That is the investment I conceptually have in mind as well. I can’t get in the top 20% by half assing my way there, and partially being focused on my goals and then partially focused on women.
/r/askTRP25/09/18 11:47 PM
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This is exactly what I’ve been struggling with. I am still prone to ONEitis - I can objectively see that this is a massive indicator that o am nowhere near abundance mentality. I’ve made a lot of progress, but still. If I do not have abundance then my SMV is still not high enough to have legitimate options. Yeah, maybe one option every now and then. But as the book of Pook states, go for many women or go for none. What seems to be the hardest hurdle I’m going to have to overcome is getting throu…
/r/askTRP25/09/18 11:44 PM
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Thanks man, this helped a lot. While monk mode is great for deep focus and productivity, you’re right, you are standing on the sidelines not gaining any experience with chicks. Your game gets rusty. On the other hand, when I try to balance both, I cannot completely focus on my mission, which leans towards meditation/bodybuilding/overall self development. I get too distracted and over time tend to habitually prioritize the women, which leads to ONEitis.
/r/askTRP25/09/18 11:34 PM
1

12 at 23 is a lot. She’s definitely down playing it as well, along with the guys that “didn’t count”. She’s most likely around 17-20. No dice.
/r/askTRP25/09/18 03:54 PM
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I definitely wouldn’t tell her. Why risk losing the frame for no reason? Just give it your best shot and see what happens. If she’s not into it and doesn’t want to talk anymore, chalk it up as a major win anyways. You lost your virginity to a hot chick. Losing your virginity means you’re on the right track, so that’s a major indicator that what you’re practicing is paying off. You also just gained a lot of experience whether it goes good or bad. You have to start somewhere.
/r/askTRP25/09/18 12:40 AM
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Interesting post. I liked it. However I do have one question: Wouldn’t it be unwise to share such details such as “I dealt with anxiety and depression?” I understand that you may want to admit to a few human flaws every now and then as to not appear too perfect...however from what I’ve read here on TRP it’s always better to lean into being perfect rather than lean into being the sensitive guy that is open about his problems. I’ve personally dealt with anxiety and depression and there is a major …
/r/TheRedPill24/09/18 06:16 PM
2

Hyoo ^
/r/askTRP24/09/18 01:58 AM
3

That’s disgusting. Hard next and and block on everything forever. She went out of her way to try to intentionally hurt your feelings, and that’s a nuclear red flag. But don’t let it bother you, because this is her problem. She’s got issues to do something like that
/r/askTRP23/09/18 05:34 PM
1

I’m serious
/r/askTRP23/09/18 05:14 PM
1

Yeah have her drive, you’ll be amazed how far they’ll travel for dick
/r/askTRP23/09/18 03:24 AM
3

Lol yes. It’s a very bad thing. Please go to yourbrainonporn.com
/r/askTRP22/09/18 05:38 PM
1

It helps to stop putting your sexual urges on a pedestal
/r/askTRP22/09/18 05:26 PM
1

Run
/r/askTRP22/09/18 03:48 PM
1

That’s up to you man, if you think you can pull that off and that it makes more sense given the context of your job go for it. But to me just acting like you didn’t know about it due to being “not someone who actively monitors my bank account” is the simplest way to go. Play it off like you’re not a big penny pincher or a big money guy and say “yeah I had no idea, feel free to take it back though”
/r/askTRP21/09/18 08:04 PM
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If they ask about it give it back, if they don’t then don’t say anything. It’s their obligation to get the amount of money they pay you right, you technically have no obligation to check your bank account. Act as if you never even noticed
/r/askTRP21/09/18 07:57 PM
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I like to always keep the mantra “you cannot threaten a man that does not care” in the back of my mind. When you get to a place of abundance and outcome independence by way of upping your SMV, reading, meditation, lifting, etc. you can truly be at peace with just yourself. You understand hat you don’t necessarily need an LTR, but you do understand that one could be fun. It can be an added bonus to an already great life. You sound like you already understand and accept what is rational. An LTR wi…
/r/askTRP21/09/18 05:29 PM
2

Focus on breathing. Talking to yourself and repeating “keep a strong frame” is counterproductive. The voice in your head, the narrator, is indeed the same thing as what’s called the ego. The thinking mind is the ego. The goal with meditation is to transcend the ego, and to see that “you” still exist when the ego is gone. You will gradually notice this more and more as you get better with practice. The breath is the best object to focus on. Over and over, just keep coming back to the breath. It w…
/r/askTRP21/09/18 05:23 PM
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Save all text messages
/r/askTRP21/09/18 05:36 AM
3

Ah, anal, the biggest shit test of them all
/r/askTRP21/09/18 02:06 AM
2

Frame should precede all external achievements. An incredible way to genuinely improve frame is to make meditation a habit. You will, over time, habitually retrain your mind to be less prone to thoughts and feelings of nervousness/awkwardness, etc. Now, you can just be. Confident, secure, fulfilled, at peace with yourself and your circumstances (outcome independenc), this all, collectively, can be called “a strong frame”
/r/askTRP21/09/18 02:03 AM
1

You are in an excellent position, because of your age, to cut this problem out now before t becomes a seriously debilitating monster of an addiction, which is what happens to many guys. Porn becomes your vice to deal with any sort of uncomfortable thoughts or feelings. On December 18th 2017 I recommitted to besting this habit, and have only relapsed 12 times since then. TWELVE times in about 9 months. Some people jerk off twelve times in 3-days. I would say that one orgasm by way f masturbation …
/r/askTRP20/09/18 09:58 PM
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Legit lol’d at this comment
/r/askTRP20/09/18 09:52 PM
1

Gotcha my man, just putting it out there in a comment so someone who knows what I’m talking about can see it and provide said link
/r/askTRP18/09/18 04:49 AM
1

If someone can link the article written about the SAD EYES girl that would be fantastic. I believe it’s on the manosphere
/r/askTRP18/09/18 03:06 AM
3

It’s not your problem that your short, it’s her problem that she’s tall
/r/askTRP18/09/18 03:01 AM
1

I hope you’re better at Mario Kart than the Tinder thots
/r/askTRP17/09/18 06:29 PM
1

This is also quite possible as well.
/r/askTRP17/09/18 05:58 PM
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Agreed with everything here. And just to illustrate that you are correct, before we started fooling around she told me about her ex BF. They broke up back around June, he was a coke head whom she dated for 2 years. She lived with him as well. He broke it off. So it does seem to be the case of her being alpha widowed by the typical bad boy druggie. “You know the drill” is just about as perfect as you can describe how the sexual interaction went. Just totally automated and no excitement.
/r/askTRP17/09/18 05:57 PM
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I think you nailed it there. I sat down and wrote a journal post where I was totally honest with myself about what I wanted at this point in my life. I’ve never had a “relationship” before and it was because I wanted one so badly. TRP did for me like it did for many others and exposed my wanting of the blue pill Disney fantasy. This led me to desire wanting to spin plates and avoid emotional investment of any kind. Now after some trial and error I can see that I desire more than just fucking the…
/r/askTRP17/09/18 04:24 PM
1

I’m 25, I have a full time job as a gym manager and I’m also a certified personal trainer. I live at home with my parents, however, with a strong frame you can pretty much pull anything off. A first date playing n64 with a 25 year old guy at his parents house is drastically different when you hold a strong frame about it. The girls are usually aged 20-25
/r/askTRP17/09/18 03:30 PM
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That’s a good way of putting it. The best sexual interactions I’ve had came when both myself and the girl were in our respective “masculine and feminine poles” if that makes sense.
/r/askTRP17/09/18 05:37 AM
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Yeah, and I was almost half tempted to test another posters technique (he wrote the article on “Sad Eyes”) of claiming I didn’t have any to see what she would’ve done. My guess is she would’ve given me the green light anyways.
/r/askTRP17/09/18 05:35 AM
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Not at all. I know the deal with tinder, I know that none of the girls on there are even remotely acceptable for an LTR. I downloaded tinder 2 years ago because I thought I just wanted to bang these sluts. Now, as I get a little older, I am realizing that I do indeed want more. This last date made me realize it. Something about how easy it was, how little respect she had for herself just got to me. Tinder has been deleted as I contemplate whatever I’m feeling these past few days.
/r/askTRP17/09/18 05:33 AM
3

Lol already done. I’m slipping into monk mode for a while to reassess some things and reset my focus/goals
/r/askTRP17/09/18 05:31 AM
4

You have a severe pornography addiction. 20 days will not cure anything judging my the degree to which you’re hooked. Head on over to yourbrainonporn. You must embark on the hardest journey of your life thus far
/r/askTRP13/09/18 03:30 AM
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She may even just come back around to see if she still has you by the balls, with no intention to fuck you again. This is why you need to block her forever
/r/askTRP10/09/18 10:24 PM
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Lol boom. Girls do this so fucking often. When they see the writing on the wall that they’ve been fucking up and you start soft nexting them, the very next opening they get they will try to be the ones to break it off in order to save face.
/r/askTRP10/09/18 10:20 PM
1

Out of genuine curiosity, is there any reason why you still plan on going back and rekindling your friendship when you have no intention of fucking her? Or do you plan on it this time around?
/r/TheRedPill10/09/18 09:34 PM
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Boom. Beat me to it. Girls have no idea what they want. If they’re fucking you OP do not change a thing.
/r/askTRP10/09/18 05:17 AM
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Honestly I would ignore the shit test as it is an indicator that she wants you to lay that pipe down once more, I definitely wouldn’t say that she looks fat in one of her pictures lol just make this easy on yourself, text her, set up a time to hang. That’s all. No need to over complicate this
/r/askTRP10/09/18 12:39 AM
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She’s reaching out, she wants to be fucked again.
/r/askTRP09/09/18 07:46 PM
4

Just end it now man. Trust that gut feeling, and also combine that gut feeling with the nature of women and you’ve got bad news all around
/r/askTRP09/09/18 07:44 PM
1

You have every single person in the comments telling you no, don’t chase, dont text her, don’t do anything other than move on and let her text you. Feels appear to be setting in to warrant a post such as this, so my advice is to next her, or get other options immediately
/r/askTRP07/09/18 06:54 PM
1

Yeah. It is. You shouldn’t be chasing women. That’s not what a high value man does. One of the main tenants fo TRP is a paradigm shift in which that old mentality of “should I chase this really hot chick” now makes little sense.
/r/askTRP07/09/18 06:07 PM
2

Did not read. The answer is no.
/r/askTRP07/09/18 05:27 PM
2

I’ve found that any girls that try to put up this last minute hesitation are just time wasters. Bringing friends last minute, changing plans or backing out last minute, last minute shit tests, just forget ‘em. If they are insistent on making everything a hassle then they aren’t that interested and you shouldn’t be either. If a girl wants to fuck you she’ll make it incredibly easy for that to happen.
/r/askTRP07/09/18 01:22 PM
1

Because betas offer no threat. The betas also wish they could be the alphas that they despise. Women “hate” alphas because these are the chads that pump and dump them...however they did fuck them, and they certainly would again. “Watch a woman’s actions not her words”. She’ll say she wants a nice guy to settle down with, but given the opportunity she’ll take getting manhandled by the alpha she says she can’t stand over sleeping with a beta.
/r/askTRP07/09/18 12:19 PM
6

Almost any Hollywood Star that goes through a rapid body transformation did it with the aid of steroids. These are highly, highly busy people that have a passion for acting and becoming a star, not a passion for disciplined bodybuilding and meticulous dieting. Taking steroids for them is an investment. Take the rock for example. Do you think he’d be the biggest action star in the world today if he wasn’t as fucking massive as he is right now? Take a look at him in 2008. He was off the juice and …
/r/askTRP07/09/18 01:30 AM
3

Half of them don’t really even like tattoos, they think they do because it’s trendy. It’s just regurgitated nonsense
/r/askTRP07/09/18 01:26 AM
11

Get ‘em
/r/askTRP06/09/18 10:54 PM
16

That last paragraph had me do a double take. That escalated fast.
/r/TheRedPill05/09/18 05:50 PM
1

She wants you to stop fucking other girls but also doesn’t see you as valuable enough to get into an LTR, which really the only difference between exclusivity and an LTR is that LTR status is touted to other people (social media, friends & family, etc). Say no, continue spinning plates
/r/askTRP05/09/18 03:49 PM
1

Agreed. It has now progressed to that stage. The good news is that it’s all valuable learning experience material for the next chick that comes along
/r/askTRP04/09/18 10:58 PM
1

I think it can also be to test whether they’re going to respect you or not. Like the first time she refused sex, his reaction to that makes her determine whether she’ll respect him. It seems like OP just tolerated her refusals of sex (no offense OP).
/r/askTRP04/09/18 10:46 PM
1

I don’t want to be one of those guys that just says “ONEitis. Next”, but I’ve been in this exact scenario before and had a girl do this exact thing to me, and I do believe that if necessitated a post of asktrp then feels are creeping in. Just do yourself a service man and get out while you can. Cut the cord sooner rather than later
/r/askTRP04/09/18 10:42 PM
17

Does not matter. You don’t LTR girls who do vile shit like this. Lying or not, it’s gross
/r/askTRP04/09/18 10:40 PM
2

This is a very real and practical scenario. I think either going the soft next route or going the agree and amplify route could work well. Come up with some ridiculous scenario of how yes you are only using her for sex and you’re currently doing it to 600 other women simultaneously. Idk, you get the idea. I agree with another commenter or dangling the carrot of a label down the road. That’s all they really want. So say “I’ve been having a blast and I want that to continue. I think it’s still too…
/r/askTRP03/09/18 06:16 AM
2

