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Happiness is your long game
/r/askMRP04/08/21 05:34 AM
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Do you think the sweet 25 girl is trying to build up the courage to ask you about your watch? No, she is just waiting to see how much validation ( that she is hot) another 41 year old dad is going to give her. You treat her like she is a prize. When she twirls her hair, giggling as she looks down at her shoes, trying to work out how to seem smart and mature for you, you will then see that you have become the prize. And the balance in the universe will be restored. You won't think twice about tal…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/07/21 11:09 AM
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I read a lot and comment only little. But when I do it's because the post is formatted, the problem is clear and the ownership and investment is high. Most of the old guard are still here because we want to help. Even if it stings, you need to hear it.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/05/21 10:34 AM
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It is not the man who has too little, but the man who craves more, that is poor. –Seneca Think about it.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/05/21 09:03 AM
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Bro! Good to hear you, hope you are well.
/r/askMRP06/05/21 12:23 PM
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Get the fuck out of your own head Mr. Random - sort your shit out then learn to back yourself, especially in the sack.
/r/askMRP02/04/21 10:20 AM
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Not exactly. She needs fear of missing out FOMO for dread. If course it's less likely she will have fomo for a low value dude.
/r/askMRP14/03/21 12:52 AM
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I've been going back into the basics, stuff from years back. Yes please more please. So much chit chat these days it's like a womans magazine gossip column
/r/MarriedRedPill14/02/21 09:44 PM
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Let's say she's an 8 without bipolar, making her a 5 with bipolar IRL And you're trying hard, maybe a 4.5 if you suck in the gut. Could you get a real 8? Would you be happy with an outright 5? Is her juice worth the squeeze?
/r/askMRP10/02/21 06:52 AM
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Crush 'em Sauce!
/r/MarriedRedPill06/02/21 09:22 AM
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At your age any attention outside the relationship is a bad sign. My guess is you got boring, or needy, probably both. Women manage a relationship, you look after yourself.
/r/askMRP03/02/21 09:25 AM
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Nice. Light is good. Lead with light and she will follow... Edit. *If you are worth following
/r/MarriedRedPill26/12/20 06:27 AM
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Foot massage always my go to in such situations
/r/askMRP15/12/20 07:29 PM
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You're confusing abundance mentality with creating dread. You can't 'adopt' it, it is a byproduct of being the prize. When cute girls look down with a smile when you walk past you will start to get it.
/r/askMRP09/12/20 08:20 PM
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Accept your blue pill state and give it another go knowing that: She cheated You know where it will go again It's an opportunity to work in yourself You will be single in one year from now If you can genuinely accept this reality you will see it as an exercise to grow. Blue pill will die and you will be then better for it. Eyes will be open for the next one Time for school.
/r/askMRP09/12/20 09:10 AM
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Time to find your inner tyler durden
/r/MarriedRedPill07/12/20 10:19 AM
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Is she more submissive?
/r/MarriedRedPill17/11/20 11:00 AM
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There is no manual it is a suck it and see kind of deal. Trust your gut getting in and your brain when it comes time to get out. It's a failsafe strategy perfected by your ancestors over thousands of years.
/r/askMRP17/11/20 10:56 AM
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If she sent nothing back just take it that she has options. You should too.
/r/askMRP04/11/20 08:52 PM
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So is EPO in cycling. Makes you (everyone) a winner.
/r/askMRP04/11/20 06:51 AM
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And here is the juice.... https://www.reddit.com/r/marriedredpill/comments/2qjwg9/how_to_become_outcome_independent_using_a_stoic/
/r/MarriedRedPill20/10/20 08:39 AM
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I love (the topic of) fear. I'd argue your first fear is related to approval and validation from those important to you. Fear 2, lack of control is very common. Read up on the stoic mind trick. It's an old post here somewhere.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/10/20 08:36 AM
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A redpill mod on TRT? That's retarded.
/r/askMRP20/10/20 12:42 AM
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I believe I have the required expertise to assist... Tell her the red beret simbarlion suggests that she 'kumova'. She must repeat this treatment until you don't get any more complaints.
/r/askMRP10/10/20 07:14 AM
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Killed a bunny...that should be bold. You changed after that. Awesome effort to put this together....tips hat
/r/MarriedRedPill03/10/20 12:39 AM
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Calm down snowflake. Treat her how you want to, Disney or pornhub. We don't care. If you find the mrp tools useful, go at it. If physique is enough. Yay for you.
/r/askMRP01/10/20 04:24 AM
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Then you are doing it wrong. You should be getting win / win. Sounds like lose / lose.
/r/askMRP01/10/20 04:21 AM
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Yes. So I focus on other areas of my life I can improve.
/r/askMRP28/09/20 04:42 AM
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Sounds like a bit of insecurity due to the age difference. Best thing is more other women flirting with you ( her age not yours). Focus on that.
/r/askMRP25/09/20 12:36 PM
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JA, look after yourself it's hard on you no matter how it goes....give it time.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/09/20 10:07 AM
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Age etc? I get this from a female friend. Some women are just like that. Sounds pretty innocent, especially if it's consistent with other traits ( overly affectionate etc). Take it as a reminder to keep on your game. Don't do anything, especially the withdrawal
/r/askMRP25/09/20 09:48 AM
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friend of mine
/r/MarriedRedPill16/09/20 12:11 PM
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It's a sign she doesn't respect you. Your withdraw behavior is what we call butthurt. She will respect you when you are a real man. Do the work
/r/askMRP12/09/20 10:07 AM
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Yes love, I'll put the kettle on.
/r/askMRP10/09/20 09:34 AM
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Guys like you I don't doubt take risks. But a lot of people get too comfortable and forget how it feels when you push yourself - I'm not talking about getting to level 6 on the climbing wall, I'm talking about getting home and thinking "I'm glad i made it out of that".
/r/askMRP08/09/20 01:13 AM
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This is excellent advice of course. It's also worth remembering that it's one must take risks in life to feel alive, and to realise the truth in this post. Aka...It's better to regret something you did than something you didn't do
/r/askMRP07/09/20 12:04 PM
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Sounds textbook my friend...... You need her more than she needs you. Sex comes when above is reversed.
/r/askMRP05/09/20 08:44 AM
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Still amazed at the value of MRP in all aspects of life...it just makes you better. 'Authentic' is also an excellent descriptor of the high value man for the list.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/09/20 12:29 PM
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Wish I was young.... Except for the 'worlds so confusing' shit.
/r/askMRP24/08/20 03:06 AM
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If we were talking about a pride of lions, the time would come when the young male lion would overthrow the dominance of his own parents as well as others. For this to work, the young lion must prove he is more capable than the others to ensure the safety and prosperity of the pride. But you can't fake dominance. You either are or you aren't.
/r/askMRP20/08/20 11:00 PM
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Fucken A ;)
/r/MarriedRedPill09/08/20 07:59 AM
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My comments are always sorted by best...so it is in fact the most highly voted that are too... But that is often the earliest posts.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/08/20 11:00 PM
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Yes had that. She hasnt changed, you just were shown the rules of the little game you have both been playing. You're likely angry at yourself for being a dumb fuck going along with it all for so long. It goes away. Sounds like early days in this for you.
/r/askMRP14/06/20 09:55 AM
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Make what you will about my story about passion: You have heard the 'if you do what you love, you'll never work a day", and that is true, but its also lame. But, If you do what you are passionate about, you will be an energising, interesting positive person. Tag team that with the proverb: "it is not he with little, but he who craves more, that is poor", and you will see that life's hidden secret is to start doing what enjoy now, and you will be happy, and people will want to be around you. They…
/r/askMRP11/06/20 01:31 AM
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Regards circa $100k for life satisfaction and spending.... it not the salary but how you perceive the value of having more. If you're trying to fill a bucket with lots of holes, what's the better strategy... Plug the holes or keep trying to pour more water in? A quote to live from uncle Seneca: It's not the man with little, but the man who craves more, that is poor.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/05/20 11:14 PM
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Yes. Totally. According to my Crystal ball.
/r/askMRP14/05/20 11:09 AM
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If you're not over 90% sure, don't settle. And b) you can't settle due to fear, most likely fear of commitment according to my tea leaves, specifically you're afraid of rejection when he finds out what you are really like / about your past. Ammirite?
/r/MarriedRedPill13/05/20 11:58 AM
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Johney already nailed this, but i will add. ​ Did my outburst bring her out of the emotional loop? No. Your outburst was a loss of frame, then she resumed as captain of her beta. She mentioned being competitive. She was and you lost.
/r/askMRP04/05/20 11:52 PM
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It's all information to decide if she is wife-worthy. The rest just sounds like you whining.
/r/askMRP03/05/20 10:29 AM
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Haven't read this yet but I can tell it's good so gonna read it later in my onesie.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/04/20 06:31 AM
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If you want to be bi-sexual its cool with me.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/04/20 07:29 AM
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I can't be fucked doing anything except giving you the benefit of the doubt....(so lets pretend she is not planning to jump ship and is just bored) she is bored it's pretty normal for a SAHM to have some sort of side gig, even if it is volunteer She doesn't care about it being pyramid / losing money because it is keeping her entertained, away from kids cartoons and washing. She might even think it is going to lead somewhere. So you have two challenges to win. acceptable phone / family time rules…
/r/askMRP23/04/20 07:01 AM
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Yeah i like that. It could also be, "when you stop wanting the black belt, the black belt is yours".
/r/MarriedRedPill21/04/20 12:59 AM
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First I'll tell you a story. A young boy is taking Karate lessons, and at the end of each lesson, he asks Sensei, "When can i be a black belt? I want to have a black belt!" Eventually Sensei tires of this from the boy, so next time the boy asks, "C'mon Sensei, when can I be a black belt?" Sensei takes off his belt and gives it to the boy. "There you go, you are a black belt now." Blarg Horns Be warned the posts are a big departure from what you will normally get here as they focus on the mystica…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/04/20 10:43 PM
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Whatever the fear may be, it consumes him. Yes. In contrast, the alpha sees only opportunity
/r/MarriedRedPill19/04/20 10:22 AM
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Fuck man, just look at the order in which you list your priorities. Its nearly perfectly backwards if you want to be the best you can be and lead your wife.
/r/askMRP17/04/20 12:55 AM
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Its rare that i am in favour of your divorce when the others are telling you to MRP properly and OYS more. But just like u/i-am-the-prize , what you're missing is that YOU have given up. You're moving ahead on the basis that the relationship is doomed. You're convinced that you are fine and all the problems are with her. SHE must change. And I respect that maybe you are right. But have you really tried everything? or are you just sick of waiting to see her magic transformation? Just like AA for …
/r/askMRP17/04/20 12:47 AM
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Ok. I'm not trying to play down the importance of her fuck up, just be aware it sounds like the relationship hinges on your determination of how much she will / has changed. That's more covert contract than boundary
/r/MarriedRedPill16/04/20 04:34 AM
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dishonesty is a hard thing to beat and it is likely you never will completely recover. It would help if you spilled the beans on this - i'm guessing either money / assets or an emo connection. It does still sound like your convincing yourself of something (your progress, her value, IDK) that might not really be where you want it to be.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/04/20 12:35 AM
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Nice tie to leadership, cannot agree more. Do it because: a) you want to do it b) you want it done Simple
/r/MarriedRedPill16/04/20 12:03 AM
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You should re-write your waffle so we can help answer the one question you really have.
/r/askMRP15/04/20 04:19 AM
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Come on sauce...... Give me something I can sink my teeth into...
/r/MarriedRedPill13/04/20 08:42 AM
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I think your relationship will be fantastic if you continue to live in fear of a hurting a girl who you are losing interest in. That's definitely the path to being a man.
/r/askMRP24/03/20 05:01 AM
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If only these slo-mo train wrecks had a fast forward button.
/r/askMRP17/03/20 10:21 PM
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Trolling has hit a new low
/r/askMRP13/03/20 06:46 AM
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No, don't stop it entirely. But... Beat slaps ass, wife is disgusted Alpha slaps ass, wife is pleased / excited. What's the difference? Answer: she responds to your value. You'll never get a good response while you are low value. You need to be high value before that shit is even worth trying. You don't have to be Chad, you just have to have some redeeming value. A bit of dread gives value. Like when she sees one of her girlfriends not so subtly checking out the new physique. Leading gives value…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/03/20 10:17 AM
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What are the tools at intermediate stage? to Own Your Relationship. Aka lead. and yes i saw that... My wife will not take leadership from me Its not for her to take, its for you to give.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/03/20 05:10 AM
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In general I am making the effort to light kino her more which sometimes she complains about "why Did I have to touch her" which I respond with silence and a smirk. .I throw in an odd slap on the ass which she responds with either "owww" or "really" in a pissed tone. I generally try to ignore everything she says after the ass slap. I know I need to recalibrate and train myself to be more assertive with my desires this is her way of expressing her dislike of you. If she actually says it to you it…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/03/20 05:04 AM
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If I want to get better at anything, it's holding frame start with developing confidence in your own opinion / position, but saying nothing. Get the self talk right first.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/03/20 05:00 AM
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Acta non verba. Good plan
/r/MarriedRedPill11/03/20 05:03 AM
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Is this the lyrics to the new Eminem song?
/r/MarriedRedPill11/03/20 04:51 AM
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Relying exclusively on leaving (a poor man's STFU) just highlights a weakness in your frame. You mastered level 1 ( leave / stfu) and now you need to learn to handle it in real life. Lucky, cause your teacher has appeared.
/r/askMRP10/03/20 01:22 AM
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Are you really going to go with that comment to make your grand re-entrance? At least give me something a little poetic, even esoteric....ffs lol.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/03/20 07:38 AM
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Because the nightmare is finally over.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/03/20 06:24 AM
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Excellent GB and very timely. I have been toying in my head how to write a FR about my ' blue pill fuck up' of starting a conversation with Mrs Simba....about physical affection.... Beautifully written, and yes it worked out for the better.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/02/20 07:43 AM
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Although I agree, I do support the use of this sub for philosophical content in pursuit of one's own understanding. The 'stop thinking and lift' answer is not universally applicable
/r/askMRP27/02/20 01:12 AM
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Of course you will be angry after that, don't punish yourself for feeling that way. Only you know the likely extent of their connection. But you do know what she is capable of. The origin comments are on point. That's now part of your relationship, and it's your move.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/02/20 07:51 AM
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I took over because she WAS the breadwinner. Do your research whether it is bills or budgets or loans. Once you know more about it than her, you're in. Don't forget to tuck some ones in her g when she's a good girl.
/r/askMRP23/02/20 04:54 AM
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This reads like a theoretical framework of a PhD. I've missed you old horns ;)
/r/MarriedRedPill21/02/20 01:50 AM
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If you make your mission to face your fears in every area of your life, you will grow in every area of your life. It's never boring.
/r/askMRP20/02/20 11:33 AM
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In other words, I know I’m happy, and I’m working on being happy. That's like saying you're alpha but you are also working on being alpha. You either are or you aren't.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/02/20 07:23 AM
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You do realise that men sitting around hashing out 'kill the beta' strategies is the absolute essence of bluepill? You would be better off going to live in the forest for 6 months on your own. MRP provides the tools, but you walk the path alone. And yes i realise the irony of commenting on this topic on this online forum
/r/askMRP19/02/20 01:21 AM
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Acta non verba But you never know maybe there is an online forum to ask married red pill questions But seriously you will be disappointed talking to someone unless they are very red pill. You are likely going to be better off with internet strangers
/r/askMRP18/02/20 09:15 PM
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Quit your bitching and learn the game. Here is the main bit you need to know (specific to work environment). Firstly, Women are by default reactive, men are by default proactive. Men plan, use strategy, consider, adjust, they see the future. Women 'feel', respond, react, they see the now. As much as it sounds negative, women aren't built to be leaders - they don't know how best to lead others in work. Being the one they rely on goes a long way - but they will still take the credit. Secondly, Soc…
/r/askMRP18/02/20 01:50 AM
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And it's technically impossible for her to respect him again. You can never be redpill if you stay after cheating.
/r/askMRP17/02/20 09:07 PM
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If you're going to puke vomit on the internet, you're probably going to come back to tell us that you cleaned it up by yourself. After that I agree
/r/MarriedRedPill15/02/20 04:29 AM
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So Watcha here for if you can pull like that?
/r/MarriedRedPill13/02/20 11:26 AM
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Just be a normal, fun dude who isn’t bothered by petty shit and see where the day takes you. Words to live by.
/r/askMRP13/02/20 12:11 AM
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Ok young sport. Let's back track a bit here. You're a shy 21yo single lad. What's the plan to become a high value man of the world? I don't care about your career... what qualities are you going to possess? Why is everyone going to look at you when you enter the room?
/r/MarriedRedPill12/02/20 06:04 AM
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did you cyber bang her? yes, with a g.
/r/askMRP11/02/20 01:34 AM
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and the username 'donna' of course that sex contract does not sound at all problematic to me
/r/askMRP11/02/20 01:33 AM
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Dude pay close attention to horns advice. It's over. Learn the lesson and start again. Dig deep bud, and get on with it. I'm talking move state , change your name, whatever it takes.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/02/20 10:11 AM
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Is that to promote raw Alpha tactics the new pov game (to play on wife's 'xbox')
/r/MarriedRedPill06/02/20 08:30 PM
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You are in a big rut in your life (sound bored / boring). Get into some new stuff, sports or hobbies. And your plate is making you lazy towards your relationship fyi.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/02/20 03:55 AM
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All three comments are from a position of weakness, despite the last attempting to be from a position of power. This is because telling her you have options is not a patch on her seeing it for herself. It's active v passive dread. ( Eg if she saw the airport episode).
/r/MarriedRedPill04/02/20 09:38 PM
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willing to give herself to me last night What is this shit? This is not abundance mentality, this the view from underneath the pedestal No wonder you are on the drip feed.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/02/20 09:34 PM
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Pull yourself together you sound like a baby. Take your down time, and then go at life like a divorced 33 year old madman.
/r/askMRP03/02/20 05:49 AM
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What should I do? Pretend your being told this exact story by a good friend of yours, who then asks for your advice what to do....... Think very hard. What would you tell him?
/r/askMRP02/02/20 07:17 AM
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I spend fuck all time watching sports, but i will say this: Sports create a very natural 'pack mentality', camaraderie for team and players and is largely celebrating human ability. If it gets the guys together, away from the women, its not a bad thing. Analogy - Although there is a big difference between being the best hunter in the pack, and supporting the best hunter in the pack, both are better than having nothing to do with hunting at all. So just don't be that gay guy who has no associatio…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/01/20 10:37 PM
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Telling her the consequences of going on vacation alone is not mate guarding. It's enforcing a boundary. Her decision will tell you everything you need to know.
/r/askMRP30/01/20 07:38 AM
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You have to look at the bigger picture. Since you gave up the metaphorical ships helm over the time of your relationship, so too did you give up any real value to her, or reason that you were not replaceable by the next beta. Lets be honest, you have been dispensable for some time now. And then you got her pregnant. And now, (no matter where you are on the spectrum) you alone have a value to her that no other man can have. You are the father of the child that is inside her. There is no other man…
/r/MarriedRedPill29/01/20 07:49 AM
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what are you doing to expand your horizons? At 21 you should be rafting fishing camping hiking sailing surfing etc. I get the need a job / want to move out. But do not underestimate how important it is to a employer, girlfriend or even a landlord that you look like a guy who is going places. Girls love scars, injuries and sun tan because they a sign of your adventurous risk taking badass nature. Oily hair, pasty skin and soft hands don't really have the same effect
/r/MarriedRedPill28/01/20 11:25 PM
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Still a weak fucking faggot. Broke as hell. Lame sex initiations. Still fighting my own mind. Not grounded in my life. good time to step back mentally, as the pregnacy progresses she will be looking to you for mental and emotional support - what is she going to see? a bowl of jelly or a big rock. Life is not easier after the birth. Focus on stoic / oak, the rest will slowly follow. This is actually an excellent time for you to turn the dynamics around.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/01/20 11:18 PM
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I am a confident man, with integrity. My goals are my driving force. I am courageous and lead others through my actions. When I fail, I learn and become stronger. Others rely on me as the oak. I am active and let my interests lead me to new adventures, which I invite others to share with me. I am my own judge. I am the prize. this is not the dead poets society where you stand on the desk and recite something in front of robin williams... Come up with something actionable
/r/MarriedRedPill28/01/20 11:08 PM
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You need to read this.... https://www.reddit.com/r/marriedredpill/comments/9bivv4/youre_being_cucked_what_do_you_do_about_it/
/r/askMRP22/01/20 10:00 PM
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From stickied post top of mrp.... As a result of this - we now have Rule 9, which states OYS is about taking ownership of the things YOU control, not about other parties like your wife, dog, boss, etc. The vast majority of the focus should be on your mindset, your thoughts, and your actions. The primary agent for your post is a third party -- and as a result you've wasted your own time. (Standard ban duration :: 10 days.)
/r/MarriedRedPill22/01/20 09:31 AM
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Wife woke me up one night and pulled me downstairs for some fun. This is mainly good, but clearly its validation that I seek. Wrong. Its what you want to happen. The validation is in your head ​ Multiple women came over to me at the bar and told me I was hot. I flirted a little. Its fun. Good to know, but still just validation seeking shit for my hamster. Wrong again - unless you made them say it, it is a win. I don't see any validation here unless you fabricated it for your hamster. I fucking h…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/01/20 07:18 AM
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The cycle goes like this. Make a change I get anxious but carry on I recalibrate, and go to step 2 (next change or improvement). FTFY
/r/MarriedRedPill22/01/20 07:10 AM
2

can't believe you didn't cop rule 9
/r/MarriedRedPill22/01/20 06:57 AM
4

if optimism was a hard-on, this would be its description
/r/MarriedRedPill22/01/20 06:33 AM
0

I just like how you followed the instructional with a live dumpster fire story. Are you a salesman?
/r/MarriedRedPill20/01/20 04:20 AM
3

Ahhhhhh, first contribution in two years of reading. Thanks boys. Nice. Don't be shy to ramp it up.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/01/20 06:29 AM
4

You handled it fine. I remember this story. Trust is important to a FO. It's hard to get back. (Very hard).
/r/askMRP16/01/20 09:36 PM
1

Well then lift and diet is not your goal (it is your new way of life). Set a simpler goal, like be fun with the kids, or, plan a fun night out, or, manage anger at work. Kill the old you.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/01/20 11:31 AM
2

Zero negative emotions.... Your ships operations: agree Other shit (politics, work etc) disagree. Light it up from time to time. A lions got to roar.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/01/20 03:37 AM
2

This is a terrible oys. We can't help you unless you provide more clarity as to your issues What are you angry about homie?
/r/MarriedRedPill15/01/20 02:29 AM
3

Managing overthinking is one thing, managing over talking is another. Practice holding in some of the verbal flow from your wife, but not STFU retard level. Confident alpha is less talking
/r/MarriedRedPill15/01/20 02:26 AM
1

Last thing is I've likely come to terms with the fact that she may have cheated on me at some point in our relationship. May have been before we got married, not really sure. I have no proof just a hunch You have to make peace with this. It's scarcity mentality. She should be worried you have, and eventually you will know if she does you will be fine.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/01/20 01:06 AM
1

I've extended this to not showing anything negative about other shit (work, local board, politics, etc.). We all have our own style, but this sounds really unnatural. Un-authentic. It's not very WOTSM. You do you, but I couldn't get away with this, my wife knows me too well.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/01/20 01:01 AM
1

sounds like a good outcome well done
/r/askMRP14/01/20 05:03 AM
5

Fred was so excited, he immediately grabbed the bucket and began chugging the milk Sadly, Fred was so entranced by the rainbow tail and unusual horn on this particular cows head, he could not see that in the distance was a paddock full of younger cows with more ample udders that were eagerly awaiting milking by a 'Real' farmer.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/01/20 05:02 AM
1

Bingo
/r/askMRP12/01/20 11:21 PM
2

on the back foot now You gotta lead your way out of this - that's front foot. Book for Feb. Whatever. Make your captain call, tell her the plan. But you have to have a plan.
/r/askMRP12/01/20 09:08 PM
3

I can picture this in my head, probably because I used to be like this. She's frustrated at lack of leadership, hands in the air, "wtf Pinkman...?, Let's book already....!" Leadership is the problem, (lack of) frame is the cause.
/r/askMRP12/01/20 08:56 PM
0

Either way you slice this, she is leading by making the decisions that affect you both. If your decision is to be apart, it's your decision to tell her to go ( not hers). She's front foot, you're back foot
/r/askMRP12/01/20 08:51 PM
1

This is not about frame it's about ( not) leading. You sat on the fence / did nothing about the next trip because you had your panties in a knot. You said you would sort it. Then you didn't lead. So she took the wheel and here you are, playing catch up. Best recovery in my opinion now is to say, " wait, I have got a better idea", and do something different (and better). Aka, LEADING.
/r/askMRP12/01/20 08:17 PM
3

Yes he should definitely change himself into something he doesn't like to get her to like him more. That will definitely work.
/r/askMRP12/01/20 02:08 AM
2

Yes this. Sense amongst the noise
/r/askMRP12/01/20 02:01 AM
7

Come on..... you can't see the problem? You're too comfortable. You have retired, you're financially independent, you have your sailing and your aquarium and cars (nice choices btw). You know what you like, she knows what you like. You have been together for ever. Kids are gone. You are more like friends than lovers. Life's easy cause you spent 30 years making it that way. How fucking exciting do you think that is for her? If you sound to me like you are just planning to kick back in your velvet…
/r/askMRP10/01/20 05:32 AM
4

