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| 2 | Is it pointless for me to look for a husband as a mentally ill 35 yo?There are older, uglier, more mentally ill, stupider, higher n-count women over the moon in happy relationships with men who love them. I think it’s difficult when you have a tendency to be codependent or are unhappy to try to attach to another person, I struggled with that. I had to literally turn off my phone to enforce 1-1 texting to not overwhelm my bf when we started dating as I’ve driven several relationships into the ground with that tendency. But you won’t be a burden unless you try to d… | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/10/25 04:38 PM |
| -2 | Boys Sowing Wild Oats vs. Girls Staying PureThis is true currently but I think it’s stupid. But you know, you’re right. I think young people will always rebel against what the older generation tells them to do, and then discover that they were always correct. I just think sleeping around harms women more than men. Men will have good memories whereas women often regret it and carry around this bitterness that you can feel, until they properly process it. When you hit your early 30s you will have a front row seat of your cohort of dumb wome… | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/10/25 11:54 PM |
| 2 | Blocked by my match everywhere after a deep conversation, I feel really shakenEh good riddance this person seems to be dripping bitterness/social incompetence. Perhaps he’s gotten all his info about women from the internet and is now sabotaging himself by bringing it into interaction. In any case he seems to have been a bit too emotionally charged for a first interaction. Maybe he was just mining for information with a fake profile? Never trust someone says who they say they are on the internet. I’ve personally had bad experiences with men too but I would imagine if I gri… | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/10/25 06:52 PM |
| 2 | Boys Sowing Wild Oats vs. Girls Staying PureI have a problem with men consciously seeking out women they don’t see a future with to have fun with. I think it’s a moral failing and bad behaviour from someone who is supposed to be an inspiring leader. They will then spend the rest of their life justifying this to others and spreading the hurt. I personally think people who seek out casual sex are not doing it from a right place. For the man it’s usually an ego thing when he can be building something more durable with his time and energy. Fo… | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/10/25 06:47 PM |
| 3 | 25 F Worked on myself for 2 years, looking to date but getting worried.I have some advice! I went through this as well. I think a lot of it revolves around being present somewhere and making it known you are single in some discreet manner that doesn’t scream desperation. Social media, do you have any men you are interested in through there? If so post some things, you can gage who is interested and receptive easily, this is by far the easiest option, especially if they are people who you met/who your friends know. You can also add people you’ve known in the past th… | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/07/25 06:01 PM |
| 2 | Wake up call to get out of this decades long funkI think there are other comments that perfectly covered certain aspects so I won’t repeat those but I will add things that are not mentioned that helped me: Since you seem to have the money I recommend getting a nutritionist. I did this once and they make you take photos of your food/track it and will find issues specific to you and your eating habits. This is the only thing that ever worked for me. Gym is of course important but I would argue kitchen is even more important. You got this | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/06/25 12:59 PM |
| 1 | Feminism is the reason for the incel crisis, and hurt women more than menI don’t think OF and sex work are feminist. It’s usually poor, emotionally unwell, traumatized women that chose this path. There should be more protections for them. Society should protect vulnerable and dumb women from this imo. This kind of job usually takes them out of the marriage market though. They decide that being a courtesan for men with disposable income is better than being a wife to their socioeconomic equal. Often these women don’t have much of a choice. Like can you really blame so… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/02/25 09:59 AM |
| 1 | Can someone explain to me (passport bro) how a woman with a degree/higher income makes a better partner than a woman who only graduated high school/lower incomeIt’s that a guy can really mess up a girls life. Take a girl with some ability to make her own income vs one that can’t. Nobody is “better” inherently but one situation is just worse for women than the other. You get the one with just a high school education pregnant and unless you are a good guy she is fucked. She’s stuck. You can dictate what her life looks like now and delegate her to do all the cooking/cleaning/childcare while you do what you want with your life. She is powerless. Don’t get … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/02/25 09:14 AM |
| 2 | “Women live their life on easy mode”I think that there are advantages and disadvantages for both genders. If men really have it together then they have it made. They can start families into their 40s, have someone who cooks and cleans and takes care of children for them while they do their job and have more freedom to focus on themselves, this kind of life is not really possible for women. When men say this they seem to only see young women as well. Young, attractive women. This is a small subset of women, just like there is a sma… | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/01/25 01:15 PM |
| 3 | How to make more female friends when my interests are masculine?Ah I am also in a STEM field and I have similar thoughts. My problem is also that I hate doing social activities because I have social anxiety, and I am 50% in the camp of having to get over it because this is what is required for friendships, and 50% that these kinds of friendships are just not meant for me. I am so jealous of my boyfriend, he has a similar temperament to me but he has a group of friends he plays video games with online and they talk through discord while doing so, I wish I had… | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/10/24 07:21 PM |
| 2 | Could women unconsciously sabotage other women's relationships as a form of mate competition?Ok I tend to give more "you go girl" advice, I am in a happy relationship though but I can see my friend feeling powerless in a situation, not completely but somewhat, hence her complaining. So I will side with her on whatever just to make her feel better. That's usually all it's about anyways, I think those women know the actual truth anyways. | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/06/24 10:06 PM |
| 7 | Wanting less competition for elite or high status jobs is what really behind the sudden tradwife push in some manosphere spacesI agree but I also think that chores, domestic duties, childcare are thankless jobs that are not valued at all by society. Society values professional accomplishment and capital output. Men unsurprisingly want someone else to handle that stuff while they get to do the other stuff. I think it can be a worthwhile tradeoff if the man has enough money but I think many men who don't are resentful of the power dynamic imbalance and of the restraints to their mission involved with having to be part of … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/05/24 03:52 AM |
| 8 | How do you find a man to pay for you?So if you want a man that will do that you will have to first vet and second work for it. I don't think you will find a man who will fall out of the sky wanting to provide for you right out the bat unless you do sugar dating, and I don't think sugar dating will lead to anything long term unless you get really lucky. Most women that bag these men have jobs where they can provide for themselves at least somewhat. You see lawyer-lawyer pairings but you also see lawyer-hot secretary pairings. Those … | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/12/23 07:01 PM |
| – | CMV: women who get offended by toilet humour are not wife materialI'm also a woman and I have different boundaries with my bf and my coworkers. This humor is fine with my bf but never with a coworker. Consider men often try to push boundaries to see what they can get away with. Unless it's been years. But truly toilet humor is not for work. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/12/23 07:26 AM |
| 1 | If the man doesn't like the woman more the relationship will never work out. Youtubers and red pill men need to stop telling women to pursue men. Men hate to be pursued and feel uncomfortable with a woman thirsting after himInteresting. As a woman, things have never worked out with men I've pursued. Why? They were not commitment minded yet, they were not in the space for a relationship, they were going through a transition period basically. I don't think single men would turn down most female attention. Whenever I have been pursued it always worked out and the men came from a place of confidence where they could provide etc. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/12/23 07:20 AM |
| 1 | If the man doesn't like the woman more the relationship will never work out. Youtubers and red pill men need to stop telling women to pursue men. Men hate to be pursued and feel uncomfortable with a woman thirsting after himInteresting. As a woman, things have never worked out with men I've pursued. Why? They were not commitment minded yet, they were not in the space for a relationship, they were going through a transition period basically. I don't think single men would turn down most female attention. Whenever I have been pursued it always worked out and the men came from a place of confidence where they could provide etc. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/12/23 07:19 AM |
| 2 | At what age are women overlooked on dating apps?It's not just about being overlooked, if you are 21 there are just more single 21 year old men, at 25, there are less single men, and at 29 there are lesser still. A lot of late 20-ish early-30 men have long-term partners. I think it's just that, you take out the staggering amount of young men who are on dating apps and you're left with much less. Also 28 is still young. Also maybe you are presenting yourself differently than you were, if you present yourself as sexually suggestive, you will get… | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/11/23 06:23 PM |
| 2 | Is a man talking about men’s nature (polygamy, need for sex) a red flag?I think they want to meet a woman who agrees with that notion and allows an open relationship or a FWB situation, it's a filter, when you appear appalled by it (as you should), they then backtrack. I don't know if it's a red flag, but a gentleman wouldn't talk about this during a date. That "no" is a blatant lie though lol. | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/11/23 03:22 PM |
| 4 | I’m a formerly poor woman who married into extreme wealth. AMA!Hello :) I have some questions. I have a hvm bf as well. Its crazy how different people behave around him vs. a regular guy, especially women. How do you deal with other women? I know the answer is ignore them and trust him but I feel this does affect my mental health anyways. Women are constantly trying to appeal to him even if they know he is taken, and I was taken aback by this one girl who had a friendship of convenience with him, and was rude to me, I realized she liked him. He doesn't do a… | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/10/23 12:13 PM |
| -1 | My boyfriend says he wants varietyOh god. He is not thinking straight. If you really put your mind to it you can also invent that you are unhappy because he does not provide to the level that you are satisfied with, and women crave security. I'd look into if he is thinking about anybody in particular. It's possible he feels too comfortable in the relationship, that's when men start acting this way. But he might also just not be worth it. Generally it's a sign of a bad partner, one who acts this way when he gets too comfortable. … | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/10/23 03:05 PM |
| 4 | Moving in before marriage … Is it worth the risk for women??!I think this is a drastic case, like someone said if you have savings and a good credit score you will not be in this situation. That being said I think it is best to wait. I didn't because I had anxiety and a pretty bad living situation with my parents, and I do think I did what is best for me, but if you live with a man before marriage it kind of lowers his drive to propose to you because you are living as if you are already married. Most couples that I know who got married quickly, the girl b… | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/09/23 07:41 PM |
| 6 | My realization about male and female friendships.I agree with this to an extent because generally a person will be better off investing energy in a same-sex friendship because opposite-sex friendship often has limits and an expiry date. Often there is mind fuckery from one part towards the other too. I've had a prior boyfriend who was friends with this model. She basically rejected his shy advances and he kept himself in orbit and maybe he convinced himself he sees her as a friend but I could still sniff it out and it was unpleasant. In my exp… | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/08/23 05:39 PM |
| 5 | Fear of agingI think this falls into the general fear of the unknown. Like you see yourself as you but as some undesirable old hag everyone runs screaming from. As you get older you realize being attractive to all men alive is not everything, your friendships deepen, your confidence grows, you gain more 'mastery' over the world, your hobbies. I remember freaking out as well, but when I look around now most men settled with women that are ~1-2 years apart from them. If you're 22/23 you are not expected to rea… | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/08/23 06:44 PM |
| 2 | I want to get skinny to make our relationship better—help.I am struggling with this too, I was 5'1 and 150 pounds. Down to 135 now, after a lot of failed attempts (that mostly involved ignoring nutrition, "intuitive eating", or trying to starve myself in the morning only to binge eat at night)here is what worked: Saturday morning I log/plan approximately what I will eat into myfitness pal, I do some repetition so that it's easy and use the quick calorie option. I plan breakfast (alternate between eggs & toast and oatmeal), I will have a ~400 calorie gr… | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/08/23 05:36 PM |
| 7 | My ex-boyfriend says things will not be the sameAbusive people follow abusive cycles, they abuse, reconcile, abuse, reconcile. Even if he wants to it's unlikely that he will, and it's a waste of your energy to stand there. I felt like I would never get over my first love until I started filling my life with friendships and experiences that made me happy, and eventually that put me in a place where I would NEVER accept that kind of behavior from anybody ever again. | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/08/23 08:42 PM |
