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Thank you for the feedback! I hope you make a post after the trip and let us know how things go. I wish you the very best. :)
/r/RedPillWomen23/12/17 08:35 PM
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Of course, makes total sense. :)
/r/RedPillWomen23/12/17 08:19 PM
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Thank you so much for the feedback! I felt very strongly about your reading, confident in what the cards were saying I guess, and even more so because it matches the advice I would give you if this were a normal advice thread. I looked at your comment history after I wrote my reply to you, and I see that you discovered RPW about a year ago, that you have a very colorful path. I think it's your self perceived 'late arrival' to the community that also adds to your sense of urgency and stress. I wi…
/r/RedPillWomen23/12/17 08:18 PM
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I did three, three card spreads. The first set of three cards focuses on your boyfriend, the second set of three cards focuses on the other man. Boyfriend Card 1: what can change IV The Emperor. This card is about creating order out of chaos, authority, leadership, strength, growth, establishing law and order. This is a powerful and masculine card. The emperor is a man rooted in his was and confident in the structures and ways of things. The story that accompanies this card, for the deck I use, …
/r/RedPillWomen23/12/17 09:40 AM
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I'm so glad to hear that! I've really been enjoying the process of drawing cards for people...though I am currently feeling a bit of fatigue, which I guess I didn't expect. I work long hours, but this is definitely a different kind of tiredness, I feel it emotionally in a way. I really hope the reading provides you with insights that allow you to move forward with confidence and compassion. :) Thank you for the response, and if you have questions in the future, please feel free to shoot me a PM!…
/r/RedPillWomen23/12/17 07:31 AM
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I'm going through and adding my own readings this week as well. I did a three card spread for you. The first card represents you, the second card represents the gentleman, and the last card represents the relationship. You Nine of Pentacles: Pentacles are associated with the element of earth, and deal with the sphere of matter. Nine in numerology The number 9 is considered to be feminine and introvert. The related planet is Uranus and it is related to the star sign Sagittarius. The Tarot card re…
/r/RedPillWomen23/12/17 02:33 AM
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I'm using this to practice my own understanding of tarot, feedback is welcome! I did a three card spread for you that reads as follows: (1) opportunities, (2) challenges, and (3) outcome. Opportunities Knight of Cups: Cups are associated with the element of water, sphere of the spirit. The deck I use depicts a man riding a unicorn. In mythology, unicorns are creatures of purity, magic and innocence. Only virgins could draw unicorns out (untouched, innocent, and pure women). The job is new to you…
/r/RedPillWomen23/12/17 01:49 AM
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I'm responding to people as well, simply because I enjoy tarot and I like the practice. :) I am doing a three card spread for you. Card 1 will represent you, Card 2 your current path, and card three your potential. You King of Pentacles: this suit is has an affinity with the element of earth, and deals with the sphere of matter. The King is the 14th card. Number 14 is a karmic number and these people need to learn independence, self-initiative, unity and justice. Their great need in life is to a…
/r/RedPillWomen23/12/17 01:01 AM
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I laughed as soon as I submitted my comment actually, because it went from no responses by you, to every comment responded to! :) My intent was to help since you're a bit busy, and also to practice. I've been doing a lot of work on my own, and was just struck by inspiration to give it a try. If it bothers you, please let me know. I actually keep a journal, and this is a fun way to do directed research. I love these threads and you have helped me in the past without question. I really don't mean …
/r/RedPillWomen23/12/17 12:27 AM
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I apologize if I am overstepping or intruding, I don't proclaim to know nearly as much as /u/ThatStepfordGal. I have an interest in tarot and have recently been studying it more, if it's all right with you, I can tell you what I came up with. :) I did a three card draw. Reversed cards can be read many different ways: (1) as an obstacle or energy block, (2) a reversed card's meaning should be amplified and paid special attention to, (3) normal orientation can represent the external world and exte…
/r/RedPillWomen23/12/17 12:14 AM
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You are pursuing a man with severe red flags, and behaving like a plate. You think you're 'punishing' him by playing quiet? He's not bothered, and he isn't invested. When a man wants you, he won't hem and haw over what you are to him. He'll lock you down. Run.
/r/RedPillWomen22/12/17 10:51 PM
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How did you find out that he does this? Personally, my SO can look at anything and everything of mine. He has my passwords to social media and reddit, I don't hide any of my journals, and I regularly share things with him. If he checks things, I don't know about it. However, we talked about boundaries early on, and then again when we moved in together. I am a private person with everyone, but he is my exception. He holds a position in my life afforded to no one else and we talk about everything.…
/r/RedPillWomen20/12/17 08:29 PM
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I understand the idea, but this comment also implies that men aren't right there alongside women, being just as average, below average, and obese. It's not a 'women are getting fat' issue though, it's an 'everyone is getting obese younger and more severely than in the past' issue. Men as a whole are not all walking around with chiseled abs and perfect bodies either, and women are 'accepting that' too. I really abhor 'go girl' type comments, but overly simplistic and incomplete ideas have to be a…
/r/RedPillWomen20/12/17 04:23 AM
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Not exactly what long term successful and happy marriages are built on...
/r/RedPillWomen19/12/17 07:29 PM
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I am sorry you MIL is sick, that must be very difficult, especially for your husband. If you've never given your child a wet cloth before, I don't see how it could cause issues later though, especially if you just wring it out so that it doesn't drip everywhere. Your MIL is fighting a losing battle, that means she doesn't have a 'lane' and that the last thing your H will ever want to do is argue or disagree with her. You will be able to sleep later, and this is a temporary issue. Keep things in …
/r/RedPillWomen19/12/17 04:31 PM
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Hahaha me too! I wash my hair under cold water now, so that has helped with that issue, and I don't shampoo my hair every day. With typing I just remind myself to hit the key with the tip of my actual finger and not the nail. It's easier if I am keeping my nails short though, any amount of length will make me slower at a lot of things. I will have to check which brands end up working well for me, because there are some that chip daily. Also if I have to do any kind of inventory work, I know my n…
/r/RedPillWomen19/12/17 04:14 PM
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There is a bullet journal sub and you can also check out ideas on Google. I have to stop myself from. Trying to make them neat, because it will prevent me from doing the layouts. My exercise journal is very messy, although I may re-make some of my spreads on the computer, I haven't decided yet. The overall format is very simple I have a tracking page that lists every month, and a spot to record my weight and measurements for that month. Then I have a 'monthly challenges' page with every day of t…
/r/RedPillWomen19/12/17 04:08 PM
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Nope, I like doing my own designs. :) Nothing too fancy, but I find it relaxing. After a base, color, and top coat my nails last a week to a week and a half with minor touch ups where necessary. Hot showers and typing are actually the things most likely to lead to chipping.
/r/RedPillWomen19/12/17 03:56 PM
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What was it that your MIL gave your 5 year old and why would it be an issue later? What do you mean by 'whip the kids back into shape' specifically? Is your husband normally the one to discipline the kids, or do you or do you both split that role? Without more details, it sounds like you need to stop trying to control everything. Your MIL wants to enjoy spending time with her grandkids, your husband knows his mom isn't going to fuck anything up beyond repair because after all, she raised him and…
/r/RedPillWomen19/12/17 07:33 AM
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I made a weight loss and fitness bullet journal... I am still filling out the basic formats, but it will last me five years. :) I have several fitness goals, one of which is to be flexible enough to do the splits. I started a dream journal because I have vivid dreams and almost always remember them, but I want to work on remembering more details and lucid dreaming. This also ties into a general meditation practice. I did a very thorough and deep clean a while back, and I am creating a cleaning s…
/r/RedPillWomen19/12/17 05:43 AM
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To go along with all the other reasons people have listed, I think it's important to understand how hard it can be for people to 'see' their own weight gain. It doesn't accumulate all at once. If you lurk /r/loseit or any of the weight loss subs you'll notice trends. Somewhere along the way, they see a picture of themselves and they are shocked. They can't believe they actually look that big. They may have been vaguely aware that they had put on some pounds, but not enough to look like that!! We…
/r/RedPillWomen19/12/17 12:57 AM
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Learn from this lesson, if you let the opinion's of other people decide how you feel about your relationship, you will always be chasing the impossible because it doesn't exist. You should have stood up for your BF to your 'friend' and you need to recognize that other women will always engage in this type of 'measuring' and 'pecking' behavior. They only stop once they realize it's not effective, similar to bullying, but socially acceptable. Why did their comments bother you? If you are happy, an…
/r/RedPillWomen18/12/17 11:45 PM
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I love that I am living life a life that makes me happy. Peace, calm, simplicity. I run a business with my family. It keeps me busy, has nothing to do with my degree in history, and provides me with quite a bit of freedom. I pursue, abandon, and then revisit my hobbies. Writing, crochet, art, photography, gaming, etching/stamping, pottery, learning about animals. I love anime, horror, murder mysteries, and every other genre of movies and TV. My ability to put other people at ease combined with a…
/r/RedPillWomen18/12/17 10:41 PM
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Hahaha it's not specific to high school, it's just socializing and life.
/r/RedPillWomen14/12/17 01:02 AM
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Check out The Red Pill Room blog and read the Female Social Matrix (FSM) post. Stating what actually happens is not gossip. She stayed home with her husband. When judgements are inserted, then it becomes a way to establish group values, gain consensus, and bond. In this case, I think it's less about her husband, and more that at least one woman in the group has an issue with the woman. It's a possible attempt to lower her standing, or just another instance in a 'feud' that has a long history. An…
/r/RedPillWomen14/12/17 01:01 AM
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You can't control what other people do or say. They know you and her. You have both earned very specific, and very different reputations. It's unlikely that they will suddenly believe this woman that has earned zero goodwill from them. Ignore and don't mention. If someone brings it up with you, be genuinely shocked. If the person that brings it to your attention is part of the rumor, then tell them you are sorry that they heard about this lie, and that you never said anything of the sort. So if …
/r/RedPillWomen13/12/17 08:17 PM
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You have to stop thinking of this woman as an intelligent adult, because she isn't acting or thinking like one. She is reactive, impulsive, lies, doesn't respect anyone, and refuses to acknowledge the role she plays in creating her own misery. So what do you do? You think of her as a child. You treat her like a child. What does this mean? It means you don't indulge her when she's being rude or negative. You don't take her seriously, trust her with too many responsibilities. She's a battle-ax bit…
/r/RedPillWomen11/12/17 04:37 PM
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The show dramatically changed her fiance after they married. I think they either didn't have sex before marrying, or they had a very healthy and active sex life before the actual wedding. Then they wrote him as this total loser with a sudden case of "Madonna/Whore syndrome." Normally, this happens after a woman becomes a mother and the husband suddenly has a difficult time seeing her a sexual and seductive woman. He thinks of her instead as a nurturing figure. The guy became impotent because he …
/r/RedPillWomen06/12/17 03:53 PM
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It depends on your position and role. If it's a group assignment and you are in charge, the fuck ups of other's are your responsibility to manage and fix. If you are just another peon, then it's in your best interest to catch mistakes and help your fellow peons look better by allowing them to correct errors. You want to be well liked within in the sense that you are dependable, hard working, and you don't participate in drama. If your boss tells you there's a problem, don't weasel off blame and …
/r/askTRP06/12/17 03:29 PM
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You aren't even out of the honeymoon phase and you are already dealing with a dead bedroom. You sound both young and inexperienced. "Love" doesn't happen after three months, that's infatuation and lust.
/r/askTRP06/12/17 03:02 PM
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I've watched through the series three times over the years. It's audacious, relies on stereotypes, hilarious, and there are some genuine RP nuggets. The women are all archetypal and fit certain patterns. Sam is more like a man than anything. She avoids true connections, and has been either alpha widowed or suffers from sever oneitis depending on how you view her. She will screw anyone, had a lesbian relationship that she ultimately ended because she was so fed up with the woman being so 'female.…
/r/RedPillWomen06/12/17 01:47 AM
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I'm glad you were able to help him. I've done online dating in the past, and along with weight, height is the most common thing men will lie about in my experience. I'm not sure why they thought I wouldn't notice, since I'm 6'00" and listed myself at that height.
/r/RedPillWomen02/12/17 02:39 AM
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Be wary of inviting other people into your bedroom, you may find it hard to get them back out. If you open the door to a threesome this early, suddenly a lot of other things may be placed on the table. What's to keep him from thinking he should have the freedom to see other women without you present? Or to move things to a poly, or non-exclusive dynamic? If you tell him you want a threesome this early in your relationship....he will definitely raise an eyebrow. Maybe not in the moment, but if ma…
/r/RedPillWomen02/12/17 02:35 AM
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I completely disagree with everything you said. This is her career and her work...why on God's green earth would she waste time thinking about how her normal meet and greet and social life should be 'adding value' to him? She cannot cure his insecurity, and she is not responsible for his inability to cope. He liked that she can turn it 'on' but he's not currently equipped with the mentality to actually deal with the reality of what it means to date her. I will grant you that she could, if there'…
/r/RedPillWomen01/12/17 05:50 PM
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Similar to everyone that says weight is never an issue or the reason why they walk away.
/r/RedPillWomen01/12/17 03:33 PM
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Hahaha! Thank you for that. :)
/r/RedPillWomen30/11/17 10:54 PM
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Yes virginity is only desirable in youth. After 24, and I am being generous, it becomes a red flag that drives men off. Unless she is strictly religious and dates within her faith.
/r/RedPillWomen30/11/17 10:53 PM
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Courting is all messed up now. There is no unified structure or progression. Society doesn't value marriage, it gets attacked by feminists and some male groups as well. It's popular to hate children, and we continue to prolong the maturation process. 30 years ago, 18 year olds were adults and expected to act like it, now we talk about college graduates as though they are still clues teens. With all the confusion and uncertainty, it's not hard to see why people hang on when they have a mostly oka…
/r/RedPillWomen30/11/17 10:49 PM
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I'm so sorry she went through this, and even worse that her misfortune will hopefully serve as an apt warning for all the women here. Unfortunately, many women are told that once they find a guy, and invest a certain amount of time and energy in the relationship, her best course of action is to stick it out. Of course, many men are told the same thing. I believe it's called the 'sunk cost' fallacy. You think that everything you invested up to a certain point is reason enough to continue investin…
/r/RedPillWomen30/11/17 09:39 PM
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Well, if you drove 45 mins every night to be at your bf's and were spending every weekend there, to my mind you'd moved in at that point anyway just without making it 'official' That was not at all the case. It's normal to spend increased time with each other, but our situation then was nothing like actually living together. Fundamentally, we were not sharing bills or maintaining a home together. My explanation was meant to show you how it is possible to get to know a person before sharing a lea…
/r/RedPillWomen30/11/17 04:32 PM
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https://www.menshealth.com/sex-women/benefits-of-being-married Married men make more money Studies have shown that men who have tied the knot work harder, smarter, and are less likely to be fired: This is known as the men’s “marriage premium.” Your bank account will certainly see a difference after you tie the knot: Married men earn 10 to 40 percent more than single guys. Not only that, but the average 50-something married man accumulates three times as many assets than his unmarried peers. Marr…
/r/RedPillWomen30/11/17 05:00 AM
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I agree! It looks like those sentiments aren't welcomed though, and I've seen a few things get removed recently for the exact reason you are stating which is good news.
/r/RedPillWomen29/11/17 05:35 PM
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It sounds like you think of things in 'absolutes' too much. Just because you don't share a roof does not mean that you are never spending ample time with each other at home. Example: I used to drive 45 minutes every night to sleep at my bf's place. On the weekends I'd go over as early as possible on Friday, and stay with him through to Monday morning. We did not live together until we decided to move in, but we saw each other a lot. I knew his habits and he knew mine and we made it work even tho…
/r/RedPillWomen29/11/17 05:33 PM
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It really makes me sad when I see women that have over-extended themselves and committed too much of their time, effort, and resources in exchange for far too little. It makes me even sadder when I see people asking these women to 'justify' their desire for marriage or kids. I agree that all of these concerns seem to happen too late either due to a flawed vetting system, or the woman trusting and assuming too much. On all my first dates, I was clear about two things: my long term 'someday goals'…
/r/RedPillWomen28/11/17 05:48 PM
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Raise them with traditional values. Give them responsibilities, teach them to be disciplined, and critical thinkers. Instill them with good morals, and feed their curiosity. Don't get hung up on RP terms or anything like that. Set a good example by having a healthy marriage with a loving wife and mother. A dependable father is the most important thing for a girl. As she grows, he will act as a blueprint, and she will compare all other male behavior and qualities against those of her father. She …
/r/askTRP27/11/17 11:02 PM
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I grew up with a traditional family, and traditional values in many ways. I have never wanted either marriage or children. That said I will say that you are young, and many women do change their mind about both marriage and children as they get older. I know of several women, now in their late 30's and early 40's that regret not having kids. When you are young, especially today, cohabitation and living your life alongside a man probably sounds like enough. In a few years, more and more of your f…
/r/RedPillWomen27/11/17 03:58 AM
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Unless you can fully and happily accept his deceptions and ongoing infidelity - get a good divorce lawyer. Tomorrow.
/r/RedPillWomen26/11/17 10:14 PM
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I kept thinking "affair" as I read the post, he just happened to pick someone that doesn't put out...but maybe he's also religious? Either way she should have left ages ago, especially if she wants kids....
/r/RedPillWomen26/11/17 09:14 PM
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You are fooling yourself if you thing men are lining up around the block for a 34 year old virgin....RUN NOW!!! Not only is your age already going to work against you, if you seriously want kids, you need to have them ASAP.
/r/RedPillWomen26/11/17 09:05 PM
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He sounds married. Even if he's not, he's treating you like a plate....but one that he doesn't get sex from. Why would you move on his say so? Has he done anything to earn this level of trust from you? You have already wasted four years on this man. Date within your religion, and find someone that wants the same things you do. Drop him immediately and do not talk to him again, ever. Don't even bother trying to break up with him. Live your life and stop dancing to his tune.
/r/RedPillWomen26/11/17 09:03 PM
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That is a great way to describe the dynamic, and I agree with everything you said! :)
/r/RedPillWomen25/11/17 11:55 PM
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It's so great that your husband has this outlet! My best friend grew up shooting and hunting. She would go on fishing trips with her dad, or to hunt bigger game and birds. Every usable portion of skin, meat, and bone has a purpose and they waste nothing. So to you, I offer something else you may not have considered, ask him to teach you. Go to the shooting range and learn. Let his passion become something you can both enjoy together. You may never get to the point where you want to go on a hunti…
/r/RedPillWomen25/11/17 06:30 PM
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We both have very demanding jobs, and it's really hard sometimes. I just spent 5 days cleaning the house from top to bottom, including the garage. Then I had a cleaner come in and do a nearly 7 hour deep clean. It was exhausting, but worth it. I stayed up late Thursday and Friday, and worked without really stopping. I have a daily and weekly cleaning schedule so everything remains manageable. When it becomes too difficult for me to keep up with everything, then we hire a cleaning service to come…
/r/RedPillWomen25/11/17 06:17 PM
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I agree, in other comments I have been covering both ends of the spectrum. Based on the information given, it's really not possible for anyone to know for sure which category he falls into. :)
/r/RedPillWomen25/11/17 05:55 PM
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I disagree with /u/BlaueBlumeFreiheit. If you are only going on dates with someone, and not even in a relationship with them, then your 'suggestions' are going to piss men off and send them running. He'll only see a controlling woman that isn't even his gf yet telling him how he needs to change. As /u/StepfordInTexas said, are these hypothetical examples, or things you actually want to change? If so why? Also, if you target a different type of man, business professional for example, they'll have…
/r/RedPillWomen25/11/17 05:53 PM
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Eh, he could be hiding how poor he is, or was. The place may be shit. Or he's putting her through her paces to determine if she's interested in him, or his money. It's not an unusual vetting tactic actually. Generally speaking, it's the intense wining and dining that means the celebrity just wants a quick lay.
/r/RedPillWomen25/11/17 05:49 PM
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If he were a normal guy, I'd agree. Dating celebs means high risk, and just about every woman has to be a plate first and work her way up. There's a reason RPW doesn't say "chase famous musicians, actors, and athletes!" when talking about how to locate and vet for a good man. The thing I can't figure out is whether he's hiding how utterly normal or poor he is, or if this is just how he tests a woman to see if she's willing to pay her own way. I am inclined to think his frugality is actually a po…
/r/RedPillWomen25/11/17 05:47 PM
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It's easy enough to target successful types by using your social circle and family friends. UMC should have zero issue meeting eligible and appropriate suitors. Have you asked anyone for their ideas, or if they know good matches for you? The best way to meet people like you, is meet them through people like you. It was impossible to tell what exactly you meant by entitlement, and you didn't give any personal background, so I went with the most typical iteration of women that ask this. They are n…
/r/RedPillWomen25/11/17 05:36 PM
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Like I said, retard for 'poly'
/r/askTRP25/11/17 05:20 PM
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He has more renown, but you should only pay for what you can afford. If that means a cheaper hotel, so be it. He doesn't sound all that invested in you. I think his not paying has more to do with him wanting to see if you like him or his money. Which is fine, up to a point. If he has a lot of obligations, it isn't surprising that he doesn't make the drive. Again, he has the upper hand. Now, I don't know about Instagram, but on FB you can control which people see certain photos and posts. He may …
/r/RedPillWomen25/11/17 05:19 PM
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In that case your statement makes no sense. "offer her multiple long term relationship agreement..." Is that just a retarded way of saying "poly"?
/r/askTRP25/11/17 09:23 AM
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Humility for starters. Other than that, understanding how utterly insignificant and common you are compared to everyone else on the planet, and then everyone throughout history. You develop a sense of vertigo in a way, similar to what happens when you really start to comprehend the scale of the universe and the distances between galaxies. Meditation and studying religion, even if you aren't religious can also help. Doing volunteer work, and general life experience. It's entirely possible to set …
/r/RedPillWomen25/11/17 06:34 AM
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Women have always worked, especially poor women. The emergence of the middle class really took hold and started booming in the 50's and brought a new type of lifestyle that was previously only available to the wealthy. Along with this newfound stability and comfort also came many technological advances that sped up the housecleaning and upkeep processes. What used to take an entire day to do, now only filled a few hours. House wives had more time on their hands. Then Friedan came along and convi…
/r/RedPillWomen24/11/17 08:32 PM
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I used to hate driving, so much so that I delayed actually getting my license until after I was 18. Even then I didn't drive really. I am now very comfortable behind the wheel and enjoy road trips. The key is to just keep driving every day, be a good defensive driver, and always alert. A lot of situations can be avoided simply by keeping a watchful eye on the cars around you.
/r/RedPillWomen24/11/17 07:04 PM
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You can come from a 'I deserve, I am entitled to' perspective, or you can come from 'I work to earn..' one. It is fine to take pride in yourself, but entitlement and arrogance will send men running. Confidence and work ethic rooted in humility is more approachable. Other than that, the more desirable, beautiful, and polished you are in every area of your life; the more exacting your baseline standards can be. An accomplished, compassionate, intelligent, feminine woman that has a killer body and …
/r/RedPillWomen24/11/17 06:33 PM
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I have no suggestions for you and I think it is extremely distasteful that you want to undercut him with games. It's entirely possible that he is not actively trying to dread you, and instead he is just being a normal, masculine man that is taking the lead. What does he do or say that makes you think he is trying to dread you? Regardless, if you love and respect him, then show that and save psychology studies for the classroom.
/r/RedPillWomen24/11/17 07:08 AM
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I think of it more as a self inflicted wound, but either way it is always within the individual's power to heal.
/r/askTRP24/11/17 02:26 AM
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Your idea of what makes someone a 'faggot' doesn't make sense, but that's not the point. Sidebar, lift, abundance mentality. Lastly, know when to walk away.
/r/askTRP24/11/17 02:05 AM
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Ever watch a drunk guy make a fool of himself at a party? Maybe he tries to complete a ridiculous dare or demonstrate how 'awesome' he is, but he always ends up passing out, and when he wakes up he has dicks all over his face. You look like a tool and a joke. Just move on and ignore people. The more 'shit' you try to give, the worse you look.
/r/askTRP24/11/17 02:02 AM
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May it serve you well.
/r/askTRP24/11/17 01:58 AM
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There are two others from today that I can think of which also exemplify this mentality. One Two
/r/askTRP24/11/17 01:57 AM
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Your sound like a mix of Norman Bates and Oedipus.
/r/askTRP24/11/17 01:38 AM
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This looks more and more likely, yes.
/r/askTRP24/11/17 01:34 AM
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You have to sort yourself out and improve. You are territorial over a whore and you are butt hurt about it. She bullied you, insults you, and you have too many feelings for a nothing woman. Lift, skincare, clothes, interesting hobbies. You are a legal adult, act like it.
/r/askTRP24/11/17 01:33 AM
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/r/malefashionadvice
/r/askTRP24/11/17 01:26 AM
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Ding Ding Ding!
/r/askTRP24/11/17 01:18 AM
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Your inability to listen smacks of inexperience and a lack of maturity. You behave and think like a woman, and react like a child. No wonder you're so bound up over this 'situation'. Get more plates, and quit with the 'no you suck' playground tactics. You look ridiculous, and people will be less inclined to try and actually help you.
/r/askTRP24/11/17 01:17 AM
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People sometimes try too hard to sound witty... At the same time, many people have to practice being clever (and fail) before thy actually hit their mark. They aren't great at first, but eventually they figure out what works and it's better to muse online than use it in person and look silly. - shrug-
/r/askTRP24/11/17 01:14 AM
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You are making a common mistake: you think plates will be 'lital'. For every woman you spin, you should know that they undoubtedly have more men to get attention and action from. Plate spinning is easier for women, because women don't have to do anything to get sex. The tables turn when a woman wants commitment. Stop thinking of her as a trophy that belongs to you. Don't elevate her value in this way. You are acting like a jealous, beta, faggot. So figure it out and adjust your outlook.
/r/askTRP24/11/17 01:11 AM
1

