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Buy a fake wedding ring to meet girls.
/r/askTRP16/11/18 03:03 AM
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I believe Shelly when she says she is 100% faithful to her husband other than me. Sounds like she's unfaithful to both of you, but that's a semantics issue if you don't care. She might one day decide you were fun but not worth it, and she's going back to her husband for security. Dunno, and I don't think you care.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/11/18 05:39 PM
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I believe Shelly when she says she is 100% faithful to her husband other than me. From personal experience, you're probably not the first and won't be the last.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/11/18 05:35 PM
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I'm pretty sure you originally had a line that you removed, saying you think she wants to branch swing to you now that you're getting divorced. From personal experience, that's what's happening, and when she fails to do that, expect her to tell her husband about you. Plan to head that off early. I'd start joking about how she needs to keep him around to take care of her when your fun is done, because you're not looking to marry again.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/11/18 05:34 PM
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I was in your situation a long time ago. Girl was up for anything, begging for it, told me she wanted to leave her husband for me. But it was boring. My wife is more vanilla, but much better. I don't mean to crash your post. You and I are in totally different positions now, but I get where you're coming from. And it made me consider a question I keep trying to answer, am I chasing happiness or my ego.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/11/18 05:17 PM
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If Shelly thinks she's too old, and that you can and will do better, she'll cheat on you with a lesser beta bucks guy to lock him down instead of getting dumped by you. That's the bitch of hypergamy, it doesn't always move upwards, it moves downwards to a more stable branch if she thinks her higher branch will break. She's cheating on you with her beta bucks husband, already, but you're ok with that, so fine. Practical Female Psychology looks at Low Self Esteem women and how this works as an evo…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/11/18 05:03 PM
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You picked a bad woman. You can fix yourself but not her. Experiment failed, one of you moves out. Either now or in 10 years when she takes your kids and all your stuff.
/r/askMRP08/11/18 10:32 PM
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Agree. It’s the Second best book on there, it’s basically NMMNG but describing women. I’m plowing through it now and it will save this guy’s life. Your assessment is spot on. Practical Female Psychology for those not sure the title.
/r/askMRP08/11/18 10:29 PM
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Don't. You picked a low quality woman, on the bad end of the AWALT spectrum. You need to lift for other reasons, but it will not fix this woman. Hopefully it will allow you to replace her with a better one.
/r/askMRP08/11/18 07:48 PM
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She will suck your dick, swallow your come, let you fuck her ass, tie her up and anything else you want What is it that makes us want this from a woman? Does her mouth feel better than her pussy? Is it because we've had it before and want it again? Because it's taboo? Or is it external validation? The idea that a woman is willing to do anything, for me, as proof of my value. if you are a high value man I'm worried it's that. In that case, does the mere offer from a random woman suffice? Or do I …
/r/MarriedRedPill08/11/18 07:36 PM
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Your wife is Low Self Esteem. Read "Practical Female Psychology for the Practical Man", it's basically NMMNG but explaining about women instead. I think it will give you much better insight into her behavior. It's the second most useful book I've seen recommended here.
/r/askMRP07/11/18 09:15 PM
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Read "Practical Female Psychology for the Practical Man", it's basically NMMNG but explaining about women instead. I think it will give you much better insight into her behavior. It's the second most useful book I've seen recommended here.
/r/askMRP07/11/18 09:14 PM
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Do you have kids with your wife?
/r/askMRP07/11/18 09:07 PM
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Non issue. If she’s coming off hormone pills it’s to have a baby, which will whack her hormones up way more than the pills were. The issue is if you’re a man who can lead her despite her hormones, not what her hormones will be like coming off the pill.
/r/askTRP02/11/18 05:25 PM
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Drive whatever car you want. My brother and I have owned all the same cars because they’re awesome and we both have good taste.
/r/askTRP28/10/18 07:38 PM
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“Yep. You’re a lucky girl.”
/r/askTRP25/10/18 01:11 AM
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Old Navy. Like the other guy said get some well fitted polos and jeans and chinos. The clothes will be cheap and they will have cuts for your body type.
/r/askTRP25/10/18 12:49 AM
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That’s a comfort test, and the idea is for similar reasons.
/r/askTRP22/10/18 08:05 PM
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She already brought it up first, and already got rejected when you didn’t agree and she saw the Bumble message. She won’t bring it up again because she will be afraid you’ll dump her, especially since you’re older and more experienced and divorced. If you want it, tell her what you want.
/r/askTRP22/10/18 07:38 PM
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I’ll tell you something someone told me when I had a similar issue. Give your girl a hug, man. She is completely invested in you. She, and her ego, will be devastated if you leave. And she’s afraid by your lack of investment, that you will leave. It’s not so much about balancing alpha vs beta, it’s about her knowing that you can leave, but that you choose to stay. She needs to know you want to be there so she doesn’t check out of the relationship to protect her ego, or to become so anxious of yo…
/r/askTRP17/10/18 03:40 PM
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Strong lifts 5x5 and GOMAD
/r/askTRP16/10/18 01:34 AM
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If you are going to stay with the mother, then move in and be there for her and your kid. Be supportive of the mother and the pregnancy. This will be tough, but that has to be your problem, not hers.
/r/askTRP11/10/18 07:00 PM
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It’s weird, but not wrong, and she’s demonstrated to be a quality woman.
/r/askTRP10/10/18 06:47 PM
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Most of this is not feasible at 9pm when the kids are asleep.
/r/askMRP09/10/18 09:21 PM
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Dress better, suits, sport coats, collared shirts, dress shoes. Older people dress like this. Also, as mentioned, beard.
/r/askTRP09/10/18 01:22 AM
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Psychopath means broken brain. Like a schizophrenic, these people don’t perceive reality right, they hallucinate. Sociopath means broken socially. These people hurt society (other people) by doing Machiavellian shit like lie, cheat, steal.
/r/askTRP08/10/18 11:45 AM
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This, alpha widow is the number one red flag this girl will never be LTR material.
/r/askTRP08/10/18 10:36 AM
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She brings it up, it sounds like, because she’s an alpha widow.
/r/askTRP08/10/18 10:36 AM
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You didn’t marry a prude.
/r/askMRP07/10/18 11:58 AM
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Some people will say to ignore her. Don’t let her affect you. Bad advice. She’s acting like a child. Don’t whisper. Treat her like a child. Call her out and move on, same as you do a child. You don’t let a child act like that. For the rings, if she were going to cheat she’d put them in her purse when she left, not walk around the house with then on the night stand. She’s trying to be a bitch to you. I would be totally over the top about how she lost them and you need to file an insurance claim a…
/r/askMRP06/10/18 06:13 PM
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Game her. If you want to fuck her, initiate. If she asks why you broke the moratorium, tell her you felt like it. Congruence is great, but the thing about being a man is you can change your mind, take what you want, and do what you want without explanation.
/r/askMRP06/10/18 05:38 PM
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Eat a lot of protein and food period this weekend. That’s the best thing when I have DOMS. There’s no need to work a muscle group that’s already sore, it’s already got all the stimulus it needs, it needs to heal.
/r/askTRP06/10/18 11:47 AM
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Boo, undo the edit. It was actually really good.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/10/18 01:47 AM
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That looks too hard. I lift 3 days a week, squat/dead, bench/dip, row/pull-up. I am strong, guys tell me I look strong, girls hit on me in front of my wife. You’re lazy. Don’t overthink things, this is simple and it works. I’ve done so many other complicated programs and had much more mediocre results. https://stronglifts.com
/r/askTRP04/10/18 09:12 PM
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Get your estradiol/estrogen levels checked. High estradiol causes anxiety.
