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Nah actually it's fine it's never anyone I've tried dating. Just internet randos who are insecure because they feel if a woman doesn't sleep with them in two milliseconds she's using them. I live in Europe, everyone is asocial and autistic here.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/25 09:19 AM
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I don't but I still get told I'm a bitch if I do that.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/25 07:54 AM
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Oh yeah actually just checked and they are. An app that is funded by the goverment and only for marriage where you upload your ID would be better. Like you said you would get matched by compatibility of habits, values, lifestyle, number of children you want, introversion/extroversion (maybe MBTI). I think Japan was considering funding something like that.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/25 08:30 AM
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OP forgets that matchmakers exist for this very purpose.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/25 01:03 PM
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"What if it was determined by an alignment of habits, values, communication style, Demi/Sapio/A-Romantic/Sexual, love languages and introvert/extrovert. Then things like income, height, body count, weight, hair-loss, race, ect are not taken into consideration with the algorithm." You know you can already use matchmaker services right? It's basically this.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/25 01:01 PM
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I only sleep with boyfriends who want to get married and be fathers. I don't sleep before commitment.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/25 08:17 PM
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Do average men genuinely get those options? If so, GG but I'm just not doing sex before commitment. I'd rather end up alone with cats than ran through by shitty men.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/25 12:15 PM
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You're moving the goalposts. First you framed sexual desire as a criterion for seriousness. Now you're pivoting to 'necessary but not sufficient,' which is just a fancier way of saying men like sex. That’s not a revelation. The 'divide' isn’t the issue. The issue is pretending that this divide encourages women to abandon their boundaries because men's desire is somehow more fundamental. It isn’t. Men can handle waiting. Plenty already do. And invoking 'nature' to justify rushing intimacy is weak…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/25 11:10 AM
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Projection works both ways, sure. But there’s a key difference: I’m pointing out a flaw in reasoning = confusing natural sexual desire with commitment. A man wanting sex isn’t proof he’s serious; it’s biology. A woman setting boundaries isn’t a lack of seriousness; it’s a test of respect. That’s not projection, that’s calling out an assumption that libido equals commitment. It does not. That's why it's better to wait to build emotional connection with your possible partner.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/25 10:24 AM
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"him wanting to have sex is one of the criteria for seriousness for men. If he wouldn't want sex, he wouldn't be serious." This doesn't make sense in practise and you know it. Wanting sex is a natural desire, not a marker of commitment. Sexual desire is a biological impulse; it doesn’t prove he’s ready for a committed relationship, willing to invest long-term, or capable of being a good partner. Seriousness in a relationship is shown through patience, effort, respect, and alignment with your val…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/25 09:58 AM
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idk why I got downvoted but I've also been told by men it would be bad if I let the man know I am only dating for marriage and nothing casual "OH so you're immediately letting him know you won't fuck him!!" something like that
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/25 09:52 AM
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Ideally, how should a woman approach a man for best results?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/25 09:17 AM
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me vs the man who traumatized me trend shows that men will treat you like shit no matter how they look
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/25 08:01 AM
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So women with high bodycounts are fine now? Because ultimately you cannot tell?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/25 07:44 AM
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Alright, how do you differenciate between the ones who are going to pump and dump and the ones who want a genuine relationship if all women are to give sex immediately? If bodycounts are so important in women, yet women should immediately sleep with a man to validate his ego?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/25 07:27 AM
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"Just because he's interested in fucking you doesn't mean he doesn't want a romantic relationship with you." If he is serious about you he will wait. I don't shame the desire in men, I shame the lack of patience. Men who are that impatient aren't good life partners anyway.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/25 07:19 AM
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you just made me realize I haven't been shamed for my preferences IRL a single time, it's always just in these antagonistic online spaces
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/25 08:18 AM
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ahh okay now I feel a little better, thanks man
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/25 05:40 PM
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I have been told off for less.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/25 05:06 PM
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I don't think those men listen to the shaming. Like the poster below said that's just some weird Chad abuser fantasy you seem to have. I'd also like to see the % of the population of women who genuinely find happiness in being bangmaids.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/25 07:43 AM
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Not caring about personality is crazy, because personality affects everything about a woman-- motherhood, hobbies, ambition, introversion/extroversion, agreeableness, etc etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/25 07:41 AM
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this is why women are opting out of dating and fucking men
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/25 09:39 AM
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I would think that if all is fair and well in the world people pair up with people who are similar like them in lifestyle and values. My friend has a high libido and a high bodycount, she paired up with a high libido high bodycount man and they're happy for 2 years so far.& It's usually the "I can change his skirt chasing ways" and "I can rescue this stripper" people who seem the unhappiest.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/25 03:47 PM
