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Perhaps imagining how such "teasing" about your weight would make you feel could help you realize how he feels? I'm not saying anybody needs to lose weight.
/r/RedPillWives15/05/24 05:48 AM
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As women, we are subconsciously raised in a culture of fear -- men are, too, but they have testosterone, which lessens its effect. Part of the ramifications of this are that we feel our actions cannot be controlling. If your husband "teased" you about your weight in the same way, would you be hurt?
/r/RedPillWives14/05/24 06:12 PM
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u/murkyperspective767 shields me from the more toxic members of his family -- his sectarian sister, classist brother-in-law, sectarian mother, various uncles,aunts, and cousins. His brother and sister-in-law are fantastic, though. As is he -- should be assumed, but it just isn't said enough. He pretends his toxic family doesn't exist and we are able to maintain household harmony as a result.
/r/RedPillWomen22/04/24 01:55 AM
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It is difficult, but you can do it and in heels too! It's the curse of being a woman.
/r/RedPillWives21/04/24 06:50 AM
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Media (social, mainstream, written, what have you) is all about the unexpected. We live in London. There were 22 deaths in the last month. During the same time period, there were 0 murders in Bradford. West Yorkshire. Does this mean that London is less safe than Bradford? No, it does not. Crime in London is rare, hence when it happens, the media blows up about it, whereas in Bradford, it is commonplace, so only the more extreme crimes are reported.
/r/RedPillWomen18/04/24 04:45 AM
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u/murkyperspective767's fund would have trips to the local strip club, at least once a quarter. None of we partners -- as we weren't married for most of the time -- were listened to when we objected to the practice. In the end, I, at least, didn't see it as a big deal, as he would always come home to yours truly. But, I trust him completely.
/r/RedPillWomen18/04/24 04:24 AM
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If you can't trust your partner enough to show your financials, you have no business getting married.
/r/RedPillWomen10/04/24 06:38 PM
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It can't hurt to prepare for your, presumably, red pilled future and your future-focus is admirable. However, my husband never ceases to remind me, when I'm reading college admissions catalogues for Oxbridge, that our daughter is scarcely 4, won't be in a position to sit for her AGCSEs for 14 years yet, and the world will have changed in unforeseeable ways between now and then. So, I need to focus on the present as well as planning for the future. Incidentally, u/murkyperspective767 is the oppos…
/r/RedPillWomen01/04/24 04:51 PM
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We celebrated 8 years together last December. The longer I stay with him, the more I appreciate his predictability. Whether it is how he just knows when I need my neck rubbed and drops everything to cater to that need or how he keeps my daughter from crying by matching or exceeding her 4-year energy levels at 44, he predictably and reliably follows through on his word.
/r/RedPillWomen01/04/24 04:08 PM
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she passed My condolences for your loss.
/r/RedPillWomen22/03/24 06:16 AM
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Labels do not mean a thing!
/r/RedPillWomen15/03/24 06:29 AM
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I'm sorry, comment deleted.
/r/RedPillWomen13/03/24 06:08 PM
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He is ALWAYS looking for a new job Two possible reasons for this: He works in a field, like finance or infotech, where jobs are fleeting and can disappear without warning. He grew up in an environment where the first point was true. My husband sounds similar. However, one of the first things he did was to enlist my help. He explained his situation to me and we now spend an hour every week looking for a job to apply to together - one for me and one for him. We celebrate each other's successes and…
/r/RedPillWomen13/03/24 04:50 AM
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you wouldn’t date a Red Pilled Man? No, I would not. And here's an illustration as to why... One of my (unfortunately deceased) cousins-in-law (or cousin-in-laws, which is it?) was a self-described "red-pilled man" - always on about "lifting", being in the gym, "spinning plates", "breaking plates", etc. In other words, he learned his jargon from the male red pill sub, before it was quarantined. First time I met him was at in-laws' 50th wedding anniversary, when I happened upon him making fun of …
/r/RedPillWomen13/03/24 04:12 AM
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Can you post a picture of this dress?
/r/RedPillWomen09/03/24 03:46 AM
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It is a careful balance. You need to hook him and keep him feeling as though you can be his perfect woman without actually being said woman unless/until you get what you want, whatever that may be.
/r/RedPillWomen05/03/24 04:13 AM
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I'm sorry to read of your experience.
/r/RedPillWomen29/02/24 07:38 AM
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Sorry to read of your job loss. The very first thing you should do is take stock of what you learned, thank your (now ex) colleagues for being wonderful to work with, giving specifics if necessary ("I remember you're showing me how to take derivatives in Excel. saving me a few hours of Googling" or whatever), make them short notes -- "Jane, it was a pleasure working with you, thank you for teaching me how to take derivatives in Excel", "Rajiv, thank you for showing me how Excel's linear modellin…
/r/RedPillWomen28/02/24 07:19 AM
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Husband has always had a stack of index cards and scotch tape and has taped reminders all over the place. For example, on our front door, he has: On exit: Keys Telephone + charger Jacket umbrella Lights off Yes, it may be silly, but it set out his expectations when I moved in.
/r/RedPillWomen28/02/24 06:59 AM
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break up with me if he knew? If he does, he isn't for you. That written, I would reveal it in a private place, when you're alone with him and not making out.
/r/RedPillWomen28/02/24 06:53 AM
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I'm looking for a rule of thumb on pairing shoes with dresses and/or skirts -- I rarely wear trousers.
/r/RedPillWomen25/02/24 02:07 AM
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I've looked, they aren't very red pill.
/r/RedPillWomen23/02/24 06:24 AM
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I can really only think of the Obamas & maybe Viola Davis & her husband as monoracial black couples that are popular enough Nelson and Winnie Mandela? Martin Luther and Coretta Scott King? Malcolm X and Betty Shabaz? And that's just off the top of my head, and I'm Filipina/Irish-American living in London.
/r/RedPillWomen21/02/24 11:06 PM
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I was the abusive one Don't be so hard on yourself. Truth is that abuse exists on all sides of an abusive relationship. Long as we learn from it and don't repeat it, we've done all we can.
/r/RedPillWomen20/02/24 10:09 PM
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limerence Thanks to your post, I learned a new word. suicide Suicide is a permanent solution to a non-permanent problem. At times, it may seem permanent and there's no way out, but the one way to guarantee we'll never get out is to resort to that. When it comes to men, some are abusive. Some are not. Same goes for women. It has nothing to do with the particular religion. My mother-in-law was a practicing Muslim, as is my sister-in-law, while u/murkyperspective767 (husband) is emphatically not a …
