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Out of character ALOT Alot isn't a word.
/r/Divorce_Men22/05/22 03:24 PM
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Are we talking spousal maintenance (a.k.a. alimony)? Who told you it was capped at three years? It's really up to a judge to set the monthly amount. Unlike child support, it depends on a number of factors including the judge's own discretion.
/r/Divorce_Men20/05/22 08:37 PM
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feminist lobbyist groups prevent [50/50 parenting] from happening What's really amazing and annoying is that some people REALLY still believe the Family Courts are gender-neutral. They think when men complain, they're just sore losers, and they'll say there is no bias against men; that it's a myth. But this fact (the fact that women's group push hard to stop 50/50 parenting) is never acknowledged in that discussion. I often ask these people, "Would you rather go into a custody dispute as a mothe…
/r/Divorce_Men20/05/22 08:35 PM
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show me proof You'll never win this debate. Even when you win, you lose.
/r/Divorce_Men20/05/22 08:28 PM
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It usually means some lawyer, on either side, is milking it for the hours.
/r/Divorce_Men19/05/22 08:30 PM
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... men trying to be amicable during a divorce, and giving the woman some extras that he doesn't have to When I see men here or on another subreddit saying they'll be generous by agreeing to large support payments, I sometimes refer them to Dr. Carlos Rivera. The short story is that he was a successful pediatrician making about $200k when he got divorced. Feeling generous and feeling "manly" (as in, the man provides), he agreed to HUGE payments to his ex-wife as a gesture of good will. You can e…
/r/Divorce_Men18/05/22 10:08 AM
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This must surely be putting a dent in their savings... so what's the point Sometimes, it's not about the money. It's about an unreasonable compulsion to win at any cost. It's about power and control. It's driven by emotion and scumbag lawyers who promise more and more. In some ways, Family Court is the perfect venue for an angry, emotional, power-hungry person, who's Hell-bent on revenge and pumped-up on the drug of Righteousness.
/r/Divorce_Men16/05/22 10:49 AM
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get herself a 2nd job Should have reminded her that OnlyFans is always hiring.
/r/Divorce_Men15/05/22 11:05 AM
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Last year, a man in the USA dumped 80,000 pennies onto his ex-wife's yard as his final payment. The media demonized him, giving him all sorts of insults. But I get it. If she's falsely -- and PUBLICLY -- accused you of being abusive, fuck her feelings.
/r/Divorce_Men15/05/22 11:00 AM
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Does the amount of my rent (as part of my overall expenses) get factored into the potential alimony amount? Generally, no. You'll get to submit a financial statement that includes your expenses. But from what I've observed, your outgoing support payments are what they are. If it leaves you with nothing, the court will tell you it's YOUR problem, and you need to cut your expenses. Plenty of men fall into this trap: They can only afford a small shitty apartment that's not suitable for kids. So, th…
/r/Divorce_Men15/05/22 10:55 AM
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Would it look good on me to try [counseling] again? Look good to the judge? No, not really. I will assume this will be a 'No-Fault' divorce. It's just what it sounds like. The married couple agree that the marriage is broken, but no one is at fault. And that's it. It's not like the court will hear about you beating her or she cheating on you. But you'd be amazed by how many people -- mostly women, IMO -- who file for no-fault divorces. Yet, they want their proverbial "Day in Court" to tell the j…
/r/Divorce_Men14/05/22 12:14 PM
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Look up How To Fire Your Wife. http://190.97.162.68/fire.pdf It's a bit dated. It was written before crypto was a thing. But still some good overall ideas in there.
/r/Divorce_Men14/05/22 11:59 AM
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child support isn't a gendered issue But anytime some state considers presumed 50/50 custody (which means less child support money changing hands), who complains the loudest? Women's groups. But they're also the first ones to insist that Family Court is gender-neutral. I ask them if they'd rather go into a custody dispute as a father or mother? Speaking of neutrality, I remind them that criminal courts are race-neutral. And would you rather face a criminal charge in the USA as a black man or whi…
/r/Divorce_Men13/05/22 10:35 PM
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I ... don’t seem to have any leverage Re-consider. Change your attitude. This isn't legal advice per se. But if you walk in there like you own the place, like you have a 9-inch cock, and DEMAND 50/50 or a reason why you can't have it, maybe they'll look at you differently. If you walk in there with low expectations, the opposing lawyer and the judge will smell it on you. As far as I'm concerned, EVERYTHING is a negotiation.