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I tell guys that I prefer a man who has sexual discipline and they always ask me what that means and if it's a BDSM thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/25 03:43 PM
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Personally I'm putting my work in and rejecting men with a BC over 3 and calling them whoremongers. Why would a woman want to be with a high BC man? To get cheated on? No self control smh. Go be with other high BC people.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/25 09:28 AM
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and when I already figured that one out and want to start a family?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/25 09:56 AM
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What about women like me who have no interest in sugaring and want to build a family? I live in an environment where men ages 30-40 do not want children and do not take initiative in dating.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/25 10:10 AM
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If I want a certain job I can train/study/work my way up to get it. If I want an item I can work to afford it. Not really with relationships, I can't force men who don't want to marry and have a family to marry and have a family. With partners it kind of is about dumb luck / meeting the right person at the right time or growing together from casual towards a family unit.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/25 08:41 PM
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I don't do that, only been in one longterm relationship and no interest in casual.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/25 08:37 PM
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OP is talking about men who see sex as the ONLY form of love language. That's the issue being discussed.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/25 12:59 PM
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I'm open to it within a committed relationship, doesn't have to be marital. Slovakia. An issue I keep running into is definitely that the men are anti-natalist here and very submissive. As in, they don't lead at all and they lack charms and then blame it on being an introvert. I'd say I have 10x more charm than the average guy here but it's also hard to tell as a woman because men are easy to seduce, most women don't have to do anything at all for a guy to be down.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/25 12:50 PM
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That is my situation. I dunno, is it? I'll just keep investing in retirement if love isn't in the cards for me. So far it seems it isn't because I'm not willing to fuck around and find out.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/25 12:50 PM
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40%
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/25 12:01 PM
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Nope, maybe in the US.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/25 11:58 AM
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I'll just take charming, thnx. Can I get that to go?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/25 11:43 AM
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Men are afraid of divorce. But they still wanna fuck. Women want commitment and don't care much about fucking as they can do without. Men envy that women have the ability to choose. Women are bitter about "no good men left". It's the era of no one getting what they want.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/25 11:43 AM
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I'd be down but also my country has no such thing as alimony, so we don't have nearly the same issues as those draconic US divorces. Funnily enough as we are already a high inhibition culture, men don't want fatherhood either. It's all delayed adulthood. But yes essentially I'm not fucking any men unless they can prove it would lead to something worthwhile like starting a family. While I understand the US fears with alimony, other places don't have the same laws and birth rates are dropping.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/25 11:41 AM
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I fit all of these as a woman, what's wrong with wanting the same from men?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/25 06:19 AM
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The ADHD ones are the best unless they chase dopamine in the form of pussy.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/25 06:18 AM
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Ehh, you talk like it's easy to find a man to marry. Yes a lot of men will do anything for pussy but actual marriage? Watch the room empty.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/25 06:16 AM
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"being called husband material is an insult" "women are lucky everyone wants to fuck them" Different standards.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/25 04:54 PM
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We get told if we hold off sex we're also sending the wrong signal along with shit like calling a guy "husband material" is an insult to men. Men want women to pursue men sexually like men pursue women sexually. That's just not gonna happen unless she's a BPD nymphomaniac. And we all know how men treat the "crazy, but fucks good" girls.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/25 10:12 AM
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I hold off as a woman, I get as much sympathy as a voluntarily celibate guy. Where they get called incels and told to have a shower to fix all their problems I get told I should stop being a hypergamous foidlet. The average guy still has the expectation that a woman should have sex with him immediately, because if top 10% men get sex immediately he deserves the same also. If he doesn't get that, it's women's fault for being hypergamous and she's gold digging him for.... 3€ coffee? Nevermind that…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/25 10:10 AM
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If I'm ever at this point in life I'll try my hand at adopting as a single woman, but I've been trying to find a husband for 2 years and the men in my country are just very anti-natalist. So it's not exactly like I'M denying my future children a second parent, it's just that no one really wants to have a marriage and kids where I'm at.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/25 10:02 AM
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Depends on the creator. I'm sure there are good red pill content creators, but people like Fresh n Fit, Whatever podcast, Saucecast only invite OF girls / amateur influencers who are often young, intoxicated, or playing into the outrage ("baddie" types). Most “manosphere podcast” space is not intellectually serious. It’s not designed to learn anything. It’s designed to create spectacle content. They purposely invite women who will give them chaos, easy emotional triggers, or sexual currency for …
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/25 09:39 AM
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I dunno where these men are finding these demons of women tbh.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/25 06:05 PM
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Alright, what's wrong with womens only carriages? Since you have experience seeing them IRL.