Could be followed up by a funny story when you played bartender at a party, or a general drinking one.
/r/askTRP24/11/17 01:07 AM
2

LOL you don't. Delusion to preserve ego. He is clearly not the one in control, but he thinks using RP words will make it look more reasonable.
/r/askTRP24/11/17 01:06 AM
6

Should have been 'flubbed' (struck out, fumbled) bed should have been 'bad' execution. She was interested at first and then you made her feel weirded out and she bolted. You just need to practice and fine tune. Asking permission to kiss can be effective, but it didn't work for you. The quality of your making out skills were not enough to override her doubt. Learn, adjust, and move forward.
/r/askTRP24/11/17 12:59 AM
1

Monogamous long term relationship
/r/askTRP24/11/17 12:55 AM
3

Cringe lines are not necessarily an automatic failure, but the type of guy that can pull them off won't be asking for advice about anything on reddit lol
/r/askTRP24/11/17 12:54 AM
1

Was she increasingly annoyed when you tried to escalate? Was it her idea to hang out in the house or your idea? Was she flirting with you? What did she say when she stopped you? Was she indicating interest and you just flub bed with execution, or did she keep her distance? General details that give people an idea of her emotions, your approach, and the overall tone of the date.
/r/askTRP24/11/17 12:53 AM
1

She wasn't attracted to you enough to go with things. Maybe your breath smelled, or she had second thoughts. As the other user said, impossible to come up with more concrete feedback without additional details.
/r/askTRP24/11/17 12:24 AM
1

The best way to extract her 'A game' without actually committing yourself to a "I'm looking for an LTR" position is simply to say "It's the quality of the woman that inspires me to want a relationship. When I meet a woman that amazes me, I want to make her my own. I don't walk around thinking 'I want a relationship' or 'I have to avoid one, I'm just responding to the woman." This places the ball in her court, she knows that she has to work hard to inspire you to give commitment, she can't just w…
/r/askTRP24/11/17 12:22 AM
1

She sounds less like your plate, and more like someone you orbit based on what you've shared here...
/r/askTRP24/11/17 12:02 AM
10

Anything that treats it as a shit test, and dismisses her, which will create additional anxiety. Comfort tests should be met with affection and reassurance, just not so much that you make her think you are too serious about it.
/r/askTRP23/11/17 10:42 PM
1

No worries. You can use two different browsers, or you can open up an incognito window and stay logged into both. If you have RES (reddit enhancement suite) then there is a 'night view' you can turn on. If you are browsing on mobile with reddit is fun, you can just switch between accounts. Keeping an account dedicated solely to RP and another for general browsing is practical and necessary unless you want to constantly get in pointless arguments on subs that have nothing to do with politics or d…
/r/askTRP23/11/17 10:04 PM
1

You should have enough plates that one cancelling on you is barely noticeable, and you have enough back ups, that even when one does you can quickly fill the vacancy. She may or may not be comfort testing you. The most you should do is take a little longer with foreplay the next time you see her. It's a way to communicate care, which should reassure her, while also reminding her of what she missed. Also, for the future? "It's okay, BJ's only involve your hands and mouth." Learn to shut down 'per…
/r/askTRP23/11/17 10:00 PM
1

You probably want to delete this comment and reply with your throwaway...unless you don't mind linking the two accounts to each other.
/r/askTRP23/11/17 09:54 PM
1

It's why you learn and train until you have a better basis. There are classes and personal trainers. Do your research.
/r/askTRP23/11/17 09:50 PM
1

JFC, this is just something women do. It's a grooming process that shows they care about their appearance, sharing indulges their vanity, and nails or fashion are just interesting to the vast majority of women. It's not a sign of 'disrespect' and you should never be 'offended' by a woman's actions. To be offended implies that the opinion of any woman has the power to affect your value, perception, mood etc. "A lion does not concern himself with the opinions of sheep" if you have not heard this q…
/r/askTRP23/11/17 08:59 PM
1

Everyone you meet can teach you things. What to do, what to avoid doing, new things to learn about and try. You don't have an actual abundance mentality. You try to cut down this woman, and signal that you don't care about her, but you do seem to care for her. Otherwise, why the fuck do you care which guys take her to bed? You are weirdly obsessed with this guy, and you seem to measure everything you do against him. Stop. Use him as a guide of where you'd like to end up. Then start focusing on y…
/r/askTRP23/11/17 08:54 PM
1

Normal workouts in the gym can be a hobby to some people, and more like a second job to others. My suggestions, as you can see, specifically target more unusual active pursuits. Other examples would be boxing, martial arts, marathon or decathlon training. Things that are in addition to normal weight lifting, and less common. Interesting pursuits stand out to women, and will set you apart from others. It's similar to a man that drives a car, and another that rides a motorcycle. The latter is just…
/r/askTRP23/11/17 08:45 PM
1

Agreed. This is definitely a comfort test.
/r/askTRP23/11/17 07:30 PM
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This is definitely a comfort test, she is seeking your approval and reassurance, not challenging your ability or standing. You have to keep women interested and excited, but also know when to provide enough comfort that they don't get out of control. An insecure and unhappy woman will display more AWALT behaviors and shit test more frequently.
/r/askTRP23/11/17 07:30 PM
14

Well she extracted your time and effort in exchange for ignoring you. You should have a personal rule, and make that rule known to all plates, that unless you have your phone out, you expect their full attention. It sounds like this was just a woman you met at the bar, which begs the question, how were you 'talking to her' if she was more interested in her phone than you? Things obviously were not 'going well' if she was more invested in her phone than the person sitting next to her. "Your phone…
/r/askTRP23/11/17 07:25 PM
1

You don't have to hide it, and more women today actually enjoy gaming. Even if they don't play themselves, many will watch and have fun. The important thing is to have more than just school and games. An interesting hobby like mountain biking or rock climbing. Something that is active, and helps you stay in great shape. Women are less opinionated about gaming if the man is fit and attractive.
/r/askTRP23/11/17 07:22 PM
3

I think that is a very apt observation.
/r/RedPillWomen23/11/17 06:37 PM
2

You may find something worth considering here. Without knowing the specifics of your situation, it's hard to say one way or the other.
/r/RedPillWomen23/11/17 06:36 PM
1

I don't understand why people turn into preachers just because a normal, small, disagreement (if you can even call it that) happens. I worry sometimes that so much emphasis is placed on looking perfect that the community forgets to also be humane. We all have flaws, and really, if this is the worst part of OP's week, I think she has a very admirable marriage.
/r/RedPillWomen22/11/17 10:05 PM
1

I was going to reply to the other person, but instead I'll just talk to you directly. That analysis was the most uncharitable, and pessimistic evaluation I have ever seen, especially considering how few details were actually available. My advice? Ignore, laugh, and go on with your day. You and your H already figured everything out, so the opinions of this stranger really doesn't amount to much. I hope you had fun with your friend today. :)
/r/RedPillWomen22/11/17 08:34 PM
2

:) I'm glad if it helped you or anyone else find a new way to think about these things!
/r/RedPillWomen22/11/17 07:41 PM
1

You keep changing your point. First it's 'biology and marriage are not necessary bedfellows' then it's 'why does marriage even matter?' to which you continually try to cut down and say that marriage does not matter, and then you wanted to know about cohabitation vs marriage. To all of this you reply with 'correct reasons'? Marriage today is not 'harder,' cohabitation, and out of wedlock births are 'harder' in that they carry higher risks than traditional marriage. I don't think you looked at any…
/r/RedPillWomen22/11/17 03:54 PM
1