/r/RedPillWomen20/02/24 09:47 PM
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I know that if I walk into a bar in the wrong part of town to find that everybody knew my husband, it would reduce my opinion of him, pretty considerably.
/r/RedPillWomen18/02/24 11:07 PM
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Correction, I do wish u/MurkyPerspective767 gets a raise, same for myself, but for our daughter, not for me.
/r/RedPillWomen18/02/24 10:55 PM
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education or career Alumni of my husband's boarding school -- well, at least those he associates with -- attribute this to "winning the birth lottery". They fully comprehend that they aren't any more deserving of being captains of industry than any other on this thread, they just happen to have been born to the right families.
/r/RedPillWomen18/02/24 10:53 PM
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I define type A and type B by who benefits from the act in the short term -- if it's oneself, then it's type A, else it's type B. If a random male prevents a rape, he derives no benefit from the act, it is a selfless act. On the other hand, my remit at work is to delay the offset of breast cancer. While this is somewhat selfish -- I'm a breast cancer survivor myself -- the primary beneficiary is the half of humanity that shares my anatomy.
/r/RedPillWomen16/02/24 07:26 PM
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Type A's do well at work -- I'm married to one, but u/murkyperspective767 knows when to turn it on and off. For example, we were going back to our car after dinner, when we saw a guy and a girl yelling at each other. When he raised his arm to hit her, my husband grabbed his hand, to keep it from hitting her. After she'd gone out of the firing line, he said to guy, "Not in my presence, ok?" and the guy slowly nodded. Husband said "happy Valentine's Day" and we went off. He's definitely a successf…
/r/RedPillWomen16/02/24 07:21 AM
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if he were a husband things would be different Hard no. Being married does not equate to lowering expectations, full stop. I'm sorry, but if I'm going to bear your child, take care of the house, make everyone dinner, and be pleasant at all times, the very least you could do is imagine me in whatever outfit you want me in and not demand I wear it for you.
/r/RedPillWives13/02/24 09:20 PM
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My husband chose to attend his mother's funeral without me. But he did tell me and keep a FaceTime connection open, so I could observe,which I did. It was a beautiful ceremony. But no one brought their significant others, except his sister, who brought her husband, who looked bored and excluded from the events.
/r/RedPillWomen12/02/24 04:21 AM
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Happy Cake Day! Your idea of what they'd put on OPs gravestone gave me a chuckle.
/r/RedPillWomen05/02/24 06:57 AM
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Why would you think that?
/r/RedPillWomen05/02/24 06:54 AM
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How about investing in an easy chair, and moving to that when you get up, staying off the bed still your husband gets up? Stick a pair of headphones around your head, enjoy your music, podcasts, or whatever and move around at will.
/r/RedPillWomen31/01/24 06:36 AM
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used to be transgender too What's this mean? Pre-transition and now you're post transition?
/r/RedPillWomen27/01/24 09:19 PM
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Somewhere else, please?
/r/RedPillWomen27/01/24 09:16 PM
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My husband demonstrated how he'd be as a marriage partner, but never asked me outright to be his girlfriend. He was taking care of me while I had cancer and his brother said that "you better make her your girlfriend, if you're going to take care of her in this state" as a tease. I told him that if I survive, I'd like him to be my husband; to which he said "we'll revisit the topic when you're better. I promise". Well, this was 11 years ago and we've been happily married 8 years.
/r/RedPillWomen27/01/24 04:37 AM
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This book?
/r/RedPillWomen13/01/24 07:58 AM
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They will label me a gold digger, or not being feminist since i have prioritized my role as a mother over my role as a worker. Then "they" are not the right person for you.
/r/RedPillWomen02/01/24 08:11 AM
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This strikes me as keeping score, in a sense, and that is something my husband and I have agreed explicitly will not happen in our household. My father kept a whiteboard on our fridge with our names and chores to do daily and it made me resent to do anything around the house. And, of course, his only chore was listed as "bring home a paycheque" every week.
/r/RedPillWomen01/01/24 07:43 AM
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our bodies and minds evolved during Homo Sapien’s hunter-gatherer period, Our minds/bodies continue to evolve every time we reproduce another generation -- 15~20 years. I'm in my mid-40s as I type this. When I was born, there were no consumer-grade mobile phones, no consumer-grade Internet, no iPAD, no iPhone, a PDA was something that required muscle movement, there were six networks on television, no PATRIOT act, no LGBTQIAXYZ, no COVID and so on. We humans don't have the luxury of dealing with…
/r/RedPillWomen31/12/23 08:09 AM
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Is grass really greener on the other side? In some respects, it will always be, in others, not so much. Marriage is invariably a compromise. My husband is, I think, a centimeter taller than me. I like wearing heels and having the guy tower over me. So, in this sense, he's not a match. But, on our third date, I had a cancer scare. This is when he showed me his offsetting -- I know there's a better word for this -- qualities. Unlike anyone from my immediate family, he took it upon himself to show …
/r/RedPillWomen25/12/23 09:09 AM
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My husband recommended the book Choosing Civility which he read in a library with a binder taking copious detailed notes, as is his wont. I haven't read the book, but refer to said binder regularly.
/r/RedPillWives25/12/23 06:54 AM
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Ugh.... best wishes for the rest of the festive period! Enjoy the drink and, remember, tomorrow's a new day.
/r/RedPillWives25/12/23 06:47 AM
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Too bad that r/bestof doesn't iike submissions from here, else I'd love to submit this.
/r/RedPillWives23/12/23 07:12 PM
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As the vindaloo was a hit, this weekend, I think I'll make them turkey korma -- just substituting turkey for chicken because of Christmas.
/r/RedPillWomen22/12/23 08:00 PM
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A big hug and a kiss, but you've got the gist of it.
/r/RedPillWomen21/12/23 09:48 PM
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Also, you could try buying a separate, smaller gift. Like if husband buys the nightsuit, you buy the socks. If husband buys the bike, you buy the helmet or bell, etc. That way he gets credit for the main object. Fantastic idea. Thank you very much!
/r/RedPillWomen21/12/23 09:47 PM
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Congrats!
/r/RedPillWives17/12/23 05:46 PM
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He assures them that he "got lucky" when meeting me, but I know how much effort he puts into, well, everything he does.
/r/RedPillWomen17/12/23 01:11 AM
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I regularly take classes on everything, including cooking. Since he and his friends are adventurous, I make them the last thing I took a class on. Saturday is apparently a good soccer game, so when they're over, they will be treated to chicken vindaloo.