| 4 | "Pre wall" rushWill definitely read that. I mean I think this is dramatized a bit. In my friend circles, or any I see, there are no men in their 30s dating 20 year olds. I'd say they are matched in terms of education, job titles, even hobby success, and appearance somewhat. This is why I don't think women are wasting their time pursuing these things, if they succeed with some time to spare, they will likely land better mates than they otherwise would. But yes if men want families at a certain point they likely… | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/08/23 05:57 PM |
| 4 | "Pre wall" rushI think it has to do more with being the age at which women want to settle down at. Because then if women do not have a life partner, they have to go out and get one rather than wait to be approached. | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/08/23 05:38 PM |
| 2 | "Pre wall" rushI agree! From what I have seen is that when women approaching 30 identify a potential husband, or someone who they think would make a good husband, they tend to be a lot more tenacious with that specific person, whereas with men they will cast a wide net and move onto the next if they don't get a positive reaction pretty quickly. But maybe that's just my experience. | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/08/23 05:37 PM |
| 4 | "Pre wall" rushOh wow. I am not sure I would be able to keep my composure if something like that happened (the boudoir pictures and yoga). This is like something out of a sitcom. I went through the quieter way of circling back, like she would try to start conversations with him, posting thirst traps of things that he very specifically likes. But thank you for sharing, it's validating :) | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/08/23 05:35 PM |
| 4 | "Pre wall" rushInteresting, I would think it would be very flattering/validating. Like you make up for lost attention? But I feel that there would be an element of resentment somehow. | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/08/23 05:24 PM |
| 1 | "Pre wall" rushThank you for sharing, and yes I agree! | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/08/23 05:22 PM |
| 3 | Friction in relationship admidst job changeWell if I spend all day solving problems at work, I have less energy to solve household problems like what do we eat? How do we distribute the cleaning? Etc. | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/06/23 01:50 AM |
| 11 | Being a woman vs being a girlI think it has to do with a lifestyle shift. Personality is often a vehicle for self-advancement, consciously or not. If you are in school and dependent on others, living at home, need your parents to approve of you to get by pleasantly, then yes you will behave like a girl. At least this was my case. When I started to feel it shift was when I felt how pleasant it was to control my own life, and I don't mean being overbearingly dominant but just being able to run my own errands in a car, going t… | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/03/23 09:46 PM |
| 1 | losing weight without spiralingI am sorry you are going through this, I relate. In the pandemic I gained a ton of weight and my metabolism became horrible. I've been yo-yoing ever since. This is stressful, I try to cultivate a mindset where yes, I would like to lose weight, but I am exercising because I care for my body, and for the mental clarity I get from it. You also cannot starve yourself or skip meals, it doesn't work and induces binging, it's much better to plan and eat healthy meals. Really you need to set aside time … | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/02/23 06:20 AM |
| 2 | Am I dating out of my league?It also depends on the vibe that you are putting out. You know those videos where they ask women "How much money does a man have to make to date you?" and you have perfect 10's saying some crazy answer like 1 million and they get roasted and called 2's in the comments. That attitude is unattractive. That kind of attitude will put men off. It's really hard to base SMV off of bullet points because some people are also extremely annoying in person while seemingly perfect on paper. But keep on doing… | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/02/23 06:13 AM |
| 2 | Should I give up on marriage if I am an ugly woman?Look around, there are women less attractive than you who are happily married and who have entire families. You have to vet for men who want that and who show you they want that with you. Many very attractive women deal with cheaters as well if that's any consolation. | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/02/23 09:45 PM |
| 4 | How to avoid resentment?I agree with the posts that tell you to talk to him. Your feelings are valid with this, it's a massive life transition. You were the center of your own world, and now you have this baby that is. If you just repress how you feel and try to pretend all is well it'll all come out later because the feelings are still there, this kind of happened to me before, you are a human being and you need connection, and activities that replenish you. Maybe talk to him about finding a fitness class, or giving y… | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/01/23 07:13 PM |
| 1 | Can the romance come back?Are you guys official? I think that is the first step. You can have a talk with him about this and the things you are working on. You have to think for a while about what you want to say. I also came from a similar household, and I do get it. I am also in therapy and it's hard to change, you are healing transgenerational trauma and this is hard work. You can also start with gaging his interest in doing things outside of the apartment with you, or plan a date/mention something you'd like to do wi… | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/01/23 05:40 AM |
| 1 | Seeking advice or words of encouragementI don't get clubs either, whenever I go there is always someone walking around touching everyone's butt. Dudes travelling looking to get laid. At least one creepy approach. Having your sleep schedule messed up. I hate it. I don't blame you. It would be nice if you could go out with your friends in other settings. If you have 5 step kids that's a lot and you an always say that you can't go out that late and maybe suggest something during a weekend day? | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/01/23 05:18 AM |
| 1 | How to navigate dating as an average woman?Many objectively below average people successfully date. I don't think it's fair to use that metric though, there is so much more than looks that go into a relationship. There are also a ton of objectively beautiful women who get cheated on, abused, mistreated. It's also not just them vetting you, when you approach dating like this you are likely to accept subpar behavior that will cause you a lot of misery in the long run. You are also vetting them and they have to pass the test, you deserve a … | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/12/22 03:41 PM |
| 1 | What do you like to wear for just lounging around the house?I bought some "silk" robes off of amazon, they have longer ones too, but I usually wear something under, like leggings and a t-shirt because it's winter now. I was watching inventing Anna on netflix and noticed it looks comfortable and classy when she lounges in that kind of attire when she is alone with her boyfriend. I unfortunately usually default to leggings and a t-shirt though. | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/12/22 03:17 PM |
| 7 | Where did this idea that younger women make better partners come from?A large part of reddit are angry young dudes venting. There are also those with hurt egos who would love to show up to wherever with a young girl on their arm to make their compatriots seethe. IRL it really doesn't matter that much. It does matter to some people, but not enough to completely damn older women's dating lives. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/12/22 04:18 AM |
| 2 | Any advice for a single introvert turning 30F next year?Really it's not the death sentence the internet over dramatically makes it out to be. You have a job, you have more experience and abilities to set boundaries that will keep you at peace with yourself, resources to invest in yourself to chase the life of your dreams, focus on self improvement but please don't forget to do things that make you happy as well. | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/10/22 09:41 PM |
| 1 | what's wrong with meYou can change this. You can only accept people into your life who meet certain standards. It's difficult because often in requires cutting people out of your life and spending time without a social group which could be scary, I'm going through this, social experiences provide you with dopamine and serotonin that keep you happy. You have to start going to the gym instead, possibly paying for activities that make you happy, I go to a coffee shop and read daily. If you are young and in school ther… | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/09/22 06:02 AM |
| 8 | Dating…You don't have to feel guilty for not being attracted to someone. By going further, you are repressing your feelings that you will have to deal with sooner or later. Attention is nice but if you feel disgusted by him then don't lead him on. It's better to rip the band-aid off sooner than later for him. Also you don't really know him yet, just because somebody is kind upfront does not really say anything about their character. There is also a difference between being not attracted to someone and … | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/09/22 05:43 PM |
| 2 | Boyfriend doesn’t pay for datesHonestly nowadays some things about gender lines are not as clear cut. In my relationship that I consider pretty RP, the pay split is like 60/40 or even 70/30 with him paying the majority and our chores have that split with myself doing the majority. But if he is in college it's also different. I agree with the other posters that as long as you feel that he is putting an effort you should be ok. If he is just coolly splitting things 50/50 then yes you should ask yourself if he sees a future with… | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/09/22 01:51 PM |
| 12 | I still wasn't enoughI would say you dodged a bullet. Anybody can be nice when things are easy and convenient for them. Anybody. The true character of a person comes out when there are inconveniences to be dealt with, how do they react? And he clearly failed. Now you know. You deserve better. Like I bet he wouldn't be able to deal with what happens when a woman is pregnant or when misfortune happens. You deserve a true partnership. | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/08/22 01:44 AM |
| 2 | Boyfriend of 2 years told me that he doesn’t see himself with me long term… not sure where to move from hereHe is young, young guys often feel this way. Many times they feel they have not yet attained the financial success or experiences they want to have before settling down, but it's nothing you did. However you are wasting your energy and time on him now while you should be focusing on yourself. You're only 23, it's so young, if anything I agree that it's disrespectful towards yourself to stay with someone who is figuring things out, it's not your job to coddle him while he takes you for granted. M… | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/08/22 01:51 AM |
| 12 | Other women as competitionA lot of this is covert af and there is no way to stop it because there will always be competition for HVM, that is really what's at the core of it. It's easy to nurture women who you do not view as competition for your mate. I started dating a great guy last year, and it's particularly brutal because we are all close to 30 and this is where women want to lock down a lifetime partner. | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/08/22 07:13 PM |
| 2 | On a break with my man and in painI agree with the other posters, I don't think he is using you for sex but like he kind of is trying to set this situation up so that he can see what else is out there while having you as a backup, it's not fair to you and you don't deserve this, it's shitty, and it's not your responsibility to enable this shitty behavior because you are not getting what you deserve out of it. As an example I used to be a bad friend, I was going through some personal things but it was still not an excuse, it took… | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/08/22 05:02 PM |
| 15 | On a break with my man and in painI am also sorry that you are in this situation. This seems like the type of guy who will claw at you when you are out of his reach, but push you away when you are firmly within his grasp. Actions speak louder than words, I noticed this with friendships, it's so easy to say "let's hang out every week" but then actually sticking to that with actual does not pan out much. That's why action is more important, saying things is easy, if he even remotely likes you he will likely tell you what he wants … | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/08/22 05:24 PM |
| 1 | How do we not waste our life by working?Ah that makes much more sense as to why he would prioritize saving money so much, no safety net and a rough childhood. I'm glad he isn't selfish! It's very kind of you to take on the other tasks so that he can relax! I think I am also introverted (maybe I'm not really, who knows) but when you isolate for long periods of time, your brain gets low on serotonin and dopamine, activities where you share experiences with others give you a large amount of those, I always feel it after the event/activit… | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/07/22 02:17 AM |
| 5 | How do we not waste our life by working?If he's in engineering then once he clears entry-level he will be able to make more decisions regarding freedom and work-life balance. If you work from home (I do too) you are missing things your husband is not (socializing), when I do not go out for a long time, I feel horrible. It's important for you to find friendships or activities to join. It's life changing, I found a gym to go to during the day or after work. It's very important. If you are planning for a baby he is probably stressed and … | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/07/22 04:50 PM |
| 1 | I can admit im scared of my beauty fading awayI don't mean let yourself go after that at all, I'm just saying women get peace of mind after marriage and having kids. Our biological purpose is to reproduce with a mate that we deem suitable and who will stick around to protect our children, we are nervous until then. Marriage helps with that, once I get married, I will breathe out one of the deepest sighs of relief. Other things are obviously important too, it's not the end-all-be-all. But it's just helpful to the psyche and to the knowledge … | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/07/22 09:48 PM |
| 5 | I can admit im scared of my beauty fading awayI don't think I communicated my perspective clearly, I'm not suggesting weaponizing marriage, that would be really toxic. The fact is that having marriage and that kind of lifetime commitment does provide peace of mind. Building a bond is irreplaceable but it feels like an audition until marriage in my opinion. I mean it's not a trap, it's a fair exchange. Also about dread, I mean it's also healthier for women to have interesting and fulfilling lives with hobbies and friendships but it also so h… | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/07/22 03:52 AM |
