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I think you are complicating it. I think that the curve for women would be like a sideways parabola (diminishing returns in attractiveness) and the curve for men would be a regular parabola (higher matches for higher attractiveness) with matches on the y and attractiveness on the x. Same total but different distributions.
/r/askTRP14/03/18 02:27 AM
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You may be projecting your self conscious onto them. You admitted you let yourself go and deep down you think it's affecting how people perceive you. The simple answer would be to work on the things you do not like about yourself. Yes there are shitty people out there but often it is our own fears that get in our way (rejection, betrayal, etc.) You have the strength within you to make a change where you like yourself and only then will you be able to notice others that like you as well. Confirma…
/r/askTRP12/03/18 02:02 AM
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Confidence is your primary issue here. To the low self esteem girls you seem confident and cool but after you talk them up and build their confidence they realise they can actually do better. The trick is to actually become high value so you don't have to pretend you are confident. An idgaf confidence will still work for some but ultimately girls will be more attracted to fit, successful, charismatic men who have plenty of reason to be confident.
/r/askTRP12/03/18 01:54 AM
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Approaching from behind is doable but can be sketchy if they haven't already made eye contact and given you IOIs. I used to just find girls alone by the bar and have a brief flirtacious conversation then lead them out to the dance floor.
/r/askTRP12/03/18 01:50 AM
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Well you are the host so you have a natural responsibility to lead the events for the evening. Making executive decisions such as what drinking games you play and when you are heading out are basic. Read the room and try to gauge the vibe so you aren't coming across as a power tripping moron. You don't have to dominate people to garner value, just engage with people, have fun and be confident and it should go well.
/r/askTRP12/03/18 01:47 AM
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I just talk to my buddies openly. I don't agree with everything on here so I open it as: "I saw this post on Reddit saying such and such, what do you think about that given your experiences?" Some guys relate, some guys don't, and the open discussions have been enjoyable. I know these guys well and wouldn't have done it if I didn't think they would react reasonably.
/r/askTRP12/03/18 01:39 AM
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I wouldn't say "ever" - if you confidently charm a group of ladies, it will make you appear more attractive to all of them and they will compete for your attention. I'm not sure what they hope to gain from coming as 3, highly unlikely that you would treat any of them so maybe just for comfort. If you do well on the first date with the group you have a high chance of closing the girl on a future date.
/r/askTRP11/03/18 03:50 AM
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You have to start by defining the problem. Identify an exact thing that you can accomplish (ie. Talk to 3 strangers, open 1 woman you find attractive, etc.). It helps to use concrete measurements so you can definitively say you met your goal. To ramp it up increase your reps like the gym. Maybe "weight" is duration or the level of charm and flirtation you implement, etc.
/r/askTRP11/03/18 03:43 AM
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The first response is technically right - that's what the article was saying that men kill their own dreams to pursue women who actually want men who are pursuing their dreams. The lesson was to realize that and win the game. Her outrage was unnecessary because it means she missed the point, but it's a sketchy time to post controversial things that can be misunderstood.
/r/askTRP11/03/18 03:36 AM
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I think there's far more truth to branchswinging than "all girls looking for casual sex". As the others said, actions over words but there are plenty of women who want consistency with the right man and will give you up if you falter from that view.
/r/askTRP11/03/18 03:23 AM
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Similar to how you would raise a child or train a dog. Positive reinforcement for good behaviour and negative reinforcement for bad behaviour. Don't let bad behaviour go unaddressed. This is the risk with dread - it doesn't fix anything if they don't care enough to notice. However if they don't notice your dread it may be too far gone already. Edit: it is your choice whether you want to be explicit or suggestive with establishing your boundaries however I prefer the former as it gives them less …
/r/askTRP11/03/18 02:35 AM
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If she did that trip everyone on here would tell you to dump her. It wasn't respectful to plan a trip like that without telling her, maybe you aren't cut out for a relationship if you don't like communicating
/r/askTRP08/03/18 03:42 AM
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Try improving other aspects of yourself. If your social skills are great, work on your career and physical appearance to be seen differently.
/r/askTRP08/03/18 03:40 AM
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The beginning. Seriously though, it's not the most efficient thing to read through the sidebar word for word. Here's a brief summary of my take on TRP which is probably not the standard. Essentially, people want the best mates possible; socially and biologically, men are attracted to beautiful women and women are attracted to successful men. A man can be successful socially, physically, financially. Work on your social skills, physique (lift) and your education/career and women will naturally be…
/r/askTRP08/03/18 03:37 AM
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The point I am making is to be confident in whatever decision he makes. If that's what he wants to do he shouldn't just change entirely to become someone else. If it doesn't work then adapt your approach a bit, nothing wrong with learning from your mistakes. I wouldn't recommend apologizing for your sense of humour - own it, but accept that it won't be appreciated by most girls you meet on tinder
/r/askTRP07/03/18 10:50 PM
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Nothing wrong with sending another message. Keep in mind she either didn't like your first impression or looked at your pics and decided you weren't worth it. Tinder tends to be looks first over personality since an attractive enough guy can say a little or a lot and still get responses. So your call, just don't think of this girl as a recovery opportunity and more as experimental to improve in the future. Say what you want to say and if she still ignores move on
/r/askTRP07/03/18 12:06 PM
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Currently 1 year into a relationship. I can honestly say I love her and she loves me. Part of a relationship is doing some things solely for the other person and we both do that for each other. I am older so I lead the relationship more but I place lots of value on communication to make sure she's telling me when she doesn't like my behaviour. Similarly if I don't like something I have the ability to speak my mind and be heard. We both make changes for each other and genuinely enjoy each others …
/r/askTRP03/03/18 03:25 PM
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Did you ask about sex or did she bring it up? If she brought it up then that means she was thinking about sex with you or at least is self aware enough to acknowledge what you might be thinking. It could very well be on the table but don't be too disappointed if it is just fooling around (everything besides penetrative sex). Getting a girl to commit to a date these days is a small victory on its own, so just relax and allow her to feel comfortable and you will likely have some fun. Try to increm…
/r/askTRP03/03/18 02:52 PM
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Let's get this out of the way. She cares more about her best friend than you. Is that a problem? I don't think so - you met twice and things went well. Just give her time and space and if she doesn't reach out for a week no big deal. Hit her up again for some fun to take her mind off things and if she declines it's fine to leave it at that. If that happens just forget about her for now and if she reaches out then act accordingly. No need to cut ties immediately if a person isn't always dying to …
/r/askTRP02/03/18 11:57 PM
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I finished it recently. None of the advice is really new if you have read the various books recommended on TRP. I enjoy his ability to draw connections between intricate ideas to something easily understood, he has a similar style to 48 Laws of Power in that regard. Here is my take on the 12 Rules for life. Be confident (biological meter for success - confidence grants more success which leads to more confidence, etc.) Treat yourself well (as if you were taking care of a pet or loved one) Surrou…
/r/askTRP02/03/18 01:44 AM
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I'll offer a different perspective. She's telling you she's unhappy, and ignoring or giving dread won't solve that problem. If you can appreciate your free time you should be able to understand that working a shitty job sucks. Have a conversation see where it goes
/r/askTRP27/02/18 12:14 PM
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Sounds to me like you are depressed with the cause being lack of purpose. This is part of growing up. The gym is an easy place to see progress in our lives, and similarly video games can provide this feeling as well. The problem with these pursuits is that we eventually become aware that we have dedicated much of our time and effort to something with a limited supply of satisfaction. When we become addicted we seek the feelings we once felt and allow the activity to dominate our lives. The feeli…
/r/askTRP25/02/18 02:30 PM
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She threw herself at you in that conversation and you took it as a shit test. She said she would do anything to you and you dialed it back. That was the perfect time to escalate and get her thinking about you in an overtly sexual way (talk about sexual stuff that actually excites you, enough with the foot fetish joke). It seems to me that you are uncomfortable with being openly sexual and shes picking up on that and treating you how you portray yourself. You have to lead with more confidence and…
/r/askTRP14/10/17 03:54 PM
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So you came 30 minutes late? Did you give her any heads up? Maybe she showed up and left cause you didn't tell her you were running late. Then she said she was "running late"to you to because she was upset and trying to show you what common courtesy is.
/r/askTRP02/10/17 01:31 AM
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She superliked You, odds are she's intentionally delaying responses to not seem desperate. It's not a big deal: she could actually be busy, and it should only take like 2 or 3 texts to set a time and place. If she seems like the type of person who lives on her phone, then she's making a conscious effort not to respond too quickly because she doesn't want to seem too into you. If she seemed uninterested in your last meeting then she just doesn't care about you at all and you might as well move on…
/r/askTRP02/09/17 03:59 PM
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Just take him aside and tell him sometimes you want to hang out with just the guys, tell him he doesn't notice it but everyone acts differently when she's around despite what he says and you would all prefer to have some guy time. Be blunt just say I'd rather have just you or neither. "Nothing against your girlfriend but you're becoming one person and I feel like I'm losing a friend. We're talking about just not inviting you anymore because of this but we'd love to still have you come on your ow…
/r/askTRP30/08/17 03:35 PM
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Why do you always get in your own way? Offers to drive you and you say no. Offers to exchange numbers and you say no. It's possible that this may have confused her and pushed her to pursue more but either way none of that means anything if she ends up with another guy. Learn to accept good things that come your way, and always assume you have a shot with someone especially ones that give you IOIs like that. Always assume interest in these cases because it's better to try and be wrong than to do …
/r/askTRP30/07/17 03:00 PM
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Owning a dog is the modern version of having a child with less responsibility. It helps satisfy natural desires to parent and nurture without as much pressure to do a great job. I don't think they are consciously aware that it's their maternal instincts kicking in (I met a separated couple that actually has set up custody on certain days with the dogs they got together...). Guys with a well behaved dog come across as fatherly and a viable mate to these women. It is unlikely to get you a girl on …
/r/askTRP24/07/17 01:42 PM
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The wall is more about appearance than risks of child bearing, not sure why you are relating the two.
/r/askTRP24/07/17 03:10 AM
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You probably are more attractive with respective to average people walking around a mall than with university men. Lifting is key for lots of attention from university women. There's a much higher concentration of fit, intelligent, social men at university than wandering around the mall so you need to up your SMV to remain competitive.
/r/askTRP14/07/17 01:55 PM
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I think it's perspective. The only people I know who don't believe in marriage have separated parents. Where as most of my friends' parents have been together for 30 years or so.
/r/askTRP07/07/17 08:22 PM
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She's doing her part by giving you chances to make a move. Take action next meet up or it's basically friendzoning yourself. Edit: also don't call going on two dates "dating". People typically reserve that term for long term relationships. I know it's stupid but "dating" is used this way primarily
/r/askTRP07/07/17 08:16 PM
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I had a girl do something like this where she insisted I take her number and text her next time I play soccer at the park. Don't plan on texting her ever but put it in my phone to humor her at the time. Told my girlfriend afterwards and still tease her about hanging out with the girl every now and then. Go with your gut; if you trust your girl then don't worry, if you have any doubt be cautious, and if you can't trust her then why date in the first place.
/r/askTRP26/06/17 08:24 PM
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Use what worked with her to meet new girls. Learn from your past and make adjustments to improve your approach.
/r/askTRP26/06/17 08:17 PM
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This is a classic problem guys have on tinder; you should be trying to close from a really early point in the conversation. Sometimes in sales you have the person interested then you talk too much and they have time to back out. Make her laugh once or twice and immediately suggest you meet up; play off the emotions in the moment and get the close as soon as possible (set a date).
/r/askTRP25/06/17 02:37 PM
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Did you explain the situation to your superior at your work? If they don't sympathize with your situation then you are probably just out of luck.
/r/askTRP25/06/17 02:29 PM
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Why are you dating her? Why make the post about her staying with a friend?
/r/askTRP21/06/17 08:17 PM
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You sure you aren't being scammed? Seems odd that a group that size has only one guy interested, and the fact they are all attractive seems suspicious.
/r/askTRP21/06/17 08:16 PM
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It sounds like insecurity is playing a big part in this. Obviously she shouldn't be lying to you and it's now clear she will lie to you to get what she wants. In regards to insecurity: girls have male friends and guys have female friends. If the situation called for it, I wouldn't hesitate staying at any of my female friends' place out of convenience. This doesn't make my GF a cuck or me a cheater. If you genuinely believe she will cheat then you shouldn't be dating her to begin with. The lying …
/r/askTRP21/06/17 07:54 PM
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What did she say exactly?
/r/askTRP13/06/17 01:58 PM
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You're dishing it out but can't take it. Sounds like you need to work on your frame a bit.
/r/askTRP07/06/17 08:14 PM
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Moving in means you have to be more on top of your shit. It is recommended to avoid cohabitation because people usually don't want to maintain effort 24/7 or they were in a relationship before that wasn't capable of long term commitment. If you are not solid with your frame, ambition and work ethic, moving in exposes your weaknesses. If you are good in these areas and are confident that your partner is equally invested then I don't see a problem with it. You have to judge the situation yourself,…
/r/askTRP06/06/17 01:54 PM
