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I use to think like this too, but I really have come to realize that looks, genetics, race, game, etc. are all highly overrated. The most underrated attribute you can have is high energy. If you can get yourself into a high energy mode when you are out socializing, you will get all of the women you can handle. And they will come to you. This is completely in your control.
/r/TheRedPill28/11/15 06:18 PM
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Yeah, it's so simple, yet works so well.
/r/TheRedPill27/11/15 01:33 PM
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Thanks for the recommendation. I just downloaded it and am starting to read it now.
/r/TheRedPill27/11/15 01:32 PM
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I just read this book and I think it is exactly what you are looking for: (http://www.amazon.com/As-You-Are-Confidence-Masculinity/dp/1517737893/ref=sr_1_1?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1448631013&sr=1-1&keywords=as+you+are)
/r/becomeaman27/11/15 01:31 PM
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Listen to the self critical voice in your head Identify who it sounds like (friend, family member,etc.) Slowly start to phase this person out of your life Step 3 can be one of the hardest things you will do in your life. But as soon as you do, your underlying anxiety starts to dissolve and your self confidence increases.
/r/TheRedPill06/11/15 12:23 PM
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What do you think you will end up doing about the situation?
/r/TheRedPill01/11/15 01:08 PM
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It's a trap! The post and comments read like the "Yes, But..." game. OP is not really looking for help. His real motive is reassurance (tell me I am doing everything right, give me a solution that I will not find fault with). Commenters: "I can help you." OP: "Go ahead and try, I will make you look inadequate." Payoffs: Commenters: I can help you with my knowledge OP: Reinforcement of helplessness (See I've tried everything) Not busting your balls OP, we've all played this game (usually unconsci…
/r/TheRedPill01/11/15 12:57 PM
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I was stuck in a routine too and still am to some extent. My biggest focus has been on scheduling weekend activities. For example, I was never much of a runner but I started signing up for 5k's. Even if I don't meet anyone there it's good just to get out around people (baby steps). Another thing I did was to take a beginners motorcycle riding class and met some cool people this way. I also host a poker night once a month during the winter. The people you invite will tell you about other poker pl…
/r/TheRedPill01/11/15 11:55 AM
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I use Google Images. For example, I'll google "george clooney casual style". Then I'll go on Amazon and try to find shit that looks like the clothes he's wearing. Kind of lame but it works for me. Just don't let your bro's catch you googling pictures of Pitt, Cooney, Cena or Gosling (you'll never hear the end of it).
/r/askTRP18/10/15 11:45 AM
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Damn, I didn't know Tim Tebow got a job as an Engineering Director!
/r/TheRedPill17/10/15 11:17 AM
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Easy on the emojis bro. Man Law prohibits the use of them.
/r/TheRedPill12/10/15 01:45 PM
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At the end of the day, all relationships are transactional. There is something we want. This is an important point. There is no such thing as doing something nice and not expecting anything in return. You are doing it for positive attention and recognition (getting your strokes). Even holding the door for an elderly woman is seeking approval (not saying its bad). Doing something nice always has an external motive. The "nice guy" version is a little different because nice guys use "niceness" to c…
/r/TheRedPill04/10/15 11:38 AM
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Good point on MGTOW. I don't know enough about their ideas but that thought crossed my mind as a possible motive for someone going MGTOW.
/r/TheRedPill03/10/15 08:38 PM
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I don't think anyone does, beta's protect and provide, alpha's neither protect nor provide(At least they don't need to). Beta and alpha are relative terms. It's difficult to say that all betas act one way and all alphas act another way. It's all relative to the other men one is surrounded by. Betas do protect and provide. As Jack Donovan puts it, it is vital to the tribe dynamic that some men choose to "submit" to stronger, better leaders (the alphas). Otherwise you would have all chiefs and no …
/r/TheRedPill03/10/15 08:22 PM
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Because it could have a serious impact on your SMV. Most importantly getting a job. At my place of work, as soon as a new candidate comes in to interview, everyone jumps online and tries to dig up as much information about the person as possible. Whether it's legal to make a hiring decision based on an online profile or not, believe me, people do it.
