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| 1 | There are 6 go-to venues I always rely on when I'm feeling more shy and introverted. They're actually the ones I wished I used when I was starting out (instead of hitting up bars and clubs), as I would've got a lot better results.In the article, I say that you should only go to places you have a genuine interest in going to. Otherwise, you just end up prioritizing women too highly in your life - which is fundamentally unattractive. | /r/seduction | 17/04/19 09:25 AM |
| – | There are 6 go-to venues I always rely on when I'm feeling more shy and introverted. They're actually the ones I wished I used when I was starting out (instead of hitting up bars and clubs), as I would've got a lot better results.They’re a goldmine, but as I say in the post, I’d only hit them up if you’re confident hitting up the rest. They require a decent amount of social confidence | /r/seduction | 16/04/19 06:14 PM |
| 11 | There are 6 go-to venues I always rely on when I'm feeling more shy and introverted. They're actually the ones I wished I used when I was starting out (instead of hitting up bars and clubs), as I would've got a lot better results.Thanks, I forgot to TLDR it. Although the venues are only good if you approach them with the right attitude tbh. | /r/seduction | 16/04/19 02:40 PM |
| – | Should I send?If you're playing games (which you are), she's already won. | /r/seduction | 13/03/19 09:17 PM |
| 2 | Does anyone feel like a Loser here? Is Game actually a skill set?There are certain skills to learn, but most of them are basic social skills. The rest is just overcoming your emotional issues and playing the numbers game. | /r/seduction | 14/02/19 09:45 AM |
| 1 | How To Not Suck At Dating - Understand that you aren't measured by anything except for how you make her FEEL - everything else is detailsThanks for the honest feedback. I appreciate it :) On reflection I don’t feel like I expressed what I was trying to express that well. Next time! | /r/seduction | 06/12/18 08:58 PM |
| 1 | If you want to overcome Neediness and stop ruining your relationships - you have to stop living like a Lonely Loser. This might sound strange, but it's actually where neediness comes from. And you're inviting it in!Thanks :) glad you enjoyed it | /r/seduction | 30/11/18 11:28 AM |
| – | How To Not Suck At Dating - Understand that you aren't measured by anything except for how you make her FEEL - everything else is detailsSure. They do matter. I don’t say they outright don’t. I’ve just known far, far too many women who have said: “I wasn’t into him at all but then...” “He’s not my type at all but...” Feelings are everything. They have a massive, massive influence. The science of arousal backs this up too. | /r/seduction | 06/10/18 08:26 AM |
| 1 | How To Not Suck At Dating - Understand that you aren't measured by anything except for how you make her FEEL - everything else is detailsExcept that 99% of guys don’t do this. They get stuck in thinking they’ve got certain things going for them when it’s the feelings they should focus on the entire time. The whole article was about explaining this simple mistake. | /r/seduction | 05/10/18 11:46 PM |
| 1 | Developing brutal HONESTY with myself was the first step towards getting better with Women. All the stuff you hide from others just turns you into an emotional CREEP. And all the stuff you've tricked yourself into believing - these are just the ways you've hidden from your anxietyThanks - glad you enjoyed it :) | /r/seduction | 25/09/18 11:32 AM |
| 11 | If you don't want to date girls at the moment, how do you improve yourself?Thanks - for married guys I'd add: 6) Don't forget to take your wife out and put the moves on her like when you were first dating | /r/seduction | 20/09/18 10:26 PM |
| – | M(21) college freshman, need advice on trying to pickup girlsIn terms of your personality - you need to socialise more and learn from failure. There is no other way. Therapy may also help if you have extreme anxiety. In terms of being interesting - this is basically 1 part having a good time (being fun) and 1 part interested in stuff (read a lot of books). Also make sure you're doing the basics - working out, taking care of your appearance. College game is this: Become the man on campus. This means you're a cool guy that people know and you have parties. … | /r/seduction | 20/09/18 08:58 PM |
| – | If you don't want to date girls at the moment, how do you improve yourself?1) Make a list of all the things you want to achieve this year. Pick the one that's the hardest, but also the one you're most passionate about. Set an hour everyday to work on it. Time yourself with a stopwatch. Nothing but goal time baby. 2) Quit porn, video games, and try and reduce your browsing. Meditate everyday (15 mins) and read 15-30 pages per day (EZ mode: self-help and pop psych, HARD mode: classic fiction and philosophy). 3) Build your social life. Try new hobbies. Learn to dance, or … | /r/seduction | 20/09/18 08:51 PM |
| 1 | Your APPROACH anxiety (or fear of women) is going to make your brain come up with all kinds of DEFENSES to stop you taking action. You might pretend you don't care, blame women, or think you have to learn as much as you can. In reality, you just have to spot where you're holding yourself back.No worries - I think you'll be fine, you just need to let go of the cynicism. Also be very skeptical of what's motivating you to pursue being 'Confident, in ridiculously good shape, beloved by women, admired by his peers and feared by his enemies, a passionate lover, driven and ruthless in the way he pursues his goals and just absolutely shameless about who and what he is.' As well as thinking 'Girls are dirt and I don't need them.' The first person who lies to you is always yourself. | /r/seduction | 20/09/18 05:38 PM |
| – | Your APPROACH anxiety (or fear of women) is going to make your brain come up with all kinds of DEFENSES to stop you taking action. You might pretend you don't care, blame women, or think you have to learn as much as you can. In reality, you just have to spot where you're holding yourself back.People depend on each other. We’re wired for socialising. And yes, considering you generalised all women I think that’s an excuse. There’s plenty of great women out there, there’s also some shitty ones too. It’s up too you to find them. | /r/seduction | 20/09/18 02:59 PM |
| – | Your APPROACH anxiety (or fear of women) is going to make your brain come up with all kinds of DEFENSES to stop you taking action. You might pretend you don't care, blame women, or think you have to learn as much as you can. In reality, you just have to spot where you're holding yourself back.Well confronting something like anxiety would involve taking the action it doesn't want you to take. Confronting something like sexual shame would involve you challenging (and understanding) your beliefs about sexuality, opening up to someone, and taking the actions your shame doesn't want you to take. Therapy pretty much helps all of this, as you get to real issues like feeling unworthy of love. In general, confronting emotions means awareness + vulnerability + new actions | /r/seduction | 20/09/18 12:37 PM |
| 1 | Your APPROACH anxiety (or fear of women) is going to make your brain come up with all kinds of DEFENSES to stop you taking action. You might pretend you don't care, blame women, or think you have to learn as much as you can. In reality, you just have to spot where you're holding yourself back.Yeah, it never really goes away. It just diminishes with practice. | /r/seduction | 20/09/18 05:09 AM |
| 2 | Your APPROACH anxiety (or fear of women) is going to make your brain come up with all kinds of DEFENSES to stop you taking action. You might pretend you don't care, blame women, or think you have to learn as much as you can. In reality, you just have to spot where you're holding yourself back.You’re welcome :) | /r/seduction | 20/09/18 05:08 AM |
| – | Your APPROACH anxiety (or fear of women) is going to make your brain come up with all kinds of DEFENSES to stop you taking action. You might pretend you don't care, blame women, or think you have to learn as much as you can. In reality, you just have to spot where you're holding yourself back.The odds of that are so unlikely. It’s like being afraid of getting eaten by a shark. | /r/seduction | 20/09/18 05:07 AM |
| – | Your APPROACH anxiety (or fear of women) is going to make your brain come up with all kinds of DEFENSES to stop you taking action. You might pretend you don't care, blame women, or think you have to learn as much as you can. In reality, you just have to spot where you're holding yourself back.Yup - The funny thing is that I’ve met some seriously good looking guys, with absolutely nothing to worry about, who believed they weren’t good enough for women. They had to do the exact same stuff. | /r/seduction | 19/09/18 09:00 PM |
| – | Your APPROACH anxiety (or fear of women) is going to make your brain come up with all kinds of DEFENSES to stop you taking action. You might pretend you don't care, blame women, or think you have to learn as much as you can. In reality, you just have to spot where you're holding yourself back.Well I’ve seen short guys who are minorities do well plenty of times. I actually have a friend who lives in NYC who is pretty much everything you described but he does fine. So right off the bat I’d say those beliefs are coming across to her and she’s getting a sense that you’re afraid of her. You’ve already decided on some level you’re not good enough. This is lethal for your game. You can do everything right but this will torpedo you regardless. I would seriously think about challenging the va… | /r/seduction | 19/09/18 06:39 PM |
| – | Your APPROACH anxiety (or fear of women) is going to make your brain come up with all kinds of DEFENSES to stop you taking action. You might pretend you don't care, blame women, or think you have to learn as much as you can. In reality, you just have to spot where you're holding yourself back.This post was more about why people stop themselves from approaching. If you already approaching you’re doing well. However in your example it’s impossible to say. Why is this person failing? How are they approaching? What are they saying? Have they taken care of themselves? Are the girls even receptive? And so on. Answering hypotheticals definitively is imposible. You have to be dealing with a real person to even come close to answering correctly. Also - this kind of thinking massively suggests… | /r/seduction | 19/09/18 06:26 PM |
| 1 | Day Game for Men over 50?!Exactly. | /r/seduction | 19/09/18 03:27 PM |
| – | Day Game for Men over 50?!Day game for men over 50 is the same as day game for guys of any age. The only difference is that you're going to get rejected more. But the ones who are into a silver fox will like you that much more. Your age will only be an issue if you let it be. | /r/seduction | 19/09/18 02:15 PM |
| 2 | 7 Reasons Why You Fail With Girls (And to How to Fix Each One)Solid vid. Agreed with everything. Also, someone who grew up in New Zealand - the best pie shop I know of is on Narrowneck Beach, in Devonport (just across the ferry from Auckland). I don't know if it's still there or run by the same people but that place was unbelievable. | /r/seduction | 19/09/18 02:13 PM |
| – | Stop FAKING confidence, stop lying and stop trying to impress people. Stop trying to 'be alpha' - this doesn't just fail, it actively undoes your real confidence. This is the single biggest mistake there is. The right way is a lot harder, but works.Ha okay pal. Good luck with those ‘teachers.’ | /r/seduction | 08/09/18 08:40 AM |
| – | Stop FAKING confidence, stop lying and stop trying to impress people. Stop trying to 'be alpha' - this doesn't just fail, it actively undoes your real confidence. This is the single biggest mistake there is. The right way is a lot harder, but works.Then why do they work? | /r/seduction | 08/09/18 08:38 AM |
| – | Stop FAKING confidence, stop lying and stop trying to impress people. Stop trying to 'be alpha' - this doesn't just fail, it actively undoes your real confidence. This is the single biggest mistake there is. The right way is a lot harder, but works.Have you even read the article? Is an almost 4000 word guide on building confidence. Based on years of experience, psychology, and classic lit. How is that horse exactly? | /r/seduction | 08/09/18 08:33 AM |
| – | Stop FAKING confidence, stop lying and stop trying to impress people. Stop trying to 'be alpha' - this doesn't just fail, it actively undoes your real confidence. This is the single biggest mistake there is. The right way is a lot harder, but works.It’s just an article that’s directly related to a core idea in pickup and seduction (confidence). I haven’t tried to sell anyone anything here. Some found it useful, some haven’t. It’s prompted a bunch of discusion (positive and negative)? Seems fine to me. Happy to remove if I’m told it’s not. | /r/seduction | 08/09/18 08:30 AM |
| 1 | Stop FAKING confidence, stop lying and stop trying to impress people. Stop trying to 'be alpha' - this doesn't just fail, it actively undoes your real confidence. This is the single biggest mistake there is. The right way is a lot harder, but works.Basically. You can fake it in the short term. I certainly used to. But it really wears you down and isn’t a very healthy way to live. Building long term, authentic sources of confidence are much more rewarding. | /r/seduction | 08/09/18 08:27 AM |
| 1 | Stop FAKING confidence, stop lying and stop trying to impress people. Stop trying to 'be alpha' - this doesn't just fail, it actively undoes your real confidence. This is the single biggest mistake there is. The right way is a lot harder, but works.You’re welcome :) | /r/seduction | 08/09/18 08:24 AM |
| – | Stop FAKING confidence, stop lying and stop trying to impress people. Stop trying to 'be alpha' - this doesn't just fail, it actively undoes your real confidence. This is the single biggest mistake there is. The right way is a lot harder, but works.I’ve real 6 pillars of self esteem. It’s a good pep talk but seemingly outdated by later research. Self-esteem research is all over the place last time I checked, and in many cases, just a poor version of self efficacy. Which certainly isn’t fake it til you make it. Can’t speak for the other book. But hey, if this stuff works for you. Go for it. | /r/seduction | 07/09/18 10:54 PM |
| – | Stop FAKING confidence, stop lying and stop trying to impress people. Stop trying to 'be alpha' - this doesn't just fail, it actively undoes your real confidence. This is the single biggest mistake there is. The right way is a lot harder, but works.You should probably spend more time reading psychology instead self-help. I don’t remember reading a page of Braudel, Vaillant, Jung, Rogers, or any of them that recommended that shit. Being open, honest, and vulnerable with you emotions is far and away the best thing you can do. Faking it just encourages narcissism, insecurity, and neediness. If you want a quick fix that’s appealing because it’s easy. Fake it. But it won’t work. It’ll just do more damage in the long run. If you want something t… | /r/seduction | 07/09/18 10:43 PM |
| – | Stop FAKING confidence, stop lying and stop trying to impress people. Stop trying to 'be alpha' - this doesn't just fail, it actively undoes your real confidence. This is the single biggest mistake there is. The right way is a lot harder, but works.No it’s not. Accepting you’re scared and acting anyway is. Anyway - one of the main points of the article is that confidence isn’t a thing. It’s simply the experience of better managing anxiety. Nobody FEELS confidence as an emotion, they simply feel better at handling their fear. It’s a distinct differnce that’s important. One implies guys have to find a feeling (forcing, faking), the other implies guys have to confront the fear that feel. The latter works. | /r/seduction | 07/09/18 10:23 PM |
| 12 | Stop FAKING confidence, stop lying and stop trying to impress people. Stop trying to 'be alpha' - this doesn't just fail, it actively undoes your real confidence. This is the single biggest mistake there is. The right way is a lot harder, but works.It’s a stupid way to go about living. At best you’ll just invite into your life people who do the same to you. Game’s the same as anything. It’s as ethical as you make it. | /r/seduction | 07/09/18 08:31 PM |
| – | Stop FAKING confidence, stop lying and stop trying to impress people. Stop trying to 'be alpha' - this doesn't just fail, it actively undoes your real confidence. This is the single biggest mistake there is. The right way is a lot harder, but works.If only | /r/seduction | 07/09/18 08:10 PM |
| 6 | Stop FAKING confidence, stop lying and stop trying to impress people. Stop trying to 'be alpha' - this doesn't just fail, it actively undoes your real confidence. This is the single biggest mistake there is. The right way is a lot harder, but works.Pretty much. You’ll always feel a little jittery. Very rarely is it never there. | /r/seduction | 07/09/18 08:10 PM |