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If you believe the beard will bring you success then it will. Deciding that you don't need a beard would have the same effect. There is no hard evidence behind your beard claims; even if you find a study that supports your belief it doesn't mean it is true for every woman or the majority. You keep pushing this beard issue as one of your main shortcomings however your attitude towards people in your threads is evidence that you have other faults. If you are willing to work on yourself then you ne…
/r/askTRP25/05/17 11:48 PM
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Hey, go speak with a therapist and work through your problems if possible. There are immeasurable numbers of people who have had sex without a beard. Your problems with women are deeper than that and I think talking to a therapist could help you solve these problems. You either don't or won't respect any feedback from reddit so it makes sense to look elsewhere for answers if ýou genuinely want to see results.
/r/askTRP25/05/17 04:40 AM
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There is a difference between trying hard privately and actively appearing/expressing how hard you try. People think more highly of individuals who are successful/impressive but show no indication of how hard they work for it. It gives them an aura of superhuman qualities. I'm not telling you not to put in effort, "trying too hard" is a saying where you pursue a woman too aggressively and kill the excitement or come across as desperate. It has to feel natural; it is possible that you may feel co…
/r/askTRP18/05/17 06:09 PM
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I think your desperation shows through your interactions. It is possible that your no fucks attitude allows you to be direct and aggressive but it could be perceived as desperately wanting them which would kill the excitement. It seems like you dress and behave with the intent to impress others which is probably telegraphed to them when you interact. I think this is most likely since your happiness in life has been placed on having sex with these girls so you lose outcome independence. There is …
/r/askTRP17/05/17 02:50 PM
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The same comment can be up voted or down voted depending on who reads it. Some subs may contain mostly younger men who are being raised in a society that praises women more readily and scorns men for being men. Obviously not every young person has this mindset but we see it growing over time. Just because an opinion is unpopular doesn't mean it is wrong. One of the challenges we face in western society is having controversial conversations because we fear the social shit storms and the alienatio…
/r/askTRP27/04/17 03:26 PM
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Dark triad is extreme sociopathic traits and isn't part of the general conversation. It comes up in discussion because it is interesting but it is not recommended as an employable technique since it cannot be faked.
/r/askTRP10/04/17 04:22 AM
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This is classic LMR, you have to show that you are comfortable in the situation and be confident that you read the signals properly. However, if she's telling you to stop firmly that's a different situation altogether. If I understand the situation correctly then she was still down. Yes that was odd, but you just had to stay calm and confident and she would have relaxed.
/r/askTRP10/04/17 04:13 AM
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You shouldn't really feel this way towards all women. Of course it is reasonable in some cases, but maybe you should avoid the night scenes if you don't enjoy intoxicated behaviour. Also you clearly haven't read the core TRP philosophies on the main subreddit, I'd recommend taking a visit over there and read some of the sidebar.
/r/askTRP10/04/17 04:07 AM
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The point of my post is that not all flirting is cheating, and just because there are a few stories about it going that direction doesn't mean all men/women that flirt are cheaters or will become cheaters. Charm is a fundamental contributor to success in both social and business interactions and isn't always a bad thing. Obviously we all want to be the subject of our partner's desire, but sometimes this is an idealistic expectation that holds no weight in reality. What I mean by that is: Why sho…
/r/askTRP08/04/17 04:50 PM
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People get crushes, if you think you are the only person your girl will ever be attracted to and vice versa, then it's already over. You thinking that she will probably cheat is called insecurity and the only cure is to better yourself until A, she looks at you that way again or B, you don't care who she looks at or talks to. If she hasn't done anything then she is still respecting you. People get tempted all the time to do shitty things, that doesn't inherently make them shitty people; it's the…
/r/askTRP08/04/17 02:09 PM
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I have little sympathy for cheaters and liars. Lack of self control is a bs excuse that I've used myself to justify my behaviour in the past. Justifying our mistakes only gets in the way of progress and needs to be removed from our behaviour. If you really didn't want to lose the girl you shouldn't have cheated on her in the first place. Yeah Paul is a moron for throwing you under the bus, but you got what you deserved for not thinking things all the way through. If you are going to do things th…
/r/askTRP06/04/17 03:07 PM
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This is a shit test they want to see how you react to being rejected. A confident man isn't deterred by this and continues with the close. I want to get to know you better comes across a bit weak and telegraphs a bit of investment on your side killing the excitement. Try to avoid any comfort until later on when you have formed a relationship. "Good thing we aren't strangers anymore." with a grin. Basically remain confident that you are getting her number and she has little choice in the matter.
/r/askTRP06/03/17 11:29 PM
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Try to build a habit of taking a few minutes when you get an urge to think about what you feel like you want to do and what you should be doing. Urges tend to pass quickly if you take a second to think about them. Acknowledge that you don't need to watch porn and start doing something else that you enjoy. The main point is focusing on being self aware and logical in moments where your emotions and urges try to dictate your actions.
/r/askTRP06/03/17 11:16 PM
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If you aren't committing to her and she isn't committing to you, you really should not be upset by things like this. You don't have ownership of your plates, and if you're a jealous type it might not be a great lifestyle choice for you. It's clear that she isn't ltr material so either keep her as a plate or drop her. They both disrespected you but I'd keep my bro over a plate any day. She hooked up with your best friend, while he only hooked up with one of your plates. The way you word the post …
/r/askTRP02/03/17 02:16 PM
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I just joined a new class after taking a year and a bit off from university. The following advice is based on my experience so far, and has lead to alot of connections/friends and one romantic relationship. In my experience, class is where you build basic rapport. Demonstrate (naturally, not forced) your confidence and charm regardless of who you deal with in the class. People will notice you especially if you seem different than the typical guys in your class. If a girl makes effort to talk to …
/r/askTRP01/03/17 02:11 AM
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In my opinion, Red pill is about self improvement which leads to confidence which yields success in all other aspects of your life. I'm not sure what you got out of it, but I would read a bit more and continue to ask questions if you have any controversial or confusing ideas. There are some "laws" that are generally accepted on here but be careful blindly accepting any ideas, especially ones that generalise behaviour. Human nature is deeply discussed on here and usually attributed to women only,…
/r/askTRP28/02/17 06:39 AM
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Did you have a specific example for us to address or just general. Usually the girl is looking for you to take charge or give them a plausible reason to come over that allows them rationalize the situation in a way that does not make them seem like a whore. A few examples I've used, telling them they have to watch a certain show or movie and that you can do it at your place. Bringing them to your place to lend them a book. Studying at your place. Obviously not every girl needs this, but it helps…
/r/askTRP28/02/17 06:24 AM
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Sounds like you are bothered by this too much. I'm not sure what tone she uses it in, but if it's playfully as you suggest then what's the problem. My girl says she hates me practically every day but I know that it's a good reaction to my teasing. It seems like you doubt your own intelligence on some level and if you get upset it will be just as clear to her as well. Try to loosen up and tease her back. Try to have some fun with it.
/r/askTRP28/02/17 06:13 AM
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The logistics approach to texting is a great tip since it helps people cut down on texting too much. Girls often put over texters in the "I could have whenever I want" box. This tends to kill any excitement they get thinking about you. You want girls to wonder if you are into them or not, the more they think about you in this context the more they become attracted to you. If you work on your text game you should be able to flirt and tease girls well enough to maintain some mystery while increasi…
/r/askTRP26/02/17 04:26 PM
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I think it's a good move. Getting people out of their comfort zone and putting them in adrenaline pumping situations is a great recipe for a successful date. Don't be embarrassed if you aren't the best climber, just aim to have fun and be able to laugh at yourself if she makes you look silly. Your confidence to try new things can definitely play well if you have the right mindset about it. Sounds like a good date, might try it myself.
/r/askTRP26/02/17 02:08 AM
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Good idea to cut gaming out of your life imo. In my experience, the constant dopamine fix reduced my enjoyment in other parts of my life and made me less interested in other activities. Other things to moderate would be drugs (alcohol, weed, harder stuff, etc.), TV shows, and pornography. This is my opinion but I've noticed that there is a correlation (not necessarily causality) between these habits and my emotional state.
/r/askTRP26/02/17 02:04 AM
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You can try some more exciting things in the bedroom to help with the monotony. I have a lower drive so I don't really know what you are going through. Hopefully some other guys will have experience with this issue. Good luck.
/r/askTRP26/02/17 01:59 AM
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She's either rude or just doesn't care about you at all and both of these are good reasons to hard next - no contact and move on to another.
/r/askTRP26/02/17 01:55 AM
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Does he acknowledge the pros and cons of leaving and staying or does he focus exclusively on his feelings? It might be helpful to sit down with him and go over the things that he isn't considering.
/r/askTRP25/02/17 04:49 PM
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Good start, the banter with the bartender was a bit off in my opinion. They don't have to give you free drinks to earn a tip. It's poor form to tip nothing at all over the course of the night and even worse to tell them directly that you aren't tipping them. Your confidence approaching was good, opening the group was good, moving on to other groups was a good move. You basically set yourself up to dance with any of the girls you have had contact with before since you move out of the "random cree…
/r/askTRP25/02/17 04:45 PM
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If he asked for your advice then he definitely respects your opinion. I'm very direct with my friends and they respect my opinion on things. My buddy just broke up with his girlfriend when I called him out on a few things that he was rationalizing. The most you can do is get them thinking about things. Ultimately they make all the decisions, but if you act like you don't care and withhold your advice then you aren't much of a friend in my opinion. People will often tell you to say nothing in the…
/r/askTRP25/02/17 04:34 PM
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You are the prize is the mindset that helps people who are confident in themselves. You are clearly lacking self confidence. It is easier to reject them before they get a chance to reject you. It sounds like a defense mechanism. The fact that you approach makes things a bit interesting; usually guys in this situation choose not to approach because, as they would say, that girl is not "good enough" so they don't try in the first place (I've been guilty of this). Maybe you are confident to approac…
/r/askTRP25/02/17 04:03 AM
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Going for a kiss without testing the waters is definitely going to make you a bit anxious. You should be testing kino throughout the night with playful touching or confident hand placement when it makes sense. This will give you plenty of information on how attracted she is to you. The other thing was that you were focusing on all the reasons not to do it. Shoes on, where she was sitting, etc. Main thing to note: she's come back to your place beyond the expected date duration. This is a clear si…
/r/askTRP25/02/17 03:38 AM
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I think it's fine to de-escalate the situation with a confident firm "My mistake." You can even compliment the guy saying "Nice work landing this one." You basically stroke his ego very slightly and genuinely, come across as charming and confident in uncomfortable social situations and move on to an available girl. Going on the aggressive makes little sense since she's already taken and you don't know what the guy is willing to do for her. Mate guarding is a tricky situation, but it's not worth …
/r/askTRP25/02/17 03:23 AM
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Just assure that you are clean. No need to mention circumstances with other girls.
/r/askTRP21/01/17 05:11 AM
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Why are you upset that people come to "AskTRP" to ask questions. The fact that this bothers you is your own problem. This subreddit exists so that people can ask questions; if you don't want to read beginner questions then don't click on those questions. Just because someone asks a question doesn't mean it's your responsibility to solve their problems. Plenty of users don't mind offering quick advice, so let them do them and you do you. Everyone knows that they should read the sidebar but obviou…
/r/askTRP13/01/17 05:01 PM
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I'd say if things are going well in the relationship give it a month trial. If it doesn't work well, go back to what you were doing. I don't think the gender swap does much tbh. Girls would tell her to say no/come up with a compromise. Girls would tell him to say yes/come up with a compromise. Guys would tell him to say no/come up with a compromise. Guys would tell her to say yes/come up with a compromise. On average, I think we would back our relatable sex and hold a slight double standard for …
/r/TheRedPill12/01/17 10:06 PM
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I would say use tinder when you are done the important shit (end of the day). If you are on it too much it comes across as low value. This evening, a girl matched and messaged me right away and then continued to respond almost immediately to my messages and I lost interest. I think my value lowered in her eyes as well for doing the same thing. I have done that many times in the past and it always plays out the same way. Keep it short and fun, leading directly to a proposed meetup (and their numb…
/r/askTRP12/01/17 05:23 AM
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She broke up with you and was feeling lonely. Once she started talking to you she was reminded of why she broke up with you and went back to not caring. Any testing on this girl is a waste of time because you can't get valuable information from a girl who doesn't respect you. Move onto better things and develop your skills with new women.
/r/askTRP12/01/17 05:14 AM
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It seems like you feel bad about how you got him fired. Something doesn't feel right and maybe it's because you stooped to his level and potentially ruined his livelihood because you cared too much about his bad mouthing. You didn't take him seriously and it's likely that other people didn't take him seriously either and now he's out of a job. I'm not saying he deserved to stay there but I think you could have resolved things a bit differently. Hard to say though because you chose not to tell us…
/r/askTRP09/01/17 04:20 PM
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I had a girl tell me I was her first tinder date, then an hour in she drops that the last time she met a guy from tinder she met and fucked him at his house so it didn't count as a date
/r/askTRP04/01/17 08:58 PM
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Your post says you want to ask a girl out to coffee. This is an indoor activity. Pull yourself together and do it. Stop making excuses.
/r/askTRP01/01/17 12:51 AM
2