/r/TheRedPill03/10/15 11:20 AM
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You're absolutely right. I only recently realized that myself. Cuckholds have a Loser life script of "I'm Not OK, but you're OK". Any reinforcement of their life script gets them off.
/r/TheRedPill01/10/15 03:08 PM
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I'd love to read your thoughts on dopamine releases due to losing. Dopamine can also create an addiction to losing (from what I understand). This can be seen in the life long losers who consistently self sabotage. It's the "better to feel something than nothing" motto.
/r/TheRedPill01/10/15 12:04 PM
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I've decided to go all out to change my life but I feel like my self limiting beliefs will be the hardest things to remove ( short & black). This is the problem. You are self criticizing. You need to silence that voice in your head that tells you you're worthless. Go to an empty room. Listen to the voice in your head that is criticizing you. Yell back at it. Tell it to fuck off. It sounds weird but it works (called voice separation therapy). Also, identify the sources of the critical voice (fami…
/r/askTRP30/09/15 08:16 PM
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It isn't a conscious decision to be a perfectionist. I would argue that the decision to be a perfectionist is conscious, but the motive for doing so is unconscious. Someone who decides to pursue perfection or come close to it is engaging in avoidance behavior. They are either avoiding intimacy or confrontation in some other aspect of their life. They are switching out an unfavorable action (confrontation, intimacy) for a more favorable one (pursuing a passion). This is essentially the definition…
/r/TheRedPill28/09/15 09:12 PM
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But why does anyone strive for perfection? Or seek to come as close as possible? On some level they must know it is overkill and counterproductive. So why do you think they do it?
/r/TheRedPill28/09/15 07:47 PM
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Perhaps I am drawing too much from my own personal experience. In the past when I tried perfecting something, I rationalized it as "taking pride in my work". Now that I look back on it, my real motive was to avoid judgement and criticism of my work. I feared being rejected so it had to be perfect before revealing it to anyone. In reality, a lot of people could have benefited from the imperfect work I had already done. Can you give me an example of perfectionism that isn't some form of procrastin…
/r/TheRedPill28/09/15 06:25 PM
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Same here. Perfectionism and OCD are really forms of procrastination in disguise.
/r/TheRedPill28/09/15 12:06 PM
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Reflective listening [https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Reflective_listening]. This makes people feel really good about themselves and builds trust. He'll like having you around if you do this correctly.
/r/becomeaman26/09/15 10:17 PM
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Yeah you kind of buried the lead there..lol
/r/TheRedPill26/09/15 09:53 PM
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Agree 100%. When I started hooking up with what I considered 9's, I couldn't believe how insanely insecure they are. The hotter they are the more attention they require. This is exhausting and you feel like you are babysitting a spoiled child.
/r/askTRP26/09/15 01:16 PM
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You've gotten a lot of good advice here. Just make sure that you focus on fixing yourself. If you don't, you will repeat this pattern again with another woman. I get the feeling that you may have Nice Guy syndrome. Read "No More Mr. Nice Guy". It's easy to blame her, but in the end you are responsible for this situation. If you don't fix yourself, this will happen to you again.
/r/askTRP18/09/15 12:20 PM
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a lot of the crucial make/break moments in your career (when you get to a high enough level) will be determined by how you face off against other alphas. I agree. I'd like to see some more analysis on situations like this. My own take: Part of maintaining frame is recognizing when you are not the alpha and based on the situation, you cannot be AMOG. You'll do more damage to yourself by trying to fight the AMOG. Better to just focus on maintaining your own frame (not slipping into theirs). You ca…
/r/TheRedPill16/09/15 01:41 PM
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What do you think is the best solution OP?