| – | Stop FAKING confidence, stop lying and stop trying to impress people. Stop trying to 'be alpha' - this doesn't just fail, it actively undoes your real confidence. This is the single biggest mistake there is. The right way is a lot harder, but works.It’s a simple way of explaining how the experience of anxiety is. It’s always frightening and uncomfortable, but your relationship and your reaction to it changes. There’s a good book on this called Nerve. | /r/seduction | 07/09/18 08:09 PM |
| 2 | Is 'remaining alpha' actually good for a long-term relationship??I suck at reddit formating so I hope this makes sense. never supplicate Depends what you mean. Sometimes you'll be in the wrong, and you have to admit that. But that isn't supplicating. That's strength. continue being your own man Yes. Keep your own life, hobbies, and interests. Make time for them and don't let her dominate your time if you don't want do. continue speaking to girls and keeping your social skills sharp Yes. But don't flirt too much with other girls. It's a dumb idea and just enco… | /r/seduction | 07/09/18 04:33 PM |
| -1 | Sharpening text game.The best text game technique I know is too close all messenger apps, stop being a pussy, and just call her. It's crazy. | /r/seduction | 07/09/18 04:26 PM |
| 1 | You pay a price for avoiding rejection. Whether you run from it or try to fake / impress your way around it. Your best results are dependent on you getting rejected A LOT more than you think.One deadly adorable bastard * | /r/seduction | 05/09/18 07:25 PM |
| 1 | You pay a price for avoiding rejection. Whether you run from it or try to fake / impress your way around it. Your best results are dependent on you getting rejected A LOT more than you think.This quote always makes me laugh. I have a friend who always says “trust the science.” His science is: get fucked up on booze and cocaine and go on a rampage chasing women. I assume you mean something different. :D | /r/seduction | 05/09/18 10:00 AM |
| 1 | You pay a price for avoiding rejection. Whether you run from it or try to fake / impress your way around it. Your best results are dependent on you getting rejected A LOT more than you think.You’re welcome :) | /r/seduction | 05/09/18 05:40 AM |
| 1 | You pay a price for avoiding rejection. Whether you run from it or try to fake / impress your way around it. Your best results are dependent on you getting rejected A LOT more than you think.Chital didn’t have the same ring to it. | /r/seduction | 05/09/18 05:40 AM |
| 3 | You pay a price for avoiding rejection. Whether you run from it or try to fake / impress your way around it. Your best results are dependent on you getting rejected A LOT more than you think.Ah I’ll take a look at it now. Thanks! | /r/seduction | 04/09/18 07:32 PM |
| 6 | You pay a price for avoiding rejection. Whether you run from it or try to fake / impress your way around it. Your best results are dependent on you getting rejected A LOT more than you think.Exactly. | /r/seduction | 04/09/18 05:47 PM |
| – | You pay a price for avoiding rejection. Whether you run from it or try to fake / impress your way around it. Your best results are dependent on you getting rejected A LOT more than you think.It doesn’t work this way in real life. The vast, vast majority of people are completely normal and are fine to speak to. | /r/seduction | 04/09/18 05:46 PM |
| 36 | You pay a price for avoiding rejection. Whether you run from it or try to fake / impress your way around it. Your best results are dependent on you getting rejected A LOT more than you think.Case in point. Nice one. | /r/seduction | 04/09/18 04:33 PM |
| 28 | You pay a price for avoiding rejection. Whether you run from it or try to fake / impress your way around it. Your best results are dependent on you getting rejected A LOT more than you think.100%. My favourite for this was Patrice O’Neal. When he bombed he took the crowd down with him. Ha! | /r/seduction | 04/09/18 04:31 PM |
| – | How can I (F) feel more comfortable around men I fancy?This is fucking hilarious. | /r/seduction | 04/09/18 02:25 PM |
| 1 | How Do You Handle Constant Failure?Thanks :) | /r/seduction | 04/09/18 02:22 PM |
| 6 | How Do You Handle Constant Failure?Gotcha, so it's a sexual thing. That's helpful because it narrows it down to one issue. In that case I'd really sit down and question your beliefs and understanding about sexuality. If you read the books Come As You Are and A Billion Wicked Thoughts, they'll help you contextualise them in science. Basically, women are aroused by you taking the risk with them sexually. They don't just get turned on automatically like we do (albeit sometimes), they require you to make a move. To risk rejection. Th… | /r/seduction | 04/09/18 01:55 PM |
| – | How can I (F) feel more comfortable around men I fancy?I actually coached a 29 year old woman on this. It's simple to fix but feels hard to do. The fact you're aware of it as a weak spot is huge. With her we started really small, I just got her talking to them. The eye contact came later. Start by talking to them, developing more comfort there, then introduce elements of sexuality. With eye contact just develop a habit of looking at them between the eyes, then away. Then progress to looking at them in the eye until they look away. Practice this with… | /r/seduction | 04/09/18 01:44 PM |
| – | How Do You Handle Constant Failure?Failure is a good thing - that's how you identified your weak spots after all (being proper and safe). In terms of dealing with those - start small. Figure out what the bare minimum of your comfort zone is and expand from there. So (and I'm guessing here) maybe you very polite and don't rock the boat. Try touching her thigh next time. Or try telling her she's cute. Or, if you want to start smaller, challenge yourself to disagree with her on something you genuinely disagree with her on. That one … | /r/seduction | 04/09/18 01:36 PM |
| 1 | As soon as you start trying to confront your ANXIETY with women, your brain is going to come up with 1000 ways to stop you. Luckily, psychiatrists have studied these defense mechanisms for years. They're not concrete.You’re welcome :) - yeah I think understanding your Defense mechanisms is a far, far more practical way to look at gaining self awareness. | /r/seduction | 03/09/18 05:31 PM |
| 7 | First cold approaches EVER went horrible!Nothing, she just made a strange noise and walked quickly away. It's the only time anything like that has ever happened, and it was right at the beginning. Quite funny tbh. | /r/seduction | 03/09/18 11:09 AM |
| – | First cold approaches EVER went horrible!One of my first approaches ever was during the day. She screamed directly into my face. It was all pretty easy after that. | /r/seduction | 03/09/18 08:30 AM |
| 3 | Do any of you guys have "real core confidence"? How did you develop it?I developed a passive, baseline of confidence by sorting my life out and getting my basic emotional needs met. This is what moves anyone towards 'not giving a fuck.' You don't need to read a book on this, you just need a life you enjoy, that you find fulfilling, and that has solid emotional relationships in it. I also developed a more active confidence by consistently taking actions that confront your anxiety. I did this in a variety of ways. Approaching was one. Confronting my social anxiety wa… | /r/seduction | 03/09/18 08:28 AM |
| 2 | 12 Irresistible Bad Boy Traits Women CraveOnline is different because they can’t ‘feel’ the emotions they would face to face. Humor and lighthearted flirting is better. | /r/seduction | 22/08/18 08:13 AM |
| – | 12 Irresistible Bad Boy Traits Women CraveSure - talk about what you're passionate about. The feeling behind it is important. I've been on dates where I've talked about how much I loved playing Halo 3 as a teenager, or that my old school friends are having a Magic The Gathering competition and that game is awesome as fuck. They don't give a shit, all they care about is the feeling. Have fun with talking about your interests - if you know they're a bit different, laugh at yourself but don't filter your passion. I'm read classic fiction -… | /r/seduction | 21/08/18 04:19 PM |
| 4 | This sub caused me to try to sleep with women at times when I don't really want toI can relate 100%. I frequently leave dates because I'm not feeling it, I'm tired, or any other reason which is legit. In the past, I never used to do this. I'd always push for sex because I needed validation. Sex if you aren't feeling it isn't cool, it's stupid. All it means is that sex is more important to you than your actual feelings and needs. Aka you're needy. | /r/seduction | 21/08/18 04:10 PM |
| – | 12 Irresistible Bad Boy Traits Women CraveAnyone who says you need to be a 'bad boy' to get laid with women never gets laid with women. Here's the trait that women can't resist, regardless of whether you're a biker, or a priest: You aren't boring. (<this is achieved by not being bored with your own life) Then you take this step: You make a move.(<this is achieved by confronting your emotional issues and anxiety) That's it. | /r/seduction | 20/08/18 03:44 PM |
| 3 | GF is being rude in front of others since my value increasedJust have an honest, open, non-judgemental conversation about how you feel. That's the first thing you need to do. She'll react however she's going to react. If she's open and honest then she'll talk to you, apologise and change on her own. If she isn't she might get defensive and argumentative. Again, these are down to her. Nothing you can do here. After the conversation just set a boundary in your head, or with her (if necessary) and communicate it next time she does it. Do it in front of othe… | /r/seduction | 20/08/18 03:27 PM |
| 1 | Watching RSD makes me depressedYou're in the dumps because of your breakup. Always remember that. You lost a relationship, that sucks. No amount of vagina validation is going to help you with that. Here's what you need to do: 1) Quit watching RSD. It isn't going to help you. I can't even remember how many girls I've slept with and I've never acted like someone in their videos. You don't need to! 2) Build your social life and make sure you're casually interacting with women. 3) Ask them out. One night stands from clubs etc are… | /r/seduction | 16/08/18 02:11 PM |
| 5 | Is it essential that she thinks you are handsome for a cold approach to work?No. Approaching can often completely improve the way they look at you just because of how confident it is. This goes more for during the day than at night. | /r/seduction | 15/08/18 02:56 PM |
| 1 | This is pretty much EVERYTHING you need to know. The rest is just made up BS in your head that's stopping you from making your life much, MUCH easier for yourself.There is no money cost mate. It’s all free. It’s just information that can help people in dating if they choose to use it. Same as anything else on my site. | /r/seduction | 20/07/18 06:06 AM |
| 2 | Social activities, social jobs or cold approaches?Experience, gradually confronting your fears, Reading classic fiction, meditating, seeing a therapist. Those are the best ways I know. | /r/seduction | 18/07/18 09:22 PM |
| – | Social activities, social jobs or cold approaches?You have to take the risk. You'll learn to respect yourself for doing it more than you'll fear it. Go to classes / social activities if you want to make it slightly easier for yourself. In terms of not caring about cold approaching, that's an emotional thing. You have to explore that and do the work to resolve that. It takes a lot of time but is worth it. | /r/seduction | 18/07/18 09:07 PM |
| – | Wow a 9-5 life is hardIf you don't like the 9-5, find a skill you can develop that can be sold online. Then quit your job, sell that skill online, and work for yourself. | /r/seduction | 18/07/18 08:30 PM |
| – | Social activities, social jobs or cold approaches?Cold approach is far, far inferior to social activities / building a vibrant social life. It's a great thing to know how to do, but focus on building a solid social life first. It'll also make learning to do it easier. | /r/seduction | 18/07/18 08:27 PM |
| 1 | Would it be messed up to ask someone on a date if you only want to be FWBNo it's not at all. FWB style relationships are fine, you just have to be upfront about it from the beginning. They start to become complicated if you spend too much time together. I wrote more about this here: https://lifeuncivilized.com/casual-relationships/ | /r/seduction | 18/07/18 08:23 PM |
| – | If you learn how to change your mental habit of (bad) self-perception, you'll begin to stop OVERTHINKING simple things like approaching, confidence, making a move... all of it. Game becomes a lot EASIER.Have you considered speaking to a professional therapist? In a situation like this it might be helpful. It certainly helped me. | /r/seduction | 18/07/18 04:21 PM |
| 5 | If you learn how to change your mental habit of (bad) self-perception, you'll begin to stop OVERTHINKING simple things like approaching, confidence, making a move... all of it. Game becomes a lot EASIER.You’re welcome mate. Happy to help! | /r/seduction | 18/07/18 09:19 AM |
| 13 | If you learn how to change your mental habit of (bad) self-perception, you'll begin to stop OVERTHINKING simple things like approaching, confidence, making a move... all of it. Game becomes a lot EASIER.Yeah - on a similar note: the ability to accept yourself and not give yourself impossible standards to reach is deeply tied to self esteem. | /r/seduction | 18/07/18 07:46 AM |
| 2 | How to NOT Be Creepy With Girls | 7 Things You MUST AvoidThis is solid - but new guys should bear in mind that pushing things sexually and having pretty constant eye contacts are a great ways to screen for girls who are really into you. There's a balance between calibration and just trying to get any girl. If you lock down your fundamentals (looks, lifestyle) and go all in on your sexuality - you'll get rejected a shitload, but you'll also get laid a shitload. | /r/seduction | 17/07/18 06:30 PM |
| 1 | Is it possible to game without social media?Yes. It's possible. | /r/seduction | 17/07/18 06:22 PM |
| 5 | What is truly looks/sounds like to seduce a woman. Illuminating stuff. For the guys who need more clear examples rather tan abstract principles.Patrice is the greatest - but if you want to do what he did you need to get extremely comfortable with off-siding people / offending them. He basically went all on polarising people. That’s what happens when you’re as brutally honest as him. | /r/seduction | 15/07/18 09:25 PM |
| – | Coming to this sub while in a relationship, does it help?You’re right. It’s my fault - I get a bit sarcastic when I’m Drowzee. | /r/seduction | 28/06/18 06:12 PM |
| – | Coming to this sub while in a relationship, does it help?Couldn’t tell you, but I guarantee she’ll learn to see other guys if you keep making lame jokes like that. May as well be feeding her rare candy. | /r/seduction | 28/06/18 05:15 PM |
| 2 | Seduction and being severerly illNo worries. Try to think about what you have, rather than what you're lacking. I wish someone had told me this earlier. It made me appreciate my life far more, want less, and paradoxically have more as a result. Go figure. | /r/seduction | 28/06/18 04:39 PM |
| – | Coming to this sub while in a relationship, does it help?No - I wouldn't say so. Pay attention to the small details of your partner and try to understand her better than anyone else in the world (aka empathy), and 99.999999% of your relationship problems will cease to exist and there will be not reason on earth why you should come here. All this place is going to do is give you tips that would apply for picking her up (which is very different to long term intimacy) - or it's just going to tempt you into thinking the grass is greener, as another poster… | /r/seduction | 28/06/18 04:37 PM |
| – | Seduction and being severerly illI can relate to this a lot. Whilst it seems like you haven't experienced much life, the truth is, you've experienced a lot. You've fought cancer for god's sake! My advice would be this: find the stories and experiences and lessons that you've had within your own life and tell them honestly. The ONLY amendment I'd make to this (given that you're trying to pick up girls) is that I wouldn't make them depressing. Find what was empowering about the situation. Girls do not care about what you say. The… | /r/seduction | 28/06/18 04:33 PM |
| 2 | I used to think it was the BIG MOMENTS that helped me develop in game, but looking back, it was actually thousands of TINY MOMENTS that I never paid any attention to and never even noticed. This ended up being true not just of game, but of all self-improvement.I won’t. Will be expanding on this topic and idea more this week. | /r/seduction | 25/06/18 04:14 PM |
