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LaCaipirinha/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/20 03:33 AM
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LaCaipirinha/r/askTRP26/04/21 07:40 AM
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I didn't notice much difference between 29 and 33 so I guess there's no reason 34 should eb the magic cut off. I really don't know what it is.
/r/seduction25/08/22 07:53 AM
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A city of 2m. How old are you? I'm wondering if it has something to do with age but at 34 I shouldn't think so.. Still seeing plenty of girls from 20 up to 30 it's just none of them are hot, like.. at all.
/r/seduction25/08/22 07:14 AM
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Imagine only swiping on 1 in 300 and then you still have a 50% chance that girl will look like a clown irl. I see attractive women in the mall etc all the time.. Are attractive women just abandoning the apps?
/r/seduction25/08/22 06:09 AM
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Female competence is not really a factor in our attraction to them, male competence is a massive massive factor in their attraction to us. It's one of those basic differences between men and women that explains a lot of these asymmetries.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/21 10:20 AM
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I think that by virtue of the fact that the low barrier of entry men give women applies only to sex, and we would sleep with many women we would never dream of dating, makes this true. If you removed interest in casual sex from the equation there would be no abundance of attention for women in any setting.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/21 05:51 PM
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Distopian as hell but I can't really disagree with any of it :(
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/21 05:48 PM
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It could be that women in their 20s are socialised to believe that being alone is aspirational and going to work out long term, but financially independent men in their 20s still crave a partner for reasons of love, sex and emotionally support. There's plenty of evidence to suggest that women are just as, if not more, unhappy being single if they allow this to extend into their 30s and 40s and no, having BFFs does not seem to stop that. I think that men know full well they have to fight tooth an…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/21 05:42 PM
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This ^ is what they say in their 20s, maybe early 30s. Check back in late 30s/early 40s and the answer will be taking some form of antidepressant. I don't relish that at all, it's very sad to see, but our generation, male and female, think they will be 25 forever and it's just a recipe for poor decision making.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/21 05:33 PM
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If women were denied makeup and filters the gap would be a lot smaller, if it existed at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/21 05:24 PM
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I think the real reason is most women don't want to be bothered by men hitting on them. It's funny to see this and at the same time hear so often some complain that main don't approach them in real life anymore.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/21 04:51 PM
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Also men tend to be skill/activity orientated, even when socialising they prefer to do so while participating in some kind of skill-based activity. Guys that go to dance classes are probably looking to appear dashing and competent and pick up girls, but they will stay if they get engrossed in the actual technicalities of dancing and feel the need to master it as a task. Women are perhaps more able to flick between hobbies as they are more likely to derive satisfaction from the social aspect alon…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/21 04:49 PM
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Yeah it does not and rather has a major issue with low birth rates.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/21 04:27 PM
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Most people are probably good people basically deserving of love so I don't think turning these systemic issues around and telling them that they need to somehow alter their fundamental personalities is really very useful. In fact pretty harmful. Of course everyone can work on their confidence and outgoingness and whatnot, and for sure guys exist whose main issue is the lack of these important social/personality features, but it's not likely to be the reason for these big society-wide statistics…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/21 04:26 PM
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The people a woman hook-up with were never "options", they were just open to fucking her, and hooking up with them gives no indication of what kind of relationships she might be able to attain because 99% of the women we hook up with we would not even dream of committing to.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/21 05:40 AM
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That has not been my experience. A decent-looking, childfree woman in her 30s is a unicorn in her dating market. lol not at all. Every high value guy I know aims for mid-20s, by 30+ we wonder what kind of issues you had that rendered you family-less and don't really want to be your settle down option after you have hit the wall. 30+ single women are far, far from unicorns, in fact they are dime a dozen these days. As a woman you are born with your sexual market place value and it declines precip…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/21 05:33 AM
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I meet the high value man criteria in almost every aspect other than build, which is just average. Looks, charisma, social status, wealth, sexual performance etc all well above average. That said I am into things like art, history, culture and a mild nerd (not excessively so but I enjoy getting really in depth on various things) and I place a very high importance on a girl being able to understand and converse about these sorts of subjects, or just converse passionately in general about whatever…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/21 05:02 AM
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If the science is too hard for you to understand just apply the basic principle that past behaviour is a good indicator of future behaviour.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/21 04:54 AM
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A woman that has had many sexual partners can absolutely go on to become an excellent and faithful wife if that’s what you want. Funny because study after study says otherwise. Just because you want this to be true doesn't mean it is. Sorry but there are consequences to our behaviour, male or female.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/21 04:16 AM
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As you get older you will realise that men are the ones that hold the key to many of the instinctive goals women have such as a family, kids, commitment and emotional support etc. In return for this we don't ask for much, but we do ask that your sexuality is a prize that we have earned through the above. If that sexuality has been handed out freely to many people then it's simple economics; its' value is decreased so we won't be paying more than the going rate. If the going rate is to buy you a …
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/21 04:14 AM
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Correct Also beyond a certain point, promiscuity becomes deeply revolting to men purely on an instinctive level. It feels almost like your very DNA is warning you that the risk of disease and/or raising someone else's child is too high.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/21 04:09 AM
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Because their beliefs are emotional and so there's no real point in disagreement or discussion for them, they are simply stating how they want the world to be and how they want to view all their problems, how these things make them "feel". Whether it's true or not is of secondary importance to them "feeling" it is right. Most mainstream red pill stuff is quite obsessed with constant analysis and engagement with women. It is still mostly an echo chamber but there is at least a general desire to s…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/21 03:51 AM