/r/RedPillWomen15/12/23 07:49 PM
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MLB? TRM?
/r/RedPillWomen12/12/23 02:58 AM
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For every "some", there are those that do not. And those that are available that do not, at that. I met my husband in a wine bar. He hasn't asked for my body count and, when I asked him if he wants to know on our second date, he said, "what difference does that make? I'm aware that you weren't born when you met me. It doesn't change a thing about you right now, if you've had 1 boyfriend or 3 before you met me -- every experience, whether sexual or being hit with a football walking home from scho…
/r/RedPillWomen11/12/23 06:53 AM
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I wouldn't be comfortable with a guy saying those things about women When we were dating, my now-husband had to tell me that "if you don''t want your significant other making serious, disparaging comments about women, don't make serious, disparaging comments about men". Kudos to you for recognizing this without having someone else pulling you aside and reading you the proverbial riot act.
/r/RedPillWomen11/12/23 06:27 AM
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how do you deal with everyone being married already at your age (35+/40+) Go for a tertiary degree and focus on gentleman in STEM.
/r/RedPillWomen27/11/23 07:18 AM
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you have a life with very few real problems. Agreed -- I don't know how else to take your comment as anything else.
/r/RedPillWomen24/11/23 10:28 PM
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It was rude AF but not a crime. True, I didn't know what to do, but felt as if I have to do something.
/r/RedPillWomen24/11/23 08:46 AM
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Husband, brother-in-law (Ss father), and I are all 43. Sister-in-law is 40. I can't believe I forgot to include our ages here.
/r/RedPillWomen24/11/23 06:26 AM
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We're still here -- in London with the daughter, about to mark our seventh year together December 9(!!!)
/r/RedPillWives21/11/23 06:01 PM
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Professionally, my remit is to help eliminate breast cancer. Personallly, I have to be a good mother to our daughter, a good wife to my husband, a good daughter to my mother, a good in-law to husband's family -- his family' humungous were I to expand it out. I suppose those are my reasons for living.
/r/RedPillWomen16/11/23 03:38 AM
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Husband's father's neighbour in Brussels has a daughter, who behaves as you describe. Whilst hubby's not insensitive and I have, I feel, healthy self-esteem, it does hurt a little when we all hang out together, though I know that, by including me, and making sure it's not at her place, she's less likely to try anything.
/r/RedPillWomen16/11/23 03:18 AM
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Dear, oh dear... mostly monsters This is because the news media plays on our emotions to keep us tuned in for the adverts. My husband explained it to me when I recall asking him how his mother managed to survive in a place we only hear about when it's destroyed. If you would like, I can ask him what the explanation was, as I remember it put me at ease regarding what we see on the news. Chat me up and let me know, please?
/r/RedPillWomen14/11/23 01:21 AM
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Am I unreasonable for desiring good morning texts in a long distance relationship? No, you aren't being unreasonable. What would be a good way to make this request if they have fizzled out? Think outside the box. Before my mother-in-law passed. her sister would make her send her children, and their spouses good night texts at 2100 CET. Now, said aunt inherited her number and keeps the tradition alive.
/r/RedPillWomen14/11/23 12:52 AM
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If he hasn't got the self-control to avoid degradation and sex workers, then he's not my Captain. This - being an RPW doesn't mean you surrender your better angels to anything. You have to keep your mind sharp and constantly evaluate if the relationship is still working for you.
/r/RedPillWomen10/11/23 09:18 PM
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CALL the person Better yet, if you're already in a relationship, GO TO THEIR PLACE. Force them to get out.
/r/RedPillWomen07/11/23 10:25 PM
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"I'm present" puts away her mobile works, in a pinch, for me.
/r/RedPillWomen07/11/23 09:05 PM
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computer science It's not for everyone, but if you should need help with anything coding-related, my husband, /u/murkyperspective767, probably has the answer. Just chat him up or PM him. mainstream multi racial NYC dating pool Navigating. even the mainstream MSan Jose dating pool is difficult without help. So don't feel too bad about it. Perhaps you could sign up for a course in art history or Shakespeare?
/r/RedPillWomen07/11/23 09:03 PM
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I've (still) not met any of the in-laws on his mother's side (though we all got an introduction to a few of them earlier this summer on the news). He's not met any of my father's relatives either. It doesn't matter, as long as most of the family likes your partner and he likes them.
/r/RedPillWomen06/11/23 01:42 AM
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Can you link us to the dress(es) in question?
/r/RedPillWomen02/11/23 06:11 PM
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wait three seconds Depending on the culture surrounding you, this may need to be adjusted.
/r/RedPillWomen02/11/23 06:08 PM
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You just got laid off, my dear. He's been out of work 3 months. When I lost my last job, /u/murkyperspective767 -- my husband -- put up a calendar and put "Apply to job" every Friday evening after he came back from work. It helped give my day structure and we both learned how to craft job applications -- his employment is relatively secure, but he still applies to a job per week, just in case. We still have Wednesday evenings set aside for sending out a job application. For most of us, having a …
/r/RedPillWomen02/11/23 06:02 PM
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committed boyfriend If this commitment is two-way, your feelings are unwarranted about it being an "attraction killer".
/r/RedPillWomen31/10/23 08:31 PM
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Where in California are you?
/r/RedPillWomen31/10/23 08:48 AM
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Did you finish up in STEM?
/r/RedPillWomen30/10/23 02:29 AM
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Like u/uteuteuteute said, your life stage is more important than the actual numbers involved. I was engaged -- Filipina -- at 19, to a man who was 31. We couldn't see eye-to-eye on very much, so ended the engagement. Husband is 10 days older than me and I'm much happier.
/r/RedPillWomen30/10/23 02:06 AM
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What are your thoughts? Would you do it? No... a man who's worth it will not have a problem with your paying for him. Vice versa, said bloke will not be ashamed by it.
/r/RedPillWomen29/10/23 06:16 AM
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It depends on your age. How old are you?
/r/RedPillWomen29/10/23 06:09 AM
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It's a public speaking organization with chapters around the world. I didn't join, but my sister-in-law (husband's sister) was persuaded to and it has made a marked improvement in her diction, but I'm not sure if anyone commented on it.
/r/RedPillWomen26/10/23 10:59 PM
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Sure
/r/RedPillWomen26/10/23 10:56 PM
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I'd be shocked if my husband doesn't know people in France, after all his mother spent her childhood there.
/r/RedPillWomen26/10/23 10:56 PM