/r/TheRedPill16/09/15 11:51 AM
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The funny thing is that it's not really what Trump says, it's how he says it. Everything he says is in an authoritative, unaplogetic manner. He basically makes all of the other candidates look like children. The problem with the other candidates is that they are too worried about upsetting their political base. So they are walking on eggshells. They act like children looking for approval from the base. I love this question from the OP because it really makes you think. I'm not sure what the answ…
/r/TheRedPill16/09/15 11:51 AM
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Are you surrounded by (or grew up with) overly critical people? If so, you have a voice in your head that is constantly criticizing you. This will cause you to freeze up in social situations, withdraw from people and build a life of safe routines. If you think this might be the case, research voice separation therapy (you don't need a therapist, you can do it on your own). The voice is just someone else's fear that you have fused into your own identity as a defence mechanism (most likely at a ve…
/r/askTRP13/09/15 11:48 AM
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You are right on the money that this has to do with your abandonment issues. What you are experiencing is called "fear of engulfment" which is the opposite of "fear of abandonment". Fear of engulfment basically means feeling trapped by someone's desires for you. You feel like you are responsible for this person's needs and in the process will have to abandon your own needs (self-abandonment). People with unresolved abandonment issues experience this "pendulum swing" between fear of abandonment a…
/r/askTRP13/09/15 11:22 AM
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This is a really good post. I'm trying to get a better understanding of "stability". How do you define it? It sounds like it is similar to maintaining Frame. Maybe someone who is "unstable" constantly switches between Alpha and Beta mode? Is that correct?
/r/TheRedPill12/09/15 11:05 AM
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The Sociopath leader needs alpha, but clueless, subordinates who will do the risk taking and follow orders due to a sense of loyalty and righteousness. That is because the Sociopath must, basically, manipulate others into doing his dirty work and maintain clean hands. Yup, plausible deniability. They will purposefully put those risk takers into a position hoping that they do bend the rules. If shit hits the fan, the CEO/VC Sociopath will claim stupidity, not malice (aka Hanlon's Razor).
/r/TheRedPill12/09/15 10:53 AM
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I've been reading "Games People Play". It's really in depth but it's not an easy read. I plan on reading "TA Today" next. There's also a lot of good material on YouTube and the internet in general.
/r/TheRedPill10/09/15 02:46 PM
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That's a good question. I started by reading as much as I could about TA and took notes on everything I read. I kept reading and reviewing my notes. To be honest, at first I didn't think it was doing much for me and I almost wrote TA off. Then I was in a meeting one day at work and it clicked. I saw the different ego states and how people responded. Now it's becoming second nature. As soon as someone starts a conversation, I identify the ego state and start formulating a response in my head whil…
/r/TheRedPill10/09/15 02:09 PM
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That is, to actually believe that you can create distinct forms of communication on significant matters that are separated by logic and emotion is really incorrect. Transactional analysis agrees with this statement. It basically says that you need to respond in a complementary ego state (Adult, Child or Parent) for the transaction to continue. If you initiate the conversation as a Child (emotion) and I respond as an Adult (logic) our wires become "crossed" and the transaction has to end. It can …
/r/TheRedPill07/09/15 04:29 PM
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Nice. You should post it anyway. There's so much to learn in regards to TA that could benefit the community.
/r/TheRedPill07/09/15 12:48 PM
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I could be reading your question wrong, but that is what I was trying to get across in the post. When you are spinning plates, it is best for you to act in Parent mode in order to invoke the Child dynamic in women. This would be holding your Frame. If you let her flip the roles (her as Parent, you as Child) you will have lost Frame.
/r/TheRedPill07/09/15 11:30 AM
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This is powertalk. He is saying one thing but he means the opposite here. That's interesting. I learned about the Gervais Principle before learning about TA. The two theories seem to complement each other pretty well, even if it isn't a perfect pairing. For example, the female executive's transaction can be viewed as Babytalk (she probably thinks Joe is Clueless). I suspect that Babytalk aligns closely with Parent-Child in many situations. Straightalk would probably be Adult-Adult. Good food for…
/r/TheRedPill07/09/15 11:24 AM
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The first book to read is Taming Your Outer Child. You may be asking what does this have to do with social interaction? In order for you to interact with others normally, you have to build up your "Adult" or Alpha self. This book gives you the insight and exercises you need to fix yourself first. It has helped me improve more than any book I have ever read, but you have to consistently do the exercises. One action step you can take right away is to listen to the voice inside you that is criticis…
/r/askTRP05/09/15 10:42 PM
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I felt and acted the same way up until a few months ago. Then I did some psychotherapy reading and understood that my issue resulted from low self esteem due to having overly critical parents. I also, unconciously, chose friends that were equally as critical. I've been distancing myself from these friends. Ever since identifying the root cause and distancing myself from people who trigger these thought patterns, I have noticed a huge improvement in my social interactions. That underlying anxiety…
/r/askTRP05/09/15 12:16 PM
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Next time I am in a similar situation, I will give it a try. I'll post back the results. Thanks for the feedback.
