I'm American. Sister-in-law grew up at a boarding school in Connecticut and loves to cook. Her husband and mine went to boarding school in the UK. We live in London, though different parts and they don't work together.

SiL decided to make a Thanksgiving meal; and so, bought a large (45lb) turkey, made stuffing, pies, etc. We took daughter over to their place in Hammersmith. We went in, husband is a great uncle and revels in making everyone laugh. Their daughter, S, is 2, ours, N, is almost 4.

After he picked up their daughter, spun her around, she told him that BiL doesn't do that. So, he told her that she needs to be blunt about what she wants.

So she goes back to her father and asks him why he isn't "as much fun as uncle".

Her father says, "you're too fat for me to lift, S!". When I heard this, I was tempted to call 101 this very minute, but didn't. Should I have?

I know my husband would never say such a thing to anyone. But, by the same token, he wouldn't comment on it or get involved if he hears someone else say it.