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I'm in Australia but it's much the same and yes I am planning to spend about 6 months abroad soon where one of the main goals is to meet sophisticated and interesting women who've hobbies outside of drinking cocktails and taking photos of cocktails.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/21 03:43 AM
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Either way it doesn't really matter. If you have a little game and aren't ugly you won't need to pay for anything. Correct. I don't think it's true of everywhere but at least where I live, women are mostly devoid of hobbies and interests, drink excessively and glorify promiscuity. In what world am I going to bother taking a girl like that to a restaurant where I have to carry the conversation for 3 hours, when I could just sext her over IG for a bit and have her catch a cab to my place for casua…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/21 03:42 AM
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I can get behind this, if I am only interested in you for sex I won't even be taking you out in public unless you are really quite hot or have some kind of physical feature that warrants the extra effort. Otherwise I will just have you come straight over for sex which, these days, is not hard to do. It's not about the money as I have plenty of that, it's that why would I spend 3-4 hours going through all that hassle if all I want is sex, when 10 other Tinder girls will get an Uber to my place in…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/21 03:38 AM
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they are more likely to become poly/enter poly marriages The amount of poly marriages out there is a tiny fraction of the total number of promiscuous women. Most seek stability through marriage and many then go on to ruin it, so the advice for men should be to avoid promiscuous women with regards to marriage and commitment but enjoy them for casual sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/21 02:35 AM
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She is also all about people's energy and that stuff... lol, the word you're looking for is hoe.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/21 02:32 AM
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Men uplift each other in a different way, we encourage, sometimes with tough love, other guys to get their shit together and deal with their problems. Our reality in the sexual marketplace is brutally performance based and only the top really succeed, there is no room for any delusion if you want to be in that successful %, you need your buddies to tell it to you straight so you can fix what n needs to be fixed and play the game as it is. Women recite mantras about how they are perfect goddesses…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/21 02:28 AM
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That's up to them
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/21 04:14 AM
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I take it you're female?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/21 04:11 AM
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Yep
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/21 11:05 PM
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I feel like we’re going to be reading a hate filled rant about women and child support in a year. With absolutely zero self awareness about how he set up the entire scenario Sorry about your feels :(
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/21 10:56 PM
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I mean true there is always one public wife but a very high % of rich/famous men have multiple women/mistresses on the side at least.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/21 10:55 PM
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Will your family accept multiple wives? Will theirs? They would definitely find it extremely odd but they would allow it. Their families though? Good point.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/21 10:54 PM
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Yes they do They haven't met but they are open to bisexual experiences It's illegal if you attempt to make it a legal marriage Outside of the usual connection/chemistry/feels? I earn a lot money I suggest that you look into cultures where men have more than one wife and look at what those wives want in order to sign up for that. Generally speaking it seems to be a matter of resource distribution.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/21 10:53 PM
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You’re clearly a bit sociopathic. Imagine how much of a bubble you must live in to see alternate lifestyle as sociopathic lmao.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/21 10:51 PM
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Well I wonder if part of the reason it's so rarely seen outside of the ultra rich and famous is because realistically, dating/sexual dynamics means that it's gonna end in disaster most times? Although... regular marriages end in disaster 50% of the time so it's not like there's a high standard to beat :/
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/21 10:20 PM
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What I don't understand about the discussion re the attractiveness of a man with a nice car is it's always loaded with this comparison between "guy with nice car" and "guy with everything else". Nice clothes doesn't get you laid if you're socially awkward. Smelling good doesn't get you laid if you're hideously ugly. No one factor is usually enough to pique the interest of girls whether for serious or casual, it's a combination of factors, and my only question is to what extent is a fancy car a f…
/r/seduction16/05/21 02:27 AM
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Absolutely, dressing well is low hanging fruit, no reason not to pick it, but my question is is having a nice car actually high hanging fruit or is it not even fruit at all ie. "makes no difference".
/r/seduction14/05/21 03:30 AM
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Sure and you can still get laid if you don't dress very well but we all advocate dressing well as it helps. Are cars the exception to the rule of displaying high value?
/r/seduction14/05/21 12:54 AM
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Not saying you're wrong, but if that is still the case for many guys (certainly remember it being the case when I was like 20-22) then truly I feel sorry for them because relying on acquiring and keeping a gf in the era of social media is gonna be a nightmare.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/21 07:53 AM
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In order of frequency Siphoning into OnlyFans Narcissism (distant 3rd) Genuine exhibitionism
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/21 12:56 AM
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I have found that you cannot go into the current dating market looking for love/romance/something serious because you will be met with utter, crushing disappointment. If you want something serious, look for casual. If you want something casual, look for casual. Whatever you do, just go for casual - keeps you in the scene, meeting people and having fun. The moment you start looking for your wife the fun goes out the window and the existential dread of the state of modern women kicks in. Main issu…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/21 02:43 PM
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As a highly educated and successful guy, yes this is true, and it boils down almost entirely to conversational chemistry. Unintelligent women run out of things to talk about and don't share the same humour as me, and conversational chemistry is a top 3 factor in determining how into a woman I am. So I don't care how much she earns or the status of her job or whatever, but her job is sometimes an indicator of her ability to converse.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/21 01:04 AM
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Women need to understand that we are just as repulsed by a majority of women, the difference is we'd still be willing to fuck them. 90% of the girls that guys will insert their penis into, if you suggested that he date/marry her, then you'd see the revulsion. The majority of women we come across are so intensely unstable, vapid or narcissistic that we wouldn't even dream of spending a significant amount of time with them but a quick fuck? Sure why not, we don't have to carry a baby for 9 months.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/21 01:02 AM
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bitter woman, cold hearted Just what every guy dreams of...
