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| 0 | How do you let a man lead in early stages of dating/ getting to know each other? I often get called uptight and reservedFirstly, that sounds overwhelming. My boundaries involved not engaging guys who were overbearing, clingy, needy, and lovebomby. Basically, find guys who aren’t like this. That’s the vetting part. Then maybe compromise. Pick one channel you can handle comfortably (texting, FaceTime, or phone calls) and engage fully on that medium. This gives you the opportunity to get to know the person. Dates are tricky. I actually broke up with an introvert once because he only saw me once a week and live reall… | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/09/25 05:07 AM |
| 1 | How do you let a man lead in early stages of dating/ getting to know each other? I often get called uptight and reservedBuckle up as I have many thoughts. I ended things with many men for similar reasons because they didn’t get it, despite me communicating my preferences upfront. Mostly they didn’t give me feedback and I never sought it. But one guy quoted Labrynth’s Beneath Your Beautiful at me (“you built your walls so high that no one could climb them”). And then my husband didn’t just climb them, he blew them up and cleared the rubble. We were married in months and it’s been five years now. Of course, if you … | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/09/25 09:25 PM |
| 1 | Should I meet him personally even if I am not his type but finds me attractive?There were two guys of a different race to me that I dated when I was 24. Each of them had never dated outside their race and I was not their physical type up to that point. After our break ups, each has said that they wished things worked out with us at least once. One after he got engaged and one after he got married.* Their wives are now the same race, roughly same height, hair colour, eye colour, and hairstyle... Types clearly evolve based on experiences. *I don’t communicate with either of … | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/08/25 06:09 AM |
| 9 | Field Report: I haven’t been as good a wife as I thought I wasI’m not red pilled either (DINK household) but I like it here, because posts like this serve such a high level of peace and contentment regardless of your value system. I’m an active person with ADHD and everything I do is grounded in immediacy. So I’m always intentionally trying to find ways to slow down. That often involves feeling like doing and being more, but this post was the reminder I needed. For myself and everyone I love in my life, not just my husband. Thank you, OP. It’s been a time … | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/08/25 05:27 AM |
| 12 | Dating a millionnaireSuper wild idea. But why don’t you just ask him? I was going to say he wasn’t playing games because there’s no express commitment. But then I realise what he’s doing is designed to lead you on. It’s always been obvious to me and I never stuck around, but it’s not been clear to many women I know. I guess you’re 21 so probably don’t realise this - but my friends are in their 30s and don’t either: men whisper sweet nothings and you should take it as a reminder that words without actions are meaning… | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/08/25 05:43 AM |
| 0 | Struggling a bit because my BF thinks I'm physically stronger than him and it might be trueMy first reaction to this post was seriously? Then I realised that, if you believe that you can beat him at arm wrestling, then you don’t see him as physically capable and I can see why, when I consider evolutionary drivers, that gives you the ick. No advice. Just here to tell you you’re not nuts but also it doesn’t matter in 2025. Hopefully, the feeling you had was fleeting and this post was just a thought dump. If not, work out if it’s really the ick you’re getting and, if so, what next. Speci… | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/08/25 06:22 AM |
| 2 | Possibly meeting up with my ex this weekend, helpGive off the vibe you gave off when he was most in love with you. For my husband, he loves when I’m spontaneous, fun, adventurous, consistent, kind, and nurturing, and able to hang out with his family and enjoy it. (These are not the same as the things he brags about when talking to his friends fyi - that’s smart, capable, great at my job, fun at parties, can hang out with the guys, and cooking lol.) Side. My husband and I have been together 5 years and married 4 (roughly). On our second date, h… | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/04/25 09:01 AM |
| 7 | Have your platonic relationships with men affected your romantic relationships with men?To answer your question, being friends with men - with whom there is no romantic or sexual innuendo - has made me more aware of the male psyche, including how different men are from each other. This makes me calmer, as I can trust my husband with ease. My male friends are good men, and they don’t mess around on their partners even if they aren’t perfect, contrary to the narrative often pushed on the internet. Long story re me: I’ve been married five years now and had excellent relationship with … | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/04/25 09:01 PM |
| 4 | Is he a provider?The amount of hate I get when weirdos on other subs stalk my profile and see I’m part of this one, because they think I’m some tradwife slave to my husband… That’s what you’re doing to OP. She’s part a different culture with a different worldview, and - believe it or not - it’s normal to be gifted even before you’re dating in some cultures. The most wild gifts I got pre-dating were an iPod, a Louis Vuitton purse, an over the top Swarovski necklace, and a white gold necklace with a (small) tanzan… | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/07/24 07:34 AM |
| 3 | Having a debate ..about rolesI suppose it’s like being able to rely on my husband to cook if I’m sick, although he will most likely buy food. I only found out well into our relationship that he can do more than a BBQ. On the flip side, I’ve only gotten back into driving this year (after a five year hiatus) and would rather call an Uber. But neither of us see it either activity as affirming masculinity or femininity. I suppose I love this sub not because I am a RPW or trad or whatever but because, despite that, I find that i… | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/07/24 07:21 AM |
| 1 | Having a debate ..about rolesThank you for explaining. I can see how it would be unchivalrous if a woman didn’t like driving. Cultural differences are so interesting to me. When I was in Japan, I’m not sure you can imagine, but I was like a kid in a candy store learning about all the customs! | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/07/24 07:12 AM |
| 3 | Having a debate ..about rolesBut you are going to the same destination so, to me, it makes zero difference - unless your spouse is an incompetent driver. In which case, golly. How would you trust her to drive your children (or even herself) around without you? I think this is one of those things I won’t understand and I don’t know if it’s red pill or just US/WASP trad stuff. | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/07/24 04:05 PM |
| 3 | Having a debate ..about rolesI am not from the US. We have fuel attendants who do this for us. Right now, I hardly drive and use his car (more than he does as he works from our home office) but he always pays for fuel. Maybe this is comparable. I usually fetch our takeout deliveries and he pays for them. He’s super exhausted by the end of a work day and I don’t mind because I could always use the extra steps. I think the “pumping gas” thing would depend on whether it was as easy as collecting the take out :) | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/07/24 12:20 PM |
| 9 | Having a debate ..about rolesWould you mind explaining why your husband finds the idea of women driving emasculating? It’s not a physically demanding task and women are able to match men’s competency at this without stretching themselves. I hope this doesn’t come across as disrespectful. My husband always drives (I only started driving again this year), but because he’s a better driver and, like you, I’m happiest as a passenger. I am not sure how I’d feel if he was commenting on other couples because he felt a wife driving … | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/07/24 12:14 PM |
| 2 | The burden of striving for perfection and meeting beauty standards has been really cripplingNot true. My husband isn’t into it, because of the trafficking and abuse aspects partly. And partly (mainly) he’s just not really into it. It’s not something I have expressed any kind of problem with (as I’ve never had to think about it). And he’s got other vices. But he’s not the type to apologise for or hide his behaviour. Edit: sorry, my point was that I don’t think it’s a given that men will always watch porn and can’t be stopped from doing so. | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/07/24 02:54 PM |
| 2 | Thoughts on 'Be the Prize'?My now husband did all the heavy lifting and I made him work really hard. We now joke that neither of us knows why he put up with it but we’re glad he did. | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/07/24 06:18 AM |
| 7 | He’s not planning our weddingMel Robbins latest podcast episode (3 Requirements of a Good Relationship) talks about how to deal with this type of thing. I’d suggest listening but if you don’t feel like, she basically explains how to set a boundary. In your case, you can gently tell your fiancé that: - you’re anxious about being a bride (not a wife, a bride, and same!) - you aren’t able to plan the wedding - you’d like to help, but he will need to guide you - if this is the kind of relationship you have or if this is actuall… | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/07/24 03:58 PM |
| 14 | Why would a man invest in me if he wasn’t interested in anything long term?There’s a huge difference between I want marriage with you in x years and I don’t know if I want marriage with you now and I don’t know if I ever will. Sometimes, a person may have a reason to want to defer a commitment like marriage. Maybe they’re still studying, maybe they’re recently divorced, it could be anything. If they can tell you the reason and give you a reasonable estimate on how long it’ll take to progress the next step, then that’s positive. But, whether you’re 23 or 33, don’t spend… | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/07/24 02:28 PM |
| 6 | How Do I Make It Seem Like I Have Friends And A Life?Mmmm not quite like that with us. The women in question go on to generally become SAHMs / work part time once kids are in school for stimulation rather than money. The wealthier the men (and their families, because it’s that kind of community), the more likely they are to require a woman who has a good degree, among other things. The exception is if she comes from a wealthy family. There are similar communities of wealthy Asians, Arabs, Persians and Jews, living outside their homelands, in small… | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/07/24 06:47 AM |
| 7 | How Do I Make It Seem Like I Have Friends And A Life?I’m not disagreeing with your view in general terms, but this isn’t quite true in my community. There are certain baseline expectations men have. For example, more often than not, formally educated men don’t marry women without tertiary qualifications. I was in school with so many women who went on to get degrees and training to be engineers, doctors, lawyers, and the like - then just end up being stay at home mothers. It’s a bit of a local stereotype. It’s only becoming less the case because mo… | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/07/24 07:05 PM |
| 1 | How to politely manage a friend who is a bit of an energy drain when I have a newbornCongrats on your baby ♡ This time is about you and I know how frustrating it is to have a friend who’s a drain, but who’s been around so long that it feels almost cruel to ask them to leave. It’s the kind of person you wouldn’t invite into your life if you met today, but also someone who’s been there through a lot. It sounds like this friend lacks some self-awareness but also like she is genuinely having a hard time. You’ve mentioned her constant medical issues, which are more exhausting than an… | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/07/24 09:16 AM |
| 1 | Where to get nice long-sleeved silk pajama tops, smocks, or nightgowns that are breathable and not overheating?I’m not in the US, I’m in Cape Town so idk how much this will help… I start by searching for local brands online and then I check out the accounts on Instagram. I also ask Instagram to suggest similar accounts. In the past, I’ve posted on Facebook community forums asking for recommendations for local brands. Then in terms of costs, it’s more expensive than Shein (although most things are). I’d say I’ve spent Zara prices (not sure you have a Zara around but you can check their website online for … | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/07/23 09:55 AM |
| 6 | Where to get nice long-sleeved silk pajama tops, smocks, or nightgowns that are breathable and not overheating?Local, handmade is what I go for. When I had time, I would go and buy fabric and have a tailor sew things for me but now I basically just try to stay away from anything mass manufactured. All the places I buy from now make garments per order. As an hourglass shape, it’s been a game changer for me. And ofc it’s better for the planet. | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/06/23 09:06 AM |
| 5 | Is my husband okay to talk like this? How would/should a RPW feel?My husband makes jokes he knows I’ll hate just because he knows I don’t like them. Then he’ll look at me expectantly and laugh when I glare or tell him he’s a doof or that i can’t take him anywhere etc etc. And I only do that because I know he finds this whole silly exchange funny. It’s like a very weird thing we have that’ll sound weird to anyone else but we get each other’s humour. Sure, if I really had an issue, I’d want him to take it seriously. But we both know that if I was really mad, we … | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/06/23 09:26 PM |
| 1 | I realized I'm addicted/drawn to drama. Tips on how to overcome that?I’m so happy for you guys. It’s inspiring to hear! When we got together, I was 29 and my husband was 35. So we had not had the benefit of moulding into each other as you two have. But he is such an amazing person, that I’m happy and feel privileged to be on this journey with him. I know we both want to grow and I know that we absolutely will ♡ Thank you for sharing. | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/06/23 04:18 PM |
| 6 | Peter pan syndrome for a 47 y/o man who started a "relationship" with a 16y/o?I’m sorry you’ve had to go through this. As others have said, he’s a predator. I’ve not experienced this myself but do want to say that you will need a professional to hold your hand because of course you have PTSD. That is an awful, awful experience that I wouldn’t wish on any human being ever. I read a book called My Dark Vanessa which is a work of fiction but works through the main character’s traumas from being in a similar situation. Big trigger warning but I am part of r/books and I’ve see… | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/06/23 10:54 AM |
| 1 | I realized I'm addicted/drawn to drama. Tips on how to overcome that?How did things start between you and your wife? How did she help you grow? My husband is wonderful in all the ways but I dislike his style of conflict resolution. His parents, while amazing people, do not have the kind of relationship I want. I don’t think they communicated well and fought often. Conversely, my parents never fought. When my dad passed, I asked my mum if she just hid it from us and she told me they had 2/3 more serious disagreements which were quickly resolved because both of the… | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/06/23 07:33 AM |
| 5 | How can I protect myself in a relationship/dating in general?So vet. They don’t need to actually fall in love with you. That’s incredibly cruel. | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/06/23 02:36 PM |
| 1 | Soybean Oil Destroys Oxytocin. Could this be one of the reasons when it comes to certain women not able to pair bond?Is it officially not part of TRP? I must say when I joined this sub it felt like we had accepted all their truths and built from that but I’m not sure anymore. | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/06/23 08:11 AM |
| 2 | How can I protect myself in a relationship/dating in general?I’m going to go against the grain because I’ve got a different experience. There was a guy who told me I was like person being sung about in Beneath Your Beautiful by Labyrinth and Emilie Sande. You tell all the boys no, it makes you feel good and you built your walls so high that no one can climb them. It stuck with me because it was true and I couldn’t believe someone saw me so clearly at the time. I have surreal stories from my 20s. I only talk about them with my friends who were there when i… | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/06/23 07:12 AM |
| 2 | How can I protect myself in a relationship/dating in general?I’m not VS Angel beautiful, but I had a manic pixie dream girl phase where guys genuinely fell in awe with me. I say awe, not love, because I didn’t really let them get to know me and I tried to end things when they got too attached. But they were ready for this great future. When I said no, a few of them sent flowers and expensive gifts to my work. It was a bit of an office joke. One guy went on to date (and marry) a girl that looked a bit like me and she once gave a toast to me because this AH… | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/06/23 07:01 AM |
| 9 | How can I gently help my boyfriend see that he doesn’t actually want what he says his dreams are?He’s 21. He has the option of switching careers and bombing out and whatever else he needs. And you’re 23. As much as you think you know, you have a lot of growing and learning to do. Embrace the journey together instead of trying to dictate his self-growth and career paths. | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/06/23 12:25 PM |
| 8 | How can I respect my bf more?Because NT guys don’t do things like this…? Wow. | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/06/23 09:48 AM |
| 5 | My boyfriend (40) of six months wants me (28) to move in with him.Humans understood Jellyfish. No need to be a pedant about it, bad bot. | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/06/23 11:21 PM |
| 4 | Is it normal to constantly be asked your age by men that have no romantic interest in you?Maybe something about the way you act and the way you look don’t add up. Socially, people in their 20s usually assume I’m in my 20s. People in their 30s usually assume I’m in my 30s. The only recent exception was a first year 23yo on my team who thought I was a few years older, but she said it was because I’m the head of department so it made sense to her that I was 35+ and just looked younger. | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/06/23 08:44 AM |
| 1 | Do you share location w ur bfI’m on my immediate family’s apple plan so I share my location with all of them and my husband doesn’t need it. Although I can’t imagine it’s crossed his mind. | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/06/23 05:57 PM |
| 4 | How to act more feminine as someone with a more masculine haircut/wardrobeYour options are incredibly limited. Work on your body, at 5’10 you could look like a catwalk model. And then if you must wear pants, get them tailored or - better - made bespoke for you. I’ll admit that I’m 5’3 and have waist length hair, but I got a few pairs of high waisted pants with wide legs that cinch at the waist and they’re even sexier than plain old skirts. The fabric is really important. You don’t want them transparent, but the fabric should be light and flowy. Get the waist to cinch … | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/06/23 01:55 PM |
| 6 | My boyfriend has broke my heart...again. Ladies, how do I simply move on?Ah babes. Any time. PS unless I had found an amazing man (which took me 29 years) and had the best relationship, the idea of moving abroad, starting over and having the best time would be JOY. Lean into the excitement. This is a wonderful time for you. PPS depression isn’t an excuse. Here is the link to one of my old posts about why I think men who don’t take care of their mental health are walking red flags: https://www.reddit.com/r/RedPillWomen/comments/12zeqow/red_flag_a_man_who_doesnt_take_o… | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/06/23 01:28 PM |
| 13 | My boyfriend has broke my heart...again. Ladies, how do I simply move on?This may not have a lot of value but I think a boyfriend of 4.5 years is enough to cut your losses. | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/06/23 12:52 PM |
| 2 | Disabled ex husbandOP, you are lovely. I’ve seen your comments and the kindest thing you can do for everyone in this situation is find a good therapist. You first need to work out what you want: without guilt and self-criticism eating at you. The answer here may be to finalise the divorce and let his family take care of him, but it’s a traumatic process and you need to have a professional guide you along to minimise the trauma. Whatever you decide, you’re in a fragile space and need support in order to make the ri… | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/06/23 10:10 AM |
| 5 | Is there a feminine „Andrew Tate Counterpart talking about similar values but only for Women online?I’m on my phone so can’t do the translation. But I’ve done a quick Google and agree circumstantial was the wrong choice of words. Probably the right way to say it is that there is still room for Tate and his team to refute the evidence (and he has a right to have the opportunity to do so). Y’all saw what happened to Johnny Depp. Amber Heard had splashed slam dunk evidence across the media. The full picture only came out during the trial proceedings. Again, not saying he’s a good guy or that he’s… | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/06/23 12:02 PM |