One Two Three Four Five Six Seven Eight This is the result of a ten minute google search, they are not the exact studies I studied while in college, but they'll do. Some takeaways: The traits that make two people decide to marry are indicative of many other traits that help them raise happy and healthy children. Conflict resolution is very important. Families with a step-parent and biological parent that are married are at an increased risk of divorce and the children are potentially just as bad…
/r/RedPillWomen22/11/17 02:41 PM
2

I'm glad to hear it! :) I find that patience is almost always the only thing that's really needed to clear things up and resolve the vast majority of issues in a solid relationship. There are exceptions of course, but I would have been surprised if this happened to be one of those instances. :)
/r/RedPillWomen22/11/17 03:06 AM
1

Are you a stay at home mom or do you also work?
/r/RedPillWomen22/11/17 01:34 AM
1

This is beyond silly, and not only because all it would take would be for someone to know you for any length of time to realize you aren't bi, or mention your 'trans' status to people that know your family. Despite all the liberal wailing and pouting, the world is still run by men that make money, or participate in grunt work. If you think the 'good ol' boy' culture of the most profitable companies and institutions has vanished, then you are mistaken. Just be yourself, straight, white, and male …
/r/askTRP21/11/17 11:02 PM
2

Being a wife legitimizes a woman, it says to her and the world "she is my family, and I hold her above all others." It's a position of status, that comes with protection and advantages. No one cares about a 50 year old gf, even if she's been with the man for 30 years. A 50 year old wife that has been with a man for 15 has more respectability and legitimacy socially and economically.
/r/RedPillWomen21/11/17 07:49 PM
1

The rush of getting married has nothing to do with biology in the fact that marriage itself is socially constructed. Humans have always lived in some form of society or another. Aside from that the social reasons for marriage and then kids are paramount. Only the prole and poor lower classes regularly practice having children out of wedlock, and it is one of the core issues that keeps generation after generation from climbing higher and finding stability. The nuclear family is paramount to raisi…
/r/RedPillWomen21/11/17 07:44 PM
2

This is a forum specifically for advice.
/r/askTRP21/11/17 05:08 AM
3

That's really vague, so I can't add anything else or give you suggestions without specifics. You mean the topic is just for discussing in general, my mistake! :)
/r/RedPillWomen20/11/17 09:09 PM
1

I don't, but I prefer to buy custom made items from people that clearly know what they're doing. Good luck with everything.
/r/askTRP20/11/17 06:07 PM
1

Look at /r/theXeffect, and start learning to do some interesting body weight fitness. Handstands etc. You can look at /r/bodyweightfitness. Learn to cook more intricate meals. Dishes that take an hour or two. You can cook and watch tv at the same time. Take up a new hobby, building models that will look nice when they're done. Learn a new craft, leather work or something. You have to figure out what you want to try and what interests you. Set smaller, more reasonable goals. Instead of smoking at…
/r/askTRP20/11/17 05:47 PM
8

Do you want to deal with her depression for the next four years? The next ten? The rest of your life? When you started dating, you were probably on the same level, but you have increased your value while she has been treading water. Mental illness should be avoided, and depression is a lingering, constant, anchor that will affect every aspect of her life and your relationship with her. If you assign yourself counselor and guardian, that's your choice. It's a stupid one, but entirely up to you. S…
/r/askTRP20/11/17 05:36 PM
1

The point is to knock-down the 8's defenses. She goes from thinking she's hot shit, to suddenly being confronted with evidence to the contrary. Her ego, now bruised, wants to know what she doesn't have that her friend does to merit this attention. Done poorly, everything backfires of course, and there's also the risk that if you swoop in and talk up the less attractive woman, someone else will go and talk to the more attractive friend. Then you're stuck with the six. Lesson? only target women yo…
/r/askTRP20/11/17 05:33 PM
1

Why are you trying to do and LDR? It's stupid and you are young. Go have fun, and just keep her as someone you screw when you are in the same place.
/r/askTRP20/11/17 05:17 PM
1

We always talk to each other if there's an issue, and we have quite a bit of shorthand. If he's had a hard day, he'll simply say that he's feeling 'low [on] energy.' That's my cue to go the extra mile and make sure he feels relaxed when he gets home. When I am having a hard time with my cycle, I just tell him that my stomach is upset. He'll alert me if he needs some laundry done ASAP simply by saying his sock drawer is running low. We also have a lot of direct communication. When we're undertaki…
/r/RedPillWomen20/11/17 04:27 PM
1

I will just say that I completely disagree with your evaluation that people 'cannot handle' certain realities or truths, it's more that it's a lot of work to figure things out, and most people just want to live life without a constant headache. I wasn't concerned that this knowledge is going to be misused against men but rather against the relationship, think like "what's with that sarcastic look he gave me just now, is he doing this dread thing? to think about it he's doing this smile a lot lat…
/r/RedPillWomen19/11/17 09:22 PM
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I agree that dread can instill either motivation or fear, I disagree that it is always up to the woman to decide which that will be. There's really no positive way to spin a situation where a guy is using active negative dread, and it is really easy for men to go overboard with active dread as well. I agree in some cases a woman is prone to freak out and overreact. I'd argue that a woman that does this is very attracted to the man, has yet to develop as much maturity and self control as she shou…
/r/RedPillWomen19/11/17 09:14 PM
1

The only thing that helps me avoid similar 'pile up' situations was, unfortunately, to get rid of basically all my shoes haha! I have four different pairs of the same shoe, hiking boots, gym shoes, and a nice pair with a wedge heel. I can't seem to bring myself to do the same with my purses however. I give them away when I stop using one regularly....but then I get excited and buy a new one a few months later. Doesn't help that my mom is also a purse enthusiast either. Usually when there's a sal…
/r/RedPillWomen19/11/17 08:12 PM
1

That goes for any type of knowledge in any field, and the potential for misuse is far greater on the male subs. Not because men are bad or any such nonsense, but because the numbers there are far larger, and 'amorality' is stressed when a man feels doubt or worries about possibly hurting someone or starts to feel like a jerk. It is a necessary feature for the male sexual strategy in many ways. Plate spinning in particular. . RPW does have some morality infused into it, because it must. That's ju…
/r/RedPillWomen19/11/17 06:19 PM
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Hard to tell without more information. Male, female, age? What do people generally say about you and to you? How did your former SO's act, and what did they tell you? Do you engage in active negative dread? Or do you think it's the passive type? Why do you think this? There's also just being an asshole, and both men and women are capable of it. Behavior and attitude that just makes people want nothing to do with you. If your friends have a hard time getting along with you, or you don't have many…
/r/RedPillWomen18/11/17 11:38 PM
1

I know you weren't sobbing, but teary eyes was enough for this guy to make a thing of it. Add that to the fact that it was your second time that day getting misty eyes, and it supports his side. They aren't idiots. Have you never had male friends before? Giving each other shit, and other interactions are all part of bonding and also establishing rank within the group. You teared up over a two minute video, and that makes you look weak and feminine to these guys. Just learn from it and move on.
/r/askTRP18/11/17 11:34 PM
1

Men can only really show vulnerability and sadness after they have earned enough standing and respect with others. This is why seeing a strong man quietly brood with a glint in his eye brings the better part of an audience to tears in a good war movie. The strong man that is capable, and handles his shit has earned enough social capital that he can 'spend' some of it on a moment of weakness without hurting his 'stock.' You broke down around people that seem to be new acquaintances. Everyone is f…
/r/askTRP18/11/17 10:59 PM
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Thanks! :)
/r/RedPillWomen18/11/17 08:59 PM
2

Wrong. Wrong. Wrong. Your loser mentality and out of control bitterness keep you from succeeding. Look, your head is so far up your own ass, you are more interested in being angry and playing the victim then actually doing the work. So here's a free lesson: walk away from lost causes. Goodbye.
/r/askTRP16/11/17 11:16 PM
2

She was making out with you, and then wouldn't have sex. Instead of playing it off, leaving to have fun with another plate, or trying to push past, you pouted. You tried to make her feel like shit and instead came off looking petulant. When you talked to her later, she was level and you were ready to cuss her out from the start. You're too reactive and emotional. You don't have any frame, you don't know what you're doing, and you get way too hung up over minor things. If you're known about TRP s…
/r/askTRP16/11/17 11:15 PM
1

No. You are treating RP like some kind of cosplay. It's more than how you look, and yes looks are important. It's your behavior. Right now you behave like a child that cannot control his emotions. To put it another way, your emotional responses are feminine. You made a snarky pout reply when you didn't get what you want, and this woman is more masculine than the typical chick, so she saw right through you. Then she was measured and neutral and you lost your shit again for no reason. No one is go…
/r/askTRP16/11/17 05:16 PM
1

Then you'll forever have to deal with scaring women away with your bullshit attitude.
/r/askTRP16/11/17 05:14 PM
1

Good luck!
/r/askTRP16/11/17 09:57 AM
0

This applies to most threads. People have to start somewhere, especially when they're too lazy to actually read the sidebar and top posts.
/r/askTRP16/11/17 09:54 AM
1

Make your miserable job a little less shitty, and get along with them. Be funny, laid back and hard working. Indifference will just make you a pariah, and give them a common enemy to hate. You are not going to spin them into happy compliance by pretending they don't exist. Other then that, find a better fucking job.
/r/askTRP16/11/17 09:53 AM
1

Enough that chicks can find you and do a bit of snooping. You should look busy, and social without being obsessive. FB, and LinkedIn are fine. Don't post a bunch of garbage. Have friends and contacts that make you look good.
/r/askTRP16/11/17 09:50 AM
1

Seriously. He is brand new and coming from a hard background (virgin until 24), solidly in anger phase and still figuring out how to not be a chump. Not the end of the world, many come to RP later in life and after getting the shit kicked out of them by women. Hopefully he will learn with time.
/r/askTRP16/11/17 09:40 AM
1

Legally change your name to Daddy, then everyone can join in. Or, realize that submission and loyalty are more important. She will come up with her own per name for you if she likes you enough.
/r/askTRP16/11/17 09:03 AM
9

Some sharing is fine. Share the most interesting thing that happened to you, preferably something short that highlights your ability or strength. Then you can throw in "and I spent the rest of the day hunting buffalo" or some other humorous and ridiculous activity. She gets to feel like you bonded, and you don't end up treating the conversation like a 'dear diary' entry.
/r/askTRP16/11/17 09:01 AM
1

The Black Phillip Show Beige Steven Molyneux Rebel Media on youtube The last two are more alt right, but there are good topics, especially from an anti-feminist perspective. Other anti-liberal and anti-feminist content: TL;DR Bearing Louder with Crowder Jordan Peterson Karen Straughan Paul Joseph Watson Sargent of Akkad MyNameIsJosephine Blond in the belly of the beast
/r/askTRP16/11/17 07:40 AM
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Move on. You were an ass for bailing last minute and now you are playing into her games. She is in control and playing you like a fiddle. Instead of being smart, you want to keep hitting your head against the wall. Abundance mentality, women are plentiful, and any chick that thinks she deserves extra investment on your part must be immediately replaced with a more compliant woman.
/r/askTRP16/11/17 07:32 AM
1

Stop being a spineless shit. If you are brazen enough to fuck a woman while her parents are home, you should be mature enough to calmly enter her house, hold her father's gaze as you go to her room, and have a calm conversation afterwards if he confronts you. Running away and sneaking around isn't making her think more of you, and it certainly makes you look like a weasel to the dad.
/r/askTRP16/11/17 07:29 AM
1

I completely understand. I have a high tolerance for negative dread, since I dated a man like that years ago; but I am infinitely happier with my BF now, because he is masculine, and dominant, but entirely compassionate and warm. He doesn't play games, and opts instead for being direct and plain with me. Men that fail to identify the character of a woman run the risk of breaking her. No good man seeks to break a woman, because that is exactly the opposite of any good man's intentions.
/r/RedPillWomen16/11/17 04:41 AM
1

You are thinking of 'dread' which is a complicated topic that is often described poorly and executed comically. First, there is passive dread. You can think of it as a constant energy field that emirates from a man, regardless of what he's doing. This type of dread is created by his appearance, reputation, professional rank, social status. A woman can look at an extremely attractive man and feel this latent dread. Active dread is created by the behaviors and actions. How a man talks, what he doe…
/r/RedPillWomen16/11/17 01:26 AM
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Vulnerability is not the same as insecurity. A woman that is emotionally open, kind, considerate, gentle, fun, respectful are all traits that go along with vulnerability and a trusting, feminine nature. Right now you lock yourself away and maintain emotional distance and display an unwillingness to trust him. This makes him frustrated and less inclined to try and look after or protect you. You may need therapy, but either way, it's unfair for you to punish him for what you went through. You do t…
/r/RedPillWomen15/11/17 10:50 PM
3

You're right, they were probably trying to schedule a kidney transplant. It's not a mystery, they met on Tinder, the 'fuck-me-fast' site.
/r/askTRP15/11/17 05:32 PM
1

Just stop acting like a bank. Only pay for your portion of the bill, only buy food for yourself. Stop playing the role of accountant and banker. They will have to figure it and the bills may be paid a bit late, but they will soon realize just how generous and diligent you were.
/r/askTRP15/11/17 07:39 AM
1

Not really sure how you came to that conclusion. It is clear from the context he was try arrange a date with the woman...
/r/askTRP15/11/17 07:05 AM
1

Why the hell didn't you suggest another day/time? She doesn't seem overly eager to see you anyway, and you both look like you are trying to play this weird power game. Save dominance posture for throwing her onto the bed...when it comes to logistics, you both have to share enough to actually be able to meet up in person.
/r/askTRP15/11/17 02:51 AM
3

This is such a great observation, and really hits closer to the actual purpose and topic of the thread.
/r/RedPillWomen15/11/17 01:55 AM
1

That's so fun! I love meat, but I'm not sure I have the stomach for butchering. :)
/r/RedPillWomen15/11/17 01:32 AM
6

I have always liked the "only give advice when it's asked for, or when the person is about to catch on fire." :) I agree that not everyone here is trying to find balance because they already have it. Sometimes it's hard to tell which users fall into the different categories, but regardless, we should all be more patient and generous with each other I think.
/r/RedPillWomen15/11/17 01:31 AM
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It seems like I touched a raw nerve and evoked the who's better/smarter/stronger/faster/etc argument. Not at all, I find value in discussing any situation one both the macro and micro levels. Men and women are different, our instincts generally favor certain things over others. There was another comment by someone else in a different thread that phrased things beautifully, and I will repeat /u/southernathena's words here: ...It's the yin/yang concept. They are not equal because they different, b…
/r/RedPillWomen15/11/17 01:20 AM
1

Hahaha! Thank you for sharing. Do you go hunting together often? I have a friend that grew up hunting geese and deer and fishing. She taught her husband all about it and now they go together whenever they can. :)
/r/RedPillWomen14/11/17 11:56 PM
1

This seems like a limited, possibly incorrect summary of what was actually happening. Yes, men tend to excel at math and science, particularly in middle and high school. That said, women tend to score higher in English, History, and Sociology. It's very misleading to say "women can't have in depth conversations and learn as much" when the truth is that it has more to do with the subject in question. My friends, family and I can all provide anecdotal accounts that tell a very different story from…
/r/RedPillWomen14/11/17 11:53 PM
1

Women want to be pursued and chased. Tell her you had a good time and that you want to meet up with her for drinks. "When are you free?" etc. Don't over think it, she just doesn't want to be forward and make the first move. She has always responded to you physically and socially. So set the pace. If you are warm and flirtatious, she will respond in a similar manner.
/r/askTRP14/11/17 11:05 PM
1

Go to a street corner or a park, practice your speech out loud around strangers. If you can do that, speaking to a classroom will be easy. Practice is really the only thing that will make public speaking easier. You should also sign up for a speech class, drama, or student government. The debate team would also be helpful, or working checkout at a store. Remember that no one cares about your speech in reality. They are all just happy they aren't speaking, and worried about the fact that they wil…
/r/askTRP14/11/17 10:11 PM
1

Stop going down on her. If she asks you to, tell her she has to take care of you first. You should make a partial BJ part of the normal routine prior to sex anyway. Then it's just expected.
/r/askTRP14/11/17 09:59 PM
1

I suppose each couple has their own way but I have always thought it should be the responsibility of the person doing the laundry to check the pockets. That opening statement frames the rest of your comment and implies superiority and a tone of lecturing. Why? Because it entirely ignores the OP's explanation and story. She says "I'm forgetful about this" and muses jokingly how much better it would be if her guy remembers. You barrel in with a statement that comes off as judgmental and serious. Y…
/r/RedPillWomen14/11/17 08:42 PM
1