| 6 | I used to think it was the BIG MOMENTS that helped me develop in game, but looking back, it was actually thousands of TINY MOMENTS that I never paid any attention to and never even noticed. This ended up being true not just of game, but of all self-improvement.Difficult to tldr this but essentially your reactions to big moments - i.e approach anxiety when confronted with a girl you're attracted to - isn't something that you tackle then and there, but is in fact something that is dealt with (and born in) thousands of tiny moments that you don't pay any attention to. Such as not looking people in the eye, avoiding speaking up and so on. But also, and almost more importantly, it exists in the thoughts you neglect to pay attention to and the ones you ente… | /r/seduction | 25/06/18 10:27 AM |
| – | Masculinity and "acting like a man" used to be a big deal for me when I was first starting out, but as I got older, I realized that it wasn't really what I'd thought. It wasn't good, it wasn't "toxic", and it certainly wasn't what everyone was saying it wasThis comment is so detached from reality I don’t even know where to begin. | /r/seduction | 09/06/18 03:06 PM |
| – | Masculinity and "acting like a man" used to be a big deal for me when I was first starting out, but as I got older, I realized that it wasn't really what I'd thought. It wasn't good, it wasn't "toxic", and it certainly wasn't what everyone was saying it wasHe’s frequently flagged as an example of it. But in the sense that he had a ridiculous appetite for more women, I’d say he reflects someone who fell victim to masculinities pitfalls (addiction). | /r/seduction | 09/06/18 06:31 AM |
| 1 | Mystery Method, Magic Bullets or Models next ?I'd skip the books and read Good Looking Losers old stuff. He helped me more than anything. | /r/seduction | 24/05/18 08:06 AM |
| 0 | How to get past small talk?You get past small talk but offering up something deeper about yourself. Not massively deep, but something more than has been previously. She'll either reciprocate or she won't. If she doesn't. Move on. If she does, keep going. | /r/seduction | 22/05/18 01:02 PM |
| 1 | Going To Do Some Cold Approach At College This Summer, Should I Ask For A Girl's # Or Snapchat?Get her number and then whatsapp her for a little bit, once the convo gets going just call her. The ones that answer are worth your time, the ones that don't are a waste. Delete the number and move on. | /r/seduction | 22/05/18 12:59 PM |
| – | I aproached girls for the first time in nightclub. Looking for feedbackStop trying to avoid rejection. Don't talk to people on the dance floor unless they talk to you. dance. go up, grab her hand and spin her. don't blather on in her ear. Don't worry about making interactions longer, just aggressively escalate until you start making out or you get rejected. Screen for the girls who are DTF - you do this by being physically aggressive. The ones who will never fuck you will just reject you - the ones that will fuck you... will end up fucking you. Win-win. Do all of t… | /r/seduction | 22/05/18 12:57 PM |
| 1 | Talking on dating apps.Every line I’ve used that worked in a previous conversation, that I’ve tried to recreate in a new one - hasn’t worked. Every line I’ve seen recommended as a great line that I’ve then used - hasn’t worked. My most successful line of all time - “Oi - voce fala ingles?” I was in Brazil. A lot of girls responded positively to this and we chatted. I hooked up with a lot of them. Why did this line (and any line) work? I happened to be the kind of guy they wanted to fuck. In this instance, a foreign gu… | /r/seduction | 09/05/18 01:27 PM |
| 3 | Honestly, do you have better luck with the women you approach with a desire to sleep with? With women who you don't care about at all? Or with playing the numbers game and going until you get one that sticks regardless of if she is who you'd normally go for or not?I have success with ones that I go for, and want to sleep with. I also get rejected by a shit-ton of girls that I want to sleep with and go for. It’s just a numbers game - but why would you approach someone you have no desire for? | /r/seduction | 09/05/18 01:08 PM |
| 2 | Seduction is a Game of Mistakes"She wasn't buying. Or maybe she's off the market. Who knows, but you played your part." Right on. Probably the most important thing to understand, but very rarely is. All you have to do is make your move. The rest is personal development. | /r/seduction | 26/04/18 02:07 PM |
| 2 | How To Text Women - Stop Overthinking It And Do This InsteadI’m dating a 22 year old at the moment and calling is far better than texting. Provided you’ve approached in person and vibed well I’d just call. It creates more tension, and gets way more investment. You also cut the dead weight quicker. | /r/seduction | 25/04/18 10:25 AM |
| 3 | How To Text Women - Stop Overthinking It And Do This InsteadYes - but in almost all cases calling her is about 1000x times better. Save the texting for logistics, or sending funny shit you've found if you want to share it, or things that don't require a full call. Otherwise just call her. Limit your texting as much as possible. | /r/seduction | 24/04/18 10:14 PM |
| 1 | How can I be always ready to approach?You can't always be ready to approach. You can get better at approaching more often, but your emotions, energy, and attention will fluctuate so much throughout the day that you'll always end up missing girls. It's normal. Just try to speak to 2 per day, or per week. Whatever works for you. | /r/seduction | 24/04/18 08:51 PM |
| – | Just a reminder, don't filter yourself when talking to girlsDon't filter yourself ever. Regardless of who you're speaking to. You'll figure out when and when not to apologize later. | /r/seduction | 24/04/18 08:40 PM |
| 1 | Caring vs aloof vs being needy?Needy = showing you care and hoping for something in return, or hoping for permission Genuine care = showing you care for no other reason than you want to, and not asking for permission | /r/seduction | 24/04/18 08:34 PM |
| 2 | Creative Reasons To Invite Woman Over To Your PlaceYou don't need a reason, you just need her to feel comfortable and in the mood to a certain degree. Then you can say anything. "Want to come over and cook me food? I've got thigh garters and a thong you can wear, but you'll need to bring the heels" | /r/seduction | 24/04/18 08:30 PM |
| 4 | Went out with a 10. Normally dates are easy for me, but this time I'm confused...You're over thinking it. Ask her out again. Meet her at a bar at night. Talk to her. Laugh. Put your hand on her thigh. Kiss her. If she isn't into you, she'll let you know. If she is, you'll be kissing a hot girl. Do all of the above and stop being a pussy. Good luck. | /r/seduction | 24/04/18 02:16 PM |
| 1 | What to do when you have nothing interesting to talk about yourself or the other person?She sounds boring. Get rid of her. | /r/seduction | 20/04/18 08:08 AM |
| 1 | The 3 Biggest Mistakes That Screw Up Your 20sSure | /r/seduction | 03/02/18 11:38 PM |
| – | The 3 Biggest Mistakes That Screw Up Your 20sYes - that’s a post I’ve been meaning to dive into. Will do it soon! very simple concept that’s often oversimplified | /r/seduction | 03/02/18 10:44 PM |
| 1 | The 3 Biggest Mistakes That Screw Up Your 20sYes but: Having crappy finances Getting married Having kids Is usually what gets them. | /r/seduction | 03/02/18 06:06 PM |
| 2 | The 8 Commandments Of Self ConfidenceThese are all good, but in my own experience confidence is almost entirely based on proving to yourself you can face you fears. Be that fear of failure, fear of approaching, fear of confrontation - the more you confront those basic fears, the more your confidence grows overall. Most of the tips listed here are simply good for mental health, but don’t really directly tie to functional self confidence. | /r/seduction | 24/10/17 04:29 PM |
| 1 | I cannot look at a girl the right wayThe easiest way to explain it is that you need to become comfortable with being perceived as unlikeable. You need to develop an awareness of when you’re saying things so that people will like you, at the expense of what you actually think / believe / want to say. This doesn’t mean act like a dick. It just means that you okay with people thinking you’re a dick. People call this “not giving a fuck” but I don’t really find that helpful. It’s freedom of expression - where what you want to say is mor… | /r/seduction | 23/10/17 11:29 AM |
| 3 | I [27M] was invited by a girl to watch a movie at her place. Need some tips.Just chat with her, lay the eye contact on thick and thread in some touching. Don't think. Don't explain it. Just do it. She'll make it really obvious if she doesn't like it. When you're watching a film, put your hand on her thigh. Don't think. Don't explain it. Just do it. Again, she'll make it really obvious if she doesn't like it. Done these? Now kiss her. Just talk to her, let it trail off, look at her eyes then her lips and kiss her. Don't do anything else. Just shut your mouth, stop talkin… | /r/seduction | 22/10/17 02:41 PM |
| 1 | How To Develop The Self-Trust That’ll Keep You Going No Matter What - the same principles I applied to approaching that kept me consistently improving my dating lifeThanks! I had a hiccup with my own self trust recently, so this was just as much for me as it was for anyone else | /r/seduction | 22/10/17 12:17 PM |
| – | How detrimental is seeing hookers? (situation inside)1 - I hardly ever go out these days (one of my family members is unwell so I’m helping out there), but when I was on it - 2-3 times per week. I generally have always dated more than I went out though. I still do now. Dates are more fun and far easier. 2 - Good question - definitely persistence and dissatisfaction. I never stopped trying and I was never happy with my results. Combine those two and you’ll see a lot of growth. Eventually though, you’ll have to sort that happiness part out. 3 - Good… | /r/seduction | 22/10/17 12:14 PM |
| 3 | I cannot look at a girl the right wayI wouldn't start to worry until you start believing showering a spectator sport. | /r/seduction | 21/10/17 02:56 PM |
| – | The role of looks in gameAs I said in another thread: Girls care way more about who you are and how you make them feel than what you look like. Never, ever forget this. Looks just make them assume certain things about who you are, and make them feel immediate arousal. You don't need looks to achieve either of those, looks just get you there faster, and don't guarantee you'll keep them. | /r/seduction | 21/10/17 01:19 PM |
| – | I cannot look at a girl the right waySuffer through this for years - at least 1, likely 2-3, slowly pushing your comfort zone with eye contact, touching, and how free you are with your speech (i.e no filter). It'll suck, but you'll come out the other side if you can bear the struggle. Just don't go too far or you'll end up like Harvey Weinstein and that guy went way overboard! | /r/seduction | 21/10/17 01:17 PM |
| – | How detrimental is seeing hookers? (situation inside)You're going to have lots of bad nights. In fact, for a long time they'll outnumber the good. That's the way it is for most guys. The first 6 months to a year were fucking shit for me. Who cares? Keep trucking, keep improving. If your looks suck, max them out as much as you can whilst developing other areas. There are plenty of ugly guys who kill it with girls. Be one of them. I'm objectively in far worse shape now than I used to be. Girls used to squeeze my arms in clubs and comment on my muscl… | /r/seduction | 21/10/17 01:09 PM |
| – | This Is The Most Attractive Thing You Can Ever DoThe basic point is that the fundamental quality of attractive behaviour is how brutally true you are with your own speech - how honest and how fearless you are with that. I.e. Never lie / change your opinion to get laid. Develop the habit of being true to yourself day in and day out. Lose your filter as much as humanly possible even if you 'think' it will shoot you in the foot. This means you'll be more confrontational, more disagreeable, and to some people, more unlikeable. But you'll also be y… | /r/seduction | 10/10/17 01:34 PM |
| 2 | If This Guy Could Manage It in Auschwitz – What Excuse Do You Have?I've read all of it - I just simplified it to Auschwitz because it gets the point across quicker, as nobody is familiar with Kaufering or Turkheim. Seriously, just put those names in the title. Not only do they just confuse everyone, his work has very little to do with the exact location he was in, but a hell of a lot to do with how he coped with it - which was the whole point of my article | /r/seduction | 30/09/17 03:44 PM |
| 1 | Girl I'm seeing asked me to say "I love you" during sex?Tell her you'll say it if she agrees to say "I'm pregnant." | /r/seduction | 17/09/17 04:00 PM |
| – | If You Want To Be More Charismatic, Start Telling Good Stories - one of the only things I regret not learning earlier in life. Easier connection, better dates, and seemingly effortless charisma.Yeah I agree with that. It's pretty much what I do in real life - I suppose what this article lacked then is context. Which is a limitation of blog posts you run into as opposed to a book I suppose. | /r/seduction | 05/09/17 07:12 AM |
| – | If You Want To Be More Charismatic, Start Telling Good Stories - one of the only things I regret not learning earlier in life. Easier connection, better dates, and seemingly effortless charisma.In regards to the women, I guess it could come down to how deep you go. I always try to go as deep with someone as I can, which means a lot of it can be what I'd call "positively uncomfortable" - details about yourself you're not proud of and would normally hide, but when shared with someone, makes you feel closer to them. My general rule is the deeper you go, the deeper you connect. Most of the time (there are exceptions) this requires me going first | /r/seduction | 04/09/17 06:33 AM |
| – | If You Want To Be More Charismatic, Start Telling Good Stories - one of the only things I regret not learning earlier in life. Easier connection, better dates, and seemingly effortless charisma.I would disagree on that last point. People talk about themselves, sure. But to get them to truly share the most honest details about themselves, that requires that you usually open up and go deep first. A story is just a good way to do that. I would agree that my audience is a lot of beginners, and that they could take it the wrong way. There's an element of truth to this - but I don't think you're giving people enough credit. You always have guys who take your advice as the be all and end all … | /r/seduction | 04/09/17 05:38 AM |
| 1 | If You Want To Be More Charismatic, Start Telling Good Stories - one of the only things I regret not learning earlier in life. Easier connection, better dates, and seemingly effortless charisma.It's best to use a story as a way to open up a conversation into something you can both talk about and share experiences - ideally something you've both felt and experienced, not necessarily for the same reasons | /r/seduction | 03/09/17 03:39 PM |
| 9 | If You Want To Be More Charismatic, Start Telling Good Stories - one of the only things I regret not learning earlier in life. Easier connection, better dates, and seemingly effortless charisma.If you can tell a story that's emotionally honest, sure. There's an entire classic novel written about more or less just this. It's called Oblomov. The guy doesn't even leave bed for the first 50 pages. | /r/seduction | 03/09/17 06:41 AM |
| – | If You Want To Be More Charismatic, Start Telling Good Stories - one of the only things I regret not learning earlier in life. Easier connection, better dates, and seemingly effortless charisma.I never once said that you shouldn't listen. I simply that this is a great way to share who you are. And that once you do that, they share who they are as well. What is that if not connection? That was literally my entire conclusion. Listening and paying attention are great - id never argue otherwise. But fuck me you have to add something of your own. People often won't open up until you do. | /r/seduction | 03/09/17 06:39 AM |
| 3 | If You Want To Be More Charismatic, Start Telling Good Stories - one of the only things I regret not learning earlier in life. Easier connection, better dates, and seemingly effortless charisma.Try not to think of it like you're trying to impress them. Have the stories you have and if there's a place where you feel they fit in or would be worth it - say them Take the risk. As I wrote in my other charisma article - to be charismatic you literally have to risk being perceived as unlikeable. It's not about impressing it's about being uninhibited. | /r/seduction | 02/09/17 10:43 PM |
| – | If You Want To Be More Charismatic, Start Telling Good Stories - one of the only things I regret not learning earlier in life. Easier connection, better dates, and seemingly effortless charisma.You can think about and work on your stories in your spare time. You practice telling them by throwing them into conversation with people. You will fail a lot. But that's fine, it'll teach you how to get better. | /r/seduction | 02/09/17 10:39 PM |
