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You'll be fine. I went through this same thing, had two kids in counseling she was running up there - married 20 years with three kids, didn't pay her shit in anything in the end. Texas is great.
/r/Divorce_Men01/07/25 07:04 PM
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You’ll be ok! I turned out good. Walked out with standard shit. Nothing crazy. She asked for the world and was told hell no.
/r/Divorce_Men12/04/25 01:08 PM
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F them. Keep going. I'd make public on the gym social media of her recordings. Let everyone see who she really is. After all YOU didn't do it, she did. Let her have a little consequence for her actions. If anything maybe she'll stop going at that point and you will have it for yourself. In the end, F her. Go find someone else and stop being wrapped around her. She's 1 in millions out there. My divorced finalized this year in April 20 yrs and 1 day to the day! Went through something similar where…
/r/Divorce_Men29/06/24 03:32 PM
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Amen, so do I. I'd never accept that deal unless I get to keep her monthly paycheck. Spot on answer.
/r/Divorce_Men16/06/24 12:29 AM
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Got on Test C and did an 8 week Dianabol Cycle, diet, etc. Dropped off cycle, kept pushing. That's what worked for me anyways. Just do your research, get blood checked, watch your hydration levels with anything like that. I went to the extreme because I felt I needed the extra kick. It worked well.
/r/Divorce_Men17/03/24 09:03 PM
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Depends on employer. Texas here... My employer said as SOON as I have a decree in hand they will need it to remove her. They wouldn't carry the cost. Some employers wait until the end of the month of divorce. If you have a private plan, that's prob up to you.
/r/Divorce_Men04/02/24 09:36 PM
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Amen. Fuck them all. Agreed .
/r/Divorce_Men01/02/24 06:04 AM
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What???? Which state are you in???
/r/Divorce_Men29/01/24 07:56 PM
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Mine asked for the entire world. But the mediator advised the court wouldn't entertain it.... We chopped it way down! But my lawyer was a huge influence as she knew what would fly and what wouldn't ... So in the end that was a big help in itself!
/r/Divorce_Men29/01/24 07:42 PM
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I think it will pay dividends...
/r/Divorce_Men29/01/24 07:40 PM
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Thank goodness for that 500/hr attorney and Texas divorce laws.....whew...
/r/Divorce_Men29/01/24 06:14 PM
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Hang in there! Good going!!!
/r/Divorce_Men29/01/24 06:13 PM
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Of course... So my oldest actually wasn't surprised.. She literally said - " i don't blame you daddy, mommy's always mad" LOL... My youngest, really didn't say much. But it helped that she does have friends who's parents are divorced and even at 8 yrs old... Gets that and tells me. I reassured them it would be ok, there maybe a change of scenery, but a house isn't a home... Let them know, even though walls may change, we will still be there for them. Fast forward to now.. My oldest and I are SUP…
/r/Divorce_Men29/01/24 06:04 PM
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I filed first because it was toxic. 40m married 19 yrs three kids. I just texted her at first then we sat down and I told her at the dinner table. She put it all on me said id be the one to tell the kids... So I instantly got up, walked to each of their rooms let them know, didn't dramatize it .. made sure they knew we loved them and things would move a snails pace a day at a time.... I moved out a few wks later with my brother... Mediation was good, 50/50 split. No alimony, just standard CS... …
/r/Divorce_Men29/01/24 06:55 AM
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Found new vagina, took my mind off it relatively quick.
/r/Divorce_Men27/01/24 10:01 PM
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Exactly the same with me. Just trying to focus on being supportive, understanding (as I get women need more assurance, etc.). Trying to just settle in and like you say, day by day.... I'm glad my family love her and just takes TIME overall. We got this.
/r/Divorce_Men22/01/24 11:33 PM
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I'm in the SAME boat as you. I keep trying to walk on eggshells not to be the person I was with my ex. Habits are difficult to break!
/r/Divorce_Men22/01/24 11:24 PM
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I had the same thing happening. I went through and killed all her photos and used magic eraser on my android Google phone to just erase her image 😂 My situation is different, there's no love lost between us so I found it comical even after 19 yrs wasted. I have a new one who also made me forget pretty quickly she exists.