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/21 12:58 AM
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They might not be particularly rare Take me to your planet
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/21 12:57 AM
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If your girl requires side dudes then neither you nor she is high value.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/21 12:56 AM
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A high value woman = a woman that is extremely attractive, loyal/minimally promiscuous, and actually has a pleasant personality.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/21 12:55 AM
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The thing is that as a guy, we don't expect women to deliver us any kind of lifestyle or wealth or success or social clout or fame or anything like that. We are pretty much hardwired to see that and attempt to achieve it ourselves, so social media does create pressure on men and a daunting, inanimate, distant image to compete with, but it doesn't change our expectations of women. Women just have to be pleasant, cooperative, attractive and good in bed and we are happy.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/21 12:52 AM
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Everything he said makes perfect sense.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/21 12:47 AM
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Because women either already have worked on themselves and recognize that working on themselves will help them finds mates, are in the process of working on themselves, or don’t need to be told to, because they already know it. Laughable. Most women make absolutely no effort to work on themselves because they assume that the 100s of guys lining up to pipe them in their DMs indicates they already have high value. Men are in a constant struggle for self-improvement-or-die from the age of 18.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/21 12:45 AM
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single women are happier than married women This trend flips completely from the 30s onwards. Unmarried women 35> score the lowest in terms of happiness of all these groups and are frequently on antidepressants and in therapy. We need to start recognising how different male/female dynamics are from 18-30 and 30+. It's two totally different universes.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/21 12:05 AM
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Well, a woman's options for domaine hits like that go off a cliff in her mid-30s and then she faces a life without children and a family if she hasn't;t already nailed that down so... The hyperactive society and hypergamy is only half of the story, the second half is a lot less exciting.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/21 12:03 AM
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Re women getting sexual bored faster, I am not saying this is not the case, but just wondering what the basis for this is? Because for example, the Coolidge effect is seen in men and not women, and the reproductive roles of each sex would suggest that it is men that would be more likely to want to sleep with a variety of women.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/21 12:01 AM
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Absolutely, they are every bit as horny and filthy as we are. Women do use sex as a bargaining/manipulation tool in a way men do not, though.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/21 03:54 AM
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Don’t expect much from them in your 20s, focus on casual experiences, figuring them out and improving yourself. Don’t avoid relationships but don’t chase them Remember that your prime is 30+ Trust your gut every time Keep expectations low, the right one will come along if you are out there meeting people and having fun, but if your expectations are too high you will constantly be disappointed and give up Would give him a run down on cluster B personality disorders Don’t expect unconditional love…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/21 03:50 AM
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For women, excitement usually boils down to socialising. They find it very rewarding to be accepted or admired by a group of other females in a social setting. That’s basically it. As men we tend to prefer learning some kind of skill or competing in some kind of activity, with the company of others complimenting that rather than being the focus.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/21 02:55 AM
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The average 20 something woman is as dull a brick, they get attention without having to develop hobbies/interests/a personality. Their idea of what constitutes excitement essentially boils down to socialising with alcohol. Most here won’t agree and say oh I have hobbies, well Reddit will not select for the typical 20 something female. I live an interesting life in my opinion, I have a LOT of hobbies, but I have zero interest in nightlife beyond going for a cocktail or two or going to a nice rest…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/21 02:50 AM
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Mostly agree, dating and male/female dynamics have been changed forever by social media, in almost only bad ways I would say. I’ve said it before but the issue is with timing. Men and women both need and want each other for a strong stable genuine connection... just at different times in their lives. Social media cranks up people’s expectations to such extreme levels that when each gender is in their prime they become incredibly picky and this prevents the normal forming of relationships IMO. Wh…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/21 01:39 AM
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Yeah it’s not fear, we just didn’t like the girl enough to make an effort but didn’t want to be blunt about it
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/21 01:32 AM
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Women ultimately want stability and provision from men, so the literal cost of maintaining your scenario B for a man is really, really high. Most, even high value, men would rather be able to enjoy sex and love from a single woman eventually and then focus their energy and resources on other things. Spinning plates is so labour intensive for men, for women they can get a booty call effortlessly.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/21 01:29 AM
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It’s more a question of timing these days. Women in their 20s experience such an intense onslaught of attention and simping that they have no real need to commit. If they are half decent looking or above then they can, if they want, quite easily extract whenever they need from multiple men. Commitment at this point must feel pointless to those of them who are not strongly naturally inclined to it, plus there is a lot of societal and peer pressure to be young free and single, independent, don’t n…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/21 01:25 AM
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Not even remotely true. Most women's lives have some benefits and some drawbacks relative to us. They have easy access to sex but most take advantage of it far less than we would. Unless they are mentally disturbed they gain far less of an ego boost from achieving sex than we do anyway. A lot of female friendships are shallow and passive aggressive and can disappear at any moment. They can sit back and rely on a man but if they are average, their man and subsequent lifestyle will remain average.…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/21 11:27 AM
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Women are the selectors, the current mess is their doing. I agree with your overall point but tbh, if it wasn't for pathetic male simping, this mess wouldn't have been enabled. This entire shitshow goes away the moment men stop simping.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/21 11:16 PM
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Even guys believe in cosmic healing of communism or QAnon
/r/askTRP30/04/21 06:10 AM
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They want to feel like their life has meaning and that they have a deep understanding of the world, without having any meaning in their life or any understanding of the world. It's basically the equivalent of conspiracy theorists who tend to be male; a short cut to feeling intelligent and superior. Don't need to actually take the time to become educated in things that might be counter-intuitive or complex, just read a few forum posts and bam you're an expert and know something all the "sheeple" …