Lmao
/r/askTRP02/09/18 08:22 PM
2

Agreed. I think it’s silly to try to pretend like you’re ok with it too. There’s a part in all of us that senses what the friend is trying to do is fucked up and not right. And of course for the girl to just hop on to the dick she finds superior confirms hypergamy and the nature of women, I don’t even blame her, I point the finger of blame at the friend. The friend should essential say nah man I’m good, I’ve got options, there’s plenty of girls out there for me, I don’t want one you’re involved …
/r/TheRedPill31/08/18 06:17 PM
10

Its incredible what can be accomplished in a very, very short period of time. It’s never too late to turn it around. You’re extremely young.
/r/askTRP31/08/18 12:36 PM
6

Idk man, maybe it’s just me but I always found the sharing amongst friends weird. I 100% understand the idea of having abundance mentality internalized to the point where you’re ok with passing girls off to friends, but at the same time I think it’s shitty for the friend to even be interested or trying to get with a girl that you’re talking to. It shows your friend is more on the scare side, and that he may not be all the great of a friend in the long haul.
/r/TheRedPill30/08/18 10:10 PM
6

Anytime I get the height question I flip it back around on them. It’s not my problem for being short, it’s their problem for being tall. Girls are so insecure it just becomes one more thing for them to worry about. “Omg does he think I’m too tall??” Now she’s back in the role of trying to prove herself to you so to appeal. (Aka, she’s back in your frame) When I say I’m 5’5, and they say they’re taller, I say “that’s fine, I dont mind taller girls” I’ve literally never had a problem before after …
/r/askTRP30/08/18 12:48 PM
3

Well we can most certainly agree that she is done with her boyfriend and is preparing to (or possibly already has) branch swing.
/r/askTRP30/08/18 12:20 AM
1

I believe i ordered THEYFIT condoms
/r/askTRP29/08/18 08:00 PM
1

I just had the same problem. I thought there was something severely wrong with my dick. Or that I had a way bigger porn addiction problem than I did (I did to a degree, but it was only about once a day, so how god damn bad could it have been). Anyway, I ordered custom fit condoms, but it sounds like the magnums may work fine. It’s true that the regular ones commonly cut off the blood flow similar to a tourniquet
/r/askTRP29/08/18 12:24 PM
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I’d invite her out somewhere anyway really heavily emphasizing that it’s casual, so it gives her some plausible deniability. Then escalate anyways, because she wouldn’t go out if she wasn’t interested. Nor would she text you either.
/r/askTRP29/08/18 12:20 PM
3

Oh yeah you need to get out of that house then and fast haha
/r/askTRP29/08/18 02:45 AM
2

I’m 25 live with my parents and do very well. It’s all frame. People try to shit test me all the time on it too. So, you just bring these girls back to your house to bang? Yeah - me With your parents home? Yeah - me Don’t they say anything? Nah - me Do they know what’s going on down there? Yeah they know - me That’s crazy....I should start doing that...
/r/askTRP29/08/18 02:36 AM
2

She’s advertising. Just don’t be surprised if this chick seizes what she feels is a better opportunity. Do t take it personal, it’s nothing you did, it’s her problem. Ride the wave until it’s done.
/r/askTRP28/08/18 11:58 PM
7

I’ve been dealing with similar feelings. It sucks in a way. Back in my full blown beta days (currently recovering) I would never have been in the position of being the gatekeeper. Of sex or a relationship. It was always me chasing. This of course inevitably ended with rejection each time for me, and I felt awful. Now, I’m getting to be in a position of valuing myself, my time, and looking at each interaction with girls as if they are on a job interview. Applying to try to win my time, attention,…
/r/TheRedPill28/08/18 09:03 PM
2

Ahh I was just in this scenario and I can say that yes, having only one option is not a good idea. As someone else said, you most likely become the plate at that point. Regardless if you’re only seeing one girl because you’re busy, lifting, working, chasing your mission, at the end of the day she is still your only option for sex, emotional connection, etc. You are now dependent on her for sex, and when it goes awry, you’re left with nothing. You are also much more likely to develop feels/ONEiti…
/r/askTRP28/08/18 05:08 PM
3

I used to compulsively jerk off when anxious, fearful, nervous, angry, you make it. It was my escape (along with sleeping). I went from jerking off at least once per day to porn to currently on a 91 day streak of no porn, and real action from real girls. A total of 13 porn relapses in the last 248 days. 1) you must meditate. The reason you’re escaping from reality and into porn is to run from the uncomfortable emotions within you. Emotions are caused my thoughts. Meditation now only allows you t…
/r/askTRP23/08/18 05:47 PM
4

Either ignore or respond with something comical. It’s very unwise to reveal your flaws. Ever. Even when you start to get comfortable with a girl after things have been going well. Never discuss your insecurities, flaws, fears, etc with them. They will not understand nor be compassionate
/r/askTRP23/08/18 05:21 PM
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Your brain rationalized a reason to reach out. That’s fine. But now you need to move on. Find your polish related answers somewhere else Ghosting her means you block her, actually move on, and don’t reach back out. You’re cured once your thoughts pertaining to her are about 99.99 percent muted, and you can’t remember what it felt like to have feelings for her. I’m not sure you’re there yet, and reaching out will only set you back.
/r/askTRP19/08/18 10:59 PM
2

Always a great idea. I’d actually try to notice (or do the best you can) to scan for subconscious beliefs that may trigger a spiral into BP mode. An example of a subconscious belief would be: it is depressing/ it sucks when it’s raining outside. You don’t actively think this when it’s raining, or most don’t that is, however you’d be surprised how much it affects your actions throughout the day. Because now you are acting from a source of “it’s raining it sucks” and the behaviors stemming from th…
/r/askTRP14/08/18 11:08 PM
2

This was not the comment section to stumble onto while eating my sandwich.
/r/askTRP14/08/18 05:41 PM
1

No, because once you start getting laid you realize, “that’s it?”, and you see that the years you spent on either school work, sports, or both, were crucial in building your base for your future.
/r/askTRP13/08/18 05:01 PM
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I needed this and I suspect many others did too as a simple and impactful reminder of things. Continue to up your SMV like your life depended on it. You must create options for yourself to eliminate scarcity.
/r/TheRedPill12/08/18 04:56 AM
2

Did you lose the hard on only when the condominium went on?
/r/askTRP11/08/18 05:14 AM
1

This is the much more logical and calm approach. I’ve been in such a AWALT mindset that as soon as she denied sex I immediately assumed she either fucked some other guy or swallowed a load recently. So I just withdrew attention, cut the date short, and implemented the soft next. I will absolutely try this next time and see where it leads.
/r/askTRP10/08/18 09:35 PM
2

Oh this is a guy I like right here ^
/r/askTRP10/08/18 09:32 PM
1

Thanks man. I 100% cannot go forth with just one girl anymore. Whether by definition she’s considered a girlfriend, a FWB or whatever it may be, I cannot keep just one. It’s bad news all around. The soft next is already underway.
/r/askTRP10/08/18 09:31 PM
1

Your first sentence specifically was extremely helpful. I definitely need to keep at least 2-3 going at once to avoid emotional investment and dependency on her for sex.
/r/askTRP10/08/18 09:26 PM
2

Agreed.
/r/askTRP10/08/18 09:24 PM
3

I am indeed a much more busy man thanks to TRP. It has helped me in landing a new job, schedule my personal training exam, beat my pornography habit (have not jerked off or viewed porn in nearly 80 days), and cut loose my old ONEitis which I would have never done in the past. Many other positives as well, but these are the highlights. She has brought up exclusivity in the past which I have shut down, because thanks to TRP I won’t even consider a relationship until 6 months in. I handled her “tal…
/r/askTRP10/08/18 09:20 PM
3

I’m slated to start accurate soon. I’d be interested in hearing anyone here who has tried it share their experience. Is it truly a permanent solution? How legit are the side effects pertaining to the heart and liver?
/r/TheRedPill10/08/18 08:08 PM
1

This was tremendous. Thanks man. I’ve seen how bad aborting a soft next can be in the past. How quickly the switch was flipped from me going silent to now me in the bitch position. It was awful, and your statement nailed it spot on.
/r/askTRP09/08/18 05:20 PM
2

Thanks man. The root of the guilt doesn’t seem to be that I’m hurting the girl, upsetting her, etc etc. It’s more so me wavering on whether I’m making a mistake or not. I’m not looking for an LTR with any of these girls, but I hate to see a good plate break. You’d ideally want to keep a good thing going for as long as you can, and I think my issue is that I start feeling guilty and become torn on whether or not I’m nexting them for a good reason. Was the reason a misunderstanding? Am I being too…
/r/askTRP09/08/18 04:27 PM
1

Thanks man, this did help!
/r/askTRP09/08/18 04:21 PM
3

Agreed. I did end the date shortly after and also withdrew my attention and all physical contact after that. Not perfect. but she knew I wasn’t enthralled. I’m not so concerned about this particular girl but I’m just looking to refine my technique going forward with other options.
/r/askTRP08/08/18 06:30 PM
1

Next. Tip of the psycho iceberg
/r/askTRP06/08/18 07:02 PM
2

Sometimes I like to tell them I’m going to text them something dirty so they know it’s me. Then I will text them: “something dirty”. It’s always been pretty damn effective. You create a sexual curiosity, then take it away. The hoes will show themselves quickly and say something like “I’m disappointed”. So it’s got a few perks
/r/askTRP05/08/18 10:36 PM
1

Your successes are a reminder of their failures.
/r/askTRP03/08/18 06:18 PM
1

If you’re outcome independent, sure, why not? Because what would you care if she doesn’t want to or flakes? You’ve got other plates and a purpose to fulfill. However, I suspect you, like I am a lot of the times and many others are (it’s totally normal btw), not outcome independent and were hoping things worked out with this girl. Detach emotions. And if you can do that, sure, schedule another date
/r/askTRP03/08/18 06:17 PM
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Go to the nofap subreddit and 1) read up about your problem with pornography 2) do not listen to any advice regarding relationships, dating, or life in general. Very blue pilled over there. After a while I’d recommend going to your brainrebalanced.com or yourbrainonporn.com More practical info with less cringe
/r/askTRP03/08/18 06:07 PM
1

Mutual cucking
/r/askTRP03/08/18 03:18 PM
1

Unfortunately it’s not going anywhere, but neither is your liver or kidneys. Its a survival mechanism. Luckily much like your liver or kidneys are not you, neither is this inner critic. Embrace it, laugh at it. It’s silly.
/r/askTRP02/08/18 03:24 AM
2

You need to sit down with a pen and paper and write down why you lift weights. Because right now you’re doing it for the wrong reasons.
/r/askTRP31/07/18 01:31 PM
9

I try to go out with friends on a Thursday, Friday or Saturday is usually with a plate, and then one night is for me. No work, just my passions and hobbies. Lifting, reading, writing, meditation.
/r/askTRP31/07/18 02:27 AM
2

Dear god this resonated and I needed to hear this. I have the tendency, upon soaking in, internalizing and becoming passionate about certain material, to spread it around and tell other people about it. It’s an ego trip for me I’m sure, to be the one teaching and guiding other people in the “right” direction. I’ve been doing this with my best friend over the last few months. He’s as beta as they come, known by every social circle as a “nice guy” (and also a pussy, but that’s more so behind his b…
/r/TheRedPill29/07/18 06:42 PM
2

Very legit questions and possibilities.
/r/askTRP28/07/18 01:12 AM
6

Honestly it’s just gotta be her ASD defense going up. I mean what could have OP done? His dick was in her mouth, and she randomly stopped. He’s literally just laying there, there’s nothing he could’ve done to have caused that. I’ve encountered a few girls like this. They are usually the massive shit testers. Not necessarily the ones that eventually warrant a next, but just a high frequency of little-moderate tests all the time.
/r/askTRP28/07/18 12:01 AM
2

KISS - Love ‘Em, Leave ‘Em
/r/TheRedPill27/07/18 12:19 AM
3

Yeah, this shouldn’t sting nearly as bad if you know that the words they say only reflect how they feel in the moment. Sure she might not feel love now, but when she said it she obviously did. So take this with a grain of salt
/r/askTRP26/07/18 08:26 PM
4

100% agreed. The odds of finding another guy out there that would do this or HAS done this after being cheated on are close to zero
/r/TheRedPill24/07/18 08:59 PM
1

One of the great things TRP teaches you is that as a man you are the gatekeeper of exclusivity/a relationship title, etc. It’s a great feeling to have this internalized. So an LTR with this girl is the last thing on my mind (outcome independence) -> the paradox of this is that she’s chasing me, and the health of the interaction between us is far better than say if I was fixated on locking her down as my magical unicorn girlfriend.
/r/askTRP06/07/18 09:10 PM
3

Extremely positive. She smiled and then I immediately pulled her in to kiss her so that there would be no more talking about this subject. About 30 minutes later I ate her ass in the shower.
/r/askTRP06/07/18 07:09 PM
1

Absolutely. I’m not even considering an LTR until another 5 months pass, until then she’s just a plate (I’ve found that I truly only have time for 1 or 2 with my schedule). So I am really not too concerned about losing her either way. It’s more of a “I would prefer this to keep going, but I’m fine either way” type of deal.
/r/askTRP06/07/18 07:07 PM
1

Absolutely
/r/askTRP06/07/18 08:16 AM
1

Haha yeah had I defused it earlier through text I wouldn’t have been in this situation to give an answer at all (although she tests me like this all the time so idk, it would’ve came up sooner or later).
/r/askTRP06/07/18 08:14 AM
1