/r/Divorce_Men21/01/24 04:16 PM
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Buying into the "story". Everything Id bring to her attention it would be " but you don't know the whole story".... Ok he's a lifetime registered sex offender... The "story" was the trial that took place and the jury who convicted. If there were more, he'd file an appeal..he has friends convinced of lies (of course he would, if I were a pedophile I probably would make up a story so well, that id believe it myself too, in order to carry on and live a normal life). Idk man. Apparently they didn't …
/r/Divorce_Men20/01/24 03:09 PM
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Thank you!!! I never want to go through it again 😔
/r/Divorce_Men20/01/24 03:04 PM
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Thank you! That makes me feel good! Congratulations to you as well!
/r/Divorce_Men20/01/24 04:45 AM
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My minds blown. I have so many text screenshots of her defending not only that but MULTIPLE other charges and another involving a teen being raped and he not being charged for it, only because they couldnt prove it ... Completely mind blowing. You never know who you're with..... After 19 yrs!
/r/Divorce_Men20/01/24 04:45 AM
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You're right . It's a shit contract. Lesson learned.
/r/Divorce_Men19/01/24 07:24 PM
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No, she has full physical custody, but we share joint custody. Which is fine I travel and work and she doesn't travel. My oldest is most likely going to come live with me anyways, as they clash and don't get along well as it is. So it can change in time. The younger two actually want to be with their mother, I'm honoring that, unless she violates the order. We will see in time!
/r/Divorce_Men19/01/24 07:24 PM
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She makes 2k a month, I make over 16k. I doubt that.
/r/Divorce_Men19/01/24 12:04 PM
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I thought so. My attorney gave me a high five and hugged me. So if she's happy then I'm happy. Definitely worth the money to hire a good attorney!
/r/Divorce_Men19/01/24 06:32 AM
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If you can get a lawyer I'd recommend it though. I saw the value of it. Because they help in all the knit picky Bullshit alot.
/r/Divorce_Men19/01/24 04:53 AM
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Yeah mine was 10k and so was hers... But my friend found some for 5k. You're right, we started off by offering less than 50/50 and by the time we ended it, it was 45/55.... I make A LOT more than her, so it was actually fair. She will get 60% of the house equity (only to help her buy a new home easier since shes full physical custody of the kids really. But yeah the max cap is a hard-line.. I was told I could make a million a year and it would still be that max cap of 9k and whatever. But yeah d…
/r/Divorce_Men19/01/24 04:44 AM
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No 😂 my SBTX did. It blew up pretty bad. A friend of mine tipped me off. I just exposed it to everyone on social media, my attorney and let my kids in on it, then reached out to him directly. Crazy things happen in divorce.
/r/Divorce_Men17/01/24 01:05 AM
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Date a pedophile, yep most assuredly! 😂 Can't make hoes into housewives brother. Let them fall on their face, sit back and laugh.
/r/Divorce_Men16/01/24 01:36 AM
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Mine is final February 5th, if all goes well next Wednesday in mediation. I moved out a bit with my brother, split the apartment rental. But will be moving back to our home in a few weeks (she's moving out with the kids to stay with a friend) so I can paint and do some minor repairs before we list, then we will split the proceeds and move on. I initiated the divorce due to her indefinitely in the past. I was tired of pretending I gave a shit basically. I'm 40 and she's 38... Much more life on th…
/r/Divorce_Men14/01/24 10:57 PM
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Yes sir. Just acquaintances in general. There's a lot of good hard working single mothers out there that have been burned. I've came across many, who I know would be there if I were in a pinch like sick or hospitalized. Just find a good social network, church, gym, friends of friends, that sorta thing. There's a lot of people in similar situations just trying to do what you're doing but of the opposite sex as well. Basically what I was hinting at, although my delivery isn't the best 😁 but you wi…
/r/Divorce_Men14/01/24 10:49 PM
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There's plenty of "someone's" that are also in a similar situation but female. Believe me it's nice when you meet one and you don't have ghosts, skeletons, etc. you'll be surprised.
/r/Divorce_Men14/01/24 10:01 PM
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Don't worry about it,. I garauntee things will work out. Pull the plug before you have kids or it'll be worse. You'll be fine, alot of it is just fear of the unknown. I'm in a similar situation but I have kids. Where there's a will there's a way!
/r/Divorce_Men14/01/24 09:59 PM
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Tough. Hang in there. About to final mediate after 19 yrs of marriage here. You're not the only one in the boat, but remember she's not worth your time anymore. Get someone else to make you forget. It works for me.
