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In response to your reasons: Two weeks is not going to put you very far behind in terms of finding a job. Some companies will take longer than that to respond to your applications. You're 24, I assume he's near your same age? You'll have plenty of time to spend together and build your lives. I know it's all new and exciting right now, but no need to rush anything. Going on vacation doesn't mean you're not committed. If you can't stand being away from someone for a short length of time, that's be…
/r/RedPillWomen04/08/15 09:57 PM
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The whole thing seemed pretty fake to me, particularly with how the girls (that's what they are, girls - no self-respecting woman would act that way) behaved.
/r/RedPillWomen01/08/15 12:06 AM
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That's a helpful way to put it, thank you! I think this goes with ragnarockette's response: let him know that you said you wanted to take things slow, but you're feeling great about the relationship so far and you're ready to take his lead If I said something along the lines of, "I appreciate your patience with me, and I feel we are in a good place to take the next step. What do you think?", is that expressing desire without being pushy?
/r/RedPillWomen29/07/15 01:56 PM
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No worries! Thank you, I agree it's somewhat on my end to bring it up again. Could you elaborate on "honestly expressing your feelings in the moment"?
/r/RedPillWomen29/07/15 01:50 PM
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Thank you, thank you, thank you! I can't say that enough. This was the first good, non-sex-based response I received. I will be taking your advice and most likely putting this into practice! :)
/r/RedPillWomen29/07/15 12:24 AM
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I guess I need to add, sex isn't an issue. We're both waiting until marriage.
/r/RedPillWomen28/07/15 11:45 PM
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Just to clarify my specific situation: He brought up the general idea of DTR, which led to a conversation of what we were looking for in a relationship. He may have been ready then but was not pushing anything.
/r/RedPillWomen28/07/15 11:39 PM
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Because I recognized mistakes I made in the past, I'm not allowed to correct that behavior? I'm doomed to be a serial monogamist for the rest of my dating days?
/r/RedPillWomen28/07/15 11:05 PM
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I'm aware that wasn't a submissive move on my end. However I think going from meeting to boyfriend/girlfriend in less than a month is moving a bit fast.
/r/RedPillWomen28/07/15 11:02 PM
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It's worse than that. I read a post about a guy who's wife all of a sudden decided she wanted them to give their two young daughters up for adoption and go back to "how things were" before they had kids. The top comments blamed the man saying he wasn't letting his wife "be herself" or some crap. It was disgusting.
/r/RedPillWomen14/07/15 01:55 PM
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I tried subscribing to r/relationships for a bit. Gosh, the nonsensical comments there...
/r/RedPillWomen14/07/15 02:57 AM
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Thanks for this, that's a great theory! I'll keep that in mind if/when I hear this from a guy.
/r/RedPillWomen06/07/15 02:17 AM
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Don't we all! ;) I'm probably going to butcher this, since I'm somewhat new as well. Basically your man is the "Captain", he makes the big decisions and overall takes the lead in the relationship. You are his "First Mate", providing assistance and support. There's more details in the sidebar (this, for example) and you can search "captain first mate" within this sub to get more information.
/r/RedPillWomen01/07/15 07:55 PM
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It seems like you're concerned if your caring behavior will land you in the same spot as your last relationship. The fact is, there's a lot of guys out there who want to be treated like MEN but still act like BOYS - they want want want, but provide nothing/little in return. Applying the captain/first mate dynamic is a good way of gauging which category a guy falls under.
/r/RedPillWomen01/07/15 07:29 PM
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One last point; be very PATIENT. I can't emphasize it enough. Let him call you and arrange the dates. Don't initiate contact more often than he does. Let him miss you and come back to you on his terms. That doesn't mean you should ignore his messages or calls or play hard to get. Be responsive and sweet in your communication with him. ^ this. When you first start seeing someone new, it's easy to get caught up in how wonderful and amazing things are and you'll want to be in contact 24/7. This may…
/r/RedPillWomen30/06/15 05:22 PM
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Exactly, I believe my exact text was, "I think I've found our Friday date" with a link to the information. Nothing definite, and I was like 90% sure he would want to go. Thank you for that example of the powerful man with the supporting wife, it helped a lot. :)
/r/RedPillWomen30/06/15 03:55 PM
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I'm a planner by nature, so it's my first instinct to think of things to do. He is also very busy and I like to think of it as my contribution to our dating. It's good to hear someone else feels and does the same!
/r/RedPillWomen30/06/15 03:53 PM
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Right, of course. I wouldn't be upset at all if he suggested something else. And in terms of specifics (time to meet there, etc.) I would let him make that decision. Thanks! :)
/r/RedPillWomen30/06/15 03:51 PM
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Great points, thank you for sharing these! I have a question in regards to the "giving up control". I'm single, and for the past two weeks been talking to a wonderful guy. We've been on two dates so far, with a third planned for Friday. The first two were dinner and breakfast dates which he asked me to and we co-planned. As I was talking to my friend, she mentioned a really cool event happening nearby, and I knew he and I would both be interested. I sent him a link to the information and he resp…
/r/RedPillWomen30/06/15 02:02 PM
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I just recently went out with a guy who's working towards becoming ordained in his denomination (Anabaptist). It's such a great starting point to have that basis of shared beliefs and values.
/r/RedPillWomen26/06/15 11:00 PM
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Takes charge, a man who makes a plan and sticks with it (both within the relationship and in his own life).
/r/RedPillWomen26/06/15 09:22 PM
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You can lead a horse to water but you can't make it drink. Keep doing what you're doing - being there for her and giving her good RP advice - but don't expect her to latch on and completely turn her lifestyle around. People change when they want to, and at this point it doesn't seem like she wants to.
/r/RedPillWomen25/06/15 04:10 PM
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Interesting, I never thought of it that way. So makeup and clothes are in a way secondary, whereas your fitness/health and mindset are the primary characteristics that make you attractive. Thanks for your comment, it really opened my eyes! :)
/r/RedPillWomen24/06/15 09:13 PM
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As human beings, we have certain urges - that's basic science and biology. For females, there's hypergamy; for males, the desire to procreate as much and as often as possible. Red Pill doesn't deny this behavior exists, it teaches us to avoid giving in to it. I don't know your or your girlfriend's religious orientation, but this is similar to the Christian view of sin. We know what sin is and are predisposed to it. However, part of living a Christian life means turning away from sin (to the best…
/r/RedPillWomen24/06/15 05:08 PM
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That's true. I should just take it as a compliment, as that's what it was meant for. My makeup look is very natural and understated, so there's no disapproval of it being too garish or anything. that said, i don't know any guy that would recognize that his gf or wife looks attractive with makeup and says "no, stop wearing that". I agree! :)
/r/RedPillWomen24/06/15 05:02 PM
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Thanks, I'm pretty proud of it! :) I suspect a lot of guys say that they don't need a girl who gets all "done up" but appreciate when we do. Plus it's something I enjoy doing anyway.
/r/RedPillWomen24/06/15 04:37 PM
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I understand him wanting you to look your best for only him. Does the no makeup and no fancy extend to when you're with him?
/r/RedPillWomen24/06/15 04:30 PM
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Slightly off-topic, but how do you feel about guys who respond with your efforts to dress cute/wear makeup/and so on with "Oh you don't need all that, you're pretty as you are"? I'm like you, I like to look good both for myself and the man I'm with (when I have one, lol) and comments like that I consider more of an insult than a compliment.
/r/RedPillWomen24/06/15 04:12 PM
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Builtfat, verging on athletic.
/r/RedPillWomen16/06/15 10:26 PM
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I think he was joking...
/r/RedPillWomen15/06/15 07:00 PM
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