/r/EverydayMisandry27/10/25 06:49 PM
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Where did I say that women have no agency before conception? Unless it's rape, everyone has agency. And don't insult me by calling me a feminist. So far you've only been making points that are in support of single motherhood or restricting reproductive rights for women. So can you explain plain and simple, is that what you want?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/25 04:10 PM
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One women only carriage doesn't mean forced segregation of families. I would actually see how well a one mens only, womens only, and the rest mixed carriages would work out.
/r/EverydayMisandry27/10/25 01:55 PM
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Use this info to be able to identify and dissect potential red flags, not to make yourself paranoid about all men. Fear and pattern recognition can be good servants to aid you, but they're definitely bad masters (don't let them run your relationship with the opposite gender like some of the guys are doing here).
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/25 01:25 PM
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Men who argue about this shit online are not representative of all men girlie.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/25 11:46 AM
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A man’s moment of agency is before conception, not after. The idea that men have “no reproductive rights” ignores that they already have preventative control. Don't want abortions? Don't fuck around with random women without protection if you're afraid she'll abort your embryo or if you're afraid she's gonna babytrap you.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/25 11:44 AM
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Men who value gender roles aren't really being held back from pursuing them in most parts of the world.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/25 11:32 AM
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Not all women.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/25 11:29 AM
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Historically only about 40% men reproduced.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/25 11:29 AM
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"Yeah some guys once they make it will want a tradwife but will also want women on the side" This world is a hell hole. Whatever happened to monogamy.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/25 11:38 PM
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That's why I'd like to be a tradwife, but that's impossible nowadays anyways :3
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/25 10:18 PM
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Yeah back then the man had an easier time providing since the wages and work accessibility were more forgiving. But he also had to be well socialized and meet her family first, especially the father. He had to have manners, and have his community more or less vouch for him. I'd say it's a different struggle. Also genetic and anthropological evidence suggests that historically, only about 40% of men reproduced, compared to roughly 80% of women. But I would say that the odds of a man reproducing h…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/25 08:26 AM
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At this point I'm gonna mail order a nice guy from the bibble belt who's been abused by american women and show him what real love looks like because slavic men don't wanna have families anymore lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/25 06:54 AM
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I cook and clean, forage, would love to homestead. Where's my traditional husband? :3 Oh right, chasing pussy and frying his dopamine receptors with videogames and violent porn.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/25 06:39 AM
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https://preview.redd.it/why-dont-you-love-dating-as-much-as-we-do-v0-1dnaetwymxpf1.png?width=1080&crop=smart&auto=webp&s=57f6923eea8226f8485b2ff906d638d6457a7392
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/25 09:11 PM
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This shits kinda depressing but I think there's still plenty of men who'd be capable of having a family so it doesn't matter in the long run I suppose. It's interesting to see how different red pill is for women and men.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/25 09:09 PM
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Yeah literally I wanted to know too D:
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/25 09:07 PM
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"That means we would need to have compatible values combined with a high level of attraction." Not a man but I'd say this is the gist of it, along with mutual respect and reciprocation but that can be lumped in with values also.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/25 09:05 PM
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I agree, it's about fullfilling eachothers needs in a way that is more than what your friends and social circle gives you?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/25 09:04 PM
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Just wondering, are you american?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/25 09:03 PM
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u/IgorXY By act flirty I don't mean grope women or smile but most dates I've been on with EE men feel like a friend hangout because there is no romantic subtext. I fully understand why this behaviour happens because we were never socialized to banter romantically. Flirting isn’t about fake smiles or being overly touchy. It’s about showing interest in a playful way, so the other person feels special and curious, like there’s tension, but it’s fun.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/25 09:57 AM
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How is having charisma gay? How am I supposed to choose a guy when he doesn't talk much and is passive?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/25 09:51 AM
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to be fair americans talk about things on here as if america is the only country to ever exist
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/25 09:50 AM
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Heya I have a question if you wouldn't mind, how did he court you? I'm a slovak woman and I feel like an alien in my own country while dating. I feel like a lot of czech/slovak guys just expect you to do all the work.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/25 07:49 PM
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Who's limp wristed? Americans n southern or slavics? Bc I've gone on dates with slovak men and they were all extremely passive, they don't approach women either. Further east you get more gopnik types.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/25 08:11 PM
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So far I've only had one bf and he was American. I've gone on around 11 dates with slovak men and it's suffering. They're very passive.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/25 08:10 PM
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Physical touch because for a lot of men that translates to sex only.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/25 07:05 PM
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What country is he from? I also noticed that US girls are having this trend haha.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/25 07:04 PM
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Girl I'm Slovakian born and raised and like here currently I feel like the men here picked the worst parts of traditionalism AND progressivism! They want prince treatment without being charming lol. They don't even want kids anymore or even marriage.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/25 07:04 PM
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I like Americans and men from southern Europe :) extroverts basically. EE woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/25 07:00 PM
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EE woman here. I definitely don't wanna date EE men because I don't like asocial quiet types and the loud ones have mental issues.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/25 06:58 PM
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Women already get wanted and unwanted male attention 24/7 so we're not going to overall stop being selective as a whole from one day to another. Plus a lot of women are checking out of relationships with men overall. Plus hookup culture guys are poisoning the well.
