How to hold frame when u’re tired?

matrixtospartanatLV · 2018-09-08T18:38:27+00:00

“How to hold frame when u’re tired?”

“...how can I have the strength to carry on?”

Are you fucking kidding me?

What the fuck is wrong with you?

Did your doctor not complete the operation to turn you from a woman into a man?

36/M Professional...

At what? Being a slack-jawed faggot?

For fucks sake, MAN THE FUCK UP!

You sound like my 9 year old daughter having a bad day.

Want more sleep?

Simple.

You do know the best answers in life are simple, right? But fuck you if you think simple is easy.

Ready?

Eat right.

Exercise.

Sleep more.

BAM!!

Problem solved.

No?

I’ll bet you’re still a little bitch, right?

Schedule an appointment with your doctor for a full blood panel that includes both testosterone markers and signs of depression.

While you are waiting for that appointment and subsequent results, research testosterone numbers and also make a list of foods that increase vascularity, testosterone, and builds muscle. Eat anything on all three lists.

8 hours a day in bed. Period. You’re pretty active, maybe cut back a little and spend that time in the sidebar.

You’re a quitter.

You want a divorce because you’ve been beta, she’s a harpy bitch, and you don’t want to fix you because it would be too much fucking work.

Guess what....

If you don’t fix you now, you will be the same little beta bitch in a relationship with wife 2.0, or GF, or whatever you happen to snag on the rebound.

“How can I have the strength...”

You fucking baby...

Man the fuck up.

Grow a pair with hair.

Swallow the fucking pill.

Stop being a douchebag.

Sidebar.

If you need help with that, let me know.

But for the sake of your young son, stop being the biggest bitch in the house.

Women TALK.

Men DO.

If you need help DOING something, askMRP.

Otherwise, STFU and..

GET TO FUCKING WORK!

RedPill-BlackLotus · 2018-09-09T10:02:04+00:00

You have only been at this 2 months man.

Forget about your fucking wife.

The second you modify your behaviour because of your perception of her reaction you are in her frame.

She is going to resists and fight tooth and nail everything change you make.

Shut your mouth.

You have been a spineless tithead now for YEARS! Quick question, in time you have been with your wife, has she ever witnessed you morph into a different version of yourself? I'm willing to bet the answer is No, you have been the same hollowed out husk of a man now since adulthood. Why would she accept anything new comming out of you at face value. She is always going to think it's an angel to manipulate her because guess what. Thats how she's choosing her behaviour so she will always be assuming you are doing the same.

But you are not right? You are doing this for You? Because if you are doing any of this to just change her that's a covert contract and covered In the 101 level reading on the side bar. Read the fucking sidebar.

You have enough work in your training and diet alone to keep you buisy. Get audio versions of the side bar and listen to them while you crush cardio. You get 2 things for the price of one. Start tracking and weighing yourfood. Let her witnesses you change into a different version of yourself right in front of her eyes. It establishes credibility and the actual payoff is a new stronger you that is in a much better position to make better decisions. Strong you = strong frame.

Stop running like a skinny faggot and get under a barbell. Pussys run, men fight. The only running a man should do is chasing down the fucker he's going to pound into dust. Or to catch the woman he's going to nail because that's what this particular plate is into.

Today I said it to myself again, i’ll file for divorce. But sadly not yet.

You better have a fucking solid plan set up and ready to go before you play that card boss. You have to be able to speak calmly and with conviction. Without placing any blame. Your plan has to be laid out and ready to exicue. Quick question. If she looks at you in your current form, will she say to herself "fuck, this guy can run the whole show without me and god damit, other females will want a piece of That". If she dosent see or feel that she will just call you on your divorce play. It's perfect victim ammo, the bad man left me, and she still gets your shit. In her mind shes losing a fat worthless chump. She will laugh in your face.

Do you really want to divorce her or are you so emotionally weaksauce that the divorce card is just a tool to apply pain to her because using regular words just dosent work. Because you have no frame.

