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is it bad that i want to keep fixing things with him? i know i see everyone on here getting frustrated by me backing him up but i truly dont know how to get over the infidelity
/r/RedPillWomen06/08/23 12:09 AM
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im for sure not over it, and ive been trying the hardest for a year. videoed, books, counselors, etc. but i dont want to give up yet. i do have borderline personality disorder but with medication and therapy my mood swings have been more controllable. maybe im not doing enough?
/r/RedPillWomen05/08/23 11:44 PM
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he works super hard and is intelligent, he’s attractive and tall, he makes me smile and laugh, i dont get cringed by his actions, hes Muslim like i am, has traditional POVs
/r/RedPillWomen05/08/23 11:42 PM
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he lets me check his phone when i want and i have his instagram password on my phone not going to lie, i cant really think of anything else☹️he spoils me and drives downtown to come see me 1-2x a week when we’re both able to though. hes made a lot of efforts to make me feel physically protected when men harass me or when im anxious but i know this is all the bare minimum
/r/RedPillWomen05/08/23 11:33 PM
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thats what im anxious about right now, hopefully my intuition will tell if so :/
/r/RedPillWomen05/08/23 11:18 PM
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what if he wants to rebuild trust?🥲
/r/RedPillWomen05/08/23 11:18 PM
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we never text all day! just small updates here and there and we usually call at night. i understand we may not get to call but atleast 2-3 texts a day doesnt seem unrealistic to me. i agree, i thought maybe this time he would put the effort in. we had a scenario in May where i had enough and left but he promised to make sure to help with that. but i feel so bad that he doesnt rmr his promise :/
/r/RedPillWomen05/08/23 11:17 PM
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no disrespect but you have made posts about wanting to flirt with other women while married. is infidelity something so reoccurring in men even with a spouse? i appreciate your reply to my post and understand your point, but it seems a little hypocritical.
/r/RedPillWomen05/08/23 10:56 PM
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from what i know; it was only that one time. (ill go edit that now) however, he has many qualities and traits that are traditional which i havent seen other men of my age range have.
/r/RedPillWomen05/08/23 10:44 PM
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i disagree with the “single until married” phrase completely. “dark feminine” (whatever that means) accounts on TikTok and Instagram were spitting this advice out to many young girls and its just sad. loving and committing to a man you see a future with is much more valuable and important
/r/RedPillWomen26/07/23 04:51 PM
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for me, i agree on everything but too stoic! i like having fun and being silly when comfortable. too serious gets boring
/r/RedPillWomen05/07/23 10:23 PM
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to me thats a big, big red flag. if youre looking for a relationship with a man, look for one with sexual discipline who will respect that youre not giving that up so soon. many women feel pressured to have casual sex by men like this. big red flag if you want long term or a man who wont cheat on you🚩if he cant control the urge now, think about how many women he’s done that with already…
/r/RedPillWomen05/07/23 10:20 PM
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trust: allowing me to share about things i may usually get in trouble for but provided me with a safe space to let it all out without the fear of being grounded. respect: honestly, she gave us the silent treatment when we were really bad. it worked, we would understand our bad behaviors if she got quiet or visibly upset. as women, its hard to respect someone that comes into our fathers lives. we feel like the new woman is taking him away. make you step daughter know ur on HER team boundaries wer…
/r/RedPillWomen20/06/23 03:35 PM
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as someone with an amazing step mom; give it time. she showed me love and affection when i was around 10 years old despite the mean comments and mischief my sister and i instilled. 9 years later we have the best relationship. it truly takes time, building trust and a friendship will help you both. calmly explaining respect, being understanding, etc. i resented my mom when she moved in with us. i did for around 5-6 years. but it truly takes time and mutual effort.
