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TRT will make you dependent on it and destroy your fertility. It is the nuclear weapon, however, in fixing your T. It WILL fix the level even if you literally don't produce any. But if you can't get it at some point for some reason, you will not be able to produce your own anymore. Don't love that. Enclomiphene citrate does not create dependence, so you can go off it and return to your natural levels, and it can still can 1.5-2.5x your T. It has been life changing for me to go from upper 300s to…
/r/askMRP29/07/25 05:36 PM
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2/2 Gravitas is built over time by how you handle small asks. If your wife doesn’t know what your answer will be in these situations - if she’s guessing or testing or hoping - you haven’t made your values clear through daily living. The man with gravitas isn’t just reacting to a dress. He’s already cultivated an atmosphere where this kind of ask is unusual. That takes time. It takes wins. It takes restraint. It takes congruency and consistency. Start with: - Leading financially with clear, share…
/r/askMRP05/06/25 09:31 PM
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1/2 Honestly, I'm probably not going to be able to satisfy you fully here, because gravitas isn’t a script; it’s a virtue you display. It's as much about what you don’t say or do as what you do. But I’ll try to offer some principles and examples that you can do with as you will. First, having gravitas means not being more emotionally reactive than your wife. In this post, OP escalated internally and then externally - calling his wife a bitch not because of betrayal or malice, but because she ask…
/r/askMRP05/06/25 09:24 PM
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Cost of the dress: $2k Number of texts you shared: 3-4, I forget, this line is just supposed to be a second number Gravitas in your thought process and response: 0 You need to learn to lead with gravitas and she may (long term) learn to follow your lead in such a fashion that she wouldn't even ask something like this unless it were in the realm of possibility because she already knows the answer. Steady leadership and gravitas from a man who is at home practicing agree and amplify, amused master…
/r/askMRP04/06/25 04:22 PM
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Actually, I went and asked chatgpt myself: "Thanks for sharing how you feel. I’m going to take some time to think about everything before I decide how to move forward." "I hear you, and I want to give this the thought it deserves. I’ll let you know once I’ve had time to reflect on it." "This is something I need to consider carefully. I’ll circle back with my thoughts once I’ve had a chance to weigh it out." "I’m not ready to give an answer right now. I’d rather respond with wisdom than react emo…
/r/RPChristians18/05/25 08:04 PM
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You cannot lead with gravitas if you are responding reactively. Leading is not being emotionally reactive. You cannot consider the situation and calmly decide how you would like to proceed if you are fuming. Not all problems have to be solved on the spot, and you are simply not an effective leader if you think that you're solving a problem by responding when fuming. Most of all, you aren't in your own courtroom, where you take a matter, ponder it, decide the best course of action, and then prono…
/r/RPChristians18/05/25 07:57 PM
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You are flailing about in the wind and have no mastery over yourself, it's no wonder your wife isn't leaving you. You're also quite literally begging for a DV case against you, good luck ever owning firearms again once the sisterhood helps her out. Further, you're going to leave her over this lame disagreement? Have you not read Scripture? Unless there is something else going on (like adultery on her part) you have no cause to divorce her, you only have cause to keep inviting her to join you, wi…
/r/RPChristians07/01/25 05:03 AM
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You failed with the girl you've got one-itus for because you cared too much, not because his advice sucks (it may, I don't know this guy, but you succeeded with the other girls because you weren't trying too hard with them). You must actually do the work, not just follow some PUA advice. That means that physically - you are developing your strength. Lifting. Maybe practicing BJJ. Big muscles. Big strong. Emotionally you are developing your ability to read the room, your emotional intelligence. M…
/r/RPChristians16/06/24 06:27 AM
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We have two reading programs we work through; the Bible Reading Challenge is the entire bible over 9 months. Same Page Summer is the entire New Testament again over the summer.
/r/RPChristians27/08/21 03:18 AM
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Until I found the RP I didn't know I needed to be discipled. Of course no RP veteran will be surprised to hear that it was life-changing for the better.
/r/RPChristians26/08/21 05:39 AM
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Did you actually consider what I wrote? You say you hate feminism and that's great, but when you realize how you are influenced by it in what is functionally a form of blank slate equalism, you may realize what I'm referring to. This is something you will have to see for yourself though. I can only point out that you expect men and women to bear the same burdens, but men and women are not the same. Anyway, I'm not really interested in arguing, especially with someone who isn't posting their OYS …
/r/RPChristians26/08/21 05:31 AM
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That is the complementarian crypto-feminist way.
/r/RPChristians26/08/21 05:24 AM
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'If this is bewitchment,' said Théoden, 'it seems to me more wholesome than your whisperings. Your leechcraft ere long would have had me walking on all fours like a beast. This was me, finding the RP and juxtaposing it with the manipulation of my ex, instinctively knowing I was being manipulated, but way out of my league and ability to stop it or deal with it, 4 years ago. I was fat, unattractive, had no options. Today that is no longer the case. I have a lot I want to improve, but I am not that…
/r/RPChristians26/08/21 05:23 AM
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Sexy is worldly... lol I'll be watching for you to post stats and your OYS, but I'm guessing from your post history that won't be forthcoming 😂
/r/RPChristians26/08/21 05:06 AM
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Well, this is possible when you have a believing wife, but harder when she is functionally a nonbeliever. But of course, I talked about communication above. Sounds like no reading comprehension mixed with big eva complementarianism ;-)
/r/RPChristians26/08/21 05:04 AM
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1 Peter 3:7
/r/RPChristians26/08/21 05:02 AM
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I wonder if you can see how this is influenced by feminism when juxtaposed with what I wrote above. Can you take a moment to consider that?
/r/RPChristians26/08/21 05:01 AM
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#3 is what I am implicitly suggesting above.
/r/RPChristians26/08/21 05:00 AM
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Get yourself a Cantus Christi 2020 (or a few for the guys) and get the guys together to sing. We do Beer & Psalms every Wednesday right after work, get together, group up by bass, tenor, alto, soprano (lol), and start singing for an hour. There is a great mix of hymns and psalms in there, and some of them are tricky to learn, but there is a group on facebook where people sing the parts so you can learn them. There is pretty much no gathering of my church friends that doesn't end up in some singi…
/r/RPChristians26/08/21 04:58 AM
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Hah. I'm singing in that video and so are my kids. This is my church, my people. And yes, we love to sing! This is based on Isaiah 8. I hope you consider joining us in our bible reading challenge!
/r/RPChristians26/08/21 04:52 AM
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> Others doing it in public are there for the socialization first and God 2nd. The scriptures are clear about that and the reality of what I have seen makes that clear enough. Nonsense. "I was glad when they said to me, let us go unto the house of the Lord". Ps 122:1 - I could easily go on extensively. CS Lewis wrote that "Those who cannot conceive of Friendship as a substantive love but only as a disguise or elaboration of Eros betray the fact that they have never had a Friend". Likewise, someo…
/r/RPChristians18/08/21 04:52 AM
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I'm glad you're still posting these. I have been gone for awhile. I went back and looked at your old OYS's from a year ago or whatever I scrolled back to kind of randomly. You're up significantly in BF%. "Workouts went good this week" then you only talk about bench. What are your lifts? Are you keeping track of them all? You can bench more than me, so that's good because I bust tail on this. A week of workouts should usually encompass all 4 major lifts or some variant of them. You're still dabbl…
/r/RPChristians17/08/21 06:07 PM
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I understand, the NPC mindset is very real with this. To avoid completely pointless conflict, with THAT group of people I just say "I got vaccinated" and then in my mind I think "...against stupidity" and then I move on. I view it the same as the midwives lying about the hebrew babies, or hiding jews in my attic from the nazis or that sort of wartime deception. I'm so sorry for the loss of your father. I won't tell you how to grieve - but you are going to need to. Porn won't help this, it will o…
/r/RPChristians17/08/21 05:55 PM
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More red flags than a north korean parade. Go read the book of Proverbs, especially the first 7 chapters for the warnings, but the rest for the contrasts, over and over again until you get it. Stop pursuing strange women. Get in a church where you can see women who actually love Jesus treating life as though they are children of God. They exist, I've seen it. If she's not all in, she's not in. Real believers sin, but they repent of it. This is a practice of sin and foolishness. Next.
/r/RPChristians16/08/21 10:38 PM
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Some thoughts - I skimmed your post and you're really stuck on the vaccine thing. I empathize because the harder they push it the more I am resolved to never let them touch me with it, simply on principle, even putting aside the concerns about it, but you need to remember, Christ is King. Turn off the news. Pick up your Bible instead. Copy the Psalms by hand. Turn off the social media, and pray instead. Read Psalm 37 over and over again. "I have been young, and am now old, but I have never seen …
/r/RPChristians16/08/21 10:01 PM
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Relational I haven't posted OYS in awhile, although I've been doing the work, because I was hoping to complete the divorce before I reported back. However, as I'll be booted if I don't, here we go. Just to be clear, most of this is giving the backstory; some of it was written awhile back but I'm not writing it in anguish anymore. I consider myself single now, although as regards obedience to God I consider myself unavailable as the divorce isn't complete, and I have no interest in bringing the m…
/r/RPChristians16/08/21 06:53 PM
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OYS 8/16/2021 Summary 40, big family. Found RP Thanksgiving of 2017. Mission To serve, love, obey, and know God. To be a discipled man that has raised children that love the Lord, and to lead a godly home. To train men and disciple others. To start and run successful and growing businesses. To bring glory to God. I'm still adjusting this over time, but it's basically the same in spirit as when I started. Mission Progress Serve, love, obey and know God - going well for the most part To be a disci…
/r/RPChristians16/08/21 06:53 PM
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My heart aches for you, because I lived this. My firstborn would be 21 now, but he or she was murdered in the womb. And even thinking about this wrecks me, still, twenty one years later. If you can convince her to save the baby, even if not paying any child support and you raise your kid alone, do it. But in this world you can't realistically do anything besides try this. You need to use your brain to try and save the life. But man, you also need to get yourself together. This is not the sort of…
/r/RPChristians27/01/21 09:15 PM
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To be discipled is to get to mutually know someone with the intention of that person helping you to come to know who God is, and learning to imitate God, obviously referring to ways we can do so as humans. It's to intentionally approach this with a goal of imitating God and growing in relationship with God, and serving and loving God. At least that's how I'd put it. Red-curious might say it better because he's better at this.
/r/RPChristians14/01/21 03:10 AM
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The very first thing I would suggest is dealing with your childhood trauma. Because that's what that is. And until you do, it's going to follow you everywhere. This can be done while working RPC. And you will have a lot more success if you get to know the love of the Father. (God, I mean). And for that you'll need to be in scripture and also you may consider being discipled. If you want to chat privately I'd be glad to. I also just got done dealing with a bunch of the same thing. Your childhood …
/r/RPChristians14/01/21 02:41 AM
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Did you ask your Dad for things you didn't already have? Because in healthy families, kids do that. Sometimes the answer is no, and that's ok, but they do. Because Dad loves the kids, and loves to hear from them, and they love him, and love to ask him.
/r/RPChristians14/01/21 01:34 AM
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It sounds like your father has influenced your perception of your Father. Have you read the gospels? Have you read even just one of them? I have so much I want to say to you here, but I will start with this. God is not weak. God gives us joy. God gives us good gifts. King David - not a weak man - asked for God to restore the joy of his salvation in the 51st Psalm. The joy of salvation is mentioned elsewhere as well. Why do you think that joy is weakness? Can we unpack this?
/r/RPChristians14/01/21 01:26 AM
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Maybe I'm just ignorant of how God loves us, cus I would say that if the children ask God for bread, but they are overweight for example, they dont deserve the bread, so He would give them stones to lift and carry and shed their fat with before giving them any bread. God doesnt give us what we want He gives us what we need. Matthew 7:7–11 [7] “Ask, and it will be given to you; seek, and you will find; knock, and it will be opened to you. [8] For everyone who asks receives, and the one who seeks …
/r/RPChristians14/01/21 01:01 AM
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My question is, how's that working for you? How's your connection with God? What fruit is it bearing in your life? Although my root is Reformed, I empathize. I feel like I've learned a lot from EO people I've talked with, which is still different, but relevant to this dicussion in at least a tertiary way. I wouldn't call myself a "good Christian", btw. But I am an adopted child of God. Is what you described representative of the Father who gives every perfect and good gift and will not give His …
/r/RPChristians14/01/21 12:45 AM
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My life needs to be a different one for me to be worthy of salvation. I'm going to the pit of fire. Kinda already there really. We aren't saved because we're worthy. The only thing you bring to your salvation is the sin that makes it necessary, my friend. It's also the only thing you can offer to God, who owns you and everything else already.
/r/RPChristians14/01/21 12:18 AM
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Ok, so you're not lifting and probably skinnyfat sorry, I mean athletic. You're reading the Bible and RPC stuff. Good! You're dating a girl 2 years older than you. I'll reserve comment here. You're having sex with her and projecting a "I know more than you about Christianity" thing on her. And ostensibly you've studied more than her. You're "teaching" her that devout faith involves having sex before marriage. Sounds like a congruent faith to me. I wonder what fruit this will bear in her life ove…
/r/RPChristians13/01/21 11:53 PM
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In my experience, the missing relationship piece IS real. It's OK and healthy to want a wife, though it can be expressed in unhealthy ways. But the missing relationship with God, with your Creator, with the one who loves you so much He gave His life for you, this amplifies the intensity of all the other things because the connection you were designed for is not working. Seek ye first the Kingdom of God, and all these things will be added unto you. Priorities. Once you're getting your validation …
/r/RPChristians13/01/21 11:32 PM
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First of all, I long for companionship. Not even just sex. I don't think that's an unholy desire. On top of that, I feel like I'm falling behind because I've had no romantic relationships ever. One thing I found interesting in the latest podcast was that we're encouraged to foster a lot of healthy friendships with girls to create an abundance in that area to maximize control over our desires. That sounds like a nice compromise, but I'm not even there yet - super small social sphere and awkward. …
/r/RPChristians13/01/21 10:45 PM
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Obviously, its cliche' for people in TRP to take up martial arts, but I do think it would be a fun way to do some cardio work and lose some weight. I disagree that it's cliche. Martial arts develops a certain skillset that is inherently masculine. It is almost a requirement in my opinion (some will disagree, but they're wrong ;-) ). Men protect their families. We can do that with firearms or knives or baseball bats, but no one can confiscate your martial arts skills under an assault weapons ban.…
/r/RPChristians13/01/21 10:32 PM
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It may be a good idea to read Marcus Aurelius' Meditations, in regards to your political challenges. And to remember that as the winds shift, you may want to follow some of the laws of power - you don't need to run your mouth, and it might really hurt you to do so in the time to come, especially on things you really don't need to go on about. Instead, you can learn skills. Train. Build a tribe of brothers who will stick with you as times get harder. I have a bunch of friends who are working to d…
/r/RPChristians13/01/21 10:28 PM
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I (almost always) take no more than one day off a week and don't lift and BJJ on the same day. I used to train no more often than every other day and progress was just a ton slower. I'm 40 now, so maybe in time this will slow down, but for now, I lift heavy every day except BJJ days (unless I'm struggling with emotional stuff re marriage, then sometimes I'll lift then too) and usually end up with friends over one night a week late enough that I don't go lift. And yes, I lean into the soreness, w…
/r/RPChristians13/01/21 10:08 PM
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I think of all the "extra" things I do, BJJ would have to be among the last that I would willingly give up. The first time I joined, I rolled briefly with some noob white belt. I remember thinking "this person could kill me and I have no idea how to stop them" as they choked me over and over in like 5 seconds each time and I tapped and experienced fight, freeze, or flight. I ended the class with an adrenaline high that I've not been able to really replicate since, but I was hooked and wanted a t…
/r/RPChristians13/01/21 09:55 PM
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I have spent most of my life with a giant hole in my heart, trying to fill it with a wife in what was overall a more wholesome filling of that hole than many but not sufficient. Then someone told me I was codependent, which for a long time I would have rolled my eyes at as psychobabble nonsense. But I was in the right place to dig into it and seek help. I worked the 12 steps using a recovery group and realized that the 12 steps are really just a ritualized form of surrender to God, confession of…
/r/RPChristians13/01/21 05:16 PM
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After I sin, I start thinking about how terrible I am, how badly I’ve failed, how I don’t deserve forgiveness, etc. etc. It’s low-key depression for a handful of hours until I am able to remind myself of the Gospel. It all sounds ridiculous and stupid to write out but that’s what’s been happening. I was just reading Matthew 26-28 this morning. Peter and Judas, the differences when they realized they sinned. Meditate on those. Peter denied Christ 3 times, was warned ahead of time, did so and imme…
/r/RPChristians13/01/21 05:10 PM
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Parenting & home life Part of my mission is to create and maintain a home known for its kindness, mercy, love, and self-control. IE, a place where the Holy Spirit is working. I want to be a man that, when bumped by my kids or others, splashes out joy, mercy, and kindness on the people around me. I have done a ton of work in this over the past 3 years, but it's a hell of a lot easier to work on this when you aren't hemorrhaging mental bandwidth on a cheating spouse and trying to control things th…
/r/RPChristians13/01/21 03:53 PM
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Goals status from last time * BJJ or lifting 5 times COMPLETE * Solid reliability in devotions, journaling, prayer, etc - alone and with kids COMPLETE * Will probably have to do some negotiation for the divorce as the time for her response draws near incomplete - she isn't discussing * Reach out to some fellows who embody the sort of home that I want and see about what I can learn from them COMPLETE * Really connect with my kids, actively work on that home life I want DID THIS * Go back to work,…
/r/RPChristians13/01/21 03:53 PM
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Social life I'm in a place where a sizeable population is not living in fear of the 'rona, so I have ample opportunity to maintain a social life still. I try to have random company from church over every Sunday unless I already had other plans. I just had my best friend and his wife and 6 kids over last night along with my 4 kids that were with me, and smoked a brisket low n' slow all day that was a huge hit. Stuff like that has been a huge blessing. I also directly asked my friends to show up f…
/r/RPChristians03/01/21 06:18 AM
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OYS 1/2/2021 Summary 40, currently in a divorce proceeding, big family. Found RP Thanksgiving 2017. Mission To daily seek the will of God and serve Him, to be a discipled man who is discipling others, to raise up my children to love the Lord Jesus, to serve my community in ways that are meaningful, especially in the area of people who have struggled like I have, to start and run successful and growing businesses that make the world better in ways that resonate with me, to create and maintain a h…
/r/RPChristians03/01/21 06:16 AM
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3/3 He listened kindly as I poured out tears and, brothers, I am tearing up again just thinking about it, he told me that I'm not addicted (addicts apparently do way crazier things than jerk off once a week on average), as I told him all the details, but that I do have a habit that a lot of men have, just most are too ashamed to confess it, and my sin has separated me from God, but there is hope, there is HOPE, there is forgiveness, there is help, both from God to defeat this, from the people wh…
/r/RPChristians02/11/20 06:59 AM
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2/3: I hurt TERRIBLY during this time. I had no idea what this was called, but I knew it hurt, and I didn't want to be alone, I felt I "needed" to be in a relationship. Well, I dated a few women briefly, but if I had to describe it, the knowledge that I "had a significant other" was just not there, and it didn't fill anything. But then I met who I am married to now. She was excited to "commit" quickly, although a couple weeks after I got to know her, she informed me she was 6 weeks pregnant. Thi…
/r/RPChristians02/11/20 06:58 AM
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1/3 OYS 11/1/2020 Summary 39, married 10 years, 7 kids, 4 bio. Found RP Thanksgiving 2017. Currently separated. Mission To serve God, start and run businesses, make disciples for Christ, raise up my children to love the Lord Jesus, be able to freely give to those who need it or serve them in other ways, and help men in situations like I have come through. I'm going to be revisiting this because I believe I've done part of this as a manifestation of some dysfunction on my part. For now that's my …
/r/RPChristians02/11/20 06:58 AM
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OYS 10/21/2020 Summary 39, married 10 years (she's 40), 7 kids. Found RP Thanksgiving 2017. Currently separated, escalating to divorce. Mission My mission:To serve God, start and run businesses, make disciples for Christ, raise up my children to love the Lord Jesus, be able to freely give to those who need it or serve them in other ways, and help men in situations like I have come through. Progress:Most of my mission specific work has been surrounding my business this week. I've put a bunch of t…
/r/RPChristians21/10/20 04:57 PM
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OYS 10/14/2020 Summary 39, married 10 years (she's 40), 7 kids. Found RP Thanksgiving 2017. Currently separated, escalating to divorce. Mission I will run businesses, make disciples, raise up my children to love the Lord Jesus, be able to freely give to those who need it or serve them in other ways, and help men in situations like I have come through. Physical 5'-9" 176.8lb this morning. 13-14% bodyfat. I can see abs, though I'm still not where I want to be yet. Lifts DL-513, SQ-440, BENCH-227, …
/r/RPChristians15/10/20 03:16 AM
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Choose to trust. Have a plan to deal with future breaches in trust. Execute. Let God handle the details. I do not choose to trust someone who is untrustworthy. More details in a moment in answer to your followup- Details, please. A bunch of this you can read about in old OYS posts. But I'll summarize. I'm separated because my wife has a relationship with another man that she will not end, that I believe to be inappropriate. I caught them Facetiming back in March during quarantine with all sorts …
/r/RPChristians06/09/20 09:50 PM
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As I am not a raging feminist I do not need to read their materials. My life is better that way.
/r/RPChristians05/09/20 12:07 AM
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Holy cow, brother. I'm praying for you. Lord, have mercy.
/r/RPChristians03/09/20 04:17 AM
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OYS 9/1/2020 Summary 39, married 10 years (she's 39), 7 kids. Found red pill about Thanksgiving of 2017. Currently separated. Physical 5'-9" 178.8lb this morning. +2lb, but I’m looking better than ever and I bet a big part of that is water because of sodium. 13-14% bodyfat, somewhere in there. Doing really well physically. Lifts All weights in 1RM form. I don't train at 100% as I have no desire to be injured again, but instead use 5/3/1 in the app form, which calculates my 1RM from my reps and h…
/r/RPChristians02/09/20 03:55 PM
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OYS 8/19/2020 Summary 39, married 10 years (she's 39), 7 kids. Found red pill about Thanksgiving of 2017. Currently separated. Physical 5'-9" 177.2lb this morning. 13-14% bodyfat, somewhere in there. Lifts All weights in 1RM form. I don't train at 100% as I have no desire to be injured again, but instead use 5/3/1 in the app form, which calculates my 1RM from my reps and has me work volume AND weight, so to speak. I share this because my numbers are great looking but I'm not going to risk injuri…
/r/RPChristians19/08/20 03:56 PM
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Woke is broke.
/r/RPChristians15/08/20 01:32 AM
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But you can't have a biblical one.
/r/RPChristians15/08/20 01:13 AM
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In my experience, it was the hyperfocus on stuff that you have pushed in your post that landed me in need of the red pill, as has been the case for most men I've run into (though, not all). Yes, you should learn to love your wife more. But if you do this by following the churchianity way, you will end up receiving all sorts of counsel that shipwrecks your marriage by ignoring the attraction dynamic. I know since you're here opposed, there is a high probability that if I give specific examples, y…
/r/RPChristians15/08/20 12:01 AM
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Weapons grade Calvinist who prefers to avoid getting stuck on calvinist language and just wants to make disciples. It's such a pointless thing to argue about. I'm going to look up more about red-curious' compatibilist label though because I've never heard it.
/r/RPChristians03/07/20 12:14 AM
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First off we don't have apostles anymore. Second it sounds to me like you need to find a biblical solid church.
/r/RPChristians20/06/20 08:30 AM
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My wife runs a licensed in home daycare in addition to the real estate work she does. That is attached to the location; it is her livelihood; she's made no money as a realtor yet, just this inappropriate relationship. Also she would not leave now, as she states she doesn't want a divorce. And I can engage with her just fine; there is no yelling and screaming or anything like that. I only have to accept that she's got this relationship. That is not tolerable for me though.
/r/RPChristians01/06/20 01:58 PM
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My honest kneejerk reaction to this is something like: "no way. I have integrity. I've purposed carefully that I will not become involved with another woman emotionally (and I have experience here from a decade ago - it would get emotional for me) as an absolute until after a divorce is concluded, because I have a very strict view of what adultery is. I've watched my wife's friends, one of who also left my church and her husband, commit adultery during her divorce, get engaged to the new mark wh…
/r/RPChristians01/06/20 01:45 PM
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I'm so sorry for your loss, brother.
/r/RPChristians31/05/20 09:24 PM
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I actually got halfway through and scrolled back up to see. Lol
/r/RPChristians30/05/20 02:39 AM
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What an incredible response. Well said times a million. But you know what stops me? The reality of God. I don't have the luxury of being blindly promiscuous anymore because I have experienced God. I know Him, I speak to Him and craziest part is that He speaks to me. This. Faith is staying true to who stays true to us, through struggle. I don't know if that's entirely true but it sounds freaking good right now. So yeah you can live life on easy mode obeying every desire that comes your way, but a…
/r/RPChristians29/05/20 11:03 PM
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Mission I will glorify God and enjoy Him in this life, through contributing to the Kingdom of God by making new disciples, discipling those I am responsible for with the intention of sending them out to make yet more disciples, and productive use of my business and technical talents in business, and my range of personal interests in service to others so that I am able to give sacrificially and generously to also help those in genuine need, but also so that I can eventually employ those in less d…
/r/RPChristians29/05/20 06:43 PM
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OYS 5/29/2020 Summary 39, married 9 years (she's 39), 7 kids. Found red pill about Thanksgiving of 2017. Currently looking at separation and trying to navigate that justly and in obedience to God. Physical 5'-9" 177.8lb this morning. 13-14% bodyfat probably but I haven't measured in awhile. Lifts All weights in 1RM form. I don't train at 100% as I have no desire to be injured again, but instead use 5/3/1 in the app form, which calculates my 1RM from my reps and has me work volume AND weight, so …
/r/RPChristians29/05/20 06:43 PM
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The girls are scambait, or your wife checking on your faithfulness herself or via friends, or well made bots. I'm not saying you're not an attractive fella. I'm sure you are. I'm saying don't be dumb. Summarily block that nonsense. It's not going to do anything but make you dependent on pixels for validation.
