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Feminism isn't about removing earned resources form men, it's about ensuring men and women have an equal playing field when it comes to gathering those resources and an equal footing in deciding how our resources will be used collectively. What about women having the ability to have their own bank accounts frightens you so? I know there are nasty people on tiktok who say we should put all dicks in a blender, but there are as many or more others who say women as a whole shouldn't be allowed to vo…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/26 12:17 PM
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So, what I was trying to point out to you is that these male "rights" might just be ideas that women should be subservient to men, so aren't "rights" but are ideas based on slavery and subordination. If women challenge these "rights", as we did, the "right" to beat your wife goes away. I'm very sorry that you feel like the loss of your "right" to beat your wife, slave, or concubine is inhibiting your lifestyle. But for a minute, maybe try to empathise with the wife/slave/concubine, who is actual…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/26 11:42 AM
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I think this might fall under the idea of those who had privilege finding equality to feel like oppression, where it isn't. Where women want equality in the workforce, feminism (not the misandry tiktok bs) also fights for men's parental rights. It's a fight for a reasonable work week, where we can make money, keep the house, raise whatever spawn we want and stay sane. It isn't feminism that's taking this from you, it's the oligarchs, who demand every spare second be spent making money so you can…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/26 11:26 AM
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Are you saying men are particularly vulnerable to reverse psychology?! Because the men I know aren't that thirsty or stupid.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/26 10:12 AM
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Because, being honest, I dont see as much misandry in the world as I see misogyny. Don't get me wrong, I do see misandry, and I fight and argue against it. But we still have people in power who grew up before women could legally earn as much as men, before women would have a credit card, before domestic violence was taken seriously. Those men are absolutely not all men, but they still hold a lot of power. The misandry present tends to be less systemic, like in my country a museum did a stunt whe…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/26 09:52 AM
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So then there are (let's say) 1/4 women who have 2+ kids from a previous relationship, but 1/2 men who have 1+ kids. Why aren't the men looking after their kids?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/26 09:39 AM
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Where women have reproductive health prioritised we tend to see greater happiness, safety and GDP rising. We don't need our birthrate to increase, we have too many humans already. We need a stabilised birthrate, with weath distribution to the actual people participating in the workforce and safety nets for everyone. Our problem (I'm not sure educated in this but I try) is that we build our economy on growth, and allow the top owners to keep building wealth through the labour of the workers. So w…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/26 09:35 AM
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You wrote a lot, and I can't find it in me to respond to everything, but can I ask why you think that it is so bad when women have children born from previous relationships? Wouldn't there be an equal number of men who have fathered those children now seeking a new partner? I don't want to guess your reasoning, but if it is because you see women as the primary caregivers of children and it is a problem for their new partner to care for their children, shouldn't the father be as responsible for c…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/26 09:16 AM
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Lol it's a kids book, but it is very entertaining. Just look after yourself, okay? I used to hate how my car would beep at me for leaving the lights on when I got out, when so many cars just turn them off automatically. I made a conscious effort to say "Thank you, car!" After I left the lights on overnight and had to jump start it the next morning, and now I feel grateful the car reminds me to do shit. Went from angry and hating the car for judging me, to thanking it and now it makes me laugh. T…
/r/ExRedPill15/07/26 06:47 AM
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I do love how open and honest you are, it's really wonderful. As for being fast, I'm not really sure. Maybe it's just in my nature to want to trust and having a "Shit happens and I deal with it when it does" attitude that makes it easier for me to trust. Like, I don't think I'm too naive, but I try to give people benefit of the doubt. When I get mad at someone, I consciously try to put myself in their shoes and understand that they might be having a shit day or whatever. As an example, slow or s…
/r/ExRedPill15/07/26 06:23 AM
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By learning that everyone is human and can make mistakes, and it isn't my fault or problem if the other person is struggling with cheating. That's a reflection on them, not on me. It hurts, and it hurts insanely bad for a while, but time and distance can heal it, to the point where I can now laugh at it. I choose to trust, understanding that I might get hurt but it's better than never loving someone in a healthy way again. If I set ridiculous rules to try and protect myself I'd be more likely to…
/r/ExRedPill14/07/26 08:13 PM
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Betrayal is an unfortunate part of life, my friend. I have been on the receiving end of it for all but one of my relationships, and I understand the pain and angst it can cause. It makes you guarded and scared, which can hurt potential new relationships. It can be debilitating, but it's up to you how the broken trust will colour tour future relationships. Will you lead it to make you more careful as you go forward, will you be more open to lovers and choose the most honest, or will you close you…
/r/ExRedPill14/07/26 11:32 AM
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You say if there's no benefit then there's always a cost to men. It's anecdotal, as I can't be arsed to look up studies, but I feel like I provide benefits to my male friends aside from the shared comradery and emotional support like taking photos and helping them with their online dating profiles, being a different style of player in games, being knowledgeable in things that they aren't so they ask me for advice... We can be different but that makes us more mighty together! Especially platonica…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/26 08:24 AM
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See, I think this is your algorithm talking. Sure, women date and marry horrid men all the time, we're human and we make mistakes, nasty men and women are good at putting on a persona in the initial stages of dating, then the sunk cost fallacy comes into play and we all think we can change them but we end up hurt. I think that if you talked to real women, and looked at all the people who are in relationships in the real world, not online, you'd have a hard time justifying your position. I was ju…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/26 12:46 PM
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...women on tiktok. Come on my guy. Real life average women don't complain about short, fat or balding men. They complain about men who don't want to do housework, men who try to control them too much, men who say they want children then try to cry that they're too tired and can't do it when they become parents. I see men on tiktok saying all women are born sluts and aren't intelligent enough to vote or choose what to wear, but I don't take that as a representative of all, or even some men. It's…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/26 10:49 AM
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Oh, my sweet summer child. I am so sorry you have never been on the receiving end of a pounding. Maybe if you find someone good, they'll give you a decent pounding. But it's less likely to happen if you keep spouting this bullshit. You've got some ancient greek ideas of sex, and I bet you'll be happier if you let that go and find someone who likes you for who you are, despite your raging insecurity
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/26 09:15 AM
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That's not nature, is socialisation. Because they teach men that they're lucky to get a girl, because women are so much better than men, so men aren't worth shit. See how we can twist this BS both ways?!
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/26 08:58 AM
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See, this is why we don't take is as serious when women say pencil sharpeners. Because we're trying to illustrate a point (get it?) and we aren't serious about devaluing people. These anus people are serious about it. And they vote.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/26 08:56 AM
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I get it. I don't want some guy whose dick has been squeezed down three sizes smaller cause he's fucked his other long term girlfriends. Fucking gross /s
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/26 08:53 AM
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Maybe OP should have asked differently, like has any extremely positive experience made you unwilling to date down, but even then, I think most people are very flexible when hormones are involved.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/26 06:53 AM
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I think you're going to find that most people think of negative experiences, rather than positive ones, when looking into a new sexual partner. Ie, "I don't want someone who asks for a blowjob first thing in the morning" rather than "I'll only take someone who is amazing at head." Novelty and new relationship feelings can make people feel exciting and fun, so even if they aren't as amazing at making you cum, you still want to try and help them learn, and then the sex can become amazing. For me a…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/26 06:24 AM
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Maybe I disagree with you cause me and many of my friends are neurodivergent and while I haven't dated in ages, my mates find it challenging to move into in-person relationships from online. They'd rather invite people to a DnD or craft group and see how it goes from there.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/26 08:59 AM
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How is online dating working out for you? If it's great, then feel free to ignore my ideas. If it's not so great, maybe dip your toes in my lived experience. I have a friend who pulls regularly from dating apps and usually has 3 women at a time, but he's very socially adept and lets them know in advance he's got kids and is just on there for the fun of it. I have other friends who don't have any luck on dating apps and meet potential partners only through social settings. You do you, I was just …
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/26 07:49 AM
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Maybe it's my ADHD, but the extra step from meeting online to meeting in person feels like a big step and scary. I find it much easier to meet people in person, get a feel for them and how we interact there, and then agree to meet again. If you don't have time to make friends and hang out with a variety of people before choosing who you think you're compatible with, then maybe that's the problem. You're spraying and praying, rather than sniping your best potential partners. If you make friends w…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/26 07:35 AM
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Because many women experience attraction differently from men, so need to meet them in person to find them truly attractive, and the horrors of internet and meeting for the first time make that scary. If you meet them in person and become friends first you skip that part.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/26 07:15 AM
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Lol okay sweetie.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/26 04:42 AM
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...ick.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/26 08:40 AM
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If they get me sick because they cough on something and I touch it, then I get sick and pass it on to someone more vulnerable, those dipshita might be living unaffected, but more sensible and kind people died. Because of their shittiness. Pity because I bet it's down to ignorance and lack of education that led to this level of anti social behaviour, and disgust because they seem to think they're better than the people they are harming and killing.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/26 08:31 AM
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I'm not necessarily living in fear, rather I understand the risks and try to educate others in my country so I don't have to fear losing my rights to abortion and so on. But I reacted with pity and disgust.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/26 05:27 AM
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She was defaming him by saying he was unsafe towards her, when at the time she claimed he was harming her I was on the phone with him then video chatting to his kids while he made dinner. So it wasn't a revenge porn thing, it was about false allegations.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/26 10:08 AM
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I think it comes down to compatability. I am an atheist sex-positive person, and I seek like minded partners. To me and my friends, it's not anyone else's business who, when and how I fuck, until we're in a committed relationship. To put this in perspective, when I counted it up and told my partner I'd been with twelve other men, he laughed and said "I thought you said you used to sleep around!" He's only been with three others, so it's not like he's a manwhore, he just views sex in a similar wa…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/26 06:08 AM
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If my partner who I was looking at being serious with I'd answer honestly, but not offering up the information or being truthful by saying that you have had a few flings and aren't interested in casual sex anymore isn't lying. I'm saying there is a huge gap between having a past that indicates you are likely to do something that might harm your partner vs not telling them outright that you've slept with six people, three were ltrs and three were hookups, and you tried anal with one. The sites th…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/26 05:46 AM
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By lying, are you saying she explicitly said she never got an STD and passed it on to her partner via cheating, but it turns out she did? Or that she had a couple of flings and tried anal or whatever but it wasn't for her and didn't bother telling him? Because one is his business and the other isn't, not is it lying, but he can ask if he really thinks it's a boundary for him.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/26 05:13 AM
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Good for her, she's dodging a bullet.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/26 05:08 AM
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No, my point was that in a time that expected women to leave the workforce upon getting married or having children, and was allowed to enforce penalties for women who tried to stay in the workforce, we now see elderly women who have to work past their ability to, because they took time out to raise children. I appreciate how it looks like an informed decision in this year, but 50 years ago there was much more societal pressure to conform to this and to pretend otherwise is asinine. Women were fi…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/26 11:18 AM
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From my country, women are retiring later, as if they had children and weren't earning money it wasn't going into their superannuation account (retirement savings) then they divorced, they didn't get enough from their partners who worked the whole time as they didn't have dependant kids anymore and now they're working into their eighties, even though they worked in the home all those years. So it's the opposite. Edit: all those stay at home mums who were doing "Trad wife" stuff are now totally s…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/26 08:21 AM
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Why do they retire early?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/26 07:37 AM
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Hey, don't kink shame me. Leprechaun On the Casting Couch is my favourite of the series.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/26 11:59 AM
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I'm glad you're okay. Look after yourself, and if the deal stops being two-way positive, please look after yourself first. You're worth it.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/26 02:01 PM
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I don't know what sugar dating is, from context I think it may be paying someone to be your partner online for money? It sounds like like they abused you, your money and your trust and I fully understand why you would have a hatred or pain towards women after such an experience. If you're lucky enough to live in a country with decent healthcare you could get a mental health plan and talk with a psychologist that could support you through your understandable trauma and help you to heal and find t…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/26 01:37 PM
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Sorry babe, it isn't and you shouldn't be saying it is. You are worth more than that, and by tying your worth to anything monetary you are bringing down your sisters and yourself. Pay your way, and if you choose to accentuate yourself with expensive things like hair and nails sure, you can try to find a guy that will spoil you that way. But your personality and value as a human is absolutely not tied to that. Grow your bush and celebrate it, do your nails because it makes you happy. But don't do…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/26 01:30 PM
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That sounds intense and unfair. Care to spill the tea so we can better understand your feelings? Was she a sex worker who was upset by you, or just a vindictive person?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/26 01:19 PM
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I have recently been diagnosed with ADHD and have bargained with my male partner to be allowed to keep my meds on the counter because I struggle so hard with remembering to take them. It has nothing to do with gender, it's a brain thing. (I'm agreeing with you, just wanted to specify as this sub can be vitriolic and people's motives can be hard to understand) I love chaos and clutter in my decor, it soothes my mind and lets me see all my happy things out where I want them, but I try to temper th…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/26 12:53 PM
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Oomph. That's awkward. Why don't you love your partner enough to contribute anything? Are they your slave? Ick.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/26 12:42 PM
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Am I reading you right in rewriting what you posted as: Women care for each other and look out for each other's best interests, and we show this here by openly expressing opinions that are honest and don't just bow to the interests of men in general, ie, sticking to our principals and supporting each other in the face of differing opinions?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/26 12:39 PM
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Because for many women attraction is born out of more than just physical looks. I can think a man is devastatingly hot, but until I actually talk with him I'm not attracted to him. I could imagine what he'd be like to talk to and that pretend version of him might attract me, but until we talk and connect he's just a Schrodinger's dude. If a man isn't conventionally attractive but we talk, that personality can easily override my initial 'meh' and make me feel insanely attracted. That's why we car…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/26 10:04 AM
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My insta feed is all Tolkien things and videos of lizards. Seek and ye shall find. If dating feels too hard, sure, drop out. No one is stopping you, and if you need to focus on yourself go for it. It shouldn't feel that hard, though it does and always has involved effort for all parties involved. If the women you are going for are asking too much, of course you'd not want to be with them. Women don't sign up for being a bang maid, but for ages that's what we were to many men. People's libidos ch…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/26 09:41 AM
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No, it was the "thank you for contributing precisely nothing" that made you seem like an asshole.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/26 02:56 AM
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I have heard, so this is anecdotal and I don't know how true it is, that some men display homophobia because they are scared that men will treat them the way they treat women. Like, hit on them aggressively. But I can see that being true for some men.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/26 10:18 AM
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Okay, so in your mind what general characteristics do men want in a relationship, and what general characteristics do women want?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/26 12:52 PM
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Women aren't a monolith. My best friend and I always joke about how different our 'types' are. Men are also not a monolith, some like assertive women who can get shit done, others want a dreamer who likes to garden but is happy leaving dishes in the sink for days. If you're looking at what lots of different women like, you can try to take the middle road so you appeal to most of them somewhat, but then you might miss out on a woman who really appreciates you for your natural characteristics, ass…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/26 09:22 AM
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This is a lot of policy change, which won't necessarily end in societal change, which is what I think you need to enact the end goals of your ideas? Do t get me wrong, I love the end goals, but I think that what the simplified version of this might be that: Power is given back to the workers- if you are able to work a job you should be able to support yourself and your family, and apprenticeships in jobs that don't necessarily need a uni degree should be seen as just as valuable as jobs where yo…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/26 11:47 AM
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Not in most places in the world. For a huge proportion of women, few of whom would be on Reddit, in this sub, even being raped can mean being "slut shamed" and some are still being murdered or forced to marry their rapist. In other places, I'm thinking the bible belt, it's still a huge stigma. I'd hazard a guess that a really small percentage of women are comfortable leaning into the "I love sex, and I celebrate my sluttiness" label as much as men do, or would of they could. And meny "liberated"…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/26 09:39 AM
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I think you're differentiating the sexes based on behaviours that both sexes show, but are attributed to one sex or another based on cultural and societal values, rather than on the majority of people in that category actually displaying. I could be totally off with this, but what I'm hearing you say is that "it is best for us to want to make families and raise kids, men and women want or should want this, and men locking down women to reproduce with them is the best way to achieve this outcome.…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/26 12:12 PM
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I agree that we need equal rights and that in a lot of places, while legally we have equal rights we see a significant skew in favour of women. Like rights to access children after a relationship breakdown, prison sentences after similar crimes, in some countries with a wartime draft only man are considered. I'm sure there are more, maybe you could mention them? But women are also affected by societal bias, they're less likely to be taken seriously as medical patients, many companies won't promo…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/26 10:42 AM
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So, you think that men just want to force women to do what they are told, and women are like "Nah man, imma do what I want just like men do." And that's unfair?!
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/26 10:31 AM
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If you want a fit, motivated house proud woman, but you are an unfit, slobby man who blames "the lag" and rages when you lose at League and then goes on to complain that the women you're interested in don't want you and it's all because of feminism, that's the kind of whining we can't stand. The difference here is that sure, you can be frustrated in the same way I am frustrated that I don't make a thousand bucks and hour at my job, but it's unrealistic and unhealthy and no one wants to hear abou…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/26 11:21 PM
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Okay, let me try again. Being nice is the bare ass minimum, if you're a nice person, then people will want to be around you. Be nice and compatible in other ways, you could be in a relationship, romantic, platonic, whatever. But the "nice guy" isn't actually nice, he just pretends to be then chucks a shit fit when his idea of "nice" doesn't get his dick sucked. Nice, as I said, is how you get others to engage with you socially. If I spit on you when you get in an elevator with me, I'll probably …
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/26 01:13 PM
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Nah, the "nice guy" trope is more of a sarcastic misnomer, if a person is truly nice, then they're just a good person. From my understanding, the "nice guy" that people complain about is the guy (or gal or enby) who pretends to be overly nice to hide a sinister, usually entitled, personality. Being nice is how you get others to be around you in general, not how you get a romantic relationship. The "nice guys" aren't actually nice, they're all fart and no shit.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/26 09:38 AM
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I just don't know many people who deliberately surround themselves with assholes. The only ones who do are assholes themselves, but they're more outliers. Are you seriously trying to make the point that it's brainwashed to think that most people prefer to know and hang with people who are nice to them?!
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/26 12:01 AM
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I mean, usually being "nice" is the baseline for wanting any kind of relationship, romantic or platonic. Yes, you should be nice if you want to interact with others, because otherwise they won't want to be around you at all. Your question makes me think of a Gale quote from BG3: "Well, fine is… fine. Nobody weeps because the weather is fine. No monarchs were overthrown because their ruling was fine. No artworks were burned because they were not masterpieces, but merely fine." People, women inclu…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/26 12:13 PM
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As Peaches says: I like to lick it and suck it like you do I like to hold it and squeeze like you do I like to seize it and slab it like you do I like to tease it and tap it like you do So back it up baby, back it up, back it up Back it up baby, back it up, back it up
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/26 06:39 AM
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So the 80/20 study that you seem to take as gospel, can you site the source? Because from my understanding it is only showing how people on one app rated other based on a photo, when we know that women say they experience attraction through other means. It'd be like me showing you a picture thirty women's elbows and saying "alright, which of these women would you marry?" How the fuck do you know? You can't see enough to find them attractive properly, and you don't know if there's a connection th…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/26 07:56 AM
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...what about no one controls anyone, and we do what we want?? Why, when women say "Hey, we want our own money and to be able to control our reproductive system and future" you say "okay, compromise, you get some money and a bit of say so we can try and wrest back some control."? How about we each look after our own bodies and futures? Men are perfectly capable of taking power and control of their own lives and bodies, it's when they try and spill that over to others that we have issues.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/26 06:21 AM
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Lol and your article is a study of only french women from age 25-29, saying that their numbers are much higher than seen elsewhere, making your point useless in other age groups and places.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/26 08:38 PM
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...not in my experience
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/26 10:48 AM
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Oh okay, then on that I agree with you, but I think that women have heard the "He won't buy the cow if he can get the milk for free" argument for ages. What we need now is the "he might get the milk for free, but if you want to get milked, go for it (safely)" argument. Otherwise we're still supporting the ideas that women only have sex to appease a man, and their sexuality is secondary.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/26 10:38 AM
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Okay, but if I'm fucking a man it's because I want to, so if he shows after that he's an idiot who isn't worth my time, at least I got my pussy licked. If we're together and he's selfish in bed, I'm not staying anyway. Why would I care if some loser doesn't respect me? I wouldn't respect him.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/26 10:14 AM
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You're so right. Her hormones changed after she carried and birthed his kids (fkn gross, should have vat grown them) and when he wakes up with a stiffy and grunts out "BLOWJOB" she should have already put the espresso machine so she can suck him off in her little maid outfit, finishing him just in time to make his coffee while he has a shower and she gets the kids ready for school. Can you believe some of these women haven't pre-showered before the blowjob, and they want help to get the kids up?…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/26 11:01 AM
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Don't kink shame. /S But also, if that vibe works for them, he probably doesn't feel cucked. Why be a dick about it?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/26 10:56 AM
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...what about never married with kids? Tbh it kinda sounds like you're only counting marriages from first world countries, there are many kids being born in places without proper education, contraception and sexual healthcare. We are pushing the limits of what our planet can handle with our population and energy needs, and we've already fucked it up quite a bit.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/26 10:51 AM
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I'm not saying you shouldn't call it quits, it seems like you aren't feeling it, but you didn't say how you're supporting her libido, when she's told you she needs help with it. You're super well within your rights to say "this is the effort I'm willing to put in, and beyond that, it's not for me." But if she needs more to experience arousal, well that's not her fault either. New things are more exciting, like in a neurological sense, so longer term relationships do take more effort in that way.…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/26 10:44 AM
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But isn't that a pro-education argument? Teach them about brain chemicals and what porn can do, as well as how masturbation is okay, but can be unsafe if you use things that aren't made for it?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/26 10:17 AM
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Why does saying masturbation is okay have caveats? It's actually quite good for you.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/26 09:41 AM
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It's harder to discriminate against gay people if their union is legally recognised.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/26 09:46 AM
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As one of the best films ever made said: Grandpa: Well, who says life is fair? Where is that written? Life isn't always fair. But still, I'm glad Humperdinck got mutilated.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/26 09:34 AM
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I am so, so sad they made the voice actor redo the horse lines for girl horses. But on the plus side, my partner says them and more for me. Love that healthy communication. "Hey babe, can you be a sexy cowboy for me for a bit?"
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/26 12:37 PM
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I love your question, but I think that it will be hard for many people who don't consume romantacy to answer. Some people just have a different horny switch, and while that's okay, it can make aligning sexual desires challenging. For example, I've been playing a lot of rdr2. It's fine, I can see how it's a great game, but I find it sexy in an "I'll be your protective man" kinda way. I don't give a fuck about how he looks, I want the grr my woman thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/26 11:38 AM
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Maybe think of it like this: there's a hit movie with a theme about overweight people. The director is of average weight, and the movie has some messages about the importance of loving yourself no matter what, and some find it to be a way to emphasise the importance of exercise and healthy eating. Then the director says that they've been struggling with an eating disorder, and the movie can be taken as a look into the life of someone who is trying to find a balance with body image and self estee…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/26 10:10 AM
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I don't think I've ever ghosted someone intentionally, though there was one guy who told me he loved me on our fourth meeting, second date. I'd barely gotten to know him and he was 27 to my 19, so the age thing was already a bit challenging. I tried to tell him it was too early for that, and I just wanted to see how things went, but he dived right in, and seemed to ignore my "calm down, dude, I can't text at work so sending me fifteen messages is too much." So he might have thought I ghosted him…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/26 05:47 AM
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Not OP, but no, it really isn't. I, like many women, need external stimulation, cock size doesn't make much of a difference at all. Could be three inches, could be eight. Still won't get me off without help.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/26 08:23 AM
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I am all for pushing to lose the "collar and pants" uniform for men, but we need brave men to help and support each other in this, advocate for your right to wear a gorgeous skirt that shows off your calves or a longer skirt that swishes when you walk- it's fun! Women in the past fought for the right to wear pants and skirts, then fought to make it normalised. It doesn't happen overnight and yeah it's sexist that these expectations exist, but it needs to be argued and challenged, not whinged abo…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/26 09:08 AM
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I was with my then unemployed partner while he studied, he makes money now but when we started dating I gave him money for petrol, bought him new computer parts etc. He didn't catch up with me in terms of income for a few years. It was never an issue for me, I just liked him.
/r/ExRedPill03/02/26 07:06 AM
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General answer is no, fuck no, and virgins are hot. If I'm into you for a one night stand, it's a bonus if you're not terrified of fucking up and we can just explore and play with each other, I don't ever hold an expectation of performance. If you're honest with me I'd want to make it a bit special for you, asking what you wanted and trying to show you it's a nothing burger once you do it. If you're shy, and I'm into you I'd be happy flirting and playing. No stress. Virginity is packaged up as t…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/26 10:00 AM
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That's all on the assumption that women pick their sex partners based on a special criteria, which I can assure you won't don't. Casual sex just isn't related to how much I'm willing to deal with in regards to a romantic partner. If you can talk silmarillion to me, I'll be hot for you for a night. But I won't do your laundry or support you when you lose your job.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/26 11:58 AM
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So, as I first asked, what is hypergamous treatment?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/26 11:47 AM
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I have. Do you think that black people in the united states of America have poorer academic outcomes because they're less capable, or do you think there are other factors at play? Hypothetically, let's say that Scientology has a .001% divorce rate. That would be amazing, right? But if you actually understand statistics and science, you would look at why that might be the case. You would look at their doctrine, at how comfortable people would feel divorcing an absent or abusive partner. Divorce r…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/26 11:44 AM
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Okay. So, let's add into this equation that people, not.just women, are looking for a partner that they find attractive and can tolerate, or (we all hope for) enjoy living alongside. Let's say that in a group of potential relationships, we find that most people go only to typically attractive partners. Okay, so we leave those to their fate and expand our social circles to find people who are looking for partners with long-term goals. I mean, there's a reason all the porn sites tell you there's "…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/26 11:26 AM
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I'd also argue that women move on faster because they check out of the relationship earlier than men. It seems that women initiate divorces more frequently not just because they're the ones who typically do the paperwork, but because they're the ones unhappy with the status quo, and after having their displeasure and complaints ignored for so long, finally ask for divorce. At that point, the partner who is less willing in the divorce, no matter of the gender, is usually found to be more invested…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/26 10:24 AM
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Oh no, you ticked my pickle and now society is breaking down... What does sharing casual pleasure actually mean to anything? Do you have studies saying it's bad, or does it just makes you feel icky?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/26 10:15 AM
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I think to have this conversation we need to define hypergamy. Because if it's just looking for the best possible partnership, well all genders do it and how is it a bad thing? Can you give us a detailed explanation of it? I see people on here claiming that women are too picky and that means hypergamy, but why would anyone of any gender be obliged to be in a relationship with someone who doesn't meet their needs? Let them be single and happy. Or I see people who say hypergamy is women who stay i…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/26 10:05 AM
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With all sincerity, what is the special treatment that you want? I see (not much because my algorithm is mostly dinosaurs, video games and politics) some women online who demand the princess treatment from the first encounter, and I think that's insane. Like, expecting someone who messaged you "Hey, we might be compatible, shall we find out?" To suddenly roll out the red carpet and beg to let you pay for their meals? It's not how most people operate, it's just clickbait. It takes time to find so…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/26 08:22 AM
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Okey dokey, so what are these liberal values and how do they break everything?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/26 07:36 AM
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Rape and domestic violence only occurs after a man has fucked a woman? Is this just your headcanon or do you actually have stats for that?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/26 07:22 AM
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What are these liberal values, and how did they screw over mating prospects? I'm in a fairly westernised, progressive country, and in the 70s some women took over an abandoned house to make a shelter for battered women. The didn't have enough room for all the women that came forward saying they were beaten by their husbands, and as it was considered a "domestic dispute" the cops didn't care. This was in my mother's early life, and my aunts suffered from it. The ability to tell a man that he can'…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/26 06:55 AM
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So because you say that small dicks aren't attractive to women and won't give them pleasure I'm a liar and I'm somehow insulting people with a small penis by disagreeing with you and saying that they're good lovers? To me, your argument seems to be "All women hate small penises, even though women tell me otherwise. And if a woman says she likes small penises she's a liar and is insulting you, because I said so." How is what I said an insult, and please actually state your argument rather than sa…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/26 04:54 AM
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Here, it's a weird look into our reproductive system, and how different vaginas and vulvas are: https://jamiemccartney.com/internal-vaginas/
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/26 04:47 AM
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God no, it just didn't hurt in my favourite positions. I've been with my current partner for awhile, and even now, with only one dick, depending on my hormones and shit it can feel too big. Women's vaginas are really stretchy, and having a big dick in them doesn't stretch them, it's arousal and hormones. I've got multiple dildos, bought by my partner. Some days the small one will hit the spot, other days when I have more time I'll use the big one. It doesn't make a lick of difference when it com…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/26 04:46 AM
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Wow. Okay, I'm sorry I hit a nerve. I compared dick sizes and sexual pleasure on a thread about ... Dick sizes and sexual pleasure. This thread is being sceptical of women being able to enjoy having sex with people with a small penis, I say "Yes, I enjoy sex with people with a small penis" and you jump on it saying... What exactly? That I'm being patronising by giving my experience and thoughts? What could I have said here that wouldn't insult you?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/26 04:40 AM
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Missionary was less deep, when being slow and lazy, but spooning was comfy and good, thighs squeezing the shaft and my clit.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/26 04:36 AM
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It's not men's fault. It's no one's fault. It's a cultural phenomenon that we should be arguing against. Women do it too, but it isn't exclusive to women. I also like the pun in your flair.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/26 04:32 AM
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Did I not just have something good to say about a small penis? I care about sex, and I answered a question, but now I feel like you're dismissing my honest answer, basically calling me a liar. Why? This is a random internet forum, I can easily disengage. I'm telling you honestly that I can have fun with someone with a small penis, and instead of engaging with me you're just saying I'm wrong about my own feelings and experiences. If you're this stuck on your "big penis powerful" thoughts then you…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/26 04:29 AM
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Do you think that's because it's also men who objectify penis size? Women don't usually say we have "big tit energy", I think (hope?) because small tits are beautiful too. So there's just more people who use the phrase having a big dick as meaning good, or powerful. And the narrative is (slowly, unfortunately) changing, body shaming is becoming less okay. In my country we used to run an ad on billboards and tv to stop speeding, some car would speed by and a pretty girl would roll her eyes and wi…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/26 04:08 AM
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I never thought about it, I've been with two men who were uncomfortably large, and we had to stick to certain positions so it didn't hurt, and I've been with someone who was two inches hard and we had a great time, loads of foreplay, giving oral was easier and more satisfying for me, the sex was still fun. My current partner is a perfect middle ground, never measured it, but it is also curved which hits my gspot easily in doggy style. He says he's about average. But all flavours are fun to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/26 04:01 AM
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I want to see if he engages with me openly, I won't bother with someone who ignores my points, talks over me, doesn't have opinions on anything etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/26 12:55 AM
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Eh, just interests of mine that I like to talk about. Nothing really special.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/26 10:35 PM
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I'm in a country that's trying to fix our gun laws cause of a god awful incident that happened recently. I'm glad women don't carry guns, I'm glad that it feels insane that anyone has a gun unless they're out specifically killing pest animals or dying animals as a mercy kill. If I felt it was okay for women to carry guns I'd also worry about the dickheads trying to hurt those women carrying guns. If I was in a horrid part of town where I'm worried about that, I'd feel less safe knowing others wo…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/26 09:52 AM
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This feels like you're valuing sex above a partnership, which might be your problem, as many women value partnership above sex. So, I might fuck you buy not think you worthy of my time and emotions. Hypothetically, you'd be a two on my scale. You're a free dildo. Then I find a guy who I wanna spend time with, I want to grow with, someone I want to care for and have them care for me. They're an 8 on my scale, and I hope with time it'll get even better. Some men see the dildo as much higher becaus…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/26 09:31 AM
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Eh, I would consider myself a turbo-slut if I wasn't in a relationship. If not consider "typical physical attractiveness" a criteria in my list of what I'm looking for in a hook-up. Fwiw, it was: good conversation, fun flirting and turning me on during conversation, and interest in turning me on and getting me off. Typically attractive guys might seem more interesting initially, but they tend to lack the ability to care about actually making me horny, and if I don't feel like my sexual partner w…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/26 09:22 AM
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Yep, and their obsession with dick size. I was with a guy who had a big dick, I dunno if I wasn't sufficiently aroused or what, but it fucking hurt and I didn't go back. The flirting and foreplay was fun, but I didn't love the dick, and it isn't something I'd compare any other partners to.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/26 09:10 AM
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How would you define masculinity? Because it sounds like you're defining it as ability to pull women. Aragorn only had one woman in his life, though Eowyn was interested, but to be he shows a lot of masculinity through his determination, his willingness to do the right thing even though it was difficult, he put others before himself and looked out for their wants and needs to get the job done. Women don't define your masculinity, YOU, as a male do. Masculinity is an idea made by society, and you…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/26 09:00 AM
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It's like when in my work with children, I have to explain why we don't let anyone be unsupervised. I have to constantly explain to children that it is a mandatory rule from the government, that these rules are put in place as however unlikely, accidents can happen, and still the children say "But I PROMISE I won't do that!" Great, that's fine and I believe you. But people who would do that are able to promise they won't, and I'm not a lie detector and I don't play favourites, so we just have a …
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/26 04:57 AM
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Yep, I chat with AI partners like I'm in a RPG game for funsies, this seems more like how my partner uses ai-like tools, ie, asking out loud for the assistant to set his alarm, snooze the alarm for 15 minutes, find a recipe or whatever. I want to pretend to be sneaking into a goblin encampment to find treasure, he wants someone to force him to wake up.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/26 10:03 AM
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I think that what they're saying, if we put it into your analogy is: the price of milk is going up as dairy maids used to be forced into being dairy maids, but not they can find other avenues of work, and choose not to be dairy maids. Some milk companies realise that dairy maids were taken for granted and compensate them fairy, others do not and look to other places where dairy maids are still taken for granted and underpaid, and promise those dairy maids a somewhat better life. They also seem t…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/26 04:52 AM
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If you break up, will you consider yourself a whore or slut because you've now had a sexual partner? Without resorting to pseudoscience, what makes someone having multiple sexual partners a negative, and why do you feel you have the right to judge someone on that? Maybe try decentering yourself and your feelings, and trying to understand others wants and needs.
