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| 1 | How to stop negative self-talk & start improving your social skillsThis book really helped me with stopping my nevative thinking: "What to say when you talk to yourself". I highly recommend it for those that suffer from this problem. | /r/seduction | 07/02/15 01:38 PM |
| 2 | Not feeling entitled to approach during the dayCool man, thanks! | /r/seduction | 15/01/15 03:06 AM |
| 2 | Not feeling entitled to approach during the dayHey man, I like that. I feel like an indirect approach like you mentioned fits my style much better. I'll check out this guy you recommended. Thanks for the input. | /r/seduction | 14/01/15 05:55 AM |
| 1 | Not feeling entitled to approach during the dayYeah dude. Still, there are a lot of women out there looking for a good match and it's our job to make ourselves available. The problem is that during the day when people are busy doing other things it feels inappropriate. | /r/seduction | 14/01/15 05:53 AM |
| 1 | Not feeling entitled to approach during the dayI disagree. Sometimes you do interrupt them. It depends on whether it matters to you or not. | /r/seduction | 14/01/15 05:50 AM |
| 1 | Not feeling entitled to approach during the dayDo you go out just to meet girls during the day or do you do it casually while doing your own thing in the city? | /r/seduction | 14/01/15 05:47 AM |
| 1 | Not feeling entitled to approach during the dayYeah man, I also feel that many of the girls I meet at night are not that interesting to me, and a lot of them are drunk, which I don't like. That's a great opportunity I'm trying to explore. Thanks. | /r/seduction | 14/01/15 05:46 AM |
| 2 | Not feeling entitled to approach during the dayI actually like that. It fells more natural. You can get away without putting them on the spot. Is that how you usually approach? | /r/seduction | 14/01/15 05:44 AM |
| 1 | Not feeling entitled to approach during the dayI've had people act annoyed that I was talking to them when they just wanna be left alone. It doesn't feel right to go around annoying people. It's a minority, I admit, but still... | /r/seduction | 14/01/15 05:42 AM |
| 1 | Not feeling entitled to approach during the dayThanks man, that's a solid comment. Very encouraging. | /r/seduction | 14/01/15 05:39 AM |
| 2 | How to approach a woman in the dance floor?Got it. Have fun and hold eye contact. Say you got a good reaction, do you just go and dance in front of her? How do you do that smoothly? Again, I'm probably over thinking it. | /r/seduction | 28/09/14 06:07 PM |
| 2 | How to approach a woman in the dance floor?Thank you so much man, that is exactly the kind of advice I need. I like the idea of grabbing her hand. It makes it obvious what you're after and she will either reject you or go along with it. I hate to be in the situation where you're just there dancing waiting to get accepted by the group. | /r/seduction | 28/09/14 06:03 PM |
| 1 | How to approach a woman in the dance floor?Thanks. Do to just close in and start dancing with her? What if she isn't looking at you, how do you get her attention? I'm sure I'm over thinking this. | /r/seduction | 28/09/14 04:45 PM |
| 3 | Possible wingman sub reddit?Have you tried the RSD inner circle? It's a Facebook group in your city that serves that purpose. If you are in Chicago, look for RSD inner circle Chicago on FB. I've met some really cool guys here in Boston and they know all the places to go out. | /r/seduction | 23/09/14 10:43 PM |
| 6 | I would like to hear your perspective as a woman: Please explain to me why I should not be offended by PUA. From the outset it seems dishonest to me and I feel like it treats women like mere puzzles who have no intellect.The goal of pick up is to help men become more attractive to women. Ultimately, this helps both sexes, as women will also be able to find more interesting males. A lot of guys just want to find a girlfriend while others want to have as much sex as possible. As men, they have the right to express their sexuality and this will enable them to live happier lives. It is true, some guys are assholes (just like some women are bitches), but that's independent of pick up. The techniques teach you to impr… | /r/seduction | 23/09/14 01:15 AM |
| 1 | My self talk is terrible and I frequently underestimate myself. Has anyone here recovered from bad self talk?Dude, really? You recommended it but you haven't read it? Anyway, thanks. The book was perfect for me. It changed my life. There was an initial excitement in the first two months where I thought all my problems were solved. Even though that went away, there was a permanent change in me that permeated all areas of my life. Now I excel at work, I'm great with women, I'm good with people in general. I never feel bad about myself, I never worry about the future, and I always do well in life. Those a… | /r/seduction | 22/09/14 01:26 AM |