Yeah, it cannot be dodged forever. At a certain point they’re gunna wanna know if you’re fucking other women regardless of how many agree and amplifies you throw back at them. My response tonight was as follows: “I’ve been having a lot of fun the last 6 weeks and I’d like that to continue. I’m not seeing anyone else at the moment but I think it’s way too soon to put a label on this/become exclusive. Everything has been good so far so I see no reason why it can’t be discussed down the road” With …
/r/askTRP06/07/18 05:35 AM
2

Fantastic replies. I’m going to angle it around this tonality. And you’re right, I have an “ugh” feeling myself after deflecting it until now (she’ll be here in a a few minutes actually). I’m going to totally brush it off as we’re outside having fun. There will be no formal sit down discussion to hash things out.
/r/askTRP06/07/18 12:43 AM
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Golden, this is an A++ response and everything that I was looking for. I’m pretty pissed that I just didn’t nip it in the bud a few seconds after she brought it up because it could’ve been incredibly easy to do so. I’ll do my best when she gets here (I plan on bringing it up while we’re outside playing cornhole (no pun intended), that way the atmosphere is light and playful. If it gets to the point of the talk, I’m just straight up telling her I’m having a lot of fun and I’d like that to continu…
/r/askTRP05/07/18 10:54 PM
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These are excellent. I’m going to seriously keep these in my back pocket for later. My goal is to literally make her laugh and then it is never spoken of again (well, until she inevitably brings it up again in a few weeks).
/r/askTRP05/07/18 07:55 PM
2

Best way I’ve seen MGTOW put in a long time
/r/askTRP05/07/18 05:43 PM
1

How to be a 3% man is ok, it’s like training wheels on how to not be a needy bitch anymore, but at the same one he still operates under the premise of there being “the one” out there for you. So in a sense it’s somewhat blue pilled. I think the rational male cleans it all up nicely. The way of the superior man is also excellent primarily for his sections on your purpose and mission. I like his perspective on dealing with women’s shit tests and nagging too, how it’s her way of testing your streng…
/r/askTRP04/07/18 12:58 AM
4

This was one of the best ways I’ve seen dread explained. Very simply. It’s a byproduct.
/r/askTRP03/07/18 02:18 AM
1

Everyone’s different, but what I suspect is that nutting once every now and then, meaning once a week at the most, wouldn’t be detrimental if 1) there was no porn involved at all and 2) if you didn’t have any sexual dysfunction already Porn use will continue to keep your brain fucked up, for lack of a scientific explanation. The act of jerking off will continue to keep you stimulated by your own hand rather than being sexually wired to be aroused by a woman. If you have any kind of ED, delayed e…
/r/askTRP02/07/18 11:53 PM
2

Was not getting laid at all. I pretty much abstained for months, 2 months being there longest I’ve gone without relapsing, and then it was right back on the horse. The whole NoFap process has made me able to deal with/overcome a lot of my anxiety and depression as well. Porn use is pretty much a major symptom of D&A. It’s a way to escapes the unwanted thoughts and emotions. This is why meditation is the most powerful aid to NoFap. Meditation gets rid of the fear causing thoughts, which in turn, …
/r/askTRP02/07/18 11:01 PM
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There’s your answer right there. Just remember, no worthwhile changes can be brought about if you’re not willing to make the sacrifices necessary. I would definitely look into it more.
/r/askTRP02/07/18 03:48 AM
14

How often are you watching porn? It absolutely wreaks havoc on your dopamine levels, which is a main factor in motivation, drive, ambition, etc.
/r/askTRP02/07/18 03:34 AM
2

NoFap was one of the most psychologically taxing things I’ve ever done. Some days were absolutely hell, especially the days following a relapse. Those were very, very dark times. Everyone is obviously different and has an addiction to varying degrees but jerking off to porn almost everyday is indeed extremely harmful. Or it can be. That was my frequency as well. Nothing crazy like the stories of people jerking off 4-5x a day, it was just about once every day. Sometimes twice, and then some days …
/r/askTRP02/07/18 03:33 AM
14

“Oh, you mean the panties your mother laid out for you?”
/r/askTRP01/07/18 08:43 PM
3

Thanks a lot for this man, I’m glad to know I’m not the only one that’s experienced this. Im going to definitely look into both the website and cialis. Not that I want to become dependent on the cialis but I think it’ll work wonders for not only rewiring my brain in how to get off on sex, but to also break any mental blocks that I’m sure are there. After numerous attempts have gone awry, I’m sure there’s a mental block. Just being able to stay hard while fucking will do wonders for my confidence…
/r/askTRP01/07/18 08:24 PM
3

Thanks man, I’m going to to look into both and most likely pick them up. And that’s what I was thinking too, if I could literally stay hard enough to get inside I’d be golden. That’s how I managed sex (albeit lackluster) in the past.
/r/askTRP01/07/18 08:19 PM
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When I first lost my virginity a few years ago, and couldn’t maintain my boner, that’s when I started to wonder if I had a porn addiction. Sure enough, I did. This past December I finally committed to NoFap once and for all, and in the last 195 days I’ve only jerked off 13 times. The worst is definitely behind me. I’m noticing I go days and weeks on end now without even thinking about porn, let alone jerking off. A major sign that that bad habit is finally being wired out. So as far as porn use/…
/r/askTRP01/07/18 07:02 PM
2

Although she is just a plate and there is no exclusivity, etc etc etc. There is something inherently bitter about your friend trying to move in on her, especially if he knows you’ve been fucking her. Just my opinion. I would probably say something to nip it in the bud, but at the same time don’t expect it to work. If she wants to fuck him she will. Personally I don’t keep friends around such as the guy you’re friends with in this scenario
/r/askTRP28/06/18 07:57 PM
1

Own it
/r/askTRP28/06/18 04:45 AM
2

Very simple. Ask her to hangout. If she wants to hang, she wants to fuck, if she doesn’t wanna hang, she wants attention/validation/you as her emotional tampon
/r/askTRP27/06/18 05:09 AM
1

Well it’s certainly nothing you did. This is all out of your control (her being away and surrounded by guys). So if she did cheat don’t take it personally. Even if your texts were perceived as needy, it seems as though she may have already done the deed. Those texts from her did seem pretty odd. Like seeking validation after cheating.
/r/askTRP26/06/18 05:53 PM
2

Thanks for the advice guys. I think you’re all spot on in that I need to keep my nose out of it and put my personal feelings aside. If she asks me anything about it I’ll just maintain a stance such as “haha hey that’s between you guys”. Nothing more.
/r/askTRP25/06/18 06:16 PM
2

This post is spot on, and I’ve been toying with the same theory in the past 6 months after noticing it myself from immediate family members. Often times the envy, criticism, and pessimism that from that specific person not thinking of the goal themselves. Watch closely, because the people that rip on you will often follow in your footsteps and copy you a few months down the road. If you actually do achieve your goal or see progress, you can bank on it. The possibility of you achieving your goal …
/r/TheRedPill24/06/18 05:55 PM
1

Why would something out of your control be more important than something that is? I’m not sure if you are just seeking someone to validate your fears or not and tell you to give up, but no. You shouldn’t. Lift, read the sidebar, internalize TRP and learn game. Improve the things you can improve.
/r/askTRP23/06/18 10:41 PM
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A better question is why are you concerning yourself this much with it to even make a post. An easy solution would be to block her, unless you’re secretly still harboring feels and hoping she comes back into your life. Do yourself a big favor and just block her.
/r/askTRP16/06/18 02:28 PM
1

Where are you meeting the girls from? Tinder?
/r/askTRP16/06/18 02:26 PM
1

Awesome job at passing. I would just be on the lookout for more in the future. If she had the urge to do this once, she’ll do it again and again; a natural tendency she has with guys to test their frame. Keep responding in the same manner and you’ll be fine. Her testing may escalate, with her disclosing more details than you’d like to be aware of.
/r/askTRP14/06/18 05:34 PM
2

Definitely just say something about how this is your 4th tinder date this day alone. It’ll make her laugh and defuse the situation all while leaving her wondering. No need to get overly complex with a response
/r/askTRP13/06/18 09:50 PM
2

Honestly man (and first and foremost I want you to know that I’m not being a dick when I say this because I’ve been in past similar scenarios), I didn’t even read that last comment of yours. Whenever this much effort is put into one girl, the situation is cooked. It’s not worth it. I can tell you right now that whomever you’re trying to dread should just be let go of. Find some new chicks and start over by implementing what you’ve learned on TRP instead of trying to salvage things with chicks th…
/r/askTRP13/06/18 05:02 AM
1

There are two reasons she reached out. 1) she wants to hookup, 2) she wants the validation that you still like her/have feelings, or wants attention because her other boy toys have stopped giving it to her, so she’s come back to you. It’s very simple. Don’t banter, don’t kiss her ass, just say whatever you need to say to set up a chance to hang. This will cut through the bullshit pretty fast. If she wants to hang, then you escalate and hookup. If she’s hesitant to hang, ghost her forever. She ne…
/r/askTRP13/06/18 04:58 AM
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Just prepared for some dread game back. By whomever you’re trying to dread. If you’re secretly hiding feels for this girl, her attempts to get you jealous will most likely work and will sting. Speaking from past BP experience of course.
/r/askTRP12/06/18 08:02 PM
4

Be prepared for strong retaliation. If you’re not truly abundant and have a weak frame, this will be a swift kick to the dick
/r/askTRP12/06/18 07:41 PM
1

Never be overt about it. At least that’s what’s worked the best for me, but each chick is different. Some probably like the blunt texts but I’d say the majority end up getting sheepish and flake if they know that “sex is supposed to happen
/r/askTRP12/06/18 03:06 AM
1

Not worth it man
/r/askTRP12/06/18 01:33 AM
1

For all that is sacred, no.
/r/askTRP11/06/18 07:28 PM
1

This is excellent, thanks man
/r/askTRP11/06/18 11:21 AM
1

Haha I like this. I’m getting the feel for how I should’ve responded. Now that I gave her that little bit of comfort to start (even though it was through not knowing how to respond), I’ll be way more geared towards something like this going forward
/r/askTRP11/06/18 11:20 AM
1

This’ll be valuable to know going forward. Thanks man.
/r/askTRP10/06/18 11:58 PM
2

Lmao
/r/askTRP10/06/18 04:23 AM
6

I laughed at “a solid 4.5/10” lol
/r/askTRP10/06/18 03:30 AM
1

This guy needs a borderline spiritual awakening to change the structure of who he is and how he operates (you can obviously see he operates in a impulsive, erratic, irrational manner). You alone are not enough to be the catalyst to spark a change in him. He literally has to learn from this impending shit storm. Give advice of he asks, otherwise, live your life.
/r/askTRP09/06/18 10:26 PM
2

trying to make me jealous classical bar slut Plate only. Avoid emotional attachment at all costs to this type.
/r/askTRP09/06/18 07:17 PM
1

A very down to earth post. A lot of the times we just like to ignore the fact that we’re human beings with feelings, and can develop strong feelings towards other people. Especially as guys, we hate to admit that we’ve caught “the feels”. There’s nothing wrong with admitting you fell hard for someone, and that those feelings are still there as you try your best (TRP, monk mode) to get over them. Good work my friend.
/r/TheRedPill09/06/18 07:11 PM
1

You have set the boundary, and now you must stick to your guns. Hold your frame on this. If she disregards it, or acts in a way you deem “disrespectful”, then break up. Next time, if you ever find yourself in a similar scenario, just brush it off. Remember, if she’s going to cheat, then she’s going to cheat and there’s nothing you can do about it. While setting boundaries can be a good thing if you hold your frame and stick to them, they can also be detrimental. If you don’t hold frame, or let h…
/r/askTRP08/06/18 08:15 PM
1

Very good post. Around January I stumbled upon TRP, that’s when I realized I was indeed, a beta faggot. The reason I found TRP was like most guys, trying to salvage a tanking ONEitis situation. Rollo and other resources helped me see that my whole life has been centered around the Disney BP fantasy of finding “the one”. I would catch feelings during the “infatuation” phase extremely quickly, and then want to make them my GF. This backfired in more ways than one, but the biggest problem is that t…
/r/TheRedPill08/06/18 07:17 PM
2

This is a lock to work, especially if she is of Asian descent.
/r/askTRP08/06/18 02:32 AM
2

Holy fuck man. Thank you for this. Julian has basically fully experienced the insight in which I’ve only had a short glimpse of. Whatever I was trying to write about up above ^ was what Julian expanded upon in the video. This was extremely helpful and important. Thanks again.
/r/TheRedPill07/06/18 03:52 PM
2

Absolutely. Meditation and this new job I’m interviewing for are much higher on my priority list. She’s making it very easy for me the way it is now, she must’ve had a great time, so you’re right, there’s not too much to think about here. I’ll probably just shoot her a text on Friday afternoon to set up for Saturday or Monday night
/r/askTRP07/06/18 06:14 AM
2

I actually have one set up for tomorrow. But even after this past Monday’s date, she sent me a text saying how much fun she had and how she wanted to see me again (something I’m not used to, thanks TRP). So she’s made it clear she wants to hang again already. I personally see how pushy and needy hanging out with the same girl (who’s new) multiple times within a few days looks thanks to a beta friend of mine, so I want to avoid that at all costs. Even texting a chick too soon to set up a date for…
/r/askTRP07/06/18 05:39 AM
1

Context is definitely important because she might’ve actually been a whack job and been pissed at whatever he said, in that case take her advice and don’t contact her lol but if she was just busting balls I’d ignore it completely and realize that she’s just flirting/being sassy/busting balls. Set up your next date and escalate.
/r/askTRP07/06/18 02:16 AM
19