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2) did you work on improving your diction (talking, slang, curse words) to seem more eloquent? Join Toastmasters for this. It's US$42 for 6 months, 3 hours a week.
/r/RedPillWomen25/10/23 06:35 AM
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Oh, honey, I know many such people - I grew up in Menlo Park and went to SF State followed by Stanford - PM me and I can make introductions, even from London (where hubby and I live now).
/r/RedPillWomen25/10/23 06:34 AM
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You'll have to elaborate on what you found troubling about it.
/r/RedPillWomen24/10/23 04:52 AM
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Hubby went to Eton and made it clear early in our relationship that not sending his children to an English public school is non-negotiable.
/r/RedPillWomen21/10/23 06:36 AM
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Can you share how did you talk to him exactly? He took me to the London Olympics in 2012 for our 3rd date. After the closing ceremony, we went to Barcelona, where I was found to have breast cancer. He was instrumental in getting me checked into the hospital, visited me every afternoon. How did you chose the moment? At the end of one of his visits, when he picked up his jacket to go back, I motioned at him to return to my bedside. When he did, I told him that "if I should survive this, I'm going …
/r/RedPillWomen19/10/23 04:29 PM
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I think my husband knew two weeks after our first date, but I had initiated the marriage talk and had to remind him of this a few months later, at which point, he took me to Antwerp to get a diamond ring.
/r/RedPillWomen19/10/23 05:02 AM
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Congrats on your pregnancy! Hubby and I have a 3-year old and we're going to send her to a public school, probably Roedean. We've already visited. Husband's also visited Cheltenham, but wasn't so keen on it. We both strongly feel that the best gift we can give her (or any other child) is a top-flight education.
/r/RedPillWomen19/10/23 04:48 AM
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I haven't asked, but I'm almost certain that my husband got the diamond ring from at a discount from his cousin, who is a diamond dealer in Antwerp.
/r/RedPillWomen15/10/23 09:51 PM
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would this home body part of me put guys off? Yes, with the caveat that if a guy is put off by a preference of yours, he isn't right for you.
/r/RedPillWomen07/10/23 12:50 AM
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OP didn't mention the gentleman's faith tradition. Besides, there is a vast difference between Islam, as practiced in, say Lebanon (my mother-in-law was born in the country, but grew up in France, and passed with a PhD from the Sorbonne), and that practiced in, say, Yemen. But, yes, regardless of whether faith traditions are the same or different, marriage unites more than just two people - it unites families. And once a couple has children, there's a biological bond that can't be broken. In the…
/r/RedPillWomen07/10/23 12:39 AM
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What kind of man asks that Military commanders ask for body counts after battles, according to my husband, but yes, in the relationship context, it should never be asked or volunteered.
/r/RedPillWomen07/10/23 12:20 AM
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jeremiad Thank you for teaching me a new word
/r/RedPillWomen06/10/23 09:58 PM
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I'm banned from askhistorians because I answered a question jokingly... I still read the subreddit and sometimes will get hubby to post questions for me there.
/r/RedPillWomen06/10/23 09:42 PM
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Nice!
/r/RedPillWomen19/09/23 03:49 AM
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You write: I know so many guys IRL from my social circles that I would totally date. Ask them if they know anyone who is available. Finding a mate is a team effort, so is making a marriage last (and with a husband whose parents had 21 siblings between them, don't I know this). If you "would totally date" them, you should be blunt with them, e.g., "Hey Paul (or whatever the guy's name is), I like the way you behaviour-goes-here, I'm having a tough time meeting gentlemen like you, would you mind i…
/r/RedPillWomen18/09/23 07:09 AM
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It depends on where one starts and ends up. To wit: If I'm 150cm and 80 Kilos -- 80/(1.5 x 1.5) or 35.6, obese according to the CDC formula -- a large amount of fat loss, coupled with replacing fat with muscle is more important for your health (and, therefore your SMV). If you're more of an average woman, say 160cm and 58kg, then you shouldn't lose too much weight, rather exchange fat for muscle, and not worry too much about tracking your kilos. Being more toned will increase your SMV. If, on th…
/r/RedPillWomen18/09/23 01:22 AM
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he’s slightly autistic He is on the spectrum. That written, he told her that he would hang out with her only if (a) alcohol was not involved and (b) I was. He also reminded her that he's a man of his word and not to take either a or b as a starting point for negotiation. She has yet to respond. Will update here when she does, if there's something else arises that is beyond our ability. if you let your guard down because you see her as helpless, she will be successful. I might, but my husband won…
/r/RedPillWomen15/09/23 09:04 AM
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So the experience of trying to put together a dinner party or somesuch for a number of interesting acquaintances and then having 1 invited couple show up would feel socially devastating to many people. That part is normal. What's not normal If this was truly the case or a ruse, husband's not sure and I don't know her well-enough to hve an opinion. Knowing only one person has RSVP'd by a couple days before and not adjusting to the situation, firstly by calling the texted people to confirm their l…
/r/RedPillWomen15/09/23 12:02 AM
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inform her family She told us she was estranged from her family. neighbors that she needs help I had husband tell FiL, which lead to FiL calling husband unsavoury names -- one, of which, starts with a "p", ends with an "i", and has 4 letters -- British readers can fill in the word, I won't repeat it.
/r/RedPillWomen14/09/23 11:49 PM
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Thank you for your input.
/r/RedPillWomen14/09/23 11:40 PM
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Thanks for your input
/r/RedPillWomen14/09/23 11:28 PM
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Thanks for your advice.
/r/RedPillWomen14/09/23 11:28 PM
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Thanks for your input
/r/RedPillWomen14/09/23 11:28 PM
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I think you should be careful You (plural), right? Husband too, or only me? she will invite you guys (read, your husband) out for something just to thank you for going to her party. She already has.
/r/RedPillWomen14/09/23 09:52 PM
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I took the advice of the top-level comments and went to the "party". I use ditto-marks because we entered and the hostess told us that no one else was coming in tears and she was so appreciative that he had. Said she'd been drinking all day and had a headache. So, husband went out and brought bananas, cut them, put them in a bowl and had her have them, saying a friend's primary concern is that their mate is healthy and a headache isn't a sign of good health. After this, I decided that we should …
/r/RedPillWomen14/09/23 07:47 PM
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I'm not "demanding it" as much as I'm a little reticent as I don't know husband doesn't think through all the contingencies, until it's pointed out that he missed something.
/r/RedPillWomen13/09/23 03:59 AM
1

