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A label may be meaningless, but what she wants to leverage from it is the point. Recommendations: 1) Read “Stages of Female Manipulation” in “Practical Female Psychology for the Practical Man”. 2) Do whatever you want to do
/r/askMRP20/11/25 03:42 PM
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Every husband needs to understand that he can and will leave if he doesn’t get what he needs from a relationship. Nevertheless, long term relationships are not well managed through a binary choice of tools: either talking about it, or the only resort being divorce. When using your power, you should generally start with the ‘tool’ of lowest appropriate level, or else you become predictable and childish. Tools include, time, attention, affection, validation, presence, validation, financial resourc…
/r/askMRP11/10/25 07:49 PM
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You should paid for all her education- LOL
/r/askMRP22/09/25 03:07 PM
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I’ll add a nice little anecdote: my eldest son in the competition section of a rowing club, run by volunteers. The club president was an emotional female, known for aggressive emotional theatre. One day, the wife returned home angry and upset, recounting how it had been his turn to receive some emotional verbal abuse. The wife demanded to know what I was going to do about it. After a little quiet reflection I replied that it was a great learning experience for him. It could teach him not to buy …
/r/MarriedRedPill26/08/25 10:41 AM
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One of the first rules of being assertive is that you have the right to make your own decisions, and you owe nobody an explanation. By giving reasons, you’re handing an element of power and frame to your future ex wife, and opening what will be perceived as a crack in your frame with potential to be exploited.
/r/askMRP11/02/25 05:50 PM
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When you’re not a total pussy, fully obedient and predictable, the shit tests are to measure your strength and independence. If you are a predictable pussy, they are to gain some fleeting amusement from abusing you. You don’t have to reply or take seriously any mouth noises. If you have no self respect then a woman will consider anything they do for you as an extreme imposition, no matter how much you are currently investing in them.
/r/askMRP06/11/24 09:47 PM
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Eating cakes is her love language.
/r/askMRP12/01/22 05:19 PM
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Does anyone think that OP is ready for marriage? Please don't reply before I've finished wiping the teas from my eyes.
/r/askMRP06/01/22 10:49 AM
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the 9th Iron Rule of Tomassi Absolutely spot on and fully aligned with 'Own Your Shit'. If you fucked up then you know that you did, and your actions demonstrate that you'll do your best to ensure that it does not happen again. If you don't consider that you fucked up, then don't apologise. Understand that demanding an apology is a frame/dominance game. The person demanding an apology is setting themselves up as the authority. If this a a common pattern in a relationship, with the female as the …
/r/askMRP06/01/22 10:45 AM
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And added to the response "the door is right there. Nothing stopping you." needs to be "and once you step out, there is no coming back.". Mean it. No self-respecting man would willingly let his wife step out, while acting as her backup to protect her from a failed branch-swing. Sleeping around is fun and exciting while she has the security of being able to return home. A separation is like agreeing to let the wife open her side of the marriage. If the branch-swing fails, it'll only be a matter o…
/r/askMRP06/01/22 10:13 AM
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Maybe if you're nice to other people, look after all their needs and make them happy, then in turn they will do all that is required to look after your own needs and make you happy. If you don't know which book discusses this topic, just get on and read the sidebar booklist.
/r/askMRP09/07/21 01:59 PM
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Eat healthily, but more, and with more protein and keep up with the strength training at least 3 times every week. In several years, and with at least 20 lbs of additional muscle, you will neither feel the same, nor will people look at you in the same way. Kill your ego and anxieties, you are not special and most people do not care about you; they are too busy living their own lives. You are your own judge. You do not need to play the role that you think others expect of you so stop giving a shi…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/10/20 08:48 AM
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Sleep is for pussies. Faggot!
/r/MarriedRedPill18/09/20 07:21 AM
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I'll be 'nice' to make my points; the vets have already called you a faggot. ​ Consider why she treats you with contempt, and snaps at the smallest imperfections and how you respond to it. Can you imagine yourself feeling irritated and wanting to do the same with someone that hovers around you seeking validation no matter how you treat them and trying to get your attention? ​ Why do you give a shit about the inconsequential noise coming from her mouth? Nobody is perfect. Do you think that you ar…
/r/askMRP17/04/20 10:13 AM
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I should ask, has it been a thrilling week, just like being back at highschool?
/r/askTRP02/11/18 07:10 PM
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Have you ever gotten close to 'experimenting' or hooking up with either of the girls?
/r/MarriedRedPill19/10/18 03:08 PM
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Yeah - that might be an issue for me
/r/askMRP18/10/18 06:51 PM
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Yeah, and also days later she remarked that she found the boyfriend of an acquaintance 'NICE'. He was, of course, more muscular than me, visiting the gym 5 days per week for years. AWALT. Do not take her seriously.