A macro perspective of what H&C is saying is that you are approaching sex from a society / church perspective, and you need to switch to a biology / instinct approach. I don't care how churchy she is her mind goes nuts with horny when she hits the mills and boon books. And you could check out some 'female friendly' porn (by yourself to start) which is full of romance and foreplay.
/r/askMRP09/01/20 01:00 AM
2

"Choose" is the wrong word here. "Be" who you "are". If you go hiking, your a hiker. A hiker has specific gear, callouses and goes to the mountains a lot. If you have a lot of hiking gear and don't hike, you are a faggot. If you tell people you hike a lot, have the gear, but never go, it just delays how long it takes for them to realise you are a faggot. You are already behind the eight ball as she already knows who you are. She knows you are not a hiker (or rugged, or rich son) MRP requires aut…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/01/20 12:51 AM
3

Don't read too much into it, its your first oys. Try to be a bit structured, perhaps follow the dread levels more closely. Your shotgun approach to your own changes is a form of rambo if you change it all too quickly. I am curious if you were ever an alpha in this relationship? If not your changes are going to create great suspicion in your recently pregnant wife. Timing is unfortunate with the pregnancy to really progress at the rate you want.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/01/20 12:46 AM
1

no sex since Feb 2019 what the fuck am I doing At you age with no kids, this shitshow needs an end date.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/01/20 11:39 AM
2

You can't look that good with that height / weight. As for your style choices, you pretty much defined alpha (rugged), and beta(rich son future provider). Have a guess which might be better....but remember style must be congruent with personality, so go kill a bear if you go for rugged. Otherwise things sound a bit forced, but plowed on, you are in the right place.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/01/20 11:37 AM
1

I think it is fine to present the two characterisations of alpha / beta behaviours but agree that you either have a red pill mentality (aka own frame) or not - in this area you cannot be successful being both.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/01/20 12:30 AM
5

Balancing blue and red pills sounds a little 'purple pill' to me lol.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/01/20 12:26 AM
8

Everyone has arrived here from different backgrounds and you use the tools you need. I agree most people are 'bluepill beta' but the reality is you might just be a bit ahead in some areas. A bluepill who acts 'alpha' is just as blue pill as anyone else except gets to skip a few steps. The hard work is done by you alone on yourself as a person. You can fail as an alpha, its not a medallion of immunity against relationship problems. Its not a destination you arrive at. Forget measuring yourself an…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/01/20 06:07 AM
8

This is wrong on so many levels
/r/MarriedRedPill06/01/20 05:29 AM
6

game gets you sex, frame gets you respect
/r/MarriedRedPill06/01/20 12:04 AM
1

I would say the actual sex is about 30% of an orgasm for her, the rest being the emotion, connection, lead up, feeling of safety etc before hand and during the act
/r/askMRP05/01/20 07:52 PM
1

At the micro level you are not handling the interaction, where STFU, aa, or whatever is required. At the macro level you are not the leader you think you are.
/r/askMRP05/01/20 07:46 PM
1

My last dm still holds true
/r/askMRP03/01/20 01:48 AM
3

1) Let go of your fear of losing her. 2) Let go of your fear of her disappointment afterwards. Then it will go away
/r/askMRP28/12/19 09:09 PM
6

FFS stop talking yourself down.
/r/askMRP15/12/19 08:18 PM
3

You have disney oneitis bro. Your in love with the fairytale ending. I came here from similar origins and sometimes I now fantasise about if it had of gone further I'd be a free man. Think about that. Stay plan = go plan. Your only barrier is your attachment to the Disney dream
/r/askMRP14/12/19 01:58 AM
3

We told you to go away and learn and you have. Well done there is solid progress here. For a bit if fun tease your ex LTR to see if you can hook her.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/12/19 11:48 AM
3

Some thoughts are in the mind, less are spoken, and even less written down. But to be a bit more serious, attraction and value are very different and I think you have them confused.
/r/askMRP09/12/19 10:15 AM
11

I love when someone with no history finally digests basic shit and has the need to recite it to us all in his own words. I also love listening to my son practice the recorder.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/12/19 05:55 AM
3

Well done on returning post puke with new resolution - phase 1 complete Phase 2 - determine your ideal outcome in the short term (1 - 3 years for divorce, frame, physique) Phase 3 - Decide how to make ideal outcome happen Phase 4 - DO NOT under any circumstances (within reason of normal human behaviour) , waver from your new mission. No DEER, no excuses, no apologies, no getting back together, no printing job forms. I note that Subclause A to phase 2 - 4 - clearly states lift, read and stfu - be…
/r/askMRP04/12/19 11:02 PM
1

Cute kid. How would she describe you to her pre-school buddies? Are you the lead man? Tough, smart, cool? Would the other kids agree? Even if it's war stories from before their time, " my dad used to race cars!" Not trying to hassle here, but kids always tell you what you want to know straight up.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/12/19 11:04 AM
1

How's the not bored but badass dad thing going.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/12/19 04:02 AM
6

Some seriously highly upvoted comments, yet here, in the crowd amongst the noise, is your answer.
/r/askMRP04/12/19 03:43 AM
8

hated the thought that she messed up this good family All eyes are on you for that fuck up bro.
/r/askMRP02/12/19 05:22 AM
15

So amongst the words you have blessed us with, what i read is about your insecurities - wealth, beard, tatts, cock size. And what you missed about him is frame and tingles. He has frame, he gives her tingles. What you need to know from here is: that chapter is over. The next chapter starts now. What's the next chapter going to look like? And mods, FFS, this flair should be bluepill example, not redpill example - Who's asleep at the wheel here?
/r/askMRP02/12/19 05:10 AM
6

Great post but BEST EVER flair
/r/MarriedRedPill21/11/19 08:52 PM
1

I guess I can give her some comfort. Its not a computer program you need to push the right buttons on u/fereallyred has this nailed - unending sufferfests and lack of presence. Your passive aggressive monk mode is having the reverse effect to what you want - I note that your 'monk mode' includes mental, physical, emotional and spiritual withdrawal from what i can tell.
/r/askMRP20/11/19 07:36 PM
2

What is aop and why would you not be on the birth certificate?
/r/MarriedRedPill19/11/19 08:36 PM
3

Nothing wrong with minding the kids. Horns is critising himself for flailing around with nothing to do leaving himself at her disposal.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/11/19 08:32 PM
1

Well that confirms the emotional 'wall' you have. Us internet rando's can't help you with your wall up homie. A wall is not a frame.
/r/askMRP14/11/19 09:16 PM
11

Don't know your background but some of these little hills ain't worth dying on. You said yourself you think you should wear it. Wear it.
/r/askMRP14/11/19 09:13 PM
2

Nice phog, but you didn't address the question.
/r/askMRP13/11/19 08:59 PM
10

no offence Mr Optimus Prime, but tell me which part of the following is not true: Insecure overweight feminist wife threatens fat husband (BF%=24, RP=4W) with divorce. Four (4) days later insecure wife buckles under hamster bred insecurities and throws a pity BJ to validate ones self as 'not ugly'. Hiking ensues. Insecurities raise their heads based on wife's self perceived failings due to poor cardio. Wife agrees to go to therapy to address insecurities. Is the therapy bit 'the win' about which…
/r/askMRP13/11/19 02:32 AM
1

U/FereallyRed is 100% correct. What I think needs to be added is the short term nature of this type of circumstantial dread. She knows those 8+ chicks aren't a real option, but it is a reminder to pull the power moves (pussy) as a reminder. And that's why it's a short term response. Frame etc gives you long term high value that will get you where you want (and with who you want)
/r/askMRP10/11/19 02:25 AM
3

Maybe if you get to part 5 bro
/r/MarriedRedPill08/11/19 04:28 AM
1

I remember when 'young horns' told us how he agonised over killing his wife's sick pet bunny.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/11/19 11:28 PM
7

You keep selling Tyler Durden but I keep seeing Edward Norton.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/11/19 11:09 AM
2

Nicht sprechen...? It's not about looks it's about not FEELING awkward. Let her do it, it's for her, not for you.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/11/19 10:57 AM
2

The surrendered wife might have been the book. You're still well on the back foot here so keep at it
/r/MarriedRedPill06/11/19 05:26 AM
3

I read all the comments having arrived late to this party. You lack abundance. Your fear of loss is greater than your self assessed chance to pull equal or better. This insecurity won't go away until your smv is greater than hers ( which kids and age both significantly affect btw). One of the first posts I ever read here was about the advantages of "downgrading" your current high smv wife to another with lower smv than your own for ones own happiness. Think about that.
/r/askMRP05/11/19 10:36 AM
10

Book aside this post should be a template how to succinctly review and then tab a post like a boss.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/11/19 10:10 AM
4

Calling u/weakandsensitive...... We got a bleeder!
/r/MarriedRedPill31/10/19 11:41 AM
1

I like the concept of the graph you described u/easydayshardnights You geek.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/10/19 10:25 PM
4

Well you could be dead or dying. But you're not. Carpe diem.
/r/askMRP29/10/19 10:52 AM
3

I guarantee this is about body image and not threesomes. Women are obsessed with comparison. There might be a tiny bit of interest from her to try to work out what you are into.
/r/askMRP28/10/19 10:03 PM
1

Who defines the masculine and feminine? Well, biology provides a pretty clear set of parameters. Early man worked with the strengths and weaknesses of each, then traditional society expanded on that. Modern society is pushing to a whole new level with rules about what a man or woman even is. E.g. Should a transgender athlete run in the men's or women's race in the Olympics? Indeed we have true androgeny now. But you are right to highlight that my assumptions are rooted in about the 1970's regard…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/10/19 09:46 PM
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RE: ROLES... Wife and I have a very well defined (overt) reciprocal contract as follows: I own the masculine and she owns the feminine Sure she can chop wood and I can sew, but that dynamic is the exception not the rule. The day traditional masculine / feminine roles become interchangeable is the day the feminist ideal becomes true.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/10/19 09:37 AM
1

1) Yes 2) Yes
/r/MarriedRedPill28/10/19 04:12 AM
0

Not as gay as u/ayebeeceedeeeeffgee You guys should hook up.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/10/19 06:11 AM
-1

The gayness of this motivational is a diametrically opposed reflection of the faggotry in the typical poster. Arrogance in healthy doses is a trait of someone who has their shit together. Wanting to help others....well I don't know where that comes from....
/r/MarriedRedPill26/10/19 01:43 AM
1

You RPW gals seems so dreamy... Your authentic femininity is a beautiful thing.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/10/19 11:09 AM
1

dude its time to stfu - stop deering and agreeing and thanking hack. your original posts is top post because it is helpful to others. Some of you guys spend so much time obsessing over the playbook that you forget to just go and play the fucking game. There is an excellent jackten post on this i will try to find it as i know it will help you
/r/MarriedRedPill23/10/19 11:16 PM
2

It has been a little over two weeks since my wife moved out and I'm doing great. Good news - I am pleased to hear this. I give you two more weeks of 'reverse honeymoon' period. After that everything everyone else has posted applies.
/r/askMRP23/10/19 11:05 PM
2

she repeats it Shes fishing for comfort my autistic friend. Its not about the camera or the ring, its a covert message you don't value her. You might have "turned on the comfort" but it was the wrong tap. Kiss on the head, pat on the ass was all she needed. Maybe a reminder the captain has "got this" - now he's back from being AWOL.
/r/askMRP21/10/19 02:08 AM
1

When I buy a car I'll tell him $25000 when I would really pay $30000. But he won't know I'm bluffing. Until he tries it on. And then it depends on how bad I want the car.
/r/askMRP19/10/19 06:02 AM
8

sometimes all you need to do is show that you have teeth The enemy never fear a rusty spear Love this. Heard it on here
/r/MarriedRedPill18/10/19 02:35 AM
1

I could pull together a good list.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/10/19 02:24 AM
2

Agree It is essential to master your fear - especially for those big days at peahi ;)
/r/MarriedRedPill16/10/19 09:37 PM
1

Life goals?
/r/MarriedRedPill16/10/19 04:03 AM
2

Excellent work. If you have the chance try some cold approaches or friendly conversation with new girls. Try to see if you can get some follow up but don't worry if you don't. 29 at college should be a highlight of your life. Lift. Read.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/10/19 04:01 AM
3

STFU after a bedroom move is her way of showing power. Be normal to her, but don't appease her BS. It's called holding frame, and it takes practice. Eventually you won't care and she won't pull it.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/10/19 03:56 AM
0

​ It seems blatantly obvious to me Then ignore the multiple reddit subs advising you on this, and stop trying to dissect this to death. It's time to put the big boy pants on and make a decision on your own.
/r/askMRP13/10/19 10:17 PM
3

Upvote payback yo!
/r/askMRP12/10/19 02:30 AM
3

Dude. It never ends. You may as well ask how long it takes to be a man... A) it varies B) it never ends. But like how an enjoyable job is no longer 'working', self development no longer has an 'end date' if you do it for yourself. You wanna be a badass? Be it. Start today. You wanna crush? Do it. Start tonight. There is no more to it than that.
/r/askMRP12/10/19 01:27 AM
19

3 weeks. After that I realised asking stupid questions got me nowhere. If you do it properly we will help you.
/r/askMRP11/10/19 10:42 PM
2

I get it don't worry. We are meant to be men from age 21 or so, but it takes much longer. If you follow red pills core principles it is really a journey to manhood. You are way ahead starting at 29, not married. Define for yourself what kind of man you want to be and make it happen. Results will follow.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/10/19 04:37 AM
6

title says it all. Having abundance is your secret weapon here. In fact its your only way to influence her desire to have sex with you. Anything you do to make her have sex is unattractive. So, Doing the work = becoming attractive = having abundance = natural dread = she wants to have sex with you. ​ Oh, and also remember, that thing you really want
/r/askMRP11/10/19 04:24 AM
24

I've left you alone but seeing as there are only a few comments, here goes (ill be gentle).... A Love letter to a faggot. Dear Fag, here is why you are a fag in my eyes: You now: You're 27 and you have been redpill aware for three months. You joined 15 days ago You're super light and small. You are studying at college LTR is / was your room mate Your LTR left to travel with her aunt (escaped, methinks) Your hurting. You invited her to come back earlier and she declined You suggested to the group…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/10/19 06:14 AM
2

Yeah we are on slightly different messages here, fwiw I agree with your message ' it's your fault'. My message is we all live in the blue pill world, like it or not. We might be neo but we are stuck in the matrix.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/10/19 06:09 AM
3

Agree. Problem is, the ' bluepill fairytale' is reality for most people (still living in the matrix). The same society norms apply whether you are red pill or not. By way of example women cheat on red pill dudes too.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/10/19 05:51 AM
18

Yes, but no. Biological rules = of course she cheats with better option / AWALT Society rules (marriage) = she is 'not allowed' to cheat even on fat beta. I know we hate marriage, but we almost all are married here. Beta bob is also married and subscribed to its rules. So although "her cheating 5 years ago is obvious", Beta bob is allowed to be pissed she "broke the rules" of the worlds best undefined contract that he himself stuck to.. My point? - Beta bob is angry she broke the rules. AWALT is…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/10/19 05:11 AM
2

What makes not showing that weakness to my wife a weakness in and of itself. 1)you care what she thinks 2) you are scared of her reaction. Also note, I said weakness in your frame, not a weakness in her eyes
/r/askMRP08/10/19 05:00 AM
1

And frame is not something you 'hold' it's something you 'have'. Hiding your SAD is a weakness in your frame on its own really.
/r/askMRP08/10/19 03:29 AM
6

Keep it in the back of your mind that any illness or injury IS a weakness from a biological perspective for (her) choosing a mate. Sometimes the way to man up is to act like a man when you don't feel like it.
/r/askMRP08/10/19 03:07 AM
7

Sometimes FO doesn't want to be on the boat. Continue your map and use her tv time as a barometer of your increasing awesomeness
/r/askMRP05/10/19 07:22 AM
5

There is a critical turning point in ones metamorphis which is when you realize you are going to be ok if that happens U/reddjive said it best... It’s like the dad who tells his teen daughter she can’t go out on a Friday night and the next thing you know she’s sneaking out the window to jerk off the football captain at the trash can party in the vacant lot.
/r/askMRP03/10/19 10:23 PM
1

We all feel a bit feminine from time to time bro. Just last night my husband snapped my bra strap against my skin, I let out a little giggle and a bit of wee.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/10/19 12:33 PM
4

I literally have to not love her... Wrong seniorita. Just stop having your worth, your happiness, your value depending on her love and that dynamic. Then you'll see it as an imperfect accessory to your awesome life.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/10/19 12:00 PM
2

Sounds like the ultimate test of if she wants to be with you or not. You win either way when you think about it.
/r/askMRP30/09/19 08:38 PM
11

I read this whole thing before I realised 'our group' (in title) was not referring to 'this group' (mrp). Henceforth disappointed I am. Sidebar, and then sidebar once again. Rinse, start over till cleansed.
/r/askMRP30/09/19 12:07 PM
4

Just relax. show some warmth in small amounts.
/r/askMRP30/09/19 07:05 AM
27

What the fuck? You sound like a beta who just pushed his FO overboard with your elite level captaining program. My guess is she left so she did not have to babysit a retard
/r/askMRP30/09/19 07:04 AM
5

A) don't text a response B) STFU and show some comfort face to face ( there is about 5 "I's" in there) .
/r/askMRP30/09/19 03:08 AM
5

You fear an outcome you can't control. Use the stoic trick
/r/askMRP28/09/19 10:16 PM
9

DNGAF. You don't care if she doesn't go. Neither do we.
/r/askMRP27/09/19 11:41 PM
2

You love it
/r/MarriedRedPill27/09/19 11:54 AM
10

A more useful way to spend time on the internet is as follows: Type "Pussy, France" into Google maps. It's a real place. Click the street view button, bottom left. Rotate around.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/09/19 01:53 AM
1

you sounds bored AF. Daughter will be happy if you're a badass. Be badass.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/09/19 05:42 AM
2

You've both checked out, and she doesn't need you. All the good is "gone now" - You sound boring and arrogant, "comfortable" is not a desirable trait. Drug/alc problems with wife to caretake. You're bored at work. You have no mission at all. You don't game or initiate your wife. You're below beta. But your wife sounds badass. You're welcome.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/09/19 05:33 AM
3

Half way through a pregnancy means you're in caretaker mode. Focus on kid #1. Lift and oys hard
/r/MarriedRedPill24/09/19 01:17 PM
2

If things have been well till lately it's pretty likely the divorce threat is covert for another issue, like she thinks you are cheating. You have stepped out from being her good beta, and she is showing you her power.
/r/askMRP23/09/19 11:11 AM
11

Nice ramble. I get it, I remember it. Stay in your own head, you're doing this for yourself remember....Stop measuring your success on sex. Be your own judge.
/r/askMRP21/09/19 12:29 PM
8

Swim freestyle Totally underrated. Makes you look jacked for 10 minutes. Unless you can't for back.
/r/askMRP21/09/19 01:56 AM
12

STFU is great until you have frame. Once you have frame, you can pretty much respond how you like. Frame is the "won't need to dodge bullets" outcome. So STFU is a bit of a bandaid solution, which quickly becomes frustrating for wife. You need to slowly move on to less autistic responses, like fogging at the least
/r/askMRP21/09/19 12:51 AM
1

Yes I think it is very good. I think this checklist type of approach is most easily digested by an otherwise overwhelmed newbie
/r/MarriedRedPill20/09/19 03:54 AM
1

Yes this is on my list, thanks for the reminder. Boys are 8, 6.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/09/19 03:01 AM
1

I still think leadership (eg. lead the family), and the others are required for good "Manning". And how is leadership "not particularly Alpha" ? EDIT: just realised i did not specifically mention leadership - but referred to it in second para. My bad.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/09/19 02:58 AM
3

This is fantastic MITW. Love your perspective. As my relationship has settled into a place I am happy with, I am focused on self development and the optimal masculine traits as per your list. I think they are implied in your list, but still I would highlight that the alpha high value man thrives on overcoming adversity, facing his fears and his ability to act selflessly. In practice that translates to acting for the good of others, with the best interests of everyone. ( traits of a good soldier,…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/09/19 09:57 PM
3

but as I'm not a doctor I wouldn't know. You and me both, homie.
/r/askMRP19/09/19 11:56 AM
1

you want the jump?
/r/askMRP19/09/19 05:52 AM
1

Stay / Go - he leaves her life OI. Keep / Next - he decides that she leaves his life. Either way, its not important, its just a reference to who owns the ship, and the fact that the beta man should Frame the seperation that he moves her out (physically, emotionally, mentally, whatever), not move out himself. But I am not going to try to rewrite pop MRP terminology
/r/askMRP19/09/19 03:01 AM
4

then take heed that she would rather be indefinitely bothered by an old sick guy than rescued by a beta. and what Redpillbrigade17 said
/r/askMRP19/09/19 02:53 AM
1

It's a message to the typical first time poster who is a panicked beta pulling 160 bpm about a new red flag (some minor, some major), wanting a quick answer; a magic bullet. Sometimes it's good to pour petrol on their dumpster fire as a call to action. Sometimes it's good to get them to come back from the plank to make a rational decision. Usually it's a combination of both.
/r/askMRP18/09/19 08:02 PM
3

This is a really good point. It is not the "Stay plan /Go plan", it is the "Keep FO / Next FO" plan. Subtle difference.
/r/askMRP18/09/19 07:35 PM
3

Did you end up deciding to stay aboard ?
/r/askMRP18/09/19 12:17 PM
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Calm the fuck down man. 3 months ago the wife / sister yanked on the wheel of an otherwise sound ship and your jumping overboard? Give it time, get the sister out, take back control like a man would and never forget some of the hamster spew that came out of your wife's mouth, because, dear 29 year old boy, that is the spew that will destroy your marriage if you abandoned your post as captain again. If the boat doesn't turn back on course in a few months, then yeah, its time for 'go plan'
/r/askMRP17/09/19 05:04 AM
5

Classic! - About four months ago I was at a conference and some married chick undressed for me on facetime, and was sick of her "wet pancake" husband. Begged me for it. She said she needed a real man. Please tell her i say hi.
/r/askMRP16/09/19 04:27 AM
2

What's the big secret? Are you a spy? This sounds like a weird power play to me.
/r/askMRP16/09/19 12:42 AM
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I'd be amazed if anyone says anything other than GTFO. Toxic shit like this can be so hard to see when you are on the inside, but fuck man, you are in a prison of shit and you have to GTFO. So, I repeat, GTFO - as soon as possible.
/r/askMRP14/09/19 09:57 AM
1

I am a global citizen :)
/r/askMRP13/09/19 12:24 AM
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Must be weird for the kids to all pile in and then fuck off to separate houses week after week.... You did totally fine. Truth is I was hoping for a much more dramatic finale to this lengthy story
/r/askMRP12/09/19 06:15 AM
15

TRP is like Formula 1 MRP is like Le Mans Both have the aim to win but you do it in very different ways.
/r/askMRP12/09/19 01:54 AM
4

Yes. Like lifting, it is a step ladder. Avoiding any fear, like avoiding any lifting, will leave you weak.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/09/19 07:23 AM
2

I teach my boys what is playfight and what is bad behaviour. The oldest of course has the upper hand and knows my rule.... ' any tears and daddy gets to play'. Tickle being my offensive, it exhausts him quickly
/r/askMRP07/09/19 11:13 AM
3

Nice. maybe he could be the crazy fucker friend with no legs up in the crows nest in the storm yelling at god, "IS THAT ALL YOU GOT?". That dude has an enviable amount of DNGAF.
/r/askMRP06/09/19 09:23 AM
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Good for you for working it through in your mind, I went through that phase of 'understand and rationalise' myself. Just remember there is no magic formula. Sometimes I do my hair a different way and ioi's go through the roof. Maybe it was my hair, maybe it was the girls I walked past.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/09/19 12:56 AM
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-1 point for being either an engineer or computer nerd who: A) thought about working this out, and B) followed through with working it out. Go the fuck outside and do something that puts the look in your eye that you're a man of action, a man worth respecting.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/09/19 12:33 AM
3

When I read shit like this I don't feel sorry for you for what's happening, I feel sorry for you that you don't see the big forest behind the trees. Open your eyes, it's all there right in front of you.
/r/askMRP06/09/19 12:24 AM
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being nice She feels bad. Get it done.
/r/askMRP04/09/19 11:42 AM
5

It's ironic that I check the cross post and it's two red Berets from here responding. At your age you need to lose the needy oneitis and start living up to the man you say you are. Cause what you seem keen to reinforce to us is that you're alpha AF. Play the field Romeo.
/r/askMRP01/09/19 10:57 AM
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If i read between the lines, based on all this talk about property and money, you are in fear of the change in lifestyle. Comfy lifestyle with the witch OR, Unknown lifestyle, full of possibility, sans witch. Choose one.
/r/askMRP31/08/19 01:48 AM
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I am 100% sure she is talking to / about u/red-sfpplus Be afraid.
/r/askMRP28/08/19 10:07 AM
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If she actually moves out I'm not letting her come back. You and Horns are talking like this is a little girl tanty, but No this is much more serious. Exhibit A saying she's not in love with me and she's unhappy for the last 2 or 3 years Exhibit B She bought boxes and started looking at apartments. Fuck that
/r/askMRP27/08/19 10:26 PM
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I'm just not sure what to do right now. Seems pretty clear to me. You're young enough with no kids. Oh, and a gentleman would help her move her stuff out.
/r/askMRP27/08/19 09:48 PM
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It's ok to ROAR at the pack once in a while y'know. I have two boys 6 and 8 too. Be the kind of man you want them to be. And stop being so scared of your wife, she's harmless.
/r/askMRP27/08/19 03:27 AM
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Sorry to hear about this, I can't imagine. But if your wife is even half a woman, don't run her aground because she didn't know what to do when you took your hand off the tiller for a moment.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/08/19 10:32 AM
1