| 2 | If You Want To Be More Charismatic, Start Telling Good Stories - one of the only things I regret not learning earlier in life. Easier connection, better dates, and seemingly effortless charisma.It's not lying, you're looking at it the wrong way | /r/seduction | 02/09/17 07:44 PM |
| – | If You Want To Be More Charismatic, Start Telling Good Stories - one of the only things I regret not learning earlier in life. Easier connection, better dates, and seemingly effortless charisma.Yeah I agree with you. The embellishment part is essential, unless you just happen to have a really great story happen to you in its entirety (which is rare). However, you do have to careful with it - and especially don't just descend into outrageous lying. I have a friend like that as well and I know what you mean, it's just a hard thing to put in words. It's like telling someone that being 'honest' is good game. Some guys will get that immediately and do it right, others will look at it as a t… | /r/seduction | 02/09/17 04:43 PM |
| 1 | What Are You Going To Do If Your Life Goes Horribly Wrong?Pretty much. It's just a far more practical approach. | /r/seduction | 13/08/17 08:46 AM |
| 1 | How to Become The Master of Your Motivation - what I learned from being too afraid to approach girls, and terrified of pursuing my dreamsThanks - Let me know how you get on! | /r/seduction | 18/07/17 07:48 PM |
| 2 | How to Become The Master of Your Motivation - what I learned from being too afraid to approach girls, and terrified of pursuing my dreamsA lot of it had to do with things I've been telling myself since I was kid. I paid a lot of money for a cognitive hypnotherapist, who came highly recommended, and then spent time figuring out every issue I struggle with (being brutally honest), looking for the common thread that linked them all together. Feeling like I was inherently 'wrong' or 'bad' was that thread. | /r/seduction | 17/07/17 02:11 PM |
| 1 | How to Become The Master of Your Motivation - what I learned from being too afraid to approach girls, and terrified of pursuing my dreamsI can relate. Nothing wrong with putting dating on hold if you're more interested in other things. Ultimately it's more important that you do what makes you happy. Here's the caveat though - if you're jerking off to porn all the time, or just masturbating a lot in general, I would probably say you're more interested in women than you think | /r/seduction | 17/07/17 02:05 PM |
| – | How to Become The Master of Your Motivation - what I learned from being too afraid to approach girls, and terrified of pursuing my dreamsIt wasn't so much that it pushed me, it's that I dealt with what was pushing me away (my fear of social embarrassment). When I realised that was coming from my fear of loneliness and inadequacy, which incidentally was the motivator for me trying to change - it became easier for me to approach, but i also became far less neurotic about approaching. I became okay with not getting laid all the time, and I became okay with prioritising things above women - as this stuff was no longer tied to my iden… | /r/seduction | 17/07/17 11:47 AM |
| – | How to Become The Master of Your Motivation - what I learned from being too afraid to approach girls, and terrified of pursuing my dreamsNo, not at all. Instead of focusing on being motivated, look at the actions you're currently taking, and think about what they say about how you're already motivated. Once you figure out what you're already motivated by, if it's negative, you can work on it and address it directly, rather than trying to force yourself to be motivated around it. Aka destroy the roadblock, stop trying to force yourself to climb it | /r/seduction | 17/07/17 10:28 AM |
| 1 | How to Become The Master of Your Motivation - what I learned from being too afraid to approach girls, and terrified of pursuing my dreams100% - I actually wrote an article saying exactly this: http://lifeuncivilized.com/achieving_your_dreams/ It's all about embarrassing the pain, as that's what gets you to your goal. | /r/seduction | 17/07/17 08:14 AM |
| – | How to Become The Master of Your Motivation - what I learned from being too afraid to approach girls, and terrified of pursuing my dreamsI saw a professional who helped me deal with issues of self worth and anxiety, and helped me understand where all those issues were coming from. | /r/seduction | 17/07/17 06:05 AM |
| – | How to Become The Master of Your Motivation - what I learned from being too afraid to approach girls, and terrified of pursuing my dreamsSomething is always motivating you. Figuring out, and dealing with your pre-existing motivations is more effective than try to force yourself to be motivated. | /r/seduction | 17/07/17 06:04 AM |
| 2 | How to Become The Master of Your Motivation - what I learned from being too afraid to approach girls, and terrified of pursuing my dreamsSomething is always motivating you. Figuring out, and dealing with your pre-existing motivations is more effective than try to force yourself to be motivated. | /r/seduction | 17/07/17 06:03 AM |
| 2 | How to Become The Master of Your Motivation - what I learned from being too afraid to approach girls, and terrified of pursuing my dreamsThanks man - feel free to put it wherever it's relevant. I only really know here and zen habits | /r/seduction | 16/07/17 09:29 PM |
| 4 | How to Become The Master of Your Motivation - what I learned from being too afraid to approach girls, and terrified of pursuing my dreamsThanks man, I'll try keep it up | /r/seduction | 16/07/17 07:28 PM |
| – | How to Become The Master of Your Motivation - what I learned from being too afraid to approach girls, and terrified of pursuing my dreamsThanks - that's really the kind of feedback that means a lot. I've written some crap articles before, so I really want to better write stuff that flips people's perspective in a positive way, and challenges their beliefs. | /r/seduction | 16/07/17 07:06 PM |
| – | How to Become The Master of Your Motivation - what I learned from being too afraid to approach girls, and terrified of pursuing my dreamsIn a way - the insight led me to view my actions and goals differently, which led me to make different, more healthier choices. It also led me to therapy. | /r/seduction | 16/07/17 06:55 PM |
| 3 | How to Become The Master of Your Motivation - what I learned from being too afraid to approach girls, and terrified of pursuing my dreamsYou're welcome :) | /r/seduction | 16/07/17 04:28 PM |
| – | How to Become The Master of Your Motivation - what I learned from being too afraid to approach girls, and terrified of pursuing my dreamsNot so much 'what's wrong with you', more where you're motivating yourself negatively. But yeah, do some digging and the gold is there. | /r/seduction | 16/07/17 03:27 PM |
| – | What do you all think about calling a girl out on her feelings towards you?I would never say any of your examples. But yes I would call out a girl on her attraction towards me if I felt like it. It'll spike her emotions, but so does just kissing her. Why don't you just do that? | /r/seduction | 28/06/17 01:30 PM |
| 1 | If You Focus on Adding More Value Than Anyone Else, You’ll Never Have to Worry About AnythingThanks man :) Not really - if I'm honest podcasts aren't really my jam. But down the line who knows? | /r/seduction | 27/06/17 06:05 AM |
| – | If You Focus on Adding More Value Than Anyone Else, You’ll Never Have to Worry About AnythingHah, thanks mate, that's really generous! But don't worry about it. Happy to help. Feel free to drop me a message if you have any more questions :) | /r/seduction | 26/06/17 09:19 PM |
| – | If You Focus on Adding More Value Than Anyone Else, You’ll Never Have to Worry About AnythingGo travelling and hit up hostels. Go to dance classes (salsa etc), boxing classes, entrepreneurship seminars, psychology talks, rock climbing clubs, surf schools - you get the drift. Go there, talk to everyone. If you talk to a girl you like, ask her out. If you meet a bunch of people you like, make a whatsapp group, get them chatting, arrange a meet up outside of the event Rinse and repeat, you now have a shitload of friends | /r/seduction | 26/06/17 09:03 PM |
| – | If You Focus on Adding More Value Than Anyone Else, You’ll Never Have to Worry About AnythingWhat are your interests? | /r/seduction | 26/06/17 07:41 PM |
| – | If You Focus on Adding More Value Than Anyone Else, You’ll Never Have to Worry About AnythingYes, definitely keep building your social circle. The payoffs are enormous, especially in your happiness. | /r/seduction | 26/06/17 06:08 PM |
| – | If You Focus on Adding More Value Than Anyone Else, You’ll Never Have to Worry About AnythingThanks :) | /r/seduction | 26/06/17 06:23 AM |
| 3 | If You Focus on Adding More Value Than Anyone Else, You’ll Never Have to Worry About AnythingOne night stands have more to do with how aggressively you're escalating and how much sexual tension is there. | /r/seduction | 26/06/17 06:23 AM |
| 1 | If You Focus on Adding More Value Than Anyone Else, You’ll Never Have to Worry About AnythingThanks - happy to help :) | /r/seduction | 25/06/17 11:47 PM |
| 1 | Harsh Life Lessons From A Guy Who’s Spent Way Too Much Time Chasing Girls - how to get good at game faster, so you can focus on stuff that actually mattersI think the best thing I can say is that the overthinking and the lack of results are not a coincidence. | /r/seduction | 25/06/17 09:02 PM |
| – | Harsh Life Lessons From A Guy Who’s Spent Way Too Much Time Chasing Girls - how to get good at game faster, so you can focus on stuff that actually mattersWhere on Earth are you that's it difficult to find a socially well-adjusted, good looking brunette? They're quite literally everywhere. | /r/seduction | 25/06/17 07:42 PM |
| – | Harsh Life Lessons From A Guy Who’s Spent Way Too Much Time Chasing Girls - how to get good at game faster, so you can focus on stuff that actually mattersWhat do you mean by eligible? | /r/seduction | 25/06/17 06:08 PM |
| 1 | The more I get better at daygame, my nightgame gets worseNo, I would imagine it is either: Just down to random chance or you're bringing a day game level of energy to a night game venue (generally much higher). Up your energy and see what happens. | /r/seduction | 25/06/17 02:52 PM |
| 2 | Harsh Life Lessons From A Guy Who’s Spent Way Too Much Time Chasing Girls - how to get good at game faster, so you can focus on stuff that actually mattersThanks :) I'm glad you found it useful. Also worth mentioning there's nothing abnormal about thinking about sex all the time when you're young. In fact, it's pretty much impossible to think of anything else. | /r/seduction | 24/06/17 10:58 PM |
| 2 | Here’s The Truth About Being A ‘Player’ – The Sad, Emotionally Stunted Reality Of Your FantasyExactly. Seduction seems to have become about getting any girl, rather than getting the high quality ones. I prefer the latter. | /r/seduction | 18/06/17 07:19 AM |
| 1 | Have you quit Drinking? How did you handle Social Situations?Not really, only when I'm in my head. | /r/seduction | 18/06/17 07:17 AM |
| – | At a crossroads with a girl... (28M). Time to pump the brakes?She's either busy / has something going on in her life, and could do with you laying off. Or she's not into you and you should lay off. Either way, I'd cut her loose. | /r/seduction | 18/06/17 01:51 AM |
| – | Have you quit Drinking? How did you handle Social Situations?I don't drink anymore. It's not necessary and I much prefer being sober. No harm going to a bar or club, it just takes longer to get out of your head. You do this by approaching. Drink water. If someone asks, say you don't drink. Don't overcomplicate it, just do it. If you're having fun, and helping other people have a good time, nobody will give a fuck what you're drinking. | /r/seduction | 18/06/17 12:56 AM |
| 3 | I'm an introvert: I only approach every other day. What's your story?I'm very similar. Some days I'm on it, some days I just want to be alone. When I was younger I saw this as an issue, now I view it as a positive. One caveat I'd say is that don't let "low energy" be a reason for you not approach. I used to tell myself that if I wasn't on it, I couldn't approach, and it was bullshit. All you have to do is say hi. You don't have to be in state, you don't even have to be funny. | /r/seduction | 14/06/17 09:10 PM |
| – | How To Develop A Rock-Solid Frame That Magnetically Attracts WomenSee, I agree with this but the problem I've always had with frame is that just by telling guys that they need to work on it, they almost immediately start focusing on having it, by essentially getting into some form of fakery or imitation. I've never seen it not be a negative when applied to someone new to this. I wouldn't even bother acknowledging it as a part of the process, just focus on gaining experience and building a better relationship and understanding of your emotions - if you do that … | /r/seduction | 12/06/17 09:08 PM |
| 3 | Am I putting guys off by sleeping with them on the second date?No - having sex on the 2nd date isn't the issue. The issue is the kind of guy you're dating. | /r/seduction | 12/06/17 08:36 PM |
| 2 | Here’s Why You Need To Start Meeting Women During The DayThanks - it was a good question :) | /r/seduction | 12/06/17 07:13 PM |
| 1 | Here’s Why You Need To Start Meeting Women During The DayBy having your shit together I mean you understand yourself emotionally and how you react to the world and what motivates you. Especially, in this case, neediness. | /r/seduction | 12/06/17 07:08 PM |
| – | Here’s Why You Need To Start Meeting Women During The DayNo, I merely stated that approaching during the day is a great way to stand out. So you're saying your work out, travel, have your shit together and approach all the time and you still get no results? | /r/seduction | 12/06/17 05:05 PM |
| 1 | Here’s Why You Need To Start Meeting Women During The DayI think the ideas that western civilisation has on how to live really fucking suck, and leave you with a half-lived, half-aware, half-witted life. Hence 'uncivilized.' | /r/seduction | 12/06/17 01:20 PM |
| – | Here’s Why You Need To Start Meeting Women During The DayThanks! So this could probably be an article on its own but when I started I was emotionally needy and desperately afraid of rejection. I wanted to prove to myself, and more importantly other people that I was 'a player'. Since then I've learned: 1) getting good at 'game' is an emotional process. It's not really a skill. The quicker you come to terms with your neediness, the better and easier your results will be. 2) the better you get, the more you'll get rejected. It took me way too long to re… | /r/seduction | 12/06/17 09:04 AM |
| – | Here’s Why You Need To Start Meeting Women During The DayExactly | /r/seduction | 12/06/17 06:09 AM |
| 8 | Here’s Why You Need To Start Meeting Women During The DayThanks. You're actually right. I'll remove them | /r/seduction | 12/06/17 06:07 AM |
| 2 | The Guide To Nightlife – A Simple Method To Making Bars and Clubs Your BitchYeah, I just jerk off. As for pulling - I just approach and talk to them. If it goes well, it goes well. If it doesn't, it doesn't. Who cares? As for LMR - I physically escalate aggressively, so any girl that isn't interested in having sex rejects me pretty quickly. I never get LMR from the ones who stick around. Screen for sexually active, available girls, and you'll have more sex. Who knew? Why waste time trying to win over some frigid girl, who doesn't really like you? It sounds like you're c… | /r/seduction | 10/06/17 12:28 PM |
| 2 | The Guide To Nightlife – A Simple Method To Making Bars and Clubs Your BitchYeah, hence "if you enjoy the dance floor." | /r/seduction | 10/06/17 12:23 PM |
| 2 | The Guide To Nightlife – A Simple Method To Making Bars and Clubs Your BitchIf you enjoy the dance floor, then the dance floor is gold. No advice for someone diagnosed with Asperger's syndrome. I wouldn't be the right person to help there. Find a professional who's dealt with it before, or someone who has it themselves and manages it really well. In regards to that girl stroking your face. If that was me I would read that as a definite sign to kiss her. That kind of thing is a massive green light to make a move. | /r/seduction | 10/06/17 08:37 AM |
| 1 | How To Get Your Dating Life Back On Track - Whether you've taken a break, or have no experience whatsoever, here's where you're going wrong and what you need to do about itWow, that's high praise. Thanks a lot! I'm glad I could be useful. In regards to alcohol, yes that's exactly what I mean. Alcohol dampens the conscience and frees you up socially. I don't think this is necessarily a bad thing, I think it just depends on the persons motivations, and of course, the volume consumed. My article called 'If you let them your flaws will destroy you' elaborates on this. | /r/seduction | 07/06/17 03:45 PM |
