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ADVICEladida1321/r/RedPillWomen23/02/22 06:07 PM
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ADVICEladida1321/r/RedPillWomen12/09/23 02:26 AM
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RELATIONSHIPSladida1321/r/RedPillWomen07/02/23 11:14 PM
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My ex was like this. He wouldn’t drink often but when he did he couldn’t stop. I had a bar stocked and anytime I would want to make a cocktail I would find one or several of the liquor bottles empty or a ton was gone. I didn’t change my habits at all and about 1-3 times a month he would get basically blackout drunk. The rest of the time he was completely sober. It made me drink so much more too because he annoyed me so much I drank to cope. So it was one giant vicious cycle! So in your situation…
/r/RedPillWomen02/04/25 11:47 PM
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Please make the stinkiest garlicky most delicious meal because you won’t be kissing anyone anyway!
/r/RedPillWomen04/03/25 04:54 AM
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Distraction is the best! You need to have your own life and interests. When my husband is gone I usually clean, go grocery shopping for all my favorite snacks and food, make my ideal dinner, take a full shower or bath, put on the comfiest PJs I own, queue up a very guilty pleasure show or movie and proceed to have the girliest time ever. Girl dinner, wine and bravo sustains me. I could do this all week! Self care stuff like painting nails, face mask and whatever else you like to do is the perfec…
/r/RedPillWomen03/03/25 06:16 PM
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Of course it’s not! Humans change their minds and grow. If anything it’s a green flag that you’re bettering yourself and taking care. There is definitely a red flag in your post though, and it’s the guy who said that to you.
/r/RedPillWomen28/08/24 07:03 PM
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Honestly, I also struggle with this especially with my husband because his communication style is more story telling. He adds tons of (what I feel are unnecessary) details and repeats himself a lot so I get very impatient and try to just get to the point of where I think he’s going. Most times I’m right but either way it’s rude as hell and I realize it is. So, I try to consciously make an effort to slow down and let him finish and ask those clarifying questions. I think now that I’ve realized I …
/r/RedPillWomen01/07/24 05:15 PM
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I wouldn’t bring any of these up again, personally. I think your anxiety is spiraling a bit- these examples aren’t going to ruin a good impression but I can understand why you’re not thrilled with your response in them. Your biggest issue is jumping to conclusions. Besides the f bomb it seems like you react very quickly before thinking things through. It might help to try to consciously ask clarifying questions before forming an opinion. You seem to use logic above all else assuming everyone thi…
/r/RedPillWomen30/06/24 09:21 PM
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Oh my… this is extreme self sabotage. 3 times a week is NORMAL!!! It’s actually pretty good amount. I know it’s not exactly how much you want but this is part of being in a committed long term relationship- your sex drives will ebb and flow a lot through our your lives... like there will be times when you have no interest in sex and he will be hounding you. You’re currently meeting in the middle in a very normal way. I understand your frustration but is having sex a few more times a week worth t…
/r/RedPillWomen24/05/24 08:49 PM
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In moderation I don’t see an issue. I watch porn too. I think porn can be great. I don’t think it’s that big of a deal unless it’s disturbing stuff, interfering with our relationship or it’s interactive like Only Fans or other cam girl stuff.
/r/RedPillWomen02/05/24 08:13 PM
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I suppose it depends. Bottom line- same bed? Absolutely not Just the two of them? No that’s weird unless there is some super specific reasoning why A group of people that includes a female friend? Sure She’s gay? Sure whatever
/r/RedPillWomen18/04/24 07:51 PM
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This was very upsetting to read and I’m so sorry you’re in this situation. You cannot change the dynamic. Your husband is abusive. It’s very unlikely it will change- typically these things only escalate with time. Is he in anger management or therapy to work on his issues? This is very serious. I would encourage you to consider opening up about this to someone you trust in your life. You need support and you need help. Abusive relationships are a cycle. High highs, low lows. Please do some resea…
/r/RedPillWomen06/04/24 06:31 PM
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This reminds me of How I Met Your Mother Dobler/Dahmer theory https://m.youtube.com/watch?si=uwa1u_J68oQBGPi6&embeds_referring_euri=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.google.com%2F&source_ve_path=MTY0OTksMjg2NjQsMTY0NTA2&feature=emb_share&v=jkQJKeO8zUo Not saying you’re boyfriend isn’t into you but it’s just funny. Anyway, shout out to your bestie for being honest with you! I love the idea of saving this gift for an anniversary, especially since you put so much effort into it.
/r/RedPillWomen05/04/24 04:10 PM
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This is a VERY good point
/r/RedPillWomen03/04/24 07:08 PM
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I was about to be like awww cute! And then I got to the part where he’s married and you’re in a relationship! No brainer- don’t respond, block and move on with life. He’s not the one that got away- he’s married
/r/RedPillWomen03/04/24 07:08 PM
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I just want to say, I really appreciate your self awareness here. It sounds like you’ve basically figured out the root of all this confusion and frustration. I do agree with the other commenters and your own self assessment- no more male red pill content. I will also mention, it’s kind of seen as a red flag if a potential suitor is really into that stuff. High value traditional man is very very different from a red pill guy.
/r/RedPillWomen03/04/24 02:50 AM
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God, I fucking love my husband. He’s so handsome- but more than that he’s soooo patient with me. He’s my protector and biggest fan. He’s also this big tall guy with a super deep voice, who no one but me knows he’s such a softy sweetheart. We are so silly together, I’m sure people would cringe listening to the way we talk to each other. One of my favorite little traditions now is for my birthday we marathon watch sex and the city and he has all this sincere commentary. We figured out he’s a “Carr…
/r/RedPillWomen31/03/24 11:32 PM
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I’m gonna guess this is just rhe tip of the iceberg on how ingrained his misogyny runs (best case) or you have now a very small glimpse into a full on abuser mindset. No gentlemen casually has this stance. I’m serious. I have never ever heard a man say they would ever lay a finger on a woman EVEN IF SHE WAS HITTING THEM- I find this to be an extreme statement because everyone deserves to defend themselves. But I’m saying that because it’s pretty common for a man to be extremely against any physi…
/r/RedPillWomen29/01/24 03:00 PM
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AGREED. Like where are these so called posts “all over reddit” of men complaining their significant other banged someone else before they met? I’ve never seen one. I have seen posts of men upset their significant other LIED about being a virgin or LIED about not sleeping with someone but generally I don’t see any man complaining about their gf/wife having sex in a past relationship. And yea I forgot that all single women may as well shrivel up and die after 30 because they are now elderly and wi…
/r/RedPillWomen18/01/24 11:03 PM
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You’re making a ton of assumptions and a lot of excuses not to do the very obvious thing. Find (or create) a quiet time, swallow your pride, tell him something has been on your mind for a very long time and you really want to talk about it, be vulnerable and honest and tell him how you feel. Tell him you deeply miss the sexual part of your relationship and you want to reignite that passion. Nothing changes when nothing changes. Most men will wait for their postpartum wives to give them the signa…
/r/RedPillWomen18/01/24 02:52 PM
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Is that actually the reason he stopped initiating? Because, you had multiples very recently- it’s not uncommon for sex to basically stop for the first year of a child’s life. It’s a lot and very stressful in every way. Have you asked him about it?
/r/RedPillWomen18/01/24 05:26 AM
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You’re your own worst enemy here. This is self sabotage. You’re crying over buying him a $10 cream while he just spend thousands of dollars on a laptop for you, buys all your meals and has bought you “a few other random things” ALL within 5 months of knowing you. Girl!!! What are you doing? You’re coming off as an entitled brat. Comparison is the thief of joy. Unfollow the idiotic insta accounts and stop creating problems where one doesn’t exist. Untangle yourself from this obsession of money an…
/r/RedPillWomen17/01/24 12:31 PM
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I just snorted. Yeah seriously this guy is a mastermind how did he turn his tiny little dick into a her problem LOL
/r/RedPillWomen16/01/24 07:33 PM
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Don’t have sex with guys that are this stupid and rude. If you feel your vagina is loose (which I doubt is the real issue) start doing exercises to strengthen your pelvic floor. You can google kegals. No amount of penises changed your vagina. Vaginas don’t get “stretched” out, that’s the entire purpose of the vagina, it expands so I baby can fit though and goes back to its shape. Most likely problem? Porn sick or death grip boys blaming you when it’s really a them problem.
/r/RedPillWomen16/01/24 07:21 PM
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All in all, I don’t think sex before commitment is going to prevent someone from dating you (if it’s meant to be). Maybe playing the games and not having sex until commitment might get you the commitment but a relationship that’s not going to work out anyway just isn’t going to work out no matter how much commitment you get or when you get it. The ‘don’t have sex before commitment’ isn’t about getting a guy to commit, it’s about weeding out the liars and fuck boys who just want to hit and quit a…
/r/RedPillWomen16/01/24 03:32 PM
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Other commenters already mentioned porn. But when you’re having sex are you moving your body, making noises and touching him? A lot of women think sex is something that happens to them and not something they actively participate in- i just want to make sure the issue isn’t starfish, being completely still or seemingly uninterested.