A+ for coming up with every reason not to do something...
/r/askTRP01/01/17 12:40 AM
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Men and women both appreciate attention and being responded to... It is a bit rude to leave people hanging in my opinion if you have shown interest. You don't owe them anything, but you could say you aren't interested. Don't you find it annoying when a girl you are interested in will seem interested and then stop responding out of nowhere. Some people feel entitled to a response when they think you are lucky to hold their attention (often the higher value partner) or if they have connected with …
/r/askTRP31/12/16 08:54 PM
3

We were looking for what was actually said, not a description.
/r/askTRP31/12/16 12:24 AM
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Why the FUCK do you ask questions if you already know the answer? Hold your frame ;) it shouldn't bother you this much. You are getting upset with human nature even though you clearly understand it reasonably well. Everyone hamsters to varying degrees. We want to believe that we did the right thing, that our lives are being lived properly. We ask for advice when our guts tells us something is off, but then we defend our actions because if we made a mistake it means we are flawed or fucked up in …
/r/askTRP30/12/16 06:39 PM
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You have no proof that she is cheating, don't start shit without hard evidence. An attention whore is not equivalent to slut. If he doesn't care why should you? If she tried to fuck you or someone else you can let him know but it's not your place to tell him how to run his relationship.
/r/askTRP30/12/16 06:22 PM
2

What did the conversation look like?
/r/askTRP30/12/16 06:17 PM
1

It may be a case where most of your casual conversations take place when you drink at parties. Try to socialise more in other settings, like after class, a dinner or lunch setting, waiting in line (if they appear interested in talking), etc. Basically try to find natural situations for conversation when you aren't drinking alcohol. The simplest example would be to go to the same parties but drink something non alcoholic. If people ask why say you have to drive home or in the morning. It will com…
/r/askTRP30/12/16 06:14 PM
2

It is good that you did not get angry, but you should lay down the line so that she pays you back for your wasted time. You have to decide how valuable your time is and she needs to understand that. Even if you sat there watching the game with a drink and enjoyed yourself, she will have to make up for it in a reasonable way that you suggest. It should not feel like an ultimatum. If you don't have solid frame it may be better to dread in this scenario. She was shit testing you and wanted you to b…
/r/askTRP30/12/16 06:07 PM
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I don't exactly see a problem here worth posting about or taking any new action. Is she affecting your work ethic? The way you describe her and taking the time to make a post about her makes it seem that you are interested in her. It's usually a bad idea to get involved with people you work with. Just continue to ignore her and use her antics as workplace entertainment.
/r/askTRP27/12/16 12:28 AM
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No need to keep in touch. I'm notorious for texting too much when the girl is higher value. When the girl is lower value, I don't text them and they often reach out first and ask to hang out. If she isn't reaching out she might not be that into you but you can still hit her up once you get back to make plans. Give her something to wonder about.
/r/askTRP18/12/16 06:44 PM
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Clearly he's getting to you and he can sense it. If he's making legitimate criticisms of you maybe you should work on those things, but keep a cool head and don't let it bother you. If he's spouting bullshit and you are confident in yourself then he's just going to make himself seem worse Edit: a witty comeback can put him in his place without stooping too low. You can also agree and amplify in these in these situations if he's making himself seem stupid.
/r/askTRP30/11/16 11:46 PM
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I had a virgin "fwb" for a year. She wanted to be in a relationship before having sex, but I didn't want to commit simply for a sexual transaction or take her virginity and have her get too attached. She gave me multiple blow jobs every time we met and I focused on frame and hand skills. I eventually cut things off when I lost attraction to her. She was overweight when she was younger, but lost it all before we met. I was trying to inspire her to be more healthy and she made some changes, but sh…
/r/askTRP28/11/16 02:54 PM
2