| 4 | Is there a feminine „Andrew Tate Counterpart talking about similar values but only for Women online?I find his voice grating and think he’s a moron, but can we not be those people who go with guilty until proven innocent? Evidence (that the public is aware of) is circumstantial. Not saying he didn’t do it, but let’s trade in facts even if we can’t stand the person on the other side. | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/06/23 10:54 AM |
| 2 | How to stop being perceived as hook up material, instead committal & wifey material of HVM?I mean my husband is just over 6 foot, runs an incredibly successful business, and is considered objectively attractive. He’s fun, funny, adventurous, and generous. He’s got a tech business but he’s still incredibly handy with home reno, cars, his motorcycles. He also comes from an incredible family and his parents are still together (major deal for me). I only got with him when I was 29 (he was 35 at the time) which means I took a gamble and waited it out. It could’ve gone either way but man am… | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/06/23 02:36 PM |
| 6 | Why does it feel everything bad happens all at once?The only way out is through because things eventually get better and / or you get better at coping. I had a playlist with songs that inspired me to be the person I wanted to be. Drops of Jupiter, Suddenly I See, Unwritten, She’s So High… So I’d wake up in the morning. I’d feel garbage. I’d listen to those songs. Then I’d pretend to deal with the troubles the way the girl they sang about in those songs would deal with it. | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/06/23 02:05 PM |
| 1 | How do you know when you are in love with someone?I just want more for him than I even want for myself. If I’m happy? I hope he’s happier. If I’m successful? I hope he’s more successful. If I’m peaceful? I hope he’s more peaceful. So it’s not that I don’t want these things for me, it’s just that I want what I want plus even more because - as happy as I am with what I have - I would give him the earth if I could. And he’s the same about me. | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/06/23 10:26 AM |
| 1 | Ideas on introducing Red Pill content to men who are not awareI second (third and fourth!) every suggestion not to introduce him to TRP. The actual spaces are toxic. I don’t think my husband has even heard of the red pill. He’s just naturally traditionally masculine. He doesn’t have to change. He just is. | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/06/23 02:49 PM |
| 7 | Does anyone else’s partner ask them for nudes?Exactly. But also, if a guy screenshots a picture of you in a bra - and you see that - you stop there. The problem is when you don’t know they saving it and thinks it disappears (because no screenshot notification) you build trust. And then you send more and more nsfw pictures and the guy builds a collection. I know I sound crazy but like some guys are suuuuper shady. | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/06/23 01:20 PM |
| 12 | Does anyone else’s partner ask them for nudes?FYI people can just turn on* screen recording for disappearing messages. You won’t get a notification that they’ve done so (unlike with Snap where you get a notification when there’s a screenshot). Edit: typos | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/06/23 12:15 PM |
| 1 | Should I tell men that I was married?Well, it depends on the laws of your country / state… Where I’m from, if you die without a will and you’re legally married, your widowed spouse gets 100%. All fine if you have 0 assets now, but you never know when you’re going to come into money. Also, I’m not completely sure on the law here (also not my area), but if you’re the named heir in a will and you die but that will isn’t changed, it’s possible that your widowed spouse would be entitled to that inheritance. For example: - Will A: Mama b… | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/06/23 08:06 AM |
| 1 | Should I tell men that I was married?It won’t be a joke if either of you dies intestate lol. Look, I’m a lawyer and I see divorces all the time (at my firm, not personally, because I refuse to handle that stuff). I wouldn’t see it as a big deal or a red flag if my partner told me this story. But I would be pretty pissed if they didn’t and I found out. As much as it’s a joke, you should probably try to get it annulled. Neither of the parties actually intended for this “marriage” to mean anything so intent was lacking. That’s not goi… | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/06/23 07:46 AM |
| 21 | am i ungrateful and unappreciative in my (24/F) marriage w/ my husband (37/M)?Honestly, out of everything you said, the only thing that worries me is the company he chooses to keep. That said, I wouldn’t be happy in your situation either but you married this man for a reason. Don’t lose sight of why - or at least figure out if the why still applies. I don’t think any of this is insurmountable but you need to work out all your complicated feelings (therapy helps) and the communicate your feelings to him. Then he needs to show you he’s willing to change - or you need to acc… | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/06/23 05:56 PM |
| 22 | has the pain of male infidelity always been this way?Biology = survival of the species and procreation. Men can impregnate multiple women at once and boom, more humans. Women can only have one baby at a time and that baby needs to be cared for. So the thought process is different. That said, we override biology all the time. That’s how we, as a physically fragile species, became apex predators. PS the equivalent of a man who cheats is a woman who’s a gold digger and will leave if someone richer and willing comes along. That’s also biology. Biologi… | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/06/23 10:07 AM |
| 9 | RPW stance on the "casual" stage?I don’t think you royally screwed up anything, for what it’s worth. You learned about yourself, you’re enforcing your boundaries, and it’s entirely possible he’ll figure things out and decide to settle down with you. You haven’t wasted ages on him if he doesn’t. Yes, sex is and can be a big deal to you. But if you didn’t have a completely negative experience and learned from it, you’re doing good. Good luck. | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/06/23 10:26 AM |
| 8 | Guardian Article about RPWAs a starting point, I would like to say that this is a perfect example of a dishonest, misleading, and disingenuous piece of work. I have been on this sub since 2020, previously using a different account, and I would’ve left if any of what she said was true. Next: her piece is ironically the perfect example of white feminism, which completely discounts the lived experiences of WOC and women outside Europe and North America. As a WOC, living in Africa and of mainly South Asian and Arab Muslim de… | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/06/23 02:52 PM |
| 1 | Guardian Article about RPWI stopped reading after the first paragraph. It was quoting the most extreme “comment” on this sub that I’ve seen. The kind of comment that the mods would remove in a heartbeat. | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/06/23 11:58 AM |
| 1 | In what way does having children change the dynamics of a marriage?I would love to not have kids but my husband most probably wants them and I’m not opposed. Our lives will change. Our bond will be different, some may see it as deeper. But I don’t want to be seen as special because I’m the mother of his children. I want to be special as I am. Plus the world is burning. | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/05/23 09:09 PM |
| 10 | His clingy female friend and how to approach boundaries as a RPWMy babes, do you know how rare it is for everyone on this sub to scream red flag? As a collective, we believe in fixing - whether yourself or your relationship, open communication, patience, understanding, love and appreciation. My mum once told me that, while your partner shouldn’t control who you are friends with, you shouldn’t ever pick your friend(s) over your partner. It sounds like an oxymoron but it’s not. If the only person you’ve got issues with is her, but he refuses to let her go, he’… | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/05/23 09:05 PM |
| 2 | How to weed out useless datesI don’t disagree with you but I don’t think this applies always. People have different ways of vetting and both work depending on the person. If my husband goes out with me and a female friend of mine, he just pays for everyone. Most of my male friends are the same. They call to split the bill between the guys, even someone had brought a friend along who they’d never met before. These are men who simply cannot bring themselves to make women pay, on dates especially. These guys are all tertiary e… | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/05/23 10:34 AM |
| 4 | How to weed out useless datesTraditional men and women I know don’t go on first dates very often. In my culture (which I haven’t really stuck to), being asked on a date is actually quite a big deal and a symbol of serious intent. There’s just a lot more thought and consideration - vetting - that happens beforehand. If a man is not taking that approach, then he’s probably using the first date as an opportunity to see if you are worth his time and effort. He will declare his serious intent when he asks for an official relatio… | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/05/23 10:05 AM |
| – | Im in a leftist familyFirstly, your boyfriend doesn’t understand the consequences for your life if you take his advice. Trust. I have a religious family. My husband doesn’t. I’m not religious. It’s a minefield. But can you give examples of the types of things you disagree with? Like what could you say that would get you kicked out? | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/05/23 10:46 AM |
| 2 | Is it cheap to stop having premarital sex as a high body count woman?Does that impact your answer? | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/05/23 07:24 AM |
| 1 | Need advice on relationshipThis is a risk analysis situation. Risk 1: he may cheat again and you will be devastated, potentially with kids in the mix Risk 2: you may leave him and you may always regret that, because there is a possibility he won’t cheat again and he has many other amazing qualities Which of the two do you believe works best for you? Imo if cheating happens after you know someone is the person you want to marry, then it’s less egregious than after. It’s because you still aren’t sure. This is especially whe… | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/05/23 10:34 AM |
| 3 | RPW is not working for me and I’m tired of being stuck in the same "the one that got away" situationThis is it. The only man I fully submit to is my husband. And I only fully submitted after marriage. | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/05/23 11:33 AM |
| 13 | Struggling to support my (25F) partner (32F) and his mental healthI am sorry that is your experience and want to emphasise that, no, not all people with ADHD are abusive and emotionally unavailable. I’m not and my husband isn’t. We both don’t need therapy to manage our ADHD (although who, ADHD or not, wouldn’t benefit from it?). We were diagnosed young and have adequate coping mechanisms. He’s unmedicated and I have a prescription which I use hardly ever, only for work purposes (last I took a Concerta was in January). Neither of us would tolerate the behaviour… | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/05/23 09:46 AM |
| 2 | Struggling to support my (25F) partner (32F) and his mental healthI have ADHD, as does my husband. Always remember that ADHD presents differently in different people and it is a much harder experience to cope when you’ve been diagnosed late for various reasons. I made a post about it on r/adhdwomen this weekend and was so surprised by all the feedback from people who’ve had late diagnoses. It’s rough. On top of that, what your husband has is not straightforward ADHD and it sounds like there are elements of depression (which is one of the comorbidities of ADHD,… | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/05/23 09:36 AM |
| 2 | How to get more comfortable with being naked?Therapy. | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/05/23 05:37 AM |
| 1 | Did anyone go from being a really messy person to a tidy one? (If so, how?)Z2-24, i had just moved away from and knew nothing about keeping house. It was crazy messy coz my clothes were always on the floor. I’ve now had people say my house belongs in a magazine. I could give you tips but the question is, why are you messy? (eg I had never done chores growing up, had a small flat, didn’t have enough cupboard space, was very busy at work, had other priorities, and didn’t feel like shelling out for a maid once a week) | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/05/23 05:15 AM |
| 3 | Questions about Looking for HVM in PersonEither he’s manipulating you by making you think he wants marriage to make his experience with you easier - narc behaviour. Or he means what he says but he’s not yet sure you’re the person for him. How you go about this depends on your appetite for risk. When my husband and I met (Tinder), we both said we weren’t looking for anything serious. He’d just come out of a year-long relationship and me… well, 20something typical millennial issues. Anyway, we were married within the year. | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/05/23 09:54 AM |
| 1 | Do you guys feel a little blue when your husband is away?Idk either but my mum said she never not missed being with my dad when they were apart. And, when he was still alive and she was away, he’d be so excited when she was coming back home. (It’s been 10 years and she still misses him every day.) Like my parents, my husband and I both have parts of our lives that are separate. We enjoy those separate parts but enjoy the together parts the most. It’s a want, not a need. And it harms no one. So I see no issue with it. | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/05/23 08:45 AM |
| 2 | Do you guys feel a little blue when your husband is away?I’m glad you’re not depressed. And I can imagine the Thailand trip fortified you a lot! I don’t get depressed when he’s away but I do miss him a lot. Especially at night when it’s cold. I think that’s the sweet spot that we’re in. I never want to not miss him, if that makes sense. | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/05/23 07:05 AM |
| 2 | Do you guys feel a little blue when your husband is away?I get it. There’s some kind of magic in feeling completely seen and understood. There’s a reason people get so sticky when they’re perceived as something they feel they are not. Mum mode means you’re seen as mum, primarily, a lot of the time. So I can see how you’d miss being seen as just You, primarily. I’m rooting for your continued love and happiness x | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/05/23 08:47 PM |
| 4 | Do you guys feel a little blue when your husband is away?I hear you, and I will / do. It’s a lot of fun. But I still love that I miss him. I don’t actually want it to change and as it reminds me how much his presence adds value to my life, in ways I can’t always see. | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/05/23 11:07 AM |
| 1 | Very into a coworker, what do I do?Nothing here suggests he’s got a thing for you. If you don’t really about this job, drop the handkerchief as others have suggested. If you do care about your job, just wait for him to make a move, be your best self when you see him, try to make conversation, and let him take the lead. | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/05/23 05:25 PM |
| 4 | Why Your “Fat Reduction” Workouts Aren’t Working.Bad bots. Best mods. | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/05/23 08:00 AM |
| 2 | Media's Portrayal of TradwivesA Muslim trad wife is just “oppressed”. Throw a hijab on her and she’s “brainwashed”. I’m not Muslim but my family is so I notice the narrative particularly and this is the narrative. The mainstream treats them like they have no agency and intellect of their own. (Bearing in mind that some don’t, but this hardly applies in western countries.) | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/05/23 06:51 AM |
| 3 | Boyfriend doesn’t know if he sees a future with me because of N-countI don’t know if OP is being dramatic in that description. It is very hurtful and destructive when someone you love and trust tells you that your past means they don’t want to be with you. It can be hard to understand how, even if this person doesn’t see worth in you, someone else will - because you’ve opened yourself up to them. This is when the reason is anything that you can’t change (n-count, being divorced, mental health issues, fertility issues, etc). And, if you are a woman with a high n-c… | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/05/23 04:12 PM |
| 4 | Boyfriend doesn’t know if he sees a future with me because of N-countHe is entitled to feel the way he feels. It’s not even unusual for him to feel that way. But you can’t unscramble the egg. I don’t believe you should be demonised for any actions you took before you met him. I’m not even saying what you did was a mistake, it was just something you thought was appropriate at the time - but, even if it was a mistake, you can’t undo it. He needs to decide if he can live with that or not. There are people who can - not just people who don’t want to know, but people … | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/05/23 03:54 PM |
| 4 | I am feeling conflicted about opting to be a housewife or stay-at-home mom instead of pursuing a conventional job.Not sure how it is where you are based, but one of my close friends and also my cousin are pharmacists. Where I’m from, you can do “locum” work which I think is like the agency work you describe. Basically, they’re not full time employees, but third party contractors. They go from pharmacy to pharmacy based on their availability and the pharmacies’ needs, all organised by an agency. I can see why that’s an attractive option for you. Depending on your interests, psychology may also be a good gig.… | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/05/23 02:42 PM |
| 15 | I am feeling conflicted about opting to be a housewife or stay-at-home mom instead of pursuing a conventional job.The first thing you have to take into account is that we are in a global recession and, unless your husband is wealthy, it may be difficult to live off his income only - especially when kids are in the mix. The second thing you want to think about is that, depending on the circles you run in, having formal tertiary education may be an entry requirement for certain men. I know a career isn’t what impresses a man, but sometimes a complete of career / tertiary qualification may put certain men off.… | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/05/23 10:47 AM |
| 1 | Do you think it’s possible to be a mainly stay at home wife, only working part-time and have my man be the main breadwinner if I don’t want kids?https://www.reddit.com/r/RedPillWomen/comments/12mufko/i_want_to_be_a_sahw_but_i_dont_want_to_birth_any/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=ioscss&utm_content=2&utm_term=1 | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/05/23 07:59 PM |
| 4 | What do you consider the most important things you've learned since RPW? What were the first steps you took to grow as a woman?STFU is my favourite. It’s worked wonderfully. I almost didn’t take the advice because I was worried my boundaries would be crossed, but it’s actually been peaceful. I realise I was complaining about things that didn’t matter and I’ve incorporated it into my work life too. Being non-combative unless absolutely necessary is something I wish I learned years ago. | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/04/23 09:42 PM |
| 1 | What actually tends to happen to women who marry conventionally attractive men?That logic is flawed. Those people are picking unattractive men because they believe those men won’t be able to attract other women or because they think a less attractive man will just be grateful to have someone and won’t want to jeopardise that. What we need to focus on is character. Be with a man who wouldn’t cheat on you no matter what he looks like. | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/04/23 11:41 AM |
| 1 | Red Flag: a man who doesn’t take of his poor mental health and uses it as an excuse for poor behaviourDo it. I’ve seen a lot of posts requesting advice recently and I feel like advice is often repeated in different ways. | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/04/23 06:27 AM |
| 4 | Red Flag: a man who doesn’t take of his poor mental health and uses it as an excuse for poor behaviourI’m so glad you married him. That’s the energy we need. As someone who is also neurodivergent, I’m not advising that people should be ableist. But I am saying they should find men like your husband who take their mental health seriously. | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/04/23 06:08 PM |
| 6 | Red Flag: a man who doesn’t take of his poor mental health and uses it as an excuse for poor behaviourThanks ♡ I’ve seen quite a few of these posts from younger women (early 20s) over the past few days and it left me quite concerned. Especially as many of them have been asking about men in their 30s. Women are compassionate and nurturing and it’s so easy to exploit us, especially when younger. As someone who’s been emotionally manipulated and gaslit by a “friend” with a list of diagnoses (it started with one, and then spiralled because she left it completely untreated) - I kind of hope they see … | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/04/23 03:27 PM |
| 6 | He(M32) didn’t tell me(F22) he was previously marriedThis man has the financial means (so he says) to access healthcare but his mental health is still a mess? Forget about him not telling you about his divorce. Think about the fact that this grown, allegedly moneyed, man doesn’t get proper treatment for his depression and blames his poor decision-making on his mental health issues. And the fact that, despite this, you still describe him as “HVM”. | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/04/23 11:13 AM |