/r/ExRedPill31/12/25 03:31 AM
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The mother stuck around to raise their child. Maybe try deadbeat dad shaming instead.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/25 01:37 AM
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A bit of Valar in conversation makes everything more interesting.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/25 09:55 PM
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Ah okay. So maybe we're speaking past each other with different ideas of the term "herd mentality".
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/25 09:54 PM
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I think the problem is because you're taking that quote and assigning it the explanation of "Women are more likely to have a herd mentality." I would define 'herd mentality' here to mean that someone tries to fit in because they don't want to be excluded, despite wanting something different or ignoring their own thoughts and desires to fit in. The study says that women are more likely to conform to maintain a peaceful relationship with others, and only in a group setting. It also says that men a…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/25 09:03 PM
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Where did you get the idea that women only maintained the house? Women have been supplementing the family income as well as doing all the domestic chores for ages. https://www.striking-women.org/module/women-and-work/19th-and-early-20th-century Some people have a rose-tinted view of the past, thinking that women were staying at home, caring for children, cooking, cleaning etc, but I just don't see facts backing that up, unless the family was upper class.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/25 06:45 AM
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Not for me, I want my partner to join me in sexual pleasure. I enjoy seeing him experience pleasure, and I hope that he likes to see me experience the same. It's not about having one partner only get off, or having one partner unable to experience pleasure so the other can be a focus. I think what you might be looking at is a sort of "pillow princess" dynamic, where one partner is much more of a receiver of actions. That doesn't mean that the other partner can't get off, in fact I think a big pa…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/25 11:29 AM
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It's really tricky to give good advice over the Internet, as we can't see your actual interactions. I am in a workplace with mostly neurodivergent people and it's the little things that they don't quite understand that can make or break in an initial encounter, or they don't understand why their typical habits might be off-putting, and they need to be more flexible if they want to coexist with someone closely. We can give general advice, but until we see you actually interact, in person, it's no…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/25 06:14 AM
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It's stupid logic from any gender, but as you said, it's from a vocal minority. I usually don't bother arguing with them because it's about as useful as bashing your head against a wall. Here, though, I think we have some people who have heard things and relate to whatever is said, without really dissecting the arguments. I hope that sometimes, even if only once, I can help that person who might be in a dark place to pull apart the knots of sensationalism and make a better informed opinion. Dgaf…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/25 07:38 AM
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Just, you gotta make her watch Frank is in a coma, and DO go in blind. Just get that one episode, please, and tell me what happens!! I think she will really, truly love it!!
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/25 02:13 AM
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It might just be the people I am around, but I find it easier to strike up a conversation with me about the most random brainrot stuff, and they'll usually know what I'm on about and have lively, non-judgemental and well thought out discussions about it. Some women do this, but not as many. Like, the other day at work we were setting up the room and making food, and I asked "Okay, if you could design your own vault experiment in Fallout, what would you do?". I like the personal bonding stuff wit…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/25 02:08 AM
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Spoilers for a recent episode of IASIP: My sibling told me to watch this episode, and I did, loved it, and my partner watched me sob as it got to the end, as he knew I would do, he often tries to warn me about this stuff but in this case he also really wanted me to watch it blind, and as I'm sobbing it reveals that Dee, who had a huge emotional arc over the death of her delightfully scummy father, was instead sobbing over cake. Because Frank loved the "is it cake?" show, and had made a comatose …
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/25 02:01 AM
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Evolution is a description of what is, not how we want it to ideally be. Ideally, and I get a lot of hate for this, I think we should mandate birth control for all genders from puberty and ensure that only those who are able to raise their children have kids. This isn't eugenics, this is saying that if someone wants to raise a child that is amazing and good on them, it's hard, but they shouldn't automatically get societal support if they won't put in the work, and not the work of doing a 9-5, bu…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/25 04:02 AM
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I don't think that people deliberately sabotaging their ability to look after themselves is good, and I wish we could spend more of rooting out those who do and making them look after themselves or suffer from their own choices. I know a woman who got pregnant, had three kids to a man who didn't love her and was with another woman, and demanded a house from his parents because "she gave them grandkids." She was an idiot entitled bitch in highschool, and kept it up. I wish the government gave her…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/25 03:26 AM
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I think what you may be forgetting is that this isn't a zero-sum game. These children that you are supporting are going to be your baristas, your doctors and nurses, the people that look after your kids in daycare, your truck drivers and grocery store employees. You put money into supporting people, and out of that you get a (somewhat) functional society that can help you with the things you can't or don't want to do yourself. Living at or below the poverty line in your country is insanely commo…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/25 03:11 AM
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My mate just had a knife held on him, and when he backed away, she held out the knife told him to hold it or she'd cut herself. She absolutely was a danger to him and if he'd tried to physically subdue her, he'd be in for a hell of a ride to prove it was just in self defence if he wasn't filming. It's not just the 1:1 strength ability, it's the repercussions from trying to restrain someone or defend yourself. Especially if they're just trying to stop blows and not actually fighting to subdue the…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/25 10:34 AM
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I agree with your feelings on censorship, how can we learn if we can't ask? If I saw your cute butt and decided I'd like to peg it, would it be your fault for wearing form fitting pants? Or for casually being friendly with me? If you choose to hang out with me, and you wear something that allows me to look at your ass, is it on you or me if I take you up on your "offer" and try to make a move?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/25 08:52 AM
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Don't take it down, then they won't learn. They need to hear good arguments or they'll cry 'cEnSOrsHiP' and not learn anything.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/25 08:44 AM
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In the intimate partner violence that I've seen in my life, for all genders, it never starts with "well, they should have seen it coming." It's always a slow burn, turning to a sunk-cost fallacy, then a feeling of being trapped and unable to escape safely. Like, slowly believing their lie that you can't survive on your own or you'd be worse off without them, then believing their lie that they're going to change and you've been with them for years. It's so hard to extract yourself from them now, …
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/25 08:40 AM
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Oh honey, you have to be careful. An educated woman is quite dangerous. If a woman is educated, she might be able to choose when to have children, resulting in fewer dead mothers and infants, and more planned pregnancies. She might be able to persue her career further, and choose to focus on her own destiny, and let her partner be the child raising one.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/25 09:52 AM
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"But the idea that in the past men were hunters and women were not is absolutely unsupported by the limited evidence we have. Female physiology is optimized for exactly the kinds of endurance activities involved in procuring game animals for food. And ancient women and men appear to have engaged in the same foraging activities rather than upholding a sex-based division of labor" -https://www.scientificamerican.com/article/the-theory-that-men-evolved-to-hunt-and-women-evolved-to-gather-is-wrong1/…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/25 08:34 AM
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Try this video, and if you like it they have other great ones, like the one about Smeagol: https://youtu.be/pv_KAnY5XNQ?si=O1KhC0UKpxfqtKJB We define masculinity, like any other word, as a society. I think that what makes Aragorn feel so masculine is his caring for others weaker than himself, his determination to do the right thing even though it's hard, his acknowledgement of others strength and ability to lead while working as a team and his glorious hair and swordsmanship. But if he was a wom…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/25 11:23 AM
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Would you agree that Aragorn is a masculine man? He is also soft and gentle with others, he shows physical affection to other men, acknowledges their strength and bravery, treats Eowyn as an equal worthy of the battlefield... At his coronation (in the movies at least, i don't remember exactly from the books) he sings elvish poetry while petals fall on him, then gives up his spotlight to four hobbits. Three.of the hobbits look awestruck, while Pippin is looking all like "Yeah, you plebs! I got a …
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/25 11:05 AM
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You can't come to an agreement or compromise? If you hate mopping the floor, and your partner seems to need it frequently mopped, why not take up another job that they don't like to do in exchange for mopping? Is the issue relating to how much time is being spent on house upkeep? Some people just really want a super clean, tidy home. Other people don't mind messy homes that are clean, but not as clean. If you have different standards, it's not a gender thing, it's a difference in expectations. E…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/25 12:53 PM
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I am the exact same way, and I feel you. I am self-suspecting AuAdhd, and if I don't do something in the moment, I completely forget it, despite my best of intentions.i really struggle with my partner knowing that dishes need to be done, but waiting for me to initiate it because he doesn't like how the soap fucks up his skin. both of us have sensory and brain bullshit that we need to deal with. That isn't necessary nagging, it's a difference in communication.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/25 11:38 AM
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Okay, so maybe I live in upside down world. I might actually be one of those weirdos who thinks infrequently mopping is fine, because we solves much of our issues by getting Garbage Goober, our robovac. I work with glass, ceramics, resin and paint so I'm a "messy" person, but we make it work by having clean areas and workshop areas. But if you're having issues over how often the common areas are cleaned, the fkn ask chat gpt how often they need to cleaned, make a schedule and stick to it with di…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/25 11:31 AM
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I'm just gonna throw this out there as a platonic idea: I have had so many more positive interactions with humans, regardless of gender, attractive-ness or what-the-fuck-ever, when I've been my happy, sunny self. I could be in my hungover onesie, and as an older person, it ain't attractive. But if you're happy and grateful for the other person's time, well, that makes all the difference.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/25 11:22 AM
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Why is she worth less if she sleeps around? Is a man worth less if he sleeps around?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/25 11:17 AM
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Yeah, but how do you define "nagging"? That shit has been the excuse of partners to not do any unpaid work for decades, they're "nagged" to do the dishes, to put out the garbage, to do things previously agreed upon that was a part of their domestic duties, but they didn't feel like doing. Some people struggle with the idea that eating on plates and having bins to put trash in means someone has to clean said plates and take the trash to the bin. If you want dishes to eat from and places to put tr…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/25 11:13 AM
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So, partner A is trying to deal with the realities of a shared household, like cleanliness and chores. Then partner B comes along and because they don't cohabitate, that shit doesn't matter. So the man in this scenario is like "Fuck yeah, imma take that relationship without the actual work that means I'm staying in a sanitary, functioning environment. Let's just bone and- oh no, now my apartment is filled with trash. How dare she?!" Come on. If you have differences in cleaning standards, you can…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/25 10:27 AM
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Can you define "man" and "woman" for me, please?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/25 10:56 AM
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It's more about illustrating that it is isn't as uncommon as you think, as being intersex is largely invisible. The current numbers show that it is 0.018 to 1.7 percent, depending on definition. Which is still a lot of people.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/25 10:54 AM
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1) I don't know how many trans people you know, but if a trans man went into a female bathroom I'd hesitate to guess that you'd be weirded out. A hairy masculine person, possibly with a penis, being forced to use the ladies room? I mean, there has been many news stories recently of cisgender people being accused of being trans and abused because they use the bathroom aligned to their assigned birth sex. It's a place for peeing and pooing, why the hell does anyone care what junk you've got?! I'll…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/25 10:51 AM
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There are cultures around the world that acknowledge other genders, but I get it's a bit hard to understand when many of us have been brought up to understand gender as a binary concept reather than a societal description. Have you ever looked into intersex people, or the experience of a trans person? What if there was someone with XY chromosomes who had a vulva, vagina, uterus and all that? Are they a man or a woman? What is an XY chromosomal person who was assigned male at birth but later for …
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/25 09:40 AM
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What about intersex people? If I said "Are you blue or red?" but your favourite colour was green or purple, do you think you should pick one of the "normal" colours even though it doesn't fit with your experience?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/25 09:31 AM
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I've seen stats that show the number of intersex people (that we know of) is the same as the number of people with red hair. We also don't usually do chromosomal screening for everyone, and some people live normally without knowing that they are intersex, like there was a story about a woman who had birthed children but was intersex, and it was only picked up later when checking for something else. I just don't think it's as rare as people assume.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/25 09:28 AM
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I mean, shitholeness is down to perspective, but I live in Australia, and there are some great documentaries about the first women's shelters here, and what women suffered before they had a legally protected way out. I could be wrong, but isn't India infamous for rape and misogynistic crime that isn't prosecuted because of police corruption? Stories are great, but they aren't the reality of the people, it's... Well, it's a story, it's irrelevant.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/25 12:46 PM
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I think this depends on your lens, like I've seen the past through the eyes of my grandparents, great aunts and so on, and the "being nice" to men was more like putting up with shitty behaviour because you had no choice. If you spoke up you were fired or beaten. Many women were fortunate enough to find men who didn't revel in their power and genuinely loved their partners, but as women were still so restricted financially, they were relegated to the duty of homemaker and parent, even if they als…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/25 11:01 AM
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The biggest problem I see in your argument is when you say "they should already be attracted to you so be into it when you ask". That's not how many people's libido works, especially women's. Men are frequently really horny in the morning, as they get a hit of testosterone during sleep. For me, while my partner is sexy to me, in the morning I am feeling like I need a coffee, a shower and some wake up time before I even think about sex. Many women have a more "reactive" libido too, we don't see s…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/25 11:19 AM
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No one is entitled to purchase anyone, however if someone wants to sell a service, and you choose to buy it, you aren't purchasing a person, but a service. Women (and people of all genders) are so much more than their bodies or their sexuality. If I go to a massage parlour, or a hairdresser, I'm not buying the person for a bit, I'm buying a service. I'm not commodifying them, as they are offering a service I would like to utilise. Am I a commodity because I offer babysitting services?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/25 10:06 AM
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I used to watch The Man Show on fox8 or whatever cable channels and it always ended with the "girls on trampolines" segment. Now, I am not attracted to women, but I could totally get why people liked it and appreciate the segment. Some women won't be cool with people only looking at the female body as an object for pleasure, I don't care so much, as long as the trampoline girls were compensated for their time and their jigglies. Men have had gentleman's clubs, pubs, bars and all sorts of places …
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/25 11:23 AM
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If they got women, why are so my of them on here bitching about not getting women? I ask this respectfully.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/25 11:44 AM
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I identified as red pilled like ~20 years ago, before I realised how it was being used as an echo chamber for people dissatisfied with their love life and looking for a scapegoat. I thought, fuck yeah, men have issues too and I can absolutely see how they're being misrepresented in media, which changed how people think of them and their issues. I still feel that way, but now redpill is full of asinine ideas about women like yours. Women don't follow politics and don't want to consider all sides …
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/25 11:36 AM
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Why TF would I blame someone for being single?! Being single when you don't want to be isn't down to a blame game, i talk to my mates and find reasons they're single. Maybe they're too forward, maybe they're too into themselves, maybe they're looking for something that doesn't exist. The reasons why so many women and men end up in toxic relationships is so multifaceted it's asinine to try and explain it without a journal of peer reviewed papers, which would barely scratch the surface. But largel…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/25 11:39 AM
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Wtf no. women are human, my dude. We make bad judgement calls. Ane some women decide that associating with a sex trafficking fucktard like Andrew tate is in their best interest. If you're seeing loads is women who want that, it's probably your algorithm. Real women are repulsed by him and his ilk. Sure, I've chosen bad, but like, didn't bother to find my clit bad. Or I paid for out dinner and now he wants me to move in bad. And we learn and grow. No serious person is shitting on someone for tryi…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/25 09:56 AM
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Oooh! I've got one for this! The wage gap isn't real as much as it used to be, my grandma does indeed remember being paid a third of a man's wage because she would be fired as soon as she was married. But now, the wage gap trends towards paying less for jobs that used to be done by women for free, and people are pissed off about paying for them. Childcare, aged care, nursing, disability care, no one wants to pay for it, but no one wants to do it for free anymore. So it's all "Why is childcare so…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/25 09:39 AM
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Isn't Andrew tate dodging sex trafficking and rape allegations? Why bring him up?! Do you think abusing people is on the same level as finding a relationship??
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/25 09:32 AM
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Right?! He just needs someone to say "it's okay to appreciate the chaos in nature and not be perfect!" That's all he wanted, perfection, to make everything how he thought he needed it to be. He's too uptight. He needs a hug.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/25 06:16 AM
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Okay so love your username, who in the Tolkien stories could you fix and how? I could absolutely fix Mairon, he knows he needs chaos to temper his perfectionism and I won't tolerate his bullshit else I'll take away his crafting tools. You??
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/25 06:03 AM
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There's a whole song in Frozen about "He's a bit of a fixer-upper." https://youtu.be/IyO-vdsgq1s?feature=shared
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/25 04:09 AM
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Okay I shouldn't have had the second tequila sunrise. Apologies. Nup, don't care if you want to me or anyone else. And it might be paywalled if we're on different countries? Wank away.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/25 09:30 AM
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FYI, link #1 is paywalled. As for your discussion, I'd say that male and female sexuality diverge, which is where we find the problems we tend to have with each other. Women trend towards feeling aroused more by personality than looks, and vice versa. That's not to say that looks are irrelevant, just that for many women, a hot man with a shit personality won't be as attractive as a mid man with a good personality. I hesitate to say that even an ugly man with a good personality will attract women…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/25 08:42 AM
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Yup, but even better, teach people that sexual assault isn't gender specific, and general assault doesn't (or shouldn't) take in account your gender. No consent with hitting, touching, groping, slapping? It's not okay. That's gender equality. And I am so here for that.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/25 09:59 AM
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Yup. Many people are raped in their pajamas by people their family trusts. Teach people not to rape is real.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/25 08:13 AM
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1) Agree, but it shouldn't be forced upon anyone, and most feminist parties I know feel the same. 2) Agree, as above. 3) Absolutely agree, in my country we've just had awful news of an alleged predator(s) in early learning centres and their admins have decided to not allow any male employees to help with toileting or nappy changes. What the actual fuck, label all men as potential predators, ignoring the female ones, and double the work of female workers?! No fucking thank you. If a woman creeps …
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/25 08:11 AM
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For your first point, the people who usually say "teach men not to rape" aren't saying it in a vacuum, unless they're insane or living in a culture where rape is more permissible or the woman's fault. It's usually in response to people saying "Tell women not to dress like they want it or get drunk etc." because it shouldn't be on the victim to change their behaviour, but the perpetrator. And yeah, it should be "Teach people not to rape." I agree that not calling out misandry is wrong. People of …
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/25 08:54 AM
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It's not normalised, most people aren't misandrists. In some circles it's much more acceptable, and if you're seeing lots of that content, it's probably your algorithm. That doesn't make it okay, it's still bullshit man-hating, but it isnt what most people think, and we should call it out.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/25 10:01 PM
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Okay, so then if I say "All men are rape apologists and abusers and anyone who disagrees with me is just resorting to name-calling and getting defensive instead of reflecting on their behaviour " am I making an actual argument based on facts and logic, or spewing misandrist hate? It looks like you've seen some shit online of women being anuses, but instead of saying "Wow, some people sure are shitty" you've made the incredible leap to "This must represent all women, and they need to better thems…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/25 06:44 AM
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Reminds me of the episode in scrubs with the patient who asked Elliot where his doctor "Dr Elliot Reid" is, because he assumes his doctor is a man. She avoids the sexist remarks by pretending the doctor is busy and that she (who he assumes is a nurse) is doing what the "doctor" said.if I remember correctly, she gets the janitor to dress up as a doctor and come in, then the janitor says something about having to amputate...
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/25 10:13 AM
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But are you not also dependant on jobs that are primarily taken by women? If you ever need a nurse, or a childcare worker? You can't think of anything you need from a woman??
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/25 09:55 AM
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..... Are you stuck in the 40s?!? My mum was a cop. Judges, lawyers, pollies, all these jobs are also done by women. And if men decided collectively to enslave women, they'd likely end up dead. Because women are still strong, just not necessarily as physically strong as men. Mate, do some research on the history or men's and women's jobs, because if we aren't raised to believe that we're a "fairer" sex, which I agree would make women more likely to accept servitude (though as seen in history, no…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/25 09:52 AM
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No, but there are female firefighters. Can you think of anything that men need to survive where they are more likely to find women than men who are able to do that job?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/25 09:36 AM
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I just recently had a woman in to fix my oven. What does having a dick/presenting masc have to do with anything here?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/25 09:27 AM
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White people were enslaved by other white people in the past. Check out the Norse. But that's not the point. If women were strong-armed into being "back in the kitchen" do you really think they'd like down and take it?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/25 09:24 AM
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I just want to ask about your point number 2, if we do that we're excluding a huge number of the population. There are and were many brave and necessary people in the military who wouldn't be considered by your rules but provided things that the military needs, doctors and nurses, cooks, IT professionals, engineers, decoders... You get my point. I would also like to point you in the direction of Tolkien's work, look at Merry and Eowyn. Eowyn was told she couldn't fight, yet she managed to take d…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/25 09:31 AM
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That just showed me a picture of two skulls. I'd rather hear it as you understand it, if that's okay. I can post studies all day, but that won't achieve much if we just expect each other to read the "research" we each have done.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/25 11:17 AM
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Are you ignoring all the diseases and medical issues we have erased or rendered non-life-threatening through modern medicine? I assure you, more people live to old age than they did 50 or 100 years ago, I don't know which "age" you think was the best pre-industrialisation, but you likely would have died from cholera or the plague. And people had addictions back then, too. They just often died of something else, first. Low testosterone seems to be an issue, my doctor says it could be lack of exer…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/25 11:06 AM
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At you dense?! All this shows is that to be "fit" in a western society is to be somewhat healthy, with reasonable habits and some social skills. The matrix movies are goddamned legends, don't you taint their lore with your edgelord bullshit, that was over and done with 20 years ago. Bring something new.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/25 09:57 AM
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If you've actually read Darwin, you'd know that "Survival of the Fittest" meant those who fit best in their environment, not the strongest and most physically capable. The rules haven't changed, the environment has, just as it did in all the past ages. Look at your environment, and see what works to survive there, that is the "fittest". Then look at yourself and see if you want that. Maybe you don't, and that okay. You do you, be your best self. In the ancient world, "strong, fit" makes might ha…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/25 09:36 AM
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I agree, which is why I put my time and effort into stopping false abuse claims. But I would wager that more people, not just women, suffer from toxic social media that judges them on looks. That was more my point, that this began as a way to superficially judge people, and we still need to call out that shittiness, as well as false abuse claims.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/25 11:46 AM
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I mean, isn't a more superficial version of that how Facebook started? I agree that it's a shitty thing to do without proper checks, but having a platform to rate people did start online with the rating of women. Though I would rather be rated as ugly over being an abuser. But still, we should call out all of the shitty behaviour.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/25 10:15 AM
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I'm on them because I've seen two of my mates called out as abusers. I offered the mods proof that the abuse didn't occur, as one woman didn't think it through and said it happened on a day when the guy was elsewhere, and I was able to provide texts showing the other woman threatened him when he rejected her. Gotta stick by your friends.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/25 08:56 AM
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Gods no. It proves that women have erogenous zones inside their vagina. I've been with people who had dicks too big, it hurts, and dicks that I can't really feel too much, it's about how you use it. You've got fingers, bring them bad boys into play to help your partner reach orgasm if you need to. Honestly, it's about finding the right position for your dick size, for me, that's where you can hit my g-spot on each thrust, and it isn't that far in. But all vaginas are different, there's an amazin…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/25 11:23 AM
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Yes... And? Yes you understand that women's erogenous zones extend to within the vagina, making piv sex pleasurable, so your post is answered and incorrect? Or yes to something else?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/25 11:13 AM
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Yes. I love piv. It's why I have dildos and not just clit stimulators. Did you know that the clitoris is actually quite a large organ, and can be stimulated from inside the vagina? Sure, if I want to cum quick, I can just go for the head of the clit, but there is so much more to female sexual pleasure than just that little button. Have you heard of the g-spot?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/25 11:10 AM
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Because then many of your wife's friends would be in abuse partnerships. Your children would grow up talking with their friends about how their daddies beat their mums. It was not nice. You might not harm your wife, but back then, it happened in many, many families. And it causes generational trauma. Your daughter might date a boy who saw his dad beat his mum and because she couldn't feed her kids if she left, she stayed. So now he thinks it's okay to beat your daughter. Child support is absolut…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/25 10:27 AM
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So going backwards, men do have higher rates of incidents in cars, but so do people in red cars, so some insurance companies will factor that into your rates along with the model and power of your car. They tend to look at all factors, and it sucks if you belong to the gender that tends to have higher rates of incidents, but imagine if we evened that out: do you think that 17 year olds and 50 year olds should pay the same for insurance? Why or why not? Should someone with a modest sedan pay the …
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/25 10:08 AM
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My body is seen as a sexualised joke by many, I don't think I'm particularly unattractive but I promise if I went topless at a construction site I'd cause many a man to swoon from disgusting belly fat and wobbly boobs. When I get home after work, I take my bra off. I have red lines and chafed skin from it every day, even with "soft" bras. It fucking hurts. You know those pregnancy bellys they have that people can strap on to show how much it sucks? We need those, but for boobs. And make them man…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/25 09:29 AM
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So, if you're using natural birth control methods that aren't piv, ie anal or just and/oral play, you're probably okay. If you use the rhythm method you're probably an idiot and she's gonna get pregnant sooner or later. Insurance is like a potluck, the people who put in don't quite know what they're getting out of it, but a) women giving birth to the next generation will benefit you later, unless you think that by then you'll have great robots to assist you in your old age. B) women's health isn…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/25 09:24 AM
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For the car vs health insurance thing, I'm not expert and I don't have any studies besides the ones in the back of my brain from studying developmental psychology, but I would hazard a guess that women tend to need more healthcare because they have pregnancy and go through childbirth and tend to live a bit longer than men do. Additionally, our culture unfortunately often drives men to hide any weaknesses and put off or outright refuse going to the doctor. I'm a humanist, and share a lot in commo…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/25 08:28 AM
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It's not about wanting to show our tits off for fucks sake, mayne we want to feel less constricted. You don't have to take your shirt off at the beach, where I live it's dumb to do it unless you cover up frequently or wear a load of sunscreen anyway. It is a nice sensory feeling that women should be able to enjoy as well as men. When I want to go topless I don't think about "showing off", I think about how I want to feel the sun on myself without feeling elastic and constriction, but also how I …
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/25 08:16 AM
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My family is amazing and I love all of them, I'm always so grateful for our closeness. My grandma read me the hobbit when I was six, and encouraged my love of literacy, creativity and fantasy. In the late stages of her dementia and after her death, I've been trying to piece together her personality outside of being a mother and homemaker. And it's fucking heartbreaking.. I love my family, I'm grateful for them and what she sacrificed so I could have my aunts, uncle and cousins, but by god woman,…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/25 05:56 AM
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I'm not fine with jokes about either, unless it's in a setting where there is consent. Even if they didn't grope me, it was still humiliating and felt threatening. I agree that they should be treated the same, but I understand when they aren't because one happens with more frequency and is more likely to escalate into sexual assault.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/25 10:07 AM
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In theory, yes. In practice, no. As I tried to explain to you, the "Penis Inspection" does not happen with nearly as much frequency, and where it does, like in hazing rituals, it is almost exclusively done by men to humiliate and belittle other men, and I agree that this needs to be taken seriously. The "Vagina Inspection" was made into a widely sold t-shirt. I've suffered from it twice, I know other women who have as well, and though we have come far in stopping casual sexual assault, may peopl…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/25 09:49 AM
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Lol no. Let's not get into whether or not a jellybean of cells is a baby, it still doesn't have the right to use another person's body.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/25 09:37 AM
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I fully support protecting all minors from procedures that aren't medically necessary. It isn't harmless to suggest you get to inspect someone else's genitals without consent. Especially when there is one person with greater physical or social power, making the inspectee feel humiliated and judged. Are you straight? If so, imagine some built guys coming up to you, eye-fucking you and suggesting they inspect your anus.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/25 09:30 AM
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Have you heard of the damage the foster care system does? Or the irreversible damage pregnancy does to a body?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/25 09:25 AM
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Why?? Having a child you can't or don't want to care for is a terrible thing to do.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/25 09:20 AM
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I have been asked by two people on different occasions to submit to a "body search", both by men wearing an "FBI: Female Body Inspector" shirt. I've never seen a Male Body Inspector shirt, not have I heard of any males asked to be inspected. I get it's a joke, I didn't really care and just rolled my eyes, but you can't be serious in thinking that "Penis Inspection" would cause the same level of activity and harm as "Vagina Inspection".