/r/askTRP30/04/21 06:07 AM
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Because for the most part people are interacting with each other online. Even when you have actually met someone and been on a date together, most of your interactions will remain online initially. Most of the cues that trigger genuine interest, empathy, responsibility, kindness etc. are not being triggered and so people aren't treating like each other like humans beings. It's no surprise that people use dehumanising language to describe it, because what they are being presented with is the dehu…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/21 04:14 AM
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I think that social media has made the dating scene so intensely miserable and made making real connections so hard that inevitably people feel confused, lonely and frustrated and so overthink their situation. I don't think that people who grew up outside of the ubiquitous influence of social media truly understand how different male/female dynamics are now. Every "tendency" you noticed in the dating scene is now on steroids; that pretty girl you know who gets those guys hitting on her in the ba…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/21 04:04 AM
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Yep and most of us who are sexually successful and do get pussy consider most of you as fundamentally revolting prospects for anything more than a one night stand, thus why you guys are all here. Maybe most guys don't get the last laugh but I can assure you, those of us who do, are truly laughing at the delusional state of modern women. It's a 24/7 comedy special.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/21 05:23 AM
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The point is, they benefit from this. This is debatable. Remember we are not talking about having "options", there is no option; essentially all adults must work full time to simply exist in the modern economy, there is no "traditional" option available to 99% of people and work is the no 1 source of anxiety/depression in the developed world. I am as far from a crazy right wing anti semitic conspiracy theorist as it gets. I am a traditional far left Marxist, I see history primarily in economic t…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/21 05:06 AM
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As for the bit with the ruling classes, it sounds very much like some right wing conspiracy. lol, 2021 where basic socialist economic theory is now a "right wing conspiracy". "Ruling class" just means the people who have the power/wealth to influence society/the economic in this way. Funnelling women into factories and service jobs while men were off being slaughtered was not done to emancipate them, it was done for the sake of economic growth. Just about every major change in society is dictate…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/21 11:09 PM
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Nothing could be more irrelevant to me than sympathy from women. If I want to moan about the dating scene, I'll do it with my bros. From women I only ask one thing: please gain some perspective. The fact that seemingly endless men on dating apps and in your DMs and possibly irl show you sexual interest does not make you high value - it simply indicates you are a physically non-repulsive member of the human race with a vagina. Retaining men is how a woman shows value. Any goal is a hole to a huge…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/21 02:28 PM
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The point is moot. Women entered the workforce due to the demands of post-war capitalism and nothing more, and it doesn't matter if women, or men for that matter, want now to become homemakers - the ruling class decided that essentially every single adult should be in the labour force and the ruling class got what it wanted. Allowing a large % of the population to not be wage slaves and to instead focus on domestic life is absolutely not on the agenda of the world's business elite and so it woul…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/21 02:22 PM
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I am happy dating a woman that earns less than me, that's not a problem, the problem is that when you are relatively high value for your area/community/whatever then you are actively sought out by manipulative, narcissistic women. I'm not just talking arrogant princesses, I'm talking full on NPDs. It's a real issue. I have been burned too many times by this and yes it has left me with some trust issues and so for now I opt for casual because frankly I feel that modern women require a vetting per…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/21 02:13 PM
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I never had an anger phase because I gradually accepted reality as I aged and by this point, early 30s, my SMV is so much higher than it ever was before that I can easily profit from the dating market at least in terms of sex/hookups. If I start putting real effort into finding a life partner, yes, I quickly go down hill and get depressed and bitter. So I don’t, I focus on fun and feel fine and just trust that my SMV is going to be high for many years to come and that gives me plenty of chances …
/r/askTRP28/04/21 04:05 AM
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Women tend to aim for men earning around 25% more than them, minimum. They are attracted to financial/career success, we are not, so the dynamic you are suggesting is just not particularly natural and brings other issues.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/21 03:51 AM
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I’m a top 10-20% earner, single with no kids in my early 30s, above average looks, average heights etc. Like you I have recently opted for short term flings only. Women with personality disorders that want to secure their future whilst also being able to continue acting like they are 21 gravitate towards us, it is exhausting vetting them and realising how common this kind of manipulation is. I just hope at some point that I by chance meet a genuine girl. They do exist so it will happen, but unti…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/21 03:50 AM
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It requires two ingredients: 1) When the Instagram generation of women hit the wall and realise their market value is below that of the men they withheld commitment from in their 20s are now in the driving seat, leaving these women lonely and miserable (already happening) 2) When male desperation in their 20s reaches a point of self-awareness and the simping that enables 1) comes to an end Of the two I don’t expect number 2 to change. I don’t see how the feedback loop of simping ends, I only see…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/21 03:42 AM
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I’m sure there are plenty of shit men around but speaking for myself and most of the guys I grew up with or am friends with who are single at my age (early 30s), the dating scene has morphed significantly since the rise of social media and the situation is very different to the standard “fuckbois just pump and dump” narrative. I want a relationship but every time I have tried committing to a woman since about the age of 28 she has ended up having severe mental health or behavioural problems. The…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/21 03:37 AM
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As a man, putting aside my own SMV for a minute, I would say that I do feel an inherent almost instinctual pickiness when it comes to a woman’s looks. I would say it’s pretty clear anecdotally and in terms of research that as men we are far more demanding of a women physically than vice versa. Age isn’t quite the same as looks though. A woman who has lucky genes and looks after herself can look incredible way into her 40s and even early 50s. Weekly binge drinking, though, will not produce this r…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/21 03:24 AM
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This is less understood by most women now than ever before. I feel like even 10 years ago that was pretty common knowledge but now women think they are literal goddesses with their pick of men to marry whenever they so choose just because they get 50 dick pics in their DMs per day or hit on in the club. The number 1 delusion affecting modern dating imo and social media and both the men and women on it, is the culprit.