/r/RPChristians29/05/20 06:30 PM
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The chapter on whether the right fixes are happening has been worth the cost of the book in itself. I have already gone through the whole book. Thank you for the recommendation!
/r/RPChristians15/05/20 06:21 AM
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Holy cow man. I am a staunch Christian to the point that I'm not 100% comfortable with my for cause divorce, although I at this point I just can't keep going because I have to put an end to the stuff, and I know scripture doesn't address your wife murdering your unborn child directly. But this happened to me with my ex wife (now deceased, she committed suicide) and I only found out much later. Trickle truth seems to be a pattern that works well on me. I don't even know what I'd do now - I'd want…
/r/RPChristians12/05/20 04:25 AM
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Fair enough point, guess I was a little sore there.
/r/RPChristians11/05/20 02:31 AM
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I already have a counselor for myself. This isn't ego speaking. It is quite clear that either you have a threshold for action that is light years beyond my already far too passive tendencies or you simply haven't done the work to look at my history, which I'm not retyping here. I'm not a macho man. I'm WAY too passive, if anything. But I've taken steps to address that. If I don't enforce a boundary where another man comes into the marriage then I will never ever enforce any boundary. Ever. The e…
/r/RPChristians10/05/20 11:15 PM
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No. Thanks for the feedback though.
/r/RPChristians10/05/20 10:58 PM
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Maybe you should read my OYS history. Or don't, and recommend some couples counseling next 🤷🏻‍♂️
/r/RPChristians10/05/20 07:55 PM
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By what standard do i have to do this? I didn't say I want to fix it. I've been trying to fix it for years. The only boundary that will ever matter with her is getting divorced. I don't care about her point of view about how 7 years ago I offended her in some way and she didn't feel good enough and blah blah blah. Be loyal. Or don't and have a nice life.
/r/RPChristians10/05/20 07:36 PM
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So she can gaslight me into it being my fault or turn it into less than it is or whatever other manipulation? No. I asked her to stop. She refused. The end.
/r/RPChristians10/05/20 07:22 PM
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I daresay the implicit meaning here is that she understands this behavior is self evidently unacceptable and incredibly disrespectful. At least that's how I took it. 🤷🏻‍♂️
/r/RPChristians09/05/20 08:21 PM
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If you could do me a favor and pray for my wife, too... She really needs to come to a saving faith, whether it's while she's married to me or not. Even if it's after the divorce, it would be nice for the kids to have a believing mom.
/r/RPChristians09/05/20 05:06 PM
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Not doing anything without checking with attorney first. Thank you for warning me though. It's definitely a minefield to walk through.
/r/RPChristians09/05/20 12:14 PM
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I married a woman that proper vetting would have easily seen this coming. I was low value and definitely not near the top of the food chain until well after I had started doing the work 3 years ago. Yes today I am a high value man, but the damage was done. Speaking to the rest of this thread you've posted- don't let my foolish pre-RP decisions rationalize foolish behavior of your own.
/r/RPChristians09/05/20 12:13 PM
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My man. 🤙 He's not worth it though. Although it would be a fun story to tell my Professor when the BJJ gym opens again.
/r/RPChristians09/05/20 02:22 AM
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Maybe they should try being loyal to their husbands 🤷🏻‍♂️ I appreciate the prayers. :)
/r/RPChristians09/05/20 02:13 AM
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A) only if God provides some miraculous repentance B) no. Marriage counseling is a joke. I already have one for myself. C) don't know, that'll be her problem. I've been working the RP steps for 3 years. I had loads of problems when I started (fat, whiney, victim, no mission, didn't OYS, weak, unattractive, etc) and I understand it takes time to get my head straight. I also am not perfect today. But she's not even willing to honor her wedding vows, so I see no reason to try and work this out, abs…
/r/RPChristians09/05/20 01:42 AM
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I was working the RP steps. In many ways I wasn't ready to be done. I am not sad that I did what I did AND I don't disagree that it was predictable. That is why I am calm about the whole thing.
/r/RPChristians09/05/20 12:53 AM
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Same reason I didn't divorce when my church gave permission the first time. Because I'm not looking for an excuse. I really was trying. At the time I was not aware of any impropriety with other men.
/r/RPChristians09/05/20 12:47 AM
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"ok". Then she left for a couple hours. Came home. Went to bed.
/r/RPChristians09/05/20 12:42 AM
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No. It is enough to know that this twit will eventually get to deal with what I'm dealing with, if he doesn't just pump and dump. Going to jail while they gloat together at the child custody case that I just screwed up by choking him out is not part of my mission. Also my wife is the one who should have told him to get lost and instead decided to develop a close friendship with him.
/r/RPChristians09/05/20 12:22 AM
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If you read through my history - I don't expect you to go digging, but if you don't know what I'm talking about, parts of it are there - you will know that it is absolutely true that she doesn't respect me. She's filed for divorce twice, played the abuse card, our vows that used to be on the wall are collecting dust in the basement because she doesn't like how "oppressive" they are - she wrote hers btw - she has broken faith. My session agrees and has given me permission - they actually gave it …
/r/RPChristians08/05/20 10:42 PM
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Yes, I've had this conversation with myself a million times now. If you saw her hard heart in this you'd know why I'm where I'm at. I'm still praying. I would still accept true repentance. But she won't even agree on the standard.
/r/RPChristians08/05/20 10:10 PM
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No it's too late. I've "if you don't... Then..." Too many times. I'm done. I know she's doing something inappropriate. The end. I'd accept true all the way repentance, nothing less.
/r/RPChristians08/05/20 09:51 PM
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Too bad we are all so spread out. I put my resources during the 'rona into getting all the stuff necessary to lift heavy with all the main lifts. My gym stuff plus your mats = win.
/r/RPChristians08/05/20 07:58 PM
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Adultery and abandonment provide the options to leave. I do not hold to a permanence view, nor does my church. As for getting help from the local church, she was already held in church discipline two years ago and left the church and sent a C&D letter to the church elders demanding they not speak to her again or she would sue them. The session has given me the go ahead for a Matthew 5 divorce already given the evidence I have submitted to them and the history involved. Thanks for your feedback.
/r/RPChristians08/05/20 07:52 PM
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This sums up my thoughts as well. Except smashing the noob white belt is nice once in awhile after getting smashed 50 times in a row by the brown belt that is a foot taller and 80lbs more than you, bless his soul. It's nice to see the progress sometimes. lol. Man, I miss BJJ.
/r/RPChristians08/05/20 07:00 PM
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I just ordered both of them - thanks for the recommendations.
/r/RPChristians08/05/20 06:52 PM
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Fair question - and it depends if true repentance is present - there are a lot of other non-divorceable sins that she could easily prove it by changing her mind and making amends for them. Without repentance, though, there's no way she'll ever agree to change in them.
/r/RPChristians08/05/20 06:30 PM
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Just to be clear, I did not give an ultimatum. I asked her to end the relationship - having prior set expectations regarding the boundary. She refused. After she refused I enforced the boundary, or began the process anyway. I don't want to be a manipulative nice guy that uses threats to get what I want. My standard is that my wife does not have boyfriends. The end. Since she has a boyfriend, she may not be my wife.
/r/RPChristians08/05/20 06:07 PM
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Everyone here would like their wife to pursue them, I'm certain of it. We just accept the reality that masculine and feminine operate differently in the aggregate.
/r/RPChristians08/05/20 05:59 PM
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Use zoom. That's what I'm doing. It's not as good obviously, but better to come out of lockdown with progress than none
/r/RPChristians08/05/20 03:14 PM
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I know why the secular red pill guys call these men the word that shall not be said but means effeminate.
/r/RPChristians05/05/20 08:42 PM
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Oh my goodness the people suggesting the poster apologize to the friend I don't want to live on this planet anymore
/r/RPChristians05/05/20 07:19 PM
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Got some kettlebells early on in the ridiculousness, including a 70lb. That held me over until last night when I scored an Olympic bar, bench, and 425lb of plates. Baby I'm back in business. Still need to find or build a squat rack though.
/r/RPChristians21/04/20 05:34 AM
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That post was the hardest gut punch in my entire time after having discovered the red pill. It's still incredibly hard to reread. How I hated discipline, and my heart despised reproof! I did not listen to the voice of my teachers or incline my ear to my instructors. I am at the brink of utter ruin in the assembled congregation. Although, my teachers didn't know better either.
/r/RPChristians06/03/20 06:44 AM
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Until last year, I was coming to him for marriage advice. Now, I wonder if he hasn’t been doing things to ultimately undermine my position as the head of my household. More than likely whether it was intentional or not, he was. The prevailing marriage advice in our culture is terrible. Do more chores to please her, supplicate to ones wife, happy wife, happy life, etc. I hope I'm wrong about him, of course. But that was my experience.
/r/RPChristians14/02/20 05:18 AM
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You should know that in this group, you will hear hard things, but we are men and we can take it. It is not a shame, but rather an honor to be called to be more (for the right reasons) by brothers. I started Thanksgiving of '17 with a wife who was prepping to leave. I was 245, 5'-9" on a tall day. More body fat than you. Since then I have gone to the gym 231 times, joined the thousand pound club on the big 3, and spent a year regularly rolling damn hard at BJJ. My life has changed. Good job show…
/r/RPChristians14/02/20 05:15 AM
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Your don't need to be annoying with your beliefs. But you don't need to defend them. We learn in NMMNG to not DEER (defend, excuse, explain, rationalize). So don't. Also, own the old paths for yourself - ie, be a conservative - or something like that anyway. But don't go around defending it to everyone you see or being an annoying apologist for it. This is just a form of DEERing and gives authority to those who oppose you. My parents generation and my generation have been all talk with conservat…
/r/RPChristians13/02/20 06:31 AM
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OYS 2/12/2020 Summary 39, married 9 years (she's 39), 7 kids. Found red pill about Thanksgiving of 2017. Physical 5'-9" 177.8lb this morning. 14% bodyfat per navy method. Weight exactly the same as last week. Lifts All weights in 1RM form. I don't train at 100% as I have no desire to be injured again, but instead use 5/3/1 in the app form, which calculates my 1RM from my reps and has me work volume AND weight, so to speak. DL-481, SQ-408, BENCH-213, OHP-157 I've added kettlebell swings to my lif…
/r/RPChristians12/02/20 05:06 PM
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My feedback - haste to do it. Your FO is on board, you are light years ahead of me there. Doo it
/r/RPChristians07/02/20 05:40 AM
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I don't care for musicals, but you've sold me on checking this one out.
/r/RPChristians27/01/20 04:29 PM
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I wouldn't wait; I'd seek help. This stuff can creep up on you and you're better off dealing with it right away. Other than that I'd echo u/rocknrollchuck completely, especially the exercise part.
/r/askRPC21/01/20 03:10 PM
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I told the kids not to open the frozen door a couple days before. They did it anyway and kept opening it as the weather stripping came all the way off on front and back door. It's an immense frustration for me to have broken crap that falls apart. They were told not to, but I didn't explain why, and she just forgot. It's super cold out here, and it took me like an hour to get it back on (it goes between the windshield trim and the body of the truck, lots of ice and snow. It made us late. All kin…
/r/RPChristians16/01/20 04:33 AM
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OYS 1/15/2020 Summary 39, married 9 years (she's 39), 7 kids. Found red pill about Thanksgiving of 2017. Goals set last week and accountability Weight < 176 ** MISS ** I ended where I started which is good because at one point I was up almost 5lb. But I'm back on track now. Lift or BJJ 5/7 days -- HIT (5/7) Scripture study consistently myself - at least 14 chapters of scripture ** HIT** 1:1 time with one of my sons this weekend MISS took the family to see a movie instead. Continue in WISNIFG thr…
/r/RPChristians15/01/20 05:25 PM
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I've been grasping at the edges of this for a while. If you knew me personally you'd know that I'm in very conservative circles and how a long time now (like, since I become red pilled) I've called out my friends for constantly getting caught up in outrage stuff and releasing the pressure of needing to do something by complaining about it online instead of actually doing something real that would change things. Excellent post.
/r/TheRedPill14/01/20 08:38 PM
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As a Reformed guy I'm so conflicted by this thread, lol. I actually have heavy sympathies with the RCC on birth control issues, though obviously I hold a reformed understanding of things (an old confessional reformed view is going to usually be the same as the RCC on this) On the other hand, people are telling you to pray to saints and I'm over here telling myself "don't write any theses, man, don't do it, just walk away" One thing for myself in this, which I actually have a different problem bu…
/r/RPChristians14/01/20 04:02 AM
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She's not trying to DHV, per se, she's setting precedent. The medium is the message, she's telling you what you can expect the rest of your time with her.
/r/askTRP10/01/20 02:45 PM
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OYS 1/8/2020 v.Missed you guys over the Christmas break Summary 39, married 9 years (she's 39), 7 kids. Found red pill about Thanksgiving of 2017. Goals set last week and accountability Weight < 177.8 Lift or BJJ 5/7 days -- HIT (6/7) Get weight headed back down after holidays (started up 3 lbs from my last OYS on 1/1) Pray every day - HIT 14 chapters of scripture reading -- HIT (much more than that) Pray for opportunities to make disciples -- HIT (and granted) Make some new chore lists for the …
/r/RPChristians08/01/20 05:19 PM
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Further, if your wife is your mission, and she is also your help meet, then that means you are saying you want your wife to make herself her mission. She is actually following you pretty well, if you consider that. Think on that. Your mission needs to be the sort of thing you won't finish in this life, but not because it's a dumb mission like keeping your wife happy (also impossible), but because it should be big like evangelizing the world or colonizing Mars or something actually worthwhile. An…
/r/RPChristians28/12/19 03:27 AM
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I read this and in honesty, I'm very unsettled by it, partially because of my prior experiences with my ex wife and former relationships (hopefully just former). I wonder if your having prior engaged in the same behavior isn't leading you to close your eyes to reality; your wife started up an inappropriate relationship with Chad at the gym and you rushed in to be a friend there too, but we all know that if a woman wants to be stealthy about having an affair you are going to have a hard time prov…
/r/RPChristians14/12/19 03:33 PM
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My strategy, last used on Thanksgiving, is to weigh my food as usual and only eat things congruent with my goals, with a couple bites of the holiday stuff. Ie, for Thanksgiving I did have pie, but I had two bites, and decided ahead of time that would be it. Thankfully I don't get hassled about this and indeed this has been an area that my wife has actually loosely followed my lead. But if you do get hassled about this it's a chance to practice not changing your mind to please a woman, and partic…
/r/RPChristians10/12/19 02:52 PM
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Also don't tell her you're getting a lawyer. Just do it and follow their advice. DO NOT TELL HER.
/r/askMRP07/12/19 01:38 PM
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It took me awhile to drop the she she she bs too. Stop worrying about her. She's choosing to not be part of your life, stop living as though you need her permission to live yours.
/r/askMRP05/12/19 04:07 AM
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2 years and 7 days ago - Thanksgiving of 2017 - I walked with my brother around town from about 9pm until perhaps 1 in the morning so I could have a private conversation without my wife there. Because I was afraid of her hearing me. I victim puked to him about how my wife was planning to leave me and how awful she was acting and recounted all the things she was doing. He reminded me of the existence of the red pill and said she's working hypergamy. I thus found married red pill. When I started I…
/r/askMRP05/12/19 03:59 AM
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Because thus saith the Lord. And in his infinite grace toward us, he then goes on to say - as has been posted here already - > And that is what some of you were. But you were washed, you were sanctified, you were justified in the name of the Lord Jesus Christ and by the Spirit of our God. People who continue in the practice of sin instead of the practice of holiness - note that I didn't say people who sin every day instead of being perfect every day - never experienced the washing, the sanctific…
/r/RPChristians03/12/19 08:29 PM
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I strongly believe this is one of those examples of trying to look at a transcendent thing through the lense of our pet thing. I have libertarian friends that are Libertarian christians. Literally everything in scripture is examined looking for confirmation of libertarian ideas, and any scripture that conflicts with libertarian ideas is easily hand waved away by them or given some outlandish meaning that it really doesn't say. As opposed to a Christian with libertarian leanings, where everything…
/r/RPChristians03/12/19 06:05 PM
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I'm just a nobody at BJJ, man. But it's my favorite thing 3 nights a week. I have the flu this week and missing lifting and BJJ sucks bad.
/r/RPChristians03/12/19 03:07 PM
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To be clear I don't write all that to berate you. But the problem here isn't your wife. She's just filling a void, man. Lifting isn't optional, and read the books. Join us in the OYS thread, there's a new one tomorrow morning. I am into BJJ too- OSS! Time to become a prize, man.
/r/RPChristians03/12/19 02:58 PM
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Not what I asked; do you lift? What are your lifting stats. DL. Bench. Squat. OHP. Weight. Height. BF%. If you just go and run, you're missing the point. Lifting isn't optional. No one was calling you a slob; this is sincerely important to help. In lifting for 2 years the way my wife interacts with me has completely changed. It's not all where I want it by any means. But being lower body fat percentage AND muscular is a complete game changer. Every single man here that has consistently lifted ha…
/r/RPChristians02/12/19 07:22 PM
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Think about the absurdity of all this. Bedtimes. Implicit manipulation: Only mommies put kids to bed. Explicit reality: You actually aren't putting your kids to bed, WTF man. If my wife wants to join me putting my kids to bed, then by all means, come sing some songs with me and pray with them. Otherwise don't, but I'm doing it either way. Doctor appointments. Implicit manipulation: Only mommies take kids to doctor appointments. Explicit reality: You have abdicated your responsibility to your kid…
/r/RPChristians02/12/19 07:19 PM
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You asked and were told no. It's clear who leads your relationship. So what are you gonna do about that? Over in MRP, u/Red-Curious has a great writeup on this exact sort of thing. But really, if you do yourself the disservice of only reading that and don't do NMMNG, WISNIFG, WOTSM and a bunch of the other books, you are basically asking for the divorce rape that is coming. Remember, while you're sitting here being a victim, she's not dumb, she's secured her position as recipient of child suppor…
/r/RPChristians02/12/19 07:14 PM
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This exact thing, which you word so well, is something that took me 2 years of kicking against the goads to finally accept. You simply have to be willing to nuke it all. Once you are truly willing, you might not need to. But the harder you try to prevent her from nuking it the more she'll try.
/r/RPChristians02/12/19 06:59 PM
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How much time do you spend with your child a day? Who does bedtimes? Doctor appointments? Parent teacher conferences? Who makes the school lunch? Who gets the kiddo ready (if they are young enough to need help)? Things to think about as you figure out where the child will likely spend their time. But all that aside, you said you don't want your child to grow up in this environment. If you keep doing the same thing, you are going to keep getting the same result. Do you lift? Have you read the boo…
/r/RPChristians02/12/19 06:37 PM
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> It's good that you're checking, but with 7 kids I can't imagine how much time and effort you spend on this. If any of those devices are smart phones, most carriers have a setting on the account for each device for age-appropriate internet restrictions, which can help as well. You can set that up on the website. The device she had was not hooked up to an account and she just used the wifi. I had forgotten it existed, but now it's safely confiscated and we're back to - so far as I know - only mo…
/r/RPChristians02/12/19 06:26 PM
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I'm not saying to divorce her here... But being worried that you'll lose everything means that you value money/comfort/whatever it is you are afraid to lose over respect, dignity, etc. That doesn't mean you should nuke it for no reason or be dumb about it. But this is something you need to conquer.
/r/RPChristians02/12/19 05:52 PM
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Man what an incredible story. I also dealt with 4 years of crazy CPS/courts/police/GAL stuff from the ex who eventually took her own life. I like your no nonsense style of saying no to disrespect.
/r/RPChristians02/12/19 05:50 PM
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Being unequally yoked is not a reason for divorce. There is adultery or if the unbeliever departs. I'm not passing personal judgment on your solution, though it hardly sounds like the red pill way of handling this issue, and I know there are legitimate questions about what it means for the unbeliever to depart, but the admonition against being unequally yoked tells you to not get that way in the first place, but first Corinthians 7 says explicitly not to divorce your unbelieving wife if she is p…
/r/RPChristians02/12/19 03:21 PM
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Oh I know for sure. She's filed for divorce twice already and withdrawn it, so I have a pretty good idea; she played the abuse card already in both filings and wanted like 70% of what I make for a very long time.
/r/RPChristians28/11/19 03:26 AM
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Yeah, regarding the tone. The friend is posting as a support of pride and active/practicing lgbtq+ "Christians". I totally get being weak to particular sin. But the child of God knows it's sin. The same goes for all the other sins in that passage I posted. Not picking on homosexuals. Sin is sin, that's all I'm saying. My wife can and will post whatever she wants. I'm not friends with my wife on social media because she already posts stuff that made me want to distance myself from her when I was.…
/r/RPChristians27/11/19 08:28 PM
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Small potatoes here - but, I average all my weigh-ins for the week and that’s the weight I hang my hat on. I used to do what you’re doing now - hang your hat on one weigh-in. It subjects you to much more swing. Fair point. Kind of like my 1rms, it's really just a metric to track progress though. I'm not worried about the up and down, but I like when I hit the goal. 14 is a lot of reps for dead lift. The few times I’ve injured myself lifting, its always been at the higher reps when fatigue sets i…
/r/RPChristians27/11/19 07:32 PM
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Absolutely no harm in being truthful. The lie is that it's righteous to be that and it is good to encourage others to embrace it. I too am a sexual sinner. Not via homosexuality (though multiple female is enticing to the flesh for me, so maybe somewhat) but it's still sin. Nothing wrong with being honest about it. But giving approval to it... That's pretty specifically in Romans 1. For this reason God gave them up to dishonorable passions. For their women exchanged natural relations for those th…
/r/RPChristians27/11/19 06:15 PM
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But it's not possible to affirm this as righteous and glorious as a Christian, and it's wholly inappropriate to go posting about it on social media. Romans 1, fam.
/r/RPChristians27/11/19 05:51 PM
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Reading Re-reading WISNIFG - On chapter 8. Trying to focus more on Scripture. More on this below. Mission I will glorify God and enjoy Him in this life, by contributing to the Kingdom of God by making new disciples, discipling those I am responsible for with the intention of sending them out to make yet more disciples, and productive use of my business and technical talents in business, and my range of personal interests in service to others so that I am able to give sacrificially and generously…
/r/RPChristians27/11/19 04:37 PM
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OYS 11/27/2019 Summary 38, married 9 years (she's 39), 7 kids. Found red pill about Thanksgiving of 2017. Goals set last week and accountability Weight <178 MISS weighed in at 179.0 this morning (BUT, I was 178.2 last night... Bad timing on the weigh in. Still going where I want to go.) BJJ or lifting minimum 5 times. HIT 3 x BJJ, 3 x gym Scripture study consistently myself (putting my oxygen mask on first, then adding my wife) HIT but only sort of. Explanation below Continue in WISNIFG through …
/r/RPChristians27/11/19 04:37 PM
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The only way to exit this mutual existence is through divorce, which is justified when one spouse is unfaithful to God. This is an interesting way of looking at things - the framework that says to pluck her out to save the body, so to speak, but i think this scripture precludes the idea: But to the rest speak I, not the Lord: If any brother hath a wife that believeth not, and she be pleased to dwell with him, let him not put her away. And the woman which hath an husband that believeth not, and i…
/r/RPChristians27/11/19 02:55 PM
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Your post is very vague, specific things she does that you see as "subtle" boundary violations would be very helpful here. Without any clear examples, it's difficult to give any sort of actionable advice. I just woke up - I'll try to post some examples in a bit after the coffee takes effect. Thank you so much for taking the time to respond here.
/r/RPChristians26/11/19 02:57 PM
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Right. This is the thought exercise that I have been considering the past week. If I do that, what is unspoken here but likely true is that she will almost certainly say ok, taking the kids to her church, and then I'll have to nuke the whole thing. And I don't have a general desire to do that, but the more and more I think about that, knowing that she is willing to have it nuked to control this... That never went away with my compromise, which means she's willing to put the marriage in jeopardy …
/r/RPChristians26/11/19 02:55 PM
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I would say she's fine with a church that berates men. Porn for instance is the one sin that she deeply hates and will quickly forget all her rhetoric about not telling people what they should or shouldn't do. But if there same church calls out some sin that she holds dear, no way she's going back.
/r/RPChristians26/11/19 02:48 PM
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Thank you for taking the time to explain what you meant. This may bear some truth in my situation. As an example, my wife won't go to my church, and I have set a hard boundary that as long as she's in my home she will not take the children to her church. She pushed that, and I was actually ready to file (whether that was a wise boundary to set is a fair discussion for another place, I admit, but this has been a weary two years with lots of learning on my part) but I opted to try and reunify the …
/r/RPChristians26/11/19 07:19 AM
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wut. Wanna expand on this? I'm willing to consider your words, but I'm not seeing where you're getting this.
/r/RPChristians26/11/19 06:31 AM
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Unlike men it's actually common for women to feel attraction to both sexes. The real issue here is that his wife felt bold enough to declare this "sexual identity" without shame and dare claim Jesus support's this sinful behavior. Right, I agree. This sounds like a weakness in grand strategy game. And what I mean by that is you aren't weighing the long term impact of thinking "okay I'll let my values slide tiny bit for HER today and reclaim that ground tomorrow somehow." As God's created leader …
/r/RPChristians26/11/19 06:29 AM
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Great FR! I had a moment the other day I carefully used it as well, on the cable company when I called to lower my bill via cancellation of the landline they provided after the promo rate expired. Lo and behold, I ended up not only cancelling that, but also getting a new promo rate on my internet. Feelsgoodman
/r/RPChristians25/11/19 08:40 PM
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WISNIFG is definitely one of the more bookish books as you do the work, but it really is fundamentally critical for your ability to be assertive.
/r/askRPC24/11/19 02:57 PM
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I dunno, "fuck the world and your woman to smithereens" seemed fairly practical to me 😎
/r/askMRP23/11/19 01:29 AM
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You need to go read way of the superior man and use the knowledge therein.
/r/askMRP22/11/19 03:34 PM
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I think that's awesome. Your tribe increases. You will get out of this what you put into it. Sadly it doesn't sound like you're really up to the challenge of leading yourself, much less others such as a family. Hopefully you can come to some good perspective there.