| 1 | I feel like such a failure as a 30 year old single womanA lot of what you said is not true. A lot of men come to vent on reddit because they feel disempowered in their life. If you look outside you will see people usually end up with others around their age. People do have basic filters when it comes to attraction and certain socioeconomic things maybe, though really it's nothing that stringent for women. After that it's mostly about having a connection and vetting. At 30 you also won't fall for the same things that younger women might if you know wh… | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/06/22 10:32 PM |
| 2 | Feeling like boyfriend isn't serious about meAfter I told him that the good people of reddit think he is keeping his options open and embarrassed of me he changed his Facebook profile photo to me and him. So thank you! | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/05/22 02:19 PM |
| 2 | Feeling like boyfriend isn't serious about meAfter I told him that the good people of reddit think he is keeping his options open and embarrassed of me open he changed his Facebook profile photo to me and him. Thank you! | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/05/22 02:17 PM |
| 2 | Feeling like boyfriend isn't serious about meYes that's me sorry when I use the app and the browser it looks like I'm on a different account 😅 | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/05/22 12:37 PM |
| 1 | Feel like I messed up in lifeYou did not mess up, you will forever have access to men who make a good living to date and who will see you as a good prospect. Becoming a SAHM is great, the few who get that luxury are really lucky, but it sometimes ends with the younger women being screwed out of a backup plan. Maybe you and that traditional guy would not have been compatible and you would not be better off without something to fall back on. I just think that the things that men and women find attractive are different in the … | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/04/22 01:00 AM |
| 2 | being fat makes me hate taking care of myself or being social, what can i do to improve?I've been there, I gained 40 pounds during the pandemic. Like I understand how much it sucks. The thing is you should love and appreciate your body for everything it does for you and see how you can incorporate healthy habits in a way that works for you without it being about pressure to lose weight. I mean obviously that is the end goal but I just mean you have to enjoy it for it to be sustainable and you will find something if you look. Be kind to yourself during this whole process. Whenever y… | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/03/22 03:25 AM |
| 1 | Is being in the medical field an obstacle to a healthy love life ?Right but it's a step and increases the probabilities. Being an attractive doctor will always be better than being an attractive cashier. | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/02/22 05:38 PM |
| 17 | Is being in the medical field an obstacle to a healthy love life ?Keep going. Once you graduate and get experience and become a doctor you will always have options. You'll have options for partial employment if you so choose, you'll have the safety net of money, your status as a doctor will allow you to date high quality men and your financial safety net will allow you control over your own life. Even having money for daycare or nannies will give you more freedom. You will probably meet men in your field as you work too who are also doctors and will see you as… | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/02/22 02:20 PM |
| 3 | Is having no social media presence a handicap in dating?Yeah I mean personally I would have concerns with no social media too, like maybe it is neurotic but sometimes someone without social media is hiding something like a spouse, a girlfriend, a real social media profile where those people are posted. This is also just my baggage but I've dated someone without social media once and they were someone who couldn't hold a friend group due to being toxic, and someone else was just talking to a ton of girls at once which would have been obvious if they h… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/02/22 11:13 AM |
| 1 | Would you date, marry or even consider a relationship with a single father?If I were single I would never say never. It would be more work but you can't really control who you fall in love with. One thing that is bullshit is when some guy is looking for a girlfriend who is actually a free babysitter. It also complicates things because the child's mother will always be in the picture, I feel like that's a common insecurity for dating anybody with a child. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/02/22 07:44 PM |
| 1 | [CMV]Women who don't have LOOKS are low valueWhat I actually see is people who are usually looksmatched and statusmatched dating each other. Like I've seen some high earning MBA friends have flings with really hot women who have a lower socioeconomic status than them, but they always end up marrying a status-matched uglier girl. And by uglier I mean equal in appearance to them. I think in conservative cultures this does not happen but those do not treat women very well. Models and celebrities don't really reflect the norm because they are … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/02/22 07:26 PM |
| 3 | Hot take: Fat Acceptance = Less CompetitionYeah I think that's why men are generally less accepting of fat women than women are, their choices go down while for women it doesn't really interfere with anything. But I also think that you know, fat women know they are fat, they know that it makes them less attractive. The dating market is brutal enough, the rest of society doesn't have to be. They absolutely get hurt in online dating if they go too far out of their league. | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/02/22 03:19 AM |
| 2 | How to be a better girlfriend and stop causing my boyfriend pain?I have a tendency to go into panic attacks as well. You have to build a support system or other activities to get the load off of him and get therapy. You have to work through this and I would even suggest SSRIs if you cannot function day-to-day while you work on your issues and then get off of them. It's dangerous for you to have this kind of dependence as well so you should put work towards avoiding it. I personally got into therapy so that I didn't offload all of my emotional energy onto him,… | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/02/22 03:14 AM |
| 16 | Dunking on Legal Age-Gap Relationships is not the Flex You Think it isMaybe we have just different anecdotal experiences but I remember girls in high school dating older men who were not as attractive as them, but they were impressed by the fact that they had cars, were in college, etc. So it bought these guys that grace but it's easy to manipulate people who are impressed by you into doing things against their interest. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/01/22 09:32 PM |
| 1 | Don't know what to do anymore. I need help!>Whenever I tell him to lead and make the choices around the household, he gives up and agrees only to then defer the choices and decisions to me if I were available and had an input on it, and he's not usually like that around others. You get tired of making choices and decisions all day, it's necessary around other people sometimes but at home it's nice to not have to do that will everything. If you want him to do that then you have to do your part in lifting other burdens off of his shoulders… | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/12/21 07:34 AM |
| 1 | Should I “stay in touch?”It is easier for him to have you, someone he has already built intimacy with and invested time in, to take care of his emotional and he surely hopes physical needs than find someone else or be alone for the remainder of his time here, but this neglects your emotional needs completely. Which is unfair and selfish. Protect yourself emotionally by seeing that engaging with him is getting in the way of your healing and being open to finding what is right for you. | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/12/21 07:25 AM |
| 5 | Not being a “normal” girlIt's really easy to tell people that the male attention you get from partying is cheap and not worth it, it's like telling people not to give into that impulse purchase and save for a higher future return, but it's hard to resist. I mean also the guys at that age are not ready to settle down, but some are, and you have the luxury of time to be picky. This doesn't mean you can't ever have fun, but find groups that align more closely with what you want to do, like for example Christian groups usua… | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/12/21 07:21 AM |
| 2 | I (18 F) am secretly jealous of my friendCooking, cleaning, and getting a toned body are things can can be learned any time. The last one is a bit harder but it's just time and effort. At 18 you should really be concerned with the things that are more difficult, things that take time and opportunities that you will not have as freely available to you when you get older and have more responsibilities. Things like education, healthy friends who will allow you to safely experience life, a good foundation for a job, interests and hobbies t… | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/12/21 07:48 PM |
| 3 | Self-Improvement Needed… in multiple areasOh wow I'm flattered :D Well that was definitely my best find in terms of quick fixes but I also have some extra weight I am trying to work on and items from amazon that I have bought and loved are:- these black tights, if you bought those clips I'll assume you're also from the north, they're not too thick but enough not to tear and really warm, they allow me to wear my sundresses and other dresses in the winter around the house or at work without it being inappropriate and without them being as… | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/11/21 01:38 AM |
| 2 | Self-Improvement Needed… in multiple areasFor 3, I've been gradually improving my appearance with amazon prime lol, you don't have to leave the house at all and can have things shipped to you. Recently I got these cute hair claw clips that I can just throw on and it makes me look classier in 3 seconds. | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/11/21 05:58 PM |
| 1 | What's wrong with the age gap really? Older, successful women can not get the men they want, because men chose younger women, and don't care about their success.It's just the power dynamic. Yes, it could be fine, but overwhelmingly, an older guy who can get with younger women who don't have much to offer in terms of lifestyle get boring to them and those women end up hurt while those men run through a bunch of them before settling for someone who matches them in lifestyle. Also I find a lot of men who have this fantasy, the entire thing drips with resentment and wanting to stick it to older women. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/11/21 05:46 PM |
| 2 | If he never comes to you with his problems, how can you still be a soft place to land?A lot of things that stress men out after they had a long day at work for example is having to handle more things instead of relaxing, so if you do some of those things for him and allow him to relax, that helps immensely. It also leads him to want to reciprocate for you. It creates a soft mental space for him to land into, a lot of people get riled up rehashing issues they have had and only want to relax. The thing about complaining also is if you complain a lot, it drains the other person, a l… | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/11/21 05:40 PM |
| 3 | They lied to me.Once you have kids and marriage to a great husband I think you have it made. I think women generally have to climb the SES and corporate ladders to land a mate that is pleasing to them, and then to keep them wanting to invest their lifetime into them as the mother of their child. It's also a great backup because you never know. You should really be proud, you set your life up in such a way. But I agree with you completely. I think a lot of stories in Hollywood, or just popular modern myths of hi… | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/11/21 05:33 PM |
| 3 | How do you avoid getting nasty feelings when you see other women being rewarded for doing so little?Honestly you never know the motivations behind peoples actions. Maybe that guy got cheated on in a prior relationship and is making an overt public display of how great he is treating his current wife. Maybe he cheated on her and she is giving him ultimatums on what conditions need to be met to stay together. Maybe he got rejected and is bitterly showing other girls what they could have had. It's very strange when someone gives something to another person and they make a big overt display of it … | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/10/21 10:05 PM |
| 5 | How to fix relationship after halfway nuking it with jealousyYeah I mean it just bothers me that he asked to be tagged in my stories a few times, but hasn't done it to me yet, but I'm sure he will, and he also got upset when I wanted to update my profile pic without him in it, but when I asked him if he wants to put me in his picture too he said he doesn't want to change it. | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/10/21 07:57 PM |
| 1 | How to fix relationship after halfway nuking it with jealousyThat makes sense but for me it's more that he really wants me to put pictures of us on my fb and ig profile picture but he is unwilling to do the same. | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/10/21 07:56 PM |
| 6 | How to fix relationship after halfway nuking it with jealousyYeah you are absolutely right. I really needed to hear this, thank you for your thoughtful reply. | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/10/21 03:13 PM |
| 11 | How to fix relationship after halfway nuking it with jealousyYeah I admit that makes me sound as stable as a mountain goat on acid. It's just bottled up feelings that I've been harboring for a year. But I agree, thanks for your feedback. | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/10/21 03:11 PM |
| 2 | How to fix relationship after halfway nuking it with jealousyYeah you're right, I can't control these things or brute force things into happening. Thanks for your feedback. It just annoys me that this other girl is toiling in the dark to take him and won't stop but I can't control that. | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/10/21 02:53 PM |
| 5 | How to fix relationship after halfway nuking it with jealousyHe is perfectly trustworthy and he has never done a single thing to make me doubt him, even when I snooped I didn't find anything. He is a good guy, it just bothers me the amount of effort this other girl is putting into this. I guess I do need to get a handle on my insecurities. Thanks for your feedback. | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/10/21 02:52 PM |
| 3 | How do I stay slim in this household? Has anyone had problems with compulsive eating?I struggled with this too, I bought a cookbook called "healthy cooking for two" by Rockridge Press on amazon and I have been using it religiously. The soups are pretty easy, they have some quick breakfast/sides/deserts ideas. It estimates calories for you so that you don't have to count. You can get a $20 blender from walmart that makes single-serving blender portions for healthy breakfasts, snacks, it's just milk + frozen fruit + spinach with some added mixins, so easy. Carving out one hour a d… | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/10/21 11:09 PM |