/r/askTRP05/09/15 11:44 AM
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Maybe the most straightforward Adult response would be "You know I don't, Susan." That's probably the answer I would use as a knee jerk response, but it feels more like I would be flipping the Parent-Child role (ie "You know better."). Not a bad option, but if she is use to playing Parent, that could lead to some serious blowback. After thinking about this scenario for a while, I think I would respond with: "I want this deal to go through with the best financial terms available to the company." …
/r/askTRP04/09/15 07:59 PM
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Thanks for the feedback. I do get the idea of approaching her afterward but I feel like she is doing this unconsciously. In other words, taking the Parent approach is her default control mode (and it's effective considering how many betas there are at my work). My goal is to find a response that would pull her onto the Adult to Adult level without her consciously realizing it.
/r/askTRP04/09/15 05:26 PM
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That's my instinct. Just trying to find the right words to convey it.
/r/askTRP04/09/15 04:40 PM
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Its babytalk check the sidebar. The best response is powertalk. Communicate on two levels with subtle power plays. That's a good point. I wasn't thinking in terms of the Gervais Principle, rather Berne's Parent-Adult-Child model. I'm at the point where I can identify the level of "Talk" and who is a Loser, Clueless, Sociopath. I'm now trying to get to the point where I can respond appropriately in real time. Thanks for the suggestions.
/r/askTRP04/09/15 04:37 PM
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For what it's worth, these feelings are related to your age. The older you get the less jealous you are of ex's. By late 20's, early 30's, you really don't give a fuck about situations like this. You are just too damn busy. In the short term, I would stay off ALL social media. It's a distorted view of the world and will only cause you to keep living in the past.
/r/askTRP04/09/15 12:13 PM
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I love riding motorcycles as well. Just learned how to ride this summer as part of a self imposed fear facing exercise. I had always told myself that motorcycles were too dangerous and that I was too old to learn how to ride. I'm so glad I went through with it. It's a great hobby for me.
/r/askTRP04/09/15 12:01 PM
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A bit off topic, but has anyone noticed how Red Pill 'Family Guy' is? It's great.
/r/TheRedPill28/08/15 11:50 AM
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Nice job man. Everything you interact with, (in a tangible sense) women, love, men, relationships, business, your lawn mower, your wife's vibrator, they are all broken. Maybe not now, but soon. This reminds me of the concept that everything in the universe moves from a state of order to disorder. I think it's called entropy or the 2nd law of thermodynamics. In other words, there is actually scientific evidence to support this. I love this quote as well: Any opportunity that you happily turn down…
/r/TheRedPill28/08/15 10:55 AM
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This doesn't really answer your question, but I know I am losing frame anytime I feel the need to explain or justify myself. Just being aware of this urge and not acting on it helps me to appear externally confident even though internally I feel anxious. This is how I interpret "holding frame".
/r/askTRP27/08/15 11:20 AM
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Thanks man, that is what I am expecting. They're actually good people but our goals in life are misaligned. They are focused on getting drunk every weekend and I'm working to improve my skills to get a better job. The group dynamic is to constantly shit on each other. I do expect a pretty big backlash within the coming weeks.
/r/askTRP26/08/15 06:04 PM
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Read "No More Mr. Nice Guy", then "Taming Your Outer Child", then "When I Say No I Feel Guilty". These three books will change your life.