/r/askMRP14/10/18 01:52 PM
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My wife told me she didn't like muscular guys (easy not to take that seriously, since she wasn't acting like someone that liked me before). She tried to shame and judge me out of lifting:. "Ugh, you're sweaty, disgusting", tried guilt tripping me for spending on weights and membership, and loads more. Keep going, she is afraid of losing control of her bitch
/r/askMRP14/10/18 12:57 PM
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Probably sleeping with my wife. Sorry dude, I understand.
/r/askTRP11/10/18 05:55 PM
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The essence of the other comments is that you can lead a horse to water but you cannot make it drink. Most guys find this place because they are living with a harpy shrew. They are living a miserable existence and that has become the motivation for serious effort. You want to change the behaviours of your partner, however beware that if you succeed in achieving such a change over a sustained period, it will require a change in mindset. A key part of the MRP mindset is becoming outcome independen…
/r/askMRP09/10/18 12:51 PM
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Once you're able to laugh when a random internet stranger calls you a pussy or faggot; you'll have loosened up and stop being so intimidated and accepting other people's judgements of yourself. Who cares? Are you a faggot? If that's all it takes to upset you, how are not going to get upset and butthurt when she acts like a bitch, or just plays with you? I'm a faggot, and I can tell you that all the advice that I read here, so far, is spot on. Stop giving a fuck about what other people think. Lif…
/r/askMRP07/10/18 02:14 PM
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There's not too much to say about the username. I was in a dead bedroom for a considerable time - I own it. I married a total prude. It only got worse as the relationship progressed. Unsurprisingly marriage and kids didn't help.... I vetted her as a wife and mother. She does a good job there. I never had enough game and dread to move her forward in the bedroom. Knowing that she fitted the other roles well, I treated her with masses of respect and 'niceness'. I don't need to tell anyone where the…
/r/askMRP06/10/18 12:25 PM
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Opposite end of the spectrum for me. I vetted mine as a wife and mother, and not as a lover. All previous women were lovers only. I got what I vetted for.
/r/askMRP06/10/18 10:58 AM
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Just postpone worrying about it until you've died
/r/askTRP11/06/18 01:32 PM
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Tough luck. Maintaining an abundance mentality applies to jobs as well as women. Don't be bitter, but look after your best interests.
/r/askMRP25/05/18 05:48 PM
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One of you would have to make the first step. Just like when being with women, if you act like a politically correct bluepilled male sexuality apologist he may not feel like discussing such things with you. Be a man, don't be afraid.
/r/TheRedPill25/05/18 02:03 PM
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Thanks again. I think that sounds really corny, but I do understand that it's critically important in order to rebuild real intimacy. I plan to continue as though it's a given, and keep the speech in the back pocket to be used if necessary. FYI, when she asked me 'why' when she thought I was having an affair with the woman, I replied that she wouldn't even kiss me (to highlight part of the deficiency).
/r/askMRP24/05/18 04:52 PM
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Thanks for this useful and actionable feedback. FWIW, I have had a great response from adding a large dose of teasing and A&A (combined with active dread). With respect to the active dread, she asked whether I was having an affair with a younger woman, and whether I already had divorce papers ready. I wasn't having an affair with that woman, but didn't say so immediately or DEER. I let her hamster run into overdrive and during the course of a week she came to accept that I'm still far from satis…
/r/askMRP24/05/18 09:15 AM
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You're quite possibly missing some of the finer nuances. GENERALLY low income men / welfare dependent men are disadvantaged compared to the higher earning beta bucks because women in the same class get income to cover the cost of children from the government. They just do not need a man for economic reasons, or may quite likely be penalised for having one. The flip side is that the chads in that socio-economic class can sire as many kids as they like because the Western governments cannot steal …
/r/TheRedPill09/05/18 09:19 AM
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It doesn't really matter much. The wife's behaviour is imoving steadily. She was sweet again this weekend and sex was good. She is mostly contented. Better boundaries, and having expectations of her helps. She had been an àbsentee wife, but massively inlved mother and employee. I think she never had much sex drive combined with being really pride and conservative.
/r/TheRedPill22/04/18 06:58 PM
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I'm living in a country where a wife was successfully awarded damages during divorce because her husband didn't have sex with her. She is unlikely to initiate a divorce. Its not toxic be she has a real problem with intimacy.
/r/TheRedPill21/04/18 07:12 AM
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Send me a cheque, and I'll post it to you.
