Impending Engagement

lmaliw · 2022-04-11T22:20:01+00:00

My FH proposed New Years' Eve. We were out of town on a mini-vacation, visiting a small town that has some personal significance (I'm not from there but many generations of my family were). While we were planning the trip, I thought on multiple occasions that this would be the perfect time for him to propose--on vacation by ourselves, during the holidays, visiting a personally significant location, and we had been talking a lot about having kids and buying a house. We made NYE dinner reservations and splurged on an expensive prix-fixe menu at a restaurant. It wasn't really until we were getting ready to go out to dinner that the feelings that it might happen bubbled up again. Something about how he was acting, double-checking all our plans, making the sure the local landmark we were planning to stop at on the way to dinner to watch the sunset (well, try and watch it, it ended up being cloudy) would be open, PLUS I though I saw him slip something into his jacket pocket. I put those thoughts out of my head but once we were walking up to said landmark and he was talking about our relationship, I knew it was actually going to happen. I didn't cry, but my legs were so shaky. He got the proposal in just in time as a family with little kids came up a minute or two after. It was pretty perfect for who we are.

SuperiorLake_ · 2022-04-11T22:56:20+00:00

I went ring shopping with my friends. The jewelry store kept notes on what I wanted so my husband knew exactly what to get. The store was having a month long sale, so I knew the ring would be purchased by a certain date. From there, I didn’t know anything. I tried to just enjoy the unknown, staying giddy and excited while accepting the fact that I had no control over what would happen. I didn’t want to ask about it because I didn’t want to pressure him. I knew it would happen when he felt it was right. We went on a backpacking camping trip in a spot where you rarely see other people. We were sitting by the river in the sun. He said he wanted to grab a beer, and would be right back. While he was gone, I thought it would have been a picture perfect moment. When he got back, I jokingly turned around and said “yes, I’ll marry you”. He pulled the ring out and said something like, “really? Well, that was easy”. I was soooo surprised! I didn’t think he had actually went to buy the ring yet. Been married for 7 months now ❤️

CigarettesandAsh · 2022-04-11T22:44:13+00:00

My husband kept making little remarks about 'making it permanent'. Eventually I said, 'Do you want to get married or what?' He replied, 'We could do that.' And that is how I got engaged.

So I don't have any direct experience with getting excited/anxious for an upcoming proposal. But I think the anticipation is the best part, and that's what will make it a treasured memory. Enjoy the ride, and I hope you have many more life milestones to anticipate just as intently!

S-Soda1 · 2022-04-11T23:38:32+00:00

Yes, I knew beforehand. I used to work in a jewelry shop and had a specific type of ring I wanted. So at my husbands request I designed and ordered it (but had it sent to his address so I didn't see it beforehand). I knew the weekend he planned to propose but not how he planned to propose.

Why be anxious? You know if you want to marry him. He's proposing so you know he wants to marry you. Since you know ahead of time you can get your nails done and dress nice over the weekend. This anxiety and sense of pressure seems self inflicted. Try and have fun! Keep it light. Enjoy this amazing, special weekend that marks the start of your official journey in life together!

m_owom · 2022-04-11T23:57:54+00:00

My husband proposed when we were on a weekend getaway in Prague. We were sightseeing and he proposed when we were on a tower balcony overlooking the city. It was just us and I had no idea it was coming. I'm actually glad I didn't know because I probably would have psyched myself out planning 10 different outfit options, picture poses etc lol Instead it was a very relaxed and intimate moment, we snapped a quick picture and got coffee and cake in a cafe close by. Later than night we went out to dinner.

Ruffleafewfeathers · 2022-04-12T00:04:44+00:00

My boyfriend just asked me my ring size and I’ve found engagement ring tabs on his phone when he asks me to text someone back while he’s driving, so I would say I have a pretty good idea an engagement is coming. He’ll probably tell me he’s treating me to getting my hair and nails done, so that will be my cue 🤣

saddensgirl · 2022-04-12T01:12:40+00:00

My husband and I went shopping for engagement rings and toured our future wedding venue, in addition to him flying from Canada to the US to ask my dad for his blessing before he asked me to marry him. However, I had no real idea when the proposal would happen. I just knew it was coming "soon."

As fate had it, my husband got the ring right before he had to go out of town for a work trip. And since he didn't want to risk losing it on his trip or me finding it in our apartment, he proposed to me in our living room on the anniversary of the first day he initially messaged me online. It was quiet, non fussy, and perfect for me.

The only downside is I couldn't wear my ring out for like a week because he didn't want his family finding out from seeing it and he wanted us to tell them in person.

_Pumpkin_Muffin · 2022-04-12T05:30:44+00:00

Why so anxious? He's going to ask you a question. You're going to say yes.

(Well, in my case, I jumped up and down squealing. He got the message.)

Getting married is a mutual decision on a shared timeline. A friend of mine (married man) says a proposal should a rhethorical question. It certainly puts things back into perspective lol.

He's got this. Relax and let him take care of it.

beepincheech · 2022-04-12T15:34:44+00:00

I would think he knows you well enough to know that you don’t want a public spectacle. He will probably do something very sweet and intimate and you’ll cherish the memory forever! Also, my MIL is having her 7th wedding (yes, 7th!!!) and still doing ALL the things. Engagement party, bridal shower, bachelorette party, rehearsal dinner, and big extravagant wedding for lucky number 7.

Title	Impending Engagement
Author	ladida1321
Upvotes	7
Comments	9
Date	April 11, 2022 9:56 PM UTC (4 years ago)
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