| 4 | Are older men (late 20’s - 30ish) really at their peak value? I feel like many have emotional baggage from ex(es) and won’t really fall in love with me (asking as early 20’s)?There is definitely more to deal with in that sense, but men are high value in that age-range because that is when women are clamoring for a life mate and looking to settle down. In terms of supply and demand, men are much more in demand because women want to execute their life purpose of having babies and have a limited amount of time, and that's when that clock starts ticking. Love is always a risk. Even if you are someone's first love, they can always dump you because they want to 'find thems… | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/10/21 10:06 PM |
| 2 | Did I do a right thing?If someone is comfortable cheating, which is essentially choosing their own gratification over commitment and bonds with other people, then they are not trustworthy as friends. Especially if they don't feel bad. Everybody makes mistakes though, but I would also do the same thing unless she clearly felt terrible and was taking steps to become a better person. | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/09/21 02:14 PM |
| 25 | "Why the f--- am I single bro?" Thoughts on Crystal Lizaola's viral Tik Tok videoAttractive women are a dime a dozen too. Most high SMV men I know date women who are more than just attractive. Men are also allergic to entitlement unless the SMV difference is astronomical and in that case the woman has no respect for the man and it's a disaster anyways. | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/09/21 09:56 PM |
| 11 | Maybe I don't deserve a high-quality man after allDon't let your mother get to your head. When I started dating my boyfriend, my father also put doubts in my head about me not being adequate enough for him. I live with him now and we are happy together. I am in a pretty similar situation to you actually and it does make me anxious that he will find some younger, richer, prettier, more successful version of me but a lot of men like being needed. Being around him also makes me want to improve myself so that's a big plus. In any case be cautious a… | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/09/21 10:41 AM |
| -1 | When a Tall/Rich/Highly Educated Woman says: "Men don't like to date us" that means, Men who are: "taller than them, richer than them, more educationally qualified than them". They don't see Men who are lesser qualified than them anywhere near.You know I've always (until now, I got very lucky with my current partner) dated below my league as a woman who is kind of educated/has an okay job etc and the main problem I encountered is how insecure it made the men in my life. I don't like brag about it or anything, but every time every single dude I dated who didn't have as much going for them tried to take credit for my work to brag to people about when it made no sense for them to do so, got insecure when I was working, like I used to thi… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/09/21 09:13 PM |
| 1 | Should I be ashamed of losing weight and looking nicer if it isn’t for myself?Absolutely fucking not. Do not be ashamed, you are working to improve yourself and that is commendable. If women disappeared men would not be hyper-competitive over jobs and status either. Physical appearance is also one of the most important things for men. I think there is a lot of hamstering around this topic, like yes, you are doing it to feel good in your own skin, you should love yourself as you are first and foremost and fully accept yourself having a healthy relationship with yourself is… | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/08/21 03:09 PM |
| 6 | Need advice! How to stop wanting attention and validation from men?Male validation is cheap. You can degrade yourself and get a ton of male validation to your detriment, you need to find 'sustainable' sources of validation. Being a put together person, having interesting hobbies you can show off, etc, these increase your RMV and will also give you the good kind of validation. I don't think validation is bad if it's done right. | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/08/21 01:29 PM |
| 2 | How to help a partner with work burnout?I agree with the other comment! In a couple we all take on each others emotional weight, we vent to each other, and you have to relieve him of that stress if he is getting enough of it at work by taking care of yourself. You can also solve some of his "problems" for example, what to eat, some errands he has to run, anything outside the scope of his work that you can take care of and that will give him some time to relax basically because these things pile on. | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/08/21 01:28 PM |
| 1 | Is she still a hater? Advice on friendship.Yeah that's what I thought most normal people don't flaunt that kind of stuff. | /r/askFDS | 09/08/21 12:21 PM |
| 5 | My bf went camping with another woman.This is very weird. Especially because he had a crush on her. My life has been infinitely better when I stopped dating men who did this, kept 'tabs' and a line of conversation open with women they crushed on. I had this ex who got rejected by this girl but she would still keep him as her emotional tampon who she spoke to daily and said good morning to, and he was stupid enough to entertain it. It made him look like an idiot too. Yeah like some women just like the attention even if they don't lik… | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/08/21 02:29 PM |
| 7 | Is she still a hater? Advice on friendship.She's using you as an emotional dumping ground for her insecurities. Belittling you as an emotional crutch basically. People like this will drain you and then blame you for it. The only like 'justification' would be if you were flaunting your wealth, beauty, and possessions in her face and making the difference between you apparent and this would be her way of getting back at you, like there definitely are people like that but it's rare in which case you should introspect on why you feel the nee… | /r/askFDS | 08/08/21 02:25 PM |
| 1 | We are living in a sexual dystopiaYeah Trump with his personality would definitely struggle if he was middle class. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/08/21 02:20 PM |
| 1 | We are living in a sexual dystopiaI mean a lot of these OF girls also chose to do this work due to economic desperation, so you can see them as the victims too instead of the dudes who willingly fork over money from their excess. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/08/21 01:13 PM |
| 1 | We are living in a sexual dystopiaI disagree, these are men women want to start families with. Unless they are intolerable and narcissistic and can only attract women who put up with them for their wealth and hate them. Ie Trump and Melania. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/08/21 01:10 PM |
| 1 | We are living in a sexual dystopiaBoth parties partake in this though, you cannot just blame one side for it. One side would not exist without the other. It's like how men (or society) demonize the women who sleep around but glorify the men who do because they wish to become them one day. If you do not like a behaviour, you should not make exceptions for it. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/08/21 01:08 PM |
| 21 | We are living in a sexual dystopiaI mean men and women still overall end up with who they would end up with before online dating, most couples usually make sense. The 18 year old who sets up an OF, gets shipped to a porn studio, or milks a sugar daddy is making a choice to live a higher class lifestyle/have access to people above herself in social standing for friendships and relationships in exchange for occupying the whore box rather than the madonna box. This choice always existed. She would have married a man similar to her … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/08/21 05:03 PM |
| 6 | Question about “the wall”My ex's mom, at 60, married a guy who owns a company and is very wealthy. My own mother who is in her 50's got hit on by a doctor until she told him the man passed out there on the gurney was her husband (my father), he was fine he was just getting something routine done but still. Don't listen to that. I mean yes don't put off looking for someone but in the worst case scenarios women are still fine. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/08/21 02:20 PM |
| 4 | EmpathyYou shouldn't justify violence. Men and women use each other differently. Yes, men will be ignored, but women will be led on, used, and discarded. I would prefer to be ignored, and women do not get violent in light of this. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/08/21 10:00 AM |
| 31 | Getting hit on by gross old men is so bewildering to me. Do they really think I'd ever f*ck them?It's entitlement. They feel entitled to see themselves as men who are desirable by a woman like you. Reality is just an afterthought. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/08/21 04:20 AM |
| 1 | I feel that my parents destroyed a lot of my valueFirst of all you have to find ways to get out of that environment, if that is not possible minimize contact with your abusers and try your best to fill your life with people who cheer you on and inspire you, this has by far made the biggest difference in my life. I saw clearly how I am supposed to be treated, and how the things I was told were mostly lies. If you have other sources of social support you will not feel the need to engage with people who drag you down, there may be a bit of a power… | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/07/21 02:39 PM |
| 1 | I can’t wrap my head around why I should have to clean for a man (not feminism)I think it's more about an equitable division of labour. For example my bf drives more, and hosts me, and prefers to pay for things, these are ways he contributes that make him feel good. In return I make him food, help him with cleaning, and contribute in other small ways. It strengthens our relationship and makes both sides feel appreciated and not taken advantage of. When his car broke down I did most of the driving and I did less cooking and cleaning because I had less time for it and it was… | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/07/21 02:30 PM |
| 8 | Being in a good relationship has made me realize how women are being gaslit on a mass scale to ask for less1000x this. I am in a relationship now where my boyfriend takes my feelings into account. Before I was in one with someone who called me "controlling" for not wanting him to hang out with or message a girl who was very clearly flirting with him despite knowing about me. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/07/21 03:41 PM |
| 2 | Social media?I think social media is mentally unhealthy at that age unless it's used to communicate with friends. But I agree it's hard to plan group activities and such without it, maybe you can make like a temporary account for that without any pictures or something if need be. At 17 focusing on social media is just such a waste of time, we didn't have that and I think it made me better off not having to worry about it. Letting only emotionally healthy people talk to you without distractions is actually re… | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/07/21 11:36 AM |
| 1 | Social mediaThanks for your take, yeah I definitely see men react negatively to someone who is pretty but posts selfie after selfie a few times a week just for likes. In my opinion it's a sign of low intelligence too. But I've also seen women who post interesting outdoor pictures which is actually kinda smart strategy wise? Because they can show off being pretty and having a nice body without looking like they're taking bathroom selfies. Same with playing music or showing off any kind of hobby that they are… | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/07/21 11:22 AM |
| 2 | Social mediaDid he dump her due to ig or something else? Yeah I totally agree that being obsessed with it is not good. It's weird because it's so easy to fall into that, the validation feels so good and it's so easy to get competitive and see it as a game. I think it can be used wisely as long as it doesn't become an obsession/preoccupation. Thanks for the feedback! | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/07/21 09:36 PM |
| 2 | Social mediaWell I found my boyfriend on there and he is pretty active so I am biased due to that. I would say it makes people more interested in you if you have a social media presence for the simple fact that they are aware of you in the first place. Most people you once knew kind of disappear. Then secondly if you post authentic things it can create connections with people that would otherwise not exist, like shared hobbies, interests, sense of humour etc. Online dating does that but it's always better t… | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/07/21 09:28 PM |
| 0 | The rise of sexlessness among men is NOT NORMAL, the reasons given for that is major coping by men and female gaslighting to hide the real reason. Women are not having less sex they are just having fewer sexual partners.What is better for a woman, getting married at 19 to whoever she can get? Or holding off marriage, getting an education, some kind of respectable job, and then looking for a mate that matches her? Most ethnic families where fathers forbid the girl from dating until she graduated and found a suitable job do so for this exact reason. Women also want relationships, not sex, so you are judging women based on what you want, not what they do. Those women can similarly accuse a small portion of the wom… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/07/21 02:50 PM |
| 6 | Social mediaYeah that's a bit excessive. I mean that's like getting cheap validation after showing some skin, in the end it amounts to nothing. I think social media can be used the "right way" too if you want to connect with someone or remain relevant in their minds maybe. Or if you have some kind of artistic interests, you can definitely show yourself off in a flattering light if it's not an obsession. But I agree it's weird when people live for instagram, when they do things because they want to post pict… | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/07/21 02:21 PM |
| 1 | Social mediaI agree it is narcissistic, it's like a game, and it is weird. I completely understand and respect your decision, in fact it's probably mentally healthier. I wouldn't be posting if I didn't like that one guy and wanted to get his attention. It takes a tremendous amount of effort (for me at least) and it's kind of stupid when you're taking 50 pictures just to chose 1 that looks kind of good for which you spent time getting dressed nicely for. Anyways thanks for your opinion regarding this! | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/07/21 02:16 PM |
| 4 | Question about Co-worker - Did I handle the situation poorly?Holy manipulation. Grey rock. Do not respond until he gets the message, if he asks about it IRL or sents repeated messages, say you were/are "busy" and only respond to work inquiries during work hours. If he catches you IRL and goes on a spiel patiently listen and respond with a few words or a sentence and make an excuse about having something to do. If he calls you out on it say you are just busy and need to finish x. Basically give him as little opportunity as possible to speak to you. | /r/askFDS | 17/07/21 12:45 PM |