/r/askTRP04/10/18 08:30 PM
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That’s totally the wrong program for you and basically anyone that’s not super motivated and already jacked. You need 5x5 or StrongLifts. I fucked around with 8-12 rep programs for a decade of plateaued gym performance, then made amazing progress fast when I switched to 5x5.
/r/askTRP04/10/18 08:28 PM
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If you want a GF, you’re fine, although you could have made her work for it more. If you want a plate, you have an expectations issue from her now.
/r/askTRP04/10/18 07:25 PM
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Do they have an HR department you can talk to? Can you drop to part time? Try to keep the job if it’s important once you get the degree. Drop hobbies and girls do you can work and get your degree.
/r/askTRP04/10/18 06:31 PM
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Whatever it takes to get it done, assuming the new degree will put you in a better place. Or try to drop to part time or find another part time job while you go back to school.
/r/askTRP04/10/18 06:16 PM
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Switch to 5x5, problem solved. And creatine and eat more and....
/r/askTRP04/10/18 03:58 PM
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Old Navy. It’s cheap and cut for younger and hence not as fat people. I buy polo shirts with a bit of stretch and jeans with spandex in them. I know, but it lets it fit properly through the thigh when standing but still give enough that you can sit down. I felt better when I saw that other body builders had discovered spandex blend jeans and I wasn’t the only one. For dress stuff, Brooks Brothers Milano (extra slim) in a large neck size just barely works. I am fit and noticeably muscular in a po…
/r/askTRP03/10/18 10:38 PM
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Yeah reading this I knew immediately he doesn’t lift and although that’s not the whole problem, it’s indicative of everything wrong.
/r/askMRP03/10/18 10:26 PM
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I agree, her even asking is a huge red flag. But every woman will throw some type of shit test at some time, which this is. That response will let you course correct her and judge if it’s a red flag or a black flag and then you can decide from there your tolerance to red flags.
/r/askTRP03/10/18 07:58 PM
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Trade your aggression for a DGAF attitude that comes with experience of age. They are similar ways of viewing the world as your oyster, but DGAF is better at conveying your value. Also get your T levels checked.
/r/askTRP03/10/18 07:54 PM
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This doesn’t engage her hamster as much. The first one she thinks “yeah I do, wait, does that mean I won’t be his girlfriend anymore?”
/r/askTRP03/10/18 07:03 PM
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“My girlfriend doesn’t sleep at another guy’s house.” And then see what she does.
/r/askTRP03/10/18 03:51 PM
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Kegels
/r/askTRP02/10/18 07:48 PM
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She left you. You cannot take this woman back, even if she'd let you. Skip counseling. Just don't show up. Get an attorney. Today. Ask him if you should file or wait for her to file. Ask him if you need a PI. Try to get as much of the assets in the divorce as possible. You have no kids and very little history. Leave now or you will regret it later when she leaves you again and takes your money and kids.
/r/askMRP02/10/18 07:37 PM
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Women’s best years are their 20s. Not men. I’m late 30s and my best years are not here yet. I had to work to get girls at your age. I have to fend them off now. They can smell success. Go be successful.
/r/askTRP02/10/18 06:04 PM
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Your 20s is the time to bust your ass to set yourself up for the rest of your life. Go back and get your degree and cut everything else to make that happen. You can be in a much better place by the time you’re 30.
/r/askTRP02/10/18 05:45 PM
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I have a friend who’s short, overweight, and starting to bald. But he’s hugely social and the life of the party. I’ve watched solid 9+ girls fawn over him and him shoot them down. Attitude can compensate for a lot, but all those other things help a lot too.
/r/askTRP02/10/18 02:26 PM
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Shoulder shrugs and lateral arm raises. Eat more.
/r/askTRP02/10/18 04:37 AM
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Your stats?
/r/askTRP02/10/18 04:32 AM
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You should see it in person.
/r/askTRP02/10/18 03:58 AM
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Gallon of Milk a Day (GOMAD) and 5x5. As a beginner this will pack on muscle faster than anything. HIIT is for losing weight.
/r/askTRP02/10/18 03:52 AM
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Make sure you let yourself heal instead of pushing it too soon. I can still normally leg press even when my back is bother me. You might also try a lifting belt. See what works and back off if you have pain until your doctor or therapist says you’re healed up.
/r/askTRP01/10/18 06:06 PM
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Does your school have a gym? Otherwise, you only need three movements. Upper body push, upper body pull, lower body push. Pushups work but if you can do more than 10 then they’re not hard enough. Dips will work instead for a upper push. Pull-ups are great for upper pull. Find a park with parallel bars for dips and a chin-up bar. Or use chairs for dips and get a door jam chin-up bar. When you can do 10, add a backpack full of books to add weight. Body weight squats with a book bag on will have to…
/r/askMRP29/09/18 06:37 PM
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I posted this elsewhere but it’s relevant here. When I met my wife, she stopped seeing anyone else, because she wasn't interested in seeing anyone else after meeting me and didn't want to jeopardize any possibility with me, such as if I saw her on a date with someone else and dumped her, even though we weren't officially exclusive for a while. I never asked her about this, she pro-offered this information, over a decade later, as an example of how much I mean to her. How do I know this is true? …
/r/askMRP29/09/18 04:58 PM
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Check online TRT. They have you draw blood locally but everything else is remote and legit.
/r/askMRP29/09/18 04:39 AM
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Take Dwayne Johnson, switch his Tren with female birth control pills, and when he loses 50 lbs in muscle and gains 50 lbs in fat and water, tell him he’s not working the gym hard enough. I get what you’re saying, but this guy has a chemical imbalance he needs to fix. And that’s extremely powerful. Then we can call him a bitch for not hitting the gym once his hormones are set.
/r/askMRP29/09/18 03:06 AM
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Endos tend to suck for this. Find a men’s clinic or an online TRT service. I would find someone willing to try Clomid before sticking you on T shots for life, but you should research that while vetting a new doctor.
/r/askMRP28/09/18 08:42 PM
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Some people use legal prohormones to do this. I’m not saying it’s the best option, but you can do it easily and legally.
/r/askMRP28/09/18 08:36 PM
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That’s still a very low reading at 338.
/r/askMRP28/09/18 08:19 PM
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Wear a sport coat. Go to a hotel bar. Order a drink or better yet sit at the bar and order dinner. Talk to people. Catch and release. I helped a single friend setup Tinder. I spent 5 minutes watching him swipe. I saw multiple people I knew or had seen in real life. Someone will find it. I can explain catch and release. I’m just talking to someone, they get the wrong idea, they invite me to their room or want to give me their number, I decline. Hell, I could even explain discretely having girls o…
/r/askMRP28/09/18 08:12 PM
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You say you feel like a loser. Then you say you’re good. Pick one.
/r/askTRP28/09/18 05:49 PM
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You display the classic signs of low T and high E. It will be 100 times harder to fix yourself until you fix your hormones. Google “high estrogen in men symptoms” and see how many you match.
/r/askTRP28/09/18 05:13 PM
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If you have anxiety, find a men’s clinic and get your testosterone and especially your estradiol/estrogen levels checked. And lift heavier.