/r/RedPillWomen17/10/25 10:46 AM
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Personally, witty banter and somewhat dominant :P not in an authoritarian way
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/25 02:16 PM
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I haven't done that a single time, maybe I'm doing something wrong as a woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/25 10:26 AM
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Date older bald coworkers, who gives a shit as long as he is good to you and isn't a total loser.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/25 02:41 AM
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I don't mean a one time thing, women will orbit a guy on purpose for days and weeks.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/25 05:12 PM
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Yeah I was pretty tired when I was writing this, mostly a personal complaint.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/25 06:00 PM
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Do point out which part.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/25 05:56 PM
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Volcel, sleeping with random men is basically self harm.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/25 05:55 PM
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Note the "cel" in the word. Standing for celibacy. Hope this helps.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/25 05:53 PM
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Women flirt by putting themselves in the proximity of you. Not all women, yes some of them will be the "pursuer" (compliments, gifts, initiating flirting) but I believe most women flirt by orbiting a man.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/25 10:02 AM
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Which is going to decrease the number of dateable men for women like me who want to start a family, because why would men commit when they can just hire a hooker :/ Nvm, edit: probably nothing would change for me because men in my country are already very anti-natalist anyways
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/25 09:57 AM
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Interesting.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/25 07:32 AM
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I interact with these forums to gain a deeper understanding for the other side, but then again what am I supposed to do about it? I already date within my socioeconomic class, and I'm not going to give pity sex to men I'm not attracted to because sex is just a "rite of passage" to a lot of actual incels same way a lot of women romanticize marriage as a "rite of passage" as a human.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/25 07:27 AM
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Not me, tho I'm a femcel.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/25 07:24 AM
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Not my experience, and I don't sleep around either. Different playgrounds I guess. In my country, I have men who are not desperate enough to commit to gain access to sex. Wee. I'll have to move to the US to gain a husband it seems.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/25 09:10 PM
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https://www.stlouisfed.org/on-the-economy/2018/december/married-men-outearn-single-men https://www.columbia.edu/~yc2444/Why%20Do%20Married%20Men%20Earn%20More%20than%20Unmarried%20Men.pdf https://www.centre-lives.ch/sites/default/files/2020-11/lives_wp_75_mcdonald_2019.pdf "Causation vs. correlation: Many studies argue that higher-earning, high-productivity men are more likely to get married (selection effect), rather than marriage itself causing higher earnings. Mechanisms proposed: Some sugges…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/25 02:01 PM
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And how'd you get to that answer from what I said buddy?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/25 12:45 PM
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"Most men don't want to sleep with many women. Most men wanna build up something with somone that shows they love and care and willing to invest just as much as they do." Funny age we live in. I agree with some of your points but this has not been my experience as a woman at all. I'm average going for men who are on the same level as me + / - and only dating for marriage. I'm put off by high earners and model-esque men because just as you said, we live in a time where if any party has even sligh…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/25 11:30 AM
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Sex is not a need. Companionship is. Yet men are afraid of commitment.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/25 10:54 AM
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I mean that's why I won't fuck a ton of men as a woman, because I want to desire, value and love my future husband. Now with men and commitment....
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/25 10:52 AM
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This kinda confirms the stat that married men outearn and outperform their unmarried counterparts.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/25 10:49 AM
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Women can get sex anytime, someone choosing them for something as serious as a lifetime commitment is validating. Most men can't get sex anytime, that's why they feel that sex is validating / a symbol of status. Most women will always want some form of commitment, most men would prefer the freedom to have any casual sex partners at any point. This is a blanket statement, but it's about how humans always crave what they cannot get.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/25 09:50 AM
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A man's ability to attract women is about social status, not about his worth as a person.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/25 09:19 AM
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I don't mean obvious fuckboys, but I give men I like on paper every opportunity to bond and they just don't take it. I guess that's signal enough that it won't work, I can't MAKE myself like someone with no chemistry. My mistake is I need more data I suppose but guys usually put me off by doing something unacceptable before attraction is built. I guess there's no real way to communicate that I like when there is mutual excitement, jokes, goals and that builds chemistry for me. Shared humour is a…
/r/RedPillWomen18/09/25 04:12 PM
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Yes! So basically don't approach men?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/25 04:06 PM
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I could settle down with the next idiot. Would he be a good father to my children though, or would I be a single married parent? I also want to be attracted to my partner, charisma over all.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/25 08:52 PM
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Genuinely how should a woman approach a man for marriage? Not hookups. I know nothing about the man but his looks.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/25 08:45 PM
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Usually a few basics, hi hello how are you, ask something relevant about their profile, check that they are truly looking for longterm. The timeline varies. I think you're right, if there is no initiative from the men to meet then no point in inviting them out.