Who would ever say this to a dying human? His sister said similar to her about her husband, in front of me and her daughter :/ It isn't out-of-character for his family. He wouldn't say it to you or I, though.
/r/RedPillWomen13/09/23 01:04 AM
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I'm not sure who initiated the reconciliation on MiLs deathbed -- whether it was FiL or husband, but have a weak suspicion it was the latter. If said suspicion is correct, I don't want to stay with someone who doesn't want me there. If FiL told MiL that, "enough is enough, you're dying, you need to understand that you are the past and /u/LiteratureOk7716 is his future, so give her your blessing before you go", then I'm more inclined to go than if it was hubby that told her. A third possibility i…
/r/RedPillWomen12/09/23 06:55 PM
2

My father-in-law is a financial advisor. He taught my husband a lot. Should you need help, chat me up or PM me (your choice).
/r/RedPillWomen11/09/23 08:29 AM
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College is a proxy for class in the US. If you make it through the years of education, it indicates that your family has the means to forgo their child working from 18 to however long it takes you to finish. When you're speaking of masters/PhD, that's 4+ years. While scholarships mitigate the sacrifice, when you consider that my brother had offers in the 6-figures multiple times during his tertiary education, which he refused as my family values academic accomplishment. Lest you think it's segme…
/r/RedPillWomen06/09/23 05:02 PM
1