/r/Divorce_Men13/05/22 12:17 PM
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there isn't much that can be done Put the phones in a Faraday Cage most of the time. Drive the mom nuts. Or give one of the phones to a buddy who's driving out-of-town.
/r/Divorce_Men13/05/22 12:09 PM
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If I do something nice for you, then you essentially owe me something in return. We don't discuss it openly. I think to myself it's understood between us without talking about it. Covert = hidden or not acknowledged. If it's two hetero men who are friends, this is usually not a problem. If I came to your house to help you paint, you buy the beers. Or maybe you come to my house later to help me with something. I do for you; you do for me. We never agree on a contract; it's implied. The problems b…
/r/Divorce_Men10/05/22 10:17 AM
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You know why divorce is so expensive? Because it's worth it. Brilliant. You should trademark that incredibly useful and original slogan before some scoundrel steals it.
/r/Divorce_Men10/05/22 09:53 AM
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http://black.blue/marriage/This%20Face.m4v http://black.blue/marriage/Sell%20It%20To%20Me.m4v
/r/Divorce_Men09/05/22 09:37 AM
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If you like reading, here is Alec Baldwin's account of his horrible divorce which includes many unbelievable stories: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B001FA0Q8K Even if you're rich and have an endless budget for lawyers, the process can still wear you down and rip your kids away from you.
/r/Divorce_Men07/05/22 11:38 AM
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she is cunning as she miss-characterizes my behavior as "violent" or "emotional harassment". She probably saw these words ... and now she keeps throwing them around I've come to learn this is as predictable as the sunrise. But more likely on womyn's social media, not Netflix. But I get your point. According to my ex, I was "abusive", but that labeled applied to everything. I even sighed in an abusive way once. I wish I was kidding. I eventually joked that I licked stamps in an abusive way, and s…
/r/Divorce_Men05/05/22 02:04 PM
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This message brought to you by the American Bar Association and your local Lexus dealer
/r/Divorce_Men05/05/22 01:58 PM
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It baffles me that people feel violated when their ex finds information that's been posted to the public. I was accused of "stalking" my ex. My crime? I Googled her name and read one of the top ten results.
/r/Divorce_Men03/05/22 01:20 PM
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men are emotional creatures too with feelings ... and Constitutional rights.
/r/Divorce_Men30/04/22 10:45 PM
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LOL? This is funny to you? You're buried in debt. ROTFLMAO.
/r/Divorce_Men28/04/22 05:07 PM
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Divorce is adversarial. That's a polite way to say it's warfare. In a war, you wouldn't tip your hat to your adversary and announce your intentions. The less she knows, the better.
/r/Divorce_Men28/04/22 05:06 PM
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Jigolo has crossed my mind What about a gay gigolo?
/r/Divorce_Men28/04/22 05:03 PM
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attorneys are the most useless pieces of shit in the world Not to the local Lexus dealer.
/r/Divorce_Men28/04/22 05:00 PM
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I thought about this some more, so I came back to make another comment. I do understand the value of forgiveness. I learned to forgive my father for his sins, for example, and this happened years after he died. It lifted a weight off my shoulders. I really do understand the therapeutic value of forgiveness. Forgive and move on. Could I even forgive my ex-wife? I'm sure I could. However.... And this is the kicker. After a divorce, if you're court-mandated to pay your ex-spouse, and the amount of …
/r/Divorce_Men26/04/22 06:05 PM
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Cordell & Cordell advertises itself as a man-friendly and man-only law firm, specializing in divorce. I can't verify their quality, but they seem to have a big chunk of the marketplace. Maybe you're not interested in a corporate law firm, but give it a thought. https://cordellcordell.com/offices/texas/houston/
/r/Divorce_Men26/04/22 12:03 PM
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I'll choke that bitch if I ever see her again. Perhaps that can be the title of your paper.
/r/Divorce_Men25/04/22 10:26 PM
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I'm reminded of this video (starting at 10:20) in which a single man going on vacation to Rio de Janeiro explains how none of his married friends are allowed to join him.
/r/Divorce_Men25/04/22 11:23 AM
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Have considered the possibility that you can have 50/50 custody? Why do you think you're leaving the kid behind?
/r/Divorce_Men24/04/22 01:27 PM
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Which part bothers you? Perhaps if poor young women had access to higher-paying jobs, they wouldn't seek to get married so quickly. It's just one hypothesis, but it fits the data. But it's just a hypothesis.