| 9 | LVM Are Unable to Have Sympathy For Women.Honestly I feel like a lot of men are troubled and just want a female dumping ground to take out their emotions on. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/07/21 12:36 PM |
| 9 | Tips on raising daughters to keep them safe from LVM?I also had a father figure in my life who repeatedly destroyed my self-esteem and it led to me not being able to differentiate healthy and unhealthy love for a while. This is what I wish I had: I'd say just make sure she has a healthy self-esteem, doesn't have adults in her life who belittle and demean her or are sexist. Empower her because that will affect her, encourage her to use her voice and be comfortable being assertive, find fulfillment and pride in her work and abilities, and have a hea… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/07/21 12:35 PM |
| – | Red pill men, why the hate on only fans girls?A lot of these women are not upper or middle class, I mean maybe some are, but generally these girls pick doing onlyfans to make money over getting a regular job and dating men in their social class, these men are the ones who struggle the most. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/07/21 12:11 PM |
| 1 | Men have a preference for younger women?But men want sex and women want relationships, you're envying women for getting something you want that is completely meaningless to them. Let's say you have an attractive 23 year old who has little else to offer but her looks, she will get approached but ran through and dumped perpetually. I think women who easily get commitment are pretty rare and it also takes a lot of work to stand out. I've dated guys without options thinking it's the best strategy before, and they were actually the worst. … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/07/21 10:22 PM |
| 2 | Men have a preference for younger women?I wish you the best of luck! See if every dude would have intentions like you there would be no issue. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/07/21 09:52 PM |
| 1 | Men have a preference for younger women?To lock down a HVM a woman needs to do more than just be attractive. The highest RMV women are 18 year old Victoria Secret models or whatever equivalent who have won the genetic lottery and have money thrown at them to just exist, or actresses, they can have literally anybody. The women with the second highest RMV I'd say are attractive 25 year olds with degrees, 2 years of working experience into a promising career and some side hobbies that would keep someones interest. Most women don't have t… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/07/21 09:47 PM |
| 2 | Men have a preference for younger women?Well that's genuinely great. I'm happy for you. You should be with women who inspire commitment not who make you feel like you are in a pressure cooker. I know a few attractive girls who hit 30 and who were insufferable, suddenly they are in relationships with dudes 5 points below them in attractiveness and with a great job, and you can see the stress mounting in those dudes eyes in the picture progressions as she keeps dropping hint after hint about wanting babies and marriage on ig. If you guy… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/07/21 07:03 PM |
| 3 | Men have a preference for younger women?That is an extreme example, yes, but there is a difference in maturity level. You can deny it exists but it's there. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/07/21 06:29 PM |
| 1 | Men have a preference for younger women?It's just easy to talk someone into doing things against their own best interest and for yours when they are younger. I doubt you can talk someone into committing murder for you but have you ever been around young people as an older adult? They think you are cool for having a car and just want to be liked by you. You can feel the desire for approval off of them. I've also turned plenty of men down, that doesn't mean I have more power than them. I have a friend who dated an older man when she was… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/07/21 05:17 PM |
| 5 | The False Myth of the Practice Wife, and How Not to Be HerYes, I have encountered this. I have a friend who dated a man for 8 years, she was dropping marriage hints, and he dumped her and married a dentist 1 year later. Notice the dentist was a "finished product" and so was the guy, he had a high-level business career. Relationships can be brutal and you are really never finished until you have a ring, it's wrong to refer to it as a game, but if your partner is improving themselves, you should be too, otherwise he will look around and at the very least… | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/07/21 02:47 PM |
| 18 | Men have a preference for younger women?I'm going to give some justifications for the angry responses since that what you seem to be looking for. The thing is that a lot of women remember being younger and dating someone older and it's not necessarily a good experience. I mean it could be but at 20 you are basically completely malleable to the older man, great for the man but not great for the woman. Also many times since the woman isn't earning and is still in school or has no education, she has to do the cooking/cleaning etc while s… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/07/21 01:00 PM |
| 2 | Expired SMVI'm sorry but this made me laugh out loud. I just imagined a world where there is a timer to 30 years old above every woman's head and a loud buzzer goes off and a red EXPIRED appears and she gets dragged away by the age police to god knows where women over thirty go. The electricity hamster wheel. Women who have no personality, have a huge sense of entitlement, and don't develop themselves do get screwed over by aging. But most don't. Because most men didn't like them to begin with, they were j… | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/06/21 11:59 PM |
| 160 | “50 Shades of Grey” was horrible and it’s tragic that it led so many young women to BDSMThe appeal of 50 shades is that it sells an unrealistic fantasy. This attractive, rich, billionaire 27 year old who is cold and harsh to the world becomes soft and giving to this completely boilerplate woman who any girl can substitute herself as. I would even say it's a pick-me fantasy. There's this awful scene where this woman Christian Grey previously dated, who is obsessed with him, breaks into his place and threatens to kill Anastasia. Christian comes in and saves Anastasia by telling this … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/06/21 05:11 PM |
| 17 | Unknowns causing anxietyIf you have only been together for one month that's a bit too early to discuss finances/concrete life plans imo. Maybe that's just me though, the first 3-4-6 months in a relationship should be to get to know one another, unless if you are in your 30s or something then that should be a bit rushed. However I know that this kind of sucks, like, as women we are expected to give everything in hopes it all works out without any guarantee, but the thing is if you feel something is off trust your gut. L… | /r/askFDS | 18/06/21 05:02 PM |
| 1505 | “Build with him”Ouch. This really hurts to read. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/06/21 01:48 PM |
| 1 | HVW after my boyfriendYeah I guess I just really don't want to lose him. | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/06/21 01:42 AM |
| 28 | HVW after my boyfriendThank you. It seems so obvious when you put it this way and yet I could not see that myself. I think I will start by not looking at their social media. And you are right, it's not about 'fighting', I shouldn't do that. I guess I feel like my value should objectively be higher than everyone who likes him but that's not something I can control. | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/06/21 09:17 PM |
| 1 | [CMV] Red Pill is an elaborate ritual to gain self esteem but ultimately a placeboIt's a watering hole for narcs. There are certain things that work, like not investing time in women who are clearly not interested in you, working on yourself, etc. You don't need to refer to women as plates, the oldest teenagers in the house, or whatever else, this is for men who need to make women feel small to feel decent about themselves. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/06/21 09:17 PM |
| 1 | Unpopular opinion: Women’s careers are overrated compared to men’s.If we're talking about higher levels, it's about social class. If you want a college educated man, become a college educated woman yourself. If you want an investment banker husband, become an investment banker yourself. Working class women end up with working class men most times. Most men who have high SMV date the waitress but they don't settle for her except for some outlier cases. A job is a proxy for social status and women have to claw their way up to something respectable before 35 if th… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/05/21 07:02 PM |
| 2 | Having sex is a mutual benefit for the man and the woman, not just for the man.Sex is a bonding activity for women. Men gain validation from sex without strings, they are validated as being 'worthy'. Women need to do a sanity check, groom themselves, prepare contraception, possibly deal with pushiness, comfort levels, it's just not worth it without a relationship imo. Equating the pleasure men get from the act to the one women do is not a fair comparison imo. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/05/21 05:43 PM |
| 7 | Autistic (Level 1/Asperger’s). Have been crippled with social anxiety about dating, which has caused me to act weird and cold around men I’m interested in. Just to shake things up a bit, I want to ask a guy out. Thoughts?I have this too. I also turn cold, for me it's because I'm used to being seen as weird and I shut the entire thing down before it can get there in fear, sometimes a guy having a crush on me is as good as it gets and it takes a nosedive afterwards once they get to know me. It took me a while to get over doing this and 'push through' it and rewire that with my current boyfriend. At worst you're not compatible and can move on, and you will see it's not that bad and it'll make it easier for next tim… | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/05/21 10:18 AM |
| 3 | FDS is anti-redpill. We protect women from abusive men, including redpillers. Saying that FDS is "redpill for women" is literally victim blaming.Yeah. They go for women with low self-esteem who will seek their approval and hurt them, make them jump through hoops, and erode their boundaries. Whenever I read through their strategies it seems like 'how do I hurt people with my narcissism'. Like they want to know how badly a woman was treated, and they want the freedom to treat her just as badly. No normal human wants to do this to another person. They will treat women as badly as that woman allows them to. Integrity dependent on circumstanc… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/05/21 02:56 PM |
| 1 | If A Woman You Date Says "I Don't Fuck On The ______ Date" Then She Is STRICTLY Fuck Zone MaterialWell I guess you just seem to put every woman in the sex bucket and then resent the ones who do not want to be put there and want to make it known that they are indeed in that bucket, it just feels like malice idk. Like if I made a post about how when a guy says he will not be paying for any dates then that means you must automatically put him in the provider bucket. Like that person is hurt probably, just let them work it out. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/05/21 11:03 PM |
| 1 | If A Woman You Date Says "I Don't Fuck On The ______ Date" Then She Is STRICTLY Fuck Zone MaterialI don't know it's like just because you have the power to degrade this person, why do it? Why not find someone you are compatible with and build something with them? And let someone who you are not compatible with find that for themselves too? When it comes down to it yeah, it is a game, and if you have much higher SMV you do have the power to P&D someone, but the best leaders have that power and choose to behave more ethically with it. I don't know about karma not existing, I've gotten put in c… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/05/21 11:02 PM |
| 1 | If A Woman You Date Says "I Don't Fuck On The ______ Date" Then She Is STRICTLY Fuck Zone MaterialAll of RP reads to me like this Don Draper larping where women are to be conquered, men are to be obeyed, shit tests are to be passed with stoic faces, like so you get validated, and even the heavy plate spinners on there admit that it doesn't fill the void, that even upon success you will still feel empty, it's not "it". Unless you just enjoy overpowering people for the sake of it which is just how corruption brews. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/05/21 07:25 PM |
| 3 | If A Woman You Date Says "I Don't Fuck On The ______ Date" Then She Is STRICTLY Fuck Zone MaterialYeah but like it's just empty validation at the end of the day, and it's something you had to lie to get so it's not even authentic. You could be building something but instead you're just chasing something that will add up to a bunch of nothing at the end. If you think hurting people to get what you want is fair game then karma has a way of coming back for people. It's just pointless IMO. Why hurt people unnecessarily when you can learn an instrument or something, something that actually does p… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/05/21 07:23 PM |
| 8 | If A Woman You Date Says "I Don't Fuck On The ______ Date" Then She Is STRICTLY Fuck Zone MaterialBut why put someone through that in the first place, what do you get out of it? Some kind of ego trip that will evaporate? Very un-Aragorn like. It just seems like you're hurt and you're trying to take it out on people who did nothing to you. You need to find better ways of dealing with your pain and become someone who heals, not who hurts. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/05/21 11:53 AM |
| 31 | If A Woman You Date Says "I Don't Fuck On The ______ Date" Then She Is STRICTLY Fuck Zone MaterialHonestly man what's with the malice? So someone is looking for a LTR and you want to string her along until you get sex? Why? Why put someone through that? I agree that arriving to a date with a JUST SO THAT WE ARE CLEAR FUCKO, I SHALL NOT BE SLEEPING WITH YOU BECAUSE CHAD BURNED ME AND NOW I AM TAKING IT OUT ON YOU attitude is off-putting. But this person likely got burned before and you want to burn her some more? Like it could be some nice person whose only flaw is not being too smart or givi… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/05/21 01:07 AM |
| 137 | True crime and age gapsI also think that men who exclusively go for young, and easy to control women have a problem with entitlement. They see an image in their head of the type of man they are, the woman next to them, and how she behaves, and everybody does this to an extent, but not everybody has an unreasonable entitlement around it. They are naturally very controlling and when a woman threatens to take this away from a man like that, his ego cannot take the blow and he cannot handle the hit his image will take. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/05/21 02:48 PM |