/r/RedPillWomen20/06/23 12:48 PM
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stay active! i lost over 60 lbs in the last 2 years and have recently just got back into zumba classes and pilates. if theres an elevator, walk. have things to bring upstairs? take them one by one. if you can take a 15 min walk to your fav coffee shop during your lunch break, walk vs driving. i love just moving around to stay active. also dont beat yourself up for an icecream bar or two, or even three. not the end of the world. dont demonize food or life! just stay happy and confident to care fo…
/r/RedPillWomen09/06/23 07:53 PM
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imply, imply, imply! if youre with a man who cares about you or knows you, doing things like sending him an IG reel about a cool restaurant and saying “a date night here would be so perfect” or “it hurts my feelings when you raise your voice at me when we argue” are ways to help. talk about how it hurts you or makes you feel a negative emotion to actions you dislike. men love problem solving, and if he’s for you, he’ll make an effort to stop if it hurts or to do something if you enjoy it :)
/r/RedPillWomen09/06/23 07:49 PM
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id honestly take boredom with dr phil than being disappointed and disrespected in a long term relationship to a man i gave my whole heart to… but i see your point, it makes sense. i just disagree with staying with a man who doesnt respect me enough to stop going being my back to hurt me if ive voiced that
/r/RedPillWomen09/06/23 02:03 PM
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there were other factors in the relationship that hurt me deeper than just cheating. lying about it for over 10 months as i gave him my virginity (when i wanted to wait for marriage), compulsive lying in general and other emotionally painful and draining scenarios drove me away from my ex. if he loved me enough, he would see how i couldnt breathe when crying when i saw that he was cheating and yet he continued to pursue that behavior when i begged and pleaded him to stop. if someone loves you, t…
/r/RedPillWomen09/06/23 02:01 PM
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i understand your point and agree fully, especially with committing to a woman then going behind her back is morally incorrect. Brad Lee (not sure if i spelled his name correctly but he posts business vids etc) talks a lot about how he cant do business with a man who cheats on his wife because that disloyalty translates to all aspects of life
/r/RedPillWomen09/06/23 01:49 PM
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yes!!! i agree with this completely. discipline is such an important and attractive trait in a man. super true!
/r/RedPillWomen08/06/23 06:45 PM
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i agree with blushingoleander… why would i be with a man who would have sex with anyone or anything? as a conventionally attractive woman with privilege and high value traits i have all the options in the world if i wanted to pursue them.
/r/RedPillWomen08/06/23 06:45 PM
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do men get out of red pill rage? or does it persist? curious to know
/r/RedPillWomen08/06/23 04:52 PM
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this is awesome!! thank you so much :)
/r/RedPillWomen08/06/23 04:51 PM
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i feel like your definition of the RP is more of what the RP was supposed to be, not what many younger men have made it to be now. ex) Fun and Fresh, Andrew Tate worshippers, Sneako lovers, etc etc. as a younger woman in the gen z generation, young men have warped the RP from traditionalism to misogyny and disrespect towards women
/r/RedPillWomen08/06/23 04:12 PM
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thanks for informing me about the Social Style Model, i appreciate that. i have never heard of it but ill look more into it!
/r/RedPillWomen08/06/23 04:10 PM
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i second this, inform women about RPW. it promotes firm boundaries, allows women to understand their femininity and helps many younger women, like myself, out!
/r/RedPillWomen08/06/23 02:59 PM
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i agree, the trauma from infidelity is far too painful for either gender
/r/RedPillWomen08/06/23 12:24 PM
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“breaking of trust” is SO true, its deeper than just sex. ive been told from time to time that “men can have sex with a woman he doesnt love and still love his woman” and i have always thought that its bs. relationships arent just love but theyre about mutual respect and emotional safety
/r/RedPillWomen08/06/23 11:18 AM
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thank you for your reply, i understand and agree that we as a species have evolved and its not an excuse
/r/RedPillWomen08/06/23 11:16 AM
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thank you for recommending me to read this. amazing points and insights. i really appreciate it💓
/r/RedPillWomen08/06/23 09:53 AM
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ahhh the “perceived agreement of exclusivity” makes lots of sense! thank you
/r/RedPillWomen08/06/23 09:44 AM
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you’re absolutely right, thank you :) ill definitely read your post
/r/RedPillWomen08/06/23 01:35 AM
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thank you for your reply!! youre right
/r/RedPillWomen08/06/23 01:34 AM
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i agree. honestly exclusivity and loyalty are my top 2 traits i look for, but with an end goal of marriage
/r/RedPillWomen29/05/23 01:32 AM
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ooo ill look into it, thanks
/r/RedPillWomen29/05/23 01:16 AM
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we had sex the 2 years that we were together, and he was the man i lost my virginity to. i had been active with him and him only. but i see your point of view and agree that many cultures handle courtship differently
/r/RedPillWomen29/05/23 01:16 AM
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ahhh interesting take. i agree that commitment comes with exclusivity!
/r/RedPillWomen29/05/23 01:13 AM
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makes sense, cultural practices stay prominent in those practiced in. thanks for your input!
/r/RedPillWomen29/05/23 01:13 AM
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interesting, thanks!