| 2 | How To Get Your Dating Life Back On Track - Whether you've taken a break, or have no experience whatsoever, here's where you're going wrong and what you need to do about itThanks - glad you enjoyed it | /r/seduction | 07/06/17 06:05 AM |
| 3 | How To Get Your Dating Life Back On Track - Whether you've taken a break, or have no experience whatsoever, here's where you're going wrong and what you need to do about itYou're welcome :) | /r/seduction | 07/06/17 06:05 AM |
| 2 | [Sexual Positions] What are some places other than the bed around the house that are hot to have sex and what positions are good.Anywhere and all of them. | /r/seduction | 29/05/17 08:31 PM |
| 2 | [FR] My Mom got me a date with a 9Oh boy. | /r/seduction | 29/05/17 08:06 PM |
| 1 | You Need To Stop Trying To Be Attractive - Why your desire to be perceived as an attractive guy is sending you in the wrong directionYeah it takes a while but if you can lock that down then you're good as Gold | /r/seduction | 29/05/17 04:31 PM |
| – | From bitter butt hurt to approach machine: infield reportYou inadvertently got yourself out of your own head. Nice work! It makes approaching 1000 times easier. If you can keep doing this to the point where you're comfortable with your approach anxiety, and it takes very little to get you on point, I would: 1) Escalate, escalate, escalate, escalate, escalate. 2) Experiment with what you like to say and how you like to behave in certain venues. Maybe you like to be direct and just say 'Hi, I'm X', maybe you like to say 'Stop, let's see some ID' or some… | /r/seduction | 28/05/17 04:39 PM |
| 1 | Slim body & babyfaced. Is there any way of interaction where I can use this look to my advantage?Yup. | /r/seduction | 28/05/17 04:29 PM |
| – | Slim body & babyfaced. Is there any way of interaction where I can use this look to my advantage?He's too busy thinking about his looks to get the success that's already out there waiting for him, and we'll within his potential | /r/seduction | 28/05/17 02:59 PM |
| 1 | If You Say Hi, You’ve Already Won – How To Start Building A Better, Simpler Sex Life By Focusing On LessIt's far easier. | /r/seduction | 28/05/17 10:14 AM |
| 3 | If You Say Hi, You’ve Already Won – How To Start Building A Better, Simpler Sex Life By Focusing On LessBoth in tandem work a treat | /r/seduction | 28/05/17 10:13 AM |
| – | If You Say Hi, You’ve Already Won – How To Start Building A Better, Simpler Sex Life By Focusing On LessThey pay them for help because they believe it's more complicated than it is. They believe this because they have issues of self worth, which the coaches them market their content against. All the techniques that are sold usually just act as a way to attempt to control the girl from having a negative reaction to you - an approach which is entirely motivated by the belief that you are inherently worthy of a negative response so you have to learn to avoid it. It's bullshit. In reality it's really … | /r/seduction | 28/05/17 09:15 AM |
| 1 | If You Say Hi, You’ve Already Won – How To Start Building A Better, Simpler Sex Life By Focusing On LessExactly. | /r/seduction | 28/05/17 08:02 AM |
| 4 | If You Say Hi, You’ve Already Won – How To Start Building A Better, Simpler Sex Life By Focusing On LessIt takes ages, so be patient. The general rule is do whatever it is you feel emotionally uncomfortable doing, especially if it relates to yourself worth. Learn to spot what you avoiding exposing about yourself, and expose it. This could be approaching and expressing your intentions directly, or this could be talking about what you love and fear in life, or the times you've failed, or what you genuinely want. The trick to developing vulnerability is learning to spot what you're avoiding, and doin… | /r/seduction | 28/05/17 07:31 AM |
| 1 | You've been seeing someone for a short period of time. They end up saying they are not attracted to you, you go on separate ways and never talk again. Is it possible, after a considerable period of time (few months at least), to try again, and this time, making them be attracted to you?Yes, it's possible. No, don't do it. Find a girl who actually wants to be with you, and thinks you're fucking great rather than chasing one who isn't sure. | /r/seduction | 28/05/17 12:51 AM |
| – | Slim body & babyfaced. Is there any way of interaction where I can use this look to my advantage?Where is it written that being slim and babyfaced means you can't get laid? If you don't care, they won't either. Girls right now want to fuck you, and have fucked guys less attractive than you - but you're too busy thinking about your looks. | /r/seduction | 28/05/17 12:47 AM |
| 4 | If You Say Hi, You’ve Already Won – How To Start Building A Better, Simpler Sex Life By Focusing On LessHa, I have faith that most people will understand that's a joke. Although very early on, when I was starting out, I did approach one girl and she screamed in my face and ran away. In the middle of the street. In broad daylight. Really weird, but still makes me laugh. My opener was "excuse me, do you have the time?", which makes it funnier. | /r/seduction | 28/05/17 12:43 AM |
| 4 | If You Say Hi, You’ve Already Won – How To Start Building A Better, Simpler Sex Life By Focusing On LessYou're welcome. All the exercises are basically what I snap myself into doing if I haven't been out in ages. Gets me back on track pretty quickly. | /r/seduction | 27/05/17 06:08 PM |
| – | If You Say Hi, You’ve Already Won – How To Start Building A Better, Simpler Sex Life By Focusing On LessThanks man :) | /r/seduction | 27/05/17 04:52 PM |
| 3 | Your Dreams Are Achieved In The Moments You Hate The Most - learning to enjoy just how much pickup is gonna suck, and how to know you're on the right trackCongrats man! That's a great achievement! Thanks for your feedback :) | /r/seduction | 21/05/17 06:13 PM |
| 1 | If You Don’t Know Your Values, You Have Learned Absolutely Nothing - the art of cutting your identity to pieces, killing your beliefs and making real gains in your life and sexual relationshipsNah, I've never met someone without values and beliefs. Everyone has them; especially the ones who say they don't. It's there if you look. | /r/seduction | 19/05/17 06:37 PM |
| 2 | If You Want To Be Charismatic, Be More Unlikeable - the simple way of looking at it that enhanced my sex life, and made my social life strongerYup. :) You spiked her emotion. | /r/seduction | 18/05/17 06:23 AM |
| – | If You Want To Be Charismatic, Be More Unlikeable - the simple way of looking at it that enhanced my sex life, and made my social life strongerI feel like this is in agreement with the whole 'don't be a dickhead' part of my article. I think a lot of people need to remember that in my article I'm not advising acting in an unlikeable way, I'm advising acting in a way that could be perceived as unlikeable. It's an important distinction. It's the fear of that perception that stems from neediness, and that's the thing to beat. | /r/seduction | 18/05/17 06:22 AM |
| 2 | If You Want To Be Charismatic, Be More Unlikeable - the simple way of looking at it that enhanced my sex life, and made my social life strongerEveryone's needy to a degree, sure. But researching charismatic techniques so that people will like you more is generally not a good sign. Sure I could go into depth on neediness (which I have in other articles) but in an article on charisma it would be a long tangent. People can read between the lines themselves. | /r/seduction | 18/05/17 06:16 AM |
| 5 | If You Want To Be Charismatic, Be More Unlikeable - the simple way of looking at it that enhanced my sex life, and made my social life strongerThanks :) | /r/seduction | 17/05/17 10:28 PM |
| – | If You Want To Be Charismatic, Be More Unlikeable - the simple way of looking at it that enhanced my sex life, and made my social life strongerFrames always struck me as needy to be honest. | /r/seduction | 17/05/17 10:06 PM |
| – | If You Want To Be Charismatic, Be More Unlikeable - the simple way of looking at it that enhanced my sex life, and made my social life strongerThanks! Manson was actually a big influence on me when I was younger. I read Models and really got involved with this stuff. I don't recognise the feedback loop from hell though. If that's from his new book then I haven't seen that. | /r/seduction | 17/05/17 10:05 PM |
| 1 | Often get told by Tinder dates that I'm "way hotter in person than in my pics", how do I take better pics if I'm about as photogenic as a dry dog turd?This is the correct answer. | /r/seduction | 17/05/17 09:32 PM |
| 2 | Why It's Time to Leave Online Dating Behind For the Real WorldEvery time I ditch online dating and booze my results skyrocket. The reverse happens when I start them again. I have no idea why (well, the booze one makes sense), but online dating seems to make it too easy, and stops my brain pushing me to put more effort in, which in turn makes me get much better results. | /r/seduction | 17/05/17 09:28 PM |
| – | If You Want To Be Charismatic, Be More Unlikeable - the simple way of looking at it that enhanced my sex life, and made my social life strongerThe key word there being 'appear.' People who buy that book buy it because they desperately want to be liked. All that book does is give them more ways to feed that wound. It's bullshit. Learning to let go of the desire to be liked actually helps you deal with your emotional issues that block your natural charisma. Only then do books and techniques like that start working. It's the same thing when you tell a guy with strong emotional neediness basic game principles - it just comes out wrong and … | /r/seduction | 17/05/17 09:10 PM |
| 0 | If you want casual relationships, friends with benefits, f**k-buddies; here's what you need to do, and here's why it's a stupid ideaI differ with him on the priority of behaviours vs time. I think time is the more important factor. You can be cutesy guy all you like if you don't see them very often. Depending on the girl, I often am, and the message isn't muddied. She just has a pretty intense experience with me in the few times she sees me. That's fine, as that's what she's into. Behaviours matter, but there's too many exceptions to the rule in my experience. Where as time affects everyone the same - you see each other a lo… | /r/seduction | 14/05/17 07:32 AM |
| 3 | If you want casual relationships, friends with benefits, f**k-buddies; here's what you need to do, and here's why it's a stupid ideaCouldn't agree more - especially with PUA stuff. I would do what it said, it would work and I would begin to believe it, but then I would have an experience that went completely against it. I think the trick is to not be too eager to define the world, as there's too many examples that don't fit the mould. Having rigid game and views actually end up being a hinderance. I can definitely relate to the downsides of self-awareness. Learning to get out of my own head helped a lot. | /r/seduction | 13/05/17 09:49 PM |
| -5 | If you want casual relationships, friends with benefits, f**k-buddies; here's what you need to do, and here's why it's a stupid ideaMy phrasing isn't always the best, I admit. Also, the video you linked, the guy's on the same page as me. He only see's his casual relationships every 8-9 days, as "if you see them every 4-5 days, you're done." I would just say every 20 or so days, rather than 8-9, cycle them in with other girls. But that's just me. | /r/seduction | 13/05/17 06:26 PM |
| – | If you want casual relationships, friends with benefits, f**k-buddies; here's what you need to do, and here's why it's a stupid ideaCouldn't agree more. You sound like a self aware guy - admitting the power your emotions have on you is a rare thing in my experience. | /r/seduction | 13/05/17 05:53 PM |
| – | If you want casual relationships, friends with benefits, f**k-buddies; here's what you need to do, and here's why it's a stupid ideaI'm seeing a lot of 'you're wrong' but not a lot of 'here's why.' I think you've misunderstood what I'm saying as I agree that people in FWB situations are not viewing them as the beginnings of a relationship. What I am saying however, these situations become the initial stages of a relationship because of emotions that are unconscious, and not logical. As in, most people will not be aware that will have developed feelings until after it's too late. Inevitably, this ends up true for one or both … | /r/seduction | 13/05/17 05:51 PM |
| -1 | If you want casual relationships, friends with benefits, f**k-buddies; here's what you need to do, and here's why it's a stupid ideaThanks - yeah, it's aimed towards anyone that doesn't associate sex and companionship with emotions, and think's they have significant power over their emotions. In reality, that's almost never the case. | /r/seduction | 13/05/17 05:12 PM |
| – | If you want casual relationships, friends with benefits, f**k-buddies; here's what you need to do, and here's why it's a stupid ideaDemonstrably, empirically not true. This is flat-out wrong and it's the start of your article. Perhaps with people who are very young and very inexperienced, but healthy adults at different places in their lives do this all the time, and you're either ignorant of this or lying to yourself about how much you understand other people's communication and emotions. Or I'm just sceptical of them. Nope. Emotionally stable adults can maintain these relationships without lying to each other or themselves… | /r/seduction | 13/05/17 05:09 PM |
| 1 | Am I missing out by not being on Instagram?No. | /r/seduction | 13/05/17 02:42 PM |
| 1 | Here’s The Real Reason You Aren’t Attractive – And Here’s What You Can Do About It (the formula for understanding attraction)Relationships aren't about practice, they're about being in a relationship. Y'know, enjoying someone else's company, falling in love, working together when it's hard. It's an emotional process, not a logical one. After reading your story I agree with your last sentence - you need a good therapist. I couldn't recommend it more. Worked wonders for me and improved my life exponentially. Give it a try :) | /r/seduction | 07/05/17 12:08 PM |
| – | Here’s The Real Reason You Aren’t Attractive – And Here’s What You Can Do About It (the formula for understanding attraction)When you say 'you caught the feels?' do you mean you feel something for her, like love? Or do you really mean 'you want to fuck her.' You like her, and you want to fuck her. Because if you want to fuck her, it's going to be complicated having her as a friend. This may sound like a crude way of looking at it. But let's be honest, do you have many friends you want to have sex with? I don't. In fact, I don't have any. The girls I wanted to have sex with I asked out, and something either came of it … | /r/seduction | 06/05/17 07:49 PM |
| – | Here’s The Real Reason You Aren’t Attractive – And Here’s What You Can Do About It (the formula for understanding attraction)The Facebook page is the easiest way to keep track. I also send an email out to subscribers every so often. Both are linked at the bottom of the article. In addition to my comments before on personal development. The most important concept is self-awareness. Self-awareness is your compass that you'll use to navigate where you truly need to develop. The problem with developing self-awareness is the advice usually consists of 'meditate', which is, to be frank, fucking useless advice. It's like dri… | /r/seduction | 06/05/17 07:06 PM |
| – | Here's what to do on a date with women to never be seen as a boring man!Agreed on roleplaying. Great post. | /r/seduction | 06/05/17 06:28 PM |
| – | Here’s The Real Reason You Aren’t Attractive – And Here’s What You Can Do About It (the formula for understanding attraction)I'm writing an article on habits and thinking right now. Will be up tomorrow. In terms of killing neediness: diversify your lifestyle, question your values and their emotional drivers, resolve your emotional issues through therapy if necessary, and date a lot of girls In terms of developing yourself: same as above (the two really go hand in hand), I tend to think of it as a long-term process - which I conceptualize as 1) am I doing the fundamentals? (i.e taking care of my finances, social life, … | /r/seduction | 06/05/17 06:24 PM |
| 1 | Guys who successfully transition hookups to fwb/ booty calls what's your strategy?I built a pipeline of girls that I know that I do exactly this with. I sleep with them, have a good time, move on. Return later in the year. Repeat. They know exactly where I stand and they stand and are happy to extend things each time. I never end up in a weird 'are we getting serious?' situation because of this. At the beginning, any guy who does this is going to be relying more on one-night stands, but over time, his pipeline will build up to the point where he has an abundance. You don't go… | /r/seduction | 06/05/17 05:19 PM |
| 4 | Here’s The Real Reason You Aren’t Attractive – And Here’s What You Can Do About It (the formula for understanding attraction)Thanks, glad you enjoyed it. I tried to explain in detail the effects of neediness in a way that people could relate to. Great name btw | /r/seduction | 06/05/17 04:28 PM |