/r/Divorce_Men21/04/22 01:48 PM
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I willingly took a back seat to them growing up I can relate to this, and so can many other men. And once again, to some women, this is just one more thing to use against us. Many times, I have seen women claim that they did the majority of child-rearing BEFORE the divorce. But once separated, they observe/complain that suddenly their ex-husband wants to be more involved. The usual conclusion: The men want more custody just so they don't have to pay as much child support. Or, in general, if a da…
/r/Divorce_Men21/04/22 01:44 PM
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with your post alot Alot is not a word.
/r/Divorce_Men21/04/22 01:37 PM
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She would never use the silver bullet: saying I hit the kids. She said it; Spoiler: I never hit the kids. EDIT: I'm shocked her lawyer even let her present this dumb story. The ex accused me of shaking my infant daughter when she wouldn't stop crying. Shake a baby, just like that. I got her to admit that the incident in question had happened four years earlier. In those four years, she hadn't mentioned it ever -- to anyone. She hadn't told a doctor, a cop, a lawyer, a social worker, a teacher, a…
/r/Divorce_Men18/04/22 12:26 PM
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my hard work and generosity is now being used to attempt to punish me You're preaching to the preachers. It's a sad realization. I went overseas to rescue my family from a dire financial situation (long story). I missed my youngest daughter's first words and first steps. I joke that her first words were "Where's dad?" I made a lot of sacrifices.... only for a scumbag lawyer to use them against me. It cuts to the bone.
/r/Divorce_Men17/04/22 01:33 PM
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The court should absolutely consider that she has a bachelor's degree. It means she can work and support herself. It means income should be imputed to her, even if she's actually earning nothing. Your mileage may vary. My judge was 200 years old and had very old-fashioned ideas about families. He thought dad should work and mom should always stay home and take care of the kids, whether they're married or divorced. He didn't want to impute very much income to my ex despite her large earning capab…
/r/Divorce_Men17/04/22 01:29 PM
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obstacles ... receiving USPS mail I disagree with this. Everything is online now (bills, banking, taxes). I have a PO Box and a friend of mine checks it for me once a week. After he tosses out the ads and flyers and redundant paperwork, I'm probably getting less than 12 pieces of actual, useful, wanted mail a year. In fact, he'll take a photo of them and e-mail them to me. There is very little (if any) need for me to worry about getting mail. Amazon will ship anywhere, even to some locker near y…
/r/Divorce_Men17/04/22 01:24 PM
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How did this all work out for you? Not good. The judge didn't use my full overseas salary, but he did impute my salary to be much higher than my baseline USA salary. I really believe Title IV-D drives the greed. The more money they order to be paid, the more money collected, the more money the whole system makes, the more need for family courts and lawyers and child support enforcement workers. Let me put it this way: Why would cops ever wish for no crime and no drugs? They'd all be out of a job…
/r/Divorce_Men16/04/22 08:30 PM
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She's a stay at home hose wife Please don't fix that typo. I love it. BION, I can relate to some of this. When my marriage ended, I was an overseas contractor, working in a "difficult" situation. Back in the USA, my base salary was about $100k, but while overseas, I received hazard pay, overtime, hardship pay, and a completion bonus which put me at the rate of about $360k. The overseas opportunities came to an end. I planned my return to the USA to finish my divorce. But of course -- OF COURSE -…
/r/Divorce_Men16/04/22 01:58 PM
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Did you notice the number of views on that video? It's in the tens of millions. It goes to show how this shit resonates with so many people.
/r/Divorce_Men13/04/22 02:24 PM
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Your story totally reminded me of a similar situation where a 14-year old boy refused to go back to his mother's after dad's visitation. It's a long video, more than an hour: https://youtu.be/rYFY3POHk2k?t=216 I'm sure you can skip around to get to the vital parts. I'm not sure there are any answers here for you. But maybe by watching, you can get another perspective(?) Or help you feel better about your decisions.
