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Exactly, I am calling a spade a spade. You just don't like that you've bought into another problematic system. As I have articulated elsewhere, it is not myself I am concerned for. I am concerned for women in abusive situations who end up here for support, only to be name called. FDS has chosen to add derogatory flairs. Most subs don't have flairs at all. They are, like abusive men, making you jump through approval hoops to earn their favour. Enjoy your "superior" cattle-tag, I guess 🤷
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/21 12:17 AM
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I just had to look up the year a series came out. It's called Big Love. It came out in 2006. At the time it caused a Huge stir because it was a taboo subject. It was a drama and, to its credit, it showed how polygamy wasn't really good for any woman involved. The first wife at one point starts being honest that she just wanted him, no other wives, from the beginning but didn't voice it because of their religion. I stopped watching because life got busy. But that was 2006. How have we come from i…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/21 08:36 PM
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She became very, very ill with gastrointestinal issues, needed surgery, and was told to change how she ate for the last couple of years of her life. All she could think of were childhood foods to add to her diet. Because she had never even tried food as an adult.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/21 08:25 PM
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Notice how you constantly talk down to me, name-call, and think you're better than me because of a flair? Whose approval are you jumping through hoops for? Not mine, I'm beneath you, apparently.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/21 08:22 PM
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I'm doing great with self-improving thanks. I know I need to. I'm enjoying engaging with the women here who don't name call. But if you buy in to name calling? Nah. You're the one with learning to do.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/21 08:19 PM
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Same! It was with me my whole life until an abusive relationship ended at 27. I just wanted to feel chosen, special, loved and wanted. I wasn't in my family because boys were prioritised. Constantly. Consistently. Even though I broke free, went low contact and moved hundreds of miles away, it was still my mindset. The abuse gave me a jolt though. He'd picked me all right. After the relationship ended he stalked me, stalked any man I socialised with, and interfered in my life. Suddenly being pick…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/21 08:16 PM
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What a lovely, empowering post 💜
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/21 07:44 PM
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Soooooo guilty of this in the past 🙋 Taking on their emotional and domestic load will never make a man fall in love with you. Become dependent on you? Maybe. But then you're just in a codependant relationship, which is never good.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/21 07:39 PM
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My grandmother was a model, which added another level of disordered thinking. She lived off lettuce and one glass of milk a day, her entire adult life. She would cook other food for relatives but never, ever, eat it. She would often pressure me to do the same, insisting that lettuce and milk provided all the nutrients you need to survive. Lettuce has very little in nutrients to offer. But she couldn't accept it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/21 07:27 PM
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No, name-calling is never acceptable, by a man or a woman. Name calling is always abuse. I'm so sorry that you've been indoctrinated to think otherwise. You've just swapped out abusive men for abusive women. Personally, I'm empowered and on a self improvement journey. My thinking is aligned with being empowered and empowering other women in return. For me, name-calling other women would be me abusing and disrespecting them. I'll never be OK with that. I have no idea why you're ok with it?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/21 07:20 PM
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15 years ago it was mainstream thinking that poly relationships only happened in patriarchal cultures where women are oppressed (i.e. Mormonism and the middle East). I don't know how or why it became acceptable in the mainstream but I wish I could yeet it in to the sun.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/21 07:14 PM
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I'm so sorry you're feeling so hurt over this breakup. Please be gentle with yourself and know that you're still learning and recovering from narcissistic abuse. You can learn the lessons without hating yourself. In fact, you should be proud of yourself for getting out and seeing him for what he is. Firstly, I think you need a new therapist. If she wasn't able to see that you weren't vocalising your needs because you knew he wouldn't listen, then she's not very good. It sounds as though you need…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/21 06:59 PM
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No, I think that thinking one phrase can apply to everyone is narcissistic thinking. The parallels are there. Sorry that upsets you, but they are. Yup, I'll admit, name-calling hurts me, and every other woman here. Name calling is abuse. You won't let a man call you names in the bedroom, but you're OK with it here. Why?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/21 06:21 PM
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He talks about all dating advice for men, from the more severe, redpill to the lesser PUA, to just general dating advice. Anyone who gathers a following like this is likely a narcissist. The rest are buying in to a herd mentality. In the same way that anyone saying "I don't agree with this for myself" is called a Simp in that culture, I was called a Pickmeisha in this one. I'm for female empowerment, but I'm not for following something blindly. I can enjoy FDS, and use it to make positive change…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/21 06:02 PM