| 1 | An ex came back into my life and I'm unsure of what to do; in need of RPW advice.I’m going to talk to you like you’re my sister and have posted this advice. He is 34 and he doesn’t have his mental health under control. He is not able to take care of himself, let alone you, and you will end up shouldering the load of this relationship. It would’ve been a very different story if he’d been with you for years, showed up for you, and supported you - then fell prey to depression. Then, I would encourage you to stand by him as he would’ve had a proven track record of standing by yo… | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/04/23 10:56 AM |
| 2 | How’s your relationship with your mum?1000000%. I know that, if / when I have a child, I’ll need to draw the lines in the sand because it won’t just be me that’s affected any longer. I am lucky, in a sense, that my mum receives my choices and, while she may initially be reluctant or even unhappy, she makes peace with them and doesn’t hold them against me. Also, her help is often helpful. I’m visiting home rn and she told me not to dye my hair but to add some layers because my hair is currently beautiful but could be doing more for m… | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/04/23 10:19 AM |
| 1 | How’s your relationship with your mum?I totally agree with you. My mum is actually pretty good at respecting boundaries once I set them, but I feel really guilty setting them. It’s one of the things I need a therapist’s help with because I feel really frozen. I’m one of those types that will avoid pain for as long as I can in the hopes I never have to deal with it and that’s something I’ve worked on in all respects of my life except this one. The last summit so to speak! | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/04/23 10:15 AM |
| 5 | He goes out with friends while I'm home with babyI’m sorry you’re going through this. I don’t have advice, I don’t have a kid. Other people who haven’t been through this won’t have advice either. I hope you find women here, who’ve experienced and overcome this ♡ | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/04/23 11:25 AM |
| 11 | How to not be heartbroken after a breakup?There’s a few things you could try. The strategy is basically to focus on something meaningful where you can, and, on bad days, to just allow yourself to find whatever distraction you can even if it’s a bit meaningless overall. Firstly, come up with a list of goals for each area of your life you’d like to improve / invest in, including work, health, hobbies, fitness, self-care, travel, skills development, etc. This helps you direct your energy and thoughts to something productive. It also gives … | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/04/23 09:46 AM |
| 1 | Dating advice: when can you trust a man has left his “hoe phase?”I think points 2&3 are major green flags. He’s initiated a relationship, whereas you’ve had to initiate further physical contact. That says he’s into you. If he wasn’t, the reverse would apply. On point 1, the only thing I’ll say is not to necessarily read into what his friends do / say. It might be a green flag or it might be nothing. (My husband’s got a friend who introduces my us to a different girl every time we see him. I’m nice to people generally. The girls are lovely and we always get al… | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/04/23 07:05 PM |
| 5 | Is my relationship a bad idea and what does it mean to build a man up?My cousin married a Christian woman. I wouldn’t call it a success as they’re divorced. It wasn’t because of religion from what little I know. They’ve taught their son about both religions or so I gathered but we (as a family) don’t really talk about it because it’s his kid. I’m sure everyone has an opinion though it’s just no one’s business. On my dad’s side, there have been cross-racial marriages forever and a day. I don’t think any of those relatives practice Islam but some have Arabic names a… | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/04/23 09:42 PM |
| 3 | Is my relationship a bad idea and what does it mean to build a man up?Cultural Muslim here, hiii! As for what you heard on other subs: r/atheist banned me for saying that some sources say Hitler wasn’t Christian (as they love to insist), he was actually atheist - and i linked the source which was reputable. I was also curious about r/exmuslim a long while ago so I checked it out. Those people aren’t just ex Muslim, they tend to hate Islam. I am sure most of them have good reason - their parents / communities probably traumatised them. However, I highly doubt many … | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/04/23 05:07 PM |
| 7 | Mental illness and having childrenI do think, even if your child is bipolar, that it can be managed. You may not have a problem with that, but your boyfriend clearly does and that’s his prerogative. My advice is this: - Speak to a doctor about the prospects of any biological child you have having bipolar disorder. - Speak to an expert about how nurture will impact the prospects of the diagnosis materialising. - Once you know the prospects, you need to know your limits, as well as the limits of the person who will be the father o… | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/04/23 09:52 PM |
| 1 | why ghost thenThey saw you as a potential avenue of exploration and set themselves up for success if they chose to explore it. Then they decided they didn’t want to explore. Also. Define ghosting. The guys that “came back” - what made you feel they ghosted you? | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/04/23 07:01 PM |
| 1 | Seeking advice: Is using a location tracking app on my boyfriend crossing a line?Don’t lie, to him or yourself. | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/04/23 05:26 PM |
| 3 | Met a guy at a friends cookout - how to see him again?Cutie! Ask the person who invited you if he’s single and, if he is, get his number. Then text him and say “hi, it was great meeting you. I forgot to get your number so got it from XX. I had a lot of fun though and thought I’d reach out.” Something like that. I personally don’t like asking other people to set me up coz I feel like then they’re up in my business and know the outcome of any engagement etc. | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/04/23 03:37 PM |
| 1 | Does your husband support your hobbies?To me, Support can mean that the person simply allows you the room you need to pursue your hobbies or they actively support your hobbies / do things to make your hobbies more enjoyable. My hobbies are reading, writing, watching sports (especially soccer), learning, adventure activities, live comedy shows, and listening to music (abnormally higher and more intense than average). My husband’s hobbies are boxing, watching combat sports, motorcycle riding, catching podcasts, 4x4 adventures, watching… | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/04/23 02:27 PM |
| 3 | Can someone kindly assess me unicorn list and tell me if I need to lower my standards?I know this is a bit judgmental but you literally said you’re happy to date a guy if he’s tall and white, even if he’s broke ass and you have to support him and he doesn’t text you or make any posts about you socials or buy you anything like wut? Those are really low standards and my judgment here isn’t trying to be mean but more to highlight how low your standards are. In your area, at your age, and with your attitude (based on your post and comments), I think it’s going to be hard to find a gu… | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/04/23 12:42 PM |
| 1 | Odd behaviour from these guysYou’re pretty and they don’t know how to approach you. It just seems so strange that it’s all the guys at work acting the same way. Even if you are that hot, how are they all socially inept? How do they work in retail without knowing how to talk to a beautiful woman? What’s the hiring process that results in mass-hiring 00s romcom loser protagonists bumbling all over your workplace? So yea definitely it’s because you’re stunning but I can see why you find the situation bizarre. Good luck and don… | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/04/23 03:48 PM |
| 4 | I genuinely feel like I’ll be alone in this lifetime.It sounds like you’re excellent on paper. So the only thing I can gather is that you’re leading with the wrong things and that your work persona may be too similar to your social persona. Also, you’ve got to put yourself out there and appear open to a relationship. If you’ve got your game face on, you may come across as unapproachable. As others have pointed out, careers aren’t the most important thing about a woman for most men. For real, as a woman, your career isn’t something that’ll make any… | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/04/23 02:29 PM |
| 4 | I can't cope with my non-RPW pastThis sounds like a Christian issue more than a RP issue. I’m not saying you won’t find help here as there are many Christian / trad-women on this page, but it sounds like you need some religious guidance. I’m not religious myself, but I do think having someone you know and respect who can give you guidance and keep you strong in your faith and remind you that God’s love is the most important love may be good for you. My mum had that in my dad’s uncle (a religious leader in the community) and aun… | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/04/23 04:15 PM |
| 1 | I’m probably being silly, but…You’re going to hear a lot of conflicting opinions about women’s sexuality. Some opinions are more popular than others. Popular opinion changes with the times. Popular opinion even differs by location, age-group, ethnicity, religion… Most importantly, popular opinion won’t necessarily be the same as your opinion. What is most important is that you figure out what your values are and, once you know that, find someone who shares those values or who doesn’t necessarily share those values but who st… | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/04/23 02:55 PM |
| 1 | I’m probably being silly, but…From your comments, it sounded like you enjoyed the experience. You just have some internalised shame based on a certain value system you think you should have. He hasn’t shamed you. He’s still with you. He’s not even treating you differently. It seems like a total non-issue for him. The question really is why you insist it’s an issue when you both had a good time and he’s treating you well three months later. | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/04/23 07:55 AM |
| 3 | body count issue UPDATEGirl you’re having sex and you think UTI = STD?? | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/04/23 07:57 PM |
| 2 | Shows of masculinity to his friends: Appropriate? Necessary? Specifically: strip clubs.I feel it depends why you’re going. I find it quite ick that someone would pay for sexual pleasure in a way that is strip club level of transactional and fake. It doesn’t scream masculine, it screams pathetic. On the other hand, if you find the spectacle itself entertaining and just an interesting, albeit wildish, night out, it’s not that deep. And that’s not to say no arousal can take place, more that it’s not the point. For example, in my 20s, I had a bit of motley crew of friends (with money)… | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/04/23 02:41 PM |
| 2 | 2nd date, hiking. What to wear and how to stay in feminine frame?Gosh I was so stressed about my overnight hike / outdoor camping experience recently lol the clothes didn’t even feature (but I now have a closet of cute hiking stuff). Idk how intense the hike is but: - yoga pants or hiking pants, depending on difficulty - a vest made out of breathable material - sports bra - hiking boots are epic investments if you plan on hiking more regularly but you have to wear them in. Sneakers should have good grip - rain jacket if it may rain, I love my North Face appar… | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/04/23 12:42 PM |
| 3 | Glad but... allways a butConsider your love languages. What is your receiving language? My husband and I struggle a little sometimes because his love languages are acts of service and gift giving. Mine is quality time and physical touch (not just sexual, cuddles, hugs etc). I’ve learned to reframe how I see his actions. It’s a journey though. | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/04/23 08:25 AM |
| 2 | How to control desires when dating for marriage?I’ve been there. It took a lot of introspection to figure it out and messaging is always like “oh you’re just empowered!” No, you could be empowered. But you could also be lost. One thing I found useful was asking myself “why” over and over, not just with sex but with anything I was doing. Eg I would always lend my friend clothes even though I didn’t really want to. - Why? Because it’s easier to say yes. - Why? Because saying no means I have to communicate a boundary and I don’t want to have to … | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/03/23 01:30 PM |
| 4 | How to control desires when dating for marriage?I would like to suggest exploring this with a therapist who specialises in female sexuality. Casual sex is not a monolith. There are both healthy and unhealthy approaches. There is casual sex with one person over a period of time, a one-night stand, multiple experiences, and so on. There is casual physical intimacy that stops short of sex. There’s the “why”, the “who”, the “when”… Come here, and you’ll get one view. Go to another sub, you’ll hear something completely different. What you need is … | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/03/23 11:46 AM |
| 1 | What do you do to keep your brain stimulated?Now I’m flexing but I read 65 the previous year… If you want to read more, my only advice is to read for pleasure. Yes, it’s stimulating. Yes, it sounds cool. But it’s not about any of that. I read e-books, so I’ve got copies on my phone and I’ll be getting my nails done and just scrolling on my phone. It’s the easiest thing to whip out when you’ve got a few minutes to spare. But it’s a book, you know? PS I highly recommend Taylor Jenkins Reid if you haven’t tried her yet. | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/03/23 08:08 AM |
| 5 | Is this cheating?I find his behaviour ick. It’s not just a red flag, it’s desperation. | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/03/23 07:35 PM |
| 4 | What do you do to keep your brain stimulated?The way you phrased your comment makes me feel like you are a delight of a human. Just came here to say this byeee | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/03/23 08:31 PM |
| 4 | What do you do to keep your brain stimulated?I have a hectic work / social schedule but I’m ADHD so I am easily bored and need constant stimulation. I often find Reddit mentally stimulating. I’ve spent too much time on it and want to limit it to 10 minutes a day (as opposed to 23 which I see I averaged recently). I want to dedicate the “saved” Reddit minutes to learning Spanish more consistently. I also listen to podcasts on an array of topics, including history, music, fashion, current events, and (my favourite) psychology. I listen one s… | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/03/23 08:30 PM |
| 2 | My Intake On Trad Wife CriticismOh I see your Endorsed Contributor badge now. You’re obviously invested in this sub and I won’t take that away from you. I am sure you’ve helped many people, both those who’ve asked and those who haven’t. I’ve thought about it and I’m genuinely sorry I caused you offence (or whatever the negative emotions you were expressing were). There are some men on this sub who add value and no doubt you are one of them. We, all of us here, don’t add value with every comment we make though. I want to clarif… | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/03/23 07:11 AM |
| 3 | How do you balance deferring when your man is being irresponsible?I don’t think it’s worth it to see how it goes when s child is involved. I’m very committed to the idea of raising kids only with a good man. Or alone. That’s just a personal value. On money… My husband says it’s not his money or my money, it’s our money. We’re a team. However, he also gets annoyed if I count pennies because he says he works hard (and so do I, albeit less) and deserve to enjoy the fruits of that Labour. | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/03/23 08:47 PM |
| 2 | Boyfriend won't give up porn unless i give up instagramYou may be using Instagram in an unhealthy way, to some extent. Social media, in general, is addictive because your brain gets bursts and bursts of dopamine as you get engagement / likes / shares / the works. It’s the same as Reddit or any other social media site. However, it sounds like your boyfriend doesn’t understand the industry you are in. In large part, people book entertainers for their events who have a social media following. They share their gigs with their followers and event-organis… | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/03/23 11:09 AM |
| 8 | Boyfriend won't give up porn unless i give up instagramPrior to meeting my husband, back when I believed the Cool Girl hype, I accepted that porn was “normal” and okay. When I met him, he explained things I didn’t know about the porn industry because I never looked. It’s also just not his thing. I’m glad that he has those values and has helped me develop my own in that regard. | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/03/23 08:41 AM |
| 4 | My Intake On Trad Wife CriticismIf I wanted to hear men’s thoughts generally, I’d go to a different sub. The only unsolicited opinions I appreciate from a man are my husband’s, especially when it comes to our relationship. | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/03/23 08:24 AM |
| 3 | My Intake On Trad Wife CriticismOh. You’re a man. | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/03/23 04:51 AM |
| 2 | My Intake On Trad Wife CriticismNope. It’s being practical. Like I said, I’m a lawyer. I’ve seen people, mostly women, who are completely blindsided because they had literal blind faith. Also, there’s a reason ante/prenuptial agreements are important. Both of us come from homes with parents who love(d) each other (my dad died) and both sets of parents understand why these things are important. That’s both our families’ value systems, even if it’s different for other families. Mostly though… Every day I wake up and stay with my… | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/03/23 07:55 PM |
| 2 | Word for belief that women and men have equal value, but not the same skill set?Yup. This is the one. | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/03/23 04:49 PM |
| 3 | Getting a plastic surgeryWe come from very different worlds. All the women I know who’ve had surgery are marriages or LTRs with successful, impressive, good men. Plastic surgery may be uncommon in your community, but not everyone else’s. If a man is worried a woman may have had cosmetic surgery, and that’s a value for him, all he has to do is ask. And, if he doesn’t want those genes, then fine. And, as someone with a mother, I know I’d prefer a mum who had plastic surgery than one who was utterly judgmental and toxicall… | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/03/23 02:44 PM |
| 1 | Getting a plastic surgeryLying about what? No one owes their natural face to anyone. Anyone who thinks they are, is just entitled. | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/03/23 08:25 AM |
| 3 | Giving This UpI wore ankle-length, wide-leg linen pants with a stretchy tube top that showed a liiittle belly if I stretched. I carried a cotton shirt for wearing over when it cooled down at night. I was so much more comfortable! I won’t forego shorts completely but I have a really short pair that I think it’s time to retire. | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/03/23 07:30 PM |
| 1 | Should I wait to date or put myself out there now?Your dating pool is much smaller if you’re only bringing your job to the table, especially if you want a trad lifestyle. I’m sure there are men who don’t mind and may be okay with it, but is that the kind of person you want? I’ve always looked at guys and gone “if you settle for x, you don’t have standards”. In my case, x was me having walls up and treating guys like they were disposal. The ones that just tolerated it I felt were spineless. My husband called me out on it coz he saw value underne… | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/03/23 01:22 PM |
| 14 | Giving This UpI don’t practice but grew up in a Muslim household and went to a Muslim school, even though it was co-ed. It wasn’t super strict so I never really covered my hair at school (never outside of school), but our uniforms were called abayas. Essentially long, shapeless dresses. Boys had a similar get up. I didn’t mind at all when I was in school coz everyone was dressed the same. I did have a stab of envy at all the cute short skirt uniforms everyone else had. However, looking back, I’m glad that the… | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/03/23 08:04 AM |
| 10 | My Intake On Trad Wife CriticismI’m a lawyer. Fancy title, fancy money. I would love to be a SAHM because actually I don’t like having the stress of a job and would rather be a carer. However, no matter how wonderful my husband is, I have to be able to leave (future baby included) if things go south. I never want to be fully financially reliant on him. I also feel like I need to be prepared in the event his business goes south, he’s (heaven forbid) left disabled / seriously injured. Etc. Also, as a lawyer, I have seen people w… | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/03/23 08:30 PM |
| 1 | Modesty & Vanity: How to balance those two in day to day life?Do what makes you feel good, that’s my old lady (32) advice. I had a work event tonight. I put on my ball dress and heels and full face of make up… then went to the nail bar. I looked silly but I didn’t have time to do my nails, get back home and get ready and then go. My boss is a woman and, when I have work trips, I tell her I’m knocking off early so I can get my hair / nails / whatever done. And she gets it. I don’t have a lot of spare time during working hours (ie when salons are open). This… | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/03/23 08:17 PM |
| 1 | Unsure to date or notI don’t know the culture there all that well but maybe you can look at it? Expats are also often the types to settle down later in life. So worth considering that when assessing the dating culture. | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/03/23 12:06 PM |