/r/RedPillWomen29/05/23 01:12 AM
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i agree. i too found it odd that a relationship to know someone deeper was out of the picture from her advice. i agree that dating with intention is much more important for myself
/r/RedPillWomen28/05/23 11:30 PM
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FnF is the worst. lots of their views resent women and hate us even if we’re good girlfriends. been in your place of my man disrespecting my boundaries more and more as he kept consuming the red pill. id honestly just advise you that if this is the man you want to marry and spend the rest of your life with, evaluate whether or not you can put up with these negative qualities of him for a lifetime with a baby. all love💕
/r/RedPillWomen27/05/23 04:07 PM
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this is awesome!! will definitely implement these in my life🥰
/r/RedPillWomen23/05/23 10:36 AM
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my sex drive is crazy!! been single for a week and struggle since ive vowed to celibacy till marriage for personal/religious reasons🥲ive been busying myself. hobbies, work, sleeping early, etc. masturbation helps but i keep it an a minimum so im not that reliant on my own pleasure. also, being with family when i can to busy my mind. i cant be turned on when im hearing my dad talk all day😂 try to take your mind off of it when its super hard; i started doing small tasks like reorganizing my room a…
/r/RedPillWomen23/05/23 12:01 AM
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OH MY GOD YES the way RP men speak about borderline sucks. they make us seem like crazy, obsessive partners that can have good sex. we’re both sexualized and stigmatized at the same freaking time. i agree girl, probs gonna get a few cats and die a cat lady😂. i agree that traditional and RP men have the same pov, and youre right. we can be loved and appreciated without a man🥰
/r/RedPillWomen19/05/23 11:33 PM
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much love to you❤️❤️we got this!! a good, masculine man will adore and cherish what we do for them!
/r/RedPillWomen19/05/23 03:47 PM
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oh my😅 same situation. had to leave the man i love and adore due to his RP views, especially one that men have urges to fulfill and he cheated on me for over 10 months. i (19F) gave him my virginity and never went to clubs/parties (first “party” was with him for my best friends bday), sent food to him and his family sometimes that i cooked, spoke to him with respect, wore respectful clothing. part of the RP where he was protective was awesome and he had some aligning traditional povs with me. ge…
/r/RedPillWomen19/05/23 02:22 PM
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shes great😂sprinkle sprinkle
/r/RedPillWomen19/05/23 01:12 AM
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of course❤️im glad hes helping out. remember if you are disrespected again, youre worth SO SO much. your qualities and attributes as a feminine woman are rare and valuable. best of luck
/r/RedPillWomen19/05/23 12:48 AM
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from what i’ve experienced; this seems like youre feeling some form of betrayal trauma. love the man i dated for 2 yrs so dearly but he didnt do anything on his end to help me heal and i had to leave, this happened a week ago. im not telling you to leave by any means, but the pain of infidelity and lying has long term affects. you will not trust him if he hurts you again, and resentment builds. i tried to negotiate and make boundaries like you did but only a man who really loves you will underst…
/r/RedPillWomen19/05/23 12:42 AM
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thank you☺️
/r/RedPillWomen17/05/23 06:36 PM
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thank you!!
/r/RedPillWomen17/05/23 06:36 PM
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awesome! thank you🥰
/r/RedPillWomen17/05/23 06:36 PM
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oh my🥺biggest fear. hope it all works out for u :(
/r/RedPillWomen13/05/23 12:02 AM
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in my opinion they’re stupid😅i dont get it. why give someone your vulnerability if theyre not committed to you, in either a relationship or marriage?
/r/RedPillWomen13/05/23 12:00 AM
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Yes, you are. Thats so heart breaking, im sorry OP :(
/r/RedPillWomen24/04/23 02:37 PM
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I understand your point of view completely. Security, emotionally, financially, physically, etc in a woman is important. Yes men are wired differently but pure love and loyalty combats desirable urges, in both men and women. He’d feel the same if you spoke about another mans wealth or status like that. I understand your emotions on this and dont think youre in the wrong. Its okay to be upset over someone you love making you feel not good enough. Validate your feelings OP, dont think that your em…
/r/RedPillWomen20/04/23 03:11 AM
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As someone whose 19 as well, we all make mistakes. I sent pictures to a few men in my past, but never met with them or had sex with them, pretty inexperienced as well. The best thing to do is keep pushing forward and not repeating those mistakes. A good man will understand you were young and havent done it in a while. Good luck❤️
/r/RedPillWomen06/04/23 06:09 PM
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Thank you☺️
/r/RedPillWomen25/03/23 12:51 AM
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Yes we have been intimate after a year and a half of dating. I lost my virginity to him and he lost his to me. And in other instances, he’s handled instances where my friends or their boyfriends have disrespected me and has stood up for me when I was too shy to. Or when we’re in public he makes sure that i’m comfortable and takes care of me financially (never letting me check the bill, telling me that price doesnt matter, etc)
/r/RedPillWomen24/03/23 11:38 PM
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Youre right. I do need to value his EQ, which seems to be not equal to mine
/r/RedPillWomen24/03/23 11:35 PM
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Its sad because hes usually super over protective. When I cry about it he kisses my forehead and says “Okay i’ll chill out”. But he’s said “no more of those jokes” like over and over again. He’s protective in every other instance but the jokes to purposely make me upset he wont stop. I guess an ego boost and to show that someone cares about him.