/r/askTRP28/09/18 02:50 PM
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I am super libertarian and was talking to my old most conservative friend when he told me I’m now the most conservative person he’s ever met. So apparently I’m now very conservative. Who knew?
/r/RPChristians28/09/18 02:16 AM
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I get you. Your parents are my like my parents. But they don’t want simple things to be simple, if you get what I’m saying.
/r/askTRP28/09/18 01:54 AM
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I am too, but these days that makes you ultra far alt-right.
/r/RPChristians28/09/18 12:19 AM
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I see nothing here about what you want, just what she decided for you. When she says: “The person who she was when we got married is dead” You say “yeah I like the new you. I’d cheat on the old you with the new you” And then, cause this whole thing is a giant shitty comfort test, you tell her “if you want to leave, I’ll help you pack your shit. If I wanted to leave, you would have divorce papers. Since neither of those have happened, we aren’t discussing this again.” I keep having to type that s…
/r/askMRP27/09/18 09:07 PM
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I'm going to triple down on this. I've read plenty of "she fucked Chad and he dumped her" threads and they all go the exact same way. Wife has perfect OPSEC but he gets a bad gut feeling, wife is pleasant while fucking Chad, wife is pissed as fuck when he dumps her. Your wife was the exact opposite. Her OPSEC is sloppy as fuck like she wants to get caught (so you find her talking to a lawyer and divorce her first), she's a bitch during the period you think she could be cheating, and then she is …
/r/askMRP27/09/18 07:49 PM
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My wife is deathly afraid of flying and I like to travel, so she pops a Xanax and I hold her hand during takeoff and landing. Some shit is simple if you make it simple.
/r/askTRP27/09/18 07:08 PM
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Leg press and let the arm heal. You may be able to do chin-ups or cable rows with a sprained wrist, but not a broken arm.
/r/askTRP27/09/18 06:40 PM
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Why do you have two threads on this, both with different info?
/r/askTRP27/09/18 06:38 PM
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Just text her “I got it. See you there.”
/r/askTRP27/09/18 06:37 PM
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She agreed to a date without knowing when or what was planned. Then she agreed to the time and plan. That’s a lot of compliance. Then she asked who “we” was to make sure she properly understood this was a date, which she’s now confused about because you invited someone els. If your friend is not coming, don’t tell her. Don’t text her anything between now and then unless it’s logistics to pick her up. When you get there just be like “huh I don’t know where Kyle is, oh well, let’s get a drink.”
/r/askTRP27/09/18 06:23 PM
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There are married people that discover Red Pill and are able to stay with and continue to love their wives while simultaneously improving themselves and realizing they can replace their wife with a younger model if she were to leave, hence negating the scarcity and fear that plague onenitis. You don’t need to break up, you just need to fix your mindset.
/r/askTRP27/09/18 06:00 PM
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Tell your friend to either not show up or wingman you. The girl is clearly into you. Next time just tell her “you, me, and Batman” or some shit. You were doing good up until then.
/r/askTRP27/09/18 05:54 PM
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She accused you of cheating, then admits she was actually the one that broke your trust, then says she wants to do Girls Night Out dancing at a club and take a vacation without you. You need to look up Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD).
/r/askTRP26/09/18 09:14 PM
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I'm doubling down on this theory after checking the subtle signs again. While suspicious phone activity suggests infidelity, the pattern of her opsec is something different. Does she have family or friends that don't like you? My guess is she was consulting multiple people about leaving you. Which ties in two other points you noticed. She's high status in the community. If she leaves you for no reason, she'll be the bad guy. She realized she needs you to divorce her, so she can look like the poo…
/r/askMRP26/09/18 08:07 PM
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I'm going to say she was communicating with her mom/sister/girlfriend about how you're such a dick, and they were telling her to get a divorce, and she started meeting with a lawyer. I say this because if it was a guy, she would confine it to just Snapchat, or just deleting his texts. She wouldn't have Google and Amazon account, those would be for storing documents and pictures of assets for the attorney. She was wiping all her texts because she couldn't remember when she mentioned something abo…
/r/askMRP26/09/18 06:55 PM
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I know people literally dying sitting at a desk 8 hours a day in a cube. I have a standing desk at home. Just health and sanity wise, that’s worth everything. Once you have a solid history of work from home you can transition to a national company and make NYC/SFO money while working from anywhere you want. Beats being tied to the employers in your metro area for a desk job.
/r/askTRP26/09/18 06:29 PM
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As someone who works from home, I’d keep your job just to avoid being trapped in an office, but that’s a different story.
/r/askTRP26/09/18 06:02 PM
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GOMAD is designed to be done for 30 days. There are no future health risks. You spent the first 6-12 months of your life eating nothing but milk.
/r/askTRP26/09/18 05:42 PM
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Get your testosterone and specifically your E2/estradiol levels tested. Get the “sensitive” test for estradiol. People with high T and low/mid E2 don’t feel like this. People with low T and high E2 do. Stress plus aging is probably jacking with your hormones.
/r/askTRP26/09/18 10:14 AM
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Grow a beard?
/r/askMRP26/09/18 09:35 AM
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“My girlfriend doesn’t flirt with other men on Facebook.” You get what this means? When she defies it, dump her.
/r/askTRP25/09/18 11:44 PM
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GOMAD plus 5x5 program, and make sure to lift heavy and regularly add weight. You should be able to add serious mass, fast. Find who sells cheap milk near you, Walmart or Target or grocery. Eat more. Lift heavy. You won’t have to ask yourself these questions when you put on 30 lbs of muscle and increase your testosterone comparatively and people instinctively treat you differently and you instinctively act differently.
/r/askTRP25/09/18 08:54 PM
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Came here to post this. That link should have you reevaluating your whole life.
/r/askMRP25/09/18 03:43 PM
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This is text book “No More Mr Nice Guy” material.
/r/askMRP24/09/18 11:21 PM
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I've met at least a half dozen girls in my life who would do this for me. My wife is by far the best of them, but they exist. Go become the kind of man that women will want to do this for.
/r/askTRP24/09/18 08:42 PM
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You have two issues. Logistically, you fucked up by not immediately calling her out on snooping, and then you DEERed and gave excuses which put you in an even worse position. So you've got that to fix. But more importantly, the fact that you didn't instinctively call her out and instead fell into her bullshit is because you have a problem. You have a confidence problem, you lack frame, you are dependent on her, I don't know, probably all of the above. You need to figure why you allowed this to h…
/r/askTRP24/09/18 08:31 PM
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When I met my wife, she stopped seeing anyone else, because she wasn't interested in seeing anyone else after meeting me and didn't want to jeopardize any possibility with me, such as if I saw her on a date with someone else and dumped her, even though we weren't officially exclusive for a while. I never asked her about this, she pro-offered this information, over a decade later, as an example of how much I mean to her. How do I know this is true? When I met her, I was out with a wingman friend.…
/r/askTRP24/09/18 08:17 PM
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Your parents are wrong, but mine were the same. Pushups, dips, pull-ups, and body weight squats wearing a back pack full of books will get you somewhere until you convince your parents, get access to your high school gym, or get to college. Also, eat a lot. Equally as important. Milk is cheap and good for bulking.
/r/askTRP24/09/18 05:24 PM
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Lift weights > increase testosterone and look bad ass > confidence. It’s really that easy. That’s why you lift.