First, I'd just like to say how much of a downer most people are being, and I hope you don't let their high horses bum you out! This is such a great little story, full of humor and good intentions. Everyone has things they can improve on, and I just with others had mirrored your approach. I have tons of stories about my own forgetfulness and flawed nature, I also have tons of stories about my BFs shortcomings. They aren't malicious or meant to embarrass anyone, they're just fun and honest. Patte…
/r/RedPillWomen14/11/17 08:14 PM
1

You missed the point of the post. OP is holding herself accountable for making this mistake and she's going to strive to do better. Her purpose was to share an area she needs to focus and work on to improve, while also being a bit tongue in cheek about it. She's sharing with the community and having some fun. The idea was not to invite criticism and lectures from others, but to have them join in and share their own stories of mishaps and slip ups.
/r/RedPillWomen14/11/17 08:09 PM
2

I love the idea!
/r/RedPillWomen14/11/17 07:00 PM
1

That's a fair observation as well. I think that the more familiar a woman is with the RPW community, and the longer she has been here specifically, then the desire to project a perfect relationship increases. It's generally newcomers that don't really understand RP or the community that are more likely to do the "I'm so good, why is he a jerk?" routine. Maybe it would help if we shared stories that highlight our imperfections in a relationship? I know I have loads of stories about how my heighte…
/r/RedPillWomen14/11/17 06:47 PM
1