/r/askMRP22/11/19 03:51 AM
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OYS 11/20/2019 Summary 38, married 9 years (she's 39), 7 kids. Found red pill about Thanksgiving of 2017. Goals set last week and accountability Weight <179 MISS 179.2 this morning. Dang it, so close. BJJ or lifting minimum 5 times. HIT 7 visits to gym/BJJ Scripture study consistently myself (putting my oxygen mask on first, then adding my wife) MISS Continue in WISNIFG through chapter 6 (est) HIT Keep spending a couple hours a day or so clearing out old projects or finishing them. Do not take o…
/r/RPChristians20/11/19 03:41 PM
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Then carry on! It would be neat to experience life like that.
/r/askTRP20/11/19 05:41 AM
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If you are a partner then you should know better; giving any perception whatsoever that a job is somehow attached to what her plans are, or that you are somehow a decision maker, or whatever else, is begging for some kind of legal action from her and getting #metoo'd all in one. I am not a lawyer but this is pretty common sense
/r/askTRP20/11/19 05:03 AM
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I recall reading in, I think, the mindful attraction plan that if you work each day to make life just one percent better, but you SHOW UP every day, in a year, being lazy with compounding returns here, your life will be 365% better. Just show up. Do something. Every day. I'm not where I want to be yet, but I just reread my first OYS and compared it to my OYS today over in RPC, and wow. I showed up in my own life for most of the past couple years. Wasn't that hard. Good word, u/johneyapocalypse
/r/askMRP14/11/19 08:05 AM
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Mission: Build a relationship that Glorifies God where I lead, love and protect her and she respects, adores and rests safely in my provision and headship with enthusiastic affection. We experience deep emotional, spiritual and physical connection. This sounds an awful lot like your wife is your mission, brother. Your mission should be a life's work, plus some. Like preaching the gospel to the whole world, or changing the sort of vehicle everyone uses from the internal combustion engine to be ma…
/r/RPChristians14/11/19 07:07 AM
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Yeah, taking my wallet would be very unacceptable. Not "physically take it back" unacceptable (duh) but it's a really big line to cross. I spent a year with a go bag in my truck purely in fear that my wife would change the locks and not let me come home, so that affects my (probably deeply wounded) mindset on this, but no. My wallet is mine. That said, I have several NMMNG rules to remember as you receive this feedback: 1) do not let anyone treat you badly 2) don't tolerate the intolerable 3) do…
/r/RPChristians13/11/19 09:13 PM
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Remember one thing: you're in control, not her. Try to view her as the Most Responsible Teenager in the House and act accordingly. You wouldn't take it seriously or get offended if your 4 year old daughter talked to you that way, would you? No, you would either laugh it off or discipline her as appropriate for the situation. Your perception of the dynamic will lead the interaction: if you view her as an emotional equal, then you will be in a power struggle. If you view her as a bratty child, the…
/r/RPChristians13/11/19 08:15 PM
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Congrats on hitting all those targets! Thanks! Why change churches for her? I mean sounds like it’s not the church that is the problem, any more, but rather the desire. She doesn’t want to go. She is going for you. What stood out to me was why you didn’t just go earlier. She obviously does not really want to go, and was willing to commit to a different time for you. Your context said I don’t need you to go, go ahead and be with your orbiter. Not your intended statement. Not sure if the Our state…
/r/RPChristians13/11/19 08:12 PM
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I think you answered your own question here. Is it a good idea to switch churches for your wife? Well you did...and she decided to bounce early anyway. If you intend to give her another chance I would give her only one more, then go back to your church if she can't be consistent. Focus on your consistency. I'm inclined to agree. I wouldn't respond to any of these messages either, but don't let it get to you. She's trying to use shame to control you. These used to really bother me. They still ann…
/r/RPChristians13/11/19 06:20 PM
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At this point, she takes my protein shake and pours it down the sink. She says, if she cannot have breakfast neither can I. I say, “Wow. That is a real adult way to handle things.” She screams back, “Yeah. Coming from the manchild who cannot even help his own wife who is in need. You did not help me yesterday or today, I am sick of this.” I reply back, “I am sorry you feel that way. I hope you have a great day.” At this point, she takes my phone and wallet off the counter and goes to the door to…
/r/RPChristians13/11/19 05:03 PM
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OYS 11/13/2019 Summary 38, married 9 years (she's 39), 7 kids. Found red pill about Thanksgiving of 2017. Goals set last week and accountability Weight <181 HIT weight this morning: 179.8. I broke into the 170s!! BJJ or lifting minimum 5 times. HIT (6) Scripture study consistently myself, keep inviting wife, just send her scriptures HIT for myself, missed for wife Finish NMMNG, doing the work HIT Keep spending a couple hours a day or so working on my side business idea for at least 4 days this n…
/r/RPChristians13/11/19 04:05 PM
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Good job. But watch your back because the shit tests are coming. You decided to people today (or whenever this happened) and you did a good job. Don't go Rambo. You think you're done being angry, but you're not, not yet. But you will get through that too if you can just keep doing the work. If you need a fella to talk with, I'm here.
/r/askMRP13/11/19 04:34 AM
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I've often lamented that pagans get their mission better than we do and it's spelled out for us, at least at the macro level. For this I have a lot of respect for atheists who won't let their kids get exposed to Christian thought, Communists who are willing to give it all, Muslims who devote themselves to reverent worship of their false God. They get it. I don't endorse their beliefs, but they get it. Meanwhile Christian parents be like "oh I send little Billy to the state school to be a mission…
/r/RPChristians12/11/19 06:18 AM
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I was thinking about you today and remembered a part of NMMNG that might be super interesting for you to try. I think you probably about making decisions that will risk your wife's sexual availability. Do you know how to tell? Go on a sex moratorium for a time. Do it like Dr Glover says. Observe how you make decisions differently when you're not trying to preserve your wife's sexual availability via the covert contract of your decision making. Instead choose what you believe is right. My hunch i…
/r/askMRP10/11/19 10:49 PM
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So what's BJJ? You defined that down near the end, where you "practice BJJ" and lifting, etc. Brazilian Jiu Jitsu, just a martial art. Would you mind shining a light on your relationship with God during this conversion from BP to RP? Especially in light of the reality now that you aren't getting your validation from her, but from someone else, and since you're Christian, from God. Thank you. I've become less vehemently Reformed, I guess, though I'm still a weapons grade Calvinist. But I'm not su…
/r/askRPC10/11/19 03:17 AM
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This so much. I cringe so much at how I thought this way (like OP I mean) 18 months ago. But we have to learn at our own pace.
/r/askMRP10/11/19 03:01 AM
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What is your mission? Is this a lesson learned in pursuing your mission? If not, spending a bunch of time in your head about it is pointless. If it is, that still may be pointless, but at least it's about your mission. But it's not, at least I hope so, because if your mission is to get your wife to have sex with you, your mission sucks and is boring like you. A mission is something that you won't complete in this lifetime and virtually everyone manages to achieve sex with their wife sooner than …
/r/askMRP10/11/19 02:57 AM
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I've heard it said that it's rare that the man who pays for fake boobs gets to enjoy them long. Assuming you enjoy them to begin with.
/r/RPChristians08/11/19 10:18 PM
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Depends what it's about. But do you even lift? You can't negotiate desire
/r/askRPC08/11/19 10:11 PM
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I would do it this week. Pick a day where you have nothing on the calendar and do it then, that way you avoid the immediate confrontation. And if she asks why you pulled it, "Because I wanted to." Broken Record as necessary. It's gonna feel unkind. It's gonna feel unloving. It's gonna feel counterproductive to making progress in your relationship. But remember this: if it felt natural, then none of us would be here would we? Every time she accuses you of being unloving, or withdrawing, or not ca…
/r/RPChristians07/11/19 04:55 AM
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I sure wish I knew. Actions suggest to me she's not sure. I think she's trying to run a red pill program for feminists, frankly. I can see she likes being feminine but grasps for the masculine a lot instead.
/r/RPChristians07/11/19 04:40 AM
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She got upset and started ignoring me, then later started testing me. I stupidly responded a few more times before finally STFU, but it was too late. This continued all the way into Monday evening, with her testing me on everything she possibly could and doing what she could to try and get a rise out of me. I’ve been really good in this area, but all it took was for me to revert to my old complaining ways one time and she pounced on it. Things have gone back to normal since, but this was a good …
/r/RPChristians06/11/19 06:23 PM
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She's basically trying to put herself in a position to "oversee" what you're putting in place so she can maintain control - it's good that you see this and are taking steps to avoid going that direction. This is, quite literally, the theme for this week. I don't know if I'm passing the test yet - but I'm trying to at least identify it and transcend it. One thing that mildly annoys me is that in our conversations we'll frequently end up in a scenario where I'll share what I'd do in that scenario …
/r/RPChristians06/11/19 06:12 PM
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OYS 11/6/2019 Summary 38, married 9 years (she's 39), 7 kids. Found red pill about Thanksgiving of 2017. Goals set last week and accountability Weight <183.0. Weight this morning is: 181.6 HIT BJJ or lifting minimum 5 times. HIT 6 times. Scripture study consistently myself, keep inviting wife, just send her scriptures. PARTIAL I consistently read scripture, but didn't invite wife. First 4 chapters of NMMNG with the work. HIT (6 chapters) Keep spending a couple hours a day or so working on my sid…
/r/RPChristians06/11/19 03:49 PM
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All the value you listed is beta bux value, though. Not bad things. But pretty much no alpha in there. Are you excellent at some martial art? Are your lifts at an advanced level? Do you have female options that exist for reasons besides the fact that you have money or are known to associate with people who do? Do you do awesome man stuff? I'm not bashing you here but it's pretty clear you haven't done the work.
/r/askMRP06/11/19 08:24 AM
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This is laughable with the state of cultural Christianity today. I say this as a devout Christian; the church almost celebrates such a woman as you describe, but debt free virgins without tattoos are practically encouraged by other women to go squander their marriageable attributes.
/r/askMRP06/11/19 08:16 AM
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Been there, done that, got the T-shirt, no idea about the fella you're responding to as I don't follow his story, but this is so damn true in general. Learning how to be emotionally self sufficient is worth it.
/r/askMRP05/11/19 08:49 PM
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Oddly even at the worst of times I never thought to make that association. Good point.
/r/RPChristians05/11/19 12:15 AM
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Do not send her an email lol I speak from experience. This doesn't help and is virtually guaranteed to make your life harder. You can't negotiate desire with her, just like you can't force yourself to be attracted to a 400 pounder.
/r/RPChristians05/11/19 12:13 AM
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So what you're saying is you should use porn and it's not sinful and you support human trafficking? /Churchianity
/r/RPChristians05/11/19 12:05 AM
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I mean if I were marrying again and young, I'd just keep in mind the research that shows the higher the n-count above 0, the higher the risk of divorce. You can find it from dalrock if you Google. 11 is higher risk, just from a data standpoint; the individuals matter but I don't know her. Are you a high value man? You are pretty insecure (I might be too if I read all that, I don't know) so I'm going to go with "he has lots of work to do" but I don't know you. Maybe you really are. Will you remai…
/r/askMRP04/11/19 07:34 PM
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how did you end up handling her disrespect and disloyalty? Like what was your response to this? How did you deal with it? I'd also like to ask what led to her becoming disrespectful and disloyal ... were you two Christians when you met? Were there signals? Did you act disgracefully initially and then move into RPC? Or am I way off and she's just off her rocker? By all means I'm happy to share. I'm on my phone, so I'm happy to answer any questions that come out of this, but I'll give it my best s…
/r/askRPC04/11/19 07:58 AM
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Because I love my Father more than I love sex. That's not to say I don't like sex. I love it. Especially during the darkest times of my wife's disrespect and disloyalty, especially after she filed for divorce both times, you can bet that I was tempted heavily to use my knowledge to this end. Zero doubt I could have, though perhaps not the sort of woman I wanted; even now I have lots of work to show up and do still. But I want even more to be like my Father. That's just not congruent with how one…
/r/askRPC03/11/19 05:06 AM
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Sorry but this is just not true. In fact the data I've seen suggests that doing this is more likely to lead to less sex, and I'm pretty sure can be correlated to a higher divorce rate as well. It's likely that it isn't helping in the kitchen that is the cause, but it comes with the cause. Including by some who would make that very argument; I'm certain my wife would argue something like this, yet when I was engaged previously in that behavior she was on her way out openly and that's just the par…
/r/RPChristians02/11/19 02:30 PM
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This is like breaking free activity 2 or 3, I forget which. Why did I learn the lesson that unless Mommy desires me, I am broken, but then inverted, to unless Mommy desires me she must be broken? And then instead of setting up the hamster in a maze that exits where you want it, you have the hamster a door to "oh cool that's just me, I'm just asexual, and now I don't need to worry about it anymore"
/r/MarriedRedPill02/11/19 04:16 AM
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What needs to happen for you to be consistent here? This is the question I've been asking myself. I go over my weekly goals every day in my journal and track progress. It's a time limitation thing, but it really needs to be prioritized higher. Today I did it first before my NMMNG reading, but then I didn't have time to finish my NMMNG reading. Well, you're cutting so that could be part of it. Other than that, here's some advice you might find helpful, and here's some more. I'm cutting but I just…
/r/RPChristians31/10/19 06:05 PM
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OYS 10/30/2019 Summary 38, married 9 years (she's 39), 7 kids. Found red pill about Thanksgiving of 2017. Goals set last week and accountability Weight <183.5. - This morning I weighed 183.6. MISS but not gonna feel bad about that one BJJ or lifting minimum 5 times. -- 4 times. My wisdom teeth laid me low last week. MISS Scripture study consistently myself. -- Did not consistently get in scripture. MISS. Finish WOTSM audio version and read the physical one once it arrives so I can take it in bet…
/r/RPChristians30/10/19 03:30 PM
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Reading this intersection of interests, I wonder if I know you. 👀
/r/RPChristians30/10/19 12:53 PM
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My body responds extremely quickly to weight exercises and any serious lifting will make me look like some kind of wanna-be Arnold Schwarzenegger which is not the look I'm going for. This is definitely the best part of this thread. 😂 I used to know a fat woman who broke 400lb and joined a gym, completely ignorant about how exercise works. This woman meet with the gym employee doing the tour and was asked about her goals. She said she wanted to "tone up a bit" and maybe "lose a few pounds". The g…
/r/askMRP28/10/19 06:02 AM
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Only God can get you to a point you can follow his teachings without sinning - and the without sinning part comes after you die. We sin daily in thought, word, and deed. But we also die more and more to our sin every day and live more and more to Christ every day, enabled by his gift of grace alone to do this. Flee to Christ, brother. Bend knee to Him as He gives you grace to do so.
/r/askRPC27/10/19 05:08 AM
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To STFU is human, but to AA/AM is divine. (Don't feel bad, I'm still working on just being human most of the time 👀)
/r/RPChristians26/10/19 05:53 AM
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I've tried doing push ups right before bed, but that hasn't really worked. For a while it helped a little and assisted in my avoidance of porn. But that's no longer the case. My wife, if she works out before bedtime, can't sleep. I suspect the real trouble is probably the depression, not the sleep. But. Have you tried lifting heavy things to exhaustion earlier in your day, ensuring you have a good kind of demarcation between day and night (kill all the lights including phone notification leds, u…
/r/RPChristians26/10/19 05:50 AM
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That's why they call it hunting, not slaughtering. Folks don't realize that it frequently isn't trivial to find the animal in the first place. Especially when it's not just a doe in deer season.
/r/TheRedPill25/10/19 03:56 AM
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There is always something "more", but hunting is definitely up there with the most masculine activities, fella.
/r/TheRedPill25/10/19 03:47 AM
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Get on Meetup.com and find an activity group you can join. This will force you to interact with people you don't know while doing something you enjoy. It's hard because you haven't practiced, it gets easier the more you do it. And you have to get comfortable interacting with strangers on a personal level before you can share the gospel with them without panicking. Yeah I was just planning to open them. It's not a fear of talking to people. It's just that I don't run into that many strangers each…
/r/RPChristians24/10/19 05:50 PM
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I went to one for some help because my wife turned everything I did into "abuse" and frankly I got stuck. I didn't want to abuse anyone but it was a just a manipulative tactic to try and control me. And it worked, really well, for a long time. This helped me break free of that problem and live again. A few sessions of explaining what was going on and my therapist actually recommended I redo NMMNG, and has since added WISNIFG as homework she gives out. But it depends on the therapist. Mainly mine…
/r/askMRP24/10/19 03:28 PM
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Sounds like she's been working that manipulation pretty hard. I'm sorry that's happened to you. But you know better. You always will know better. So how much do you respect yourself?
/r/askMRP24/10/19 01:46 PM
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Look at your wife at her best, when she is working for something important for her. If she sucks at that, she's a lost cause; next her. Otherwise, the problem is you, not her. The entire post was excellent, but this point is uplifting for me.
/r/askMRP23/10/19 11:52 PM
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What if I told you... Her femininity is merely reflecting your behavior. "She had all the power" "I had none" I'll PM you my story later, man. Off to get my wisdom teeth pulled. 👀
/r/askMRP23/10/19 09:28 PM
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Here's one that I bet will bake your noodle. Ever feel like she plays the victim on you really well?
/r/askMRP23/10/19 08:25 PM
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Yes - and when I said what I said about you and fruit, I'm trying to be real with you, not be judgy. I'd be happy to share my crazy story with you in which you'll find a lot of the same elements and a fellow that to be honest still isn't fixed, just working at it. But you cannot do this without doing the work and owning your stuff.
/r/askMRP23/10/19 08:18 PM
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One hint: The entire interaction. Not a damn thing. This is flat wrong and not owning your stuff. At all. You have a lot of work to do. Best get started.
/r/askMRP23/10/19 07:53 PM
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I'm glad you can at least begin to see the problem - and I assure you, you just begin to see it. The solution to fixing the parts of it you control is in the sidebar, and in the sidebar at r/rpchristians if you're a believer. I'm only sharing that bit because you've implied - loosely - a profession of faith, but you're not really showing any fruit. So the first step might be to get saved. Remember, you're fixing you. Not the marriage. Maybe that comes as a result, maybe not. But if that's your c…
/r/askMRP23/10/19 07:51 PM
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You sound like you're actually having a pretty hard time of it and desperately seeking validation in the attention women give you.
/r/askMRP23/10/19 06:39 PM
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Did she file for divorce when you admitted to looking at porn? How did you admit to looking at porn? What were the actual consequences for your low value behavior? Did she make you feel ashamed of having a sex drive while not being willing to have sex with you? What things in this interaction and scenario did she have actual control over? What things in this interaction and scenario did you have control over? What thinking on your part did you change to please her? What behavior on your part did…
/r/askMRP23/10/19 06:37 PM
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I haven't owned my cheating because that would defacto nuke the marriage. I owned up to watching porn and she nearly divorced me for that. The language you used here says something. The way you framed this also says something. Do you know what those things are? I'm not trying to play annoying games here but you're definitely better off if you see this yourself rather than having it spoon-fed to you.
/r/askMRP23/10/19 05:58 PM
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As I write this I can't claim I've built the wife I want; I have really just begun to learn that if I do certain things and form my masculine vessel despite her vehement claims that she won't, she will often conform the shape of her femininity to the boundaries of my masculine vessel. But I'm still just a guy trying things and learning what works, and it's been a couple years. In many ways I think I have no business answering questions like yours. My marriage may yet get nuked. What I DO know, t…
/r/askMRP23/10/19 04:48 PM
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Fellowship: Thursday night online Bible study/fellowship has been going well, it’s a real encouragement. The material I’m learning will be very valuable when I go to teach an Evangelism class at my church in January of next year, as I plan to use it as part of my curriculum especially if the class continues beyond the initial time frame I’ve committed to. This is a huge opportunity for me and I plan to be ready. I’m also teaching the Men’s Bible Study class this Sunday as my pastor will be out o…
/r/RPChristians23/10/19 04:01 PM
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OYS 10/23/2019 Summary 38, married 9 years (she's 39), 7 kids. Found red pill about Thanksgiving of 2017. Goals set last week and accountability Weight <184.0 - came in at 184.2 this morning, so a close miss but progress BJJ or lifting minimum 5 times (this is at risk, some illness in our circles and I already feel a bit under the weather) = SUCCESS - 4 gym, 1 BJJ open mats Scripture study consistently myself but also get in scripture with her per what I mentioned above - DONE Open at least one …
/r/RPChristians23/10/19 03:12 PM
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That's a lesson I've tried to word succinctly a number of times to guys who want to rush into marriage and relationships. They get all excited because when they're a 5 they get super pumped when a 6 actually gives them the time of day. It's usually because there's junk that drops her value significantly that guys don't find out about just by looking at her, hence her still being single. But the guy doesn't care in the moment because he's blinded by feelings of "love". He's super pumped to marry …
/r/askRPC23/10/19 01:52 PM
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I totally watched quantum leap as a kid. That was a clever show. My daily review of yesterday is something I've been doing now for a couple weeks at my morning journaling time. That's partially how I ended up making this thread. But I'll try to look at it as though it wasn't me so that I can get past whatever ego investment or fears are in it instead, because I was not doing that. I will try that starting this morning.
/r/askRPC23/10/19 01:45 PM
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Well, when I found married red pill and started reading, I was blown away because my "unicorn" checked so many of the boxes. That was a hard thing to accept and yet it was staring me in the face. The things I've shared here are not even close to the whole thing either, but I'm here to fix me, not complain about her. Either way, she has good qualities too, this isn't a complaint fest about her - my issue is actually what is wrong with ME that this was acceptable to me and what must I do to change…
/r/askRPC23/10/19 02:21 AM
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Speaking for myself, I consider things like my wife leaving and I alter my behavior on things that are important to me rather than saying goodbye. Yes, I know what that fundamental statement says about where I'm at in this journey. I believe this is because I am not emotionally self sufficient. I mean, objectively, I can look at the situation and know that while the financial side of things would suck, I'd get through it. The custody side of things would be awful because she's willing to play ab…
/r/askRPC22/10/19 05:10 PM
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I have this playing now. Additionally, I will start working on the things you listed as well. Thank you both.
/r/askRPC22/10/19 04:49 PM
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I just added it on Audible and it's playing now, or possibly later, depending how well I can listen while I work.
/r/askRPC22/10/19 04:47 PM
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Brother, I've been hoping you might respond! Thank you! I agree that refusing to attend my church is a big problem. But it's really just a symptom of the bigger and very eternally relevant problem. She doesn't want to attend my church because, I think she is probably not a converted believer - despite insisting she is - I have thought this for a long time. After conversations yesterday I don't see us successfully choosing a church to go to unless I can agree to go to one that doesn't teach scrip…
/r/RPChristians21/10/19 05:11 PM
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This should be its own post. The criteria for making irrevocable decisions is profound.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/10/19 03:02 AM
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So you "made the call" no sex, and then had sex You should probably start studying your wife to learn what real frame looks like 😂
/r/MarriedRedPill19/10/19 01:56 AM
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OYS 10/17/2019 Summary 38, married 9 years (she's 39), 7 kids. Found red pill about Thanksgiving of 2017. Physical 5'-9" 185.0lb this morning. Estimate ~18%BF but I haven't measured in awhile; this may be off significantly. Lifts Back in the 1000lb club, on paper at least! All weights in 1RM form. I don't train at 100% as I have no desire to be injured again, but instead use 5/3/1 in the app form, which calculates my 1RM from my reps and has me work volume AND weight, so to speak. DL-435 (15x290…
/r/RPChristians18/10/19 06:35 AM
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You know what I love about eating out? They usually mark how many calories each dish is on the menu. Of course, there's all the salt, and they probably estimate low in many cases, but if you choose protein heavy meats and avoid crap food like French fries, it's not too hard to maintain progress. I personally deviate from the "don't sweat it on vacation" crowd. Yes, it's a marathon, but building the habits of self discipline are critical to keep building progress. If your family hassles you about…
/r/askRPC11/10/19 07:33 PM
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Also you're prioritizing reading. Reading is easy. Do it between sets at the gym. It takes years to build an attractive body. Are you gonna wait years before you decide to start waiting years? Nothing but regret comes of that idiocy. I wish I would have started lifting when I was a teenager. I wish I'd started training BJJ when I was a teenager. I wish I'd developed physical competency and mastery then; my life would have been radically different. But I didn't, so I had to start this only after …
/r/askMRP11/10/19 06:42 AM
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The first thing I noticed is your comment that you're more focused on cardio and eating right now. That's not paying attention, though. Lifting is not optional. You need to show up and do the work. At a minimum, every other day. Do you like living the way you're living, coming close to getting a divorce, only being granted a stay on this divorce for the time she can run up for more alimony (maybe permanent, depending on kid age!?) And then file after the kids move out? You need to become your ow…
/r/askMRP11/10/19 06:35 AM
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OYS 10/9/2019 Summary: 38, married 9 years (she's 39), 7 kids. Found red pill about Thanksgiving of 2017 when my wife was googling divorce stuff. Physical: 5'-9" 185.0lb this morning. Estimate ~18%BF but I haven't measured in awhile; this may be off significantly by now. Lifts: Back in the 1000lb club, on paper at least! All weights in 1RM form. I don't train at 100% as I have no desire to be injured again, but instead use 5/3/1 in the app form, which calculates my 1RM from my reps and has me wo…
/r/RPChristians11/10/19 03:42 AM
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This Can you ever hear her say she didn't have sex with him again without wondering if it's actually true this time?
/r/askRPC10/10/19 01:59 AM
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When the allies cracked German or Japanese codes in WWII did they immediately reach out to the enemy and confront them on their troop movements? Or did they use the information to their advantage? Why is this a question? If I were you I'd probably next her. But if you don't, you know something she doesn't know you know. Why are men so bad at this?
/r/askRPC10/10/19 01:57 AM
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So far as I know you won't go wrong with a KJV or Geneva translation. ESV and NIV have that stuff. I think NASB doesn't but I don't recall for sure. Beware the KJV-onlyists though. Jesus didn't use it himself, lol, it's just a pretty good translation.
/r/askRPC08/10/19 03:05 PM