/r/askTRP24/09/18 04:40 PM
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“If you’re mad at anyone, you should be mad at Carol for texting me happy birthday. You should call her and tell her you’re mad. Oh wait, you can’t call her because you hacked into my phone and deleted her contact! But seriously, I work with some of those people. Knock it off.”
/r/askMRP24/09/18 03:57 PM
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In that scenario just writing “call me” on a business card and hand it to her as you’re leaving will do the trick. You literally don’t have to say a word.
/r/askTRP24/09/18 03:02 PM
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“Those are old, I thought I deleted them. Remember? Wait, why were you rummaging through my email?” But since you missed the opportunity to flip it onto her and you DEERed, now you’re playing catch up. I’d tell you how to fix this, but you need to fix yourself first, and this girl sounds like way more than you can handle right now.
/r/askTRP24/09/18 02:44 PM
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Eat more. Lift heavier than you think you can. Try GOMAD and StrongLifts, google those.
/r/askTRP23/09/18 04:37 PM
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Arguing is pointless. Avoiding it is the best option. State what you want and leave, don’t DEER and argue.
/r/askTRP23/09/18 02:00 PM
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I had something similar happen with my high school girlfriend when I left for college. Absolutely hated it when I found out. 5 years and a couple girls later, I owned my own house, had a good job, had stuff to do. Was bored one day and called her out of curiosity. She apologized and told me that she missed me everyday, couldn't get over me, and that she had ruined her life and would always regret what she did to me. Me? Gave zero fucks about her. 15 years later, still give zero fucks. Find somet…
/r/askTRP22/09/18 06:18 PM
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I know you're working hard, and your plan makes sense to you, but this is a fucking mess. Your decision to stay married or divorce is predicated on Brexit. You are expecting her to turn 180* in 6 months out of a 4 year marriage. Your plan is logical, but your wife is not. Your plan is long term, but you need short term goals and measures. First, have you fixed yourself? Can you go to a pub and get a girl to go home with you in an hour? Would you tell said girl to knock it off if she started acti…
/r/askMRP17/09/18 07:21 PM
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Infidelity would be my only "can't be saved" because it can't be undone. You'll never trust her and she'll never respect you if you take her back. Actual psychosis like Borderline Personality Disorder would also probably qualify. Anything else can probably be saved, if you want to. If she's a bitch, you can probably lead her to not being a bitch. Same for disrespect, dead bedroom, etc. Now you might decide it's not worth the effort, but that likely means you don't want to fix the fact that you'r…
/r/askMRP17/09/18 06:50 PM
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This is the perfect response if you think she's hiding something, e.g. affair, she's been talking to a divorce attorney, etc. In this case I think he's getting comfort tested because she's legit worried.
/r/askMRP05/09/18 02:30 PM
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You need to determine why. Is it a shit test, like is she trying to get you to admit you don't have the balls to leave? Maybe, but if you're improving yourself, probably not. This guy is likely getting comfort tested. His wife is legit scared, some measure of comfort is warranted. The way to handle it differs on why it's coming up. There are ways to handle it that work for either, but they're more effective for one or the other. First try to figure why she's asking, shit or comfort.
/r/askMRP05/09/18 02:27 PM
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I went through this. First, this is most likely 90% comfort test and 10% shit test, it's not 50/50. Your A&A/AM is applying more dread. When you hit the point where your wife is genuinely concerned you are going to leave her and is verbalizing that, you have hit maximum effective dread. I have not seen this concept discussed before, but it's the conclusion I have come to. Applying more dread here will make the situation worse, not better. You might get more sex, but not better sex because the wh…
/r/askMRP05/09/18 02:19 PM
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You're getting advice to clean if something is dirty and it's bothering you, and not overthink it. That's good advice when your wife is pulling her own weight. That is not the case here. My wife works part time but spends way too much time with her job, seems to be always on FaceCrack, and will offer to help another family at the slightest inkling. Your wife is not pulling her weight because she doesn't want to pull her weight for you, but she'll do it for your neighbors. You need to do three th…
/r/askMRP05/09/18 01:20 PM
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She, she, she. You have zero frame. You are entirely in her frame. This is RP basics. You need to read, lift, and lead.
/r/askTRP04/09/18 04:19 PM
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And she already badgered me on Sunday about getting tested. She’s trying to tell you a bunch of other guys raw dogged her before you.
/r/TheRedPill04/09/18 12:30 PM
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Yeah, she doesn’t want to be the bad guy and call it off.
/r/askMRP31/08/18 11:37 AM
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I normally hate your posts because they’re low effort, low value, and counter productive. And you remind me a lot, so so much, of a friend who I recently realized is a closet homosexual. But, this post is excellent. The suggestion posts are great for ideas, but those give you, what, 5 ideas? Your post actually analyzed the real issue. It made me think of mindset changes I need to make rather than a few party tricks. I don’t know why it was down voted. Write more shit like this.
/r/askMRP31/08/18 12:19 AM
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She's trying to get out of the wedding. If she wanted to marry you, she would move heaven and earth to do it. Do not marry her. Calmly ask for the ring back. Tell her you understand and wish her well. You're open to see where things go in the next 12 months, and if she moves back to town, you can revisit the relationship then.
/r/askMRP30/08/18 06:44 PM
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Even at 20% bodyfat I have had attractive girls in hotel bars literally beg me to sleep with them while on business travel. If he's 13-15% like he says, he's going to look fine with a shirt on. His wife just sees him drop weight and then leave town for two weeks. She's tossing comfort tests.
/r/askMRP30/08/18 06:40 PM
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You've got to realize this is as much a comfort test as a shit test. Shit tests are either fitness (see if you'll break frame) or compliance (make you break frame and do what she wants) tests. She's not really demanding anything, other than comfort. ​ If you can control your facial expression, FaceTime her, if not call her. "I got your texts. If you want to leave, knock yourself out. I'll help you pack when I get home. If you want to go on a girls night and fuck a guy, knock yourself out. I'll h…
/r/askMRP30/08/18 06:35 PM
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This post was a roller coaster. I went in thinking trickle truth cheater. Then I got to the part where she voluntarily admitted it when there was no real way for her to get caught, and I read “bottom of the bed” to mean he was sleeping on the floor at the foot of the bed. I was actually believing her and the fact she felt guilty of even the appearance of impropriety and volunteered this makes her good LTR candidate so long as she gets to never do this again. Then I got to the 99% and can say fro…
/r/askTRP24/08/18 03:07 PM
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“My girlfriend does not go on overnight trips with other men.” What she does from there will give you your answer.
/r/askTRP24/08/18 02:51 PM
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I agree with your point, but you're missing the context. The wife isn't the anchor, the guy is. He needs to fix himself. Then give his wife time to keep up. Then he can determine if she's an anchor. I'm not saying infidelity is the only reason for divorce, I'm not saying he shouldn't divorce her, I'm just saying it's premature to determine until he fixes himself first.
/r/askMRP08/08/18 07:23 PM
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This doesn't deserve a response, but for those who don't understand.... Agreeing to divorce her is Dread level 13. It shows Outcome Independence, you don't care if you divorce. It shows Abundance Mentality, obviously you have better options if you're willing to divorce her. It makes her question whether a post-wall single mom can find a better man willing to raise her bastard kid, which makes her re-evaluate your SMV. Telling her you want to work on the marriage and won't be the bad guy and file…
/r/askMRP08/08/18 07:21 PM
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Do you understand your kids? Your friends? Your siblings? Do you still love them? Do you literally love no one in life but yourself?