/r/Divorce_Men13/04/22 01:43 PM
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Have you looked at Cordell & Cordell? They advertise themselves as aggressive lawyers who ONLY REPRESENT MEN. They have offices in Fayetteville, Lawrenceville, Marietta, Forsyth County, and Atlanta. I have never used them, but I remember their advertisements. They seem to "get it" about the bias against men in family court. I totally understand the desire to have a killer attorney, or at least one who knows all the dirty tricks (a la Saul Goodman). But my "well-researched" attorney was constantl…
/r/Divorce_Men13/04/22 01:32 PM
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That particular podcast that you linked to was interesting. I listened to it all. Learned a couple of things, but none of it was really new to me. It was nice to know that some other men have the impression that Family Court judges think they're Gods; that they have total absolute control of your life. I went to listen to some of the other podcasts on that channel. The first one I picked was all Sovereign Citizen bullshit. Really disappointing. They claim that once a man appears on a birth certi…
/r/Divorce_Men11/04/22 04:22 PM
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My wife and kids are happily oblivious. Choosing to go will inflict hard on everyone else. On her and the kids. That is what I can not bring myself to do. That sounds noble. But this isn't the time to be noble. I understand you want to shield your kids from discomfort, but don't bite-off more than you can chew. Let me introduce you to Dr. Carlos Rivera. He was a doctor making almost $200k when he got divorced. In a very prideful and careless moment of self-sacrifice, he agreed to a generous amou…
/r/Divorce_Men11/04/22 01:48 PM
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Are you pursuing an "at-fault" divorce? If so, be careful with what you say and do. Many states have laws that basically say: If you condone the affair, you can't use it later in court against her. If you forgive her, and still live together, and still present yourselves as husband and wife, you've legally "condoned" the affair. All of your juicy, salacious evidence then means nothing.
/r/Divorce_Men11/04/22 01:39 PM
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Wow. Tough one. I've never heard of this situation before. When I was in high school, my one-year-long serious girlfriend cheated on me. My friends knew before I did. No one told me. (One year is LONG time in high school.) Obviously, we're not in high school anymore, so I can't even begin to relate or understand. But I remember feeling betrayed by EVERYONE, not just the girl. People sometimes have this twisted notion of "I don't want to hurt him, so I won't tell him the truth". It's sick and unh…
/r/Divorce_Men08/04/22 07:39 PM
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Shocker, I know: women's groups oppose the bills. Lawyers, too.
/r/Divorce_Men08/04/22 01:07 AM
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Be sure your case focuses on her PAST income. You could also present the facts as if your wife quit her job right before a divorce for the purpose of getting more alimony. Facts can always be twisted. You can be sure they'd do it to you if the situation was reversed. not the $4000+ she claims I'll have to pay her They do dream big, don't they? My ex-wife, who couldn't do basic math to save her life, suddenly learned to add during our divorce and had her award package calculated down to the penny…
/r/Divorce_Men04/04/22 02:06 PM
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If you can show evidence to impute her income, then bang that drum hard. I never went to mediation, so I don't know what's like. But, like you, I was married to a big breadwinner. But, when it came time to divorce, a bunch of mysterious illnesses prevented her from working. I pushed back, but not enough. The judge was eager to buy her story. Take good notes. Hopefully she'll say something contradictory. Try to show the court she has a reputation for lying under oath (not that it matters so much …
/r/Divorce_Men04/04/22 02:03 PM
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I've never been to one of those legal brothels in Nevada. But I've been told they're terribly overpriced. They have a somewhat captive audience. Plus, from the videos I've seen, you don't have much choice and the places look kinda "right-down-to-business" in a trashy way. Furthermore, they're not in Las Vegas; you have to drive (or be driven) way out into the desert. Personally, I've found Latin America girls far more receptive, attractive, friendly, and affordable. There are upscale bars and ca…
/r/Divorce_Men04/04/22 01:54 PM
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women are more than just physical pleasure Yes, but this also includes RISK, lots of risk. Some of us get to the point where we'd rather throw the baby out with the bathwater. The risk is just too much.
/r/Divorce_Men04/04/22 01:45 PM
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I'll upvote Thailand over and over. But, if you're in the USA, Panama is closer. Hell, Mexico is very close. But I liked Panama. Most of the girls are from Colombia and they're friendly and beautiful. I haven't been there in a while, but a few years ago, there was a nice downtown hotel (Wyndham Veneto) that had a large bar and casino. The girls would gather in the casino at night. You could walk around, take your time, approach them, and chat with them. What was VERY cool is that you could take …
/r/Divorce_Men04/04/22 01:37 PM
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we can't lie about our income Ha. I'd like you to meet my ex-wife's lawyer.
/r/Divorce_Men04/04/22 01:27 PM
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I'm looking at this from a purely mathematical perspective You're missing a variable. Child support is collected at gunpoint. Of course, some people will say that's not literally true. But ultimately, all laws are enforced by men with guns. Child support isn't like other debt, like a credit card. If you borrow money with a credit card, you voluntarily have a choice about how much debt you're taking on. But a judge and some sleazeball lawyer will decide how much child support will be imposed upon…
/r/Divorce_Men03/04/22 02:12 AM
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that’ll be all I need All you'll need for what? What's your end-game here?