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This is my general view on things as well. The problem is, I'm choosing what I don't want. Or really I'm choosing with an eye toward the next 5 minutes, not the next 5 years. I want to make a different decision instead.
/r/RPChristians08/10/19 12:37 AM
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One thing I've realized I need to do is be more active in the OYS threads. I do check in every so often, but that's probably a good place to make sure this is addressed longer term once I've got a direction to take it. Obviously this is a thing I need to address going forward, so I will plan to do that.
/r/RPChristians07/10/19 06:55 PM
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Yes, I am in a spot where I'm attempting, at least, to drive life instead of letting life drive me. However, in honesty, it still frequently drives me. We have a legitimately busy life, if you check my previous OYS's (not saying you should waste your time on that, just that it's there), you'll see there is a lot going on. What drove me to lose weight was a combination of motivations. First, my wife was obviously leaving me. I made the stay plan the go plan, so to speak; if she left, I wanted to …
/r/RPChristians07/10/19 06:52 PM
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While it's true that you'll find outwardly conservative/Republican single mothers, within the frame that they are in, they are always far left. Not necessarily at the scope of the world, but in the crowd they run in, they are universally on the more liberal end of their crowd unless you get to the extreme outliers. The only time a woman will not be like this is if she has a husband she trusts and has helped in his mission or built a massive amount of her own success.
/r/askTRP06/10/19 03:34 PM
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Lying is a sin, so no. However, withholding sex is also sinful. On the other hand, looking at porn is also sinful. As you may notice, there are probably a lot of other sin issues, and sin is at the root of all this. This is a good chance for you to develop self discipline and own your stuff, work on being attractive, and draw her into your frame instead of you being drawn into her frame (which the refusal to have sex and demand to start at the very beginning again and pretending your covenant do…
/r/askRPC06/10/19 03:30 PM
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It's time to implement my peer to peer social media idea, I guess. Good grief.
/r/RPChristians01/10/19 02:22 PM
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I love your say nothing option. That is amazing. All of these responses are excellent. This is my weakest point, and it's really important to not be weak at this.
/r/askRPC01/10/19 03:46 AM
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I often appreciate your posts. This is another example of why. Well said.
/r/askMRP27/09/19 05:39 AM
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Because you're more invested in the relationship than she is. STFU, sidebar, lift.
/r/askMRP26/09/19 02:57 PM
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Well first, I've seen where she says they are gay, but guess what I have noticed about gay guys? I'm sure some are strictly gay, but many that I've worked with or known are really not that discriminating and will be happy to get off with a woman too. Beyond that, what the other fellows said.
/r/askTRP22/09/19 05:25 AM
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This She likely wouldn't do this if she was attracted to you. So diagnosis necessarily requires figuring out in what way(s) you're being unattractive.
/r/askRPC21/09/19 11:57 PM
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This post is excellent.
/r/askMRP21/09/19 05:18 PM
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Also, there is no neutrality.
/r/RPChristians20/09/19 10:56 PM
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I clicked, started reading, saw the standard stuff about Dionysus and Zoroastrianism that I've actually researched in depth a long time ago and realized this fella just read a bunch of atheist blogs and called it research. If you start digging into it more it's obvious that it's not the same thing. Some of them even happened after Christ. Also, it's AD2019. Anno Domini. The year of our Lord, as opposed to BC, or before Christ. I realize an atheist would read this and scoff because that's not "ev…
/r/RPChristians20/09/19 08:49 PM
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I find it easy to respect heathens. I find it hard to respect people who profess Christ and immediately deny or suppress everything true about Him though. Maybe I'm in the wrong there, but it's true about me, lol
/r/askRPC20/09/19 06:37 AM
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True words... Though there are absolute truths that are hills worth dying on, too. But not theonomy for sure.
/r/askRPC20/09/19 06:32 AM
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I'm guessing Islam. It's rare, aside from a few crazy theonomists like myself, that Christians have the frame to even say firmly sex outside marriage is wicked, much less look to the general equity of the civil laws God gave Israel and rhetorically asked: what nation has laws so righteous as these I give you? While I do not in any way agree with Islam as a religion I do respect their willingness to own their belief system without any apology.
/r/askRPC20/09/19 06:16 AM
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Ever watch porn? Ever feel like pretty much everyone must watch porn? Ever struggle with that temptation? AMALT, in this sense is probably a fair general statement . But. You're a Christian, right? Do you do battle with this sin? Do you experience victory over it, even if you sometimes still fall? Does Jesus love you while you are yet a sinner? This is God working in you. He can overcome AMALT. The working of the Holy Spirit can and does help women restrain their AWALT lusts too. That doesn't me…
/r/askRPC20/09/19 06:12 AM
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Hmm, I guess I used a bad word, I'll try again without it... hope I'm not missing something else. DO. AWESOME. THINGS. Be the prize. Make yourself attractive. Have a mission that you're too busy working on to have free time to go through your wife's stuff, and make it awesome enough that maybe she wants to join you on it. Most of all, you should be busy enough that when she's out doing immoral stuff with her immoral friends, you aren't sitting at home with nothing to do waiting on your wife to g…
/r/RPChristians20/09/19 03:19 AM
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Ok man, I'm gonna be hard on you in this post, but I don't mean it in a mean way. ​ I was trying to understand why, when I read your post, I envisioned an effeminate Episcopalian male pastor who counsels married couples to go read the Five Covert Contract Languages, or who maybe argues that kephale and arsenokoites don't mean what they actually mean, or maybe the sort that argues, like at Revoice, that homosexuals will be bringing their queerness as gifts into the Kingdom. Now that's not entirel…
/r/RPChristians20/09/19 03:10 AM
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When you are at the stage that you're imagining what it will be like without her you are intellectually masterbating. Do it or don't. Daydreaming instead of doing is low value and doesn't accomplish anything.
/r/askMRP19/09/19 04:54 AM
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You're not wrong. Thanks for reminding me of that.
/r/RPChristians18/09/19 01:28 PM
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I find I need to STFU a lot. Maybe I need to re-read WISNIFG again. Every once in awhile I manage to pull something off like what you said. The rest of the time I'm sure I'm just sucking at it, but it sure feels like my wife will not respond that way. Good addition though, your comment about setting boundaries and making it enjoyable to live within them.
/r/RPChristians18/09/19 07:14 AM
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I just want to reaffirm your comment about Lord's Prayer and the Psalms. I hope that on that day when I get to go see my God and my King, I pass with a psalm on my lips. And what better way to memorize scripture, than to sing it?
/r/RPChristians18/09/19 06:50 AM
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I wish that you lived by me so that we could be in the same (local) tribe of men. Great commentary for this fella, and relevant for the poor behavior I'm dealing with right now too. Especially the part about "I know you're upset, but the way you're talking to me right now is unacceptable. I'm going outside to blah blah blah, if you want to talk when i come back in you might want to find another way to approach this." For all the work I've put in - and I've a long way to go, but I have put almost…
/r/RPChristians18/09/19 05:39 AM
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A hard situation. I can empathize with not wanting to put effort into someone who breaks that trust and shares herself with another man when she vowed to only share herself with you. Or might have. This used to really get me going. I was previously married, and she DID cheat, at least twice that she admitted, likely much more, so I found myself ill equipped to deal with it when I started wondering if my current wife was cheating when she played her functional separation games. But what can you d…
/r/askMRP16/09/19 02:19 PM
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Talk to an attorney so that you don't accidentally hurt yourself legally, and if he gives you the all clear, move out and take your kids. Good grief that is toxic.
/r/askMRP14/09/19 03:09 PM
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If your mission is to raise your kid, then you need to remember that, generally speaking (but only generally, I'm not a lawyer), judges like the status quo. The one raising the kids will likely end up raising the kids. The one making the big bucks will likely get to keep supporting her and her new boyfriend, er, I mean the kid. So, what can you do with this reprieve? Could you spend all your free time being the primary caregiver of the child? Could you encourage your wife to get a job and put th…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/09/19 05:44 AM
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If he tells her, from his post I'm not really sure he has the frame to stand fast under the gaslighting and manipulation that is sure to immediately follow. High chance his next post here is talking about how he mistreated her by not doing something she asked and that's why she cheated and it's all ok now. Why give her closure as to why Just next
/r/askTRP06/09/19 01:50 PM
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Why are you considering digging through the trash can full of rotting waste after it's been dragged to the curb? This choice would necessarily require you to live in a situation where you are being actively lied to, which is terrible for your own head, and eventually she will probably manage to gaslight you into believing this was your fault on top of it all after you crack and let her know you know. Hard next. Sorry that happened to you.
/r/askTRP06/09/19 01:47 PM
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OYS - 9/4/2019 Me: 38, married 9 years, 5'9" 184.5lb, 7 kids blended family that just changed irrevocably. Physical This prior week I have only done bodyweight workouts for reasons that will be obvious shortly. Down 3 lbs, up a couple, end result is less weight than I started. In general physicality and weight and lifting is going well, but this prior week definitely broke my routine. Recently restarted lifting and was going well until this past week and will be at it again on Wednesday (M/T are…
/r/RPChristians05/09/19 05:27 AM
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Regarding the last... You'll not be able to get them all - more than likely you'll find that a couple won't talk to you because she was already there anyway, and even if you don't, she'll just motion for the judge to require you to pay attorney fees for an attorney to come in from Father away, complete with travel fees. But I surely would consider it for the ones that are extra litigious and may be most likely to waste resources. This has been done to me.
/r/askMRP19/08/19 05:20 AM
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Step back however long you've been with this girl and ask yourself if she told you that she'd be going out for dinner with other men after however long it's been, would you have dated her? Now become the sort of man that a woman wouldn't want to risk losing by doing this, and save what shreds of dignity you have left by nexting her. Gross, fam.
/r/askTRP17/08/19 04:40 AM
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Oh. Yeah i don't agree with that even a little bit but thank you for explaining.
/r/RPChristians16/08/19 08:52 PM
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What is a "fallibleist"?
/r/RPChristians16/08/19 05:38 AM
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This. If you lift and lead, if you are attractive and initiate, it won't be a problem. Most likely, anyway.
/r/RPChristians15/08/19 10:56 PM
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Ok so what I'm about to say is easier to say than do, and I know that. Talk is always cheap, action is hard. First off, the only way you don't have a choice in who you marry is if you decide not to exercise it and let someone else make it for you. If you make vows to someone your parents choose, you are choosing that person. And you will live with the consequences of that choice. It may be that you can learn after the fact to become a leader and lead this girl, it may be that your parents have w…
/r/RPChristians15/08/19 07:48 PM
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You forget that women live in the moment of emotion. Right now she likes the idea of working with men as their equal. When it requires more than she likes she will not like it. It is that simple
/r/TheRedPill14/08/19 06:20 AM
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"Oh it shouldn't have to be like that." "Why are men choosing a fear based belief system where all women are out to get them?" "The patriarchy is denying women the ability to work equally with men like they would work with other men" I'm not saying it's logical, but this is a tiny subset of the ways they do it.
/r/TheRedPill14/08/19 02:48 AM
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And if the women in question really were afraid of being harassed this would give them proof that it happened too, but it seems to me they are more interested in being able to make the accusation than the truth of the matter.
/r/TheRedPill13/08/19 11:04 PM
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Yes. This is why they argue against men that follow the Pence rule and say that those men are living in fear. Of course fear is just a word women use to shame men into doing what they want.
/r/TheRedPill13/08/19 10:46 PM
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Good grief. You have no business drinking or arguing with your wife right now. Disgraceful. Lift. STFU. Sidebar. Stop drinking. You have a problem.
/r/askMRP12/08/19 12:50 PM
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You are right about the bluff. It's more of a journey/"you can't distract me" than a "my frame will beat your frame" kind of thing. That's the missional focus aspect of it all. I kind of agree, but my experience was that the initial assertion of frame (and I probably did it Rambo-style) really was an incredible war of will backed by action. And until that war was won, you had two people chained together trying to walk different directions in that journey. You get it! Too many people get caught u…
/r/RPChristians02/08/19 04:45 PM
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The way I've tried to treat it (mostly, at least; I've fought the temptation to just wordlessly file on my own during the darker times) is that I will not leave on my own, but I will let her free me. And in the meantime I'll be working to improve myself and my family's lives, be a high value guy and desirable. I'll be speaking the truth and not giving any quarter. If she chooses to leave while she's in deep sin, and I'm doing well by her and the family then I'm free, and if she comes along inste…
/r/RPChristians01/08/19 11:49 PM
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Can you share any details of what happened and how you worked out the details? I'm sure there are others who would benefit from your story. I can try, but I'm not sure I fully grasp it myself. Yes, 10 months ago (frankly, 2 years ago), my wife was openly planning to divorce me. We were living like a divorced couple but in the same house. Whether it was her trying to surreptitiously video record my discplining the children or openly accusing me of spousal abuse both privately and publicly, I felt…
/r/RPChristians31/07/19 10:44 PM
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Me: 38, married 9 years, 5'9", 187lb, 7 kids blended family. Physical: I got lazy about lifting, have restarted it. DL: 450, bench: 210, SQ: 370, OHP: 152. Diet has been mostly good. My weight hasn't really moved, but I've been seeing more definition, probably because BJJ is a heck of a workout. Have been asked if I know I look like a certain celebrity by attractive women both in front of and without my wife present; this has apparently engaged the dread a little and now she teases me about it (…
/r/RPChristians31/07/19 07:09 PM
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You have clearly not understood why lifting is not optional as I read this post.
/r/askMRP31/07/19 02:28 PM
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You didn't do enough because you did it for the wrong judge. Do it for you. Fix yourself, and the marriage might come along. I do know this is easier said than done but that's why it's hard work. Hit the sidebar. Lift. Fix you. Go. Fight. Win. ----->
/r/askMRP31/07/19 02:19 PM
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What an excellent post. Well said.
/r/askMRP31/07/19 02:17 PM
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"She" count: 17
/r/askMRP30/07/19 05:27 AM
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You got here by being not being attractive, and by being unattractive. This is a very unattractive decision (there is another way that is attractive, but you're not ready yet, clearly). So if you want to keep doing more of the same, you can bet you'll get to keep being her beta bux via a court order instead of voluntarily. Or if you want to be a red pill man, you'll be attractive, and avoid being unattractive.
/r/RPChristians29/07/19 01:56 PM
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I'll respond more later, but I had/have a very similar situation, including the autism aspect with a child (and a bunch of other stuff too). Are you lifting? Have you read the sidebar material? This is on you to make it better and wherever you end up if you leave this you're going to have the same laziness and neediness problem. I too am the one who has staunch faith and cares about the rules (well, God's rules, anyway) and I've had to learn to keep my principles in a way that simply isn't autis…
/r/askMRP16/07/19 02:30 PM
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This post comes with excellent timing. We are in a very similar stage of our RP journey and I've been somewhat discovering this as well. Excellent post.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/07/19 06:20 AM
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It's already been answered correctly. I also went through this indecision (which, in itself is unattractive) early in my red pill journey. Trying not to be Rambo, trying to establish frame without getting told to sit back down (that is to say, I had no frame still). Do what you want. But an interesting consideration... Do you think your wife is thinking about putting in high or low effort on that day for you "because of your choices"?
/r/askMRP11/07/19 02:35 PM
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That's a really good post. Glad you shared it.
/r/askMRP11/07/19 02:21 PM
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What does this question mean to you?
/r/RPChristians20/06/19 01:26 PM
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Who controls the dictionary controls the people.
/r/RPChristians19/06/19 12:01 AM
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One thing. If you are married and a Christian you have no business finding a new woman before the divorce is finalized (and depending on cause and your specific interpretation of scripture, possibly afterward). That's adultery, and it's a sin.
/r/RPChristians13/06/19 07:11 PM
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Thanks for linking the boundaries post, brother. I meant to do that but forgot to come back to it.
/r/RPChristians13/06/19 02:24 PM
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Physical violence should be a hard boundary for you. If you did it to her, you would face a dv charge. And frankly if she does it to you and the dice land poorly, you still may face a dv charge. But it's not a hard boundary for you (this is clear from your rationalizing it). And unless you change something in you, it will probably happen again, and you will still do nothing, except maybe to give in on something you want to do, which is why she made that move. Please read the post by u/strategos_…
/r/RPChristians13/06/19 03:46 AM
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interesting model. I can see how, at least at first glance, it appears to fairly accurately represent reality as I have experienced it. I went through a couple of those "ok I've improved lots, do I really need to keep my foot on the gas?". The result was similar to what you describe. Also the initial part of the journey was similar to this. I need to study this more. Good post for consideration.
/r/RPChristians12/06/19 04:15 AM
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Wow. The further works of Coraline Ehmke. Worst influence on software development ever. I like the sqlite's code of ethics better. https://www.sqlite.org/codeofethics.html
/r/TheRedPill07/06/19 04:42 AM
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I've had a spot maybe 4 times in a couple years. For bench (I definitely fear this one most without a spotter) I put the squat safeties on upside down (as that's a good height for me). I lose about a half inch range of motion (not ideal) but if I get in real trouble I can get out. For OHP, if I had to I could get out from under the weights no problem. Same thing for squatting... Wouldn't want to, but I could just let it go off the back or drop to the safeties. I've done the latter a few times. D…
/r/RPChristians05/06/19 11:06 PM
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Strongly recommend going all out on the lifting, being careful with macros and calories and let the weight loss happen naturally. Trying to lose weight rapidly means a non permanent lifestyle change (ie, a diet). But you really want this to be a slow burn, not a fast change (although I get the desire for it to be fast too), so that it becomes a new sustainable habit. As you build muscle and enjoy your astronomical noob gainz your metabolism will need to burn more calories. This will improve your…
/r/RPChristians05/06/19 08:34 PM
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This isn't really hard though; if you talk about sin, and the exceeding sinfulness of sin, and how repentance is a must, and how sin includes feminism/woke sjw nonsense (in the areas that it is sin, at least - we are after all commanded to visit the orphans and widows and help the poor, just not with everyone else's resources, but rather our own), and also how sin includes justifying things that the right loves but are also wicked, you'll be unlikely to need to worry about your building size muc…
/r/RPChristians05/06/19 02:06 PM
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My boys also really enjoy the Jocko books. Extreme Ownership is pretty good too.
/r/askMRP04/06/19 10:11 PM
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"We think you should step down from your position because of this accusation." "I understand you think I should step down. But I actually didn't do this thing I am accused of, and I will not voluntarily be leaving my position because there has been no misconduct." Repeat as necessary untill they fire him for cause that turns out to be false. Then pursue wrongful termination if able.
/r/TheRedPill04/06/19 05:42 AM
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Father of 7 - CR Wiley's "Man of the house" is pretty good on a lot of this. It's from a Christian standpoint, but I wouldn't call him blue pill. Some other advice: Lift. Talk is not only cheap but worthless... Unless it's the kind where you're connecting with them on a deep level. Often. Can't even count how many times my eldest daughter and I were up until 130 talking about life. I'm gonna miss that next month when she moves out for school. But she's got a good head on her shoulders, and can d…
/r/askMRP04/06/19 05:18 AM
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Man I need to get to a keyboard, because I sure have a story for you. There is hope but as long as you're pursuing her desperately (or making changes to win her instead of to glorify God), you're headed the wrong direction. The sidebar will get you there. But the stories may be helpful too.
/r/RPChristians02/06/19 02:04 AM
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So, you kind of got to exactly what I was wondering. If you want a woman that's different (yes, AWALT in a sense but the Holy Spirit does change men and women both) then a worldly Christian isn't it. That's not to say you can't be happy or have a nice marriage necessarily. But if you're looking for the Christian difference, you won't have it. And if you're a Christian you're commanded to be equally yoked. You'll have to discern if you would be for yourself. Something else to remember: conviction…
/r/RPChristians31/05/19 06:57 PM
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Why is it that you think this woman is a believer? (You do, right?) Ps- I'm not saying she's not. I just want to know why you think she is.
/r/RPChristians31/05/19 01:08 PM
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Don't just read it. Do. The. Work. It matters a lot.
/r/askMRP30/05/19 08:36 PM
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This, a million times this. Responsibility naturally flows to those who take responsibility. And his post on boundaries was also incredible. On that note, I've only seen amazing stuff from him. I'm gonna go look up his posts. "My wife doesn't let me..." Yes, I used to say that too. Now I see it and go 😂😂 - even though I've got a long way to go still.
/r/askMRP30/05/19 08:10 PM
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Well, others have given you some good advice, especially, by my estimation, helaughsinhidden's post. This wasn't your religion. Your wife wants to cheat on you openly; religion has nothing to do with what she's doing. It may be that you've forgotten or never learned the red pill aspects of your religion; I was in this boat 2 years ago. Great at pointing at what it requires, in the most unattractive way. Playing the wrong game perfectly by the rules. But that wasn't the game she was playing. My e…
/r/askMRP30/05/19 02:24 PM
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God's truth is timeless. It applies now. While there is a lot of truth to the term AWALT, there are virtuous converted women. They will still fitness test you. They will still be subject to the curse. But they haven't all been promiscuous. They tend to marry young; they still have the same desires, ya know? And while I'm not going to willingly contribute further to the born again virgin nonsense where we're supposed to not prefer "debt free virgins" because that takes power away from the majorit…
/r/RPChristians30/05/19 02:00 PM
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This, it's actually a reasonable... Somewhat at least... Way of handling it. But the equity or lack thereof (I bet there isn't much, since this woman managed to get him to run everything else into the ground) isn't the problem here.
/r/TheRedPill23/05/19 01:36 PM
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I have faced this discussion. Told her to get a job and put the kids in daycare. She started an in home daycare, so now she is with the children and gets paid for watching other children. Feminism is cancer, but choosing poorly for a spouse (though she was not very feminist when I met her, obviously it was there in a more nascent form that I did not discern...), or, some would say, getting entangled at this level at all, is also cancer.
/r/TheRedPill20/05/19 08:09 PM
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Thanks for posting this. I haven't posted my situation here, but it is clear to be that I am in a new situation that requires I go reread NMMNG.
/r/askMRP16/05/19 09:02 PM
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I think I'll be reading through this a few times today. Thank you for taking the time to write it. I have some thinking to do.
/r/RPChristians16/05/19 08:58 PM
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This is a really great turn of events. But be cautious. Know your boundaries and defend them ruthlessly. I agree with u/redpillredeemed's assessment about this being a failed branch swing, but with God there is always hope. Now your blinders are off, and she should be more than willing to participate in whatever accountability measures you require to rebuild trust. Any indication that she is not willing, or is hiding something, should be a huge red flag for you. I have spent a bunch of time worr…
/r/RPChristians16/05/19 07:24 PM
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OYS 2 (in RPC) Background/stats: 38, 5'9", 189lb, not sure of BF%, probably nearing 15%? I am starting to see abs, very muscular, so that's something anyway. Married 8 years, 7 children blended family, 3 of the marriage. Discovered RP Nov '17. Have read: Most of the MRP books at this point, I think. I can't seem to find the MRP sidebar anymore though, so I'm not sure? Currently reading 'eight dates' by gottman for reasons to be explained shortly. Physical/lifting: Working out 4+ times a week. To…
/r/RPChristians15/05/19 07:34 PM
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I'm sure you realize this, but we're working from two different definitions here. You haven't assigned personhood to the "unformed/unconscious fetus" while I have. It really is that simple. Obviously if the baby has personhood, killing it would be no morally different than killing my "fully formed" children. Conversely, if we're not talking about a person then who cares about an abortion. I'm not here to lecture you in the morality of it; but you asked why so many think that way. This is why.
/r/TheRedPill12/05/19 01:28 PM
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Have been through the family court system, it sucks (and I do mean the full ringer, false physical, sexual, emotional abuse allegations, CPS investigations, guardian ad litem, police at my door on Christmas Eve, 4 years of court battles, bankruptcy, the whole thing, fam) Still never once thought "man should have had my kid killed instead of having to pay child support"
/r/TheRedPill11/05/19 11:10 PM
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I agree. Social media was a civilization changer. Not for the better, at least yet, but definitely an epoch.
/r/askTRP10/05/19 03:11 PM
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Again I completely agree in a sense but this goes back to Jack Donovan's 'the way of men' chapter on groups, where he talks about how you can't really know more than a team size group of people well. So yes, you wouldn't necessarily know about all the babies or marriages (I am personally in a church, and find out about my tribe's marriages and babies through an email list, so I actually still get most of that), but what you gain by giving up that superficial knowledge that really doesn't benefit…
/r/askTRP10/05/19 03:04 PM
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But are they really friends if you only found out though Facebook? Not arguing with you- you're right in a sense. But just a counterthought I guess.
/r/askTRP10/05/19 02:45 PM
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I got rid of mine last year. The time that freed up has been very helpful for doing hard work to improve my life. I think it was a good decision, but if everyone did the same, it'll be harder to be a top x% man for me, so there's that.
/r/askTRP10/05/19 02:43 PM
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You would have to try hard. A woman doesn't have to try at all, all she has to do is not walk away. Not saying she did or she didn't- but it's not effort for a woman. Remember, she's the gatekeeper to sex, not commitment.
/r/askTRP10/05/19 02:12 PM
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I think it becomes a problem when they choose to go after those things instead of the office and role God gave them. Nothing wrong with hunting, or baking, or painting your little girls nails. There are explicit prohibitions in scripture against wearing clothing pertaining to the opposite sex. Men are called to "act like men", and we know that men have a way that they act. This might annoy some but scripture says that nature itself teaches that it is a disgrace for a man to have long hair, and t…
/r/RPChristians10/05/19 05:05 AM
4