Yes! It's interesting that men tend to methodically and painstakingly rehash every microscopic detail, even though how many glasses of water he consumed really doesn't matter. :) Similarly, women tend to know which details will make them look bad or place a share of the blame on their own shoulders. We instinctively want to be liked, to have others approve of us, so forgetting to mention that time we did something clearly inappropriate is just good sense! I will say that although reading long de…
/r/RedPillWomen14/11/17 06:27 PM
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Agree and amplify, negative comment
/r/askTRP14/11/17 08:25 AM
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Options: AA. "You're right, I value dog shit on the sidewalk more than you"... not the best example, but you get the drift. Alternatively AA in favor of commitment. "I agree, let's get married and move to Vegas. For my first act I'll pull a ring out of your ass. We can practice with ben wa balls later." Ignore. Only hang out with her for sex, do not talk to her except to figure out when you can meet her to have sex. Neg. "If I'm shit, then I guess that makes you the plastic bag that picks up shi…
/r/askTRP14/11/17 06:17 AM
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Abundance. When you have $100,000 in the bank, you don't care about someone owing you $200. You should have so many other women to have fun with, that this chick doesn't even cross your mind when it's been a week and you haven't talked to her.
/r/askTRP14/11/17 02:17 AM
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"Say something important and I'll listen. You can emotionally vent to your diary, I'm not interested." Combine that with a 'now get over here and fuck me' direction. Plates are there to be useful and enjoyable. If she isn't fulfilling her use (sex) and she fails to be enjoyable (feminine, cheerful, considerate) then she shouldn't be allowed to hang about.
/r/askTRP14/11/17 02:07 AM
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She's trying to backtrack. She behaved like a slut, and she wants plausible deniability and confirmation that she's still a good woman. Say anything and everything that puts her at ease. Never trust what a woman says, only pay attention to what she does. What she did was fuck you the first time out, chances are she'll want to do that again as long as you don't screw it up.
/r/askTRP14/11/17 01:01 AM
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No worries, as I said, everyone has their own shit to deal will and it's not always easy. I wrote another comment to you before this one with some things for you to consider and look into. Good luck.
/r/askTRP13/11/17 11:57 PM
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You were vague about your situation, so that's why you received advice that does not apply to your circumstances. There's no 'pretending' here. I've dealt with extreme conditions, and have worked beck from severe injuries both sport related, and from a car crash. I'm not interested in a contest of 'who had it worst' everyone has their own shit to deal with. Your original post sounds like one big excuse paired with unrealistic ideas from start to finish, because you failed to accurately explain e…
/r/askTRP13/11/17 11:49 PM
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Disease and needing medical care is different from the impression you created with the post and your initial response to me. If you have serious health issues to deal with and require treatment then of course your health should come first. Check with the dean and the health services, they are probably required by law to provide some accommodations and services to students with special health and mental needs. If they are unwilling to work with you based on your health needs and limitations, then…
/r/askTRP13/11/17 11:45 PM
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It honestly isn't, but your defeatist attitude isn't going to help. There is zero reason why you should not be able to attend your classes and work out. Source: former college athlete. 60 hours of specialty training, weight lifting, practice, stretching/ice baths on top of a full academic schedule. For four years my days lasted from 5:00AM to midnight or later. I also had the joys of travelling during the season, and double days during the summer, along with part time jobs whenever I could manag…
/r/askTRP13/11/17 11:35 PM
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If you tried to tell him the truth, he would conclude you are jealous. Just laugh it off, and talk about it like a friendly rivalry. Don't berate or encourage him, just do your thing. After you seal the deal with the chick, be nice to him and ask if he wants to work out with you a few times a week. Treat this as an opportunity to win with grace, and also start helping a friend create a better life for themselves.
/r/askTRP13/11/17 11:31 PM
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This is a false dichotomy. It is entirely possible, not to mention necessary, for everyone to learn how to balance fitness and livelihood. Go to school, study, and work out. You seem to only work in extremes, and that will not serve you well. You can get a good workout in with just 15 minutes a day if you are smart. If you are very smart you will learn how to exercise even as you study or listen in class. You can work your abs while sitting down while holding your feet off the ground. You can ho…
/r/askTRP13/11/17 11:24 PM
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I wish you luck! Don't despair, I was beyond hopeless for a long time. Anyone can improve and learn if they are patient and persistent.
/r/RedPillWomen13/11/17 09:15 PM
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There is a lot of hit and miss there, and many 'styles' are applauded even though the woman in question looks horrid. Look into kibbe. It is a very thorough classification system. It is hard to see yourself and what your body actually looks like, so it is a good idea to score yourself with the kibbe test and have someone else do that for you.
/r/RedPillWomen13/11/17 09:00 PM
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The only question that matters.
/r/askTRP13/11/17 08:45 PM
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Demure, and conservative do not mean "Nun in a habit" hahah! Casual and street wear describe the jeans and shirt combo you are referring to. Sweats and a tank does not rank as fashion lol. This isn't a 'fashion is relative' instance. Fashion has very specific levels and classifications. I wish I could recommend the FemaleFashionAdvice sub to you...but they confuse a lot of things, and often mistake mid-range trends and brands as 'high end.' Most likely due to the fact that the community is large…
/r/RedPillWomen13/11/17 08:40 PM
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I hope you enjoy it!
/r/RedPillWomen13/11/17 08:31 PM
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Why does it "feel sketchy" exactly? If she's paying her own way, I'm not sure what the issue is. Have her stay in a hotel, if you have to go to work, then you can't be bothered with her during that time. Make a list of places she should check out and things she can do on her own. Have fun and enjoy the international tail.
/r/askTRP13/11/17 08:14 PM
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https://www.youtube.com/user/JunsKitchen/videos Jun's Kitchen There's also a channel he runs with his wife, called Rachel and Jun, and another about their adventures. Watch a few of their videos, and youtube will suggest other channels that are similar. :) You should also go to /r/Fatpeoplestories and look into the "Chibiham" series. The artist created lots of comics, and reading all the entries, you will hear a lot about local Japanese culture.
/r/RedPillWomen13/11/17 08:11 PM
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I can recommend a few youtube channels if you would like to learn more about culture. :)
/r/RedPillWomen13/11/17 07:46 PM
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I have been developing my personal style over the past few years. Knowing what my BF enjoys seeing me in has made everything a lot easier. I have always dressed the 'same' whether single or in a relationship in that I always put myself together. I wear clothes that fit my body and compliment my best features.
/r/RedPillWomen13/11/17 07:45 PM
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Conservative and 'dressed down' are not inherently tied to each other. For example, if you look at Ivanka and Melania Trump, they always dress in a conservative and sophisticated style.
/r/RedPillWomen13/11/17 07:41 PM
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This type of approach can really backfire if it goes sideways. If she is conservative and guarded, pressure over text will not be compelling enough to prompt her cooperation. If it doesn't work, you can go from a man she is fond of to someone she avoids at all costs. That said, if you understand the possible negative consequences, then you should proceed lightly. Texting is not really the ideal format to use. Talking on the phone, video chat, or seeing her in person all offer a higher chance of …
/r/askTRP13/11/17 07:13 PM
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This is a great example! When repairmen come, either to deal with the electrics, water, or do work outside, they all perk up the moment I actually greet them and make small talk. They literally expect to be ignored and discounted. So an offering of bottled water, holding a flashlight, just being calm and laid back, makes them go the extra mile. They'll do some extra repair for no charge, they'll suggest other things that should be looked into, they work faster, and sometimes knock off the total …
/r/RedPillWomen13/11/17 06:14 PM
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Yes! I always love when there's a documentary or ink show that talks about the thought process that goes into figuring out orientation, size, and placement of a tattoo. All of which are just as important as the actual image. Yes, in Japan tattoos are always a sign of gang involvement, and businesses just avoid the issue all together by banning those with tattoos. Japanese culture is really fascinating. They also have 'weeping boys.' They are men that are hired by businesses or individual women. …
/r/RedPillWomen13/11/17 06:03 PM
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We have very different understandings of that word. Again, OP is not the one concerned about the financial obligation or legality...it's the gf that does not want the baby advice should always be RP and tailored to suit the needs of the OP and their goals.
/r/askTRP13/11/17 05:11 PM
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Both. The purpose is to maintain where you are, with the hope that you will also improve.
/r/RedPillWomen13/11/17 05:51 AM
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Look into scholarships as well. There are so many that never get used. It's a pain to apply, but it will help you a lot. Also, if you are going to work and put yourself through college, you shouldn't let your dad stop you. You are an adult, and this is your future.
/r/askTRP13/11/17 02:31 AM
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Not a problem, I hope you find some stuff you like! Please report back and let me know what you end up going with. :)
/r/RedPillWomen13/11/17 02:26 AM
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So with the Irish thing: look into Belleek and Waterford Crystal https://www.etsy.com/search?q=belleek&explicit=1&order=price_desc&page=4 General search https://www.etsy.com/listing/269508336/set-of-5-morgan-belleek-salad-plates?ga_order=price_desc&ga_search_type=all&ga_view_type=gallery&ga_search_query=belleek&ref=sr_gallery_6 https://www.etsy.com/listing/484150517/willets-belleek-bowl-with-purple-violets?ga_order=price_desc&ga_search_type=all&ga_view_type=gallery&ga_search_query=belleek&ref=sc…
/r/RedPillWomen13/11/17 02:23 AM
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I will take a look and find a few things to share with you either tonight or tomorrow! :)
/r/RedPillWomen13/11/17 01:52 AM
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I love figuring out gifts to give! How much money do you have allotted for his family's presents? What do you know about his relatives specifically? Are they religious, do they enjoy classical music, are they fond of a specific time in history? Do they know anything about their family line? etsy and ebay are fantastic resources to find unusual and unique presents. You could go with something sentimental? There are artists that use sand dollars or pieces of drift wood to paint custom images on. I…
/r/RedPillWomen13/11/17 01:47 AM
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My bf has bluetooth headphones, a smart watch, phone, an e cigarette for nicotine, another for marijuana, laptop, tablet, and a PS Vita playing the "Let's make sure everything is charged" game is one I'm familiar with haha!
/r/RedPillWomen12/11/17 11:28 PM
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OP sounds like he is from the US, in which case what you are talking about doesn't exist. Canada may have some sort of program like this, I'm not sure. -shrugs- Also, he doesn't sound concerned with the financial obligations if his GF has the child. It's that she doesn't want the baby, and he's confused about what to do.
/r/askTRP12/11/17 10:39 PM
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Sometimes they have a travel program, where they send young adults to another country to learn and study. There are many events and charities. Generally popular among previous generations. It's a good way to meet other people, and learn about unique programs. They sometimes have scholarships to help people as well.
/r/askTRP12/11/17 09:53 PM
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You have a few options: AA ("I agree, we should wait 30 years to meet up so we can be super sure we actually want to") Push past ("I'm going to - location - @ TI:ME, see you there.") Ignore, literally just do not respond to the message until she contacts you again. Regardless of the approach you choose, you should be working on other women as well.
/r/askTRP12/11/17 09:01 PM
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I'm thinking next, however it's a bit strange she didn't just make an excuse or ignore the message, what's the best course of action? She sounds like a cautious woman. Some will delay meeting in person. It's odd that she would use Tinder in this manner, since it's mainly used to hookup. How long does it take for you to meet up with women from Tinder? If you generally meet a woman after a few hours or two days at most, then you have to figure out if the increased waiting time is worth it. How? We…
/r/askTRP12/11/17 08:34 PM
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Because infidelity isn't attractive to women. Women value resources, standing, security, and being with a man that has power. The power to provide, defend, and protect the woman. A man that cheats, is showing very clearly that his resources are not exclusively for the woman he entered into a relationship with. His behavior indicates that he doesn't actually care for the woman he's dating or married to, and that he'd open them up to risk by screwing other women.
/r/askTRP12/11/17 08:10 PM
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I always keep at least one scented candle lit. Vacuum every other day, round up his personal items and put them where he can he easily find them. I make sure his phone is charging and I take his glasses off if he falls asleep for a nap. I always take note of his mood and energy level. He does the same for me. We both do things we know will make the other person feel peaceful and loved. When he's focused on a project or reading, I will sit in the same room as him and do my own thing. I'll bring h…
/r/RedPillWomen12/11/17 07:41 PM
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Some people don't consider abortion to be murder, others do. I don't know why some of the people here are pretending otherwise. It is completely understandable to be upset and uncertain about abortion. Even more importantly, she is going to feel all these things as well. If she wants an abortion, that's fine, and you won't be able to change her mind in all likelihood. What you can do is share your own concerns with her, and always be there for her. When she goes to get the abortion, you should b…
/r/askTRP12/11/17 07:29 PM
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Femininity is a quiet power, it influences others before you ever open your mouth to speak. When people see me, they smile at me first. Strangers go out of their way to interact with me, or do small favors without prompting. Holding the door open, lifting something for me. Femininity can dispel tension with very little effort. People control their temper's and watch their language, they apologize if they do something they think will bother me. It's also a confidence booster. When I feel pretty, …
/r/RedPillWomen12/11/17 07:08 PM
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The "RP is amoral" tends to get thrown around a lot more when someone is pushing immoral advice. I will say, that while RP for the male sexual strategy doesn't have any stated morals, other than self respect, the female side of RP has many inherent ideals and morals. Lastly, RP is a set of tools, so that every man can adapt it to their own personal morals.
/r/askTRP12/11/17 06:43 PM
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Where does it say he lives in France?
/r/askTRP12/11/17 06:39 PM
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Lie about your job, or tell her that you aren't working. Do what you need to in order to get laid. You aren't looking for a relationship...just some fun.
/r/askTRP12/11/17 05:14 AM
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It's not useful to pretend that an abortion will have no affect on her if she goes through with it, but if she isn't read for a child, then an abortion will not 'ruin' her. Especially if she has you there to help her through everything. If you are willing to have a child with this woman, you should sit her down and let her know that. Just be sure you understand what that would mean. Regardless of whether you stay together or break up, you would be on the financial hook for the next 18 years at l…
/r/askTRP12/11/17 04:14 AM
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If you are only hooking up with random strangers, then you are gambling. Bag it, and ejaculate outside of her (even what a condom on) is your best option. Feminists tend to love the 'responsible, caring type' anyway, so there's that at least. You would have to have your own test results ready to share though. It's always a good idea to be picky about the women you have sex with anyway. Learn to weed out the crazies, the desperate, and the women that want you to wife them.
/r/askTRP12/11/17 03:22 AM
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I rate you a first class asshole and hopeless loser.
/r/askTRP12/11/17 03:18 AM
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Always use a condom, and don't ejaculate in a woman ever. Be careful about the types of women you hook up with, and always have a Plan B to give to a woman just in case. You should be asking to see her recent STD tests anyway, and make sure she's using the pill or has an IUD.
/r/askTRP12/11/17 03:17 AM
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Doesn't matter, still weird. Not to mention you are doxxing yourself and your gf by posting a picture here. You may not know this, but RP users have been harassed, and fired from their jobs after people figured out their identity. Doxxing is a huge issue and people should always err on the side of caution.
/r/askTRP12/11/17 03:06 AM
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This is fucked up for so many reasons I don't even know where to start. If you aren't attracted to your GF and you don't like your relationship with her - then break it off and move on. If you are attracted to her, and you enjoy your relationship, why the hell do you care what random strangers think?
/r/askTRP12/11/17 03:02 AM
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It's not bad to care for a woman, it's just important to make sure she has earned it. Good luck, I hope it all works out for you.
/r/askTRP12/11/17 02:48 AM
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Those are both great openers, and it sounds like you have a good handle on what works for you. Good luck!
/r/askTRP12/11/17 02:42 AM
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You are not in control, and you seem to care more about this woman than you are willing to admit. Distance yourself and find new women to have fun with. You are treating her as a GF that has the freedom to sleep around. It isn't worth the headache.
/r/askTRP12/11/17 02:38 AM
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Okay, so it sounds like you are slightly above average in appearance, and your voice is pushing you over into 8 or higher territory. The good news is that these comments are not hindering you from closing successfully. Consider altering your approach a bit, and maybe use your voice to open. Meaning you spot an attractive woman, and when her back is turned to you, go up to her and ask something. This would be easier at a crowded, but not too loud bar. Walk up, "Excuse" or "Pardon me (miss, darlin…
/r/askTRP12/11/17 02:21 AM
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Historically, "handsome" was a term used to describe attractive men and women. Sometimes women will describe male models or actors as "so pretty my eyes hurt". Unfortunately the combination of both 'adorable' and 'pretty' leads me to believe that they aren't turned on by you. Did you end up sleeping with any or all of the women that described you this way? Accents are nearly always attractive, which is something you should use to your advantage. If you are succeeding more than you are failing, t…
/r/askTRP12/11/17 01:30 AM
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No you tried to just mention in passing that we talked in PM...like it's a completely normal and benign thing that I do regularly, which is NOT true. You wanted everyone to take you at your word. I shared full context, so people can see for themselves exactly what happened. Here's a thought, if you categorize someone sharing verbatim transcripts of a conversation as 'disloyal' or 'untrustworthy' behavior, that heavily implies you aren't as confident and 'okay' with what you wrote. My innocence i…
/r/askTRP12/11/17 01:02 AM
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Hahah not a problem! Below every comment there are a series of options "context" "source" "full comments" "Report" "Block user" "mark unread" and "reply" If you hit "context" then it will take you to that conversation either in part, or its entirety. The top comment will then have a "permalink" option. Click that, and a new web address will appear at the top of your internet page. CTRL + X will cut that address. Then you use the reddit formatting to create the link. Here is the formula you use, …
/r/RedPillWomen12/11/17 12:41 AM
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Strategic jealousy is about how other men hit on her, buy her a drink, 'make eyes' etc. If she was trying to make him jealous, she wouldn't be showing the letters to him so he could read. It would be 'oh we write letters' and talking about how she received one...not showing him exactly what's been written. That is not when you need to start to worry. That is when you need to next her. Depends. If a woman just mentions something in passing, then a guy turns around and starts asking her about ever…
/r/askTRP12/11/17 12:25 AM
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Why the hell are you giving women handshakes??!! You hug them upon greeting and saying goodbye. Usually the hug goodbye is followed or preceded by a kiss.
/r/askTRP11/11/17 11:53 PM
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When a woman is being upfront and open about correspondence like this, it isn't to make you jealous. She is being transparent, and sharing something with you that is important to her. Start to worry when she's being secretive and trying to deny that she talks to another guy. In the meantime, stop letting it bother you. When something bothers you, that means it hits too close to home, or it reminds you of your own insecurities. You sound jealous, so just get over it.
/r/askTRP11/11/17 11:52 PM
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There's a lot of ground to cover with this idea. (1) Women that are groupies and chase the most successful and famous men. Think actors, billionaires, athletes, rock stars. The women that chase these men know how highly desired they are, and the goal is to simply have contact with the men. They know from the start that they are just a drop in the sea, but that's okay, because the men have such incredible standing. These women won't get mad about the guy cheating. Partly because they never get co…
/r/askTRP11/11/17 10:53 PM
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If that's the case then you are the reason for your own misery. You have to make yourself attractive to women. There's a lot of material on TRP about how to do this, but the first place you need to start is with your personality and outlook. No one will be able to 'convince' you that there are good women, and bad men, and everything in between with your current mindset. You have the ability to make positive changes that will lead to happier circumstances....you just seem to enjoy being bitter to…
/r/askTRP11/11/17 10:41 PM
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As I said, you are clearly in the grips of the anger phase. That's not a bad thing, trial by fire and all that. If you honestly think that there are no decent women, then as the other user said, you don't really understand the nature of women or RP at all just yet. Additionally, there are many good and decent women, and you can increase your chances of meeting those women by fostering a healthy social network filled with people you respect.
/r/askTRP11/11/17 10:21 PM
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Good to know! Do you remember which movie?
/r/askTRP11/11/17 10:14 PM
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...psychological level is not rocket surgery. Hahah did you mean to mix your metaphors here, or were you just typing to fast?
/r/askTRP11/11/17 10:10 PM
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You're in the anger phase, and that's fine. First I'd say that you need to create a better social network with friends and peers. Surround yourself with other successful men and women. If you are religious, you can also find friends that way. The idea is that when you know a lot of great, worthwhile people, you'll start running into and meeting worthwhile women. I can tell you that even if you met the most amazing woman in the world tomorrow, she would avoid you like the plague given your curren…