/r/askMRP20/04/18 05:45 AM
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Hi TurdDocor - haha Yes, indeed there is plenty to criticise. I didn't go into the full victim puke of years of belittling, emasculating and snide remarks. There was considerable anger there, but clearly nothing she was wasn't capable of receiving, given what had been given to me. I might not have been happy with her behaviour for quite some time, but I had been civil, and have not resorted to name calling or shaming. For sure, I've made plenty of great mistakes. Your wife sounds quite similar, …
/r/askMRP19/04/18 11:01 PM
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where are you on the sidebar? Now into graduate level. I have read SGM. What are your lifts? Lifts don't tell the entire picture since for years I have run hard, but without great weekly distance, and have been mountain biking with good endurance and power. I didn't measure my body fat before lifting, but it was probably somewhere around 20%. My legs and ribcage started off well developed, but not for lifting power. I have dropped some distance on the biking and added 3-4 sessions of weight trai…
/r/askMRP19/04/18 10:07 PM
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Indeed, that is what I'm trying to do. I'm having plenty of fun with the kids. The wife is proving a more difficult challenge. To add a second StarWars reference to the comments section: The force is strong in that one! She is living up to the nickname assigned by a colleague years back "The iron fist in a velvet glove".
/r/askMRP19/04/18 09:11 PM
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Thanks for your well reasoned opinions. WRT your question about arguing the points; no, they were not up for discussion. She tried to DEER and negotiate, but was shut down directly. Regarding women sharing an alpha, it sounds like bullshit or hyperbole, but it's clearly true. Before marriage I had enjoyed having more than one girlfriend at a time. The best times were spent when a girl knew for a fact there was another one. Wifey is no different. I have added good doses of kino and tried SGM, but…
/r/askMRP19/04/18 09:04 PM
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That's a hard one to answer. She just doesn't do open mouth kissing, whether during sex or not. On very rare occasions she'll let herself go and kiss with real enthusiasm, then oral sex is an option. I think a good part is down to extreme prudishness. Body fluids may well be yucky in her mind. On occasion she'll say that she only likes 'Disnefied' lovelaking, not fucking or anything 'beastly'. She would have to be enormously fired up to say 'fucking' and is enormously reluctant to discuss anythi…
/r/askMRP19/04/18 08:38 PM
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I travel extensively for my profession. It allows me to have other relationships, but actually keeps the co-parenting arrangement simple. I have no great need to divorce.
/r/askMRP19/04/18 06:10 PM
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Agreed, and I'm using that as a yardstick of whether there is any future to a sexual relationship. I'm not prepared to wait it out any longer. No kissing means that it's a financial and co-parenting relationship. She is free to initiate a full relationship. I have explained that I don't wish to have sex with someone that doesn't want it.
/r/askMRP19/04/18 06:00 PM
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Didn't think that you'd need a smiley with it.
/r/askMRP19/04/18 02:29 PM
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It wasn't fun, and I was being gaslighted. The time for A&A was too long ago, and I failed then. Here a hard boundary reset was needed.
/r/askMRP19/04/18 02:19 PM
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Fuck you too, and thanks for the thoughts.
/r/askMRP19/04/18 01:35 PM
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Indeed I am getting ribbed. That's part of the fun of posting here. You have a good point, but the wife is no longer playing me like that. The daughter's behaviour has improved very considerably since I stopped accepting crappy behaviour from the wife. I've also been applying heavy doses of amused mastery on her because she has now hit her teenage years and is a shit testing machine. She'll probably turn out well enough, but is clearly AWALT. I guess that most women will turn out like that, if t…
/r/askMRP19/04/18 01:20 PM
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The rule concerned use of English language within the family as we don't live in an English speaking country at the moment. The younger kids don't speak fluent English, but should be able to, and would be able to had the rule been correctly supported by the wife. English allows the kids to communicate with my family, is so useful for accessing information, and will open many opportunities for them later in life. It is simply stupid to throw away that opportunity.
/r/askMRP19/04/18 12:44 PM
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Thanks, and you're absolutely correct.
/r/askMRP19/04/18 12:33 PM
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Haha. Thanks. I have a fun sense of humour, and a thick skin. I get the whole 'sparring arena' thing, and it's useful. I appreciate the slinging around of negative judgements, but that effort was nowhere near as good as the stuff the wife has been throwing at me for years. It'll take much more than that to hurt me now. WISNIFG was a good read.
/r/askMRP19/04/18 12:29 PM
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Spank me!