/r/askMRP08/08/18 07:09 PM
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I agree with you, and in my quest for brevity, I may have not emphasized that right. I'm not saying to tell the wife you want to stay married for the sake of the daughter. I'm saying to tell the wife you want to stay married. To her. Because you want her in your life. And you want her part of your family. And if she asks if you're staying for the kid, you tell her you'd rather be divorced than in an unhappy marriage. You'd rather the daughter grow up in 2 happy homes than 1 unhappy home. You wan…
/r/askMRP08/08/18 07:07 PM
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I asked after a weekend away from each other where her head is at with regards to us. The tone of the conversation was essentially agreeing upon putting a disease ridden dog down. She wanted you to lead. You made her lead. You should have said "if you want a divorce, I will give you a divorce, but I am still working on myself and our marriage and I'm not giving up." Unless you've truly given up, then carry on.
/r/askMRP08/08/18 01:11 PM
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Falling in love is easy. Staying in love is very hard. Falling back in love is extremely hard, but it is doable. Most people here have gone through this process after the anger phase. It sounds like you're still in the middle of this process, but you're giving up because it's easier to quit. Infidelity is the only real deal breaker in a marriage. Nearly anything else can be fixed. Unless I'm missing something (like is your wife hung up on the "emotional affair"?), it sounds like your marriage is…
/r/askMRP08/08/18 01:07 PM
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I agree, but to add to this, OP needs to become interesting.
/r/askMRP12/08/16 02:49 PM
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In the middle of me telling her, she just starts another conversation with another female about something irrelevant. Read Book of Pook, there's an interesting comment about how women converse in feelings. You're trying to tell her a historical account, and this is boring her. She wants to talk feelings ("something irrelevant") with her girl friend. Also my guess is you were bragging about how the match went. Why are you bragging to your wife? Don't tell her about how you were awesome in your ma…
/r/askMRP12/08/16 02:17 PM
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"that was a bit rough!" That's like saying "the sky is blue." There's no positive or negative connotation associated with it, it's just a statement of fact. You're assuming a negative connotation. Why? (You're afraid of her emotions). It's just as likely she meant it as a positive.
/r/askMRP04/08/16 08:00 PM
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"Can't talk, Carl from accounting is doing a keg stand. Need to hold his legs." I don't think she's really testing you there. She's stuck at home bored. You're out paying the mortgage, not partying. Try to be more fun at home and lighten up.
/r/askMRP02/08/16 06:15 PM
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I was assuming you were omitting something, or lying to yourself or us, but I think I misjudged this. Take a deep breath and chill out. You didn't do anything wrong. I maybe would have gone with softer kid gloves because she's still on pregnancy hormones, but what you said is right and good enough. Very unlikely she will be gone for long. I'd call the sister. Say you're worried and ask her to check in. If she asks why you're worried, say she was erratic, stormed out, you want to make sure everyo…
/r/askMRP20/07/16 09:28 PM
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I know it's a tough time but I would go back and edit your post. Grammar, punctuation, make it easier to read and skim back and forth. There's something missing. She left because she thinks you're cheating? Women with very young kids don't just leave on a hunch of infidelity. Did something happen before? Does she have a medical issue? I'd talk to the sister.
/r/askMRP20/07/16 08:44 PM
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Let me start with what I learned about myself. You get in shape and go out somewhere, women hit on you. You think "sweet, I don't need my wife, I can replace her with a younger model." This helps you take her off a pedestal and improve your confidence, but you're talking about replacing her. As in, you need a woman, you're going to have to replace this one with a new one. Like learning to hunt in the wilderness, but you still need to find food. Monk mode teaches you that you can survive without …
/r/askMRP20/07/16 07:56 PM
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Becuse of religion she does not even stay alone with other men. She was the traditional CC rider until she hit the wall. Alpha Widow. She got religious. No idea what's going on, but I'd look closer at this before making assumptions.
/r/askMRP20/07/16 07:16 PM
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Yeah, the details matter here, and I was confused as well. Baby is 4 months, you need to consider you might be dealing with mental illness (post-partum depression) or the baby is not yours and she's trying to leave with child support as quick as possible. You need to look at getting her help (involving family is probably your best bet), getting a paternity test, and getting a lawyer. Probably in that order as your rule out possibilities.
/r/askMRP20/07/16 07:11 PM
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always initiate Some people need to take a turn at monk mode to stop chasing after sex and get their wife off the pedestal. Long term, everyone should keep initiating, but short term like he's suggesting, it can make sense to take a break.
/r/askMRP20/07/16 06:07 PM
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I think everyone beginning should go through a few phases to better understand their relationship with sex. They don't need to be in order, and they don't need to be long. The idea is to learn different lessons about yourself. It's like studying abroad during college. You don't have to live their forever, you just get a taste for different cultures. Monk mode: Stop initiating, stop masturbating. If she initiates unconditionally I wouldn't decline it, you're not an actual monk. But you stop jumpi…
/r/askMRP20/07/16 05:33 PM
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You need to read No More Mr Nice Guy. After you do that you will be able to ask the right questions about yourself and your wife. You're getting good advice here but it's all going over your head. Read this book, then let's talk.
/r/askMRP19/07/16 07:42 PM
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Buy yourself the gun. Good male hobby. Teach her to use it.
/r/askMRP19/07/16 01:22 PM
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Hard to Google for, too. Doesn't really pop up versus something like AWALT that's easy to find. Definitely belongs on acronym list.
/r/askMRP18/07/16 11:15 PM
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I came for the sexual strategy but stayed for the self improvement. I appreciate the changes Stronglifts has made to my body, but the mental changes have been far more impactful. For aesthetics primarily, just changing it from a 5x5 to a 4x8 or 3x12 would make sense. It is interesting to see the variety of responses. Everyone agrees it's important, but seem to have their own reason for why.
/r/askMRP18/07/16 10:37 PM
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Any examples? I have seen "Lift" with no other explanation posted hundreds of times, I've seen "Running isn't the same as lifting" posted a handful of times. The only reason I've seen offered is that women prefer a bodybuilder physique over a runner's physique, but that's not a good reason. Most people recommend Stronglifts, and if the goal was purely physique, this is not the best program to get there.
/r/askMRP18/07/16 07:27 PM
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I think it's a fair question because although everyone says you have to lift, no one really says why. It's understandable that people don't understand the reason, because it's rarely given. I have my thoughts (posted here separately) but would be curious to hear other's reasoning and motivation as well.