Ultimate beta sound track... Sam Smith, "I know I'm not the only one"
/r/askMRP20/08/19 10:38 PM
16

It's like watching two deers talking to each other.
/r/askMRP18/08/19 09:59 AM
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Because the reality is you don't yet have a Ferrari, and someone else is driving the taurus. As long as you are fasttracking the Ferrari, sure, car share the taurus. Personally I don't think I could look at the taurus again.
/r/askMRP18/08/19 09:52 AM
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You can't sell me on how 'normal' this shit show is and how 'calm' you are about it, here's why... 1) overnight at Chad's 2) sex with Chad 3) ok Chad, sure, take photos, that will be fun Chad 4) ok Chad, keep the photos Chad 5) oh Chad, can I keep the photos too of your cock please Chad 6) here is a USB for me to keep them chad 7) USB can just lay around house, don't worry Chad my husband is limp as fuck chaddy, chaddy boy. He won't do anything. .......... You know what 8 is you retard? 8 is the…
/r/askMRP18/08/19 08:15 AM
3

Preselection. She wants to be seen as having attention. If she's legit she will be focused on you, not looking around to see if other dudes are showing interest.
/r/askTRP16/08/19 05:08 AM
3

Well i am hoping for another graph, possibly a formula.
/r/askMRP16/08/19 03:08 AM
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My recollection is PFP providing fair coverage of this topic, but it has been a while, so i am not best to advise. Why don't you tell us what you are trying to work out? Or is it theory for theories sake?
/r/askMRP16/08/19 02:00 AM
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Anyone here read Practical Female Psychology for the Practical Man? You are really going to lead with this question? To help you out, yes it is real, i don't know the subtle differences but in my opinion it crosses over with the ideas of frame (hers), but with more relevance to one's background such as personality, upbringing, social status, etc. Try to post less vague / open question, perhaps with an example of a problem you are encountering. For others benefit, this is also posted on r/asktrp
/r/askMRP16/08/19 01:04 AM
1

Whats the saying...? Oh, yeah survival of the fittest thats the one
/r/askMRP16/08/19 12:55 AM
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You're a FAT NICE-GUY BETA That's an impressive combination.
/r/askMRP15/08/19 03:30 AM
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Can't argue if you're not talking. Leave earlier if you have to.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/08/19 09:54 AM
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I have a slightly alternate take on drinking, BUT Firstly, yes of course it is bad if you behave like that. ​ I say things I don’t mean You might not mean it sober, but it is what your subconscious is thinking.... My point - keep in the back of your mind that alcohol releases / expresses any inner issues, what ever they are. Angry violent drunks come from angry violet people who might just manage to control their shit when sober.... People who cry when drunk are harboring some sadness that they …
/r/MarriedRedPill14/08/19 03:34 AM
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No sex since March 2018. Devilishly handsome You sir, must be full retard.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/08/19 03:24 AM
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When this is achieved I believe I will reach my goals of being richer and having the sex life I want. Please sign here to endorse this covert contract_____________ Journey =/= destination
/r/MarriedRedPill14/08/19 03:18 AM
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Iammrp2 pretty sure...
/r/MarriedRedPill14/08/19 03:13 AM
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Bf 25%
/r/MarriedRedPill14/08/19 01:25 AM
1

Steel you or one of the commenters below should make a post on this.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/08/19 01:18 AM
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Top work on leadership ' click', but fail on sex validation. It had nothing to do with gaming, everything to do with you (and abundance).
/r/MarriedRedPill13/08/19 12:10 PM
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The true measure of a man is his performance in those dark hours, we know this over and over. If you look past the 'get more sex' parts of rp, you would see that the alpha high value man thrives on overcoming adversity, facing his fears and his ability to act selflessly. It's what 'separates the men from the boys'
/r/askMRP11/08/19 09:27 AM
1

I am dying of anal cancer oh the irony
/r/MarriedRedPill09/08/19 05:52 AM
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There is no doubt in my mind that if i met both you and your wife separately from each other, I would conclude you were the most fucked up. Keep that in the back of your mind.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/08/19 04:51 AM
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Your logic is retarded. I love my kids as much as the next person but you still have to "do you" as your prioirty. Your whole post reeks of fear and anger, and I bet we are only getting one side of the story. It sounds like a panicky 'strike back' to take the baby away from her, the 0.5m babymomma as some retarded power move post divorce threat.... What the fuck is a surgeon going to do with a baby when on call / in surgery anyway....? You are FULL of Fear. Grow a pair of fucking balls and quit …
/r/MarriedRedPill09/08/19 04:44 AM
1

Nice. Are you familiar with r/rpchristians ?
/r/MarriedRedPill08/08/19 12:26 AM
2

There is a scene in the kids movie "Planes" where Skipper leas the squadron on a joy flight and they happen across a battleship. The young planes pester Skipper to have a shot. They pile in on this one battleship, only to discover a whole fleet of canon fire. It's a fucking train wreck, planes pile driving into the sea everywhere.... I am on the edge of the seat yelling "pull up... PULL UP!...... PUUUUUUUULLL UUUUUUUPPP ..!!!!! You sound more kamikaze than rambo. Park the spitfire and give the k…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/08/19 11:42 PM
1

just surfed Surfing has been the cornerstone of my physical activity my whole life - my last holiday was to rocky point north shore oahu in May. My boys 6/8 are standing up on broken foamie waves. Outdoor sports like surfing are highly underrated (in MRP) - the wide eyed look after paddling in at low tide on dusk as the sets rose, the preoccupation at breakfast with cross referencing 3 different online forecasts - its beyond measure. I get it. But surfing and lifting are not the same. Your list …
/r/MarriedRedPill07/08/19 11:26 PM
1

Good honesty. The only way is up. Control the drinking. Stop beating yourself up and focus on becoming the man you want to be.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/08/19 10:18 AM
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Effort - D What do you want out of this?
/r/MarriedRedPill07/08/19 10:11 AM
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You need to understand what lifting offers beyond muscle activity, and COMMIT. You're half assing all of this until this is clear in your head, so here is some homework. list what lifting is going to do for your life, your transformation, your whole purpose of being here. Do that and I'll point out three you missed.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/08/19 10:02 AM
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fuck man. Sounds heavy. You also sound like every other dude here. Thats good (it works) and bad (takes a lot of work). Follow the program. Put extra emphasis on your state of mind given the imminent disaster. If she leaves, you'll be ok. (thats your state of mind to adopt ok). Picture the disaster outcome, its not that bad, it even has upsides. Focus on being the best man you can be. LIFT
/r/MarriedRedPill07/08/19 06:21 AM
5

Was hit with a small bombshell yesterday when I found out that my wife talks about my stepson’s dad to him a 10 year old would want to know.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/08/19 06:03 AM
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she is more redpill than I am. Are you suggesting the female of the species is better at identifying the strengths and weaknesses of a male? No... Its actually a feature of that model.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/08/19 05:44 AM
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this is very much suited to the weekly OYS thread on MRP. But seeing as you are here, why don't you tell us what the difference is between you and 'masculine men'. Validation seeking requires confidence. Struggling with 'old BP habits' means you have not internalised RP. It takes time. I cannot more highly recommend (outside lifting) curating a collection of masculine habits. Martial arts, camping, building, coaching, polygamy.
/r/askMRP07/08/19 04:19 AM
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Leave your hamster with your neighbors for this trip. Don't let them overfeed him though.
/r/askMRP02/08/19 06:07 AM
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If a steam train is heading west at 45 mph, and the wind is from the south south east at 25 knots, how far will the steam be from the train when it reaches the station?
/r/MarriedRedPill01/08/19 09:01 AM
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End game is to be enough of a man that I will have options regardless of if she will stick with a diet plan and lose weight instead of not caring enough to do so. If she slims down she gets first chance at keeping the prize
/r/askMRP31/07/19 11:17 PM
3

I tried a strategy FAIL
/r/askMRP31/07/19 11:13 PM
2

Yes. Or reverse psychology / aa it. "Oh ok, I don't know if that will work for me...."
/r/MarriedRedPill31/07/19 10:31 AM
5

Is it acceptable to slip up for a short time to grieve over the corpse of my old family life? Yes, any man must be able to reflect on mistakes and make changes. Its the rebuilding that counts. Rian Stone u/RStonePT/ talks often of burning it down, rebuilding V2.0 (or 3.0) better than ever. Get busy.
/r/askMRP30/07/19 11:02 PM
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Next time just kill the fucking bunny, don't overthink it.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/07/19 11:47 AM
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The 'lets have sex later' promise is a classic trap, she created a covert contract for you. Next time, just don't buy it, doesn't mean anything.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/07/19 11:42 AM
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don't know body fat, don't care Dude. Wrong way to start an oys. I dont know if it is the off hand manner or the gay as fuck lifts but you are half-assing something here,. Either in it or you're not, and I am not talking about MRP I am talking about your attitude to your life. Time to COMMIT
/r/MarriedRedPill30/07/19 11:32 AM
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Cool as a whistle. Lol. Have a look for the children with dynamite post. Stop trying to use the "tools" for a bluepill dream and invest in the changes to yourself that you need to make to be a man you are proud to be with or without your child gates.
/r/askMRP30/07/19 03:35 AM
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Love this post. I constantly am surprised with how my MRP skills affect all areas of life. The confident pull wins over the overt push. Although not a direct crossover, there is some interesting parallels with jack10's rant on luxury goods marketing i think is a great read.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/07/19 03:12 AM
2

+1 Acting like you didn't hear it can be better than the best comeback.
/r/askMRP28/07/19 09:39 AM
1

couple of tablespoons of cement is all you need -Harden the fuck up and be a man.
/r/askMRP27/07/19 11:48 AM
1

"Boo the villains" - LoL thats great Keep at it, do what you think is right, be respectful - you're gonna make it i can tell.
/r/askMRP27/07/19 06:49 AM
2

Well that's gone full circle
/r/MarriedRedPill25/07/19 09:42 PM
3

Your emotions, your feelings, your happiness can be under your control. Strength of body and strength of mind will get you there. The sidebar is your guide.
/r/askMRP25/07/19 04:29 AM
1

I picture you in a field in Austria in a white shirt throwing flowers in the air with gay abandon
/r/askMRP25/07/19 04:12 AM
2

I posted on happiness in the 60 DoD recently, and my favourite quote was: "It is not he with little, but he who craves more, that is poor." That quote is consistent with your post, where you no longer "crave more". It's where you want to be. (I am ignoring the unicorns and rainbows vibe in your post)
/r/askMRP25/07/19 01:54 AM
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It's only Tuesday Nice play.... My guess is that he provided context to a long period of her feeling 'unsettled' with the new you. It all points to the same thing (again). Chill out. Play the long game. Work on yourself. Dial the fireworks show down to a campfire she can get comfortable around.
/r/askMRP24/07/19 04:33 AM
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I don't know the backstory here but is seems to me there is a major assumption that each guy has unlimited choice of future wife to choose from. It just not like that...plenty of choices are made as "best available at the time" (aka vetting) out of a small handful of women. Secondly is the issue of time. A young guy with a half decent woman may not think going back to being single is "worth the risk", of finding something better - a bird in the hand is worth two in the bush. The childhood sweeth…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/07/19 12:07 AM
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Yes it is sort of normal. You want her to desire you : she doesn't : why doesn't she notice me? : makes you mad = covert contract It's also normal to be angry early on, at yourself, but you take it out on everyone else. ​ I should also point out expecting her to desire you once you have "actually transformed myself" is like the god of god's covert contracts.
/r/askMRP22/07/19 11:35 PM
4

Since you went down that path.... My youngest son walks around with his nerf gun shouting "I could shoot the flea off a dogs back, Tannen!"
/r/askMRP22/07/19 02:20 AM
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I once asked her, "What value do you bring to our relationship?" She said, that's a good question, then replied with "comedic relief". Hands down best AA I have heard for ages.
/r/askMRP21/07/19 11:26 PM
4

Learn to balance between nice and slightly dark triad. It's so easy to be super nice at the start, and you won't realise the expectation you set up. And avoid equality, not in the unfair sense, but in the sense that men and woman are different and they bring different things to the table. Opening jars is not a skill, it's a way of life (lol)
/r/askMRP21/07/19 11:23 PM
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The demands are most likely validation based, my guess is to prove her submission after the pash / affair event. If you're in redpill as far as you say you should be close to true OI. Only then will you lose the ego and move on. I would suggest rereading way of the superior man again.
/r/askMRP21/07/19 11:19 PM
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You know how sometimes you push so hard to get what you want, and you just make it worse? You're trying so hard to sell her what YOU think she wants. Well guess what she doesn't want it. You have no frame, you're a mini Rambo. Yes she is responding to dread but that doesn't fit with her feminist model. Go through with the divorce or back off and lead. There's no 'sweetening the deal', with steak knives. She looking at the value of the product and she's both confused and unsure it's the right thi…
/r/askMRP21/07/19 10:37 PM
3

you are lucky i have not done my good deed for the day.... "Absence diminishes minor passions and inflames great ones, as the wind douses a candle and fans a fire." La Rochefoucauld, from link on absence in the relationship Just find shit to do.
/r/askMRP18/07/19 09:36 AM
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Your answers to the other posts have confirmed my diagnosis, but i will leave you to think about these things...(which primarily occur BEFORE you approach) Do you add life to the party? Or are you enervating? Do you display abundance mentality - (you are the prize), or is she "the prize" and you show neediness and desperation? - who is after who? Are you an interesting person? - Have a crack at just making friends with a group of girls for a change, showing no interest in them sexually. Tell the…
/r/askMRP15/07/19 05:25 AM
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It's because you BLEED neediness. Like a fucking casualty victim in emergency.
/r/askMRP15/07/19 03:02 AM
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It's good you can see the matrix but you have no idea what you are doing. More reading required
/r/askMRP13/07/19 12:56 PM
3

your wife knows only too well how much of a faggot you are The very definition of mrp is 'trp on hard mode'
/r/askMRP12/07/19 12:01 AM
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Can you graph this for me ya big nerd ;)
/r/askMRP11/07/19 09:36 PM
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Go out. Get ioi's from waitresses. Get wild sex from wife or waitress. If this is not possible this year, start at the start (sidebar). Don't leave anything out. Make it happen next year.
/r/askMRP11/07/19 11:34 AM
3

It is so fucking nice to be reading some stories of such success lately (ala u/Blarg_Risen) - thanks for raising the bar lads. How would you break down your success % Game, % Status, % Looks ....?
/r/MarriedRedPill11/07/19 04:05 AM
3

Most of the 'written' part of the marriage (society norms, like don't cheat) favours her. What favours you (e.g. sex on tap, nice cooking, she won't get fat) is a verbal agreement only, largely based on the conditions of the relationship at the time you propose. If she does the ironing, you expect that will continue, but there is no gaurantee. If you have sex 3 times a week, you think that will continue for ever through the marriage. For obvious reasons, you can see that over time the written pa…
/r/askMRP09/07/19 03:05 AM
1

Even though RP loves to assume every single woman turns into a cock eating whore on every GNO, this mindeset is wrong Now just BACK THE TRUCK UP...! Does that also mean she is not fucking Apu in seven eleven because she "paid him for gas" !?!
/r/askMRP08/07/19 11:43 PM
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I actually think it is a good thing. The girl has morals.
/r/askMRP07/07/19 02:39 AM
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She tried to bring the starfish back I'd say her good girl overcame her bad girl temporarily. And she self corrected = good outcome. Some times you just have to let the hamster think for a while before it finds its way through the maze.
/r/askMRP07/07/19 01:05 AM
1

She told me she understands if we don’t hang out the next day That's a lot of writing on one wall...
/r/MarriedRedPill07/07/19 01:00 AM
2

Her comments about 'the boys ' is good. One or all of following: she is pleased you were happy, she was pleased to see you do you're own thing, she like to see some testosterone and "boyish" behavior. I love seeing girls all together, talking hair and clothes, or going to the day spa - It's hot. It's the same for her Next time go plan some camping, tree chopping, fire making, hunting and see her reaction
/r/MarriedRedPill04/07/19 01:06 AM
5

So my frame has to be a perky boob now.... Sheesh
/r/MarriedRedPill02/07/19 11:37 AM
1

Yes, and the busiest person most likely is the captain. OP needs to be doing shit and asking for her (first officer) help.
/r/askMRP01/07/19 09:45 PM
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Slightly OT, but I always liked the story of the kid pestering the sensei to be black belt. Kid is desperate to be black belt, won't shut up. Sensei takes off his belt, hands it to the kid and say "here you go, you are a black belt now". Moral of the story? Getting what you want by demand is nowhere near the same as getting it because wife / sensei respect you and want to give it to you. OP thinks he 'deserves' the black belt without the hard work.
/r/askMRP28/06/19 10:00 PM
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High quality post from a larger than life character, thanks If there is one thing i got from you is that you know you're going ok when what she does (or does not ) do is a relatively minor issue - One must be one's own barometer of success. Kudos for the visit
/r/MarriedRedPill28/06/19 06:12 AM
2

Yes that was my guess. Maybe it's just your stories are the most vivid.
/r/askMRP28/06/19 12:11 AM
4

Pigeonholing is a process that attempts to classify disparate entities into a limited number of categories. The term usually carries connotations of criticism, implying that the classification scheme referred to inadequately reflects the entities being sorted, or that it is based on stereotypes. "Pigeonholing" or labelling things like BDP, FA, Bratty (etc.), allow us to blame her for "insert problem" .so our brain (hamster) can then rest because we have found the problem. I am not saying they do…
/r/askMRP27/06/19 11:11 PM
1

Yes I agree. I was just dreaming up an environment where you might be supposed to know the answer. But I have to admit some people are lazy and can't be arsed finding answers themselves. That annoys me.
/r/askMRP27/06/19 11:37 AM
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I'm going to counter that with "there is no such thing as a stupid question" Both scenarios in your quote (ask and look stupid, or don't) point to Giving to many Fucks about other people's view of you, maybe relevant in say a boardroom type situation, where you are meant to know the answer. ​ But its called 'ask' mrp for a reason. Op asked a basic question and got roasted for being lazy*. ​ *edit: Actually the majority of replies were helpful
/r/askMRP26/06/19 10:31 PM
1

I see frame as the essence of alpha. Just develop the character and behaviors that are consistent with your view of your own frame. And remember it goes through all aspects of your life. Her, work, friends. Everywhere. Are you reliable, confident, trust worthy (etc)? Some of the behaviours you describe are not consistent with these characteristics.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/06/19 10:19 PM
1

Love hearing this from you you're finally seeing the difference between what you are getting and what you want. I presume you have read u/reddjive s post on ask?
/r/MarriedRedPill26/06/19 03:24 AM
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Dread gets you sex, frame gets you respect.
/r/askMRP25/06/19 07:04 AM
2

100% agree on competition. ​ Fear / dread will get her in the door (maybe repeatedly), but ultimately you want her to be there for the love of the game.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/06/19 07:15 AM
2

the drunk captain is a pretty good example ​ Forget to do so something, do something different to what he said , be incompetent at diy type tasks, expect her to handle car maintenance / finances etc. Its not hard to pick people who do't lead a relationship.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/06/19 06:27 AM
1

For it to work, your zero dread + unconditional love must be equaled with her having zero reason to leave + total faith in where the ship is going. Its really just describing 'win win', as oppose to dread which is win lose.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/06/19 06:20 AM
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Great story, lots of value. I particularly agree with the comments about fear and dread. Oh, and username checks out.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/06/19 10:59 AM
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I like the war stories more than the situational comedies
/r/MarriedRedPill21/06/19 10:42 PM
2

its how the wild lions distract the tame lions.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/06/19 04:54 AM
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you guys need to ease up on the oestrogen pills.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/06/19 07:38 AM
4

in some obscure subreddit Naw, it happens IRL at the mall or church or whatever the fuck they do.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/06/19 07:36 AM
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Mission: Live my best life. Continue to grow. I've discovered I'm only truly happy when I grow. Not really a mission because it is not absolute. Try to pinpoint some specifics. Goals: make more money, get wife to be more submissive and slutty for me, be the captain I need to be, continue to develop solid frame, continue to remodel and take care of our house, give my son anything and everything he needs to ensure he knows he is loved and the best fucking thing I have. As above. you need specific …
/r/MarriedRedPill19/06/19 01:15 AM
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I do have this bullshit belief I still need to kill: Making more money will make me happy and remove my feelings of anxiety. This just isn’t true… it is not the man with little, but the man who craves more, that is poor.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/06/19 01:04 AM
2

voulez-vous coucher avec moi, ce soir?
/r/MarriedRedPill19/06/19 01:01 AM
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Maybe look at in reverse... "The success of the group is a larger factor than the success of any particular individual, but the failure of the group is ultimately the responsibility of the Alpha leader." ​ If you fuck up in leadership its either A) a long road back to the top, or B) you will be replaced by a new leader.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/06/19 11:15 PM
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My wife, professionally, is high performing pussy The typical professional workplace is in most cases a "man's world", with the male social matrix rules applying (as linked by u/justpickanyusername over in mrp). Women in this environment put on a cloak of professionalism each morning to go and work within the male social matrix of team work, respect, dominance; all of which is not a her natural state of short term ideals, emotion, motherhood, etc. Her default programming does not fit in. If you …
/r/askMRP17/06/19 11:03 PM
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its a little MGTOW, when pulled out of context how MCT has
/r/askMRP17/06/19 02:12 AM
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+ high speed internet and some privacy
/r/askMRP17/06/19 01:54 AM
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I STFU and say "of course I care" without addressing the specific scenario. I go in for a comforting hug Do you not see the conflict in the message you give her here? ​ You're going in with MRP and then backing it up with Disney
/r/MarriedRedPill16/06/19 11:03 PM
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Ngaf and narcissism seemed to be easily overcooked in mrp. It kinda has to be with such a self focus. But I can see how easily it can make things come undone.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/06/19 12:54 AM
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my brain's off lately It will come good bro, you're just on low power mode.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/06/19 07:31 AM
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Ok cowboy lets ride this rodeo :) You are in purgatory between life 1.0 and life 2.0, and whats weird is only certain things make it through the jump. Your SMV is one example of making it through, your 'fatalistic' view of your own life does not. This leaves holes, holes you don't know how to fill. Just like a newby swallowing the pill, reality and ones view of the world is turned upside down, even though the world has not changed. ​ Within this metaphysical transformation comes Mr Jonathon Nomo…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/06/19 03:50 AM
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I know i am splitting hairs but technically a shit test is overt communication. Anyway I get what you mean, more like the final 'talk' or 'last straw'
/r/MarriedRedPill15/06/19 03:33 AM
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Can you clarify the difference between this and a shit test, you know, like an angry one
/r/MarriedRedPill14/06/19 11:45 PM
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I certainly agree there is a strong focus on the early stage issues. This and U/Red-Curious 's post are bringing up the average
/r/MarriedRedPill14/06/19 02:17 PM
2