Children are a blessing from above. Mazel-tov!
/r/RedPillWives05/09/23 07:44 AM
1

Not at all. Mistakes need to be rectified. While my mother told me if I vet correctly, she never instructed me on the specifics of vetting. This, I had to figure out on my own. A decade ago, a lot of my girlfriends were popping babies and getting married. Being human, I felt left out. Now, a lot of them are single mothers, while I have a fantastic husband, homes in London, Barcelona, and San Francisco, a daughter who will be at Cheltenham or Roedeane in a few years, my name on the seminal paper …
/r/RedPillWomen04/09/23 10:06 AM
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"I recognize that your mother leaving was very traumatic for you and respect your need for space. Should you ever need an ear, mine's available. Should you ever need a hug, I'm here for you", and change topics.
/r/RedPillWomen01/09/23 07:36 PM
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Yes, u/murkyperspective767 knows.
/r/RedPillWomen31/08/23 03:37 AM
1

It's not his place, as he only visits them occasionally, myself, even less so. I will let him know to communicate this to his sister. Thanks for the advice.
/r/RedPillWomen29/08/23 09:24 AM
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Said auntie is me. I see your point. My husband is just unaware of how to convey a correction. He'll be the first to say his objective was not to support her. But, that's my mildly autistic, professor of STEM, and I love him for it.
/r/RedPillWomen28/08/23 09:45 PM
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MIL loved you No, I don't think she actually loved me, but she did accept me at the end.
/r/RedPillWomen28/08/23 05:02 PM
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retcon?
/r/RedPillWomen28/08/23 05:43 AM
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If there are men who think they can find their dream woman anywhere on reddit, they are not the HVMs we should be with.
/r/RedPillWomen28/08/23 04:31 AM
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I'm 160cm and 60kg. Even GPs in England -- where the weight distribution is shifted left of the US -- don't say I'm overweight. I run half marathons, work in virus research. Hubby's in finance (cause everyone here seems to be).
/r/RedPillWomen23/08/23 07:43 PM
1

Sure -- 43, married 7 years, 1 daughter.
/r/RedPillWomen22/08/23 06:34 AM
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that sometimes the left insinuates that being a stay at home wife is not a choice and you invalidated her statement by brushing it off and saying that it's only certain (implied, dismissable) people. The "left", as exemplified by Mick Lynch, the RMT boss, hates the European Union. However, the mayor of London, also from the same political alignment is one of its biggest fans. On the right, you have Nigel Farage, the original anti-EU politician here, and John Bercow, the former speaker, who was f…
/r/RedPillWomen17/08/23 06:11 AM
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they disagreed with the premise that women should make that decision for themselves. I'm not saying to silence them, what I am saying is that I have been given the opportunity to work outside the home by feminism. Likewise, liberal immigration policies made it possible for my husband's family to settle in Europe -- from the Middle East -- and find ways to excel here. Left wing policies similarly built the economy of both, Europe and the US. Just as they are building China and Vietnam as I type t…
/r/RedPillWomen16/08/23 10:27 PM
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Only those who take their views of feminism from GB News or similar think this is the case.
/r/RedPillWomen16/08/23 06:41 PM
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You always have a choice.
/r/RedPillWomen15/08/23 09:24 AM
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I still do have liberal ideas - I do not want the state to dictate what I can and can't do with my body regarding pregnancy. I value being having the choice of working outside the home. Further, I want all these (and more) privileges for our daughter as well. It doesn't help that the conservatives here (in Britain) are bigoted, classist, etc. and both my Dutch/Moroccan husband and I -- Filipina-American -- are immigrants to the UK (hopefully the "good" kind, but the definition of "good" seems ev…
/r/RedPillWomen15/08/23 08:57 AM
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Sorry, the title said "HVW". I'll delete my comment.
/r/RedPillWomen14/08/23 10:59 PM
1

At dinner, daughter did spill milk all over her dress and daddy dutifully cleaned it up without saying a word to her (or me). After this, I asked him, "if you keep doing her favours without informing her, she'll be shocked when others don't do the same". His response, "At Eton", the boarding school he went to, "if something was awry and I didn't do it, no one would and my responsibility would click in in short order. In the final examination, if one wants to live in a messy environment, that is …
/r/RedPillWomen11/08/23 08:35 PM
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nitpicking Perhaps I am letting perfect be the enemy of the good, in a sense?
/r/RedPillWomen11/08/23 03:52 PM
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Thank you, this is a part of the issue, I suspect. In my birth-family, mum would not do the chores that I'd neglected to do, she would wait for me to do them, whether it was the dishes or taking out the garbage. By contrast, his father -- as his mother's passed when he was young -- takes the view that chores are not tasks for one person, but merely tasks, as long as they get done, it matters not who does them and he's inherited this. I guess it's just going to take time to get used to it.
/r/RedPillWomen11/08/23 03:50 PM
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Of course there are worse problems among the populace.
/r/RedPillWomen11/08/23 03:40 PM
2

He can be a bit of a pushover at times.
/r/RedPillWomen11/08/23 03:39 PM
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this is exactly what you would need if you were more stressed I think this is the best summation of the issue at hand in this post.
/r/RedPillWomen11/08/23 03:38 PM
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He thinks telling you that he put your shoes on the rack would disburb the harmony of the marriage? In aggregate, if he tells me things like "/u/LiteratureOk7716 , you forgot... so I did and put ... in the ..." enough times, he thinks it will make for unhappy home life.
/r/RedPillWomen10/08/23 02:53 AM
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I have, the quote here is sourced from his response.
/r/RedPillWomen09/08/23 08:21 PM
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The problem is that he does things, like putting shoes on the shoe rack, hanging my purse on the doorknob -- all without telling me out of fear of disturbing "harmony in the marriage".
/r/RedPillWomen09/08/23 06:13 AM
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The shoe issue is that while they should be on the rack and, yes, I did not put them there. Husband needs to tell me where he put them, if he moves them. But, to him, this amounts to criticising me because, in his mind, its a reminder to me of something else I forgot to do. He says this sort of criticism will lead to an unhappy home life. While I agree that it will if it's done 85 times/day, there is a question of degree that is lost upon him.
/r/RedPillWomen09/08/23 04:31 AM
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Yes, he does the same for her as well, though. Since this is (or should be) expected of a parent, I didn't point them out.
/r/RedPillWomen09/08/23 02:38 AM
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not to be overly critical when he forgets something. He doesn't seem to mind my criticising his memory either. His uncle, who raised him more than any other family member did, once forgot his car at the petrol pump and walked home in Glasgow. On coming home, he said "it's cold out!". His wife inquired, "didn't you drive to the petrol pump?" He smacked his forehead and said, "oh yes, I knew I forgot something".
/r/RedPillWomen09/08/23 12:35 AM
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Are you worried he’s not teaching responsibility or consequences to your daughter? Yes. I don’t see a problem here. The issue I'm trying to figure out how to raise with him is the need to tell me that "/u/LiteratureOk7716, I put your sandals in the shoe rack", so I don't spend 10 minutes looking for them.
/r/RedPillWomen09/08/23 12:27 AM
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I'm 43, he's 43. Our daughter is 3. My fear is that she will be conditioned not to do chores, because, "if I don't, daddy will do it anyway, so why should I?"
/r/RedPillWomen09/08/23 12:23 AM
2