/r/askTRP27/04/21 07:05 AM
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This just sounds like totally naivety and insecurity. I don't believe in discussing sexual history in general, it serves no functional purpose, I also don't have a big issue with body counts. The only thing I do have an issue with is general attitude towards sexuality; promiscuity is more of a mindset than anything else, if a woman makes access to her sexuality extremely open and treats her sexual desirability as a cheap commodity then what does that say about my value as a man for attaining her…
/r/askTRP27/04/21 06:55 AM
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What surprised me when I first came here was that binge drinking is not just the primary hobby for.. say.. 20 year old college students, but for 28 year old PhD students, and 35 year old single mothers, and 55 year old dads. You don't even have to ask what someone did for a public holiday - they got pissed. That's it. If you live anywhere from Sunshine Coast to northern NSW then the influence of GC on the dating scene is real. I almost admire girls in LA and Miami for slooting it up the way they…
/r/askTRP27/04/21 04:54 AM
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Very few guys talk about the negative end result of getting into steroids. I have seen a lot of dudes who are essentially infertile with constant mood swings (permanent expression of anger-confusion, lose their temper instantly, brain fog) and often liver dysfunction. That put me off although I know it wouldn't happen to everyone. But it happens to enough that I didn't feel it was worth it for me. There is literally nothing, and never will be anything, more important to you in your entire life t…
/r/askTRP26/04/21 11:09 PM
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I know the Aussies in here are gonna hate this but it's true: Australia has almost no culture. The gambling and the drinking you speak of, this is all people do because there is no real "scene" of any kind and no real traditional cultural activities so getting plastered and/or sitting in front of a pokie machine is literally all they know here. Every bar looks the same, every restaurant serves the same mediocre fusion food, every girl walks around looking the exact same (hot but usually full of …
/r/askTRP26/04/21 10:54 PM
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Two things: As either baby or full blown narcissists, most of them require a level of attention that no small number of men can provide, there's always room for you to step in, charm them and enjoy yourself before they get bored and move on They only have sexual options, not commitment options. Just because girls in the late 20s don't realise their clock is ticking doesn't mean it never hits, it just hits when it's too late. A fraction will realise in time and they will be looking for a mature r…
/r/askTRP26/04/21 07:33 AM
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Why bother? The life of an actually narc (unless top tier grandiose like Trump or something) is an endless rollercoaster that dips into hell. Just leave them be. If you're just talking about a woman who is overly needy for attention and physical affirmation then.. well.. you're just talking about women bro.
/r/askTRP26/04/21 07:27 AM
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On the other hand, a narc is so effortlessly easy to predict that you could drive one into total ego collapse with ease if you wanted to. It's not like you need to be true 1% HVM to make a narc crumble, all it takes the the right choice of words showing that you understand what they really are. Their egos are not complex and built upon years of constructed identity where hurting us would have to go through layers and layers of memory and experience and cognition... for them it's just "me good, m…
/r/askTRP26/04/21 06:52 AM
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A good way of detecting cognitive empathy versus actual empathy is that narcs, particularly as they get a little older and have usually been through some therapy etc., will kind of "spell out" their empathetic thought processes to you: "I can understand you feel x way because I did y and therefore you must have thought z, it is totally understandable you are feeling the way you do" They are talking as much to themselves as they are to you, it's like when you're trying to solve a maths equation a…
/r/askTRP26/04/21 06:47 AM
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I’ve had BPD and NPD and you’ve pin pointed the important difference. It annoyed me how many in the sphere use “BPD” as an umbrella term. The NPD I had was sweet and portrayed a “little lady” type persona but it’s all an act and they can be very scheming as your suggest and are 10 steps ahead of you. They would be declaring endless love to your face and calculating your downfall in a year. They are sadistic and enjoy hurting / exploiting you.Once I caught her staring at me when I was asleep - sp…
/r/askTRP26/04/21 06:40 AM
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I'm not saying they *are* evil just that the cultural concept of evilness in a person is kinda.. pretty much... NPD in a nutshell on the low end, and ASPD/psychopathy on the far end. I mean NPD is much more in the spectrum with ASPD and psychopathy than BPD is. I don't agree they are not calculating, just because they calculate and premeditate on things instinctively doesn't mean it's not calculated premeditation. A BPD will burst into tears 5 minutes after laughing and giggling with no internal…
/r/askTRP26/04/21 06:39 AM
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Sorry 21* lmao
/r/askTRP26/04/21 06:34 AM
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They enjoy a challenge though, so, they aren't likely to just give up if they sense you can sense them, it might even spur them on.