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/25 09:16 AM
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Look, I never said I was average in the total population, but in my city, it is absolutely not hard to find girl gamers. Peers are the people around you, I can stand out among them, like at work, I'm much older and more experienced. In my social circles, I'm average when it comes to gaming. What crawled up your arse and died to make you so mean today anyway?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/25 11:53 AM
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Show feelings of respect and interest, like them as a person. And it won't work out all of the time, people are weird and gross and complicated, most women you meet are not going to be a good match for you, as in, you won't be happy in a relationship with them. Vet for yourself, make friends and if you think they're hot, see if they might be into hanging out more. If not, respectfully pull back. It's gross if you only want to hang out to fuck someone, but if you genuinely want to get to know the…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/25 11:50 AM
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My sister in Eru I am totally average among my peers, you just have to know where to look. I'm not even a hardcore gamer compared to my female mates. Maybe it's different where you are, and there is so much more to me that liking games so I have other interests to lean into, but it really isn't that unusual.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/25 11:22 AM
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Yeah, and I feel that. It's not nice to feel like the only reason someone wants to hang out with you is because they want to be in a romantic relationship with you, it makes you feel less valued as a human. That's why I think you should aim for friends, to widen your social circle. Meet humans, and maybe one of those humans will be attractive to you and reciprocate your feelings. It can't happen unless you get to know them.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/25 11:19 AM
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Okay, so take up a hobby to widen your social circle. Women are people, and if you are friends with people, they might invite you to meet more people. I'm not saying you should take up Pilates or pottery if you don't give a shit about it just to hit on women. For me, I wanted a man who was into gaming, so I joined a bunch of gaming groups. If you want a woman who is into hiking, or crafting, whatever, find a group that does that. But go into it with a "friends" mindset. If you can't be friends, …
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/25 10:38 AM
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No, to meet new people. Do you view everyone you meet as a potential partner? That can make people uncomfortable. Go out to meet new people to expand your social circle, not with the idea that they'll be your future partner. Even if you hope for it, try for friends first. If you can't be friends, you'd never be partners.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/25 10:32 AM
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Yeah but I'm only seeing "on a night out or at work" That's not really narrowing down someone who has a lot in common with you personally. Not is it giving you time to get to know each other ona personal basis.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/25 09:39 AM
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Maybe dating apps are shit, and you should be looking I to ways people got together before the apps. If you're only meeting someone worth dating once or twice a year, try new hobbies and expand your social circle. Ask friends to introduce you to potential partners in a relaxed non-committal environment. When I lost my partner of several years and had to get back out there, I rejoined my scout club, found a DnD group, went to swing dancing classes and asked friends to wing girl me. Apps are made …
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/25 08:39 AM
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I would give my opinion on a man's body and face at an aesthetic level the same way I would a woman's, though I'm not sexually attracted to women. To me, and many other women I know, that superficial level of "attractive at the current beauty standard" talk doesn't relate much to bangability or get-to-know-each-other-ability.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/25 12:40 PM
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I think that this comes down to men assuming their sexuality is the same as women's. Most women I know aren't just aroused by what they see, that accounts for a small part of it. Sure, if they see a big hulky man, they might be aroused, but thats because their brain is doing the work of putting what they assume the hulky man might be capable of. My partner isn't at all a big, hulky dude, but when he kisses my neck and propositions me, I feel safe and cared for and so, so loved, which turns me on…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/25 11:57 AM
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We do. I don't have a diagnosis, but my next door neighbour says I'm "unofficially autistic" and has invited me to several gatherings. There are loads of couples there with neuro typical women and autistic men, not so much the other way around. I've asked them about it, and it's about finding a connection via a hobby or work. It's not easy like the movie show romance to be, but like all relationships, it's work and learning. But it happens and works.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/25 11:48 AM
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I'd argue that women have been exposed to "unvarnished" male sexuality for a long time, and we need to see much more of the "varnished" version. I believe that men can feel lust for an unconventional looking woman if they're into her, and can maintain an interest in their partners throughout life as they both age, but that isn't what we see in media. I'm sorry if I'm fucking up your metaphor, but to me, the "varnish" is male love and care, which isn't often portrayed in media as a lustful feelin…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/25 11:20 AM
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Okay troll, here's a cookie. 🍪 Eat it and move on. You've been successful in making some people mildly annoyed and shocked that you have such an asinine idea. Good job, go to bed now. We know you don't believe women can actually tell who is genuine or not easily, and that being honest in their desire for a relationship won't stop assholes from putting on the rizz and pretending they are looking for a relationship too. Good job, go dream about how well you did riling up the internet folks.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/25 10:19 AM
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When I was 16 my game plan was to marry my boyfriend at 20, have our first kid at 21 and see where it went from there. Then I started my apprenticeship in early education (at 16 yrs old), working as a toddler/preschool educator and I decided "whelp, no way, that shit can wait." Soon after I decided it could wait indefinitely, my highschool boyfriend and I only lasted a year anyway, and my game plan was "have fun, don't fuck it up too much." Found my current partner when I was 22 and the game pla…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/25 07:12 AM
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It's like south park said, to troll properly you shouldn't just shout out something that is a super obvious troll, you want to say something that is realistic but stupid enough to get group A to beat you down, then group B will defend your somewhat realistic points and the cage fight begins. South Park has an answer for everything, I swear. Matt and Trey are geniuses. Imagine if they were running the USA... So many casa bonitas...
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/25 09:10 AM
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The only women I know who have a problem with porn either have religious reasons, or they themselves consume porn, but are firm on only using ethical porn, ie, porn they they pay fairly for, shows genuine desire and pleasure for all parties involved and has transparency around the actors involved to give proof that there is enthusiastic consent and proper remuneration and healthcare. But that's like 5% of women I know. The rest are just as horny and gross as me and consume porn in likely the sam…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/25 03:31 AM
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So, while I appreciate that sleep is seen as a luxury these days, really it is a need, and our health suffers drastically if we don't get enough. Why bring it up in your post? If women require more sleep to be healthy and able to work, provide care etc, then it's not like it's a leisure activity, it's a biological need.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/25 10:04 AM
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To address your last point, while I don't know if there are gender imbalances in need for sleep, I do know that breastfeeding, being pregnant and having to get up with infants through the night would increase the need for sleep. I also have an increased need (not want, need) for sleep when I'm menstruating. That might have something to do with it. I can cope with 7-8 hours most of the time, but especially when the period is heavy and the hormones are intense, I can sleep easily for 10 hours. Bod…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/25 09:19 AM
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Toilets are for pooping, peeing and washing hands. Beyond that, no-one should care what's in your pants. Do you have gendered toilets in your home?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/25 09:24 AM
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Yeah, but that's not gonna change in our lifetime. Stereotypes and tribalism goes deep, and hell, even if the population grew less racist or sexist, we would still deal with prejudice about political leanings, income, hobbies... I'm absolutely agreeing with you, and maybe I'm being a pessimist, but the education and experience of so many people these days is so limiting, I can see the need for supporting feminism continuing on in our lifetime. We're getting there, and we hear the success stories…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/25 09:22 AM
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Yeah, it's why I prefer the term humanist. I want all genders to have paid time off work if they are being the primary caregiver of their kids. I want all genders to have support if they are in a workplace that discriminates against them. And I want women who utilise the gender division to others pain to be held accountable. I'm not saying that we should subject people of all genders to invasive interviews if they report a rape, there is a reason rape is underreported, even by men. But those who…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/25 08:48 AM
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Some random on tiktok saying that it's feminist to be scared of all men is like crystal healer saying that it's medically accurate to eat jellybeans to cure haemorrhoids.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/25 08:05 AM
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This is a ridiculous take. All cars on the road could hit me and end my life or cause me life changing injury be they truck or mini. Sure, a truck might do more damage, but if a mini driver really wanted to harm me they absolutely could, and it does happen. So instead of berating truck drivers, who I need to get the stock to my local supermarket, I drive carefully. Sure, I might be a bit more wary around a truck, an animal in the road could cause them to hit me even if it seems they're driving w…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/25 07:08 AM
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How can you objectively find that some pursuits are more worthy than others? Isn't that just based on your opinion?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/25 11:47 PM
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Okay, the definition I usually use is that pleasure is a worthy goal in life. Either way, there is nothing short-term about getting a mortgage and setting yourselves up for life together. Having kids isn't special or inherently "more worthy", and im sorry that you can't find someone whose life plan aligns with yours, but I don't understand why you feel like you have to poop on those who find joy and purpose in different things.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/25 11:38 PM
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How would you define hedonism?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/25 11:24 PM
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Well me and my partner have been building a decent home, loving friendships, a sick ass gaming set up, fulfilling careers, fun creative pursuits... Couldn't do that on our income with kids.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/25 11:14 PM
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I mean, there are loads of women talking to their imaginary boyfriends on c.ai and jllm. Sure, we get teased, but it isn't full-on ridicule. It might just be a fun way to spend your time, and if that's easier for you than a relationship, why not utilise it? I think the problem is more that we don't support people to fulfil their relationship desires with teaching them how to socialise effectively.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/25 07:39 AM
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HOLY SHIT TREY AND MATT FORGOT ABOUT CUNTS! where do cunts fit in here, OP?: See, there's three kinds of people: dicks, pussies, and assholes. Pussies think everyone can get along, and dicks just want to fuck all the time without thinking it through. But then you got your assholes, Chuck. And all the assholes want us to shit all over everything! So, pussies may get mad at dicks once in a while, because pussies get fucked by dicks. But dicks also fuck assholes, Chuck. And if they didn't fuck the …
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/25 09:08 AM
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As I said, if it was more about the physical description, it's be visual porn. I feel like you're not believing me when I say that the physical becomes attractive when the personality does, even for one night stands.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/25 09:37 AM
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Nah, like men it's not about just being attractive enough. Its about being horny and wanting sex. It's just that women tend to be slightly less physically horny than men, so if I'm really horny 10 days of the month, and I'm happy with my vibe most of those nights, but men are horny say, 20 nights and don't want to play with their fleshlite, then we've got more men willing to have a casual encounter than women. And if I'm not open to a relationship, then I'm looking for someone who seems to know …
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/25 08:20 AM
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And sometimes you do. But you also meet people who make you feel like "oooh, I could really connect with this person..." And if you sleep with them you know you're gonna get more attached, they might not, then you're gonna end up eating a bucket of icecream watching serial killer documentaries and drunk texting exes for a week. Like, if someone says "Hey, wanna go out to the clubs tonight?" I'll be all "Sure! Didn't have anything on, and I can catch a taxi home if I get bored." Then someone else…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/25 07:59 AM
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I think you're misunderstanding what the women who do this are saying. I believe that they re saying that they want to put time and effort into this relationship, they are emotionally involved and are interested in their partner as a human, so want to see that their potential life partner is in it for the long haul too. If they want a quick no-strings fuck, they don't care about the person or want to make him happy, they just want to get laid. The women who do this are saying "I see you, I see y…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/25 07:10 AM
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What does society have to do with maintaining friendships?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/25 07:58 AM
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Well, all I can say is hopefully I've been somewhat kind and he can cope a bit better everytime he hears that his relationships aren't his worth.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/25 08:42 AM
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Some might, but marriage is still thought of as a "romantic" move in our society. More likely we will see civil partnerships being expanded socially to include non-romantic cohabitants. it's just semantics and what is considered "normal".
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/25 07:53 AM
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Is a GED like finishing high school? Year 12? Nah, I have fam who are making bank without finishing that. But I still wouldn't think you're a loser. You could have so many other things going for you. Maybe you're an artist, regardless of talent, you love to draw/paint/sculpt and you get joy and creativity from that. Maybe you're a DM or player, and you're good at roleplaying or storytelling. Maybe you love your lizard, and you make them funky hats and look after them with love. I think that if y…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/25 07:50 AM
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What makes you think you're a loser? My partner said that he couldn't put the washing out this morning because the birds judged him and said he was a loser because he was in his undies, but I think he just couldn't be fucked putting the washing out.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/25 07:38 AM
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For people who want to be parents but don't have a partner, they need to have a solid support system that isn't allowed to leave them in the lurch. A roommate/friend-wife could walk away with no consequences, and you'd be stuck paying for childcare and housing alone. If you've got great savings, you'll be alright (unless you're in the USA where I believe it can be wiped out if you lose your job and have medical needs?) With a married partner or the father of the child, you have automatic financi…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/25 07:27 AM
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So, why do you hate an entire gender?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/25 09:43 AM
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For me, no. But I work with children, and I've had to look up laws on discrimination for several men I've worked with in the past because parents are arseholes to make educators. For my best mate? Hell yes. She's been outright told that her ideas are great, but weren't received well because she is a short woman, and that a male co-worker will present them in the next meeting. Things are changing, and she's still on a way better wage than me in her male-dominated field than my very essential but …
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/25 07:20 AM
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All g, I was saying that while on paper I think that a man should not be forced to care for a child he never wanted, that comes with the caveat that the pregnant person needs to be free to also choose if they want to be a parent. For both parents this doesn't mean "free" like you can put on an oversized hoodie, cross state/country lines and shuffle into a reproductive care clinic while being harassed by jesus warriors that Jesus would have been ashamed of. I mean, free as in all parties have had…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/25 07:14 AM
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Yes, I think that in a place where abortion is available and sex and reproductive education is emphasised men should be able to get a "financial abortion". The tricky part is where abortion is available, but women will be accosted outside a clinic, be "found out" and lose support if they are found to have had an abortion, or have been raised to believe that it is bad. There, we have the rights of the woman to terminate a pregnancy tampered with by societal and familial pressures that may make he…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/25 06:31 AM
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Aaaaargh I'm sorry, I really do hate to be the bearer of obvious logical fallacies, but you're like a first year logics professor trying to get their hungover and/or high students to find the fallacy. I ask about attractions between two consenting parties where (at least) one isn't able to have kids, and you bring up necrophilia to represent that? "Oooh, Sir! I think that one's a strawman argument! Where one party takes an argument from the other party and alters their premise so it seems ridicu…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/25 06:04 AM
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Good god man. Calm your little titties. Not wanting kids isn't going to fuck up the natural order. I know it's a different species, but do all bees reproduce? No, most of them work to benefit the colony as a whole, even without their DNA. I bet I could do way more for society as a happy childless person than a burnt out mum who has passed on a myriad of conditions to my kid. I work my ass off to enrich the next generation. And I don't need to give birth to do it.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/25 05:35 AM
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Ah okay. So what you feel must be an unhealthy attraction means someone has a mental disorder? This is why we have science, you could say "I believe that finding someone who is not ideal to reproduce with attractive could indicate a mental disorder, I should discover why..." The scientific method doesn't care about your feelings. Define an unhealthy attraction, find evidence for it being unhealthy, study the effects of it, then share your findings. At the moment it looks like: "Attraction should…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/25 05:32 AM
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How would you define a "mental disease"? The way you liken someone being attracted to an overweight person to someone being attracted to children makes you seem like a child abuse apologist. Consent is a big thing here.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/25 05:04 AM
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DSM-5 definition of mental disorder: A mental disorder is a syndrome characterized by clinically significant disturbance in an individual's cognition, emotion regulation, or behavior that reflects a dysfunction in the psychological, biological, or development processes underlying mental functioning. Wanting to bang old people just doesn't fit. And it doesn't really hurt anyone. There's enough people here already, not wanting to have kids isn't a disorder.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/25 04:56 AM
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Okay, so first off, mental disorders are classified as disorders if they inhibit your ability to function in society. So, being gay isn't a disorder, as you can be gay and still be a healthy, functioning individual. People who are attracted to underage people struggle with functioning well in society because they want sexual activity with a minor, which is detrimental to the minor, so it is illegal. Someone wanting to bang older people isn't detrimental to the parties involved, it doesn't inhibi…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/25 04:40 AM
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I've always been attracted to guys who want to talk with me about things I'm interested in, the talking gets flirty, and that's how you know that attraction goes both ways, then you start with the obvious physical overture. For example, talking about our favourite bands, and to test the waters I might say that the song has a deep bass line that makes me want to dance dirty. If he's not interested, he'll hopefully laugh it off and say "yeah, I guess" and if he's interested he might say "damn, I a…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/12/24 08:22 AM
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Aragorn agrees. Poetry isn't gendered and can be masculine as hell.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/24 09:32 AM
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Like with most things that are based on social interactions, the devil is in the details. What I think of as "masculine" may differ to what society or certain subsections of men think is "masculine". If we were to look at the characters of Baldur's Gate 3, we see a variety of masculine presenting people who have a variety of women who want them. But my go-to for masculinity is movie Aragorn. He is humble, but fights hard for what he thinks is right. He goes out of his way to protect those who ca…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/24 06:04 AM
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I love the Banshee song "Fuck with a Witch" that has this outro on it from the mass murderer Elliot Rogers: [Outro: Elliot Rodger] I don't know why you girls are so repulsed by me It doesn't make sense I do everything I can to appear attractive to you I dress nice, sunglasses here, three hundred dollars, Giorgio Armani I'm sophisticated, I'm magnificent, I have a nice car, a BMW I'm polite, I am the ultimate gentleman And yet you girls can never give me a chance I don' know why
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/24 03:53 AM
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You'd take the kids because you don't want to leave them with an abuser. And when I say that you earn less than a man, I mean that: Women fought for better pay. In 1943 their lobbying led the Australian Government to grant women 75 per cent of the male wage for performing the same job. For the exact same job, before that they earned less for the same job. Because if they were out working, what did they need that extra money for? Men needed it for their families, or so the reasoning went, but whe…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/24 06:51 AM
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When the police were called for "domestic disputes", even if the woman was bruised and obviously physically assaulted, the police would say that it was a domestic issue and they couldn't do anything. Like they would ever count rape as something worth investigating if obvious assault was ignored. What would you do, if your options are to stay in a physically abusive relationship and do your best to shelter your kids from it or leave, make yourself and your kids homeless until you could hopefully …
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/24 04:42 AM
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No, they were intestines. The shit was cleaned out. Or maybe that was in the 1800s. Still, the dad joke stands.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/24 04:35 AM
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I recently watched a doco about Australia's first women's shelter. It was made in the 70s, not by the government, but by a small group of women who saw the need and just made it happen. The women who came there had no other options, and there were so many of them, the shelter couldn't keep up. Those women had to choose between being beaten up and keeping their children fed. How could they get a job? There wasn't childcare for them, they couldn't take their kids to work. Just think of the practic…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/24 04:32 AM
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Women were largely valued for their ability to look after a home and have kids, so most were pressured into marriage or just got married because it was the thing to do. And as marital rape wasn't a thing, it was just expected that you have sex whenever your husband wanted, women's lesser ability to provide for themselves led to them being unable to have any say over the number of children they had. Look at countries that don't have protections for women and equality now, or countries that say th…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/24 04:25 AM
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Okay, so your syllogism seems to be: if women aren't obligated to have children no children will be born, women won't have any children, then no future generations will be there to be taught. The problem is with your first premise. Women in many countries have not been obligated to have children for a while, and yes we are seeing a decline in the birth rate, but many studies are finding that this is due to the cost of raising children growing, not the desire to have children lessening. You are e…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/24 06:12 AM
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What I'm not understanding in your point is why it matters that it is someone else's child if DNA does not contribute to the entirety of their personality. People are still having children, making it optional doesn't erase the 4ish billion years of REPRODUCE!! YOU MUST REPRODUCE! in our genetic code, so many people still want to have children. The OP was about women being obligated to have children. As I understood your reply, you seemed to suggest that by not participating in birth you would be…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/24 05:35 AM
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Okay, so let me summarise your points as I see them, and please correct me where I am wrong: Humans reproduce sexually, so all humans exist because of reproduction. If someone chooses not to reproduce, they aren't making more humans. Because I, and others are not reproducing, we cannot affect the others around us who are, or their offspring. ... Like I just told you what that is wrong. I have made myself a nerd army of children who quote Tolkien and play MTG because of my influence. My cousin wa…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/24 04:55 AM
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I am child free, and I use my time actively raising other people's children with them, instilling values like kindness, community, humbleness, hard work, empathy, love of nature, creativity, curiosity etc. I especially use Tolkien's stories to illustrate these values in a fun, engaging way. My genes aren't much to be proud of, my family has rampant mental health problems, but we have such a loving relationship that we get through it, and while I'm not passing on their DNA, I'm passing on my gran…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/24 04:01 AM
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Look, I tried hard to imagine some way that my partner could do some that's not typically "masculine" and injure himself in a way that would make me not want him and I just couldn't think of much. Thinking on it, I should have said that his mum died and he cried at her funeral as he was giving a eulogy and my pussy dried up so much I got dehydrated and he wouldn't leave the funeral to get me a frozen coke even though I might be pregnant (we had sex five months ago soooo who knows?) and how dare …
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/24 11:21 AM
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It might be because I live in a progressive area of a democratic country, but I've only met one person who thinks even slightly in this way and she... Well, she's something. The only reason people put up with a fraction of her shit is because she hasn't had her kids taken from her (yet) and they don't want to lose access to their kids/grandkids. But her entitlement just made her a pathetic laughing stock. Other women I know who aren't in committed relationships usually explain that it's because …
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/24 11:17 AM
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Omg I know, right? I try so hard to pretend like my partner is smart and strong, it makes him feel good about himself) but then he goes and offers to help his mate move house and BAM now he's got a sore back, from moving a fridge or something. Like, what use is he if he can't even move heavy things? And if it was too heavy, why didn't he use his brains and just refuse? He's usually great in bed, but now with him being "too sore" to even properly worship me every night, I'm just like why. I even …
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/24 10:48 AM
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I get where you are coming from, but I was responding to someone saying that was likening having a toothy blowjob to having body hair. I think that a person, of any gender, saying they prefer to put their mouth to smooth genitals is fine, but to make body hair into something gross and unfeminine or unnatural is disconcerting.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/24 11:36 AM
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I don't give a shit if a guy says that they prefer hairlessness, it's when people say that body hair is inherently gross or unfeminine that I have an issue. I shave when I feel like it, though my partner prefers the hair. Sometimes it's nice to wriggle about in clean sheets and feel as smooth as a dolphin. I don't compare men to Epstein, I love men, masculinity and am an advocate for men's issues, but if a man says that they are inherently turned off by natural body hair I don't understand why. …
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/24 11:25 AM
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Ooooor maybe blowjobs aren't something selected for in evolution? I think I read somewhere that "If women didn't have teeth we'd have died out long ago." No wait, it was "If semen tasted good we'd have died out long ago." Teeth are indeed natural. Doesn't mean it feels good. Body hair, on the other hand, has actual evolutionary advantages in regards to sex and procreation. If a man doesn't like body hair, whatever, but it is a little bit gross, like he can only be turned on by prepubescent women…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/24 10:27 AM
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I think that paternity tests should be more acceptable, but thinking that your partner is going to be cool with it in all situations is pretty asinine. You could disclose to your partner early on that you have anxiety about this, and ask for it as a token towards your mental health, but if you and your partner are trying for children and you demand one, it is really an accusation of unfaithfulness and it is fair if they treat it as such. If, after a night out with mates your partner asks for an …
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/24 10:21 AM
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Dude.... No. Maybe that works for some girls, but if you suck on my clit I'll pull back so fast and rip your head away, it hurts. That's like me saying "The trick to a good blowjob is teeth." Sure, some guys will like it, some guys will lie, and a lot of guys will cover their junk and say "WTF vampire?!"
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/24 10:03 AM
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No, I think it was a generic term that described doing what society expected of you so you could give your wife what society expected she'd need to keep your house and raise your kids, and if you did that then you could be happy after work. I think.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/24 09:07 PM
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My grandpa said this at his 80th about 10 years ago when my family asked for his advice on how to live a long happy life. He passed a couple years back, a day after my grandma who had debilitating dementia for 5 years or so and wasn't so sensible before that for awhile. When they passed, a lot of tea was spilled. Don't get me wrong, I love my grandpa and he's amazing, but that side of the fam lives 8 hours away, and my aunts are gossips. Happy wife, happy life was more Do as society expects and …
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/24 08:48 AM
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I love kids, I've worked with them for over 15 years, and they just light up my life. When I started working with children I was 16, and had decided that I wanted to have my own kids early. Soon after starting that work, my attitude changed to "fuck no, never." It's not that kids aren't life changing and incredible, it's that they're life changing and fucking exhausting. Now I go to work, put in 110%, make a huge difference then go home, trakkies and freeboobing it, gaming all night and eat what…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/24 04:49 AM
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Just a little correction here from someone who calls parents many times a week: I either call whoever is Parent A on the enrolment form, which is usually whoever filled out the form (but yeah, it's 70% the mother in straight relationships) or I call the parent I know or guess will be picking them up that day. Unless one parent is a total knob then I call the other parent.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/24 04:44 AM
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Go for it, but it's kind of shooting yourself in the foot, if your goal is to improve wellbeing.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/24 11:39 AM
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But the OP is implying that it is only missed by him, or by men in general, not women. Which just seems silly, women don't have a secret code to communicate by. But I agree that some men (and women) struggle with reading non verbal communication, as well as reading verbal communication with different tones and things like sarcasm. That doesn't mean that "women" are poor communicators, if I was to accept everything OP says, it sounds like women are exceptional communicators but struggle to lower …
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/24 11:38 AM
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Because it's not just men, and a helpful comment might have been " You're struggling with this, but most people aren't, it's not a men thing, and there's resources out there for people who struggle with social cues." Women as a whole aren't responsible for men's problems and vice verca, but society only works when we help each other. So if a guy comes and says "women are all evil succubuses and we need to destroy them." I propose this idea: my goal here is to make society and world less shitty. …
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/24 10:51 AM
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Thanks, dude. I hope you find a pretty rock on your next walk, that always makes my day. Stay golden, and don't let these poor communicators get you down.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/24 10:22 AM
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Yeah, and shouldn't we rise above that and explain it? This is a debate sub, not a "shit on each other and get mad when they don't understand me because all I've done is insult them" sub. I've worked with children for a long time, and I've always wondered about the ethics on when we assume people should be fully culpable for their behaviours. In early learning areas, we as teachers are told to redirect and assist when children are antisocial, and we try to help them to learn social cues. Some pe…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/24 10:20 AM
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I do enjoy myself, I have an amazing life filled with people who love me. Some of those people struggle with social cues, and while I don't think it's because women have some preternatural ability in communication, I can see how our society shapes women to be better able to communicate from a young age. People who struggle with maths aren't stupid, and people who struggle with social cues aren't creepy weirdos, they just seem that way to some people because you don't understand what they're actu…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/24 10:14 AM
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Or maybe their brain doesn't work that way and they're trying to understand human social interactions and work with it? Loads of women are autistic and struggle with socialising, but women just tend to be better at masking and copying others social behaviour. Don't shit on people who struggle with social cues by calling them creepy weirdos, you might be assuming they're staring at you because they're sexualising and creeping on you, but it could just be that they think you have a cool bag and th…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/24 09:55 AM
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Humans, like many other animals, have developed non-verbal communication over our evolution. Some people struggle with this, and instead of banishing them or labelling them as village idiots, we are now trying to change how we think about different ways of communication and adjusting our society so more people can thrive. Women, as far as I'm aware, have no preternatural communication abilities, so it seems strange to me that you imply all (or most) women are able to communicate in a way that me…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/24 09:50 AM
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Okay, let's unpack this. I am in support of fines and restrictions on people who commit paternity fraud, but unfortunately this would usually lead to the children (who are innocent in all of this) being worse off. My stance on reproduction is that people should be given reproductive control at puberty and encouraged (or not allowed to access benefits) to not reproduce until they are fiscally able to support their family. Just so you have that as a baseline on what I think about reproduction in g…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/24 09:10 AM
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No, there's usually other signs. Think of it like mental illnesses, there are thoughts and behaviours that can lead to a huge number of different diagnoses, and when you cluster them together, finding that more people with A type behaviours and thoughts might have condition A, and people with a mix of B and C might be more likely to have disorder C, and people with a mild mix of A, B and C might not have a mental illness, they might just be passing through a transformative period in their lives …
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/24 07:57 AM
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It's a bold assumption, cotton. Let's see how it plays out in reality... Is this just your musings or do you have something to back it up?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/24 07:23 AM
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Yes! And he wasn't really my type at first, then he started challenging my views on things, we found things in common, and I started to see things about him that turned me on. Like, at first I didn't notice all of him, but as I got to know him things I otherwise wouldn't notice, like his eyes, hands, ass, movements etc just became more and more sexy. Now, he snuggles his ass into me in bed and I cuddle him l, feeling his body, or he cuddles up behind me and it's like WHAM I want you bad. Or he's…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/24 03:58 AM
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I don't think that once a month is a dead bedroom, people's libidos wax and wane, well all have life stressors and changes like kids and antidepressants that affect it, and if both partners are happy, still loving and just okay with not having as frequent sex then I would say it's not dead, just suiting their needs. I think a dead bedroom is where there is resentment because of lack of sex and intimacy. You might have two low-libido people who have sex very infrequently, or two people trying to …
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/24 06:01 AM
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A lot of things have informed my worldview, working with children and seeing all genders be equally shitty and wonderful, not really caring about gender or gender roles... And humanism is just a much more inclusive term. Let's help women smash those glass ceilings and help men by removing the stigma of taking time off to be a stay at home dad. At the moment both of those are under the "feminism" umbrella but the second one is phrased differently. My point about the data is that if someone says t…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/24 09:05 PM
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The problem with that data is that it doesn't look at perpetrators, just victims. Like, if we see that one in five women experience sexual violence in their life, it doesn't mean that one in five men are perpetrators. I do think we need to highlight men's problems and approach everything in a humanistic way, rather than a feminist way, but we also need to be wary of putting out statistics that are misinformation, because it can lead others to utilise it against us. I have a close friend who was …
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/24 01:11 PM
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I was, and am. I was told not to wear short dresses out because it would make me look "cheap". People close to me have had their sexual assaults or rapes put on trial where the defence argued that their clothing or past experiences inferred that they welcomed the attention and wanted the rape/assault. Hell, just being on this sub and reading people saying that the number of past sexual encounters can inform them of a woman's worth to them is slut shaming. The studies they provide to "prove" this…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/24 12:32 PM
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This is really interesting, I am a strong supporter of recognising male victims of sexual abuse and relationship violence and abuse, but I didn't see anything in your links that said there are as many female rapists as there are male rapists. The closest I could see was that there are as many male victims of sexual abuse as female victims? Can you show me where I missed it? Thanks in advance!
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/24 09:32 AM
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Look, if you're distrustful of others and happy that's fine, but humans are a social species and part of this is having trust that others will help you as you help them. But, would you feel comfortable in a platonic friendly relationship with another man, or maybe a woman? I mean, as long as you have support... I'd worry about you if you eschew all social interactions because you don't trust others. I don't think I've read any studies that show (typically) that we can be even somewhat mentally h…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/24 06:55 AM
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When people, regardless of gender, see bogeymen of love around every corner they tend to self-isolate and/or drive others away from them via abuse and neediness. I could see it going one of two ways typically: either they get in a relationship and are so clingy and suspicious that the isolate their partner from others, which is abuse, or they will hide away and refuse to get close to others because they fear getting hurt from what they assume will be an untrustworthy partner. I'm not saying that…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/24 06:41 AM
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Women halt their careers because it is their body that is being used to grow, birth and then feed the child, not because the man bought her dinner and she thinks "Wow, guess I can just make him pay for everything now!" Financial equality is a hard problem because men can't take over the burden of carrying, birthing and breastfeeding. I agree that it is a good thing that the population is stabilising, but men not paying for dates isn't exactly a lynchpin in that, it's education, birth control and…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/24 10:14 AM
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So maybe you aren't attracted to people for their intellect? That's okay. Own it.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/24 10:56 AM
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Thank you. If it helps, he can be a right cunt in the morning, so me getting dressed in the dark is as much for me as it is for him. But, I can be a right cunt every few weeks, I just curl up in a ball hissing in pain while he throws chocolate at me. We take the good and the bad.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/24 10:16 AM
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Actually I want to change my response. When it comes to holidays and different -than-normal days, he goes overboard in the sweetest ways, he insisted on holding my purse and backpack so I could get into the pit in a heavy metal festival we went to and bought me like three shirts. He's not as I to music as I am, but he genuinely wanted me to love it and have the best time. But when we're at home, if I'm getting up for work first I set my clothes out the night before so I don't wake him in the mor…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/24 09:58 AM
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110% me. But when he's sweet, I love it. But he's less focused on outside things, so eh, I accept it. Definitely more often from me, though.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/24 08:42 AM
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Okay, but most of the men I know don't want a flower, and many of my girl friends organise and pay for dates. We get escape room vouchers, get arcade prepaid cards, I get MTG booster packs for him. It's not flowers, but if I'm at the shops and I see something he'll like and I can afford it, I get it. Same for the women I know in relationships. Hot sauce, cool socks. It's more the "I'm thinking of you" vibe. Is that what you mean by romantic?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/24 08:05 AM
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How would you define romance? And what do you think men want from women that is romantic that they aren't usually getting?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/24 07:52 AM
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Hey, this sounds like it's something that is really personal to you. It feels to me like you're saying that any man who has developed feelings for a woman and approaches them is already doomed to fail. Do you think this is because he already has feelings, or because he approached her?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/24 11:52 AM
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What do you think is something "outstanding" in personality or tied to appearance that you can't achieve? I'd hazard a guess that they fell in love over time, from a mutual interest in working to forge a life together and some common interests.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/24 11:15 AM
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Okay, so maybe we flip the narrative. There are lots of people who want to have genital fun time, and your target audience seems to have more options than you do. What can you do to increase your chances of genital fun time? Some people might say to be kind and respectful, get to know them and cater to their needs. Others might say to get attractive physically and practice confidence-style flirting behaviour to make them think you're a better choice. ASK YOU FRIENDS WHO ARE SUCCESSFUL WHAT TO DO…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/24 08:42 AM
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Yeah, but it also tells you that women have to marry their rapist, so take it with a grain of salt.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/24 08:23 AM
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Where do you live that still has a draft?? That's insane, that's backasswards, if you can't vote without being in the draft. Slightly joking, but I bet if there were more women in power that law wouldn't have seen the light of day...