Do you drink? I'm not an advocate for getting completely wasted, but alcohol has been present in a lot of the funniest and most memorable moments with friends in my life. Moderation is the key in my opinion. Drinking certainly doesn't make you "cool", and not drinking doesn't make you "not cool". A bit of alcohol can open up the reserved types and magnify the fun types. Depending on it is a bad thing but that doesn't make everyone else who drinks pathetic. Your point about women would depend on …
/r/askTRP28/11/16 02:12 PM
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I've never had problems with sober people showing up to hang out at parties. Similar to gym vibes; no one else should care how much you are lifting, and there's usually a bit of underlying respect that you made the effort to show up. I'd say be careful about joining drinking games because if you play with a non alcoholic beverages it might rub other players the wrong way if they are competitive. The only thing I find annoying is when two teams of sober people show up unannounced, beg to join a b…
/r/askTRP28/11/16 01:55 PM
3

HTWFAIP is geared for non sexual relationships. I would argue that it's more geared for business and other professional relationships. I don't think they necessarily contradict each other however I have not read NMMNG
/r/askTRP23/11/16 06:11 PM
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This is why having interests outside of work can improve quality of life. Check out clubs and groups that catch your interest. Beer leagues, book clubs, bouldering, whatever it may be; there is probably a community available for you to join.
/r/askTRP17/11/16 03:35 AM
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Sounds like she resents you. She likes you enough to put in some effort, but she has made it clear that she feels she is not getting equal exchange. It's possible you have gotten lazy and diminished in SMV. I broke up with my girlfriend when I found that I wasn't attracted to her enough to deal with her problem areas any more. Take some time to think about the situation. Are there certain things she does that you take for granted? Does she have objectively valid reasons to expect more from you? …
/r/askTRP15/11/16 04:13 PM
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People want to feel good about the decisions they make. Sometimes that means putting down other people's decisions in the process. If it bothers you you can find a new friend or you can brush it off and not take it too seriously. Maybe it bothers you because you lack confidence in your decisions while he owns his regardless of what other people think about them.
/r/askTRP14/11/16 05:26 PM
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I'm not sure about you, but I have lost count of the number of women on my Facebook feed saying that Hillary lost simply because she is a woman in a misogynistic society. This is coming from a Canadian with Canadian friends asking Trump supporters to remove them on Facebook. Simply saying this attitude exists on both sides not excusing the behaviour itself.
/r/TheRedPill10/11/16 04:53 PM
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It's sounds like you are pedestalizing her. What areas do you think make her unattainable?
/r/askTRP05/11/16 01:25 PM
2

Hey man, can you think of at least one thing worth living for?
/r/askTRP05/11/16 01:20 PM
1

Left unaddressed, your ego and romaticization of your suffering will be your undoing. There is no beauty in death if you have not really lived. There is so much beauty still available to you beyond your ugly circumstance. Face your problems as a capable human being; do not go gentle into that good night. However you must learn to exercise your logical mind and try looking at your situation without a poetic lens. Killing yourself is not a reasonable response to your situation. If you have serious…
/r/askTRP05/11/16 01:18 PM
2

If you haven't, say no.
/r/askTRP05/11/16 12:47 PM
1

You quote me saying "could have" then you twist it into a statement. It is entirely possible she was scared. I also said she should not have hit him. I know we often tell other people a version of story that makes us seem less responsible for the outcomes. If a woman claims a man hit him, I would ask what happened leading up to the assault. Same goes for a man claiming his wife hit him. Blindly accepting a story is exactly how false rape accusations ruin lives. Before we can properly advise this…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/11/16 09:48 PM
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This really shouldn't bother you this much; there's something else at work here. Maybe you are mad that he seems happy living this way while you aren't satisfied with where you are in life? If he's affecting you by being too loud or annoying tell him to shut up or don't talk to him while he's gaming. It's like you keep poking a cactus then get mad that it pricks your finger every time. Learn from the past and work on your stoicism. Your expectations of him seem to be much higher than what realit…
/r/askTRP02/11/16 05:32 PM
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Holding frame with your children is just as important as with your wife. If the kid refuses to communicate reasonably and has shown you this behaviour before then you need to not tolerate it. Your wife made the right call to ignore the child. You read it as not putting in any effort. It's clear you resent your wife for not sympathizing with you about your problems but you used that to ignore her advice about letting the kid cry it out. She should not have hit you, especially in front of your chi…
/r/MarriedRedPill01/11/16 02:54 PM
2

Time to move on with this one. It is possible but highly unlikely. Girls receive way too much attention these days and if you don't attract them quickly with a solid first impression then you will be quickly forgotten.
/r/askTRP01/11/16 05:43 AM
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You might be socially awkward which makes people uncomfortable when they interact with you. Just keep talking to people and as you observe and learn it will become more comfortable and appear more natural allowing others to feel comfortable interacting with you.
/r/askTRP01/11/16 05:23 AM
1

Self improvement is the foundation on which you build towards any goal. This is true whether you seek meaningless sex or a meaningful lasting relationship. Married red pill is more geared for relationships while still maintaining the self improvement philosophies. Keep reading the material on TRP but apply a slight filter to fit your objectives. Remember to take time to reflect on whether your objectives are realistic and attainable.
/r/askTRP01/11/16 05:15 AM
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1) If you decide to pay for tickets tell her to cover drinks and popcorn or whatever you may want. If you make way more money than her just pay for it all. The main point here is to make a decision that isn't a discussion. "I'll get the tickets, you get the snacks." for example. 2) Outcome independence. Whether or not this date leads to future dates, you should try to just enjoy yourself and gain experience. Don't worry too much about "impressing" her or trying to make her like you. If you are e…
/r/askTRP31/10/16 05:01 PM
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He's not strong enough to fwb her at this point. I think no contact breakup is the only realistic option moving forward.
/r/askTRP31/10/16 04:31 AM
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It is possible O thinks she is better than the other girls you hook up with but knows that M is better than her. She may be worried that she will lose you if you hook up with more attractive women.
/r/askTRP27/10/16 07:57 PM
2

Depends, did you lie to and manipulate her? Did you lead her on under false pretenses? If not, then she's really just trying to make you feel bad about ending things on your terms even though she didn't do anything about it at the time. It's usually easier to blame other people than accept that we made a mistake.
/r/askTRP24/10/16 10:57 PM
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I'll offer a different perspective, it may or may not apply to your situation. Being stoic doesn't mean you can't have fun or have a warm personality. Stoicism is being in control of your actions, mindset, body language, etc. despite being in an emotional situation. In its simplest form it is about changing your expectations of outcomes, accepting responsibility for your mistakes, and looking at situations through different perspectives before taking action. Ex: Should/could I have seen this com…
/r/askTRP23/10/16 02:42 PM
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I disagree, if you are in a relationship it's good to talk about these values and if it's enough to end the relationship you move on. If it's just a plate, then you can act politically correct if you so choose but don't get upset if she feigns her values to you as well.
/r/askTRP08/10/16 03:16 PM
3

Dread is not done with porn or pictures of models, it involves real women showing real interest because you are a higher value male
/r/askTRP06/10/16 03:58 PM
1

Nothing wrong she might be excited thinking about you all week. Talk to her this Sunday and set something up. Good work so far.
/r/askTRP06/10/16 03:52 PM
1

Is it possible she missed a period and is freaking out about pregnancy (distracting herself with facebook and video games)? Showing interest in another person's issues isn't inherently blue pill. Her attitude is impacting you, so you can either ask her what's up and deal with the information or you can ignore it and tolerate it longer while applying dread. It seems like some people are afraid of having a serious conversation these days. At least with the conversation you can use the information …
/r/askTRP05/10/16 03:03 PM
1

What do you mean by walls?
/r/askTRP05/10/16 02:53 PM
1

Don't talk to her anymore. She wants to keep you around in case she can't find anyone better. I hope you don't want that kind of person around. Congrats on the gym, it takes time but feels great. Good luck.
/r/askTRP05/10/16 02:51 PM
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If you want to try it out, go for it. If you don't want a girlfriend don't do it. You won't really know what it will be like with her until you do it. Have you talked to her enough to know this is how she thinks? Also you control your actions, so if you aren't the type of guy to do "fairy tale shit" don't do "fairy tale shit". If she's expecting that from you then maybe you have already given her the wrong impression of who you are.
/r/askTRP05/10/16 02:47 PM
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The red pill is simply the awareness of how society and reality truly operate. When you take the red pill you sacrifice your blissful ignorance for understanding and perspective. What you do with it is up to you. We see MGTOW, monk modes, and self improvement because we have a desire to have meaning. It was once desirable to get married and father children because society once followed a patriarchal imperative. We could find meaning creating life; a legacy that extends beyond our mortality. With…
/r/TheRedPill03/10/16 06:38 AM
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Three questions I think are important to answer when discussing this issue. Firstly, are you a virgin? Secondly, how often do you masturbate/watch porn? Thirdly, what are your current hobbies?
/r/askTRP28/09/16 03:28 PM
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You may be dealing with a confirmation bias here. Are you white and you feel like women you are interested in prefer black men? If you ignore the many examples that go against what you believe you may have a solid case, but you can't really ignore the majority of situations when trying to form a generalization.
/r/askTRP28/09/16 02:33 PM
1