/r/RedPillWomen09/01/24 05:21 PM
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I think you need to temper you expectations, unfortunately. If you’ve never had a satisfactory sex life it’s got absolutely nothing to do with your post baby body- this is him. You could try to come up with a routine that scratches that itch for you (more non sexual intimacy or more romantic kissing and cuddling with penetration not being the goal) but I think accepting that a phenomenal sex life will just not be likely. I know this is disappointing (or even possibly a deal breaker) to consider …
/r/RedPillWomen07/01/24 12:25 AM
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Have you ever had good sex with him, outside of the honeymoon phase in the beginning of your relationship ?
/r/RedPillWomen06/01/24 10:30 PM
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I’m sorry you feel so rejected and hurt. It’s an awful feeling. Nothing you did made this happen. Porn addiction is real. It changes your brain. If he is still looking at porn he’s not going to change. Has he stopped? And how long has it been?
/r/RedPillWomen06/01/24 10:22 PM
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Oh come on
/r/RedPillWomen29/12/23 04:58 PM
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You’re 20!!!!!!!! Good lord girl, chill out and have some fun. You have the rest of your life to be so worried and serious.
/r/RedPillWomen28/12/23 04:57 AM
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Yeah it’s patronizing af. Also… not to beg the question but women want to “submit” because they want to… a man asking them to do so it’s a giant turn off. If you’re not masculine enough for a woman to happily be making you a sandwich, tend to your ailments and folding your laundry than maybe you don’t deserve that treatment.
/r/RedPillWomen28/12/23 04:51 AM
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I divorced my ex for cheating on me. I would never allow this in my marriage.
/r/RedPillWomen21/12/23 11:13 PM
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Yeahhh this sounds like a massive dead end and waste of time. Side note- I think it’s kind of silly he won’t come to your state because it’s a “dangerous liberal shit state”… not really a valid argument assuming you live in the United States, so I’m not sure why you consider that so understandable and not super rude.
/r/RedPillWomen18/12/23 07:20 PM
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My husband was the same. I wouldn’t say it’s a red flag/ deal breaker but it is an orange flag. Best case it’s meaningless and that was a phase where they learned casual sex isn’t that interesting or worse case it’s compulsive and is not stopping or that it shows a lack of respect for women. Hard to say, you have to discuss it. Also, I find that kind of past behavior as gross too. It took me awhile to accept that was who he was at one point in his life and move on from dwelling on it. For me, if…
/r/RedPillWomen13/12/23 01:44 AM
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Girl. Your boyfriend sounds abusive. He’s the one that failed. He chose you because you’re falling for the manipulation. Having self respect isn’t selfish? A cum rag ??! Where did that even come from? That’s disgusting and not true. It honestly makes me really sad for you that you’re saying this or thinking this. I know we shouldn’t say “leave”. But this isn’t okay. This is doing much more harm to you than you realize right now. Go back and look at all your previous posts. What advice would you …
/r/RedPillWomen18/11/23 11:09 AM
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This is why some women grow so bitter, so masculine and adopt the angry “all men are trash” stance. They put themselves in awful relationships when they are younger with toxic men and think that’s how all men are. Then they repeat the mistake because they didn’t learn or heal from the trauma. There is a reason it’s so hard. Not all relationships are hard. There is a reason respect on all sides has exited this relationship. There is no foundation to build upon. What are you afraid of? Why are you…
/r/RedPillWomen16/11/23 03:44 PM
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It’s pretty common to be screwing like absolute rabbits in the beginning of a relationship. I think New Relationship Energy can last for 2 years. Those are such fond memories for me with my husband. We couldn’t keep our hands off each other- but his NRE ended earlier than mine and I became frustrated he didn’t want to keep up the frequency. Eventually, mine also ended and now are drives are pretty matched again. If sex isn’t preventing you from living a normal life outside of it and you’re not m…
/r/RedPillWomen16/11/23 12:14 PM
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I wont go as in depth as others already addressed- your issues making friends has nothing to do with attractiveness. You’re coming off as either boring, uninterested, standoffish or even rude. Making friends when you’re not a very social person in general is difficult. You will have to go out of your way to make an effort and it will be uncomfortable feeling to you in the beginning. If you are introverted it’s natural to you to want to be more quiet and only talk to someone when they engage you-…
/r/RedPillWomen15/11/23 12:51 PM
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I don’t have any advice in changing your husbands mind but personally what has helped me a lot with baby fever is offering to babysit my friends babies/kids and getting more involved with them. I know this might make it worse for some people but I find I have a ton of fun. By the end of it I’m a exhausted and relieved I don’t have to continue childcare ! It makes me grateful for my free time. It also fills that desire and joy to be around babies and young children. My favorite is when my husband…
/r/RedPillWomen13/11/23 08:10 PM
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Idk about “personal porn star” - my husband doesn’t really look at porn much (I definitely look at it more than him hah) and he’s very romantic. I’m not sure if he would be interested in doing crazy performative sex. But I’ve always liked the way Dan Savage said it: Savage coined "GGG", "good, giving, and game", and it means one should strive to be good in bed, giving "equal time and equal pleasure" to one's partner, and game "for anything – within reason". Anyway, it sounds like you’re both hav…
/r/RedPillWomen10/11/23 08:09 PM
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I get it. I stayed in a blah relationship/marriage for a long time because I wanted to be a mother so badly. Welp, it ended up blowing up in my face anyway and we got divorced a month before I turned 30. I was more upset about losing this dream of having children than I was about my ex. And I think that is very telling. I’m actually still a little upset that he took away those years from me. I am now remarried and we are trying for a baby. I’m 34 and I feel very “behind” in comparison to a lot o…
/r/RedPillWomen07/11/23 04:32 PM
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It mattered to me but it’s just a personal preference. Especially, If you have a complicated relationship with you mom it makes sense that you haven’t brought him home. I don’t think there’s anything wrong with that.
/r/RedPillWomen04/11/23 06:59 PM
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A HVM isn’t going to cheat. Cheating is a character flaw. HV, in my option, isn’t just about wealth or success/ personality and character are a huge part of being HV for me. Cheating is impulsive, selfish and short sighted. I would attempt to work through infidelity ONLY if children were involved and only if the circumstances allowed it. Otherwise it’s a deal breaker. I divorced my first husband for this and I have absolutely zero regrets. Turned out to be the best thing that could have ever hap…
/r/RedPillWomen29/10/23 03:09 AM
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You buried the lede in your comments.
/r/RedPillWomen27/10/23 02:27 PM
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I guess I’m confused why you should secretively slide a card under the table? Why does it matter to anyone who looks like they are paying? This seems like a ton of fuss for something that is not that deep. If you wanna treat him to a meal, toss your card on the bill like you would do at any other time you’re paying for something.
/r/RedPillWomen26/10/23 07:32 PM
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If he’s actually embarrassed he’s not paying… maybe he should pay? Literally no one else would care. The server doesn’t care who’s paying. The other customers don’t care whose paying. You two are the only people that would care so I don’t understand why you need to pretend when you both know who is actually paying? Why the theatrics? It just seems odd.
/r/RedPillWomen26/10/23 06:05 PM
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You said he was cute… so she was probably thinking you were interested in him. Maybe she was trying to wing man? Also him saying “no, I don’t have a thing with her” isn’t a rejection- it’s the truth. I don’t see the issue. This is complete assumption based on this single post- but it sounds to be like you are not very experienced with friendships like this or men. And you were testing the waters by saying he is cute, seeing if she would tell you he also thought you were cute. So when that failed…
/r/RedPillWomen21/10/23 12:50 AM
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We were pretty equal in income until this year and now I make more. I also am the homeowner, have more financial assets and familiar wealth. I don’t think so! I was worried about this. But it hasn’t seemed to be a problem, in fact he’s been very supportive and proud for how hard I work. I’m naturally submissive in this relationship- I defer to him for big decisions. I would say yes. Default now that I pay for dinners/ house stuff… so we don’t go out on dates much because I don’t want to ask myse…
/r/RedPillWomen18/10/23 01:44 AM
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I know this is a common stereotype… but in practice I have not really ever experienced it (past the honeymoon phase). Which makes me think it’s not so much that most men are more horny but that a lot of women are just not interested in sex/ no spontaneous drive and have a hard time understanding women who are. I have several friends who think sex is an obligation they have to fulfill to shut their partners up. I find that very bizarre but I know the women who make these claims are usually not en…
/r/RedPillWomen03/10/23 07:54 PM
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It’s a two way street. I rarely say no. He rarely says no. I don’t think this is a man vs woman thing. It’s just being sexually compatible. You scratch my back? I’ll scratch yours! Because I love you, I want you to feel good and I know you want that for me too
/r/RedPillWomen03/10/23 02:41 AM
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Maybe you should listen to what people are saying instead of deflecting to your “I’m disgusting and not really a woman” rhetoric. Just saying you’re a loser is a cop out. You’re trying to be defensive because the truth is you’re hurting. Why? I have no idea- maybe therapy would help. Your fiancé chooses YOU. Do you not respect his choice? There are things about you that are lovable and desirable… why else is he with you? The “I’m a loser” thing gets old fast. You want to keep your man? Get your …
/r/RedPillWomen14/09/23 02:42 AM
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There is no way this is real. And if on the very off chance you’re not a troll… you need to love yourself. I hate reddit obsession with “therapy” for literally everything but you would be a very good candidate for therapy. Seriously.
/r/RedPillWomen14/09/23 01:40 AM
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I like this plan!
/r/RedPillWomen12/09/23 03:22 PM
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Lol yes a bit dramatic. Everything seems better in the light of day. It was just very out of character for how things have been for the last 4 years so I was catastrophizing. I’ll keep my mouth shut and we’ll give it another go tonight!