/r/askTRP25/08/15 11:44 AM
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I swear people are going to start claiming that I get a commission from recommending this book but here it goes anyway... A number of things in your post make me think that you may have a psychological fear of abandonment. I had this myself and it can manifest itself as a constant underlying anxiety. Read "Taming Your Outer Child". It goes in-depth into abandonment issues and gives you the tools you need to overcome them. The exercises feel a little cheesy when you are first doing them, but they…
/r/askTRP23/08/15 08:32 PM
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Your mortgage broker doesn't give 2 shits what your interest rate is, he gets paid on the volume not the rate. For what it's worth a mortgage broker can get paid more by selling you on a higher rate. There are two ways a broker gets paid. The first is by having you pay "points" at the closing (1 point is considered 1% of the loan amount, aka 100 basis points). Most people don't want to pay any points at closing. So the second way to get paid is by selling you a higher rate. For example, you may …
/r/TheRedPill23/08/15 12:31 PM
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Before you do this, look at REIT's (real estate investment trusts). They are publicly traded like stocks and pay a dividend. The main advantage is that they are way more liquid and you aren't on the hook for any capital improvements. I made a good amount of money by investing in them during the 2009 crash. It might be less sexy because but I really find the liquidity aspect to be far more important. You get all the benefits of owning real estate without having to physically manage the property. …
/r/TheRedPill23/08/15 12:18 PM
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Yeah, as the Wall Street Playboys point out on their blog, you need to be careful with the skill set you are specializing in. The reason is that they can easily be outsourced to someone who will do it a lot cheaper. It's often better to focus on skills like Sales, Networking and Production Improvement (source: wallstreetplayboys.com).
/r/TheRedPill23/08/15 12:12 PM
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Yeah I'm trying to follow their advice on $1M in 10 years, even though I've started way later than they suggest. The toughest part is all of the shit you catch from friends and family. They all want you to hang out with them like you used to but you just can't, time is not on your side.
/r/TheRedPill23/08/15 11:58 AM
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I'm not sure that RedDragon41 has that right. 1031 basically let's you sell your investment property and re-invest all of your proceeds into a similar property. So if you sell a property for 200k that you bought for, let's say 150K, you wouldn't have to pay capital gains on the 50K. It allows you to reinvest all of your equity in a new property (these are the proceeds after paying off the mortgage). The government isn't really giving you money. You are just deferring your capital gains to a late…
/r/TheRedPill23/08/15 11:43 AM
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I was having a tough time getting my head wrapped around OOP. I had a tendency to over think it. Then I read this book and it helped me out alot. http://www.amazon.com/Object-Oriented-Thought-Process-Developers-Library/dp/0321861272/ref=sr_1_1?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1440328650&sr=1-1&keywords=object+oriented+thought+process
/r/TheRedPill23/08/15 11:19 AM
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I take notes. I learn more by doing this. I miss important details if I don't. Also, if I have a notebook of good notes, it is easy to go back and read the notes every couple of days/weeks to remember important points.
/r/becomeaman23/08/15 11:01 AM
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I would recommend that you keep posting here. There is a large community here to support you. When I was reading No More Mr. Nice Guy, I tried getting on the suggested web-sight but couldn't. Not sure that it is being maintained anymore. Keep reading No More Mr. Nice Guy and do the exercises. They certainly helped me. At a point I hit a plateau though. If this happens to you, read "Taming Your Outer Child". This book goes in-depth into your abandonment issues and gives you the tools you need to …
/r/TheRedPill22/08/15 10:22 AM
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You're still intertwining honor with morality. They receive honor aka status and recognition, from their respective groups because there is a unique set of values determined within that group that they adhere to. You, as an outsider, are applying your own set of values to judge these groups as honorable or not based on your values, not theirs.