| 2 | Unsure to date or notIt depends where you’re from. It’s normal for my Western European friends to settle down in their 30s/40s. It’s much harder in some places. | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/03/23 12:00 PM |
| 80 | Am I a low value women? Would any man want to marry me?Some men (not all) won’t marry you because of it. It’s like some men won’t marry you because you are Christian. You don’t want those men. Its the wrong fit. You only need one person so find one that fits right. | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/03/23 07:00 AM |
| 6 | Trigger warning: Men really do cherish a flat stomachThis is true. Women who are naturally petite often forget this. I take my body for granted. I look amazing for someone who eats what they want and doesn’t work out. But I could be way more attractive if I just put the effort in. I do, however, want to change for my health more than my aesthetic. | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/03/23 01:23 PM |
| 7 | Modesty & Vanity: How to balance those two in day to day life?You have a certain style. It sounds higher maintenance than other styles perhaps. It doesn’t make you vain. You need to know who you are and who you want to attract. The kind of men I wanted to attract were the old money kinds who found the natural / effortless chic look appealing. They’re wealthy but not flashy. In my view, Kardashian-level of upkeep women tend to attract newer money guys. They’ll be the ones who have flashy cars, flashy clothes and the flashy girl. Nothing wrong with that but … | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/03/23 06:37 AM |
| 3 | How to let it go when I think he's wrong.Same and I’m literally paid to argue. I get it’s not always with a view to win. Sometimes it’s just to make sure the facts are in order and the record is straight. But it’s a Hermione Granger know-it-all tendency and it’s just annoying, no matter who you’re talking to. My advice (which I also need to follow): take a breath, ask yourself if it matters. If it does, go forth and debate. If it doesn’t, let it go. | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/03/23 08:46 PM |
| 1 | How to move on from no response guy?Pause dating. Work on being a version of you that you like. Find someone who likes that person too. | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/03/23 01:21 PM |
| 8 | Would living in a van be seen as a red flag by good men?What does HVM mean to you? Because if it’s educated and / or wealthy, a van is going to be a problem in many cases. If not, then you may get away with it. It certainly doesn’t enhance your prospects though. | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/03/23 11:01 PM |
| 6 | Goal Is to travel somewhere every month: how to look like a high value woman while travelling and ensuring my own safety?Stick to areas where crime rates are low - that’s all. The safest places I’ve been are Dubai, Geneva, Vienna, and Doha. And don’t be fooled into thinking it’s places like London, Paris, Madrid, etc. In Rome, a lady stopped me on the metro to tell me to be careful of pickpockets because I was so relaxed. | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/03/23 08:34 PM |
| 3 | Am I just a root and boot?To answer your question: yea, probably. To go a little further: if you are not looking for anything more and your eyes are open, do your thing. Be aware of how it may impact future prospects (although honestly anyone who asks for n count is not a vibe so it doesn’t impact me). Always wear protection unless you’re in a serious and monogamous relationship with someone you trust. Good luck x | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/03/23 04:56 PM |
| 1 | I keep filling his cup and he is not filling mine?What are your giving and receiving love languages? | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/03/23 04:35 PM |
| 14 | My husband hit on a 19 year old when he was 39, makes me feel uneasy. F25 with M42.Story time. My parents had a 30-year age gap (mum was dad’s second wife) and I never found it weird until I was old enough to start dating. Then it struck me that it was very strange. And now I know that it was the best love either of them ever had. Since my dad died, my mum won’t even consider dating. She tried once and she realised very quickly it wasn’t it. No one can make her feel that kind of love and romance. He was a writer and wrote her poetry even 25+ years into their marriage because s… | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/03/23 10:19 AM |
| 1 | Potentially marry a man with a baby mama/ex-wife, co-parents togetherI find it absolutely cowardly when someone lies because they don’t have the guts to face the consequences of telling the truth. I get more incensed by that than I would if you told me the truth. I can understand why you are so angry. What lies is he telling you so that he doesn’t have to deal with the consequences of being straightforward? Is him telling you his ex won’t be a problem actually just him saying what you want to want to hear? How do you trust what he tells you and not assume that he… | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/03/23 08:55 AM |
| 4 | Potentially marry a man with a baby mama/ex-wife, co-parents togetherI won’t make hasty judgments because we don’t have info but… To me, it reads like he probably messed up and he wants baby mama back. In the alternative, he’s bending over backwards to accommodate her even if she messed up. Whether it’s because he wants her back or because he’s scared to upset her, it signifies a certain spinelessness and I can’t see OP getting away from that. Not sure if you have any other views but I always like engaging with you on here for a different perspective. | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/03/23 01:52 PM |
| 1 | I'm now with a gamer, and I want to find feminine video games I can play solo, or cooperative ones we can play together (non-competitive!)It’s an ancient but Final Fantasy VIII and games like that. It’s turn-based RPG and adventure but the plot is HEAVY on the romance. Quite the epic love story Squall and Rinoa have going on. So. Games like that I’d say. | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/03/23 10:19 AM |
| 15 | What are some clues you notice , that made you realize you weren’t into a guy?Everything they do irritates me. I am rude and dismissive, because I don’t care whether they stay or go. Edit: past Jenna obviously. | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/03/23 06:52 PM |
| 3 | Deep depressive episodes? Real talkI feel like this some days. If the days turn to weeks to months, it’s time for therapy and potentially meds because that’s full on depression (and maybe other things too). It may be hard to accept that this is an issue with which you have to deal especially if you know yourself as positive, joyful, etc. - but remember that an athlete with a flu is still an athlete. They will go back to performing like an athlete again once they go to the doctor, get their meds and beat their flu. You’ve just got… | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/03/23 06:45 AM |
| 3 | Book Recommendation: How To Walk In High Heels by Camilla MortonThis sounds wonderful. I’m going to try and find it. | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/03/23 06:13 AM |
| 8 | Boyfriends condescending “jokes”I try to be measured usually but this story makes me viscerally angry. It’s the “this isn’t why I don’t want to live with you” stuff. After FOUR years? No. He doesn’t want to live with you because he doesn’t see any benefit in it for himself. You shouldn’t have to drag someone kicking and screaming to commit to you. It’s not the jokes that make me mad. It’s rude but imo easy to ignore if he’s amazing in every other dimension. But the “stuff like this makes me not want to live with you?” That’s e… | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/03/23 05:29 AM |
| 2 | Feeling inadequate around rich and educated (future) in-laws.If a good man and his wonderful family see your worth but you don’t, you’re just not looking hard enough ♡ Love and light to you on your journey x | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/03/23 02:27 PM |
| 3 | Feeling inadequate around rich and educated (future) in-laws.I think everyone’s comments are fairly similar: he chose you and they’re kind to you. The reason you feel the way you do is purely your own insecurity. You need to find a way to work around that. You can post here, speak to friends / family you trust, speak to a therapist - but you need to come up with a strategy before you sabotage your relationship / your happiness. | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/03/23 05:00 PM |
| 1 | An anecdote about femininity while having a masculine job - it’s genuinely possible.Some jobs are often associated with masculine qualities. For example, litigators are known be tough, thick-skinned / not sensitive, intimidating, prepared to be combative / aggressive, etc. These are not generally considered feminine qualities. Often, what happens is that women take on the job and also adopt the common - masculine - qualities. I have chosen to litigate differently. I still have to be all the masculine things, at times, but I tend to focus on negotiation, communication, empathy a… | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/03/23 08:49 PM |
| 6 | An anecdote about femininity while having a masculine job - it’s genuinely possible.In my story, the femininity I was referring to is demeanour and personality. I don’t have all the answers but can give you insight into my routine and maybe that’ll help. In terms of hobbies/chores: - I enjoy tidying up. It relaxes me. I don’t have to deep clean. I have a maid once a week. With a child, I’d have a cleaner / nanny at least Monday to Friday and potentially a night nurse. - I plan on stepping back if / when I have a child. By then, I will be in a much better position to do so. Howe… | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/03/23 08:37 PM |
| 12 | An anecdote about femininity while having a masculine job - it’s genuinely possible.Thank you for being so kind ♡ Compartmentalising definitely works. When people ask me about the discrepancy between “successful litigator” and “light and feminine personality”, I always tell them that I don’t fight for free. I am also a firm believer in authenticity. I act feminine because it is natural and who I am. I tried litigating like a man and it doesn’t work for me, partly because it’s not naturally who I am and partly because people don’t treat women like men just because they act mascu… | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/03/23 11:21 AM |
| 2 | Is it time to throw in the towel?Hello. I don’t know you but music is my love language. Here is a playlist for you: Fight Song by Rachel Platten Love Myself by Hailee Steinfeld Fighter by Christina Aguilera Beautiful by Christina Aguilera Roar by Katy Perry Survivor by Destiny’s Child Brave by Sarah Bareilles Stronger by Britney Spears Irreplaceable by Beyoncé What Doesn’t Kill You Makes You Stronger by Kelly Clarkson She’s An Eagle When She Flies by Dolly Parton Paid My Dues by Anastasia I Will Survive by Gloria Gaynor Shake I… | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/03/23 07:59 AM |
| 2 | Should red pill women be on dating apps?I think guys that approach me are disruptive because, when single, I never went out to meet a guy. The way I feel… It’s like, if every guy who swiped right on your tinder profile messaged you, regardless of whether you swiped back. It’s annoying. There’s too much of swatting off to do. Most of my friends feel this way. (I met my husband on Tinder and I think it’s great because it was consensual and I welcomed the interaction.) | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/03/23 06:57 AM |
| 2 | does anyone have any feminine book suggestions?Little Women by Louisa M Alcott. | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/03/23 02:40 PM |
| 1 | Traditional gender roles - How?With my husband and I, yes. I don’t think it’s this innate thing where there’s no overlap. | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/03/23 04:13 PM |
| 1 | does anyone have any feminine book suggestions?What’s a feminine book? Out of curiosity. Edit: I recommend books often because I read a lot. So I can probably recommend books, but only when I know what a feminine book is. | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/03/23 04:09 PM |
| 3 | How does your man support you emotionally?I tell my husband what I want in any given moment because he’s proven himself inept at reading minds. If he doesn’t give it to me when I ask, I ask why. Sometimes it’s coz he has his own stuff going. Then I just go and talk to my friends about whatever is bringing me down (usually work or pms). It’s not as therapeutic, but he’s not my therapist. | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/03/23 09:10 AM |
| 1 | How to stop being angry at exI’m so sorry you went through this. Being pressurised and coerced into sex is a form of sexual assault. Therapy is the only answer. | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/03/23 02:21 PM |
| 1 | depressed about aging, wasted my "prime"Ofc you aren’t infertile but fertility in women decreases with age. I can send you scientific journal articles on it if you’re interested, let me know. | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/03/23 02:14 PM |
| -3 | depressed about aging, wasted my "prime"If you did what you’re doing now (taking care of yourself etc) at the same level as when you were 22, you’d be a hotter commodity. I’m not trying to insult you but I wouldn’t compare yourself to other women, just yourself at various ages. Most men want kids, some don’t. The older a woman is, the less likely she is to attract a man who wants biological kids. High schoolers and their dads aren’t thinking about that. Men who are ready to settle down and have a family are. I’ve seen a few marriages … | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/03/23 06:24 AM |
| 1 | Would love some advice on how to approach effort/intimacy fading with the man I have been datingI love your commitment to yourself and your values. It’s inspiring! | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/03/23 06:17 AM |
| 6 | depressed about aging, wasted my "prime"I disagree. Looks and youth matter to men. It doesn’t help to pretend that’s not true. And it may not be fun to accept, but younger women are generally more attractive than older women. From a biological perspective, a woman’s fertility decreases more drastically in her 30s than a man in his 30s. In a woman’s 40s, a baby is a hope and a prayer for her. For a man, he’s got a way longer window. Speaking from experience: I’m 32 and look around 26-28. College guys sometimes think I’m even younger. I… | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/02/23 09:20 PM |
| 19 | depressed about aging, wasted my "prime"32F. Zero wrinkles and not even close to getting them. Good genes, sure. But also daily SPF and a simple but effective skincare regime (Micellar water cleanse, double cleanse with face wash if wearing makeup, retinol serum daily in the summer, Vit c serum daily in winter, moisturiser twice a day and SPF every morning). Also. Water. I feel like I can almost see nasolabial lines if I don’t drink enough water. | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/02/23 09:06 PM |
| 2 | Would love some advice on how to approach effort/intimacy fading with the man I have been datingIf I were you, at this stage of the relationship and based on what you said, I’d say he wants to keep his options open in Europe. I wouldn’t be surprised if he came back and was affectionate again. The question is: do you want that? | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/02/23 09:11 AM |
| 19 | Moving in togetherIt’s boring but agree everything beforehand with a roommate when it comes to chores and shared consumables. Also agree on rules for common area. | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/02/23 03:58 PM |
| 2 | Feeling inadequate compared to STEM womenBrown culture, babes. Get a STEM degree and people still only care how round your rotis are. | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/02/23 07:01 PM |
| 5 | What do you do for work?32F, married, no kids but on the cards - maybe next year. I’m a lawyer and now head of my department. I work remotely most days and at a firm that is very supportive. I still sometimes work late but that is mainly because I’m adhd and disorganised. Some days, my brain is fried and I’m too tired to cook etc. Sometimes I’m stressed out and my mood is low. I’m glad I have this. The way my brain is wired, it needs to be intellectually stimulated and solving complex problems. If not, I get bored and … | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/02/23 08:22 AM |
| 4 | Friendship Breakup???Same but there’s a way to achieve balance. I go out to way less parties and my vibe is different. My friends were initially concerned but they see how happy I am and they’re happy for me. If the sole basis of your relationship is going out and getting college girl wasted, you’ll naturally drift apart as you decline the invites. If there’s more to it than that, you’ll be a good friend in other ways and hopefully they get it. I still have a friend who’s been burned by men and always drags the enti… | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/02/23 08:08 AM |
| 3 | How to stop being “one of the bros?”Yes, it makes a lot of sense. Some of my less feminine (not aesthetically, just personality wise) friends have asked me this. One friend calls it learning to use her “feminine wiles” lol. It’s true that femininity is soft but I don’t think being loud, in isolation, will prevent you from being feminine. I would suggest looking at your natural qualities and seeing which of those are already considered feminine, then playing that up. I’m not any kind of expert but I have many masculine qualities wh… | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/02/23 01:03 PM |
| 6 | How to stop being “one of the bros?”Keep MMA Club compartmentalised. I’ve seen this advice here before and consciously adopted it into my life with great success. I am a litigator and quite a fighter. If I were to act the way I did at work all the time, outside of that particular context, it would likely be seen as masculine. Why do you want to be perceived as feminine? In my case, I think it’s something that meshes well with my personality and I’ve seen how my femininity enriches my life. If you want to seen as feminine to attrac… | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/02/23 10:04 AM |
| 2 | What are the signs that you are a plate? How to avoid being boxed into the player category ?Just run as soon as they tell you they don’t want something serious. | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/02/23 09:21 AM |
| 2 | How do you keep yourself well-groomed on a budget?Everyone has such great comments. I used to get a salon blowout every week but now I get keratin treatments every 4 months. My hair is long and, dare I say, beautiful. It’s an upfront cost but I can now wash and go and it still looks great. | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/02/23 09:14 AM |
| 2 | Anxiety/imposter syndromeThis seems so disrespectful to cis women and trans-people alike. There is no one way to be a woman. There is one way to be a feminine women and this is the path some of choose. And, on that part, I do find myself exhibiting more typically masculine behaviours. I don’t have any issue with that except when I do it in my relationship. So I am working on that. | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/02/23 01:25 PM |
| 13 | How to stop oversharing?Figure out why you overshare. That’ll be really helpful for purposes of tailoring a technique to suit your specialised needs. | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/02/23 10:18 AM |
| 2 | A friend is married to a man who refuses to do a job and just sits at home while she brings in a significant pay check & she’s encouraging me to tolerate the same. Thoughts?I know a couple with this set up. Firstly, he’s not doing nothing. He’s doing exactly what a SAHW does and that is incredibly valuable work. After spending time with this couple, my husband and I chatted about the lifestyle. He was saying it sounds AWESOME. When I asked him if that was what he would want, he laughed and said “no but it does still sound awesome in its own way”. Perhaps you come across as more judgmental than you intend when you speak with her, and she is trying to explain why it’… | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/02/23 08:39 AM |
| 0 | Why do men today prefer to be chased?Whoa. This makes a lot of sense. Everyone is dumping on feminism but it’s so much deeper than that one thing. | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/02/23 07:50 AM |
| 1 | Why do men today prefer to be chased?I’ve been called feisty since high school, but I never got out of the idea that men ask women out. Maybe it’s because I grew up surrounded by traditional and religious people. As a result, that is what happened in my life. I don’t even notice the kinds of men who lack the necessary fortitude to make the first move. | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/02/23 07:47 AM |
| 3 | Do I take this as no-interest?I missed the bit where he didn’t follow you back. I’d go on with living your best life. It sounds like you’re a catch. If he’s interested, he’ll reach out. If he’s into you and doesn’t, he’s a little cowardly and it’s not very appealing is it? | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/02/23 07:36 PM |
| 3 | Do I take this as no-interest?I don’t think he’s not interested in you, I think he’s not sure if he’s interested yet. You’ve got potential. I wouldn’t keep pursuing him but I would probably post on your stories next time you’re in town and see if he takes any initiative. | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/02/23 06:43 PM |
| 2 | What do you think?That’s helpful because some sugar babies are sugar babies without even realising it. My friend will not call herself that word, but she’s got key protection in place of her guy chooses to leave her. Having self-awareness and protecting yourself in any situation is key. You’ve got that down and, if you are not with him for financial reasons, then fortunately you have the full autonomy you need to leave if this is a boundary of yours that he’s crossing. However, if you don’t believe in the partner… | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/02/23 04:39 PM |