/r/Divorce_Men02/04/22 02:05 PM
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A few years ago, an exasperated husband made this secret video of his wife screaming and acting like a child over something trivial, just to show his friends and family. Otherwise, no one believed how bad she was.
/r/Divorce_Men02/04/22 01:59 PM
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first divorce God Help You if there is a second.
/r/Divorce_Men31/03/22 10:37 PM
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I truly sympathize and can relate. BION, there was actually a time early in my divorce when, if she called to tell me she needed money for something or for the kids, I'd just send it right over, no questions asked, no court order. I trusted her to co-parent with me and be reasonable. Wow. How times changed. Now, you need to literally put a gun to my head to get me to pay for anything. That's the way that bitch wanted it go. So, I totally see where you're coming from. However, be aware of one sma…
/r/Divorce_Men30/03/22 01:00 AM
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The headline should be: Black man gets physically violent because his feelings were hurt. Feel bad for Will? Nope.
/r/Divorce_Men28/03/22 09:18 PM
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How long have you been married? Check out your state's laws regarding alimony for "long-term" marriages. In some states, 10 years is a bright line to determine lengthier alimony. Plus after 10 years, she's entitled to some of your Social Security Benefits. If you're at nine years now right now, it's something to think about. Do some research.
/r/Divorce_Men28/03/22 11:27 AM
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I'm not sure if no fault or not That's the #1 question for your lawyer. The answer will shape many important things thereafter.
/r/Divorce_Men26/03/22 04:21 PM
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Hookers. No drama (usually). And for many men, like me, it's the most honest relationship you'll ever have with a woman. By far.
/r/Divorce_Men26/03/22 03:01 PM
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list of assets (and their worth) tax records perhaps a summary of your logs with a timeline? perhaps a narrative of "What I Want from this Divorce" so it's established early (e.g.: I want shared legal custody of the kids, I want to pay no alimony, I want to keep the house, etc., or THIS is negotiable, but THIS is not negotiable, etc...) an honest list of your weaknesses and strengths (e.g.: I cheated on my wife, or I've hidden some debt from her. But also: she's an alcoholic, or she's hit the ki…
/r/Divorce_Men26/03/22 02:50 PM
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If you are made of money? Sure. My lawyer: $400/hour. Her lawyer: $400/hour. Once you've spent $800/hour to argue over something ridiculous, you learn pretty fast. Or not.
/r/Divorce_Men24/03/22 06:38 PM
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Kind of an apropos typo if you ask me.
/r/Divorce_Men24/03/22 06:36 PM
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lack of income and how she has no money Same here. Then, like an idiot, she posted photos of herself on Facebook, at the beach in Hawaii. I printed them out and brought them to court. The judge didn't care.
/r/Divorce_Men24/03/22 06:24 PM
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My ex's lawyer called the judges by their first names. It was clearly a show to let me know I was on her home turf; the judges were HER friends, not mine. I had the feeling the judge made up his mind about my case 10 minutes before it even began. I left feeling like an orange that had been peeled. As for the "evidence" they brought, I thought attorneys are supposed to investigate facts under the good-faith belief that everything they file is grounded in reality. But nope. They lie (or "stretch t…
/r/Divorce_Men24/03/22 11:23 AM
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I think if the Constitution allows gay marriage, it should also allow men to see their kids and be a part of their lives. That was my entire point from the start.
/r/Divorce_Men22/03/22 10:42 PM
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I think you and your boyfriend will be very happy together.
/r/Divorce_Men22/03/22 10:21 PM
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You could become "permanently disabled". If you can't work, the courts can't really argue with that. Well, they can... but that's why God put unethical lawyers and unethical doctors here on Earth. If you think I'm being cheeky.... my ex-wife was the breadwinner for a while during our marriage. But when it came time to divorce, she suddenly began suffering from a fiesta of maladies such as dizziness, PTSD and depression. These are the kind of illnesses that cannot be proven or disproven. The judg…
/r/Divorce_Men22/03/22 10:19 PM
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What views are you talking about? What I wrote is absolutely true. I didn't give any opinions about queers or abortions. Wow, talk about easily triggered. Sorry, I'll put a "TW" up front next time, just for you, cupcake.