/r/askTRP11/11/17 10:08 PM
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Good luck. I would also say that mental illness should be avoided at all costs. Depression is very normalized today, but it isn't worth dealing with. If the chick is just a plate, that might be all right as long as she's good in the sack. Any woman you consider making your GF however should be mentally and physically healthy.
/r/askTRP11/11/17 10:03 PM
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I'm confused why you didn't shut her down sooner? You tell her you are going to surprise her with something fun, and her reaction is to make plans with other people and drag you along? Then you stick around for the meal, only leaving after you are done...and then she flips out and you continue talking to her. The problem here is that she doesn't listen when you say things and make plans. She didn't go along with your surprise plan, and she didn't listen to your beach invitation. since this is a …
/r/askTRP11/11/17 10:00 PM
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If a girl is talking to you about other men she finds attractive, it means she isn't interested in you. She considers you to be a friend, nothing more. If you don't want to just be friends with the woman, then stop hanging out with her.
/r/askTRP11/11/17 09:55 PM
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She gave up her status as a priority in your life when the relationship ended. I'm sure she spammed a bunch of people with the same message, and even if she didn't, it's not your responsibility to help her anymore. Ignore and go on with your life.
/r/askTRP11/11/17 09:53 PM
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You should not give up something you love. You should start socializing with other men that love to lift or play sports. They will understand your priorities and will probably want to train with you. You don't want to be with a man that would discourage you from doing what you love in this case.
/r/RedPillWomen11/11/17 07:51 PM
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It does seem more and more likely that US culture is going to return to traditional values. You can already see this happening with much of the alt-right. Both men and women are making the choice to live a life that is different from their more liberal peers. The left continues to shout and make a mess of everything, they're even driving moderate liberals and independents to the right. The oppressive liberal strangle hold on the US is starting to fatigue, and people are no longer content to shut…
/r/RedPillWomen11/11/17 07:30 PM
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This seems like an unnecessary distinction. The thread is specifically about women taking control of their behavior and appearance to achieve the goals they want. This sub is not about what men could or should do....that's what TRP is for. RPW focuses on female responsibility, behavior, growth, and action. Your comment strikes me as snowflake behavior. Similar to what some women do on TRP when they don't like what's being said, so they chime in with "well I'm not like that!" and "men need to be …
/r/RedPillWomen11/11/17 07:24 PM
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Sorry I was unclear. I meant that women can only practice things that men find pleasing if she knows what they are prior to even starting. A woman can not improve herself to be feminine and pleasing to men without first understanding what men want and desire. Understanding male preferences act as a blueprint upon which a woman vases her personal evolution. Sure people can start building a house without any plans, but the final structure will be more appealing and sound if a lot of thoughtful pla…
/r/RedPillWomen11/11/17 08:11 AM
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I'm not sure I understand what you mean exactly, I covered some of the basic things men generally want as part of the 'are you willing to...' portions of the post. To put it another way, a woman should be willing to do those things that men find desirable and attractive if she wants a relationship or marriage, because that is the only way she will be able to earn a man's commitment. :)
/r/RedPillWomen11/11/17 07:57 AM
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Dressing nice and being down with trekking through the forest are not mutually exclusive things. I'll conclude this comment simply by stating I think you have a severe view of something everyone else seems to understand. I don't think it requires any kind of super human feat to be well dressed and put together. The women with insecurity and anxiety would have those feelings regardless. Meaning that if it wasn't make up it would be something else. I respect your right to your own opinions but thi…
/r/RedPillWomen11/11/17 07:51 AM
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I really love that expression! Another one that has always stayed with me: "is this really the hill you want to die on?" I completely understand what you mean and agree! Thank you for sharing your story. Maybe we should have a 'favorite or guiding quotes' thread at some point! :)
/r/RedPillWomen11/11/17 07:47 AM
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It sounds like you are doing everything you can to lead a balanced life that also creates opportunities to meet new men. I wish you luck in your journey, and I will keep you in my thoughts as well. Thank you for the kind words. <3
/r/RedPillWomen11/11/17 07:15 AM
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All your words described me to a tee lol. That was uncomfortable and soothing at the same time because you get it. I'm so glad to hear that! I feel exactly the same way when I happen to meet other introverts. :) so if someone seems sincere then I’m totally interested and may come on a little strong and then to combat that I fallback completely because I may feel awkward or making them uncomfortable projecting my own insecurity so I just try to detach before I cause any damage to either party. If…
/r/RedPillWomen11/11/17 06:50 AM
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I asked a series of questions, constructed to highlight many of the issues that are common today. For example the HAES movement, women that declare (loudly) that shaving is oppressive, and women should never dress to look good for other people. This is based on a culture that considers it desirable to have a five minute 'get ready routine.' Looks are important, so I hope you aren't trying to deny that at least. "Dress for the job you want" is another way to think about this. What's the point of …
/r/RedPillWomen11/11/17 06:37 AM
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Ha how much do I owe you for the session Doctor? Aww haha, I just have a tendency to notice patterns sometimes. :) I am so sorry that you had such a hard time when you were younger. Being independent and self reliant at such a young age makes total sense. May I ask what type of man you are generally attracted to, or what you personal vetting list consists of? Highly guarded women are a bit like wild deer. Very sensitive, constantly alert, and ready to run if something feels even slightly off. Th…
/r/RedPillWomen11/11/17 06:22 AM
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Dunno what to tell you, I have seen RP music threads, movie suggestions, novels etc all recommended and talked about. Maybe it just became a typical, low effort trend that was clogging up the sub, so they made it a rule. - shrugs -
/r/askTRP11/11/17 06:02 AM
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It can be hard to move on when you still think there's opportunity and potential. Just keep in mind that starting fresh with someone that doesn't know anything about you, is far easier then trying to repair your standing with someone that you've stumbled around. Good luck.
/r/askTRP11/11/17 05:57 AM
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I have a more important question, why are you shitting where you eat? It's too risky to mess around with the women you work with, they can make your life hell even if you don't do anything wrong. In any event, you should forget her and move on.
/r/askTRP11/11/17 05:42 AM
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This is really interesting. You are the second person to respond with this concern of being 'used' emotionally and making yourself vulnerable to someone. This is a trait that is generally associated with men more so than women. The aloof, brooding man, that resists all attempt to tie him down etc. May I ask if your parents had a rocky marriage, or if they divorced? Can you pinpoint the moment in your life where you went from more open and trusting, to very cautious? Or were you always distant an…
/r/RedPillWomen11/11/17 05:40 AM
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Your own example doesn't hold up according to what you said! The majority of the advice is good, and even the advice in your example ends up being good according to your standards....yet still you are bitching? If you think advice needs to be given that hasn't been shared, then you should contribute that advice. Your thread was irrelevant to the sub, which is why /u/laceandsilks removed it...
/r/RedPillWomen11/11/17 05:35 AM
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I'll reply since you are referring to my comment in part. There are red flags, things that instantly make a person less desirable. Single mom for women is one example. Mental illness applies to both men and women. Turns out, the OP of that thread also has depression. If you read the entire exchange, I even say something to the effect of "since you both have depression, you cannot count that as a red flag in a partner because that's hypocritical." Your example is pretty weak as far as proving you…
/r/RedPillWomen11/11/17 05:18 AM
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And no one told you the reasoning behind it? Maybe cause you have a humorous writing style?
/r/askTRP11/11/17 05:13 AM
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Resources, food, power, strength etc....although trade and money or valuables have always been part of society. Whether it was a precious gem, seashell, or something that is carefully made, we've always had currency in one form or another. The guy that can bring home food to eat, and protect her from dangers, that has wealth.
/r/askTRP11/11/17 05:11 AM
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Your pressure flip doesn't work. She's questioning your value as a man, so you come back with spontaneity? I get what you were going for, but it's not really effective. Woman: I want to see if you're worth dating Man: Fair enough, I need to see if you're worth buying dinner for. -Restaurant Name- at -instert time-, you in? This response is more direct and it moves the conversation forward. She has to put up or shut up. Either way, you figure out what to do next based on her response. Another gen…
/r/askTRP11/11/17 05:07 AM
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That's understandable, it can be hard to get in the right mindset, especially if you feel a bit uncomfortable. I hope things work out for ya, and if they don't, just remember there are a million more women out there. Most will definitely be better looking than her.
/r/askTRP11/11/17 04:53 AM
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From your account, yes, it does sound that bad. You shouldn't be at a shit job you hate anyway. Life is to short to be a sheep, go out and find what makes you happy.
/r/askTRP11/11/17 04:52 AM
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Aww, well I'm glad everything worked out in the end! Yes some people are very gun shy, and extremely resistant to ever putting themselves in a situation where they could end up getting hurt. Thank you for sharing! :)
/r/RedPillWomen11/11/17 04:51 AM
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Unfortunately that doesn't really help either. Observe her behavior, and try to use some light game on her. See if she flirts with you or tries to stand close. There's a lot of bullshit body language information out there. Truth be told, a shy woman that's attracted to you will have a hard time maintaining eye contact. A confident and forward woman will be able to maintain eye contact to indicate interest. At the same time a forward woman that is disinterested or bored, will not maintain eye con…
/r/askTRP11/11/17 04:49 AM
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She's still interested and responding to you, so you things aren't ruined. You just need to be more relaxed and calm. Don't ask to kiss her, instead you could say "come here"....but based on what you have written, I think you would have a difficult time pulling that off. Find excuses to brush your hand against her shoulder, or sit close to her. Invite her to watch a movie. This will be easier if you know what type of films she enjoys. Scary movies are an easy one so long as you aren't very jumpy…
/r/askTRP11/11/17 04:46 AM
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Thanks for sharing! It's interesting that you didn't think you had to bring anything to the table. How did you end up dating your guy? Was it strained at all, or rocky at any point?
/r/RedPillWomen11/11/17 04:42 AM
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I took her to get sushi today. Did you pay? DTF doesn't mean shelling out your money on plates. Then i said "let's smoke", and she livened up. Possible that she perked up because first you are treating her to food, and then you're letting her get high on your stash. She mentioned throughout the time at the apartment that she was going to take a nap before she goes out to a frat party with her friends. Your reply could have been "okay let's go get you tucked in, I'm an excellent pillow" or whatev…
/r/askTRP11/11/17 04:41 AM
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A date has a specific set of expectations, there can be added pressure as well. It means you are both interested in seeing how compatible you are, with the intent of becoming physical and also potentially forming a relationship. "Chilling" for some women means "we're going to have fun, flirt, and mess around" there's potential for a FWB agreement. For other women it means "I only think of you as a friend or beta orbiter." Meaning she enjoys your company, likes the attention, but will never put o…
/r/askTRP11/11/17 04:36 AM
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I just saw your flair, and I'm wondering if you made it in reference to the movie with Danny Kaye or if it's just meant to be the generic concept of the court jester?
/r/askTRP11/11/17 04:05 AM
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I don't understand what you mean? The term "The Red Pill" literally refers to a scene in the movie "The Matrix" where Neo is offered the choice between the red pill (awareness and learning the truth) and the blue pill (remaining ignorant). I often see movies, tv, and songs referenced and analyzed as well.
/r/askTRP11/11/17 04:03 AM
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How old are you? You may benefit from taking a speech class, or participating in a drama club. "Fake it til you make it" should be your guiding philosophy. You can also check out /r/ActLikeYouBelong. The greatest showmen, salesmen, and players may not feel confident, but they always project it. You have to take a slightly PUA mentality as well. Put yourself out there, hit on women. Not a few, but 100 every night. Do it so much it becomes boring and rejection loses its sting. You have not develop…
/r/askTRP11/11/17 03:59 AM
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Hahahaah that's so great! I haven't made any "you put a ring on my finger and..." promises to my guy yet...but this does give me a REALLY fun idea for a thread!! BRB.... :)
/r/RedPillWomen11/11/17 03:49 AM
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Fapping to porn and hot women isn't the same as tripping over your tongue when you encounter an attractive woman in person. Are you struggling to treat hot women in your day to day life like normal people? If you're just concerned about your porn consumption then you should check out nofap etc.
/r/askTRP11/11/17 03:46 AM
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You are neck high in self-pity right now, you think you have it tough. Start volunteering places. At a soup kitchen, suicide hotline, mentoring young boys, at the library, picking up trash....anything. You are far from any kind of real difficulty or danger. You can study in your own time to get your GED and take a few classes at a community college. You have to figure out what makes you passionate. Rock climbing? Park ranger, private security, construction, cooking? Volunteer on a farm or ranch,…
/r/askTRP11/11/17 03:43 AM
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TL;DR: OP dislikes job, managed to get transferred to an easier spot that allows for more freedom. Enter new hot chick in LDR with dude. OP flirts and hits on her without success. She always puts him off, referencing her relationship and BF. OP does not take hint, tries and fails to use sneakier tactics. Suddenly he finds himself placed back in his old spot, and is worried chick complained about him to management. My answer: don't shit where you eat and learn to take a hint. Don't seek her out, …
/r/askTRP11/11/17 03:35 AM
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Thanks for the response! I think the tat's being a 'slut tell' are way off. I'm sure there's lots of slutty women with tats (maybe a higher rate), but I know lots of girls with tats who are in committed, long-term, monogamous relationships. I think the tattoo issue is a far more complex one than people think. First, there are different types of tattoos, and different places to have a tattoo added. I think the 'tramp stamp' is a fairly common and generally pretty fair summation. Along those lines…
/r/RedPillWomen11/11/17 02:45 AM
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I'm glad you think so! :)
/r/RedPillWomen11/11/17 01:25 AM
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Thank you, I appreciate it. :)
/r/RedPillWomen11/11/17 01:25 AM
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Tell her about invisaline or similar services, and move on.
/r/askTRP10/11/17 09:28 PM
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Tinder is for hooking up, any woman on there is not in a position to say "well I'm traditional." You wasted your time, but at least you didn't spend any money on her.
/r/askTRP10/11/17 09:24 PM
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Whyyyyyy would you do this to yourself? Imagine the following scenario: Man: Hey will you cook me some dinner? Woman: No, I'm tired. Will you make me dinner? Man: OKAY!!! Seriously, this would be funny if it didn't make me grimace so much. Laugh it off if you can, and try to make sure she deletes it at some future date.
/r/askTRP10/11/17 08:13 PM
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You are only a BB if you behave like one and allow a woman to treat you as such. There are a lot of LTR theory posts on TRP. You should read them. I know there was a particularly long series a few years back, but you can just use the search function. You have to figure out what you want, and how you will act to secure your interests. If you want an LTR, there's no reason you shouldn't start one if you think this woman is worth it. Just do your research and know what you are getting yourself into…
/r/askTRP10/11/17 08:08 PM
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Plate isn't a particularly unusual concept these days. The RP documentary came out, everything happening with places like The Donald, and even on imgur and other sites. Just as PUA has entered into the common lexicon of young adults, so to is RP terminology. It's best to AA or brush off comments like that or joke about them. Alternatively, you can hit back with something like "what makes you worth keeping around?" Just depends on your personal preference.
/r/askTRP10/11/17 07:49 PM
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You spent too much time talking via text, if I am reading your post correctly. You should have escalated to hanging out in person and actually getting a drink. When you didn't do that, you then waited three days to talk to her? She had time to cool down, freak out, and reconsider. The good news is that she's still signaling interest and teasing you. Before she was teasing you by suggesting more was possible, but now she is teasing you with 'cooled off disinterest.' Stop mucking about and take he…
/r/askTRP10/11/17 07:32 PM
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Understandable. If you aren't ready for anything now maybe you are better off keeping her interested, but not doing anything with her. Flirt, make sure you keep tabs on her, and when you are ready to settle into an LTR, assuming you get to that point, it's easy to transition things with her. The good ones are worth looking out for, and doing your best not to damage. My two cents at least.
/r/askTRP10/11/17 07:24 PM
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Never rely on a woman 'taking a hint' especially when you know she has a specific goal in mind that completely clashes with your own. You have to be specifically direct and clear that a relationship will not happen. "We just going to have fun" type of stuff. Tell her she should go out on a date with someone you know at some point. The guy doesn't actually have to be a good match for her, it's just to show her that you aren't possessive and you aren't trying to tie her down. On another note, if t…
/r/askTRP10/11/17 07:14 PM
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Was she crazy or manipulative when you were going out? One thing you can be assured of, if a woman was difficult when she had commitment, that behavior will be amplified as a plate. Plates are supposed to be (relatively) low effort. Dread is easier because it requires brevity, disinterest, and space. Clear rules that are adhered to, always. Done correctly, spinning plates is not a source of stress or worry for the man. If you think you can handle whatever dialed up shit she throws at you, then t…
/r/askTRP10/11/17 06:58 PM
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I agree that her behavior was appalling. She could have done all that travelling with her husband as a way to heal and get over herself. I bet that given the option between a divorce and a several months long vacation, he'd opt for the latter! If you manage to ignore the reason why she's travelling, there are some really fun descriptions and explanations of local philosophy and culture. Although I will say that her 'vow of silence' idea at the ashram or whatever it was, really made me cringe. I …
/r/RedPillWomen10/11/17 05:27 PM
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I haven't read the book, although I have heard of it. I tried to do a search, but I can't figure out if she's married or not. Do you know her own relationship status? I personally have a really big pet peeve about single people telling others how to get married and find love. Why should anyone trust their opinion if they haven't been able to use that information to snag a guy themselves?! The book sort of reminds me of another really popular novel that was also made into a movie. "Eat Pray Love.…
/r/RedPillWomen10/11/17 05:04 PM
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One problem with the concept of 'passive protest' is that it doesn't actually do anything. Men that are opting out of dating really aren't hurting the dating world. Women still get married, dumped, have kids, and date. The effect is lessened even more once you realize that for many men, MGTOW and abstaining from dating is really just a phase. They go back to dating once they meet a woman they like. Another issue is that MGTOW seems to not realize how little actual influence they accrue by not da…
/r/RedPillWomen09/11/17 06:49 PM
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I think it's wise for women to approach dating and finding a good man in the same way they go about getting a job. It's a full time commitment, and requires a lot of effort, research, patience, consideration, and may require taking some risks. One quote that has always stuck with me: "Getting a job is a full-time job." The same applies to a relationship. The woman has to update her resume (looks, personality, behavior) so that it looks appealing. References are a must (family, church, and friend…
/r/RedPillWomen03/11/17 07:05 PM
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Serious question, are you a guy? I have never heard any woman talk about or even suggest that this is why she likes parties or bars. We only really feel uncertainty or apprehension on the street, outside the bar by ourselves...it's going to or coming from the social gathering that is most likely to create added stress....and even then it's not ever present or constant. While actually at the party or bar, we are just thinking about having fun, looking good, and flirting. The idea of danger never …
/r/RedPillWomen03/11/17 03:48 PM
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This isn't hard to understand if you think about it really. Women are protected by family, friends, and even many strangers from a very young age. Throw that in with feminism, which says women and men are exactly the same, and it's easy to see why women are so naive and presumptuous. I would also say that many women are hesitant and concerned, but not enough so to stop going out and drinking with strangers, or partying too much, or going home with the hot mysterious stranger. Once you get into t…
/r/RedPillWomen03/11/17 03:33 PM
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I think you have been with this man for over a decade, so I have a hard time believing that these habits are brand new and developed out of thin air. Also, if your biggest complaint are 'he doesn't care about cleaning' and 'he won't deposit a few checks a month' then you need to realize how lucky you are compared to many. There is no use in talking about what he could or should do, because you can't control him. You can only control your own actions. How you talk, react, and treat him. How your …
/r/RedPillWomen03/11/17 03:07 PM
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It could mean many things: you aren't coming off as open, interested, and easy to approach you aren't visually ticking off the things these men want you aren't hanging out with the right people socially it's also possible that they know you won't put out (this is good) School in particular can be difficult because the 'hottest' guys may not want any kind of relationship. If they are only interested in sex, then it's for the best that you aren't on their radar. It's really hard to say one way or …
/r/RedPillWomen03/11/17 01:18 AM