/r/RedPillWomen15/09/25 06:27 PM
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Thank you kindly, this gives me a good idea on the progression of things.
/r/RedPillWomen15/09/25 05:59 PM
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27, dating apps. Before I get chastised for being on the apps, no, cold approaches are nonexistent. No one just comes up to you in most parts of northern/western europe.
/r/RedPillWomen15/09/25 05:55 PM
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"Ah so you believe all men who--" Of course! :^) But the men with no charisma can have the women with no beauty, evenly matched. Less gym, more social skills. from your other comment: "SherbertDense1415 - Purple Pill Man its true for all women, I make $200k, women do not care. They care how I flirt with them, how I kiss them, how alpha/beta I am. How funny I am." idk why even mark yourself purple pill
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/25 09:19 AM
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Nope, he's not my type.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/25 03:33 PM
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Yeah seems like a win/win situation, you go dude :) I'm kinda tired of men being vague/lying by omission or just straight up lying about this sort of thing, but I can understand it from the other POV a little.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/25 11:36 AM
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Very few but I know from personal experience I have experienced insane attraction based on personality alone. Many guys are stoic, or introverted, bad at presenting their true selves, etc. I think those pairings are sorta out of necessity, but do prove me wrong if you think money and status drive female sexual attraction rather than a connection. Yep, pretty depressing.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/25 11:35 AM
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Once male sexuality crosses certain boundaries of what is safe for me as a woman, my natural reaction will be repulsion.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/25 10:56 AM
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I'm the opposite as a woman, I want the man to initiate and plan but I don't want him to pay.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/25 10:54 AM
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Out of curiosity, are you up front with women that no LTR will come from these?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/25 10:53 AM
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"high value, highly sought after" only if you ate 7 and up in looks. Otherwise you are as invisible to those men as most average men are to women.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/25 10:51 AM
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"And also another thing, if you are going 50-50, you definitely aint being with her after that date ☠️" I think a woman who is REALLY into you is going to make it easy on you, no mind games or bs like that. It's just an oversaturation of everyone is meeting people they would otherwise not meet, some of them okay, some of them psychotic (both men and women). "If paying 100%, guaranteed sex and dating after, men wouldnt be saying shit about 50-50." Prostitutes can guarantee sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/25 10:48 AM
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"So basically, you have to be a dancing monkey impressing her while she just sits there and looks pretty." He's picking these women himself btw. "These men are so delusional when it comes to what previous generations of men had to go through when it came to dating… You had to prove you could provide for a woman, get the approval of not only her, but her family, and you didn’t even stand a chance of getting laid until after you were married. But now they think filling out a dating profile, engagi…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/25 10:36 AM
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Conventionally attractive men? Nope, not at all. Maybe I'll look a little but nothing beyond that. Guys with personalities that I click with immediately? Yeah!
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/25 07:21 AM
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Yes. The most male attention I've gotten was when I was a teen. There's also this phenomenon of most pedophiles in my country (and there is a lot of em) being more so opportunity fucks rather than being attracted to the prepubescent body. A low value, low morals man will always take what he can get even if that involves children.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/25 10:59 AM
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He's taking what he can get, because he is a low value male.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/25 10:56 AM
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Working on it!
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/25 09:45 AM
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If it aint broke don't replace it, their FWBs probably already know how to bring them to finish so why would they risk an STD with a new guy?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/25 09:41 AM
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Women are conditioned from childhood that sleeping around will affect you negatively. Also, pregnancy and STD risk. There is no way to level the playing field because a woman risks physical harm and has no guarantee of orgasm when getting with a guy.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/25 09:40 AM
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Nah I'm gonna keep looking for a husband till I'm too old to have kids, but congrats on the marriage dude!