| – | Here’s The Real Reason You Aren’t Attractive – And Here’s What You Can Do About It (the formula for understanding attraction)Yeah, I could go into detail about how if you're a psycho with no emotions who is an asshole you're unattractive. But who the fuck needs to know that? This article is for guys who are needlessly making themselves unattractive when they shouldn't be. Like, y'know, a lot of guys on this board. Someone who was devoid of emotion and an asshole isn't even worth addressing because it's so far removed from most people's problems. I'm also not really sure how I'd make them waste money, but whatever. You… | /r/seduction | 06/05/17 04:10 PM |
| – | Guys who successfully transition hookups to fwb/ booty calls what's your strategy?Good topic There's a lot of bullshit in this thread. If they bring up the boyfriend thing, it's probably because you're too nice, and you got laid because they wanted to fuck, not because your game made them particularly aroused. I would ramp up your sexual vibe on dates to avoid this in future. The 'fuck her better' advice is good, but even better is make sure that when you fuck her there's some kind of story attached to it - like you both went to a hotel after a huge bar crawl, or you fucked o… | /r/seduction | 06/05/17 01:20 PM |
| 1 | These are the techniques I used to spot my patterns of avoidance and comfort and started getting much better results in dating and self-improvement (If you let them, your flaws will destroy you).Ah man, I can completely relate. I was very small growing up, and people used to give me a hard time at school. All of a sudden I had a growth spurt at 16 and became really tall, but in my mind, I was still that small kid and it took me years to adjust. I let people talk down to me, I let people push their agendas on me, I let people insult me. It really really sucked, because not only did I feel like a piece of shit, but I realized just how badly some people will treat you if you let them. Some… | /r/seduction | 01/05/17 12:12 PM |
| 1 | What are some of your best seduction tips? What are the slightest signals girls give that shows they are interested? Reply with your experience about it.Frequency of looking at me (the more the better, with full on eye contact being a no brainer approach) Infrequency of eye contact (sometimes girls who are nervous because they're attracted avoid it) Touching Proximity (deliberate nearness to me) Standing in my eye line Laughing at my comments in a group scenario These are all things I key off and am pretty sensitive to. My game is pretty much: Enjoy my life as much as I can (measured in how much fun I'm having) + spot signals, and then make a mo… | /r/seduction | 26/02/17 09:35 PM |
| 1 | To Grow As A Person And In Pickup - You Need To Confront Whatever It Is You Fear The MostThanks man :) | /r/seduction | 12/02/17 10:09 PM |
| 3 | To Grow As A Person And In Pickup - You Need To Confront Whatever It Is You Fear The MostYou fear loneliness? I can relate to that. In my case though it was less loneliness and more how loneliness made me feel about myself. | /r/seduction | 12/02/17 10:08 PM |
| 1 | Why I Don't Need One True LoveThanks mate - I don't plan on stopping :) | /r/seduction | 08/01/17 11:11 PM |
| 3 | A Guide To Flirting With Women - the key concepts you need to knowStories are essential. A good story beats a good joke every time, and transforms a lifeless bore into a orchestrator of human emotion. Know your stories and tell them well. | /r/seduction | 23/10/16 10:46 PM |
| 2 | A Guide To Flirting With Women - the key concepts you need to knowSeddit is great. Just apply with a measure of skepticism (not to be confused with cynicism). | /r/seduction | 23/10/16 10:45 PM |
| – | A Guide To Flirting With Women - the key concepts you need to knowThanks mate - ah I don't mind being down-voted, people are entitled to their opinion. I would like to hear their criticism though. | /r/seduction | 23/10/16 06:21 PM |
| 2 | Woujo's tips for clubbingThe best advice for clubbing is this: 1) Have fun. 2) Approach. 1 can be done solo or with friends. If you're alone, dance, talk to people, just get yourself enjoying your time. In clubs, fun is currency. Remember that - Fun. Is. Currency. Being cool is what most people aim for, trying to get the best status there, they're wrong. Be fun. 2 ensures you meet women, but if you do 1 right you probably won't have to worry about this too much. Just capitalise on the signals girls will be sending you. | /r/seduction | 24/09/16 04:49 PM |
| 3 | Anyone here feel like there is just too much content to memorize and effectively utilize? What is the bare minimum you actually need and to memorize?As long as you remember to make a move, you'll learn the rest naturally | /r/seduction | 06/09/16 04:03 PM |
| 1 | How To Stop Yourself From Giving Terrible First Impressions - or the simple reason why you keep getting needlessly rejectedAre those connected? If so I wasn't aware | /r/seduction | 08/08/16 06:50 AM |
| – | Take A Woman Home Tonight! A Step By Step Guide To Pulling Consistently.This guide would probably work if you had to manipulate a girl into sleeping with you - but honestly, if you have to do that, you're already doing something wrong - and also have the wrong priorities in life. If you ever find yourself making the same choices a sociopath would - it's time to pause and reflect. | /r/seduction | 26/07/16 01:28 PM |
| 2 | Never Run Out Of Things To Say To Women:Keep The Conversation Going Forever.I wouldn't call arguing with someone a dysfunctional relationship. I'd actually say that's fairly healthy. It depends more on how it's resolved - and why you're arguing in the first place. Is it two people disagreeing, or is one of you trying to get power over the other (which is what it sounds like you do, by now 'allowing them to'). I would aim for the former as it's more organic and natural. In my experience arguing is often a by product of good chemistry. And how many women you're dating and… | /r/seduction | 13/07/16 06:08 AM |
| – | Never Run Out Of Things To Say To Women:Keep The Conversation Going Forever.I honestly don't think it matters - it matters more what she feels. You can argue with a girl and she can be intrigued by you, or you can argue with her and she can be pissed off. In either case, the arguing isn't really the point. I would never advise a guy not to argue with women, I think that sends the wrong message. Whilst I agree with a lot of what you've said, as it meshes with my own experience, that one stood out for me. I've argued with girls, made them mad, made them cry and still got … | /r/seduction | 12/07/16 08:12 PM |
| – | Never Run Out Of Things To Say To Women:Keep The Conversation Going Forever.'Never argue with women' - this one is bullshit I've argued with girls so many times and taken them home | /r/seduction | 12/07/16 03:02 PM |
| 3 | The 15 Golden Rules For SeductionWell, Imagine if you were charismatic, attractive and successful, but you never, ever made a move. Now, Imagine if you were just some normal guy, but you made moves all the time. Who would get laid more? Personal development is for YOURSELF. The only rule of Game is MAKING A MOVE. | /r/seduction | 09/07/16 05:35 PM |
| – | The 15 Golden Rules For SeductionRule 1) Make a move Rule 2) The rest is optional | /r/seduction | 08/07/16 05:29 PM |
| 1 | How do I change my life?First, I'd take it easy on yourself. Just chill out and get started. Pick one area to improve and start there. It takes years to change (around 3-5), so be patient and persistent. These should help: http://lifeuncivilized.com/what-makes-a-man-attractive/ http://lifeuncivilized.com/changing-your-life/ | /r/seduction | 08/07/16 06:49 AM |
| 2 | Here's something I wish I knew in my early 20s...Depends - are you satisfied with your life? Would approaching help you meet your needs? Is it something you could get better at? Is fear getting in the way? | /r/seduction | 06/07/16 10:43 AM |
| 1 | Here's something I wish I knew in my early 20s...No, definitely not - but they would help a lot | /r/seduction | 06/07/16 06:17 AM |
| 1 | How important is assertiveness?It's very important. But remember: it's just a skill. | /r/seduction | 05/07/16 08:05 PM |
| 4 | Is it normal to have lots of friends and people in your life, but not be loved and still be lonely?1 - you aren't lonely, you just feel lonely. Don't identify with emotions, just acknowledge them and act. 2 - yes you can be lonely and picky, but you can also be picky and be incredibly loved. It has more to do with your processes. What kind of girl do you want? Are you engaging with the processes that will get this kind of girl? Example: lets say you want a girl who loves to read So you go to nightclubs 5 times per week and approach 50 girls. How likely are you to find her? Not likely, even th… | /r/seduction | 05/07/16 07:38 PM |
| 5 | I realized why I'm so terrible at flirtingFor me, a lot of my problems with flirting came down to: 1) poor eye contact 2) poor expression of emotion (not smiling when holding eye contact, so I was just staring with a blank face) 3) filtering myself. The second I lost my filter and said whatever I wanted and cleaned up the mess later - everything because easier Quick thoughts, but I hope this helps | /r/seduction | 03/07/16 08:45 PM |
| 1 | How To Stop Feeling Like A Failure - or why your feelings towards yourself have less to do with your worth and more to do with how you look at your goalsOkay - so you're talking to girls and asking them out. That's good. But your responses are lukewarm - and it's because you're non-sexual. Here's what I think you should do: 1) Ramp up your sex drive. Stay off porn, stop masturbating. 2) Add more edge to your appearance. Wear accessories etc, Good looking loser has a good explanation on this. Basically, look sexy. It works. Build muscle as well. 3) Stop waiting to feel sexual and just be sexual. Start introducing more sexuality into your conversa… | /r/seduction | 28/06/16 12:03 AM |
| – | How To Stop Feeling Like A Failure - or why your feelings towards yourself have less to do with your worth and more to do with how you look at your goalsYes, I'd say it's normal to take around 5 years. The amount you change is governed by the amount of new experiences you expose yourself to. Have you really been stepping outside you comfort zone? Have you been talking to women and asking them out? Have you done all this consistently for at least 2 years? | /r/seduction | 27/06/16 10:58 PM |
| 1 | How To Stop Feeling Like A Failure - or why your feelings towards yourself have less to do with your worth and more to do with how you look at your goalsThanks mate - I hope you like the stuff I've got coming next :) | /r/seduction | 27/06/16 07:32 PM |
| – | How To Stop Feeling Like A Failure - or why your feelings towards yourself have less to do with your worth and more to do with how you look at your goalsYou've got it - just focus on honing your processes, and don't beat yourself up. Get better at getting better, you'll be fine. | /r/seduction | 27/06/16 03:44 PM |
| 1 | How To Stop Feeling Like A Failure - or why your feelings towards yourself have less to do with your worth and more to do with how you look at your goalsYou're welcome :) | /r/seduction | 27/06/16 03:43 PM |
| 1 | How To Stop Feeling Like A Failure - or why your feelings towards yourself have less to do with your worth and more to do with how you look at your goalsThanks man! I will! | /r/seduction | 27/06/16 03:43 PM |
| 1 | How To Stop Feeling Like A Failure - or why your feelings towards yourself have less to do with your worth and more to do with how you look at your goalsThanks a lot man, glad to be of help! | /r/seduction | 27/06/16 03:42 PM |
| 1 | Hey guys, i'm 5'6 and i was wondering is this a deal breaker for a lot of women?No. /thread | /r/seduction | 27/06/16 02:32 PM |
| 1 | Over 30, no real hope to succeed.I said wealth 'helps' You don't need it, but you may as well get as much as you can | /r/seduction | 27/06/16 09:49 AM |
| 1 | What can I do to win her back ?You're still making it all about her. Pursuing hobbies with her, worried she's going to find someone else. She either likes you, or she doesn't. There's nothing you can do about that. | /r/seduction | 26/06/16 09:56 PM |
| 1 | hey i am a newbie but what does it mean to escalate?Escalation is everything that closes the sexual gap between the two of you. This can be verbal, giving her a sexual compliment. Or better yet, physical. Touching her, strong eye contact. Hand, hip, lower back, thigh (thigh is lethal). Then kissing, foreplay and sex. | /r/seduction | 26/06/16 05:13 PM |
| – | I'm in my 30s and am bad in bed due to lack of experience and get performance anxiety (ED)when I close. How do I get better in bed? The last girl I was with just now and really connected with dumped be pretty much because I was bad in bed.Get incredible at foreplay and eating girls out. Make her cum twice before you fuck her. Make her so horny she's begging to fuck you before you do. It'll take practice but any idiot can learn that. If you trawl through my Reddit posts there's a big one I did on eating girls out in there somewhere. | /r/seduction | 26/06/16 05:09 PM |
| – | How to change my mentality and get back into the gameYour mentality will shift AFTER you get back into the Game, not before. Nothing anyone says or writes if ever going to change that. It's the fundamental rule of Game. The difference between you and guy who gets laid right now is this - you both feel anxious, but he feels anxious and talks to her anyway, then gets the confidence after DOING that. So yeah, go talk to girls. If you find that hard, do it at a mutual hobby so there's at least some immediate common ground. | /r/seduction | 26/06/16 05:07 PM |
| – | What can I do to win her back ?Ignoring the whole 'she's your ex for a reason' thing, and assuming you want advice on how to get back with her... Well, the worst mindset you can have is 'How do I win her back?' That's literally the 100% worst mindset you can ever have with women. You never 'win' them. You build your life and when you see one you want, you 'take' them. Focus on your own life, develop yourself, your lifestyle, your social life and accrue as much money as you can. When you want to see her, see her - take it easy… | /r/seduction | 26/06/16 05:01 PM |
| – | Over 30, no real hope to succeed.Okay, well it seems like you're in a tough situation. It's entirely possible to punch above your weight, but being rich will definitely help. Here's what I would do in your position: 1) Recognise that getting laid comes down to how attractive you are (in terms of appearance, success and lifestyle), alongside the AMOUNT of girls you TALK TO and ASK OUT. This means: 2) Always look the best you can. If you're ugly, so what? Get a good haircut and grooming. Sort out your skin. Make sure you smell ni… | /r/seduction | 26/06/16 04:54 PM |
| 2 | The Ultimate Guide To Breakups - or how to not kill yourself trying to win back your ExGlad you enjoyed it man :) | /r/seduction | 24/05/16 10:47 PM |
| 2 | The Ultimate Guide To Breakups - or how to not kill yourself trying to win back your ExThanks mate - I tried to really capture the heart of breakups with this one | /r/seduction | 24/05/16 10:47 PM |
| 2 | The Ultimate Guide To Breakups - or how to not kill yourself trying to win back your ExThanks mate - glad you enjoyed it | /r/seduction | 24/05/16 04:58 PM |
| 4 | [FR] First night out! SUCCESS"I tell her I have a 6 inch cock" I lost it | /r/seduction | 22/05/16 10:12 AM |
| 4 | Any good books on seduction in a similar style to The Art of War by Sun Tzu?Book of The Five Rings by Miyamoto Musashi. A book about strategy written by arguably the greatest swords man who ever lived. I learned stuff from this book that I still actively remember everyday. I'd go so far as to say I based my whole approach to Game on it. I've read many books on strategy, including the art of war - and this one stands head and shoulders above the rest. | /r/seduction | 22/05/16 08:59 AM |
| 1 | The Fundamental Characteristics Of The Attractive Man – And The Only One That Matters (AKA I interviewed dozens of women, and here's what they said, and here's why it sucks)Dancing and yoga are a good bet | /r/seduction | 17/05/16 11:06 AM |
| 1 | The Fundamental Characteristics Of The Attractive Man – And The Only One That Matters (AKA I interviewed dozens of women, and here's what they said, and here's why it sucks)One of my oldest friends has been diagnosed with autism, and I can tell you right off the bat that he's incredibly abrasive and people largely don't like him. He still does fine, and has an active sex life. He's argumentative and out of touch with people's emotions a lot of the time - BUT, he can make a move. So he gets the girl. | /r/seduction | 17/05/16 06:08 AM |