/r/askMRP18/07/16 07:20 PM
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The two most common pieces of advice around here are read and lift, so lifting is very important, but rarely is it said why. Lifting changes your body and mind in a way that no other activity can. Look at the body of someone who lifts vs someone who climbs, or runs, or whatever. That difference is echoed in their mental attitude as well, partially because lifting is hard and doing hard stuff makes you mentally tougher. But most importantly, lifting increases testosterone while something like run…
/r/askMRP18/07/16 07:13 PM
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The company NEEDS you to buy, or they will go under. A company doesn't need YOU to buy, they just need SOMEONE to buy. Ferrari makes a ton of money with only about 1,000 customers a year. They actively don't want more customers. Since when did we start listening to wives and women about what they want from men...err...products? It's not about "listening" to feedback, it's about market research and watching trends. I had a friend who wanted to buy Microsoft stock when they released a phone. I ask…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/07/16 05:58 PM
2

Chad doesn't give a fuck if he gets laid or not You think he is ok being celibate? He might not care if he gets laid by one particular woman vs another, but he certainly wants to get laid somehow.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/07/16 05:47 PM
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There are 3 stages in the career of a successful salesman. 1) Blind luck 2) Lying 3) Selling vision Stage 1: You start with no clue what you're doing. Through a combination of luck, maybe some innate skill, coaching from a book, or maybe even help from a peer, you manage to stumble through and close some deals. This salesman has to work to get a job. This is how a nice guy stumbles through life. Stage 2: You lie. Whatever the customer wants, you can do it. This is how Blackberry operated. Custom…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/07/16 04:49 PM
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Read NMMNG, like today.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/07/16 01:08 PM
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Congrats, you're going to make it after all. Stay strong and keep pushing.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/07/16 07:45 PM
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What did you want? A pity party? I brought balloons.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/07/16 12:37 AM
2

I've found a lot of conflicting info on exercise for increased test. Some say less rest between sets, some say more rest. Some say low rep and high weight, others say to shoot for the bodybuilding range of 8-12 reps. Is there any definitive, study-backed reference for this?
/r/MarriedRedPill24/06/16 03:29 PM
1

I try to instead say "I'm proud of you" and if it's not completely obvious why, I'll say "I'm proud of you for ...."
/r/MarriedRedPill22/06/16 08:30 PM
2

If people are on the mobile client, the sidebar is hidden. A lot never know it's here if they browse on mobile only. Either find the hidden menu option on your mobile client, or check from a PC.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/06/16 08:15 PM
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Agree. I have worked with the Navy and Marines. I've heard all the bad words and nothing you say can offend me. But this word disappoints me. Our Lt Commander was black. Did anyone ever call him the N word? No. Two Team Leads were gay. Were they, or anyone else, ever called fags? No. That's respect, both for the people we work beside, and the people we serve. This doesn't make me uncomfortable, it disappoints me. I expect a higher standard.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/06/16 02:22 AM
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You want to show her you're alpha? Then be the alpha you want to be. Today. And be blunt about it. Don't plan to slowly work up to telling her what you want over the course of the summer.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/06/16 08:02 PM
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She doesn't want to be together, she doesn't get to live with you. That simple. She wants to use you for free lodging while you plan how to manipulate her back?
/r/MarriedRedPill16/06/16 08:00 PM
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Yeah what's the correct term for that? Responded Poster? No clue but you get what I mean.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/06/16 07:57 PM
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I read the whole thing. You're faking it because you haven't made it. Next time you work out, push yourself as hard as you physically can without injuring yourself so badly you need a wheelchair. Then go eat a porterhouse and loaded mashed potato and chase it with a gallon of milk. Or whatever floats your boat, just work out and eat like a Viking. Feel like a Viking. Do you think a Viking agrees and amplifies? Does he go out dancing where he thinks his wife will infer other women are interested?…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/06/16 07:50 PM
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1) Make a decision what you want, 2) take action based on that decision, 3) take responsibility for that decision. You want her back? Tell her you'll take her back. Not temporary accommodation, but back together as a couple. Make this explicit and tell her, not a covert contract. If you want something else, tell her and do that. Then read the side bar, lift, and become a man.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/06/16 07:40 PM
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You get OP is a woman, right? If it wasn't clear from the start, read the end.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/06/16 07:33 PM
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This is called dread. It can work. Unlikely to work for you. By your admission you will have a few old guys flirting with you, he has tons of young and attractive girls flirting with him.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/06/16 04:14 PM
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You probably need to lose 40 lbs, not for your husband or marriage, but so you can live to see your kids get married and get to meet your grandkids and great grandkids. You're fat because you eat crappy food. If you eat crappy food, your kids and husband eat crappy food, too. Stop eating crappy food. Eat real food. Don't worry about losing weight or how long it will take, worry about eating real food staring today.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/06/16 03:37 PM
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No one thinks it's a troll? Look at the name. And the title. And the PS that slips in a major fact like it's an afterthought. It's a caricature of every stupid post here.
/r/askMRP16/06/16 02:35 PM
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Very interesting. Where are you now and how did you get there? What should he do in the meantime?
/r/askMRP27/05/16 12:22 PM
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There's huge vote brigading here. I agree with you. If people disagree with you, say why. Otherwise ignore the score and focus on actual advice given.
/r/askMRP22/05/16 05:33 AM
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What if you're at 11% body fat? You're on a good track. Don't limit yourself too much by a single and relatively arbitrary criteria. This can hold you back.
/r/askMRP22/05/16 05:31 AM
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While this is good advice, it doesn't address the imminent issue. If she won't come around, he will divorce her. If he's going to divorce her, he doesn't want to escalate his commitment any further with another child. Do you hit the brakes until you're in control? Proceed and hope things work out?
/r/askMRP18/05/16 05:39 PM
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This was my expectation reading MMSLP but I found it woefully short on any practical advice on developing a plan. I think I counted 20 pages of MAP related advice in a 600 page book where he also had enough time to advise you to wash your balls daily.
/r/askMRP16/05/16 03:25 PM
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Glad someone caught it.
/r/askMRP11/05/16 12:16 AM
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As a cautionary tale.
/r/askMRP10/05/16 11:57 PM
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Lift heavy. If your body weight is heavy, that is sufficient. If not you can add weights. If you weigh 300lbs then chin-ups is damn good exercise. If you can do more than 5-8, body weight isn't enough, you need to add weight. If you can do 12 reps your weight needs to increase a lot. Weighted chin ups and dips are body weight (plus additional weight) and are basically a complete upper body workout. Add something for legs (squat/deadlift).
/r/MarriedRedPill10/05/16 08:08 PM
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This is good. Keep at it.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/05/16 08:17 PM
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This post started off strong and then really, really went downhill. I honestly think you can figure those parts out without our help. Stressful bike path meeting First paragraph is about you then the whole rest is about her Your obvious contempt for her How do you think you fix this? Skip the Rollo for now and read NMMNG and then at least the beginning of or skim WISNIFG and then transition to MMSLP (then go back and finish WISNIFG). Lift heavy weights until you feel strong enough to laugh at so…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/05/16 07:55 PM
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Read the side bar. You need it. Stop riding your bike on the bike trail. Instead Lift heavy weights until you feel like you can rip a phone book with your bare hands.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/05/16 07:48 PM
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Read the sidebar. Lift heavy. Start now.
/r/askMRP06/05/16 03:07 PM
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Good call. First time is comfort test, just say no. Second time, you got it. Third time tell her you're late for your date with your ex and leave.
/r/askMRP06/05/16 02:32 PM
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Are you? Then just say "no" and get on with your day. That's a comfort test, you don't need to make a joke about it. Just say no and move on.
/r/askMRP06/05/16 02:06 PM
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Thinking about sex means you're still a man. That's not a problem. If you stopped thinking about sex, you have a problem. Read MMSLP. Lift hard 3 days a week, 5 if your body can handle it without injury since you're young. Have sex. If you get shot down, go read or lift. Keep working and realize it takes time.
/r/askMRP06/05/16 01:55 PM
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While you clearly dropped the ball before, it's not too late to be a father to your daughter.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/05/16 01:46 PM
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If he's $50k in debt and let's say half done would you recommend taking another $50k debt to get a $23k a year job? Don't know where OP lives or how much extra debt he will need. But going into debt to become a teacher will be very tough even if he can discharge the debt 10 years down the road. An education as a plumber or electrician or whatever can probably be started and completed cheaper than finishing a teaching degree and will likely pay much more.
