My boyfriend (25M) and I (23F) have been dating for 1.5 years and plan on getting married by the end of the year. This month my boyfriend admitted to me that he was unfaithful on two separate occasions 6 months into our relationship and 1 year into our relationship. He did not have penetrative sex but was physical (kissing, fondling).He has struggled with porn and masturbation since he was introduced to porn since 8 years old. We are both Christian and are becoming serious in our faith. A couple of months ago we decided to abstain from sex to improve our relationship and focus on developing our relationship with Christ. He said he admitted this to me because he wants to get married but wanted to give me the choice to leave him or not. He was very remorseful and took 100% accountability. At the beginning of this year he was dropped from his graduate school because of his performance, and this has really affected his self-esteem and mental health. Besides the infidelity, and a couple other things I will explain later, he is an amazing man. He is kind, intelligent, funny, loved God, treats me well on the day to day, cleans for me, listens to me, we have so many things in common, he comes from a great family who I have a great relationship with. Our relationship up to this point has been completely healthy in communication and how we solve problems. He is the only child and his parents coddle him, refuse to let him do anything himself, and refuse to let him get a job in high school and undergraduate, and graduate. I am the oldest daughter and child of several children and have always been very self-sufficient and had to figure out everything myself. Sometimes this causes conflict but we’ve worked on solving it. Since being dropped from school they have just have dropped the reins. But he is not confident on doing simple life things like applying to jobs etc. this makes me sometimes feel like I have to mother him. Besides these he is masculine and believes in the red pill ideology. I myself am very feminine, in shape, care about my appearance, cook well and often, and other feminine qualities. He says I am the perfect girlfriend and he wants to get married and have children.

I made a list of things that I would require from him to stay with him: 1. Unfollow all females from social media and no refollowing. 2. std panel 3. Counseling for him 4. Get a job and stay busy 5. Pass all of his classes 6. Life 360 7. A prenup with a cheating clause 8. Steady relationship with God. He has worked on completing all of them/ completed all. I can tell that he loves me and is really trying to do better each day, but I can’t help but thinking that he will cheat again. He says he never will and I know how remorseful he is. He has reassured me every time I get insecure about things. He still is struggling with lust, porn, and masturbation but im not expecting this to solve overnight. I know that it is dumb to forgive him, but I can’t help but think that there is a good chance our relationship can grow from this. I can’t tell any friends or family (they adore him) because I don’t want to ruin their perception of him because if I do end of forgiving him. I figured I could get some advice from red pill women with more experience than me. Is there any chance in salvaging the relationship and what I can do (since I can’t control him) to help improve myself and our relationship.