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Thanks for sharing! I want to say that I have read something similar to this at one point or another...but I could just be imaging that. There are stupid things complete strangers do all the time, but due to common courtesy we almost always let things slide. You can observe a lot of 'tongue biting' in offices too. The way I see it, only shitty people afford coworkers and complete strangers more patience and understanding than they extend to their boyfriend or husband.
/r/RedPillWomen03/11/17 01:09 AM
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You misunderstand. OP was fat, she's less fat now, and a work in progress. Her BF dated her knowing about her goals and self-improvement project. He started dating her even though she's still improving. It is possible to be happy with where a person is at this exact moment, while still wanting them to improve even more. He wouldn't be with her if he found her repulsive. It's unlikely that he is the type of loser you are talking about because she only has 20 lbs to lose, not 200. Nothing about my…
/r/RedPillWomen03/11/17 01:05 AM
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Hahaha I do read that sub and I am part of some groups on another site. I have 20lbs to lose still, and even then I will only be on the slightly lower end of the BMI for my height. I take supplements regularly too, I just have to build up to it I think. I will continue fasting even after I hit my goal weight too, just because I feel really great during them. :)
/r/RedPillWomen02/11/17 10:53 PM
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I think you exert more effort trying to change him, and it would be easier just to sign his name and cash the checks. You have to be careful about what you focus on. Is it really worth having the same conversation over and over again without seeing any changes? My guy never puts his socks in the hamper. I could continually ask, knowing that he just doesn't think about that when he gets home from work. I know I have to pick up the socks and put them in the hamper if it bugs me too much. I know th…
/r/RedPillWomen02/11/17 09:47 PM
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I completely understand! :) If you want an accountability buddy just let me know (shoot me a PM).
/r/RedPillWomen02/11/17 09:11 PM
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Hahaha! I'm glad I could help. :)
/r/RedPillWomen02/11/17 08:54 PM
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I fast as well! Have you ever done a longer fast? If I go longer than 6 days, my body just doesn't really like it. Right now I try to do 4-5 days.
/r/RedPillWomen02/11/17 06:32 PM
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The wall does not hit at exactly the same time for every woman, and 30 is the most commonly mentioned age because that is generally when women that have not settled down tend to feel a bit panicked and really want to get married. Some women hit the wall before 30, some at 30, and others after. There are many factors that go into your current position as it relates to your wall. First, there's the biological component. Fertility decreases and it becomes harder to have children. Then there's the w…
/r/RedPillWomen02/11/17 06:31 PM
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Don't bring it up. Just move on and let it go. He didn't do anything wrong. "The key to a happy relationship? A bad memory and a great sense of humor"
/r/RedPillWomen02/11/17 05:56 PM
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It wasn't 'tit-for-tat' though. She initiated the teasing and targeted his body and cleaning habits, any normal person would assume that she is also fine with return-teasing on the same subject. There's nothing in her post that says he regularly makes her feel insecure about her body. In fact, he probably wouldn't be with her if he really had a problem with her weight. She created this issue, so she just needs to avoid honing in on his body when teasing. This wasn't 'tit-for-tat,' it was fair pl…
/r/RedPillWomen02/11/17 05:13 PM
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My feelings would be hurt too if I were in your shoes, however I would also recognize that I had just insulted him. What do you do? You remember that if you prod him with 'jokes,' then he'll return the favor. Also, how tall are you specifically?
/r/RedPillWomen02/11/17 05:08 PM
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My go to rule "if you can't say something nice, don't say anything at all." - Thumper You can tailor it too. 'if you can't say something nice, supportive, or positive then keep your lips zipped.' You seem to be a bit of a 'mother' right now. You think you know better, you don't want him to embarrass you, and you hone in on minor things. If you want to stop being a mother, then focus on being his cheerleader and sex kitten. Your job is to build him up and make him look great when you're around ot…
/r/RedPillWomen23/10/17 08:00 AM
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A crack in the paint is not an issue. And OMG you sound impossible. Good luck and goodbye.
/r/RedPillWomen22/10/17 01:11 AM
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Oops realized you said 'old' and not 'odd'. Haha!
/r/RedPillWomen22/10/17 12:46 AM
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You mean because it has nothing to do with the sub? Lol! :)
/r/RedPillWomen22/10/17 12:45 AM
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Amazing how women will focus on one minor flaw and obsess over it to the point of risking a happy relationship. Imagine buying a house, noticing a crack in the wall, and burning the entire home down. It doesn't make sense. You are creating problems out of thin air. Your fixation with 'fair' will cost you this man's love and companionship.
/r/RedPillWomen22/10/17 12:44 AM
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You don't seem to understand that many relationships, hook ups, and fights in Hollywood and the music industry are all planned and manufactured. After swift was 'dumped' by the guy that plays Loki, she came out with a song. She came out with a different song when they were dating and flirting too. Family Guy covered this. She has an 'image' of 'sweet girl that gets a raw deal'. Her most popular songs are about being in love, and then dealing with heartbreak and being strong. It's not exactly a m…
/r/RedPillWomen21/10/17 10:41 PM
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Nothing. Celebrities do not live normal lives by and large, and their concerns have little in common with normal people. I'm not sure if you were genuinely trying to ask a question or implying that this sub doesn't have a useful focus. If you can clarify, that would be helpful.
/r/RedPillWomen21/10/17 10:37 PM
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Thanks! (I think? Haha!) :)
/r/RedPillWomen20/10/17 10:50 PM
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Did she mention this in the OP and I missed it? Edit: Just re-read :). This is what I get for browsing on mobile! You're absolutely right, a DUI and other issues escalates this from normal melancholy and a bit of escape into something far more concerning and serious. Thank you for pointing that out to me! :)
/r/RedPillWomen20/10/17 10:44 PM
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Has he always consumed this amount of drugs and alcohol? If he has increased his quantity and frequency, did this happen gradually, or suddenly? Any considerable amounts of worry or stress in his life? Is he employed, and does he meet his work obligations? Is he jovial and happy when sober? Has this affected your sex life? Do you live in an area where it's normal to regularly drink and use drugs? How have you been? Cheery, supportive, sexually available, any weight gain, or medical issues that y…
/r/RedPillWomen20/10/17 09:18 PM
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Not a problem! I wish you luck and I hope things improve for you. Please give us an update when you have news! :)
/r/RedPillWomen20/10/17 06:48 PM
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This is also why adults alter their voice when speaking to children, soothing someone that's distressed, trying to give orders etc. Women naturally soften and raise the pitch of their voice when talking to a man they are attracted to. It makes us sound younger, and more feminine.
/r/RedPillWomen20/10/17 06:47 PM
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Thank you for clarifying! :) I thought it was an odd departure from everything else I had seen you write. I am very glad you told me. :) Today has been... Eventful on the sub so I should have asked for a clarification before launching into a whole schpiel. Have a good night! :)
/r/RedPillWomen19/10/17 12:02 AM
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I already gave you useful advice, and you yourself admit you have red flags that lead you to being an older version. You are part of the group being talked about, but you should not insert yourself into the discussion and pretend I was directly insulting you. The equivalent is when women read about AWALT for the first time and start talking about how it's not true all over TRP. It's not about you. Even if it is, better to be fully aware than taken by surprise. You will also increase your chance …
/r/RedPillWomen18/10/17 10:12 PM
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You are not understanding, we agree on everything. Women lie about their N count for specific reasons, right? They want to seem pure, innocent, feminine, inexperienced. All these things increase youthfulness, and generally evoke a masculine and dominant response from men. It is a way to heighten tension when courting. Women also age and become less beautiful. Youth wanes. A 19 year old has a glowing youthfulness that a 35 year old woman does not. Both can be beautiful, but the younger woman has …
/r/RedPillWomen18/10/17 09:54 PM
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Historically, women were chaperoned, and men were not allowed unfettered access to young women. Socially, religion was more prominent, and there was an actual courting process. There were many safeguards in place to protect respectable women (religious, wealthy or at least middle class). The poor were never a concern or a priority for these things, but they had did what they could as best they could, obviously.
/r/RedPillWomen18/10/17 06:36 PM
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You made my point. A 32 year old woman has no reason to lie, pretending to be a virgin is not beneficial to her. Men will think her undesirable and odd, because of everything you mentioned. .
/r/RedPillWomen18/10/17 03:34 PM
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Women with 10 or more partners were the most likely to divorce, but this only became true in recent years; This is not a historically consistent issue. If not count has always mattered, then high N counts leading to increased divorce would be consistent for a longer span of time. Paternity has always been a priority historically, with measures taken to protect and isolate women of value (wealthy, good breading) from being ravaged by just anyone. And yet affairs, and bastard children that were ra…
/r/RedPillWomen18/10/17 02:41 PM
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A 32 year old female virgin is not a unicorn. Virginity is only desirable in youth, after 27, it's weird unless there is a religious reason. Even then, it's still odd for a devoutly religious person to be so old and unmarried.
/r/RedPillWomen18/10/17 01:45 PM
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How old are you? How many were relationships, hook ups, and one night stands? What motivated you to sleep around? Do you have other significant red flags such as substance abuse or addiction, any mental illnesses, have you been abused or raped?
/r/RedPillWomen18/10/17 01:01 PM
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35% is hardly a definitive and absolute sentence of 'fucked'. That chart also does not say WOMEN. It says 'sexual parners' which leads me to believe this applies both sees. Unless you can link to the original article and studies? I doubt you would try to 'slam' a man with a 15 partner count that was contemplating marriage with this table. N count matters as it can diminish bonding, and it is a symptom that accompanies many other red flags (depression, mental inability, drinking, drugs, daddy iss…
/r/RedPillWomen18/10/17 12:59 PM
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Fantastic as usual! I am very much a wallflower at social events. Listening is far easier than speaking up. :) Great advice to keep in mind and be mindful of as I continue to prepare for the holiday season. Thank you!
/r/RedPillWomen18/10/17 02:26 AM
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The information the other user stated is wrong.... Or at least inaccurate and not applicable to your situation. No one will think a 32 year old woman is lying about her status as a virgin.
/r/RedPillWomen18/10/17 02:24 AM
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It is true that not everyone sleeps around. It is also true that the overwhelming social trend is one where people do sleep around. Those lucky enough to be raised with traditional values, or discover places such as RPW will be far more likely to avoid racking up their n counts. Most women are confused and clueless. They don't know what to do and what to avoid. They see other people having sex and making out, so they are comfortable following suit when the opportunity arises. You are both right …
/r/RedPillWomen18/10/17 02:23 AM
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This would be true if OP was 18-25 in age. Virginity is only a 'prize' when a woman is very young. After 27, a non religious woman that has never had sex creeps into the 'bizarre and abnormal' territories that men avoid. An aging virgin is a high risk investment with more limited return possibilities than a woman even 4 years her junior. Men with scruples want to avoid the awkward attachment and heavy expectations for commitment that will come along with an older virgin.
/r/RedPillWomen18/10/17 02:20 AM
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A few things: virginity is only alluring and attractive in youth. After 27, it is puzzling and starts to become a red flag if a person is still a virgin and not devoutly religious. there is no advantage to a woman of your age by claiming to be a virgin, because it is more likely to deter men from dating you. Any reasonably intelligent man will understand this. women do typically lie about their n count, but to be your age and lie about virginity would make no sense. don't advertise this fact. So…
/r/RedPillWomen18/10/17 02:15 AM
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Will I be an asset to my SO and reflect well on him at the business Christmas dinner later this year?
/r/RedPillWomen18/10/17 02:06 AM
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The way you dragged the "class" factor (inferior/superior mindset) It is factually true that the nuclear family, and having a bloodline offers advantages and security that 'go at it alone' does not. This is objectively true. With family and heritage, you can pass on wealth, property, and secrets. You can increase your influence via marriage. Single parent homes are not helping anyone. The parent is overwhelmingly more likely to struggle financially, the kids will suffer. TRP warns men to stay aw…
/r/RedPillWomen17/10/17 06:42 PM
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This is a very real possibility. The other being that they are a regular user with a normal account, and have simply read the comments without returning to the account in the OP. "Drive by posting" is a terrible practice. Everyone essentially wastes their time and efforts trying to help. :/
/r/RedPillWomen17/10/17 04:46 PM
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:) Good luck to you, I hope you keep us posted on your journey!
/r/RedPillWomen17/10/17 04:42 PM
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I'm not dismissing the importance of personal happiness, development, achievement, or growth prior to or in the absence of marriage. I'm really not sure how you came to that conclusion based on my comment. I was addressing the default hostility and mockery every man faces when he talks about marriage or that he has an interest in getting married. TRP is a great community for many things. Treating marriage as a valid, fair, and sensible personal choice is not one of them. Something as simple as s…
/r/RedPillWomen17/10/17 03:46 PM
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It's wonderful that you took the time to write this up! It does...concern me when I see the 'only chumps marry' idea. It speaks to a poverty (social class) mindset. All the most respected and powerful families throughout history understood the importance of legacy and lineage. Today you will notice that upper class families continue to take pride in their pedigree. They marry and have children. It is an underclass mindset to eschew the advantages and importance of marriage and family.
/r/RedPillWomen17/10/17 06:57 AM
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Hello /u/SewingHappy, I wanted to offer my own thoughts for your consideration. Unlike women, many men don't really 'bond' with their children until they are a bit older. When they can talk and play and learn in a noticeable way. Some men take to being a father like fish to water. Your husband obviously falls into the former category. Raising a child with special needs is not an easy task, I hope you are part of a support group to learn, vent, cope, and celebrate. It helps to socialize with othe…
/r/RedPillWomen17/10/17 05:51 AM
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Has he discovered any man sphere blogs, TRP, NMMNG? Or does he have a new male friend that is helping him? Men that newly discover RP are... unpredictable and a bit clumsy in their application to start. There's a reason TRP advises men to stay away from ltr and getting serious with women at the start. If the negative comments are corny and ineffective then game him a bit. Agree and amplify, show him it doesn't work. You can also flat out say "that's rude and it hurts my feelings." it depends on …
/r/RedPillWomen16/10/17 10:56 PM
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I will offer an alternative perspective. I don't think any woman is an exception...unless she originally started life as a man and then transitioned hahah! What I do think, is that women that have the capacity to be more masculine in how they internally think and even live, will have a higher tolerance for being with more partners without those partners really leaving any kind of negative mark on the woman. The real danger, as I see it has to do with the women that are normal, feminine thinking …
/r/RedPillWomen16/10/17 10:18 PM
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There really isn't any room for 'may be' on this point...you've made it very clear that you don't have a logical and proportionate outlook on your body, nor do you have a healthy inner dialogue. If you suffer from this issue, as you put it, 'in nearly every part' of your life, then you need to forgo the 'considering phase' and move directly to the 'stop punishing him for being nice' phase.
/r/RedPillWomen16/10/17 09:58 PM
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Hahah! If it makes you feel better, I have a hard time reigning in my expectations for maturity, discipline, and logic when talking to women at times. How do you stop the hamster? You kill it, and then lock its corpse in a safe while it re-spawns. It's not surprising that 'just do it' is the epitome of unhelpful when trying to advise other women. :) Do you think you could guestimate how many dudes out of 100 would likely match that criteria in that age group? Your question is a complicated one. …
/r/RedPillWomen16/10/17 07:53 PM
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I disagree, and I'll explain why. It's not impossible for college students to have a leaning, or an interest, or disinterest in religion. This is also informed by the type of college, as you're more likely to meet a religious man at a private Catholic institution than a community college. Our morals are constantly on display. If a man is only interested in drugs, parties, and tail, then his moral compass is not even thinking about the future. Alternatively, there are some popular men, that date …
/r/RedPillWomen16/10/17 07:27 PM
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That's an awful lot of demands that a guy has to meet. Not particularly. These are all incredibly basic areas that every woman needs to consider, examine, and evaluate. Not only must she observe where he falls on all the items /u/shiro07 listed, but she must also determine what she requires and values and desires in a man. Any mental health issues are an immediate red flag for women, just as they are for men. Being fat and lazy is another red flag both RP men and women share when vetting. A man'…
/r/RedPillWomen16/10/17 07:00 PM
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You have essentially trained him to not lead and be assertive. He doesn't trust your words, because your actions do not match them. Don't tell him what you want, change your behavior. It will take time for him to first notice these changes in personality, and longer still to believe that they are here to stay. He doesn't want you to suddenly lack all opinions and intelligence, this is a common BP misconception, fear, and belief. Be a better wife. Loving, supportive, trusting. you need to be pati…
/r/RedPillWomen16/10/17 03:31 AM
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Hey! How have you been? Great to 'see' you. :)
/r/RedPillWomen16/10/17 01:00 AM
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You need to separate your insecurities and issues from his genuine kindness and attention. You don't like the comments because your perception is wrong and muddled, so you SHOULD trust his observations and praise as positive reinforcement. Also, stop lying. Everyone wants a better body, and that's not bad. It sounds really petty and stuck up to say "I don't want my guy to appreciate my body as it improves" which is what "I'm not doing this for him" boils down to. People don't renovate their hous…
/r/RedPillWomen16/10/17 12:51 AM
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Wait, betting? What is he betting on, how much, and how often??
/r/RedPillWomen13/10/17 06:34 PM
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Does he always react this way when you have to reschedule? Or is this an odd response from him?
/r/RedPillWomen13/10/17 06:15 PM
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I don't turn down sex, but if he sees I am sick or injured then he doesn't press me. On the rare occasion that sex isn't an option I have a list: mouth, hand, boobs... there's more than one way to give him what he needs. He's never treated me the way your husband did, I would be really shocked if he did. How frequently do you normally have sex? When was the last time prior to this instance?
/r/RedPillWomen13/10/17 01:47 PM
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'Recently' is NOT 3 weeks! https://www.reddit.com/r/RedPillWomen/comments/70er6x/cant_seem_to_forget You are tolerating thoughts you know you shouldn't. Get a grip for your own sake!
/r/RedPillWomen13/10/17 05:20 AM
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You misunderstand. Losing weight is synonymous with becoming more attractive and raising personal value. It is very common for women to get fit and become more attractive and start experiencing hypergamy. Sometimes they are aware of this shift, other times it just seems 'sudden'. You fit this mold. Your sex life may be great, but it can be better. You are missing my points. Focus on your relationship. Do more than you normally do to increase your bond, intimacy, and happiness. Remove every trace…
/r/RedPillWomen13/10/17 05:11 AM
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If you have recently improved and think you're a catch, then it's hypergamy in action. The advice I gave still applies. Closure is a myth, and no one can 'give' it to you. At some point you decide it was the right choice and feel at peace with that.
/r/RedPillWomen13/10/17 04:54 AM
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The unflattering and despicable aspects of our nature as women must be disciplined and rejected. If you do not master your impulsive whims then you will be ruled by them... and that is not a life that will yield happiness. It is not abnormal to have random fleeting fantasies. It is abnormal to dwell on them excessively, it is unforgivable to act on them. The relationship ended for a reason and romanticisizing what it was actually like will not help you. Sounds like you feel caught in a slump, yo…
/r/RedPillWomen13/10/17 04:35 AM
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You only know what I've said here. You don't know how the conversations go, you don't know the process that has been made in other aspects, all you know is the one issue I'm having a hard time with. The one issue meaning feeling confident that he won't dump you later and leave you without anything, the uncertainty of having any future together, the knowledge that he really will do all that he has been saying he will do for 2 years now....that 'one' issue? You did not make that thread up out of t…
/r/RedPillWomen12/10/17 07:49 PM
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Thanks! :) But who wants to be a wife or have a live in BF when your 'guy' might be getting a car?!...how that has fuck all to do with living together, getting more serious, or eventually marrying I have no clue.
/r/RedPillWomen12/10/17 06:43 PM
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No, I am not, more importantly you AGREED with everything I said yesterday. Even MORE importantly, you agreed with everyone else! You even admit you are going against the advice every single user gave you! Your hamster is running so hard, and your decision is a huge disappointment.
/r/RedPillWomen12/10/17 06:41 PM
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Thank you!! I want to hit my head against a wall.
/r/RedPillWomen12/10/17 06:39 PM
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You are once again the driving force in the relationship. I won't pretend to be pleased with this development, because getting a car when you are an adult and need one, is 'being an adult 101.' I think this is a huge mistake, and I can already imagine how you'll have to propose to HIM because he has zero motivation to actually marry you. He is reacting out of fear, not desire. He is the failing student that only writes a make up essay to squeak by with a 'D' after the teacher has held 10 meeting…
/r/RedPillWomen12/10/17 06:34 PM