Nice post, I think the TLDR is Don't Be Needy. And if i break that down in context of this post, there is 1) not being needy, and there is 2) behaving such that you appear to not be needy. 2 is good but 1 is better.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/06/19 06:13 AM
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Peter Pan Syndrome? Do you mean a crush on Tinkerbell? Then yes.
/r/askMRP12/06/19 12:38 PM
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Married red pill is an oxymoron. When you think about it.
/r/askMRP12/06/19 12:35 PM
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Full circle. Congrats. Nice story for anyone who fears divorce too. ​ How's it working out with your daughter?
/r/askMRP11/06/19 08:22 AM
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"you know, I don't think you would have chosen to be with me if you had the option now" That's dread so passive you didn't know you were doing it.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/06/19 11:30 AM
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There has been a few posts lately related to the dynamic between showing emotion and being a robot. Try this approach advanced fogging by Jackten (in the comments), in place of the stfu / wall of indifference / leave the house. Also suggest looking through u/man_in_the_world 's posts - which is where that link came from btw. ​ And fuck man, the blended family sounds complicated...
/r/askMRP07/06/19 05:42 AM
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Ok in that case the issue is with the word frustration. frustration is just 'mildly pissed off'. ​ Vulnerable is (stolen from the web) : Being vulnerable involves letting yourself feel all the things — the good, the bad and the not-so-chill — and then also letting someone else see it all
/r/MarriedRedPill06/06/19 11:39 PM
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Yes, thats difficult. Remember she is captain and you are first officer, it will take a while to turn that around. Your situation will be massively improved if you just start doing more without her, preferably out of the house. I would suggest getting a baby sitter or grandma over so you can go to the gym / sports. Remember to just do it and let her know, don't ask her first. Make it a regular night (like say thursday). If she will be home in time, great, if not, you make your arrangements. Its …
/r/askMRP05/06/19 04:44 AM
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I do like the bit where she is conned into a massage. ​ Look, your path out of this is through the dread levels and reestablishment of yourself as seperate from her. If in 6 / 12 months you are busy and happy and she doesn't flex, well you know what to do. One thing that helped me was a bit of self talk e.g : Good, i am glad she is gone, who watches netflix on the cell.... Its not like we have sex anyway She is not even that hot, I've seen that ass flab too much already Her SMV is on the way dow…
/r/askMRP05/06/19 01:37 AM
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or you could get validation from the internet
/r/askMRP05/06/19 12:02 AM
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I trawled though the shitshow of a post history. Its simple really - You are betamax and your anxiety and lower job is keeping you there in her eyes. But is it her or you holding you down? You fear life without her (validation and financial security). It's not clear what you add, except probably a decent dad. She is in the captains seat, and first office looks to be stuck in the scuppers. Can you expand on the 'manager at home' comment and see if the link she's the boss applies.
/r/askMRP05/06/19 12:00 AM
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the fail is in telling her it will be too frustrating. By saying what you said, you basically undid all of the days 'dread' or 'dngaf' work, by giving away your weakness. ​ u/frozenpond's answer is spot on.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/06/19 11:03 PM
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"No thanks, that's too frustrating at this point, let's go to bed instead" this still tells her she has the power
/r/MarriedRedPill04/06/19 10:02 AM
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It's not even Wednesday.
/r/askMRP03/06/19 01:00 PM
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The shame is a reaction to your weak frame, not the cause. If lifting is the cornerstone of your physical transformation, frame is the cornerstone of your mental transformation. It's all in the sidebar, start from the beginning.
/r/askMRP01/06/19 01:06 AM
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Just put it all out there and basically be like this me, idgaf take it or leave it. ​ Nice. this statement sums up up how you should handle the whole relationship. Your fear of her approval / rejection is your most beta trait . Man up. BTW no-one here cares if you take viagra / want anal etc - cause it makes for better sex. Don't admit to it like a scared child. Own it. Pop the pill in front of her and tell her its game on. Hunt her ass like a lion hunts a deer. Afterwards when she asks about it…
/r/askMRP30/05/19 11:42 PM
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Did you end up confessing to the Viagra saga?
/r/askMRP30/05/19 07:41 AM
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I declared this marriage dead. au contraire I’m giving this until my 38th birthday ​ Y'know, its not the whole 1n-count hypergamous wife thing that bothers me, its the fact that she is willing to drop 'openly cheating' on her religious husband. Think about that as a measure of value you have for her. She is willing to risk the shame and upheaval of divorce to have a crack at some rando she just met on the other coast. ​ OUCH
/r/askMRP29/05/19 11:50 PM
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i don't mean physically pre-occupied, i mean mentally. You know when you talk to someone who is reading the paper, and they are only half listening? ​ That should be you with your wife
/r/MarriedRedPill29/05/19 02:31 AM
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between your post on dripping cum and this, too much push not enough pull. You want this compliance / submission either too much or she knows it and is maintaining control over you with it. Do women really just keep drinking cum like salty oysters until they like the taste or do they just pretend to like it to please their man? IME they like the validation of pleasing you by doing this. Unless they are very hungry lol
/r/MarriedRedPill29/05/19 12:07 AM
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Good work for recognizing your mistakes. Give yourself some time and space to make your corrections / personal goals and just slightly 'check out' at home. Don't be absent, just less invested in her and her responses to you. ​ It should come across as 'pre-occupied', for a few weeks at least.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/05/19 11:48 PM
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Do you see how these two statements are connected? every single time I went away, she would come to find me not long after. She was getting horny as hell ​ If your relationship is in half decent shape, the balance in power is easily flipped, even if only slightly. What once was an annoying husband following her around is now a slight concern over his disinterest and new found independence. It doesn't take much sometimes. ​ Whats the guys trip?
/r/MarriedRedPill28/05/19 11:35 PM
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I want to be able to be satisfied with my life on my death bed This is not a mission its too vague
/r/MarriedRedPill28/05/19 11:21 PM
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Ok gonna shoot from the hip with a bit of armchair psychology here.... ​ Pretty obvious to me that the fear of "negative emotions" from LTR is in fact fear of rejection. Fine. But, rejection is only an issue to you because of your deeper underlying fear of being alone. Thanks, Mom. ​ You need to address your fear of being alone. ​ .
/r/askMRP28/05/19 11:15 PM
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Yes. You should know that having read so much mrp. Just like a good diet, regular lifting is good for your body but also your mind. Commitment, self control, confidence. Sore muscles are good for nervousness and anxiety too.
/r/askMRP28/05/19 11:03 PM
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Maybe marry her but never have sex. It's win win
/r/MarriedRedPill27/05/19 10:17 AM
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You're the prize. She just won. Act like that.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/05/19 11:30 PM
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Should I man up and confess to the viagra? You are asking the internet site about owning your shit if you should own your shit ​ Or just stop taking it and keep improving and not go thru with that shitty conversation? You are scared to have a conversation with your wife ​ No wife wants to think their husband needs viagra to fuck them. Correct, yet you do, at 36. ​ Just ask yourself what kind of man you want to be and do that. It sounds like you have a combination of addictive personality and val…
/r/askMRP23/05/19 01:17 AM
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Your post is full of contradictions... 1) you describe yourself as a jacked "9", yet at 36 you take two drugs designed for old men. 2) you describe you wife as "no sexual complaints" and then " sex is different and she doesn't like it". 3) your bullish frame shatters when wife says you're gay for wanting anal (previous post). But you do you bro - your inner torment between what you think you are and what you really are is visible. Just be the man you want to be.
/r/askMRP23/05/19 12:08 AM
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Sounds to me like you have paved the way for a one sided open relationship.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/05/19 11:48 PM
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She liked the pic a lot so I told her to send me one of her body later... surprise me. She said “OK, I will! “. She never does. .... I sperg out This is a textbook covert contract.
/r/askMRP20/05/19 05:17 AM
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You made her uncomfortable either during sex or in the convo after. She shut you down I don't think it was quite the 'charm' you thought it was. SMV too low, girlfriend.
/r/askMRP19/05/19 11:05 AM
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My question is at what point do you cut losses? ahem.... now.
/r/askMRP15/05/19 05:08 AM
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Personally i come from some weird dimension where she gets to make her own choices - And fortunately so do i (consequences). In this alternate reality, the best result you hope for is for her to make a decision that matches yours, on her own. This ideal outcome eventuates when she values your decision above hers, or she miraculously came to the same conclusion (such as for example, that she would not want you to do the 4 day thing either). ​ values your decision above hers ...
/r/askMRP15/05/19 05:05 AM
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Yes. They are called sport groups. Hunting, surfing, lumberjacking. Whatever floats your boat. When you're sitting around the fire or in the club at the end of the day, you'll get what you need.
/r/askMRP09/05/19 08:05 PM
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Dude, my wife is a bit like this. You have to stop giving a fuck. It is literally the only way out. Answer any of her shit with 'ok...'.
/r/askMRP09/05/19 08:00 PM
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I agree with the above answer. But ( cause this shit will continue), don't be shy to throw the odd roar around. Just do it without emotion, and with authority. A baby signals the passing of the baton to you in the family heirarchy....if you are worthy of it. Your house, your wife, your cub....
/r/askMRP08/05/19 07:14 AM
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Take the poison out of the insult. "Maybe I am but I'm stuck with your ass" Don't let mommy hurt your feelings.
/r/askMRP01/05/19 03:05 AM
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Great summary. The irony of dread in marriage.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/04/19 10:52 PM
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Lots of crap tactical stuff lately... Touche
/r/MarriedRedPill29/04/19 10:09 AM
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all of the standard stuff including ILYBINILWY. That's not standard stuff. That's game over stuff.
/r/askMRP28/04/19 07:46 AM
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You have bigger fish to fry right now. Get things under control and return when you are up for it. Bad anxiety must be close to the complete opposite of frame.
/r/askMRP27/04/19 10:47 AM
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Women make rules for betas and break rules for alphas. Remember that.
/r/askMRP27/04/19 08:02 AM
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Even when the regulars make this joke it is lame.
/r/askMRP19/04/19 10:57 AM
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I didn't realise it at the time but somewhere in the middle, I had a main event Dude, it's supposed to be her that has the main event 😆
/r/askMRP13/04/19 10:26 PM
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Sorry to hear of your situation, I'm going to leave that part alone. You're still full of fear, which I understand, but you are coming off needy. Personally my guess is once you fully accept the illness, your situation will get better because you will have beaten your fear, and THEN you'll get your frame back. Good job on owning it by posting btw. Next step, give into it and own it for reelz. Just like u/johneyapocalypse has . Then, be that guy everyone is in awe of cause he's dealing with serio…
/r/askMRP13/04/19 05:50 AM
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Great post.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/04/19 02:58 AM
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yes fair enough. I was focusing on the holding-back, but you are right about it being an excuse.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/04/19 12:09 AM
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Not in my parts, more off-hand derogatory statement
/r/MarriedRedPill11/04/19 11:29 AM
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I get more enjoyment in a 5-10 second conversation exchange with a female receptionist than I do engaging in any sort of conversation with my wife. Yes been there, mentally isolate yourself from her ( I think you already are), and fill your life with other activities, like pleasure from receptionists. It sounds less than ideal right now.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/04/19 11:28 AM
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Yes, it happened, sex came back Like a boss!
/r/MarriedRedPill11/04/19 11:11 AM
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Yes. Fear. They see it in your eyes when you feel it, they see it in your eyes once you're back from beating it. You can't fake that shit.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/04/19 09:56 AM
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How would you like to get clawed in the vagina from some Neanderthal? Absolute Gold.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/04/19 02:34 AM
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this isn't rocket science , people. No, its more like setting off fireworks in the park, you have no idea what is actually going to happen despite your best intentions, and at some point or another there will be lots of noise and colourful explosions.
/r/askMRP10/04/19 12:29 AM
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Sounds good homie. You sound a bit like a checkbox kinda guy, so just be wary that she won't always give the right answer back like a computer. Put some focus back on yourself. Card games and science fairs are cool, but go axe down a tree in the forest or spear a fish in the ocean. Y' know man shit.
/r/askMRP10/04/19 12:16 AM
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This was really interesting until you stopped talking about cars. ​ Personally i think uber has the model down pat. You pay upfront for the ride, but you don't really know anything about the car you're gonna get. And once you're done, you never see that car again.
/r/askMRP08/04/19 11:04 PM
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If she is a plate you don't care what she is doing when you're not connected at the pelvis
/r/askMRP08/04/19 10:57 PM
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Listen to the Scandinavian on this one
/r/askMRP08/04/19 09:38 AM
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Is she Asian?
/r/MarriedRedPill08/04/19 08:21 AM
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Negativity can be fear of under performance or avoiding disappointment / disappointing others. You think / say the worst, and then reality is not so bad, for both you and others. Answer: be more willing to have fuck ups and own it. Report to yourself not others.
/r/askMRP07/04/19 03:11 AM
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How about "we're pregnant". ..?
/r/MarriedRedPill06/04/19 01:19 AM
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I would like to apologize for not reading sidebar.... that's a first.
/r/askMRP05/04/19 08:29 PM
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The stckied post above yours is " we can't answer that". For a good reason. Either follow the mrp sidebar or start again ( break up). It really is that simple.
/r/askMRP04/04/19 03:09 AM
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Solid.
/r/askMRP01/04/19 09:53 AM
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Dear Diary, Ms Rodgers is still in a zombie state in bed. What should i do? Love, Aaron. ​ Dear Aaron, Thanks for the letter, you should encourage your wife to get some professional help. Love, Diary ​ PS. more cuddles and compliments would not go astray
/r/askMRP01/04/19 07:16 AM
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It's not the same type of relationship. She's upset and scared and you are preoccupied with passing shit tests? Remain the stoic steady hand, give here an unbiased view when she asks. Comfort her by telling her none of this is her fault. Don't bag you wife. Disclaimer: I don't have daughters.
/r/MarriedRedPill31/03/19 06:28 AM
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Fuck it man, you're in this deep, just ask her. You fucked this up by showing your insecurities
/r/askMRP31/03/19 06:22 AM
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Sooooooo....... Is OP your dad?
/r/askMRP30/03/19 11:48 PM
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Stop caring if she says no.
/r/askMRP30/03/19 03:28 AM
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Bail. It's only going to get worse... you've cast this beta relationship in concrete for 4 years. Sure maybe after 20 more she'll believe all your changes are real.
/r/askMRP29/03/19 10:36 PM
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I'll play. ​ 1) 'innnocent until proven guilty'. I know thats against the grain around here. 2) Bide your time. Give your hamster some opium and work on yourself. ​ As fucked up as your situation is, there is very little evidence for physical cheating. Who the fuck, is going cheat in a car out the front of your own house.And then introduce the buddy. Thats retard level 11. If she has cheated, it wasn't in the car on those occasions. Girls are way more covert than that . The 'not much in common t…
/r/askMRP28/03/19 02:00 AM
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You, dog, kids, wife. That's all you needed to say.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/03/19 11:20 AM
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I very nearly referenced both you and u/johneyapocalypse in the text of this post. I only did not to leave it in its clean essay format.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/03/19 12:47 AM
1

Just fatten her up, so y'know, she's less attractive
/r/MarriedRedPill22/03/19 11:10 AM
1

i always knew I was a 0.05%er
/r/MarriedRedPill22/03/19 04:46 AM
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yes that is a good point. In an ever decreasing pool of real men, who is going to teach? Its like in 'the last Jedi" when luke dies, there are none left. Although ironically it is a girl who is 'secretly' skilled to take over. So in years to come, look out for the fall of the last "Red Beret", with a female replacement. ​ Irony is i love teaching my boys this stuff, its very natural. Subtle comments like "that's a pretty swimsuit". BOOM, new synapse. ​ ​
/r/askMRP21/03/19 11:53 PM
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You don't. You find an activitiy that combines skill, strength (or fitness), and instills at least some fear, preferably a lot. You go find a group, if you like them, you join up. Do you talk about MRP directly? No. ​ Hike, hunt, surf, bike, martial arts, ball sports that are played on grass. There are others of course. Every so often you should return home thinking "fuck i am glad i made it out of that".
/r/askMRP21/03/19 11:08 PM
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Do schools need to start teaching basic decision-making skills? No. Boys need to be taught how to be men, by men, not that 23 year old female school teacher who is wondering how to integrate 'toxic masculinity' into the curriculum. I can kinda see the place for compulsory military training, that, y'know, china korea etc all do.
/r/askMRP21/03/19 11:02 PM
2

Someone has his philosophy on
/r/askMRP21/03/19 07:52 AM
1

LOL.
/r/askMRP21/03/19 07:52 AM
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You are over complicating what is a definition of a "state of mind" By comparison: The definition of "comfort" is - A lack of discomfort So as per your comment, whats the metric, "comfort" or "discomfort" and how does it differ?
/r/MarriedRedPill18/03/19 12:02 AM
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I miss the good old days when a man showed respect to those who deserve it, and earnt it through his actions. Too much me me me here, this is a mental ego post that rivals a tweeny posting a selfie. Show some respect.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/03/19 09:07 AM
1

Ok, sounds good.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/03/19 06:10 AM
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Some cultures teach women to be women and men to be men. Others tell us we are all the same. Option 1, is a natural red pill environment, like eastern Europe, maybe Asia, so you don't have to try so hard. They want to be submissive.
/r/askMRP15/03/19 08:51 AM
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Hmm there is a song about wanting what you can't have. And another about how you can't always get what you want. But if you try sometimes.....
/r/askMRP15/03/19 08:48 AM
2

Do you caffeine....bro?
/r/askMRP15/03/19 08:43 AM
2

Totally agree. No matter what you're are doing, you can trace it to achieving happiness as the outcome. It's what I proposed as 60dod topic. We should split it.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/03/19 03:35 AM
1

oh yeah, sorry, reminded me of Rollo's last post. The world is just so retarded sometimes.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/03/19 02:36 AM
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Happiness as a part of one's mission is under-rated and not discussed enough. ​ Everything we do is in the pursuit of happiness: sex, relationships, sports, fitness, money.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/03/19 02:33 AM
2

listen to your gut and don't second guess it with your retarded posts seeking validation / confirmation on ask / mrp. ​
/r/MarriedRedPill15/03/19 02:29 AM
1

That's just retarded.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/03/19 09:52 AM
3

Yes being just being friendly ---- vs ---- flirting is just spectrum. I am cool with not trying, but you should be a little bit flirty naturally.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/03/19 09:51 AM
2

She swears she hates it This absolutely encapsulates the female brain. She doesn't hate it, she hates that you over rode her process about it. It's not the rack, it's how you did it. Next time, either don't give her a choice, or leave it 100% to her.
/r/askMRP09/03/19 09:30 AM
1

Jack10s post on luxury goods is excellent.
/r/askMRP08/03/19 06:30 AM
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I like it because of the message it sends. With international womens day tomorrow, i think the perception in society of gender issues has started to change. ​ The message i get from this outfit is that what used to be "why can't women have what men have", is a subtle shift towards men saying, "ok, well we want the best of what you have too" ​
/r/MarriedRedPill06/03/19 02:32 AM
1

Did you miss my post on the 6-layer method for keeping things simple?
/r/MarriedRedPill06/03/19 01:51 AM
4

She says hi.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/03/19 11:05 PM
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I love writing in my spare time. Fortunately I like scrolling 😉
/r/MarriedRedPill05/03/19 11:01 PM
2

Your post could have been called "Wife made me realise I don't give comfort mode" ​ Joke aside it is an important point. When the heat is on, giving comfort REALLY DOES feel like giving in, whether it is giving in to her behaviour in the moment, or her perspective on the whole issue. Giving comfort at these times is like being nice to your enemy. I think we all know that there is beta based ego driving that feeling, because she is not your enemy. The more alpha view is that comfort is part of wh…
/r/askMRP03/03/19 10:55 PM
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well you're a wordsmith and you write in a way that follows your thoughts. I like that. Red is kinda the opposite. Adds value though, but maybe i just I miss 88will88. Seems we are short on 'hardcore reds' atm.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/03/19 06:14 AM
2

i kind of see emotions as a subset of frame. Lately I have been working on my freediving - breath hold is a classic example of mind over matter. You get the feeling / urge to breathe, but you don't need to. Feelings say one thing, mind says another. Mind over matter. I think that's what you are saying. I also think that is what u/red-sfpplus is saying too.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/03/19 05:53 AM
1

where is the anger in his post?
/r/MarriedRedPill01/03/19 05:48 AM
1

I get the drift but the race issue is the same as the height issue (or any other). Its a disadvantage (from female perspective). Doesn't mean you can't work with it, as you suggest, but it is still a disadvantage. We all have them.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/03/19 05:44 AM
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I will rise from the ashes and fuck again YEEEAAAAHH! You could do a 60DoD piece on comittment, or motivation, or both :) Personally in your position I would be paying an occasional visit to the appropriate establishment. If you get my drift.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/03/19 05:33 AM
1

Yes that's fair enough. Luckily you know what to do about it
/r/MarriedRedPill28/02/19 08:46 AM
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I was just using Rambo as a term for rapid change
/r/askMRP28/02/19 12:55 AM
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Well i totally respect your commitment to diet, training etc. But there is a big ass elephant in your room. What are you doing about it? Don't want to give you a hard time, but you are on the sexual strategy reddit.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/02/19 10:14 PM
1

getting any yet?
/r/MarriedRedPill27/02/19 05:10 AM
1

don't hesitate to ask for 50% upfront for clients who aren't paying. ​ Doing so is leadership, just like you should be showing in your relationship.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/02/19 05:03 AM
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Saying that reinforces my previous comment. It's new, she doesn't know what to make of it. Especially in the context that you used to be so reliant on her. It's dngaf Rambo.
/r/askMRP27/02/19 02:37 AM
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That's Rambo. It doesn't have to be crazy anger. 6 weeks is not long to bring in all this change. Sounds to me like you dngaf too much of the time. She wants a response, cue drama.
/r/askMRP27/02/19 02:35 AM
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Personally I think kids are way smarter and more intuitive than people give credit for. They won't be swayed just cause mommy is a bit angry right now. If your relationship with them is strong, don't worry so much that she will ' turn the kids against me'.
/r/askMRP27/02/19 02:30 AM
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Dude, i dislike going against the grain but here we are. The other lads have your answer nailed, but if your intuition says to get away from this woman for a bit, do it. I mean from an emotional, validation type of perspective. It can be a good start towards the independence you need. NoFap is mostly a mindset change, in the same way as any addiction must be addressed. Everything in moderation etc. But take your sex break for the right reasons, which is so you have a break from the circus to imp…
/r/askMRP26/02/19 10:13 AM
2

I would consider a piece on the pursuit of happiness. Not in terms of 'recovering from depression', more in terms of 'monk who sold his ferarri'. A bit of minimalism, a touch of spirituality (not religion).
/r/MarriedRedPill25/02/19 10:16 AM
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Was the soap for the ex only, or is it sent out to a bunch of people? Although I stand alone on this issue based on other posts, I see no reason to post soap to an ex. I see no reason for my wife to even know where an ex lives.... So why is she posting the soap?
/r/askMRP24/02/19 10:36 AM
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Not anti this but you are just reinforcing the safety factor of beta. Let's be honest, drugs / jail or not, she fantasies about this music Chad. But like you say, they all do. Op's problem is that is a little closer to home / to visible. He wants her to fantasise about him. Is that possible? No, not really, unless he gets a motorbike etc. Even then. No. So this is a mind play. Op needs enough validation that it's not an issue. He probably tries for anal to get it. Maybe swallow. Either way, OP, …
/r/askMRP24/02/19 10:04 AM
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very nice
/r/askMRP21/02/19 05:19 AM
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Good one for knowing a lot of what you have to do. But above all, get it clear in your head, this is about you and it takes time. Lots of time. All the stfu and lifting, yep, do it. Read it all. Read Steels post and all the links a hundred times. ​ Have a think about what it is you actually want to become as a man, what YOUR goal? It should be amongst other things to get to the point where you know your ok if you split up. Looks and frame in check so you can pick up. Finances in order. Healthy. …
/r/askMRP21/02/19 04:50 AM
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Solid honesty. Your divorce journey has sounded a bit too easy to me. Respect.
/r/askMRP21/02/19 04:25 AM
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A friend mine is struggling because his girlfriend was with another guy we know in the past. Is he better off for not knowing? I see this question as the same issue. You know she is sleeping around. The problem is you have a visual / it's that bit more real. I get that.
/r/askMRP21/02/19 03:43 AM
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Ok, fair points. I do think your original post would be confusing to a new mrper.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/02/19 08:24 PM
4

I see this as a weakness. You can't socialize with other men? Who do you go to the strippers with?
/r/MarriedRedPill20/02/19 09:09 AM
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Respect to you reach, but that's fuckin gay. Are you saying you can't make a boys trip work? At worst a boys trip should make you pleased to be at home, away from the heathens.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/02/19 09:07 AM
1

How would someone like me find people like you to support me and push me even though I’m a currently a fucking chump? It comes from within.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/02/19 08:59 AM
2

If these things worry you, you have bigger issues with lack of frame. And / or you get toasted by wns.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/02/19 08:56 AM
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Excellent. Read up on the post that defines the stoic mindset. And question the impact of the gear on your levels of anxiety.
/r/askMRP20/02/19 12:40 AM
4

Neediness, or oneitis comes from your fear you will lose her. But your fear is coming from something else. What are you afraid of?
/r/askMRP20/02/19 12:03 AM
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Every time a fight starts, go out. Even if you win, you lose. Acta non verba. Every time.
/r/askMRP19/02/19 10:21 PM
2

It kinda depends on how much she likes your seamen. And also how good you are with your "oar".
/r/askMRP19/02/19 10:16 PM
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Start emotionally and physically detaching from her. This is core. It's way harder than you think, especially with your Disney history
/r/askMRP19/02/19 09:28 AM
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It's a worthwhile mental positioning statement., Like stfu
/r/askMRP13/02/19 03:04 AM
2

Contribution has been valued. Your reality is pretty close to mine.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/02/19 11:33 AM
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she has to say no as opposed to saying yes. Subtle but mighty
/r/askMRP04/02/19 09:06 PM
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If you would not prefer to be on your own after that, it's a pretty sure sign of oneitis, desperation, neediness and low self respect
/r/askMRP01/02/19 05:55 AM
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. If they start complaining about not spending time with me, I let them go. So a girl showing her interest in the way they know how is instant game over. ? Makes no sense to me.
/r/askMRP30/01/19 08:36 PM
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Read this - a top post by u/ReddJive https://www.reddit.com/r/marriedredpill/comments/9bivv4/youre_being_cucked_what_do_you_do_about_it/ ​ But in short: Yes its your ego, and hamster. There is too much scaremongering on here about cheating for my liking. We don't know your wife, her history, yours... There is just as much chance she cheated at a completely different time, than when you reference. Sure, strange behaviour needs monitoring. But maybe an old flame was trying to get it on with her, a…
/r/askMRP29/01/19 11:06 PM
2