/r/askMRP19/04/18 12:18 PM
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She's not a terrible person, but you would probably not choose her company for fun and laughter. Over time I've just let her become that way within the relationship. As she absconded from her role as lover, I became considerably less upbeat and fun and had too many covert contracts in place. She is nevertheless an excellent Bluepill mother, highly conscientious and loyal. Although she is clearly an AWALT. Now that you say that; she may also be somewhere towards the autistic spectrum, is generall…
/r/askMRP19/04/18 12:10 PM
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Haha. Thanks!
/r/askMRP19/04/18 11:41 AM
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Thanks for your thoughts. I'm in full agreement with you on that. I've read extensively and I'm already familiar with those high quality posts. I'm now working on becoming an oak, letting any negativity from her just fly past, while I continue with a satisfying life and having fun with the kids. Throughout the marriage I had let her moods, criticisms and negativity alter my own mood. Over the last year, while resetting boundaries and expectations, I have been squashing any nastiness with a sledg…
/r/askMRP19/04/18 11:39 AM
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You're right - it's a work in progress and particularly with respect to frame, I'm only starting to get it. Thanks for your insight. Any anger I have is mostly directed at myself, for not having stood up for my own interests within the relationship. Regarding the wife, the pedestal has been dismantled. Now, once again, she has to earn and maintain her place within the relationship. A certain amount of Rambo has certainly occurred over the last year, nevertheless it was time to reset the game's p…
/r/askMRP19/04/18 09:25 AM
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Haha - agreed, and that is entirely the point. It's also why I'll no longer allow myself to be dependent upon her. And FWIW, it certainly was not always that way. I was rather relaxed about it for a long time. It was high time to stir things up.
/r/askMRP19/04/18 09:23 AM
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It means that they're close to ovulation, and therefore horny and it means fun sex, as long as you're attractive.
/r/TheRedPill18/04/18 06:14 PM
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And I'll add dead bedroomed to that list - that is the marriage equivalent of being friend-zoned. Just remember that as long as you keep yourself attractive and maintain other potential partners, then your wife cannot keep you from having sex, even if she refuses to have sex with you. When getting married you never promised to give up sex. The traditional vows contain a promise to continue having sex with each other. Those promises are not legally binding, but she breaks them by continually refu…
/r/TheRedPill18/04/18 09:11 AM
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I'm married and can confirm that it's all true. Get married if you wish but first of all make sure that you've thoroughly internalised the content of the married redpill sub, particularly the following: 1) At the very outset of the relationship make it abundantly clear that that you'll still continue to have sex, even if she stops having sex with you... 2) Keep yourself fit, happy and attractive - always putting your interests and happiness before her's 3) You cannot give a shit about her feelin…
/r/TheRedPill18/04/18 08:50 AM
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It doesn't sound 'nice' but it's so very true. I've applied this philosopy to my marriage, and everyone is happier now. It's confirmed: the lion tamer just does not want a tame lion.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/04/18 11:10 AM
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For the relationship to be healthy, she should want sex for the pleasure of it, because you're a guy that's in demand and not to be refused. Rewarding you with sex she doesn't want is purely transactional and manipulative. Clearly if she is buying favours with sex, then she may punish you by removing it. What you don't want is to be 'buying' duty sex sex from a woman that is not attracted to you and doesn't respect you. Why would you want to be in a 'low quality' sexual relationship that costs y…
/r/TheRedPill17/02/18 04:20 PM
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I've actually been training my upper body for a year, mostly with bodyweight for the first six months, before hitting the gym since June. I have excellent cardio condition, after years of intense training, which gives me very high endurance even during strength training. I have been training my arms shoulders and back 4+ days per week and recovering muscle mass that I lost over the years. I do not have measurements, but 2 inches from shoulder to shoulder is a guess based upon changes in the fit …
/r/TheRedPill11/12/17 04:54 AM
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Not enormous. I'm 6', 180lbs and just below 15% bf. I'm travelling at the movement, so cannot measure them. I have probably added at least two inches across my shoulders in the last 6 months and my arms and chest have expanded so that I cannot tuck the arms in to avoid objects like I used to. It's like someone proportionatly expanding the width of your car, then being surprised when you hit something. I also cannot walk face-on down the aisle of my train without raising my arms above the seats.
/r/TheRedPill08/12/17 05:31 PM
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I notice the broadening shoulders when bouncing off door frames that I would have passed through previously.
/r/TheRedPill08/12/17 01:01 PM
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I'll break my word to add: LOL
/r/TheRedPill17/11/17 07:00 AM
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This is my final comment here. You still read only what you want to find. My original message was about the content of a frame announcement it was not how to deliver that message. There are many ways to deliver it. Guys can also do whatever the hell they like.