| 1 | Solving Approach AnxietyThanks. Keeping a journal is a great idea. It's good to know that others also have good and bad days. And I agree that it will depend mostly on me. I'm looking forward to eliminate my approach anxiety. I can see the progress I've made and I'm confident the program will take me there. | /r/seduction | 26/08/14 11:49 AM |
| 6 | dear r/seduction, please help me learn to flirt-text!!!He really doesn't have a clue | /r/seduction | 25/08/14 01:21 PM |
| 1 | Solving Approach AnxietyHey dude, are you still following the program? How's it going for you? I was doing really well until day 11. I got some pretty bad reactions asking what phone they have, which affected my performance. I'm gonna have to redo this one. This program is pretty solid indeed, thank you for posting about it. Btw, Chris is very clear about not turning the drills into approaches. Do the drill and leave, don't stray into conversations. I'm following that exactly. Let me know how it's going for you. Good l… | /r/seduction | 25/08/14 01:15 PM |
| 2 | I want to stop drinkingI stopped drinking about 7 months ago and my life is significantly better now. This is how I did it. I used to be the guy that needed to drink in order to have fun. However, I noticed that alcohol had become a crutch for social confidence, especially around women. Moreover, it's not sustainable and it will fuck your health as you get older. I did a test. I stopped drinking for a month and forced myself to go out just as much. I was surprised, I had a lot of fun and I also picked up girls. After … | /r/seduction | 24/08/14 12:47 PM |
| 1 | Going out to bars/clubs alone?I do it all the time. It forces me to be more social. It's even worse for me because I don't drink, so I literally have no excuse to be there. I feel the awkwardness and the fear sometimes, but I fight it. I'm working to be 100% comfortable all by myself and I'm getting there. | /r/seduction | 18/08/14 05:11 PM |
| 1 | Trouble removing bra...?I also suck at removing bras. I always make a joke saying: I've never done that before, or Oops, I'm not very experienced with that. They laugh and help me out. Piece of cake. | /r/seduction | 10/08/14 10:23 PM |
| 1 | Daily Recommended Dose of SocializationNot only that, but many people in order to socialize need to be drunk. I would emphasize that socializing sober is the healthier way of doing it. | /r/seduction | 10/08/14 10:13 PM |
| 3 | Got RejectedGood job at going for what you want. The more you do it the easier it gets. You'll learn to respect yourself more and you'll become confident. Rejection will no longer affect you in a bad way. Keep at it! | /r/seduction | 09/08/14 02:22 PM |
| 8 | Guys who went from bad, to good with holding conversations, tell us how you did it.Funny video | /r/seduction | 09/08/14 02:16 PM |
| 2 | Strengths and weaknesses to sitting besides or across from dinner date.Excellent question. I noticed that for me sitting at the bar gives the best results. It makes it more casual and intimate. We are right next to each other, so its easy to kino and to go for a kiss. | /r/seduction | 02/08/14 11:29 AM |
| 2 | The way you feel about yourself decides what sort of life you will liveAlthough I agree 100% with what you say, if you have low self-esteem and have a lack of belief in yourself, even though you know that is harmful to you, it can be very, very hard to change. Forcing myself to open girls has helped me tremendously, but I'm still not quite there. There is nothing I think more about or work more on in my life than trying to improve my self-belief and self-esteem, because I know how much my success depends on it. If you've been exposed to a lot of negativity from you… | /r/seduction | 02/08/14 11:25 AM |
| 1 | I have approach anxietyBuild up slowly. Start by asking for directions. Then asking for directions and also how their day is going. Next, make a compliment on something she is wearing. Create a list for yourself with increasing difficulty. Once the first step becomes easy, move on to the next. | /r/seduction | 01/08/14 12:19 PM |
| 1 | My self talk is terrible and I frequently underestimate myself. Has anyone here recovered from bad self talk?Same here, bro. My low self esteem problems are rooted in my childhood and my relationship with my family. I've been recovering slowly, but surely. Is tough, but you get there. | /r/seduction | 30/07/14 02:42 PM |
| 3 | My self talk is terrible and I frequently underestimate myself. Has anyone here recovered from bad self talk?I started reading the book you recommended. It's pretty amazing, exactly what I needed. Could you comment a little in how you use these techniques and how it changed your life? | /r/seduction | 30/07/14 02:38 PM |