If you read simbarlion chapter 2, passage 2-6, you will see it says: FUCK THAT
/r/MarriedRedPill25/01/19 03:43 AM
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I think your problem is you are viewing this from a man's perspective. You should be looking at it from a woman's perspective. Fuck, I think you are supposed to BE a woman these days #metoo. So once you correct your perspective, you will see all the talking is the best way to make useless husband do chores. Occasionally pepper in some sex, and your relationship will be cooked nicely. Serves 1.
/r/askMRP24/01/19 03:01 AM
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Chores and childcare is not good enough.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/01/19 11:03 PM
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I'm kind of lost as to how to get my head on straight and out of my ass. You don't say much about getting out of the house. Yea it's hard with a 7 Mo but just get the fuck out of there from time to time. It's like STFU on steroids.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/01/19 10:51 AM
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Equilibrium in nature is rare, so if you're happy chances are she is less happy than you think. And that's when she starts to seek change. May not apply to you but is common. There is definitely a trend here of 40 - 45 year old stuck in grind/ going beta with kids growing/ bored wife so keep yourself on track
/r/askMRP18/01/19 05:26 AM
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Anyhow I'll school myself and be back here to chime in about shit when I can. I'm sure you guys will learn to love me. PAGING MODS.... We need a killer flair here. Personally I'd go for 'that snowflake' or 'gay unicorn v2'
/r/askMRP17/01/19 08:27 AM
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I'm there dude. What brings you here? did you have a question?
/r/askMRP16/01/19 09:41 PM
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You tell us the lightbulb has gone off (on?) about your oneitis and neediness, but your whole post is about how to get her to value you. Answer: Seek a place in life (mission) with confidence (frame) you are a man of value (alpha). If she comes, she comes. If not, you will have other options. ​ it is all in the sidebar. Read WOTSM and MODELS
/r/askMRP16/01/19 09:31 PM
1

Bit surprised this survived the gauntlet
/r/MarriedRedPill15/01/19 11:29 PM
3

Cause of too many exclamation marks?
/r/askMRP14/01/19 06:21 AM
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She probably saw a cool looking apartment on Instagram, 5 min before hand
/r/askMRP14/01/19 05:45 AM
3

And it was 10 years ago
/r/MarriedRedPill06/01/19 11:03 PM
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if you can't own your shit and burn it all down if the wife catches wind, and she will, you're not ready for this Aka If you can't do the time, don't do the crime.
/r/askMRP06/01/19 01:23 AM
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Outstanding research. I would like to add for any newbies some meta to this amazing detail based on my experiences. 1) MRP provides skills and advice. Lift, STFU dread, game, frame, OYS, etc. It goes on. You need these skills. But, 2) MRP cannot fight your internal battles with lack of sex, validation, neediness, attempts to change 'her', fears of divorce, cheating or loneliness. 1 by itself won't solve 2. You're on that path alone. Face your fears.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/01/19 10:11 PM
1

This shift was massive for me too. 1) you are in this alone 2) frame is everything. Even dread is mostly temporary. TWOTSM is an excellent book for this
/r/askMRP04/01/19 09:09 PM
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Unlike most of the boring worthless “men” here on MRP who are dominated by the world and their wife K
/r/MarriedRedPill30/12/18 10:41 AM
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I get it. I'm like this too. Firstly it's not a weakness to seek affection. But it can be - you need to separate the 'needing mommy', from the just being a bit more 'touchy feely' kinda guy.That's 90% of it. The other 10% is holding frame, and reminding yourself that your there for her to be affectionate with you. Not the other way around. Do it cause you want it, not cause you need it and you'll be fine.
/r/askMRP30/12/18 10:24 AM
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It’s still fresh 8 months in but I am holding strong. You are still in honeymoon mode. She's not behaving the way she will once you are married. Your babble might satisfy her now but will erode her view of you as alpha over time.
/r/askMRP27/12/18 10:07 AM
2

You are doing the whole ' lead a horse to water' thing.
/r/askMRP22/12/18 09:45 PM
2

Top shelf and very accurate
/r/MarriedRedPill21/12/18 06:55 AM
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I’m asking here because the lot of you seem to be actual alpha, so what better place? Oh stop it...! (But seriously, keep going)
/r/askMRP21/12/18 06:30 AM
2

If that's true then hypergamy is just natural selection against low T. Seems plausible
/r/askMRP21/12/18 06:28 AM
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Don't mean to rock the apple cart here, but I cannot believe how many mrpers are on trt. I'd never really heard of it before finding this place.
/r/askMRP20/12/18 11:16 PM
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Anyone can see this is about her lack of submission to you, not the bj. And she drew a clear boundary when she told you to leave to be happy. I'm guessing you are not ready to cross that boundary, so you are kind of fucked. Checkmate.
/r/askMRP19/12/18 03:16 AM
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Its a misconception that dread = more sex / variety. Dread is really felt as fear. Fight or flight. Theoretically, Fight (for you) =~ more sex. Not 100% sure what is going on in flight mode. Maybe withhold sex and see if he still loves me. Maybe up the comfort tests. ​ ​
/r/askMRP14/12/18 11:23 PM
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TBH I've read so much it's just mushed into 1 big pile of unrefined crap DNGAF/ OI is your best friend then.
/r/askMRP13/12/18 01:36 AM
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there is a good post about the train driver and the taxi driver Be the train driver ​ username was robert something
/r/askMRP13/12/18 01:26 AM
2

Well then you are being gay, and if you call it next time she will just tell you she had to work late.
/r/askMRP11/12/18 10:24 AM
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You're right to feel that way, the problem is the line between mateguarding and dngaf is infinitely thin. Fwiw, my boundary would be that it's ok to catch up with old co-workers, occasionally, up to say 9 or , 10pm.
/r/askMRP10/12/18 02:19 AM
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I like to sail close up to the wind from time to time... Did so in high school too. I did year 9 English class from the hall. But one needs to know when to pull back. Y'know, like the withdrawal method.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/11/18 01:34 AM
1

Just go back to back with a single life post.
/r/askMRP12/11/18 12:52 AM
3

Medium is the message. Look it up.
/r/askMRP04/11/18 12:41 AM
2

Regardless of the fat / sex issue, you got to deal with the validation...how? Be a fucking man. OYS. Abort this shit show as the ultimate act of Independence and self respect.
/r/askMRP02/11/18 10:14 PM
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it is a contract renegotiation. She feels what she is giving is not worth it. Buyers remorse. ​
/r/askMRP31/10/18 11:39 PM
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i think that was the dude.
/r/askMRP29/10/18 07:16 AM
1

Well what is nice is you can give that a shot. I'd be hammering strange fwiw.
/r/askMRP29/10/18 07:00 AM
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if you're not ready to nuke the marriage, take the win in the offer, and leave it at that. Otherwise there is a fuckload of room to move in the statement "its your life". Because its your life. Its ending one day at a time.
/r/askMRP29/10/18 06:57 AM
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sex with her. If you look at the relationship, she gave away her right to you in marriage. You are offering you in partnership. Its a financial and logistical arrangement. So go back 'there', refers to sex with her as you will confuse the relationship. An affair is a deal breaker for me. I would rather be poor and have my honour than living some fake existence with a cheater. She crossed the line that firmly says, "i don't love you, i don't respect you etc". Do you really want to be around that?…
/r/askMRP29/10/18 02:18 AM
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can't answer on marriage 3.0, but i assume it is where the man gets the benefits of the system . ​ I am curious as to the lack of commentary on YOUR sex life. If you can remain emotionally detached, why can't you remain "in business" with your hoe and enjoy endless pussy on the side? I would be including in the deal that you are free to crush whatever / whenever you want. And for what it is worth i would not go back 'there'. You're in contract negotiation. I'd be pulling out all the demands now.…
/r/askMRP29/10/18 12:40 AM
1

You tell us you're a textbook case... good, the textbook answer is the answer.
/r/askMRP27/10/18 10:40 PM
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can say with certainty that some women do not respond to dread in the MRP predicted fashion. Yes. So true. My conclusion is they don't see the link aka hamster lost in maze. But even overt statements don't seem to clear it up. Just shouting ' more dread' is not going to help this one. And welcome back nec.
/r/askMRP27/10/18 07:53 AM
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I love oral, she know this. No BJ's for the first 17 years You are trying to cross her long-standing boundary. You have. But she is trying to maintain it. Dread will help, but the truth here is your trying to make a leopard change it's spots. It will be a constant battle. One you already lost 16 years ago
/r/askMRP26/10/18 10:19 PM
1

This man speaks the truth.
/r/askMRP26/10/18 09:30 AM
2

I tell all my boys their wives used to be strippers.
/r/askMRP25/10/18 04:40 AM
2

Aside from perhaps some latent anger towards her, the detachment you describe (or new found independence) is in fact a pre-requisite for maintaining a red pill relationship. You unplug, and see the reality, or you don't. And when you do, you can't unsee the truth. Its just like seeing the hot office chick with no makeup. Damage is done. ​ If it helps, just remember the new way you see your own wife, would also apply to any other girl. Your wife has not changed, you have.
/r/askMRP24/10/18 11:16 PM
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It would appear I have entered a new dimension where both OP and commenter (u/alphasixfour) are highly intelligent, rational, and well spoken. Bravo chaps. Bravo.
/r/askMRP24/10/18 10:57 PM
1

Maybe they could watch mad men. Ohhhh Betty. She's hot.
/r/askMRP24/10/18 10:58 AM
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well i am the wrong person to talk to about acting on a whim. If you broke up or cheated, could you pull something tomorrow? ​ What is BPD? and how does it impact the process? ​
/r/askMRP24/10/18 04:39 AM
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I think he is a subscriber of the fraternity of excellence.
/r/askMRP24/10/18 04:26 AM
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good work. It is common to have some quick results, the hard work proving you really are different follows. All you have done is presented yourself as a slightly less unnattractive husband. She is having a hypergamous mental orgasm over your new you-ness To answer your question sensibly, just say without being cagey that you've been busy. Keep it super open. I would not even mention the gym or anything. The hamster runs its best with little to no food. You have a lot of shit to do etc. There is …
/r/askMRP24/10/18 04:24 AM
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Just a technicality, but killing the puppy refers to you pulling the trigger when she loaded the gun. Ie, she wants it to end, but can't do it herself. You sound angry and impatient.you sound like that guy Rambo.
/r/askMRP23/10/18 08:58 PM
1

This is way more common than you think.
/r/askMRP23/10/18 08:51 PM
1

Edit, I see you are referring to assets, not salary. i think you are ok to make decisions about how your inheritance is used.... But once you liquidate to buy a house etc... It's become 50/50. Sounds like your man is not up to speed. Focus on getting him up to speed, not retaining control. You never know, one day he might be in charge of medical decision s etc. Do you want to be 'team' then?
/r/MarriedRedPill23/10/18 09:59 AM
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My wife earns more than me, although we started off pretty even. She gets bonuses etc. We both know the value I bring outside salary... I handle everything, she literally just works. I transfer our money around as required she barely knows. She trusts me fully. I do the right thing. Often give her a token congratulations for the bonuses, 4 flowers from the garden etc. And if she feels strongly about how the money is spent, we usually go with it. But to be clear, I handle finances 98%. If she sug…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/10/18 09:46 AM
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I want to start lifting and reading the books, and I want to start now. Excellent! - 'Models' by mark manson is a very easy start to understand relationship dynamics. It explains basic traits of 'being attractive' in the context of being a man at large, not being a man in a damaged relationship.. It is only mildly 'red pill' though. ​
/r/askMRP23/10/18 05:40 AM
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I expect everyone our age What are you dating old witches for?
/r/askMRP23/10/18 03:22 AM
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The sub is for questions related to MRP. Asking if this sub is for him is the same as going into a bicycle shop and asking if they think he should get a bike. Now, if he goes into the shop and explains his issues and needs, I am sure the store people will help him choose a bike to suit. ​
/r/askMRP23/10/18 03:18 AM
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What the fuck is with you fuckers asking us if this sub is for you. Do you want me to tell you if you should drive a toyota or a ford? You say you have been lurking yet you have not worked out that you should read the library of books before starting with such retarded questions. You lurk yet you don't lift and haven't read the books = GTFO
/r/askMRP22/10/18 11:09 PM
1

OP needs some flair. Just saying.
/r/askMRP22/10/18 11:04 PM
1

Now she’s gone I’m wondering if I she made the right choice She did
/r/askMRP22/10/18 11:03 PM
3

The pure MRPist would pursue whatever is necessary to achieve the desired outcome. - Usually called 'hardcore red'. Usually related to more sex. But, the vast majority have woken up (been woken by an event) to the realisation that society has sold them the blue pill when they are hardwired for the red pill, and are making changes to correct this. Resultant shades of Red vary wildly. Although most people start here due to dissatisfaction with their marriage, most stick around because they realise…
/r/askMRP22/10/18 03:31 AM
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He's asking the internet if he should cheat.
/r/askMRP22/10/18 01:50 AM
4

Agree.
/r/askMRP22/10/18 01:49 AM
2

A+ We should all be responding with this dichotomous view more often.
/r/askMRP22/10/18 01:39 AM
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90%+ your wife will follow you and desire you. we must be reading different subs
/r/askMRP22/10/18 01:35 AM
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"Spinning plates" generally refers to "doing" the plate. If so, you have mostly given up on the marriage, which is maintained for the kids, or general appearances. Wife may or may not know. "Abundance" is the term for plates you don't "do" - this is excellent for a marriage - its called dread. Get some ​ Some people cross the line in order to maintain the marriage, but is fraught with difficulty in maintaining happiness amongst all parties involved.
/r/askMRP22/10/18 01:32 AM
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she has started dressing more revealing and going out with friends more often to drink and what not. BRO. Actions not words. Massive red flag here. She's on the market and your back in competition. How you want to play?
/r/askMRP21/10/18 06:44 AM
5

. Do you think hand pain is a valid reason to not have sex? Yes. For a short period. But let's be honest it is clearly an excuse. Follow the formula, you already know reduced time together improves things
/r/askMRP18/10/18 12:27 AM
1

Well thank fuck for that. Sometimes you can't fix broken. Spend the time on yourself and make a better life. Only then will you have the relationship you want.
/r/askMRP18/10/18 12:22 AM
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Sex life is IV drip to keep me around And I'm good with where I'm at and staying the course What gives. How's this progressing?
/r/MarriedRedPill16/10/18 11:01 AM
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This is just attraction 101. 2yr LTR makes you boring, predictable. She doesn't NEED to do that anymore - you hang around provisioning anyway. What do you do about loss of attraction? Dread - remember the first few steps of dread are nothing to do with proving you're a player who can crush pussy, it is about being high value. Man of action, you're busy, connected, in demand. You're the boyfriend her friends dote on.
/r/askMRP16/10/18 04:29 AM
2

Ego is a mother fucker. yes. And it creeps in without you knowing.
/r/askMRP16/10/18 04:22 AM
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Absolutely spot on. I would add, it's your ego ( she only deserves my shitty mode) and covert contracts ( she should be the one to make up) that stop you resetting.
/r/askMRP15/10/18 08:58 AM
1

Same question posted to 21 subs... Real like Milli Vanilli.
/r/askMRP14/10/18 11:25 AM
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Almost like she wanted me to find out rather than serve me. Translation: Something something kill puppy.
/r/askMRP12/10/18 07:33 PM
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Yet we normally say if she is upfront about it they are not
/r/askMRP12/10/18 01:57 AM
1

Dude, it's a fair question and the best response is different depending on where you are at with rp. As a newborn, you handled it fine, but as you grow you'll 'win' more.
/r/askMRP12/10/18 01:53 AM
1

Ongoing discomfort about their relationship. I ended up rationalizing it as a bit of a beta orbiter, as I was insecure. I'm pretty confident it was in my head. She travels for work so anything could have happened anyway. The point is you will never know and you can't control it. The best advice I got is to look for signs of loyalty, not of infidelity. Most of what you say sounds pretty lightweight. Sounds like a career focussed girl with a close connection to a colleague ( like me). I got enough…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/10/18 04:38 AM
1

Been here, got the T-shirt. If she's committed to her job, she won't risk the affair. Sure maybe it's an emotional affair, but maybe your blue pill ass took her there. There is literally nothing you can do except work on yourself. If you have too, highlight how it looks bad for her TOO HER COLLEAGUES. If it's believable, say one of her colleGues said something. She may not realize how it looks, or might be talking her self ut of how it looks. The younger female business types seem to latch on to…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/10/18 02:21 AM
2

Yeah, cool. Mr Chad's comment was a shit test. Look it up if not familiar. his comment was to test you for a reaction. You failed. I was just trying to point that out.
/r/askMRP10/10/18 10:05 PM
5

And yes, on rare occasion, male homosapien will disregard societal order and say whatever the fuck he is thinking. Fuck I used to love Gary Larson
/r/askMRP10/10/18 01:51 AM
3

Send a series of secret admirer cards to the house. Enjoy the show of awkward curiosity etc. One a week for say 6 weeks. Depending on your frame, the nice thing here is that once she finds out, all you have done is a nice 'bluepill' treat.
/r/askMRP09/10/18 10:56 PM
1

Yeah it's my mission. Lol
/r/askMRP09/10/18 10:00 PM
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already planning to do I agree if this holds true. Otherwise I totally disagree. In fact I have seen this discussion before...the genuine transformation will only come from within. This view is applied to gambling, alcohol etc. If is going to be a genuine change, he has to come up with it and not be told. Showing him the way might help him start his own journey. But in most cases he will resist You’re shooting yourself in the foot if you try to submit to a non-alpha man. He won’t grow to face th…
/r/askMRP09/10/18 11:26 AM
2

Ok tough guy. I'll await the oys.
/r/askMRP09/10/18 04:11 AM
2

Oh you guys with your fancy red hats....
/r/askMRP09/10/18 01:00 AM
1

Someone tells you to lead - does that make it impossible to lead? Oh the irony of a leader who needs to be told what to do....
/r/askMRP09/10/18 12:59 AM
0

You can't really lead if you're only leading because you're told to lead. Another example: If you tell your wife she should tell you she loves you, does it mean anything when she says it? Etc
/r/askMRP08/10/18 11:16 AM
2

Even if he did it, it is because you told him to. That doesn't work- it's not him being more alpha. It's just him doing what you ask
/r/askMRP08/10/18 07:43 AM
4

Mct is resident towel ass whipper. Although there are others, his whip has the sharpest crack. If your good, he might dish out a nugget of gold for you. So bend over.
/r/askMRP08/10/18 01:21 AM
3

It's fear of the unknown. And yes that is beta.
/r/askMRP08/10/18 01:14 AM
2

If this means laying it out in an email, then fucking own it. Totally agree. So many posters are so scared of being overt. As long as it was clear and unemotional just own it like sh has said. Prizewinners need to work with the rules to win the prize.
/r/askMRP07/10/18 10:19 PM
5

Oh, a question...I thought I was reading a porn script for a minute.... Sounds like she had been waiting for you to man up, and you have, and she is happy. The fact that it has happened quickly is no problem, but pregnancy will change things, so don't get to used to it it is making my surroundings unfamiliar to me What does that mean?
/r/askMRP07/10/18 10:12 PM
2

Well said.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/10/18 10:17 AM
2

Actually I don't think that book is that good.bonce the point is made about 1/3 in, the rest is just carry on to hit home the Same point. Ymmv.
/r/askMRP07/10/18 01:02 AM
2

Your username has me confused
/r/askMRP06/10/18 12:18 PM
16

It's not a game man. She's not a computer, with you trying to push the right buttons. Get your human on. If nothing else try to be a bit more passive. I would AM no more than 1 time per day, but when I do it comes out naturally, and works. Even if you can pull 3 chicks right now, you're just going fuck that up to. Wife is your practice. Keep practicing. It's dudes like you that wind up in 1 year divorced blaming mrp/trp.
/r/askMRP06/10/18 07:18 AM
1

OP, this link is your answer. It's perfectly written. If you need an excuse, just say you got it from a friend, and thought sent it on thinking he would like it.
/r/askMRP06/10/18 12:18 AM
2

You're allowed to not like her. It's common. But you need to have a light at the end of the tunnel. I'm serious about my other comment. Try to switch of emotionally. You need to focus on yourself anyway. A month or two disconnected will do wonders for you both. I don't know how hard your trying, but it is the same advice as to say..." stop trying so hard".
/r/askMRP05/10/18 05:45 AM
2

Do 'mental monk mode'. A period of emotional separation from your wife. Weed out all that shit, like oneitis, arguing, fucks given.
/r/askMRP05/10/18 03:21 AM
2

You sound amazingly like me, with one exception...it doesn't sound like you like her. At all.
/r/askMRP05/10/18 03:18 AM
13

Oh, right. So, does that mean those strippers are only nice to me for my money? Damn.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/10/18 01:48 AM
6

Yes. That link is very "asktrp". "Askmrp" newbies have at some point, managed to convince a woman to ltr or marry. That difference, my friend, distinguishes these valiant young men from the herd /s
/r/askMRP04/10/18 01:38 AM
5

I know it is semantics, but I would draw a line between the average 'nice guy' and this guy, who is omega IMHO. My justification is that a nice guy is a typical misguided normalguy who has the wrong understanding of what women want, and when corrected, will do ok. Whereas this guys is desperate, needy, creepy, stalker like and has covert contracts out all over the place. ​ ​
/r/askMRP03/10/18 11:29 PM
4

Is there hope? Here is your hope... Whether or not this works out, you will be better off for applying MRP. Either your doormat status will disappear and you will be on the road to a happy marriage, OR you will realise you can't lose the doormat status with this one and you will be better off alone. As per others itis not about hope for this shit show of a butlers doormat existence you live, it is about a better future life. TLDR: grow some balls. ​ Final note: SHE will be happier when you get s…
/r/askMRP03/10/18 11:22 PM
2

yes it is interesting the flow of posts coming through. Cant remember the last time there was a chorus of "NEXT", which is my main memory from my early days. ​ ​
/r/askMRP03/10/18 11:17 PM
2

Oma jesus you fucking nailed that man cave thing
/r/askMRP03/10/18 10:19 AM
1

What you are asking is will the change make present happiness > future happiness* * Assumption is more money in future = more future happiness. Please note, above is about you, in isolation from your family and benefits to them. My answer: all the money in the world won't make up for lost happiness. Your regret will only grow
/r/askMRP03/10/18 07:13 AM
1

Any married person drifts through phases where the " outside options " look better than the wife. It comes and goes
/r/askMRP02/10/18 09:40 PM
0

You be still on random mode dude. ¿?¿?¿?
/r/askMRP02/10/18 01:20 PM
2

Age 30, married for almost 4 years, LTR 6 years, no kids Be happy you have the choice. Forget your 20's you did what you did. You found RP at the right time. ​ The hard bit will be making the choice. ​ ​
/r/askMRP02/10/18 06:49 AM
4

And so the student becomes the teacher. Nice work Sensei.
/r/askMRP30/09/18 07:48 AM
4

I have a really good marriage AND sex life. Curious as to what brings you here...?
/r/askMRP30/09/18 12:33 AM
1

We were besties at college. Sat together for every class and studied together. She had a bf, I had the attention of a bunch of other girls. I had the upper hand. It was only a matter of time. Together from 19 years ago.but only married for 10. I'm 40
/r/askMRP29/09/18 10:13 PM
3

omg get a room you lot
/r/MarriedRedPill27/09/18 04:38 AM
5

I put her work ahead of my mission in the hope that she would respond with desire and respect. The response I got was I'm done with you fuck off. thats textbook.
/r/askMRP27/09/18 04:28 AM
3

R180 has it nailed here.... However the issues described by op are well past an easy recovery. "Never married.... separate bedrooms....just end it." Op, decide how much salvage work you think this is worth.
/r/askMRP26/09/18 10:33 PM
5

Get a tan. White eyes and teeth. Good hair. Women are fine tuned to subconsciously recognize and be attracted to health. Fuck, they can see the fire in the eyes of a man with mission.
/r/askMRP26/09/18 11:21 AM
8

It's called going R A M B O
/r/askMRP26/09/18 11:15 AM
4

I can agree a single woman is as sexual as a man. Even when paired with an alpha male, I firmly believe a woman will want less sex than a man. It's reproductive biology. The catch is that the male need to spread seed can be doused by having sex with the same woman.
/r/askMRP26/09/18 11:13 AM
5

Femininity.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/09/18 10:18 AM
2

MRP suggests the man handles it. This is your go to. It's ok if she does everything, under your watch and approval.
/r/askMRP24/09/18 10:16 AM
2

You should always look for shortcuts.
/r/askMRP24/09/18 05:20 AM
4

I should have said ex fiance. We broke up after I told her. I am absolutely sure that it needed to end. Why are we here then?
/r/askMRP23/09/18 11:08 PM
3

He's right. Stop whining. If the odds are stacked so high against her and she won't do it... What does that say...?
/r/askMRP23/09/18 10:28 AM
6

Then tell us in 1 sentence why you have not left her.
/r/askMRP23/09/18 10:25 AM
7

If people treat you like you haven't changed....you haven't changed.
/r/askMRP23/09/18 07:01 AM
3

Yes. It's a long game. Shes responding. Take the win, plenty of hits to come.
/r/askMRP22/09/18 11:37 PM
3

Well the lads here have offered up explanation s from all corners here. Just take it as a compliment. Maybe on of her girlfriends said you looked like you had your shit together. It doesn't matter, but it is a good measure of progress as it happens more. Now get back to work faggot.
/r/askMRP22/09/18 10:56 PM
2

Tell me how I am wrong It just kind of bleeds out of your writing.
/r/askTRP21/09/18 05:51 PM
2

Maybe I just don't know the definition of insecurity. It's pretty much the opposite of security.
/r/askTRP21/09/18 05:44 PM
3

Ooooh. China. Welcome.
/r/askMRP21/09/18 05:42 PM
1

So where you from homie?
/r/askMRP21/09/18 05:37 PM
1

constantly try to outscheme everyone else first assuming they will fuck me over. When you search for failure, you find failure. You're in fail mode girlfriend.
/r/askMRP21/09/18 05:36 PM
1

