Anger Phase

Sepean · 2018-10-06T07:50:16+00:00

It sounds like you’re not that far into the process yet. You don’t know what your wife will do for you until you’ve alphaed up properly.

gettingmymojoback · 2018-10-06T10:01:37+00:00

You can’t undo your past fuckups. You can only change the path you are currently on.

“Time is like a river made up of the events which happen, and a violent stream; for as soon as a thing has been seen, it is carried away, and another comes in its place, and this will be carried away too.” - Marcus Aurelius

Go and take your anger out on the iron. That’s what it’s for. If you do it right you’ll be too tired to be angry anymore.

Then go eat a steak, fuck your wife and go to sleep.

Repeat as needed.

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RedPill-BlackLotus · 2018-10-06T11:43:22+00:00

She treated you like the loser you were at the time.

You had to be that guy to be this guy.

You can't vet anyone for marriage. Rollo mentions it in the rational male. Marriage changes people.

You are right where you deserve to be for the decisions you have made up untill now.

SteelSharpensSteel · 2018-10-06T10:16:09+00:00

Hey, I remember you. See, the thing about playing "What If" is that it's not real. What's real is where you are, right now. Now you can make your plan on where you're going based on the real, or you can make it based on What If.

Yes, you vetted poorly. Shit happens.

Are you not only using the tools, but leading her in your masculine frame as well? If you've become a high value man not just in looks but all areas, have you led your wife? Ever shared a vision with her? Led her in areas other than sex?

I get it. Some women are bad eggs. But remember there is some reflection going on. If she sucks, perhaps it is because a part of you still sucks.

ParaXilo · 2018-10-06T07:55:49+00:00

Same position.

Knowing what I know now there's only one person to blame. Me.

I didn't vet my wife. My fault.

MRP warned me of the red flags. I ignored them. Also, my fault.

At the same time. Your wife is a reflection of you.

It's a fucking conundrum.

No one is stopping you from walking out. However, going through the process isn't a bad idea.

End of the day. You can turn around and go back to the way things were or start doing something about it.

I needed to remind myself of this today. There is no going back. There's stumbling like a dipshit but there's no going back.

matrixtospartanatLV · 2018-10-06T10:06:57+00:00

Yeah, same thing here, son.

She's great in a couple of ways, but her n-count and specific relationship history have fucked her in a couple ways, and I'm trying to see the forest of reality from within the trees of my anger.

Kingofdeadbedroom · 2018-10-06T10:58:13+00:00

Opposite end of the spectrum for me.

I vetted mine as a wife and mother, and not as a lover. All previous women were lovers only.

I got what I vetted for.

FoxShitNasty83 · 2018-10-06T08:06:30+00:00

Harness the anger like the tilting of windmills. It's both your friend and enemy, your ally is awareness. When you catch yourself being angry don't dwell on it simply harness it to push you into positive action such as lifting / owning shit or map. When you are aware of it don't just sit there, do something.

10 months in I still get angry

470_2_700_nm · 2018-10-06T10:50:15+00:00

First step is to stop feeling sorry for yourself cupcake. Your acting like a pussy right now. Now get to work mother fucker.

IRunYourRiver · 2018-10-06T13:29:40+00:00

"The stay plan is the same as the go plan".

Work on you. Reassess in six months.

ReddJive · 2018-10-06T14:17:30+00:00

We are broken in some way. Society is shit and the baby boomer parents didn't help much. Still...my world now.

So I recommend you pull your dick from the dirt and realize you still have a slut for a wife. You say as much. Pussy was on tap. You aren't angry at anything else but what you did. Your entire statement blames others and things. You hamster the idea that a Chad has already fucked her. Maybe he has maybe he hasn't. In either case every man here was a woman's second choice or even third. It will be rare to find a truly virignal woman. hell my own shrew was said by her whole family to have never had a boyfriend....and yet no one sucks dick that good the first time.

You're not angry at anyone or thing other than yourself. Your actions. You got yourself into this, you knew better. While I don't think any man here was "truly alpha" I don't think men are truly beta either. We are blank slates and learn behavior despite what our instincts say.

You knew better. You knew what you were doing and I am betting if you dig deep enough you will see that you did. So stop being such a pussy. Be angry but do so for the right reasons not becasue everyone and thing is just out to get you.

The world is a paradox. There is no point in understanding it. All you can do is improve and suck it up. Do better and suck less tomorrow. Along the way fuck a few women.

JudgeDoom69 · 2018-10-06T14:40:15+00:00

Yes, you should be mad. Mad at yourself. Now channel your rage into your weightlifting and take all of your aggression out on the iron.

This will have a double benefit. It will reduce your stress level while making you more attractive. And when your are a low-stress, attractive guy, maybe she'll quit being such a fucking cunt.

dandar4600 · 2018-10-06T15:44:37+00:00

Years later married with children and fucking pissed off

Wife or her behavior to you are often reflection of her husband. Improve yourself, give it some time, then re-evaluate. She might just turn out to be great. Don't make any rash decision when in anger phase.

runnowxxx · 2018-10-06T08:51:38+00:00

Same here. That’s why i read mrp every single day to help myself stay awake. I’m still in ramboville. It’s a much harsher reality here, but at least when life hits me, i hit back. I still get knocked out a lot, but i’ve learned concepts like grey stone and rope a dope, so at least i’m toughening up now. Anyway time for me to quit bitching and lift. C u in OYS. (Or not, if u dun have it in u)

matrixtospartanatLV · 2018-10-06T12:55:36+00:00

“...was I always destined to fail due to my lack of vetting awareness?”

Yes.

You will always fail due to a lack of vetting awareness, and as one commenter reminded us from The Rational Male, people change in marriage.

More specifically, Rollo said that no man, in the history of mankind, has every fully vetted a woman.

But there’s more, much, much more to say about your whining, sniveling little missive.

I have to go to work now and make more money than our politicians think I should be allowed to have, so I’ll give you a three-word answer to ALL your relationshit problems:

LIFT

READ

STFU

Rian_Stone · 2018-10-06T16:02:22+00:00

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RandomlyChosenTitle · 2018-10-06T16:19:49+00:00

she isn't adding much value to my life

You sure this isn't the anger talking? If she truly isn't adding value, then what's keeping you in the marriage.

You didn't mention if you're lifting or not. If not, start today and lift heavy. It will put your mind at ease and leave you in a better place to evaluate your life.

oytrp · 2018-10-08T17:52:37+00:00

All of this is sunk cost.

Society had nothing to do with your fuck ups. Now that you've got the tools time for you to evaluate your situation.

Can you right the ship?

Title	Anger Phase
Author	Awakeningof17
Upvotes	7
Comments	27
Date	October 6, 2018 7:38 AM UTC (7 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/askMRP
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