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/24 08:17 AM
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I thought that women, and many men, couldn't vote because they weren't landowners, and that by and large the people who were landowners were rich enough to not go to war. I don't think it had anything to do with "protecting" women. The women of this country learned long ago, those without swords can still die upon them.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/24 08:15 AM
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I mean, if your partner isn't in the mood you can always try and get them in the mood. For me, feeling amorous doesn't just turn on like a switch, it builds up from little things. If you're just walking up to them and saying "Hey, wanna fuck?" and expecting them to be into it when they just aren't horny, they might say no. If I'm horny and I want sex, I'll do something to get my partner interested, something I know he likes, like lingerie and suggestive talk. The way your ex partner phrased that…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/24 10:25 PM
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For me, it's sometimes like life's pressures are sitting on my chest and speaking them aloud, having someone to bounce them back on to me can help me see the problem in a different light. When the person immediately starts in with "You should do XYZ" I find it frustrating because often I've tried that, or because of nuances it isn't feasible, but all those nuances takes ages to explain. So I try to say "No, I can't do that." Often that is seen as wanting to whinge instead of accepting their help…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/24 08:00 AM
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Wenches and Mead by Alestorm
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/24 11:49 PM
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I mean, I try to be romantic, but he's just not that into it. In our first couple of years I got him lots of sweet little things, made romantic dinners, picked flowers. He appreciates it kind of, but not in the same way I do. As we got to know each other I learnt what makes him really happy, and now I try and do that. I agree it shouldn't be gendered, but my friends would be happy to romance their partners, and do, but their partners often prefer other forms of affection. To each their own.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/24 01:19 AM
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Maybe reframe it like this: I like being romanced by my partner, it makes me feel cherished and wanted. He's being romantic, I am being romanced, but because I am the one who wants the romance I could be considered the romantic. My partner really likes butts. To make him feel cherished and wanted, I will wear tiny skirts and thongs. This makes him the "butt-lover" and while I'm the one performing the act, I'm doing it because it makes him happy, not because I love having my ass hanging out. He l…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/24 04:21 AM
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Look, I know where you're coming from, but there's a great song that shows what lots of women think is expected of them for even casual encounters. I'm not saying men or anyone should be expected to approach or pay for dates, and nor should women have to deal with the "getting ready" shit.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/24 08:03 AM
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I mean, isn't it a bit shitty to invite people to a thing just so you can use their car? That aside, I'm really curious about your high libido idea. You seem to be saying that people can't be just friends, because they'll want to fuck, especially if one is more attractive than the other. I'm not trying to discredit your lived experience, but I just want to ask about something that I experience, which is that men don't really become attractive to me in a sexual way until we have a personal connec…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/24 06:13 AM
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I had someone I know recently say "But that's such a small percentage, so it's not that relevant." Bitch, if only 1% of sexual assaults were against kids, would you look at it the same way?! It's disgusting, and it stops men who have been assaulted from getting help. Uuuugh that whole attitude makes me sick. I had a friend who was repeatedly sexually, physically and emotionally abused, and he was still saying it was his fault. There was so few resources for him, and he just kept putting it back …
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/24 06:29 AM
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Have you actually spoken to sex workers? Because I'm telling you now that the ones I know would be really offended by what you're saying here. They don't feel used.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/24 08:24 PM
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We are overpopulated, we are struggling to get enough resources to all of our population. There is a world outside of the USA, and there are so many struggling people working multiple jobs in your own country, but you think that we still need more mouths to feed. Come on dude. Look after the people here first. Honestly, if I was a refugee I wouldn't want to go to the United states of America, it's quite the backwards shit show at the moment. There are other countries in the american continents t…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/24 12:34 PM
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Lol what is so special about your DNA that means you should be allowed to reproduce more but others who are already alive should keep suffering and the other species who share the earth should die out?? Because from your whinging about dating no one else sees it mate.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/24 12:11 PM
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Cool, take in all those humans who are currently alive in struggling countries who need more support than they have? And ignore all the habitat loss for other animals, the climate crisis and other stuff that our species is causing?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/24 10:57 AM
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Don't be an arse. Being told that touching yourself in those places will lead to an eternity of fiery torment and having family with strict open door policies and using other ways to ensure you don't "abuse" yourself isn't conducive to self-exploration. It's not asexuality, it's abuse from the family. Use your brain dude.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/24 11:47 PM
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My response didn't say whether it was common or not. I made an analogy about using anecdotes as proof, and about how like-minded people tend to hang out. Honestly, feel free to use it but I hope that whoever you reply to points you towards some kind of education about how to use statistics and research things scientifically. All the best.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/24 08:22 AM
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I like to paint, and many of my friends are artists. My sibling doesn't paint, but they like to surf, many of their friends surf. This doesn't mean that most women paint and most NBs surf, because I have friends of varying genders who paint and my sibling has friends of varying genders who surf. It means we found friends with similar interests and values and hang out with them. I'd say it's common for my friends to paint, but that has little bearing on the population as a whole. So did you consi…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/24 08:15 AM
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Okay, it's gotta be purge week. Is it purge?? There's no way there is this many trolls on here.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/23 07:48 PM
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You seem like an amazing human! I'm glad that you agree with me, it was a weird road to travel after all the shit that media throws at us.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/23 09:07 AM
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Nah it's not just you. My female family members care so much more about social and emotional bonds, the males just tend to trust us to take care of it. I wish it was different, but it isn't.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/23 08:53 AM
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Sure, and it's the same for non-ace women. But I was thinking that men wanted sex above all else, and the men I dated showed me differently, they wanted connection and mutual affection first, which really threw me for a loop. I've adjusted my mindset since then, and the revelation sort of felt like "Wow! Men are humans too, they don't just want my body, they actually want mutual validation, respect and love." At first it was hard, because I didn't think I had anything to offer besides sex, but I…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/23 06:53 AM
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I experienced the opposite. I thought all men wanted was sex, and it was a huge wake-up call when I realised they wanted to be valued and loved for who they are. Sure, men and women will be interested in looks and willingness for a one night stand, but in my relationships I found that men want more than sex, they want me to appreciate them, love them for who they are. Offering sex wasn't what they wanted, they want a caring partner who they could share life with. One of my partners in particular…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/23 05:26 AM
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I mean, I don't think I know of any human who doesn't have insecurities, except maybe an infant, so it's not like hiding ones self-perceived flaws is an inherently female trait. Main point is, make up can be worn for a huge variety of reasons, so assuming it indicates insecurity is flawed. You can say that the wearing of make up plus other clusters of insecurity indicators might mean the person is insecure, but so what? Everyone's insecure about all sorts of things.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/23 09:02 AM
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But this shows that there are reasons to wear makeup or paint your face besides insecurity. Like, I know someone who won't go to the local shop without a face full of paint. I don't get that, but fine, if that makes her feel better, not my business. If I want to wear dark eyes for a concert to have a certain aesthetic for a concert, it's not showing insecurity, it's the same reason I wear black boots and a band shirt.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/23 07:52 AM
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Man, it is such a shame that so many people grow up and think they aren't allowed to enjoy certain things anymore. Go to a cosplay convention and tell them painting your face isn't fun. There's so much to be said for being able to play and have fun as an adult. When I was growing up, I was terrified of becoming an adult because I thought I'd have to play golf and watch the news for fun. Now I have a Lego room and I'm a LARP facilitator for children. Life is rad, keep the fun stuff.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/23 07:39 AM
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No, they likely know they have a problem. If it impacts you or your mental health then step back, but otherwise the best thing to do (I've found) is to be supportive of their healthy choices, and accept them when they make unhealthy ones, giving no judgement. Like, I've got a cousin who is really harming herself with drug use. She knows I'm there for her if she needs it, and I can give her a safe drug-free space to hang out in, but if she gets wasted, I won't berate her or say "no more." I'll sa…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/23 04:18 AM
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I think I established that they were aware they were going to do that. I usually offer to get them a drink if they drink a glass of water first. You can't stop an alcoholic from drinking, but you can help them to be safe.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/23 04:02 AM
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So if you get drunk, agree to go home with me and blackout at my door and wake up with me saying "Thanks for the great time, hope your anus recovers after I ravaged it with my strap on!" that's fine, because you either gave drunken consent or were unable to give consent because you were so drunk?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/23 03:58 AM
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Yeah, women treat their friends like adults with agency, so do men. If we're having a big night, we talk about it before. I recently went out with friends, five girls and three guys. The guys offered to be our 'brother' or 'partner' if someone got too close, as none of us were looking to hook up, and the girls offered to run interference if anyone came up looking for a fight, where it might not be safe for a male to intervene. It happens often enough, sad to say, that we plan for it. And if I ge…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/23 03:55 AM
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There was an earlier post I saw about how it's insulting when people say to "view women as humans". This is the kind of comment that would warrant that response. Some women are happy to drop everything to help a friend, like some men are. Some will help in certain situations, same as men. If you group all or most women together and say that they aren't going to help you, you're seeing them as defined by whats in their pants, not by what they can offer as a person. My mate needs help with kids, D…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/23 03:45 AM
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Because you're not your friends warden, and people with alcohol issues are still entitled to live their lives? If my friend with alcohol issues wants to drink to excess, and they know I'm worried for their health and will be supportive of their recovery, but chose to drink, I'm not going to say "Nup, no drinks for you!" Because they're a grown ass adult and I don't want to make them feel like they can't come to me with their struggles. If I shut them down and insist they remain sober, they'll go…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/23 03:35 AM
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I don't know if this is useful, but an old friend of mine suffered from DV from his past partner. The emotional and psychological abuse was, I think, worse, but even though he was stronger and was much better at martial arts, he never properly defended himself because he didn't want to hurt her, and because he didn't think he would be believed if he tried to stop her and she got more angry and reported him for DV. Again, the psychological abuse was horrific, and he was so deep into it that he al…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/23 11:52 AM
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I think you're right. It's why I dressed as a space wizard for a concert last night, because I wanted Zargothrax to rail me. I think my point is that women's sexual arousal has been shown to be different than men's, as it is based more on a slow-burn personality and interaction deal, while men can get hard from just about anything visual. To expect women to accommodate this is ridiculous, when we are also working, managing households and are human beings with feelings. Like, if you find no body …
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/23 11:54 AM
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Whaaaat? Consider my mind blown, gluk gluk 9000 style. So if I love my man for who he is and accept him, body hair and all, I should still put in extra time and effort to make myself look like the current beauty standard, even though I don't require the same of him? I mean, you're right I guess, if you think that men are turned on far more by looks and women by personality.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/23 10:55 AM
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What hair? Do women and men get the same hygiene benefits from body hair removal? Like, I'm looking at studies right now that say that less body hair can mean less bacteria, so less odour, and less chance of lice. But in a society where we are able to bathe frequently and have awareness and the ability to quickly remove parasites, these seem like non-issues. Especially since the in-grown hairs, cuts etc you can get from removing body hair should be considered.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/23 09:53 AM
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Is it more hygienic for men to shave their body hair as well?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/23 09:45 AM
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Why?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/23 09:24 AM
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I don't often shave my pits and legs because I'm a woman. Like, what difference should your biology make to determine whether you shave or not? I might be reading into things but from the gist of your post I'm getting that you think that hair on men is fine, but because some men prefer shaven women she should shave. As my partner says "Why? The hair is fine, why bother?" I think that the OP is trying to get at is that why should women have the burden of extra grooming to appeal to their partner,…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/23 09:22 AM
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I dunno, I'm a woman and I've had some shit friends. The entitled people who want you to go shopping with them so they can find something, who offer to deso but leave early to hook up and text you while they're getting railed telling you to get a taxi. You've just got a drink and suddenly they need to pee and you have to go to the bathroom with them for safety, but you can't take your drink, or leave it, so they nag you to skul it. Those are just shitty friends.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/23 01:22 AM
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Even if someone isn't my type or not conventionally attractive, bonding over shared interests or even just making someone smile is a great way to make friends, make your community better and make your life happier, as kindness can be contagious. Just "Hey, love the piercings!" or "Your hair is so cool!" opens so many doors.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/23 07:13 AM
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Soooo.... Would you date a woman who has had as many or a few more sexual partners as you, then found Christ, repented of her sins and been forgiven? “For if you forgive other people when they sin against you, your heavenly Father will also forgive you. But if you do not forgive others their sins, your Father will not forgive your sins” (Matthew 6:14-15).
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/23 08:47 AM
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It's not a silly rule if an 18 yr old is dating a 28 year old, the 18 year old still has a lot of frontal lobe to develop and life lessons to learn, but is ripe for grooming. Sure, it might not be insidious, but it sure could be.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/23 07:51 AM
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Lol you don't sound like a -10/10. I lived with my parents or my partners parents until I was 30. I'm actually doing great, addictions aside, I'm working on that. I love my job and my hobbies, and I was lucky enough to find a partner who can support me, though I need to do more. I make up for the income by doing 90% of the housework. Like, life isn't perfect, and at this rate I'll die early, but man, I'm putting my all into doing what I want and loving it. What makes you think you are boring? Wh…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/23 05:47 AM
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Lol it's an amazing job. I run LARP, tabletop diceplay and art courses for kids. I mean, hypothetical woman does. But she's also not equipped to make payments on a house or anything, so you're unlikely to go anywhere unless you make bank and are willing to support her, which isn't fair, and you'll likely end up resenting her for in the long run. Listen to her begging you for money for smokes and the water bill because she bought a new Lego set and boffer weapons. You can do better.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/23 05:34 AM
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What is she smokes like a chimney, drinks like a fish and wears her mother's clothes? She has a job she loves, but it's part time and all her money goes towards her weird hobbies and bad habits. She's not dirty, but she's messy, her craft shit is all over the house and she watches Lord of The Rings extended edition every weekend. She hates cooking and cleaning, and can barely adult, but she tries. Looking for validation here lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/23 05:13 AM
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So let's say partner A is good with computers and got a job worth 4. Partner B is good with kids and got a job worth 1. They have been together for five years, and partner B helped to support partner A while they finished a degree in computers. Now they have their jobs, partner A has some deadlines and has to put in extra hours sometimes, but because of the nature of their job can work from home, spend a few hours napping, wanking or gaming during the day. Partner B works their entire shift, oft…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/23 03:26 AM
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....cleaning and being emotionally open are not anti-masculine traits though. Aragorn was very emotionally open and he is the most masculine man I can think of. He read poetry at his coronation. Still super masculine.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/23 08:46 AM
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Nah, it's a throwback from when women's work was considered useful but worth less than men's. My grandma has loads of stories about it, but it's waaaaaay less.common now. It's like, the women are secretaries and typists, make a fraction of what the men made, were fired for getting married, and the males in their office told them to smile more because their value was in their looks. It happened, it was real, and some people still hold a grudge about it. In service positions, where you're interact…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/23 09:21 AM
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I mean, I definitely get my partner to address my horniness but he gets that I can be turned on by other things. Mostly it's "Babe, you looking at those Rohirrim? I want you to ride me like the fate of Middle Earth is at stake". Bam. Turned on by battle and finishing with sexy role play.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/23 12:10 PM
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They're saying that masculine appearance isn't what makes someone actually masculine. That comes from behaviour. And when the behaviour doesn't line up with how they present themselves you can get uncomfortable.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/23 11:17 PM
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There are loads of countries that have disgustingly severe consequences for sex outside of marriage. Things might be solved for the wealthy men of those countries, with multiple wives that they are free to beat up when they don't do what he wants, but for the poor and and women life sucks. Is it possible that you have an idea in your head that doesn't match reality? What makes you think the majority of women only want insert physical and monetary characteristics? I don't think that is supported …
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/23 05:32 AM
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I work with kids ages 4 to 12, and of all the people we get here, it's amazing to see how easily guys can slip into 'play mode' and interact with kids on their level. It took me awhile to get comfortable with being silly, but now that I can the children gravitate to that and love exploring the world through play. So many women struggle to let go of their "adultness" and have to be coached and goaded into interacting playfully with children but with men it's like "Hey John, can you be the baddie …
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/23 09:14 AM
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I work with kids ages 4-12. Once they realised in not phased by being called fat, nerdy, ugly, whatever, we became friends. They would find anything about me and pick on it to look cool. I just said it made me more amazing. And it does. Same with being a virgin. If that's your thing, that's just fine.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/23 08:19 AM
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So the first passenger airplane wasn't a refinement of a previous airplane?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/23 04:11 AM
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A woman literally invented the computer algorithm. The circular saw. The aquarium. Dishwasher. Globes. Life raft. Fire escapes. Medical syringe. Fridges. This could go on forever, and all these were in a time when women were usually kept from academic circles and prevented from getting an education.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/23 03:13 AM
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Humans were never monkeys. We evolved from apes. And women also find things that indicate a good parent for our children attractive. Pheromones of people with different immune systems are seemingly more attractive because they will make stronger children. You seem to hate on men pretty hard and misunderstand evolution. You don't need to think of someone sexually to find them attractive, either.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/23 08:51 AM
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It's because they're having to be in control so much that they like a time where all their needs and wants are looked after by a trusted lover. And it's amazing.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/23 09:44 AM
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Bear Grylls drinks his own pee when there are many better alternatives for remaining hydrated. It's clickbait and I don't trust him.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/23 08:01 AM
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Yeah that's what I mean. They would probably behave differently if their actual lives depended on it. As it was, if they were in mortal danger, or even in danger of severe harm, they'd be airlifted away. As it was, they felt secure and didn't feel the need to defend themselves.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/23 07:35 AM
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Yeah Ive seen that. They have the advantage of feeling safe. They know that they can pull out at any moment and they aren't in mortal danger. Or, that's my take on it anyway.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/23 07:32 AM
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But the women wouldn't be dependent on them for survival. I believe there would be enough infighting and reasons for the men to not use excessive force (damaging the women) that the women, working together, would have the upper hand. It's different in a patriarchal society where the men have the support of a social system that allows them to harm women and doesn't allow the women to support each other. But in 10 on 10, the men will lose.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/23 07:10 AM
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Men might start shit, but the women would be on the defence because they are worried. They would be more cautious and more likely to get stabby if they were concerned, but the men would be more likely to try and get the women in decent condition. I am sure some men would try force, but without a society backing them up it'll be difficult if the women band together. And as far as having fewer numbers so being careful to not lose members, you seemed pretty sure the men would be all gung-ho about r…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/23 07:00 AM
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I dunno man... If your group of 10 men are hostile and taking all the resources you bet I'm hunting you. And as far as the good men vs evil men thing, if there are 5 good men and 5 evil men, the good men aren't protecting the women by leaving them alone, they're just being neutral bystanders. Humans generally want to stick together as a survival strategy. Women have survival advantages too, like better peripheral vision to see threats coming in at angles and being better at discerning colours to…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/23 06:49 AM
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In the same way that men are typically stronger han women, women are typically better at forming social bonds and supporting others. So to use your example from another comment, if ten women were thrust into the wilderness they are likely to work together to achieve a goal. Ten men might do the same, but when it came to finding, capturing and raping those women, it is likely that some of the men will refuse to participate. The women are likely to stick together and help to defend each other. Can…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/23 06:26 AM
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It's more that he was comfortable being himself, not cocky or over confident, just content. And "willing to please" is kind of right, maybe more accurate to say that he understands female anatomy and can communicate well enough to know that most women need clitoral stimulation and to ask how I like it, because he values mutual pleasure.
/r/ExRedPill04/05/23 09:50 PM
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Hey! I met my partner ages ago and was used to men bragging about their size to try to impress me. So when he shrugged and said "I dunno, maybe average?" I was a bit thrown off. Turns out, while he has an average dick, it's better because he is an amazing lover and can reach the sweet spot perfectly. He was (and is) comfortable in his skin and knows women usually orgasm from clitoral stimulation. That average sized dick is my undoing. It rubs my gspot perfectly and he is so giving in helping me …
/r/ExRedPill04/05/23 10:37 AM
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Would you waste your time talking to men that can't get you a girl? What's the difference? Why can't a woman enrich your life without being in an intimate relationship with you?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/23 10:16 AM
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I just don't get this. I have male and female friends, and I love hanging with them for the social benefit I get. We can talk about whatever we're both interested in, can game together, can talk through issues. What the hell does what we've got in our pants matter when we are platonic?? They don't give a shit that I'm a girl. I'm still able to defend the base and give decent feedback about their work woes.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/23 10:13 AM
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What I'm reading from this, and correct me if I'm wrong, is that a woman's value is tied to how much sex she has had, and a man's is tied to what he can bring to the relationship. That just doesn't sound healthy. For the woman, their past matters, but for the man it is their future? What if the woman was a virgin who had a lot of debt and wanted to quit her job the second she landed in a half decent relationship? Shouldn't the viability of the relationship focus on the future and what both parti…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/23 02:40 AM
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Oh yes. Soul or not, redheads are hot.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/23 02:35 AM
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My partner has a beautiful red beard, and I wish he would grow it out so I could braid it. But I love feeling it when I'm half asleep and he comes into bed and gives me a kiss goodnight. It feels like home.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/23 01:25 AM
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If they're both well kept then it's okay. Like anything else, it can get scraggly and gross if it isn't. I just have a Fili fetish. Those moustache braids... Mmm...
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/23 01:20 AM
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I love beards and long hair. Especially if it's braided with beads and you're a prince of erebor. But, until I wake up in middle earth, I'll deal with my love's shorter beard and refusal to let his hair grow out. He's so much more than his appearance.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/23 01:06 AM
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I don't see younger men as fully developed, this is the difference. Our brain isn't fully developed until (I believe) 25. While they are not children, they are still developing. Anyone with less experience is more likely to be persuaded by bad intent, especially people who have been relying on their parents to care for them until recently. Financial power is different, in the way that if two people with similar experience find themselves in a situation where one has significantly more wealth, th…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/23 05:42 AM
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It's about life experience. A typical 22 year old is just now experiencing life without a safety blanket. Sure, they may have family to fall back on, but they're still learning and absorbing all they can from others. A suitor comes along, seems to know exactly what they're doing and offers them a life where they don't have to worry as much about adult shit, it seems like a miracle. The young person can relax and submit to the elders knowledge of the world. This is the sinister part. Just because…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/23 05:27 AM
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Is it just the vahina, though? Or is the the time and effort put into raising the next generation and teaching them so they too can be valuable members of society? If it was just squeezing out babies and letting them roam free, women might have had the power to demand more recognition for their ideas and work in scientific fields ages ago. But babies are like useless sacks of blob for three months, then you have to chase them for a few years to make sure they don't kill themselves. It's the long…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/23 10:47 AM
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Just because you assume all the shit you use was made by men doesn't mean it's true. If your masculinity is so threatened by people making cool stuff that you use every day just because they have different genitals to you maybe you should look inwards as to why you are so scared of vulvas.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/23 10:38 AM
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I mean, if it's an either/or, maybe, because one is more instant gratification and the other is a longer-term contentment, and humans are pretty good at preferring instant gratification over what we might prefer long-term. But I was more referring to men preferring a sufficiently sexual loving relationship over many short, shallow, purely sexual relationships. I think most humans need to feel valued and loved, and while sex can be a part of that, many of us need more to feel content.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/23 11:18 AM
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I mean, I used to believe that when I was a teenager. I used to think that the best way to show my interest and appreciation for a guy was to be very sexual with him. I was wrong. Most of the men I know just want to be loved and appreciated for who they are, and for many of them, a sexual relationship fulfils a part of that, but they still want to be recognised as a valuable, lovable human by their romantic partner. Men who are okay with shallow, casual sex exist, sure. And for a lot of people, …
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/23 10:05 AM
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Human communication is complex. It's a fantastic field to research and is always getting updated, but I remember reading a book that discussed body language, and mentioned 'clusters'. Eye contact may be one part of a group of body language cues that can tell you about how a person is feeling. Problem is, these can be affected by the persons personality and culture. Eye contact alone should not be a signal, but if you can pull together a cluster of cues that tell you someone is interested in you,…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/23 09:20 AM
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Sometimes. Just like how sometimes he's in the mood for a wank and doesn't want to have sex. It's normal.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/23 07:25 AM
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I frequently masturbate to erotica. Having an orgasm is a great natural way to get a dopamine hit. It's good for you.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/23 12:08 AM
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I mean, I graduated year 12, and come from a well educated family, but then fucked it all up by going into childcare. For me, it was about being able to have fun discussions. I love hypothesising about stupid shit, and being able to argue political, religious and philosophical crap is like crack to me. He didn't have a job, he didn't care about his degree, but god damn he was fun to talk to. So, I'm not "educated" by way of a degree, but I'm great at my job and I love it, and he never finished h…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/23 09:46 AM
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That's why the person above said masturbate IN. Implying a lack of intimacy but still wanting sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/23 07:49 AM
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When I got my good girl Smaug, a bearded dragon, my mum said "Uck, Lucy! Why? All they do is eat and poop and stink and they carry diseases." She had three kids. Like kids are any better. Now whenever she brings up grandkids I just say "Mum, why? They just eat and poop and stink and carry diseases AND they can talk back. I also can't just stick them in their tank when they're being naughty." She's given up.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/23 03:55 AM
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Yeah, it's seven shades of bullshit.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/23 01:53 AM
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That was my first thought when reading the title. I think it's also that men in abusive relationships are often unseen, they don't have as many resources and are often too embarrassed to speak out. Yes, far more women experience domestic violence, but we are still breaking down the narrative that a man should be able to control the relationship and any who find themselves being abused are just weak.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/23 01:04 AM
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Thanks! I've studied it, especially in the developmental area, to emphasise the importance of offering gender neutral approaches to toys and learning so all children can feel included and can learn social skills through play. It's so sad when parents berate their child for playing with a doll house because of their gender. Dude, they are trying to learn about social interaction! Let them learn!!
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/23 10:40 PM
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Lol I figured that out after a bit. We still had fun, though!
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/23 10:37 PM
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I know that now. I was young and learning. It's okay, I figured it out :)
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/23 10:35 PM
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I agree that many women have social anxiety, but studies show that females tend to be more socially competent than males. Humans have a lot of unwritten rules for social interaction, and women tend to be better at navigating them and are also more interested in them from a young age. I think that the gender binary is stupid and we should let people decide what they are interested in, and still in 15 years of childcare experience I see way more female children interested in social play, while mal…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/23 10:59 AM
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I've had an issue where I've tried to leave hardcore hints for guys, they've not responded, I've moved on and only later, when I was in a relationship, did they say "oh man but did I have a huge crush on you..." Dude. I asked you to hang out without the others. I got you a sweet ass D20 for games. I got your fave drink. I flirted with you in game and asked you if you wanted to stay late. I felt rejected, I moved on. No whinging now about how you didn't see it. I'm not a supermodel, but I feel li…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/23 10:50 AM
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In what ways?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/23 10:41 AM
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I would say that a religion that says that women aren't equal to men is inherently misogynistic, and that the interpretations of that religion that are powerful in that region of the world are indeed to blame for the pain, suffering, lack of freedom and death that is happening to our fellow humans there. I have no problem with people who believe in the Islamic faith, but in Islamic countries it is undeniable that their laws are disgustingly geared towards favouring men and stripping women of not…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/23 11:43 AM
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I appreciate your point, and I'd probably take my partners name if it wasn't a giant pain in the arse to change it. That being said, according to my great grandma, and several grandmas and their sisters, it actually took a lot of social pressure to be called by their first names, even after divorce. Maybe it's personal experience that is niggling at me to correct you on this, but my grandma struggled a lot after her divorce, and only gained her name back when she remarried, when people would cal…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/23 10:34 AM
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As far as the infantilisation goes, many people in this economy get stuck on the renting train. If they move out at 20 and don't get a high paying job they are forever stuck renting and being subject to rent increases and cost of living increases without wage adjustment. Why not just get a higher paying job? Well, we are seeing the effect of this line of thought with (in my country) a severe teaching, aged care, disability care, nursing and childcare shortage. People are moving to better paid jo…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/23 10:21 AM
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I think the posters point wasn't that it makes them less of an individual, but that in a historical sense, which is what the OP was talking about, it tends to erase their identity. People often went as Mrs John Smith, not just erasing their last name, but their first as well, as they were considered a part of the husband's family unit. There are many newspaper articles referencing a "Mrs 'masculine first then last name' in my country even up to the '60s. They aren't saying that by taking another…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/23 10:12 AM
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Most humans still want real human interaction and intimacy. A lot of females can get this with friends, so the intimate relationship isn't as high of a priority as it might otherwise be, especially now that we can support ourselves financially. This means that men need to be given the support to find close, respectful friendships until they can find an intimate partner that they are happy with. AI can deal with some aspects of this, but I don't think it will have the same effect as a human/human…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/23 08:38 AM
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Yep, even with a guy that I am attracted to, the body is a tiny part of that compared to the behaviour of them. I believe that women consume much more erotica than men for this reason, it's the story and the behaviour that makes their body sexy. My man can walk around in tight pants and no shirt and I'll appreciate the view, but won't get turned on until one of us starts the seduction. Isn't it a good thing for men that it's your behaviour rather than just looks that is sexy? I've been with guys…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/23 02:53 AM
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" We found significant interactions between biological sex and sexual orientation, indicating that the significant effect for the putamen cluster was driven by homosexual women, whereas heterosexual women had increased precentral gyrus GMV. Heterosexual men exhibited more GMV in the thalamus than homosexual men. This study shows that sexual orientation is reflected in brain structure characteristics and that these differ between the sexes." https://www.nature.com/articles/s41598-021-84496-z Ther…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/23 10:13 PM
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Goddamn I had a feeling you were going to say that. Righty oh, I'll go tell all the infertile and post-menopause people that their relationships are shams and all they want to do is fornicate. Our brains are wired to want sex and intimacy. If someone's brain is also wired to want relationships with the same sex, who are you to tell them that this is wrong? Making life isn't special, it's necessary. Being gay doesn't hurt anyone, and it might be beneficial evolutionarily. Check out the gay uncle …
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/23 09:00 PM
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Same as murder, rape, altruism, slavery, friendship. I never said that because it was old it deserved respect. I was talking to the other poster's idea that was a recent phenomenon. It deserves the same respect as hetero relationships deserve, because in its core its the same flipping thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/23 08:45 PM
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...no one is telling anyone to question their sexuality or gender identity. I think you're making up a boogeyman because that isn't how this works. We mostly just use inclusive language, answer questions openly and have some level of representation. Saying things like "please tell your parents" instead of "mum and dad" because a bunch of kids shouldn't have to feel weird that they have same-sex parents. If another child asks why little Johnny doesn't have a mum but has two dads, we would explain…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/23 07:43 PM
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"Gay shit" has existed for ages, likely before humans evolved if the amount of animals who engage in homosexual acts are any indication. It isn't indoctrination or forcing people to accept it to say that same-sex attracted people exist and, like straight people, deserve rights and respect.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/23 08:56 AM
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Loads of things are sacred! Being respectful to others is sacred, see all the "Karens" we shame. Not committing murder or hurting children and animals is sacred. There are loads of boundaries. We have learnt more and listened more, so some things that people assumed were immutable boundaries are no longer thought of as such. Some societies still think that women should cover themselves entirely, because men cannot and should not have to exercise restraint when they want to fuck someone. Even cov…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/23 08:48 AM
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I don't think I've ever seen a woman on here say they would only date a tall man with a big cock. It's more like "He shouldn't be unhygienic or abusive"
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/23 07:38 AM
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Loads of self-respecting men don't care about how much casual sex their partner has had. It's pretty off to say that if Aman doesn't care about his partners sexual background they must not respect themselves. I'd say it's the opposite, someone confident in themselves wouldn't care.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/23 06:53 AM
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You mean you don't like people who have casual sex. Plenty of people don't give a fuck.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/23 06:51 AM
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As I tell the kids at work, marriage is a piece of paper. In my country you have all the rights and responsibilities that a married couple has if you are defacto, ie been together a while, living as a "married" couple etc. The paper, for some, carries great meaning. A promise to be with each other. Other people find that promise in other things, like buying a house together, having children or just telling each other. For me, I wouldn't mind getting married because I want a big ass bbq at my par…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/23 09:50 AM
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Yes sex and intimacy are separate, but they can also be tied together to make a relationship stronger. If I bang someone with no feels, it's sex. If I have feels, it can develop into intimacy, which can make it harder to cope with when it ends. I don't think I've had "duty sex" but I've definitely been intimate when in not into it. If he needs some loving and I have time, hell yeah I'll suck his dick and show him how much I love him. Just like when I'm horny and he's not, he will get me off with…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/23 07:55 AM
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Haha my partner of 10 years isn't really interested in kids. We both like how our lives are. We aren't married because he hates social things and doesn't see the point. I can happily live without being married, but the presents are tempting...