/r/Divorce_Men08/01/24 10:56 PM
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Get an attorney ASAP. I'd force sell the house and split the equity. You don't deserve to be out no more than she does.
/r/Divorce_Men04/01/24 10:22 PM
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I'd rather catch AIDs now days.
/r/Divorce_Men03/01/24 11:12 PM
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Funny how we get stuck in that BS..... Same here.
/r/Divorce_Men03/01/24 11:01 PM
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Wow I didn't realize that.... I don't mind paying the max. It is what it is. I guess it'll go down once the kids are out 🙄 I had a vesecectamy a while ago. At this point I don't know if aids or kids is worse lol. I'm very glad to see you were able to bounce back from all of that!!! That's a hell of a story and man, I'm sure it took a big toll on you. Women.....
/r/Divorce_Men03/01/24 06:47 AM
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Thank you! I'm sorry for your situation as well. Keep your head up, we are all going through some BULLSHIT.
/r/Divorce_Men03/01/24 06:21 AM
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Thank you 🙏 🙏
/r/Divorce_Men03/01/24 01:51 AM
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Roger that. I'm looking forward to mediation, outside of this little spat, everything else should be straightforward.
/r/Divorce_Men03/01/24 01:50 AM
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Yes it's standard. Obviously people that make grossly over would be paying up. But my SBTX vented out to me once pissed off " I cant calculate 60% of your income, blah blah"... From what her own attorneys told her... My attorney basically echoed the same ... So yeah I'm stuck paying 2750.00 for 3 kids. That set amount is like 9k (some change) net take home a month.... So if you earn say 14k net takehome, and have 3 kids which is 30% of your " net" take home, that 30% is factored only based on th…
/r/Divorce_Men03/01/24 01:00 AM
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I think that's reasonable.
/r/Divorce_Men03/01/24 12:18 AM
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Agreed. It's a tight rope walk. My attorney does have a private investigator that they said I could hire at any point down the line. I may consider it. I also plan on sitting my oldest kid down and letting her see this scumbags mug shots, and charges, and explain to her what they all mean. She's a daddy's girl and I feel she would text me or call if anything happened.
/r/Divorce_Men02/01/24 11:12 PM
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Very very true. Mainly for a ton of different things from feet fractures, knees, back, hearing loss, but some obviously is PTSD and Severe TBI (was hit twice in 05). I was in an Air Assault Regiment in the 101st Airborne Div for 7 yrs.... Was on the ground during the invasion in 2003 and back a few more times til 2009..Also was a Texas state trooper for a few years afterward but left (honorably) to attend college. I suppose I could always say the govt may have trained me to kill, but not molest …
/r/Divorce_Men02/01/24 10:36 PM
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Roger that. I'll definitely be talking to my attorneys about all this. I like your perspective, and thank you for taking the time to read my story. 🙏💪
/r/Divorce_Men02/01/24 10:00 PM
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Just date, fck marriage. You can always kick her to the curb.
/r/Divorce_Men09/10/23 11:31 AM
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I filed but not fully divorced in Texas.
/r/Divorce_Men09/10/23 11:29 AM
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I'm letting mine have the entire shabang, except for my wardrobe and few sticks of furniture in my man cave and TV..... all else, I'm going to make her responsible for moving out prior to the house sale.
/r/Divorce_Men17/09/23 01:37 PM
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Get the @&#+ out!!!
/r/Divorce_Men03/09/23 03:38 PM
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Hahahah.... I'm 39, I just told my dad the other day who's 62, "the next one I have I'll make sure she don't have any parents 😂"... That's funny. But absolutely they're atleast half of the issue.