/r/askTRP25/04/21 01:14 AM
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Conservative political leanings are also consistently (as in multiple large scale studies) associated with a significantly lower IQ so I wouldn't try drawing simplistic political correlations into this. I just think that women in general are somewhat prone to narcissism for evolutionary purposes, given the way that men are attracted to them, and that the risk factors for a PD are probably increasing (raised in broken homes etc) and finally social media which is just total utter steroids for any …
/r/askTRP25/04/21 01:12 AM
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They are disordered people and their own lives are often harder than ours will ever be, unless maybe they are one of those Trump-style narcs that truly doesn't give a fuck. But there is something specific about NPD (and ASPD etc) as opposed to bipolar and depression and anxiety and histrionic and borderline etc. - their coldness, calculatedness and premeditated behaviour means that it is far harder for us to see them as "good". They just fit that textbook definition of evil that we have in most …
/r/askTRP25/04/21 01:07 AM
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Just look for a hot girl on tinder with an interesting/nerdy bio. Srs.
/r/askTRP25/04/21 01:05 AM
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I'm 32 and currently seeing a 21, 22 and 26 year old.. All of them are attracted to my age. I mean maybe after 35 it gets different but so far I have more success with 20-25 year olds at 32 than I ever had <30.
/r/askTRP25/04/21 01:03 AM
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If all of your ex's where "toxic" or had BPD... you might want to check yourself. I only have two bad exes and I will usually not mentioned either of them, I am 100% sure one had diagnosed self-aware NPD, the other I accused of it and the moment I said that she disappeared, pretty good clue, they are terrified of being spotted. All my other exes are wonderful people who added to my life and some are very close friends, I wish all of them the best in life. I'm not perfect but I know I'm not a nar…
/r/askTRP25/04/21 01:02 AM
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If they admit to you a history of depersonalisation, regular psychiatric input, SSRIs and other such things and have clear narc traits then you can pretty safely say they are a narc. I really believe female narcs, especially by their mid to late 20s, are self-aware - their instinct is to blame everyone else for their problems but deep down they know that there is a reason their egos are barely held together by clandestine behaviours (drugs, promiscuity, neurotic thoughts) and their relationships…
/r/askTRP25/04/21 01:00 AM
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Introversion, high neuroticism, shame, low self esteem, entitlement, how they feel about themselves will reflect in how they treat others, they feel wronged by the world and they think they deserve admiration My experience with the covert was so strange, on the outside she was this happy go lucky stunning girl, but in her eyes and in her quiet moments you could see a burning self hatred that I don't think most of us could even imagine. I felt sorry for her and I did hurt her emotionally for my p…
/r/askTRP25/04/21 12:58 AM
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Definitely. Also if they block you, try messaging a few days later, you will always be unblocked by a narc - the potential for supply is too much to resist.
/r/askTRP25/04/21 12:57 AM
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In my experience (anecdotal) female narcs tend to be self-aware deep down, you can just tell. The overts just know it, they say something and then double take at what they have just said, it's a brief moment you can see in their eyes. Coverts, as far as I can tell, live a constant life of self-hatred, shame and misery beneath a veneer of "hot girl shit".
/r/askTRP25/04/21 12:56 AM
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I was in a graduate program a few years back; one of my "best friends" (actually she was a terrible friend) and my thesis advisor were both NPD. We'll call the "best friend" as "Fannie". OP mentioned the "narc stare" as blank, but Fannie's stare was decidedly predatory. It was a leer. Very fucking creepy. Why does it seem there are a particularly high number of female narcs in academia? Male narcs can be anywhere and anything from a bum to POTUS, female narcs seem to gravitate towards STEM and p…
/r/askTRP25/04/21 12:53 AM
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I might have a bit of a rose tinted view of BPD, I did encounter it once and yes she was impossible to date long term.. or even medium term, but at least what she said and di reflected her genuine thoughts and feelings at the time. Narcs it's the total opposite, they could be showering you in love whilst internally having dark manipulative thoughts. They plan and scheme, BPDs just react. I would love to see data on whether or not cluster B is increasing in incidence alongside social media use. I…
/r/askTRP24/04/21 09:01 AM
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Sadly there have been studies on psilocybin use in personality disorders and there has been no clear benefit, as opposed to enormous benefit for things like depression and anxiety. Given that NPD and depression/anxiety usually co-exist, it could just be that you have relatively low level NPD and the reduction in anxiety/depression fro mushrooms allows you to be more stable overall? Like I say I do have sympathy for narcs, they didn't ask to be the way they are, but at least currently it is a lif…
/r/askTRP24/04/21 09:00 AM
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Very true that once you have dealt with one Cluster B you can be prone to falling into another because it can take a long time to come to terms with the fact that such intensely manipulative people exist and it's not just in your head. Also it can be hard for healthy girls to live up to the lovebombing and so you might find yourself waiting around for another to make you feel the same initial rush. Particularly in this day and age when most women are so disregarding of men in general, the lovebo…
/r/askTRP24/04/21 08:57 AM
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This is the only other thing I could think of but she mentions it every single time we have sex and every single time we discuss sex whilst apart. It’s not like a preference it seems to be an obsession.