| 1 | Picking up girls at the grocery storeI tried direct at the grocery store once (it was my first day game approach), but it didn't go so well. She blushed and got really nervous, I think she was really young. I was calm, but had to leave due to the awkwardness. I will try again and get more experience. | /r/seduction | 28/07/14 10:49 PM |
| 1 | What was the moment when you said "fuck it" and moved past AA?Got it. Great analogy. | /r/seduction | 24/07/14 08:06 PM |
| 1 | What was the moment when you said "fuck it" and moved past AA?I have a question. I'm trying to go out as many days as I can, but some days there isn't much out there. Like last night, the bars were dead, there were some people but no attractive girls. How do you do in this situation? I just wen't around talking to whatever female I could find. It makes me nervous, but not as nervous as talking to a hot girl. | /r/seduction | 23/07/14 11:11 PM |
| 1 | Should I or shouldn't I drink?I like the analogy, it's like playing on easy mode. thanks man! | /r/seduction | 05/04/14 06:37 AM |
| 1 | Should I or shouldn't I drink?I like the analogy, it's like playing on easy mode. thanks man! | /r/seduction | 05/04/14 12:14 AM |
| 1 | How to stop seeking approval?I solved my problem by approaching women. Because I was constantly seeking people's approval, it was incredibly hard for me to do cold approaches from fear of being rejected. Overcoming that fear and dealing with rejection made me realize that their opinions about me don't matter. It gave me a sense of self-worth and self-reliance that I didn't know before. | /r/seduction | 13/03/14 05:09 PM |
| 12 | How to approach alone at the beach?I was just in Brazil and this worked for me. There where two girls and one (clearly gay) guy sitting on the sand. I just walked up to them and said "Hey guys what's up? Enjoying the beach?" Talked to them for a minute and turned to the girl I liked: "Who are you?" (totally Tyler style). I then pull her to talk to me, give her a hug etc. Long story short, I got her number and went out with her that night. Literally, I just said "hey". | /r/seduction | 27/01/14 02:51 AM |
| 1 | Need some help with this "needy" vibe I feel I have.Have you tried going out there and approaching girls? I'm kind of similar to you. Once I was able to summon the courage to approach, and fail miserably at first, I quickly learned not to care about the opinion of others and the neediness went away. I don't know why but this shit works like magic. All it takes is to get started. | /r/seduction | 25/01/14 01:50 PM |
| 1 | Disappointed at my first try, failed miserably...You only have control over your actions not theirs. Reward your actions, and in this case you should congratulate yourself. Don't be sad if you didn't get the number, nor happy if you did. Be outcome independent. | /r/seduction | 25/01/14 01:34 PM |
| 1 | Seddit guys who are successful with women, how often do you get rejected and what do the rejections look like?True. I guess I am interested in knowing what to expect, that is, what would be realistic in the field. I'm still in the beginning and I haven't yet been able to desensitize myself from rejection. I'm working on it. Thanks for your comment! | /r/seduction | 01/01/14 08:51 PM |
| 1 | Can approaching multiple girls in the same venue hurt your game?I get the idea, but I'm not sure if I understand it fully. Say I approach a girl I like across the room. I move in her direction (nervous as hell because I'm inexperienced), I say hi, but she discards me with contempt. Then after sometime I do a similar thing to another girl. Most of them will reject me, some won't. I'm doing what I think I must do at this point, I'm approaching girls; but I'm not socializing. I could easily get marked. So how can I socialize and approach girls at the same time? | /r/seduction | 29/12/13 09:32 PM |
| 6 | Please help. I get women in my bed and feel so nervous/anxious that I can't get aroused. Mid 20's, feeling like I might as well give up on women, so tired of failing and now self sabotage...Realize this is a very common problem, so don't beat yourself up. (I believe this is called performance anxiety.) For a long term solution, start seeing a therapist. He will guide you through solving this problem. There is specialized treatment for this. For a short term solution, try one of those pills for male erection. I have never tried this, but a good friend of mine with a similar problem has. He took half a pill and was able bang the girl the whole night which gave him a confidence boost. | /r/seduction | 28/12/13 11:37 AM |
| 1 | How do i reach true confidence?It's not even that. You must experience girls that are not into you; you will be awkward, you will be seen like a creep even. Only when you can deal with the rejection without feeling bad about yourself you will lose the fear of approaching, and you will have confidence. There's only one solution, approach girls. | /r/seduction | 25/12/13 03:22 AM |