/r/Divorce_Men03/09/23 01:19 PM
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Exactly, that is her parents all the way. Dad is 70 and mom is pushing 70. They need a life. Fortunately they can do what they want now It isn't yet. But we are very amicable due to kids. I moved in with my brother and we are just waiting the process out. On the backside of it now. It'll be standard joint custody, she'll have primary but we aren't playing by the rules, we just will co parent. Typical stuff. Standard CS and all that. Not painful at all compared to what I read on here from others …
/r/Divorce_Men02/09/23 06:44 PM
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Yessir. Got married way too young. Didn't know her parents well enough to understand that dynamic. Realized her parents try to treat us like adult children.... Never owed them money, I lived 14 hours away with her at an army base for 7 yrs while I was deploying too and from Iraq in the early 2000s... Come home to Texas and they're up our asses .. I earned 6 figures for the last decade, and provided just fine, more than they ever could ... But same shit, they seem to think cos they're the parents…
/r/Divorce_Men02/09/23 06:25 PM
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I empathize with you there. Respect (or lack there of) is a player in my decision also. My wife places her parents too close to our relationship, when I bring it up, I quickly realize my opinion doesn't hold water compared to the relationship with her parents (as she says they're her stay and rock and always been there for her).... Well I lawyered up and I'm gladly giving her back. Her mom's her best friend.... Wound up being fatal for us. Which is cool! Just after 19 yrs I'm glad I'm not quite …
/r/Divorce_Men02/09/23 03:50 PM
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This is where all the popular people hangout. Hah.
/r/Divorce_Men27/08/23 07:20 PM
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🤯🤯🤯🤯 Amen sir. I just mentioned it to my father the other day, he's Christian.... I said in the Bible "when that was written, marriage was between God and mankind, not God, mankind, AND the government.... Total fcking scam. Never again! I will be a huge advocate of anti-marriage for my son moving onward, absolutely.
/r/Divorce_Men23/08/23 03:45 PM
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It's INSANE!!!! I'm not trying to slither out of it .... But mine will be $2,750 (30%) for three kids at the max net child support cap.... Doing that math over all my kids as their ages roll off, I can send them all to Harvard. It's unreal!!!! Or just take advantage of my 100% VA disability benefits which is Federal (non garnish-able) and move to Eastern Europe and live high off the Hungarian or Romanian dollar 😂 Jesus Christ... At this point idk which is worse, AIDs or having more kids (I can't…
/r/Divorce_Men23/08/23 03:08 PM
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Thank you. I'm sorry you're in the fire with us. But keep your head up brother. You're not alone there!
/r/Divorce_Men23/08/23 01:33 AM
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Yeah, I think it's natural to lay it out there for honest responses. Idk. Man it sucks. I just hope it turns to bliss.
/r/Divorce_Men23/08/23 12:29 AM
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I'm going to see what my attorney recommends for SURE. She claims she's a good negotiator. She's fairly popular in The Woodlands area, hopefully she'll work for her $$$ (or mine in the end! 😂). I'll keep updating here!
/r/Divorce_Men23/08/23 12:10 AM
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Ok that's what I'm leaning toward as well. I was hopeful for maybe negotiations on asset division... But one of my kids may possibly live with me, so just a "wait and see" game for now.
/r/Divorce_Men22/08/23 10:04 PM
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Jesus, I'm sorry dude. Not looking hopeful 😕 shit contract for sure.
/r/Divorce_Men22/08/23 09:29 PM
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So now basically that means a judge will dictate the outcome? Man I pray she's not an idiot.... 🙄
/r/Divorce_Men21/08/23 09:21 PM
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Ok. Makes sense! She has a lawyer and I have one. It's been really fast... I filed as original petitioner in mid July... Mid September is mediation. Seems pretty quick but I'm happy about it. We have 3 kids and I'm 100% disabled combat vet. She's more upset she can't get more CS beyond the max cap which means 60% of my income she can't calculate from.... Thank GOD.... What a fiasco.
/r/Divorce_Men21/08/23 09:05 PM
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Good to know. We are doing it Sep 9th. She doesn't want to go to court for court costs, etc. Hell I don't either.... But so far we have agreed verbally on things. Idk I don't take that for anything but should be interesting. Once mediation is over and if you do agree, do you still both need to go before a judge?
/r/Divorce_Men21/08/23 08:58 PM
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Are you in Texas by chance? I'm 39 about to go through mediation in a couple of weeks. We both have attorneys.
/r/Divorce_Men21/08/23 07:48 PM
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39 yrs old 3 kids (13,10,8)...married 19 yrs, Same situation. Do it. We have mediation in a few weeks. Life's too short. Don't even look in the future because it doesn't exist yet.
/r/Divorce_Men19/08/23 04:20 PM
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Same as me, 19 yrs and done. Just nothing there anymore. I stay busy with friends, gym, kids, everything between. Just keep busy with anything you can while the process lingers on.
/r/Divorce_Men18/08/23 07:37 PM
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Coming out of a 19 yrs marriage and I'm 39.... Wow life is looking much more different. Just ass from the past at this point.