/r/TheRedPill21/08/15 03:25 PM
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Your anxiety is probably a deeper rooted issue that manifests itself in other aspects of your life as well. I had the same issue as you. The source of my anxiety was really a self esteem issue. The source of my self esteem issue was a deep rooted fear of abandonment. As part of addressing this issue, I realized that I had unconsciously sought out friends that were toxic to my self esteem. Once I started to fade these friends out of my life and develop healthier friendships my anxiety all but dis…
/r/askTRP21/08/15 01:40 PM
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You still don't understand the honor I am referring to. It's honor within a group of other men. Navy Seals, Hells Angels, Latin Kings, and even the Mexican cartels all have a code of honor. But they do not grant those outside of the group the same respect they give those within. If you hang out with a group of men that are close to each other, there is a similar code of honor. You are referring to the "honor" that the female imperative has attempted to define.
/r/TheRedPill21/08/15 11:44 AM
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See my response to protoss--OP.
/r/TheRedPill20/08/15 06:55 PM
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You misinterpreted that statement. When I say Men must have a code of honor, I am saying a code of honor within my own "tribe". If I am in the trenches fighting alongside my brother, I will fight to the the death for him. I am not fighting for any greater cause. I am fighting for my brother in arms. That is our code of honor. I do not believe men should have an honor code for those outside of their tribe. You should compete and be ruthless with those who are not on the inside.
/r/TheRedPill20/08/15 06:54 PM
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Investment Banking is really all about sales. Those are the ones you see making big money. The math whizzes make much less.
/r/TheRedPill20/08/15 03:02 PM
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Wow, that is eye opening. Never realized that from a career perspective, although I probably should have.
/r/TheRedPill20/08/15 02:59 PM
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It's actually more impressive than that. Musk only netted $160 million from PayPal when it sold to eBay. He had previously made $22 million from Zip2.
/r/TheRedPill20/08/15 02:29 PM
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You can and should exploit men outside of your tribe. We evolved for this. But you are doing what is best for the tribe. Read about the founding of Rome as a good example.
/r/TheRedPill20/08/15 01:57 PM
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I hear what you are saying. Men must have a code of honor. When I hear "fairness" I am thinking more in terms of political correctness, workplace politics, and general social interactions. I don't think you should act based on the SJW definition of fairness.
/r/TheRedPill20/08/15 01:26 PM
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Great post. I love the emphasis on action over insight. You can't think your way to improvement, you must act to instill real change.
/r/TheRedPill20/08/15 12:20 PM
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PUA = Addressing the symptom TRP = Addressing the cause
/r/TheRedPill20/08/15 11:58 AM
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Since getting unplugged, I now cringe anytime I hear the word "fairness". Fairness is a tool used to control the masses. To take this a step further, I now live my life like there is no final judgement at the end of it all. It's just lights out. Yeah, that thought process may be a little dark to some but it motivates me to take action every day without being held back by considerations of "fairness".
/r/TheRedPill20/08/15 11:50 AM
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Thanks. I'll check it out once I finish his other book.
/r/askTRP19/08/15 04:40 PM
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Yeah, I think if you read those two books, do the exercises, and track your progress, you will be a different person in 3-6 months. Best of luck!
/r/askTRP19/08/15 12:36 PM
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"The Way of Men" by Jack Donovan is a good one. It really crystallized what my role as a man should be. It will motivate you to form honor groups with other men and shows you the value of competition amongst men. Basically, when you act like a man, women will pursue you. You'll be able to make your career goals the priority and the women will follow. I read it every few months just to keep me on track.
/r/askTRP19/08/15 12:03 PM
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Is it possible to get past this and if so, how do I get out of this thought pattern. You can't think your way out. You must act your way out.
/r/askTRP19/08/15 11:43 AM
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Thanks man. I'll add that to the list as well.
/r/askTRP19/08/15 11:31 AM
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One other book I can't stop recommending is "Taming Your Outer Child". NMMNG help me recognize an abandonment issue I had, and this book went more in depth and has given me the tools to work through it. It might be worth checking out as well.
/r/askTRP19/08/15 10:30 AM
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Thanks for the recommendation. I read some of the reviews and I think this is exactly what I'm looking for. Just downloaded it to my kindle.