Welcome /u/ChamomileMist !
/r/RedPillWomen07/08/23 07:29 PM
1

take pride in homemaking and being a wife primarily instead of taking pride in a career, This distinction should stop. Homemaking is a career, just not one that is respected by mainstream society. My mum being next door, in good health, and loving children is what enables me to work as an oncologist and husband to do his work (as a statistician), while mum happily babysits during the day -- she's now retired and a widow.
/r/RedPillWomen04/08/23 03:03 AM
2

It is possible,even before marriage, but given your 2-5 year timeline, and we (women) have a "shelf life", it isn't worth the wait.
/r/RedPillWomen04/08/23 02:53 AM
1

My husband has 3 exes, in order of oldest to newest (followed by myself): Dated 2 years, met at a formal with his sister school. He attended an all male boarding school. She's now married, a flight attendant living between Copenhagen and Miami Beach. She, her husband, and 3 children were well-behaved at our wedding. Dated 4 years, met 2nd year undergrad, followed hubby to grad school, where she was raped and killed the day he was going to propose to her. He found her body hanging from a tree and…
/r/RedPillWomen04/08/23 02:49 AM
1

Is this the girl you mentioned in your other post where your SIL went to strike her? No, this is her cousin. Does she live with now? Not yet, but husband has made it clear to his sister that if he should ever hear about her losing it with her daughter again, we will take over parenting responsibilities and brother in law is on board with this.
/r/RedPillWives27/07/23 05:10 PM
8

yesterday was my birthday Happy birthday!
/r/RedPillWives25/07/23 06:18 PM
1

It's ok for him to tell you, but it's simultaneously ok for you to tell him to pound sand and do it anyway. I complained about my pre-husband bfs doing similar. He told me the above. At which point, I had to ask him if he wanted me telling him this if he was ever out of line. His response was, "if you don't, the resentment will be repressed inside you and will grow until it can't be held in. I'd rather know when I have erred, when it happens, so we can correct the behavior and move on".
/r/RedPillWomen21/07/23 07:23 AM
1

There is no metric (IMO) for overall maturity -- in some ways, my husband is legions more mature than I, in others, it's the opposite.
/r/RedPillWomen12/07/23 07:21 PM
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I personally don't find younger guys attractive. Then they are not for you. Husband is 10 days older than I, modulo timezones, and I feel we're a good match. My younger sister is married to a man 5 years her elder -- seem fine. His sister is married to a man 2 years younger -- also seem fine with one kid.
/r/RedPillWomen12/07/23 05:25 AM
2

Doctor -- finding a cure for breast cancer. Husband has a PhD and is running an ads team at Samsung.
/r/RedPillWomen12/07/23 05:22 AM
2

I’m sure that’s part of it. Bravo! Takes a lot to admit fault.
/r/RedPillWomen12/07/23 05:20 AM
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I knew he was the one after the year he took off work to stay by my side, when I was sick with cancer, with (later finding that) each member of his family telling him it wasn't worth it. When I was finally released to he and his sister-in-law (who lacked the spine of the rest of them), I told him we could get engaged next time we were in Antwerp.
/r/RedPillWomen11/07/23 06:35 AM
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Here's your sanity check (and what I've done with hubby): Hubby, I'm joining you. If he says "No", you leave him. Eight months is not long at any age, much less 24. Given your "incredibly toxic" last relationship especially, you deserve an understanding guy.
/r/RedPillWomen11/07/23 06:30 AM
1

My husband, in his spare time, when alone, reads, plays chess. When with our friends, we all engage in conversation over wine. And, when he's out with his friends, he's playing rugby or soccer -- at 43. I'll sometimes go to watch the games, but usually, am too scared of his getting injured to watch.
/r/RedPillWomen11/07/23 05:54 AM
1

My cousin-through-marriage works for Amazon, in Seattle, as a software engineer -- no idea beyond this, but claims to meet Bezos regularly. Hubby's cousin says his temper is a result of being driven and seeing others not putting the same drive forth. And those that have been on the receiving end of said temper are quickly discarded, with any unvested options grants rescinded -- standard for the IT industry. Those that demonstrate they belong at Amazon, are treated wonderfully.
/r/RedPillWomen11/07/23 05:50 AM
3

Sex isn't a form of currency and you shouldn't think of it as such -- RPW or otherwise.
/r/RedPillWomen11/07/23 05:33 AM
2

My husband was raised Muslim, in an academic household, and then chose to leave. I showed him this note and he's going to type the rest of the comment: The Islamic custom of multiple wives was customary before Islam and was not abrogated with the coming of Islam, according to Ibrahim Amini. Amini continues that "Islam corrected and set various conditions for the practice." There are several different schools of Islamic jurisprudence, which interpret the Quran for frontline clergy -- those we lay…
/r/RedPillWomen04/07/23 02:06 AM
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I did a little modelling in the past. Found it lead to an over-reliance on my body and an under-reliance on my mind. I now do breast cancer research at a teaching hospital, where I don't think the computers I work on judge me on my lipgloss. Are YOU in the upper percentage of attractiveness? Certainly not, but I have the work ethic (and more than supportive partner) to get there.
/r/RedPillWomen03/07/23 09:48 PM
2

he says or does something incredibly rude or offensive In 5 years of marriage, my husband hasn't said anything rude or offensive in my presence. Not sure what the circumstances that Mr R_R_Royce was raised in were, but Mr LiteratureOk7716 was sent to an English public school, which doubles as a finishing school, where he was taught when to and when not to be polite. He summarizes it as "rudeness is only permitted at the football pitch and then only against the opposing stand when others are doin…
/r/RedPillWives29/06/23 05:35 AM
2

accept his condition at the same time This seems to be present on his family's side as well. As I wrote, we both were doing our PhDs when we met and have since finished -- his in statistics, mine in oncology. He was diagnosed Asperger's in Britain. However, at this point, he already had a masters and was working in financial services excelling as a quantitative analyst. After having moral misgivings about his work, he started a PhD in America and joined a large IT company I can assure you 99 pct…
/r/RedPillWives28/06/23 04:31 AM
1