| 31 | LVM trying to keep you from raising your valueI'm sorry you went through that. It's really interesting how often I see this kind of thing unfold. I remember reading a post where a guy was held back from graduation by a year for some reason while his girlfriend graduated on time after which he got abusive. I have also been "helped" and that sucks, especially if you end up convinced that there is something wrong with you and your intelligence when in fact there never was, it's just their manipulation and you have always been intelligent and c… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/05/21 06:55 PM |
| 48 | LVM trying to keep you from raising your valueI agree about the 'niceness'. A lot of times 'niceness' evaporates once the guy gets comfortable and it seems like it was anxiety all along. Like a lot of them have the personalities of men who are not nice, but they don't have the social skills or are too ugly to get away with behaving that way right off the bat, so they are passively-aggressively nice until they feel a level of comfort. Genuine nice guys are not like that. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/05/21 06:53 PM |
| 2 | Do women really like Boyband members?I'd say young women like the boy band look. They show up to concerts in droves and buy merch like their lives depend on it. At 25 I'm starting to flop to the other side of liking men who are more manly and muscular. Mostly because boy band members that are 25 also start filling out, growing beards, and trying to lose the twink look. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/05/21 01:05 AM |
| 311 | When I talk about FDS concepts with other women, I don't even acknowledge that what I am saying is controversial at all. I just act like it's normal.It's also rich that wisdom passed down from older women is discarded as 'they are just jealous because they are older'. When in fact older women are often trying to pass down things they wish they knew and actually helpful information. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/05/21 01:01 AM |
| 17 | No, you shouldn't do whatever you wantIn our high school year there was this very beautiful girl, like easily the prettiest in the whole school. She became an instagram influencer and she's had so much plastic surgery she barely looks like her original self anymore and she advertises plastic surgeons and dermatologists almost every month or so. That's how high the bar is, being naturally beautiful is no longer enough, adult celebrities of all ages have had plastic surgery to enhance something even if it was just a small adjustment. … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/05/21 01:18 PM |
| 1 | CMV: FDS women will never be as happy as red pillers. RP'ers work towards being the ideal mate, while FDS primes women to be a nightmare partner.You would never be with him if he made as much or less than you. I dated two guys who had less than me before him and honestly they were incredibly insecure about it. I never mentioned it because I didn't really care. I preferred like physical security and loyalty due to some events, but they kept making excuses for why they were not making more money than me, one tried to take credit for some of my work and started telling people about how he was 'doing my work for me' and he tried to undercut … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/05/21 02:50 AM |
| 1 | CMV: FDS women will never be as happy as red pillers. RP'ers work towards being the ideal mate, while FDS primes women to be a nightmare partner.I never said that. I don't think everyone who disagrees with me is a violent incel btw. All I said is that online dating involves two parties. The gullible women and the men who lead them on, blame both. You can't just blame one side. Anybody who acts dishonourably should be blamed. It's not just a problem created by women, it's maintained by both genders, a subset of both genders, but still both genders. This is like when there are men who are darkside Chads and want to use women, they external… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/05/21 12:48 AM |
| 1 | CMV: FDS women will never be as happy as red pillers. RP'ers work towards being the ideal mate, while FDS primes women to be a nightmare partner.You're just trying to blame solely women for a behaviour that both men and women partake in, blame those men too, that's all I'm saying. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/05/21 10:31 PM |
| 2 | CMV: FDS women will never be as happy as red pillers. RP'ers work towards being the ideal mate, while FDS primes women to be a nightmare partner.Because making the guy wait 3+ months for sex is totally better right? That's just a guideline but look, women shouldn't sleep with every man they meet within 3 dates. That's a recipe for disaster. Anybody can keep a mask on for 3 dates. They will end up plated as it's TRP protocol. Usually if you feel you have to wait 3 months the guy is untrustworthy anyways. while you offer or do nothing in return. For long term dating, women are nurturers and men are protectors and providers. I feel like thi… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/05/21 10:27 PM |
| 1 | CMV: FDS women will never be as happy as red pillers. RP'ers work towards being the ideal mate, while FDS primes women to be a nightmare partner.how would the average man see women as interchangeable? On TRP there are sayings like 'it's not yours, it's just your turn' and referring to partners as 'plates' who are to be nexted at the slightest noncompliance or problem. They also discourage developing feelings by calling it 'oneitis' and encourage seeing all women as being the same. Isn’t this exactly why men would rather be in a shitty LTR, and women would rather be single? Because one is constantly facing scarcity while they other is dro… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/05/21 10:12 PM |
| 1 | CMV: FDS women will never be as happy as red pillers. RP'ers work towards being the ideal mate, while FDS primes women to be a nightmare partner.Very high value people don't need to rely on OLD. Why would a female model need to make a profile, sift through a ton of trash, and meet with someone who they do not know when they can vet for sanity and value through their social circles? Same with well established men. You are more likely to find well-rounded individuals that way. OLD gives a cloak of anonymity so where men would be more courteous to women in their everyday life because they would face repercussions from their workplace, they … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/05/21 10:02 PM |
| 96 | CMV: FDS women will never be as happy as red pillers. RP'ers work towards being the ideal mate, while FDS primes women to be a nightmare partner.TRP men are not ideal partners. They want to make women jump through hoops for exclusivity like show ponies, they want to hold frame instead of communicating about issues, they seem to have sexist views on women where they can spin plates and view them as interchangeable sex objects. It also promotes seeing your partner as an interchangeable entity and the development of any kind of feelings as 'oneitis'. FDS just advocates for waiting for the right man. I'm sorry but anyone who wants to spin yo… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/04/21 07:20 PM |
| 5 | "Where have all the Good Men gone" is just the female version of "Nice Guys Finish Last".>"attachment style" (bullshit term btw) I mean yeah the term is bullshit but it's an acceptable approximation for the way we have attachment patterns that we carry from childhood. I was reading this book called Power: Surviving and Thriving after Narcissistic abuse because it was recommended to me and it's interesting. People with bad childhoods will seek validation from people who are emotionally unavailable, but it'll only further traumatize them. Some other interesting facts that you never as… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/04/21 11:29 PM |
| 5 | "Where have all the Good Men gone" is just the female version of "Nice Guys Finish Last".You can be nice without being a pushover. The thing is you can enter in a relationship dynamic with someone who has an anxious attachment style, make them insecure, and have then anxiously clasp onto you for dear life. It's not emotionally healthy though. You're mimicking, or actually have an avoidant attachment style. The thing is what is this for? Isn't it better to just find someone who matches you and stick with them instead of being mean to a bunch of people for some quick validation? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/04/21 08:25 PM |
| 2 | The existence of all red pill ideology highlights one big issue: Why do we tell people looks/money/personality type doesn't matter when it does?There is just a lot of insecurity around the entire thing. People tend to walk on eggshells to avoid hurting peoples feelings. But there is also some form of "honesty" that is just people being assholes. There are also people who have too many responsibilities or bad luck to do too much about their SMV and they deserve to live their life without feeling bad about themselves and people picking at flaws they likely know they have. The thing is at some point you have to decide, especially as a woma… | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/04/21 02:24 PM |
| 2 | Why does it seem like attractive people with the personality of an old, wet, dirty paper bag expect to find someone who is more than that?Well to be fair a lot of men just want a hot woman that hangs off of his arm and validates his SMV to his group of friends who have always made him feel like shit about himself. Or to society in general. It's like take that society, look at how hot she is and how good she makes me look. It's usually narcissists who feel this way I think, like look at Donald Trump and Melania, Donald does not care one bit for deep connections, he just wants to be the guy banging the hot model. In my experience ho… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/04/21 01:46 AM |
| 2 | Why does it seem like attractive people with the personality of an old, wet, dirty paper bag expect to find someone who is more than that?Do you know what it takes to be a very attractive woman though? We're talking like top attractiveness. First you have to be young, that alone limits how developed your personality will be. Following that you have to master makeup which takes years and money just to find products that work and to hold down that 'natural' look. If you look at models, like 9's and 10's and even 8's sometimes they get their nails done, eyelash extensions, hair extensions, various injections which also takes time and… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/04/21 08:22 PM |
| 9 | What are ways that emotionally immature men are "too sensitive" that society ignores?A lot of cultures where men are seen as 'masculine' and 'stoic' are correlated with abuse of women, like Russia and certain middle eastern countries. These men are not 'stoic' they are just shifting the burden of dealing with their emotions to the women in their lives, like a ball they are handing off. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/04/21 01:19 PM |
| 10 | How do you stop trying to unintentionally compete with other women?I heard Karlie Kloss saying this quote in an interview that she heard from someone else, that whenever she sees a woman she is envious of, she can turn that envy into inspiration instead and push herself to be better instead of sit there and seethe. For me how I fixed it is I developed a hobby (playing an instrument) I loved and once I started to become good at it, my envy disappeared because I was in line with who I authentically wanted to be. When I didn't have that, that's when I felt jealous… | /r/askFDS | 15/04/21 02:22 PM |
| 26 | We should all pay attention to what empowerment really means in our society and who comes up with the definition of it! Taking advice from the oppressing class is not the way to go.Yeah this is it. Men will claim that all you have to do is work at McDonalds, be sweet, young, and submissive, and this will get you a top-tier man. Top-tier men go for equals. But men love when there is a young woman who doesn't have options that they don't have to worry about pumping up their ego. While they look for their dream woman. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/04/21 08:52 PM |
| 30 | Men aren’t more “chill” than women. They manipulate the women in their lives into doing the hard work.In my culture, as in many others, when men have to do emotional labor they get short fuses and they are excused as "men simply don't have the patience". | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/04/21 01:20 PM |
| 31 | Dating a high value man is something else.That's beautiful, it really is something else :) I find a key difference between HVM and LVM is that HVM will hype you up and encourage you in your interests and self-improvement. LVM will feel insecure and try to box you in so that you cater to them. I'm also dating a HVM right now and he is encouraging of my music hobby whereas my ex would point things out to make me insecure about my playing or appearance. Never again. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/03/21 02:37 AM |
| 1 | If men here are so bothered by educated and careerist women, why don't they date someone from a lower class?Men with good jobs typically date women who are looksmatches with a similar type of job over a lower class more attractive woman in my experience. Unless they are narcissists. These men are not the ones complaining about this though. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/03/21 11:27 AM |
| -1 | For a legit HVM, what does he get out of dating an FDS woman? What's in it for him?A totally healthy relationship. FDS is about vetting for a man who puts effort into the relationship and has a good character. A HVM is not someone who is simply attractive and wealthy, if this man is a fuckboy he is not considered a HVM by FDS standards. You can't build a life with this person. It's about finding a good man to put effort into. Men and women use each other differently, men will generally give women attention but if they are not very interested they will take women on low-effort … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/03/21 11:14 AM |
| 12 | Just a friendly PSA- You are not his therapist and not required to beA lot of times also people who make you feel like an unpaid therapist have cluster B disorders and are just an attention and energy syphon, there is no bottom. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/03/21 11:02 AM |
| 13 | Let's hear stories about dumping/blocking a LVMWell when I unblocked him I saw a few message roll in along the lines of 'well I'm probably still blocked' along with a few life updates lol. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/03/21 10:51 AM |
| 93 | Let's hear stories about dumping/blocking a LVMThis one time I was seeing this guy for a few months. He introduced me to his family, I would drive 3 hours one way to his stupid city every week-end, he told me he loved me and even called me his girlfriend. Then the next day I asked him if he is ready to be boyfriend and girlfriend he seemed surprised and told me not to pressure him and "enjoy the current moment" despite initiating the conversation himself. He also had this "female friend" who rejected him that he would say good morning and go… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/03/21 10:08 PM |