| 7 | getting over fear of infidelityGo to therapy. Your trauma is understandable but therapy will help you live with it in a way that your life isn’t sabotaged. Work toward healing it. Be patient with yourself as it takes time. | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/02/23 02:48 PM |
| 5 | What do you think?I don’t mean this sarcastically, but do you realise you’re a sugar baby more than his partner? My friend does this for a living, essentially. It’s quite transactional. That doesn’t mean her sugar daddy doesn’t care about her - he does - but only to the extent it’s convenient for him. To her credit, she knows she’s not his wife. She’s happy just to get the money and sees it as a job. Her boundaries are clear and he respects them. But she’s done this for 15+ years now with different guys so she’s … | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/02/23 02:20 PM |
| 2 | speed dating observationI second this. I met my husband on Tinder. Lots of dating app happily ever afters that I know of. I much preferred it to men approaching me when I was out. If I am out, I am not out to pick up men and then they would come and interrupt my evening and I found it off-putting. Dating apps removed that because it was all consensual engagement, on my own time, at my convenience. | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/02/23 10:52 AM |
| 11 | My bf (32M) questions me (25F) on everything and its driving me crazyThis is a relationship issue more than an AITA issue lol I will be surprised if it’s not removed. Anyway, here’s the thing. This is presently who he is. Can you live with it? If not, can it be rectified and are you prepared to work at it? If not, why are you here? For the record, your boyfriend sounds very annoying. My husband used to do this (and still does sometimes). My hunch is he picked it up from his dad. I don’t like it very much so I call him out. Initially, he couldn’t see my perspectiv… | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/02/23 03:52 PM |
| 8 | Anyone in WV or Western MDUntil it happens everyday. And even if it didn’t, the women that are here came for a woman-centric space. When I first joined, men weren’t even welcome in comments. I admit, I miss that. This post doesn’t belong here and, since clearly rules are being relaxed re men’s involvement on this sub, the men who post should be respectful of the purpose of this space. | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/01/23 10:22 AM |
| 7 | Being respected vs being likedI once said to my husband that I was his partner, not his employee and that he shouldn’t forget that. It was submissive or respectful and tbh I still don’t care. I had to learn to be more respectful because I would focus on being loving but I don’t think I deferred to him as much initially. But that’s because he had to earn my respect and, after not too long (a few months), he did. There’s still room for improvement for both of us but there’s been a lot less conflict since I started following ad… | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/01/23 08:17 AM |
| 2 | how much can a female be a incel typically or that stereotypeTherapy. | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/01/23 05:57 AM |
| 16 | I don’t feel like my husband is more manly than meYou just sound like you dislike him. Find a blue collar man. I can guarantee that, in certain circles, your husband’s ineptitude is not the exception, it’s the rule. My ex is an investment banker from a really wealthy family. We’re “pay someone else to do it” people, him, even more so, because his family is loaded. We both had maids and bought take out instead of cooking. I tidied up when he went to work once and he came home and said “you’re my girlfriend not the maid”. It was extreme and I wil… | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/01/23 07:17 AM |
| 1 | Do people in traditional marriages feel more content, but bored, compared to feministic marriages where there's more drama?I replied to the main post but saw this and thought I’d chime in again. You can be interesting without being toxic. I’m chaotic, but I’m not destructive. I have a deep desire to have fun because I’m here for a good time not a long time. I chase experiences. So I’m the one convincing everyone to go bungee jumping, try the cool new restaurant, spontaneously wake up and go to a music festival. I’m first on stage for karaoke even though I can’t sing. Sober or drunk. I’m the last one off the dance fl… | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/01/23 03:30 PM |
| 4 | Do people in traditional marriages feel more content, but bored, compared to feministic marriages where there's more drama?I’ll tell you one thing, the world is full of sources of conflict. My home is where I find peace. I also hate fights and conflict with my husband. It doesn’t make me feel good to hurt him and make his life harder, the same applies with him. He’s a fiery, impatient person and I can be callous and cruel but we are both so much happier since we actively try to be the better versions of ourselves for each other. I’m also firmly of the view - traditional or not - you don’t need destruction to generat… | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/01/23 03:15 PM |
| 5 | How to stay interesting as a housewife?My husband is also really proud of my academic and career successes. But I don’t think he would ever want me to go back to the hours I worked when I was single and spent all my time at a really prestigious firm. He also has the comfort that he doesn’t have to do all the intellectual labour when it comes to raising our future kid(s) - especially so as they get older and need career advice and help. You have skills very few people, let alone SAHMs have! It’s awesome!! Yes, I still struggle with ha… | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/01/23 05:17 PM |
| 5 | What does it mean when he doesn’t remember things about you?I do think it’s unusual that you haven’t met his family and are discussing the nikkah. To me, that signifies someone who is keeping their options open, unless he has some issues with his family. He may also not be the kind of man who is interested in that type of thing, sadly. So he could well just marry you and stay distant. I don’t know if that’s something you would be okay with. I would focus first on finding out exactly how serious he is about marrying you, then having an open conversation w… | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/01/23 01:06 PM |
| 4 | What does it mean when he doesn’t remember things about you?A year is a long time. Has he met your parents? Have you met his? How close are you to finalising an engagement and the nikkah? Has demonstrated signs of commitment in any other way(s)? | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/01/23 11:54 AM |
| 2 | Having a tough time moving on from religious guy because I don’t understand him. I think there’s something deeply wrong with him so I don’t think I’ll stop thinking about him until I think I have a semblance of understanding.I’m a lawyer, so I can make arguments all the time for why something is justifiable. I can dance circles around people using intent as a basis. But, if someone laughs inappropriately at a funeral and doesn’t think it’s wrong, then I would think there was something “wrong” with them. It’s not about just about the action, it’s how they feel about doing it. To invade someone’s privacy and to not understand why it’s wrong… either you’re stupid or there’s something psychologically off. And you don’t … | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/01/23 09:07 AM |
| 2 | Having a tough time moving on from religious guy because I don’t understand him. I think there’s something deeply wrong with him so I don’t think I’ll stop thinking about him until I think I have a semblance of understanding.By extrapolation, you could argue that if a person see a kid with two oranges, steal one, and say there was no harm to the kid because they have an orange tree. It’s not wrong in your theory that no one was harmed, but it’s theft. PS the Nazis felt what they did wasn’t wrong either. You can justify anything if you say “it’s not against MY morals.” And it is very much an indicator of ASPD. Edit: not fixing my typos. | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/01/23 07:38 AM |
| 5 | Having a tough time moving on from religious guy because I don’t understand him. I think there’s something deeply wrong with him so I don’t think I’ll stop thinking about him until I think I have a semblance of understanding.Hold. Up. You don’t think reading his private “diary” was wrong? Now. I personally don’t believe in absolute truths. I consider myself morally ambiguous. I sleep well at night. And I see why you’ve never done anything “wrong”, even though you invaded his privacy… You set standards of morality for yourself and those standards are low. Turn it around and ask yourself how many people you’ve hurt, and that should give you an indication as to whether a confessional is in order. Edit: holy guacamole I… | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/01/23 07:22 AM |
| 1 | Help me ! Love TrianglePls don’t take this the wrong way but make better choices. Your ex cheated on you. You don’t have to be cool with him. He gets no say in your life. He deserve the power you’re giving him. And his buddy… it’s a bit of a game for him, an opportunity to hook up with the ex. The best friend’s ex is a whole weird cliche. So yea. Better choices. | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/01/23 10:36 PM |
| 2 | How to maintain the masculine / feminine balance when I make more money than my partner?This is great advice. My husband pays for most things. Sometimes, I’ll offer to pay when we go out and that’s fine. But, if he ever leaves his wallet at home, I hand him my card. He often offers to pay me right back but I almost always decline as he takes care of so much and I can generally afford it. | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/01/23 05:02 PM |
| 7 | seriously how are you doing it?You describe your partners as horrible, negative, abusive, and a man child. And yet you gave so much of yourself to them. These men are not good men, so why did you do it? | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/01/23 10:12 AM |
| 3 | seriously how are you doing it?I met my husband on Tinder and know a lot of success stories on the app front. The next thing is: Why do you stick around for anything longer than a minute when they don’t treat you well? They don’t go 0 to 100 in a second. It’s gradual and you’re meant to leave them once you see red flags. Lastly, it sounds like you may have some personal issues that you may need to work on. When a LTR is concerned, a man who’s solid and stable is usually going to want a woman who’s solid and stable. You’re not… | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/01/23 09:28 AM |
| 3 | What music artists makes you most feel in your femininity?I agree that we are / can be more than that but I also think everyone has a different journey. Sometimes it’s not a deep journey or maybe it’s just a shallow moment. For me, that’s okay because I am a mix of frivolous and deep and everything in between. | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/01/23 03:59 PM |
| 3 | What music artists makes you most feel in your femininity?That’s fair. I’m not fully on top of what constitutes RP theory but I know Fascinating Womanhood is recommended reading (when I joined at least). I gave it a twirl because I’ll read anything and, in that context, this post makes sense to me. But I have seen a lot of “this doesn’t belong here” types of comments on different posts and maybe it’s time for an overhaul in terms of what does and doesn’t go here. | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/01/23 03:33 PM |
| 5 | What music artists makes you most feel in your femininity?This sounds quite mean. I listen to all types of music. Avenged Sevenfold and Rage get me super amped. And 00s pop gets me in the mood for a fun night out. And some songs make me feel more in touch with my femininity than others. I wfh and I’m a senior. I made this little break in our day, where my secretary and junior and I take turns choosing a song and listening to it “together” even though we’re physically apart. They love it. It’s a great way to ramp up our energy levels and clear out whate… | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/01/23 02:59 PM |
| 3 | What music artists makes you most feel in your femininity?I think dream pop and shoe gaze are two genres that are romantic and feminine, sometimes mysterious, sometimes dreamy, sometimes whimsical. It’s not the artists or the lyrics per se, but the Atmosphere. | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/01/23 02:53 PM |
| 3 | Is it possible to have a relationship without games or power dynamics? What is love even?My parents were the gold standard with this. And, it hasn’t always been this way with my now husband, but we are moving quickly in that direction. The difficulty is always ego. And you put your ego away when you feel safe enough to be totally vulnerable. And that takes time. | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/01/23 01:24 PM |
| 2 | He wants me to lose weightThat’s really interesting actually. My TDEE is minimum 1500 on average day (wfh, sedentary) and it’s because I’m a shortie. My goal is to average 1700 a day though because I eat erratically. Like everything or nothing. My appetite is a mess :’) | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/01/23 05:42 PM |
| 5 | He wants me to lose weightI’m 5’3 and my BMR alone is 1300cal. How is it even possible to be 5’10 with a TDEE of 1230? How low is your BMR? Edit: I got the numbers wrong but the point remains. | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/01/23 03:43 PM |
| -1 | Why are some women obsessed with independence?I don’t know. She seems happy and I know for a fact she doesn’t want kids. Other people have said I’ve used this as an opportunity to look down on her and gloat, maybe I have I really don’t know. I need to reflect on that because it wasn’t my intention. The point of my post was just to say it’s okay to depend on your partner for certain things, but that society has a problem with it. I’ve also been called incompetent multiple times here and feel like I’m on trial. Now imagine trying to have this… | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/01/23 08:49 AM |
| -1 | Why are some women obsessed with independence?With swimming, I’ve explained myself so many times here. I float, I flounder, I’m slow, I’m not going to drown, I’ve had to swim once in the past 10 years (in Thailand) so I don’t think about it 99% of the time. I also posted about hiking the other day asking for advice. I’m working on that one. But hiking where I’m from isn’t just a walk. Here are some recent death stats for the place a few hundred meters from my house: https://www.iol.co.za/weekend-argus/news/39-people-rescued-from-table-mount… | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/01/23 08:36 AM |
| 0 | Why are some women obsessed with independence?Urgh I’ve addressed this elsewhere. I can swim enough to stay alive but not to snorkel because I’m really really slow and I flounder around so it wouldn’t have been enjoyable. I would’ve benefited from being able to swim once in the last 10 years so I’m not focusing on it. And I just wouldn’t have snorkelled if I didn’t have my husband. The point is that my husband has nothing to do with my decision. I’ve been having swimming issues way before I met him. | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/01/23 08:00 AM |
| 3 | Why are some women obsessed with independence?This makes a lot of sense to my sensibilities. I met him when I was 29 and I got pretty far by myself. Pretty far is good enough for me and I don’t need to do the “myself” bit anymore. I can see quite a few people disagree with the idea of dependency being okay in a marriage. I get where they’re coming from, but I just don’t agree that it’s all equal for everyone. If you or your partner requires independence, then great. I don’t think independence is a problem, it’s just not priority. My husband… | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/01/23 07:30 PM |
| 1 | Why are some women obsessed with independence?See last line of post: “I can’t actually say this to anyone in my life and it makes me sad.” I’m not distancing myself from her because she has a different view. She’s entitled to her opinion, which is popular opinion. Hence not really wanting to share mine, knowing I can’t change anyone’s views. | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/01/23 07:15 PM |
| -1 | Why are some women obsessed with independence?I don’t think co-dependent means what you think it does. https://www.happierhuman.com/codependent-traits/ https://psychcentral.com/lib/symptoms-signs-of-codependency My husband never needed to cook. Both of us are in corporate / business, so we’ve run the gamut when it comes to pre-cooked, meal kits, take out. When i was single, i worked such a demanding job that i never cooked. Now that’s just him. Thankfully, even with my less demanding job, it means that money isn’t an issue. And I know what … | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/01/23 06:34 PM |
| 4 | Why are some women obsessed with independence?I replied to a comment earlier and agree with this take completely. It’s one of the things that I find so attractive about rp theory. You can’t be dependent on an undependable man - but, you pick the right man, and you can depend on each other with confidence. | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/01/23 03:24 PM |
| 0 | Why are some women obsessed with independence?I agree. My friend comes from a broken home and has always had to rely on herself, my background is different and I believe that I don’t have to be independent because I have my husband and, if for any reason I don’t, then my family to back me up always. But I don’t agree that “nobody said it was an issue to be dependent on a partner” because everyone says that. Independence is idealised. Dependence is demonised. And imo the reason is because people have stopped taking care of the people that th… | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/01/23 03:23 PM |
| 0 | Why are some women obsessed with independence?This!!! I was also sheltered growing up. My parents were in a loving relationship. My dad died but my mum still has my back, as does my brother and even extended family. Being “independent” has never been a major life goal for me. I can take care of myself but I’m happy and grateful that I don’t have to. If times change, I’ll adapt - but independence imo is overrated if you’ve got a solid support base, especially when it goes beyond just your husband. It seems like a coping mechanism for circums… | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/01/23 02:33 PM |
| 2 | Why are some women obsessed with independence?That is very much true and it comes from a place of internalised mistrust. I just wish it didn’t always devolve into a Independent Woman TM from my friend and most people I know. (Similar spiel about my husband being an adult not a toddler if he says he wouldn’t eat properly if I wasn’t around.) | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/01/23 02:26 PM |
| 1 | Why are some women obsessed with independence?That’s fair. I checked with my husband if he had any issues now, he said he doesn’t, he’s here to take care of me, and that he prefers that I join him (where he can make sure I’m fine) than not. Still, it’s always good to check in. When we snorkelled, we went in a tour group and had life jackets. There were other Tour groups around. There was someone on standby for emergencies in each tour group and we didn’t go beyond where our guide said we were safe. Plus, as I’ve said, I’m not going to drown… | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/01/23 12:53 PM |
| 0 | Do you think men care about women still living at home?Well I’ve been to Turkey and have Turkish friends. They’re light skinned and some of them have coloured eyes, but they’re still Turkish? Anyway. It wasn’t the point. | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/01/23 12:31 PM |
| 1 | Do you think men care about women still living at home?Yes, as I said, I thought he was Turkish and sorry for making that assumption. | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/01/23 12:14 PM |
| 1 | Do you think men care about women still living at home?Ah sorry for the assumption. I thought your SO was Turkish and didn’t expect that you were of Turkish descent from rural USA. I just found that the kind of repulsion your SO feels is a culture clash. | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/01/23 12:10 PM |
| 14 | Women do you always want to be with the highest ranking male in the room? Even if he ranks higher than your husband?Just because there is a man in the room who is more capable than your husband, doesn’t mean that that man wants to care for you in the same way. In relation to your husband, the same would apply to a woman who is younger and more beautiful than you. Of course, if your sole determinative for a partner are those traits and things like the experiences you’ve shared, humour, kindness, understanding your SO and the love you built together don’t factor, it’s a shallow relationship and loyalty is out t… | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/01/23 11:56 AM |
| 17 | Why are some women obsessed with independence?I think that’s true but I’m a commercial litigator. I have my own property which I purchased at 23. I’ve travelled overseas by myself. If I choose to become more athletic at a later stage, then cool, I’ll do it. But I’m not doing it for “independence”. Same with him if he decides to start planning meals, checking macros and nutrition, making sure our pantry is properly stocked, cooking, making sure the house is tidy, instructing our helper, etc. I don’t think we need to be independent right now.… | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/01/23 10:20 AM |