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I'm enjoying a lot of the content of FDS, from other women. I'm just not buying in to some of it, and I'm not into being called names. Which is abusive behavior. He does also talk specifically about the male version of groups like FDS being run by narcissists. And it being very "my way or the highway". I can't help but make the parallel. Female narcissists do exist. Anything worth having holds up to critical analysis.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/21 05:50 PM
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I loved this! He confirmed a lot of my thoughts about my parents narcissist behaviors. It also made me wonder about those who made FDS, with very strict rules which must never, ever be deviated from, or you'll be called names (pickmeisha) etc. And the herd mentality that "you must obey the rules, even if they'll make your life a living hell!!" Now, a rational person would know that one rule cannot possibly fit all. It's a stupid idea to make one rule try to fit all unless you're a narcissist who…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/21 05:41 PM
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No, nor me. I can't wait for S2!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/21 04:16 PM
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I loved this too! I particularly loved that all the men were useless and the women were supporting and helping each other. Even the non-human women like zelda and dianne.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/21 11:30 AM
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The worst part is, it's as though everyone is pretending. The last relationship I was in, we talked a lot about what we did and didn't like before having sex after 4 months. I told him that I wasn't in to pain during sex, nothing turned me on about it at all. He sighed, totally relieved, and said "thank god I don't have to pretend that I'm in to choking women anymore". Basically his last two exes had been all over the BDSM thing and they thought he was "too gentle" and "lacklustre". And I was th…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/21 11:21 AM
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My great aunt, was forced in to high end prostitution from a young age. Got herself out as soon as possible (early 20s). Ended up going to prison for stabbing her daughters boyfriend, who was physically abusing her daughter. Got out of prison, never married and travelled the world alone.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/21 10:37 AM
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Haha, I'm loving Lickmeisha!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/04/21 01:19 PM
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It wasn't tough love. It was completely disregarding that I'd already done what they were telling me to do (go no contact) repeatedly, and arguing with me when I reiterated that I'd already done it. It felt like being gaslit. Thank you for your kind words. I wish you all the best.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/21 11:13 AM
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I still don't really see the difference to be honest. Muting a contact is just blocking without the other person knowing that I've blocked them. He could be calling me right now as I type this on my phone and I'd have no clue that he was calling. I mean, nothing is stopping any man just showing up after you've blocked and deleted them. Once you've let a man know where you live that's always a possibility. I understand your intention to be kind here, but as with all self-help, you have to find a …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/21 11:04 AM
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Thank you 💜 boundaries aren't easy, but they're so very worth it. I think we do have different experiences. I don't use IG, only FB. But I don't even have the app for it on my phone. So, by muting him, we're still in each others friends lists, and he can still see what I post there. My settings are such that I can't be tagged by other people in photos and posts. I barely ever post on there though. I have fb messenger, I've set to "ignore" him on there, so that any messages go in to spam. To him …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/21 06:04 AM
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I have already gone no contact. I've told him that I won't be part of his life while he's in active addiction. I've muted him everywhere, so he can't get hold of me and disrupt my days. I find blocking and deleting a bit childish in the context of lifelong friendship (though if he were just some dude I'd been on a few dates with I would, and have, just straight up blocked). Muting him seems more applicable here, and does the same job. I totally agree on managing our own health. I'm disabled with…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/04/21 10:52 PM
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That's exactly what I've told him. That I'm not going to be around him, or put up with his behaviour while he's in active addiction, but when he returns to sobriety he will have my friendship and support. It's not pleasant to be around him like this, it would only bring me down. Today, I was firm on my boundaries and feeling confident, it didn't impact me. But several days like this? It absolutely would drag me down. So I've muted him everywhere and I won't respond until he's sober.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/04/21 10:33 PM
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Please re-read my post. He had quit, for years, put in all the work and built a good life. Until that life got taken away by the pandemic. I've known him since I was 3 years old, so my knowledge of who he is as a person is sound. On the other hand, I'm not willing to put up with nonsense texts or seeing him or talking to him while he's in active addiction, even as a friend. I've told him as much.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/04/21 10:14 PM