Meditation has shown me a lot of different things but relevant to this post, it’s shown me that the search for happiness is a paradox of sorts: We search for happiness by trying to think our way out of our problems. We think, think, and think some more, seeking the right combination of thoughts to liberate us from our problems. Compulsive thinking then becomes habitual over time. Sure enough, no amount of compulsive thinking can produce the right combination of thoughts to produce sustained joy …
/r/TheRedPill06/06/18 08:59 PM
5

Can confirm they are ready to Baghdad ass up
/r/askTRP06/06/18 06:28 AM
1

Very true. Title should be changed to ASD text
/r/askTRP05/06/18 08:28 PM
2

I like this advice a lot. Humor seems to be the way to go to easily diffuse the situation. It’ll work for the girls that do want to come over put are putting up the ASD. For the girls that it doesn’t work on, they were probably going to flake anyways, and there’s nothing that can really salvage it
/r/askTRP04/06/18 08:59 PM
1

This was pretty much spot on. Excellent advice.
/r/askTRP04/06/18 08:57 PM
1

That’s true, good point. Each situation will definitely be a little different.
/r/askTRP04/06/18 07:17 PM
1

This is solid advice, thanks a lot for this. The main thing i need to remember going forward needs to be the pressure flip
/r/askTRP04/06/18 05:49 PM
2

This is great advice. I think I might start adding that from now on. Flip the pressure back on her
/r/askTRP04/06/18 05:47 PM
12

Yeah I like this approach. It’s similar to what I do now but I play it off with humor. I usually tease them that I’m going to kick their ass at Mario kart or connect 4 when they come over. So when I get the LMR text I say “the only expectations I have is that you bring your A game for connect 4 to avoid embarrassment” - Something along the lines of that. It usually defuses the situation, other chicks are more stubborn about it and keep pressing the issue. At that point I stop trying at all, beca…
/r/askTRP04/06/18 03:11 PM
2

Do not take the freshly broken up with girl to prom.
/r/askTRP03/06/18 10:18 PM
1

God damn man
/r/askTRP03/06/18 07:47 PM
14

Add “right now” to the end of those I love you’s and I’m obsessed with you’s and it’ll make a lot more sense
/r/TheRedPill02/06/18 03:15 PM
2

Don’t be so quick to think she’s doing it on purpose. She probably had a plethora of notifications to open if she’s a hot girl with a large following. Thinking this way causes a lot of unnecessary psychological stress. Just be cool and game other chicks
/r/askTRP02/06/18 01:25 AM
5

Getting girls to come over to watch Netflix and chill aka hookup is a numbers game man. 75% of the girls on tinder have no interest in ever meeting, they want you as an orbiter to fill the void from the guy she probably just broke up with. Do not get involved with the rape victims. Whether they’re telling truth or not, they are all crazy. Again, if they’ll telling the truth then I have a lot of compassion for them, because they have suffered serious trauma, so being nuts might not be their fault…
/r/askTRP01/06/18 11:24 PM
1

Yeah man just stay diligent with TRP and let her bring up the exclusivity and I think you’ll be good. Best of luck!
/r/askTRP01/06/18 09:07 PM
1

Yeah I agree with a couple of other commenters in that an LTR doesn’t have to last forever. If you’re description is truly accurate and then everything seems pretty good to me. I say go for it, but another guy up above also nailed it when he said that red flags come out later on. 2 months isn’t a long time, I believe I heard this referred to as the infatuation phase. The girls are on their best behavior in this time and it’s incredibly easy for the man to catch serious ONEitis feels for her. Whe…
/r/askTRP01/06/18 07:32 PM
3

Agreed. Societal conditioning is widespread in that all guys are expected to just adopt this “women are victims” mentality (Ex. The me too movement), and they usually do. And women, across the board, are brought up to think that men are sexual deviants/rapists/abusers until proven otherwise. Questioning this ruins your reputation. The 48 Laws of Power will tell you that protecting your reputation at all costs is imperative. At the end of the day, just bite your tongue, because there is no benefi…
/r/askTRP31/05/18 12:32 AM
2

The feminine “matrix, or “imperative” that has been constructed by society is one that prevents you from being right. Unless you stay silent.
/r/askTRP31/05/18 12:29 AM
2

You are indeed her beta bitch if you continue to make zero moves, or lash out in anyway about this behavior. Next, if anything, but don’t start an argument. Not only is it not worth it, but you enter her frame and will forever see you as a bitch boy. I really liked another guy’s comment above about how it’s your choice to choose whether you stay an orbiter or fuck the shit out of her. Shit tests, no matter how severe are all opportunities presented by the woman for the man to show his dominant f…
/r/askTRP30/05/18 02:19 PM
2

Excellent advice ^
/r/askTRP30/05/18 02:13 PM
2

I used to natural bodybuilding back in high school. Right as I graduated I was never in better physical shape. I would wager that with minimal dieting I could’ve taken the stage to compete in about a months time. I also suffered from probably a mild depression and pretty bad social anxiety at the time. As I got more and more muscular I did actually notice more female attention coming my way. Yeah, enough to actually notice it, so in hindsight I think I may have even had MORE opportunities right …
/r/askTRP30/05/18 02:16 AM
2

This right here ^ Sometimes chicks come back after extended periods of time. When they do, the man usually starts to use his logical brain (but distorted perception) in thinking that “she wants me back”. In actuality, she wants the validation/attention/and to quell her own hamster and insecurities. If you never talk again and she thinks you don’t like her or whatnot, it’ll drive her crazy. So the point of her reaching out is to see if you have lost interest or moved on yourself. Once she sees th…
/r/askTRP29/05/18 04:30 PM
3

This ^ however it is a slippery slope. Feels can be conjured up again easily so OP needs to be very self aware in this situation with fucking as the ONLY option.
/r/askTRP29/05/18 05:57 AM
9

Absolutely. It has nothing to do with the girls themselves being special, and everything to do with you, and your scarcity mentality with women. That feeling of ONEitis could be projected onto any chick that shows interest and seems attainable. So self improvement work really needs to be done from the inside out if you are prone to ONEitis. The first step is to identify that this is a reoccurring issue. Examine your mindset (fairy tale fantasy of meeting “the one”, outcome dependent, too availab…
/r/TheRedPill28/05/18 07:29 PM
21

I ghosted a serious ONEitis a few months ago and it was the best move I ever made, AND, she was an LDR too (well, I was an LDR orbiter it seems. Just about the worst position to be in). I would also counter that with “because it was an LDR I can’t really be sure”, well, because it’s an LDR this should probably actually make you REALLY sure lol The whole “it takes a real man” bullshit is just part of the feminine imperative where they want to be right about everything and have everything their wa…
/r/TheRedPill28/05/18 05:31 PM
3

Meditation. It’s a fantastic tool for creating a gap between you and your thoughts (which create emotions). This helps to become less emotionally reactive, lessens anxiety, creates a more rational perception of you and the world. Plain and simple, there’s a million positives. If you haven’t given meditation a try, definitely go for it. Even 5 minutes a day yields tremendous benefits.
/r/askTRP28/05/18 01:42 AM
5

Thoughts about what could’ve been won’t aid you. This has been a tough but liberating lesson I’ve had to learn as well. Those past years of misery and being socially withdrawn were necessary to mold you in to the man you are today.
/r/askTRP27/05/18 10:12 PM
1

If she does this all the time then she definitely needs to go. If theres any bit of scarcity mentality in you that’s afraid of letting her go, start working on the mindset shift into abundance right now. Although they are shit tests, they are ones that set off red flags as far as an LTR is concerned. It would be different if she was just a plate and there was no emotional investment. But for an LTR to do this, it’s bad news. We’ve all seen this story a million times. I would wager a big sum of m…
/r/askTRP27/05/18 07:44 PM
3

Everything sounded pretty great to me.
/r/askTRP27/05/18 07:03 AM
1

It helps a lot. Especially the emphasis on CBT. It’s literally exercises to retrain the way you think, and it works. It’s basically the process of replacing negative thoughts with positive ones, but more importantly it helps you identify the distorted thoughts you have. Many of these distorted thoughts end up becoming habitual and automatic, which is how (in a lot of cases) people end up with anxiety or depression. Give it a try! At the very least venting to someone is nice. *if you get a female…
/r/askTRP27/05/18 02:12 AM
1

The most striking part to me is that when things were going south, and she’s talking about other guys/complimenting you, you mentioned that in this time period she was giving you minimal shit tests. Further proof that the shit tests a girl gives you are her way of giving you a chance to succeed. She wants you to pass. She’s testing you because she has a lot of interest and wants to fuck you. When the tests stop, that’s when the alarm bells should go off.
/r/TheRedPill27/05/18 01:35 AM
30

It was a good joke while it lasted.
/r/TheRedPill27/05/18 01:28 AM
2

Trying to salvage things with my ONEitis at the time. In hindsight I’m actually extremely grateful for having gone through it.
/r/askTRP27/05/18 01:22 AM
1

You know his ONEitis secretly got wet when she saw your comments. Besides, this beta bitch is bound to turn her off and fast. You absolutely need to fuck this girl. Think of her “bitchy behavior” of being mad at you now as shit test. The way of a superior man has a few excellent chapters on how to easily break past these bitchy modes
/r/TheRedPill26/05/18 05:16 AM
4

Dopamine rewiring is not selective. It works big time. Just don’t get caught up in anything else they preach over there on the subreddit, especially not the philosophy on women. Highly blue pilled.
/r/askTRP26/05/18 01:30 AM
3

Yes, agreed with above commenter that you should ghost her now. In the game of power, which is essentially what the dating game is (unless you’re Eckart Tolle I suppose), you have won big time. Quit while you’re ahead so to speak, and leave with a healthily stroked ego. This is a highly combustible situation in that the ONEitis feels may come back at any time. ONEitis is really an addiction; an addictive clinging. Similar to any addict, you may say you’re done with her, I’m over her yada yada ya…
/r/TheRedPill25/05/18 09:59 PM
1

Smile and blow him a kiss
/r/askTRP25/05/18 04:19 AM
1

The lack of focus is due to constant triggering of urges. Find out what your triggers are, and you’ll begin to develop self awareness of them. Write them down and crate a game plan on how to avoid them and how to overcome them if activated. Sexual fantasies or flashbacks of poem scenes do seem to just happen with no apparent triggers. This is admittedly a more advanced stage of the game to conquer. Do your best to refute them. Meditation is the best technique for not getting lost in any porn fla…
/r/askTRP24/05/18 03:30 AM
19

I do agree that in the grand scheme of things, asking 9 times is excessive. But OP also mentioned he didn’t text beyond her rejections. He basically lost nothing, and had little to lose in general. Minimal time and energy wasted on his end while she was saying no. Sometimes I wonder if OP’s strategy is the way to go, rather than just hard nexting chicks too quickly. If one truly has abundance mentality down, truly outcome independence, then going OP’s route and trying again and again makes sense…
/r/TheRedPill24/05/18 12:41 AM
21

Her the following day: “we went back to his place, and then it just happened!”
/r/TheRedPill23/05/18 10:56 PM
2

Lmao this was legendary. She is now known as, and only as: “THE BLOB”
/r/TheRedPill23/05/18 10:46 PM
2

Setting boundaries does sound like a great idea in a lot of cases, because as another commenter stated women are never “too stupid” or naive, they know what’s right and wrong. But they’ll take advantage to the fullest and say “oh well I mean, I didn’t know hanging out with a guy while we were dating was not ok. You never said I couldn’t” “oh I didn’t know I wasn’t allowed to suck that guys dick. We never talked about that being off the table!” - Even though it’s clearly obvious to anyone that th…
/r/askTRP23/05/18 05:27 PM
2

I did not know that! I’ve heard awesome things about the book, going to order it soon!
/r/askTRP23/05/18 08:10 AM
2

It’s crazy. Facebook is the worst. A semi attractive girl posts a status, god forbid it’s a question or seeking advice, and sure enough, 20+ comments of shady looking males all flooding in to white knight her. Another favorite of mine is when a girl on FB will post something like “all guys suck”, “where are all the good men in this area?” And then as sure as the sunrise, the neckbeards and tards chime in “they’re out there, you just gotta keep looking :)” and it’s them. The comment is supposed t…
/r/askTRP23/05/18 08:06 AM
2

Agreed with this^ setting up a date after she’s complimenting your lips or whatever it might be will pretty much slice through the bullshit to see if she wants to actually hang or just be texting pals (aka - you as her emotional outlet).
/r/askTRP23/05/18 06:47 AM
4

I hate overthinking things like this because it’s social media, and social media is dumb, but it’s 2018 and things like Snapchat and texting are just part of the equation now when it comes to the dating game. I think the best route to go is 1) if she sends a pic of that nature to you, and only you, no story, don’t compliment her. Don’t give her the validation and attention. 2) if it’s sent to you AND put on her story, still don’t compliment her. Probably even more important here. She has 100 bit…
/r/askTRP23/05/18 06:44 AM
4

One that really pried my eyes open was something along these lines: “She can’t love you in the way that you want her to” Aka, a woman’s love is opportunistic, not unconditional.
/r/askTRP20/05/18 02:50 AM
3

This was awesome man, thanks a lot.
/r/askTRP12/05/18 03:33 AM
3

I knew everything I had to know about this bitch when she was described as the type to wear leggings with “pink” on them.
/r/TheRedPill11/05/18 11:37 AM
27