/r/TheRedPill16/11/17 06:27 AM
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You seem to have understood only what you wanted. I shall spell it out more clearly if you like. The bottom line is that if the woman does not want frequent and passionate sex (which is because she clearly does not want to have sex with you) then there is no reason for the man to continue to give up all his time and effort for essentially no sex. It is only fair that he has sex with other women. A woman may choose to accept that or not, but it does not need to be a binary decision between contin…
/r/TheRedPill15/11/17 09:23 PM
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I certainly do think that I can set my own boundaries and expectations. You are the blue pill (or a woman trolling) if you are too feeble to lay down your requirements. I have done exactly that with my wife after she put me in a dead bedroom. You know what? For me to remain monogamously sexless under those circumstances is purely voluntary on my behalf. If she does not want my sexuality, but does not want me to have sex with others then clearly she is being extremely selfish. I will not tolerate…
/r/TheRedPill15/11/17 08:13 PM
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I took that from "practical female psychology". It talked about listening carefully to women at the start of a relationship for their own early frame announcements for the purposes of screening out unsuitable women. Men should clearly make their own ones, given the high proportion of dead bedrooms women create in long term relationships.
/r/TheRedPill15/11/17 08:02 PM
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I totally agree that negotiating attraction is pointless. Nevertheless sex may be managed by application of dread. If I were to start a new LTR, I would infuse it with a set of my own 'early frame announcements' such as regular passionate sex being a non-negotialble requirement for man to remain monogamous within a long term relationship. Reneging upon frequent passionate sex will mean that I consider myself freed of the requirement to be monogamous. This would be an early frame announcement, an…
/r/TheRedPill15/11/17 04:04 PM
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It's a bit late for that. Time for the outsourcing approach. It's not a matter of effort either. She can do effort, but only as a good girl. She cannot even flirt. She probably thinks that Mother Teresa was a filthy Whore ;-)
/r/TheRedPill01/11/17 09:41 PM
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My wife ticks the boxes apart from the haircutting. She is, however, a terrible lover. She probably would have benefited from riding a bit of CC ;-)
/r/TheRedPill01/11/17 09:09 PM
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Good point, but I doubt that many here have a sexual strategy interest in the gay friend, who in any event doesn't function as a fully representative experimental control.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/10/17 02:55 PM
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Yes, I think you're right.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/10/17 04:26 PM
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It was nothing fancy, just a strong assertion and it seemed to get her thinking. The intent was not to get into political discussions, but to positively and energetically seed ordinary conversation with ideas that might motivate her to improve what she offers to her husband. I wasn't speaking directly to her, she just happened to be involved in a conversation with 3 guys. After a number of non-femcentric remarks she became fairly quiet. I thought that she might have felt targeted or angered, but…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/10/17 03:28 PM
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I referred him to the Professor's book. He has already spread the word to a friend :-)
/r/MarriedRedPill27/10/17 03:05 PM
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Check out the BPPs book "Saving a Low Sex Marriage". This answers your question
/r/askMRP24/10/17 02:22 PM
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Agreed. First important step, unless you're a total looser an contributing nothing of substance to the relationship is to assertively cut out bitchy and disrespectful behaviour, and put down your expectations, requirements and boundaries.
/r/askMRP24/10/17 01:21 PM
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Give the necessary amount of comfort, but not too much. No, never = You own me. I'm your bitch. Abuse me at will, be lazy, spend all our money, and fuck whoever you want, and I don't mind if you refuse sex with me. The message that needs to be conveyed covertly is that I care for you, but I have a high SMV, I am my own mental point of origin, I have high standards and if you want to be with me, you'll have to be respectful and earn your keep.
/r/askMRP24/10/17 01:14 PM
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You should have heard my wife shit testing me when I started hitting the gym hard and making real gains and dropping to sub-15% body fat. Favourites include: - Blah, blah, blah..... stop tying to be someone your'e not. - Blah, blah, blah..... I don't like muscular men. - Blah, blah, blah..... You said that we should get spending under control, then you bought this gym equipment. - Blah, blah, blah..... You're sweaty - yuck, I'm not kissing you. - Blah, blah, blah..... You thought that you were f…
/r/askMRP24/10/17 01:02 PM
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"Side bar and lift, neck beard!" posted by random guys giving of their own time to shake you out of complacency and a pointless victimhood mentality to help you or a bitchy wife and no sex? I can tell you which one is brutal.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/10/17 11:23 AM
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Its not a shit test. She is a plate
/r/TheRedPill23/10/17 08:02 AM
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I had considered pointing out various similarities between us, but though it might be cheesy ;-). I must admit from your few posts; I was under the impression that your wife was an advenuress, when compared to mine. Mine had one boyfriend, and they were long distance. She disliked his family, and I can only suspect there was little to no sexual activity. That probably makes your wife like a pornstar with 10 years professional experience compared to mine! Most nuns are probably much more sexually…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/10/17 11:52 AM
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Hi, thanks for the interest. I have just looked through your post history and remember a couple of them. All posts are insightful and well written. I'm now ready to write a huge FR or on OYS. I'll probably go with the FR because it will be comprehensive. Shortly before finding MRP (had only found the misery of Deadbedrooms),I did indeed tell her verbally. I hadn't exactly jumped straight to DL12. I have always owned my shit, worked hard and taken risks. She has always worked because she wanted t…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/10/17 04:24 PM
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Love it! So true. I'm building myself a trawler.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/10/17 04:37 PM
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It's another SJW shit test. I DNGAF. Don't be a poof and be and scared of what other people may think.