Bad boy exudes a confident self assured attitude and his body language reflects his attitude. It's not a conscious effort to control his body, its a result of having a particular mindset and the body naturally follows
/r/askTRP28/09/16 02:28 PM
2

I don't think red pill says you have to be socially well adjusted. Social competence is a learned skill and it isn't too late for you to learn. It may be more difficult now that you are not in school or other situations where you are forced to interact with people. You need to force yourself into uncomfortable situations before you will be comfortable with them. Of course I was more social growing up but in other areas where I am lacking this method is the key. Edit; a word
/r/askTRP28/09/16 01:39 PM
1

Part of meditation is presence of mind, understanding your emotions, taking time to think about your actions and mistakes, and identifying where you can improve. A lot of us turn on auto pilot and start to plateau when we lose focus on why we are doing something, distracting ourselves with short term gratifying but detrimental behaviour.
/r/askTRP28/09/16 01:36 PM
1

If you are feeling machiavellian, hone your skills demonstrate to his superior that you could do his job better with a well structured plan to improve productivity highlighting his deficient areas. Obviously you'd need to continue to perform exemplary in your current position while formulating your plot. You really can't half ass a plan like that or you may end up unemployed.
/r/askTRP28/09/16 01:30 PM
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Spoiled kids are like spoiled women; usually lazy and entitled. A generation parented by mainstream media and bad parents allows "bad" behaviours to be excused and even glorified in some situations (obesity and selfishness for instance). Basically we have become parental figures for our partners as a result because they have been free to do whatever the fuck they want these days. I think "treat women like children" really encourages: Agree and Amplify: play along with a bluff and don't dignify r…
/r/askTRP28/09/16 01:19 PM
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Of course she is happy that you give her attention and make her feel desired. You are a day away she only needs to treat you shitty enough to keep you orbitting but not too shitty to make you fall out of orbit. She may be marriage material but not for you, find another girl. Also, a relationship existing on text messages is more than likely riddled with lies and deception.
/r/askTRP28/09/16 12:55 PM
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Hindsight is 20/20; try to have some foresight next time. Don't shit where you eat. Wish I had a solution for you.
/r/askTRP28/09/16 12:46 PM
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You have to actually put in some effort to read what trp is about if you want to formulate an opinion. It is not our job to make you internalize RP.
/r/askTRP28/09/16 12:43 PM
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I don't think this particular sexual kink extends beyond porn as much as you think. My understanding is that white alpha males are more desired right now than alphas of any other race due to positive societal stereotypes. I can see the potential of your argument, but I haven't seen any definitive evidence to suggest that is the case.
/r/askTRP28/09/16 12:34 PM
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If you want a show that focuses on body language watch Lie To Me. However if you want better content and real world examples try to avoid fictional TV shows in general where everyone is acting... watch some Ted Talks
/r/askTRP28/09/16 03:10 AM
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Well if you need sex tutorials its the wrong show haha but it has a lot of Machiavellian/48 Laws of Power aspects and Harvey really is an alpha male. He commands respect with his actions, leads and dominates situations, and does well with the ladies as a result of who he is rather than acting a certain way to get women. (fake it vs. make it)
/r/askTRP27/09/16 05:47 PM
2

She provided proof that she had something to do without you asking which means she cares what you think of her to an extent. As others have pointed out, if you have very high SMV she may have told them she was busy. Having said that, with bare minimum texting and not meeting before I really don't think its a big deal that she cancelled on you. If I had something important come up I would do the same thing to a random tinder date and let them know why as early as possible out of decency. All in a…
/r/askTRP27/09/16 05:37 PM
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How was your relationship with the Boss? Did you do anything that could have been a fire-able offense? If you made him look bad, you can pretty much count yourself unemployed. It seems that in the moment you made a decision to make him look bad and now at home having thought about things and being unemployed you regret burning the bridge. edit: It might be possible to get your job back if he has a senior and you can prove to them that you are worth your weight. Just unlikely that your previous b…
/r/askTRP27/09/16 05:21 PM
1

Strong eye contact can indicate that you are paying attention, comfortable with the conversation, interested in what the other person is saying and confident in what you are saying. If you are looking at a girl across the room and she makes eye contact, looking away immediately may come across as a lack of confidence. A good way to break eye contact in this situation is to linger briefly before reluctantly pulling your eyes away to something else of importance. It suggests that you look with int…
/r/askTRP27/09/16 04:06 PM
1

Abundance mentality will come with the SMV increase. For now you will obsess over this one girl, but as you improve yourself you will find there are thousands of other girls just like her and thousands better than her. The problem with going back is that you will need to have a solid frame to change how she perceives you. Even if you become twice as attractive as you were before, if you continue to desperately give her attention she will take advantage of you.
/r/askTRP27/09/16 03:33 PM
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How I met your Mother, probably talking about Barney, but he is more entertaining than realistic in my opinion.
/r/askTRP27/09/16 03:12 PM
1

What do you mean by PG?
/r/askTRP27/09/16 03:11 PM
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Until you internalize RP use this a fuel to get your shit together. If you increase your SMV she will regret missing out on you and you can find another chick better than her
/r/askTRP27/09/16 04:33 AM
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My only advice is to do some unbiased research before you formulate your argument. If you go in looking for an article or study that supports your side then you're just doing exactly what "rape culture" propagators do when they try to justify their views. You very well will find some study somewhere that supports your view whatever it may be. If you are going to put out a controversial opinion piece, you better have multiple sources and studies that support your argument. For example, one study …
/r/askTRP27/09/16 04:09 AM
1

Plate of over a year was pulling my hand away one night because she hadn't shaved. I told her I didn't care and we carried on.
/r/askTRP26/09/16 05:23 PM
2

Everyone on the red pill is a consumer of information and very select people have been endorsed for their contributions. So maybe as an endorsed contributor you contribute some useful information coupled with your criticism. If you think he's passive then give him some constructive criticism in a digestible format. If you think there's any merit to the question give him some reasonable actionable advice. I would argue that observing concepts visually can be a powerful tool in learning. Televisio…
/r/askTRP25/09/16 02:02 PM
2

Harvey Specter from Suits. Alpha with ladies and pretty much every interpersonal interaction.
/r/askTRP25/09/16 01:22 PM
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Dude, don't make any rash decisions, take some time to breath, really think about things and talk to someone. What you are going through is common on this subreddit; we are all here because of shit like that. Let us support you man, you are better than this situation, you will conquer it. Dude my brother is 26 and graduated from school and teachers college and doesn't have a job lined up and doesn't live on his own yet. You are not a failure, you can still do so much with your life. I'm 22 and I…
/r/askTRP23/09/16 03:05 AM
1

Master the English language and work on your physical appearance. It is harder to close girls if you happen to exemplify the negative stereotypes of your appearance. When it comes to attracting women, smarts and a good personality packaged in a frail nerdy frame overcome by shyness loses every time to the same smarts and personality packaged in a strong athletic frame emanating confidence. People make a number of snap decisions during the first meeting/exchange. Be the best version of yourself e…
/r/askTRP21/09/16 04:13 AM
1

Girls don't want to lead the interaction. They want you to lead and they want you to be comfortable leading the interaction which allows them to feel comfortable. After she put up with the first guy it would have been obvious to me that she would politely engage in conversation at the very least and there was really nothing to lose. Hopefully you learn from this instance and do something about it the next time. Just strike up a friendly conversation and roll with it.
/r/askTRP18/09/16 04:20 AM
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I've been through it and I'm sure many others have. I think it's part of the anger phase. My reaction to the concepts here has led me to almost fear sexual activity with women due to false rape claims and stds. I had upgraded a plate to an LTR but I felt like I couldn't trust her and we broke up after about a month. I might not be able to trust a woman again. The last two in depth conversations I had with women only made me more disinterested. They both go on and on about how the past shouldn't …
/r/askTRP18/09/16 04:02 AM
1

If she agreed to come without her friend, then she may have been trying to get a sense of what expectations you have. I'm assuming you made it clear that its a date or you implied a sexual environment. Like when she first mentions the friend coming, you made a cheeky comment about being pleasantly surprised by her offer for a 3 way. If she cancels now its a clear sign that she isn't interested in you sexually and simply wants to keep you around for when she's feeling lonely. If she comes alone a…
/r/askTRP13/09/16 09:33 PM
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Sketchy but possible would be to leverage yourself into a promotion or pay raise with her sexual desire. But it's a big risk that could damage your professional reputation if something were to go wrong (very likely). Best to slowly fade out without stirring up negative emotions that could hurt your future career. Keep the BJ story in the chamber if she tries to pull anything shitty on you. "If I go down, you go down with me" style. And we already know she "goes down" easy
/r/askTRP03/09/16 06:08 AM
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It's difficult to groom a plate if they don't really want to be with you. Usually you use dread game and withhold attention and affection but that only works if they care about your attention and affection. The point is you can't discipline a plate who doesn't respect you or seeks your approval. Improve your SMV and be a leader who doesn't have time to prod or discuss the details over and over till they warm up to the plan. You set a time and a place if she can't make it and doesn't counter offe…
/r/askTRP03/09/16 06:00 AM
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Different perspective to think about. You dip your paddle and skedaddle. Boyfriend finds out and does something stupid against you rather than his "perfect" girlfriend. She'll find a way to paint it as your fault or his, say you had drinks and "got her drunk or something" or he wasn't man enough. He forgives her and seeks revenge either in her defense or to prove to his woman that he is a "real man" so she won't cheat again.
/r/askTRP03/09/16 05:46 AM
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Inviting yourself over was a weird move and unnecessary, probably where this interaction died. Maybe give us a bit more info about your "escalation" if you want more accurate feedback. What did she say that made you think you should say I'm coming over EDIT: bit**
/r/askTRP03/09/16 05:38 AM
1