| 7 | Disrespect will be your DownfallI think most mothers have this trait. I think some men have this trait, but in relation to the women they love. Very few men have a desire to protect all women. It’s why domestic violence activists are hardly ever me. Anyway, I have a man who would protect me and his mum and our future children with his life. I see the responsibility he has placed on himself and, even though I am independent on paper, I have the privilege of less worrying because he takes care of things. And the least I can give… | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/01/23 08:58 AM |
| -1 | Do you think men care about women still living at home?I’m also in an interracial relationship. My husband is white and grew up middle class. He’s very proud of his independence but I find his parents’ treatment cold and aloof given he was just 18. We are divided on what we would for our kids and I’ve told him chucking kids out at 18 is “a poor person thing”. Idk if I’m right tho it’s just that I’ve not seen rich people do this very much. | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/01/23 08:12 AM |
| 1 | Banned from “off my chest” for being in this subredditI know I have, but I’ve seen more since. I wasn’t even subscribed to r/offmychest at the time. | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/01/23 12:50 PM |
| 1 | Is it fair.I would go on to say that one of the only reasons I am not expressly RP is because of how TRP is. If being red pilled is just how it’s presented on this sub, then I am. But I think it’s more than that and I just don’t ascribe to the way men on TRP speak about women. Conversely, on this sub, men are seen as valuable and we speak about them respectfully. Men on TRP do not speak about us the same way. | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/01/23 09:30 AM |
| 2 | Is it fair.YES!!! I was just thinking about how I this sub is being infiltrated by men. When I first joined, men weren’t supposed to be commenting and posting. I have no problem with men, but this isn’t their platform. I want to talk to likeminded women - if I wanted men’s perspectives, I’d go somewhere else. Also, I have received DMs from guys here and it makes me uncomfortable. | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/01/23 09:26 AM |
| 1 | BF Meeting Friend He's Slept with BeforeI think this sub is very trad but it ls rp based. Just my two cents. Edit: here’s the reference from one of the mods that I saw a while ago and revisit anytime I need a refresher - https://www.reddit.com/r/RedPillWomen/comments/mdr62i/tradcon_is_rpw_but_rpw_is_not_tradcon/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=iossmf | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/01/23 10:42 PM |
| 1 | Camping tips please.Holy cannoli that’s a game changer! I’m running down to disrupt my husband’s work day to ask him about whether we should do this. (And no he doesn’t mind, he’s got some new office gear he wants to show me anyway.) | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/01/23 11:42 AM |
| 5 | Camping tips please.I won’t get a Urinella in time but it’s definitely a great investment if we get more into camping so thank you! I also specifically bought a bag that fits my body. I had to demonstrate to my husband how that pack sat differently on my boobs than the other. It’s more expensive but worth it. The only issue is that it’s a daypack lol so it’s not very big but I think that I need to start with something that fits jussst so before I work my way up and he approves of the bag so I’m good. I did end up g… | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/01/23 08:56 AM |
| 2 | Camping tips please.I love that and you’re right. Great opportunity for us! | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/01/23 07:41 AM |
| 2 | Camping tips please.Ah makeup wipes I had forgotten! I was going to take a bottle of micellar water and cotton pads but I suppose I can’t. | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/01/23 07:40 AM |
| 2 | Camping tips please.I have socks and my husband will give me his poles, thanks! | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/01/23 07:39 AM |
| 2 | Camping tips please.Thank you! This is comprehensive and I’ll be revisiting it for packing :) | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/01/23 07:39 AM |
| 3 | His ex-girlfriend looks way better than meThe sucky thing is that he’s probably not with you just for your looks - that’s a bit of a bitter pill to swallow. But he’s with you for more than that. And looks fade. | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/01/23 04:32 PM |
| 9 | How to tell if a man is a leader or a dictator?Noted: I’ve heard Tate. I’m not fully red pilled. I think a lot of what he says has merit and value. His Tater Tots fixate on the things he says that give their meritless existences validation. He enables their belief that money will buy their success with women in general and that the only reason the Tots are struggling in life (with women) is because their ships haven’t come in. And he’s got as much class as a dingo in a tux. | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/01/23 11:40 AM |
| 1 | Not quite sure what else I can do to prove my worthSure I don’t think anyone is forcing OP to stay. She has a really high n count. The guy tried to get over it and he can’t. Idk rp theory very well but I feel like he’s being demonised a bit unnecessarily. | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/01/23 07:36 AM |
| 6 | Not quite sure what else I can do to prove my worthI completely agree with that bit. I understand if you have an issue with it (even if I don’t like it), but I loathe dragging people down the garden path. The only saving grace I can offer is that, sometimes, a person genuinely believes they can get over something. With good intentions - but then they can’t despite their efforts. | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/01/23 10:33 AM |
| 4 | Not quite sure what else I can do to prove my worthYea it’s childish but it’s the world we live in. I’m not judging and I know there are men that don’t care. But how many traditional men want a woman whose slept with 42 men? I think it’s best that they don’t know. The past is the past for a reason. And this kind of information shouldn’t be paraded. | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/01/23 07:45 AM |
| 6 | Not quite sure what else I can do to prove my worthUrgh I hate myself for saying this and I hope you don’t take it badly. I don’t know why you were “promiscuous” but likely because of the rush of validation and attention it brought. You gave yourself up physically because it brought you what you craved. You’re doing exactly the same thing now: except society is more onboard with women giving themselves up emotionally than physically. You’re doing the same thing imo for the same reasons - except you’re giving up your heart and your time instead o… | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/01/23 07:39 AM |
| 1 | Advice for a woman who is ready for marriage but has Mummy issues.My bestie’s mum has so many qualities of someone with narcissistic personality disorder. So, no personal experience, but I’ve loved this along with her. Therapy is hugely important. Finding the right therapist is really hard. And, if therapy isn’t an option, I would start by trying to identify how your relationship with your mother negatively impacts your life. For example, my friend is a people-pleaser when she’s in love but she’s also very confrontational because her rights were also ignored. … | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/01/23 07:24 AM |
| 2 | Is there anything you wish you did in your relationship before falling pregnant?This is so thorough and helpful, thank you so much. I agree re shoutiness. I certainly don’t have the stomach for it and I have a freeze personality. But we’re actively working on that one regardless of baby. | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/01/23 08:17 PM |
| 1 | Is there anything you wish you did in your relationship before falling pregnant?Super smart. Thanks for the tip! | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/01/23 08:06 PM |
| 3 | Is there anything you wish you did in your relationship before falling pregnant?A lot of the parents I know have struggled travelling with infants. I also personally love spontaneity with travelling (i once booked a trip to Bali on three weeks notice) so I don’t expect it to be the same kind of experience. Still, I’m I’m really happy it worked out that way for you. Gives me hope :) | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/01/23 05:38 PM |
| 5 | Is there anything you wish you did in your relationship before falling pregnant?Thank you for sharing your experience. I have heard about the sexism in the medical field and I’ve watched it destroy women’s souls. So perspective is really important and I appreciate your candor. | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/01/23 05:34 PM |
| 9 | Is there anything you wish you did in your relationship before falling pregnant?This is super random but I love you. This is such great advice as my bestie was forced to wait for exactly the reason you said and I never thought yo lie. | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/01/23 05:20 PM |
| 3 | Is there anything you wish you did in your relationship before falling pregnant?I’m done with parties lol. Never thought I’d ever say that but my 20s were good to me. | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/01/23 05:18 PM |
| 4 | Is there anything you wish you did in your relationship before falling pregnant?I love this. I do wish my husband and I got together sooner but I also don’t wish my experiences before him away. I just wish the bio clock didn’t tick so hard. | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/01/23 04:19 PM |
| 1 | Is there anything you wish you did in your relationship before falling pregnant?I hope you find all of that and more. Having a group of women who are there for me and have my back always is such power. | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/01/23 03:57 PM |
| 8 | Is there anything you wish you did in your relationship before falling pregnant?You’re so right about Reddit making relationships sound perfect. I do think that I’m mature (I guess I have almost a decade on you from when you had your first baby) but I have so much room to grow! I also know we’ll never be ready, but I’m hoping that there are certain things I can do in preparation. I’m really nervous about being a mum. Edit: you’re also right about micromanaging. That’s something I’ll need to watch out for, knowing me, for sure. | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/01/23 12:36 PM |
| 5 | Is there anything you wish you did in your relationship before falling pregnant?You’re right, of course. I was thinking along the lines of travelling just you and your partner, which has been a very special experience for me and my husband. I do have friends who travel with their nannies but, while we’ll have help locally, I can’t really afford trips with a nanny. | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/01/23 12:34 PM |
| 3 | Is there anything you wish you did in your relationship before falling pregnant?Yes, it’s the travel bit that’s getting to me. My husband and I have both travelled but we’ve only been overseas together once. We do plan on getting a full time nanny (and night nurse but only for the first 6 months). But that won’t help so much with travel. | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/01/23 11:42 AM |
| 4 | Internalized misogynyWomen don’t come up to me with that. I’m in a relationship with a man who loves and cares for me, it’s very obvious that I want to do the feminine things that I do, and I have a successful career. My dad loved and adored me. My biggest difficulty in life is managing my ADHD and that has nothing to do with men and I manage it quite well even without meds so… | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/01/23 08:13 AM |
| 5 | All about being FeminineTry honeyjubu! She’s a Korean housewife who cooks and cleans and practices balance. It’s gorgeous. | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/01/23 01:39 PM |
| 0 | Truly platonic friendships between men and women rarely exist - and men are the reason.I think that you know you are friends with someone of the opposite sex* when they are in a relationship and you then hang out / become friends with their partner. I have male friends. Recently, one of them was visiting from overseas and I invited him to quite a large get together. My husband and him aren’t tight but they get along and my husband suggested inviting him over for a couple of drinks before he went back. When he was here the last time, I went on a hike with him and another friend aft… | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/01/23 12:01 PM |
| 1 | What do you think of girls paying on the first date?Something similar would apply to guys in college I think. But I wouldn’t write a good guy off if he split the bill on the first date. My husband paid for dinner and then I paid for drinks afterwards on our first date. I offered and he accepted and tbh I wasn’t the biggest fan of that move lol but he takes care of most food related expenses now (and other things). | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/01/23 06:44 AM |
| 4 | What do you think of girls paying on the first date?In my experience, more traditional men don’t do this (very few men, even less traditional ones, have). But I never went out as and with a teenager expecting them to act like a husband at that age. It’s sort of like when people say you shouldn’t do a personality test before the age of 25 (or whatever it is) because they’re still growing. A guy that always pays on dates at 16 may do the opposite after a decade of dating and vice versa. Edit: it also depends a lot of what the dominant cultural norm… | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/01/23 07:27 PM |
| 4 | How to win a guy overYou recently got out of a relationship, you invited a guy out and got drunk, it’s been a couple of days… maybe just give yourself a minute to breathe and not chase? | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/01/23 05:18 PM |
| 3 | I feel so worthless as a womanI’m sorry that that’s what you experienced but that’s like saying “all Muslim people are terrorists” because you’ve had a negative experience. It’s understandable but it’s not excusable and it’s a sign you need therapy and healing. | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/01/23 06:36 AM |
| 11 | I feel so worthless as a womanYou don’t hate us, you don’t know us. You hate your family and your life, and need therapy to work through that trauma. But, until then, the only person here who is shoving dogma down anyone’s throat is you. | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/01/23 05:50 AM |
| 3 | What made you joint this community/subscribe to this school of thought?It’s really unfortunate because I don’t actually have a problem when people have different views to mine, but I get a bit frustrated when people condescend and patronise you for not conforming. At least we’re here now :D | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/01/23 03:22 PM |
| 10 | What made you joint this community/subscribe to this school of thought?So I’m going to go on a sliiight rant and it may sound like a bit of a brag, but i promise i have a point… I’m 31 with a law degree and other qualifications. I’m a practising attorney. My husband wants kids and I don’t mind having them, but if I do, I’ll probably keep working (remotely) and hire full time help. My husband is lovely: smart, financially more well-off than me (but a few years older), funny, and good-looking enough that people comment on his looks all the time. I am close to my fami… | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/01/23 02:20 PM |
| 14 | What made you joint this community/subscribe to this school of thought?It’s the least toxic place for women on Reddit. Even though I’m not fully RP, I have never been made to feel unwelcome or trying to indoctrinate me, and obviously I am mindful that this is a RP sub and always do my best to be respectful and upfront about my leaning. It’s all quid pro quo. The women here are genuinely helpful, practical, smart and honest. To me, this is what sisterhood is and I am inspired to be my best self, both in the real world and online. | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/01/23 08:13 AM |
| 7 | Women that went from blue- to red-pilled, how did it happen?I find this sub really valuable but always caveat when I respond that I am not red pill per se. This is because I think human beings are complex and one theory isn’t going to work for everyone and doesn’t have to. That said, I’m low-key red pill in a lot of what I do, as is my husband. It works for us. | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/01/23 07:53 AM |
| 5 | Second date and he wouldn’t take me to a restaurant?You met on a dating app. He planned a solid second date. You want / expect more and he has his own needs and expectations. All these exchanges are about learning if you’re compatible and maybe you’re just not. (He hasn’t done anything wrong, even if the second date was just drinks imo. Meeting someone on a dating app is precarious business.) | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/12/22 07:40 AM |
| 1 | How to slow down on physical touch?That’s fair. I still think a man who expects that isn’t a man worth pursuing a LTR with, but I can understand things aren’t black and white. Thanks for the discourse. Edit: the thanks is for taking the time to reiterate your point. I had obviously misinterpreted it. | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/10/22 08:43 AM |
| 3 | How to slow down on physical touch?I’m surprised that someone on this sub is advocating for sex before a relationship. OP, please think carefully no matter what anyone tells you about sex before a relationship. If a man needs sex from you before committing (which is not even guaranteed after you do it), and you’re on this sub - consider if he’s the kind of man you want. | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/10/22 07:27 AM |
| 3 | How to slow down on physical touch?Why should she have sex with someone she’s not in a relationship with? | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/10/22 07:09 AM |
| 3 | Should a lack of motivation be a deal breaker?Do you inspire his masculinity in any way or could you be emasculating him in any way? Does he inspire your femininity? Do you truly see him as the driver as yourself as the passenger? If not, are there any changes you can make organically? Can you inspire him to be a better man for you and your children? Only you know these things. Some of which you may still need to consider and figure out. I’m relatively well-respected in my field and have a masculine job. I’m successful. I’ve got more tertia… | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/10/22 11:29 PM |
| 3 | where do you RPW stand when it comes to having kids?People shouldn’t have kids unless and until they’re physically, mentally, emotionally and financially stable. Then they can have as many as they like (subject to them remaining stable, eg don’t have have more than 2 kids if it’ll mean your existing children have to go without). Financial stability imo includes being able to afford medical bills, including therapy if needed, until they receive undergrad degrees unless you’re in a country where those costs are covered. Ideally, you should be able … | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/10/22 10:23 PM |
| 2 | Did I struck gold?All these things but also admired and special. | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/10/22 02:37 PM |
| 1 | How would you want your husband to see you: she's so cute or she's so hot/sexyMy husband? Hot. Everyone else? Cute. | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/10/22 10:28 PM |
| 4 | My best friends left me because I chose to stay with my boyfriendFirstly, your friends are young and they lack the humility that can only learned from life knocking you around a bit. Secondly, it’s important to share sometimes (especially in abusive situations) and also important to vent and work through issues. Having friends who understand that this is what some relationships are like is important. Thirdly, my mother told me very clearly not to run to my friends and bad mouth my partner. They only see your version and it’s emotional and they very much have … | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/10/22 12:13 PM |
| 1 | Am I making the right decision here?I don’t know if this RPW-approved advice, but my mother taught me that you leave at the first sign of abuse. Here’s the thing: things might not work out with B, but A will always be the guy whose abusive behaviour you experienced firsthand. Also, you gave A every opportunity to change when you were together - he didn’t take it. He may well be one of those guys that’ll fight to get you back then take you for granted when he does. And, tbh, if you are willing to be with him after he was abusive an… | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/10/22 06:55 AM |
| 17 | Banned from a group for making a simple observation about the increasingly hostile attitudes toward men.Something I appreciate about RPW is that women are advised not to settle, to have reasonably high expectations, and to stay single instead of having situationships with undeserving men. There are other “more feminist” movements that suggest the same thing (different qualifiers, same premise). And what’s the key here? It’s agency and autonomy. I have a friend who married and a complete loser of a man. He is ungrateful, financially dependent on her, and mean (among other worse things, I could go o… | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/10/22 06:41 PM |
| 9 | Ladies, please heed the advice hereI needed to hear this, thank you. I’ve been feeling a little miserable recently (ADHD) but I think practising gratitude and just taking little actions like this will be great. I’ll also read the book. | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/10/22 08:30 AM |
| 2 | Virgin at 20 - INFJ - ConflictedEveryone has made valid comments about virginity but, as someone who enjoys MBTI (ESTP), please take my advice here: do not focus on your MBTI type. Doing that is as sound as saying “I’m like this / this is happening because I’m a Pisces.” I’ve seen people get really attached to these labels and it stunts growth. | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/10/22 08:12 AM |