/r/Divorce_Men22/03/22 12:11 PM
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She is not taking them from me or anything like that Famous Last Words. I'm sympathetic, but you need to put emotions aside right now and realize you're going into a legal battle. Talk to an attorney now. Assess the damage. Make a plan. It's all you can do. And don't assume anything (like my quote above). Women change once the divorce gets going. Good luck.
/r/Divorce_Men22/03/22 12:11 AM
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Attorneys and Feminists always oppose these bills. It really shows you where THEIR best interests are. It's shocking to me that in this modern and progressive age, we need legislation to establish that fathers are parents, too. The Fourteenth Amendment, according to some people, says that queers can get married because they deserve a family, too. Some other people read the Fourteenth Amendment, and they conclude that women can kill their unborn babies because they're free to have the family they…
/r/Divorce_Men22/03/22 12:07 AM
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Thanks. I wish I could claim it as my own. But it's from Dostoevsky.
/r/Divorce_Men21/03/22 10:46 AM
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get over your divorce That's like supposing your best friend was killed in a car accident one day and asking, "How long until I'm over it?". The answer isn't measured in time. It becomes a part of you, forever. You have to give it time; you have to mourn and grieve. You have to process it and make peace with God and let it go. One day, you'll notice that you're happy and making progress. You'll probably notice it quite by accident. You will be happy and making progress one day -- even with this …
/r/Divorce_Men20/03/22 09:10 PM
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Good for you. I hope it works out. I bought my kids tablets so we could video chat. But the tablets were never charged when it was my time to talk. And the chargers magically disappeared and their mom could never find them. Hmmmmmm. Fucking bitch. She'll find a way to ruin anything.
/r/Divorce_Men19/03/22 09:46 PM
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I understand. But the appearance of four conditionals appearing in one sentence screams legalese. Man: Do you love me? His female attorney GF: As things are now, yes, I do have feelings analogous to loving you, within an acceptable margin of error.
/r/Divorce_Men18/03/22 12:10 PM
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The very first sentence of the bill contains the word "certain" four times. As in, "certain cases" and "certain expenses", etc. Already wiggle room for the lawyers. That's how I see it. But then again, I'm jaded and cynical.
/r/Divorce_Men17/03/22 09:46 PM
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Yeah, pretty much this. When I told my lawyer I couldn't afford the HUGE child support payments demanded by the other side, her reaction was to assure me that jail isn't so bad (!!!!!). Also, while the other side was using every dirty trick in the book, my lawyer wanted to endless preach to me (while on the clock) about ethics and her ethical duty as a lawyer to be ethical. She would go on and on until I cut her off. Felt like telling her to be ethical on her OWN time; but while she works for me…
/r/Divorce_Men17/03/22 03:24 PM
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A few short videos for you to watch: http://190.97.162.68/marriage
/r/Divorce_Men14/03/22 01:02 PM
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individual pdf documents FYI, here's a dirty lawyer trick. When my ex's lawyer issued a discovery demand on me, I converted all of my bank statements and everything else into PDF, Zipped it up, and e-mailed it. I thought that was professional and polite. But when SHE provided me with HER documents? They were all printed pages. You can't just do CTRL-F and search, like with a PDF. Furthermore, you know when you get a credit card bill? The top page is just your address and balance and whatever? An…
/r/Divorce_Men12/03/22 02:56 PM
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Sympathies. Truly. I don't have the legal answer for you. But I was reminded of when the opposition was trying to determine my income (so they could take as much as possible). It sounds like an easy question. How much money do you make? But they demanded to know about any future bonuses, commissions, overtime, stipend, hazard pay... ANYTHING. Then, because I travel for work, they wanted to know how much value my frequent flyer miles have. Do I get a company car? A fuel allowance? Well, that's "i…
/r/Divorce_Men12/03/22 01:57 PM
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retroactive back to the date of separation Be sure you and your lawyer really understand your state's rules for retroactive payments. In my state (and I believe this is universal), retroactivity can ONLY extend back to the date the motion was filed. So, for her to ask that it go back even further is most likely improper. I believe these laws were created for cases where a woman is caring for a child alone for years, then decides to go after child support. She can't suddenly hit the man with YEAR…
/r/Divorce_Men12/03/22 01:33 PM
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I love blasting my story everywhere I get it. I really do. Wish I could buy you a drink tonight.
/r/Divorce_Men11/03/22 09:00 PM
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Judges 16:1. One day Samson went to Gaza, where he saw a prostitute. He went in to spend the night with her.