You play that divorce card, she calls it, gets half your shit anyway and now she's free to fuck whoever she wants. In this scenario you are a hot beta mess wiping away your tears with torn pages from the five love languages.

Sex currently almost non-existent

You don't have much to lose her. Your already a shower masterbater. If you say " my kids", well if you stay this pathetic loser your kids will only ever know you as a pathetic loser. Show your kids what to do when you are being taken advantage of in a relationship. Become the BEST version of yourself FOR YOUR kids. Demonstrate that a man's power is his ability to maneuver. Yours is limited by your fear right now. You can always make more money man, you can't make more time.

I feel i’m going to divorce her sooner or later. But i fear the fight

As soon as the beta faggot in your head starts spewing dialog like that you need to pick up on it. Your affraid? There is room for growth there. Reflect on your fear and figure it out. Do it on a piece of cardio equipment you fat bastard.

I’m a believer of TRP now, u’ve got me converted. The question is, how can i find the strength to carry on

The strength comes from within and in time.

Shut your mouth. Pump iron. Read the side bar and all of the content posts from the approved contributors .

Inject testosterone into your buttox.

Good luck man.

6TimesDown7TimesUp · 2018-09-08T18:35:06+00:00

If you want to get divorced get divorced. If you don’t, then don’t.

It’s got nothing to do with “strength” and all to do with owning your own decisions.

You made the bed you’re lying in. It’s 100% up to you and only you to decide what to do about it and when.

youcantdenythat · 2018-09-08T23:01:54+00:00

Amused mastery.

She doesn't respect you? lol who gives a fuck, you don't need her anyway. You don't need some card games.

She wants to bitch and yell, walk away. Go do something else. Doesn't take that much effort. Take the kids to the park or something.

Sounds like you are working out too much if anything. 1.5 hours per day should be enough.

Holding frame, in-and-of-itself takes no effort. You basically ignore things that are not in your frame. You don't give them any weight. Your wife yelling at you should be similar to a kid calling you a poopy head.

The only reason you think it's hard to hold frame is because you believe some of the shit she says. Somewhere you think that you are a poopy head. If you didn't believe it, you wouldn't care what she says.

Have you read the NMMNG and WISNIFG? If not go read them. If so, go read them again.

RPenginerd · 2018-09-08T19:14:47+00:00

https://www.reddit.com/r/Divorce/comments/9e68u6/how_to_face_shouting_stbx_when_tired/

Maybe you're better off in r/divorce

They love beta pussy behavior.

SteelToeShitKicker · 2018-09-09T04:52:22+00:00

I think you are afraid of your wife. I think you have to force yourself to hold frame, it takes energy. When you get tired, you lapse to your normal state. Only you can answer why you are afraid of your wife, why you let her run the show.

When I'm tired, I'm even more of a dick than usual. I really can't be bothered with bullshit. But I have never been afraid of my wife.

Stonesaint · 2018-09-09T08:53:16+00:00

Dude.

I see a lot of 'i' and 'u' when I see Indians writing.

Are you one?

Dealing with the Emotional Drama of an Indian SAHM is something else, you'll have to nut up and source rock solid stability through the lifts.

Don't expect help from anywhere else - it's even more scarce in Indians.

And your other subreddit haunts are designed for a single philosophy - Misery loves Company.

Your words are dripping with that same ball shrinking hospital scent.

Embrace Iron. Treat it like a Personal Temple. Make that your God. Give Blood and Sweat - Take Power.

And watch your writing, it's laced with Misery.

ReddJive · 2018-09-10T12:18:41+00:00

This is warfare. If you haven't been soldier then you need to figure that shit out now. She isn't your friend not by a long shot. She willl know exactly when to get to you when you are at your weakest.

To me this is why going Rambo aint' so bad. Anger never lies, so just letting lose when you've had enough is ok. Just accept what happens after.

Put this into perspective. Does she even deserve to have a calmer you? She's pushing you and pushing at some point any one would break. I know my STBX does this. Oh boy does she ever. After a while under the artillery fire enough is enough. I open the front door and tell her it's time to go. She leaves for a while.

Finding the strength?