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I'm not trying to do it for him at all. I've told him not to get in touch unless he's seeking sobriety. I've known him since I was 3 years old so I'm not willing to ditch our friendship, but I won't go near him while he's in active addiction.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/04/21 10:04 PM
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I think I'd have to say something as I was leaving. Or after I'd left via text. "The girl in that video could be one of your daughters friends, and you're sexualising her. I'm leaving you because the thought of you perving at teenaged girls repulses me. I'm leaving because the thought of you perving over your daughter's friends terrifies me. I'll never be able to see you as anything other than a paedophile again. Be careful, because at some point someone will notice the way you look at their dau…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/04/21 07:30 PM
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Me too. Potentially, you leaving him will wake him up to how perverted this is. How old is his oldest?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/04/21 07:17 PM
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Oh gosh, and the bio mum has passed away? That's difficult because you can't report him for watching tik tok videos, but it feels like someone should be aware and monitoring (I'm not suggesting it be you as you're doing the right thing getting far, far away from him).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/04/21 06:50 PM
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No problem, it's a tricky situation to navigate and articulate!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/04/21 06:32 PM
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Came here to say this! If you're not the girls mother then you really need to speak to her about this. Even if you're certain that he'd never cross the line in to incest, they have friends their age who need to be protected. Growing up I had a friend whose Dad lived on our street. When she'd stay there at weekends all us girls were allowed to stay over. From about 14 he'd let us have some alcoholic drinks (wine spritzer or babysham) . He was creepy and I wasn't very comfortable with him. I wasn'…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/04/21 03:51 PM
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I think it's to convey that she's not criticising the girl in all of this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/04/21 03:45 PM
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He makes a big deal in the comments that he would be fired for not taking the shift. So I think he was just late and had to make up the hours.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/21 03:58 PM
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That's OK, I'm glad you felt you could share your experience xx
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/21 02:43 PM
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And power, as a prince.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/21 12:35 PM
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Oh bless you, that sounds like a really difficult time, I'm sorry you had to go through all of that. It's like everything was working against you at the time. I'm glad you made it out relatively unscathed!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/21 12:34 PM
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So, so true. My ex (daughters dad) and I broke up 6 years ago, but we coparent really well. He has always popped in for an hour after work. Sometimes he'll join us for dinner, sometimes they'll play video games in her room, sometimes they'll go out with the dog for an hour etc. 2 years ago, after my dad had two strokes in a year, I decided I wanted to move 200 miles back to my home town to be closer to my family. Told my ex and gave him the options for access. My ex thought about it for a couple…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/21 10:03 AM
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Ah that's so crap, I'm sorry.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/21 09:55 AM
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He was charming, also. That's why all his insults were passed off as "grandad jokes".
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/21 08:54 AM
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He keeps saying it'll take longer and longer in the comments. Apparently they won't be home until nearly midnight!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/21 08:11 AM
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He started work 2 hrs late too. I'm pretty sure he was just late to work and needed to make up the time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/21 07:58 AM
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Exactly this! I'm so sorry you've had to put up with it too
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/21 07:57 AM
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Because he wanted them to tell him that he had the right to call the police. It was never about the son. He knew about her evening out when he showed up to work 2hrs late. He just wanted to stop her going to the art show.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/21 07:56 AM
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Oh god, your poor son, I'm so sorry! I really hope any time your ex brings up the cat, you just look him dead in the eye and say the cousins name?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/21 07:50 AM
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To be fair, I don't think Philip was holding up the household and family life, or doing any hard labour. One has the staff for that kind of stuff.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/21 11:55 PM
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Philip is also rumoured to be responsible for Diana's "accident". He's been referred to as a psychopath by many people.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/21 11:53 PM
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Absolutely, he actually uses the defence of "I'm often late anyway, so she should know this by now".