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/25 09:32 AM
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I am eschewing pregnancy because men don't want to build families anymore, either. The blame isn't all on women ¯\_(ツ)_/¯ pregnancy is a team effort, and I'm not planning on being a single mother or being married to a man I don't love. But I understand how men today struggle because of the confusing input they get from women in regards to dating.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/25 09:21 AM
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Men both on the bottom 10% and top 10% (looks wise) will usually treat you poorly.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/25 09:14 AM
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I've noticed the heavy emotional baggage trend with men by their 30s also, you really need to check people for resentment or unresolved mental health issues these days.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/25 09:04 AM
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Your libido would probably not be high enough for any of those. You'd also burn out pretty quick.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/25 08:54 AM
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No as a woman I agree, men should be healthily masculine instead of overemotional quitters :)
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/25 08:09 AM
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Few and far between. Though there are many men who cannot afford to sleep around because they're well, they can't afford it.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/25 12:04 PM
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No I agree they're the consumers and that behavior is rewarded. Despite lots of men complaining about inceldom and unrealistic standards they, historically, have more access to talk to women world wide than ever. Gyms, courses, hobbies, knowledge-- it's the digital age baby.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/25 11:20 AM
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Yeah this is why modern dating is shit. I've only ever wanted LTR but men my age are so spoiled and ran through from hookups these women provide they're unable to pair bond with a normal woman anymore.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/25 11:08 AM
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My friends literally do all of those minus the experimenting with guys and they're happily in LTR. Sometimes the boyfriend's tag along, sometimes they don't.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/25 11:06 AM
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exactlyyy
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/25 06:53 PM
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"Hello. I only fuck in committed relationships."
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/25 05:36 AM
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Men in my league
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/25 03:14 AM
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Yeah, I get what you mean. Growing up in a mostly female environment definitely shaped how both men and women approach dating. It makes sense that traditional courtship feels rare these days, and a lot of young men might be hesitant to take initiative. From experience though, they're still pretty lost even if you initiate first as a woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/25 01:04 PM
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I know plenty of women who don't think that, me included. The guys who initiate still get the girl at the end of the day than the ones who wait around for a girl to come get them.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/25 01:00 PM
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Haven't, but somehow it still doesn't work IRL. Maybe it would work in the US, I dunno.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/25 12:59 PM
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Stats?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/25 12:26 PM
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"little missy" oh man.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/25 12:26 PM
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Nope, don't you know you should immediately get down on your knees for a "maybe" man? Damn woman, bare minimum here! xD
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/25 12:24 PM
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If it works for her who are you to call that "bare minimum". Lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/25 12:24 PM
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No one said that "most women actually approach men". Most women do not. This is how it is for most animal species.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/25 12:23 PM
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Almost every species in the animal kingdom has the male investing in pursuing the female. Guys will waste your time because you are a convenient placeholder. Not saying that players don't also trick women but a man winning you over is more psychologically satisfying and it signals his seriousness more.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/25 12:21 PM
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"Hello. I do not want to fuck. I want a man who will commit to me. Are you a morally sound man?" would this work? kthnx
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/25 12:12 PM
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I mean people can do that, lot's of people are hypocrites.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/25 09:54 PM
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It all depends on how they're dealing with that baggage. An unhealed older man with baggage is just going to give a younger woman baggage unless he is actively working on his issues.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/25 04:26 PM
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Ironically enough I have 20-23 year olds chasing after me the most, among with men 38+ so ^_^" I can feel the generational difference when talking to older men and can't say I'm a big fan, even though I know they are more reliable and mature most of the time. Thanks again, I'll try to swipe based on a better mindset!
/r/RedPillWomen15/08/25 12:20 PM
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Ohh, I'm going for more 25-38 ;x that's probably part of the issue
/r/RedPillWomen15/08/25 11:50 AM
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Thank you for the good advice, the text on my profile is well fleshed out but I think maybe pushing the visuals more would be helpful.
/r/RedPillWomen15/08/25 11:49 AM
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He initiated with brainrot I'm just playing off his vibes? Am I not supposed to match someone's tone and joke around? I engage in meaningful convos too. Those don't usually go anywhere, but okay I'll just keep at it. Eventually something's gotta happen I guess.
/r/RedPillWomen14/08/25 07:15 PM
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I also talk to them about their interests but they don't put effort back so eh.
/r/RedPillWomen14/08/25 07:09 PM
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👍
/r/RedPillWomen14/08/25 07:07 PM
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I have a very well fleshed out profile with my interests, work, so lots of conversation starters. They just don't ask about anything in my profile. But yes it could be that I'm shite at giving "go" signals. It's a dance of introverts.
/r/RedPillWomen14/08/25 04:28 PM
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There is a culture here against making small talk with strangers. I'm slovak and people think it's weird. People tend to be more reserved, especially in public settings. Random chit-chat in queues, buses, or with strangers at a café is unusual and can feel intrusive. Striking up a conversation with a random man here is definitely against cultural norm.