I just looked at my esv to double check and it combined effeminacy and abusers of themselves with mankind. I would say it's both. I like the way Jack Donovan addresses this in his chapter on honor, though he's literally a pagan, I think he manages to encapsulate it better than most modern pastors who are practicing their own form of cowardice that is afraid to offend anyone with truth. Just like I'm not going to play women's games when they demand to know how many inches of leg they can show whe…
/r/RPChristians10/05/19 04:59 AM
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Know ye not that the unrighteous shall not inherit the kingdom of God? Be not deceived: neither fornicators, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor effeminate, nor abusers of themselves with mankind, Nor thieves, nor covetous, nor drunkards, nor revilers, nor extortioners, shall inherit the kingdom of God. And such were some of you: but ye are washed, but ye are sanctified, but ye are justified in the name of the Lord Jesus, and by the Spirit of our God. 1 Corinthians 6:9‭-‬11 KJV Effeminacy is defi…
/r/RPChristians09/05/19 07:39 PM
1

My main feedback is that you would likely benefit greatly from learning to ooze gravitas and pietas, and never yelling. Now, actually doing that is a lot harder than saying it, so there's that. Remember that whoever she's on the phone with while she's smoking is an influence that continues in her life now and you're not. In general I totally get why you did what you did, but I wouldn't have checked out on her over this.
/r/RedPillParenting09/05/19 12:02 PM
2