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/21 11:40 PM
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Yup, it all just reeks of control.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/21 11:38 PM
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Me too, he thought he was being clever, but not a single person fell for it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/21 11:19 PM
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Haha! That gave me a good chuckle! I hate how he calls her his wife still. They divorced two years ago! I'm sure that's why he wants to stop her going to the event, because he feels entitled to her.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/21 11:14 PM
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I'm so glad you came out of it happier than before. Gosh, I hope she doesn't ever consider getting a cat. With two kids that would make her a doubly terrible mother!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/21 11:05 PM
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In one of the replies he says he can't afford a lawyer. So basically he was there hoping they'd say "OMG! THAT'S KIDNAPPING!! CALL THE POLICE!!!" Because he's asking what "legal remedy" they suggest, that doesn't involve a lawyer. Luckily everyone told him that he was the one who'd messed up and that his ex had offered two very reasonable alternatives. But he didn't want to hear that, because he wanted to stop her going for a night out.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/21 10:58 PM
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Good for you!!! It sounds as though she was jealous of you!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/21 10:54 PM
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I can't fathom it. I just can't. That said, he has a very high opinion of himself, so maybe he put on a big act? I had a friend who almost married a guy she thought was financially secure and, while not a huge success, at least moderately so. Then shortly before the marriage she found out that he was broke, had lost his job over a year ago and everything he was paying for (holidays and meals out etc) were on credit card. She noped out of there fast.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/21 10:51 PM
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Because that's not reasonable!! It's a nearly 4hr round trip!!! And she doesn't even HAVE to go to this event for work, she just WANTS to!!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/21 10:45 PM
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Omg! He sounds absolutely dreadful!! I'm so glad it got thrown out for her. Utter idiocy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/21 10:08 PM
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I think he's posting there to test the waters about reporting it as a kidnapping if she goes (or at least threaten her with it). It's the way he describes it as an "adult environment where adults will be drinking!"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/21 10:07 PM
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Actually he thinks he's in the right because he's "often late" and that means that she should always keep her Friday evenings free to accommodate his lateness. He's such a clown.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/21 10:01 PM
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I really, really, really hope he tried to take her to court for this. It would have given everyone involved such a fun time laughing at his clownish behaviour.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/21 09:58 PM
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This is brought up with this dude in the comments and he replied "She fought in court to be the primary parent. This is what being a primary parent means." So he thinks it means that she should drop her plans to look after the kid. And he's furious that his plan didn't work out lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/21 09:52 PM
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BuT sHe WaNtEd To Be ThE pRiMaRy PaReNt!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/21 09:50 PM
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Or just don't say yes to working late in the first place?! Although he skims over the fact that he started work 2hrs later too. I think he was late to work and needed to make up the time lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/21 09:48 PM
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He knew about her plans she had when he decided to work late too. And he wasn't going to tell her, he was just going to show up late, until she messaged him directly asking if he'd be there on time. Then he tries to guilt her that her son will be in an "adult environment" and that she "doesn't need to go". Then he goes on about losing a day with his son, but if he were picking his kid up at 6.30pm, he'd only have an hour before bedtime anyway. It was such a clear effort to sabotage her night out…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/21 09:47 PM
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It wasn't the doctors fault to be fair. The NHS only tests your TSH when looking at your thyroid. But my pituitary gland wasn't working properly, so it wasn't producing the right amount of TSH. The GP would request the other thyroid tests but the Iab just won't do it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/21 03:56 PM
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Ooo! I've seen those and wondered if they were nice. I'll grab a pack on your recommendation. Thank you! I love rosehip tea too. It's lovely hot or cold.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/21 02:36 PM
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Well, truthfully it took 27 years, as my medical history suggests that I had hypothyroidism from birth. It wasn't debilitating though until after I had my daughter, and then it became a living nightmare. There was a complication which meant it wasn't showing up on standard thyroid function blood tests. I'm sorry it took so long for you to be diagnosed. I fully understand how hard it is to be ill, but have no diagnosis. The worst, for me, was how everyone treated me. I was "faking it" or consider…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/21 02:34 PM
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Sounds good! I've tried strawberry and lime which was lovely.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/21 09:04 AM