That’s great news. That’s a big plus in your favor. He’ll most likely agree that this bitch is whacked. Either way, he has to look at it like this: either lose this psycho bitch who is not a regular member (he is going to lose her anyway because she’ll most likely quit), or, lose a tenured gym member (you). A smart gym owner would want people like you in their facility, not these shit starters. It’s absolutely absurd and mind boggling that this random lady, who you don’t know, feels it’s her per…
/r/TheRedPill11/05/18 11:35 AM
90

Can confirm that this is 100% grounds for the front desk guy getting axed as well as this girl getting booted. If you have a sensible gym owner he’ll do the right thing. Don’t be surprised f he doesn’t. We all know how the feminine is favored in society today, and he’ll do whatever makes the best business sense to him. Hopefully you go to a somewhat medium chain size gym where the gym owner knows you for your 5 year long tenure.
/r/TheRedPill11/05/18 08:15 AM
1

I second this. If it’s developing into ONEitis and you can feel it, block her. It’s not working anyways so there’s no upside to keeping her around. You may be liable to slip into some extreme beta behavior if she’s kept around. If it was some girl you knew you had little attachment to, didn’t care what happened with her or not, then a soft next is probably best.
/r/askTRP07/05/18 03:37 AM
5

No message is the biggest message of all.
/r/askTRP05/05/18 08:48 PM
24

Not only does this girl want to fuck you, I’d also wager that her friends want to as well.
/r/askTRP05/05/18 02:09 AM
3

Sharpen the axe my man! Be grateful for the experience because you’ll be that much more experienced going forward
/r/askTRP28/04/18 06:38 PM
2

I’ve taken a personal vow against commenting, liking, etc on pictures girls post of themselves showing off their body in anyway. They will have betas left and right to fall in to this thirst trap and give her the validation. Be the guy that doesn’t. It’ll work in your favor.
/r/askTRP21/04/18 12:17 AM
10

Plain and simple, it works. Big time. Just don’t get caught up in the philosophies about women, dating, and life in general over on NoFap. It’s incredibly blue pilled over there.
/r/askTRP13/04/18 09:26 PM
0

I agree with everything said here, however I think this can be seen maybe more so as “advanced plate spinning”. This is the point where we should probably all aspire to get to, but most of us are not at this stage yet, therefore in order to keep plates around and enjoy them for what they bring to the table, it’s probably best to just not care what they do when they are not with you.
/r/askTRP13/04/18 03:27 AM
1

No fap definitely does get a bad rep around here, and I think I know why. The guys over there, for the most part, are blue pilled out the fucking ass and most have the Disney fantasy of finding their special unicorn. Many embark on NoFap purely for this unicorn. If you ever see some of the relationship or dating advice over there, it’s sad. That being said, the good part of the NoFap subreddit is really good. You can find a ton of useful info over there. It definitely sounds like this has develo…
/r/askTRP13/04/18 03:14 AM
2

Well, technically she did reach out to you first the day after with that snap. No it’s not a text but it’s basically the same thing, and a positive sign. She liked you, and the sex, so don’t overthink this. If she didn’t enjoy herself you would not have gotten anything. Did you respond to that snap at all? If not, snap her back, maybe even in a day or so.
/r/askTRP12/04/18 08:01 AM
1

Depending on OP’s habit’s I would argue that porn may indeed be a big problem. It can seriously mangle your dopamine reward system, even if your habits subjectively don’t seem that bad. Many have attested to quitting porn as being harder than smoking, or other drug addictions. OP, it’s a weird question I know, but what are your porn viewing habits? How many times a day? About how many hours per day total? Has your interest been shifting to more and more hardcore/weird genres?
/r/askTRP11/04/18 10:17 PM
2

100% agree with everything you said here. However I do think that turning things sexual for the sake of nudes would also just be spinning of OP’s wheels, because even if she plays along and starts talking dirty/sexting, he could just be providing sexual validation. I mean it’s fine if that’s what OP wants, if he just wants some sweet nudes and doesn’t really care about fucking her then that’s perfectly fine. But OP, do not be shocked if she starts sending nudes yet STILL has no desire to actuall…
/r/askTRP11/04/18 10:10 PM
1

I can think of about 8 different reasons as to why this is and none of which are good lol just move on. If she wants to meet up and have sex at all she will message you and get the ball rolling herself.
/r/askTRP11/04/18 10:06 PM
10

The classic fart in face is a lost art in today’s society. It needs a serious revival.
/r/askTRP11/04/18 01:27 AM
2

And she will not hesitate to do it again, start detaching those feelings asap
/r/askTRP11/04/18 12:50 AM
1

Yeah that was a pretty horrible suggestion I made. I deleted my comment so OP or anyone else doesn’t even think to consider it for the future.
/r/askTRP10/04/18 06:58 PM
1

Alright nvm I like what you said a lot better lol
/r/askTRP10/04/18 12:53 PM
1

Boom, your very last paragraph added about the other people that have also been accused. That’s your evidence and you need those people on your side. Explain that very clearly to the police that you have been informed that she has done this multiple times to men in her past.
/r/askTRP10/04/18 08:05 AM
1

Agreed. As long as the throat fucking and sex continues I don’t see why OP would mind being called sweet. However, and I think this is highly likely, OP are you deep down hoping to LTR this plate? If so, make sure you’re doing your due diligence in screening her for flaws etc etc. I would continue to just keep pounding her, and if all of these great things she says to you are true/genuine, she will bring up the talk.
/r/askTRP10/04/18 04:19 AM
1

Yeah I mean, good god lol this is what’s on her mind when there’s the slightest changing of plans? She’s very insecure, and most likely has a fear of abandonment (this is coming from someone who’s working on shedding his own). I can see some very irrational behavior from her coming in the near future
/r/askTRP08/04/18 08:28 AM
2

Thanks man I appreciate it. A lot of work still has to be done, but I’m glad I’m finally, finally moving on from that chick after so many months invested, a long break, restarting talks, and then finally cutting her lose. I would’ve never had the balls to cut lose a ONEitis girl before. TRP is a total game changer. I’m exciting to keep on building.
/r/askTRP06/04/18 05:37 AM
2

Haha yeah. Nothing I’ve done is spectacular other than cutting lose the ONEitis chick (who was not from a foreign country, did meet, and was sucked off by), as well as continue to try. Tinder chicks are like shooting fish in a barrel when they actually do come over, the hurdle is just finding one that doesn’t flake. Just trying to get better and progress, all anyone can ask for.
/r/askTRP06/04/18 05:25 AM
2

Did not flake. Went excellent, sealed the deal. Thanks everyone!
/r/askTRP06/04/18 04:10 AM
2

We all start somewhere man. Believe me, being a lifelong beta, it could’ve been a lot worse.
/r/TheRedPill04/04/18 06:56 AM
2

Do not tell her. You have to start somewhere so don’t even care whether she likes it or not. Take it as a huge personal victory and a major sign of progress for yourself! Of course you’re not going to have the skill of a pornstar, but she’s not expecting that anyways, because porn is a very unrealistical representational what sex is actually like. I think you’ll do just fine. Escalate, have sex, do your best, and enjoy the moment. Congrats on the potential lay!
/r/seduction04/04/18 12:21 AM
1

Lmao I think I’m that guy that wrote about the girl who kept telling me about other guys trying to kiss her and grab her ass!! I actually fell ass backwards into passing those initials tests when she first brought them on. At first I unconsciously agreed and amplified, but then as her tests escalated, I started to become angry/jealous. Again, unintentionally, I passed by ignoring them. (Because I was angry lol). Sure enough, she came crawling back a few weeks later apologizing for telling me thi…
/r/TheRedPill03/04/18 10:47 PM
14