/r/TheRedPill19/10/17 08:00 PM
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There is no need to feel sorry for them. If they married a nice guy, they would only be making that man miserable instead. Better them than us.
/r/TheRedPill19/10/17 04:09 PM
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She is aware that she is unable to own the frame of the relationship. She is unable to manipulate OP with her emotions, she is unable to play with his scarcity mentality / oneitis (because he does not have one), she has not succeeded in getting herself put on a pedestal, and she is having to put the effort into pleasing him and providing sex, and has (perhaps if she had any) sacrificed her interests and social circles for him. As far as she is concerned, she should have him trapped, scared and p…
/r/TheRedPill19/10/17 03:27 PM
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Agreed. That is why I posted it as 'good girl'. She is clearly much less slutty than the vast majority, and I know that I failed in good part because I treated her with greater care and deference than my previous ordinary girlfriends and slutty FWBs. I think that she has a massive sexual hangup because her conscious mind almost always overrides her subconscious carnal desires. It appears that she sees that side of herself as animalistic and disgusting, and isn't prepared to allow herself to lose…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/10/17 11:36 AM
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Absolutely correct. I didn't want it to be true, but my wife has proved you right.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/10/17 10:12 AM
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Nicely put! I found this sub in April, and the message has fully correlated with my full history of sexual partners. My wife is a model 'good girl' (few relationships, traditional and stable ethical family, good education and classy friends, never into bars, drinking, night clubs or CC), with loads of sexual hangups. She is highly ethical and particularly hard working, and has high ethical expectations for men and women in her social circle. Nevertheless, that is not enough for her to be willing…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/10/17 10:07 AM
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That's almost correct. Once you don't 'need' her to do that either, all will be well.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/10/17 09:27 AM
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This should be cross-posted into redpillfatherhood.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/10/17 05:55 PM
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If you're enjoying yourself that's great. That's much better than being butthurt. However not initiating sex would surely be much more effective if combined with other dread, particularly with unusual absences to get her hamster going. I have to admit to the same. I'm beginning to appreciate some stoking of drama. In a recent example, she has for sometime been giving me shit tests about lifting weights particularly as I'm now making some real gains. She has been trying to shame and guilt me for …
/r/MarriedRedPill13/10/17 07:40 PM
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Thanks for your input too. I'm now getting fed up at the current speed of my wife's progress. I had significantly de-escalated my 'find sex elsewhere mindset'. My reflections and the other comments on this page just helped to realise that it deserves to return to 10. She really does have a innate redpill competition detector and she had tortured me with rare duty sex for far too long.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/10/17 06:24 PM
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This is one of the best posts I've read on MRP. Thanks for the insight! It fills a gap in the sidebar material that I've read, although it is entirely consistent. The psychology makes so much sense. I enjoyed the section about enjoying sex for yourself, rather than for her, then balancing the middle ground, and the woman's perspective. While fixing my dead bedroom I got to a point where sex was rarely refused, but sex was rarely passionate. It was largely her way with a little effort on her beha…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/10/17 02:20 PM
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Its normal if you're in the US and studying engineering. Don't worry, nobody else finds them attractive either :-)
/r/TheRedPill09/10/17 08:38 PM
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If she is doing this to you now, imagine what she will be like when she has more power and leverage over you. How will she be if her romantic / sexual feelings, need and respect for you drops?