I'm in the same spot. Where there's life there's hope. I ache for you, brother, because I know the heartache of your own wife doing this. Where there is life, there is hope. Christians backslide. Some were simply not Christians. I pray for my wife every morning and ask the Lord to convert her or simply convict her and grant her repentance if I have discerned wrongly that she is an unbeliever. I desperately want my wife "in". We should. But in my own mind... I don't know the behavior you've seen …
/r/RPChristians07/05/19 02:16 PM
1

Of course, I was not going to try and convince you to convert them or vice versa (though I'll always share my faith to those interested), I was mainly wondering because of they are Christian, the way he's acting is the sort of thing a good church should put him in church discipline for, if you're being straight with the story (I am not questioning that, but folks perceive things differently sometimes). Have you talked to those he's supposedly respectful toward, ie elders? I mean I get that you d…
/r/askTRP06/05/19 05:11 PM
2

I am looking forward to my scripture reading and journaling time tomorrow morning to read through that list of scriptures. Seriously, every time I read your posts, i am blessed. And inspired to make disciples, too. For my parents, not to hijack your thread, they have been married since 1978, but really only in words, if you could say even that. But I'm praying every day for reconciliation. I haven't spoken with my mom in about 8 years (though I've written her, dad tells me she tosses the letters…
/r/RPChristians06/05/19 03:48 PM
1

Take responsibility for yourself. Begin making a plan to move out and support yourself. Don't have skills? Develop some. This part is just grown up life. In regards to your dad... What religion? Maybe it won't matter, but I might have some ideas.
/r/askTRP06/05/19 02:57 PM
1

I agree with everything you said (I thought about picking Saddam Hussein instead of Satan to make a similar point - while avoiding Godwin's law - before deciding this wasn't a good use of my time) - but I also offer Psalm 11:5 for consideration for those who care, not trying to reopen the argument. Some would argue that she was a believer, that she was saved and God loves her. And in a common grace sort of way, well, sure. For God so loved the world.. but she was a false teacher. She led many as…
/r/RPChristians06/05/19 05:19 AM
1

Shrug. Not worth arguing with you over.
/r/RPChristians05/05/19 07:21 PM
2

In regards to your Mom, I know you are a faithful Christian and scripture matters to you so typing this up is definitely not wasted time. I probably don't have the wisdom to help you, and you are older and wiser than me anyway, but maybe it'll be useful. I do know a few scriptures that deal with caring for parents in their old age, though. I struggle with this because my mother is full of bitterness at me and does not talk to me, although my Dad does not share in that, but has to keep his relati…
/r/RPChristians05/05/19 04:36 PM
4

Respectfully, I think it is you that is not understanding why I said that. I do grasp your meaning, I think. You can find verses that seem to lean one way or the other. But we aren't looking for verses that support what we want to assert, or we shouldn't be at least. That's eisegesis; we want to properly exegete the text instead, which means it's all relevant and all must be understood in harmony with itself. It is without a doubt a tragedy that this woman died. For her family. Her husband. And …
/r/RPChristians05/05/19 05:23 AM
0

No, you can't find a verse for "anything". And no one is celebrating the death of the wicked, per se. It is a moment of reverence, awe, and thankfulness for many things. Sorrow for the one who went into eternity without the imputed righteousness of Christ, unless she repented. It is the same for the death of all unbelievers. But in her case she has earned more notoriety than most.
/r/RPChristians05/05/19 03:01 AM
5