/r/askTRP18/08/15 11:47 PM
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Maybe you are unconsciously monogamous to your mother? This can happen if your mother was controlling, critical, or emotionally dependent on you as a child or if you did not have a healthy bond with your father. As an adult, you will find yourself coming up with all kinds of rationalizations to avoid getting close to another woman. They touch on the subject in No More Mr Nice Guy. Just speculating here, but might be something to look into.
/r/askTRP18/08/15 07:39 PM
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That's good to hear. I hope the book helps you as much as it did for me. Just make sure you set aside time to do the exercises. I've built it into my routine. Every night after I come home from the gym, I'll do an exercise from the book. Sort of like mental lifting. And don't worry about losing your edge. You can have a dark triad personality and still benefit from this book.
/r/askTRP17/08/15 05:19 PM
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Sounds like you have had a lot thrown at you in life. I take my hat off to you for pulling yourself up by the bootstraps. Nothing wrong with dark triad, especially if you are going into business. Embrace those traits. I could be misinterpreting your posts. After all, we are just two strangers on the internet. Just keep in mind that fear of abandonment can manifest itself in a form of self-abandonment. Ask yourself a few questions. Try to be as open as possible. Don't post the answers back here. …
/r/askTRP17/08/15 04:08 PM
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I'm on mobile right now so I'll try to keep it short. Two things that stuck out to me in your post was your underlying fear and how your parents were very risk averse. I can relate to both of those. In my life I have always been moderately successful in my career, sports and getting women. But something was holding me back. I could not reach my full potential. I always felt like my parents did an amazing job raising me and they did. However, my father was hyper critical and my mother was emotion…
/r/askTRP17/08/15 12:28 PM
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You
/r/askTRP17/08/15 10:26 AM
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You sound a lot like myself before I learned that I had a psychological fear of abandonment. Read "Taming Your Outer Child" if you think the same may be true for you. It has done wonders for me.
/r/askTRP16/08/15 08:35 PM
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Diminishing returns?
/r/askTRP16/08/15 01:49 PM
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Can someone give me some RP reasons for Guy-time? Even if it's not your current friends, you need to keep doing activities with other guys. Some type of competition is best. This will keep you in touch with your masculine traits and behaviors. It will prevent you from slipping back into blue-pill/nice-guy mode. Hanging around with your GF only, will cause you to start seeking approval from women instead of men. If this happens your GF will become less and less attracted to you and your relations…
/r/askTRP15/08/15 12:26 PM
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It's similar to the IDGAF attitude or agree & amplify, without the "amplify". Fogging is responding to a criticism without becoming defensive, denying the criticism, or launching a counterattack. Simply agree with what was said and repeat it back. It is best used in situations where you and the manipulator do not have a close relationship. For example, if someone came up to you and said "You suck at picking up girls.", you would respond by saying "You are right, I probably do suck at picking up …
/r/TheRedPill15/08/15 11:15 AM
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Agreed. You forgot Negative Inquiry as well which is best used for those that you need to maintain a relationship with (like family, co-workers, etc.) For those who haven't read the book yet, Negative Inquiry is basically stating back to the manipulator "What is it about my (insert behavior here) that is bad?" This gets the PA manipulator to be more direct with you and disarms them at the same time. Repeat the question with each criticism that is thrown your way. Each time you will get closer to…
/r/TheRedPill15/08/15 10:48 AM
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It demonstrates an important point that the Wall Street Playboys hammer home on their blog. The point is: "Never try to sell to middle class men." They are too logical. Instead, sell to women or very rich men willing to pay a premium for your product or service. GLO actually eludes to this in the post.
/r/TheRedPill14/08/15 12:22 PM
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Thank you for that. Ironically, I believe that those who are annoyed by imperative platitudes are the same that fail to take action. They think they can just read their way to improvement. They know they need to take action but it is too painful for them to do so. So they reject any imperative right out of the gate.
/r/TheRedPill11/08/15 12:19 PM
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What insight can I use from this subreddit can I use to learn the ropes quickly, network like crazy, avoid company politics and work my way up to kickstart my career? It is impossible to avoid company politics if you want to move up in the organization. I tried and failed miserably. Make allies, get air-cover, learn how to sell your ideas. Be willing to step over others to get what you deserve (they will, and are, stepping on you while claiming to be your "friend" or supporter). This is the real…
/r/TheRedPill08/08/15 11:14 AM
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Agreed. Read this and take notes. Write these concepts out in a notebook and review them EVERY WEEK. This is your blueprint.