/r/RedPillWomen12/09/23 03:22 PM
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Yeah I think I screwed up in being so transparent. He was just so excited! He was asking me about it. Ugh. Yeah too much, way too much for a dude to handle hah.
/r/RedPillWomen12/09/23 03:01 AM
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Moving in was a prerequisite for both of us to know if we were fully compatible once our relationship became serious and we started discussing getting engaged. I have zero regrets and we are happily married now.
/r/RedPillWomen06/09/23 04:43 PM
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You cannot sweep infidelity under the rug. You can try. You can pretend, even for years. But it always comes back if it’s not properly addressed and worked through. Trust and respect are the fundamental basis for a healthy relationship. After infidelity, trust is broken and the burden of earning trust back is on the person who cheated. If you cannot trust your spouse, you cannot have a healthy happy relationship. A partner that chests does not respect their counterpart. End of story. If you want…
/r/RedPillWomen18/08/23 01:29 PM
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Why is it so bad if the birth rates decline? I find it very refreshing how seriously people take having children and raising them (in the USA) to a level that is beyond anything our grandparents did. No longer do we turn a blind eye to the neglectful and selfish parents. We deeply care how our children turn out. No, we can’t just leave a baby in a crib or send a 4 year old off to “play in the neighborhood” all day long. We are creating well rounded and healthy humans. Our world is polluted by th…
/r/RedPillWomen17/08/23 03:15 AM
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It hurts. Soooo much. But the other commenter is correct. Time. Give it some time. Be kind to yourself. Go out with your friends. Spend time with your family. You’re going to be okay. You’re very young. You’re not ruined. Don’t think of this as a waste of time- try to remember what you have gained. You now have a lot of relationships experience. You have a super low body count. You’re wiser than you once were. Let this trauma shape you in a positive way. When I was 29 I found out my husband was …
/r/RedPillWomen01/08/23 03:53 PM
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Before marriage? Nope. After marriage, possibly. It takes 2-5 years of hard work to heal your relationship after infidelity. If they are not going to actually put in any effort I wouldn’t hold your breath. It will probably happen again. Some people are just broken.
/r/RedPillWomen01/08/23 02:50 PM
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It makes me really sad that any woman would ever have to ask this question. You can end a relationship for any reason. You don’t need permission. Ending a relationship because someone is untrustworthy and rude is a perfectly valid reason.
/r/RedPillWomen28/07/23 01:50 PM
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I’m curious if you believe there even is “cheating” prior to marriage? I just saw a post on best of reddit where a woman literally didn’t think it counted that she cheated on her then boyfriend with someone. Once they got married it “wiped the slate clean” so she felt no remorse once he found out 4 years later after they were married and didn’t consider it cheating at all until he explained it to her.
/r/RedPillWomen25/07/23 10:54 PM
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Well, it doesn’t really sound like he has any interest in dating you at all. 5 months is a long time to be sleeping with someone who sees you as a casual hookup while you’re wanting to make the relationship serious. You should work on improving your self esteem and making friends. Someone who says they might make you their gf if you pass some arbitrary test is not actually a “really great guy”. He’s using you. 25, in my opinion, is truly the beginning of adulthood. He may have a point about you …
/r/RedPillWomen19/07/23 05:54 PM
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I found meal subscription boxes to be super helpful in learning. After a few of those I had a bunch of new and useful skills. If you’re in the US- hello fresh or blue apron are the ones I’ve tried and you can always get the first box free. You can pick the meals you want to try and they send you everything besides salt/pepper/oil/butter/sugar to make your meal. You will learn different cooking techniques, how to make sauces, which flavors go well together, tips/tricks in meal prep … it’s all aro…
/r/RedPillWomen14/07/23 10:21 PM
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Ew. I would never accept that. Infidelity is for the weak who lack self control.
/r/RedPillWomen01/07/23 12:23 PM
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This level of control and manipulation in a relationship, especially at your age, is incredibly unhealthy. You didn’t do anything wrong or disrespectful. Sharing your location with alerts when you leave the home is not a normal thing to do and I would warn you to not turn them back on or share your location with a boyfriend again. I would encourage you to work on making friends and finding your own hobbies. It’s great to have a boyfriend as a teenager but they shouldn’t be your everything. Becau…
/r/RedPillWomen24/06/23 12:30 PM
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There is probably nothing your husband can really do. He’s been dealing with this his entire life, it’s not going to change. I would employ the Grey Rock Technique with her. She clearly gets pleasure out of getting a rise from people, probably especially you. I know it’s probably so much harder to do this while pregnant but if she stops getting an emotional reaction she may get bored and move on to another victim. Eventually you will become callus to her insults. Pitty her. She sounds like a mis…
/r/RedPillWomen08/06/23 11:45 PM
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My theory is anyone who feels very strongly about this being “gay” or “beta” is actually… gay or beta. Red Pill Men’s ideology probably attracts a lot of very insecure men who are ashamed of who they are. Just as feminism attracts a lot of women who are insecure men don’t like them or find them attractive. The pendulum swings again.
/r/RedPillWomen02/06/23 10:29 PM
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I’m legitimately curious who thinks this way? Who are these “many guys” you’re referring to? Like is there some Andrew Tate type individual who is saying this or is this like a group of 13 year old boys who have no idea what they are talking about? Maybe some very sexually confused closeted gay men? I don’t think there is a “debate” on this anywhere… I’ve never heard of this as being a controversial topic or anyone ever say this anywhere honestly. I can understand some men just aren’t interested…
/r/RedPillWomen02/06/23 10:16 PM
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Your attitude is really a big issue. You see no value in yourself… that’s going to effect literally everything about your life. Confidence is an amazingly attractive quality and people literally radiate to it (confidence NOT cockiness). Take some time to love yourself. There are obviously qualities you poses that add value. Are you funny? Clever? Smart? You just be interesting in some way or this “alpha” wouldn’t be spending time with you at all. Work on yourself. You’re fat and ugly? Eat better…
/r/RedPillWomen19/05/23 09:43 PM
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There is no point to a relationship without trust. You cannot police someone 24/7. If he feels “lustful” or wants to cheat again he will and no apps, not following women or prenup is going to stop him. Dating is vetting. Dating is the trial run to marriage. He failed. Not once, but twice in a very short period of time. Are you prepared to commit the rest of your life- that’s 70ish years with a dude who couldn’t keep it in his pants for 6 months? Tread VERY carefully. And do not rush into marriag…
/r/RedPillWomen19/05/23 12:55 AM
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Very honestly I probably would not. I would really want to not have an issue with it but I know myself well enough to know I would be incredibly insecure I wasn’t enough for them.
/r/RedPillWomen15/05/23 09:15 PM
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Ohh I just thought of another one- porn addiction or cheating. Porn addiction is EXTREMELY hard to overcome.
/r/RedPillWomen11/05/23 05:09 PM
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You have to talk to him about it. Sounds like the new relationship energy/honeymoon period has ended so now you’re seeing the real issue. Stress Health issues (like low Testosterone, overweight or mental health stuff) Low libido He’s not attracted to you/doesn’t enjoy the sex you’re having/ has a fetish you’re not fulfilling Religious guilt or shame Those are the most likely reasons. 1 and 2 you can work with. The other 3 are much harder to overcome and very possibly deal breakers.
/r/RedPillWomen11/05/23 05:07 PM
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I love snap for that reason haha but a lot of people don’t use it. Does he ever post stories on Instagram? If he does you could respond to one of his stories. Or - since you have the mutual friend, can you tell him you’re interested in this guy so he can test the waters for you or put in a good word?
/r/RedPillWomen11/05/23 04:07 PM
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That’s a good thing in this situation actually. I saw the other comment about Instagram. But do you have him on snap? This situation kind of reminds me of how I pursed my now husband. I was newly separated from my ex. I had been friends with him but not like good enough to just randomly text him. So anyway, I decided I wanted to hang out with him so I snapped him a picture of my dog saying “my dog would love a puppy play date with yours!” (Because he was a huge dog person and years before we had…
/r/RedPillWomen11/05/23 03:57 PM
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Are you still friends with his ex? And if you are, how close are you?
/r/RedPillWomen11/05/23 03:39 PM
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Men are simple. They want you? They will be in a relationship with you. They want you as an option? Welcome to situationship land. You’re not a serious first option right now. Never date a man who doesn’t make you a priority, it leads to massive heartbreak.
/r/RedPillWomen11/05/23 02:48 AM
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Exactly! It’s insulting to good moral men to suggest that “all men” would do this or think it’s appealing. Cheating is a character flaw, not a symptom of being “high value”. It’s literally the opposite of high value.
/r/RedPillWomen06/05/23 12:06 AM
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What?! Cheating is not RP ideology. You get angry and disgusted at the thought if it because it is wrong. Your husband sounds like a pig.
/r/RedPillWomen05/05/23 10:58 PM
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Men are notoriously bad at initiating the marriage discussion. I think it’s completely reasonable for you to tell him you would not be comfortable buying a home or moving cross country with someone without being engaged at least but preferably married. This doesn’t have to be a super intense dramatic conversation. Clearly he’s already thought about this and does see a serious and committed future with you. You got this! It seems scary to have these vulnerable conversations but it’s extremely nec…
/r/RedPillWomen05/05/23 06:06 PM
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His track record has “not marriage material” written all over it. And his quick and very insistent approach to marriage with you is SUPER sus. Also realize if you did marry him, even with a prenup, and ended up divorcing … that takes YOUR value down a whole lot.