Wow. This is a good reminder to ever walk in the fear of God. I am glad that this wicked woman will not be actively doing damage to the Church anymore, but it is sobering, and horrible, and a matter of reverence to God to think about, for what do we have that we were not given by God? Including our faith? May all of us persevere, fear God, always bend knee to Him before man (and woman), and remember our adoption as children of the Father.
/r/RPChristians05/05/19 12:36 AM
2

The guy that wrote that is so cringy even as he explicitly writes things confirming red pill truths. Ugh. At least Mommy bloggers aren't SUPPOSED to be masculine, so their behavior is in character.
/r/TheRedPill05/05/19 12:28 AM
2

datpostmil <3
/r/RPChristians27/04/19 04:53 PM
4

I freaking love this subreddit 😂
/r/MarriedRedPill22/04/19 05:31 PM
1

Next time you post something like this about religion (and of course, how obviously anyone who doesn't agree with you must be plugged in) could you make sure to wear the signature fedora so I can experience this phenomenon in all its fullness? <3
/r/MarriedRedPill22/04/19 02:21 PM
3

Hah. People who post this stuff are the atheist equivalent of the guys with the turn or burn signs and the megaphones at busy intersections, best I can tell at least.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/04/19 02:59 AM
5

I've read it, it's good and I've actually been thinking about going through it again, but what you posted is not what I am suggesting or how I am operating. I am not a "good" Christian, but I am a serious Christian, and I love my King and Father. My performance is not predicated on her behavior or not.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/04/19 09:35 PM
4

Pretty good article, I still land on the I have to obey God rather than men side, so slightly at odds with the ending tone, but this has also been my experience. Completely. Came out of previous divorce. Woman I was dating linked me a sermon from a pastor that's honestly more masculine than most. I became a Christian, joined that church. AMOGing pastor yelled at me (not specifically) and I liked the message and it fit with scripture a lot. Marry those single moms, the usual nonsense. Of course n…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/04/19 04:58 AM
1

I think DEERing can be done to make or female but it's never the logical process of solving a problem. It's generally not taking ownership of what we do while DEERing it at the same time. At least that's how I learned it.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/04/19 03:27 PM
16

My coffee. It almost spewed out on my phone. Oh my goodness.
/r/TheRedPill19/04/19 03:18 PM
5

I've been through the wringer and I agree the system is really broken with false accusations, but in my experience the judge truly appeared to want to get it right. I don't think he fully did, but I guarantee my ex wife felt like that even more. Now I'm about to find out about the female judge part since I remarried after that and now my turn is over. Hopefully it's not awful... More than necessary anyway.
/r/TheRedPill17/04/19 02:12 AM
3

This post is one of the most quality pieces of content I've seen here. Well done. I am going to study this a bunch and try them out. May God give me courage to do so.
/r/RPChristians15/04/19 05:55 PM
3

That's where I'm at. As long as I can realistically live, I don't much care about the finances. It's the kids that are a hill I will die on. I've tried for 18 months to love her as Christ would (and often failed) while she was prepping. But I still took steps to prep as well in a defensive fashion. So I guess we'll see how that goes for me. It's all Christ's, and He will provide. The kids are His. I'm merely a steward, and what the Lord giveth, the Lord can take away. Blessed be the name of the …
/r/RPChristians14/04/19 08:24 PM
3

Ah I get you. Maybe I'll do that once it's safe to do so.
/r/RPChristians13/04/19 01:33 PM
3

Posting about active legal stuff publicly online is always a bad idea. It is enough to know that thanks to various rp resources including, I believe, some stuff by our very own u/red-curious in MRP that I can't find in the sidebar there anymore last time I looked, I have seen this coming for a year and a half and have prepared accordingly as best I could. Don't know if it will be enough, but I also don't think I could have done anything else.
/r/RPChristians13/04/19 01:23 PM
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Are you without sin? That said, the Holy Spirit enables some to make war on their sin nature. And lots more who have the name are just she wolves in sheep's clothing. My she-wolf just filed for divorce yesterday and played the false abuse allegation card to get the kids and ask for 70% of my take-home for four years.
/r/RPChristians12/04/19 02:53 AM
3

My ex wife wasn't a drug party girl [that I know of] but she still had terrible impulse control and committed lots of adultery. And tattoos. No need to be at the extremes. The extreme of tattoos is a covered face, and I doubt any of us would fail to agree such a woman is deeply... Not normal. But ye olde tramp stamp, or ye olde butterfly, added at 18 years old, her impulse control may not be as crazy broken as the covered face woman (who honestly is probably better at committing, just to stupid …
/r/askTRP10/04/19 03:16 PM
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I read a study at one point showing that tattoos are a harbinger of poor impulse control. More sexual partners, higher divorce rate, etc. That Christian "men prefer debt free virgins without tattoos" article wasn't universally accurate by any means, and obviously lots of fellows here will argue the virgin/tattoos parts on their own preferences (I doubt most of you would argue the debt part though, at least) but it's still not wrong in spirit and I think the red pill truths dropped in it are why …
/r/askTRP10/04/19 03:10 PM
8

This comment about solipsism and patriarchy is really underrated. Fantastic point.
/r/askMRP10/04/19 12:57 PM
2

I fully agree, I took the post I responded to as a response to MCT, not the op. Shrug. Maybe I misunderstood. I agree the op has loads of work to do.
/r/askMRP08/04/19 03:26 PM
7

Different people, unsurprisingly, have different goals and areas of achievement. I like to fix all my own stuff. It appeals to some deep part of me that wishes I lived off grid in Alaska on some subsistence lifestyle (although I grew up on a farm and do have many of those skills I realize this is just fantasy, but it still deeply appeals). I could possibly pay someone to do it instead. But then I wouldn't get the time teaching my children to build things or fix things, and the competence and mas…
/r/askMRP08/04/19 03:07 PM
3

I just looked that up. I'm so glad I moved to a free state from the liberal workers paradise I used to live in. Although I've been listening to Livy's History of Rome volumes, and despite living under a supposedly constitutionally limited government in a state that is well known for its freedoms of the sort that I value, it is clear to me that although our society is more moderated (likely I will never be at risk of becoming a slave because the Canadians make war against us and pillage my state,…
/r/askTRP06/04/19 12:18 PM
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Although trp is not very pro marriage, as a RP Christian, I am in the right scenario so I do get that. That said, you're doing it completely wrong. Potential wife candidates don't need to be told to keep their boobs off social media. Vet better, you're doing a piss poor job of it here.
/r/askMRP05/04/19 04:12 AM
2

I've been reading his way of the warrior kid books to my boys. They love 'em.
/r/askTRP03/04/19 03:38 AM
8

Decent plan. I'd add in jiu jitsu. And I'd get up at 430am. And in the words of Jocko, discipline equals freedom.
/r/askTRP03/04/19 03:07 AM
1

If you want 50/50 to minimize child support, good luck with all that. Do you do half the child rearing work? If you want 50/50 because you're on a mission to raise children and spend a reasonable amount of time with them when their mom isn't a failure of a parent then have you been spending 50% of the child specific effort on them? No, your job doesn't count for much there. I think you might have some stuff to figure out, fella, 50/50 is not a given.
/r/askMRP01/04/19 05:11 PM
1

I've wondered that too. It's on my daily prayer list that if she is it would be made plain so I can act accordingly. Other than that if she cheats she cheats, it's not like she's making herself a huge prize to lose right now with the raging feminism, the manipulation and threats, the constant abuse card playing, etc.
/r/RPChristians30/03/19 02:12 AM
3

A trick I learned from George Bruno is to schedule your grieving. Decide when you're going to do it. Do it then. End it when you have the next thing on your schedule. It has been helpful for me so far. I'm sorry for your loss. That's hard.
/r/askTRP30/03/19 02:06 AM
1

I sent you a message.
/r/RPChristians28/03/19 04:32 PM
1

I'm definitely open to speaking privately about it, if you'd like.
/r/RPChristians28/03/19 04:21 PM
4

Be attractive. Don't be unattractive. Lift. Women don't reject a put together jacked guy on sight. He might open his mouth and give her cause to do so, I'm which case that's the next thing to work on, but women work pretty hard to put themselves near jacked guys.
/r/RPChristians28/03/19 12:20 PM
3

Some folks are naturals. Others are like me. Before the last year I've never been under 210lbs since I was 13. Maxed at 265 in maybe 2008, have hovered around 240-245 most of my adult life. A captain who didn't bother, no stamina, no physicality, when people talked about calorie counting or working out I'd laugh at what meatheads they were. I fancied myself some kind of intellectual and while that sort of thing has always come easy to me, it's so cringy now. Well, then my wife is blatantly plann…
/r/RPChristians28/03/19 12:14 PM
2

The part where he always left at 5 because he didn't chat back at the folks in meetings made me laugh out loud. A proto-Ron Swanson. One of my favorite presidents, too.
/r/RPChristians15/03/19 03:44 AM
1

I am not a fan of Keller in recent years because of his lack of resistance to liberalism, but even so this rings very true.
/r/RPChristians24/02/19 03:34 PM
3

If there were a love react I'd use it on this.
/r/RPChristians23/02/19 02:31 PM
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I encourage you to read through Westminster larger catechism questions 178 through 196. It's not a light read. But it is full of references to God's word, and I do think you will be blessed by it. https://reformed.org/documents/wlc_w_proofs/index.html
/r/RPChristians23/02/19 03:51 AM
4

Good luck with that, fella.
/r/RPChristians17/02/19 02:49 AM
3

Why is it immature to make things fun for your wife? As for dishonesty, I've never found so much honesty as in the red pill. Dishonesty was living the foolish lie that I could do choreplay and my wife would want to have sex with me. Dishonesty was covert contracts I would make. Dishonesty was living with my wife as my mission while she couldn't care less in reciprocation. But, that's just me.
/r/RPChristians17/02/19 02:38 AM
1

Then don't. But healthy according to what standard?
/r/RPChristians17/02/19 02:31 AM
1

Not trying to be snarky, but, mainly the fact that the "game" is fun for women, and you too, if you do it right. It's not an obligation. Don't be lazy, you have to do the work.
/r/RPChristians17/02/19 02:26 AM
-1

Yep, you're missing something, but I was there too 8 years ago. When you're ready you'll get it.
/r/RPChristians17/02/19 02:22 AM
1

The Kings castle beta example is the best example ever, for boundaries.
/r/RPChristians16/02/19 02:59 PM
12

That's very true. At its root, it's a modern form of slavery, whole proclaiming "freedom", but it's really just freedom to have lots of sex or engage in a bunch of degeneracy... It's not real power or liberty, that lets you create a productive life and keep it for yourself. You can possibly come out of it and get there, but the design holds you in.
/r/TheRedPill15/02/19 02:51 AM
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Socialistic voting bloc. They of course don't provide for themselves, so they look to Father State. Father State requires that they vote for programs that take from producers. One of many motivations. And there isn't only one party encouraging this.
/r/TheRedPill14/02/19 10:29 PM
3

This is nonsense. He isn't there (and I don't blame him personally). She will see through that garbage unless it's real.
/r/TheRedPill12/02/19 07:28 PM
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Absolutely not. She just wants to meet with you so she can make sure you're still interested in her enough that you can't move on. She already moved on. Don't even show up. Don't respond when she asks why.
/r/TheRedPill12/02/19 02:26 PM
7

Can add data point from personal experience.
/r/TheRedPill22/01/19 03:50 PM
2

I can't reply to your post from then, but I was blessed by your transformation post. Also, something got in my eye at the part where your bride went to be with our King. Thanks for blessing me with it. I really needed that right now.
/r/RPChristians22/01/19 06:51 AM
4

I'll be listening to this later. Thanks for linking it.
/r/RPChristians13/01/19 02:56 AM
1

Well, I think it is, because I value kids and marriage, even though it's exactly what you described in today's world. And let's face it, we should be owning our shit anyway. But you're right about the risks and I can empathize a lot as a guy who is just walking back from the brink of divorce and even now trying to not let my hamster run wondering if her retreat from leaving is because she was cheating and broke up or something. Gotta get myself back to the mission and not waste time on that garb…
/r/askTRP10/12/18 12:48 AM
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Here's the thing with parenting and infidelity. I have been down this road, and I had to represent myself partially in court because I had no money for an attorney. So I watched the cases in court so I could learn how the courtroom interactions went, what annoyed the judges, etc. I spent a fair amount of time doing this. Consistently I would watch fellows go in there with an expectation that because they were good providers, they should get half the time with the kids. On its face this makes sen…
/r/askTRP09/12/18 09:29 PM
15

Right. Instead of losing the game, don't play it. This isn't a work conversation.
/r/TheRedPill09/12/18 08:29 PM
2

Here's the deal. What he did in terms of making his daughter walk - good. He didn't consider the laws of power, and that he would have had zero backlash if he kept it to himself. That was the real mistake here. Posting this stuff online for validation from others (or to be controversial) is problematic. This is your child and discipline is between you and your child, not you guys and the world. Keep it to yourself. It protects your children's dignity.
/r/TheRedPill08/12/18 02:42 PM
2

He needs to make sure she is really a believer. If she's rationalizing sin, she is either immature, or an unbeliever who doesn't know it yet. He shouldn't be unequally yoked.
/r/RPChristians05/12/18 08:33 AM
3

Yes, you've gone too far. Worse, though, she doesn't think so. That is a huge red flag. I was looking through old emails. I met my wife while I was getting divorced. Brothers, I was a wicked fellow. My wife's boss encouraged her to send me a Mark Driscoll sermon, because he was discipling her and, reading between the lines, I think he wanted to ward off any more of the sort of men she was seeing. He was right. I didn't have overt bad intentions per se but I was a raging pagan in 'murican moralis…
/r/RPChristians05/12/18 08:32 AM
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As a professional in software development... Take this free advice with a grain of salt and the knowledge that I don't work in security. Certs are what people who don't know the industry get to try and enter it. Results and experience is what you need, not summoning the power of certification. You'll have to consider for yourself how you might find a vector to generate experience while you're doing all this. I could tell you for software development, but it's not the same thing. Although I bet p…
/r/TheRedPill01/12/18 06:31 AM
1

The other thing - the Lord Jesus commands us how to conduct our marriages in scripture. If she will not honor His commands, then why do you think mutual consent (which carries with it the right to revoke it) would be a better option? It must come from the heart.
/r/RPChristians26/11/18 05:06 PM
3

As a fellow who married a 'Christian' woman who has now repudiated even the vows she wrote (which say things like she'll obey me, etc) I can see the appeal that something like this would have to a fellow who is hurting in the middle of this stuff. Because I am too. My helpmeet became a raging feminist and is trying to keep her claim on the resources I produce while holding me to the old books standard and herself to no standard but 'follow your heart'. That's hard. But contracts with women are f…
/r/RPChristians26/11/18 05:02 PM
1

I once worked for a company that insisted that I lead with no authority to do so in order to be promoted. In a very real sense, this is possible and a realistic expectation. One can be a leader that people voluntarily follow without the authority to back it up. However this is for the gifted leader, who has himself for his mental point of origin. In order for the average fellow to lead competently, he needs to know he's got the authority to do so and is not out of line trying to do so. In other …
/r/RPChristians24/11/18 07:03 AM
2

Just use calculated 1rm and don't do it for ego, just measuring progress.
/r/askMRP21/11/18 07:24 PM
2

Calculated 1rm is a solid way to measure progress though.
/r/askMRP21/11/18 07:23 PM
1

Agreed wholeheartedly.
/r/RPChristians17/11/18 04:21 PM
1

Shame is a grace. But when I say that I don't know that we're talking about the same version of shame.
/r/RPChristians17/11/18 02:40 PM
2

I would drop the porn is wrong approach and replace it with the words of our Lord. "You have heard that it was said, 'You shall not commit adultery.' But I say to you that everyone who looks at a woman with lustful intent has already committed adultery with her in his heart. If your right eye causes you to sin, tear it out and throw it away. For it is better that you lose one of your members than that your whole body be thrown into hell. And if your right hand causes you to sin, cut it off and t…
/r/RPChristians17/11/18 01:38 AM
3

Mom was a minister, so the term "Christian" is pretty loosely applied there too.
/r/RPChristians14/11/18 04:05 AM
1

Honestly, as I read your posts it strikes me that you seem extremely needful of validation for your decision. Self doubts? Justifying it or rationalizing it for your conscience? I certainly don't know. I fight this all the time as well as I take the opposite path - not (initiating at least) divorcing a woman who has functionally left already because of what seems like silly religious rules to most, so I'm not saying this from a position of "lol ur a faggot hur hur". Both ways are hard. For the O…
/r/askMRP14/11/18 04:04 AM
2

I get what you're saying, but any judge will have a "hmm" moment if she's bringing Chad around the kids without a stable relationship. If she does it (and I would be surprised if she didn't since he said not to), this could possibly play well for him in court. I am not a lawyer, but I've done the family law circus, sadly.
/r/askMRP11/11/18 04:45 AM
1

A rival to MCT appears.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/11/18 12:30 AM
47

Guy meets girl. Turns out she has exes. According to her they were all abusive, possessive, clingy, controlling. One of them even went to jail for domestic violence! Guy decides "I'm not like that, and she is cute, I should be fine". Girl rolls with it but begins to lose attraction for him. Girl progresses and starts to change her mindset over the years to come and eventually moves more and more towards seeing him as clingy and controlling. Then abusive. Because he says no to things he's allowed…
/r/askTRP07/11/18 07:45 AM
1

Looked it up. Solid story.
/r/askMRP07/11/18 07:26 AM
3

Even before becoming RP-aware I knew that if a woman wouldn't take the name, or wanted to hyphenate it, it's a 100% chance that your marriage will be miserable if you have any personhood of your own. I don't understand how people who supposedly care about any sort of Christian marriage can seriously argue this. So open minded their brains fall out. Maybe this is different in other cultures, but I'm talking about Western culture, with feminism.
/r/RPChristians06/11/18 12:53 AM
2

I, too, happen to know for a fact that Dalrock at least partially misunderstands Wilson's work. There is an attitude that Dalrock puts forward that Wilson's session never holds women in discipline for rebellion or what have you. I know someone personally that proves this wrong. All that said, I enjoy the work of both men.
/r/RPChristians06/11/18 12:50 AM
12

Even at night, because the sun never sets on a badass.
/r/askTRP05/11/18 09:11 PM
9

This. A high wizard of the patriarchy 😂😂😂 I love it
/r/askTRP05/11/18 08:51 PM
1

You are really deep in his frame.
/r/askTRP04/11/18 02:16 PM
1

Physical violence in this situation is not as powerful as competence and frame is. Be competent. Build frame. You are in his frame every time you respond or care.
/r/askTRP03/11/18 07:09 PM
3

I literally laughed out loud when I read that you said "trust me, I got this", having no idea what you've promised you got. 😂😂😂
/r/RPChristians29/10/18 07:26 PM
5

Lol. That last comment is straight Aurelius with attitude.
/r/askMRP27/10/18 02:52 AM
4

Good counseling is just discipleship.
/r/RPChristians26/10/18 03:19 PM
17

"are you a TRP guy?" "yes, I'm a red pill fellow." Autistic screeching "Well dear if you don't like it I'm not holding you hostage, there's the door~" Mind you I'm not a fellow with the strongest frame ever but you have literally none. Lying about who you voted for lol 😂
/r/askTRP22/10/18 03:07 PM
1

You supposedly wasted your youth working (and probably don't realize the simultaneous gift this was, although it may not be obvious to you right now), but you can't change what you did in the past, only now and the future, to the degree you have opportunity to do so. So you can be mad at others for your past, but you're choosing to do that instead of something you really want with the present. I suspect you only know how to be angry. But how's that working for you? Also, are you lifting?
/r/askTRP20/10/18 09:18 PM
2

Ok, that's fair. My biggest PRs have been fueled by my wife's worst behavior. 😂
/r/RPChristians13/10/18 10:48 PM
1

As others have said, download stronglifts 5x5. Use it Although I personally can't hang with 7 days a week, you should be there at minimum 3 lifting heavy stuff until you can't.
/r/RPChristians13/10/18 02:30 PM
1

Man. I'm just past where he's at (an inch shorter, 8lb lighter, so maybe near the same point) and recovery is kicking my butt doing it every other day. How do you do 7 days a week lol
/r/RPChristians13/10/18 02:29 PM
1