/r/askTRP24/04/21 05:16 AM
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My issue is that I think I have developed a mindset where there is just one spectrum, normal - to - NPD. So anything uncanny or that appears like a test or game I instantly think.. NPD. And with an NPD you cannot form an authentic connection, period. Even trying to do so is a trap because they have often rehearsed very convincing yarns to spin when you do so in order to pull you in. I don't want to be wrong though, and throw away a chance with what might be an amazing person. So I am torn about …
/r/seduction17/02/21 10:47 PM
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I have a feeling that there is a connection between a voice in the back of your head saying something is a bit weird, and them actually being a bit weird.
/r/seduction17/02/21 06:05 AM
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In what way inauthentic do you think
/r/seduction17/02/21 05:56 AM
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Nope
/r/seduction17/02/21 05:43 AM
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I really hope you're right, it feels so much better to think this way rather than see everyone as a covert narcissist as I am prone to atm :( If there are hidden anxieties and insecurities, she hides them extreeeeeemely well, but I know that is very possible. She actually presents almost surreally confident and unphased. Obviously discussing and bonding over things like that takes time and can';t be rushed but I'll be very relieved if it's the case because it means there is ground for an emotion…
/r/seduction17/02/21 05:39 AM
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To be fair it came up in passing and as part of others convos.
/r/seduction17/02/21 04:23 AM
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Talking about her work was a staple of our convos for the first few dates and has only stopped more recently, but talking about other stuff was also common back then and has also dried up. I will make more of an effort to get to know her more deeply next time I see her. That said, if she deflects that attempt I will consider it a major red flag.
/r/seduction17/02/21 04:10 AM
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Agree with the first bit, but also agree that it can definitely be a red flag. When she has mentioned it it has been more along the lines of "ugh can you believe he did such and such a thing?" usually an example of him being selfish or careless.
/r/seduction17/02/21 04:09 AM
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The lost focus line was definitely a misstep but this was after 3 weeks of my showing extensive interest in her work, and came at the end of a long convo about work that I started and was very engaged in, it was literally just right at the end. I can understand if she didn't like that comment but based on all the rest I think she could/should have been able to chalk it up to a bad turn of phrase. Maybe she has because she is still telling me she "can't wait to meet up" etc, but still the other w…
/r/seduction17/02/21 04:07 AM
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Next time the question dodging happens I do plan to kinda plainly just repeat it until I get an answer. I tend to pussyfoot around confrontation at this stage but then if such a thing would result in confrontation then clearly the girl is a nutter anyway. I need to get that into my head.
/r/seduction17/02/21 03:53 AM
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I definitely changed a bit after the third date. We spent like 15-20 mins talking about her work in great detail to the extent that she actually seemed bored by the convo, so I felt like I had been the boring one by not spicing the conversation up. Since then whenever I asked about work she quickly changes the subject and says "that's boring" and I instinctively put that on myself for not making more interesting conversation. So since then I have been a bit insecure about it and trying to always…
/r/seduction17/02/21 03:51 AM
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Possibly, but another hallmark of something like BPD or NPD is a victim complex, every ex they ever had was "toxic". I had a few bad exes but mostly they were all great people and it just didn't happen to work out. ^ Just playing devil's advocate
/r/seduction17/02/21 03:43 AM
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I dated a probable BPD for about 3-4 months, it was pretty wild but at least with her I felt like at any given time she was just being herself, even if "herself" changed on a dime. NPD gives me the fucking creeps because their behaviours are always coldly calculated for a specific outcome.
/r/seduction17/02/21 03:40 AM
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DM'd all of you guys
/r/seduction17/02/21 03:25 AM
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It sounds like she has attachment issues. Maybe she’s nervous that she’s interested because she was hurt before. She has mentioned a "toxic ex" a few times, but mainly from a kind of defiant angle.
/r/seduction17/02/21 03:22 AM
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I see a therapist occasionally because I do know I am a bit paranoid after the whole NPD thing (mentioned below) and that is what that therapist suggested; maybe she is so busy with work and studies that she doesn't have time for much else in life and feels a bit insecure compared to myself who is lucky enough o have the money and free time to do all sorts of fun interesting things. Definitely possible. Myself I have a slight insecurity that my hobbies and interests are considered boring by othe…
/r/seduction17/02/21 03:19 AM
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If I got the people hitting on me at the bar/lesbian text, that would put me off tbh... I would not play into that at all, most likely respond with an 'lol ok' the next morning or something. My female friends interpreted this as a test to see how I deal with the idea of her getting attention, as it happens a lot, ie. do I get uptight or do I make light of it. But at the same time, I am not used to being so obviously "tested" like that. I don't know why but I have a feeling the event didn't even …
/r/seduction17/02/21 03:15 AM
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We have talked a lot about her work and I bring it up often because it is very interesting, and I think I am good at showing that, it was really only at the end of that long discussion about work on that one date where I came up with that (not so great) "lost focus" line in an attempt to add a bit of passion/spontaneity. Definitely wasn't a great choice of words, but I have shown a loooot of interest in her work before and after that.
/r/seduction17/02/21 03:10 AM
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I brought it up and she just said that all the above was due to tiredness. I brought it up a previous time and it was due to a hangover.
/r/seduction17/02/21 03:08 AM
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3 dates, and I don't really enjoy texting much so when she texts infrequently, so do I, then the result every time is that she blows up my phone.
/r/seduction17/02/21 03:07 AM
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I actually don't mind if we never text, or text all the time, either is fine by me, what I find odd is the seemingly deliberate timing of texts and the way she avoids questions. I often pull back and don't text her, and then she blows up my phone.