/r/RedPillWomen04/05/23 03:33 PM
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“He made me feel like there is hope for a non-virgin woman my age” Stuck out to me as a very strange thing to say. Absolutely no one expects a 32 year old woman to be a virgin and definitely wouldn’t be holding it against her…
/r/RedPillWomen03/05/23 05:36 PM
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In my personal opinion honesty is the foundation to any healthy relationship. Lies are cancer. If this legitimately is a possible deal breaker situation for him, ethically I think you need to tell him before he invests anymore time into the relationships. It’s just not fair to take away someone’s choice. Its also not fair to purposefully misrepresent yourself to get what you want. It’s also just going to set you up to create more lies. The truth always comes out- and it sounds a lot better comin…
/r/RedPillWomen12/04/23 09:07 PM
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“Baader-Meinhof Phenomenon (a.k.a. the Recency Bias or Frequency Illusion) The Baader-Meinhof Phenomenon, otherwise known as the frequency illusion or recency bias, is a situation where something you recently learned about suddenly seems to appear everywhere.”
/r/RedPillWomen12/04/23 01:29 PM
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That is such a subjective question. In my personal opinion, a person is a slut when they use their body or sex in unethical or immoral ways. For instance- having sex with an inappropriate person like a friends ex or father, knowingly having a sex with someone who is in a relationship, cheating, having sex with people with no regard for their emotional state or feelings, using people for sex, having sex without consent, using sex to get something from someone like money or power, amassing large b…
/r/RedPillWomen07/04/23 12:30 PM
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You DO actual have time. Women have children in their mid 30s-early 40s commonly. To give yourself from peace of mind maybe consider freezing your eggs? It’s never too late. My own mother was divorced at 36 and desperately wanted kids. She fulfilled that dream when she met my father and they got married. At 42 and 44 by adopting my brother and me. You never know what’s around the corner but you have to be intentional about it and proactive. Fate doesn’t fall in your lap all the time, you do need…
/r/RedPillWomen29/03/23 01:46 AM
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r/waiting_to_try is a great subreddit for this. I feel you!! But the other commenter is so right and my current mentality of “live it up” while you can because once the kiddos come everything changes! I’ve been focusing on planning my wedding, the big honeymoon Safari we are going on, making lots of plans with friends like girls nights, date nights, wild parties, doing some house projects, traveling to see friends, trying to get healthier and applying for some new jobs. This summer I’m looking f…
/r/RedPillWomen03/03/23 10:21 PM
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This dude was never long term material. He’s for the streets. This isn’t a “guy thing”. He was just not a good one. And it’s incredibly hurtful and disappointing he strung you along and betrayed you. Relationship are lessons. What we are willing to put up with, need, want and what are complete deal breakers. Now you know more about what is important to you in a relationship and have the wisdom to see these infidelity red flags earlier. I’m sorry it worked out like this but you did the right thin…
/r/RedPillWomen21/02/23 08:01 PM
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This is kinda female incel vibes I think a lot of people have those childhood loves that were very special… but you’re not a little girl anymore. You have a very romantic and extremely ridged view of sex and love but I think you’re well aware it’s not typical. What are you looking for? Do you want to change your mindset or are you trying to find some guy that’s literally never had a romantic feeling for anyone else in his life besides you? Out of the two options one of them seems pretty impossib…
/r/RedPillWomen14/02/23 10:22 PM
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I know you’re completely right. I feel like I don’t even know exactly why I’m so stressed out and frustrated. Do you have any tips to restore intimacy? I crave it but I’m also pushing him away and I don’t know why I’m doing that either.
/r/RedPillWomen08/02/23 01:49 AM
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It’s this April. I cannot delay it. My mom would lose over 10k in deposits. Many guests have already bought expensive plane tickets and boarding. I don’t want to delay it, I really do want to get married and I know I’m going to have a wonderful time it’s just this anticipation to the date is driving me nuts. I wish I had a Time Machine for the romantic secret elopement idea!
/r/RedPillWomen08/02/23 12:12 AM
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You’re definitely NOT worthless. I promise you that. It’s never too late to better yourself. And I whole heartedly agree with the other commenter- few men are going to specifically ask you anything about your body count. Usually those questions are reserved for the immature or super religious (ie want a virgin). It’s honestly not that big of a deal if you don’t want it to be. To answer you actual question- Dress for how you want to be perceived. Get involved in hobbies. Maintain friendships. Wor…
/r/RedPillWomen04/02/23 06:56 PM
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I suppose I’m one of the lucky ones- I had literally no side effects. Nothing changed at all.
/r/RedPillWomen02/02/23 05:42 PM
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Ew
/r/RedPillWomen28/01/23 01:51 PM
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My ex actually became more loving and kinder to me but sex was pretty much over (maybe 1 or 2 times a month / he was also on anti depressants so i thought it had to do with that). He was also absolutely OBSESSED with his appearance. Constantly looking in the mirror. Buying tons of new clothing. Got a new tattoo. Changed his hair style. He was in serious denial about his wrong doing. I had concrete evidence and he still tried to convince me it was nothing. Which actually pissed me off more than a…
/r/RedPillWomen24/01/23 04:39 PM
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17- started dating my first bf 26- got engaged 27- got married 29- got divorced 30- started dating my fiancé 33- got engaged Getting married again this spring right after my 34th bday Planning to start trying for a baby by fall 2023
/r/RedPillWomen11/01/23 10:49 PM
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I started dating my fiancé at 30. 24 is still very young. You don’t need to settle. Kindness, to me, is one of the most important characteristics a man can have. Your partner should protect you not hurt you. Bottom line.
/r/RedPillWomen11/01/23 03:36 PM
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OP, this is why you’re seeing posts about it men who ask and then have an issue with it. It’s not gentlemanly behavior to ask this question.
/r/RedPillWomen20/12/22 12:04 AM
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I’ve never been asked. I think the only time it truly came up when I was a virgin and said that much… but that was a long time ago.
/r/RedPillWomen19/12/22 10:27 PM
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Nothing good will come out of staying in a relationship with this person. It is not normal/healthy to constantly break up and get back together. It’s not normal/healthy to feel “emotionally drained and losing hope” for the duration of your relationship. Your boyfriend enjoys control, clearly. He enjoys making you desperate for him and making you feel less than worthy. You should believe him when he said he will never commit to you. This relationship is hurting your mental health. I had to Google…
/r/RedPillWomen01/12/22 09:36 PM
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Congratulations!!!!!! Having a separate ceremony and reception is becoming more and more popular. Definitely not weird! Join us at r/weddingplanning
/r/RedPillWomen20/11/22 12:55 AM
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To me, the hardest part of this to get over would be the reasoning of why he didn’t tell you. He KNEW you would break up with him so he took away your choice in the matter and now that you’ve invested so many years with him he decided to relieve himself of the guilt and unload onto you. It’s super selfish all around. You don’t need to do anything right now. Getting all this information is super traumatic. Give yourself some time to just be alone with your thoughts on this. Consider writing in a …
/r/RedPillWomen11/11/22 10:28 PM
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Why is this just coming out now? And is that woman still in your lives?
/r/RedPillWomen11/11/22 09:39 PM
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Agency and autonomy. YES. I’ve been trying to understand how I can agree with a lot of feminist (not the feminazi crazy stuff) ideologies and also agree with a lot of the RPW ideologies at the same time. This just explained it to me!
/r/RedPillWomen25/10/22 10:29 PM
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Jesus that original post you’re referring to was wild. There is a comment there someone saying she dated alllll kinds of men and they were all horrible communicators and treated her like shit. It’s those comments that are so ironic to me. The hypocrisy is so blatantly obvious. Are ALL men horrible and treat women terribly? OF COURSE NOT! But If all the guys you’re dating (picking) are like that than clearly you’re the issue. These men are not so different after all and the common denominator is …
/r/RedPillWomen25/10/22 05:12 PM
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This kinda sounds like a problem you’ve made up in your head. It’s okay to earn more than your husband. Good for you! And more importantly, good for your family! To be RPW you don’t need to have every single thing be as traditional as possible- it sounds like your current set up is working really well and your family is moving in the right direction. Focus on what’s good- because you really have a lot to be thankful for, it’s silly to borrow worry.
/r/RedPillWomen29/09/22 09:18 PM
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I guess I’m confused/ he’s a FWB who you said will not be compatible with you and does not have feelings for you. So really, you’ve never had him. You can’t lose someone you’ve never had. He’s casual. But, just from that reply I can tell this is already an issue- you should not be this invested with a FWB… that’s why they are risky and should be cut off the moment someone catches feelings. You’re on track to get your heartbroken. You’re only hurting yourself. If you feel that’s worth it, continu…
/r/RedPillWomen27/09/22 03:16 PM
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You can’t :( It’s not healthy to try to hide your feelings like that. I know you don’t wanna give up a great lay but honestly… is that worth you feeling upset and tanking your self esteem? I guarantee you this won’t be the best sex of your life- it only gets better… and with the right person who loves you/you love them - phenomenal!