/r/RedPillWomen14/08/25 04:26 PM
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Example conversation A: guy A : Bliop blop bogos brinted👽👽 Vlorp? me: Finally someone with the same brainrot me: So dinner at mine or yours? - - - - - - - - - - - - - - Example conversation B: guy B: You must be a high test score because I want to take you home and show you to my mother me: See me after class ;) - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - No reply, though yeah most convos end up being "wyd" back and forth I'd actually prefer an app similar to Omegle where you can have a voicechat instead beca…
/r/RedPillWomen14/08/25 04:23 PM
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I'll try asking men out then. Thanks.
/r/RedPillWomen14/08/25 04:14 PM
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"meaning, go in places where you imagine a man youd want to marry would hang out and look approachable there, perhaps bring a book, or something to draw with, or whatever youre interested in that might spike up a conversation with someone" This just does not work. Men do not talk to me IRL. But I appreciate the insight.
/r/RedPillWomen14/08/25 04:03 PM
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Except men who are 27+ also have baggage themselves.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/25 03:11 PM
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This, some people have a genuinely interesting personality, so much so you start to imagine yourself dating them, and your attraction grows as you get to know them better. If that person can also flirt you have a great combo.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/25 05:44 AM
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It's a waste of everyone's time.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/25 02:51 PM
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more men should do this but I don't think all of them are in a situation where they can afford to do that (the alternative is being lonely)
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/25 01:24 PM
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Most women are not into rough sex or FTF with minimal foreplay, that is a minority.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/25 04:44 PM
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Same and also I have managed to get shamed for NOT sleeping around by shitty men. Funny world.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/25 07:09 AM
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True, though unsure what their motivation behind that other than validation. I'm not DTF on the first actual date bc I usually don't have enough information to be attracted to a guy on the first date.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/25 07:12 PM
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I think some guys are not giving enough information about themselves AND chasing women who have to be "convinced". I've never made it hard on a guy who I liked, he never had to prove himself but he also showed he was good, morally sound, reliable and had the same life goals as me.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/25 06:22 PM
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Yeah but do you want to be with those women? There are women who understand that you can't use pussy to lock down out of your league.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/25 07:22 PM
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In nature 98% of the males of any species have to impress and chase the females. Luckily humans can find fullfillment in other forms than just reproduction.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/25 07:20 PM
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The whole point of the comic is consent but somehow they got that... out of that. Nice.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/25 09:40 AM
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And you will not be Chad, even if you became him it would not make you happy in the long run.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/25 09:38 AM
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Ever considered having a "project" partner?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/25 09:44 PM
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What would an example be of "something that will legally cover you"? Marriage?
/r/RedPillWomen09/07/25 07:06 PM
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Yes and no. I got catfished by an actual incel once, but I wouldn't say that is most of the male population.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/25 12:13 AM
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Seconded.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/25 06:23 AM
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Hell yeah, monk and pirate maxxing.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/25 12:23 AM
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Same.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/25 10:46 AM
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I mean yeah projecting health definitely increases your chances! Same for women-- thick long hair, fitness, blemish free skin etc etc
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/25 04:35 PM
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I do not support sex work because I think it is predatory towards both men and women. I have seen OF creators shill their stuff to teenage boys. Anything for a laughable amount of money. Same goes the other way, men having countdowns on 17 yr olds asking them when they're going to make an OF. Overall the company should be deleted and there should be more laws in place for the porn industry that would protect actors both male and female from extortion. But overall like another poster said easy ac…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/25 02:23 PM
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What possible solutions do you propose?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/25 02:18 PM
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This. He's the one baiting.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/25 02:16 PM
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My first bf was not fit at all and sometimes I lusted over him. I'd say it's more like: you don't think he's hideous, he meets your emotional needs, he makes you feel desired. also nice Casca icon
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/25 09:06 AM
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Also women tend to be more attracted to how men behave and treat them, of course visuals are important also but much less than with men. At least that's my experience.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/25 07:00 AM
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Until there is exclusivity and emotional comfort. Men who "can't wait that long" are not marriage material and not worth wasting time on.
/r/RedPillWomen13/06/25 11:04 AM
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Depends on who you ask, the loud majority presents itself as a movement where a man's value lies in how much money he can make and how many women he can sleep with. That's not what the original idea was, but the community has definitely taken a hard turn towards that. In the early days it used to champion positive masculine values, now the wrong men are being championed and leeching off of vulnerable guys' misery.
/r/RedPillWomen28/05/25 08:28 AM
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Yeah this, I can understand where they're coming from but I would not date or be friends with such a man. Different goals. I want a family. Most of them want to sleep around with as many women as possible while also being very vocal about female body counts. Meh.