/r/seduction17/02/21 03:06 AM
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How about this, cancel our date this weekend and see how she reacts, use that time to see another girl and see if it resets my vibe-meter? On the other hand if she is normal then that would mean I am the one playing games.
/r/seduction17/02/21 02:45 AM
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My gut says walk away now.
/r/seduction17/02/21 02:41 AM
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What did you think of it?
/r/seduction17/02/21 02:41 AM
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You are very right in that I am kinda getting a little anxious trying to think of ways to be interesting and exciting, which after 3 dates is really not ok I think, although I have to be open to the idea that the issue is me and not her. She is definitely not really interesting me in a mental or emotional sense atm, she is very attractive but I have no problem finding attractive girls, it's the mental/emotional connection I really need and right now she isn't giving it. The bit that slightly cre…
/r/seduction17/02/21 02:39 AM
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I've been looking into various ways that I can maybe probe for more signs of it. Doesn't seem like anything is very reliable as a narcissist knows how they are supposed to appear and so can emulate it until they decide you're on the hook. I just don't want to waste any more time on people like that.. But I also don't want to be so fucked in the head that I see everyone who shows interest in me as mentally ill lmao. We are supposed to be having a date on Saturday. I really feel right on the edge …
/r/seduction17/02/21 02:29 AM
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During the first tow dates the convo was very in depth and stimulating and was really what attracted me to her, now it's just "hey look at my cute pet doing cute things", she will avoid going into depth about anything on her end but will passively allow me to go into depth on mine and do a pretty good job of appearing interested, but doesn't really engage much in it.
/r/seduction17/02/21 02:25 AM
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She wasn't very engaged and didn't communicate much over the weekend but she had a big family event so I put it down to her being busy. That said she left my simple check in "how's it all going?" on read for like 24h which I was a bit miffed by. After the weekend I was pretty dry with her and she detected it and immediately apologised with the following: "Sorry I’ve been a little MIA this weekend, I have been super exhausted. I should have definitely been less distant though and I apologise for …
/r/seduction17/02/21 02:22 AM
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I get this vibe https://youtu.be/0GlT6H2qrL0?t=410 That said, since the girl I dated with NPD, I do feel overly paranoid that basically every girl I like has it :( I am very close to calling it a day with this girl due to these weird vibes but I don't want it to be because I am delusional and paranoid and this is all in my head.
/r/seduction17/02/21 02:19 AM
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My issue is that I recently dated someone who turned out to have NPD, so I interpret a lot of things as a sign of NPD rather than all of the other possible issues people can have. I feel like I can have a good shot at dealing with most forms of emotional baggage but NPD I would never ever touch with so much as a barge pole ever again. I have never seen her outwardly appear anxious, in fact she kinda has the presence of a TV presenter: slick, outgoing, well rehearsed, immaculate in how she talks …
/r/seduction17/02/21 02:12 AM
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My worry is that the cycle of retreat/chase is quite rapid, it's not like one overarching "at first she was chasing me, then she pulled away, then she settled down" (although I know it would be too early for that just yet), but it cycles almost daily: she lays on the charm, I respond by matching it, she withdraws, so I withdraw, then she lays on the charm again. That's why it feels a bit "gamey". I am myself a little avoidant but for me it's one big arch: meet someone, get excited, freak out a b…
/r/seduction17/02/21 01:36 AM
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I'll DM you the answer to this but you're welcome to reply here for the interest of others, I just want to maintain some anonymity
/r/seduction17/02/21 01:33 AM
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If you're not into this, at least let me know, so I can stop trying.' The thing with this is that it is as good as just totally blocking them, there is no chance of meeting after this. You might say that's fine, you don't want to meet someone who drops out of the convos randomly but in my experience they all do this,even the ones you end up dating, so it would mean giving up entirely. So I feel like it's always worth at least a try but you kinda have to say the right thing when double texting, a…
/r/seduction31/12/20 05:22 AM
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Actually to be honest I’m probably down to 1% now, and I am being very picky, only swiping on extremely attractive girls. By fresh start do you mean hard reset? New phone, Apple ID, email etc?
/r/seduction03/11/20 08:00 PM
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/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/20 04:11 AM
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Watching Alpha make strategies on YouTube. He's a bald black dude. He explains the texting aspect to dating pretty well. Alright homie good luck. Thanks man, I watched his video on this exact issue though and he said if she ain't texting you're fucked so.. 🤷‍♂️
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/20 03:54 AM
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If I truly liked a guy I would both make out with him and make the time to speak with him I guess my question is what does it mean when you get the former and not the latter, at least in regards to texts. I just find it hard to believe it's 2020 and people are not texters, so I don't know if it's a lack of interest or some kind of test.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/20 03:53 AM
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The date prior to the makeout was 10/10; deep enthusiastic conversation, the best mix of questions to each other I've had, lots of laughs etc. It's the not-in-person bit that is throwing me off because usually when a date goes that well the girl is blowing up my phone.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/20 03:51 AM
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What did you say when she suggested a second date? I said I would really like that. I just don't want to play any ghosting games but maybe that's how dating is these days?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/20 03:50 AM
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This is what I don't get. You say you would need to be drunk to even makeout a little, but you also say if you like a guy you would make the time. So I don't really know how to read it.. Super passionate in person and barely any contact when not.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/20 03:47 AM
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