| 3 | [FR] Approached a 2 set at the mall as they were sitting downBallsy. | /r/seduction | 25/12/13 02:41 AM |
| 1 | What stories do you tell yourself?Thanks for the link! | /r/seduction | 23/12/13 11:23 PM |
| 2 | What stories do you tell yourself?I literally just started, as I just finished with that section of the book. I can only really do it over the weekends. But I'm starting to consider the short term approach and just going to a girl I like at a bar and say hi to her. It's gonna be embarrassing, it's gonna hurt, but the sooner I can go through this the better. I'm getting impatient about this. | /r/seduction | 23/12/13 03:37 PM |
| 1 | Be passionate about yourself! RSD Video about perspectiveWhy do so many of these pick up guys sound like such assholes? It still surprises me that women buy into that. I guess it is what it is. I'm willing to do pretty much anything in order to improve my success with women, except for corrupting my character. | /r/seduction | 23/12/13 02:16 PM |
| 1 | What stories do you tell yourself?I hear you buddy. It's all in our head. What have you been working on to try and overcome this problem? | /r/seduction | 23/12/13 02:52 AM |
| 2 | What stories do you tell yourself?Have you tried some systematic strategy to get rid of your fears? What I am working on is to gradually desensitize myself by practicing on simple things first. Today I went around asking pretty girls for directions. It was surprisingly hard. One of them was not friendly at all, and that totally affected me. Once I conquer this part, I will move on to something more difficult, like asking them how their day is going, after asking for directions. I'm following the suggestion from the book Models. … | /r/seduction | 23/12/13 02:50 AM |
| 1 | What stories do you tell yourself?I agree, this is exactly what we need. To me it's surprising how this experience has become much more about self knowledge than about learning techniques to pick up girls. There are some important issues we need to figure out first before we get there. | /r/seduction | 22/12/13 08:37 PM |
| 3 | What stories do you tell yourself?Exactly, it is certainly more comfortable not to try. But then, how will you ever going to get past your difficulties? In my case, I've postponed taking action for a long time. But now it's gotten to a point in which it is the number one priority in my life. I won't be able to be happy until I get over my fears. It only depends on me. | /r/seduction | 22/12/13 08:32 PM |
| 3 | HAPPY HOLIDAYS! Giving away my 115 page e-book on approaching women for free...The download link I got didn't work for me. | /r/seduction | 20/12/13 08:41 PM |
| 1 | I'm going on a date tomorrow. How do I get her to come to my place afterwards?Hey man, great link! | /r/seduction | 19/12/13 05:29 AM |
| 5 | I'm going on a date tomorrow. How do I get her to come to my place afterwards?Hey guys, I just wanna thank you all for the advice I got here. I had a cool date, some kino but I didn't force anything. Close to the end I asked her (nervous like hell) if she wanted to hang out at my place for a bit. She said yes, but then hesitated, said she would go but didn't have much time. I pay the bill and we walk to my place. I put on some music and offer her a drink, then I just go for the kiss. We make out and it's amazing. We have good chemistry. We drink more, I play the guitar. L… | /r/seduction | 19/12/13 05:15 AM |
| 1 | I'm going on a date tomorrow. How do I get her to come to my place afterwards?Thanks. That's the kind of attitude I need. | /r/seduction | 18/12/13 02:05 PM |
| 2 | I'm going on a date tomorrow. How do I get her to come to my place afterwards?I disagree. I don't think she is a dirty bird because she might wanna have sex the first night. If there is a good connection I see no problem with that. In fact, I dislike when women don't do what they want just because they are afraid that men will judge them. I guess that's because many men out there do judge girls superficially that way. | /r/seduction | 18/12/13 02:05 PM |
| 2 | I'm going on a date tomorrow. How do I get her to come to my place afterwards?Dude, you're so right. I guess if I get a good vibe I will try; even if she says no, I have nothing to lose except for not trying. | /r/seduction | 18/12/13 02:02 PM |
| 3 | I'm going on a date tomorrow. How do I get her to come to my place afterwards?I never implied she was a dog; nor do I wanna have her do anything she doesn't want to. But if there is a good opportunity I don't wanna mess it up by putting it the wrong way. That being said, I like the "I don't want the night to end here." Thanks. | /r/seduction | 18/12/13 02:01 PM |
| 1 | I'm going on a date tomorrow. How do I get her to come to my place afterwards?Thanks, that's a great idea. I can definitely come up with a good excuse. | /r/seduction | 18/12/13 01:58 PM |
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