I've been reading here for a while and see a lot about conditioning time and attention in response to negative behavior ... obviously not in a butthurt, "Look at me trying to punish" you way, but more just me being me as a man who doesn't need her. I don't. I'm at peace with that.

Anyway, my wife has been fairly negative recently, so I've been withdrawing off to the gym, to hang out with some guy friends, spending extra time at work, etc. But when I get home from all that and she's still up, I enjoy just doing Netflix and chill with her for a while. That's what I genuinely want to do, even when she's been acting negative at other times.

Is this counter-productive to the point where I should avoid even this for the purpose of "conditioning"? Or do I just do what I want to do, even if it undermines the conditioning?