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/23 03:34 AM
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Most cross-sectional and longitudinal evidence suggest, however, that people are better off without having children. It is mainly children living at home that interfere with well-being, particularly among women, singles, lower socioeconomic strata, and people residing in less pronatalist societies—especially when these characteristics are combined. https://scholar.google.com.au/scholar?hl=en&as_sdt=0%2C5&q=happiness+of+women+without+children+&btnG=#d=gs_qabs&t=1677205515740&u=%23p%3Dg9CQKuLYeWUJ…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/23 02:29 AM
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When I was 16 I really wanted to start a family at like 22. Then I started working in childcare. I thought "This is hard, I guess it can wait". When I was 22 I decided it could wait forever. Kids are hard work and life changing. I have so much more to offer this world than my uterus.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/23 02:02 AM
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Yeah we do! Life is good. We want to pursue our own interests, eat hommus and chips for dinner and game until the wee hours. We want to have loving and meaningful relationships where we can focus on our partner. We want to pursue fulfilling careers and leave our mark on the world. My mum and dad are amazing, and sacrificed so much for us. But god damn looking back I can see how hard it was. I am happy and fulfilled, I have a great career, a great partner and some amazing creative pursuits. I don…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/23 01:56 AM
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Yes, I'm crying into all my free time, creative pursuits and loving relationship because I don't have a kid.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/23 01:46 AM
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Wanting to support someone you love isn't pity or charity. It's an investment in a future life together. It's about deciding "This is a person I can see myself with for a long period of time, both supporting through struggle and then helping me through dark times. I shall do my best to help them now ". If you're going to have a long term partner, you should reevaluate dignity. They might scrub up your vomit and diarrhoea, which trust me, is insanely humbling, but also a part of being human. If y…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/23 10:37 AM
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I'm not a man, but I know men who complain about bad blow jobs when they are virgins with little sexual experience. If their partner uses teeth, is very unenthusiastic, thinks their dick is like a joystick to wrench about. Gentials are delicate, and it's easy to abuse them if you're trying to match what you've seen in hardcore porn or rumours of what men like. I once bruised a man's penis because I thought that "Well, if they like tight pussy they must like tight handjobs." He didn't want to off…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/23 08:16 AM
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He came onto me while I was playing pool, being really nice and sweet. When my friend went to the loo, he pulled me aside and told me he wanted to take us to a cool club to get us drinks, like whispered it sexily in my ear. He told we I was so gorgeous and wanted to get to know me more. So when my friend came back I said we were bar hopping, let's try this one this guy told me about and we left. He walked in between us, chatting to both but more to her. I was a bit icked, but whatever. When we g…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/23 08:53 AM
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Okay, I'll argue that my value is what I bring to the relationship, same as my partner. I bring my sexuality and attractiveness, sure. But also my fun personality, creative mind and intellect. He brings his sexiness too, but also his intellect, fun debates, pragmatism, etc. If you really think that all women bring to the table is their body, you're missing out on the best parts of a relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/23 06:51 AM
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Like all generalisations, especially when we are talking about half the population, these statistics mean little to the individual. It just means that women are more likely to have x y and z. For example, in many places it isn't looked down upon women for taking time away from work to raise a family, while I see many fathers struggle to get social and workplace support to be a stay at home dad, whether full or part time. I'd love to see more systems in place to encourage all partners in multi-pa…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/23 09:55 AM
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Holy shit. More angular, I can tell it isn't the same person but he is similar enough and gives off a similar vibe...
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/23 02:26 AM
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Oh now that's just beautiful. They can even cry your not-name during all the sex!
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/23 10:24 AM
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I sure do.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/23 06:11 AM
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Ahaha no way that's fantastic! Good work!!
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/23 03:27 AM
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I'm a five star man!
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/23 03:26 AM
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Aw, I thought it would be a fun word challenge, but okay
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/23 02:20 AM
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Oh you champion Thanks mate
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/23 02:07 AM
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Well, that's how Dennis does it, but I'd like to hear your idea! I'm stuck on Y for my finale... Yeet something?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/23 02:02 AM
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I mean, there is a huge difference between listening to your family's non-lovestuck opinion on your serious partner and only dating those who your male relatives have okayed.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/22 07:50 AM
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I work with 3-12 year olds and at least in my country and city, times are changing. Gender is far less relevant when we're talking about personal safety and relationships. I'm teaching all the children that their bodies are their own, a healthy relationship is based on mutual respect etc. I don't know which children are trans or same-sex attracted, I'm going to teach them all the same. This seems to be the guiding principle for our relationship education that is emerging. Sure, there is lingerin…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/22 12:58 AM
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Definitely not being facetious, you explain things well.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/22 10:10 PM
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Wow. You should be a relationship counsellor. You're good at explaining what's in my brain in people words.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/22 09:19 PM
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My relationship with my partner depends on many things. Respect, trust, love, effort and changing the fucking toilet paper when it's out ALEX. If some of those were to falter, yeah, we might look at ending the relationship and I doubt you'd fault me. Sexual attraction is a big part of most romantic relationships and while people can go though phases where they don't feel it, if it just isn't there anymore you would be doing yourself and your partner a disservice to continue the relationship. I h…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/22 04:23 AM
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Well, it's a pretty easy logical trap to fall into. Some people with mental health problems use casual sex as a coping mechanism, and so often have negative consequences. Some people who have casual sex are shown to have negative consequences. It doesn't follow that casual sex is the cause. Like, some people who drink alcohol self medicate with it. But that doesn't mean that anyone who has a drink will have negative consequences. It may be a pattern, but it's the underlying causes that affect wh…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/22 04:03 AM
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There are some studies that show that some women who are promiscuous suffer from mental health issues, but that's likely a symptom, not a cause.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/22 03:48 AM
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Of course, though I don't see why you would shame people for hooking up. I don't get why exploring sexuality is bad, but whatever. An analogy might be, it's legal for an employer to steal tips. But it isn't moral, so they are shamed. The employer is abusing customers generosity and harming their employees. A person who enjoys safe casual sex isn't (as far as I can tell) harming anyone, so they shouldn't be shamed.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/22 03:35 AM
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Sexual freedom? Bodily autonomy? Hook-up culture? Not something that uses a word typically used as an insult.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/22 03:26 AM
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Promote a greater sense of community. Engage in more experiences where you can meet like minded people, start a club, expand your social circle. Give people an opportunity to meet and mingle in a casual, safe environment.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/22 03:09 AM
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I mean, if you're calling it 'slut culture' you aren't deny rights, but you shaming people for exercising those rights.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/22 03:06 AM
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Women aren't brainwashed into saying "my body my choice". It is established in most western countries that I know about that bodily autonomy is a basically inalienable right. And getting vaccinated is the best way for illness to spread less. As a society, we decided to work together to give our most vulnerable a better chance of surviving by getting vaccinated. If you don't want to participate in that fine, but then don't go around spreading your germs because you are being selfish. Anyway, you …
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/22 01:18 AM
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God no. It's just that people aren't perfect. Everyones a bit shit sometimes. I know loads of good men, my friends, my family, good men are everywhere. It's just that no one is perfect. My partner is a good man. Am I pissed he ignored the dishes all his weekend? Yeah. But he's still good.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/22 01:10 AM
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Why is cancer a thing? Why is anaphylaxis a thing? Because we're chunks of meat operated by electrical meat. Things go wrong in our meat. I think you're a bit caught up in the differences and need to realise that those studies are describing trends, more XY people have better spatial awareness, but that doesn't make them all more suited to be pilots. More XX have more mirror neurones, but that doesn't mean that XY won't be an incredibly good child rearer.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/22 09:44 PM
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No. No no no no and NO. Working is not inherently 'masculine'. Raising kids is not inherently 'feminine'. Our culture tells us what is currently perceived as typical of any gender, but that isn't ingrained in us. Cultures that share the raising of a child are NOT single-sex, there isn't a harem of virgin-mary-esque women sitting around, nursing children and lovingly teaching toddlers about flowers. The kids follow other kids around, learning by watching and doing. All the adults teach all the ki…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/22 09:34 PM
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Dude... Soooooo many people are glorifying being a perfect mother it's really affecting people's mental health. Those social media weirdos showing off baby yoga and their kids love of organic kale smoothies or what the fuck ever. Normal women are seeing these posts and stressing out about their own parenting skills. Maybe you're not in the demographic that is targeted by those kind of ads or your friends don't post it, but it's everywhere, like a malignant cancer of Instagram filters and cloth n…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/22 09:22 PM
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...... because most humans are pretty shit. We make mistakes. The mums, dads, kids, community. Some people have formative experiences that lead them to becoming abusers, others have different brain wiring. Not everything can be helped by a perfect parent.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/22 09:11 PM
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No.... You said 98% of women prefer tall men. Preferring men who are taller than they are is a slight difference. If a whatever ft woman matched with a whatever +1 ft man, that's still taller. Even then, it isn't a hard and fast rule. Men are typically taller than women, so most women can find a man taller than that are. Despite this, most of the women I know would much rather be with a shorter man who treats them with respect and love than a tall guy when treats them with indifference. There ar…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/22 12:19 PM
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Where did you get that statistic? Maybe 98% of women would prefer a partner taller than them but I'd doubt that 98% of women have a strict height standard they adhere to. And physical preference can easily be overridden when you are emotionally connected, in my experience.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/22 11:34 AM
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It's almost like people's opinions shouldn't be labelled 'female' or 'male' because there will be wildly varied ideas in those categories. It's rare for a person to dislike both sexually inexperienced people and sexually experienced ones. If you see some people saying one thing and others saying another, it's usually because those are two different people with different preferences.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/22 07:59 AM
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It really doesn't have to if you're both mature about it. If you look at them as someone you got to bang, sure it might be weird. But I think most people see their partners as whole humans who have value outside of sex, and ditching a good friendship because you used to be intimate is silly.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/22 08:55 PM
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Or, they look at mistakes as learning journeys and try to move on from them, realising that messing up taught them a valuable lesson that is turning them into a better person? Thinking of it that way can help with anxiety for me.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/22 08:49 PM
1

Why is it so bad?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/22 08:46 PM
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That would show she has a terrible choice in partners, if they can't even remain friends after. If you can remain friends, it's like you pick good people but you're just not suited to an intimate relationship. Why only women?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/22 08:45 PM
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Okay, so my partner is getting all my sexual attention, of course. But in my single days, the guys that were attractive to me would get my attention. So, guys that wanted to play video games, argue over philosophy, made me laugh, seemed like they'd be an attentive lover. It had very, very little to do with physical attractiveness, and basically nothing to do with society's current beauty trends. When people say women find 80% of men unattractive, they're looking at a study from an online dating …
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/22 05:34 AM
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If I told you, chances are you'd just say I'm lying or that you meant the average woman. Sure, my work is especially amazing, but the people there treat each other as humans regardless of gender. So yeah, I see women paying attention to men all the time.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/22 04:48 AM
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You did say "ask any woman" So that misunderstanding is really on you. Peace
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/22 03:02 AM
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I am a woman. I give men either little, moderate or a lot of attention based on how good their MTG game is. The only person swimming in my pussy at the moment is my partner.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/22 02:56 AM
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You don't think women have casual sex without wanting a relationship? Why not? Do you really believe our desires and brains are that different?
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/22 08:27 PM
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No, casual means "I want my pussy liked and you look like you might be into that.". Sure, I'd say my past casual partners were cool guys, but I didn't think about their manly value. Relationship sex means "We are travelling this life together, let's share some pleasure and increase our bond."
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/22 07:59 AM
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We don't have that many incels. It worries me that I can tell you my honest thoughts and you might just say "Nah, that's not true." I pick casual partners based on if they're fun to talk to, if I, not society, find them attractive and if they seem like a good time in bed.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/22 07:56 AM
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Do you really think that? Love is: I see all of you, your flaws and your quirks and your beauty and want to be with you always. Sex is: I need a bit of a dicking and I'm bored, you seem okay let's go.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/22 09:58 PM
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Everyone has a higher chance of clinical depression, but I think women are more likely to acknowledge and seek help for it as some men still have the social pressure of being "fine" and sucking it up. I have depression because it's genetic. Maybe more people are living as our ability to keep kids alive grows, so it's more prevalent. Maybe because we have a social security cushion and don't have to struggle as much to eat we can put more effort towards mental health. I'm not sure if we will ever …
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/22 04:16 AM
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Because people have some stupid notion that joining together in the eyes of god or the law is important. It's like, in vows should you say "Til death do us part", "As long as we both shall live" or "As long as our love lasts"? I see a marriage celebration as an excuse to have a big party for some people I love who I am happy for, because they found love and happiness and I want to celebrate that. We can have a party and celebrate love without thinking that the vows are insoluble. I vow to love m…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/22 08:38 AM
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I mean, I bought a house with the dude I'm pretty serious. Leaving now would be a giant pain in the ass. But people do change over the course of their life, and that's okay. It sucks, but so does life so not much we can do. As for why, the answer is obvious. Presents.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/22 08:24 AM
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I have seen enough resentment-filled relationships that heap generational trauma onto their offspring because the partners don't want to get divorced to know that I don't want that. A priest in my country (Father Bob, he's a legend) tells the story of his mother, married to an abusive alcoholic who does her best for her children but lives what I think would be a miserable existence. That's an extreme example for these times in western countries, but used to be common.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/22 07:23 AM
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The point of studies is to get a set of data and analyse it, the authors need to be really careful about faults in the study because it can be easily misunderstood. As they say, there are lies, damned lies and statistics. Studies often represent a small percentage of a given population and from a specific segment of that population, and don't have the ability to look too deeply into the population's history. So, for the study on marriage and earlier promiscuity, for example, it doesn't take into…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/22 06:55 AM
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Yeah, this is supposed to be a debate sub but so many posts are from people who have read a study, interpreted and analysed it themselves and taken it to be written in stone and applicable to most cases. Less people are willing to discuss views with an openness to being wrong, and take their personal experience to be the norm. But it's okay, we'll get there..
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/22 06:36 AM
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It might be easier, but relationships are so personal in nature that sweeping rules are just never going to work for the majority. Instead, we need to seek out humans who have similar interests and values, rather than assume that one set is preferred over another and most should hold to that. I love gaming, a lot of guys like gaming, but if I come across an interesting guy who plays cricket instead of gaming I'm not upset because, as a guy he should be into gaming and so have an interest in comm…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/22 10:56 PM
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I think the problem with your argument is the same one that others have when they post things like "Women say that they should be free to sleep around but don't want a man who is a Chad and does the same thing". For many posts on here, OPs lump many different arguments they see into a category of 'male' opinions/behaviour and 'female' opinions/behaviour. I'd hazard a guess that most people only hold to one side of those arguments, but because of our love of putting people in boxes we lump people…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/22 09:24 PM
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I don't think about it much, I'm got an IUD which has served me well for 7 years (been replaced course) and I have access to abortion. I do really feel for those who don't have access to safe abortion or are morally conflicted about it. I don't want kids, and would have no problem ending a pregnancy, but for others I imagine it might be scary. I had a dream I was pregnant with a penguin this morning and I was terrified.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/22 09:06 PM
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oOo what did they say before they deleted it??
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/22 04:56 AM
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Lol nothing about you, just saying 10/10 made me think of Dennis screeching "I'm a 5 star man!" It made me laugh.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/22 01:03 AM
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I read it, remembered the important points and replied, then went through it again and was just like.... God damn this person can't be making an argument in good faith.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/22 12:12 AM
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I used to. I wanted my Westley, my Prince Derek, my one true Neo who would restart my heart and fly to save me. Now, I understand that we are all flawed people and the best relationships happen when we understand this, fine someone whose quirks you love and whose flaws you can tolerate. Does he leave the toilet roll unchanged, ignore piles of dishes and act like everyone should drive to his exact standards? Yeah, and it annoys me. But I wouldn't give him up for the world. We're working together …
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/22 11:21 PM
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:( some people are so wrapped up in their own minds and narratives it's hard to see if I'm feeding a troll or not. Sorry for feeding the troll, everyone.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/22 11:03 PM
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Additionally, your first link is a review of a book, and states: The most frequently named reason to have sex is pure attraction to the other person. Chapter 1 thus answers the question “What Turns Women On?, ” dealing with all the facets of attraction, from spatial proximity, over physical attributes such as scent, body height and build, facial attractiveness, voice, body movement, to social and psychological factors such as personality, fame/status, similarities and individual preferences. The…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/22 10:03 PM
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As a teenager I thought that men didn't want or experience love in the way women did. I desperately wanted someone to love, who loved me, but all I could see was boys who wanted sex. I really thought that men just pretended to love someone so they could get sex. Then I lost much of the main-character syndrome that so many teens and young adults have, and realised that our brain chemistry is pretty much the same, most everyone wants to feel like they're special to someone, and most want to have a…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/22 09:56 PM
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You're not being abrupt, you're staying your current relationship goals. You don't have to say "I'm only here for a quick fuck", you say "I'm just looking for something fun and casual". That's what people mean when they say they don't want others to fake interest in a longer term relationship, they just want to know what the other is hoping for so their goals align. This isn't gender specific, women also shouldn't misrepresent their intentions for free drinks and a quick fuck.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/22 08:09 AM
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Hope you're wearing a bubble suit then. Humans are gross and are constantly spraying out germs. I don't feel like you've properly absorbed that sex Ed class you're so proud of.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/22 09:44 AM
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You should really specify STDs then, not just germs. That's like saying you're scared of chemicals, when you mean poison but you're cool with water.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/22 09:42 AM
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REASON WILL PREVAIL! Go the pickle party :)
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/22 07:44 AM
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Just because you aren't married doesn't mean you aren't committed. Signing a mortgage together shows more commitment than marriage.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/22 07:39 AM
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Maybe be more specific and say that you wouldn't want to have sex with someone who has an STD. Other germs aren't a problem and will not live in her vagina waiting to attack your dick, I promise.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/22 07:37 AM
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....does that happen with kissing? A handshake?? All our cells are replaced every 7 years or so. Why would there still be germs there????
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/22 07:34 AM
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Because sometimes I just want my vagina licked. And that's okay.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/22 05:39 AM
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Yeah that helps me understand further. Thanks for your thoughtful responses.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/22 09:01 PM
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Whaaaaat? That's crazy, I've never heard of that as an ideology. Only similar thing I can think of is women putting each other down when they claim that no one should shave or wear make up because it's degrading, which to me screams insecurity or "I've just started my first semester of gender studies and haven't learnt to think for myself yet".
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/22 08:51 PM
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What's choice feminism??
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/22 08:16 PM
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I think that they're talking about the aspect of feminism that celebrates everyone's uniqueness and allows people to take on whatever roles and lifestyle they feel is for them. Not feminism as a whole.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/22 08:02 PM
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I mean, have you heard people gossip behind the backs of other people?? I doubt anyone but their family or best friend would say "Tone it down mate, you sound like a dick" but for real, people notice and comment on it. We are all doing that here.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/22 10:26 AM
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I don't think I've met a single person who thinks that, when we talk we all have issues with weight, pimples, nose size, lip thickness, stretch marks, boob differences, labia flappiness, feet size... I could go on. The people who say "I'm amazing and everyone should acknowledge it!" are perceived as narcissists, or are poorly trying to portray that they have good self esteem. Either way, you shouldn't buy into it and should see it as the insecurity that it is.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/22 08:32 AM
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Yeah! The teasing and joking can be fun in the right environment, but I don't think many guys have the same kind of "debrief" time later, like if I've been teasing someone for sucking in a game we'll talk later and reaffirm how much we appreciate the time spent and how much we enjoy each other's company. Guys mostly seem to tease, then go eat dinner and go to bed.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/22 08:20 AM
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I think the nuance here is women might say "I'm 10/10 cause I'm going to rock at this job, do my best and I'm trying something new" and everyone's like "Yeah! You go make waves!" But if anyone says "I'm 10/10 perfect in all things and everyone should love and admire me like that" they're going to be seen as an attention seeking narcissist, no matter what insta and tictok says. If guys had (and many do) a similar social circle of support, they'd get the same love from friends for trying to live t…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/22 08:17 AM
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Yeah, I try to tell myself that I'm trying to be 10/10 me, not 10/10 someone else. For some people, I'd be a solid 2, maybe a 4, and for compatible people I could be a 7 or 8. But as long as I'm living my best life, I'm going to appreciate my skills and ideas, and I'll appreciate them in others.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/22 08:12 AM
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Maybe if those women are trying to fake having amazing self esteem or are trying to be positive. I think I'm pretty amazing, but definitely in a way that I appreciate and I wouldn't say I'm amazing as far as current beauty and lifestyle trends go. If a guy says he's amazing because he's loving his life, kicks ass at DnD and is so proud of his miniature skills, you go man! I think that appreciating yourself for who you are and reaching your own goals is great, while being "amazing" in every way t…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/22 08:10 AM
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Even then, if you interact genuinely with others on the internet it's not that bad. It's that bad if you just look at hate posts and insecure Instagram and tictok "models" and "influencers" who are trying to make a living by pretending they're perfect.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/22 08:05 AM
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Haha okay, loving the soft condescending tone, but that's what works for my friends. They're all hitting 30, but most are now in serious relationships. It works.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/22 08:36 AM
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You may be right, I've been with my partner for nearly ten years so I haven't been in the game awhile, but I still see my friends partnering up. Recently, one through DOTA, one through DnD and another is just getting serious with a girl from tae kwon do. I don't have first hand experience for this decade, but my friends who are successful are all pursuing hobbies. It's the same for both genders, too. While I have more female friends who met their partner on dating sites, way more have hobbies th…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/22 08:17 AM
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You wouldn't be sticking to one woman, you'd be making a friend. Who could introduce you to more women, who you might be compatible with. What's the point of friends at all if all you want is to have sex with them?? From my experience, the best relationships come from sharing a hobby, becoming close and then becoming romantic partners. There are loads of hobbies where you can befriend multiple people of your sexual preference, and evolve a relationship from there. You aren't picking one girl and…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/22 07:53 AM
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I dunno, all my long term relationships have blossomed from friendships. It evolves from 'You're fun to spend time with' to 'Take off those pants' when the chemistry is right. For me, it takes a bit of conversation and intrigue to get hot.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/22 07:43 AM
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Yeah, with the cool guys who play DnD with us. I don't want to fuck some lame non-gamer.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/22 04:55 PM
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Mawidge...mawidge is what bwings us togewer today...
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/22 08:17 AM
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Did you read what they wrote? They aren't disputing the results of the studies, they are pointing out that the studies aren't as open-and-shut ad you claim. A lot of the problem is causality vs association.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/22 08:26 PM
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What is the need of any friends if no romance/sex is involved? WOMEN CAN BE AMAZING FRIENDS. THEY ARE NOT JUST BANGMAIDS. It's like, you have two cakes. You try one, and it tastes good. The other is pretty similar, but you can't be bothered to try it because you can't stick your dick in it. I just don't get it.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/22 08:05 PM
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Yeah, I think that stuff was common in a couple of circles of boys during high school, then just disappeared.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/22 07:58 PM
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Hahaha we yell it at each other on the regular. It is just an insult. It's how I tell my sister I beat her at wordle. It's really not that strange to be like that as a girl.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/22 07:57 PM
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Wow, google shows quite a few in the UK. And in my city in Australia, there's probably one female only gym for every two mixed gyms, and most mixed ones have a female-only space.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/22 12:04 PM
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Bloody everywhere.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/22 11:35 AM
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What?? If she was a huge cunt just kick her out. You can exclude people for being a raging asshole. Violence isn't cool, no matter the gender.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/22 11:34 AM
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Hard agree.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/22 11:33 AM
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No stress, gifs are a pain to use on Reddit :).
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/22 11:24 AM
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I have work early tomorrow, thanks for the link I had a quick look, I'll watch it tomorrow in it's entirety. I feel, from my brief look, that it comes with a lot of presumptions about what women will do and why, which don't seem based on fact. Thanks though, I'll check it out.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/22 11:23 AM
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Conceited because if we say something wrong we don't think assault is the answer? Wow. We must run in very different circles because even in social situations without people of the opposite sex my friends haven't been assaulted... I have, though.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/22 11:18 AM
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Do men not make snide comments? If they did, what would be the difference?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/22 11:12 AM
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I mean, I want to be treated as a friend. If you like being crass, great! If you give me shit because I lost at smash bros, great! I'll give you shit back. I'll hold the door open for you, I'll expect to be held to the same standards as others.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/22 11:08 AM
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Okay now I'm trying to think back to when I was a teen... Hormones raging... Hate my parents... Got it. But really, I becameway more socially adjusted during my same-sex-schooling when I included boys in my social circle. I learnt they were humans too, they aren't just after pussy, they want love and relationships. And they're great DMs.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/22 09:40 AM
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Isn't that a problem with the males? Why can't they see the women as friends??
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/22 09:35 AM
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You're definitely gonna fuck them up with Bible study. 1 Timothy 2:12 and all that.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/22 09:35 AM
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Sounds like you know some lame ass women. And some cool men.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/22 09:33 AM
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I think that biologically, males want the maximum number of offspring, because they contribute sperm, which is energy-wise very cheap, while women have to grow, birth, wean and raise the child. Women want someone who will support them through that process. Genghis Khan fathered thousands of children through rape, and killed the males who may have supported the females. What does this have to do with exclusive men's groups??
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/22 09:32 AM
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Yeah, get a gender-free option for all. Help everyone learn that socialising is about personality, not what's in people's pants.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/22 09:25 AM
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What I'm reading from your post is that some of the people in those groups struggle with interacting with women and treating them equally. Wouldn't the solution be to have all areas open for all people so we can grow out of that? Like, going to a same-sex school doesn't teach people how to interact equitably with others, but a mixed school will encourage making friends with all genders.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/22 09:23 AM
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It feels like you're talking about groups that are traditionally female, but are open to all. What about female only gyms and the like?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/22 09:20 AM
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.... They do? Not from my experience.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/22 03:54 AM
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I'm in. I'm running a campaign for some kids tomorrow about stealing treasure and escaping from Pompeii while Vesuvius erupts. Toga time!
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/22 03:36 AM
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You should treat them like a romantic interest. Gender is irrelevant. Do you think lesbians treat all women like their dates? Or gay men treat their romantic interest like their buddies?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/22 02:21 AM
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If A worshipped me he would probably defend my rights as a woman and help create a more equal society. Also, I've never been worshipped before. Can I wear a toga and change my name to Yavanna?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/22 01:26 AM
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I would not care and I'd be happy that he explored his sexuality before settling down.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/22 11:08 PM
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Why?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/22 11:04 PM
2

I grew up with these "sizeist" jokes, our government even used it in an anti-speeding campaign. Now, I think it is terrible bullying and shouldn't be used. I want the term "unwashed dick energy" to be used instead.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/22 09:13 PM
2

Okay, my bad. I hope you can manage your symptoms soon, friend.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/22 09:49 PM
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Mate, that's not OCD. Thats having negative intrusive thoughts. If it's messing with your life, it's well worth a visit to your GP to talk about options for therapy. It could improve your quality of life!
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/22 09:12 PM
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I am very turned on by my man's power. When we first got together, I remember bragging about his CoD levels. Sexy AF.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/22 11:17 AM
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I like someone's idea of saying "unwashed dick energy" instead of the usual term. Small dicks are cool, too.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/22 05:17 AM
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No, I'm trying to illustrate to you that an opinion-based newspaper article isn't worth much. Of course some people are going to be depressed if they can't have children and wanted them. But that's not the case for the many people who choose to not have kids, and it's a far cry from "ugly repercussions".
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/22 10:10 PM
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A newspaper article about a few people's experience with involuntary childlessness doesn't really cut it. You can find that about anything. https://www.google.com/amp/s/amp.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle/2019/may/25/women-happier-without-children-or-a-spouse-happiness-expert See? And there wasn't much in the way of "ugly repercussions" there. Can you spell out for me what you think happens?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/22 10:02 PM
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Like what, though? Do they turn in baby snatching night demons? Come on, be specific.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/22 09:46 PM
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Yeah, I feel so bad for them. I hope they can find what they are looking for, especially when it's probably not what they think they want.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/22 12:52 PM
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It is for me! Less mental health issues, a stronger sense of identity, much better career, time to flex my creative muscles, hitting the paintball range with my mates every month, making great friends while gaming, hosting parties... I've never felt so happy to be me.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/22 12:01 PM
3

What exactly do you think happens when this "internal conflict" kicks in?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/22 11:57 AM
1

You can survive and thrive in a desert if you know how to. Same with the jungle, but there you also have to deal with snakes, spiders, centipedes, crocodiles, cassowarys, poisonous plants etc. Both places have their ups and downs. You want a bangmaid and find someone who wants to be your bangmaid? Cool, have fun with that. But it feels like you think women are 'lesser' somehow and that isn't healthy, if you want a place in a society you'll have a better time if you see people as equal.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/22 11:04 PM
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That is just patently false, stop spreading that nonsense. The original 80/20 referred to a single online dating site, and only asked women which men they found attractive, and 80% of women only found 20% of men to be "attractive". This doesn't mean they won't be attracted to them after talking for a bit, and it definitely doesn't mean that they want to fuck the "attractive" ones. It means that they were asked a question and answered according to current beauty standards. Please don't peddle tha…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/22 09:41 PM
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To add to this, back then the purpose of a woman was to serve as a mother or a nun. It was basically socially unacceptable to not have kids. 'Spinsters' were looked down on and ostracized. Some people still think that way, but for the most part we know that women have their own dreams and ambitions, and kids aren't always compatible with that. As a teen, I wanted to start a family in my early 20s. Then I began to work in childcare and began to understand that kids are so, so much work. I still w…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/22 02:00 AM
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Hey friend, I feel like you're shouting out your opinion like it's fact, and you have a sadly warped view of what casual sex entails. Is it possible for you to imagine a scenario where casual sex is neutral or even a positive? What might that look like, and what would we have to change for it to be possible?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/22 02:39 AM
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A virgin could say that because they know how they like to be touched from touching themselves. What's up with shitting on women for wanting to have a good sex life? A loving partner would want sexual satisfaction for both of them, instead of hoping their partner is ignorant just in case they can't pleasure her right.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/22 10:43 PM
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Apparently a big part of it is scent, looking for a partner with an immune system (or something, don't quote me on this I don't remember it really well) is a big part of it. My partner and I both feel... I dunno... Safe? Horny? When we smell each other's natural scents. I think the science is still in its infancy, but the bonding chemicals would release when we find someone we think would be a great partner. I've always been attracted to debate-y deep thinkers. But I haven't looked up the scienc…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/22 11:26 AM
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Chemicals, and a lack thereof. Staying in love is a job unto itself. But it's worth it.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/22 11:06 AM
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I was just pointing out that dick in pussy won't be what the majority of women need for sexual satisfaction, so people new to sex don't make that mistake, and you came back at me swinging. I shouldn't have reacted so harshly, I am sorry. Peace?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/22 10:54 PM
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I hope you and your hand are happy. Sorry, that was mean. You truly don't need experience to be good, just a willingness to learn.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/22 10:51 PM
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Oops, sorry! I missed that you were a troll. Have fun pleasing only 10% of your partners.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/22 10:47 PM
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Look, she was just a nasty piece of work. It has nothing to do with sexual experience, I bet if she was a virgin she'd talk about how someone else took her to this expensive restaurant or bought her a PS5. I really hope you don't get trapped in this mindset of 'experienced sexually = bitch'. You rolled the dice with that one and got a nat 1. Well, maybe not that bad, at least she didn't seduce you and steal your kidney. Sorry, tangent. Anyway, just because she'd had partners and was a shit nugge…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/22 10:45 PM
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Mmmm I don't have the exact numbers on me but I think it's around 80-90% of women can't achieve orgasm with penetration alone. So, yeah, there is some skill involved. And if there's no foreplay, it's really not going to feel good for her. There's quite a few recent studies on this. But that's the fun of a new relationship, learning each other's bodies! But please, please don't think that plain dick in pussy is gonna feel good. It won't. She needs to get aroused first, and likely needs clitoral s…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/22 10:17 PM
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Dude, sorry you had to deal with such a bitch. But to be a bit nitpicky, I don't think it's a woman thing so much as it is an asshole thing. Men can do that too, one of my exes complained that one of his exes could give extremely long blowjobs so why does my jaw hurt after a few minutes? Etc etc. Some humans are just like that.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/22 10:08 PM
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Most of them? Because they also wanted to take it slow and see where it went. Maybe our social groups are just really different.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/22 01:39 AM
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Don't worry, it's all good. I have a great relationship with my parents now! When I was 14 and 7 months I could join the gym and went with my dad in the mornings, that was much better for me.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/22 04:53 AM
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My parents forced me to play sports. It fucked with my mental health so bad. Don't force your kids to do that shit. Exercise, fine. But not sports.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/22 08:48 PM
1

....so two people, one of whom probably learnt socialisation from the other is a decent sample?? You forgot the /s dude
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/22 09:19 AM
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They better have beards in that god damn show... Or I swear to god I'll whine like a little bitch alllllll over the internet.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/22 05:30 AM
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Those ill timed queefs man... It just means you're being super vigorous. We love it.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/22 06:01 AM
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....I'm pretty sure that was sarcasm. I really hope that was sarcasm. It sounds just like the "put your phone in the microwave to charge it" thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/22 03:48 AM
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No, there are enough children in need here. If we can, we will adopt. Thank you for your understanding!
