Ques: Should I stop initiating for sex until I improve my DHV/SMV?
I arrived at MRP in January end from google search about how to get wife to respect. I have been reading the books from sidebar and different posts here. I am now convinced about the validity of MRP but I have a long way to go in improving myself. I am 34M with 34F wife, no kids, married 5 years, together 10 years, both are career oriented professionals.
My main issues are 1) being skinny fat, 2) putting her on pedestal and 3) absence of any game. I have started with SL 5x5 program, and fixing my diet. For second point, I STFU most of the time as I am not there yet to A&A or anything. I am almost done reading all the books on sidebar, and have started a second round for couple already to better grasp the ideas. I have started talking to strangers whenever possible. I have started the journey to be myself first, and be a better version of myself everyday.
Other than these areas, I am already doing good I think. I ride a motorcycle, can stir up a good discussion on any topic, am highly sought after in social circles because everyone has a good time when I am around. I hold a masters degree, good position at fortune 100 company, making six figures.
So here is the question - until I turn myself from skinny fat to okay at least, can I stop initiating sex? Another reason is that once I put her off the pedestal and started interacting with everyone around me I have realized I am not attracted to anyone who doesn't care about me, my passions in life (riding, reading, intellectual discussions). So first I dont feel confident, plus I am not as attracted to her as I thought I was.
What do you guys recommend?
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