Ever have a girl send you a snap everyday that said “streak”? Meaning, I have nothing interesting to say, and no particular interest in anything you’re doing, other than keeping this Snapchat streak alive. Idk what it is but it’s just plain obnoxious and rude to me. Unless you’re going to send me a snap with some sort of enthusiasm or conversation piece to it, don’t send me fucking lame and lazy pictures that say “streak”. My advice is to be communicating infrequent enough over the phone to not …
/r/seduction02/04/18 05:24 AM
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I mean, it really all comes down to what you want personally, so I suppose if you genuinely want her as a friend then that’s fine. But at the same time, don’t bullshit yourself or try to rationalize anything. If you’re attracted to her, have feelings for her, want to fuck her, and are deluding yourself in any way just to keep talking to her than you’ve got a big problem. If you truly don’t care and are not emotionally attached to her then why would you care what she classifies you as? If you’re …
/r/askTRP31/03/18 10:32 AM
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I think a lot of women today will actually string the orbiters along with sexual talk. Nudes, sexting, whatever it may be to dangle the carrot just a little bit to keep them around and keep them hopeful. They think they’re gunna fuck her, while she keeps them as her emotional outlet. She has no plans to fuck this guy. Now, could she ever fuck him? I think it’s possible, but understand that this guy is totally last in line behind Chads or potential Chads. So if she’s extremely lonely, and horny o…
/r/askTRP31/03/18 02:36 AM
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If you’re lifting like your life depends on it, you’ll reach a point naturally where people will question whether you’re on steroids or not. This is coming from a 5’5 145lb guy. I used to bodybuild naturally, recreationally, around ages 17-19 before injury struck. You can accomplish incredible things without steroids.
/r/askTRP30/03/18 02:22 AM
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Beat me to it. This is what stuck out to me also. One random person texted on a whim is asked to describe her and “horny” is the first word that comes to mind? Extremely telling. The fact that she has a rep and is now conservative in the bedroom with her now fiancée is just really off. She did god knows what with strangers and now won’t do that with the man she “loves”? Idk man, tread lightly with this one.
/r/askTRP30/03/18 02:19 AM
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Agreed. This is not a chick you want to catch feelings for because as another commentator stated, she’s not upgrade material. Be very weary of girls that openly try to flaunt other guys in your face. It’s fine if you have no attachment, but just watch yourself. Definitely do not let her know or see that her talking about/being out with other guys affects you. High probability she sees this weakness and tries to exploit it later on with emotional manipulation. Overall though you should be fine, i…
/r/askTRP29/03/18 10:56 PM
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Ding ding ^
/r/askTRP29/03/18 10:50 PM
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100% agree. NoFap is nothing to joke about, especially for those with more serious problems. True not everyone gets addicted and can use porn in moderation, but there are a ridiculous amount of people out there that soon find out they have a problem once they try to quit. Many have attested to NoFap being even harder than trying to quit smoking. The withdrawal symptoms of anxiety, physical sickness, and deep depression are signs that this is serious business.
/r/TheRedPill29/03/18 12:03 PM
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100% do not bring it up nor should you acknowledge it if she does. Ps- sounds like you could be teetering towards developing feelings for her. Be aware of this. Don’t let them consume you or make you forget that she’s only a plate
/r/askTRP28/03/18 10:48 AM
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Yeah, this is not your problem, nor is it your ex’s because she’s going to try to fuck whoever she wants. This is your “friends” problem. Seriously man I’d keep my eyes on this guy, because this is not someone you want around as your friend. Even telling you something like that is shitty, let alone if he actually does it. Don’t hesitate to kick this guys ass to the fucking curb. There’s a lot of chicks out there, and I do not understand why bros have to go and fuck around with their bro’s exes.
/r/askTRP28/03/18 10:01 AM
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Only mark Hamill could pull that off
/r/TheRedPill28/03/18 09:49 AM
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I think Rolo talked about something similar in his book right? Being a “contextual alpha?” - it’s interesting stuff especially when you’re considering where to take her on a date. As in, don’t take her snowboarding if you’re shit at snowboarding. On the flip side, if you’re yoked as shit and an alpha in your gym, maybe a gym date would be a good idea (assuming she’s really into fitness too). Overall, the concept of being a contextual alpha also means that you should indeed just become fucking sw…
/r/TheRedPill28/03/18 09:46 AM
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This ^ There is literally no positive to this behavior of hers.
/r/askTRP28/03/18 09:20 AM
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Yeah man, absolutely. Becoming more independent and ambitious over time will 100% create distance between you and the people that grew up with the “beta” you. Up until college I pretty much just accepted my role as the “baby of the family” because I was indeed the youngest. I kinda just followed in the footsteps of my older brother and did not have the self awareness to see that he liked to be the puppet master over me, that’s how t was for years and years. Sure enough, I went away to college an…
/r/TheRedPill28/03/18 03:25 AM
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I’ve started to notice this not just with the red pill but with other areas, such as meditation. No longer caring or getting caught up in petty day to day complaining as well as having strong passions for shit that doesn’t matter is an easy way for distance to form.
/r/TheRedPill28/03/18 01:23 AM
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Awesome insights. Thanks man
/r/askTRP28/03/18 12:52 AM
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Can you expand on this some more? That’s a really interesting point of how “this much text contact is the sign of a relationship that is never going to actually go anyplace” I think myself along with a lot of other guys fall into the trap of thinking, “oh well it’s 2018, things are different now, you have to text a lot to establish XYZ”
/r/askTRP27/03/18 11:02 PM
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One things for certain is that she’s not anything more than plate material. This is not LTR material by any means, she is trying to mess with your frame/manipulate you as others have pointed out. Let’s be honest, she’s probably going to fuck that guy either way. Start detaching yourself to whatever emotions are building. Just shake them off rn. Even if this was her push for exclusivity, it’s a totally fucked up way of going about it. I agree with the above suggestions: do not even play this game…
/r/askTRP27/03/18 12:35 AM
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I think so dude, especially for someone like me, who has been a lifelong beta and very has little experience with going out on “real” dates. I’ve invited a lot of tinder chicks over to watch movies and hookup, but I honestly have zero skill when it comes to going out on, what I like to call “big boy” dates. Quite frankly it terrifies me. That being said, I think you should, most of the time, always try to aim for sex if you’re getting the right signals, but merely going on the date is beneficial…
/r/askTRP23/03/18 03:17 AM
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Agreed. Either break up, or demote to plate status.
/r/askTRP23/03/18 03:06 AM
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The answer is no. Especially if you became addicted. Again, the answer is no. Do not entertain the idea And one more time in case it didn’t resonate, no.
/r/askTRP23/03/18 02:03 AM
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I wanted to check back in and give a quick update. I told her I’m out, and I blocked her on everything. It might not have been the most red pill way to end it, but as a lifelong beta, walking away from a girl I have ONEitis for is huge progress for me. Especially blocking her, and not holding out hope that she “comes back around”. Overall I’m not too concerned with “winning” or what she thinks of me, because she’s gone for good, so it doesn’t really matter. Thanks to everyone who gave advice. I …
/r/askTRP22/03/18 06:43 AM
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I think that’s why I feel so awful, is because I know now after all this time that 1) she’s not a great person 2) she’s a slut that’s probably getting slammed nightly. My problem is that I caught feelings before coming to this realization and it’s insanely hard to get myself to just not care. Maybe it’s because there was so much time invested? Who knows. I guess I should give myself a little credit for even walking away. Full blown beta me would’ve just kept getting strung along, and for all I k…
/r/seduction20/03/18 05:38 AM
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Agreed man. I’ve been a self admitted beta my entire life with women, and my immediate reaction to shit tests over the years has to get extremely hurt. I can’t imagine how many girls I fucked things up with because I just didn’t know any better. The good news is that this whole experience taught me a ton. Not only about shit tests but about my own attachment style.
/r/seduction20/03/18 05:17 AM
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Thanks man, and I agree. That’s all I have been thinking is that I totally misperceived the situation and caught feelings for a slut that managed to disguise herself as LTR material for a few months. But that’s a great point and I truly never thought of it that much, probably because I projected my feelings into her so much, but maybe she was trying to just show me that she wanted to keep things nonexclusive. I could’ve kept her around to bang but because I caught feelings I think the situation …
/r/seduction20/03/18 05:13 AM
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Thanks man. Yeah I don’t really think they’re shit tests either, just kinda fucked up behavior. I did set the boundary when the details about other guys were still somewhat mild, I did it as casual as I could but still, she clearly picked up on the fact that it bothered me.
/r/seduction20/03/18 05:08 AM
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I could send some of the idiots I know that shit test like it’s their job your way. You’ll be a master within a week.
/r/askTRP20/03/18 12:55 AM
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I’m in a similar position and did some extremely beta things just a few days ago despite knowing TRP philosophy. I won’t get into the details but I have forgiven myself a lot, because this takes time to become automatic. The beta behaviors and habits we have from years past are so deeply engrained in us that they are comfortable, they’re secure, and most of all, they are automatic in tough times. This experience was not a waste for you. You will learn tremendous lessons and are one step closer t…
/r/askTRP19/03/18 02:28 AM
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Common issue, especially for beginners. Even with many advanced lifters they’ll still have issues feeling their glutes activate after many many years of training. The lats are another stubborn muscle sometimes. You may even feel one working and not the other. Put your focus completely into contracting the muscle fully. I would also do pre-activation exercises before your main lift in which you are getting a slight pump, and putting all of your focus into that specific muscle. Another good cue is…
/r/askTRP17/03/18 11:14 PM
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“The non fat type”
/r/askTRP17/03/18 10:57 AM
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Honestly man girls end up thinking it’s because of them anyways so don’t sweat it. Play it off like, eh, not happening today, let’s watch tv. If she ever said anything like “oh well you can’t even keep your dick hard”, so what, she sounds shitty and deep down, she probably still thinks it’s because of her lol It’s unfortunate but not as big of a deal as society would have you believe
/r/askTRP16/03/18 12:56 AM
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Anytime. I think immediately framing it with humor and taking that “amused” POV and seeing those childish/comical their actions are, can immediately help negate a lot of bad emotions in you or I. Such as anger, bitterness, resentment, neediness, fear of loss, etc.
/r/askTRP15/03/18 08:22 AM
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I think having the overall mentality of girls “screwing you over” is very defeating in the end. I had this mindset for YEARS in middle school and high school. They screwed me over when they didn’t like me and wanted a “bad boy” or a “scumbag” instead. This just isn’t true. If the red pill has taught me anything in the fairly limited time I’ve been here is that you just have to enjoy the nature of women for what it is. It’s comical, it should amuse you how childish and erratic they are sometimes.…
/r/askTRP15/03/18 07:07 AM
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For this particular context it seems as though her interest is low. You don’t have any time invested into each other really. However, don’t underestimate a girl’s need/desire for power. I have 100% been involved with girls that will purposely ignore me for hours in an attempt to gain “power” to show that she’s doesn’t care or has great things to do lol once you notice it enough you see how childish it is. It’s amusing
/r/askTRP14/03/18 11:12 PM
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Hmm. What do you think it could be? In all honestly, what is your gut telling you? Now from what I’ve read it seems like this is only pertaining to social media correct? Which platform are you talking about here? Facebook? Instagram? Tinder? I’ve found that a lot of girls will flake if you try to make a date too fast. As in, you’re talking to them for a couple hours on tinder, they are replying at a decent pace, you set up a date and they say yes. Cool. However the next day it seems to me, like …
/r/askTRP14/03/18 09:14 AM
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If they’re interested start thinking, ok, I need to just not talk them out of liking me at this point. So just be aware of how much time you spend texting and whatnot. You can learn a little bit of personal info/joke but don’t extend it out all day. Snapchat is a great way to talk without talking. Also, don’t beat yourself up over them flaking. While you could possibly be doing things “wrong”, I’ve learned that sometimes shit happens that’s beyond your control. They could flake for reasons that …
/r/askTRP14/03/18 06:05 AM
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I think it’ll work in either way being proposed. 1) something being translated in the sub communications. More so what you’re asking about. Maybe pheromones, some kind of energy you’re giving off. Again, this is the more theoretical idea. 2) you feel validated, confident, have an abundance mentality after having just fucked, so you’re on top of the world and in turn, it starts to be conveyed though your words, eye contact, body language, and overall behaviors. So, I would wager a guess that it w…
/r/askTRP14/03/18 04:06 AM
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It could be that you’re looking really hard for signs of hypergamy now that you know about it and stumbled upon TRP. It’s not to say that that’s not what it is, but you could be overthinking/overanalyzing. I think your theory about her just trying to fit into the social circle is reasonable too. Maybe she’s just trying to fit in and she’s a little nervous.
/r/askTRP13/03/18 08:29 AM
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I agree a break might be needed from TRP lol this is classic overthinking. But I think another commenter nailed it with saying your SMV declined in some way. I used to be pretty god damn jacked at age 18, pursuing a natural bodybuilding career. I’ve never had more attention from friends or women than at that time. A shoulder injury caused a domino effect and I basically went through a 5 year period where it looked like I never touched a weight. As expected, the attention from friends and women e…
/r/askTRP13/03/18 02:51 AM
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I’ve realized that you can just go whatever route you want if you genuinely don’t care. Hard next, soft next, maintaining some contact here and there, it doesn’t matter. If you’re genuinely outcome independent, have an abundance mentality, then you will embody the IDGAF attitude to the highest extent. You won’t feel “disrespected” by her shit tests, you won’t get jealous, you won’t take an ego hit. Nothing. You’ll look at all of her shit tests, no matter what they are, as childish. You’ll find t…
/r/askTRP13/03/18 12:07 AM
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Lol I think if this was true she’d be a little more riled up and downright furious. She was sexually harassed and then fired. She knows that could result in major legal repercussions right?
/r/askTRP12/03/18 11:15 PM
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It seems as if I have the bad habit of falling into being the emotional tampon for girls. More so the emotional validation guy in which she’ll talk about having sex with, but never have sex with when push comes to shove. So it’s not full blown beta orbiter, but it’s not a good place to be at all. The question I have, is do girls even bother testing their emotional validation guy? The reason I ask is because I tend to have pretty low self esteem by default. (Bad household, etc etc). Because I hav…
/r/askTRP12/03/18 06:54 AM
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I’ve without a doubt noticed it in several scenarios. For me personally it comes after they’ve been branch swinging and appear to have something “better” solidified.
/r/askTRP12/03/18 06:39 AM
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Is this always true though? A lot of women will want you to stick around purely as her beta orbiter, or, slightly above that, an emotional validation guy who she may or may not dangle the carrot in front of with a little bit of sexual teasing. However, would she even bother to test the orbiter or emotional tampon? That might make the difference.
/r/askTRP12/03/18 06:32 AM
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Absolutely man. Especially depending on how you perceived her when things ended. If it was an ugly breakup I think I’d be better off than a hard to say goodbye, what could have been, type of split. I had the same issue with music, and assimilated many many other things with a former ONEitis. It does get easier. I was haunted by lurking memories because I never let myself truly move on and see other girls. Big mistake. I think that’s crucial. Just get out there and apply TRP, and I think you’ll f…
/r/askTRP10/03/18 06:08 AM
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update Since this post got a lot of attention I wanted to post a little bit of an update. So last Saturday night she sent the snap. I became emotionally uncentered, hurt, jealous, angry. Seeing as though I fell into the ONEitis trap with this girl, it really bothered me. I cared. So I went with radio silence for 3 days. Here’s how her attempts to contact me went; Day 1: a barrage of snaps and replies to my IG story. All together maybe 10 outreaches. Day 2: A snap in the morning, afternoon, and a…
/r/askTRP10/03/18 05:48 AM