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/22 10:09 AM
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I agree that it we likely find others attractive because of evolutionary pressures, but a large part of our human evolution has to do with teamwork. My partner and I work together to overcome obstacles and commiserate together over our failures. We recently bought a house, and it fucking sucked. All the open houses and auctions and meetings with the banks... But in the end, we came back to each other and showed love and support. Money aside, that journey would have been so, so much more difficul…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/22 09:39 AM
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I just read this out to my partner. He said "What? Are you fishing for compliments? Of course I don't want to pay for sex over a relationship. Get off that subreddit" I'm not getting off this subreddit because it's fun, but also do you really think that humans are wired so differently that half of them want love and companionship and the other half don't?? You don't get a relationship out of nothing. It takes time, effort and compromise. Sure, I support the sex industry and you should support it…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/22 08:56 AM
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Well that's just a fact now!
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/22 11:06 PM
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Hey friend. I want to try and kindly pick apart your argument to see if it can stand up to scrutiny, so I'll ask some questions. Firstly, is this based on your personal experience, do you have peer reviewed sources to back you up, and what do you think about all these other people with greatly differing experiences? Do you think that all men have this level of disgust with "thotty-ness"? What is it about "thotty-ness" that makes a relationship untenable? Thanks!
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/22 10:03 PM
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I had coffee for breakfast yesterday then saw a kookaburra outside. Does that mean coffee = kookaburra? Correlation isn't causation.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/22 09:55 PM
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I'll elfball and make you cry
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/22 08:27 AM
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Omg I wanted to say "no blue" but thought if you were a blue player I'd offend you. And I totally quit as soon as I've won! It's important to maintain that superiority complex :p
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/22 06:12 AM
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I'll kick your ass at MTG then ruin the moment by gloating too hard. I do have one rule: no counter decks. That will make me upend the table.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/22 11:59 PM
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SoaD? With Prison Song?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/22 01:38 PM
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I want to sit around, smoking, drinking and masturbating all the time but i can't. We all have to decide what we want for ourselves, and choose from our options that which suit us best. If you can't find a goth girl who is okay with your political leanings, either aim to be the kind of man who can land a Trump supporter, or (I think this is better) find someone to discuss and debate with you to see if you can come to a mutual political understanding. You can totally want to fuck all the time and…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/22 04:04 AM
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Honesty is good. People can maybe tell you "wanna fuck all the time" and it maybe turns them off because they sense you are more interested in a physical release than a relationship? I don't think all Trump supporters have terrible personalities, I just think they're woefully misinformed, and for me, metal and conservative views just don't mesh. Neither does males being into fashion and makeup mesh with conservative views, now that I think about it. You ok? I'd hazard a guess that your problem i…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/22 03:51 AM
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Yeah tbh you're not bad looking, but for a lot of the women I've talked to, physical attraction is either greatly enhanced or greatly reduced by personality. Like, by beauty standards you might be X, but if the girl feels like you think you're so hot, that will go down to X-1. If you like makeup and fashion, fine, but if you're gonna be on her ass about it, another -1. And, well for my social demographic, liking Trump is a -100, minimum. Liking heavy metal is a plus, but you aren't gonna find ma…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/22 03:32 AM
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Now I'm getting all mushy thinking of what's he's done for me. I had tickets to a concert in Sydney, one of my favourite bands, never gonna miss it. It gets to the weekend and I had a freak out about going and driving in Sydney. I hate driving in big cities. He just said that he would drive, hang out in the hotel while I was in the concert and drive back. Six hours in the car for me. I love him.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/22 12:13 AM
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Oxytocin? But for reals, when we do little things for each other just because we can. I'll scrape the ice off his car because he's always running late in the morning and I have a need to be early to everything. He'll get socks and put them on my feet when it's cold.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/22 11:03 PM
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Thanks, friend. I like to think I'm not, and most people I know are like me. Don't let the bad apples spoil the bunch. Chuck them in the compost.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/22 11:26 PM
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Oh god, that's depressing.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/22 09:57 PM
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Sorry, I was trying to be over-the-top to illustrate a point. I very much agree that seeing other humans as objects is disgusting.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/22 09:54 PM
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Would you say that it's preferable to have a one night stand with no feelings involved, or a loving, long term relationship with a time at the beginning where you are waiting for intimacy? Say, six one night stands in a year vs waiting three months for intimacy then a loving, sexual relationship lasting at least a year?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/22 10:23 AM
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Have you ever done something fun that you then thought, "Hey, that's not me."? Some behaviours work outside of a relationship, but not in one. If they want to find someone who enjoys that kind of sex within a relationship that's great, but it may not be what their current partner is looking for.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/22 09:44 AM
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It's certainly not, but I was trying to illustrate a point between a casual encounter and a potential long term relationship to someone who thinks that sex means the same same thing in one night stands as it does in long term relationships.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/22 09:38 AM
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So, to me this sounds like: Alpha is a disposable dildo. Beta is the person who I will share my life with. I will pay their way when I can, heal their hurts, listen to their stories, love and support them... If a person has sex with a person for fun, then develops a relationship with a person on a deeper level and has more intimate sex with them after a bit, does that make the second relationship merely transactional? I thought the first relationship was far more transactional.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/22 08:52 AM
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Absolutely.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/22 08:23 AM
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If you define 'alpha' as a guy that seems like fun for a night, and a beta as a wonderful, beautiful person that I could share my life with. These "alphas" you're imagining aren't stereotypical attractive mega males, there just whatever guy is on hand for a quick itch-scratch. While the ones we want are beautiful inside and out, fun, intelligent and sexy to us, irrespective of current beauty trends.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/22 08:19 AM
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Guys do that too. I've absolutely had guys guys who wanted to draw out the honeymoon phase by going slow.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/22 08:16 AM
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I mean, it doesn't usually come up. I've had casual sex, but no threesomes, but those are spur of the moment things. If I was into a guy, it wasn't that I was necessarily making him wait a set amount of time, but that being intimate isn't a spur of the moment, never-gonna-see-ya-again pleasure act, it's a deeper, loving act. I might want to draw it out, make sex more special. Like the difference between a quickie for a fix and hours-long foreplay for an explosive, memorable orgasm. Thoughts?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/22 08:14 AM
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So if a person is just out, looking for some fun, finds a couple and ended up Ina threesome, they're just enjoying pleasure with others. Later, they find someone they like. Because they have feelings for this person, intimacy will likely lead to deeper feelings, and more hurt if they cease the relationship, so they choose to wait until they feel more secure in the relationship before being intimate with their partner. I. The first instance, feelings weren't involved so they wouldn't be hurt, so …
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/22 07:49 AM
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Hmmmm... Maybe we can differentiate here between wanting sex frequently and needing emotional validation that can come with casual sex frequently. Its the difference between "Yeah you seem cool let's hook up" and "I need to find someone to hook up with tonight". I feel like we're on the same page for the most part, except for the causation. While some alcoholics develop mental health issues due to their alcohol abuse, most use alcohol to self-medicate their condition. And many people use alcohol…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/22 05:04 AM
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Well, there's a huge difference between alcohol addiction and enjoying alcohol. So even if you were hooking up every weekend, it doesn't necessarily mean that what you're doing is to ease some other pain (mental health or withdrawal). I would say that if the promiscuity developed into an addiction, there would be negative consequences, but I don't think that is the case for most promiscuous people. I guess it depends on how you define promiscuity. If they enjoy casual sex when they feel like it,…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/22 03:25 AM
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I mean, I get where you're coming from. But I think there's a difference between seeking validation because you think you need it to feel better and enjoying validation and seeking it because you want it. I'm trying to explain my thoughts but I don't think it's coming out right, sorry. It'd be the difference between hooking up because you feel shitty about yourself and wanting to ease that emotional pain and hooking up because you enjoy feeling desired. Maybe an analogy is alcohol? The differenc…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/22 02:02 AM
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Yeah, I'd say (if I'm reading the DSM5 correctly) that unfulfilling promiscuity is a self-medication symptom of mental health issues, rather than a cause or major contributing factor to it, if that makes sense. Like, if someone has a mental illness they might look to alcohol or drugs to ease their pain. But casual sex in and of itself doesn't cause mental health issues, it'd be underlying factors like mental health disorders, emotional pain, sex-negative upbringing etc that makes it unhealthy. W…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/22 01:53 AM
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Sorry, I wasn't trying to attack you, just wondering how you could validate someone's experience if you think that people are deluding themselves. I've had experiences where I really felt like my partner cared about me and my pleasure, and we both knew it was just some fun for that night. I don't think it was validating exactly, but it was a good experience and I enjoyed it.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/22 01:40 AM
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I think you're going to have trouble if you're coming to this discussion with preconceptions like "they delude themselves". To me it sounds like a religious person saying that everyone knows their deity exists, but they fool themselves into thinking it doesn't. They aren't being generous listeners, but prescribing attributes to others based on their preconceived notions, without a metric to see if the others may be being honest. How could you tell if someone is deluding themselves or if someone …
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/22 01:10 AM
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You're being you. Which is amazing and you should celebrate it. As long as you aren't putting others down, you should feel good living your best life. I think that gender roles, while informed by biology and biological constraints like pregnancy, are so hyped up into stereotypes that people obsess over them like it's an actual rule. Fuck that noise.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/22 10:21 PM
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So she enjoys casual sex? Who cares?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/22 09:41 AM
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I watch porn, he watches porn, we all watch porn together. Could not give a shit. Even if he could initiate sex and chooses to have a wank instead, that's his "me" time and I'd be a dick if I took that away. He's not addicted, he's a grown man, and he's a great partner.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/22 03:59 AM
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Think you may have jumped the gun on this one mate. Most women don't give a shit and watch porn too.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/22 03:57 AM
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Their height wasn't a factor in my feeling attracted to them... Just thinking about it now I've actually been with or had a crush on quite a few shorter guys. I think some of this phenomenon of women on social media being dicks about height is due to relationships being shown via Disney, romance movies and novels etc when we were young, depicting men who would do anything for their 'goddess' and looked like whatever the ideal man is at the time. Most women don't still have this mindset, you real…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/22 12:25 AM
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I know. Women, men and NB are not a homogeneous group. We all disagree and have arguments between ourselves. That why debate platforms are great, just not so useful when people generalise, like saying "most men don't think like that, see the comments" etc. It's hard on a gender debate sub, but most women/men/NB won't share similar ideas and yeah, many comments are vile. But that doesn't represent a gender. That just represents people who are here and have the time, effort and love/vitriol to be …
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/22 11:54 AM
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No I meant I'd shame the women. I'd only shame the men if they think that women who have casual sex, have had many LTRs with sexual relations etc are somehow less-than or whatever. If it's because you're inexperienced and you put value on having a similar partner I might think you're putting too much focus on sex as a voodoo relationship success thing, but I won't shame you for it. Thinking a guy who is also into guys is less masculine or icky is prejudiced and stupid.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/22 11:47 AM
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What I find disingenuous about this is that she wasn't looking for a straight man, she was looking for a man who was her type, into her and a good partner. If she required him to be straight she should have said, but regardless, where I am I feel like most people would assume you were prejudiced against the LGBTQAI groups because you are judging someone based on their sexual orientation. What if he had slept with girls before, and was straight? It's really not that different. What if he identifi…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/22 11:06 AM
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Yeah, that's how I see it. Women either shaming each other or declaring/believing that "You're not a real woman unless you wear/don't wear make up. Have a kid. Stay hairless/be proud of your body hair. Dress nice/dress for comfort. Be a boss bitch/be a submissive little wifey. Etc There are so many dichotomies these days around how people think genders should behave to show their pride in and support for their gender. But it's a fucking spectrum. Just be proud of people regardless and ignore wha…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/22 10:56 AM
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You may be right. I've always seen toxic masculinity/femininity as having rigid gender roles and saying that anyone who steps outside those roles is not worthy of their gender. So this is toxic masculinity as applied by females.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/22 10:46 AM
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To be fair, her original tweet was: whichever (lady) performer is replacing me tomorrow for @EroticaXNews, you're shooting with a guy who has shot gay porn, just to let cha know. BS is all I can say🤷🏽♀️ Do agents really not care about who they're representing? #ladirect I do my homework for my body🤓✏️🔍 That says nothing about STD or HIV risk, I think? It does come across as very homophobic.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/22 10:41 AM
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So, why then?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/22 10:34 AM
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I mean if they're slinging hate and prejudice against bi folks I'll shame them.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/22 10:34 AM
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Okay, but I really think you are misrepresenting a key part of your argument. "Conventional attractiveness" is really different to "individual attractiveness". You might be conventionally an 8, but a woman might prefer a conventionally attractive scale "4" because their personality suits them and makes them much more attractive in their eyes. Things that might be considered flaws by others become endearing or even sexy. You do not have to be conventionally attractive to attract someone. I've fal…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/22 02:05 AM
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That's why online dating sucks. It's so hard to get a read on anyone, and chilling when you hang out with a friend group you can meet a bunch of people with little pressure, but organising and going on a date... They could be hot as sin and then just be a total jackass, making then about as sexy as brushing your teeth. Personality is sexy!
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/22 11:28 PM
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Sometimes you just want to get your pussy licked, and don't worry about what comes next because you don't have romantic feelings for them. And then you find someone you do have feelings for, if you have sex and develop deeper feelings then get dumped, it breaks your heart. And that sucks, so you wait and see if things are going in the right direction before you let yourself be super emotionally vulnerable. Like, I play a mobile game for an hour and don't care.too much when it turns into a pay-fo…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/22 10:16 PM
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You might be conventionally attractive but that does not mean that anyone in particular will be attracted to you. Many women, while they can appreciate beauty, aren't attracted to someone for real until they get to know them a bit. Sure, you're an eight. But the current beauty trends are eh and your personality rubbed me the wrong way so to my libido, you're a three. When I've met sexual partners in the past, many of them would be conventionally rated... Maybe 3-8? But the threes became super at…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/22 09:33 PM
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I do love debate, but I try to debate less and Socratic question more. It's kinder and actually gets us somewhere. But to be honest, this sub is fun because sometimes it's like that horrific car crash you can't escape staring at.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/22 09:23 PM
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That's not arguing, that's just contradiction!
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/22 09:20 PM
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It's less that I behave better for others than with my partner and more like I behave with my partner like I would when alone. I trust them to love me for me. It's like, I can let my guard down because we are in this together and a sign of true love is acknowledging your partner's flaws and loving them anyway. We are both leaky meat sacks, and I trust him to love me in all my meat sack glory. He doesn't judge me for farting up the bedroom and I don't judge him for sitting in his undies playing P…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/22 02:05 AM
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I mean, it's one thing to say "don't burp and blow it in my face." But if you don't want someone to burp or fart or whatever around you at all I feel like you want a caricature of them, and most people want to be loved for who they are, warts and all. If you both want to pretend bodily functions aren't real then ok, but that doesn't sound like the kind of love many people are in to. Good luck, OP.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/22 01:22 AM
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Oh my god I love this question. I've been in early education for 15 years and I feel like so many issues, including work/life balance would be answered with a four day working week, with three days for parents. Have six months off for one caregiver, likely the breastfeeding one, then an additional six months also paid but only if the other parent takes it. Force workplaces to be flexible for non-birthing parents. There is a reason humans rarely have multiple births, and it's because human babies…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/22 12:56 PM
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Ok, sorry. Thanks for saying I'm not the issue. But I do still want to understand your perspective further if you feel up to it, I hear it a lot of similar sentiments on here but it really doesn't line up with what I see. To answer your original question, I would say that partners who want to leech off of someone else and not contribute to the relationship are trash and should be dumped, and are not at all likely to change after commitment. Male, female, nb, whatever they happen to be. Also, mos…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/22 10:14 AM
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I don't know about your western women, but I live in a westernised country and the women here want to work, buying a house requires two (decent, unfortunately for most people) incomes, unless one partner gets an amazing salary. Where I am, the typical woman and man want a partner who will support them emotionally, love them for who they are and help them navigate life. What is your view of a traditional man and woman? The 50s version where the middle class women stayed home and kept the house be…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/22 09:34 AM
1

Ah ok. Fair enough, sounds hard
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/22 09:23 AM
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Great! I appreciate your open mind and fast response. Come like in a place like my country, splitting is the norm and "wifey" and "husbands" things and shared according to the partners wants and needs. It's pretty nice. Where is this dating hellhole where women demand to be fed money and protected like celebrities while not maintaining any household chores? It sounds like a terrible culture.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/22 09:15 AM
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Maybe it's regional differences, but I don't know many women who aren't comfortable with splitting and the ones who aren't I don't think are good partners for many other reasons. If I was being harassed of course I would want my partner to step up and do something within reason. I'd hope he would have the sense to know when a situation could be diffused or if he needs to back away and call for help. And I would do the exact same thing for him. You seem to have very gender specific ideas on how m…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/22 09:10 AM
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In all honesty I've done this before. They tried so hard. The sex is usually awesome. But if the personalities just don't mesh, it's not gonna last.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/22 07:26 AM
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My point was that OP staid 99% of women were after 10/10 men. I said that 99% of women aren't straight. I am not saying that only one percent of women are same-sex attracted, but that less than 99% of women are heterosexual. I think you just misread it. It isn't wrong to say that 99% of women aren't straight if only 90% of women are straight.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/22 12:54 PM
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How many people would go skydiving? A lot do, sure. But there's that in built fear of heights, parachutes have only been around for so long, so to help us not die our brains have us a healthy fear of jumping from a place that could kill us. Birth control, like parachutes, can fail. My sister's friend died a few years ago from that. But it's the evolution that has shaped our brains since sexual reproduction began that has us looking for mates that give our offspring the greatest chance of surviva…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/22 11:12 AM
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I'd hazard a guess that most women are chasing a fulfilling relationship, a handful are looking for their 'soul mate' if that exists, and a bunch are just happy being themselves and will accept a relationship if it suits them. 99% of women aren't even straight. If you get this 'women are all looking for 'giga Chad' (a term my students used today to try and explain why they were allowed to break rules)' then you'll likely have a much healthier mindset which will help you find a healthy relationsh…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/22 11:02 AM
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I used to be anxious when my partner would come home late because an ex used to do that and he was cheating. After a bit I realised that the coming home late wasn't the issue, it was that my ex would get irrationally angry when I asked about how 'judo' classes went, didn't want to look at me, etc. My partner sometimes comes home late and I appreciate notice if I'm cooking, but I don't need it because I know he'll rock up and tell me how he beat Ben in smash bros, give me a kiss and thank me for …
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/22 01:24 AM
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Sure, if they've given you a reason to be worried. But I don't think having a baby is a great reason... And coming home late isn't a good reason, it's the behaviour that should lead to concern. Dodging questions, DARVOing, being secretive.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/22 09:07 PM
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Well that's just not true! For thousands of years we have had this magical thing called abortion which allows us to choose when and if we want to produce offspring. Ok our bodies do it naturally if it seems we don't have enough resources to grow a fetus, and through herbs and medicine we can now decide for ourselves if we are in the position to put aside our lives in service of a new being. It is truly revolutionary (thousands of years ago. It's just safer and more sure now) Every baby that grow…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/22 11:38 AM
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Yeah I've found it depends on the game and on the server, but it'd probably be the same for guys. If I want to watch the world burn, I get in an open rust server. If I want to chill and make friends, most games have 'n00b friendly'.servers where everyone is super nice and want to have a good time, murdering or otherwise. And even in rust servers with a high percentage of douchenozzles, there are still a bunch of nice people who will come together to gang up on the assholes. I've added a bunch to…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/22 08:53 AM
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They accept it as a possible side effect, but they do not have to consent to remaining pregnant.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/22 03:40 AM
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Not all smokers get lung cancer. Some people still don't want to take the risk.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/22 03:39 AM
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Well it's pretty famous, so I think a lot of people do appreciate it. For me, it comes down to consent. I consent to having sex, but I do not consent to having my body used as an incubator for nine months. The embryo is a clump of cells as cannot consent to anything, and until it is viable outside the womb it isn't able to trump my rights to my body.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/22 09:21 PM
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I would consider pregnancy grievous and potentially deadly.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/22 09:15 PM
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Yes
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/22 09:11 PM
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Even after implantation, does it have the right to cause permanent changes in the host's body, high chances of medical conditions like gestational diabetes etc and to put the host through extreme pain?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/22 09:06 PM
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But it isn't a child. It's a clump of cells. What did you think of the analogy?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/22 09:01 PM
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Pregnancy can cause many health problems. Do you think that the woman has a right to decide what health risks she takes on? What is it about the embryo that makes it worthy of violating the rights of others? It is literally a clump of cells, no nervous system or brain.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/22 08:49 PM
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What? It'd be a contract saying that if pregnancy occurs X would not be liable for support payments beyond medical costs or something (for an abortion) It's absolutely unequal but that's just how we evolved. We don't need more humans, we need more support for the ones already here.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/22 11:38 AM
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So? I'm not saying people having casual sex are likely to use it, but people in relationships could. I mean... What did you think was gonna happen? They'd sign it and then try to get pregnant? It's in case of an accidental pregnancy
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/22 11:32 AM
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Hey, corpse paint is hot. Don't go dissing my metal bros.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/22 10:12 AM
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I imagine that it would be contingent on abortion being free and safe.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/22 06:56 AM
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Yeah I prefer the term humanist or equalist.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/22 06:55 AM
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Why?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/22 06:53 AM
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Have you heard of the Violinist analogy? Do you think an embryo's rights trump the carrier's rights of bodily autonomy?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/22 06:50 AM
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Often the end result is a shitty upbringing in a variety of foster homes and a more difficult start in life. I wish adoption was easy and beautiful, but it's definitely not.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/22 06:45 AM
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Thats great. Instead of a pre-nup you have a pre-conception contract.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/22 06:43 AM
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Ok, I think I understand you more. When you said that men "waste time" being friends with women I think I misunderstood you, and assumed you thought all male-female friendships were a waste of time. I understand the frustration that comes from pursuing someone with no result, but I don't think you're going to get a better reaction from being forward than from being friends. From my understanding, you think that "wasting time" being friends yields little result, but the FRIEND (not just a female,…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/22 11:49 AM
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It kinda does, being friends with a few people of all genders gives you emotional support as well as a greater chance of meeting someone you're compatible with. You write as though all men who are friends with females are only there to get a relationship, but the point of being friends first is to know if you're compatible, and even if you aren't compatible romantically, they might introduce you to someone who is. Why do you think it is a waste of time to be friends with a girl if she isn't inte…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/22 07:03 AM
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Nah. Looks are a teeny tiny part of the 'do things so they stay with me' playbook, just like how sex is a teeny tiny part of what partners are likely to do. I mean, do you really want your partner to be screwing you because they're scared they'll lose their arm candy? Come on, you're worth more than that :)
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/22 12:22 PM
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So it is your take that libido is only related to perceived attractiveness of the partner? Because I'm pretty sure that science already debunked that.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/22 09:28 PM
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Get a good friend to take the photos. Someone who will tell you exactly how to stand, if you have a booger, and constructively criticize your look. You can't really get to know someone through a profile, so someone being brutal about getting the best pic is a must. I've never been on a dating site, but my best photo critics are my mum, sister, brother and best friend. They want what's best for you. That being said, I found my partner through DnD, in my parents basement while wearing sweatpants a…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/22 03:38 AM
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Yeah I think some people are either misconstruing what you are labelling as "mate guarding" to be something sinister, or falling for the slippery slope fallacy where they assume that because you help her avoid a wardrobe malfunction it means you will soon make her wear a burka. Unless I am deliberately wearing low rises and wanting my butt crack to hang out, I'm always grateful for all my friends, male, female and SO to pull me up. God damn, I work in childcare and the amount of times a coworker…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/22 03:31 AM
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I think there's some nuances here that need to be addressed. Some people have come forward and said that, with consent, it's okay. Mate guarding, like a shitload if things, exists on a spectrum. I think it's horrible if a partner won't "allow" their SO to be friends with people they could be romantically involved with, shows jealousy where a reasonable person wouldn't and/or becomes upset with their SO at any perceived sleight to their relationship. But if the "mate guarding" presents itself as …
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/22 03:02 AM
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I have indeed been gifted with the powers of reading. Some people find that they are far more sexually attracted to people after they get to know them. But that's beside the point. You said that a man wouldn't think it is worth it to get to know a woman's personality unless they were attractive, and I think what you meant to say was "A man looking for a romantic partner wouldn't bother getting to know a prospective love interest's personality unless he found them attractive." Either way it's bul…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/22 09:52 AM
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......waste time? I thought people generally got to know others personalities as they hang out and become friends. Making friends isn't a waste of time for most people.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/22 09:28 AM
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Ok, I'm sorry. I felt like your post was implying that you should text back very soon after, as you said it only takes 10 seconds. Often I'll see a message when I'm on a break, and wait til I get home, am sat down and then reply to everyone. I really don't think that's it is too many people have my number, but that I have great relationships with a lot of people. Through an average week I usually talk with my mum, sister, cousin, best friends, MIL and FIL, and a couple of aunties. I like to send…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/22 09:59 PM
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I can't have my phone on me at work, and in breaks my brain is too "busy" to think of something to write I'll usually need some down time to get out of work mode before I can reply properly, so unless it's something simple like "please get milk in the way home" I find it unpleasant to text during the workday. Why can't people just be patient instead?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/22 04:55 AM
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....reproducing is why DNA based life forms exist? The main driver of reproduction is not the patriarchy...
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/22 09:04 AM
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Because it's fun and women get horny. The article was pretty much just saying that: 1. If a woman has casual sex to regulate negative emotions (loneliness, feelings of inadequacy etc) it is more likely to lead to more negative emotions. 2. If a woman has casual sex they are still worried about being 'slut shamed'. So I guess it's saying people should work on their confidence and contentment to avoid negative emotions around casual sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/22 10:04 PM
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Whoa maybe it's because... And hear me out here... We are different humans talking about different experiences? If some chick has wild monkey sex with a dude but doesn't want to have that with her current partner I'd guess it's because he's not into that, or she decided it's not her thing. Either way, people have different sexual interests and in a relationship you try to confirm yours with your partner's. Maybe they don't want a gangbang? That's cool, I love you so I won't push you into that.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/22 06:11 AM
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Because if you're only with someone for a night it doesn't matter if they think you're a ho?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/22 06:01 AM
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I mean I get the sentiment, once you realise sex is just sex and not some amazing superpower it loses its magicalness to a degree, but people can realise this in so many other ways.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/22 03:19 AM
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This was called the fifties and we are still dragging that sexist bullshit out of the workplace. Sure, if women can't fight back because they will lose their job the higher ups will be happy. But for the human beings that have to put up with it? My grandma told me how degrading and disgusting it was and I want no part of it
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/22 02:11 PM
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I agree with you. But my point is that a study showing that previous sexual partners correlates to higher relationship breakdowns doesn't take into account that a number of people are raised to believe that they have to stick with one partner even if they suck. That societal pressure is really hard to overcome.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/22 01:21 PM
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So it's cherry picked?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/22 01:12 PM
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One quote does not a study make.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/22 12:58 PM
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Of course it isn't irrelevant, but it shows a divide where women who feel like their n count will reflect poorly on them will stay in shitty relationships because they won't want to be ostracized. If you feel comfortable with your sexuality and with yourself you are more likely to find a partner you are happy with than 'sticking it out'.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/22 12:57 PM
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It's paywalled, so we can't check it for limitations?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/22 12:49 PM
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I might be wrong, but I saw a lot of limitations with those studies in regards to what you claim. Rather than previous sexual partners being an indication of future infidelity, I saw that partners who had religious upbringings were more likely to stick with an unhappy partnership. Basically, of they had been lied and bullied into thinking they were only worthy as a virgin, they were more likely to stay with a shitty partner.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/22 12:46 PM
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Ok so I know this has been pointed out a lot but I'll have another go. For me, and it seems like loads of other women, attractive and attracted are different. I can objectively pick attractive people and it might be one in five. But to be attracted to them, I need to get to know them a bit. And most of the time the people I am sexually attracted to after getting to know them are not the people I thought were conventionally attractive. In other words, that study shows nothing about how much a per…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/22 11:14 AM
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You seem like a nice person. I really appreciate reading these thoughtful and open-discussion producing comments. I hope you hi d contentment :)
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/22 11:03 AM
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It's not a strawman if they asked for one toxic trait common to all women, you provide gaslighting, then they ask to clarify if you think all women gaslight. That's just holding a mirror up to your argument. You can't accuse someone of strawmanning you if you provide them with a bellybutton-lint-man. A strawman fallacy is attacking a weaker version of an argument, they didn't attack anything, just asked for clarification.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/22 09:17 AM
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Didn't that term originate from a film where a woman was gaslit by a man? Not to say that you think men can't gaslight, but maybe it's a human thing that some shitty humans do...
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/22 09:12 AM
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Cheers!
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/22 10:30 AM
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I have saved a few interesting questions for purge. Does this rule count during purge? They're interesting questions...