No. It's not about that. It's about finally making the decision.. How much more are you going to put with? How much more are you going to deal with? What your kids are seeing is that her behavior is acceptable. There is no time for a perfect divorce. Trust me. Look at my post history and you will see. You can rationalize it all you want but in the end it's the same decision.

So the question isn't when you are ready it's how much more are you going to deal with?

RedPillCoach · 2018-09-11T03:50:33+00:00

i’m going to divorce her sooner or later. But i fear the fight. I don’t want to be burdened so much financially so much so i can never be free of debt again.

This is obviously a legitimate concern.

Instead of 'quitting' and giving up after getting knocked on your ass have you considered getting up, hitting the gym and the books, getting a good night's sleep, and continuing to fight?

And how will i know when i’m strong enough to file for divorce?

With your attitude I am compelled to paraphrase Leon Trotsky: You may not be interested in divorce but divorce is interested in you.

Before you get the strength to file for divorce, how about you get the strength to take control of your home and your wife?

RedPillCoach · 2018-09-11T04:00:11+00:00

wife flipped and really screamed and threw away my stuff. Nothing important, just some card games. I’ve confronted her b4 after taking TRP.

So you confronted your wife after taking TRP? I almost want to put up that Willie Wonka meme: Really? Tell me more.

i was tired today. I felt a headache, i wasn’t strong enough. I let her bully me around, and it happened in front of the kids.

So? Ignoring and short term stonewalling a wife who is being obnoxious is a viable strategy. You gonna argue with her and try to out yell her? Show me how that is anywhere near "Red Pill."

I feel like such a looser.

Another thing you don't get. Nobody gives a fuck how you feel. You are a man. That also means nobody really even noticed that you were bullied. That also means you are being overdramatic and assigning far, far more significance to this event than anybody else.

When you get knocked down on the football field or in the dojo you get up, and try harder.

Illumipadd · 2018-09-08T18:41:33+00:00

You're with an abuser with a personality disorder. Somebody like that has the homefield advantage since conflict stimulates them. Gray rock her if youre tired and use fogging exensively. These tactics carry a low energy cost and will let you rope-a-dope her when other avenues of resistence are too taxing to access.

You don't deserve to wither under some cluster-b storm. You and your kids will prosper in direct proportion to the steps you take to reduce contact and engagement with your abuser.

A change is better than a rest.

BobbyPeru · 2018-09-08T18:40:14+00:00

If you’re tired, lay down and take a nap or just STFU. It’s not that complex.

simbarlion · 2018-09-08T23:28:59+00:00

Since when was this sub ' ask alice'

helaughsinhidden · 2018-09-09T01:33:44+00:00

Amen to that brother. I usually take one kid at a time with me to the gym myself.

And you're right btw, no reason for being an emotionally weak male (or female as Jesse Peterson would say).

SteelSharpensSteel · 2018-09-08T18:39:40+00:00

Lift more, faggot.

And stop thinking about going Rambo or get sucked into anger or despair. Suck it up and follow the process. You're too early in to do anything drastic.

Two months. Hah. Get back to work.

helaughsinhidden · 2018-09-08T21:19:01+00:00

I think I know what your problem is, according to my math you are jogging 8 kilometers per day plus one hour of yoga per day plus lifting everyday. It looks like you're spending at least 3 hours per day in the gym. That might be a little on the excessive side considering you've got kids and a wife and you're feeling too tired. I think the easy answer is to cut your exercise down to about one-and-a-half to two hours per day.

Boom problem solved! Next

Driven2b · 2018-09-08T21:51:57+00:00

Being tired, even exhausted is synonymous to an emotional reaction. Clouds your judgement and makes you unpredictable.

Mental strength, through whatever means, and the conscious continuous decision to not allow it to control you are the only things that will help.

Two_kids_in_a_coat · 2018-09-09T00:03:43+00:00

If you believe it then it becomes natural. You still think she’s the best you can get, and you’re probably right.

Title	How to hold frame when u’re tired?
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Date	September 8, 2018 6:11 PM UTC (7 years ago)
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