/r/RedPillWomen27/09/22 03:08 PM
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So disappointing when some women do this to other women… someone she even claimed is a “friend”. And then are shocked they are single and miserable. Zero sympathy
/r/RedPillWomen21/09/22 11:49 PM
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Your post history shows you’ve actually had sex with him. That is SUCH trash. You’re both cheating garbage and I feel so sad for your poor friend. You should really take a hard look in the mirror. A woman who gets a HVM isn’t one who is doing what you’re doing. Not to mention this man isn’t HV at all. Yuck. Do better.
/r/RedPillWomen21/09/22 11:16 PM
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I grew up with a nanny and I never had a secure attachment to her - I loved her and had fun with her but I absolutely knew she wasn’t my mom and I was never sad when she went home or I didn’t see her for a bit. BUT I think the difference there is that my mom spent a lot of time with me when my nanny wasn’t around. She played with me, bathed me, took care of me when I was sick, etc. I think some parents don’t want to actually parent and the nanny literally does replace them- it makes me think of …
/r/RedPillWomen14/09/22 02:22 PM
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Feeling rejected is such a terrible feeling. It hurts! And we have all put someone we really don’t even know that well on a pedestal. I know it seems like you were close because you have texted for years but it’s a false intimacy which doesn’t change the fact it felt real to you. You’ll get over it. It wasn’t personal. There are a million reasons why he didn’t want to meet after all but at least now you know this isn’t ever going to really develop into anything serious. These fantasy heartbreaks…
/r/RedPillWomen12/09/22 05:16 PM
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Oh that’s very scary!! Get yourself to urgent care now and don’t wait for him. I completely understand that you want him to be with you but he clearly doesn’t understand the situation. Can a friend or family member go with you now? Take care of yourself first and then once you’re feeling better you can revisit this situation with your husband. Once you’re not in extreme pain in a terrifying situation you’ll be a lot better at explaining what you needed from him and why it was important he helped…
/r/RedPillWomen29/08/22 06:48 PM
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If that’s what causes him to break up with you I don’t think he was actually committed to you at all. He wasn’t husband material to you- it took this accident for that to be blatantly clear. I am really sorry this happened. Break ups are very painful. But you will survive. I promise.
/r/RedPillWomen20/08/22 12:00 AM
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You’re absolutely right a conversation would solve this. It’s so much worse to sit and stew on things instead of just stating your very valid fears and seeing where he’s at. I would also definitely tell him you do not want children- this is a conversation that needs to happen WELL before marriage is on the table.
/r/RedPillWomen13/08/22 05:50 PM
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Some chores just suck! But what helps for me- Sunday is laundry day and clean sheets day but it’s also date night at my favorite restaurant! So the chores that day seem to fly by because I’m so excited for dinner time. Making laundry day the same day you do something really fun might help.
/r/RedPillWomen07/08/22 07:37 PM
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It’s not a good look. It comes off as pathetic and desperate. Girls who do this have no respect for other women or themselves. You should consider working on lifting others up instead of viewing other women as competitors. Wait until he’s single or find someone else to spend your attention on. Remember- what goes around comes around, so consider your choices. How would you want to be treated?
/r/RedPillWomen28/07/22 02:29 PM
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Lying about having friends and then making up fake stories about said fake friends is a serious red flag. That should not be your initial instinct. Honesty is one of the major cornerstones in a healthy successful relationship. Being dishonest in this way would jeopardize the trust between you and your boyfriend. Why don’t you explain to your boyfriend how you feel and that it’s difficult for you. You can also explain it’s not as important to you. Maybe he could help you- introduce you to his fri…
/r/RedPillWomen27/07/22 07:32 PM
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Make sure you’re eating healthy and drinking plenty of water- Some vitamins help with hair and nail growth like biotin and collagen. There is also a debated remedy of caster oil (I’ve tried it and didn’t see major results but some people swear by it). Head bands and hair scarfs are you friend- makes you look much more put together with minimal effort. Avoid washing your hair daily- 2/3 times a week is ideal. Use a nice shampoo (Aveda has nice products). Get a satin pillow case. Get trims regular…
/r/RedPillWomen12/07/22 04:58 PM
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As other have echoed- your education, your economic status, the expensive clothing you wear are meaningless to most men. You need some friends! You need some fun in your life! You’re only 23- the best time in your life to be spontaneous and exciting. What is attractive is a woman who is social, happy, exciting, fun, confident, smart, interesting, kind and patient. You’ve got the banging body and the beautiful face- now you just need to work on your social skills and get a social circle, best cas…
/r/RedPillWomen08/07/22 08:20 PM
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He will listen to all my friends drama in their life and be genuinely interested and offer opinions or advice. He will also bring me snacks and random food related surprises when he get home from work. And (just like me) cannot keep a surprise so we always end up giving each other holiday or birthday gifts way earlier because we cannot contain our excitement for the other one to open up our gift.
/r/RedPillWomen02/07/22 09:42 PM
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My ex husband had a low one. My current fiancé has a high one. Honestly… there isn’t that much of a difference. My main issue with my fiancé and his high body count was retroactive jealousy. And being generally a bit … umm idk how to say this nicely but grossed out a little at the amount of women he’s been with- I assume that has to do with my insecurities and my own biases. I got over that, thankfully. He’s definitely more experienced but as someone else mentioned when you’re in a long term mon…
/r/RedPillWomen02/06/22 07:32 PM
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This sounds like the opportunity for a once in a life time adventure. Your Spanish will improve a lot when you’re totally immersed in it there. It’s a privilege to get to live in another country and learn so much about their culture. It will be an experience. You might hate it and count down the days to move back or you might love it and want to have more of these adventures. It’s a great opportunity for personal growth either way. How long would you be living there? The murder is concerning but…
/r/RedPillWomen24/05/22 01:06 PM
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I appreciate that you want to do better for yourself and your bf but I want to say this/ DO NOT BORROW WORRY. it seems like nothing is wrong… and you’re creating a problem where one doesn’t exist. Anxiety and overthinking can do this. If you’re happy and he’s happy, what’s the problem? Stop comparing yourself to randos on the internet. I also am guilty of this and it does nothing but cause problems.
/r/RedPillWomen13/05/22 01:35 AM
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1x a week in a long term relationship is pretty… average. Especially if you consistently are doing it that often. I think you’re being way too hard on yourself. Has your bf actually said he is unhappy with the frequency? It’s hard for me to tell From your post if you want to change this for yourself because YOU genuinely want to have a more active sex life or if you want to change this because you think this is what your bf wants/ worried about him leaving you over this? I think just having an h…
/r/RedPillWomen12/05/22 10:38 PM
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Why are you “pressing and pressing” you husband to admit other women (regardless of age) are sexually attractive to him? It’s literally a damned if you do damned if you don’t situation. A shit test. Leave it. You’re married. Soooo what’s the point in being so worried about this now as a 20s person. He’s either going to grow to accept and love you and your beauty as you age or he won’t. You married him. You can’t change that decision now. There is absolutely no point in stirring this pot. Enjoy y…
/r/RedPillWomen28/04/22 08:41 PM
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So you banged and got knocked up by a 33 year old out of wedlock as a young teen as “your choice” but oh heaven forbid your daughter wants to wear dark makeup and date a girl. LOL Sounds like you were the wayward child in this fictional story. Was he also married when this happened too? Like how much drama shall we add to the story.
/r/RedPillWomen28/04/22 08:29 PM
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Yeah my guess is he realized a bit too late he wasn’t ready to be married. He is not man enough to have an honest conversation with his wife so instead he’s just making mountains out of every tiny mole hill until she eventually throws in the towel and he can come out as the “victim”.
/r/RedPillWomen24/04/22 01:34 PM
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I don’t see anywhere in your OP anything I would consider abusive on your part. In fact it looks like you try to descalate the situation in a calm and respectful manner. An abusive person calling their target abusive is a common manipulation tactic. You’re being gaslighted as well. You probably feel very confused and unsure if your “crazy” because your gut is telling you this isn’t right but this guy is telling you it is. Always trust your gut.
/r/RedPillWomen15/04/22 06:08 PM
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I have never been told to “shut the fuck up” (even when I probably should hah) I would also never ever say that to anyone. It’s very disrespectful. It seems like you feel like you’re always “in the wrong”. Do you feel you have to walk on eggshells to avoid upsetting your boyfriend? I also find this comment odd “is this abuse or is this just a man putting a woman in her place”. The phrase “putting someone on their place” usually isn’t kind and honestly strange you are so passive. Based off solely…
/r/RedPillWomen15/04/22 05:01 PM
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When I was 29 I got divorced and I remember very well the anxiety I felt about the future. I remember wishing I had been pregnant so at least I would have the baby I always wanted and just be a single mom. I also remember how much support and love I felt from my family and my friends. Looking back at that time I cannot believe how “unloved” I felt when in reality it was probably the most loved I had ever been. I know the heartache of watching your friends get married and start families wishing s…
/r/RedPillWomen07/04/22 03:30 PM
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I don’t think you should say anything, honestly. It just sounds so nit picky and overly critical. I have never even heard of the sidewalk rule before- this sounds like something from an episode of The Queen. If you must I would just casually mention these things but this can backfire… he’s already being very gentlemanly to you- why make it seem like he’s not doing enough or you don’t appreciate what he does do? How do the pros of criticizing your bf on these things outweigh the cons of just lett…
/r/RedPillWomen06/04/22 10:08 PM
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Meal plans like hello fresh or blue apron are amazing- that’s how I learned a ton.