| 1 | The Fundamental Characteristics Of The Attractive Man – And The Only One That Matters (AKA I interviewed dozens of women, and here's what they said, and here's why it sucks)Thanks man https://media.giphy.com/media/pL9qNcNf1qzMQ/giphy.gif | /r/seduction | 16/05/16 08:48 PM |
| 1 | The Fundamental Characteristics Of The Attractive Man – And The Only One That Matters (AKA I interviewed dozens of women, and here's what they said, and here's why it sucks)Thank you mate :) - it should be fixed now. Although I don't have a iPad so hard to properly check. | /r/seduction | 16/05/16 08:34 PM |
| 1 | The Fundamental Characteristics Of The Attractive Man – And The Only One That Matters (AKA I interviewed dozens of women, and here's what they said, and here's why it sucks)Pretty much man. Every guy has to find his own style. Other than just make a move, play the numbers game and develop yourself. The more you get into game theory the more you're investing in the concept of "winning" her. Invest in your own desires instead, your own personality - and you'll only be concerned with taking her. | /r/seduction | 16/05/16 08:10 PM |
| 1 | The Fundamental Characteristics Of The Attractive Man – And The Only One That Matters (AKA I interviewed dozens of women, and here's what they said, and here's why it sucks)The only thing every guy who gets laid a lot has in common is that they make a lot of moves. They make a move. A lot. That's it. The rest is just them being them. | /r/seduction | 16/05/16 07:34 PM |
| 1 | The Fundamental Characteristics Of The Attractive Man – And The Only One That Matters (AKA I interviewed dozens of women, and here's what they said, and here's why it sucks)Thanks, man - That's the second time someone has taken issue with this. I'm gonna try and fix it, so it hopefully isn't an issue anymore. I'm no wizz kid at this WordPress stuff though. Frankly, it's a ballache. I'd much rather send people letters via homing pigeon. | /r/seduction | 16/05/16 06:44 PM |
| 1 | The Fundamental Characteristics Of The Attractive Man – And The Only One That Matters (AKA I interviewed dozens of women, and here's what they said, and here's why it sucks)I'm at a point in my thinking where the differences between gender are becoming less and less set in stone. This is something I'm going to touch on in future, but to be honest you could take most of my articles and apply them to your life if you wanted. | /r/seduction | 16/05/16 06:42 PM |
| 1 | The Fundamental Characteristics Of The Attractive Man – And The Only One That Matters (AKA I interviewed dozens of women, and here's what they said, and here's why it sucks)You're welcome mate. Happy to help :) | /r/seduction | 16/05/16 06:40 PM |
| 0 | The Fundamental Characteristics Of The Attractive Man – And The Only One That Matters (AKA I interviewed dozens of women, and here's what they said, and here's why it sucks)Exactly. | /r/seduction | 16/05/16 06:36 PM |
| 5 | The Fundamental Characteristics Of The Attractive Man – And The Only One That Matters (AKA I interviewed dozens of women, and here's what they said, and here's why it sucks)You sound like me, except I'm older. Start attending hobbies, building your social circle, and going to bars and clubs. Once you've locked that down. Start making a move - approaching, then asking them out / kissing them (if you're at a bar or club). | /r/seduction | 16/05/16 06:35 PM |
| 2 | How to proceed when a girl shows interest in the club?Yeah if she tells her friend within earshot, then that's probably meant for you. Regardless the hand holding is enough of a tip off - I'd just banter with her, swing her around and go in for the kiss in that instance. Also, it's good to be polarising. You sound like you're doing okay, just start making more aggressive moves, and don't get sloppy drunk. | /r/seduction | 08/05/16 08:00 PM |
| 4 | How to proceed when a girl shows interest in the club?You sound like you need to drink less, and start escalating more aggressively. If you're holding hands with a girl, and she's said I like you, and you're NOT heading back to your place, then something is wrong. If she's holding your hand and has said she likes you and you haven't even kissed her - then something is seriously wrong. Kiss her kiss her kiss her kiss her kiss her. You need to get better at spotting what women's signals mean. In every single case you outlined that girl was keen on yo… | /r/seduction | 08/05/16 05:13 PM |
| 2 | How do I keep girls interested (and not be boring)This article is directly relevant: http://lifeuncivilized.com/how-to-stop-being-boring/ In addition to this - practice, practice, practice Conversation take awhile to get good at. You've got to be patient. Like anything, persistent effort wins out in the end. Don't focus on the content of the conversation as much as the emotions. People want to feel things more than think things. Especially women. Express with your face, look them in the eye and embrace the intensity, find the connections betwee… | /r/seduction | 08/05/16 05:05 PM |
| 2 | What books should I read to help me become a better person and a more interesting man for women?I've actually never thought about The Illiad like that. The Odyssey is similar in that regard. Thanks! | /r/seduction | 02/05/16 10:33 AM |
| 3 | What books should I read to help me become a better person and a more interesting man for women?Jesus there's some dogshit recommendations here. Read War and Peace to challenge your ideas of free will, human greatness, and the way lives develop. Read Lord Jim for the burden of male fantasy. Read Madame Bovary to understand how humans destroy their own lives. Read Aristotle, Schopenhauer, Freud, Jung. Read the Hero With A THousand Faces. Read comics like Maus and Joe Sacco's works. Find the ideas that will change your life by reading the books that lasted the test of the time. Don't read se… | /r/seduction | 28/04/16 05:52 PM |
| 1 | When guys say "I've slept with 10, 20, 30 girls" where the hell are they meeting all of them?You sound like you're nailing it. Nice work man. | /r/seduction | 28/04/16 05:10 PM |
| 6 | When guys say "I've slept with 10, 20, 30 girls" where the hell are they meeting all of them?It's easy when you're going out twice a week. That's roughly 15, as we always bounce from 2-3 venues, a few approaches in each place. It's only as hard as you make it. | /r/seduction | 28/04/16 04:12 PM |
| 9 | When guys say "I've slept with 10, 20, 30 girls" where the hell are they meeting all of them?I'm in my mid 20s and I've slept with over 60 girls. Not sure the exact number. I approach 20 girls a week - rarely ever on the street. Usually bars, clubs, social circle, hobbies, events, parties, book stores, clothing stores, shopping malls. All I ever do is approach 20 girls per week and make a move (ask them out / go for the kiss - depending on venue). Getting laid a lot is literally just interacting with a lot of women, and making a move. I do best when I meet them from varied sources, if I… | /r/seduction | 28/04/16 03:17 PM |
| 1 | Been reading deep into self help and pickup, realizing just how much I need to do and feeling overwhelmedI guess we have different definitions of a loser. In your case if you are limited some way then you're going to have to work within that limitation - other than that the same rules apply. | /r/seduction | 28/04/16 06:13 AM |
| 2 | Benefits of being Well Dressed vs. Casual in picking up girls?Depends on the demographic of girls you're going for, but generally speaking well dressed / smart casual always wins. Unless you have a fitted leather jacket that suits you. Then go for that. | /r/seduction | 26/04/16 11:58 PM |
| 1 | Meeting a total strangerHow do you get her digits? Hand her your phone and say 'give me your number' or 'put your number in my phone.' Whichever works for you. And the best way to look appealing is to be appealing. Aka - develop yourself into an appealing man. | /r/seduction | 26/04/16 11:56 PM |
| 4 | My 3 most embarrassing rejections (and what I learned from them)A few years ago I was approaching girls in London. My day was going really well - had been bouncing from good interaction to better interaction and had got a few numbers from girls keen to meet up. I was feeling pretty good. Then on my way home, I saw this nasty looking girl in a black leather jacket. She was unbelievably hot. My blood was up, so I went in for the approach. I got as far as 'excuse me' before she screamed something between a human cry of terror and a horses whinnying. Just one sh… | /r/seduction | 26/04/16 11:52 PM |
| 3 | I feel like giving up on picking up girlsYou're still in high school bro. I was a dweeb in highschool. Things didn't really kick off for me until my 20s. I would honestly leave this subreddit if you're young. Come back when you're 20. Until then, focus on having fun and when the opportunity arises, go for the kiss and if that goes well, go for the rest. The 'game' stuff can wait, you don't need that shit in your head right now. | /r/seduction | 26/04/16 11:43 PM |
| 1 | Been reading deep into self help and pickup, realizing just how much I need to do and feeling overwhelmedPersistence is all you need. You're not going to get the results you want overnight, it takes years. Set yourself a goal for 5 years time, and break it down into micro steps. Don't expect results in weeks, months, or even in the first year (although they will happen). Just keep persisting. Developing yourself is fucking hard work, and it's going to suck, and you're going to feel shitty - but don't worry. That's normal and part of the process. I wouldn't worry too much about pick up until you've … | /r/seduction | 26/04/16 11:33 PM |
| 2 | UPDATE: I finally asked the gorgeous girl out from my class.Nice work OP. Just escalate on Friday and it's smooth sailing from here. | /r/seduction | 26/04/16 11:27 PM |
| 1 | Five years in the Game and Yes, it ALL comes down to ConfidenceYeah, it's still pretty clear you didn't read what I wrote, nor what I've said in the comments. | /r/seduction | 26/04/16 03:46 PM |
| 1 | Five years in the Game and Yes, it ALL comes down to ConfidenceYes, just keep improving. | /r/seduction | 26/04/16 06:14 AM |
| 2 | Five years in the Game and Yes, it ALL comes down to ConfidenceThe only thing 'required' to get women is making a move. This post is all about the process of building confidence, and how that's all that matters. | /r/seduction | 26/04/16 06:13 AM |
| 1 | Five years in the Game and Yes, it ALL comes down to ConfidenceYup. You take responsibility for not just your own anxiety, but theirs too. | /r/seduction | 26/04/16 06:11 AM |
| 1 | Five years in the Game and Yes, it ALL comes down to ConfidenceThanks :) I'm going to research this. | /r/seduction | 25/04/16 05:25 PM |
| 1 | Five years in the Game and Yes, it ALL comes down to ConfidenceThank you mate :) I was originally going to reply to a lot of them, but then realised they just didn't bother to read it, so I was wasting my time. I think the post speaks for itself and I'm glad you found it useful. | /r/seduction | 25/04/16 05:23 PM |
| 2 | Five years in the Game and Yes, it ALL comes down to ConfidenceThat's really interesting. Quite similar to my article on killing neediness which I linked above. I think people overinvest in the opposite sex when the under invest in themselves. I know countless guys whose sense of identity is held together because they have a girl - hell I was once that guy. It sucks but it happens. On some level though, a little jealousy and neediness is normal. I wouldn't get too hung up on it, or get hung up on improving for results with men - just improve, and enjoy the … | /r/seduction | 25/04/16 12:08 PM |
| -1 | Has anyone successfully used The Art of Seduction?It's a complete waste of a read. Develop yourself, make a move. Read Tolstoy's Ressurection for a better take on a seduction, and a lot else. | /r/seduction | 25/04/16 11:36 AM |
| 1 | Five years in the Game and Yes, it ALL comes down to ConfidenceI don't think you read my post as both our points are almost identical. I think you just saw the word 'confidence' and the links and reacted angrilly. Which is fair enough, I usually do the same. FYI - this isn't 'spammy click bait' like you describe. I put the links at the end only after I saw the positive responses my writing was getting. I make no money from my site, it's just a hobby. | /r/seduction | 25/04/16 11:29 AM |
| 1 | Five years in the Game and Yes, it ALL comes down to ConfidenceYeah 5 is something I wish had been hammered into me from a young age, rather than having to learn myself. Very valuable skill. | /r/seduction | 25/04/16 06:13 AM |
| 2 | Five years in the Game and Yes, it ALL comes down to ConfidenceIn my experience women go home with the guy who makes a move. Everything else is secondary. My point was more to have faith in developing yourself. Don't worry too much about value, but stick at your process. :) | /r/seduction | 25/04/16 06:12 AM |
| 3 | Five years in the Game and Yes, it ALL comes down to Confidence"I want you to think of confidence as a glass of water, that is slowly being filled to the top. The glass takes years to fill – but eventually, you are going to fill it. Some people are born with more water; some people are born with less. Some people can fill it quicker; some people can fill it slower. But no matter who you are – that glass CAN be filled." | /r/seduction | 25/04/16 06:10 AM |
| 2 | Five years in the Game and Yes, it ALL comes down to ConfidenceThat's fine - this was a list of everything I've personally learned. Not all of it is going to be applicable to you - we've all got our own style. | /r/seduction | 25/04/16 06:04 AM |
| 1 | Five years in the Game and Yes, it ALL comes down to ConfidenceExactly :) | /r/seduction | 25/04/16 01:23 AM |
| 2 | Five years in the Game and Yes, it ALL comes down to ConfidenceI've yet to see that in real life. I for one fail for more often than I succeed. Typically at a ratio of 20:1. Someone would have to be extraordinarily lacking self awareness not to learn from repeated failure. I've not seen it. Eventually, something switches in thier heads. To say nothing of the fact that anyone on this specific subreddit is already demonstrating a willingness and capability to learn. Your attitude is quite limiting. | /r/seduction | 25/04/16 01:21 AM |
| 1 | Five years in the Game and Yes, it ALL comes down to ConfidenceThanks a lot, mate :) Re: listening to a song that puts you in a good mood. This is something I do, but only when I'm in neutral / good state. If I'm sad or in a bad mood, I wouldn't personally do this. I'd confront the emotion I'm in and let myself feel it. Natural is always my preference over artificial. | /r/seduction | 24/04/16 11:07 PM |
| 1 | Five years in the Game and Yes, it ALL comes down to ConfidenceSee one of my earlier comments. It's addressed there. | /r/seduction | 24/04/16 10:42 PM |
| 3 | Five years in the Game and Yes, it ALL comes down to ConfidenceThanks, glad to female perspective - do you mean insight into confidence or insight into men? | /r/seduction | 24/04/16 10:27 PM |
| 1 | Five years in the Game and Yes, it ALL comes down to Confidence100% agree on both. Realizing you can survive blows to your confidence are massive stages in your development. Meditation, once learned, is something that sticks with you forever. You end up passively spotting your own bullshit. | /r/seduction | 24/04/16 09:56 PM |
| 3 | Five years in the Game and Yes, it ALL comes down to ConfidenceDon't forget having a huge dick. That's a must. | /r/seduction | 24/04/16 09:54 PM |
| 3 | Five years in the Game and Yes, it ALL comes down to ConfidenceI agree. I covered how you look in the cheat sheet. Talking, body language lifestyle and so on all come from the process of building confidence and as a result of built confidence. They're not separate things, they're one thing. | /r/seduction | 24/04/16 09:54 PM |
| 5 | Five years in the Game and Yes, it ALL comes down to ConfidenceEmotional regulation = learning to manage your emotions You learn to manage your emotions by paying attention to them, not avoiding them or suppressing them, but feeling them and letting them have their way (in a controlled environment) - meditation helps, journaling helps, therapy helps It's the foundation of building a relationship with yourself. Paying attention to how you feel, and why, and how best to manage it when it occurs It's not indulging in an emotion (feeling sad, and plugging in sa… | /r/seduction | 24/04/16 09:52 PM |
| 3 | Five years in the Game and Yes, it ALL comes down to ConfidenceGlad to hear it mate :) | /r/seduction | 24/04/16 09:49 PM |
| 3 | Five years in the Game and Yes, it ALL comes down to ConfidenceThanks man :) - Positive psychology is actually something I'm currently working on. A flaw in my personality is that I naturally have a fairly gloomy outlook, but a lot of faith in my own ability and ambition. This results in a weird mix where I achieve a lot of what I want to do, but never really enjoy it. And can often be sucked into having a low, competitive opinion of people. And it's really just bullshit, habitual thinking. Nobody wants to be around that, and more importantly neither do I. | /r/seduction | 24/04/16 09:05 PM |