Regardless it might just be empty in Canada because no one I know has had any success on it and they all swear by tinder. You also didn't mention your track record on it. How have you done on bumble in terms of women you met up with?
/r/askTRP02/09/16 10:31 PM
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I have a theory that Bumble is full of fake hot female profiles. I rarely looked through normal girl's profiles, but most of the hot ones worked at like the same "USA Today" and other repeating jobs that didn't make sense as a Canadian user. They also had a lot of professional looking photos on the hot accounts. There were a few unattractive girls that hit me up, who I had seen on tinder before. My buddy is top 5% male and kills it in day to day and tinder but said Bumble was awful for him. What…
/r/askTRP02/09/16 04:25 PM
1

Usually people use drugs and alcohol as a social lubricant or liquid courage. They really want to have fun and try new things but their inexperience and insecurities make them anxious. Being a fun person trumps being a fun drunk. If you are down to party and dance and make the occasional mistake without alcohol or weed, all the more power to you. If you aren't enjoying yourself you don't have to go. That being said drink water, juice, pop, whatever you want and hang out. Side note: You might not…
/r/askTRP02/09/16 03:57 PM
2

I've been on a date in a place of weakness, desperation, and self doubt and it is a bad vibe to give off on a date. If you spend the whole date trying to justify and prove how great you to force an outcome it can ruin her perception of you. Be confident with yourself have her do most of the talking without grilling or interrogating her. A good sense of humour and teasing can be a nice way to ease the mood. Try to find natural ways to break the touch boundary and build comfort. You can start the …
/r/askTRP02/09/16 03:26 PM
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Basic: Picture that shows off your face clearly in a good way. Cheeky grin or sincere smile or serious. Minimalistic Bio (maybe include your height) Bonus: Picture of you doing something without a shirt on that makes sense contextually, not a bathroom selfie. -- FITNESS AND STRENGTH Picture with an attractive woman or women who look like they are interested in you and/or touching you in a "lover" rather than a "friendly" way. -- SOCIAL PROOF It's not a foolproof profile it all comes down to rela…
/r/askTRP02/09/16 02:56 PM
1

Cheaters tend to be deceitful, lack honour and respect and are generally selfish. It isn't slut shaming, they are judging her based on her actions that define her as a bad person not necessarily a slut. Slut shaming is knee jerk reaction (to the modern sterile relationship norms) that hopes to revert back to the nuclear family and societal relationship norms that built the western world up to its heights. However casual sex, contraceptives, and abortion are growing in popularity. Society is adap…
/r/askTRP02/09/16 02:25 PM
2