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Ah I used to be vegetarian but I got so dizzy and ill, even after I introduced supplements. I have IBS so I think its an absorbtion issue. I eat good quality meat 2-3 times a week now and I'm also low carb. Nothing will ever make me give up cheese though. NOTHING! Could you do infusions with water? I have one of those infusion water bottles. I'm all about lemon and cucumber at the moment. Strawberries and cherries are nice too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/04/21 04:53 PM
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I take both T4 and T3, though the T3 can only be prescribed by my endocrinologist as the NHS has all but put a stop to T3 being prescribed due to cost. I have a conversion issue though, so T4 alone simply doesn't treat my hypothyroidism well.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/04/21 03:15 PM
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I'm so sorry to hear about your grandmother, but I'm glad your mother survived her thyroid storm. People think the thyroid is an easy fix, just a tablet a day job. It's not that simple at all.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/04/21 02:45 PM
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I never thought of a virtual assistant, but that's a great idea! Thank you! I've never felt comfortable being dependent in my relationships so I don't like to ask BFs to help with anything, aside from making the odd cup of tea. Being independent has always been important to me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/04/21 01:54 PM
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I love your way of looking at your immune system. I too have an autoimmune disease. I'll work on forgiving my immune system. I'm having to reroute my career, and I'm still retraining, but I'll get there. Outsourcing is a good way to look at it. I've got a cleaner coming once a week to help keep on top of the heavier duty cleaning. What else do you outsource?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/04/21 11:17 AM
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That's awesome! I'm glad you've found someone to help. PCOS is an issue for me too. Would you mind sharing what's working for you?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/04/21 11:00 AM
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I'm so pleased to hear that you're thriving!! I too have had to switch careers because of illness. I'm retraining right now but I'll be earning OK when I qualify.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/04/21 10:58 AM
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I'm sorry to hear about your health struggles. I have an autoimmune disease too (Lupus). It's great that you're taking such good care of yourself. 100% agree about the extra vetting!! I've found some men who want to be the saviour/martyr have tried to rob me of my independence. Nope. Nah. No way!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/04/21 10:55 AM
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It's great to hear that you're managing so well with saying no! And yes, prioritising is absolutely key!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/04/21 10:52 AM
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Absolutely. Acceptance is key. Although two of my conditions I've had for life, I didn't know about them until they worsened dramatically in my late 20s. I was a mental health nurse and I loved it. But I'll never be able to do that job again. It's a very tough pill to swallow. But I've found another career in mental health which I'm pursuing and I'll be happy in. I do hope you're able to dance and hike at some point ❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/04/21 10:50 AM
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I'm a mum. Quite honestly, things were BAD when I was first diagnosed. I was nearly in a coma and was left with brain damage from severe hypothyroidism, which had taken 2 years to diagnose. I had to relearn to walk and hold a fork and stuff like that. My daughter was what kept me resilient through it. I never gave up because I wanted to be a good mum. So, yes, it's hard, but I'm in a much better place because I had something to fight for.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/04/21 10:46 AM
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I'm sorry that you don't feel safe to enter a relationship because of your disability. I'm in the UK and there is government assistance, called PIP, which is not income based, therefore having a partner will never affect it. You can even work full time and you still get PIP because it's to cover the extra expenses of being disabled. The other benefits are incone based and are affected by your partners income. Thank you for the article! I'll give it a read when I can sit down with a cuppa to do s…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/04/21 10:33 AM
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Thank you! I'm sorry to hear about your health problems. It sounds as though we're in a similar position. I'm fiercely independent so I've always done my utmost to maximise my health and manage my conditions. But they're still there. There's no avoiding them entirely. I'll likely always be a bit overweight, but I exercise almost every day, eat healthily, make sure I'm presentable etc. I think you're right, we can only do our best and let the chips fall where they may.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/04/21 04:57 AM
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As a woman with health issues, I don't think he was trying to kill her. I think he was trying to make her more dependent on him. Since I became disabled, I've attracted a few like that. Despite my health, I'm incredibly independent. So I didn't take well to the guys who would insist I could do nothing and they HAD to do everything for me. FFS, I have a child to raise! I can't just sit down and be your pretty little invalid all day! With both guys I think it was a mixture of a saviour complex and…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/04/21 03:43 AM
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You know what boggles my mind completely? FGM is becoming more and more accepted as a cultural thing that is distasteful, but happens. But the second you bring up castrating a male paedophile there's an uproar about it. It's not just distasteful, it's immoral. What?! That's just utterly bonkers thinking to me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/04/21 12:38 AM
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Occasionally, yes. But I'm generally looking for orgasms. Sometimes though my body just won't do it. I know beforehand that it won't, I can feel it. But I still enjoy that it feels pleasurable and nice. Kind of stress relieving. Whether on my own or with a partner. 99.9% of the time orgasms are essential to my enjoyment though.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/21 12:46 PM
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