We all have nothing but the following: +Trust but verify. +Don't live in fear. Just be the guy not worth cheating on, and have options if she does
/r/askMRP21/09/18 04:39 PM
4

BTW, I read your infidelity post. Based on the info provided you are clutching at straws. Focus on your on upward trajectory from here on
/r/askMRP21/09/18 11:51 AM
4

You have to let go of the past and look forward. There is no greater reward than doing the hard work, and letting a bit of passive dread sweep away your troubles.
/r/askMRP21/09/18 11:46 AM
5

As a dim light RP started to shine and reminded me that the through the deployment I have personally grown, mentally, physically (she couldn't stop talking about my arms) and emotionally that I was not going to threaten that and revert back to my old ways. Stands to applause.... ​ Followed this closely. Fortunately this movie has the ending I wanted it to have. Power on Bro. ​
/r/askMRP20/09/18 11:56 PM
3

I'm 90% sure that was JoATMom9 or what ever his username was on MRP, and he deleted his whole account. I have no idea how the archive thing works.
/r/askMRP20/09/18 11:47 PM
5

Thank god Dr Hyde is back. Dr Jekyll is too gay.
/r/askMRP20/09/18 11:44 PM
3

Recipe for disaster. Edit: I'm referring to phone passwords
/r/askMRP20/09/18 05:25 AM
8

I still get angry.... At myself for time lost, and at her...well for her being a woman my bluepill self didn't understand ( also anger at self).
/r/askMRP20/09/18 04:24 AM
12

Do the glasses eventually unfog and I should give this time for desire to rebuild? You're probably still slightly angry. Especially with new found abundance.
/r/askMRP20/09/18 02:25 AM
4

Gym tomorrow Gym yesterday girlfriend
/r/askMRP20/09/18 02:21 AM
1

Solid. New. Good info.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/09/18 10:43 AM
1

Last time her words were: "you're not there to relive your frat days" As I thought. So you can dread or you can comfort. Personally I would alternate
/r/askMRP19/09/18 06:47 AM
2

if you identify what she is worried about with you being away, you will be better able to pass the test, as well as work it to your advantage
/r/askMRP19/09/18 03:45 AM
10

I'm a mere week out of taking RP and fuck - it's insane Imagine your wife comes home one day new clothes/hair/makeup looking 2 points higher on smv. You will love it, heck, its awesome...! and after that first week or two you will start to wonder if she is really going to stick with this new look, or, is she just flashing what might have been? Is this just a short term thing? Is it a front? As time goes on, you will be excited and suspicious about what the changes are for. Are they for you? are …
/r/askMRP19/09/18 03:43 AM
2

I am sure he knows it is in jest
/r/MarriedRedPill18/09/18 08:58 PM
4

You be all nice now? Faggot.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/09/18 07:12 AM
5

I think "all in" is an excellent mindset. It's much like "I'll burn it all down (if I have to)"
/r/MarriedRedPill18/09/18 07:11 AM
3

There's a FR in here....
/r/askMRP18/09/18 04:10 AM
18

This pisses me off no end....we are all here cause we have gone retard... and Jake here has fucked up good, indeed, but has a legit question. OP, now's not the time to try and second guess what she is going to do. Get on the front foot. You called it defcon 5, well are you going to push the button or what Here's the tip... North Korea escalated this to the point you can no longer sit on your hands.
/r/askMRP18/09/18 02:33 AM
3

Was just trying to come up with a similar comment to yours.... It's so much easier to pick holes in a post than contribute.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/09/18 11:59 AM
4

I think you need to go order one of those cancer testing things online. The most reliable result comes from the anal probe test.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/09/18 02:34 AM
3

Relax, go with the flow. Don't 'execute' anything. Kids don't know what's going and when they do the feelings only last a short time. You're in a difficult period. Don't try to rush through feelings and stages. Try to just go with it
/r/askMRP16/09/18 03:58 AM
16

Can she manipulate you into not doing what you said you were going to do? That's the test. Best shit test description I've seen.
/r/askMRP09/09/18 11:39 AM
3

This is super lightweight. Your response was fine. Shit test best handled by strong frame. Strengthen frame bro.
/r/askMRP09/09/18 11:33 AM
1

What do you have to take meds for?
/r/askMRP08/09/18 11:35 PM
3

Lift more, faggot Is mister Chad on holidays?
/r/askMRP08/09/18 11:33 PM
1

Do you do that thing where your head falls forward and you wake yourself up with a fright?
/r/askMRP08/09/18 11:32 PM
3

I get so much exercise scrolling through your comments. My thumb Is jacked.
/r/askMRP08/09/18 11:30 PM
2

Since when was this sub ' ask alice'
/r/askMRP08/09/18 11:28 PM
3

I think it is good to acknowledge what so many people start off here looking for ( happy marriage ). Fortunately I think the committed mrp'er sees past that and works on themselves.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/09/18 01:12 PM
2

Yes, quit being the useless drunk FO and prove your worth as captain. It's not over. Read the entire sidebar.
/r/askMRP08/09/18 01:04 PM
1

YOU count = 17. That has to be a record.
/r/askMRP07/09/18 10:00 PM
1

Turn the negative attitude positive and you're good. And turn down the heat don't snuff the fire completely. If you haven't butted up against wns you're not trying hard enough. He is like the hall monitor haha. Or maybe that cop with the mo and the aviators .
/r/askMRP07/09/18 09:56 PM
7

FSN, you are a nice guy, that's clear. It's time to own this farce of a marriage, put on your big boy pants, and burn this fucker down. You're flogging a dead horse my man. Kudos for the honest appraisal.
/r/askMRP06/09/18 11:32 AM
2

These piddly little shit questions are always about a lot more. yes every time. Your 2 months is not enough to get anything except perhaps a small reaction to change. Nothing happens quickly. And going on the front foot re chad is also a questionable strategy (not saying you are, but its the default thing to do). Lift read, cultivate your DNGAF / life outside / abundance. I can sense the urgent agitation coming through your posts. Been there.
/r/askMRP06/09/18 04:54 AM
2

I remember that. Ironically its not the example its the commitment to the plan that resonates.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/09/18 11:13 PM
1

Sometimes getting your ass kicked is the best thing that can happen. So is realising you are missing the point..... she bends over backwards in caretaking behavior for other people while laundry piles up This is 100% her needing a purpose in her life. She feels good / needed / of value by doing these things for others. She does not get that at home. Partly because, well, it is just home chores, and partly because you are not appreciating the value she does bring. Me thinks. ​
/r/askMRP05/09/18 11:04 PM
19

Lose the ego and covert contracts and you won't even need to ask these questions. do it because you want it. Dont overtly (being a bitch) or covertly (covert contract) try to make her do anything.
/r/askMRP05/09/18 04:22 AM
8

JoATMoN09 = Gargantuablarg29. You cheeky fucker. I knew you were a rebadge, but did not pick who. Thanks for the jabs.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/09/18 11:48 PM
5

Yes. And poetically written.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/09/18 11:02 AM
2

100% agree RP knowledge is rooted in evolutionary biology, natural selection and survival of the fittest. And religion and society acted to create 'order'.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/09/18 04:56 AM
1

Given its just a gf, yes leave. When you're married / kids it's not so straight forward unfortunately. The pain has to be worth the gain.
/r/askMRP04/09/18 04:40 AM
1

i think the link is missing between the removal of attention and what behaviour you want to see from her. ​Hence the AA statements like "you know i love listening to your noise when I am balls deep baby"
/r/askMRP04/09/18 01:35 AM
4

100% What JA is describing should be part of the definition of STOIC.
/r/askMRP04/09/18 01:30 AM
1

why not? What's the ransom? There is an RP way out of this that leaves you both happy you know.
/r/askMRP04/09/18 01:28 AM
1

$10 says its either: not enough affection, or not appearing to care. ​
/r/askMRP03/09/18 11:40 PM
1

So play by yours, or just dont play This is your got to. It does allow you to 'sit and talk listen'. Its an opportunity to pull her further into your frame. As you admit, its your toe dipping verbal engagement that causes the problems. Also as MCTC says, its ok to let her blah blah about her day. Maybe try the father daughter dynamic for the next compression session.
/r/askMRP03/09/18 11:39 PM
3

What do you want from her? She's not perfect? Are you perfect? You can't treat her like a computer (pushing buttons hoping for a response), and get mad at the outcome. Here's the tip - This problem is a manifestation of your retardedness.
/r/askMRP03/09/18 03:37 AM
1

14% BF, best described as a swimmers body, not overly built. medium length dark blonde with fade undercut #2 beard trimmer. i have good jaw bone so keep it short. I look pretty decent but also look young. Have a few fans
/r/askMRP02/09/18 11:45 PM
-1

I just cast a line.... OP lacked context.
/r/askMRP02/09/18 11:38 PM
1

I like to have the right target before I open fire
/r/askMRP02/09/18 09:05 PM
5

describing what they are doing to each other sexually snd.Naked pictures and video. Yep that's game over. Don't beat yourself up. Lots of divorce advice here. MRP up for marriage 2.0
/r/askMRP02/09/18 11:30 AM
1

There's nothing good about that situation, starting with 12 weeks pregnant off fertility treatment, right through to the sexting. The boundary crossing is not a problem in the scheme of things as she clearly doesn't respect you anyway. The problem you have is to know why. Is she just responding, is she initiating, is she bored and need feelz? I am all for burning it down if that is what you want. But is that where you are at? Or are you just angry? What's in those texts bro...?
/r/askMRP02/09/18 10:30 AM
1

Is that " grown-ass" man, or grown "ass-man" ? Hard to pick the emphasis.
/r/MarriedRedPill31/08/18 11:00 PM
2

But who wants to be to top gun pilot in the airforce who doesn't go to war and die because he found a loophole. Divorce Rape is like being cucked. Its the fear of the outcome that is holding you back, not the outcome itself. Let go of what you think the future is going to be. Thats Disney. ​
/r/askMRP31/08/18 04:13 AM
2

I'm guessing she knows you won't
/r/askMRP31/08/18 02:28 AM
1

Curious to know your normal gym time. Before 6.30…?
/r/askMRP31/08/18 02:24 AM
2

I am going to weigh into this with a different view from the don't get married cause you'll get fucked perspective. Cause you might get fucked, BUT you hopefully have vetted this chick to the best of your abilities. Maybe she's the best you'll get. Maybe she has a great family. Whatever. You have chosen her. Good one. So look at this like you are joining the airforce. Its going to be heaps of fun, travel, money, friends, companionship. Fringe Benefits. But one day, just one day, a war might star…
/r/askMRP30/08/18 12:58 AM
1

I think you would find the males protecting the females, not the other way round. But i have to admit it is not clear from the abstract Evolutionary biology (survival of the fittest) is not the same as recreational sex. ​
/r/MarriedRedPill30/08/18 12:38 AM
1

All good examples thanks. Interesting I didn't see push pull as so light hearted. I thought of it as more manipulative, more emotional rollercoaster...
/r/askMRP29/08/18 09:17 PM
0

Either: 1) Bob rattled you more than you let on, or 2) you are Bob.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/08/18 04:45 AM
2

Yeah good points, I respect the hard RP theory on this as the default. "Autopilot" comment should probably be rephrased as "window of opportunity". This one is type A with only a handful of minutes a day not assigned. But is receptive to my antics when in chill mode, even fun.
/r/askMRP29/08/18 03:39 AM
5

It might sound stupid but she has a lot of sentimental value for me. You are in oneitis territory girlfriend. ​ You are hanging out for this to work out - that much is obvious, She's stringing you along too see if you can get it together. To some degree, you need to put some distance between you, the daily contact is not cool if you are separated, she has your commitment, you have zilch. ​u/BobbyPeru is right get your shit together so she is after you.
/r/askMRP28/08/18 01:37 AM
2

"who cares the least wins" For now, you have to "hold fast", eventually you "won't care" ​
/r/askMRP27/08/18 11:14 PM
3

no, she will walk away no love lost, or she will beg for him to not break up.
/r/askMRP27/08/18 11:03 PM
1

5 seconds after the break up you will know the truth.
/r/askMRP27/08/18 10:31 AM
3

Trying to make things 'just how you want it' is the Disney dream. Better to accept reality. I still get caught up with this.
/r/askMRP27/08/18 08:06 AM
8

I have to let go of my desire to make her do anything she does not want to do. ​ Like have sex, go to parties, make your favourite dinner. Or anything else. Even if you know best. EDIT: especially if you know best
/r/askMRP27/08/18 06:41 AM
2

How did you miss #21. Who does not do that?
/r/MarriedRedPill26/08/18 11:41 PM
1

Thanks, I think ....
/r/MarriedRedPill24/08/18 11:22 AM
1

i constantly get called on my use of the wrong words, i need to be more selective, my bad. Sub out 'attraction' for 'higher smv' in my comment My point was that i do not think drty-pr will get more out of his wife if he was MORE ripped and MORE handsome. She has checked out, its now transactional, and value driven. ​ Don't blame Chad or your wife for your shit decision making. ​ Again, just referencing that drty-pr is in this situation by choice. Mythical 'chad' would get out of this.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/08/18 11:51 PM
1

I dont care from a validation standpoint. But I do want to be in the top % of merit increases. well if this is true, you just want a raise, read between the lines - All of their comments to 'improve on' may as well say you are boring and no-one likes you, you are not interactive. Like MCTC has said, this does not mean you are a bad employee. But being the best technical personal doesn't mean you are doing well as an employee, if their metric includes your social capacity, collaboration, resilien…
/r/askMRP23/08/18 11:35 PM
2

Interacting with other people, or fear of doing so, is not different to interacting with, talking to, or opening girls. Find out what they are interested in, ask questions. Pepper the conversation with info about yourself. ​ ​
/r/askMRP23/08/18 11:27 PM
1

get her oil changed, and fix her faulty wipers too. A lot of monetary damage ​ Fuck man, wait until you have to put your big boy pants on. ​
/r/askMRP23/08/18 11:19 PM
1

Ok this is in reply to all comments since my last. I was asked what is the fly in my ointment. This is what brought me here, I am working past it. I agree the word ' crippling' is over dramatic. I don't have any other ' flies' to be concerned about
/r/askMRP23/08/18 09:02 PM
1

Chad's not committed himself to a ship with a rogue FO. Attraction has no place in motivating this FO Otherwise I would agree.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/08/18 01:04 PM
1

Yeah I know. But our progress is obviously much more than whether or not she chose to cheat. Frame, neediness, trust, domestic pressure etc etc
/r/askMRP23/08/18 11:54 AM
1

Curious about the discussion about why she cant BJ / HJ for you once a week. Lets be honest, its the duty of duty, but still helps. I get really annoyed that wife won't "help me out" when it is low effort for her and big benefit for me. ​ ​
/r/MarriedRedPill23/08/18 07:30 AM
6

her work travel x my hamster. It cripples progress despite a pretty clear allegiance.
/r/askMRP23/08/18 07:14 AM
3

Maybe Steve IS Jimbo-Graham.
/r/askMRP21/08/18 10:55 PM
4

Epic
/r/askMRP20/08/18 11:18 AM
8

I’ve decided Good She thinks Bad I should Weak While I understand her point Very weak How would you respond? Grow a pair and make your own decisions
/r/askMRP20/08/18 11:16 AM
4

I get really fucking annoyed when there is such a retarded post that makes me log in just to answer. But here we are. I see what happened, the events of the past and some bullshit last night got your head to "we are seperated", but your little blue pill heart is not there yet. I get it. So let me explain in a way you might understand. You are Walt fucking Disney, and your wife is snow white in the X rated version of SWAT7D's. Your wife DESTROYED the disney version of your movie. WILLINGLY and RE…
/r/askMRP20/08/18 12:33 AM
1

I knew you'd understand
/r/askMRP18/08/18 12:05 PM
1

Why don't you tell us what you do that is "not beta" ?
/r/askMRP17/08/18 11:46 PM
1

Read it.
/r/askMRP17/08/18 09:55 PM
1

These work a lot better if you can attach something you've done to illustrate the principle. It's in line two, although I don't have a tatt, being thinking of it. I don't want this to be a ' how hard core am I ' post, I want to give some motivation to push yourself, beyond lifting goals and sidebar goals. 'challenge yourself' should be behind, lift, stfu and read, imho. I don't care if it's opening at a club, public speaking or mountain climbing. A fit strong alpha has a fire in his eyes because…
/r/askMRP17/08/18 09:50 PM
1

adrenaline and fight-or-flight as opposed to fear. It's all of the same origin
/r/askMRP17/08/18 09:15 PM
1

It's my inner child that keeps the fire alive.
/r/askMRP17/08/18 09:08 PM
2

Wtf dude. Would you still go to work if they stopped paying you? 4 years man....It's time to up the ante, no one deserves this at 35.
/r/askMRP17/08/18 11:10 AM
2

What is the point of any of this if you are still DB? What are you achieving? Note: of course I support good parenting.
/r/askMRP17/08/18 11:06 AM
1

A quieter, more in charge authority. Commanding but not by being forceful. Have a look at mayor game too.
/r/askMRP10/08/18 06:09 AM
11

It's the same, but easier. You get time off from work, not like wife. Just be awesome, let them come around. There is no shortcuts. Almost all principles apply.
/r/askMRP10/08/18 04:56 AM
1

I don't know if you are aware of this but if it is not on video it never happened. and if it was not made public then it is not credible. Post the link and I'll even give it an upvote.
/r/askMRP10/08/18 04:14 AM
1

Few days in solitary..... It's gonna be....RAMBO TIME.
/r/askMRP10/08/18 04:08 AM
4

Bryan. You wiggled your pinky through the bars of the tightly controlled maximum security prison that your wife runs and she weaponised sex to whip your ass back into line. Textbook play. Your move. Whatcha gonna do now ?
/r/askMRP10/08/18 12:38 AM
1

For a while Reddit had be believing my SO was fucking everything she sees because she was distant for a day or two Me too. I'm going to add that it is a good thing to get to the place when there is more chance you are cheating than her (based on SMV / being awesome, social etc). Thats what RP has given me. She is wondering what i am doing, not the other way around. It is a two way street though of course.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/08/18 12:08 AM
2

This is a weakness that is tying you to her, and giving her rule over you. She does not feel the same way. Break up with her in your mind. It takes time. Abundance is also critical. Once you achieve this you will see a shift in her attention, just like u/SBIII did when he went on dates.
/r/askMRP07/08/18 12:43 AM
0

Or maybe mock Chad and the system, then ask everyone for advice how to be more like Chad, and how to better use the system..
/r/askMRP06/08/18 02:45 AM
3

How's the relationship? Sounds like she is doing it for everyone but you.
/r/askMRP05/08/18 09:08 AM
0

There is no question.
/r/askMRP03/08/18 09:43 PM
0

Gag
/r/askMRP03/08/18 09:42 AM
0

Hey bnb, Have you found out conclusively about stbx and Chad in the sack?
/r/askMRP03/08/18 09:40 AM
3

At this point I dont know if I'm just not being a man by sticking with her through the 4th time shes done this shit and feeling exhausted by it is because I'm being a bitch and I need to man up or if this shit has gone on too long. I was hoping for people with similar experiences to be able to tell me You have no choice. Its on you.
/r/askMRP03/08/18 05:14 AM
1

Just wanted to weigh in on this for reasons. Its not your fault. But you made it worse. Its your job to fix what you fucked up. Sometimes even in Redpill, you put someone else first Fix what you fucked up.
/r/askMRP03/08/18 05:12 AM
3

How do you guys deal with that stuff? Water off a ducks back. She's stressed, let her rant STFU
/r/askMRP02/08/18 09:00 PM
12

You're chasing ghosts. You will never know. The circumstances you describe cause little concern, but as others have said, it's just as likely she cheated when she was at work during the day. One of the best things I learnt here is to look for signs of loyalty not disloyalty. Go and get your own if it bothers you this much
/r/askMRP02/08/18 08:53 PM
0

It's just the decision between long term investment in few offspring vs low investment in more offspring. AKA evolutionary biology.
/r/askMRP02/08/18 09:38 AM
4

I appreciate the previous response comes off as smart arse, so thought i would add. So, Why are you doing this? Is it for you? (you quite clearly say it is for you) - Then all of your questions can be answered as "because you want to" Doing things because you want to is NOT the same as doing things she doesn't like. You are allowed to want to do things that make her happy, its allowed. Just don't do it TO make her happy. Not allowed. Your behaviour is calibrated by what you think, what RP says, …
/r/askMRP02/08/18 04:16 AM
3

Answers are as follows: 1) do it only because you want to 2) do it, but only because you want to 3) Do it, because you want to. Joke aside, by asking these questions you are still concerned with what she thinks ( her frame). I can tell you are a very reasonable person, and will treat her with respect ( because you want to). So just do it because you want to and take on board her feedback as you see fit. The non touch thing is hard, you might quite possibly have to get used to that / work around …
/r/askMRP02/08/18 04:01 AM
9

Jake goes kamikaze in that conversation. Its probably obvious but i find it interesting how "present tense" Jake is and how "past tense" Sabrina is. She's decided well before this conversation happened. “relationships take a lot of work” and it’s always a man’s responsibility to qualify himself for a woman’s intimacy by maintaining that work. The definition of Blue pill.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/08/18 11:55 PM
1

How much should I talk about/complain about work with her Chicks dig complaining.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/08/18 11:42 PM
1

Revenge or sexual appetite?
/r/MarriedRedPill01/08/18 12:48 AM
2

A key message here is that you pick and choose the concepts as they apply. Alpha / beta / purple whatever. There is a bit of everything in this.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/08/18 12:29 AM
1

Would you care to elaborate on what put you over the line with cheating.. was it lack of sex?
/r/MarriedRedPill01/08/18 12:25 AM
4

You sound like a nice gentle fellow, making some progress there. Good one. Tell me, when was the last time you did something dangerous or stupid? Resistance might be your father but adrenaline is your God. You need to go Rob a bank or something.
/r/MarriedRedPill31/07/18 06:28 AM
2

Ok buddy you let us all down with your piss weak story. Go read some other posts and see what some of these guys are up against, like u/tikitheman . Move on by thanking God you have this guy to motivate you to be an awesome dude. I like the sounds of your wife, she sounds like a closet screamer.
/r/askMRP31/07/18 05:29 AM
6

Please tell me there is a sequel.
/r/askMRP30/07/18 09:56 PM
8

You won the war and now you're looking for what's next. Give it time, if she's high value my guess is you will respect her again.
/r/askMRP30/07/18 07:13 PM
3

I'm no divorce expert, but I'm pretty sure you need to avoid providing evidence of cheating for a while.
/r/askMRP30/07/18 07:04 PM
2

After we started living together it became starfish. Textbook. Sort this before thinking of moving forward. Have a look at the dead bedroom sub.
/r/askMRP30/07/18 06:58 PM
3

It's day by day for a while. Ride it as such. Wins, losses, always the best interest of your daughter.
/r/askMRP30/07/18 08:34 AM
4

it was 7 days ago you posted about the awesomeness of your relationship at the lake, and your command over the situation. With that in mind it sounds like a pretty volatile relationship, but it would also appear that your 50% of the problem. So ask yourself this. Before you burn this down, is it going to be any better next time?
/r/askMRP30/07/18 06:57 AM
24

24 y/o, Too young dating for 6 years Too long don't know my BF%. not low enough. She either isn't attracted to you or your on a freight train to nowhere. You can't ask for sex, you must be attractive/awesome enough for her to want it with you.
/r/askMRP30/07/18 05:33 AM
2

Lol. Friendly backslaps are a good thing where I am from. I hope no one else wastes a single minute of time on you You should ban me.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/07/18 09:12 PM
2

BP has provided a lot of valuable insight into my situation, but you wouldn't know that as it was via pm. Next time I'll go with faggot. So your happy.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/07/18 11:47 AM
3

Ok cupcake, hard as it is you have been gifted with a 'make or break' 4 month opportunity to move this towards lock down or end it. Take the opportunity to find out how important you really are to her Also take the opportunity to tap strange and you'll know if she's right for you.
/r/askMRP29/07/18 11:41 AM
2

The benefits of IOI's from randoms is massively undervalued imho around here. It's a giant fucking barometer to where you have got. Hottest chicks are the most subtle imho
/r/MarriedRedPill29/07/18 04:02 AM
1

Like a fucking BOSS. You sly dog.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/07/18 03:52 AM
3

Here is the tip: don't choose between your top two activities when you could cut the lower ranking priorities. For example, learn to do side work at other times, cut employed work short, get her involved, pay help for basic tasks. I could go on.
/r/askMRP29/07/18 03:42 AM
4

OMG so g a y
/r/askMRP29/07/18 03:35 AM
2

This is one fucked up train wreck you made Timmy boy. You either have the balls to call the DB and threats, ie. Tell her to go if that's what she wants, or you can keep being a total fucktard by acting how you describe in this post. So ask yourself, Do you really want to be with her if she won't fuck you and keeps talking about moving out?
/r/askMRP29/07/18 03:32 AM
2

Kudos for having your self assessment on point.
/r/askMRP27/07/18 10:10 PM
2

You'll be fine, you have the blueprint : you 20 years ago.
/r/askMRP26/07/18 11:44 PM
3