Oops.... This was more a whine report than a cute kid report. Downvote registered.
/r/RedPillWives28/06/23 12:50 AM
1

You realise that your daughter is probably going to be autistic right? If she's half the person her father is, I'll die a happy woman. a husband thats just normal What is normal anyway? Were my previous (plural) partners normal when they hit me or is my husband normal for not doing so? Have your daughter come home crying with them. Crying with whom?
/r/RedPillWives17/06/23 08:39 PM
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he worked on himself so now he isn't going to be autistic I understand that autism is a lifelong "quirk" of his. The side effects of autism enabled him to succeed academically, be financially successful at work, be an (far) above average provider to our daughter and I, and be overly generous to both our extended families.
/r/RedPillWives17/06/23 05:42 PM
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accept him where he is. Oh, I do... don't get me wrong. It's just difficult at times. We're on our 7th year of marriage, so I guess this is part of the proverbial seven-year itch. I can tell he's putting forth a good amount of effort, like he does to every task -- his work ethic is really something to behold. I'm just frustrated that it doesn't seem to be bearing fruit as quickly as I (and, I'm sure, he) would like.
/r/RedPillWives15/06/23 11:09 AM
1

Ok... I have had a few days to go through your study and here are my comments. Before I continue, I read papers for inconsistencies and let my husband vet the numerical issues, as he had a doctorate in statistics. The first suspect line I found was in the methodology -- "A social media survey was conducted 30 March–24 June, 2020 among adults self-identifying..." Social media, in general, is suspect for surveys. The resulting demographic conclusions are "piffle", according to my husband, /u/murky…
/r/RedPillWomen30/05/23 04:19 AM
1

Thank you, I will read and summarize the paper for those who haven't read it for the thread in a few days.
/r/RedPillWomen25/05/23 07:31 PM
1

meat is actually a superfood To quote my husband, "are you trying to wind me up?" Do you have access to any peer-reviewed research that backs up your assertion?
/r/RedPillWomen25/05/23 05:40 PM
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23 is nowhere near the wall. Even if it were, you can delay the wall by taking care of yourself -- eating lots of fruit and veg, less meat, more seafood, less sugar, and so on.
/r/RedPillWomen25/05/23 12:35 AM
1

Yes, my husband put a rock on my finger that (he assures me) his grandfather was not responsible for smuggling to his cousin to sell in Antwerp -- diamond "trade" is the family business. In exchange, I adopted him as my rock.
/r/RedPillWomen18/05/23 10:05 PM
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Your story reads like my biography. Until age 34 (just celebrated my 7th wedding anniversary in December), my love life was like yours, giving and not being reciprocated. Then, I met my (now) husband at a wine tasting. Of course, it started the same way, with my being giving to him (but not having intercourse, even though we did fall asleep in my bed for a few hours after our second date -- he fell asleep before me and woke up after), feeling unappreciated, but having committed to one man, I fel…
/r/RedPillWomen18/05/23 06:49 AM
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a known PUA technique to come close to me What is this "known PUA technique"?
/r/RedPillWomen01/05/23 10:43 PM
1

Sister-in-law is an inexperienced parent, mother-in-law passed on many years ago. Essentially, she's flying by the seat of her skirt. It seems she's a bit of a control freak about what her daughter hears, says, and believes. Hubby is pretty oblivious to what is happening around him, unless it is stated. He's also the older of the two and, so his sister tends to be a bit deferential towards him. That's the background to what happens in the rest of this comment. Our niece was eating with hubby, or…
/r/RedPillWives01/05/23 07:03 AM
1

My husband is the product of (Moroccan and Palestinian) grandparents who were in arranged marriages in the west (Belgium and France). His thoughts on it are that it's just as much of a cr*pshoot as love marriages. Also, in his view, marriage is always a union of families, in an extended sense of the word. Whether it was his fraternity brothers, his wine drinking group, my sorority sisters, or my poetry group, upon marriage, most of these changed (at least occasionally) to "our" groups. What this…
/r/RedPillWomen27/04/23 07:20 PM
3

Father-in-law is in Paris for the week. Husband and I are watching the apartment while he's away along with our daughter (N). But this isn't about how cute she was, it's about her cousin -- his sister's daughter (S). S decided that both husband and I were "16 months old" for a very long time -- we play along with her. But this isn't the cutest part. Every time we talk, I ask her, "How old is auntie?" To which she dutifully and excitedly responds, "16 months!!!" In reality, both husband and I are…
/r/RedPillWives20/09/22 11:48 PM
2

My husband always says that on Instagram, Snapchat, etc. people post their highlight reels and the key to said services is that the user (me, you, whomever) are comparing their "blooper reel" to it. In other words, someone posts a video of themselves in dancing in Ibiza, which I'm viewing on a rainy day in Cheshire and it makes me feel bad. This is 100 pct by design and it makes you want to come back to beat yourself up more. We, as women, are constantly told by society we're not thin, sexy, vir…
/r/RedPillWomen06/09/22 01:38 AM
1

For the past few years, I've been doing research on COVID, as the hospital I'm working at was repurposed to be a COVID-care centre. Before that, I was researching breast cancer and hope to get back to that as that is where my passion lies.
/r/RedPillWives18/06/22 01:43 AM
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