/r/RedPillWomen25/05/25 01:50 PM
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Actually met a guy who's like that very recently so I'm actually so freaking excited, we both are. Turns out you just have to play the numbers game enough, there's always a man who doesn't play about what he wants it's just that they get snatched up fast. It's just frustrating to sift through the immature trash. Also failed talking stage wrote me back after 4 months after he let me down that he's been thinking about me, that I'm great company and a good woman etc etc (this is after he didn't wan…
/r/RedPillWomen23/05/25 03:53 PM
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Age-gap relationships are only problematic when there's a significant imbalance in life experience or power between the individuals involved. For example, a 23 yr old dating a teenager often means one person is legally an adult with more autonomy, while the other is still developing emotionally and neurologically, which creates a power dynamic that's easy to exploit.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/25 05:02 PM
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Yeah that's the plan! <3
/r/RedPillWomen17/05/25 07:22 PM
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25-38 which seems that that's still not the age they want to settle down and there is no societal pressure for them to do so here and I don't really wanna date 40+ yr old guys when I'm 26
/r/RedPillWomen17/05/25 07:12 PM
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Safety from what? Fun from what?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/25 03:27 PM
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This, too many distractions (for men and women) that are instant dopamine hits. Men don't serve their communities anymore, and they're disinterested in participating in communities. Why should they, they can just play online games with their bros. Plus basic things that help young people in their productive age-- Maslows needs hierarchy-- are unattainable. Like tell me why the fuck everyone is after self actualization over things like sleeping, eating, friendship, etc everything that is below it…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/25 03:19 PM
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That's only a 4% difference, I was expecting like 20% to 3% because men swipe indiscriminately.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/25 02:53 PM
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There should be a dating app that completely disables you from being shown to men who seek casual sex and don't have a job (and aren't between jobs or in education).
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/25 02:49 PM
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You're not in a relationship yet, so don't stress it. Actually even better strategy, to avoid him being sketchy/outright lying about his family being OK/ pulling the "my family doesn't interfere in my affairs" card... If you DO get into a relationship, hold off sex until he introduces you to your family. No one says you need to be intimate when you're dating and courting. If you'll get into a relationship, hold off sex and at some point bring up that you'd like to meet his folks. I'm not saying …
/r/RedPillWomen25/04/25 11:43 AM
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I had a similar issue when I was talking to a guy a while ago, I cleared the air by asking him this; "Hey, I know how important your family is to you so I gotta ask, would your mother be okay with you marrying someone outside of your culture and religion?" You'll either know and can move on. If he lies, then that's on him but definitely don't be intimate with him before this question is cleared. Muslim guys are notorious for leading girls on unfortunately.
/r/RedPillWomen24/04/25 07:56 PM
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This actually reminds me a lot of what I went through in a past relationship ;)))) You're already doing more than enough—so please stop apologizing. He really needs to adjust his expectations to something more realistic, especially since it's clearly starting to stress you out. He's not your husband yet, and it’s important to talk about this kind of thing before marriage. I’d suggest approaching the conversation from a place of mutual car. Not as a “you” vs “him” issue, but more like, “This is s…
/r/RedPillWomen24/04/25 09:11 AM
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I'm asking because I'm trying to nitpick what practical/real life qualities I'm looking for in a man (green flags) and to help my vetting process by gauging real lived experience in examples. I'm mostly running into some frustration because there's usually bad behaviour and lust being showcased and men don't get to show off their leader qualities when talking to them online. I've talked to guys who said they were all that in the bedroom, very dominant, but were just drifting in life so I knew I …
/r/RedPillWomen24/04/25 07:50 AM
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I'm not that religious myself but his faith seemed to be an important part in his profile. I'm not sure it would be my place to go to church meetings (although my grandma would love me to). Kinda feels like I would be intruding if I just go there to be husband hunting. OLD seems like the easiest way for a woman, though it leads to false advertising and lots of "bad apples" like I have experienced. I'm just a little frustrated with guys lying and pushing boundaries.
/r/RedPillWomen14/04/25 09:43 AM
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Also willing to admit this reads more like a vent and maybe I'm not giving enough context as to how I'm acting to attract this sort of attention, sorry about that!
/r/RedPillWomen14/04/25 07:32 AM
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How do you get good at those activities though?
/r/RedPillWomen22/03/25 07:51 PM
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I feel the same way and don't have all the answers either, there's a balance between being realistically critical and holding yourself to a certain standard while also being kind to yourself. Sometimes shit happens, give yourself a little more value.
/r/RedPillWomen20/03/25 12:19 PM
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