/r/Divorce_Men18/08/23 04:41 PM
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Hope your in TX. But depending on the state is hard to know. Lawyer up!
/r/Divorce_Men09/08/23 12:01 PM
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Definitely you were hacked, it wasn't you. But idk now that this post is out there.... Yikes!
/r/Divorce_Men04/08/23 09:04 PM
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Just remember she was never permanently yours, just yours at the time. There will be plenty others wholl be the same and keep that thought in the forefront. Play nice as possible keeping the kids in focus, not maintaining her lifestyle, just remember civil civil civil. Praying you can both move on. Who cares about the "why" - there could be a million reasons or none .. don't let that part drive you mad.
/r/Divorce_Men03/08/23 03:35 PM
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Just hang in there and try to get along best you can. Just remember this is only a moment, your in the storm right now.... But it will get better I promise.
/r/Divorce_Men30/07/23 12:08 AM
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What state are you in?
/r/Divorce_Men29/07/23 08:05 PM
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Good feedback, thank you..I'm currently sitting at the conference table right now waiting for my attorney.
/r/Divorce_Men27/07/23 04:50 PM
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Is this based on Texas? Because when I read the Texas statute it reads differently. I'm not sure but I'll ask tomorrow!
/r/Divorce_Men27/07/23 01:07 AM
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Same here. Hang in there bro, we will endure and it'll be bliss soon!
/r/Divorce_Men26/07/23 08:38 PM
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Detox yourself, take it slow on dating. Let that come naturally and the spark happen on it's own, when it is time. Youre just in your head with it at the moment, just have to get your headspace figured out and figure out how to (mentally) adjust from that lifelong routine and idea. But I am sure it'll turn to bliss soon!
/r/Divorce_Men20/07/23 06:43 PM
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Definitely my fault, just in a loveless and unhappy marriage for 19 yrs in Texas. 3 kids and now it's "I do love you though and your not wanting to get counseling or get on meds to fight for us".... Granted over the years we don't sleep in same beds, go through motions daily, no dates, no chemistry... But now she loves me? Doubtful. But I'll be the fall down guy - again - "daddy walked out". 🙄🤷
/r/Divorce_Men19/07/23 03:45 PM
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Move on plenty of fish out there to take your mind off her. Respect yourself!
/r/Divorce_Men12/07/23 09:12 PM
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Right, yes I spoke to a lawyer earlier here (not on Reddit but my county). Seems like it's really straightforward.... Texas has a max cap child support is calculated from (9,200 net dollars a month)... We split everything else 50/50. ,
/r/Divorce_Men11/07/23 09:24 AM
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Texas has a CS cap at 9,200 per month net income. If I'm earning closer to 12,000 net income per month - will I only have to pay 30% of 9,200 based on the CS Cap?
/r/Divorce_Men10/07/23 07:16 PM
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Possibly just sell I think. Otherwise she'd have to some how buy out my equity portion right? IDK... ITs alot of equity, plus today's interest rates.. We're at a %2 right now.. I think best since both names are on the house, with as much equity in it if we can just split that. But IDK. Women seem more " sentimenal".. I guess if she wanted the home i'd just have her figure out how to buy me out.
/r/Divorce_Men10/07/23 07:07 PM
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No I'd be paying 30% of my net salary to her that is standard and there's a CS cap as well. So even though I net over the cap I'd pay at that level.. So my salary is prob close to 140k - then I also am paid another 4200 per month (tax free. but also considered income when calculating for CS) by the VA - this is Federal disablity can't be garnished by TX law. I'd still net for myself close to 100k after deducting 30% net for monthly CS. The splitting of the marital home is normal, regardless who …
/r/Divorce_Men10/07/23 07:04 PM
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I'm failing to understand how I'd be financially ruined, sorry. Texas seems fairly clear - I'd be non-custodial parent with 3 kids (30%net of income to CS).. I'm 100% VA Disabled combat vet, kids will always be covered under medical insurance from that, I never pay property taxes on future homes, I will never earn less than 3800k a month even if i don't have a job at all just based on my disablity rating by the VA. Texas would prob never see her alimony considering she's waltzing away with ~300k…
/r/Divorce_Men10/07/23 06:28 PM
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Sounds pretty straightforward. Thank you.
/r/Divorce_Men10/07/23 06:03 PM
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