/r/TheRedPill08/08/15 11:09 AM
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If it's important enough, go into information deprivation mode. No texting, TV, internet, radio, etc. Obviously you can use the internet for course related work. Try it for one week and you should see your focus increase dramatically. You will also feel way calmer and in control.
/r/askTRP07/08/15 11:16 AM
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You may be lifting which is great, but you need to stick to a "mental" lifting routine as well. For me I have to address a psychological abandonment issue. Enlightening of the issue is great but actions are the only way to really change. Now, every night after I lift, I set aside time to do mental exercises to address my abandonment issues. You are literally rewiring your brain. But like lifting, you need to take small incremental steps at first. After two weeks of doing this, I have already not…
/r/askTRP06/08/15 12:25 PM
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Definitely Netscape on dial up.
/r/askTRP06/08/15 11:52 AM
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My personal favorite is "The Way of Men" by Jack Donovan. I don't think it gets enough credit on TRP. Probably because it isn't focused on picking up women which seems to be so popular with TRP newbies. Instead it really gets at the core of what a "man" is and should be.
/r/askTRP25/07/15 10:18 AM
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You gave bad examples but I get what you're saying. In general you should not give a fuck about the opinions of those who are of lower value than you. If there is a persistent attack on you, to the point where it IS starting to impact your reputation, then you need to defend yourself. The 48 Laws can seem contradictory when you first learn them. They are very dependent on the context of the situation. Use them when interacting with sociopaths and other power players. Don't feel like you need to …
/r/askTRP23/07/15 10:53 PM
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Thanks for the recommendation. Reading this book now and I think it's great. I hit a plateau a few months after reading NMMNG and this book has got me jump started again.
/r/TheRedPill23/07/15 09:46 PM
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Don't press charges. That will make you an outcast. You settled it like men and now it's over. Move on.
/r/askTRP19/07/15 11:27 AM
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It takes practice to understand Powertalk. I'm working on this myself. Take small steps at first and practice with text messages. Go through your old messages and try to recognize the subtext of each conversation (in other words ask "what is he/she really saying?"). You have to take the context into consideration as well. For example, a friend of yours might ask "who did you go out with last night?". If this is a text between just you and him, and he really does not know what you did last night,…
/r/askTRP18/07/15 12:52 PM
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Because Nice Guys resort to lying and manipulating to avoid confrontation.
/r/askTRP17/07/15 09:03 PM
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You are in denial my friend (which is probably why you deleted this post and most of your comments). That comment about you giving a gift to a woman was a perfect example. In one sentence you claimed that you just wanted to be friends and that there was no ulterior motive. In the next sentence you said that if you could fuck her that would be great. You are being treated as an orbiter because you are one. You are still a Nice Guy, just one in denial.
/r/askTRP17/07/15 11:58 AM
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Your entire post reads as fear of abandonment (ie you drop everything to help others, you are upset that you don't receive the same attention from a friend anymore, etc) You also created a covert contract with your friend ("I will be there for you emotionally while your mother is in the hospital and now I expect your unconditional attention in return").
/r/askTRP16/07/15 04:36 PM
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It's sounds like you have made some progress. Do you believe you have an abandonment issue that stems from your childhood?
/r/askTRP16/07/15 02:45 PM
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You're still seeking the approval of women which is at the core of your Nice Guy issues. You need to start doing activities with men (some form of competition) and seek their approval instead. These women friends are not helping you. You are an emotional tampon for them. The other men did not help you because you are one of the girls. Also, read the section about monogamous relationships with your mother in NMMNG.
/r/askTRP16/07/15 12:42 PM
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I'm taking motorcycle lessons this weekend. I'm scared shitless because I haven't been on a bike before, but it's something I've always wanted to do.
/r/askTRP15/07/15 09:07 PM
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