I'm just referring to the hitting. My kids would never hit my wife, they love playfully laying into me. Physical size and strength is one nice benefit of being male. It's why men don't hit women. But if she can't control her anger (like a child), well, pound away little friend. Unless it's regular, or she is smashing bottles on his head, I see no problem here. Need more info OP.
/r/askMRP26/07/18 09:13 PM
16

No. Sometimes it is her fault.
/r/askMRP26/07/18 12:25 PM
1

Do you think this is Rambo?
/r/askMRP26/07/18 12:19 PM
0

The ultimatum is the exertion of ones power. His power is in the credibility of his options. No options no power.
/r/askMRP26/07/18 03:38 AM
6

"show me the money" Put your balls on the line my man, tell her your going to walk over this, and mean it. Only then will you see what she is willing to offer. Your under contract to stay and its a major effort to break out. She knows it.
/r/askMRP25/07/18 12:10 PM
1

Buy her the status in exchange for a written contract for enthusiatic sex, 4 times a week. Lets be honest it is how this system really works.
/r/askMRP25/07/18 12:00 PM
1

hey, i was just assuming you meant it was your birthday and you just got a text.... My point was that despite the increased amount of communication you have had from her, pleading help and hopelessnes, this is the reality, which is that its all bullshit for her benefit only and she cant even be bothered with a present or phone call.
/r/askMRP25/07/18 11:57 AM
6

Although i agree here, i think it is clearly stated that op wants tips on sparring, he is not freaking out about what to do. Good on you OP for finding the positive in the situation.
/r/askMRP25/07/18 10:17 AM
2

Note: Birthday was recent, and all I got was a text... This says more than anything else really, under the circumstances. Don't fool yourself.
/r/askMRP25/07/18 10:10 AM
1

fair enough. leave it down,i wrote it for myself anyway.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/07/18 10:07 AM
1

no legal penalty for adultery but there is a societal one. Not true for lack of sex. Post removed anyway.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/07/18 10:06 AM
2

oh excellent. Bravo me. Haha.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/07/18 03:58 AM
3

The amusement is from your detachment, and the wall you have built around your emotions. You don't know how big her hammer is yet
/r/askMRP25/07/18 12:42 AM
2

Solid inner game here MCT.
/r/askMRP25/07/18 12:41 AM
2

Well at least just understand we all got here from similar circumstances. And then realize any improvements are for yourself, yourself alone. My experience is that it is worth it toimprove to get the outside attention. What you do with that attention is your choice.
/r/askMRP25/07/18 12:38 AM
1

Not to rain on the parade, sounds awesome, but what changed in the wife? Sounds like an epic turnaround.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/07/18 11:44 AM
4

Enjoy one of the last things in life that remains a true mystery. Your future now has an element that is partly out of your control, and will stay that way forever. Embrace that and your good.
/r/askMRP24/07/18 07:05 AM
2

I have described before the concept of 'mental monk mode', being simply a removal of ones mental and emotional presence from the relationship. Its hard because you care (emotional) and want to fix it (mental). She has said before that she doesn’t leave because she is hoping the guy on the fridge will come back. Fridge guy had less emotional and mental investment in this relationship (and was probably better physically). Be that guy again, and EVERY time you find yourself thinking about her, and …
/r/askMRP24/07/18 01:04 AM
5

I'ma just gonna slide this in here neediness
/r/MarriedRedPill24/07/18 12:08 AM
1

done what?
/r/askMRP24/07/18 12:06 AM
6

calling her bluff is a good power move, but this one is lightweight. She wasn't leaving, they both knew it.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/07/18 12:04 AM
2

If you are suggesting RP and chivalry are mutually exclusive, you are wrong.
/r/askMRP23/07/18 11:06 PM
2

Reporting after 1 month is retarded behavior. At best she is getting curious or pissed off with these changes. Step back from it, concentrate on yourself for another 3 months before measuring progress again. The challenge of maintaining a positive attitude to a comatose relationship is a big challenge. Especially when you need to combine that positive attitude with the 'stay plan is the go plan' mentality.
/r/askMRP23/07/18 08:56 PM
7

Bro. Go macro. Do you really want a girl you know you had to "talk down" from a break up. Let her bring it to you. If she wants too. Be the prize.
/r/askMRP22/07/18 11:30 PM
2

How's the relationship and smv comparison btw you and wife? If you are good, a daytime meeting should not be a big deal. If things are tough she might be after outside attention. I regularly see a girl with a crush on me at work fwiw. It's about the smv scale. You don't paint a pretty picture of him (get it 😉)
/r/askMRP22/07/18 10:09 PM
2

I've come to realize that a bp relationship for a woman is much like having a dog. Feed it regularly, Pat it once in a while and it will love you forever.
/r/askMRP21/07/18 12:22 AM
7

El Gran Jamon Anyone who addresses themselves in the third person either has their GAME in check or is weird as fuck. Simbarlion assumes the former.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/07/18 02:09 AM
2

Are you foreelz? A 70 yr old Fat janitor couldn't be dominated by a fit (I assume) dad with 3 boys in tow, in a quarry? You gotta up your 'bro' game
/r/MarriedRedPill20/07/18 01:14 AM
6

I like the honesty of this post, but it is entirely based on fear. You are way overplaying the severity of the conflict, being called a faggot is not the same as threatening violence. Alpha / Beta applies here too, it does not sound like you AMOG'ed it "Typical father portrayed by media is a clueless fuck" - Yes. Don't be that father. The Cubs need to be ON POINT when with Dad. Wolfpack style. Good one for giving them some life experience.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/07/18 01:07 AM
4

Woman screams at man. Man STFU or displays captaincy. Man gets laid. If only it were that simple. To answer your question, you don't engage. Oldest teenager etc etc....
/r/askMRP19/07/18 09:07 AM
2

Some of the old farts here dis text and social media. Whatever, anyone under 40 is all over it, and for good reason. My whole FB and IG feed is classic cars, surfing and college girls - - I am not posting selfies and cyber bullying the local shopkeeper., or complaining about roadworks. FFS Reddit is not that different. Anyway back to you, I say if she is into the banter, its ok, keep it infrequent, light teasing -> "Don't think you're gonna take that uniform off by yourself..." Just build a litt…
/r/askMRP19/07/18 04:53 AM
5

>Dread fixes sex. Frame fixes respect. Outstanding.
/r/askMRP19/07/18 04:41 AM
5

You're worried she will leave cause she thinks your cheating? That aside my advice would be to spend some time as you lift and read on improving and stabilising your situation. Watch her behavior, not what she says. Her starfish tells me she's not that worried you're cheating. Everything else comes with time if you work through it.
/r/askMRP18/07/18 04:56 AM
1

I love these word find games...... Put that little bacon skewer into that stupid vegan friend of hers As she eats your dough balls give em a wiggle and they pop out pretty easily , They shrink a bit when you pull em out. Was i right?
/r/MarriedRedPill18/07/18 04:09 AM
3

Porn, always porn. Have a page open with girls who look nothing like her.
/r/askMRP18/07/18 02:39 AM
2

Next level retard. Actually its a multi level effort.
/r/askMRP18/07/18 02:37 AM
3

you do need a lot of help to transition from PITA to Arsehole don't you. Honestly though buddy, we are all normal guys with normal lives here. Last night my wife was sick, went to bed early. All of these things I did not do: Initiate Call her out on things she hadn't done Kino or flirt Dread (well i am kinda natural dread i suppose /joke) Ass slap (actually i did she said it hurt) For at least the first 3 months, learn hard from posts, read hard and develop a tendency towards RP. STFU if you don…
/r/askMRP18/07/18 02:32 AM
1

You don't think to ask stupid questions. /S
/r/MarriedRedPill17/07/18 12:01 PM
5

Htdo (Hill to die on), meets dngaf. It's an orgy of acronyms. I like orgies.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/07/18 11:58 AM
12

It's the same as all those who want more sex. You just want better behaviour. LEAD. There is no other way. You can't discipline her and expect it to stick. You can only be the guy she wants to do it for.
/r/askMRP17/07/18 11:43 AM
1

Does the young male lion tell the girl lion he is gonna challenge the alpha male...? No, he does his time, then takes that motherfucker DOWN.
/r/askMRP17/07/18 06:32 AM
3

Your third paragraph is your answer. The bit you're missing is the time frame to turn it around. It takes time. It's time for some reinvention. Try to back off a bit, continue working on yourself, find your own point of origin and then reengage. Yes it might mean less initiating for a while which many here disagree with, but you need to restablish yourself as the attractive guy she first met. Then one day she realizes things have changed, and she's coming for you.
/r/askMRP17/07/18 01:56 AM
2

I just do what I want and if she doesn’t like it I just AA or STFU Except you didn't, you DEER'ed.
/r/askMRP16/07/18 10:33 PM
2

Finally. Don't be too hard on yourself, we all had the desire to see quick results. It just doesn't work like that, it's more of a slow burn.
/r/askMRP16/07/18 10:27 PM
3

I can see it now... The askMRP AWARDS NIGHT!! featuring categories including.... $ Most likely to go Rambo... $ Biggest autist of the year.... $ Least likely to make it..... I could go on.
/r/askMRP16/07/18 10:42 AM
10

Dude, you're going to get flamed here, based on your post history, lack of frame, lack of respect (from her) and shotgun Rambo nature. I am going to give you some advice, cause i have been there. Just calm the fuck down. You can't turn this thing around in the timeframe your hoping. I am guessing you have set the wedding date as a mental d-day by which you have to have your RP relationship on point, sex on demand. Its not going to happen. Your just scaring the fuck out of her. You have a month p…
/r/askMRP16/07/18 04:48 AM
3

In my parts there is a 'race to the bottom' attitude from a certain type of beta. I think there is actually more validation sought from the self depreciating ' humour' than the whole thing with his girl. If you feel pretty shitty about yourself, at least you can make everyone laugh. Bit like how fat chicks are always the most audacious.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/07/18 02:45 AM
5

There is an excellent jackten post you should read, summarised as.... "She doesn't want you to fix the problem, she doesn't want to know there was a problem." Comes back to OYS.
/r/askMRP16/07/18 01:17 AM
1

You forgot needy.
/r/askMRP16/07/18 01:14 AM
1

Horse ---> Water.....no drinkie drink. Classic medium is the message here. Remove attention. Flush out her intentions
/r/askMRP16/07/18 01:09 AM
3

The expression, " flogging a dead horse" comes to mind here. Time for a new horse
/r/askMRP14/07/18 08:11 AM
3

This 100% This is the most cut and dry case I've seen here for ages. OP, The only thing holding you back is some weak image of your life she smashed to pieces.
/r/askMRP14/07/18 08:07 AM
4

Don't aim to inflict damage now or later, it's the weaker path, and the flak will hit your daughter. Pretty sure I would fucking lose it FWIW.
/r/askMRP14/07/18 07:59 AM
1

"Feels gross" is a comfort test masquerading as negative self talk. She's fishing for some comfort, she wants to know if you think she is gross.
/r/askMRP13/07/18 10:17 AM
2

Maybe get some chores done so she will be horny after shark week.
/r/askMRP13/07/18 10:12 AM
5

If some random internet dude posts total bullshit to the point where i would rather watch cat videos than answer, what would I do? Answer: Post a bullshit answer.
/r/askMRP13/07/18 02:00 AM
4

I don't really give a fuck about this OP, this is so true. Search and read up on the medium is the message. You are being told over and over (by her and us) that she is not into this wedding. You have a short window to unravel this mess before the wedding. Here's my hint: SHE HAS COLD FEET
/r/askMRP12/07/18 10:05 PM
3

In an ideal world you get to decide when to burn the ship down, in this case she has burned it down for you. Advice? 1) Take the hit, rebuild your life. Be good to the kids. Don't do anything stupid. 2) You need to decide where on the spectrum "cuck / walk" you're gonna sit.
/r/askMRP12/07/18 12:54 AM
6

Looks to me like Rambo's girlfriend is trying to let Rambo know he is a bit too much Rambo.
/r/askMRP11/07/18 08:42 PM
3

3 is right on. Put it on her to bring it together
/r/askMRP11/07/18 06:26 AM
1

Chad ain’t picking no god dam flowers.. I chose for my wife to wear flowers in her hair. I love that hippy goddess of the earth look. Difference is i chose what i wanted. Didn't chase her around like wills wet cat trying to get her to make a choice.
/r/askMRP11/07/18 04:12 AM
1

Both get you a wet pussy?
/r/askMRP11/07/18 02:52 AM
2

you have to actually become the alpha man, husband, and father that you're now only pretending to be. Put the heartfelt speech on the back burner and take the advice above for a few weeks / months. Unless of course you know what that vision looks like, and have rebuilt / demonstrated some cred before you start sprouting more alpha changes. If you are childhood friends she already knows the real you. Try and avoid more random changes.
/r/askMRP11/07/18 02:20 AM
5

MRP YOU seem to waffle as much as a woman sometimes. Dude, Its for YOUR wedding flowers. I understand where you are coming from, but there is a very simple message here. She is not showing interest in making the decision. This is most likely because she wants you to. There is two choices. The stand off, where you crack it about her lack of interest, and nothing happens. Take control, lead, captain. Make the choice. If necessary, ALLOW her to have some input - "I made the decision with the floris…
/r/askMRP11/07/18 02:07 AM
0

Sounds like trying too hard. OP....It's work smart not hard. You're working too hard on goals from the fem imperative. Work hard on RP
/r/askMRP11/07/18 01:50 AM
11

Passwords to her SM and phone are changed RED FLAG.
/r/askMRP11/07/18 01:44 AM
17

Attend meeting solo. Make decisions. Inform wife of decision. Job done.
/r/askMRP11/07/18 01:28 AM
1

I'd like to say I believe you, but I don't. I think you are secretly hoping for the surprise of her pleading for a reunion. I won't judge either way, nor do I have the answer for you, but be honest with yourself about if that's true.
/r/askMRP09/07/18 10:11 AM
1

surely this is reserved for a functioning relationship? Deployed and newly separated.... I'd be poker faced. Blank. OP i think your response was spot on.
/r/askMRP09/07/18 03:25 AM
1

wife said I love you Wtf?
/r/askMRP08/07/18 10:04 PM
12

At a macro level you need to handle it the same way as dealing with your daughter. Avoid discussing the split and always be the bigger man.
/r/askMRP08/07/18 11:21 AM
2

Yeah, I am weak in this area. In an ideal world I would have fogged, " is that what you think of me". It's hard not to fold on a big comfort test.
/r/askMRP07/07/18 06:57 AM
30

said I wasn’t going anywhere and gave her a hug and left it at that< You just wiped away your hard earned dread my friend
/r/askMRP06/07/18 11:52 PM
5

So are you just here to annoy everyone then?
/r/askMRP06/07/18 08:08 AM
1

Am not on twitter. Was joking but...ahem.... I would read it.
/r/askMRP06/07/18 01:14 AM
2

Indeed - common use of the word in my parts.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/07/18 11:23 PM
2

Yes. I would also add the whole 'MRP is RP on hard mode', as attractive is relative, ie. you get less attractive over time even if you have not changed.
/r/askMRP05/07/18 11:19 PM
2

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=uIQ9b1FcWxw
/r/MarriedRedPill05/07/18 11:15 PM
1

I could give a 100% foolproof guide to banging supermodels You have a PM
/r/askMRP05/07/18 11:12 PM
1

No, you really don't have to say Yeah fair enough. I will keep my mental imagery to myself.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/07/18 08:54 PM
13

These live "as it happens" cases are my favourite. It won't be long till there is a secret gopro camera and an earpiece streaming live, and we relate back live instructions. That will be way more fun. The flairs will be able to sit in a control room, and 'uplink' as required (for a subscription fee of course). I better go and reserve ''www.redpillme.com" Its the future bitches.
/r/askMRP05/07/18 06:39 AM
2

Sounds like a comfort test medley.
/r/askMRP05/07/18 05:03 AM
20

You don't underplay or overplay dread. It is what it is. You're nice to her cause she is a customer. End. "Don't give me a reason to cheat, and we're cool" The prize doesn't explain why he might not be the prize. He's just the prize.
/r/askMRP05/07/18 04:51 AM
-2

Great story, all these sexy time stories with details get me going I have to say! Maybe we could get all the wives to read this shit. Be aware that a a positive response early on is usually followed by a stretch of "seeing if it's a real change" full of shit testing. Then followed by a gradual improvement, depending on your consistent effort. I don't mean to rain on your parade, it's just what happened to me.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/07/18 12:05 AM
1

her perception of me is checking those boxes Gag, dont say that shit. She doesn't set the scorecard. Check your own boxes, (and then hers)
/r/MarriedRedPill04/07/18 05:01 AM
5

A friend of mine in a 10 year ltr got married, no kids, one year later he broke it up.... Now he is having time of his life. Heaps of chicks, he not even great looking. 30-40 is best time to date. Abandon ship captain.
/r/askMRP03/07/18 11:00 PM
5

You're not ready for plates. Don't rush it. Let the natural tipping point come, at which point you will 'have nothing to lose'. Right now you still see wife as something to lose.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/07/18 12:22 PM
3

It's the beta / alpha dichotomy that exists within me.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/07/18 12:15 PM
7

Excuse me, Your Honour, I wold like to revise my statement. You are still BETA AS FUCK, based on your #1 OYS. I strongly suggest you reread OYS #1 and realise that even if you have pulled yourself out of your BETA FUNK, depressed loser state, she STILL SEES YOU LIKE THAT. Stop blaming her, stop pussying around. MAN THE FUCK UP. 6 Months aint shit.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/07/18 11:02 AM
3

It saddens me to think how common what your describing is. The reality is a relationship can only take so much before it is hard to get back. Let me paint a picture: dead bedroom close to a year with short lapses She won't interact physically without negative reaction She told you she wants to end it Some excitement and effort towards an 'old you' alpha type guy. how can you train someone’s reactions to their rejections if you can’t even get passed a kiss, let alone onto an initiation? You canno…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/07/18 10:52 AM
1

Ok and do we have a consensus now? Bitches be confusing.
/r/askMRP03/07/18 09:04 AM
1

Fuck It! - Go Rambo. Gold, Thanks, I needed to update my mantra. Previously "better to ask for forgiveness than beg for permission". This new one suits me perfectly, its gungho and way more RP.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/07/18 05:11 AM
13

An internet forum called 'ask' advising people not to post questions...., is that like the 'contact us' link on the telco website that has no phone number? And for fun: The japanese flag could actually be a pie chart of how much of japan is japan.
/r/askMRP03/07/18 01:45 AM
1

my answer is really to just carry on your own life with the 'road block' you have here. I don't like your approach, i think you are better off getting a cleaner and letting her clean around your wife. You would not believe it but i have the opposite, a work a holic who is losing touch with the family. I fought it hard, all sorts of reasons. Once i let it go I have started to see results. Let it go. Pursue other interesting things in your life for a while. If she doesn't come along, its time to l…
/r/askMRP03/07/18 01:35 AM
2

I want her to want to fuck me The holy grail. Why did she want to when you first got together? - You were new and exciting, she did not know if you were hers. Why does she not want to now? - You are familiar and boring, she knows you are there forever. Time apart and dread are 80% of your solution. Monk mode in retaliating to a 'no' is just hard core butthurt. Monk mode is of value if she thinks sex is power over you.
/r/askMRP03/07/18 01:30 AM
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I agree with others, but different tack... Making her work is no different from making her have sex. You need to get to the root of the problem so she wants to change. Spoiler: problem is either you or her.... If it's her, you can't change her.
/r/askMRP02/07/18 11:24 AM
2

So I am autistic or something is off to me here (maybe both). dude has happy life with nice LTR who goes on a bender leading to destructive behaviour / rant and a whole lot of venting, lasts a few days. Dude claims depression and 'don't know what to do" with woman having extended Feelz session. What happened to ignore what they say? Fucking jeesus you better lock me up if the above is a problem. Where i come from we just call that "tuesday night" (joke)
/r/askMRP02/07/18 03:24 AM
2

What OP describes is not depression. Not even close.
/r/askMRP02/07/18 03:17 AM
3

About the boundaries. She doesn't respect you yet, so she won't respect your boundaries. You're the little kid screaming 'DON'T' and she's the big kid saying 'MAKE ME'. She'll continue to call your bluff, just as she did in full theatre mode with the locks. You would not believe the difference you will see when you ditch the dynamite and become a man of value. The result come in on the sly, it's not direct. It's the worried look when you talk to other women, the deferring to you in front of impo…
/r/askMRP01/07/18 11:40 AM
4

WTF? This was all completely retarded. Except for the fire, that was good.
/r/askMRP01/07/18 09:32 AM
1

Totally agree.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/07/18 01:22 AM
2

Ok, so it's mania induced by medicines / drugs. Thanks.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/07/18 01:17 AM
1

No offence but that is BS. Let people talk when they are ready. Best conversations I have with my buddies is when they open up a topic on their own out of the blue.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/06/18 11:42 PM
2

+1 it's not the time to be a hero.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/06/18 11:38 PM
3

What is medical mania doctor?
/r/MarriedRedPill30/06/18 11:35 PM
2

Sounds like you glued her hamster to the middle of the maze
/r/askMRP30/06/18 02:23 AM
3

It should also be a bot
/r/askMRP30/06/18 02:21 AM
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It's not rocket science... Your problem is not that your wife found the sidebar, it is that she doesn't trust you.
/r/askMRP30/06/18 02:14 AM
3

Omg please stop with the weird
/r/MarriedRedPill29/06/18 07:09 AM
1

Or just buy the robot version
/r/MarriedRedPill29/06/18 07:06 AM
3

Well that was weird
/r/MarriedRedPill29/06/18 07:04 AM
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Dude, I dont understand everything you are talking about, but sometimes you have to back the truck up and look at the bigger picture. And from my corner of the world that bigger picture looks like a humbled dad who must tell his sons what is going on with ZERO vindication or negativity. That includes honesty about a break up, a difficult period ahead, and your best efforts to allow your sons to make their own decisions and/or remain in contact with both parents. You fucked it up*. You fix it. OY…
/r/askMRP28/06/18 10:22 AM
1

Is this the biggest problem you have with your wife?
/r/askMRP28/06/18 12:44 AM
1

Its hard at first but ONLY way to get what you want is to be a man worth giving it too. Stop trying to change her. She'll change when you're worth changing for
/r/askMRP28/06/18 12:38 AM
2

Unfortunately wills sex robots are still on back order.
/r/askMRP27/06/18 11:30 PM
5

you could not have fucked that up more if you tried.
/r/askMRP27/06/18 10:28 AM
2

Sounds positive. Small red flag in how often you talk about how calm / chuckle / OI you are, based on your post history with PI. Your test will be when you / see her / meet chad / lose on negotiations.
/r/askMRP27/06/18 10:20 AM
3

Any man in a LTR who does not have one foot out the another welcoming door ready to open is needy.
/r/askMRP27/06/18 10:10 AM
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Not married entertaining strange = red flag.
/r/askMRP26/06/18 09:20 AM
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I want a threesome to validate that my wife sees me as worthy of it. Ooooooooo kaaaaaaaaayyyyyy. I don't see any problems here.
/r/askMRP25/06/18 03:09 AM
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Tbh it sounds like you are starting from a good place. She follows you, even if you Captain badly. So it begs the question, why are you here?
/r/askMRP24/06/18 09:30 AM
2

I don't 100% understand what ' body of work' is. But I have noticed the smell of another woman is a barrier to intimacy.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/06/18 03:33 AM
0

Do you hold back from kissing her when she smokes your cigar?
/r/MarriedRedPill24/06/18 03:32 AM
1

Retard is not exactly a minority around here. But you are giving us lions a bad name.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/06/18 05:35 AM
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My method is to think of yourself in hospital at 85 dying. Look back on your life, what did you achieve, what was important to you. Write that down.
/r/askMRP22/06/18 09:47 PM
2

I agree fitness / muscles / bf% / appearance is Paramount. It's key to dread. The two things I would recommend above anything else is looks and OI / dngaf You can get away with anything and if you don't it doesn't matter
/r/askMRP21/06/18 10:48 PM
1

No one has mentioned to give less fucks. It's the other side of the coin from abundance
/r/askMRP21/06/18 10:37 PM
1

WHAT? 4 years no sex! That's no way to live
/r/askMRP21/06/18 10:35 PM
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I wonder who wins - the high SMV male vs the Wealthy male. I'm talking game of life, not sexual currency. Was just reading the constitution which has relevance in the following: 19.) The Wall: Men Appreciate, Women Depreciate: Women are depreciating assets, their major asset and unique selling point is in their beauty and fertility. Most squander their prime, engaging in casual sex with a carousel of men met in recurring dazes of substance-fuelled hedonism. Men on the other hand are beginning to…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/06/18 07:39 AM
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I agree with coach, but either way the important part is sorting it out yourself, not who you are guided by. The difference is that the mommy thing is validation driven.
/r/askMRP19/06/18 10:32 PM
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"Even though I have access whenever I want, I just don't feel like it a lot of the time."< You know the movies where the man a woman swap bodies...? You're in that movie. The universe is giving your life lesson understanding the reason for holding back sexually.
/r/askMRP19/06/18 11:29 AM
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Yes it is gold. Single best thing I have from askmrp is the thought: What are they gonna say if I posted this issue/thought/drama on here? Sorts me out time after time. Tldr: get over your micro bullshit
/r/askMRP19/06/18 10:05 AM
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You're married, why are you splitting up the finances like she's your fucking roommate I still cannot understand all this split finance stuff. It;s not like it protects you from divorce rape. Sure maintain accountability etc. But If you going ALL IN by getting married at least have the balls to be ALL IN.
/r/askMRP19/06/18 03:05 AM
2