/r/askMRP05/05/16 11:24 PM
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Yep look up sunk cost fallacy.
/r/askMRP05/05/16 11:20 PM
1

This depends heavily on mortgage interest rates. Warren Buffett has called personal residences a great investment but doesn't otherwise engage in real estate investment. Buying your house makes sense with access to low interest rates and reasonable home prices like the US now. During a price bubble, like 10 years ago, rent. During a high interest rate, like 1980's, rent.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/05/16 03:27 PM
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You need to seriously reconsider taking on more debt to become a teacher. College computer science professor, sure. Middle school English teacher, you are going to have problems, very likely. Check one of the financial subs for some advice. You need to work on your education, career, and finances and make sure they're heading in the right direction.
/r/askMRP05/05/16 02:46 PM
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I would finish NMMNG then read Pook. Then finish MMSLP. Then WISNIFG, it's got good communication technique but not well written. NMMNG will show you how your dad has set up who you are today. Realizing this will allow you to fix it. Pook and to lesser extent MMSLP will show you how. Work out hard. Skip the video games.
/r/askMRP05/05/16 02:42 PM
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You said you "stormed" into the kitchen. Her perception is what matters, not your intent, but even your intent was weak.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/05/16 12:40 PM
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Your whole post is about her. And you reacting to her. Nothing about you.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/05/16 12:38 PM
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Note that he also doesn't nuke the fight. He doesn't pull out a machine gun and scream like Rambo, the temptation many people have when they start to recognize these tests for what they are. He just casually shoots once and goes on with his work.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/05/16 03:36 PM
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You can improve yourself. You can hope your relationship will improve. But you can't make your relationship improve. Focus on what you can improve and recognize what you can't.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/05/16 03:33 PM
2

This is a wife, right?
/r/MarriedRedPill03/05/16 03:31 PM
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Curious, are you saying a six pack a day was sabotaging you (expected) or that one drink a week was somehow sabotaging you? I have cut my drinking to the point that the few drinks a week shouldn't, on a pure calorie basis, be a problem. But I hear some people talking about cutting all alcohol, which seems to imply it's more than just the calories. Alternatively I know people who "dieted" by skipping food and only drinking vodka. They lost weight, but I would obviously not recommend this diet. Ho…
/r/askMRP29/04/16 08:24 PM
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Might not work. If he has low T his body will hoard that fat. It will drop his metabolism to make sure he keeps the fat. It will make it nearly impossible to lift hard at the gym to keep that fat. Cutting calories will make his T lower and further exacerbate the issue. You need to eat good food at a reasonable but not extreme deficit. Ideally with some sort of intermittent fasting so you keep your good hormones up when your body is fed and keep your body from going into starvation mode (eg decre…
/r/askMRP29/04/16 07:51 PM
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How old are you? Most people I know are having their first kid in the mid 30s. Having another kid in your late 30s is the norm these days.
/r/askMRP29/04/16 04:14 PM
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You should read about and internalize the dual control model. Dual Control model says that removing stress (brake pedal) will increase arousal (gas pedal). This is the deadbedrooms model. This is doing choreplay to get sex. Dread/RP says that adding stress (fear of partner abandonment) will increase arousal (mate retention). These are opposite philosophies. In this thread, Persaeus said: If a woman wants to fuck, BC or pain will not stop her. Have heard the statement from a woman many times "jus…
/r/askMRP28/04/16 06:39 PM
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I took a quick tally: 4 did IUD or other birth control 2 did vasectomy, had issues and wouldn't do it again 1 did vasectomy, had issues but would do it again 3 did vasectomy, no issues That's pretty split. But what I found interesting was that the "do it" were pushed much higher up in votes than the "you'll regret it". Vote brigading!
/r/askMRP28/04/16 06:20 PM
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I bet we never see you here again. Or we see you in a month still complaining about all her issues. I bet 5 years from now, when he marries her anyway and the problems are so much worse that he realizes he better do something about it.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/04/16 06:03 PM
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Hey guys, he found the secret! Either accept poor behavior just because she's a woman, or turn gay. No more hard work, just need to decide which one I prefer. You've answered all the posts asking trivial questions, like where your fiancee was born, but ignored all the important stuff. You need to read No More Mr. Nice Guy. And then the rest of the sidebar.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/04/16 05:53 PM
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Good Sikh girls are fucking gorgeous, it may not be an exaggeration. The definition of a 10 is that it's a statistical anomaly. You can't have a group of all 10s. Even supermodels aren't all 10s. he is probably just a fuck toy. Likely, given how she treats his family. OP, you should consider this especially when you alternate between calling her your girlfriend and your fiancee.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/04/16 05:45 PM
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Is she your fiancee or girlfriend?
/r/MarriedRedPill28/04/16 05:40 PM
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Not trying to run you off, just was curious why you were here and he wasn't.
/r/askMRP28/04/16 05:28 PM
1

When a wife thinks "if only he did more chores, I'd be in the mood for sex", that's conscious. The subconscious part, the part that matters, is that she has no respect for him and that's why she isn't in the mood for him. Clearly we have a very different viewpoint. I'd be curious to see other's opinions.
/r/askMRP28/04/16 05:26 PM
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I had a feeling that changing your mind would be seen as weak frame. It's not. It's Assertive Right #4 in WISNIFG. Refusing to allow yourself to change your mind is living in someone else's frame. Admitting you were wrong or changed your mind is living in your own frame.
/r/askMRP28/04/16 05:23 PM
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Dread is a credible anxiety that the relationship will end. I disagree. Dread is not logical, it is subconscious. If a 25 year old girl starts flirting with you, your wife isn't going to say "oh, she probably wants kids, he doesn't, nothing to worry about." Doctors perform vasectomy reversals because men marry younger women and change their minds. Your wife subconsciously wonders if you don't want another kid with her, but would reconsider for the 25 year old.
/r/askMRP28/04/16 04:54 PM
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I was expecting him to speak for himself on that.
/r/askMRP28/04/16 04:43 PM
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If you don't want to have kids, you're not reducing any of your options. You're reducing your option to change your mind.
/r/askMRP28/04/16 04:36 PM
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I guess you would call it a double hamster contract since they both believe their own bullshit rationalization as to BC being the reason for lack of sex. So sad and so true. A compliance test is "fetch me some water" because your my bitch, and I want to prove it. There is no quid pro quo as in a covert contract. There's also "fetch me some food and I'll give you a blowjob later" which is still a compliance test. Somehow she always has a headache later. Then there's "get a vasectomy and we'll hav…
/r/askMRP28/04/16 04:20 PM
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Dread is having options. A vasectomy changes your options. The biggest option a man has is a lack of shelf life, the ability to go find a younger woman and start another family. Women hit the wall and have to settle down, men can find a trophy second wife and trade up. A vasectomy reduces this option. On the flip side, you can cheat on your wife without worrying about getting another woman pregnant and hence getting caught or otherwise screwed. I can't see how removing the first option to gain t…
/r/askMRP28/04/16 04:02 PM
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She is (was) a 10 Doubtful. Sounds like you have her on a pedestal. My girlfriend is a couch potato. Not my idea of a 10. I do BJJ twice a week You need to also lift weights. I signed us both up for Orange Theory, which was actually a pretty good cardio workout You need to also lift weights. but she won't go Who cares. Lead by example. You can't make her go to the gym. If you get in shape, she'll either follow you and get in shape also, or if it's important to you, you can then find another girl…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/04/16 03:36 PM
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What does your husband have to say about it?