| 3 | any habits/traditions you do for your family that they love?My mum once worked between 6am and 9am so she would miss school runs, but she’d leave me notes. She also would watch animated movies with us and LOVED them. Her general enthusiasm for play made me feel like she was having a good time and not like she was just doing things with us because we were her kids and she was obligated. And my dad and I were really close too and I have a whole bunch of memories that I cherish with him. Watching sports on weekends when i was older, and, when i was younger,… | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/10/22 09:50 AM |
| 7 | Is it possible to balance a career with being a rpw?I’m not fully RPW so take this with a pinch of salt. I’m a litigator and a really good one, too. Super feminine in every other way and it’s not fake. I don’t know how I do it but I even bring feminine energy to my job, while taking out the competition at the same time. Seriously, even my opponents like me and send me emails about how much they love working with me. My clients are almost always really happy with the work and so are my superiors. I do enjoy using strategy to come out on top and I … | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/10/22 09:45 AM |
| 1 | Is it true that couples who move in before marriage are 33% more likely to divorced?Check if the stat was published in a peer-reviewed academic journal and whether there are any other contrary stats to be found in similar sources. If everything checks out, then it’s true. Reddit has no idea. | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/10/22 10:06 AM |
| 4 | How to heal from being alpha widowed?Thanks, Ms Pearl. I didn’t see any other posts but I see the other comments on this one and it does seem like a messy situation… OP, if you want genuine advice, tell the whole and honest story. Otherwise it’s just a bit of a waste for all concerned. Good luck though. | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/10/22 01:34 PM |
| 3 | How to heal from being alpha widowed?You’ve asked a very specific question and I’m going to try to respond as simply as I can. The following are relevant: - He was on his best behaviour because he was trying to impress you, whether just for sex or assess relationship potential is irrelevant. - You’ve idealised him in your head, based on interactions over a very short period - interactions characterised by him behaving in a way to persuade you to give him what he wanted. Tall, rich, charismatic, wonderful men do exist. If that’s som… | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/10/22 01:14 PM |
| 8 | In Need of AdviceYou’re right. | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/10/22 12:07 PM |
| 9 | Husband took off his wedding ringIf it’s about comfort, he can wear a silicone ring. The symbolism is important. | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/10/22 10:50 AM |
| 3 | How many women Lie about body count?Well, I do think it’s crude to ask those kinds of questions because, as I’m not fully RP, I don’t think your past defines you and I wouldn’t like being asked that question regardless of what my answer is. But yea. Maybe I’m an outlier here on this one. | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/10/22 07:17 AM |
| 12 | How many women Lie about body count?I’d rather be loved for the real version of myself so i vote honesty. But I know it’s complicated and also depends a lot on the dominant culture of where you are from. | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/10/22 08:40 PM |
| 2 | What should I do tonight?Actually, one of my friends tried to call me but I honestly enjoyed the solitude. | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/10/22 09:21 AM |
| 3 | What should I do tonight?Idk who downvoted you but it does. I stayed in and did a bit of cleaning, I feel so so good. I know he’s going to appreciate it. I’ve given him time to miss me (and he does because he’s texted me a few times to tell me how much he loves me and how happy he is when I’m around - and I’m around 24/7 because we both work from home so it’s easy to take my presence for granted). He gets a boys night, a tidy beyond usual home, and a relaxed wife. If I was him, I’d be thrilled! | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/10/22 07:36 PM |
| 4 | What should I do tonight?I feel pretty blessed as, although I work, I read almost every day and I get my nails done every 2-3 weeks (depending on the colour I’ve got on). I have no idea what self-care looks like but I feel pretty good with the sparkly home now. And yea, I figured because we had (his) plans today and tomorrow, he’d want to veg tonight. I’m blessed again because we live in a beautiful city and do things all the time - just not proper date nights at home (we went away for 3 days to another coastal town las… | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/10/22 07:34 PM |
| 1 | What should I do tonight?I think this whole evening was my evening of self-care because I listened to cheesy 90s/00s British pop super loud and spent about 2 hours just polishing every surface in the lounge/dining area and our bedroom (I skipped the guest room and gym) and I feel this dopamine hit because I accomplished something. We both work from and have help once a week for the big things, so tonight I just got into all the things our helper doesn’t have time for. And it feels so good. Weird, I know, but if I didn’t… | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/10/22 07:29 PM |
| 3 | What should I do tonight?Your own or meet his? Update: it’s super windy and cold now. My husband said he just wants me to be happy and comfortable and he won’t be late. So I’ll tidy up. (I don’t actually clean anything ever, we have a weekly helper, but we both work so get a liiittle haphazard during the week…) | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/10/22 05:23 PM |
| 3 | hubby said he wants some cologne!Check this out: https://www.fashionbeans.com/article/mens-fragrance-aftershave-cologne-guide/ Pay attention to the fragrance families (categories of scents). Idk why but I lean toward Woody or Leather. I find Leather based to be more overpowering and my favourite scents are fresher. Once you have identified a family type, look at perfumes that fall into that category and check out their reviews, the different notes, etc. Lots of deep diving but I don’t think it’s safe to leave fragrance to stran… | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/07/22 04:47 PM |
| 12 | My husband wants me to change jobs but I love where I work. Thoughts?You have a job, that you like, even though it’s so dangerous that you were sexually assaulted at work*. Your husband is concerned for your safety and doesn’t want you in that environment - reasonable reaction. You need to decide if it’s more important to you to do this dangerous job** or for your husband to have peace of mind. What do you expect us to add here? *you were sexually assaulted. There may have been intervention before the assault turned physical, but if someone is about to sexually a… | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/07/22 02:52 PM |
| 5 | Handling break up gracefully & healingMy advice would be that you do a lot more work on yourself and let him reach out to you if and when he’s ready. Easier said than done, but don’t work on yourself for him or with your relationship in mind. Just work on yourself. | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/07/22 02:08 PM |
| 1 | hubby said he wants some cologne!What’s his personality like? What are his tastes? The way he sees himself and wants others to see him? Not his job. | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/07/22 12:28 PM |
| 12 | How to truly know when a man likes/is interested in you?Probably an unpopular opinion, but I think a masculine man wouldn’t be shy to approach you if he was interested. That said, you guys work together and he may think it’s inappropriate. I agree with the other comment, suggesting a smile. I would add even saying hi (provided you do this with other colleagues) in the corridor - because saying hello to colleagues is polite and feminine. That will signal you are open to speaking with him. I wouldn’t go beyond this at all though. | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/07/22 08:25 AM |
| 1 | Should I fake having friends?Do you not want friends? | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/07/22 06:24 AM |
| 2 | How to communicate betterBeen here, not too long ago. My now husband thanks me for supporting him every day and I feel my needs are met. Breathe. Honestly, every time you want to go off, think about the big picture and whether it’s worth eroding your relationship over. Usually it’s not. Identify exactly (to the minute detail) what would make you feel more fulfilled. Speak to your boyfriend about it when you are both in a calm and loving space. Don’t ambush him. I find a simple “how come you don’t do x?” (How come? is a … | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/07/22 08:46 PM |
| 2 | How do I return to, protect, and define my feminity?Thank you for the feedback, I’m really glad this resonated. I can confirm you will have a more peaceful existence when you abandon the extremist agenda ♡ | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/07/22 06:57 PM |
| 3 | How do I return to, protect, and define my feminity?I have to tell you, one of my friends is a SJW and tends to hate on men any chance she gets. Yet she wants a relationship (with a man) so badly. I don’t get it. Yes, the patriarchy and misogyny are problems but there are lines. It’s way more freeing not to hate men. It doesn’t mean that there aren’t issues, but you’ll find you have so much more time now. PS I am not fully red pilled, I’m a moderate. | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/07/22 11:02 AM |
| 2 | Losing weight as a naturally curvy woman?Just to back you up OP, I was curvy when I was medically underweight. I carry everything in my boobs, hips, thighs and ass - quint hourglass. | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/07/22 06:13 AM |
| 1 | Losing weight as a naturally curvy woman?I lost 4kg in 5 months by going off birth control, doing 30 minutes of yoga in the morning (weekdays), ditching sugary drinks (for sparkling water), and just eating less (but not changing my diet too much). I don’t drink much but I stick with wine, unless I’m out at a bar, then it’s vodka, something da, fresh lime. I also try to eat before I go out so I’m not super hungry at a restaurant. Restaurant calories are at least double whatever the home made equivalent is. I wfh so get very few steps in… | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/07/22 06:12 AM |
| 4 | Help him become a man?I would like to understand how he would be if he was more of a man. What do you envision he would do differently? | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/07/22 05:16 AM |
| 9 | What is the RedPill Women’s views on men wearing nail polish?Hahaha this is so cute. Not even being sarcastic. Because you’re right. I definitely wouldn’t do my nails (twice a month at the salon) if I wasn’t privileged enough to never have to lift a finger beyond typing. | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/07/22 06:45 AM |
| 18 | What is the RedPill Women’s views on men wearing nail polish?Really depends on the guy and also their age. But I’m from a world where guyliner was a whole thing when I was in high school because emo era and I loved it then. It’s big rockstar / couture energy but I wouldn’t want to see a French manicure on a businessman. Nor have I. ALSO other than rockstars, David Beckham stepped out with pink nail polish and a sarong around 20 years ago. I don’t think it matters so much if the guy can pull it off without looking effeminate. | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/07/22 06:42 AM |
| 3 | Modern wimpy menWho’s offended? Who’s even acting offended? I’m sharing my experience and giving advice about how to waste less time with guys who don’t share your values. I get you don’t think it’s good advice (even though it works for me). But you should also accept that not everyone shares your lower standard and won’t be as tolerant of time wasting on dates as you. | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/07/22 07:49 AM |
| 5 | Modern wimpy menI’ve not had an issue with this since I started being upfront. My husband and I texted for a week or so while we awaited our first date and, at the first date, we spoke about kids and my views on my role raising children and desire to be a primary parent. I wasn’t even necessarily looking to settle down at that moment but I made the upfront messages very clear and yea obviously we got married and I’m happy. Edit: to clarify, I can’t remember exactly what but I know I would’ve alluded to my expec… | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/07/22 07:38 AM |
| 6 | Had to cut my hair short, my bf prefers it long. So sad.I do think it’s a little callous he said he preferred your longer hair knowing that you had to cut it as a result of health issues. I’m sure he didn’t mean it badly and I wouldn’t take it to heart. Your hair will be long again soon and this time it’ll be healthy and you will maintain it in that way and all will be well. | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/07/22 01:24 PM |
| 2 | How do we not waste our life by working?I would start by asking him what he would do if he had all the time and money in the world. Try to introduce the question spontaneously and in a fun, light way so he doesn’t feel any pressure. For example, you could say “If I was rich, I’d go to Italy for a year and just explore. And I’d hire a personal chef. And I would become a venture capitalist focusing on sustainable businesses. I’d also stop setting an alarm and wake up whenever I liked. What would you do if you had all the time and money … | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/07/22 08:44 AM |
| 2 | Cleaning Tips, Please!During lockdown (about two months), when we were all under full lockdown, I finally got cleaning down pat. I had a large 2-bed, 2-bathroom apartment - and I lived alone. It’s probably the tidiest my house has ever been because I made sure I followed through every day. Additional context: I’m from South Africa and it’s probably a bit of a culture shock to say this, but maids are very common. So, during lockdown, I pretty much kept my own place in order just by myself, for the first time. Basicall… | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/07/22 11:17 PM |
| 1 | Struggling to lose weight.So make sure your calorie deficit plans are correct for you. You don’t want to under eat and will need to assess your height, weight and activity level. You also may want to check your thyroid function and hormone levels if you are eating at the correct deficit but still aren’t losing weight. Ideally, you’d discuss all of this with your doctor. Assuming you’re all in order health wise, given your height, you will want to check out r/1500isplenty. PS: - Don’t eyeball when calorie counting. Get an… | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/07/22 05:51 PM |
| 12 | Redpill Success storyI love this for you! I’m one of those people that is cognisant of how a ring actually symbolises a man’s success, as much as how much he values you. I’m well aware it’s not a true reflection, but our outer appearances do send a message and I love that your man understands the way the ring affects people’s perceptions of both of you! So wonderful that you are on the same page. | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/07/22 03:37 PM |
| 4 | My boyfriend who makes six figures annually thinks a good budget for an engagement ring is $1,000 or below.The problem isn’t how much he’s willing to spend on it but whether you’re aligned on values. I can understand other people saying it’s a frivolous purchase but, if it’s important to you, and it is something you will wear every day, and your boyfriend can afford to get you something better - I can’t see why it’s an issue for him to get you the ring you would be happy with. The ring isn’t for him, it’s for you. And if everything we did was measured by how “frivolous” or “practical” it was, with pr… | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/07/22 08:34 AM |
| 1 | Struggling to lose weight.How tall are you? How did you gain weight? | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/07/22 08:00 AM |
| 8 | Why is there such a stark difference in how charming 90s actresses were in interviews vs now?100%. I’m not one of those people that cares what the people next to me are doing so, regardless of who I am, I much prefer a world where women (and men) can choose who they want to be - and if that’s a sweetheart, great. But, if not, cool. It doesn’t mean we’ll hang out, but I’m just one of those people that believes that, while femininity is important to me, it wouldn’t necessarily make the next person happy. So I’m glad that I’m not forced to play any role I don’t want to play and same for ev… | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/07/22 05:32 PM |
| 10 | Why is there such a stark difference in how charming 90s actresses were in interviews vs now?Definitely. It’s all about perception. | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/07/22 03:23 PM |
| 108 | Why is there such a stark difference in how charming 90s actresses were in interviews vs now?They were much less accessible and they were not encouraged to “be themselves”. Celebrities are directly accessible to us via social media now. | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/07/22 01:54 PM |
| 2 | Is it wrong if I unmatch a man for taking 4 days to replyThat’s 100%. Although, with that said, you’ve not met him yet and I personally wouldn’t invest too much in someone I haven’t met. I wouldn’t write him off for this kind of behaviour before you meet him, only if he does this afterwards. Edit: just to add, my ex and I met on Tinder and he did make time to text me before we met. But this was way back in 2015, which was very early Tinder days in my area. I don’t think it would be the same now. | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/07/22 11:42 AM |
| 3 | I grew my hair for my boyfriend, and now I cut it shortIf you don’t trim regularly, the longer hair may look scraggy and you can’t recover unless you chop again. I’d rather grow slowly, once and for all, than have scraggy hair and restart the process. | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/07/22 10:11 AM |
| 2 | I grew my hair for my boyfriend, and now I cut it shortI don’t relate literally but I know how I’d feel without long hair. I’d feel sad. | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/07/22 10:09 AM |
| 2 | Am I not good enough?Date outside your race? | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/07/22 10:03 AM |
| 2 | Is it wrong if I unmatch a man for taking 4 days to replyMy ex was an investment banker. He’s now VP of his division. He worked his ass off. He had time to text me. I worked in Big Law in my country. It’s not as intense but i had my share of 24+ hour days and averaging 14-16 hours a day. I made time. | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/07/22 07:26 AM |
| 6 | Anyone here part of a WFH couple? What have been the highlights, lowlights, and things you’ve learned?LOL the women here for sure know men. | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/07/22 02:02 PM |
| 5 | Anyone here part of a WFH couple? What have been the highlights, lowlights, and things you’ve learned?That’s been sort of my plan now. I wear the leggings as pants. Idk if you call them tights where you are but basically yoga pants. And then I figure I’ll wear a cuter top. | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/07/22 11:46 AM |
| 6 | Anyone here part of a WFH couple? What have been the highlights, lowlights, and things you’ve learned?I love this life for us. I think wfh is the perfect, perfect compromise for those women who still want to make their own money / relieve any financial burdens caused by the depression, while also holding down their households. I am going to fight tooth and nail if they ever try to force me back into the office. The shabbiness I do want to work on though. I used to look like a stone cold fox every day because of work, but those outfits are completely impractical and unnecessary for home. So now I… | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/07/22 09:31 AM |
| 1 | Anyone here part of a WFH couple? What have been the highlights, lowlights, and things you’ve learned?Oh gosh there’s a whole reason. In a nutshell, because of the nature of his work, he starts work as soon as he’s up (7am before it’s bright, winter here). If he was up earlier, he’d start working earlier. I eat breakfast at around brunch time and can’t eat much earlier than that. If I sleep in for any reason, then breakfast is at lunch time. We only eat dinner together. What I do asap in the AM is make coffee and then I get breakfast to him when he’s got a minute, which I wait for him to tell me… | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/07/22 09:02 AM |
| 115 | Modern wimpy menIf you’re clear about who you are and what you want from the outset, then you won’t attract these guys. | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/07/22 07:52 AM |
| 3 | the dating scene these days is making me feel like I'll never find love and I'm only 21, what can I do ?A career is fine as long as you put your family first and plan around that. I’m a lawyer and I left Big Law for a medium sized firm. I’m paid less but work way less. My husband is pleased because I bring in income during an economic depression and because I’m kept busy and have an outlet for my intellectual energy. | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/07/22 06:11 AM |
| 2 | Career or Family?I’m a litigator and I went and found a firm that pays a less but has way better hours. I wouldn’t have a baby if I was working anything more than 40 hours a week, at a push. That’s my personal line in the sand and I’ve chosen my family because my career will never bring me joy the way my husband and future children will. To each their own, though. Only you know what works for you. | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/07/22 08:23 PM |