| 2 | Five years in the Game and Yes, it ALL comes down to ConfidenceThanks mate :) yeah it happens to all of us. I took a big hit recently, had to dust myself off and start again. Bouncing back faster each time. One of my tricks that I didn't list (that always help) is to take a whole day to just think. I often do this the day after my birthday. I just sit, think, evaluate, refocus myself in a direction, and become more at peace with whatever emotional shit needs managing at the time. When I'm going through a rough patch I'll always make myself have one of these… | /r/seduction | 24/04/16 08:39 PM |
| 3 | Five years in the Game and Yes, it ALL comes down to ConfidenceTherapy is expensive but worth it. If it's not an option now, definitely practice being more open and honest with people. If there's someone who you can explain what it is you struggle with - that's a great place to start. Although, ask them first. Women are great for this. Guy's can be as well, and you'll develop some strong friendships as a result. Then just save money for a decent therapist with a shit load of good testimonials. | /r/seduction | 24/04/16 07:58 PM |
| 10 | Five years in the Game and Yes, it ALL comes down to ConfidenceThanks man :) As for music, this is a hard one because research is only just really starting to be done on it - and the results are a bit all over the place. Here's a good overview: http://www.theatlantic.com/health/archive/2015/11/is-it-harmful-to-use-music-as-a-coping-mechanism/413236/ http://journal.frontiersin.org/article/10.3389/fnhum.2015.00466/full https://www.sciencedaily.com/releases/2015/10/151022094959.htm http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC3740499/ The long and short of it i… | /r/seduction | 24/04/16 07:35 PM |
| 13 | Five years in the Game and Yes, it ALL comes down to ConfidenceThanks a lot mate, happy to help :) | /r/seduction | 24/04/16 07:28 PM |
| 1 | If you could ask a girl only one question to get her interested (in a non friend-zone way), what would it be?'What's your number? I want to take you out.' Something to that effect | /r/seduction | 22/04/16 06:19 AM |
| 1 | What are the most common sticking points in game?His question was - 'what are the most common sticking points in game?' I believe that game can be boiled down to essentially just making a move, as it encorporates all of the things I listed above. All of the other things a guy can focus on really comes down to personal development, which isn't in itself 'game'. 99% of game comes down getting rid of anxiety that's related to expressing sexual desire - be that through approaching, escalating, going for the kiss. As I said - you can get a girl if … | /r/seduction | 18/04/16 06:01 AM |
| 1 | Here is a recommended place to meet attractive womenYou've clearly never been to Latin America. | /r/seduction | 18/04/16 05:53 AM |
| 6 | What are the most common sticking points in game?Consider working around it as well. There are plenty of places where you can meet women that don't require you to start a conversation from nothing - hobbies, classes, etc. The street and nightclubs / bars are difficult for everyone. (assuming of course this is where you get AA) A lot of guys get AA because they're poorly desensitized, and also because they're trying to think of ways to 'win' her, to say the right thing, make her laugh etc etc You don't do that, you just show up and make a move … | /r/seduction | 17/04/16 09:29 PM |
| 21 | What are the most common sticking points in game?Making a move. Everything that matters comes under this. Making a move covers: Expressing desire, approaching, asking her out, going in for the kiss, inviting her home, touching her, strong eye contact, physicality. Making a move is the only thing that matters. You can be the most charming, good looking, intelligent, funny, successful guy - but if you don't make a move, then she's going home with a guy like me. It's the only part of game that you need. The rest is just general personal developme… | /r/seduction | 17/04/16 07:56 PM |
| 1 | [FR] Second time solo, not sure what to do.Youre basically forcing yourself to do something alone, that is socially abnormal, when you don't have to. Unless you're travelling alone, why do you feel the need to do it? In my case I was going out alone because I wanted as much pick up experience as possible. The truth was I was just feeding a pretty big emotional issue I had. You learn 10x more going out with friends who know what they're doing. Going out solo is just good for teaching you independence - but after you've done it a few times… | /r/seduction | 17/04/16 08:47 AM |
| 1 | How to get rid of neediness?Ah, that's no good - I'll try to fix that. Thanks for letting me know | /r/seduction | 17/04/16 08:39 AM |
| 8 | Here is a recommended place to meet attractive womenI can confirm this. Salsa is also gold. | /r/seduction | 16/04/16 07:27 PM |
| 6 | How to get rid of neediness?Neediness sucks - but it's an emotion so logic isn't really going to help you. The first thing I'd say is neediness is normal. Everyone feels attached to some degree. It's not about getting rid of the emotion, it's about understanding it, and learning to manage it. To understand your own neediness - I think therapy, meditation, and journaling are best. In that order. To manage your neediness, I personally feel it comes down to the amount of options you have in life, and the beliefs that are form… | /r/seduction | 16/04/16 07:26 PM |
| 1 | Why do I keep expecting women to use and manipulate me?No worries man. Therapy takes time, and sometimes different approaches are required. But first and foremost it's an emotional issue that you're dealing with, and it should be handled as such. In regards to worthless, toxic advice on a howtopua forum.. Well I guess that comes down to what it is you think makes a good PUA. In my own experience, having sex with lots of girls does little to help the emotional issues that a boiling away under the surface - at some point they have to be confronted. If… | /r/seduction | 16/04/16 07:10 PM |
| 1 | Why do I keep expecting women to use and manipulate me?Ignore the idiots that say shit like 'so what you're getting pussy win win' and 'change your mindset' - this is worthless, toxic advice. I'm sorry that you're in a bad way man. Feeling like that is a horrible place to be. I think you need to consider seeing a therapist and talking through your issues. I'm sorry that you're not happy - but it's up to you to take the steps to fixing that. Go see someone and get to the root of your emotional issues, learn to manage them and develop yourself as pers… | /r/seduction | 16/04/16 02:41 PM |
| 1 | [FR] Second time solo, not sure what to do.A home base can help, but finding a sexually available girl is a better use of your time. Going out alone is all about being focused on getting laid as much as possible. I spent about a year going out solo when I first got into game. It's a pretty miserable way to live - you'd be much better served building a social circle through hobbies and going out with them / asking girls you meet there out on dates. But if you do want to go out alone: 1 - don't waste time talking to guys 2 - don't worry ab… | /r/seduction | 16/04/16 11:15 AM |
| 1 | [FR] Game is being charming and social all the time.I know guys shorter and uglier than me that regularly do better with girls than I do. I know guys who are physically gifted with incredible looks who do complete shit and think that they're worthless deep down as a result. But keep using whatever excuse works for you. | /r/seduction | 14/04/16 05:19 PM |
| 1 | [FR] Game is being charming and social all the time.Approach, escalate, and if you need to - calibrate Not much to it | /r/seduction | 14/04/16 09:37 AM |
| 25 | [FR] Game is being charming and social all the time.What about all the times I was low energy, tired and didn't care and still got laid? What about the time I was in an angry argument with a chick and still got laid? What about the time I offended her and her friends with a dumb comment and still got laid? What about the time we didn't even speak the same language and I kind of came off as awkward the whole time, but I still got laid? What about the time I kind of felt shy, and a bit nervous to even kiss her but I did and still got laid? What abo… | /r/seduction | 13/04/16 09:07 PM |
| 6 | What to say when girl on my bed says, "I don't netflix and chill?"I would find a new girl Pretty much every response here is needy as fuck She sounds like she straight up isn't that into you, isn't comfortable or has issues with her sexuality Next. This will be more trouble than it's worth later on, and the fact you're trying to figure this out ('what do I do?' etc) is part of the problem You find a girl you like, and you go for it - end of story. If you get rejected move on to the next one who's keen to jump into bed with you | /r/seduction | 13/04/16 08:59 PM |
| 1 | First, You Need To Get Out Of Your Own WayYeah - that's something I've been thinking about. It's a topic that a lot of these kinds of blogs tackle so I'm hesitant to do it unless I can bring a fresh perspective. It also falls into the pitfall of 'act like this and you'll get girls' which I want to avoid. I'll see what I can do. | /r/seduction | 12/04/16 05:59 AM |
| 1 | First, You Need To Get Out Of Your Own WayThanks, will do. I'll have something up this weekend. Likely to be on dry spells in dating. But knowing me I'll probably end up writing something completely different, so who knows. | /r/seduction | 11/04/16 09:25 PM |
| 1 | First, You Need To Get Out Of Your Own WayThanks a lot mate :) glad you enjoy it. I'm slowly getting better at proof reading so hopefully those typos will start disappearing | /r/seduction | 11/04/16 06:00 AM |
| 1 | Feel like I am undeserving of intimacyIf you did 1 year of therapy with no success - perhaps consider a new therapist or a different school of therapy? Also, it sounds like your problems have little to do with women and more to do just fundamental issues that are easily solvable. I call this my HOW TO BE A PLAYER RECIPE: 1) Get a job 2) Get a decent haircut 3) Groom yourself well 4) Eat better and exercise 5) Get some new clothes that fit you well 6) Get your own place 7) Start attending social activities and hobbies 8) See a friend… | /r/seduction | 05/04/16 07:31 PM |
| 2 | 'You're the best I've ever had.' - Blow a Girl's Mind By Eating Her OutStep 4 is a lie. Don't believe it. | /r/seduction | 04/04/16 10:18 PM |
| 2 | You Really Need To Stop Giving A ShitIn this instance I take 'not giving a shit' to mean, 'I'm not going to try and win your vagina' - it means you're not accepting them as better or worse than you, and trying to manipulate some reward (sex) out of them. You're being who you are, take it or leave it, and you're making a move because you want her. Beyond that, feel free to give a shit out about whatever you want. I give a shit about everything from kittens to inequality. Doesn't affect my sex life. | /r/seduction | 04/04/16 10:15 PM |
| 2 | 'You're the best I've ever had.' - Blow a Girl's Mind By Eating Her OutHey man, Step 2 - pull the jeans up the around the ankles but keep them there (kind of like handcuffs) so her legs are together. Later you rip them off and spread her legs. Step 5 - yeah keep the hood/flap of skin in its normal position. Then pull it back later when you want to make her cum. This part varies a lot from girl to girl so pay attention. Hope this helps mate. | /r/seduction | 04/04/16 11:56 AM |
| 1 | How to be better at speaking and leading conversations?First, I wouldn't worry about it man. Why is it your fault? Conversations have two dancing partners. If you're being open, and asking leading questions - then perhaps she was just undersharing and being a bore? You're not going to connect with everyone. re: conversation tips... I just wrote an article about this, but essentially: Don't worry about small talk. It's information gathering and rapport. The key is to ask open-ended, emotionally driven questions. WHO WHAT WHY WHERE HOW - these are goo… | /r/seduction | 03/04/16 10:30 PM |
| 1 | The 25 Laws of Being A PlayerThanks :) That was the aim. I think I missed out on a good one with 'Never use capitals in texts to girls'. That was a serious piece of advice I read years ago and it still makes me laugh. | /r/seduction | 28/02/16 07:06 PM |
| 4 | How The Friend Zone Enhances Your Life ForeverNo - The article's about the lessons you learn from the friend zone, and how they're some of the most important in Game. It's about leaving it and never looking back, not staying there and hoping for something to change. The reasons guys end up in the friend zone exemplify the problems they face in understanding their relationships with girls. The positive element of the friend zone is that in every instance I've come across it in guys, it specifically teaches them everything they need to know t… | /r/seduction | 19/01/16 06:13 PM |
| 2 | How to escalate?If you're inexperienced try to look at the ways you're holding yourself back from expressing your sexuality. Because that's all this is: anxiety stopping you from acting. You stop yourself from being physical with the girl (touching), locking eye contact, complementing her, going in for the kiss and so on. This mindset helped me a lot when I was starting out. Instead of thinking 'what do I need to do?', I thought 'what am I not letting myself do?' The first thought is based on getting some kind … | /r/seduction | 19/12/15 06:30 PM |
| 0 | One-Itis for a girl that's toxicI'm not really sure what you're talking about now, you didn't address any of my points, and your attitude is just completely unnecessary. I think it's best we agree to disagree. | /r/seduction | 18/12/15 07:17 PM |
| 1 | Is "avoiding eye contact" more likely to be IOI or IOD?If it isn't indifference - assume she like's you, act on it. Don't think about it any more than that. | /r/seduction | 18/12/15 07:06 PM |
| 1 | How to Kill Neediness in 3 Easy Steps (updated)I'm currently in London. Definitely agree with the walking into a bar and pulling a girl bit. I think every guy should devote some time to it. | /r/seduction | 18/12/15 06:55 PM |
| 1 | How to Kill Neediness in 3 Easy Steps (updated)I'm similar. I go through cycles. I've gone off the idea of rotation girls completely as I've gotten older. It's either one, or many casual flings from bars. I do love the rush of one night stands - although they're a terrible long term life design. | /r/seduction | 18/12/15 09:50 AM |
| 0 | One-Itis for a girl that's toxicIt's weird you would write such vitriol without seemingly reading the article. I never at any point said anger was unmanageable. I said you can't beat emotions when they arise. The point was that trying to pretend you aren't affected by them or trying to be rid of them is unhealthy. Of course you're affected by your emotions on some level and of course you can't be rid of them. I spent the next 1500 words explaining strategies to alter the inputs which cause an emotional reaction like this to ge… | /r/seduction | 18/12/15 09:04 AM |
| 3 | How to Kill Neediness in 3 Easy Steps (updated)Glad to help :) | /r/seduction | 18/12/15 08:52 AM |
| 0 | One-Itis for a girl that's toxicShort answer: get the fuck out of there and go no contact. Long answer is you're dealing with neediness issues, try this: http://lifeuncivilized.com/how-to-kill-neediness/ This girl is no good for you and you've grown emotionally attached. You already know there's a problem and that's great. Now you just have to spend time apart from her, and in the company of emotionally healthy women. The fact you can recognize this issue is huge, pat yourself on the back. It sucks now, but give it a few month… | /r/seduction | 17/12/15 11:16 PM |
| 2 | What does Mark Manson say about jealousy and insecurity issues?Stop asking your girlfriend about him. Work on the relationship between the two of you. If I'm brutally honest it sounds like she's ready to cheat on you. If she becomes distant etc I'd get rid of her and find a new girl. It comes down to this - you're either happy in your relationship or you're not. She is who she is, you can't change her. If who she is right now is causing you problems - dump her and move on. Don't try to change her. | /r/seduction | 09/12/15 01:05 PM |
| 1 | Girls Just Don't Ever Seem Interested In Me No Matter What I DoIt sounds like the problem is that you're trying too hard. Stop thinking about angles of approaching and all that bullshit - it's nonsense. Over complicating this stuff and bad results are not a coincidence. Just have a normal conversation with them, and let your eyes and hands do all the pickup stuff. Compliment them if you feel like, tell a joke when you feel like it - but just talk to them. There's no technique to this stuff you just talk to girls. The second you try to do 'angles of approach… | /r/seduction | 08/12/15 01:37 PM |
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