/r/MarriedRedPill09/10/17 08:46 AM
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It's not magic. Calling you disgusting for being naked is 1) a shit test, 2) a convenient way of making you feel guilty for daring to be a sexual being. The correct response is therefore to go to bed naked, whether you apply AM, A&A, or just blatantly ignore her.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/10/17 08:39 PM
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1) You do not have to give a shit about her politics. You don't have to agree with them. If she doesn't like it, then it's just tough luck. 2) Don't bother trying to make a partner happy, particularly by sacrificing your own interests and happiness. If you have been trying to do that and neither of you a happy, then that tells you all that you need to know. Make your own health, happiness, success, fun and fitness your top priorities. You cannot make her happy, but you can make yourself happy. I…
/r/MarriedRedPill29/09/17 07:43 AM
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I would consider it more of a 'frame announcement'
/r/TheRedPill21/09/17 09:30 AM
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She would probably like to be 'equal' or 'better equal', in order to justify dominating you and branch swinging.
/r/TheRedPill11/09/17 03:26 PM
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It's not so simple: 1) Women want to be impregnated by an alpha man. 2) They want to be protected, cared and provided for 3) They want their offspring to be sired by multiple men for genetic variety. Given those genetically programmed desires, a woman probably has to be conscientious, or anxious of being caught (thus being forced to settle for an even more sub-optimal situation) in order to stay faithful to one man. Look at all the dead bedrooms in long term relationships. Many women don't want …
/r/TheRedPill11/09/17 03:10 PM
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It's disgusting from the perspective of society as a whole. However even more disgusting is this applies to individual women (AWALT). If you sacrifice too much for a good wife, she becomes toxic (only mildly in my case) and turns off the sex supply, and shows no appreciation for all your efforts. I have validated the Redpill principles that you must look after and care for yourself, well above all others, and especially a wife. Treat anything from the lips of women as shit tests. Have no fear of…
/r/TheRedPill11/09/17 12:01 PM
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Good for you! I'm already instructing my own 11-year old son, so that he is ready to deal with this bullshit. I've been giving this topic some thought, and I'll soon begin teaching my 5-year old son. I'll be teaching him from a non-sexual angle, concerning compliance with authority figures (mostly women at his age). I'll see if I can teach him to choose to comply with instructions for a workable outcome (in his interests), rather than being emotionally manipulated through anxiety, shame and guil…
/r/TheRedPill11/09/17 11:46 AM
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Agreed. He would be a much better father if he was a nice guy, had no sex and got divorced. Way to go, teach your son's to be men.
/r/TheRedPill10/09/17 05:11 AM
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And if you do meet a quality woman, and marry / LTR, then be sure to play the dread game with your eyes wide open. Be prepared to give as many fucks as the drug dealer.
/r/TheRedPill08/09/17 03:49 PM
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The Redpill theory is true. As a man, you don't want to be equal, and particularly in a LTR. Let's say you're 'equal', but events happen to change that balance. All of a sudden you're inferior, and even a 'quality' woman will treat you like shit and turn off the sex. That's before you have kids, or considering women's innate programming to 'betaise' men. Stay dominant and use dread game liberally.
/r/TheRedPill06/09/17 10:59 AM
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She needs to be no more than a plate. She should gain no benefit from your time or money.
/r/TheRedPill06/09/17 08:19 AM
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1) I meant that I thought that she would drop her 'innocent' ways and get more into enjoying sex, like all other women I had been with previously. She was, however very resistant to trying anything new, or to doing anything to get herself to cum. She was rather like a nun. Only with the Married Redpill toolset have I been able to make advances, through total OI of the state of monogamy in the marriage. She knows that I'll no longer tolerate bad and infrequent sex. She can also see that I'm ready…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/09/17 07:40 PM
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Good for you. I selected a quality wife that had not ridden the CC, and assumed that she would work it through and improve her whore skillset. I was wrong. After kids, it got much worse. You need to select what you hear from the wife WRT sex. If she doesn't like lots of stuff, then you should consider it a set of shit tests. Ignore, AA, amused mastery to be employed. Sexual refusals to, unless is a really hard no. Initiate all day long, send texts, tease, be dirty. You'll get there hopefully.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/09/17 07:01 PM
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I told my wife that I will not negotiate sex and I will not tolerate infrequent and bad sex. Hehe
/r/TheRedPill28/08/17 07:24 PM
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You're totally correct. Best to internalise the lessons, drop the anger and bitterness and enjoy playing the game.
/r/TheRedPill28/08/17 03:21 PM
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Sure there is a lot of bitterness, but it is well deserved. I have a 'good' wife. But she is only of any value to me through deployment of Redpill mindset.
/r/TheRedPill28/08/17 02:02 PM
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Absolutely true. The only thing that I considered that I needed from my wife was sex, and that was drip fed. So I awoke to the Redpill realisation that you can't even count on that, at least until you don't count upon it. You must never consider a spouse, LTR or girlfriend as the only source of sex. The game is on, blatently open women everywhere, and if ever anything happens 'it just happened'. It's what she wanted.