| 28 | George Clooney is a reminder there's no such thing as an HVMTypical. Spends his life sleeping around with women he likely has 0 in common with due to the age gap, who were likely lovely to him, then when he realizes it's his last chance to have biological children without being an absolutely decrepit father, he latches onto someone he actually respects. I will never understand why people are praising him instead of judging him for the way he treated women prior. Sure, discard as many women as you'd like, they're just Hollywood bimbos anyways. How this is… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/03/21 09:32 PM |
| 16 | Having kids early in life is a rich woman's luxuryMost problematic cultures impregnate women at a young age to control them. They are likely uneducated, inexperienced with jobs, finances, and life, and are now completely dependent on their husband. They will not have time to do anything but raise their 3 kids and be their husbands bangmaid. These cultures mock feminism but they don't treat their women very well. But yeah in the case of Kylie and other young celebrities, they are incredibly lucky to be able to get everything at once. She can be … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/03/21 09:16 PM |
| 1 | Why should I be bothered to put in the effort to look prettier?At 20 I would say don't sweat it. This might be controversial but whatever. You can try things out once a week or something, like experimenting with nail colours, learning how to do your makeup in a basic way, seeing what colours fit with you, that's what I did. But at 20 I had neither the money or the time. At 20 you should be investing in yourself because once you graduate and have money and time it will be infinitely easier. I will say this, I kind of did care about my appearance when I was y… | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/03/21 03:52 AM |
| 8 | The same energy as "not all men" and "she asked for it"Oh fuck imagine how exhausting it would be to have this man in your life. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/03/21 03:51 PM |
| 8 | Why it's unfair to compare FDS and TRPI agree! Very well said, I feel like FDS is a roadmap to being an emotionally healthy woman in todays society. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/03/21 03:47 PM |
| 9 | Why it's unfair to compare FDS and TRPAgreed! Very well put. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/03/21 03:29 PM |
| 16 | I'm tired of pretending men don't ageHave any of you ever read the picture of Dorian Grey? It's a book where a guy stays young because he has a picture of himself that ages instead. I feel that men do this with a lot, they project things onto women that they themselves possess to keep from confronting it: aging, stupidity, frivolity, shallowness, sluttiness, etc. As men age they insist that they get better, it's the women who get worse, not them, no! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/03/21 01:27 PM |
| 42 | Scrotes' advice on how to get away with avoiding household choresGood god this is just cruel and disrespectful. Nobody dreams of doing chores, but most normal people don't feel entitled to shift the burden entirely on their partner and brag about it on the internet. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/03/21 06:13 PM |
| 23 | From HV to NV, a short story.Yes, always see how men act when you become slightly more dependent on them. This situation is bound to arise eventually when building a life together. When you have one foot out the door they are always on their best behavior but when you need something do they turn it into a turbulent situation that makes it about themselves, do they become abusive? If so you have a possible narcissist or abuser, I am always shocked by how many people react this way. Do they complain and try their hardest to g… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/03/21 06:02 PM |
| 3 | The double standard for being a slut exists for a good reasonBut just because something is easy for one gender to obtain and difficult to another does not make it any less degenerate. Like if a disabled person kills a baby, is it more honorable than when an able-bodied person does? No, it's morally wrong either way. Men like to get validation through casual sex, and yes, if you want validation, a barometer of your worth, if you are an attractive male, a celebrity, chad, women will throw themselves at you, but it's like if you're rich and you go to an expe… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/03/21 05:49 PM |
| 32 | The double standard for being a slut exists for a good reasonI think sleeping around psychologically harms both genders. It harms women for reasons often discussed and that don't need to be repeated. It harms men because it teaches them to objectify women and I believe promiscuous men have an easier time cheating in relationships, needs not being met? Hey I can tap into old circuitry and get laid for the quick ego boost. That's not to mention the physical harm of STDs. However men externalize the guilt or disgust they feel for having casual sex on 'sluts'… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/03/21 02:24 AM |
| 23 | Men are entering Academia with the express intent of preying on students. Like most LVM and Predators, they try and infiltrate the ranks of trusted institutions to find their victims and hide their intentions behind the authority of their title.ha ha ha "pretending it's a national security matter". This guy thinks he can cold-approach gorgeous young women and somehow get them to believe his job is a "national security matter" that cannot be discussed and they will somehow overlook that and sleep with him instead of laugh in his face. These are the types of men that write furious paragraphs about how they are the true victims because society demonizes age gaps. This is why these roadblocks are put up. Because there will always be people… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/03/21 12:01 AM |
| 52 | Boyfriend liking girls picturesNo you're not crazy. I hate when men do these scummy things and then sit back and go 'heehee stop being crazy' knowing full well what they are doing. If you followed a bunch of beefcakes I'm sure he would be bothered too. It's just embarrassing when your boyfriend acts like this, especially when you have to see him embarrass himself by posting cringe comments. I completely agree. There is nothing worse than scrolling through instagram and seeing your boyfriend simping for someone else and then b… | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/03/21 02:53 AM |
| 2 | How do you deal with your SO’s annoying habits?I would think of ways in which he goes out of his way for me. For example I don't have my license and my SO drives me wherever I need to go, which isn't often, but still, it probably adds 2 hours to his entire week. I try to reinvest that time back into things he has issues with, which is also him leaving things around. Of course if it becomes insurmountable, if it gets worse, or if it's something that just makes me absolutely miserable I'll mention it to him, but this rarely happens in my case.… | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/03/21 02:44 AM |
| 26 | Should i divorce my serial cheating husband who is my first sexual partner and start over? I am so scared of the thoughts of me sleeping with other men.Well he didn't hold up his end of the deal and you did. Why would you care what he wants you to do with your body when he does whatever he wants with his? Why isn't he able to stand the idea of you being with other men when he expects you to tolerate him being with other women? This man does not care about your opinion or respect you at all. Someone who loves you would not put you through this. If he is a narcissist you need to run. Narcissists don't get any better, they are impossible to fix. T… | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/03/21 07:16 PM |
| 5 | First post since taking the red pillI would stay away from womanizers entirely. At best they have a madonna/whore complex and see you as a madonna, at worst they will try to chip away at your self-esteem until they can disrespect you as much as they are used to doing to other women and see you as another conquest. If one of these types really chases you and makes it clear that he is interested in a romantic relationship, and really goes out of his way, maybe I would give it the time of day while being very suspicious and careful, … | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/03/21 06:10 PM |
| 19 | I’ve slept with 13 men in my life time. I’m only 25. Whenever I think about it, I feel suicidal.Forgive yourself. You were going through something emotional and doing the best you could. There are people who cheat, abuse, and hurt others, you were just in an emotionally confused place and engaging in behaviour that ended up being self-harming. You are not a bad person for this. You were just coping with your circumstances. Your father also sounds awful, I'm sorry you went through that. It sounds like you went through enough negative experiences and deserve to be happy now. Society and medi… | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/03/21 05:42 PM |
| 6 | Should you mate-guard your man?It makes me cringe when I see a man allowing a woman to obviously and clearly flirt with him only for his girlfriend to come flying like a bat out of hell to put a stop to it I just wanted to say this is a beautiful sentence haha. | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/03/21 07:45 PM |
| 3 | Ladies over 30, Did everything change in your life after you hit 30??Yeah you're completely right, I misspoke, I think marriage under 25 generally is a bad idea because there is so much growth that happens during those years. I guess I just meant pairing up young isn't bad. I wish I was in the right mental space to find someone at 18 but I wasn't. | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/03/21 07:43 PM |
| 3 | Which opinions do you hold that would be considered unpopular or controversial even on PPD?Women are also getting fucked over in the SMP. I have so many friends who are genuinely nice girls who are fucking burned out by being ghosted, led on, and manipulated. The nicer the girl the worse it is it seems. Like I've had a friend who dated a guy who told her he was looking for a wife and ready to start his life who broke up with her after sleeping with her once, she was devastated and didn't see that coming. I knew a guy who had a forever girlfriend for 7 years who was dying to marry him,… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/03/21 04:44 PM |
| 1 | Career women are not miserable.I disagree with that, I think that's still a good second option, but trad fathers want their daughters to remain celibate, graduate, and find a rich husband who is slightly older than them. I agree that it's pretty cute to date someone your age, my boyfriend is one year younger actually and I love him to pieces, but there's a reason parents scoot their daughters in the direction of doctors. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/03/21 05:43 PM |
| 7 | Career women are not miserable.Well it's also conventional wisdom. Most trad dads want their daughters to completely finish their education before they start even looking at men for this exact reason. Not having a solid backup plan leads you to be vulnerable to being dependent. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/03/21 03:52 PM |
| 13 | Career women are not miserable.All I know is that ever since starting a career I started to attract higher quality men who wanted to build with me. Before that these men didn't see me as relationship material. The only men who complain about this are men who are filtered out and consoling themselves that they 'did not want this anyways'. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/03/21 02:39 PM |
| 9 | Ladies over 30, Did everything change in your life after you hit 30??Honestly it seems like a lot of this apocalypse post 30 talk seems to come from resentful men who are currently having no luck and are typing out a vivid revenge fantasy. Obviously, yes, some things are more difficult, like at 22 most men are inexperienced, not coupled, and forgiving of a lot, a lot of older men are willing to gloss over several things while dating younger women, there is a wider dating pool and more chance to meet guys at social events or school. You also have a higher chance o… | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/03/21 01:16 AM |
| 1 | CMV: Men don't care about women's careers. But class definitely plays a role when it comes to datingThis is true. There is some pretty 24 year old with rich parents and a degree interning in NYC right now and having a lot of sex, she's going to settle down with someone with higher SMV than an equally pretty 21 year old girl from the bible belt with an n-count of 0 before her wedding night. Or any lower class pretty girl who is more chaste and submissive. I feel that a lot of hamstering goes on around this. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/02/21 04:29 AM |
| 4 | Is it just me or is there a lot of feminist viewpoints in this sub?I think it's complicated because of how the social landscape changed, having your own income is now something central that men look for and it's part of your SES, figuring out how to navigate these things is tricky. Also not all of us graduated college at 22 with perfect mental stability and were able to live a rpw life. I was bogged down with mental health issues during my early 20s and I have a bunch of tradeoffs I have to decide on now. But I am also very traditional in a lot of ways. | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/02/21 01:48 PM |
| 1 | How do I recover from being alpha widowed by emotionally complex narcissist?He sounds like an absolute tool. Basically when you wake up look up to the sky and thank god that this person is no longer in your life. Literally you can go to the home depot parking lot and follow the first man that comes out without a wedding ring and do better than that. I once fell in love with a pretentious DJ when I was really young and god does this post remind me of that, you're going to laugh at this in the future. | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/02/21 01:41 PM |
| 7 | How do I begin attracting men when I’ve always been career-driven?I think you should prioritize your studies, at 21/22 you're still very young and have plenty of time. I wouldn't detract from the time you need to get your studies done. If you have some extra time and want to start looking for a boyfriend I wouldn't compromise too much because your future is very important and any man who values you would understand that, look for someone who will accept and encourage how much time you need to study. That being said once you're a doctor and you have money you w… | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/02/21 03:01 PM |
| 2 | Unpopular opinion: saying that we do makeup for ourselves and not for others is falseI do it for myself insomuch as doing it improves the way people treat me and see me. But without that improvement I would not do it. So it definitely is for other people too. | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/02/21 02:56 PM |
| 2 | How to stop being competitive with other women and overall insecure?I used to have this problem, I realized I just wasn't happy with myself. I was sitting around wasting time not being my authentic self and loafing and hating on women who were bettering themselves behind the scenes thinking it's just how they are. For me I started learning piano as a hobby and I started to put more time and effort into my appearance (a lot of beauty standards are attainable by reasonable effort alone and if you at least try it boosts your SMV points anyways). Committing to doing… | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/02/21 03:44 PM |