/r/Divorce_Men10/03/22 02:25 AM
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Not a lawyer here. But I'm a big believer in the First Amendment. I enjoy reading SCOTUS decisions in First Amendment cases. In my non-lawyer brain, I have concluded what others have concluded (including some lawyers): that such gag orders are unconstitutional and unenforceable. It's called Prior Restraint. It's the idea that your free speech COULD, POTENTIALLY, in the future, be a problem. The Constitution specifically forbids Prior Restraint. I know there are divorced dads out there who have d…
/r/Divorce_Men09/03/22 12:24 AM
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This is one of those beautiful times when Family Law eats itself. Let me explain. My major gripe about child support is that it's just a made-up number. Really. It's some fraction of your income. And even then, the judge can adjust it. Child support has NOTHING to do with the actual cost of supporting a child. Sometimes child support advocates will lecture about how that money is meant for food, clothing, school supplies, and so on. I always agree and suggest that we add up the ACTUAL cost of th…
/r/Divorce_Men07/03/22 01:23 PM
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There is this document: http://190.97.162.68/fire.pdf But it's a bit dated. It really needs an update. I've thought about getting some men on here to help update it (I'm not the author, BTW, I just found this years ago). There's a website that some men often refer to. Something like divorceformen.com or something like that. Someone is bound to know what I'm talking about and post it here. Yeah, it would be nice if there were a centralized playbook, especially when things get ugly. Crypto. Silver…
/r/Divorce_Men07/03/22 01:02 PM
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I Googled "Timeshare in Florida" and it looks pretty sweet. I always wanted to visit Disney World for two weeks.
/r/Divorce_Men06/03/22 04:04 AM
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It is required watching for all young men. But it's also a dark comedy. When I was a kid in the 1970s, there was another movie about divorce called Kramer vs. Kramer and it's much more serious and realistic, including this heartbreaking scene.
/r/Divorce_Men06/03/22 03:59 AM
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Have you looked at Our Family Wizard? Personally, I do not use it. However, many parents like it. It's basically an app that makes an easy-to-see calendar of who gets custody on which days -- shared with the other parent. Might be worth a look.
/r/Divorce_Men06/03/22 12:13 AM
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You read my mind. I re-watched it two weeks ago. And I thought about posting it here for the younger men. The film came out in the late 1980s. Summary, for those that don't know: It's a very bitter, prolonged divorce that gets more and more nasty. HERE IS the trailer. Many excellent scenes that perfectly describe just how horrible and unreasonable a woman can be in a divorce. Also illustrates the "lightbulb" effect: A woman can be in a happy, stable, healthy marriage and then one day, CLICK, lik…
/r/Divorce_Men06/03/22 12:07 AM
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Not a lawyer, but I have a hard time believing this is Constitutional. Think about it: Picture a man who has committed no crime (other than being poor); he could be a loving and fit father who never neglected or abused his kids. But men with guns will separate him from his kids. (I urge readers to remember that all laws are, ultimately, enforced by men with guns.) What happened to Supreme Court rulings from 100 years ago that said, quite frankly, that parents have a state, federal, natural and G…
/r/Divorce_Men05/03/22 02:26 AM
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https://www.nhbr.com/new-law-will-change-alimony-landscape-in-nh/
/r/Divorce_Men04/03/22 07:53 PM
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And we all know that hope is NOT a strategy. Five hundred years ago, Sir Francis Bacon wrote: "Hope is a wonderful breakfast but a terrible dinner". Talk about time-tested wisdom.
/r/Divorce_Men04/03/22 07:49 PM
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I feel like there's more to the story. Why can't the PI's eyewitness testimony be enough? He could walking a dog or something innocent right by her house when they enter. I suppose he could wear a bodycam, but this isn't a murder case. I doubt there would be such a high burden for proof. A reputable person's first-hand eyewitness testimony should be enough I would think. If there's a Show Cause hearing later, you can always put your ex on the stand and force her to answer questions under oath. B…
/r/Divorce_Men03/03/22 12:29 PM
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Hmmm. Well, there are stalking laws, but I don't know the details. But generally, you are free to take photos of anything you can see from a public space. There is broad First Amendment protection in this regard. But, I've also noticed that some Family Court judges make unconstitutional orders. They sometimes think they have absolute total control over your life in a divorce.
