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| 7 | Dancefloor game : Approach without eye contact | Fundamentals | Jikhi742 | /r/seduction | 15/12/25 10:25 PM |
| 5 | Need advice for dance floor openers | Fundamentals | Jikhi742 | /r/seduction | 14/07/26 06:48 PM |
| 2 | Problem with approaching on the dance floor | Fundamentals | Jikhi742 | /r/seduction | 25/02/26 01:04 AM |
| 1 | Any advice I have to know about club game in Poland ? | Fundamentals | Jikhi742 | /r/seduction | 13/10/25 05:20 PM |
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| 1 | Need advice for dance floor openersUnfortunately it seems to quite depend on the local culture (and also on the venue). In France or Sweden I would also get spontaneous eye contact and do some warm approach to dance (or even was directly approached quite often in Sweden) but here in Poland it feels like girls don't have the same culture of dancing with random people (while guys on the other hand do) and will only respond to direct approaches. Once I'm dancing I can use it as a way to play, great tension and escalate as you say, b… | /r/seduction | 15/07/26 11:50 PM |
| 1 | Need advice for dance floor openersI see, do you approach them straight away or dance around for a bit ? Most of the time I try to let them notice my presence first to not be a stranger but I'm not sure if It's the best way to do. Also women in this country seem to be way more closed than in others I've been to (and also get approached more often) so they seem to not accept approaches as often as you say (even in general with other men). I'm looking for a way to make my approaches more interesting not trigger their auto "not inte… | /r/seduction | 15/07/26 09:12 PM |
| 1 | Need advice for dance floor openersYes it's also more or less my way to operate, but I'm interested if you have comments or advice more specifically on how to open on step 4 to avoid her defaulting to auto rejection | /r/seduction | 15/07/26 05:22 PM |
| 1 | Problem with approaching on the dance floor> You can go to Warsaw for example. Would it really be of interest for me to do that ? I'm probably not willing to give so much energy just to try another city as I have stuff to do in the weekend. > If you're just approaching without seeing any interest before it's going to be way harder Unfortunately this is the case I'm in, which indeed is complicated as I'm not experienced of approaching without getting at least an eye contact first. I sometimes drink alcohol, though not always. Maybe it mak… | /r/seduction | 25/02/26 09:28 PM |
| 1 | Problem with approaching on the dance floorOh nice, thanks for the more specific advice then. I live in Kraków but it would be complicated for me to move to another city just for a club night out of holidays, and I'm hesitant to try some places because of the reputation of some security teams of acting like burglars with the clients. However that club I currently go to doesn't seem bad, there are enough pretty girls and as I say other guys manage to get their attention at least for a short while. > The direct approach works better than h… | /r/seduction | 25/02/26 08:48 PM |
| 1 | Problem with approaching on the dance floorI'm in Poland since a few months. I come from France but spent some time in Sweden (where I got approached significantly more). > Yeah, you should just have a good time on the dance floor, make the eye contact happen, if it happens a few times, go in and be subtle about it. That's typically my default way to do, but here specifically it simply does not happen, never, under no circumstances girls here seem to realise that I exist, while it was not a problem before. It is specifically the reason w… | /r/seduction | 25/02/26 08:05 PM |
| 1 | Problem with approaching on the dance floorWhen I say I'm attractive it is based on many returns by people around me or girls I meet. I do get approach and get eye contact, just not at the new place I'm now living at. Depending on the country and context (house party vs student club vs public club) how open girls are changes a lot, there are some places where I was typically approached one to multiple times a night. Here even the girl friends of guys I talk with do not interact. It is however true that I give a very closed vibe myself, b… | /r/seduction | 25/02/26 07:17 PM |
| 0 | Problem with approaching on the dance floorthis is exactly what I meant by unhelpful advice | /r/seduction | 25/02/26 04:22 PM |
| 1 | Problem with approaching on the dance floorI have no problem talking to a man or woman on the street if I have a "legitimate reason" like that. I guess part of the problem is me thinking it's an intrusion to approach these girls. Again the men in this club however are the friendliest I've ever met (typically befriending them just by simple eye contact and moving my arm to the music), maybe you're right on approaching more men will make me more comfortable with the act in itself regardless of the intention. But again the behavior of men a… | /r/seduction | 25/02/26 04:22 PM |
| 1 | Dancefloor game : Approach without eye contactAgree, well it's kinda what I'm doing the question is what I'm doing *when* I'm actually talking to women | /r/seduction | 21/12/25 01:21 AM |
| 1 | Dancefloor game : Approach without eye contactI suppose I should choose depending on the dancefloor, no point rushing girls on a small and friendly dancefloors because I risk to turn down the little there are and run out of girls quickly, while bigger dance floors are more appropriate for that ? I suppose I still have to show clear nonverbal intent that I want to dance with them when I'm near | /r/seduction | 20/12/25 10:53 AM |
| 1 | Dancefloor game : Approach without eye contactI see thanks, I'll think about it | /r/seduction | 20/12/25 10:32 AM |