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So here is why I think she has a low n count. 1) it’s relative. Girls n counts are ridiculous these days so if this girl has slept with under 10 guys (which I believe she has, I’d wager it’s around 4-7) then by all accounts, shes low. 2) she’s so open and eager about the guys that show her interest, it makes me think that she probably doesn’t get as much male attention as she wants me to believe. Or, not as much as her other female roommates. If she was truly fucking a copious amount of guys the…
/r/askTRP09/03/18 12:00 AM
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Very interesting. So it’s going so well, that you’re afraid to lose it or mess up? I have this same issue. Evidently its a fear of loss. From what I’ve been told it has to deal with your core beliefs about yourself. For me personally, I always drift back into old, beta habits of thinking like: “I’m not good enough, I’m inferior, she’s out of my league, she’ll find out I’m not as alpha as she might think I am right now, she’ll leave me for another guy if she has the chance, I’m going to mess this…
/r/askTRP08/03/18 11:41 PM
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She blew me but no sex, apparently she was on her period. I know, I took it with a grain of salt, but hey, a BJ was still a pretty great sign that I did a whole lot right on the date. Oh I totally know that she’s fucking while she’s out there, this is not something I am oblivious to lol and I’m totally fine with it because we’re not exclusive, I hookup with chicks myself, and knowing how she is, an official relationship of any kind would be beyond pointless. I can’t control what she does out the…
/r/askTRP08/03/18 11:26 PM
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Curious about a few things: are you asking because you feel as though things are going bad and you sense that the relationship is coming to an end? You feel her pulling back and becoming disinterested?
/r/askTRP08/03/18 10:44 PM
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This was awesome. Clear, straightforward and it personally answered a lot of things that were still hazy to me.
/r/askTRP08/03/18 08:54 AM
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I understand your frustration man. When I first started learning about shit tests, I grew angry, and just wanted to take a break from dating altogether. It pissed me off that they would introduce unnecessary drama. Sure enough, me being pissed, angry, insecure, and jealous made me fail each one. Now, I have a new awareness for them. Not only that, I have done a good amount of work in trying to change my perspective altogether. Women and shit tests go together hand in hand whether we like it or n…
/r/askTRP08/03/18 07:36 AM
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Hmm, interesting. Well since this is grounds for just getting yourself to move on from her I don’t think it would hurt at all to just flat out confront her about it. Maybe she does have a problem, rarely does anyone think they have a porn addiction until they try to stop and quickly find out that they can’t. I’d straight up ask her what the deal is, how often she watches porn, why does she prefer masturbating over sex. Tell her you can sense something is off and you want to know what it is (is s…
/r/askTRP08/03/18 12:02 AM
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Whoops just made a comment about this without seeing yours, you beat me to it!
/r/askTRP07/03/18 11:44 PM
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Alternate theory here, but is it possible she has a masturbation/porn addiction? Rarely do I ever see this theory thrown out there for a girl. It’s always that “she must not love him/be attracted to him”. When a guy prefers to jerk off over having sex with his GF, he has a “fapping/porn addiction”. Never is it suggested that the boyfriend doesn’t love his GF. Dopamine addiction isn’t really selective, a girl can get hooked on porn or rewire her brain to prefer self stimulation over the real thin…
/r/askTRP07/03/18 11:42 PM
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I would definitely get rid of porn. The negative effect on you is no joke. If you’re only fapping like once a week and having regular sex with no ED or performance issues then you are probably fine. For those with sexual dysfunctions like ED or porn induced ED, yeah, I’d cut out the porn for life, as well as abstain from fapping for the recommended 90 days. You need to rewire your brain and body for sex with a real woman, with no ED.
/r/askTRP06/03/18 11:48 PM
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I did indeed fall for her. As a beta always growing up with a scarcity mindset and thinking I need women to like me for validation, I’m extremely prone to ONEitis. This girl shows me interest and also ticks a lot of the boxes I look for in a potential LTR and I get hooked. I fucked myself by getting too invested, but at the same time I didn’t know any better. Now I do, and it’s my responsibility to not stay attached. Or, just leave altogether. If I can detach and keep her as a plate to fuck over…
/r/askTRP06/03/18 11:29 PM
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I really do appreciate the positive feedback here man. I’m taking my time with this. First and foremost my emotional attachment to her needs to go.
/r/askTRP06/03/18 11:25 PM
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That’s probably the place I need to get to, because when I started talking to her again that’s all it was meant to be really. And along the way I made the mistake of catching feelings again and thinking an LTR might be possible. Thankfully I don’t want an LTR with her anymore. I can totally see her cheating on me. She’s an attention whore and needs male validation. I do however think I can bang her consistently over the summer after she graduates. Thanks for this feedback man, this was really he…
/r/askTRP06/03/18 03:32 PM
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Thanks a lot man, this was solid feedback. Very interesting stuff on how women go about the exclusivity talk in different ways. I’ve always felt that her being overly eager to talk about other guys was strange, like she was stroking her own ego. It made me feel like she doesn’t actually get as much male attention as her other roommates or something. Like why is she so proud of her tinder matches and whatnot. It’s bizarre. And you’re spot on in that I fell for someone who I thought was a better p…
/r/askTRP06/03/18 02:48 PM
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This is a slippery slope, because it all comes down to the context in how I’m able to describe the situation here over Reddit, as opposed to actually being in the situation myself. Ultimately I believe I’m the only one that will truly know why she is doing this, that’s why I am taking some time away from the situation and carefully taking into account everyone’s POV. In the end, I could very well just walk. Whether that means a hard next, or just phase her out gradually. In the end, I agree, I d…
/r/askTRP06/03/18 02:36 PM
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I didn’t edit the post my man, you misquoted me. No worries.
/r/askTRP06/03/18 02:15 PM
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I have no doubts that she knows exactly what she did. She’s blown up my phone with notifications and is clearly worried/thrown off by this ghosting. Which makes it all the more strange why she would even take that risk of sending me the video. Or why she would continue to do this testing time and time again. She seems to become fearful and regrets it. So much so that in 2016 she reached out and apologized for it after I ignored her message for 3 weeks. She said how bad she felt that she told me …
/r/askTRP06/03/18 02:06 PM
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Lol Did not type “my girl” but hey, thanks for the stellar advice.
/r/askTRP06/03/18 01:46 PM
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Thanks for the feedback man. I have a question about her “shit tests” of eagerly telling me about other guys. Are these even considered tests? The reason I ask if because there’s really no way for me to pass/win. If I ignore her for a few days and essentially punish her bad behavior, then it looks like I’m butt hurt. If I establish boundaries as I have done already, (I did this in a assertive, calm, adult manner, not angrily/jealous) then I still come off as being effected. Or, and I think this …
/r/askTRP06/03/18 08:56 AM
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I give you all the props in the world for going cold on social media. It can be a straight up cancer. I’ve tried it myself and I experienced a similar vibe. People seem to just forget about you altogether. No one will ever ask “hey where have you been lately I haven’t seen you post on Facebook in a while!” Lol I think it’s always best looked at as a tool, which was its intended purpose to begin with. Nowadays people identify with their online profiles. Use it as a tool to boost your social statu…
/r/askTRP06/03/18 06:12 AM
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If this the case, do you think ignoring her for a few days is still the best option? So far I’ve gone silent for 2 days and she’s reached out a quite a bit. If she’s trying to push for exclusivity, should I bring up her shitty snap of her and another guy or totally ignore it?
/r/askTRP06/03/18 06:07 AM
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Wholeheartedly agree.
/r/askTRP06/03/18 04:50 AM
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Thanks man, this advice helps a lot. I’ve been silent since it happened and have been chatting up with other chicks. I should add that I do always talk to other girls, but this ONEitis has her on a pedestal for sure. It sucks. “What gives you pleasure today will also give you pain tomorrow” i suppose. On the issue of her contacting me - she has indeed contacted me a ridiculous amount of times starting the morning after she sent the snap. She’s probably sent about 10-12 snaps so far. So she’s pur…
/r/askTRP06/03/18 03:13 AM
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This is the first response I’ve gotten other than “drop her”. So here is where I am at right now mentally: As of now, she’s been ghosted for 2 days. No contact from me at all. At this point I am done. I’m pissed, I feel like she’s toying with me, and doesn’t respect me. In these last two days it’s like I have been mentally detaching and detoxifying myself from her. It’s actually pretty strange. My perception of her has shifted, I even look at her IG pics and feel a totally different emotion. Wit…
/r/askTRP06/03/18 03:02 AM
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Ever since she’s sent that snap I’ve ignored all of her attempts at contact. So as of now I’m totally ghosting her. Wouldn’t a snap on occasion demonstrate weakness on my end? Maybe it would be best to end things gradually and be civil, but remove my emotional investment and almost all of my attention. I could potentially fuck her over the summer when she gets home. Im relatively new to TRP in general so if you want to consider this a “soft next” instead of ghosting, then I’m not sure how to end…
/r/askTRP06/03/18 02:43 AM
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That’s a huge internal conflict I have. On one hand I wanna let it not bother me because there’s no realistic long term opportunity, so if we just continue to talk I could fuck her for the summer until she leaves for grad school. On the other hand, my gut is telling me that she is toying with me to see how much she can get away with. It’s totally angered me that she would deliberately try to hurt me in this way, and I’ve been ghosting her. If I continue talking to her, I believe that it’s becaus…
/r/askTRP06/03/18 02:38 AM
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Haha I did before this happened. She mentioned other guys before in an attempt to stir me up, but she’s never done anything repulsive like this before. That absolutely changed my perception of her. An LTR is not in the cards, and the more I look back on everything, was just wishful thinking on my end
/r/askTRP06/03/18 02:33 AM
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Yes, exactly that and on several occasions. I told her in 2016 after she first started up with her shit tests and eventually apologized for them. I made it clear that I’m not in this to be buddies. Aka: sex, or a relationship. I reiterated it to her after we started talking again. She said something about how I was “important to her”, and I immediately called her out on it and said it sounds like you only saw me as your therapist. She said that she absolutely didn’t mean it like that and to not …
/r/askTRP06/03/18 01:54 AM
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Agreed. I am extremely attached and had beta fantasies of getting into a relationship with her. Truth be told, she has all of the qualities for it. Low n count, great family, great personality, unreal ass, not a prude, and a great career ahead of her. That’s probably why I developed such strong ONEitis, because I saw the potential in an LTR. Now? Not so much. Not only is it going to be unreasonable due to logistics, but how can I trust her now? Why would I want a girl to do this shit when she’s …
/r/askTRP06/03/18 01:48 AM
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I agree. The more I analyze it from top to bottom I believe I’m her emotional validation while she’s away at school. She can hook up with other guys and not have to develop any sort of attachment to them, and then I hear about her problems. Now admittedly we are insanely sexual with each other, we have phone sex and sext, but I think that’s just her way of giving me a little bit to keep stringing me along. I’ve totally ghosted her the last 2 days. She’s been sending me snap after snap, and I can…
/r/askTRP06/03/18 01:45 AM
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Well there is a ton of context behind this story, but I summarize it, we talked for 7 months in 2016, managed one date in that time (distance constraints with her being out of state) and we hooked up (although no sex). Even now, she continues to reference this date, saying all the things she remembers, how hot it was when I did XYZ, how she wished she let me do so much more, she was on her period at the time, etc. Flattering but I don’t read into the “I was on my period” stuff too much. Anyways,…
/r/askTRP06/03/18 12:20 AM
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This seems to be the consensus. I’ve been under an illusion all this time it seems. I’ve been nothing more than the emotional validation guy has phone sex and exchanges nudes with her. It’s a clever veil. It’s enough to keep me around yet there’s never any mention of wanting an LTR from her end
/r/askTRP05/03/18 09:39 PM
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*Side note - I totally realize that engaging in a long distance thing with a girl I met only once, fooled around with yet didn’t even have sex with, is absolutely beta. I’m trying my best to shed this old beta conditioning. TRP has woken my ass up to a certain degree about how much of a woman I’ve been all of my life. This is why I’m here, trying to learn. This girl graduates in May and will finally be home for the summer. I figure with all of the time invested already, why not fuck her for a fe…
/r/askTRP05/03/18 09:37 PM
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The more I stay in this thing and see the problems arise from it, the more I agree with your statement. We’re both using each other for security, for validation. I know personally that Ive always been in a scare mindset. I’m starting to see that she must not be meeting many guys that are blowing her away or that want her around either.
/r/seduction04/03/18 07:24 PM
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heres an update As expected, she’s bombarding me with snaps today. This happens the next day following her shit behavior, each and every time. Clearly it doesn’t matter. I’ve ignored her for weeks after shit like this before, only to have her apologize and admit how shitty it was on her end. It doesn’t matter to her I guess, because she keeps on doing it and has zero respect for me or my feelings. If she’s testing me to feel my strength then she’s going to feel it, because I’m walking for good.
/r/seduction04/03/18 07:09 PM
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Thanks a lot man, this was extremely helpful feedback. With how sexual she is with me over the phone, over text and over snap, I just assume that’s how it is with her other guys, and especially the ones she sees, yanno, in person lol As far as the bonding over sex I suppose I meant it more so to establish the fact I’m not here for being her friend. She’ll continue to fuck other guys, I have no control over that. But I agree, I do think it’s more so toying with me than a test. I am indeed putting…
/r/seduction04/03/18 08:28 AM
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She’s extremely smart and a huge shit tester. Everything texted to me, posted on her snap story or sent to me on snap is tactical and has a purpose. Idk if she just wants to prove to me that she’s with other guys or what, but again, it’s all in her intent. The fact that she made a conscious decision to try and make me angry/get me jealous is what actually angers me. Thanks for the feedback man!
/r/seduction04/03/18 08:07 AM
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I’m starting to think that’s what it is too but in a more clever disguise. We have phone sex and send nudes/vids all the time (the interaction between us is extremely sexual at all times) yet I think I am still the “gay best friend” to her in a way. She’ll fuck these other guys while she’s at school and rely on me for validation through text/me giving her attention. That’s why I’ve been pushing hard for her to come in and visit, because I went though this ordeal on 2016 and she eventually became…
/r/seduction04/03/18 08:03 AM
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Honestly man. As beta as I am and have always been with chicks, you have to stand up for not only what you laid down in the first place (please do not tell me about other dudes you’re hooking up with), but to continuing to put up with it. How many times can I tell her “don’t tell me about other guys please” She could honestly suck 5 cocks in one night and I wouldn’t care as long as I didn’t hear about it. I hook up with other girls while we’re apart as well. The fact that she ignores my feelings…
/r/seduction04/03/18 07:58 AM
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Jealously and a fear of loss. I totally agree with the above comment about getting jealous. The thought of her coming across someone she perceives as more “alpha” than me literally turns my insides. Overall, just the fact that she likes someone more than me is like a kick in the gut. This is a major problem for me regardless of the situation. Even if we’re not exclusive, and I could be talking to multiple girls, I still get pissed off at the idea of her texting other guys, let alone hanging out …
/r/seduction03/03/18 08:49 AM
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I guess you had a hard time resisting that Asian persuasion.
/r/seduction25/02/18 11:24 AM
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This post was a wild ride from start to finish
/r/seduction25/02/18 11:23 AM
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Man this was spot on. Recovering beta here, and I’ve allowed myself to get over a lot of unnecessary past pain and regret by telling myself that when I was younger, I literally did not know any better, and I had to go through that to eventually learn and grow. I would’ve never found the red pill, I would’ve never read the rational male, I would’ve never learned about the importance of frame, and I’d be repeating that endless cycle of ONEitis and rejection
/r/TheRedPill24/02/18 01:01 AM