| 3 | For the happily married womenI know OLD is frowned upon but my husband and I met on Tinder when neither of us was really looking for commitment (another faux pas here, I’m aware). Anyway, we matched in January 2020 and went on a date in February. We didn’t quite click (own issues) and I wanted to cut him off. He initially accepted this then messaged me to say we had something and he didn’t want to drop it. I was pleasantly surprised. Lockdown happened and we continued to text a bit. Restrictions lifted end of June and we we… | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/07/22 11:29 AM |
| 6 | I can admit im scared of my beauty fading awayMy husband sent me a photo of a swimsuit magazine cover where the model displayed her c section scars. I told him that I was happy it was being normalised but I’m always scared of pregnancy because no one perceives that as beautiful. He replied saying that “a man will always feel like the mother of his children is the most beautiful woman in the world”. Now I know it’s not true for all men. But I know that’s how HE feels and that’s all that matters. | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/07/22 11:14 AM |
| 3 | Women should not be dating men their own age.Honestly, it very much depends. You sound like you have not been with very good men in your age bracket and have had better experiences with older men and that’s okay. That said, you feel “extremely hot” with an older guy and it turns you on so that sounds more like a fetish (no judgment) than a solid basis to give advice to all women lol. I think your whole post is just based on your experience but I don’t think the advice itself is any kind of solid. Edit: also, idk what kind of 20yo woman has… | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/07/22 10:45 AM |
| 2 | Future Financial Security as a SAHW/SAHMWe’re an economic depression that’s only getting worse, I’m not quitting my job when I have kids. I am a lawyer, I wfh, I’m happy, I cook three meals a day. | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/07/22 07:16 AM |
| 5 | The empowered wife and saying I can'tExamples? I have ADHD and I’ve had to learn to express myself differently. So maybe I can help but i need clarity. | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/07/22 10:14 AM |
| 5 | Experiences in SocietyFinishing school is an option if you really need etiquette classes to be feminine in your culture. | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/07/22 08:50 AM |
| 7 | Conservative UpbringingHonestly women from both sides don’t get each other sometimes. Just stop giving a thought about the people who don’t get you and live your life. Feminism gave us one thing: the option to do that. | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/07/22 07:34 AM |
| 7 | High Body Count Woman (27 years old)-Advice on finding a decent guy where we can accept one another's pasts?You seem to be saying that TRP is so rudimentary it would count r*pists as partners? | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/07/22 07:23 PM |
| 11 | Noncommittal pseudo not boyfriendLearn to love yourself. | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/07/22 11:06 AM |
| 2 | Living together and the “wife experience”That’s fair. I think culture plays a huge role. All my friends except one moved out when they graduated uni and started work. The one exception has a really wealthy family and his own unit on the family property and his parents travelled most of the time. I actually bought my first place when I was 23. | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/07/22 09:51 AM |
| 6 | Living together and the “wife experience”I can totally see where you’re coming from and I agree. I would never have a baby with someone I wasn’t married to. I also wouldn’t play wife (eg quit my job, move cities for him, etc). I would just want to live with someone to get a real idea of what they are like when they are sick, stressed, sleepy, hungry… how they are when they aren’t on the best behaviour. But I do agree that there is a risk that this doesn’t pan out. For me, the greater risk is that I would’ve married someone I didn’t lik… | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/06/22 07:44 PM |
| 17 | Division of labor as a SAHM - what should I expect?I’m not red pilled so pinch of salt with this comment. Imo. Being the person responsible for cooking and cleaning and running the house is a 9-5 job, much like your husband would have. Raising a child is a 24/7 job and so I don’t believe that being a SAHM means that your husband doesn’t help with the child when he’s back from work. But I think it depends on the situation. I’m fortunate that when I have a baby, we will have a nanny. But I will still have my job and my husband and I will both wfh. | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/06/22 08:55 AM |
| 23 | Living together and the “wife experience”I also don’t know why anyone would want to marry someone they haven’t lived with. | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/06/22 07:13 AM |
| 3 | I made a faux pas, but uncovered some pain in the process I'm not sure how to heal or truly practice self forgiveness.The actual issue is that you’re still stalking your ex while dating someone else. No judgment, but that’s what you should be focusing your energy on changing. The rest of it is really not a big deal. | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/06/22 03:22 PM |
| 8 | Have I finally found Mr. Right?I’m sorry you got downvoted for this comment! Anyway, as other people have pointed out, it sounds like love bombing. The Facebook post is a major red flag and I wouldn’t even consider dating on that basis alone, but also the fact that you don’t know how many kids he has etc but he’s talking about your future together? All huge red flags. I know some people have mentioned that your diagnosis of bipolar is a red flag on you but I don’t think so. I know bipolar people who are wonderful and successf… | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/06/22 07:24 AM |
| 5 | Have I finally found Mr. Right?Why did his previous marriage breakdown? What’s his relationship like with his ex wife now? Do they have kids? How does he describe her and their relationship (throughout, not just the end) to you? | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/06/22 09:26 PM |
| 19 | Is getting an allowance a good idea before marriage ?Big green flag imo. | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/06/22 09:12 PM |
| 21 | Is getting an allowance a good idea before marriage ?Honestly, it’s a small age gap, you’re on the other side of 25 (not old, but gosh I was so much more adult at 26 than 21!) and this man is meeting your family. Presumably you have met or will be meeting (if not, red flag). You seem self-aware. Trust your instincts and also think worst case scenario. Remember that you are agreeing to uproot and move to another state for a man you’ve been with for two months. Be wary of love bombing and making decisions while all your love hormones and fresh and f… | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/06/22 08:52 PM |
| 57 | Is getting an allowance a good idea before marriage ?Caution: long, detailed answer ahead… probably riddled with typos too… When I was in my early 20s, I knew a lot of girls who went the sugar route. I’m a fairly non-judgmental person and, after my dad died, went through a wild-child rebellious phase, so I met a lot of people in interesting situations. I call it the sugar route but that’s just how i saw it. I don’t think the people in those relationships saw it that way. Most of the girls actually liked the men they were with, some even loved them… | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/06/22 07:51 PM |
| 1 | Therapist or Relationship CoachQuestions: Do you want to fix your relationship with your husband? If so, why and what do you think it will take? | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/06/22 02:06 PM |
| 1 | How do you ladies handle conflict with your partner? Display your (justified)anger and frustrations?His work is stressful and he hasn’t put mechanisms in place to deal with it. We’re working on that together. | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/06/22 11:23 AM |
| 1 | How do you ladies handle conflict with your partner? Display your (justified)anger and frustrations?I’m definitely a crier. But my husband doesn’t hurt me really. It’s more general frustration things, like not paying enough attention. | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/06/22 09:38 AM |
| 1 | How do you ladies handle conflict with your partner? Display your (justified)anger and frustrations?My nervousness about meds is the side effects but my ADHD has got to the point where I can’t skip them anymore. I just need to get a reign on that and then I’ll go back to how I used to be without them even. That said, meds or no meds, I know I can be combative and fiery at times and it’s important for me to communicate. My husband knows this about me and mostly loves it, but it can also get annoying (to anyone, not just him). So I’m just trying to figure out a way to still be able to express my… | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/06/22 09:37 AM |
| 1 | How do you ladies handle conflict with your partner? Display your (justified)anger and frustrations?The major frustration stems from his zoning out, which is his coping mechanism as a result of a stressful job. It’s not something I expect to go away, but I sometimes feel disconnected. Following on from that, he will say things that make me feel he doesn’t understand what I’m feeling and I’m trying to break the habit of going “forget about it”. I know there are tools to more effective comms etc, but what I’m really looking for advice on is how to express childlike anger as referred to in the wi… | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/06/22 09:35 AM |
| 1 | I commented on one post here and got banned from another sub that I hadn’t even joined. But I’m happy to be here for many reasons.Mods to remove if not allowed to name subs: r/offmychest. | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/06/22 09:32 AM |
| 3 | How do you ladies handle conflict with your partner? Display your (justified)anger and frustrations?That’s a really wonderful position to be in. I can’t imagine I’ll have a conflict free partnership but that also isn’t my goal and I don’t think it’s a goal for my husband either. It’s more about how I express myself during conflict but I get why you don’t have examples. I’m going to treat my ADHD better too. Today was the abs last straw. | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/06/22 02:12 PM |
| 3 | How do you ladies handle conflict with your partner? Display your (justified)anger and frustrations?If you could, that’d be amazing. But I’ve made a note and will check him out this weekend. | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/06/22 02:10 PM |
| 10 | Advice from the ladies here, what is up with modern dating?If you’re the kind of man who calls women hoes, repeatedly, no wonder you’re not attracting the kinds of women who frequent this sub. Like attracts like. | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/06/22 11:19 AM |
| 9 | How do I find people my age who think alike?OP, it’s impossible that you don’t have access to a single woman who isn’t exclusively into partying and sex. It’s worth reflecting on. Also. I was friends with a stripper and we’d brunch regularly. I didn’t turn into a stripper by hanging out with her. If you know who you are, it doesn’t matter what your friends do because you won’t follow. The biggest issue isn’t finding these women (seriously, a little effort and boom). The issue will be if they’re unable to live and let live for your way of … | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/06/22 07:08 AM |
| 1 | How can I have patience and just be a friend to him?Is this also a RPW terminology too? I saw it on FDS but I haven’t been there in ages as it’s overwhelmingly extremist. | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/06/22 11:43 AM |
| 1 | Starting over at almost 30100%. I know that’s what Ritalin did to me and my doctor subbed them ASAP. | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/06/22 09:50 AM |
| 2 | Are women with masculine interests less attractive?Yea that’s addiction to drama. My husband grew up around the punk / alt scene but he’s actually way more traditional than I am, yet still a bit of a snob about music. I’ve taken to explaining the nuances of pop music now and he’s a great guy so he’s quite receptive. I’ve managed to sell him on Harry Styles because I love music and actually am able to appreciate finer things around production and so on. In turn, I’m starting to appreciate punk music too. We speak about it almost academically but … | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/06/22 09:48 AM |
| 2 | Starting over at almost 30THIS! I commented and mentioned briefly how these meds will never make you frisky or mean. They literally just calm you down and the negative side is that they can make you quiet, more detached, seemingly withdrawn. Never more fiery though. | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/06/22 07:25 AM |
| 3 | Starting over at almost 30The main questions to ask are (1) would you stay with him if you were younger, and (2) would you stay with him if you had all the money you could need? If the answer isn’t a resolute yes on both scores, leave. Also, I understand time feeling like it’s running out to have kids but how does one decide that their future children deserve a cheating, lying, abusive father? It’s better to not have them than to have them with someone who treated you this way. PS I’m adhd and take variations of Aderall.… | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/06/22 07:24 AM |
| 12 | I commented on one post here and got banned from another sub that I hadn’t even joined. But I’m happy to be here for many reasons.I quote verbatim from the message - “Its users are uncontrollable and belligerent.” - so you may have commented tongue in cheek but that’s how it sounds. Super draconian. | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/06/22 06:56 PM |
| 18 | I commented on one post here and got banned from another sub that I hadn’t even joined. But I’m happy to be here for many reasons.I 100% agree. The crazy thing is that this is one of the most tolerant, solutions-oriented sub I’ve seen. Everyone seems reasonable. | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/06/22 03:26 PM |
| 6 | Not sure how to explain this to my boyfriend.I hear you. It sounds like the first comment was offhand and why he offered to pay half. The second one with refusing to split seems out of line. I think other women here are better placed to give RP advice. Personally, I would just ask if he wanted to talk about how you guys budgeted and split costs and agree a way that you are happy with for moving forward. | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/06/22 02:52 PM |
| 15 | Not sure how to explain this to my boyfriend.We don’t have any context here. Is he trying to save up? Is he on a tight budget? How does he stack up to you? Also, was he actually grateful you paid for everything? | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/06/22 12:57 PM |
| 4 | Are women with masculine interests less attractive?LOL the punk thing is funny. People that are into punk music actually do get put off by people who are into mainstream music. Those people feel that it’s about the craft and a lack of appreciation for it when you prefer mainstream. | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/06/22 09:03 AM |
| 3 | Being a homemaker/SAHM in this economy…As everyone said, it depends on what you’re prepared to do without to be a full time SAHM. I’m a lawyer (no kids yet) but I changed jobs to work at a firm that pays a little less, but prioritises balance and family, and allows me to WFH. About 4 hours a day is what I put in. Other than standard of living, it’s important to me to have the ability to make my own money in case my husband dies. We do have life insurance and savings but most of that will go toward raising the kids. The economy is als… | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/06/22 08:24 AM |
| 3 | I'm really interested in how society in your country/culture 'discourages interactions in social spaces'!I wish I had the words to describe how stupid this is and how she could have said hi, but instead she decided to sound like a PickMe. A man wrote this, feeling like a victim, and simultaneously shaming women who don’t have time for this bs. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/03/22 12:14 PM |
| 1 | how men really feel about women centering themMy husband takes me everywhere. He took me to boys night the other day and his friend made a comment and I threatened to leave and his view was like “if you leave, I leave”. I wouldn’t do that to my girl friends but he’s got a different relationship with them. So I get the desire to want to be with your partner, even men have it. But prioritising someone who isn’t even married to you? In my country, we say nee, fok man. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/03/22 09:48 AM |
| 1 | This is one of the most horrific stories I have ever seen on Reddit. Thank god she is getting out. How is there not protections for young women like this.That’s scary because you know they’re not all there just to help. They should be putting her in touch with reputable orgs or donating or something. Not contacting her personally. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/03/22 03:03 PM |
| 68 | This is why casual sex is a big no-no. Thoughts?I don’t really feel any sympathy here. I’ve engaged in casual sex and I wouldn’t have even told a guy I was pregnant if I didn’t plan on keeping the baby. I wouldn’t even want that person’s support because that person is just a body to me. My friends would support me. Women who want to engage in casual sex need to understand what that actually means before engaging in it and reconcile themselves with the fact that they’re getting nothing out of it. Women who know there is even a small chance the… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/02/22 11:29 AM |
| 39 | Heartbreaking. Wife wants to spend time with lv hubby v-day weekend, gets ignored. He admits he’s trash but doesn’t want her with another manThis is my greatest fear. We all focus on different things when vetting, and this is what I focus on. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/02/22 06:41 PM |
| 24 | 22F dating a 34M finds out he co-owns a house in the suburbs with a woman sharing his last name - If he’s making excuses for you not to see HIS house even though he’s seen yours, there’s a reason.I love fairy tale endings like this one ♡ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/02/22 08:24 AM |
| 2 | He’s picky af! 7-8ths are only for banging not love.I dated a guy once, very good looking. Also, successful in 7 figures. Smart. Kind. But also an asshole. Idk if that makes sense? He thought I was lesbian because I showed no interest in him the night I met him, having been accustomed to the opposite. Up until I started dating my husband and cut my exes off, he would go so far as to send me flowers when I was sick, check in on me, try to fly to South Africa to see me. All people like him care about is finding someone that makes them feel like the… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/02/22 07:33 AM |
| 13 | Comments tell her to "commUNIcate", OF is Not BAd“sTuFf FoR hIm” is what she calls it. Stockholm syndrome runs deep with women. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/02/22 08:24 PM |
| 51 | Really?!? Still years later they’re dragging her.I like how Kim might have been shamed more but how her star kept burning brighter and how he’s not even a flickering candle flame anymore. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/01/22 11:06 PM |
| 3 | Awful everything 😩 same grooming, different scroteIt’s the “potentially” ahead of the cheating that makes me so angry and also sad and exhausted. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/01/22 07:54 AM |
| 17 | Men Who Block For No Reason?This covers it all. Especially the last one, because if you’re on Tinder etc you talk to multiple people and maybe you actually meet one that makes you go “ok cool”. Speaking from personal experience, it’s not just a guy thing to do. Although I never blocked, just cancelled. Forever. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/01/22 05:54 AM |
| 14 | Indian scrotes threatening to boycott marriage if marital rape is criminalized in IndiaOh no. They won’t marry. How awful. Sad. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/01/22 03:10 PM |
| 7 | How to reconcile with the fact that my brother doesn't support the FDS strategies, although he is an HVM?I wondered this when I read your post and I’m so glad you cleared it up. I didn’t want to be married until I was ready and I understand the push to legalise things with FDS, but I also don’t think it’s one size fits all. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/01/22 05:40 PM |
| 4 | Have your first impressions of men been accurate?I don’t know if it’s an impression but my bar for men is low, and I’m rarely surprised by them. It’s the exceptions that surprise me. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/01/22 02:35 PM |
| 2 | We owe it to our grandmothers to live out our best livesI was saying this to my mother in law yesterday and she’s in full agreement. We are in the best position we’ve ever been in and we have a lot of work to do, but we’re getting there. For our granddaughters and great granddaughters ♡ For all our kids ♡ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/01/22 08:22 AM |
| 2 | Looking the same after babiesI definitely pile the most pressure on. My husband keeps telling me how women age and it’s normal but my brain is a bit cracked from life in the patriarchy. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/01/22 08:03 AM |
| 2 | Dating 'travellers' and the VisaI know a woman from South Africa who married a man for a green card in Florida, then left him. My South African aunt and her friend each married Pakistani men, who left them without a trace. At least the South African woman had the courtesy of properly divorcing the Floridian man. I personally would always doubt motives in this kind of situation. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/01/22 01:28 PM |
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