/r/TheRedPill28/08/17 01:42 PM
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That is a terribly defeatist attitude. The MRP approach and attitude resolved my dead bedroom. My wife now fully engages in passionate sex. I did however engage in full marriage outcome independence. This attitude was fully battle-hardened when during discussions where she tried to manipulate me and shame me with "You only think about sex", "you don't have my father's balls", and "stop trying to be someone you're not". My thoughts went along the lines of "Thank you very much. I was someone with …
/r/TheRedPill28/08/17 12:19 PM
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Happy wife, happy life (and not an ounce of sarcasm there - oh sorry I was being sarcastic)
/r/MarriedRedPill28/08/17 10:49 AM
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I was thinking about this earlier today. There is no more important core redpill message. Understand this and you're free to do anything you want. She has lost her main manipulative weapons. You are freed to act in your own self-interest and pursue a course in life that will bring you joy. If you have a low sex marriage and are afraid of her emotional reactions to instigating, or during sex play you will be too timid, not dominant and not sexy. Just go for it. Build up to being outrageously sexu…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/08/17 03:17 PM
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That sounds fatalistic. I forget which book it was that covers this element of male mate guarding (MMSLP / The Rationale Male or Practical Female Psychology) but: By not drawing boundaries you are being weak. You can draw boundaries from a weak and needy frame or a confident unshakeably masculine frame. You know which one to do it from. As stated by one of the other posters she may challenge your frame by trying to shame you for not trusting her and being needy. You want to head that off with ca…
/r/askMRP23/08/17 12:36 PM
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This is solid gold. This shows you operating straight out of your frame. You are not being needy, you are pointing out boundaries for expected behaviour. However should she call your bluff on this, and accept that you both have sex with others outside your marriage, then what is the point (as a man) in you being married? In that case you should progress towards divorce. A man has no interest in raising a woman's children if she is not satisfied in having sex with just him. Furthermore, it is not…
/r/askMRP23/08/17 08:46 AM
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Indeed. You have to be serious about whether you want to have a sex life. It is really important to me. Why should I sacrifice my sexuality to someone that does not want it? Improve yourself and your attractiveness by following the Bluepill Professor's levels of dread. If after making suitable progress your partner does not want to share a sex life then it is unreasonable for them to prevent you addressing that need elsewhere. You could 'outsource' that part of your life or you could separate. I…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/08/17 08:15 AM
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This is just a comfort test, and a test of your leadership frame. Don't get angry or DEER. Radiate competence and confidence. You were right not to try to win the emotional argument. Let her vent off her emotional energy and invite her into the calm safe waters of your frame.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/08/17 05:50 PM
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If you have consensual sex with a girl, it is because she wants it. If you think that going through with it makes you a bad person, then you are being influenced by feminist claptrap and emasculating yourself - do not do it if you want to be happy. I made the mistake of being more respectful and caring, and being less sexual after finding a good quality wife. If you want to manage a LTR, then follow the Bluepill Professor's 12 levels of dread. You can then escalate or lower the level based upon …
/r/TheRedPill22/08/17 02:56 PM
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FWIW, I have just finished completely destroying my dead bedroom and I have nothing but enormous respect for the MRP founders and contributors. I have three kids and the youngest has just turned five. My dread level is now dropping back to 4/5 after reaching level 9. My wife is now far more sexually available, willing to experiment and enjoying it more than any point in our relationship. I had all the usual sexual availability setbacks with pregnancy and kids, and found myself walking on eggshel…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/08/17 11:12 AM
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Marry one (or several) and you will no doubt be cured
/r/TheRedPill03/08/17 03:32 PM
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You sound great. My conscious choice wasn't so far off, BUT my wife's concept of serving did not include being sexually adventurous or available. Throw in the demands of work and kids (+ her desire to work whether or not it contributed to net household income after childcare costs) and guess what, I had a low drama competent and caring wife but a dead bedroom. I'm not sure I can do much about that only real requirement I have from a wife (in terms of meeting my own needs) other than operating li…
/r/TheRedPill03/08/17 02:54 PM
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There is so much good advice from the guys in this forum. Its sad but true that you cannot be nice, and caring for your woman and have her just respect you and be sexually interested. I've never been as supplicating (and consequently as browbeaten) as OP, but I feel it's a real shame that I need to change myself to the 'darker' side. However it is clear that you cannot deliver ongoing happiness to a woman, particularly after having children, you have to put yourself and your happiness first. Onl…
/r/TheRedPill03/08/17 07:44 AM
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