| 1 | Dancefloor game : Approach without eye contactAfter thinking about it, I realise what I'm afraid of is being honest with my non verbal attitude. Like I dance near girls but lowkey keep plausible deniability about approaching if they don't like it, which I suppose does not show confidence. Given what other people have told me, I think I will try to approach with the intention of approaching, and poke her shoulder to ask for a dance if she doesn't seem to see me, it will avoid the fear of not getting a reaction even though I exposed myself. I… | /r/seduction | 19/12/25 06:10 PM |
| 1 | Dancefloor game : Approach without eye contactThanks, good to have your side of it. I tend to overthink and expect more social distance from people that they actually do | /r/seduction | 17/12/25 10:16 PM |
| 1 | Dancefloor game : Approach without eye contactThank you, I didn't think about putting myself in a position she can see me before approaching, I suppose if I can't get her to notice me before approaching it's better if I'm sure she has seen me before. Obviously I don't intend to disrespect her boundaries, but before making contact I can't know for sure what her boundaries are and if she's ok with being approached in this way. | /r/seduction | 17/12/25 10:13 PM |
| 1 | Dancefloor game : Approach without eye contactThanks, so I just walk up to them to dance at appropriate dance distance, wait for a reaction and leave if they don't show interest ? | /r/seduction | 17/12/25 10:07 PM |
| 2 | How did you fix your inner game.Same kind of problem here, gonna make a more detailed post about it. I want to talk to girls on the dance floor, but unless they notice me and establish eye contact I don't know how to introduce myself, I especially feel like I was judged on empty dance floors | /r/seduction | 15/12/25 09:29 PM |
| 1 | Any advice I have to know about club game in Poland ?Thank you, by "mostly fairly liberal" would you say the number of club women who would be open to a hookup, or women in general open to casual sex, is not particularly low ? | /r/seduction | 13/10/25 07:03 PM |
| 3 | Ever met someone who totally switches up on the “I hate sex talk” thing?Exactly, it's not worth letting her frame the interaction with such nonsense, if you're a man who wants sex be confident in it or it will either lead to nothing or she will not give in, whatever excuses she gives. Do not pretend to be coming in another frame just for her or she will sense that as needy edit: even if it is obvious that it should always come with respect of her boundaries, but her boundaries are for what you do not for who you are | /r/seduction | 12/10/25 11:04 PM |
| 1 | Best fitness-focused social places to meet women?That's interesting, did you ever do that ? Wouldn't they lay assumptions on you or be turned off for the same reasons it doesn't work in the gym though ? | /r/seduction | 12/10/25 10:59 PM |
| 4 | Can an average/short guy really get consistent results in cold approach?It seems hard to understand at first for us guys who approach girls often for looks, but what makes a girl spend a good time with you is mainly not looks but how she feels with you. I guess it is the reason why we are the ones approaching them. If people particularly don't like your appearance maybe you could go see a professional to perfect it with haircut and appropriate clothes choices, but as soon as it looks ok I think it's not the main focus. Also depending on the place height culture can … | /r/seduction | 12/10/25 10:56 PM |
| 1 | How long yall waiting to text/call after cold approach? [FR]Yes it feels needy if you text her 10 minutes after, but no need to loose time I feel like it's appropriate to do it "when you get a calm moment" like the next day. | /r/seduction | 12/10/25 12:34 PM |
| 1 | What to train physically to be attractive mI think it's usually said that women are more attracted by upper body muscles, but honestly for men appearance is not what makes you stand out to women, it's the emotions you make them feel | /r/seduction | 12/10/25 12:32 PM |
| 1 | What to train physically to be attractive mExactly, it's incredible people don't see the nuance. but then again most guys are often either nice guys or assholes to them, and only one type is confident | /r/seduction | 12/10/25 12:31 PM |
| -1 | Are women after 25 harder to game?I think maybe they also were not satisfied finding the chemistry in their former relationships so they resigned themselves to just find a life partner, and choosing them like a roommate | /r/seduction | 12/10/25 09:31 AM |
| 3 | Help with progression after kiss & getting socials in club/house party situationMight depend on the situation but if you already made out the attraction is beyond clear and you can just ask her if she's available to see you without playing games | /r/seduction | 12/10/25 09:21 AM |
| 1 | The Best Book You Have Read About SeductionOh it's a book specialised on hookup ? I should look into that, most of the stuff I find is usually focused on relationships, even if they might be short term | /r/seduction | 12/10/25 08:31 AM |
| 1 | Playfullness vs manly energy when to calibrateI think you have to dose it. Keep the calm energy inside you and give away a few playful sparks once in a while, that's the way to keep being interesting without getting repetitive and boring | /r/seduction | 12/10/25 08:21 AM |
| 1 | Met childhood crush again in gym, Messed-up and Kinda confused about what to do nextWe all have one or multiple stories like that. Just limit contact as much as you can and focus your attention on something else | /r/seduction | 12/10/25 08:10 AM |
| 2 | He said he would wingman but he fucked her instead?Best thing is to be honest about it. There is no shame in it, so be confident in answering. I myself often tell people I meet that I go alone in clubs because it's hard to find people who party as much as me outside, while these people are already there in the club to meet. | /r/seduction | 12/10/25 07:59 AM |
| 9 | He said he would wingman but he fucked her instead?Yeah no excuse for that | /r/seduction | 12/10/25 07:47 AM |
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