/r/askMRP28/04/16 03:28 AM
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This is a wife telling us this.
/r/askMRP28/04/16 03:27 AM
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To me this comment is the most important. No one else has seen this?
/r/askMRP28/04/16 03:26 AM
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Did it work for you?
/r/askMRP28/04/16 03:14 AM
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How about your wife?
/r/askMRP28/04/16 03:13 AM
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This sounds horrible???
/r/askMRP28/04/16 03:12 AM
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It sounds like a covert contract, but it's not. In most cases the wife said "I'm worried about/too hormonal because of/don't trust my birth control. You should get a vasectomy so we can have more sex without me worrying/being hormonal/having to use condoms". The guys didn't just volunteer to cut their junk, their wives suggested it and said it would lead to more sex. It's a compliance test, not a covert contract.
/r/askMRP27/04/16 08:11 PM
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I have been looking into this, too. I've heard: "Best decision ever" - from people who are "spinning plates" on TRP and don't want to risk having a child. "I thought it would improve sex with my wife, but it didn't" - from family and co-workers, people with families who I know personally. I'm inclined from the stories to think that it's a good choice for bachelors but not marriages.
/r/askMRP27/04/16 07:48 PM
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I fucked up one night after drinking with her. This is a fitness test. If you start passing fitness tests sober, she'll start to test you when drinking. If you pass those, she'll start drinking with you so you get comfortable, then test you. Until you can recognize and respond to those tests, you need to watch your drinking, even (and especially) when she's drinking, too. We were having a nice dinner and out of no where she accused me of being aggressive Her: "You're aggressive" You: "You're wel…
/r/askMRP27/04/16 07:38 PM
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Can we stop telling people to be stoic? People who try to act stoic act like jackasses. He needs to be fun, not stoic. Fun is all the good parts of stoicism, like not worrying about other people's drama, without the bad parts of stoicism, like being so boring or rude that no one wants to be around them.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/04/16 04:07 PM
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This is often the case, but not in this situation. I think he is being a jerk and she's crazy. He needs to lighten up. She needs to be crazy somewhere else.
/r/askMRP21/04/16 06:23 PM
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Stop being stoic. Be fun. If she's literally sleeping on the floor, that is a very odd behavior indicator about her that you need to examine.
/r/askMRP21/04/16 06:20 PM
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This is a shitty comfort test. It is part shit test, "I'm going to go and what are you going to do about it?" It's part comfort test, "do you care enough about me to stop me?" She is looking for you to mate guard, but not be jealous about it. You can't control what she does, so don't tell her not to go. However, saying nothing, or giving your approval, will make her think that you don't care and that she is free to do as she pleases with no repercussions. That is a failure of the comfort test. T…
/r/askMRP21/04/16 03:05 PM
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How are you engaged and not talking about marriage? That's what engaged means.
/r/askMRP21/04/16 02:57 PM
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"I want to be equal" "Oh thank god, so you're going to start earning the same salary as me so I don't have to continue to be solely responsible for the family financially? No? But equal means "the same". If you're not contributing the same money, we can't be equal. Likewise, I'm not going to be able to birth and breastfeed the kids. I think what you're saying is you want to be treated fairly, not the same." Equitable means fair, not equal.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/04/16 06:07 PM
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Great link, thanks. Hope you continue to write part two.
/r/askMRP19/04/16 08:18 PM
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What's the MAP? I read MMSLP. It's 700 pages and covers gems like how you should wash your wedding tackle daily and do your own laundry, but he spends less than 20 pages talking about the 7 stages and timeline for the MAP. The MAP chapter is paradigms like Captain/Officer and tips like Lift! but nothing that I would consider a Plan. Does Mindful Attraction Plan contain exercises for coming up with an actionable plan, which is what I envisioned the MAP would be? Or is the MAP more like a guidelin…
/r/askMRP19/04/16 07:48 PM
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You have a floor under your feet? Then you can do push ups. Right now. There's no excuse that you don't have a gym. Push ups combine one of the best chest exercises, bench press, with one of the best abdominal exercises, planks. They won't be enough to challenge anyone but a beginning lifter, but if you're over weight and under muscled, they're perfect to start. You can do them literally right now, and if you don't, then how are you going to go to the gym tomorrow and start a 5x5 program?
/r/askMRP15/04/16 09:08 PM
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A&A sounds like it could either go really well or really badly if it's a comfort test, although is the perfect answer for a shit or compliance test.
/r/askMRP24/03/16 01:31 AM
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My thought as well. I normally use your first answer, so sounds like I'm doing ok.
/r/askMRP24/03/16 01:25 AM
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I hate to ask a question and then argue with the answer, but I don't think this is a shit test. I think it's either compliance (guilt me into changing) or comfort (she's worried I want to leave her). Regardless, your answer works well for all three, so in this case it's a really good response.
/r/askMRP24/03/16 01:24 AM
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I was trying to keep this general so it would be more applicable to more people, but that made it harder. You're right, the rural look is a little more what I need given where I live (medium size town in Southeast US). Men here carry pocket knifes. Most attorneys wear jeans when not in court. People dressed preppy are typically either tourists or toothpicks. There's a different atmosphere and expectation of dress. When I go to London, NYC, San Francisco I dress totally differently. Pocket square…
/r/askMRP24/03/16 01:22 AM
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Yeah, these were not great examples. The Bradley Cooper look is more what I like, sans rifle and water bottle, and a little more put together. Actually him in Hangover, like Stone mentioned, is a good example.
/r/askMRP24/03/16 12:56 AM
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Good ideas and good link, thanks. I'm normally on mobile so I don't see the sidebar often. I'll read the 60 DOD articles.
/r/askMRP23/03/16 08:32 PM
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My assumption had been to ask "would a bad ass wear this?" hence generally dressing like I expect a Navy SEAL on leave to dress. Earth tones, jeans, cargo pants/shorts... imagine the beach bonfire scene from Act of Valor before they go kill everyone. It sounds like you're saying to ask "would a British person wear this?". James Bond, form over function, stand out rather than blend in. is that a good guiding thought? And if so, why?
/r/askMRP23/03/16 08:29 PM
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Most people wear boat shoes without socks. How do you keep them from smelling? Stick to cotton shoes instead of leather? Wear super short socks?
/r/askMRP23/03/16 08:21 PM
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I'm confused. Your advice is to go preppy, basically. My brother's girlfriend recently made him start dressing exactly as you describe, boat shoes and such. My wife and I openly make fun of him every time he wears boat shoes, mostly for letting a woman dress him. I thought that Wahlberg or The Rock would be much more the epitome of a man than a guy with bright blue shorts. I'm not as jacked as them as you guessed, but let's compare to Bradley Cooper (disregard the rifle, obviously, finding good …
/r/askMRP23/03/16 08:11 PM
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This is good advice. Prenups only protect assets you have before marriage. If you're rich going in, it can help. If you build wealth during marriage, it does nothing. Prenups can be thrown out by the court. Prenups apply to who gets what assets after a divorce. They do not necessarily govern alimony and do not govern child support. A judge can determine that assets are in fact joint or marital and use that to override a prenup, meaning your spouse can get assets (like your house, car, savings, i…
/r/askMRP23/03/16 05:55 PM
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