A lot of people would say go ahead and burn the bridge if you really have abundance mentality. Never go back is another popular opinion on here as well.
/r/askTRP01/09/16 10:16 PM
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She's a plate, hit her up only when you are in town. Not sure if you really need to be told this but if she reaches out first treat her like a plate not girlfriend.
/r/askTRP01/09/16 10:01 PM
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"Let me know when you want a man friend." Not mine and never tested, but I chuckled when I first heard it.
/r/TheRedPill31/08/16 09:33 PM
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Sometimes it helps to hit rock bottom. If you are having a hard time starting everything at once, make a list of habits you want to implement in your life. At the beginning of each week, start doing one good habit and drop one bad habit. Reading can help outline what is a good behaviour and a bad behaviour, but you really just need to follow through on things. Even if you set up reward or punishment based systems to "motivate" you it takes discipline to stick to your word. Unless you want to pay…
/r/askTRP31/08/16 08:32 PM
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Sometimes the truth is hard to swallow. You may not be attractive, but you will certainly have more success if you lift and get in great shape. It sounds like your self confidence is struggling a bit, lifting will improve your confidence. Also rejection isn't always a loss, that kind of approach really is a numbers game, it's better to count your successes than your failures. It's great that you have been confident enough to approach and you even scored a date, that's a great start and shows pro…
/r/askTRP30/08/16 03:33 AM
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I met and brought home every tinder date that I met at a pub/bar for drinks and conversation. Alcohol is a bit of a crutch that I'm trying to drop by raising my SMV. Alcohol can make escalation go really smoothly and help you get out of your comfort zone but the end goal would be self sufficiency with SMV and game. I have had about 50% success with coffee dates but I don't even drink coffee so it always felt a bit stupid.
/r/askTRP30/08/16 03:02 AM
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Depending on where you are and who else is around, your SMV can be interpreted higher or lower. If girls have access to higher quality guys than you they will go for it. When you are in high school, it's hard to change the way people think about you. However every year there is a fresh wave of younger girls who want to date older guys who know nothing about your past obesity or beta behaviour. Also, simply having a car will increase your appeal over guys of similar SMV. The grade 9 and 10 girls …
/r/askTRP29/08/16 04:01 PM
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I think your problem here was having an aggressive sexual energy in the first meeting and then not meeting her sexual expectations when you were on the date. I've done this to myself with a tinder girl. I'm overtly sexual, fun and mysterious over text and portray that attitude with my pictures. Then we meet and I'm too reserved and pursue deeper conversation topics without sexual escalating. This one is over, any further efforts you make will make you seem more desperate and weak. Next one will …
/r/askTRP27/08/16 10:25 PM
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Not sure if you are still reading responses, you can do better than this chick. You won't forget about this, it will bother you and mess with your relationship. "Am I satisfying her at all in bed?", "Will she look somewhere else to find satisfaction?" There are better girls out there - probably not on tinder. Regardless you may need to step up your bedroom game to help solidify the relationship with the better girl when you find her. You had plenty of answers before you posted here, and you knew…
/r/askTRP25/08/16 02:23 AM
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TRP doesn't care what colour you are or where you are from. There are frequently posts telling people that regardless your of skin colour, height, general appearance you can follow the guidelines and improve yourself physically, mentally and sexually. Usually the only racial posts we see involve someone saying they can't get women because they are X (Indian, Black, Asian) and that they need special advice because they look different.
/r/askTRP22/08/16 01:25 PM
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Number 8 is critical, there's no point being in a relationship with someone who has different values in life than you. Having different interests is not a problem, but when you want and value different things in life it is hard to be an effective team. The other aspect is physical attraction, there are going to be a number of girls with similar values as you, but if you aren't attracted to them you will find it difficult to hold a strong relationship.
/r/askTRP22/08/16 01:14 PM
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Did any of them give you a BJ?
/r/askTRP22/08/16 01:03 PM
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This is a poor excuse, "me" is a very fluid concept that can change on a whim. Take a few minutes and think about how you behave and act around this person. Be objective. You have to put in the effort of identifying your own behaviour before we can properly advise you in any meaningful way.
/r/askTRP22/08/16 12:59 PM
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Not to shoot down your ego, but when I use tinder I swipe right without looking. Then I sort through matches to see who's worth talking to. It's certainly possible to match with a girl who uses the same technique as I do. However, if they message first its typically a clear IOI
/r/askTRP22/08/16 01:01 AM
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While I understand your actions, I don't think content should be blindly up voted simply because the title proposes a scenario that meets your expectations and validates red pill principles. We should encourage red pillers to seek and value truth, not blindly accept articles as fact simply because they support red pill philosophies. So many causes will quote "statistics" and provide examples of misbehaviour without verifying the sources or data simply because it conveniently supports their case …
/r/TheRedPill21/08/16 03:25 AM
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Nothing is wrong with having emotions. Humans are emotional beings. What matters is how you deal with your emotions. Emotions are temporary feelings and typically a response to outside stimuli (reactionary). Humans also have the gift of logic, which allows us to understand what is making us "feel" a certain emotion. It is important to understand our emotions, but avoid making decisions strictly based on how you "feel". For example: Stoicism is a great tool to deal with anger. Anger typically occ…
/r/askTRP20/08/16 02:17 PM
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When it comes to roommates or work place relationships (both of which we avoid for these reasons). I'd recommend being amicable but don't put any effort in to the relationship. Polite and respectful but nothing more.
/r/askTRP20/08/16 02:05 PM
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I don't look at stories; I send pics, I receive pics. I don't care what they broadcast to all their contacts.
/r/askTRP18/08/16 02:16 AM
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If your SMV is in acceptable shape and you lead the encounters with a confident non judgmental unapologetic attitude about sexuality it's like shooting fish in a barrel. It doesn't matter what they talk about; you don't need to know a thing about Snapchat or instagram or what meme is hilarious right now. They really just want fun with no consequences and sexual experiences with "real men" so they can feel valuable. Thank society for the shit show that is my generation.
/r/askTRP18/08/16 02:05 AM
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Let us know what you end up doing and the results.
/r/askTRP17/08/16 10:31 PM
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She's going crazy because you aren't making any aggressive moves. You tend to ask her what she means when she's clearly flirting with you. She wants to "punch" you because you are being stupid. Ask her out on a date, if she doesn't want to then move on from her as a romantic interest. You seem to know she's attracted to you so just be the leader and take things in a more sexual direction by going for a real date. Try to text a little bit less as well, it seems from the pictures the more you say …
/r/askTRP17/08/16 02:55 PM
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A lot of younger girls want to be treated as women who are sexy and sexually empowered. A lot of younger guys want to treat them like amazing people who are special for everything other than than their sexuality, but they really want older guys to acknowledge and encourage their sexual behaviour. Just my experience, feel free to counter or add to my argument.
/r/askTRP17/08/16 02:40 PM
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Step one delete her on facebook. Sometimes we have anchors or infected roots impeding our progress. Cut these people off. Block her on everything. If your gut eats you up about the suicide threats you could tell one of her friends or family members to watch out for her as you will no longer be involved.
/r/askTRP17/08/16 02:33 PM
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Might not be the case for you but I recall a scenario where the girl said I'm going to bed and waited for the guy to come into her bedroom to fuck her but he never did because he didn't think to do that. Some girls want to fuck but want plausible deniability so they don't feel like sluts; he showed up at my bedroom door, saw me in my underwear, and things just happened. Something to think about or try. They probably don't want to appear slutty or home wreck in front of other people. They are eit…
/r/askTRP17/08/16 02:27 PM
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Change is slow. We may gain knowledge of concepts quickly and understanding can come shortly after. When we try to apply this new understanding to our lives we consciously "fake it". It takes time to fully take things to heart and apply them subconsciously. Part of the change is truly accepting the improved version of yourself as "you". It's good that you started applying things early on, but pace yourself and focus your efforts. Your old behaviours are not "you", you know better now. It's hard …
/r/TheRedPill17/08/16 12:09 AM
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A first mate should feel comfortable bringing issues up with the captain. A good captain should be reasonable but not easily swayed from his course. You can suggest alternatives or work together to come up with a better solution. After making your case, he'll make the final decision. Ultimately you let him set the course and you decide whether or not to jump ship.
/r/askTRP16/08/16 09:22 PM
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I prefer to be straight up. I have clearly told her and demonstrated to her that I take fitness seriously and that it's important for my LTR to take care of her body. I think this approach is only viable if you have established a frame where you would confidently walk away from the relationship if things aren't up to your standards. Obviously it's one thing to agree and another to actually improve yourself. You can't really force them to change if they don't want to, but they are even less likel…
/r/askTRP16/08/16 02:25 AM
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It's difficult to lead if she thinks she knows better in all cases. Be life smart. Learn the important things about a relationship and demonstrate confidence in your abilities. Make the important decisions and be capable at fixing problems (changing a flat tire, navigating, basic repairs, cooking for yourself, making plans, financial planning etc.) All of this comes from learning and experience though. This probably applies more to marriage, but being a competent leader is a valuable life skill …
/r/askTRP12/08/16 03:38 PM
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I feel you. I was fortunate that my best friend always had similar views as me so we both got into Red Pill when we first found it. A few weeks ago, he went home with a girl from a club for the first time ever. His confidence skyrocketed. I have cut off old friends who are toxic and keep red pill theory to myself with certain friends after gauging their reactions. You should focus on teaming up with the friends who share the same goals as you without alienating the friends who don't agree with y…
/r/askTRP12/08/16 03:09 PM
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Stoicism. Acknowledge the way things are and choose to be unaffected by them emotionally. You don't get mad at a dog for eating a plate of food that you carelessly left in its reach, it is simply the dog's nature. Take smart action based on this kmowledge and reap what you sow.
/r/askTRP12/08/16 01:42 PM
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People don't like it when other people's actions and words are not aligned. If you claim to be awesome you damn well better be awesome. It's better to let your actions do the talking. As they say: "A King shouldn't have to tell people that he's the King."
/r/askTRP12/08/16 01:20 PM
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Ok I cringed hard and yelled "are you fucking serious?" at my screen when I read the one hour each foot rub and back massage part. I had to read it again two more times to make sure I didn't read incorrectly. First off even if you were getting completely satisfied (which you aren't) that's way too much comfort. That's a special day kind of routine there, think valentine's, mother's day or birthday... you are happily wasting 14 hours a week of your precious time making your wife lose respect for …
/r/MarriedRedPill11/08/16 08:09 PM
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Since you already have a good answer I'll offer a flip, when it comes to waitresses or bartenders they might be fishing for a tip. Regardless chat them up and see where you can take things.
/r/askTRP11/08/16 03:43 AM
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Stop taking the easy ones haha
/r/askTRP11/08/16 03:36 AM
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It will only bother you more once it's long distance. Learn to accept that you can't control her and that you can't force attraction. Read up a bit on stoicism. I'd recommend you keep working on yourself. I would tell you to drop her, but sometimes you need to get hurt before you really learn your lesson. I'd hate for you to waste some of the most fun and influential years of your life feeling miserable in an LDR with an immature partner. You sound like a decent catch, you can definitely do bett…
/r/askTRP11/08/16 03:34 AM
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I've always been viewed as non-threatening. Girls I just meet have told me way too much about themselves. However not a single one of them wanted to fuck me, it was more like therapy to them. Dark triad would suggest a non judgemental unapologetic narcissistic attitude. I think the best way to be successful is to be physically attractive, establish comfortable physical contact (escalate to sexual if they are comfortable with your touch) and make them laugh. Always leave at an apex of feelings if…
/r/askTRP11/08/16 03:24 AM
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I think the real value comes from the self discipline and control. When you are in control of your reactionary urges, whatever they may be (sexual, dietary, emotional, etc.) you feel more in control of your life so to speak. I think this sense of control leads to increased self confidence which impacts other aspects of your life. I haven't given it a real try (I'm only two weeks in), however this interpretation makes a lot of sense to me. Let me know what you think.
/r/askTRP11/08/16 02:40 AM
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My response is based on the fact that I'm not a supporter of strip clubs, but I could see my friends planning something like that and buying me lap dances. I would tell my fiance what happened just as he did. I could very well picture some friend threatening to tell my future wife even though I wouldn't try to hide it in the first place. It's very difficult to get an objective non biased perspective of the events from the brother of the future bride, especially if he's only heard the details fro…
/r/askTRP09/08/16 07:02 PM
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Is it a fitness thing? You could discuss the importance of fitness as one of your core values and demonstrate it by keeping in good shape yourself. If it's something she can't change, you either decide to accept it or you walk away.
/r/askTRP09/08/16 06:52 PM
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You can't force attraction. OmLaLas minimalistic guide works great when you are sitting in a position of higher SMV. Sometimes a little bit of playful banter to break the ice will help prevent ASD for the cute girls. If they decline a proposed meet up and don't express intent to arrange another, move on; they simply aren't interested in anything more than your attention.
/r/askTRP09/08/16 02:52 AM
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Sounds like your sister is overreacting. It isn't uncommon for guys to do the strip club or some sort of final hurrah before settling down. He also told her straight up which is commendable. If she's willing to end things over this they had deeper problems to begin with.
/r/askTRP09/08/16 02:41 AM
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I have been trapped in cycles of instant gratification, and it's difficult to see your goals clearly or find any motivation to leave. One day while really thinking about things, I felt deeply ashamed of my behaviour and realized I hated what I was doing to myself. First thing I did was talk to my friends and family about what I was going through. Started investing in myself by working out, reading, going outside to play soccer which I loved growing up. Now I'm readmitted to my engineering progra…