Also going back a couple of posts, remember that the intention of frame is not about how strong it is under attack, its more about how strong it is in general. If you 'maintain frame' when tested but have no frame otherwise its a glasshouse frame. Your frame is your projection of yourself and your views of the world, which others (she) should see as strong and reliable. To interpret frame as a shelter from test / attack is but a small fraction of its importance.
/r/askMRP19/06/18 12:35 AM
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I lost frame over sexual rejection and said I needed our intimacy to be more frequent Welcome to the club. More sidebar. SMV / Dread is your main solution. You also need to reread nmmng and wisnifg. You're feeling guilty bad. I’m not as scared of her as I am of what I lose if she hits the cash and prizes button well it is still fear of her behavior and choices.
/r/askMRP18/06/18 02:11 AM
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So what do you want from her? Be honest. Time, attention, sex, better housekeeping? And what does she want from you? Be honest Better looking, leadership, more money, more attention?
/r/askMRP18/06/18 01:52 AM
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what did you say? You are very scared of her.
/r/askMRP18/06/18 01:45 AM
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there are three scenarios moving forward. Number 1) is you as beta, 2) is you as alpha, 3) is you continuing on in limbo (current state) Beta is easy, you go back to being a good boy, and get what you are given. The easy path Alpha, is possible, but harder. You have to stick to the plan, and above all else, pursue rule zero to the end. Stay plan is the go plan. Be willing to burn it down. Who cares the least wins. etc etc Limbo, is the rambo / beta cycle, or the half assed alpha. Its a prescript…
/r/askMRP18/06/18 01:36 AM
1

The vast majority of your complaints go back to caring what she does, which is the same as giving too many fucks.
/r/askMRP17/06/18 11:54 AM
1

Do you specialise in covert contractual law? The principal is good but you be setting junior up for big expectations that might not be met. Clean the house cause you want it clean Determine fiance value by what she brings to the table, under her own steam.
/r/askMRP16/06/18 07:14 AM
3

It's like a punch in the face EVERY time. BOOM. Love it.
/r/askMRP16/06/18 07:04 AM
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“I feel like I need to lead her and tell her exactly what I need and want. ” Its a bit off MRP script but you are allowed the odd clear statement of your needs, which is effectively laying the crumbs for the hamsters path out of the maze. You can't drag hamster through maze, nor can you lay pile after pile of crumbs.
/r/askMRP15/06/18 10:22 PM
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Agree with contraception, disagree with vasectomy. Another male only right / decision given up. Biological retardation is vasectomy.
/r/askMRP15/06/18 12:10 PM
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Own it like a short person owns being short. It's part of what you are.. don't hide it , don't deer or be ashamed. I doubt she is perfect either. If she needs to captain one week here and there, have that discussion. Or plan for it. FO supports the captain when needed. I can tell your problem is how you view the problem. If you are down and she criticises you, deal with it in the same way as any other shit test.
/r/askMRP15/06/18 04:49 AM
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In a parallel universe there is a woman on a sub asking what to do about the blood coming out that prevents sex, and how it "flares up" once a month, and is a DLV. Trying to hide flaws is trying to be something you are not. Own your flaws, your primary value is in other ways. We all have our weaknesses.
/r/askMRP15/06/18 12:46 AM
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she is insecure because of cheating past. RP - let her deal with it, you are who you are BP - give her security feelz Walk your own line. You sound young and not married
/r/askMRP15/06/18 12:40 AM
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6 posts below yours Sherlock similar questions
/r/askMRP13/06/18 09:34 AM
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Hit MRP pretty hard to save the marriage and never looked back Highly contentious yet i am sure what 90% of folk here are trying to do. Any commentary isolating the 'you' from the 'you two' in the turn around across time? 1000ft rope etc?
/r/MarriedRedPill11/06/18 10:17 AM
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You might be familiar with the concept that in most cases, you only get very good or very bad reviews. Hotels, toasters, wives. The distribution curve says 95% of people lie in the middle, somewhat satisfied or somewhat dissatisfied.
/r/askMRP11/06/18 06:03 AM
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I think you have a stance if Bill is your friend, but At this early stage you oak it either way. Your buying into the bullshit otherwise.
/r/askMRP11/06/18 05:58 AM
2

Be cocky funny but don't force it. You will come across as a wanker if you try to hard. The cheating / 3 women example was spot on. I personally think AA is good in theory but tough in practice in a LTR. She knows you too well, unless you are naturally like that. Don't go rAAmbo
/r/askMRP11/06/18 01:30 AM
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Full stop, next chapter. In fact it's a new book. New life when you're back, best shape you've ever been, inheritance, world is your oyster. Lessons learnt. Be humble, STFU to wife. Buy yourself a new cabinet for all your new plates. Enjoy.
/r/askMRP10/06/18 09:50 PM
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I give a shit. Bnb has played this out in front of us and didn't get it right. Well guess what, part of being a man is outstretching your hand when another man is down, Not kicking him in the balls. Much like being deployed I can only assume.
/r/askMRP10/06/18 09:34 PM
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I think you're already decided bro.
/r/askMRP10/06/18 08:09 AM
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+1 Be neutral. Don't buy into your wifes position with him. Have your own, based solely on you 1 on 1 interaction.
/r/askMRP09/06/18 10:06 PM
1

Nice. Being beta got her so you bought right in. The shine is wearing off and you are becoming the man you want to be including the attention. You are in a enviable position compared to most. All I can say is don't blow it up over a new found drive / ability / ego / whatever. Sounds like you are going to have an ongoing period of adjustment as the new order settles in.
/r/askMRP09/06/18 10:00 PM
1

Good. And the marriage? Long timers and the x year itch? Or is it worse?
/r/askMRP09/06/18 10:26 AM
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You are a hard motherfucker to place.... Forget this posts content , your posting is all over the shop...you're lost, lack mission, or something. Tell us whats going on gbaby, there is something in there your dancing around. Time to own your shit. What are you here for bro?
/r/askMRP09/06/18 08:22 AM
1

Postnatal depression?
/r/askMRP07/06/18 09:46 PM
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If you want to guage it accurately, text wife you want to talk to your daughter and count the seconds until your phone rings. And what ever you do, dont let this change your strategy with the wife. Ypu have been through enough from her to let it all fall into place for a beta megabux windfall.
/r/askMRP07/06/18 09:39 PM
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I logged in just to say r e s p e c t for the honesty.
/r/askMRP07/06/18 07:22 AM
2

Be a fucking man and get off the fence.
/r/askMRP06/06/18 06:52 AM
1

I was exclusive from 21, now 40. I have found the desire to go outside comes and goes, not always with the state of the relationship. When the desire comes and relationship is bad, thats when the trouble (or fun) starts. There is a lot of posts about how the excitement is in the chase, after that it is just a different pussy. I can't speak for myself on this.
/r/askMRP05/06/18 07:33 PM
2

Its "I'm a completely new person and she will respond accordingly". Your posts suggest you care a lot more than her. Imho you must adopt the stay plan / go plan mentality for the stay plan to work . My wife travels a lot for work and I would be all excited to catch up when she got back (my contract), she would just go to bed. The lack of interest to hang out for even 15 minutes was crushing. I've learnt not to care. You have to not care about her response to you when back.
/r/askMRP05/06/18 07:28 PM
1

Maybe true but whatever is on the mind takes the lions share of the mental attention. I am concerned there is a massive covert contract based on his many improvements whilst deployed.
/r/askMRP05/06/18 05:15 AM
1

Shit man, that went downhill quickly... At least you are getting lots of attention, you're going to have think clearly.
/r/askMRP05/06/18 05:11 AM
1

I've got 50 bucks on you wouldn't have gone through with it anyway
/r/askMRP05/06/18 01:52 AM
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Well bro i have a different take here, although it also ends in the fact that you fucked it up. Personally at a younger age i like the sexual banter and it sounded pretty light hearted and fun, i mean for fuck sake she agreed on the bj.... Where you fucked it up is that you made some terms about going and she made some return terms about the bj which you refused. You could have had a great fun trip in the night together. You could have stopped off for bit of back seat action. And i don't know ho…
/r/askMRP04/06/18 07:55 AM
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You want her to initiate be receptive to your initiations? Get down to your normal BMI. I used to yearn for her to initiate. It was part of my validation. Occasionally she does, but otherwise it goes back to the 'bull and the cow' mating story ..... (spoiler: the cow doesn't initiate, and the bull doesn't care)
/r/askMRP04/06/18 07:45 AM
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I happened to jump on here just as you posted, but it sounds like you did a solid job with the communication. And remember, you don't have to be deployed to feel like an afterthought and forgotten. Mine has lied about making phone calls and other shit too. The medium is the message. Remember that. What is the medium telling you now?
/r/askMRP04/06/18 07:35 AM
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Why bother deciding if he wants her back or not? Long term Might as well fuck her if he wants to fuck her, regardless of her expectations of what fucking means for their relationship Short term It sounds like a train wreck either way.
/r/askMRP03/06/18 06:23 AM
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Yes, get your head out of trying to make it work. Let her prove herself to you. You don't want her licking your shoes but it should be pretty evident she is right into you when only a few months in Your biggest issue is your lack of perceived or real value as a man. Fixing this (you) might solve problems with this one or certainly will for the next. The whole damaged goods thing is a big red flag around here.
/r/askMRP03/06/18 06:15 AM
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The best thing you can do to calm down imho is to assume she is cheating, make plans to move on. From that state of mind you are in a better state to assess things when she is back. What ever you do, don't contact her unnecessarily. If she contacts you keep it light and be having fun / be busy. Even if you have to fake it...note in future actually be busy and have fun. It also gets it all off your mind.
/r/askMRP03/06/18 03:09 AM
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I don't. Does it make you feel better? This problem goes on through life, just read a few posts here. .. Ask yourself why isn't she stressing about you cheating...? Answer: you care more than her, and/or are lower smv and/or have her in a pedestal.. All of which can be fixed. I hate the feeling you have and all you can do is become a man who doesn't have this problem. Personally I think she sounds low value and you should move on. Mentally you need to be willing to break up, even if you dont.
/r/askMRP03/06/18 03:03 AM
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Decide first if you want her back then set it up on your terms. Minimise stupid texts. Its on permanent record.
/r/askMRP03/06/18 02:49 AM
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Age? She has to want to improve. Dread is only thing likely to give the motivation. She likely has stopped caring too. Ask yourself why that happened....
/r/askMRP03/06/18 02:46 AM
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+1 One of the few I have memory of from the start.
/r/askMRP02/06/18 11:03 PM
1

Snormal.
/r/askMRP01/06/18 05:13 AM
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This won't work. The problem is infinite. Not absolute. If she is part narcissistic which I am guessing, she will just look for the next thing. Her: oh no its raining You: oh don't worry, I have your umbrella Her: why did you bring the black one it doesn't match my clothes You: they are all black Her: well you should know I always wanted a white one. You can't (always) win the game. Stop trying. don't play.
/r/askMRP31/05/18 10:59 PM
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This is exactly my situation except mine does all this management and negotiation training, which has a high cross over with Rp behaviour. HIGH. Ultimately I separate out her modes (home Mrs simba and work Mrs simba). I Rp the home version (which she likes), and avoid the other except the obvious. Our problems arise with her devaluing sex when she is extra busy and the work mode cuts out sex due to exhaustion. Otherwise we are good. Its quite Jekyll and Hyde. Pm me if you want to chat more
/r/askMRP31/05/18 07:46 PM
1

Nice roasting
/r/askMRP31/05/18 06:42 AM
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Pretty much the same title as my first post. And they are all right, you're fine advisor's here. I have one thing to add. What's her work? They get so 'alpha manager' at work, competing with men, that beta you at home is just dessert. Literally. Follow mrp but also play the game of 'wannabe alpha' female . How? Pick your times and battles. Dominate in the important ways. Not over fucking dinner. Im one year ahead on this game.
/r/askMRP31/05/18 05:46 AM
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Well i will give you the benefit of the doubt and say that this is probably in your head. You feel a need to be the provider. She is probably enjoying paying for things if she is into you that much. I agree it is putting a bit of pressure on you. If you have kids it all changes again (mat leave). I take it your finances are separate. I think you should be stoked take whats offered graciously, and pay it back in ways only a man can - through Value. Don't believe any bs you can't be the MAN withou…
/r/askMRP25/05/18 06:41 AM
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Is this possible to stay in this relationship given the circumstances and make it work. Just to be clear, the circumstances are that you are in a relationship with a hot chick who earns lots of money? Its a question of value. Earning money is an obvious measure of value. But so is future earning potential. So is her being the envy of her girlfriends So is giving squirting orgasms.
/r/askMRP25/05/18 05:22 AM
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Goes back to the age Gap and maturity between the two. I bet they are roughly the same age and his maturity is lower. This is where I fucked up TBH.
/r/askMRP25/05/18 01:28 AM
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All of the guys answering you here post regularly for all sort of issues. On top of that, we are a lot older and have seen things. I'm assuming you are about 25. We have all been through years of ups and downs with a wife, and guess what, they all started out as adorable trustable creatures. We know a red flag when we see one, and this is a red flag. We are highlighting that fact, and trying to help (each in our own ways). She tell you about a dating trip now, guess what, in 5 years she wants to…
/r/askMRP25/05/18 01:05 AM
1

Mateguarding = needy / hopeful of an outcome (reactive / unplanned situation), not in charge = NO CONSEQUENCES FOR FAILURE Boundary = Setting expectations (proactively planned), authoritive, in charge = CONSEQUENCES FOR FAILURE Problem with boundaries is once you set them, you must enforce. You know how a child 'tests' parents at various ages? You know how we say 'pushing the boundaries' Its all the same shit.
/r/askMRP25/05/18 12:47 AM
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I'm trying to see if you're all congruent about this or just making it up as you go. Every comment is either let the chick do w/e the fuck and don't care (why the fuck are you married then?) or disallow. I think this is a fair call, but the reality is you are asking strangers on the internet a question with relatively limited background info. Its not like we know you and her personally. But let me take you back 1 year, spring time 2017 in the US of A, summer holiday planning season. There were a…
/r/askMRP24/05/18 11:31 PM
1

Your title doesn't match your problem, but it is still worth your while to read mark Manson's book, ' the subtle art of not giving a fuck'. It's pretty light but helps get you out of your head.
/r/askMRP24/05/18 11:04 PM
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Yeah that's NEXT worthy right there <rollseyes> You have fuckload of work to do.
/r/askMRP24/05/18 03:37 AM
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Give less fucks. That will make STFU easier. What ever she has got you riled up over is not worth the response, unless you care too much.
/r/askMRP24/05/18 03:29 AM
1

I am going to give you a slightly different take, but beware it works for me for a particular reason as follows: Mrs Simba and I both studied biology together. The animal kingdom is rife with male domination, fucking rife, can't be ignored. There are many MANY times, I remind her of how things are "in the wild". She knows I am right. It doesn't actually change her stance on many issues but the cold hard facts of "hunter/gatherer" and "spread seed / nuture" drive home the point that whilst we liv…
/r/askMRP24/05/18 02:43 AM
1

I have 100 days for..... laying down a few extra welds on the corners of the big ass frame you built..... Strong like oak.... FTFY
/r/askMRP24/05/18 12:48 AM
0

Come on.... It's catch and release in reverse bro.
/r/askMRP24/05/18 12:39 AM
1

So looking forward to your field report...when is touchdown?
/r/askMRP23/05/18 12:31 PM
2

Nice. Sometimes it really just is no contest.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/05/18 03:38 AM
2

For the first time I believe I agree with u/simbarlion here. I knew you'd come around /s This is a great write up of a journey to being social. I thought i would add a few things from my own experience. I have always talked to anyone, so socialising is not a weak point for me. In fact i tend to go overboard, and act as though i am friends with someone before they think that. It can be awkward, as I often tease and joke which can be taken the wrong way. As I got older i moved on to also talk natu…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/05/18 02:03 AM
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6 months older than my wife.... I can see lots of benefits of a bigger gap.... But we grew up together.... it's too even... harder to captain etc. Maybe I'm just complaining...
/r/MarriedRedPill22/05/18 11:29 AM
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I thought rpc's post was fantastic but TBH almost zero to do with what I would expect a 'social life' post to be about. Maybe u/red_sfpplus or u/88will88 could add to it....
/r/MarriedRedPill22/05/18 11:02 AM
1

I'ma late to this party, but i think it is worth adding that we underestimate the fact that 'they' do mrp behaviours to us as well. Its good to recognise this. They may not have the formal training as is provided here, but lets be honest, she is executing a combination of STFU and OI all over your ass and it is working. And if she is being pissy well that is just excercising female right to be emotional. Checkmate. Remember, the person in the relationship who cares least, wins. If you don't care…
/r/askMRP21/05/18 10:16 AM
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I am Compelled to comment on the anal / swallow. Mine does both, occasionally. It's definitely a submission thing. No doubt in my mind. Biological, I don't know. Both are total domination and more importantly a physical display / acceptance of that fact.
/r/askMRP19/05/18 06:36 AM
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Details....
/r/askMRP19/05/18 06:28 AM
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My best position right now is to stick with her until she decides to pull the cash and prizes lever, and prepare until then. Your best position right now is to disengage and work hard as a mother fucker on yo'self. Bleeding knuckles hard bitch.
/r/askMRP19/05/18 03:53 AM
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FWIW mental willingness is usually enough. You don't need the match and petrol for someone to think you'll go through with it. You know when a disagreement with another dude at a bar turns into fight? You look in his eye a see a crazy kamikaze look....? You back away. Get that look. Be willing to take it down to the ground.
/r/askMRP19/05/18 03:16 AM
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It got to the point where she would name them after I stopped asking cause I stopped caring. Still get slight envy because I'm deployed but it was not as bad as before. It's evolving. Awesome
/r/askMRP19/05/18 03:10 AM
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did you know that in most of the world the '#' sign means 'pound'. Translate that into the feminist campaign '#Metoo'
/r/MarriedRedPill17/05/18 07:13 AM
1

Very nice.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/05/18 07:10 AM
1

I'm losing track of what we are talking about, but as a lowly user i am just saying ASKMRP easily outnumbers MRP for posts. I understand the criteria for one v the other but in honesty the value in separating the two is marginal imho. Its the same people commenting on both subs. I really dont care though, I look through both anyway.
/r/askMRP17/05/18 12:07 AM
2

It took me ages to get out the habit of spouting the rules. For me it was more about being the fucking master of dissecting the technical construct of the argument and 'trapping' her in her own bullshit. It never helped, and it was also the reason STFU came hard to me. Apparently arguing is not like a game of chess. At some point each couple has to have a difficult conversation (argument) and STFU is simply not the best option. If the ship is in rough seas and the FO has problems, there are time…
/r/askMRP16/05/18 11:46 PM
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This is highly relevant https://www.reddit.com/r/TheRedPill/comments/7x4pyy/play_the_game_dont_spout_the_rules/
/r/askMRP16/05/18 10:18 PM
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I have not seen anyone comment on the STFU hamster dread rant where you lay it out what and why you are changing. You basically told her it was for her / more sex. That was a bad move. But I think you know that so I'll spare the insults. I have taught myself to pull the rip cord on conversations like that, EJECT GOOSE EJECT.! even if you just literally just stop talking in an awkward way....just sigh, change topic or walk away. There is a great post about play the game, not the player, with NBA …
/r/askMRP16/05/18 10:15 PM
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So you're telling me you have made red pill changes and trust her but your mad at her because her house mate let a male friend stay over...?
/r/askMRP16/05/18 10:38 AM
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"You're pissed and I can tell it". Don't forget she is assessing this single event in the context of all the previous similar cases. So you're butthurt untill proven 'not butthurt' in her eyes
/r/askMRP15/05/18 11:05 PM
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+1 for the unnecessary escalation
/r/askMRP15/05/18 10:50 PM
1

yet this gets through https://www.reddit.com/r/marriedredpill/comments/8jj72g/top_of_rvideos_post_wall_woman_finds_her_bb_watch/
/r/askMRP15/05/18 06:43 AM
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Yeah this pissed me off too, as the default assumption is anything she 'thinks' needs to happen is the default state, and the man is left to either "lead" of "fail". Fuck that, mine has these moments of 'flap' where she 'needs to do this' or 'needs to do that', i am not going to jump up and 'lead' just because she thinks its time to pack shit up. Yes I realise i need to lead so that shit does not always need to be packed up. But more importantly we need to acknowledge that the feminine narrative…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/05/18 02:41 AM
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I agree. In my head i differentiate the two as : MRP - theoretical / lessons learnt / Field Reports from anyone >6months ASKMRP - Newbies, rubbish post / other basic shit Now TBH I can get most of whats in MRP from the books. Except I think things like 60DoD which is very real world, i have benefited greatly form each one. But ASK is much more paticipatory. Throw ideas around, hear people problems. It is a bit like Time magazine versus Who magazine. I need ot sit the fuck down and concentrate on…
/r/askMRP15/05/18 01:42 AM
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there are more posts here on ask in the last 24 hours than in the last 7 days on MRP.
/r/askMRP15/05/18 12:46 AM
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I mostly put them in the dishwasher but occasionally handwash if there is stuff stuck on pretty hard
/r/askMRP15/05/18 12:41 AM
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Ok well OP's original post describes a scenario where he is clearly interested in pursuing it further (backed up by previous posts) and specifically asks what should he do about messaging this girl, and how should he go about it. I'm fine with where different people draw the line in catch/release. I was just responding to the question.
/r/askMRP15/05/18 12:29 AM
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Yes I have to say that sss's 'seminal work' really has all of the answers to your questions.
/r/askMRP14/05/18 10:44 PM
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I'll go out on a limb and say that is also the case for the majority of people here. But you contradict yourself, you want to do it, but you're too scared to. You are allowed to talk to hot chicks you know... The truth is you put hot chicks on a pedestal and you know your wife will see through any flimsy story you create. Here's you're plausible deniability.. To wife after she cracks it, " oh don't worry babe, she told me she could get me a discount card to x store for you, but she didn't have t…
/r/askMRP14/05/18 10:37 PM
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I can't tell if you really cheated or not.... Assuming not, you have just failed some comfort and shit tests and are a total pussy. Otherwise I think you could make it, if you wanted too. May as well give it a crack. Give it another shot kimosabe.
/r/askMRP14/05/18 08:08 AM
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curiously i did pile on some beta this mothers day. It's been alpha overload lately in the den. But i did it for me. Valentines day was a card 'I looked good today, shame you missed me'. So i flipped it for MD
/r/askMRP13/05/18 11:45 PM
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I had to read this about 5 times to realise that IT WAS RAINING.
/r/askMRP13/05/18 11:19 PM
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That's bullshit. She would have to know about it first for there to be a problem. There is nothing wrong with meeting someone, plausible deniability is easily created. I would at least want to know if there was a chance of it happening. Going through with it is another decision. You are clearly scared of your wife. You just played your ' I'm a pussy' card.
/r/askMRP13/05/18 10:38 PM
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Everything that you speak of is hamstering. Your only solution is to better yourself. And remember, it's not nice, but she might meet Chad anywhere. Don't stress that it's happening at work. Watch for how she behaves with you. Don't try to second guess everything going on.
/r/askMRP13/05/18 11:09 AM
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I'm a Jedi. People weird out when I talk about Yoda and the force so I just go with God. /s
/r/askMRP13/05/18 10:56 AM
2

I'd invite her to something cool that i was doing anyway.
/r/askMRP13/05/18 10:53 AM
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I love hypotheticals, cause it's easy to say, "fuck yeah, go for it." But in reality I think you should take this as a shit test from God, cause you got the golden ticket in your hands Charlie.... If it ain't now it's never. What kind of man are you going to be?
/r/askMRP13/05/18 08:13 AM
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+1 here on ngaf. Entitle yourself to one fuck given for every fuck (sex) she gives you. Seriously. Count it out. The fact that you care about how to handle a shit test = 1 fuck given. Responding to texts =1 fuck given. Thinking about what she says about the beard = 1 fuck given Get it? Btw, I personally think that you are doing the beard, cause that's what an mrp guy would do (=fuck given). You ARE ALLOWED to give in things like this, you don't have to stand your ground. Mine likes clothes picke…
/r/askMRP13/05/18 03:07 AM
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Have you ever seen a small child do a self imposed time out / punishment ? Like going and sitting in a corner with a blanket and crying looking around hoping someone is noticing?. That is about how your wife will see you while you implement your physical Monk mode.
/r/askMRP12/05/18 07:51 AM
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You are honest. You are more beta than beta, you act like she is your God and ruler. Your going to get a lot of comments. I have one simple suggestion for you and that is to do a mental Monk mode. What this means is to walk your own path alongside her path for a while, not just following her along hers. I am suggesting this independently of the physical Monk mode you're proposing. The end goal is to establish yourself as your own man and eventually captain which is achieved by getting her to swi…
/r/askMRP12/05/18 07:47 AM
1

its as easy as this: Are you going to remain with a woman who cheated, openly wants you to find strange, considers you omega, and is otherwise completely checked out of the relationship? Get some self respect.
/r/askMRP12/05/18 01:43 AM
1

SSS, you can still use "quotes" in your replies yeah?
/r/askMRP11/05/18 03:54 AM
1

Sounds like the reboot was successful. What's next?
/r/askMRP10/05/18 09:50 PM
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