/r/RedPillWomen03/04/22 02:25 PM
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I have zero intention of ever being a stay at home mom or homemaker. I enjoy being with a masculine man who “leads”. I hate making decisions and I’m extremely laid back so this is my natural way. I have found a lot of the RP advice to be amazing here- instead of always “dump them” if any thing goes wrong there is an emphasis in communication but more importantly self reflection and learning to shut up sometimes (I needed a lot id help with the shut up advice). Bf works in an office and I work fr…
/r/RedPillWomen15/03/22 08:08 PM
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I’m not gonna call you names since the other commenters have done a fine job in that. As you have heard changing someone or forcing their hand to become someone YOU want them to be is not the point of this ideology. It’s about bettering YOURSELF. You cannot expect your wife to suddenly change because you have. You married her for her. Having a child always causes stress. Clearly, there are issues between you that are not being communicated. So the obvious answer is start talking to your wife. Do…
/r/RedPillWomen14/03/22 09:24 PM
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I would 100% not be comfortable with an open relationship. I can’t even imagine being with another guy, it grosses me out. And I would be absolutely crushed if my future husband wanted to be with another woman and acted on it.
/r/RedPillWomen25/02/22 07:27 PM
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I am tooooo Idk if this is RPW but I’m a planner. I love lists and making contingency plans. I was literally just talking about this with friends. What would it do if war broke out in my home country? I’ve already taken a mental inventory of important things . What I would bring. Where I would go. Who would come with. Etc So I think- don’t panic. Hope for the best but be sensibly prepared for the worst (aka don’t go to Walmart and start hoarding toilet paper again hah). Continue as normal. Tell …
/r/RedPillWomen24/02/22 11:06 PM
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Gonna go ahead and guess you’re not a woman… Because yah we are totally all just jealous!!! /s
/r/RedPillWomen24/02/22 03:40 AM
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I like what you mentioned about casually bringing up other peoples positive relationship moments to shed some light on what she’s missing. But you’re right. I need to just wait it out. I definitely don’t bring him up and now I rarely criticize him besides “oh that’s weird” when she’s telling me another issue of something. Thanks!
/r/RedPillWomen23/02/22 07:41 PM
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Im not single. So part of the issue is very recently she told me she’s jealous of my relationship especially if I post anything on social media. She’s not jealous of my boyfriend as a person but how we get along and our compatibility. I would never try to preach to her but it just makes me sad she feels like she can’t be her self about her own bf and constantly walks on eggshells to avoid upsetting him. She supported me though a divorce a few years ago and she was SO intense about hating my ex a…
/r/RedPillWomen23/02/22 07:39 PM
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I feel like this sometimes happens pretty naturally. My parents live in a different state than us. So ESPECIALLY with covid we were mainly doing holidays with his fam. My family lives in a tropical place so we reserve that for Xmas and NYE when we can take more time off and treat it as a vacation. We have done Valentine’s Day there too but that was just kinda a special one off. Usually the family that lives the closest gets priority- and in that case a good trade off is to do one of the most imp…
/r/RedPillWomen23/02/22 04:00 PM
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I think it’s more that they just don’t notice or care much about it. I won’t lie- I also have some pics of my ex but I’ve scrubbed a lot of it- mainly the ones I kept are group pics or travel pics … so I kinda get it!
/r/RedPillWomen18/02/22 05:27 PM
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This kinda reminded me of my ex- my friends told me I’m still his cover photo picture. He doesn’t use social media much. But I’m just thinking about how his gf feels about that… hah makes me giggle since he cheated on me with her. Like awkward!
/r/RedPillWomen18/02/22 05:23 PM
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I would let this go unless she’s like his main profile pic or cover pic. You said yourself he doesn’t use social media much. So it’s very meaningless to him. What other people think or do not think is inconsequential in your relationship. But… yah I would find this annoying BUT I would also keep my mouth shut about it. If you post things and tag him during your relationship slowly those old posts with the ex will go further and further away - so just let nature take its course.
/r/RedPillWomen18/02/22 05:12 PM
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Have you ever heard of someone saying their lost their virginity to a medical device during a procedure, dildo, riding their bike or whatever? Even a medical professional cannot tell the difference between a virgin and non virgin. The procedure will not take your “v-card”. They insert a lubricated metal device called a speculum to open your vagina. Then a thing kinda like a pipe cleaner is inserted to the end of your vagina. Your cervix is touched, the pipe cleaner thing is rubbed against your c…
/r/RedPillWomen15/02/22 06:14 PM
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Lolol welcome to the world! People don’t always think the same way you do. Also it doesn’t sound like he was saying all women SHOULD strip. He was comparing it to a lot of lower class men who do manual labor. The fact he made you cry and you’re so upset about this is because you decided to engage in a conversation you knew you wouldn’t like the response in- that’s on you. Women can do whatever they please. If some women want to be strippers, so be it. Why does it make you so upset some guy think…
/r/RedPillWomen11/02/22 12:30 AM
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I was married before. I don’t have children.
/r/RedPillWomen27/01/22 07:12 PM
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I don’t feel that people can “belong” to anyone. There is no ownership over a human being in my opinion. Things can belong to people.
/r/RedPillWomen27/01/22 06:59 PM
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I really don’t think the issue has anything to do with your weight. After the honeymoon phase (which happens a lot around 6 months) people settle into their natural drives after the new relationship energy wares off. Maybe he just has a much lower sex drive than you? Is he on any medication? Does he suffer from depression? Is he stressed out? Is there a kink that isn’t being satisfied? It could be a million things but there isn’t anyway to know unless you have a discussion. I think this warrants…
/r/RedPillWomen25/01/22 02:35 PM
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I feel bad for him :( I can’t imagine how hard that was for him to admit being a conservative Christian with his Christian girlfriend. Having said that… I would feel super weird about this too for a couple reasons. Firstly, I know sexuality is a sliding scale and it changes. He was being honest which is actually very impressive given your backgrounds. So I think that’s pretty admirable. He clearly likes YOU. And that’s what is important. He cannot control his sexuality in that he cannot control …
/r/RedPillWomen20/01/22 03:23 PM
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I would not be comfortable with my boyfriend spending an evening with the same chick he cheated on me with plus all the other friends who turned a blind eye when he did. It’s not controlling to not want your bf to have any contact with someone he cheated with. In fact, it’s usually the bottom line for getting through it. Maybe there is a compromise here. Celebrate with her another day without the extra people. Drop off a gift and visit before the party. Invite you to come (if you even wanted to)…
/r/RedPillWomen18/01/22 08:51 PM
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Yeah it’s very trendy right now along with fillers and giant bushy eyelash extensions. Not too mention the tiny waist and giant asses but that’s a different story… I’m sure it looks fantastic on some people/ so much so that we can’t even tell they have had it done. The stuff you’re noticing is when people take it way too far and it absolutely ages there face. I swear a lot of these Instagram 16 year olds look 34 with all the filters and injected stuff. It’s not going to be fashionable forever. I…
/r/RedPillWomen15/01/22 10:54 PM
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He was in an awful car accident only 4 days ago! Give him some time and space if he needs it. Car accidents can be extreme traumatizing. He was probably scared he would die. Upset it happen. Upset the car is totaled. Overwhelmed dealing with all the aftermath. This isn’t about you. Just tell him you’re so sorry he’s going through this and you want to help in anyway you can but don’t push him. It may take some time for him to get over it. Once he sorts out the car situation and new semester start…
/r/RedPillWomen04/01/22 06:16 PM
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“I have heard that it is not HVM quality to accept adopted kids even surrogacy.” Probably one of the most BS statements I’ve ever seen. Actually quite offensive for anyone suffering with infertility or anyone adopted. It’s not about high quality or low quality. It’s a preference anyone can have. Just like ANY potential issue you open up to someone about this during the vetting/dating process.
/r/RedPillWomen25/12/21 07:26 PM
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There is definitely a possibility the cousin may say something and word gets around to the SIL. But, honestly, at this point it seems there is nothing you can do to redeeming in the eyes of SIL. She dislikes you and has made it very clear. She’s done rude things to you and you continuously took the high road. At some point anyone is going to have enough and need to vent. I would not say anything more to cousin. If SIL finds out, she finds out- these are the consequences of her actions. You disli…
/r/RedPillWomen25/12/21 07:04 PM
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Black lipstick isn’t for me. I like pinks, reds and nudes. But, to each their own. Clearly there is a market for it and some women can pull it off.
/r/RedPillWomen25/12/21 02:06 PM
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I think you’re confusing real life with an episode of mad men. I have never seen a young women pursue an older married man or heard of it happening in real life. Of course it does happen, but it’s not inevitable or wildly common. Women also leave their husbands for other men. This isn’t a universally male issue. Adultery is common and I would say it happens equally to men and women. Also most young women are NOT interested in older married men. Especially, the kind of women that someone would ac…
/r/RedPillWomen22/12/21 07:03 PM
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What a sad way to view men. There will always be takers and climbers in the world. But that’s not everyone. Most the men I know are wonderful people. They care deeply about their loved ones and would not ever intentionally hurt them or use them. The men I know who have had children tell their wives how beautiful they are all the time even if they are struggling with a post baby body or feeling insecure and exhausted. A strong good man stands by his wife and lifts her up. I also really dislike th…
/r/RedPillWomen21/12/21 10:25 PM
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Yeah this is a horrible idea. You’re a teenager. You’ve only been together for 6 months. And you wanna do this for the extremely shortsighted plan of living off campus for a year? I really can’t think of a stupider idea. I am SHOCKED your parents would okay this. Marriage is a legal contract. Divorce is expensive. Both of these things are permanent. Like apart if your identity for the rest of your life. If it doesn’t work out you will always be a “divorcee” - have fun explaining that one to the …
/r/RedPillWomen19/12/21 12:20 AM
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Being bitter about not being a man and coming up with all these insane and completely false “hard truths” is not attractive at all. You’re correct this thinking is unhealthy. You might consider therapy.