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/22 08:33 AM
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Sorry that you have to deal with all this. It must be difficult being the centre of the universe. Thanks for the laughs. God I'm not normally snarky but you just bring it out in me mate. Sorry.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/22 01:38 PM
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Whoo! Howdy doo there's a lot to unpack here. On the surface, this feels like one of the most solipsistic kinds of relationship I've heard of. You seem to be saying that by gaining weight a woman is unconcerned with whether her partner finds her attractive, which I don't think has ever been the case. Often people gain weight as they go through mental disorders, stressful situations etc. I feel like you're assuming people who are fat are lazy and gluttonous when usually they're stressed, exhauste…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/22 10:27 AM
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Pleasing her man isn't bad. Requiring more and more effort from her without support and for the sole reason that he wants her to remain skinny is bad. Why do you think that her body should be the main concern in maintaining the relationship?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/22 02:13 AM
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I never said it means nothing. I said that if his point of view is that she should remain fit for his sexual pleasure and won't support her to help maintain that then he is a shit partner and possibly has a personality disorder. Ok I added the last bit now. That strawman could be blown apart by a baby's fart.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/22 10:22 PM
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There is absolutely nothing wrong with taking care of yourself. But if you're with a "gym bunny" and expect them to maintain that level of fitness their whole life you might want to reflect on if you are placing unrealistic expectations on them. As humans age our metabolisms slow, we acquire more responsibilities and (for most middle and lower class people) can't pass them off to others so less time to keep super fit. What men like is irrelevant, it's what your partner likes that counts. And if …
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/22 09:15 AM
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Maybe he decided to be less appealing by being so superficial that looks are the main reason he's with a partner. Getting into a long term relationship and expecting them to look like they did when you met them is only for the immortal elves, and even they can age somewhat after thousands of years. If he's expecting Arwen, sorry, she's taken. He could be a supportive partner and help her look after he health is that is important to both of them, but I think most people's friends would actually s…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/22 08:40 AM
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They will be fine. I buy a lot of their product :p
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/22 11:52 PM
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I didn't read your studies yet so feel free to correct me but didn't it say that women typically have a lower libido than men? It comes off to me that you're saying "A wine lover who has a fancy glass with dinner doesn't actually like wine because they've got nothing on the alcoholic who drink two bottles of $4 goats piss every morning". Like you have to represent the facts accurately and include limitations to the study and factors that may have affected the outcome. I learnt that in 7th grade …
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/22 10:35 PM
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Whelp that's great at showing how well I'm paying attention now. Sorry!! It's probably my bed time. Fricken can't shout enough praises at that show. Or Wilfred. The Aussie one. American one was crap. Love Elijah Wood, but it was shite. Love ya like Ray love dimmies!
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/22 10:50 AM
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You might know this but the guy who gets thrown through the glass window is actually Nash Edgerton. Lol. I bawled my way though the finale with Bruce. Brittany painting his nails, too. God damn. My dad was in stitches with the pee pee porn thing, I thought it was funny but I don't think my dad gets how pee pee porn isn't as hardcore as it might have been when you had to rent it on VHS. Still, pee pee man is a running joke with us. But what I think of as my favourite moment would have to be the f…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/22 10:32 AM
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Omg I wish we could tag him. He is amazing. What was your favourite scenes?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/22 09:31 AM
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How is calling you "champ" and saying that someone is autistic even remotely similar? Maybe it's because I haven't been to prison. But even then, using a slur against people for something that they are born as isn't remotely comparable to saying that someone puts a dick in their mouth. I put dicks in my mouth. I love my partner and want to pleasure them. What the fuck ever. Then there's you saying that people who disagree with you have a neurological difference that is bad. Fuck you. Autism is a…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/22 09:25 AM
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I would never shame someone for sucking cocks. I do it on the regular. I would definitely shame someone for using a hateful slut against a group of people who have been marginalised because they don't fit in with what we call 'normal'. Fucking love Mr Inbetween btw. And I would bet my PC that Scott Ryan would say that you're being obtuse.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/22 09:20 AM
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Hi! Are you Aussie, I'm guessing from your liberal use of the word 'mate'? What's up with the hate on people on the autism spectrum? You're kind of using it as a pejorative. If you could clarify your point.better we might be able to have better answers, were not here to fuck spiders after all. Ad hominem attacks don't really achieve my much do they, champ?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/22 08:05 AM
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Its refreshing, right? I don't go out much and can be quiet, but I love making new friends :)
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/22 12:31 PM
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I like being approached if: I'm not busy, like in the middle of a conversation or really obviously engaged in something. You're interested in getting to know me before the sexual innuendos begin. You don't push physical contact if I am pulling away. Try it out if it seems right, but don't keep putting your hand on me if I move away, if you tried and it was too early, I'll initiate contact if/when I'm comfortable. Be patient. I LOVE it when people cold approach me with something interesting to de…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/22 11:54 AM
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Don't expect them to be like a fairytale lover. Shits gonna happen, they won't worship the ground you walk on. That stuff is fun fantasy. Love them for who they are: a life partner. You (should) get out what you put in. In my experience, there isn't a soulmate, but another flawed human whose quirks you enjoy, whose crap you can deal with and who will feel the same for you. Work together to make life a bit happier, play together. That's a true soulmate, not a physical or ethereal thing, but an ag…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/22 12:53 AM
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I love your thoughtful and honest answers, thank you! I'm not asexual, so I can't explain what it feels like, maybe someone else on here can. But maybe I can make an analogy. Prostate stimulation feels good, but for some people with prostates it just doesn't feel right. Sure, they might be able to put up with it for their partners sake, but they just don't like it. That's okay, they should be honest and find a partner with compatible needs. Similarly, people without trauma can't empathise with p…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/22 10:11 PM
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Ok ok imma have a try: While we don't know the exact reason for our varying sexual orientations, scientists believe it influenced by a mix of genetic, hormonal and environmental factors. So, that is why they are asexual. Same reason you are your sexual orientation, whatever that may be. While we have made some serious progress in psychology, trauma doesn't get 'fixed'. It can take years of therapy to get to a place where (for example) they are comfortable being in an intimate position with someo…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/22 09:02 PM
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That's not a universal rule, though. Many tribes in hotter climates don't wear much clothing regardless of gender. Certainly, it's interesting that 120 years ago when ankles were never seen it's funny that seeing an ankle was sexy, but (just a guess) this was likely because it meant the woman was signalling sexual availability and interest. I think it's probably pretty recent (like a couple thousand years) that clothes were worn to hide women instead of for comfort and practicality.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/22 02:49 AM
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Humans are different. If you ask Anne about dating tips and use them to pick up Zara, it may not work. If you are looking for a girl like Zara, fricken ask a Zara type what has worked on her. We aren't malicious and trying to make you fail, we (as far as I can tell) try to offer honest advice on what has attracted us. As a start, I am attracted by: Interesting discussion about philosophy, movies, books, morality and an open minded challenge to my beliefs. Interest in fantasy and gaming. Interest…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/22 11:25 AM
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.......I work with a lot of male child care educators. Should they always pay? The wage gap is due to many jobs that are seen as 'womans work' being paid shit, and many women are naturally inclined to that work. But men still work in those fields, and we want to encourage everyone to work somewhere that suits their skills. We need to encourage fair pay across all sectors, not demonise genders. My take is: play it by ear. If they seem into you, offer to buy them a drink or pay their way. If not, …
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/22 01:38 PM
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I mean someone should pay for the date. We can't all be dining and dashing...
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/22 04:27 AM
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It's really not, though. If you haven't met any divorced people, how can you know their reasons for divorcing? Reasons three of my friends got divorced: He was cruel to her during her pregnancy His alcoholism became unmanageable and was dangerous around the children She is a narcissist and he got fed up with her shit
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/22 09:49 PM
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I just asked him if he was okay being with a slut. He said it sounds like you don't get any pussy and maybe you're jealous. Then he laughed and said "but don't type that, it's 10 you gotta go to bed, don't start shit" Oh he's amazing. Anywho, I gotta go to bed. Thanks for the offer, but I don't fuck misogynists. Night!!
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/22 11:57 AM
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:) I have a lot of friends from India, your music is bangin'. Your women's rights and health... Not so bangin'.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/22 11:50 AM
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Lol thanks but I'm in a relationship. I'll ask my single friends, though!
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/22 11:43 AM
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Yep, we fought to have autonomy over our sexuality and our bodies. If you wanna call that being a slut, then you do you. Who hurt you, man?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/22 11:42 AM
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Okey doke. Just sharing my opinion and experiences too, friend :)
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/22 11:41 AM
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RAWR! I am SLUTZILLA and I come to eat your babies!! RAWWWWRRRRRRR!
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/22 11:40 AM
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Atheism isn't describing a system of belief. What moral code do people who don't believe in the Yeti pass down through generations? But these days, if you are interested in secular moral ideas, I like: humanism, utilitarianism, kantianism, existentialism and so on. They're really interesting, The Good Place looks into that sort of stuff a lot, if you have Netflix. When I'm passing down wisdom to the next generation I try and pass on as much empathy and compassion as possible, probably the same a…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/22 11:39 AM
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Because when we're talking nasty they tell me what they want to do, and it sounds like they're actually interested in my pleasure, so I figure they'll make a good effort to find it! All things being equal, like they were basically the same person, showed the same amount of interest, were good conversationalists... I can't really say. Probably whoever had nicer hands. It's not something that's happened before. Average guys tend to have way more interesting personalities.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/22 11:21 AM
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They might have been trying to let you down nicely and just utterly failed
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/22 11:17 AM
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Atheism just means a lack of belief in a deity. There are loads of well thought out secular moral codes that kick the asses of any religious morals I've ever looked in to. And just... The rest of your post... Just ick. Come on.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/22 11:17 AM
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Thanks for the well thought out answer :) It didn't work in the way that women weren't okay with it, our autonomy was fought for and we finally won it. I'm seeing a lot of hyperbole here, and that's okay, change is scary. It seems like you're a bit salty, though, maybe dial it down and explain your argument properly? You can have sex without feelings. You can kiss a family member. You can kiss a romantic partner. One of those is likely to lead to deeper romantic feelings, the other hopefully won…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/22 11:12 AM
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I have repeatedly chosen the men I think would be fun in bed. Not many of them would I describe as 'chads' and many of them were, according to current social conventions, unattractive. I found them very attractive, however, because they were funny, smart, liked talking movies and games with me, seemed to care about where my clit was etc etc. I really don't see this "Chad" thing actually happening irl. But if that's your experience, then I'm sorry this is happening to you.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/22 11:03 AM
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If you think that sex is 'everything' then I don't know what to tell you, maybe a mature relationship isn't for you dude. Sex is an important part of a relationship, but definitely not everything, and not the thing that's gonna make it last. The person I'm interested in doesn't have to do anything, they can nope out whenever they want. But if they're into it like I am, then they'll want to see where it will go. And it's kinda gross how you imply that we're serving pussy up on a silver platter, i…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/22 10:59 AM
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We gave that a good try for several millenia, didn't work for us, fought hard to escape from it. Give us some time to see if this whole 'personal autonomy' thing works out, yeah? Being real, I don't think women won't sleep with men because they think he will fall in love with them if they don't put out. They think that if they are beginning to fall in love, sex will make them fall harder. If he's not that into them, that will make the break up harder. So if she (he or they, it's not specific) do…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/22 10:15 AM
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Childcare
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/22 07:57 AM
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Maybe it's different where you live but for me, you can't get a place for a child for ages, and there are so, so many jobs available. Our unions are just shit.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/22 06:38 AM
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Sorry, I meant about supply vs demand in those jobs. It's ridiculous.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/22 06:07 AM
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You're right, I forgot the term. Thanks!
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/22 06:07 AM
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That's my argument against a current patriarchy. It's not a patriarchy, it's a wealth hierarchy. Sure, some old dickheads will be sexist assholes to women, but we have protections against that, and we should use them. Now, it's far more about money, and most people are being left behind.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/22 05:06 AM
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It's pretty much the opposite now, though.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/22 05:03 AM
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That's a great question! Either we will be packed into shitty apartments like battery hens, eating Soylent Green and be overly medicated to keep us placid, or the workers will achieve their dream of adequate pay for the profit and work they provide (like, companies must pay out a percentage of profits to all workers, CEOs can only earn 10x what their lowest paid employee makes etc). Ideally I'd like to see a four day work week, with parenting shared equally. Men seem to be pressured into working…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/22 10:59 AM
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I don't think there is a (significant) gender pay gap, but as you said in another comment, people who work X hours a week should be able to afford basic necessities. The pay gap that I see is in female-dominated fields like aged care, disability care, child care. This skews the dynamic so that people who work in those fields, while essential, are paid shit. My (not researched, just hypothesised) idea is that these are low paying fields because in the past these tasks were unpaid, usually by fema…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/22 09:43 AM
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I teach my cousin (12) that teen fantasy love is fun to read, but what really happens is you find someone whose flaws you can deal with and who can deal with your flaws. Relationships are a partnership, you both have to lift each other up. The 'true love' in books where a guy will drop everything for you, be a secret billionaire and do everything because you're just so perfect isn't realistic, or what you actually want. You're both just humans, trying to find a person to help you through life wi…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/22 10:08 PM
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What does an ideal relationship look like to you, and what about the ideology made you lean into your female nature more? Thanks :)
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/22 08:08 AM
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She can, with someone who she is not interested in romantically.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/22 09:04 PM
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She can, with someone who she is not interested in romantically.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/22 09:03 PM
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M feels safe and enjoys sex with her FWB. She also enjoys no strings sex with flings, and (though she phrased it poorly) seems to value sex as both a fun release and a deep bonding experience. It seems she is good at separating feels from sex, and when she gets the feels from someone, doesn't want to get overly hurt by jumping into bed with them, because that may make her fall further in love, which often ends in heartbreak. As long as M's partners are on the same page, it's all good. To try and…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/22 04:51 AM
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Lol nah, it means football. Usually Aussie Rules, or Rugby.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/22 02:10 AM
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In my city he will wear a business shirt, smart slacks and is probably a pube (public servant) doing IT stuff. He will take long lunch hours and be casually into either gaming or gadgets. He will have at least one (probably useless) degree from before he realised that being an architect was too much effort and decided to suck on the government's generous teat. In my country at large, he will wear pit vipers, have a glorious mullet and awful sunburn, and will likely be a tradie. He'll have a wife…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/22 08:51 PM
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How would you define attraction? I see some people on here who think it's quite shallow (6ft, makin bank etc) and others who think it's more interest based and emotional, which is my experience. Without defining 'attraction' here, you might get a lot of people just talking past each other.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/22 11:52 AM
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Same to you, friend!
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/22 02:40 AM
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Yeah, but delaying life experiences is also spending time doing the experiences you want to. The party life and hedonism isn't for everyone, but that doesn't mean it's for no one. Some people think that you can't truly be happy unless you sacrifice and save and have 2.4 kids, a white picket fence blah blah. Some people did that and regretted it, same with long term relationships. Some people just don't derive the happiness from it that we've come to expect. I guess we're all just lucky if we can…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/22 01:50 AM
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I get what you mean about many people paring up early, but there's still a dating market for most ages. I'm not too sure about the specifics, having been out of it for nearly a decade, but if you're 21, the challenge is that your peers are still figuring out what they want with their lives. Have you looked at what you're asking from a prospective partner? Unless they're in the military also, so it's both your problems, you're asking for at least 15 years of instability and moving, living alone f…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/22 01:04 AM
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:) of course you are right about the contraceptives, this would be in an idyllic world, not what we have now. And yes, it is curious that birth rates decline as wealth goes up. I haven't looked over the data much, but I'd hazard a guess that it's because the people who are raking in that money put in a lot of time and effort to get where they are, and taking time off might jeopardise that. Also, greater education leads to fewer children as women feel more in control of their reproductive health.…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/22 10:59 PM
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I hope you'll find the right person, OP! Maybe take comfort in the fact that it's the loud minority you're hearing, and that most people want a respectful relationship, you just have to find someone you're compatible with.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/22 12:43 PM
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I love your questions, thank you for asking and considering my opinions! I believe that in an ideal world good contraception would be normalised at puberty and couples would show financial and emotional sense before reproducing. Again, this kind of comes down to the richest people hogging all the wealth, because most people are happy with a comfortable life, they want someone who will love and respect them, and it is unfortunate that many jobs just don't pay enough for people to think that addin…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/22 04:32 AM
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I am so sorry, I really did not mean that belief in a deity means that someone is incapable of rational thought, instead that I have never encountered a rational reason for positive belief in one. I am familiar with pantheism, I especially love exploring the ideas of old European religions. As for the origins of the universe, I think the only true answer at the moment is: We don't know. We have some ideas, but there is no evidence for a creator beyond lack of understanding. In ages before we did…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/22 11:07 PM
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That was a fascinating article, thank you for sharing! I did, however, see a few problematic points in it. It dwells on the idea that society is trending towards collapse, pointing out that there is less rational thinking, more mental health issues etc. I would posit that mental health issues are being better understood, and people suffering from them are more likely to seek help rather than be hidden away and abused. This author implies that their deity is correct and good, when I've never seen…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/22 10:11 PM
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Wow, your honesty and well thought out answer is refreshing! Upon reading those studies, the first thing I thought was that this is a great example of correlation not causation. People with fewer sexual partners are more likely to be conservative, have strong religious views, have views that sex and marriage are sacred etc, so are more likely to stay in a poor relationship, or be content in a relationship that people who do not have these views would baulk at. Thoughts?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/22 09:12 PM
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:) Don't worry about me, I'm in a fantastic relationship with a like-minded person! And I don't hate on conservative people, I'm just trying to understand them and have fruitful debates. Can't know if I'm wrong if I don't challenge my views, right? I think you are correct in saying that we just have different values. To me, sex is a pleasurable act that people can share, and doesn't affect our ability to form meaningful connections. It also doesn't imply that you treat your partner as disposable…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/22 09:05 PM
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I have read those studies, and what I took away from them was the idea that people who treat sex and marriage as a sacred rite tend to stick around in relationships, even though it may not be what is best for them. They are raised with different ideas about partnership, which I think isn't backed up by science and is actively harmful. I would be concerned about having a partner who took these ideas seriously as they might try to enforce them on any children we had instead of allowing them to exp…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/22 08:40 PM
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What about enjoying casual sex implies that someone will not make a good partner/parent? Also, what does this have to do with politics? This is more in the realm of social science. Every child in North Korea is taught that their leader doesn't piss or shit, that doesn't make it true.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/22 08:22 PM
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Why?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/22 08:15 PM
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I wouldn't get upset, I'd be honest. And if he reacted how you would seem to react, with pseudo science bullshit about pair bonding, I'd ask him to go look at the studies again with the understanding that correlation isn't causation. What has brought you to the conclusion that sexual experience with multiple people leads to less pair bonding, and how do you define pair bonding? Thanks!
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/22 08:13 PM
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Man, that sucks that most women aren't nice to you, they don't sound like worthwhile people. From what I see and experience, women usually want to be befriended so they can make a decision about going forward. Sometimes it doesn't matter, maybe a one night stand is wanted, but for the most part women (and probably most people) want to know if they're compatible in really basic ways before opening themselves up to romantic shit. Maybe that's why women are so creeped out when they get cold proposi…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/22 10:48 PM
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Okay, well that's not me. I love making friends. I smile at everyone out in the street, hold doors open and say hi to people I pass. I'm sorry that's your experience though.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/22 10:51 AM
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I feel like if I don't want to be approached, I'll put out very obvious signals. Arms over my body, no eye contact. I'm happy to be approached any other time, for any friendly reason. Want to know the time, or need a lighter? Super cool, love to make friends. Want to hit on me without preamble? Maybe chill a bit and get to know me first.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/22 07:27 AM
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Lol oops he was 19. Thanks for pointing that out!!
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/22 07:35 AM
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Currently he's 29 and I'm 31. We met when he was 29 and I was 21. He was dating my best friend and we played DND together a lot. When they broke up, she said to ask me out because she thought it would be a better fit for him. She's a freakily practical person and never jealous. After a couple months, he started hanging with me more and we've never looked back. And yeah, she's still my best friend.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/22 02:00 AM
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Despite women generally being unwelcome in higher education and STEM fields until 50 years ago, women invented: The circular saw in 1812 Life rafts in 1882 Fire escapes in 1887 Car heaters in 1893 Medical syringe in 1899 Street sweeper in 1900 Windshield wipers in 1903 Refrigerator in 1914 Electric water heaters in 1917 Airplane muffler in 1917 Central heating in 1919 Microelectrode in 1921 (it monitors cells without disrupting them) Low reflective glass in 1925 Wireless transmission in 1941 The…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/22 10:50 PM
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Relationships will become more transactual as people of both genders trade sex for water, weapons and protection. Skynet has risen.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/22 10:31 PM
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Oh, I read that post as a sarcastic joke about the posts men make saying that it's easy for women to be attractive if they get off the couch and eat less. I really didn't think it was serious, but maybe that's because of the occasional post I see here spouting that shit.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/22 08:57 AM
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There's a difference between whatever our society currently deems as 'beautiful' and what you are attracted to.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/22 11:07 AM
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Correlation is not causation. If people with a diverse sexual history are more likely to get divorced, what reasons do you think they have for this?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/22 08:04 PM
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Let me tell you something, I haven't even begun to peak. And when I do peak, you'll know. Because I'm gonna peak so hard that everybody in Philadelphia's gonna feel it. I'm really sorry that this is your experience with dating, but what have you actually seen that has led you to this conclusion?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/22 07:50 PM
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You keep on using that word. I do not think it means what you think it means.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/22 09:04 AM
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Sex by coercion is indeed, rape. Offering services for money is not coercion. Else, logically, everyone is being coerced into performing their jobs.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/22 09:00 AM
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I'm not, you're the one who is changing definitions of rape. Doing something for money doesn't negate the consent. Show me your logic where money negates consent.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/22 08:34 AM
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Ok. Maybe I'm being overly optimistic. I care about those men, and I'm happy to have the conversation, if others are willing to engage in good faith. And I think I saw that at least one third of the women wouldn't care. Maybe we should do a poll :)
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/22 08:24 AM
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I don't think men should admit that if they think their partner would freak out. But I think that freaking out about it adds to the stigma around legitimate sex work and demonises those who engage in it, and a healthy conversation needs to be raised around the legitimacy of the work, and laws should be put in place to further protect all who engage in work that can be mentally and physically demanding, especially for the profit of others.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/22 07:44 AM
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That's true. There is a lot of people who engage in sex work because they don't have other options, and that is very wrong. But some of them do, and I think it is those people that we are talking about today. A lot of occupations can have a terrible effect on their workers, especially veterinarians, emergency service personnel, childcare, construction workers, lawyers, restaurant staff and humanitarian workers. And we need to address this. But that doesn't mean that some people aren't doing the …
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/22 07:28 AM
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Have you spoken to sex workers who worked willingly and enthusiastically? Also, what differentiates sex from other physical acts, like bricklaying or cleaning?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/22 07:19 AM
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If some women are pro sex work, and some are supportive of those who utilise those services, why say "women are against it"? Doesn't it make more sense to say "Some people think that XYZ..." Why alienate so many people?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/22 07:16 AM
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You defined rape as sex without consent, and insisted that if money is exchanged, there cannot be consent. But you also say that a cleaner who works for money isn't the same as a slave, and how dare I compare cleaning to sex work? I'm going to try and dissect your argument, please show me where I've misunderstood: If a sex act is performed for money, there cannot be consent. If there isn't consent, it is rape. Therefore, sex workers are being raped. Can you not see how this applies to literally …
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/22 06:51 AM
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But it's not rape. Because there is consent. And not only men utilise sex workers. Let's take the sexism out a bit, yeah?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/22 06:21 AM
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...have you actually spoken with a real sex worker who works for themselves, because they want to? Because that's what the topic here is. They'd be offended if you called their job abuse. I've actually spoken with them, and have been friends with them. Again, this is not about trafficked sex workers. This is about people willing to be in the business. If they consent to that job, who are you to say that their consent doesn't count? You say that there is always an element of non consent where mon…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/22 06:04 AM
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Yeah I saw. That was... Pretty judgemental. Anyway, voicing my support, you do you, the only difference would be that if I had extra money it'd go to Lego and MTG instead. Hope your miniatures turn out right and you kick ass with them!
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/22 05:57 AM
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Yeah I saw. That was... Pretty judgemental. Anyway, voicing my support, you do you, the only difference would be that if I had extra money it'd go to Lego and MTG instead. Hope your miniatures turn out right and you kick ass with them!
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/22 05:57 AM
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Those are my favourite kind of people! I'm finishing up my bloodbowl team. They're beautiful.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/22 05:47 AM
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I use the term sex worker because that is what I have been told, by legitimate sex workers, is the proper term for what they do. I'm not understanding why you think that accepting payment automatically makes it rape, which seems to be the basis of your argument against my analogy between two different kinds of services. As someone who has actually been raped, it's pretty offensive, both to survivors and those who engage in sex work. Again, I feel like you are saying that because they choose to e…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/22 05:39 AM
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Ouch. I was trying to give you my perspective, which should be cool on a debate page. I actually agree with you, sex work is legit and no one should be shamed for participating. But it seemed like you had made your mind up about the thoughts of half the population already, and using the word 'species' gave me a laugh. I guess I should have understood that it was a metaphor. Also, I love painting miniatures. Don't know why people think it's a money pit if you really enjoy it.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/22 05:32 AM
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Well, what I'm seeing here is that you don't believe that sex workers are capable of consent. Have you even spoken with a sex worker who works of their own free will? I consent to lots of things in my line of work, which I wouldn't consent to without payment.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/22 05:27 AM
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......a species is loosely defined as life that is able to make fertile offspring. Males and females aren't binary, either. We're on a spectrum. But I get your point. Sorry for being nitpicky!
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/22 05:21 AM
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Why?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/22 05:12 AM
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....male and female humans are the same species. Many are pro safe sex work. Lumping people in together isn't productive and makes your argument unsound.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/22 05:11 AM
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Come on, loads of women are pro safe sex work. If you generalise you harm your whole argument.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/22 05:09 AM
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Do you think sex is an act between consenting adults, or a sacred part of relationships, or something else?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/22 05:03 AM
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I mean, isn't a labourer selling their body? Aren't most of us selling our bodies in some way for work? I get that some people put a special significance on sex as an act but I can't see it that way.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/22 05:02 AM
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Do you believe that a man can be raped?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/22 07:53 AM
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You're a good person, ButtCheeks :p
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/22 09:35 AM
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Business would be fine if the people taking all the profit would share it. Then their workers could afford to spend more on the little places, who could pay their workers better etc etc. Trickle down economics but actually enforced so the psychopaths at the top can't hog it. I agree with your parental leave, it kills me to see 6 week old infants in full time care, like why have them? Are your genes that special that someone else should raise them? But I think it should be mandated that the paren…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/22 09:30 AM
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Yeah! I think it's a misunderstanding of terms. Like, to them 'hot' is six pack, chiseled jawline, and ummm I'm actually struggling to think of generic sexy man things. But for us, it's 'does he want to talk for an hour about this obscure concept? God his eyes are so deep, I love how he looks at me etc.'
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/22 09:27 AM
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I have met some women who are into those things, but in my experience they don't get them. The happiest couples I know are people who date those who interest them intellectually, and that's why they were drawn together on the first place. Maybe it's my social circle, but that's 95% of the people I know so I'm having a bit of trouble reconciling this with your experience. With the income thing, I agree, it sucks that a lot of workplaces that have a greater percentage of women in them pay so littl…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/22 09:13 AM
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I've just seen some comments on here with guys saying that girls only go for hot guys... Yeah we think our guys are hot as, but that's not why we go for them, right? I could be really, really wrong, but my sexuality makes me feel like a guy is hot, no matter his looks, if he's got a sexy personality. Then his tummy is hot, his hair is hot, his acne scars are hot. Again, could be wrong and happy to update my views :)
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/22 09:08 AM
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.... We literally have to push a grapefruit outta there and it still goes back to something resembling normal. Think a dick is gonna do that much damage??
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/22 08:34 AM
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No!! I love you and your comments but don't use those words here!! Some people on this subreddit think that 'sexy/hot' only refers to typically beautiful physical characteristics! They will argue that you must have landed a 'chad' only because of his looks, when I bet that you find him hot as an individual. Do you think your husband is hot only because of physical characteristics or does personality play a lot into it, making him Mega super hot to you?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/22 08:28 AM
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All we have is our experience and reliable studies. And there are 92 comments on this thread, many of them you shot down because they were written by someone who had a different experience to you.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/22 08:22 AM
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What do you mean by equal? I would hope that most women consider their partner as their equal, and this is my experience, but what have you seen that makes you feel differently?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/22 08:18 AM
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There's a big difference between emotional support and therapist. Emotion support is cheering someone on when they go for a job, consoling them if they don't get it, working through feelings of anger and disappointment in everyday things together. A therapist is for helping someone rewire their brain so that little things don't turn into world ending events. I lost a relationship as a 17 yr old because I treated him as a therapist, it was totally unfair and I regret it so much. I was awful to pu…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/22 07:50 AM
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:) you're very welcome! And yes, someone who can provide, but in a modern setting that doesn't apply to just money. It's someone who can support her emotionally while she's looking after the child, someone who can help her raise the child, someone who will raise the child with values that she thinks are positive etc. Many women want to work themselves, like we did before the last century, though largely in places where we could have a child. A partner that will support her in that is certainly v…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/22 07:36 AM
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Okay, I'll walk you through my thinking, feel free to jump in when something doesn't make sense or you want to clarify! Personality is unique to everyone. The personality of someone who attracts me is: likes friendly debate, likes games and fiction, easygoing and doesn't care too much about appearances. The personality that attracts my friend Grace is: into sports, likes to socialise, cares about family and doesn't talk about movies and games all the time. It means that different things attract …
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/22 07:19 AM
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Okay, that doesn't align with what I've experienced, talked about or read about. Maybe it's just me, but a lot of other women on here also pointed out that what attracts them is personality. Would you understand me if I said that, while I can find someone physically beautiful, I would absolutely fuck someone interesting instead? Maybe it's evolution, if we (in ancient times) were going to be stuck with someone while we raised a family, we would want them to be interesting to be with, and physica…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/22 06:48 AM
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Of course, friend! Call it what you will! I'm just putting in my 2 cents and trying to explain my perspective. Do you think women really will only sleep with men if they are physically more beautiful than most?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/22 06:34 AM
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I think men and women have different ideas of attractive. It seems that a lot of women in here are like me, and find interesting personalities attractive, the package isn't as relevant.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/22 06:30 AM
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There's a difference between beautiful and attractive. I can admire men and women and others as beautiful, but I don't want to jump in bed with them. What makes them attractive is their personalities, their interesting discussions, if they seem to care about others, if they seem like they want to have fun. Being beautiful doesn't make me want to jump into bed, from a lot of comments on here that I really relate to I think this is true for most women.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/22 06:29 AM
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Excitement? Thrill of a new lover? Feeling desired by multiple people? There are loads of reasons that aren't looks-related, and saying that it's the victim of adultery's fault because of how they look seems pretty disingenuous.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/22 06:12 AM
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You aren't criminalising the cheating at all, cheat away! But if a child is conceived and there is a chance it isn't the primary partner's, is it okay to lie to them so they will assume responsibility regardless? It isn't the cheating that would be criminalised, but to mislead and lie to someone about life altering decisions.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/22 10:04 PM
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Omg that's me, too. It took some real reflection and growing pains to find a healthy relationship mindset. Love!
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/22 09:29 AM
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That all depends on where you live. My partner and I have been living together long enough to be basically legally married without signing anything. Legally, we're defacto, and there really isn't any difference to the law in my country.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/22 06:36 AM
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So my view on this is that men and women want a life partner, someone who compliments them and will be there for them through good and bad. Biologically, men can spread sperm around with little consequence and women need to be more selective because they bear the physical brunt of reproduction. But in this society, with dual income basically being required and contraception being a thing, that's more of an explanation of trends than a generalisation that applies to most. I'm not sure that polyga…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/22 09:17 AM
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Porn isn't a relationship. Porn doesn't help you pay the bills or do the washing when you've had a long day. Men (and all genders) might be attracted to something sexy looking when they're in a sexy mood. That doesn't mean much to relationships. I really don't think cheating relationships are the norm.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/22 09:05 AM
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I totally agree that a lot of women who think they are entitled to males and male attention are horrid. But does that necessarily mean that a woman who decided that for a bit - just a couple of years- she would be free to have no strings sex and experience life and love like that is worthless? What do you think? She doesn't do it for attention or love, just because she is discovering herself and doesn't want to be tied down until she is in her early twenties whatever. Is that okay?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/22 09:34 AM
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Oooor maybe they have bad personalities and no self esteem, even though they act mega confident and entitled, and that means they have a string of men? Makes me think of the Always Sunny episode where the Gang does on Bunchers, a group dating site, and there is another site where women can rate men. Dee goes after and fucks as many men as she can, just to rate them low and be a "Strong, Empowered Woman". None of the guys care that she rates them low, they just want sum fuk. I've got a lot of ama…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/22 07:54 AM
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....are you a Planet Terror fan by any chance??