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Well man I’m sorry to hear about all of this. It sounds like your ex has some serious mental issues which are no joke. People often get addicted to the idea of another person let alone their presence. This will heal with time. I seriously do not understand the hate that you received after saving her fucking life. Not just from her, but her family. Idk man, from what you’ve detailed here it sounds like you should do your absolute best to move on because going back to her and that world seems like…
/r/seduction19/02/18 09:51 AM
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Some context: she goes to college out of state. We talked for 7 months during 2016, and we managed to have one date in the small window of time in which she was home (she was away for her summer and fall semesters). We hooked up and everything went smoothly. She’s graduating/will be home in May. (Also, we are planning on seeing other each before May, her coming home once and if all goes well, me going out there once)
/r/seduction19/02/18 09:41 AM
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It’s not that I don’t think they don’t fantasize, I suppose what I mean is that now in 2018 it’s more balanced than ever before. As someone else mentioned in another comment, sex is more abundant than ever for girls now, and more scare than ever for guys. Those in the scare mentality are the ones who fantasize because they dream of that “one special person” to come along and put and end to their internal suffering/scare mentality. I think that was an excellent point made.
/r/seduction16/02/18 09:57 PM
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Very logical way of approaching it, I like that idea lot and I’m going to remember it. The next time we’re opening up to these topics I’ll use this approach and put the focus on her. It’ll be nice to gain some clarity as far as where her head is at and not just being left in the dark
/r/seduction16/02/18 05:34 AM
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You’re absolutely right, keeping my self interests in mind has to be priority number one. After all, this girl pushed me away once before, now she’s back, I’m not chasing no matter how much I like her. What I’m doing currently is making a strong push for us to see each other and soon, I’m not waiting until she graduates in May. I want her to come home and see me first. If she does this, then I’ll know that she’s serious this time around. If not, then playing pen pal over text is going to end. I …
/r/seduction16/02/18 05:14 AM
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Totally agree. I want to tell her how I feel but at the same time I know that it will come off as me giving her an ultimatum and that’s not what I want. I tend to think in distorted ways (anxiety sufferer), and I’m trying to retrain myself to just accept the fact that if it doesn’t work out for whatever reason, then it mustn’t have been meant to be.
/r/seduction16/02/18 04:36 AM
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Well although I have this strong fear of loss, that’s where the distortion comes in because she literally contacts me first everyday, multiple times a day. She’ll double, triple up on texts and snaps, showing all the signs of interest. It’s not so much that things are going bad rn at all, as I’m sure it’s natural for girls to just pull back and do their own thing every now and then (women are like cats, they come and go as they please). The root of my issue is just that, my issues. It’s very tou…
/r/seduction16/02/18 04:07 AM
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Hey thanks man. As much as this post and its comments from you guys are helping me out, I’m also glad that this will be here for another guy who may find himself in a similar whacky scenario as I’m in rn.
/r/seduction16/02/18 04:02 AM
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Here’s some more backstory to my situation to anyone that cares or happens to stumble upon this post later on: I met this girl on tinder in May of 2016. She left to go away for school in another state for her summer semester a few days after we started talking. She was coming off of a tough breakup earlier in May with a guy she dated for about 2 years (big surprise with tinder right?). So I knew that I was kind of just her fall back guy to give her validation and fill the void that her ex left, …
/r/seduction16/02/18 03:48 AM
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What an overwhelming response to this post. Thank you to everyone who commented and left feedback, advice, and shared their similar experiences. I’m really glad this post garnered attention, because now the advice from you guys will be here for another guy down the road who may be in a similar situation as I am right now.
/r/seduction16/02/18 03:33 AM
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Truthfully I think that burning desire to get into a LTR has everything to do with me, my upbringing, and my experiences with girls in the past rather than me actually finding a girl that I like. The girls that I inevitably fall for are interchangeable it seems. It’s not so much them as it is the fact that growing up I was rejected many times by girls, and each time my desire to get a GF grew. Each rejection killed my self esteem more and more, and I began to think I was a total loser because 1)…
/r/seduction16/02/18 12:52 AM
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Awesome post man, thanks a ton. Your 3 questions posed are very essential. I do want to date her, however, the distance will be an issue for quite some time, so no, it’s not really feasible. As far as boundaries go, I would like to bring up exclusivity but at the same time I ask myself “why even go through the trouble of worrying about it?”. She’s away at school, a partier, she’s a hyper sexual girl, and there’s guys around all the time (just in general, horny college guys hitting on her). With …
/r/seduction16/02/18 12:05 AM
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A cold hard dose of truth right to the jaw. Thanks man, I needed this. The fact that we never see each other is a huge problem. I can’t wait around 3 months at a time to see her. Girls have a carousel of guys that talk to, and as you said, she’ll eventually find one she clicks with that is actually near her, start to fuck him, and I’ll be old news. I have other girls that I see as well, but my biggest problem is treating this girl as more of a priority. I need to shift my mindset to one of “if s…
/r/seduction16/02/18 12:00 AM
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Oh man, our situations are eerily similar. I’ve been trying to learn as much as possible on game and how to correct my beta ways, but everything I’ve heard states that I should let her be the one to express her true feelings first, and be the one to discuss a relationship. But at this point idk. I would like to know where her head is at, because if she isn’t in to me like I am to her, then I am absolutely wasting my time and spinning my wheels. It would be better to find out now then keep this u…
/r/seduction15/02/18 11:54 PM
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Wow, all I can say is thank you man. This was by far the most impactful piece of advice I have received so far. So many of your points were spot on. The fact that she has been initiating contact with me every single day, calling me, being extremely affection, and a host of other positive signs yet I still fear loss and rejection says a lot about how distorted my perspective is. I am very outcome dependent, and I’d be lying if I said that I wasn’t eyeing making her my girlfriend when she graduate…
/r/seduction15/02/18 11:50 PM
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Excellent point. I totally agree with the idea that men/women romanticize about someone so that their scarcity mindset can finally be let go
/r/seduction15/02/18 10:05 PM
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It’s so crazy that how we as men are more inclined to do the romanticizing and day dreaming about the Disney like, storybook ending than females are. From reading the Rational Male I would assume it has to do with the feminization of our culture, and men being beta males plugged into the feminine matrix from very early on.
/r/seduction15/02/18 08:04 AM
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It ain’t fun brotha
/r/seduction15/02/18 07:47 AM
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Absolutely. I like to delay my response time too, that way I feel like the power is in my hands and then I won’t be anxiously awaiting on a text. When it’s my turn to reply, I feel great. I feel like I have control and the ball is in my court. Then I reply and I’m analyzing every word, much like you stated with the exclamation points. Anxiety has to be a major contributor here, as it’s a common theme for both of us. I have this deep fear of rejection that stems back to my teenage years with girl…
/r/seduction14/02/18 07:32 AM
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Oh man hahaha I feel like I’m talking to myself here! I do have really bad anxiety, go figure. Panic attacks and all. I stress about every minute detail like that too, and then I go to bed analyzing every little aspect of the interaction. Whether it was good or bad day for the overall progression of the relationship, how the mood was, the vibe she was giving off. Did she seem into me today? Maybe I was too available, maybe I revealed too much about myself and now there’s no mystery. All of this …
/r/seduction14/02/18 06:00 AM
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Lol agreed.
/r/seduction14/02/18 05:54 AM
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Man this resonated big time. I have ONEitis over this one chick that I can’t fucking shake. Every single day is like this. “Thank god, she still likes me for another day” or “she hasn’t lost interest yet, that’s a relief”. It’s a deeply rooted issue for me. Not feeling worthy of being liked, constantly needing approval, fear of eventually turning them off. I fail to consider that they might just be legitimately busy, and I assume the worst, like she’s fucking another guy or has started talking t…
/r/seduction14/02/18 05:25 AM
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It’s created a really bad addiction to not just tinder and Bumble, but my phone in general. I’m constantly checking it, and it seems like those notifications are what makes me happy. It truly seems less about the girls, and more so about the dopamine rush from the notifications, as well as the constant validation from the girl texting me (Ex. “Whew! She still likes me. Thank god”). The problem with not texting girls being a motivator, is that it only reinforces this cycle for me. The constant sw…
/r/seduction14/02/18 04:39 AM
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I actually have had tinder for 2 years now. I mean I’ve had a lot of success with it, managed to have sex with two girls and a good amount of BJ’s, but I don’t put much stock into it. I mean I suppose I should to an extent, because I was confident enough and obviously did enough right with these girls, but after all it’s tinder, and my work was cut out for me.
/r/seduction13/02/18 10:59 PM
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You know I think I have to agree with you. The more I reflect back on my life I always thought in terms of “if I do this, get this, accomplish this, etc, then girls will like me”. The problem was that my inner game never changed. No matter what external accomplishments or changes came into my life, I was still a nervous, awkward, unconfident beta. Always. Even when I started bodybuilding and developed a great physique, I almost felt entitled to women. I may have turned a few heads or garnered in…
/r/seduction13/02/18 10:01 PM
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“She must not be fat”
/r/seduction13/02/18 08:32 PM
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My god. This mans been busy!
/r/seduction13/02/18 10:09 AM
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Four Horsemen by Metallica (Billy from Strangers Things pre-date pump up song)
/r/seduction13/02/18 06:56 AM
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Hey man, glad to see someone can relate. I’ve had sex 2 times but might as well be considered a virgin still, due to porn induced erectile dysfunction. Could not get it up for the life of me. It’s interested that you noted how the thought of someone being attracted to you makes you uncomfortable. I suffer from something similar. The idea of a girl actually falling for me or telling me she likes me seems totally unimaginable. When girls tel me they think I’m attractive, moan while we’re hooking u…
/r/seduction13/02/18 06:26 AM
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Great point. I studied a lot of Corey Wayne’s material in the last 2 years and although much of it was eye opening and very helpful in ridding some beta behaviors, one of his main teachings is that if she starts to lose interest, it’s because I did enough over time to turn her off. Well I had a pretty impactful parting of ways with a girl I admittedly had ONEitis for, and the whole time after it ended I totally beat myself up thinking about what I did wrong, where I was too needy, where I was to…
/r/seduction13/02/18 06:22 AM
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It’s tough but little improvements are all you need to verify that this can indeed be done.
/r/TheRedPill12/02/18 02:40 PM
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Hi there. Great job man, a very inspirational journey you’ve set out on. As a 25 year old guy who has been lifting since 13, and have been involved with natural bodybuilding for about 10 years, I have had similar experiences such as: gaining attention from friends, and girls when developing a great physique. However, I want to offer one very important piece of advice: do not define yourself by your physique. I repeat, do not let this shape your identity. When I was about 19 i injured my shoulder…
/r/TheRedPill12/02/18 10:53 AM
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I struggle with this too. Im always fearful of coming off as needy due to the fact that I am indeed a recovering beta with a scarcity mentality. I like the idea of controlling what you can control. Your strategy of not responding in the blink of an eye is good, as it makes it seem like you have stuff going on. Also, let her do 70-80% percent of the initiating. In other words, just hit the tennis ball back. Don’t double text (one at 11am, then another at 9pm if she didn’t respond). Don’t jump fro…
/r/seduction10/02/18 03:39 AM
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So it looks as though the consensus on this is to Agree and Amplify. Good work boys. Once, again, big fan of the STOTD.
/r/seduction10/02/18 01:19 AM
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STOTD is becoming a personal favorite of mine and fast. Do any of you guys use the pressure flip technique for this kind of materialistic shit test?
/r/seduction08/02/18 06:22 PM
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Oh shit that’s a good point
/r/seduction07/02/18 05:05 PM
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I totally agree. Thank you for the perspective. I’m trying to practice it in small bits now, such as absolutely not responding to any texts while I’m lifting because I know I need to make my time more valuable. And I’m also forcing myself to go out more and be more social.
/r/seduction07/02/18 07:56 AM
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Fuck lol well thank you!! I will look into this immediately!
/r/seduction07/02/18 07:16 AM
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Thanks a lot man. I guess I should be really grateful that I at least have the self awareness of these weaknesses. That’s probably the single biggest tool to spark change. As far as my background there is certainly some baggage. Nothing super traumatic, but my parents have a very very mentally and emotionally abusive relationship. My dad, although on the surface a hyper aggressive macho guy, has extreme fears of jealously, guilt, paranoia, insecurity, etc. He does not show any affection to me or…
/r/seduction07/02/18 03:30 AM
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Funny enough, when we talked last year, she texted me one night after getting home from the bar “I kissed this boy”. At that time I was fed up with the shit tests already and I didn’t respond. At all, for 3 weeks. She finally texted me back “can we be friends again?” And she apologized for what she said, and said how awful she felt about it. That’s the first time when I clearly stated to her that I’m not her therapist or her male BFF. I said I’m not here to be friends just so we’re clear. Initia…
/r/seduction26/01/18 05:28 PM
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As someone else stated, “there’s no good response to this kind of stuff” - 100% agreed. It’s a total lose-lose situation for me. 1) if I listen to her tell me about these current hookups of hers, I now run the risk of her seeing me as her male BFF or therapist 2) if I go the route I’ve been going, and more or less convey that we will not be discussing this subject, then I can come off as being effected by it; jealous. And by her disregarded my request to not discuss this subject time and time ag…
/r/seduction26/01/18 01:29 PM
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Thanks man, this is the best advice I’ve gotten so far. When she started these these tests initially, my responses would be coming from a place of jealousy (not fully letting it show but I’m sure there’s a way to detect it in my tone and whatnot) due to not knowing what a shit Test was, why she was doing this, etc etc. So when I would say these responses I’m sure they didn’t go over well. But now that Im at least a little more knowledgeable, I know that the shit tests should actually flatter me.…
/r/seduction26/01/18 01:18 PM
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She goes to school in a different state about 3 hours away so the windows of opportunity we’ve had to hangout have been slim. We managed to hangout once and we hooked up. I continue to talk to her because the connection and chemistry are great (and her ass is on another level), and other than these bullshit tests things are fine. I’m trying to nip them in the bud now before they end up being the reason things go south
/r/seduction25/01/18 07:11 PM
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She has an ass that can move mountains.
/r/seduction25/01/18 07:07 PM
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She is definitely a sex hungry bitch haha. And that’s fine, she can do what she wants while she’s away, I have dates and hookups myself here at home. I’m really not interested in being exclusive anyways while she’s away at school. The more and more I uncover about her it just seems like she’s a natural shit tester, and it’s built into her personality. She’s a real ball buster, and so am I, but sometimes tests like these become a slippery slope. Thanks for the feedback man
/r/seduction25/01/18 04:44 PM
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Thanks for the feedback man. The reason I say they worked well (I know I’m missing a lot of context behind the story) is because of her pursuit, and she keeps coming back to me whenever I pull away. Whenever I show signs of being distant myself (like days where I’m just extremely busy) she’ll send 3-4 texts/snaps. When I have given her these responses, they did seem to shut down the tests altogether.
/r/seduction25/01/18 04:35 PM
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I definitely feel like I can do better with my responses. If I did then I suspect I would’ve had these tests once and it would’ve been over, but unfortunately not lol.
/r/seduction25/01/18 04:28 PM
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Thanks for the feedback guys. It’s nice to get a fresh perspective. The problem with this is that I think I am progressively failing, and not failing in one swift manner. I say this because she still reaches out and contacts me everyday, and has for months. But the fact that she’s constantly testing me makes me think I’m still doing enough wrong to warrant these tests. Just trying to refine my approach and get better, the best anyone can do.
/r/seduction25/01/18 04:26 PM
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