/r/askTRP05/08/16 03:22 AM
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Don't doubt yourself, it's not weird. She even told you she was interested in meeting up again. Get out of your own way buddy :) good luck
/r/askTRP05/08/16 03:05 AM
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The one comment they use to represent the Red Pill in a newspaper or article
/r/askTRP26/07/16 03:26 PM
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It's not a problem.
/r/askTRP26/07/16 02:57 PM
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Good work! Don't get comfy, keep on working hard and you'll continue to see positive changes. Good luck!
/r/TheRedPill25/07/16 11:05 PM
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Dude you've posted at lesst twice about the same HB8 chick. The key difference is that a higher quality chick will require a higher quality you meaning your frame needs to be absolutely impeccable when your smv is not equal to or greater than hers. With the lower quality girl, your higher smv pulls way more weight and you can get away with more slip ups in your frame.
/r/TheRedPill22/07/16 09:02 PM
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I think you made a mistake by talking too much about your other plate with her. Everything you told her suggests that you think she's better than your other plate. When she knows you like her more she'll demand more from you and push her limits. I would have only told her there was a party and that we are going together, I wouldn't mention that I'm already set to go with someone else. By telling her you picked her over another chick (with plans already set) you are entering her frame and giving …
/r/askTRP20/07/16 07:49 PM
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I'm not saying be a complete dick about it but don't be overly concerned about the outcome
/r/askTRP19/07/16 02:02 AM
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Tell Jane, she's a 5 and easily replaceable. She surely will not break if you have told the truth about how much she adores you. You say you have abundance mentality and you know what you really want so just do it. Edit: rewording
/r/askTRP18/07/16 11:57 PM
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I think kino is an important aspect that often is left out if you aren't aware of its importance. Knowledge is a big part of success, but application is the finishing touch. Of course real life experience is the best way to apply the knowledge gained from reading these responses.
/r/askTRP15/07/16 10:46 PM
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Sounds like a great opportunity for you, good work so far. I'd recommend establishing some comfortable kino with them early on and escalating as you see their responsiveness. It really can't hurt to talk up other girls while you are there. If possible always leave on a high note (after you do something that makes them laugh or visibly excited) so they miss you while you are away. Good luck.
/r/askTRP15/07/16 10:15 PM
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Revenge is a poison meant for the other person to consume but is consumed by you instead. She does not give a fuck about you. You allowed yourself to be led on, as I and many others have. Accept responsibility for what happened to you because of you; work on YOU. She is shitty and you shouldn't care what she thinks. Sure she will think about you when you fuck up her life, but that just lowers you to her level, doesn't change the past and does nothing for your future. The true victory is when you…
/r/askTRP13/07/16 03:52 PM
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No response, no response to any follow up. You don't owe her anything.
/r/askTRP12/07/16 09:47 PM
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Yeah I had a similar feeling as well.
/r/askTRP12/07/16 03:10 PM
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This is a great example of a common mistake people make when working on themselves. We find a new perspective on things and force ourselves to act differently than we are accustomed to; we "fake it" till we "make it". Sometimes we observe substantial improvements in our life during the fake it stage and as a result, we stop before we truly make it. It's good to reflect and see where we went wrong. I've made plenty of mistakes and I have no regrets because each one teaches me something moving for…
/r/TheRedPill05/07/16 06:38 PM
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I just want to point out that you rounded 234 to "about 300". Just be careful misrepresenting data to support a perspective. We want to avoid committing the same errors that we laugh at when women do it. Edit: clarification
/r/TheRedPill30/06/16 12:46 PM
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You can definitely get in good shape doing crossfit but I personally think it's overpriced. Crossfit offers the community aspect which might appeal to you if you have a hard time socializing or self motivating. My brother is a crossfit coach and is in great shape and quite muscular. However, I think his personal workouts are structured much differently than the typical classes. He definitely hits the weights hard in his workouts. You'll have to think about what you want out of your workouts. Cro…
/r/askTRP29/06/16 10:07 PM
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By no means am I even close to where I want to be yet but I do have one plate who has taught me a lot about attraction. This girl was drinking with her friends and we were going to meet up at a special bar event. The line up was way too long so my friends and I left to do our own thing but her and her friends had special tickets and got in. She offered to bail on her friends or to get them to meet us at another bar. I told her to have fun with her friends and we would meet up after. When I was d…
/r/askTRP28/06/16 01:54 PM
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If you are seriously suicidal go talk to a professional. You need to accept the things you cannot change and change the things you can. You are 5'8". You are Indian.You have shitty parents. You are unattractive. You have no friends. You are a victim. You can't change the first three. You can change the last three. Continue working out and try to adjust your fashion and style. You need to avoid complaining. It's important to know what your problems are, but keep them to yourself (again if you are…
/r/askTRP27/06/16 07:40 PM
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Thanks for posting, this question provides a good example of the problems faced when texting for more than logistics. We establish our frame predominantly in person. When we read other people's texts, we tend to interpret things based on our expectations of the other person. We read their words through the same filter with which we view the other person. Tone and intention is inferred by the reader. You may read her texts and make excuses for her if you like her, where as a third party might say…
/r/askTRP27/06/16 04:16 PM
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I don't think the other comments quite capture the essence of your question. Red Pill does not hold a moral stance. You can apply it morally based on the lens to which you hold your morality as far as I understand. The focus is on self improvement and some things will mesh well from red pill while others may not. You should be able to be a confident leader in interactions with women without violating any standards of your religion as far as I am concerned. You may not find success with women who…
/r/askTRP23/06/16 03:09 AM
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I think this is testament that you view them as higher smv and they view you as lower smv. It's easy to blame them and change nothing about ourselves, but if you take responsibility for the outcome, you can use it as motivation for continued self improvement. Picture a girl thinking about things like yourself; you both want to get the best quality mate available to you. She might think she can do better than you but will settle for you in certain scenarios just as you might settle for a 7 when y…
/r/askTRP22/06/16 08:19 PM
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I think you should be very careful about this. It is typically advised that you should not hook up with Coworkers. Some people manage it without any issues so if you do think she is physically attracted to you, you could try to escalate. If she really made you a fake name on her phone and you speak in other languages it either means she wants to hook up secretly or she wants to keep you around for comfort without upsetting her boyfriend. The fact she labels you as a player gives her plausible de…
/r/askTRP22/06/16 02:34 AM
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I didn't cry when my dog got put down, but I did when Gandalf the Grey dies in Lord of the Rings. Something about sacrificing ones life for others makes me choke up more often than anything else. I also tear up watching great moments in athletics. Something about awesome human achievements is beautiful to me. I think part of this is my desire to live a life that has meaning beyond death; to create or achieve or do something that fundamentally impacts something greater than myself. I think crying…
/r/askTRP21/06/16 05:04 AM
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I think you need professional help for your anxiety and jealousy. You cheated on your "girlfriend" and now you are afraid to lose her. Clearly you can find another girl if it doesn't work out so there's no need to panic. Your behaviour is going to push her further if you keep acting this way. This is not a bad thing it seems that losing her will help you deal with your issues. If you have any thoughts of self harm or continued issues with anxiety go find a professional. It's good that you found …
/r/askTRP20/06/16 08:56 PM
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A lot of people on here talk about leaving friends behind. I would simply say if this friend is worth it I would put in a reasonable amount of effort into helping them. However, don't let it affect your progression. If I was lost I would hope my friends would tell me to wake the fuck up. My understanding is that this guy thinks he couldn't get a better girl or he's invested so much he shouldn't leave or he considers it his duty to save that woman. I would sit him down, address his problems and r…
/r/askTRP20/06/16 01:50 PM
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Thanks for commenting, I definitely agree with most of the points you've made. The only thing I would point out us that I've been fine in the past but I think they were essentially less attractive. I need to continue practicing with progressively higher quality women as I work on myself. I found it very easy to escalate when I viewed myself as the more valuable individual in a meet up. This time my frame crumbled and I seemed desperate, weak and over invested. Always nice to come to TRP and get …
/r/askTRP17/06/16 11:09 PM
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Indeed, thanks for the suggestions
/r/askTRP17/06/16 07:22 PM
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Well I didn't see a scenario where we could have hooked up that night because her mom was going to pick her up and I couldn't bring her home to my parents place. I have usually only applied kino when I would close in the same night. I see now that it would have helped with her perception of me for a later date where we could hook up.
/r/askTRP17/06/16 06:48 PM
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Thanks for the insight. I appreciate the in depth analysis and agree with you on a lot of that. Yeah it was easier to escalate back to my place when I lived on my own but I'll be living here till at least the end of the summer. So maybe just two and a half months of pure self improvement before even thinking of trying to pull girls.
/r/askTRP17/06/16 05:07 PM
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Thanks for input I'll think about what you said
/r/askTRP17/06/16 03:40 PM
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The point I am driving is denial of the issue. Its very easy to justify our own behaviour. You describe a plate relationship yet you call her your girlfriend and you are putting up with way more shit than necessary. If you're just in it for the sex and meals, then who cares if shes talking to other guys. If you want an LTR with this girl you will be dealing with this shit or new shit for the remainder of the relationship. Take some time to figure out what you really want. In my experience we usu…
/r/askTRP13/06/16 03:50 PM
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I see that months after identifying the problem and seeing no improvement you are still where you were and haven't accepted it. I have been there myself. I was addicted to video games. I kept telling myself that it wasn't a problem and that I could play and still be successful. Every so often I would say I need to quit this I'm wasting so much time. But to quit is to admit that I am weak. It means that I acknowledge my weakness as a part of me. Quitting also means all of my invested time is lost…
/r/askTRP12/06/16 02:58 AM
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As many people on that thread mentioned, your girlfriend has not only admitted but glamorizes the fact that she is selfish. She uses him for information as she uses you for whatever you provide her. She cares more about keeping that guy around than having a solid relationship with you. It's not even a trust issue, she clearly cares more about herself than you. She probably hasn't made an effort to view the situation from your perspective and if she has she doesn't care. Some girls aren't worth i…
/r/askTRP12/06/16 01:21 AM
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She's started using you as an emotional tampon since you can't satisfy her physical desires over an LDR. She's likely found someone else who she would like to fuck (possibly already has been fucking) at that New Year's Party. I think the best course of action is to break up with her without giving her any closure. Don't tell her why, don't ask any questions, don't make any accusations. Calmly tell her it's over, and try to have a fun time with friends and family. If you insist on remaining in th…
/r/askTRP09/12/15 12:21 AM
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If they are actually physically attracted to you they should respond to any opener you might use. The main problem with tinder for new red pillers is that a lot of girls will swipe right and just talk to you when they're bored or looking for validation. As many people suggested, just keep working on you (lifting, etc). Come back when you are more attractive and confident. If you are worried too much about what you need to say in every scenario, then you probably aren't ready yet. I just got into…
/r/askTRP20/10/15 10:28 AM
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I think "superficial" puts the wrong spin on it. It takes a lot of hard work and discipline to look that good. People can see this when they look at you.
/r/askTRP19/10/15 02:53 AM
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I'm not sure if I can help you at all, but I wanted to thank you for making this post. I am 21 and it seems that I am much like you were around my age (did well in highschool, played sports, plenty of friends, etc). I also dropped out of a Civil Engineering degree at the top Engineering university in my country. Like you I wasted countless hours playing video games to the extent of impacting other areas of my life. Right now I am looking for a passion to base my career on and am working a full t…
/r/askTRP12/09/15 01:32 PM
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I think approaching at the gym is still valid. As long as he doesn't do anything to make her feel uncomfortable he should be fine. You are just as easily going to come across as a "creeper" on a train or in the gym. Regardless, the important thing that we both agree on is that he actually has to do something. Generate a conversation, either at the gym, waiting for the train, on the train, etc. Even if it doesn't lead to what you want, you will be slightly more comfortable with that type of appro…
/r/askTRP24/05/15 04:02 PM
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Yes, she sounds interested. It's okay to give it a shot now. Abundance mentality, don't get hung up on her if it doesn't pan out the way you hope. If I were in your position, I'd ask her to meet for drinks/coffee somewhere not too far from my place. I would talk about things unrelated to the class and get her comfortable with my touch. I would pay for myself and let her pay for herself. If she seems chill I would invite her back to my place for some harmless reason (see my amazing place, more dr…
/r/askTRP24/05/15 05:23 AM
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You seem to have an issue with talking to her when she is walking by (which, if I am picturing the scenario properly, makes sense). I would suggest approaching her at the gym when she is supervising. You can do it at the start of your work out if you are concerned with sweatiness. Although maybe a good "pump" will increase your attractiveness haha Good luck approaching.
/r/askTRP24/05/15 04:59 AM
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Hey, I wouldn't break up just because you think you will be missing out on something great. It depends on what you are looking for. Part of the problem is that you don't know what you really want at this age. I think the main thing is to become the man you want to be, if she doesn't interfere with those goals and aspirations, you have no reason to drop her.
/r/askTRP19/05/15 05:53 PM
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Don't let it bother you, move on to the next. If you think you messed up, you have bigger problems to deal with right now. It sounds like you interpreted what she said correctly and took action. Sounds like a good start. I have had girls take two months to get back to me on tinder and now she is a plate, don't read into it too much.
/r/askTRP19/05/15 05:41 PM
You can kill a man, but you can't kill an idea.

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