/r/RedPillWomen11/12/21 06:34 PM
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Some men want to get married, some don’t. Just as some women want to get married and some do not. There are no sweeping generalizations here. My ex wasn’t all that interested in marriage. All our friends started getting married. We had been together for 8 years and finally he proposed because of all the pressure. In retrospect. I don’t think he actually wanted to get married. He liked playing house. Liked having me. But that level of commitment and responsibility wasn’t for him. Our marriage did…
/r/RedPillWomen09/12/21 08:09 PM
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Do you have anyone that can watch the baby while you have some personal time during the day? And then someone to watch the baby while you go out on dates with your husband. I’m not talking all the time but at least a few times a month? Or maybe someone can at least come clean once in awhile or anything to give you some relief. There is a reason they say it takes a village to raise a baby. It’s HARD. I don’t know how anyone could do it all by themselves day after day. I would also be very communi…
/r/RedPillWomen07/12/21 10:14 PM
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If this has been going on since he was a child he’s not just gonna change after you said he was mean for the 383729 time. For this to change, he needs to want to fix this and get into therapy or some kind of counseling. On your end I think it’s acceptable to have a conversation while you’re not in an argument to tell him you will not accept the behavior anymore. The next time it happens stop engaging the moment he becomes verbally abusive. Walk away. Leave the house. Whatever you need to do to n…
/r/RedPillWomen07/12/21 08:19 PM
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I think any time we talk about “high value” it’s pretty subjective. For instance I do think education / intelligence are high value characteristics for women. Some people may disagree with that for whatever reason. Personally, I think some high value qualities for women are : -smart -educated (doesn’t have to be formally educated but understands sociological / psychological/ political concepts. Has a willingness to learn about things) -strong. I think of this not physically but mentally. Able to…
/r/RedPillWomen02/12/21 05:38 PM
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So if I were you , in this situation, I would bring up a friend or someone you know that’s just gotten married or engaged or something relating to that. Very simple, like oh look! Chandler snd Monica just got engaged! I love them, they make a great couple. Then carry that into opening a convo. “So, I know we talked about it awhile back for ourselves. And now that we are living together I’ve thought about marriage ans what that would be like for us. Do you think about us getting married or engage…
/r/RedPillWomen04/11/21 09:50 PM
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Sleepwear is my biggest guilty pleasure. Especially in covid times. I’ve had some good luck with Target (if you’re in the states). They have really cute satin or very light material sets and sleep shirts. Ann Taylor has decent sales and their stuff is very classy but expensive if it’s not on sale. I got some really cute stuff from Nasty Gal (don’t let the name deceive you) - I size up with this retailer J Crew usually has cute stuff too- always wait forever a sale as they have them often Amazon …
/r/RedPillWomen07/10/21 11:10 PM
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It’s a crush, which is just based on a fantasy. Just continue to be civil and ignore any tension- eventually it will go away or the program will end and that will be that. I wouldn’t say anything to him about it or engage with him about anything other than need-to-know school stuff.
/r/RedPillWomen04/10/21 02:06 PM
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TL;DR - my bf is inconsiderate of my time, had me drive him to the grocery store where all his cards got declined and I had to pay for his groceries. I told him I was annoyed, also concerned about it and and now I’m the one apologizing. This has happened THREE times in 6 months? Sorry but this is not a high value man. You’ve been bamboozled. My advice is stop apologizing. You didn’t do anything wrong. If your bf is feeling emasculated, he did that to himself.
/r/RedPillWomen28/09/21 03:09 AM
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I think your gut is right. He enjoys hanging out but he’s not willing to make a minimal commitment of being exclusive? These are times when I think the age gap is telling. He’s in his mid 30s and still has no desire to be serious at all. He just wanted a fun young girl to date casually.
/r/RedPillWomen13/09/21 08:14 PM
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Are you actively dating? Also sounds like you’ve got a lot on your plate! Do you have a good social life? Friends that you see often not related to work?
/r/RedPillWomen02/09/21 08:30 PM
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I don’t think it’s too soon to have sex. But I think having sex should Inspire more commitment or more excitement from them (and you) if it’s going to end well. It’s common for men to lose interest after sex - this isn’t an issue of timing it’s just how it is- could happen if you waited one day to bang or 10 dates. Do you feel excited about him? Do you feel like things are progressing? Like you’re having more meaningful conversation and you’re more comfortable with him? Are you having fun? Is th…
/r/RedPillWomen01/09/21 05:05 PM
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I absolutely agree. And the funny thing which has been discussed before is that sex work / sugar daddy relations/ thinking sending nudes to random dudes is a good idea is all very ANTI woman. You’re correct- the women that call this anti feminist are completely missing the point. And the point is no woman WANTS this. They may think they do but the reality is they are either desperate for money or validation. All of these things are disrespectful and objectifying to women. There is absolutely not…
/r/RedPillWomen31/08/21 08:37 PM
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I have never felt this way. I don’t think women are “less than” a man. I think this is very much a product of your situation problem. If I were an uneducated Indian or Afgani woman (for example) I would probably TOTALLY feel less than. Because that’s how the society treats them for the most part. Less education = less options. Basically stuck at the whim of your father or husband. But growing up in a developed country with access to education- nope. Not even a little. I love being a woman. I’m v…
/r/RedPillWomen26/08/21 04:10 PM
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Well…. Unfortunately you have to choose. If your parents do not support your relationship and hate him yet he’s the one for you… you have to pick. You can’t “have your cake and eat it too” in this situation. It really really really sucks so just be SURE. Maybe they will come around but don’t count on it. There is no way a respectable guy is gonna let his family in law trash him constantly and be forced to be around them. End of story.
/r/RedPillWomen21/08/21 09:58 PM
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This guy is an idiot. Don’t fall for this. So what, now your indebted to him because you banged someone when you were single? “He also keeps saying he has a free pass to go fuck some body” Why are you allowing this jerk to treat you so poorly? Seriously? Have some self respect. You did nothing wrong. This guy is manipulating you to be able to freely cheat on you. He doesn’t love you. This isn’t how you treat people you love.
/r/RedPillWomen20/08/21 02:38 PM
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It’s really hard to feel “behind” I have felt that way before and it’s difficult. What has helped me is throwing myself into the things my friends who I’m envious of cannot. So, for me it’s that all my friends have children now and I feel behind. When I really think about it I realize I’m the lucky one. I can sleep in late. I can nap! I can spend money on myself. I can go on trips and vacations. I can leave the house without having to wrangle a toddler. I support and love all my friends and I ha…
/r/RedPillWomen18/08/21 04:48 PM
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It’s only been 2.5 months so I actually find the baby names thing in front of your mom weirder and more concerning than the rest of it. With this little amount of information it doesn’t seem like he’s very sure of what he wants. You’re right to question how reliable he is. But at the same time it’s literally been 2.5 months- I would stick it out a bit more and just mention these things when they come up (not in a nagging way) but “you don’t have to say you’re going to call if you can’t. I would …
/r/RedPillWomen17/08/21 06:15 PM
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Does he ever treat you? Or is literally everything 50/50? I’m curious why marriage and children is okay to talk about but not money? I totally get the 50/50 thing in this day and age(although not traditional I personally feel uncomfortable when bf pays for everything) BUT it’s weird to say things like “his terms require an equal pay, 50/50 deal”. That seems super unilateral, it seems like he’s saying this is an issue he won’t budge on… which would make me very wary.
/r/RedPillWomen10/08/21 12:11 AM
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Don’t text him and ask what’s wrong!! Back off a little and let him come to you. He’s probably busy with work or whatever he’s gotta do while he’s away. Could be overwhelming for him. Play it cool for now. You’re only a couple months in, you’re not bf/gf yet. This is casual dating at this point. Resist the urge to come on too strong. Let things grow organically. I cannot even imagine how stressed out I would be leaving town for 2 weeks and only being home for a few days at a time. He probably ha…
/r/RedPillWomen05/08/21 06:27 PM
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I agree with being Safe in a first date. That’s smart! Just tell him, thanks for the offer but I prefer to Uber. See ya at the gallery, I’m excited :)
/r/RedPillWomen23/07/21 11:04 PM
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You need to be honest with him and say exactly what you’re saying in this post. There isn’t anything wrong with how you feel.