/r/Divorce_Men03/03/22 12:23 PM
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a court date tomorrow to discuss our plans with a judge Dude, WTF? Honestly, it doesn't appear you're taking this seriously at all. You wait until the DAY BEFORE to ask for help? And, by the way, you don't go to court to “discuss” anything with the judge. It's not like you'll sit down at the dining room table with coffee and go over your ideas. I'm sure you know this, but your use of the word “discuss” really makes think you're quite unprepared. Court hearings are NOT discussions. Ask the court …
/r/Divorce_Men03/03/22 12:15 PM
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Hey, I never said anything about slander or libel. Those laws still exist, the First Amendment notwithstanding. I'm thinking of cases where judges issue gag orders on divorcing parents. Fuck that. That's called Prior Restraint, and it's specifically forbidden by our Constitution. But slander and libel? Go for it. Seriously. EDIT: Until I'm proven wrong, yes, they're all retarded assholes.
/r/Divorce_Men02/03/22 08:53 PM
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if it goes out to social media or public get a cease and desist Do you really want to live in a country where Free Speech can be criminalized by some retarded asshole in a black robe down at the local courthouse? Not even Congress has that power. Plus, it works both ways: When my ex cut me off from my kids, I used social media to stay in touch with them to tell them my side of the story.
/r/Divorce_Men02/03/22 01:18 PM
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Hope it works out and there are no snags.
/r/Divorce_Men01/03/22 08:43 PM
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After hearing many horror stories, I guess I was "lucky" (?). For me, the police were never involved. She saved her fake DV complaint for court. The judged just yawned. He didn't care. And THAT says volumes about Family Court. Think about it: I've just been accused of several violent felonies against my own kids. But she never called the police or told a doctor. Instead, she told her lawyer. Why didn't the judge have me arrested? Reminds me of those women who say they were raped -- but post it o…
/r/Divorce_Men01/03/22 08:39 PM
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how did you tame it? Tame? Went to Thailand. It's Disneyland for your penis.
/r/Divorce_Men01/03/22 08:31 PM
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counterintuitive or hypocritical Where to begin? spending more in legal fees over an issue than the issue is worth (because it's not really about money, it's about control) doing anything that would jeopardize my ability to earn a living while simultaneously wanting money (e.g.: I need an extensive background check for my job but her lawyer convinced her to use the "Silver Bullet" of fake abuse to gain an upper hand in custody; now it's documented that I'm accused abuser) she insisted on a trial…
/r/Divorce_Men28/02/22 09:48 PM
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I think counseling is worthless. But in your case, it could be worse. If you're really headed toward a divorce, you're likely to give up valuable information in counseling. This is the time to remain silent. Don't provide any more intelligence to the enemy. Perhaps continue the counseling to keep up appearances, and pretend it's working -- while you quietly prepare for war in the background. I probably sound like a narcissistic bastard ... Let me guess. The wife has called you 'narcissistic'? We…
/r/Divorce_Men26/02/22 05:04 AM
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Yes, absolutely, it's a "Your Mileage May Vary" situation. My GAL was friends with my ex's sister. This concerned me so much, I tried to get her removed because of the appearance of a conflict of interest. The judge told me to slurp shit. And -- shocker -- the GAL recommended that mom get full custody. Then she charged me $3000 (which, as bad as that is, is better than some men). But she only interviewed me for about five minutes. My kids have no memory of EVER speaking to her. What the Hell cos…
/r/Divorce_Men26/02/22 02:40 AM
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I thought it would come out clearer than it did. You thought wrong.
/r/Divorce_Men25/02/22 01:31 PM
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subscribed to dating apps Unsubscribe now. You don't need that drama in your life right now.
/r/Divorce_Men25/02/22 01:30 PM
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Wow, you're getting a lot of negative reactions. I'm surprised. Well, the letter does seem a little desperate. I think you have a good idea, but perhaps make it less formal, more spontaneous, more organic (as in, "hey, the kids and I are out here having fun, you should join us"). While I was separated and living apart from my ex (and in fact, even early into the divorce), we would still go out to eat breakfast together as a family at a nice sit-down restaurant. I remember thinking it comforted t…
/r/Divorce_Men25/02/22 01:13 PM
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flying (private pilot) Jelly. The last time I flew was about three months into my marriage. "We" decided that "our" money should be spent on ugly expensive furniture and all kinds of shit I didn't want. They say love is blind.
/r/Divorce_Men25/02/22 11:45 AM
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Pennies. A wheel-barrel full of pennies dumped on her driveway.
/r/Divorce_Men25/02/22 01:20 AM
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