/r/RedPillWomen24/03/23 11:02 PM
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I love him, he’s very protective and loving despite the jokes he makes. He’s always taken care of me, especially dates and remembering my favorite things and always surprising me with them. But I tried to ask again today and told him i’d leave if he doesn’t stop. Hopefully that works and ends the jokes
/r/RedPillWomen24/03/23 11:01 PM
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Its just that he’s so mature in everything else in life it makes me question why not with me? Graduated top % of his high-school, in college for a CIS degree so he’s so intelligent but with me its like he doesn’t care. He keeps making them, I guess im being too nice.
/r/RedPillWomen24/03/23 10:59 PM
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Sadly I’ve tried. Trust me, from gently asking, to crying when talking about it, to begging him to stop, to making jokes back. He just wont stop. Almost everyday its a “joke” about naked women, was super sick 2 weeks ago and he said “Theres two naked women in my basement”, muted and said “You on the bed like that and you like this”. I suffer with Borderline Personality Disorder and it sent me off the charts and I gave him the silent treatment for a day and he got upset.
/r/RedPillWomen24/03/23 10:37 PM
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A lot🥺we’ve been together for 2 years and as much as I beg and have actually cried for him to quit it he wont. When I make jokes back I get the silent treatment or lectured
/r/RedPillWomen24/03/23 10:34 PM
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I tried. Ive cried for hours before, showed my pain, he wont stop.
/r/RedPillWomen24/03/23 10:33 PM
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Might have to be more expensive than I already am lol
/r/RedPillWomen24/03/23 10:33 PM
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Ive tried, the tears, puppy eyes, showing my sadness and he wont stop. I’ve communicated it atleast 30 times he wont stop, it hurts
/r/RedPillWomen24/03/23 10:32 PM
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I heavily disagree with porn since it ruins your dopamine receptors, however I’d talk to him about it. I am so sorry, you’re so strong, you got this❤️
/r/RedPillWomen08/03/23 12:38 PM
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Being bubbly and fun, I promise you it accelerates any relationship! Just enjoying time with someone, being playful and flirty, smiling are all great ideas.
/r/RedPillWomen08/03/23 12:36 PM
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Very true, if he loves me he will love all parts of me. Thank you!
/r/RedPillWomen08/03/23 12:34 PM
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True, youre right☺️
/r/RedPillWomen08/03/23 12:34 PM
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You are awesome!!! Thank you so much!! I agree, my test scores were so good when I would workout 4-5 times a week. Ive maintained my weight by my diet but I do miss working out, it really does help with my mood. This was so nice to hear! And kudos to you for beating it and removing the stigma from depression, youre doing amazing!
/r/RedPillWomen08/03/23 12:33 PM
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You’re right! When the 80% overweighs the 20%, it makes sense.
/r/RedPillWomen08/03/23 12:31 PM
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We’ve been together for almost 2 years now, so it was odd for me to hear as well. I thought now would be the best time to dress comfy for once since we’ve been together for so long, but I guess not lol😅When things were getting heated, I just noticed he wasn’t into it and after his comment he said that I’m beautiful and he always loves me and that I always turn him on, he understands the circumstances etc… but that he had to be “logical” for a minute.
/r/RedPillWomen08/03/23 12:30 PM
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You’re right life does get tough, thank you for your advice❤️
/r/RedPillWomen07/03/23 10:22 PM
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Thank you for your advice!❤️ I do need to start getting myself moving more and balance school with my wellbeing
/r/RedPillWomen07/03/23 10:21 PM
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Thank you for your help, I really appreciate it❤️
/r/RedPillWomen07/03/23 10:20 PM
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Thank you for your kind words and outfit suggestion! I really appreciate it😊
/r/RedPillWomen07/03/23 10:20 PM
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Thank you for your kind words❤️
/r/RedPillWomen07/03/23 10:19 PM
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true, just the feeling of why does he feel inclined to search up another woman in a commited relationship is my take. but i understand your point for sure.
/r/RedPillWomen07/03/23 04:52 PM
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honestly, i’d break up with him. i know, sounds extreme, but it’s normal to feel jealousy towards a man you like. if you are anxious as to why he did it, thats not a good sign. in a relationship, you should respect one another and if you two are exclusive then theres no need to search someone else. i get it, curiosity occurs, but if he is fully invested he would not have the need to search other women, even if he is just wondering. this anxiety will manifest through your relationship. when i was…
/r/RedPillWomen07/03/23 04:13 PM
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