/r/RedPillWomen20/07/21 08:10 PM
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I felt this way when I was with my first boyfriend then ex husband. Something was always… a tiny bit off. He was a nice guy, funny, smart, kind and sweet but he wasn’t a protector. He wasn’t a provider and he didn’t seem so interested in family (his own or starting one himself). He was very vain. Loved shopping and going to the gym all the time. We didn’t work out. I began dating my now boyfriend and holy craaaaaaap I cannot even believe I was ever with my first boyfriend for so long. I think wh…
/r/RedPillWomen20/07/21 03:09 PM
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Hyper sexual could mean they have suffered from sexual abuse in their life and may be projecting onto an innocent partner. I can tell you as an adult 30+, I have never heard of a woman I know falsely accusing a man of anything. I have not noticed a rise in anything. I know women that have been raped and it’s absolutely awful. False accusations make real rape accusations less believable which is terrible. Unfortunately for women this is something we have to be vigilant about. Rape does happen, an…
/r/RedPillWomen16/07/21 02:32 AM
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What the hell did I just read. This has got to be a troll post. And if sure some extremely strange reason you are a real human woman and made a post entitled “my boyfriend appears to be a sociopath, very conflicted” and you’re legitimately conflicted … well I have no advice to you because clearly you’re not of sound mind or any reasonable cognitive ability.
/r/RedPillWomen15/07/21 01:35 AM
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Someone that brings up sex instantly is looking for a hook up, in my opinion. And also - as another commenter mentioned - there is nothing “unicorn” about a guy not wanting a girl who’s done the “ho life” (also ew. Ho life?)
/r/RedPillWomen13/07/21 11:24 PM
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I don’t see it like subordinate vs dominate. The point is you’re on the same team. Personally, I feel like leading is harder for me. I dislike it. I much prefer to be the first mate- it doesn’t mean you’re powerless to your husband/ partner. It doesn’t mean you’re “less than”. You’ve picked your husband/partner and vetting for qualities of a good “captain”. You trust this person to lead. You basically gave him “the job” of captain. It’s not some random dude off the street. You’re not giving anyt…
/r/RedPillWomen09/07/21 04:55 PM
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Seems like you both need to sit down and go over the budget again. Because no, it’s not cool to treat you like a child but it’s also not cool to go over the budget or “push it” consistently. I believe this is probably one of the hardest things for a SAHM and breadwinning husband to work out because you’re not a slave - you’re working by making a home and raising your children so you do deserve money to spend for needs and yes some wants/fun if that’s feasible. Also it’s hard for a husband to fee…
/r/RedPillWomen30/06/21 07:29 PM
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Info: What does “slightly more than” the budget mean? Have you ever had issues with over spending? Do you over spend often? What were you buying? Do you feel like you get enough of the finances to live comfortably? Does he have other controlling behaviors? Are you happy?
/r/RedPillWomen30/06/21 06:14 PM
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Neither of you are being unreasonable. It’s perfectly reasonable that you want a partner who pulls their weight, is reliable and has an adult schedule It’s perfectly reasonable that he be able to do what he wants to do because he’s an adult and he doesn’t need to answer to anyone. Generally, a 25 year old woman behaviors a lot different than a 26year old man. It doesn’t surprise me at all that a 25 year old woman is ready to be more settled down and mature. It doesn’t surprise me at all a 26 yea…
/r/RedPillWomen28/06/21 10:22 PM
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I love this question! I think my mindset is mainly to be positive. Spread positivity. Have fun. Be kind. Be the person people want to be around. I also try to stay open minded and understanding of people. Don’t sweat the little stuff. But make sure to directly disclose what is important to me. I was married before and it didn’t end well. A lot of issues with communication and falling into a very unhealthy rapport with eachother. Everything he did pissed me off. I resented him. He annoyed me. He …
/r/RedPillWomen25/06/21 10:16 PM
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Personally, I wouldn’t treat dating like a job interview. It’s supposed to be fun with a mix of getting to know them though asking questions. If you’re just firing off probing questions the entire time that may turn off your date a lot and make you seem too serious and not very exciting or fun. But obviously, to each their own! But back to your actual question- I want to know family dynamics. What do your parents do? How many siblings do you have? What’s your relationship with your family like? …
/r/RedPillWomen22/06/21 03:02 PM
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Your husband makes 120k a year and that’s “not very high paying”??? You cannot change him. This is his passion and career. You knew this but you have no decided it’s not enough. The issue is he hasn’t changed but you have. Is he a good man? Is he loving, caring, compassionate husband? Is he a responsible, loving and good father? Does he help around the house? Is he fun to be around? Is your communication good? Does he protect you and your daughter? Do your family and friends friends like him? Fo…
/r/RedPillWomen18/06/21 11:05 PM
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Your boyfriend can see something in you that even you can’t see because you’re blinded by your insecurities. There is more to a human being than a list of superficial qualities. You clearly have a good kind heart, you’re beautiful, you’re smart and motivated and you appreciate your man every day. You make him feel a certain kind of way and he is choosing YOU. Don’t try to convince yourself you’re not worthy. This amazing guy loves you for you- is there anything better than that? He doesn’t love …
/r/RedPillWomen25/05/21 04:58 PM
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Most of this I disagree with... Body count doesn’t matter that much anymore within reason. I agree about dressing feminine and not slutty. I disagree that god tells women not to go to college... that seems very bizarre. It’s a woman’s choice whether she wants to attend college or not, same as a man- as “feminist” as that may be thats my opinion. Prime fertility ... idk if this is true or not... I thought this was a mainly debunked stat BUT whether it’s not it’s true I would discourage someone fr…
/r/RedPillWomen07/05/21 06:55 PM
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I am sorry this is how your conversation turned. I find this to be a cross roads. I also find it weird he isn’t wanting to meet half way AT ALL. I don’t know your boyfriend or how he acts when these type of issues arise but I find his behavior to be a bit alarming. I really hate to say this but maybe now isn’t the right time to move in. A year for some people is long enough to know if someone is the one, and sometimes it isn’t. This isn’t a jab at you. A year relative to our life time is really …
/r/RedPillWomen28/04/21 09:53 PM
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Oh don’t feel bad about that! Minimum wage jobs have super high turnover. They have been doing just fine without you for 6 weeks they will be completely fine without you for good. Send a text or an email- letting her know your plans have changed and you will not be back. Thanks for the opportunity sorry for the last minute change of plans and yadda yadda You do not need to explain yourself, unless you want to.
/r/RedPillWomen27/04/21 07:47 PM
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Given all this info- I don’t think there is anything wrong with leaving your job and focusing on your mental health and your studies. Especially since your job is a cashier job and not a career- there really isn’t much harm in taking time off of that.
/r/RedPillWomen27/04/21 06:53 PM
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How will you pay for anything ? Is your boyfriend offering to help you financially? Personally I would be very weary of quitting if any of these scenarios apply: Boyfriend wants you to quit and will give you money. This will make you dependent on him. And in ways indebted to him. There are a lot of ways this could go wrong Boyfriend insists you quit but is offering nothing financially. Why does boyfriend get to dictate what you do? This behavior seems controlling. The other scenario is you have …
/r/RedPillWomen27/04/21 06:24 PM
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This is not a good deal for you but an excellent deal for him. First of all, with a large Income disparity you should be paying rent based off percentage of how much you make vs he makes. This is very normal to do. Secondly, as a renter you should be able to decorate as you BOTH chose and he does not have final say. This situation doesn’t seem right. It seems like you’re being taken advantage of. I want to reiterate there is nothing wrong with paying rent and living in a home he owns BUT it need…
/r/RedPillWomen27/04/21 06:09 PM
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I like to bring up someone else’s situation - like a friend or a friend of a friend and then make a comment about myself from there which leads to a conversation. An example- “My friend Rachel’s sister just got engaged!! She’s been with her boyfriend about the same time we have. I’m so excited for them- they seem like such a great couple. Reminds me of us. I always thought I wanted to wait to get engaged until after grad school but maybe that isn’t necessarily the path I want to go down anymore.…
/r/RedPillWomen23/04/21 01:33 PM
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There is literally an entire subreddit making fun of the “not like the other girls” attitude. It’s very anti-woman to look down on another woman for doing what they like. Maybe it depends in the company you keep or where you our living but I have only really seen the women in my life- whether they are feminists or traditional be treated with respect by one another. I also don’t know of any man who is dumb enough to believe a gorgeous woman is effortlessly gorgeous at all times. We all love to ta…
/r/RedPillWomen02/04/21 10:49 PM
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When my boyfriend moved in with me I printed and framed pictures of our pets, us together and with our families to make it feel more “homey”. I also hung some of his art work and Incorporated his decor into what I already had to make it a nice mixture of both our taste. Recently I got a recipe for his favorite holiday dish from his mom and made it for him/ that was a big hit! Have fun!
/r/RedPillWomen02/04/21 02:32 PM
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Being reactive and blowing up at someone for cutting you in line or “disrespecting you” is not a good quality to have. It’s a lack of self control and self awareness. Having a cool, clam and collected attitude leads to small petty situations NOT escalating into unnecessarily dangerous ones. First responders like police officers literally have classes on how to calmingly confront people and maintain boundaries. “Pick your battles” comes to mind. It’s not necessary to teach every stranger who is n…
/r/RedPillWomen29/03/21 05:10 PM
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If this is your dynamic and it works for both of you I think that’s great. I will say young 20s guys should know how to do all that stuff on their own too. So if this is just an affectionate gesture to show him you love him that’s wonderful. But If his place is disgusting snd his clothes are a mess and you’re doing this because you NEED to... that’s where I would draw the line. You want your bf to be able to take care of himself. If he cannot or literally does not care how gross or dirty things …
/r/RedPillWomen25/03/21 11:14 PM
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