Feminist dance theory 😂 Take my upvote, comrade comedian.
/r/RPChristians11/10/18 03:40 PM
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If you are in a situation where she's flirty with other guys If you are in a situation where talking to her about it might cause you to break up You need to exit that situation. If she'll do that now and if it's that unstable, you don't want to be married to this woman. That's my take
/r/RPChristians11/10/18 01:23 PM
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I disagree with him completely that the law doesn't apply. This teaching on his part so far as I can tell is a repeat of a combination of marcionism and possibly elements of antinomian thought. The law in the new covenant is no different. I encourage folks to look at the Westminster standards for an exposition of this that has withstood about 500 years of scrutiny.
/r/RPChristians10/10/18 06:56 PM
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Fair enough. I'll re read later when I have time to read more thoroughly, and ask your pardon for misunderstanding you in the meantime.
/r/RPChristians10/10/18 06:51 PM
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I want to be clear that I'm not talking about soteriology right now, as I'm assuming we all already agree that the old covenant did utilize the law as part of its soteriological model, but that the new covenant utilizes grace as its primary vehicle through which salvation would be found. So, when I talk about the law as a standard, I don't mean merely for salvation (a point on which I assume we already agree), but as a list of rights and wrongs from a moralistic lifestyle perspective. I don't ha…
/r/RPChristians10/10/18 06:17 PM
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This is essentially how i think of it. Milo is a wicked fellow but I love that he doesn't GAF what people think and is the best pagan he can be. Should the Lord redeem him, and I hope he does, this sort of fellow would likely also be the best Christian he could be. Lukewarm pagans and Christians are boring.
/r/RPChristians10/10/18 04:21 PM
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I'm you 8 years later. Wife is out moving furniture that she covertly acquired and stored at a "friends" place into her new place this evening while I'm home with the kids. Don't be a dumbass like I was.
/r/askMRP10/10/18 01:28 AM
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I would buy a copy of "on domestical duties", by William Gouge. Or better, buy the modernized Reformation heritage books version that Joel Beeke put together. Read through it. If she would flip out at the ideas in it, I would move on.
/r/RPChristians09/10/18 10:47 PM
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All civil laws are moral, but not all moral laws are civil. All civil laws have a magistrate's penalty for disobeying them. All civil laws are based in justice, which is based in moral law which flows from the character of God. We never 'ignore' laws. Some were merely a type and foreshadowing of Christ. ​ I'm interested to see your response to rocknrollchuck when you get a chance. I'm not trying to come on as argumentative... just that your position is actually the cultural christianity one. Our…
/r/RPChristians09/10/18 05:25 PM
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Just a thought here -- Christ did exactly the opposite throughout His entire ministry. Consider the temptation of Christ in the wilderness. OT scripture was all that Christ quoted. Consider Christ's excoriation of the Pharisees in Matthew 15 where he rips them apart for trading the commandments of God for the traditions of men. And here he's talking about some pretty controversial stuff by our standards - capital punishment for reviling your father and mother (though this wasn't the sort of thin…
/r/RPChristians09/10/18 02:55 PM
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Take a lesson from Han Solo. "I know." ​ Just kidding. Do you love her? Say it. There's nothing wrong with being sweet. But don't soak her in words, love her in the ways love is really love and not just lust/obsession/supplication. Love her the way God defines love.
/r/RPChristians09/10/18 02:37 PM
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Well, it's all through scripture and parts of it I understood right away as a new Christian. Parts of it came later when I read through the treasures of my fathers in the faith and was delighted to find a name to put on what I already grasped at the edge of my mind. That said, it's just the (generally speaking) historical protestant understanding of scripture. During the Reformation this is what the reformers hashed out and of course there are many elements of this from much earlier as well. If …
/r/RPChristians09/10/18 02:29 PM
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I encourage you to pick better books, because you're missing the boat with nonsense like this. You don't discard any of it. Any at all. You know that there are three types. Moral law. This is the law that you break and need Christ's finished work on the cross for. Ceremonial law. This is a type and shadow of Christ to come, but Christ fulfilled it all. Things like not eating shellfish to set themselves apart from the Nations, sacrificial laws, priesthood laws, these are all things our high pries…
/r/RPChristians09/10/18 06:05 AM
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I definitely see what you're saying and I agree that it's rationalized differently by women than TRP sees it. That said, my wife was married twice before me (please, as the quote goes, stir not bitterness in the cup I have mixed for myself - I recognize my own failure to vet well here; I thought that since she was a new Christian that things would be different, and I was a new Christian as well, and I got the sob story about abusive exes and thought I'd never have that problem because I'd never …
/r/RPChristians07/10/18 02:54 PM
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This but only do this if you will follow through all the way. If you think you're going to end up apologizing or DEERing for goodness sake don't make it worse by doing this.
/r/askMRP06/10/18 07:10 PM
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"Captain, my religious belief teaches me to feel as safe in battle as in bed. God has fixed the time for my death. I do not concern myself about that, but to be always ready, no matter when it may overtake me....That is the way all men should live, and then all would be equally brave." -Stonewall Jackson
/r/RPChristians05/10/18 04:06 AM
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All this and overhead press. Then as you build strength, look up accessory exercises and do those too. Use the stronglifts 5x5 app. Once you plateau, consider switching to the five3one app. That's been my path and I started on December 9 of last year and went from the bar to 450DL, 376SQ, 210BENCH, and 149OHP as of now. Also don't forget frankrobert615 on YouTube for some off color gym humor. 🤣
/r/RPChristians04/10/18 03:17 AM
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I think it's super entertaining watching them. The problem is, the victor will emerge stronger and free from doubt.
/r/RPChristians04/10/18 12:19 AM
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OYS 1 in RPC Background / stats: 37, 5'9", 197lb, 18-19%bf, Married 8 years, 7 children blended (3 ours), (18f, 15m, 13m, 11f, 7m, 4f, 2f). Discovered RP Nov '17. Have read: WISNIFG, NMMNG, MAP, MMSLP, Rational Male, Sidebar stuff in MRP, lots of others that I can't recall at the moment. Bible as well. Not straight through. Currently reading: None at the moment. 48 laws of power on and off. ​ Physical / lifting: 1RMs - SQ 367, DL 450, Bench 210, OHP 149 Goals here: Continue to put up PRs. I'm at…
/r/RPChristians04/10/18 12:05 AM
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Oh you don't understand. You see, her feelings are her reality and her truth. Lol. I bet you've heard that before too.
/r/RPChristians03/10/18 11:59 PM
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Can confirm. I'm incredibly thankful I started lifting when I did. In the past year I've gone from 245lb, 35-40%bf or something like that, never lifted in my life... to 197lbs, 367 SQ, 450 DL, 210 bench, 149 OHP. I've watched the world around me change in its treatment of me. Women give me IOIs now regularly (and I'm not even jacked yet... I'm still at like 18-19% bodyfat!) and commonly. Men treat me differently, with more respect. I can throw my 7 year old in the air (though man he's a tank, ev…
/r/RPChristians03/10/18 11:32 PM
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1 Peter 3:1–2 Likewise, wives, be subject to your own husbands, so that even if some do not obey the word, they may be won without a word by the conduct of their wives, when they see your respectful and pure conduct.
/r/RPChristians03/10/18 11:15 PM
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I tried again. Sure, I'll share what led to it. Me. I vetted very poorly, as a new Christian I thought she was a true believer. She does not love Christ and I say that because she has no desire to keep His commandments as He gave them, but rather interpret them in the most radically opposite way possible in so many cases. Feminism. She turned to feminism when she lost attraction for me. My ex-wife. She played a huge part in a super ugly legal battle that would be hard for any wife Christian or n…
/r/RPChristians03/10/18 11:11 PM
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I tried to write a reply over in notepad to paste here. It turned into she she she she she. I'll have to try again later, because I know it's me me me me she.
/r/RPChristians03/10/18 06:40 PM
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Awesome, thank you for taking the time to share!
/r/askTRP03/10/18 05:58 AM
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It's not scriptural the way they mean it. The scripture is referring to the various ways different offices submit to each other. They are saying husband submit to wives, but this is the same as saying Christ submits to the churches authority, Kings submit to their subjects authority, masters submit to slaves authority, and parents submit to children's authority. It's nonsense.
/r/RPChristians03/10/18 05:34 AM
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Got a source? I don't doubt it, just want to show someone
/r/askTRP03/10/18 04:04 AM
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Leasing a car is an even worse idea lol
/r/askTRP03/10/18 04:03 AM
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I also encourage you to listen to Dave Ramsey.
/r/askTRP03/10/18 04:01 AM
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My advice is that borrowing money is often, if not most of the time, dumb. I'm not saying there aren't exceptions to this. There are. But for your average 20 year old, I would encourage you to save the money you were thinking of spending and buy it outright in a few months. That said, this is trp. You do you. I'm just sharing my experience.
/r/askTRP03/10/18 04:00 AM
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You say you're lifting but you neglected to post stats. I suspect that's because your stats would make the problem fairly obvious.
/r/askMRP02/10/18 02:04 PM
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I, too, have a financially irresponsible wife. I don't have mine solved yet (she's using threats of leaving to get control of finances back, lol, I said go for it, she's still here for now at least). For years I bent over backwards to deal with it. Every paycheck she'd empty the account on nonsense purchases. At one point in counseling she admitted to doing it punitively. I would literally race to pay bills before she could empty the account. And she'd gaslight me afterwards claiming I told her …
/r/MarriedRedPill28/09/18 03:17 PM
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Obviously. But it is happening apparently
/r/RPChristians28/09/18 01:34 AM
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Once again the need for platforms that are protected against censorship makes itself plainly seen.
/r/RPChristians28/09/18 12:37 AM
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Its time to OYS. Use your time with your daughter to make the best memories you can. Be at every school function. Be at every doctor appointment. Don't be an autist and troll mom doing this, just be there for the kiddo and engaged in pretty much everything related to the kiddo. Never waste time on your phone when your kiddo is there. Do this for you because you want to be involved. Do not, I repeat, do not, do this to hassle mom. She is dead to you, except as necessary to communicate about the k…
/r/askTRP26/09/18 07:29 PM
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Regarding the kids... You guys probably do something like this but I spend a lot of time with the kids doing projects or working together and really emphasize what I call a "doing a proper job". If you want to know what I mean by this, watch a few wranglerstar videos on YouTube, particularly his older tool restoration videos, or when he's building things. He's a true craftsman and the kids also love watching. Anyway, the idea is to instill a sense of pride in a job well done. It's the little thi…
/r/RPChristians26/09/18 07:22 PM
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My brother is an atheist, but a good friend and lives in a way that is generally honorable. My sister is a professing Christian but lives as my mother does and has no contact with us. My wife has said nothing about her attorney visit so I assume it's not just a fitness test and she's probably moving forward finally. Guess we'll see. Either way the stay plan is the go plan. And in the past year I've gone from fat weak and unattractive to less fat (32%bf I think I started at, 19% now. 418DL, 204be…
/r/RPChristians22/09/18 09:22 PM
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So then faith cometh by hearing, and hearing by the word of God. I love your testimony.
/r/RPChristians22/09/18 03:56 AM
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Serious demonstration of low value on your part.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/09/18 03:40 AM
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There isn't enough information to know if you're being negligent to your family. Are you neglecting your family? Is your home in good order, are you spending quality time with the kids, is your home a place of joy and singing or a dreary place of clutter that saps energy? Are you OYS? Many parents spend a lot of time in the presence of their kids, but they aren't engaging with them because of their phone or shows or electronics or whatever. If your kids were telling a friend about you would they…
/r/askMRP21/09/18 09:42 PM
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Your frame is as strong as your mission. The stronger your mission and the more dedicated to it you are, the less you will need validation from her. You'll get your validation from your mission and the progress you make along the way. The less you need her validation, the stronger your frame and the less likely you'll break it when she acts out. Red curious is spot on here. If you read and internalize nothing else from this thread, make sure you understand this gem.
/r/askMRP21/09/18 09:32 PM
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We were in a church. She has decided anything reformed (or other options that live according to Scripture) is "abusive". She's functionally a Rachel Held Evans. She was put in church discipline about a year ago. She left. She goes to another church now but it's all social justice and hyper grace psuedo-universalism sort of stuff. Aside from my atheist brother I do not have anyone like that but it's in my map to find that and build a solid group of Brothers. I lift every other day unless I'm puki…
/r/RPChristians21/09/18 08:55 PM
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Also as others have said, enroll them as well. And finally... Read the sidebar. Lift. Get rid of your giant covert contract. Stop complaining. Stop talking and do. Stop seeking her buy in for your leadership, just lead. But first. Read. Lift.
/r/askMRP21/09/18 08:48 PM
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You are allowed to make your own decisions. That comes with responsibility for the consequences of making them. It's possible she might go ahead and divorce you and use your hobbies to show the judge you never spend time with your kids. She might claim you're intimidating and abusive because you could easily crush her with your Jiu-Jitsu skills and you once stood in front of her and she couldn't get out the door because of you. She might complain a bunch but do nothing. She might complain a bunc…
/r/askMRP21/09/18 08:41 PM
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My dad is deep within the black hole that is my mother's frame. So much so that because she won't talk to myself or my brother (because we aren't where she wants us to be belief wise and really bitterness and anger) he sneaks around for the past 3 years talking to us when he can, which really isn't often. Mom put on all the outward signs of a submissive Christian wife down to the head covering, but her heart is bitter with feminism and enmity with the Lord. And while I think my dad is regenerate…
/r/RPChristians21/09/18 08:15 PM
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One glass of wine is fine. At worst the baby will sleep soundly. But for reals, even that won't happen. Nurse, baby to bed. Then wine.
/r/askMRP21/09/18 05:48 AM
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Am I the only one who read that and interpreted it as playful banter between everyone? Maybe I just need to finish my coffee and I'll see it.
/r/askTRP20/09/18 02:20 PM
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There will be different opinions on this... Mine is that a healthy marriage would have transparency there. That said it doesn't matter, because there are plenty of ways she can have covert conversations with no accountability anyway and if she wants to cheat she certainly doesn't need a pin on her phone.
/r/askMRP20/09/18 06:22 AM
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This reads like a bouncing turbo Chihuahua on red bull telling you about their day. Bro. Calm down and stop going Rambo. Other than that I'm not sure what your question is.
/r/askMRP19/09/18 03:48 AM
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You learned the hard way that vows don’t mean jack shit to women. Take my upvote for this unfortunate truth.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/09/18 01:16 AM
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Word. I'm also 5-9, 198lb, 19.3%BF according to the gym device I played with last night. 10 months so I was 245. Haven't been under 210 in my adult life until maybe a couple months ago. Never lifted before in my life. Now it's every two days unless I'm sick or camping. Just broke 360 squat 1RM last night. 417 DL 1RM. I truly look like a different fellow now. I never thought I'd be making my meals in MyFitnessPal and then making them to match with a scale, but I am, and magically, it works. I hav…
/r/askMRP18/09/18 01:08 AM
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This. And do it all with a calm demeanor and deep gravitas - including when she accuses you of something that is unthinkable, or takes the kids to another country, or whatever outrage she decides to roll with. And 50/50 for a guy who hasn't been involved... Good luck dude, I hope you get it but I honestly doubt you get what is involved in parenting for your 50% of the time and this is what is going to destroy you in court. Her name is on every sign in sheet for the past however long, every sign …
/r/askMRP17/09/18 08:15 PM
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Why are you blaming your wife? Did she put the food on your mouth? My wife plays this game. When she does I just go cook some chicken for myself. Magically I'm only 9lbs off from her now.
/r/askMRP14/09/18 06:47 AM
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And to lift.
/r/askMRP14/09/18 06:45 AM
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You guys know what I missed as I was writing this? Look what happens when Jesus holds frame with his mother. The very next verse. And Jesus increased in wisdom and in stature and in favor with God and man. Luke 2:52 ESV Frame is amazing.
/r/RPChristians13/09/18 03:42 AM
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"I'm going out to do [whatever] - you guys can meet me there if you're not busy at [time]." Then go
/r/askMRP12/09/18 02:58 PM
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This is really excellent and matches my experience, which I think I will share when I have a keyboard as opposed to my phone.
/r/RPChristians11/09/18 07:51 PM
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As long as you say stupid stuff like co Captain I sure wouldn't. But other than that, my kids are awesome. They are the future. Will you build it and leave a legacy or will you let your line die out? Either way is fine. But this wasn't hard for me.
/r/askMRP10/09/18 05:03 AM
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This. Kids need a leader as much as your wife does.
/r/askMRP10/09/18 05:01 AM
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Lol, I also read the post and then looked to see if it was him
/r/askMRP09/09/18 01:24 AM
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... and I should have kept reading before I replied. Thanks for clearing that up.
/r/askMRP08/09/18 02:31 PM
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No, we aren't authorized to divorce non believers. Unless they leave. Then we are free... And the definition of free is debated in serious Christian circles (free to remarry? Freed from the responsibility to pursue, etc, there are different views on this) But we are specifically forbidden from divorcing only over unbelief.
/r/askMRP08/09/18 02:30 PM
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So very well said.
/r/askMRP08/09/18 02:09 PM
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Fair? The fair is a place you go to eat cotton candy. Life isn't fair. Nothing is fair. Good job taking responsibility for your attitude though. As for the believer thing, that's hard. For us I'm the believer who thought I married a believer and she abandoned the faith. I empathize with your wife if it's something she's serious about. But at the same time if you don't believe, you don't believe, that's just what it is. That's hard. Anyway, life's not fair there either.
/r/askMRP07/09/18 05:05 PM
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I guess it was actually Calvin - "So if women are thus permitted to have their heads uncovered and to show their hair, they will eventually be allowed to expose their entire breasts, and they will come to make their exhibitions as if it were a tavern show; they will become so brazen that modesty and shame will be no more; in short they will forget the duty of nature. . . . So, when it is permissible for the women to uncover their heads, one will say, 'Well, what harm in uncovering the stomach al…
/r/RPChristians05/09/18 02:48 PM
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You know, you say that but I believe it was Tertullian that correctly predicted that if women were unveiled they would soon go about in public with their breasts exposed. And now, well, look at any summer (or winter in many places) crowd of women.
/r/RPChristians05/09/18 05:33 AM
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I, too, would use this.
/r/RPChristians05/09/18 05:28 AM
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If you are a child you should obey your parents in the Lord, for this is right. That means you don't sin by obeying him, but as long as it's not sin, you should obey him. If you are not a child (this probably means you don't live on his support and are over 18) then you still need to honor him. But you do not need to obey him.
/r/RPChristians03/09/18 05:45 AM
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I would fight it. I would first do this by privately raising concerns with the elders/session/whatever your form of government is. Having done this, if that solves it, good. If not then I would continue. If there is a presbytery to raise it to, I would do so. If not, then I would speak publicly about it and leave over it, finding a church that holds fast to the faith once delivered to the saints.
/r/RPChristians01/09/18 10:01 PM
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I did not do the therapy stuff but I still may. I've got a long way to go.
/r/askTRP01/09/18 02:03 PM
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You do you. For myself, lifting, NMMNG, MAP, and WISNIFG have changed my life. But if you like where you're at then go be you
/r/askTRP01/09/18 05:54 AM
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Sounds like you need to read the sidebar and lift until you internalize it.
/r/askTRP01/09/18 05:46 AM
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This post is superb. I think I need to reread it about 20 times. Thank you so much for writing it.
/r/RPChristians31/08/18 08:01 PM
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This reply, and the original post, are like modern day Puritan level meat and potatoes. Well said. Wow.
/r/RPChristians31/08/18 07:59 PM
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Serious lack of abundance in this post. I don't look at abundance the same way, but this relationship of desperation to find any woman, and the truth is, if you get involved like that it's gonna be hard.
/r/RPChristians31/08/18 07:47 PM
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Oh the previous marriages were with abusive horrible men who cheated, duh. And from the perspective of our BP mark, he thinks something like "oh, that's horrible. She deserves someone who won't abuse her, and as I'm such a nice guy who would never be abusive, this will be trivial for me. I'll provide well, treat her like a queen, and she will love me forever. She was just missing a decent guy like me. Sure there's a nagging feeling about the kids, but providing for them and fathering them while …
/r/TheRedPill30/08/18 02:10 PM
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The number isn't the issue, the issue is whether she's a daughter of the King and loves her Father, deeply and wholly. You could find unsaved virgins who will be an awful wife, and saved whores (such were some of us) who will be an incredible wife. That said, men should prefer debt free virgins, as the article says, because every notch comes with baggage. Proverbs the 5th and 7th chapters warn us strongly; hearken to this warning. I didn't.
/r/RPChristians30/08/18 05:53 AM
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I've sometimes thought that a good test for whether something is a broken modern way to handle things is to just drop it into another time where masculinity wasn't treated the way it is today. So like if a bunch of ladies-in-waiting complained to the lord of the castle that they feel unsafe with all his weaponry in the same castle, what would he do (after uproariously laughing and telling them to GTFO of his castle then). That's how men should respond to modern women complaining that they don't …
/r/askTRP27/08/18 02:49 PM
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This isn't what STFU means. Yes, if people at work are gossipping, you can shut it down with an assertive I don't care (but a professional version of it), or better yet, offer to take them to talk with the person they are gossipping about to work it out right then and there (😂😂). But STFU means stop using other people as your emotional tampon, whether it's anger or sadness or depression or anxiety or whatever else. You don't need to engage in low value conversation if you don't want to, that's n…
/r/askMRP25/08/18 02:33 PM
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Definitely not fucking around. I'm very proud of the progress I've made. I just have a really long way to go.
/r/askMRP24/08/18 02:25 PM
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I have so many areas to work on its not even funny. I care too much about the actions of other people that don't really affect me. This breaks frame at the times I need it most. I don't game my wife consistently. I get manipulated into doing things I don't want to do. This is an area I've made huge strides in but her manipulation is freaking amazing and has all the plausible deniability one could hope for. I want to work on my MAP (and I am) but time management with a big family and a wife who o…
/r/askMRP24/08/18 03:27 AM
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I actually thought you might get through this post without using the word faggot but you came through for me in the end out of nowhere. Haha. Good word though, all the way.
/r/askMRP24/08/18 03:00 AM
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Yeah deload week, at least at my level, feels like a huge waste of time and borderline f-arounditus. I'm in the middle of one right now. I have wondered about skipping it. I think I'm going to do that, great idea.
/r/askMRP21/08/18 02:44 PM
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Proverbs the seventh chapter speaks of such women.
/r/TheRedPill21/08/18 03:29 AM
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Seems like I should know this, but if I'm not losing weight or gaining it am I not already at maintenance? The rest of what you said makes sense to me, I just don't want to gain any more weight. I'm not sure of current BF%, probably 24-26% according to my scale, and I started at 32% according to my scale, but my target is 12% by look. My scale can't pair with my phone because of an Android bug, so I check it on a tablet every so often. It's been awhile for that.
/r/askMRP20/08/18 07:04 PM
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I guess I don't know. I wasn't intending to cut, just lifting and eating at (apparently) a deficit. Is that cutting? I've been over 200lb since I was a teenager, probably most or all of my teen years as well. This is the first time I've ever been interested in fitness.
/r/askMRP20/08/18 06:24 PM
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I can definitely see your point of view. You should be doing this for yourself (because what is the point of responding any other way), and if it's within your plan, to give to your wife without any expectation of the outcome. That said, the outcome of being the oak is often enjoyable, in my experience.
/r/askMRP19/08/18 02:32 PM
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Results may vary*
/r/askMRP19/08/18 02:10 PM
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You need to stop being a faggot and be an oak instead. Or if you need it more eloquently, your wife is growing your child and is a maelstrom of hormones right now. Do consider allowing the tempest of emotion to break upon you like a rock seawall that is not the slightest bit offended when a wave crashes into it, and when the night of storm has passed, you may enjoy the sweet sea-breeze that is a woman who knows her husband is more planted than the oak and a rock upon which she can throw herself.
/r/askMRP19/08/18 04:59 AM
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That's an interesting idea that I didn't think of. Might do that as a stop gap, but I really need some lifting Bros more.
/r/askMRP18/08/18 11:27 PM
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I tried this but they are about 2" wrong height for me. Either I can't go full range of motion or they don't keep it off my chest.
/r/askMRP18/08/18 10:14 PM
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That is something I'll read about as well. Thank you!
/r/askMRP18/08/18 05:45 PM
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Numbers are in my OP. Weight loss continues though slower than I'd like. Did SL5X5 until I couldn't add 5lb a week already, that's why I need switched to 5/3/1. Sleep is a thing I don't get enough of. 7 kids, checked out wife, side business, full time work, doing all the chores. Sleeping is not available as an option as much as I'd like. But point is well made. I don't do 1 rep. I do 5/3/1 program with boring but big and other accessories. The 1rm is merely how I track my progress which has been…
/r/askMRP18/08/18 05:45 PM
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Good/bad cholesterol is healthy according to the doc, though I don't remember the numbers from a couple months ago. Creatine, zinc, magnesium, no idea. I don't take them. Protein is as much as I can get. Typical day for me looks like this - Intermittent fast until lunch, though I might have coffee For lunch, most days it's a huge chicken breast on romaine lettuce with tomatoes, cut up apple, cut up cucumber, sometimes cheese sticks cut up, green onion, some Olive oil to cook the chicken in, and …
/r/askMRP18/08/18 05:40 PM
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Ok, dips seems to be a unanimous thing. I'll definitely add them.
/r/askMRP18/08/18 05:33 PM
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I will try benching every workout for a bit and see how that goes. I already squat or deadlift every workout (though at lower volume on not sq/dl days to allow for recovery). So it makes sense to do this as well.
/r/askMRP18/08/18 05:32 PM
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I do boring but big every workout.
/r/askMRP18/08/18 05:30 PM
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I use the app to simplify it and log it but I do understand the system. I regularly increase volume when I believe I can. I probably could more often.
/r/askMRP18/08/18 05:30 PM
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I can train the bench more but I don't see how it lacks volume. I could do more sets of less reps of more weight but at the 5/3/1 week you do go to 90% of 1rm on your final "set". The eating timing I think is on lockdown, and I'm likely doing ok on macros most days.
/r/askMRP18/08/18 05:29 PM
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This is the single biggest thing I want to accomplish anyway. I hate not having a spotter and fearing failure on the bench. Squats, no biggie, just use the safeties. Deadlift, just drop it. Ohp, just drop it into the support. But bench? If I fail I have to slide it down my body which is not the end of the world really at 180 but I'm starting to get to the range where it's very painful to do that. The reason to hasn't happened yet is because I lift at night after my kids are in bed because my wif…
/r/askMRP18/08/18 05:26 PM
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I will implement the parts of this that I'm not already doing and look up Chris Duffin and EliteFTS as suggested. I get stuck at the bottom and to a much lesser degree the very top. My thanks to you for the very detailed reply. Dips are the one thing I really haven't pursued at all, so I'll add that. And the unracking heavy weights thing sounds solid too - several times I've noticed under really heavy weights (mainly squatting) it feels like I should be able to lift it but my body is like "wait …
/r/askMRP18/08/18 05:17 PM
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This is why you have a problem. Because if you remembered what fun is, the way a 3 year old does (maybe a 5 year old, you want to be cool for your kids!), you would be fun. And then she would not be bored. You can't scroll Facebook on your phone when the kids and your husband throw you a pool noodle and yell DEFEND YOURSELF before everyone playfully beats each other with the pool noodles. You can't scroll Facebook while running after your husband after he runs in and yells tag, you're it, RUN ki…
/r/askMRP16/08/18 07:48 AM
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Stop looking for their buy in. Go have fun at Costco. Do it joyfully. Leave without them if they won't go but NOT butthurt. Just go cheerfully and come home cheerfully and share the highlights later. And have fun with other people at Costco, ya know? Make conversation, have a genuinely good time. But you are not a leader if you're asking their permission and buy in to be led. Well, you are a leader, but your leadership is leading your wife to not listen to you because you suck at actually influe…
/r/askMRP16/08/18 05:35 AM
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This is good, but I challenge your Costco statement. You need to be doing fun stuff. But you also need to be freaking fun. And since life also involves cleaning, going to Costco, mowing the lawn, and a billion other mundane tasks, and women count buying them a car and a minor compliment at roughly the same number of points, you better be making Costco fun too.
/r/askMRP16/08/18 05:33 AM
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Christ is our example. All of Christ. For all of life.
/r/RPChristians13/08/18 09:47 PM
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I read about 4 paragraphs in and decided to say this. Add new friends. The ones you're hanging with are losers, and they want you to be a loser with them because change is uncomfortable.
/r/askTRP13/08/18 01:44 PM
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The second commandment forbids representations if the Trinity under at least a Reformed interpretation. Say what you will about the Westminster standards but I think this is why the command exists - to represent the Lord Jesus Christ as a Birkenstock wearing hippie is blasphemous and, as you said, creates the wrong impression of our Lord. When anyone has come into the presence of the King of Kings in scripture, they fall on their face as though dead. Yes in his incarnation he veiled his glory an…
/r/RPChristians13/08/18 04:46 AM
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Be prepared for a lot more of it as you start to change the course of the ship. What have you read so far?
/r/askMRP10/08/18 06:12 AM
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Not trying to be snarky about it, but you need to read, internalize, and practice. You lost this battle, but having seen the truth you need not lose the war. Read. Lift. Stfu. But not an autistic STFU. Just be a good beta until you're ready to try a change and then implement the change consistently and confidently. Just think. This woman who you love, literally just berated you and then stomped off like a child. Keep working on yourself and stop looking for permission.
/r/askMRP10/08/18 01:58 AM
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If someone else having a cool car (both of the examples are indeed pretty cool as cars go) makes you die a little inside then the problem is you, not the person roasting you. It's a car. A Tesla is way faster than both of them, and there are cooler cars from a historical standpoint (not so much speed and history usually) at lower price point. There's ALWAYS someone bigger, better, faster, thinner, more beautiful significant other, wealthier, more humble, more proud, more alpha, more whatever. It…
/r/TheRedPill08/08/18 05:53 AM
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Exactly. In fact, if you can prove infidelity in a state with adultery at fault divorce on the books still, you may gain certain advantage. I am only going off the law, not case law example, which would be way more useful since the law is all but ignored a lot of the time, but at least in theory...
/r/askMRP04/08/18 06:36 AM
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Yeah. Fair point. The full situation would be long and tedious and stupid to post. Also I may have broken the proper order of events, I'm not even sure now.
/r/askMRP04/08/18 12:01 AM
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Knowing my situation I've wondered that at times too but I don't believe that's the case... At least most of the time.
/r/askMRP03/08/18 09:31 PM
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You need to lead, friend. Well, you are. But I mean in a good direction.
/r/askMRP03/08/18 07:34 PM
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No, I failed the test too, in different ways. Her test lasted about a month, I think. Maybe 2 weeks. I freaking DEERed in a different discussion about divorce like the good old beta me. "But I don't understand why you want a divorce, husband, I don't want one, you're forcing me into it by threatening it" (this from the woman who has taken literally every single first step of escalation for the past year... Even the evening I told her I was done and thought I was escalating for the first time she…
/r/askMRP03/08/18 06:22 PM
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Solid post, especially the part about the rings not meaning the same thing. My wife pulled this recently. I didn't mention it directly (at first, anyway...). I did take mine off without saying anything about it - I'm not sure that was the best thing but I was pretty tired of all this nonsense. When I asked where her ring was - nonchalantly, at first - she claimed she had lost weight and didn't want it to fall off. This while she's openly got a divorce attorney on retainer. Right, lol. But then s…
/r/askMRP03/08/18 05:59 PM
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Not true. In some, I'll leave the specific one I'm aware of up in the air so I don't give much away, adultery is still on the books.
/r/askMRP02/08/18 11:17 PM
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I've looked for affirmation in my leadership and to convince others to honor my boundaries all my life. Reading that, and others... I am probably a bit Rambo with it sometimes still, but now I'm just like ehh... No, then move on and refuse to engage. It's incredible.
/r/RPChristians02/08/18 06:23 AM
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The Kings Castle analogy is the funniest teaching on boundaries that I've ever seen. And accurate. It really was a game changer for me when I ran across it before.
/r/RPChristians02/08/18 05:51 AM
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I agree with you. The session of my church unanimously believes I have grounds to divorce her. However, like you, I believe we've become too easy with our definitions of "departed", even at my solidly reformed church. That is why I haven't filed, though I've come pretty close a few times. So I go back and forth from day to day, from ready to divorce her for the wickedness she's committing... To remembering the words of Gouge about such a wife being God's chastisement for a foolish husband and th…
/r/RPChristians31/07/18 02:14 PM
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Yes, we need some JC Ryles in the pulpit. Or countless others. I loved your post, brother.
/r/RPChristians31/07/18 07:18 AM
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Neither 1 Cor 5 or Matthew 18 are private, brother.
/r/RPChristians31/07/18 07:16 AM
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My wife was put in church discipline for this reason. She left the church, claimed she did so before being put in church discipline (true, technically, but she left because the elders began the process of calling her to repentance), threatened to sue the elders, and just started going to another local church that validates her in everything and doesn't practice church discipline. She was finally released from membership at my church with a letter of reprimand, and I was given permission to pursu…
/r/RPChristians31/07/18 07:14 AM
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Also, go lift. And while you're doing this, STFU about fat Chad.
/r/askMRP31/07/18 06:55 AM
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So, what is the character flaw that he has, that you also have, that causes you to hate him so much. Not the nonsense about him making his fat wife walk. What's the thing in him that you know you do. Kill that thing in yourself.
/r/askMRP31/07/18 06:54 AM
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I was sitting here thinking this too when I saw the other fellow saying don't have unprotected sex. Bro protection fails sometimes - and it seems like this would be one of the worst possible times.
/r/askTRP17/05/18 02:24 PM
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This fellow speaks wisdom. The undermining here may not even be intentional, but it absolutely is undermining your authority.
/r/askMRP07/05/18 05:59 AM
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I'm in a marriage now where I became a Christian shortly after we hooked up at the beginning. She was a "Christian", or so I thought, because she linked me the sermons that led to me becoming one. Only problem is, I went all in, started putting the brakes on (but not enough, thought she was a believer), and eventually she abandoned the faith and our vows. Fast forward to today and I can tell you that she's under the discipline of the church, and I've been given permission to divorce her because …
/r/RPChristians06/05/18 07:44 AM
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I like my beard. Thus I have a beard. If I ever stop liking my beard, I will shave it. Then I will not have a beard. Stop overthinking this. If you want a beard, keep your beard. If not, don't. The end.
/r/askMRP04/05/18 06:00 AM
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I very much liked him as he was then. He associates with some I wish he didn't, now, and I sure wish Mars Hill hadn't ended as it did. Though I'm thankful to have been given the opportunity to go full confessional as a result. Overall, I won't speak ill of him as some do, and I'm very thankful that he preached the gospel to me.
/r/RPChristians30/04/18 05:41 AM
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This is a large part of why I became Reformed, a William Gouge style complementarian/patriarch. Why I prefer to sing Psalms over even hymns, and certainly over contemporary "worship" music. Why I prefer the absolutes of the Westminster standards to modern antinomianism veiled as "not legalistic". I remember just before I became a Christian, I was divorcing my ex wife, shacked up with a harlot, and she wanted to go to church. I went to a few with her, and didn't hide what I was doing, and no one …
/r/RPChristians30/04/18 05:36 AM
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Go watch videos and correct your form, hire a trainer if neclessary. Don't mess with the machines, you'll build the target muscle without the support muscles and get injured when you try to transfer to the barbell. Get the form right before you start adding a bunch of weight but it shouldn't take you long to accomplish this. I'm sure there are way stronger fellows here that can give more advice, but I've gone from where you're at (though I could have started with more) to 1RMs of 345DL, 191 benc…
/r/askMRP25/04/18 03:45 AM
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This. Download stronglifts 5x5 on your phone and go forth and lift heavy things. Once you start to plateau and find it hard to make gains, download Five3One and do that instead. But STFU and lift. And if you've never consummated your marriage, you don't have a marriage. You do you, of course, but by my standard, a marriage is covenant and sexual union. You have half of that.
/r/askMRP24/04/18 05:55 AM
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Best plan on her doing that to you as well should the opportunity arise. And don't forget the trickle truth over the next few years about her responsibility in it all.
/r/askMRP05/04/18 06:07 AM
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This was classical liberalism. Now we have progressivism. Not the same thing.
/r/TheRedPill24/03/18 08:25 PM
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Because until I fix myself I would just end up in the same situation. Anyway I do the things I'm doing because I want to and for the glory of God, not for my wife. Not anymore. So yeah I'm doing some chores, do you think it'll be any different with no wife there? Chores still gotta get done unless I want to live in a mess. I do it cuz it benefits me.
/r/askMRP18/03/18 06:19 AM
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William Gouge is the definitive Christian red pill before the internet existed Dalrock obviously Doug Wilson for sure Christopher Wiley Driscoll tried but no... I was a member there, he actually led me back away from red pill toward blue pill though he clearly was aiming to do otherwise but he was too captured by feminism being in Seattle Trying to think of other examples, they are out there but at least Gouge is definitely worth adding to the list for those who care about this sort of thing.
/r/askMRP18/03/18 06:13 AM
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As I said, the past maybe.. 6-8 Lord's days have sermons where he was pretty direct about this. True, not pure red pill. But still very direct to the women.
/r/RPChristians10/03/18 09:14 AM
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Might be worth it to listen to some of his more recent sermons, I think you'd find otherwise. Maybe not, of course. But I did. I still wouldn't say he's red pill, but his focus is on God's word, not being a red pill purist. Though I think there's a lot of opportunity there for him.
/r/RPChristians10/03/18 04:34 AM
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This is profound. Especially the bit about chasing trust. This should be in the sidebar.
/r/askMRP07/03/18 07:20 AM
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Although I don't do it to make money, I too love to restore old tools made from good steel.
/r/askMRP07/03/18 07:05 AM
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I wanted to just let you know that I laughed out loud when I read this AND affirm the wisdom in it. I spent years trying to buy thoughtful, valuable, excellent gifts. This was not the cause of the situation I now find myself in, but if I had put that effort into being a leader, and getting to 12 % bf, and building frame, maybe she'd have a functional marriage instead of cool toys that are disposable in the long term anyway.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/03/18 11:02 PM
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I wouldn't bother with snap on - good stuff, and yes it'll last, but you pay through the nose. Craftsman I do like too, but modern craftsman isn't what it used to be. Husky is fairly decent quality. Finding tools at garage sales is sometimes advantageous. And as a guy who enjoys restoring very old tools, anything with good old steel, especially Swedish or euro steel, or American steel, or Japanese tools, are always a good find. But this is harder to identify if you don't know what you're doing. …
/r/askMRP04/03/18 10:06 PM
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Any time you think you need to throw out a broken thing, try fixing it before you throw it out. If you fail, no big deal, you learned something and still buy another. If you succeed, good job. You learned something and saved money.
/r/askMRP04/03/18 08:25 PM
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Straight up with you on running, although I probably should do more of it anyway. When you do squats for weight loss, you doing them high volume low weight, or heavy every other day, or what? I recently switched to 5/3/1, which has me doing squats once a week or so. I like the rest of the program, but I miss the squats. Thinking of doing them more often (SL5x5 had me doing them every other day). Thoughts?
/r/MarriedRedPill28/02/18 11:35 PM
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OYS 3 5'9", 214lb, 37yo, Dl2-3 (missing reading on 3 still) with elements of 4 taking place Married 7 years, 7 children, blended family. I'm Christian. She's 37, wandering from Christianity and her marriage vows. Reading - NMMNG (on second reading right now as I go through slower to reconcile my faith and the ideas), MAP, MMSLP, 16COP, Pook, TRM 1yr, WISNIFG partial My reading has stalled bad. This week that has to improve. Physical - Have been doing SL5x5. Started to hit the point that I was fa…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/02/18 07:03 PM
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"Why are you doing all these things" "Because I want to" The end
/r/askMRP14/02/18 08:45 PM
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Dang. Solid read. 10/10.
/r/askMRP10/02/18 05:44 PM
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Good! Also "hella" is not something that I've ever heard a man with gravitas say. But you do you.
/r/askMRP07/02/18 04:39 PM
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Many of the books are available without even buying them. But yes. Read the books. And lift.
/r/askMRP07/02/18 04:13 PM
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Is there advantage in your state to proving adultery in divorce? Ie, is it a at fault state?
/r/askMRP07/02/18 03:49 PM
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As was already said, stop. Talking. Now. Are you DEER (defend, explain, excuse, rationalize), you just lower your attractiveness. A strong man would chuckle, wink at his wife, act with gravitas and dignity in whatever action he took next, but he WOULD. NOT. Debate this with his wife or explain it (at least in this context). Doing so cedes leadership to her because it's implicitly or explicitly seeking her buy-in. Captains don't run a democracy based on consensus. They give orders, the better cap…
/r/askMRP07/02/18 03:43 PM
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I agree.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/02/18 12:47 AM
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Fast forward ten years. She's doing all these things even more blatantly because now if you leave she takes half of everything. Is that a fun thought? Did you think someone was going to change? I'm a Christian so marriage is important to me. But if she can't hold it together while you're engaged how is she gonna hold it together after you've made a covenant? Were it me: Next Lift Sidebar
/r/askMRP07/02/18 12:45 AM
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Dread comes naturally from doing the things he should be doing. It isn't targeted.
/r/askMRP07/02/18 12:43 AM
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I'm not arguing with you or complaining. And yet... Damn. Especially where I'm at plus a few years ago ambiguous references to a videotape that was once made long ago (of course, in which she is the "victim"). I'll take the truth roundhouse kick every time, but... Damn, brother. Well, back to work on being a prize.
/r/askMRP07/02/18 12:23 AM
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That linked post is quite the kick in the nuts as a fella who married a single mom. Damn.
/r/askMRP07/02/18 12:13 AM
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Do you like to "do it yourself"?
/r/MarriedRedPill06/02/18 11:45 PM
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Do you spend thought and energy on how to negatively react when you're acting poorly instead of alpha? It's only thought and work to change. Once its internalized there's no thought involved. You just do what you do, only what you do is different than the foolish patterns we learned to follow before that aren't working for us.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/02/18 07:40 PM
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This is excellent analysis.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/02/18 06:14 PM
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When sex is a manipulation that I don't desire at the time, turning it down is a decision I don't regret. Do you know how many times I've been promised sex to change the course of my day and then it didn't happen or was lame? Psh. I went to the gym because that was my mission. And yes. The disrespect level is exceeding high. Captains who don't do their job make mutineers for crew. I'm turning it around, or at least that's how I perceive things.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/02/18 04:11 PM
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No. She unfriended/blocked me in a pissed off rage a few months ago. Got a phone in only her name. Has a PO box for her mail. Bank accounts I don't have access to. It's in my post history.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/02/18 04:06 PM
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OYS2 - Sick week 5'9", 216lb, 29.8%BF (renpho scale), 37yo, DL2 with elements of DL3 Married 7 years, 7 children, blended family, 3 bio together. I'm Christian. She's wandering from it. Reading- NMMNG, MAP, MMSLP, 16COP, Pook, TRM yr1. Did not make any progress on WISNIFG this week. Did get further in Meditations. Scripture reading was interrupted as well, but it got the best of my time out of these. Goal this week - Get back into WISNIFG. Physical - SL5x5. SQ280, BP185, ROW165, OHP100, DL270. P…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/02/18 08:36 AM
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That is essentially where I'm at with it. I'll keep covenant, and I'll live in a manner that assumes she will also rather than demanding that she do so or DEERing as to why she should or other such nonsense. The hard part of this for me is internalizing it instead of just choosing to act that way, but hard deeds are what men do. So be it.
/r/MarriedRedPill31/01/18 06:56 PM
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Be ye not unequally yoked together with unbelievers: for what fellowship hath righteousness with unrighteousness? and what communion hath light with darkness? And what concord hath Christ with Belial? or what part hath he that believeth with an infidel? 2 Corinthians 6:14‭-‬15 KJV Can a man take fire in his bosom, and his clothes not be burned? Proverbs 6:27 KJV I really don't see how anything pure can come of this investment of your time.
/r/RPChristians31/01/18 08:05 AM
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OYS#1 5'9", 218lbs, 30.1%BF (scale sez...), 37yo Married 7 years, 7 children (blended family, 3 bio together). Christian, with all that entails. Quick intro - unsurprisingly found MRP because things are rotten in the marriage. Wife currently is functionally separated from me (went out, got job, got a PO box, separate bank account, separate cell phone, but physically present and willing to have sex with me... at least during ovulation, ya know the drill. Me- not captaining the ship while demandin…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/01/18 03:37 PM
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I would be very interested in hearing more about your church RP group, how it came about, how you built it, and so on.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/01/18 03:18 PM
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