| 6 | Highly educated women are more likely to be promiscuous than less educated women,A good job still improves your quality of life: you are around men who have good jobs and who meet certain basic sanity, intelligence, and education checks. You don't have to rely on anybody. Men also don't want jobs they just want to have status so that they can be attractive to women and be able to own resources to be attractive to women. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/02/21 04:26 AM |
| 1 | Overwhelmed by taking care of my appearanceI'm glad I'm not the only one who feels this way :) | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/01/21 08:17 PM |
| 2 | Overwhelmed by taking care of my appearanceGood idea, I think I will aim for a 2x a week routine and slowly amp it up from there, that way it won't be too overwhelming but I will still be building a habit, thanks! | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/01/21 08:16 PM |
| 2 | Overwhelmed by taking care of my appearanceThanks for your advice, I agree I shouldn't rush to do it all at once, I've made a small schedule to pick out some staples every weekend. I also love your idea of using more translucent colors because they are more forgiving, I will definitely use that! | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/01/21 08:15 PM |
| 2 | Overwhelmed by taking care of my appearanceThanks for this recommendation, I'll definitely buy a nice color from this brand and try it out, two weeks of lasting color sounds like a dream haha. | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/01/21 08:14 PM |
| 1 | Overwhelmed by taking care of my appearanceThanks for your advice! I added a top coat and its lasted me much longer, I'll buy a base coat as soon as I can. Didn't realize it can make such a huge difference :) | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/01/21 08:13 PM |
| 1 | Overwhelmed by taking care of my appearanceThanks! This is all excellent advice! I like the concept of getting my staples and rotating between them, and the capsule wardrobe I'll make a schedule to get the shoes one weekend, maybe some other staples the next. | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/01/21 08:11 PM |
| 2 | Overwhelmed by taking care of my appearanceEven if you want more complex outfits I think you must be over thinking it, shouldn't take hours. I think it's taking me that long because I am just now moving from a student hoodie and sweatpants lifestyle to wanting to look more put together, I need to start from scratch and take into account my body type, flattering colors to invest in, shoes, different occasions etc. I had zero nice outfits except for one childish black dress. Hair, Im not sure why toning your hair would be such a hassle? I … | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/01/21 08:08 PM |
| 1 | Why does TRP sphere celebrate bachelors but acts like being a spinster is the worst thing ever? (even RPW)Thank you for sending me some resources and links, it's much appreciated and very helpful. I didn't say there weren't such a thing as patriarchs. Believe it or not despite what the world says having a controlling father is not all bad; I agree with this, generally having good influence in your life is invaluable because there is nothing but conflicting messages and people trying to make everybody else look worse relative to them. However the problem with having a controlling father or patriarch … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/01/21 03:27 PM |
| 1 | Why does TRP sphere celebrate bachelors but acts like being a spinster is the worst thing ever? (even RPW)Yeah but see, it's this narrative that it's a mans world and women are simply his accessory in it. If they don't make a good accessory, they are deemed worthless. I know you can say men are objectified for their success but this still has more variety and depth than being objectified for being a bangmaid. Have you ever read the picture of Dorian Grey? It's about a dude who stays youthful and beautiful looking, never ages, because he has a photograph that does it for him. Often I feel this is how… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/01/21 04:56 AM |
| 3 | How to deal with anxiety of dating HVMI feel exactly like this, it's nice to know I'm not alone. God have mercy on our hearts lol. | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/01/21 05:40 PM |
| 1 | Unlike men, women are exceptionally more likely to initiate contact with opposite sex individuals within the top percentile(s) of physical attractiveness in online datingI still think women have to do more guesswork, men cast a wide net hoping to capture both hookups and quality women they would make into a LTR without telling them which is which. Women generally select only for men they would prefer to LTR. Like yes, you can blame this on women but there there are two sides to a supply/demand relationship and the top 5% P&Ding is equally contributing. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/12/20 11:33 AM |
| 8 | Men don't age like wine. They hit the wall at the same exact time women do.I think reddit is filled with dudes convincing themselves that women will be tripping over themselves for a handshake once they hit 30 and start making 50k. Just like if you go anywhere, in any demographic, it's a group convincing themselves that they are attractive, regardless of how true it is. I also think personally think a lot of time very young actresses are set up with an older, well-known one, it's not a real relationship but an arrangement to get them more famous. They are usually part … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/12/20 11:46 PM |
| 0 | Are women actually better off in the modern sexual marketplace than men?I mean all it takes is one or two bad experiences to be put off the entire process entirely. Yes, most of the time women are not in danger but even if they are too trusting once they can end up in a threatening situation. Most men are great, they are protectors and providers, but I would say women are neurotic for a reason. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/12/20 07:40 PM |
| -1 | Are women actually better off in the modern sexual marketplace than men?I know this will be spun as a 'suffering from success' complaint but women do have to vet their options for safety and that's no small feat. I can elaborate on this but there are many tiers, there are the outright psychos, the men who feel entitled to sex and try to push you into it and are normal seeming on the outside but rapey one-on-one, then even if you get into a relationship with one they can have traits like cheating, chatting up girls on social media, making it clear that if they could … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/12/20 09:08 PM |
| 1 | Male attention on social media - is it valid?That's possible, but it's also a good context to start a pressure-free conversation in. If I were you I would create something that he can reply to if he wants to, or if he posts a story that's easy to reply to I would reply to that. It's really hard to tell. I can tell you like him so I would just put in the work to do that if I were you to investigate further. | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/12/20 08:22 PM |
| 1 | Male attention on social media - is it valid?That's true, I mean it's hard to tell, he is at least interested enough to look. Maybe ask a question on a story, or make something easy to reply to and see if he bites? | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/12/20 02:50 PM |
| 2 | Male attention on social media - is it valid?Uh oh I look at everyones story just because I'm bored, nosy, and curious :/ | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/12/20 01:24 PM |
| 6 | Why does TRP sphere celebrate bachelors but acts like being a spinster is the worst thing ever? (even RPW)Short answer: the patriarchy, it's a mans world and everything that is wrong is women's fault. Men are glamorous no matter what they chose to do. Long answer: With the coming of the new age there was a shift, whereas before women could only get married when young and chaste, now money is an overriding factor. Yes, some men say they don't care, but it's rare. How many men do you know that go to third world countries to find themselves an 18 year old 10/10 virgin bride? It doesn't happen. Women wh… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/12/20 10:08 PM |
| 1 | Male losers just want to be valued by the opposite sex the same way female losers areBut low value women don't enjoy being pump n dumps for high value men. Whereas men would have no issue being used this way by high value women. There is no comparison in my opinion. There is also the fact that many attractive low value women chose to sell their bodies to higher value men than date and marry their male equivalents. That's why many low value men rage at onlyfans and such, without this, these women would be in relationships with guys like them. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/12/20 12:55 AM |
| 2 | I think this idea that both red pillers and blue pillers seem to have that attractive men benefit from hookup culture is not necessarily true. Promiscuous attractive men benefit from hookup culture but not all attractive men. All men who are serious about monogamy should hate hookup culture.Most men I know that have high n-counts are screwed up in some way and are bad relationship prospects. They will cheat at the drop of a hat, (I know they deny this but when sex means so little to you and you are unhappy it's simply tapping into old circuitry) they are probably damaged in some way, and likely lack empathy. I know men say that the woman he choses in the end is special if he had a high n-count, but how many people have known him intimately? A lot. I find that off-putting. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/12/20 12:49 AM |
| 4 | How does one keep a man's attention without chasing?Make yourself visible in high value circles. Lots of women meet their bfs in uni for example or in the workplace or in various hobby groups. You have to belong to these as a prerequisite. These men can start conversations with you there. There's lots of success stories with online dating but I still don't think it's the best way to meet people. Secondly you do have to put effort into your appearance. I once switched from my hair being in a bun in hoodies and sweatpants to nicely dyed/cut hair, a… | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/12/20 01:34 AM |
| 1 | How do you keep yourself looking stylish?I follow instagram accounts where the woman fits my body type, looks a bit like me, and is stylish, saving the images I like and looking for clothes like that. They are usually up to date with trends, usually influencers. | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/11/20 01:08 AM |
| 1 | How do you girls respond to your man drooling over another woman in front of you?It's either disrespect or game playing. Not good either way. Honestly I would probably retaliate by pointing out some guy who I think is attractive too but I would hate the situation. | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/11/20 10:52 PM |
| 28 | What can cause a woman to lose desire and respect for her man?There is nothing as attractive as a man who handles things. If something has to be done he's in the midst of doing it, he's not making excuses, waiting for the last minute hoping you do it, or trying to offload it to you as a pattern. Personally this inspires me to step my own things up and match that energy. I've never been in a relationship this great, and I've dated almost exclusively guys who expect you to be their mother before while resenting not being able to be the first kind of guy and … | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/11/20 10:43 PM |
| 1 | CMV: Men aren’t “intimidated” by successful women. They just don’t want a woman who will disrespect him.In my personal experience dating less successful men, a lot of them tie their identity to their intelligence which they tie to their ability to make money. I've experienced these men putting me down in relationships to feel better about themselves, in a way more successful men don't. I think it depends on the person, but I do think some men are intimidated by it and it hurts their ego. I mean a person who disrespects another is garbage though. I don't think it's specific to women who out earn th… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/11/20 11:59 AM |
| 1 | How do you explain men redpill would consider 10/10s still getting horrible results with women?10 is only about appearance as far as I'm concerned? Depp is no 10 anymore, he used to be probably the most solid 10 out there but he is older now. Depp also left the mother of his children to be with Amber, certainly doesn't justify what happened, but that entire situation seems like they both contributed to the mess. People who are very attractive are used to getting away with a lot and maybe this was just a situation of two similar people butting heads. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/11/20 11:37 AM |
| 1 | CMV; Redpill philosophy is based on pseudo science and has no empirically sound basis.I don't know, the cause for this isn't shown, just the effect. In my opinion women spend a lot of time vetting men for basic sanity. The worst case scenario is being stuck with someone dangerous, creepy, etc. If he has sustained a LTR with a woman it's a sign he is at least stable and desirable. I'm sure women who LTR HVM also are somewhat vetted. Obviously not when it's a string of 30, but yeah. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/11/20 03:21 AM |
| 6 | CMV: The reason men are afraid of getting women pregnant is because fathers are factually responsible for way more than the mother over a child's life.Well I'm not blaming them for that, I mean that is awful the practice of circumcision. Nobody should be violated like that. But I'm sure guys who haven't been circumcised also partake in this, it's just if you don't use a condom be prepared to raise a kid is my only point. By the way, birth control is a literal depression pill. I can only speak for myself but when I took it it made me grain weight, crazy, have hormonal acne that took months to heal, this was after switching prescriptions a few t… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/11/20 06:44 PM |
| 8 | CMV: The reason men are afraid of getting women pregnant is because fathers are factually responsible for way more than the mother over a child's life.I hear you. That definitely does happen. There are also a lot of guys who refuse to wear condoms which really confuses me. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/11/20 05:42 PM |
| 9 | CMV: The reason men are afraid of getting women pregnant is because fathers are factually responsible for way more than the mother over a child's life.I think it's moreso that these men just wanted to have sex, and next thing they know they are responsible for 18 years of payments for it, with a woman they usually did not see long term potential with or plans they now have to forego. It's still both peoples fault though. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/11/20 03:04 PM |
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