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/22 07:49 AM
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Whaaaat people said that? I'd be interested to know the demographic of those who said you need social media. I like it because adding someone is easier than texting, where I feel way more pressure to respond asap. But I want to know your discord so we can game, or your Facebook so we can organise group hangs. I'm not gonna stalk through your posts. Maybe I'm just old, but I don't feel like it.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/22 07:47 AM
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Why? I'm not being snarky, but what's this fact that makes sexual partners a huge deal? Genuinely curious.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/22 07:41 AM
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I think they're saying that because they don't want to dictate what men should want, but they'd likely not get with that man.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/22 07:40 AM
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I think the catch is: I could care less about how many partners you've had, if they were one night stands or long term relationships, I'm here because I like you. And that part of you that happened helped make you who you are. But others don't see it that way. And that's okay, we can't all be the same or life would be really boring. I view sex as a biological drive that most of us have, and you get out what you put in. If the guy has 50 one night stands in the past year, but shows me he wants a …
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/22 07:36 AM
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I think I get you, like you think they're beautiful but you don't necessarily want to jump their bones. But a desire for a relationship usually trumps that lizard-brain response. Some people are shitty and cheat, but I don't think that's most people.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/22 10:05 AM
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Oh, I always understood 'friendzone' to mean that I like this person in a platonic way. Nothing to do with attraction. Lots of people are attractive, but that doesn't mean I want a relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/22 09:59 AM
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I think lots of my guy friends are attractive. Same for my girl friends. Doesn't mean I want to sleep with them.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/22 09:57 AM
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Maybe these girls are thinking that their own ideas of sex and love are similar to yours. For some girls, to hear a guy say something that has the implications of "I think we have a real shot at a long term relationship and I'd like to take the physical aspect slowly so we can develop our feelings" is a dream come true. What if girls were upset that men always pushed for sex on the first date and that told the girl that they weren't worth waiting for, even though the guy had waited for other gir…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/22 07:39 AM
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I am childfree because I work with children. 15 year veteran, here. I know how much work they are, and boy howdy does it suck. But a lot of people want it anyway. I'm not one of those people, but I respect their decision and I see a lot of happily mixed families with single parents and their partners. More power to 'em.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/22 10:18 AM
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Well, that's fair. But from my experience and responses on here, I can see a lot of people who are I interested in that. It just seemed like you made a sweeping statement without backing it up with reasons. Besides wanting to be child free, why shouldn't a person want to date someone with children?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/22 06:45 AM
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I mean, it's right for you to not want that. I'm childfree too. But your post implies that single parents should only date each other. I bet there are lots of people who want bonus children shared with other carers and without the shit storm that is pregnancy.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/22 06:23 AM
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Oh I meant she wanted pleasure and fun with a partner. Like to share that. Edit: sorry if I was confusing!
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/22 05:35 AM
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Amen, so do women. I think all people have seen some bad stuff.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/22 01:04 AM
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Wow, it sounds like you've met a lot of rude, nasty people. I agree that these behaviours are horrible and entitled, and the people who hold them shouldn't be catered to. But in my social sphere and even here, I see lots of examples of good people looking to better themselves who genuinely want a loving equal relationship. It sucks that women you aren't attracted to are abusive, that should be called out for what it is. I do see a double standard where women can get away with yelling or being ph…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/22 12:54 AM
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Well, if I participate in toxic behaviour I hope I'll be called out on it. maybe women and men both don't like being lumped in a box, or maybe those behaviours exist for a reason, and we have to understand that reason to under the behaviour. It sucks when people are entitled and hypocritical, but I feel like it's a human trait and doesn't describe any gender as a majority. Why do you feel more women are entitled? Are you seeing this behaviour play out in real life a lot?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/22 11:02 PM
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He just doesn't think it matters. I think he'd do it in a heartbeat if it actually changed anything, but he's more anti-party. And I really don't want to change him, I never have. I didn't go into this relationship thinking "Let's take this flawed human being and turn them into the perfect husband!" I love him for who he is, but I'd like it if he'd compromise on this with me, like we do with loads of other things. And I think we will, once we get settled in our new house.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/22 08:43 PM
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No, you're right, and I'm not defending anyone treating others with anything less then respect and kindness. All people run the risk of being abused, and we all vet those we interact with for that risk.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/22 07:34 PM
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Thank you, lovely human!
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/22 07:30 PM
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I don't think anyone has the right to generalise like that, I agree! It's a loud minority who make those gross statements. But what I think the poster above you was saying is that if you have a bag of 100 lollies, and one of them has poison in it, you will still be vetting those lollies pretty carefully. Even though the chances of you picking up the bad lolly aren't huge, the ramifications of getting it are life changing.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/22 07:27 PM
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I know, he's just not a party person. Maybe we could have a LAN wedding, I bet he'd be into that. Hell I'd be into that. Hmmmm
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/22 07:13 PM
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I know, he's just not into parties, and I don't want to make him, especially where he'd be the focus. It's be amazing, but he'd have to be into it, and if he's not, that's okay. He's more important.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/22 07:12 PM
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We need to do our wills, given we've just got a house. But to to do list is so long... And he's just not one for parties. Maybe I'll bring up the 10 year party idea though. That's a great thought, thanks!
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/22 07:10 PM
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That's got a nice ring to it! As long as we're supporting each other :)
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/22 07:08 PM
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I think a lot of people on here are seeing the feminism that they expect to see. Some see the push for getting disgusting, outdated views out of society, and others see entitled people putting themselves above others because of their gender. Feminism is an idea, but people can warp it to fit their wants and needs, so feminism is really about what you think it is. I wish that more people saw the necessary and helpful parts of feminism, instead of the gross vitriol spewed by a tiny minority of lou…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/22 10:00 AM
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My partner doesn't care about marriage. We just got our first house, been together 9 years, he just doesn't care. I am very secure in our relationship, but I still want to get married. I don't care about the bit of paper, we would be considered defacto, so basically married anyway, I just want a big ass party with all my friends to show off how amazing he is. I know my reasons are dumb, but I'd love a bbq in my parents backyard to celebrate all the people that helped us to get to where we are no…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/22 09:12 AM
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I've always wondered about that study... I don't really find men attractive until I've got to know them. I can tell which men meet the stupid current beauty standards, but for me, and for most of my friends, the attraction comes from their personalities. So it's really hard to say if they're attractive from just a photo.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/22 07:28 AM
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But it is also relative. So where are you looking to see all these crappy humans, while I'm seeing something different? And how do you know which of our truths is more prevalent?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/22 10:28 PM
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I wish they would, I'd love to get their take on it.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/22 09:05 PM
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I agree! I'm not sure where you are, but in my life I see lots of contented couples whose main focus is on building a life together. Where are you looking, to see all this negativity? It sounds like a dark place.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/22 09:03 PM
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Because she wants a life partner? Someone to laugh with, support each other through hard shit, panic clean with when the parents say they're coming over? Having babies isn't the only reason we are driven to have sex, or LGBTQI people would be asexual. We like to show our partners that we love them by sharing pleasure. We also give back scratches, head massages etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/22 09:00 PM
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No, flawed because it doesn't achieve the objective I think people on here are looking for. Nothing to do with morals. Think of that 'test' that I hear about frequently on here, when men and women were flashed pictures of the opposite sex and asked if they found them attractive. While I might not, in a vacuum with nothing but a picture, be able to find some guy attractive, I'll have a chat with him and may find that he's super sexy. Sexiness is in the person, not their packaging. Or packages. Di…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/22 08:56 PM
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A lot of people on here don't seem to believe this. It's sad that their experiences aren't great, but I wish they would listen generously and not feel like we are lying to them.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/22 11:26 AM
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I think you're right, though I wish it wasn't so. Thanks for correcting my thinking!
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/22 10:57 AM
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Ive tried to highlight this in other responses and you've said it beautifully! Thank you! I think ranking people on looks is so flawed as a concept, because I (and many others I've discussed this with) could see a 9/10, appreciate his current beauty standard-ness, but not give a shit about him in regards to sex. I want to fuck the guys who push me in debates, who treat me like a human, who talk with me instead of at me. That's what is fucking hot.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/22 10:37 AM
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Why wouldn't a woman sleep with someone she doesn't want kids with? What if she just wanted pleasure and fun??
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/22 10:33 AM
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This isn't what happens in most of my social situations, but I see it happen often enough that I wish people would treat each other as sexless beings unless we wanted a relationship. So many people are (maybe subconsciously) acting weird around the opposite sex like it's a god damn competition to see who can get everyone thirsty. I love that men can just be themselves when they don't feel the need to be (for lack of a better word) a "Chad". We will talk about gaming, politics, what the fuck ever…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/22 09:07 AM
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It's okay, you don't have to believe me! It sounds like you've had some bad experiences and that may have coloured your views. But if you automatically dismiss what others are saying and don't reexamine your own views, you might be missing out of something that could make your arguments and ideas more accurate. Can you tell me what your roadblock to accepting my experiences as true, or likely to be true, are?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/22 11:58 PM
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That's cool, you don't have to believe it. But from what I've found, when you become interested in someone you like their flaws as well, as an inextricable part of them. Their spots are cute, their belly is snuggly, their nose is handsome. Cause you like the inside, the outside is just an extension of that. And it wouldn't be about the 7 being dumber or a worse conversationalist, they just might not be a better match for me. If the 7 is into sports and could talk about footy all day, they'd get …
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/22 10:05 PM
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If I could guess, you might think this way because it's about deciding on a very permanent thing for their future? Like the difference between looking at homes they might want to buy and actually attending auctions and bidding on a place? If not, please correct me! But if so, I might suggest a different idea. Maybe it's like going to a bakery. You tell me that this cake you have is incredible, you just can't beat it, and I'll say I've just never liked cake, but this pie is just to die for. I can…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/22 01:29 PM
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I've never thought of it that way! Do you think that people who do not want to procreate, are in same sex relationships or are unable to have children have a lesser experience?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/22 12:44 PM
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Can I ask why? Also, I like your point about it being to replicate our DNA. Evolution is my jam, I could bang on about it all day. But sex and sexual pleasure has also been found in studies (I have worked 13 hours, forgive me for not citing sources, I can have a look tomorrow if you need) to increase bonding, release positive hormones etc which helps with our overall well-being. Yes, sex is pleasurable because we evolved that as a mechanism to ensure our DNA lives on, but is has other functions …
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/22 12:24 PM
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I dunno, I see a lot of entitled weirdos posting crap on social media about their asinine requirements, both men and women, so I can see how that might be disheartening especially if you are insecure. But people copy and forward that crap because it's out there and weird, I don't know anyone that entitled. Well, maybe one person. But she's now a single mum of three who no one talks to because no one wants to put up with her shit. As for what features women like in men, yes there are surely some …
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/22 09:58 AM
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Sure, I find them attractive. But on whatever scale people use to measure "hotness" they might be rated between a 3 and a 7. But that's not relevant. I still find them attractive and most of that is because of who they are. What has you stumbling here? Can I clarify something for you?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/22 09:47 AM
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Well, maybe they could be, but I always experienced it as a two way street. I'd invite my partner over, scoot closer to them on the couch, initiate conversation etc. I don't actually know any women who expect to put nothing into a relationship or possible relationship and have it turn out in their favour.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/22 06:35 AM
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Ok, sorry, and please let me know any time you need clarity! Scales are difficult because beauty can be really subjective, it can be easy to agree on a one or a ten, but anything else is hard. Trying to be objective, I would say the guys I have been with have been between a 3 and a 7. I'd rate my current partner as an 8, but I find his receding hairline cute, his freckles sexy and all those other little flaws just make him more beautiful. I really don't know if I can be objective once I know som…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/22 06:31 AM
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I can see your point, but I never saw it play out in real life. I would certainly choose a less typically attractive person who intrigued me and was fun than a more typically attractive person who was less interesting. I wouldn't say many of my past partners had model looks, but they were all beautiful to me, their flaws were beautiful too.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/22 05:39 AM
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And some people's flaws make them more beautiful in your eyes!
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/22 05:36 AM
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I absolutely do consider it! Its just not what I think about when choosing a partner, or what gets me hot and bothered. I see a hot guy and think "Oh, he looks sexy" but that's not the same as "I want to jump his bones!" That thought comes when I find someone fun, sweet and/or interesting. I think it might be a difference in the way we are turned on. Like men are typically more aroused by images, like porn, while many women prefer erotica.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/22 05:35 AM
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That sounds really tough. When I was in the dating scene, my friends and I didn't seem to be as concerned about conventionally attractive people. I desire people because they seem fun, or interesting, and my mates showed the same patterns. I wonder why we have such different experiences?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/22 01:01 AM
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Yeah it's weird, I think it's an internet thing. I see so many on here that are super obsessed with one side or the other, and show really weird views that I just can't relate to the people I know irl. I mean, I know maybe two people who would weaponise sex, and they're both deadshits in so many other areas.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/22 12:57 AM
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That's interesting, what about women who enjoy sex and like to share it with a partner regularly? And people who are in healthy relationships who don't use manipulative tactics against each other? What about same sex relationships?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/22 11:02 PM
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Yeah that'd be a shit relationship! Good on you for looking after yourself :)
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/22 08:22 PM
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That's cool, love the understanding you show!
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/22 07:19 PM
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...I shall have to look into this. My toy drawer has been needing another friend...
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/22 07:14 PM
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People keep talking about Chad, but the best fwb and flings I've had were with guys who aren't conventionally attractive. I found their personalities very hot, but wasn't looking for a relationship, and we had some great times. I don't think looks matter much to people like me, we get turned on by fun and intrigue. Like, I can tell if a guy is conventionally attractive, but it doesn't have a bearing on if I will want to sleep with him.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/22 07:13 PM
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Oh that sucks. I recognise it as real.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/22 07:09 PM
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I think sensuality makes for the best sex :)
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/22 07:08 PM
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I agree! It's a shame masturbation was demonised for so long, and still is in some places!
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/22 07:08 PM
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What if your partner was suffering from medical issues with their libido? Would you help them through it?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/22 07:06 PM
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What would happen if you went without?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/22 07:05 PM
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Do blue pulled people think sex should be saved? Wow, I did not know that!
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/22 07:04 PM
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I love that, "Sex is what you make it". Cool thought!
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/22 07:02 PM
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Cool, thanks :)
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/22 06:59 PM
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Wow, that's beautiful!
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/22 06:58 PM
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That's just beautiful to read. You have a way with words!
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/22 10:39 AM
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I have to go to bed because work and all that shit, but if I could ask a final question, if I let go of it having to be real, how do I know if I'm being reasonable? What if I'm letting go of something great because I can't see it for what it is in the moment? If I believe my partner is cheating on me and act on that, if they aren't and I acted on a feeling without evidence I might have missed a wonderful lifelong relationship. If I act on believing in the spiritual world could I be missing the b…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/22 10:39 AM
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Moving away from sex and sexuality, I'd love to know if you think that consciousness is on a spectrum, like that we might be more aware of others, and our own thoughts, but that other animals are also able to experience empathy and an awareness of themselves, but differently. Have you examined your beliefs for contradictions and logical fallacies? Because I love spiritual thinking and exploring that part of me, but I keep poking holes in it so it can't feel real. I don't think I'm repressing a p…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/22 10:12 AM
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You make a great analogy!
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/22 09:43 AM
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We think alike :)
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/22 09:43 AM
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Love it!
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/22 09:42 AM
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Huh, you ever thought you may be demisexual?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/22 09:41 AM
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Okay, that's interesting, maybe people who experience sexuality like me feel attracted to people physically without considering typical attractive beauty?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/22 09:40 AM
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Cool, I love how you really appreciate your partner and the intimacy they can share with you! What about the act makes it so special? If a couple were asexual but shared emotional intimacy, deeply cared for each other, would that be different?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/22 08:46 AM
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ARRRGH I wish I could just have you next to me so would chat and I don't have to type this out. You're a very interesting person! What about the orgasm makes it a perfect image of a god (which one do you believe exists?). As far as evidence has shown us, it is (layman's understanding here, am likely wrong) electrical signals sent to the brain to release chemicals. Where does your deity jump in here? I've always been fascinated with woo woo and love celebrating whatever spiritual festivals and sa…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/22 08:43 AM
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I'd counter your point about sex possibly being brutal or loving with this: maybe the act is just that, a physical thing that happens, but the emotions that can come with it are what define it? That may have sounded better in my head. I see a lot of stuff on here about physical attraction, but I find that for me, a cis hetero female, I can appreciate beauty but chemistry, fun personalities and emotionally attractive people are who I want to sleep with and are way more fun in the sack.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/22 08:20 AM
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I can see how that would be really hard. I hope you find someone patient and kind. From my experience with a romantic partner, it is more about giving and having fun, from both sides. Sometimes you don't need the orgasm and you just want to connect in an amazing way to show your partner that you love them, and love to see their pleasure. What about it makes you feel it is spiritually and emotionally powerful?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/22 08:16 AM
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Can you explain why you think it is sacred?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/22 08:08 AM
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I like how you think! It's fun to share pleasure, and as long as you're both getting what you want, it's a win!
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/22 07:46 AM
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Oh yeah it's really hard. I suppose I went the other way, then. I found happiness in sharing pleasure with someone for the fun of it, and chose my romantic partners based on feelings and compatibility. I think this is where I get lost with some of these arguments we see on PPD. To me, sex isn't that valuable. If I don't really want a relationship, I don't have an issue with wanting just pleasure. But if I want a relationship, I see that other things we will share as so much more valuable. I'll s…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/22 07:44 AM
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This is so cool! I'd love to have a beer with you and just chat. I'd love to ask some questions, feel free to not answer is they're not your thing. Why do you think sex is the joining of opposing energies? What about the many other species, as well as our own, who enjoy sex with the same energies and genders? What is a sex demon and how do I know if I am one? If people enter into a poly relationship with consent and eagerness, what about it makes it debauched? Do you believe in evolution and com…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/22 07:40 AM
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That's beautiful! Do you think 'I like you' is enough, or do you think others who engage in casual sex experience it differently? What about people who think "I think we could share some pleasure, let's have at it for a bit'?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/22 07:30 AM
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So the act itself can change depending on how you are feeling? It can be casual, but with love it is much more intimate?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/22 07:28 AM
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That sucks, friend. I think I got out of that way of thinking by having my heart broken so, so fucking bad. It wasn't anyone's fault, it was teenage love, but I still have pangs of teen angst about it. Through time, I understand it to be a drive we all have, and it can be used for sharing pleasure and having fun. I hope you find a path that will keep you content.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/22 07:26 AM
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I love how you don't judge others. I think that sex is a drive we all have, like any other organism that can't reproduce asexually, and we can prescribe whatever meaning to it that we want, but understand that others won't share our opinion. It can be between friends who want to share pleasure, or partners to show how much we care for each other's happiness and pleasure. How do you feel about people who think that sex is just sharing pleasure and doesn't, or shouldn't, have much bearing on wheth…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/22 07:21 AM
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Amen, friend
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/22 07:04 AM
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I love this way of thinking! Its a biological drive for many people, but you can have love and intimacy without it!
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/22 07:04 AM
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So it's like scratching an itch, but can be even better with someone you love? That's beautiful!
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/22 07:03 AM
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Wish I had that lol
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/22 07:02 AM
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That's cool, I hope you find someone who shares your values! Can I ask what about the act of intercourse or other sexual acts make you think it's just to be shared with one person? You mentioned a religious upbringing, is it a holdover from that?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/22 07:02 AM
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I love how men are always goofy around each other and try to make us all laugh. When we play games together they always try to make the stupidest looking characters, their focus isn't on their looks but on how they can hype each other up. I love how women support others, they understand when listening or problem solving is required and when I need an intervention vs needing a bottle of wine and a big ol whine session. I love all my friends. And this thread rocks.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/22 07:15 AM
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Can't know if I'm right or wrong if I don't explore other viewpoints. Also, morbid curiosity.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/22 10:49 PM
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You're shifting the goalposts. You didn't originally say "random dudes from tinder", you said: "The idea of letting a man I don't absolutely love and trust and know into my body makes me physically ill. Idk how these girls open their pussies so easily?? It's gross imho." "I just refuse to fuck men unless commitment is involved because I think it is gross and beneath me to let men into my body so easily." "Women who put out easily are nasty." So is putting out easily fucking anything that looks a…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/21 07:03 AM
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Oof. I don't think tinder is nearly as popular as people on here think it is. And the way you think about sex is fine for you, but from what I've lived and studied your ideas are pretty twisted. Humans benefit from contact, and having sex with a friend who you aren't going to date, or aren't sure you want to date is healthy and normal if you use protection. It's kinda shitty of you to call people who have a (according to current psychology, sexology and medical studies) normal, healthy relations…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/21 06:08 AM
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Ok ok chill!! Wow, you're being pretty judgemental. Maybe consider that other people don't think of their body and sex in the same way. An alternative view might be that some people celebrate their body and sexuality by sharing pleasure with others, even if they don't have a romantic relationship with them.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/21 04:42 AM
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Well demisexuality isn't really abnormal, it's just a difference that I think a lot of people feel. I thought it denotes someone who achieved arousal only from people they are in love with, and this seems to describe your situation. You might have a different idea though, how would you define demisexuality?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/21 02:47 AM
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Sounds like you're both demisexual!
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/21 02:41 AM
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Look everyone! A time traveller from the 1950s!
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/21 02:28 AM
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Hey! I like your analogy, could you explain it further so I can be sure I'm not reading into it?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/21 01:09 PM
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No, the people replying prefer to be with people who don't look down on them. I doubt it has anything to do with attractive qualities. Change any of the 'looks' dynamics and women would still want to be with someone who isn't an assbutt.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/21 07:10 AM
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You don't have to wear fishnets and heels to be sexy. Rock that badass attitude and cool personality. Sexy is in the eye of the beholder.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/21 07:06 AM
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Scientifically, probably that they aren't getting any. It's a joke, don't hate on me please other poster.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/21 11:22 PM
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I'm beginning to think you're a fake account trying to stir outrage by spewing shit that no reasonable person thinks, kinda like the bloke you're talking to. I don't know any men, women or other gendered people irl who think in such hateful binary terms. Take a break from the net.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/21 09:55 AM
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Mate, if you really think that men and women are that intellectually different, you should do some peer reviewable research and publish it. You'll win a Nobel prize. Hopefully you're not that thick, and I've just pandered to a troll but either way, peace out.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/21 09:52 AM
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It's not, don't give this Redditor the reaction they're after. Most men are compassionately normal, and think of others of all genders with respect and kindness. There are outliers who have drastic views and could use some introspection, empathy and therapy. This is one of those people. Let's not give the troll a cookie.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/21 09:36 AM
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A woman wrote the code that successfully landed Apollo. Margaret Hamilton. But whatever.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/21 09:30 AM
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Hey op! I found myself a bit confused by your argument. Could you elaborate a bit? From what I could understand, you meant that if a woman consents to sex, she consents to becoming and remaining pregnant? As far as I understand, the drive for intimacy and the ability to rear a child are very seperate, so for all our history the children born of parents who can't or won't look after them have he'd pretty shitty lives. Are you suggesting that no one can have sex unless they are able and willing to…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/21 08:25 AM
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As a woman, I would like a bangmaid too. Jokes aside, would it be important to you for your bangmaid to show affection, hold interesting conversations etc?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/21 07:08 AM
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Men didn't make the sacrifice willingly. As a social species, we understand that we work better when we don't rape, assault and murder each other. I also feel strongly that people who want to be in a relationship should be able to find one that suits them, and I feel bad for people that can't. I've been in that position before, for years. But I think where your argument is failing is that it is not a fair comparison to equate rape with being able to choose a sexual partner. Especially when a lot…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/21 12:45 AM
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There are lots of countries that enforce this. They aren't well known for their human rights and wellbeing.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/21 12:37 AM
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Okay, so I got it right. Forced into a relationship or shunned from society? So then we would have an underground society of women who wanted to explore their sexuality, and you think men wouldn't follow? Maybe men who wanted a partner who chose them even though they could also choose to be with other men? But basically you're saying you would outlaw casual sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/21 12:32 AM
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Look, I've gone through all your other posts and all I can understand is that you think women's strength is that they can choose a sexual partner, while men can't (and though you didn't say this it is heavily implied) use their physical strength to coerce a sexual partner. I said I don't want to strawman you, but it feels like you are saying that either women and men should be forced into a relationship or men should be allowed to rape.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/21 12:25 AM
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But men AND women would suffer. Can you tell me exactly what the natural advantage of women is? I really don't want to strawman you.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/21 12:18 AM
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What I'm trying to understand is how you view this inequality, and how it could be addressed to maximise welfare. So my point was, if locking people in unsuitable marriages and not allowing them to explore sex, would that actually be enhancing welfare? Can you define what this inequality is?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/21 12:09 AM
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What do you see as wrong with people exploring their sexuality? I was definitely in love at 18, but I've changed and grown so much since then that I don't know if the person I loved would still be a good romantic partner for me. As our brains usually don't finish developing until about 25, wouldn't that be a better time to marry? At 18 people are still developing themselves. God, I know I could be cringe.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/21 12:03 AM
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What sort of monogamy? Like, my understanding of monogamy is not cheating and having a single romantic and sexual partner, which I'd argue is the norm for men and women. Edit: and what do you mean by 'when shit was fair'? When, and what shit? I just want to fully understand you :)
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/21 11:59 PM
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What strength of women should we make illegal? Their sexuality, bodies, ability to say no?? Cause that's already being done in a lot of countries and it ain't pretty.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/21 10:14 PM
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Dude, bastard children and rampant STDs definitely show that before the Pill, men were fucking around. Sex workers have had pretty solid work for a lot of human history, and married men have been using them.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/21 09:50 PM
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1). There's a difference between dinner "not being good enough" and constructive criticism like "Maybe use less salt?". 2). Mental and physical labour is still labour and should be discussed between the partners. If a person is a child, aged or disability worker and their partner is a lawyer, we don't expect the lawyer to do all the housework even though the other partner is physically AND mentally drained. 3). They say they did all the housework. Even if it's not up to whatever standards you se…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/21 09:10 AM
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Well, that's what I don't think the above commenter understands. Maybe clarification is needed. When they mention desperate or religious men being the only ones willing to wait, it sounds like they expect a verrrrry long waiting time, and maybe a hardcore commitment like marriage or home ownership. Hopefully it's a misunderstanding rather than a delusion that most people have casual sex before being exclusive as a rule.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/21 12:06 PM
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Are you talking about no sex before exclusivity? Because that is more than reasonable and I think the other person replying may have misunderstood. Like, I'm not up for getting dirty unless we're in a monogamous relationship seems to be pretty normal.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/21 11:03 AM
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It feels like we agree on a lot :). I see a lot of mothers setting rules and following through, and a lot of fathers happy to be the 'fun parent' though. But it does really depend on the family. Many families these days work on having a united parental front and discussing rules, discipline and leeway away from the children them presenting the agreement together.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/21 11:21 AM
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I've found (from personal experience, so feel free to discount, but it is with over a thousand children) that mothers are the disciplinarian. In this day, anyway. And I'm rather skeptical of discipline being the only way to success. I try and teach self discipline, which comes down to remain and having a healthy dopamine response.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/21 08:26 AM
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Hmm I could only get the abstract, but what do you think about this? One-way MANCOVA and ANCOVA procedures were performed and it was found that the overall scores of children from single-father families (SFFs) did not differ significantly from children in single-mother families (SMFs) on the SPPC and the CBCL https://www.tandfonline.com/doi/abs/10.1300/J279v12n02_09?journalCode=wzjd20
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/21 07:35 AM
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Wow! That's a really well researched reply, thanks. But I feel like it doesn't support either argument necessarily, as my point was that single parents who are in poverty, regardless of gender, will be unable to reach the developmental standards of people who have more money. So if you have a single mum, it's not because she's female that she's not doing as well, it's because she has a shittier job and other factors that are external to her gender. Is there research on child development that tak…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/21 01:51 AM
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Hmmmm perhaps, but is that because they are single mothers, or because in our current climate single parents are more likely to be in poverty, and their work to provide for their children takes away from their time that would be spent on education and development? We look for the underlying reasons, not the surface indicators. If it rains and my lawn grows better, it is because of the rain phenomenon, or because of the moisture levels in the garden? If I water the garden, won't I get the same re…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/21 10:05 PM
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So I don't want to get into an argument about trivia again... But my point was that NOT ALL fathers are good, and not all are protectors. Likewise for mothers. Not sure what you mean about mothers being underachievers in children's development, I work in child development and there is unfortunately a clear gender divide that skews towards women. But hey man, you can going that horseshit accusation based on your assumptions as much as you like.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/21 09:50 PM
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From my experience, when other people emotion-tampon me, it seems the exact opposite. Women celebrate men who can share their feelings and ask for a kind ear. Some even ask for advice, and wow that is so cool. To be treated like a true friend who will be there for you.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/21 09:08 PM
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I agree, learning to see people's real intentions is important. And thanks for the second compliment, I think scorpions are pretty adorable, too. Always wanted one as a pet. I bet you're cute, too.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/21 11:32 AM
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Thank you for clarifying. I appreciate your succinct point to be sceptical and not to run into relationships. My main argument was against your scorpion analogy because in my experience and from what I have read, most successful abusers camoflauge themselves in the beginning of their relationships. I agree with your points about many people being scum, and some people being too naive. Thank you for complimenting my intelligence, I can see that you have put a lot of thought into this as well. We …
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/21 11:13 AM
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Phew! That was a lot. I'm not trying to hate on you, just having a hard time understanding your analogy. https://yimregister.medium.com/the-abusers-textbook-13-steps-abusers-take-to-trap-victims-fab7bd2a78a1 While this isn't a peer reviewed study, it outlines the ways in which an abuser brainwashes their victim. Our thoughts and actions are controlled by our brain, and your brain is (for simplicity's sake) basically a meat slab with electricity. Our thoughts are pretty easy to fuck with, and abu…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/21 09:37 AM
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Of course many mothers are terrible, I'm not trying to gender anything, people of all genders are shit. I'm saying that good fathers are needed, but a lot of fathers are not good, so your idea that fathers protect their children as a rule is patently false. If you want another saying that mirrors the 'Protective Father' one, what about women being "Mama Bears" who fiercely protect their offspring? Protective relationships exist, and the gender of the parent is irrelevant.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/21 08:57 AM
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Good fathers are definitely needed, like other parental roles. This, however, might give you a different perspective. https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Honor_killing
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/21 07:41 AM
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I agree that picking up scorpions and touching hot stoves is stupid, but reports I've seen of abusive relationships usually have a whole lot of psychological abuse going on, where once a person could realise they are being abused, they are already knee deep in brain fuckery. It's not like abusers say "Come on a date with me so in six months I'll have your self esteem so low that you'll lick the floor if I tell you to." Abusers aren't often immediately recognisable, like a hot stove or a scorpion…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/21 07:37 AM
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In regards to evolution, like the headless praying mantids we evolved an instinct to reproduce, not just survive. Survival is useless without reproduction. The men that protect the offspring who bear his DNA is protecting his genetic legacy, and by protecting the mother he is protecting a way to enhance his genetic legacy. I'm interested in your take on our evolution, do you have any articles I could read?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/21 09:46 AM
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Wow. It seems like you are just dating really shitty people. There are so many people, male and female, who will try to take you for all you've got. Fuck them. Don't judge all of one gender by some shitty people, that's how feminazis are trying to win this. Some women work damned hard, we should diss the behaviour not the gender.
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