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Nothing I have listed is unrealistic...the purpose of vetting is both to observe what happens, and use that information to extrapolate what might happen in other situations. Any normal, adult relationship that lasts for a few years will encounter most, if not all, of what I have mentioned. You will have to specifically point out what you think is beyond the realm of reality. You will also notice a general trend of simply being mindful, and noting how things unfold in different situations. A runn…
/r/RedPillWomen12/10/17 04:25 PM
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It will be hard, all important things are. Get away and visit family or friends. Get some space and keep your phone off, stay away from every means of communicating with him. You can say you are leaving, and send him a message when you arrive safely. He needs to see what life is like without you for a solid 2 weeks, and you need to be around people that will keep you strong. Maybe you can visit your mom? She has good instincts, and you will need her support to follow through and gain some perspe…
/r/RedPillWomen11/10/17 08:15 PM
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I hope I did not hurt your feelings, it is not my wish to upset you. I only felt very alarmed when I read your response, and I see too many people, both men and women, settle for partners that bring absolutely nothing to the dynamic. People think the person they are with is the only one that can understand and love them, when in truth there are easily over 100 humans on this planet that you can be happy with. You need to adopt an abundance mentality, which is generally only talked about on TRP, …
/r/RedPillWomen11/10/17 08:00 PM
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Glad I could help, I went back and added some more, so don't miss that! :)
/r/RedPillWomen11/10/17 07:55 PM
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To start, a solid relationship. I think this doesn't get stated enough: the vetting process continues even after a relationship is formed. You observe how well your lives intertwine, family compatibility, navigating holidays, travel, figuring out how to balance financial contributions, if the conversations about the future include both macro and microscopic details. You observe their behavior in times of ease, and stress and how they handle your ups and downs. How do you work through disagreemen…
/r/RedPillWomen11/10/17 07:51 PM
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You are rationalizing so much right now! You are back tracking and I am concerned that read you read my comment but wrote this response that REALLY minimizes what he is actually doing in this relationship (nothing). If he wanted you as his wife you would be engaged, if he wanted to share a roof with you, he would be living there already. You have 'commitment' but you are so strung out and upside down you sound more like a plate. Desperate to every possible thing to gain his approval and attentio…
/r/RedPillWomen11/10/17 07:36 PM
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You are scared for good reason!
/r/RedPillWomen11/10/17 07:15 PM
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Don't resign yourself to being a forever girlfriend. When a man wants to lock you down, he is direct. Your SO did this initially, and now he shows zero indication that he actually intends to upgrade your status to 'wife'. I have dated two 'commitment averse' men. They both locked me down as a GF and then changed their minds entirely about wishing to avoid marriage. Each one proposed to me within 2 years from when each relationship started. I dated the first when I was 20, the second when I was 2…
/r/RedPillWomen11/10/17 07:09 PM
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watch his actions They have been loud and clear for a while now haha! won't pay or invest in her says what he needs to in order to placate or just shuts down does not demonstrate leadership skills and compassion for her, their future, or everything she does She's fits Sisyphus and Tantalum perfectly. Doomed to toil forever without success and to suffer an unimaginable thirst that can never be quenched.
/r/RedPillWomen11/10/17 05:55 PM
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I don't think he is being intentionally misleading, I think he is young and just not ready to make things serious. You are not doing anything wrong that I can spot. If anything, I would only lightly question your certainty about moving to him so soon after you started dating. You have continually put a tremendous amount of trust in him, and I am wondering what he actually did to earn your unconditional faith. I get that he has a lot of great traits, but he just sounded like a normal bf to me fro…
/r/RedPillWomen11/10/17 05:17 PM
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I agree and disagree with this post. Yes feel good in your skin, but bust your ass to improve as much as possible. This means working out, and having a great skincare and beauty routine. Special face, eye, and neck creams, wear sunblock every day. Learn how to do natural makeup, wear clothes that are flattering. Take care of the small details (earrings, painted and manicured nails, and a bright smile). There are ways to minimize and eliminate under eye bags, and they should absolutely be pursued…
/r/RedPillWomen05/10/17 05:20 AM
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Really great perspective, thanks for sharing!
/r/RedPillWomen04/10/17 05:07 PM
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Thanks for the feedback, it's always interesting to hear what other people think. :)
/r/RedPillWomen04/10/17 05:06 PM
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Thanks for sharing! I am interested in the topic simply out of curiosity, as I do not agree with the 'signs of abuse' points that used in the deluth model. I probably spelled that wrong but I honestly don't care. :)
/r/RedPillWomen04/10/17 05:05 PM
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Hi Jikira, great post! Just a clarification, men don't shit test, it's called 'compliance testing.' As you mentioned, the things he tests you over have to do with your ability to fall in line, be loyal to him, and do what's best for him and the relationship. The money examples, are his way of seeing how selfish and vain you are, if you are more interested in using his resources or if you are considerate. He gauges your morality, and your sense of duty. The loyalty testing is not uncommon at all.…
/r/RedPillWomen04/10/17 04:08 PM
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People are not being 'fun police,' the issue is thatthe OP wrote a thread in which she takes the show at face value (sincere and real). So far other users are simply pointing out that these shows are staged, and therefore not a good representation of reality or what actually happens.
/r/RedPillWomen03/10/17 02:31 AM
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A gift doesn't need to be romantic in order to show thoughtfulness and that he cares. He is a doctor, so he went with what he knows. My Bf is into technology. He has replaced my computer screen, mouse, keyboard, purchased several tablets for me and set up two beautiful home display systems and speakers. This gift is not a judgment of you, it is a tool he hopes will improve your skin even more. Be grateful or he may be reluctant to try again in the future.
/r/RedPillWomen01/10/17 05:44 PM
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I'm not sure if this is a simple question or not. I would like to know how women and men here draw the line between masculine or dominant and abusive. I know everyone makes their own deal breakers, just as everyone finds different traits attractive. So I am interested in learning how women decide it's time to go and how men decide it's time to change.
/r/RedPillWomen01/10/17 03:51 PM
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I agree completely.
/r/RedPillWomen01/10/17 03:31 PM
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I have never in my life heard that, it sounds unlikely but if you have studied to back it up I will look at them. Everyone in my family and all my friends wear sunscreen. Many of them have children... It is hard to take this comment seriously so please do send along those studies.
/r/RedPillWomen01/10/17 03:30 PM
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You need to start counting your calories and paying attention to how much you as well as what you eat. Skin changes as we age. It's not uncommon to face different issues as you grow older. If your skin is breaking out and oily, that means that you have been stripping your face of oils and your body is desperately trying to keep up. When you strip your face of oil, without also providing it with moisturizer and lotion, then you create this endless cycle that pushes your body to over produce oil. …
/r/RedPillWomen29/09/17 04:05 PM
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Thank you for writing this, and explaining things. :) Sometimes I wonder if people just read "I hate you" repeated over and over again instead of actually seeing the words I typed...
/r/RedPillWomen28/09/17 11:23 PM
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AWALT is neutral term to describe undesirable female emotional states, tactics, rationalizations, and reactions. There's no need for a different term. Plate-spinning is a sexual strategy for RP men, but for RP women it's a way to refer to undesirable men. Same with 'player.' Orbiter is by no means a 'flattering' term and it is female focused. The woman is in a position of power, and has hanger-ons that follow her about. Beta is often used by both men and women to describe losers and weak men. Dr…
/r/RedPillWomen28/09/17 11:20 PM
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:) Patience is eternal, anger usually burns itself up until there's nothing left. I think passion is youthful and admirable and can often be used to spur on progress. As with any emotion however, too much of it can lead to pain and chaos. I also don't mind when people disagree with me in a thoughtful and sincere manner. Such exchanges often lead to deeper understanding. Both of yourself and how people approach things. Really the only thing I ask is for either kindness or neutrality in tone. I wi…
/r/RedPillWomen28/09/17 10:00 PM
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That is not what I said, nor what I meant, which I believe you know and chose to ignore. I will not converse with people that dishonestly twist my words. If you wish to continue this exchange, please write a complete comment and don't cherry pick.
/r/RedPillWomen28/09/17 09:53 PM
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Thanks, I do make an effort to be as clear as possible to try and avoid misunderstandings. Unfortunately, people do not always want to have a discussion, they just want to disagree. I find that points are more a reflection of popularity than they are a measurement of quality content. :)
/r/RedPillWomen28/09/17 08:48 PM
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You seem to go out of your way to push the most rigid, uncharitable, and skewed interpretations of what people say. men and women are different physically, emotionally and biologically --> that is a non-negotiable, basic RP idea. If you claim that men and women are interchangeable, without differences, that is not in line with RP and is therefore against RP. Now, what is up for debate are the exact specifics of those emotional differences. You have things like "women are children" which people m…
/r/RedPillWomen28/09/17 05:56 PM
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Thanks for explaining what you meant, now I am in a better position to explain! :) TRP and RPW are two sides of the same coin. They have different goals, and as such they utilize different strategies. TRP is focused on helping men acquire what they want most (sex), and RPW is focused on helping women obtain commitment. Now, it's easy for women to get sex, and it's easy for men to offer commitment. Both subs keep each respective sex's strengths and weaknesses in mind. TRP allows men to pursue man…
/r/RedPillWomen28/09/17 03:20 PM
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Can you please link to examples of this happening on the RPW sub? TRP and RPW have different goals, and different approaches and methods. I have not seen "plate her" given as advice on this sub, which focuses on the female strategy. Plate spinning is a perfectly fine male strategy, because men have different goals than women. If that is happening here on RPW then you should report the comments! I have had zero issue with men pushing male advice that hinders the female approach. When something li…
/r/RedPillWomen28/09/17 03:04 PM
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The mods have some male users, yes, but the active ones are female. You would have to give specific examples of 'hateful undertones.' Also, notice that I mentioned church, sports, education, and work - but you for some reason went straight to the religious institution. RP is in no way a religion, or a social movement, or a political one. It's a group of people that have similar goals and participate with a specific space. Cross participation is not against the rules, being disruptive etc.... I'm…
/r/RedPillWomen28/09/17 01:43 PM
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That makes sense, and without knowing specifically what a particular person has an issue with, it makes it hard to know for certain. Sometimes people dislike an idea because of how it sounds (example: dread), but after you explain the concept and the different types, suddenly it 'clicks.' Women generally react badly to RP initially, it rubs them the wrong way, and that makes sense. How men date and how women date are not the same. I think the biggest issue is that people confuse TRP and RPW as i…
/r/RedPillWomen28/09/17 01:39 PM
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It's a wonderful musical, and there are a lot of great movies and musicals (older). It's generally easier to start people off with more recent ones though. I highly recommend "Funny Girl" with Barbara Streisand. The movie is different from the original broadway song set...but I really like the closing song. It can bring me close to tears every time. My man. TL;DR: Barbara is a comedian (she has a 'funny face') doesn't think she's beautiful, hooks up with suave man's man - they eventually marry. …
/r/RedPillWomen28/09/17 01:25 PM
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I disagree that there is a hive mind. Look at the advice thread that blew up with activity (cheating husband). The overwhelming mojority of people said she should leave, while the minority opinions encouraged reconciliation. If a hive mind exists it is blue pill and feminist in nature. The range of input and feedback is far more expansive and tolerant than what existed a year ago. The breadth and depth of variation, approach, and philosophy is far more accepting and inclusive for women that are …
/r/RedPillWomen28/09/17 03:36 AM
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Trolls are like hydras, cut off one head, three more magically appear! I had a funny exchange with the troll :)
/r/RedPillWomen28/09/17 03:07 AM
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If a Christian doesn't believe in Jesus, they aren't Christian. If a vegan believes it's okay to eat steak, they are not vegan. If a triathlete refuses to complete certain parts of the race they aren't actually competing properly. Every sport has rules, every class has standards that must be met or exceeded in order to get a good grade. RP consists of some very basic, non-negotiable ideas because if you reject those things, then you aren't RP. Now, there are differences of opinion and approach a…
/r/RedPillWomen28/09/17 02:54 AM
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If you disagree with fundamental RP ideas...then you aren't RP so why would you be active on a RP community?
/r/RedPillWomen28/09/17 02:38 AM
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/u/LuckyLittleStar !!!!
/r/RedPillWomen28/09/17 02:25 AM
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I have tailored my responses, and reasoning to mirror OP's fundamental goal (heal the marriage), but it also just so happens that I agree with her goal. I cannot say for certain, I don't think anyone can without being in that position themselves, but I do believe this is how I would approach things once I decided I wanted to heal the relationship. Initially, I would examine everything, and I would undoubtedly feel incredibly injured and hurt. But were I pregnant, and married to my BF, and he beh…
/r/RedPillWomen28/09/17 02:19 AM
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one of those, imo, are character flaws. We disagree then, because drinking and drugs (even cigarettes) are always flaws in my mind. Not critical flaws that prevents me from being friends with anyone however (as long as they are not addicts, or allowing their life to fall apart). Men and women have different flaws. Behavior I find acceptable in a man (having casual relationships or a random hookup) are highly undesirable in women. Again, I don't expect perfection, and I can socialize with people …
/r/RedPillWomen28/09/17 12:55 AM
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That makes sense! It's great that you are curtailing undesirable behavior. :)
/r/RedPillWomen27/09/17 08:56 PM
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What does flirting have to do with being pleasant and attracting customers? You can be nice, joke, and look beautiful without leading people on or making them think you are being anything other than great at your job. :)
/r/RedPillWomen27/09/17 08:41 PM
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A receptionist is supposed to look good and be pleasant. You are the first face any potential client sees...of course they want someone pleasant. Stop cutting yourself down and limiting your potential! You need to get your head in the game. Humility is great (you don't want to come off as arrogant), but you should be open to opportunities like this. Next time you need to negotiate your pay...you can point to actual examples of how you bring something to the company that is clearly valued and wan…
/r/RedPillWomen27/09/17 08:14 PM
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Absolutely! My femininity is a huge asset. My looks and personality put clients at ease, encourage trust, and make everything more enjoyable. Watch "The Producers" and listen to the song 'If you got it, flaunt it'. Here's a hint: this doesn't just apply to theater. Now, you shouldn't dress like a slut or act like a prostitute. You can absolutely be pleasant, positive, competent, engaging, charming, and interesting. As long as you aren't behaving in an unprofessional and embarrassing way....use e…
/r/RedPillWomen27/09/17 08:11 PM
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Professionals usually bring their own cleaning items and then tend to be higher quality than what the customer uses. :)
/r/RedPillWomen27/09/17 08:04 PM
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Housekeepers are great! When my work gets too busy, we schedule regular cleanings (just once a month). This way I make sure things don't deteriorate past a certain point and things are continually brought back to a polished state. We had a housekeeper for years. They came once every other week. There were three different women and we knew them all. There's absolutely nothing wrong with having one. My sister has a maid that does her dishes and laundry among other things. She works four days a wee…
/r/RedPillWomen27/09/17 08:03 PM
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:) That's very kind of you to say, thanks.
/r/RedPillWomen27/09/17 07:58 PM
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He was faithful for the entirety of their relationship, and only decided to cheat now....how is that a 'silly' assumption? I am around people that drink, and go overboard at times, and do various drugs. I have never participated in any of these activities despite having continual access. If I were to suddenly go on a bender tomorrow - it would be childish and immature to pretend that my friends are the reason I suddenly did a 180. He acted contrary to his entire reputation and how she has always…
/r/RedPillWomen27/09/17 07:57 PM
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No. I don't know what you mean unless you actually say it and take the time to explain. I have had people say that any deception is wrong, regardless the level it happens at. sigh I'm glad you have never had to deal with a skilled liar, or someone that can lie and tell the truth interchangeably without hesitation. They are not always malicious, and are often extremely charismatic. I'm sure the hordes of men and women that have been blindsided by shocking discoveries of violence, theft, and gener…
/r/RedPillWomen27/09/17 07:48 PM
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I'm glad it helped to clarify a few things for you! I don't seem to be a particularly popular person on this thread or another one...but I rather be thoughtful, detailed, and thorough than everyone's best friend. :) Someday people will figure out that down voting a comment does not make it any less true.
/r/RedPillWomen27/09/17 07:40 PM
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There are many woman that have been blissfully happy because their spouses were capable of hiding it. Only bad liars are ever caught, and everyone is capable of lying. I agree that many people can't keep up a lie, and they have tells, and are 'off' in general. Only observable, noticeable deception negatively affects a marriage. Plenty of people have been taken completely by surprise when they find out their loved one is a crook, killer, or has a really weird hidden habit or obsession. Deception …
/r/RedPillWomen27/09/17 07:30 PM
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Yes, exactly! Men have always been the 'problem' in every possible away to the point that 'manspreading' is an actual term....because women are too egotistical to understand the heat and discomfort that comes with having a pair of balls. Look at any male dog or cat on a hot day....GUESS WHAT THEY DO??? "Hey, s'up?" And female animals do this as well. It's not all that different from needing to adjust your boobs when your bra is a bit off, or wanting to cool down your armpits if it's really hot. …
/r/RedPillWomen27/09/17 03:28 PM
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Perfect! That's pretty much exactly what I was expecting to hear! I have a set of tarot cards that I really love, they are so pretty. I just haven't taken the time to study the various meanings. The app I use give you a summary of each card and possible interpretations, so it's helping me learn as well. :) It's so great that you're doing this and that you have enough knowledge to do readings for people. Thank you for your help! :)
/r/RedPillWomen27/09/17 02:53 PM
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I second /u/girlwithabike, you should post this to TRP or askTRP.
/r/RedPillWomen27/09/17 01:43 PM
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I am so glad you are doing this on a semi-regular basis! I was so happy with the discussions last time that I actually downloaded a free tarot reading app (laugh if you want)! I stick to the 2-3 card readings, and only do one a month or so. I write down the cards I get and use it as a journal exercise. I have made a lot of changes and progress due to many different things, which is really exciting. :) My question: Should I be doing anything else in order to meet my personal deadlines (December) …
/r/RedPillWomen27/09/17 01:34 PM
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There was no projection. Your statement shows no appreciation for or acceptance of TRP and RPW and RP in general. I believe we have been on different sides of several exchanges, and every one has left me with a sense of reluctance and lack of perspective on your part. No one is ever obligated to first review the posting history of another user before responding to a comment. It's absurd to assume anyone cares enough about your opinion or activity to do so. The only time it's ever really expected…
/r/RedPillWomen27/09/17 01:11 PM
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Have you considered that pervasive forgiveness, consideration, and hyper-sensitivity towards women (even in ridiculous circumstances) might have something to do with that? Feminism, and women are given special status socially while men and masculinity are reviled. Women are not being 'short changed' we are being given a wake up call. The most privileged and protected creature on earth is a woman in any first world country. Now is a time to encourage the masculine, show compassion for men and Sto…
/r/RedPillWomen27/09/17 03:46 AM
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Agreed on all points! I am hopeful that others will read this with an open mind, and resist the urge to react emotionally. :)
/r/RedPillWomen27/09/17 02:41 AM
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Wonderful post! I read a comment here once and I can't remember who said or the specific thread unfortunately. The idea always stuck with me though: women don't hate that men cheat, women hate the embarrassment and shame she is subjected to when he's stupid enough to get caught. That may sound illogical at first. After all, everyone wants loyalty and exclusivity, right? Well yes and no. If a man can successfully cheat in a way that the woman has zero idea of what is going on, then she is just as…
/r/RedPillWomen27/09/17 01:56 AM
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Quote: "Hell hath no fury as a woman scorned" Use: "If you piss off a woman, anything she does to you is all right" - That is how the other user (daisy) was using the quote. She was justifying her horrible sense of 'justice' (it was in no way about justice. Her thoughts indicate bitterness, anger, an obsession with inflicting pain, and behaving in a cruel manner. Quote: "if you can't handle me at my worst, you don't deserve me at my best" Use: "I can do whatever the hell I want, and if you don't…
/r/RedPillWomen26/09/17 09:56 PM
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(sigh) You're* Understanding male behavior does not excuse it. In the same way it is important for us (women) to understand our tendency to hamster, react emotionally etc....so too is it important for us to understand and acknowledge typical male reactions, behaviors, and instincts. Nowhere have I said his behavior is 'good' 'admirable' or 'desirable' I have stated that it's really not that bizarre or irregular. Understanding why someone behaves inappropriately is important. If this were a woman…
/r/RedPillWomen26/09/17 08:40 PM
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There was zero reason for you to be rude.
/r/RedPillWomen26/09/17 07:52 PM
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You seem to embrace that sentiment and use it as a justification...similar to how feminists will say "if you can't accept me at my worst, you don't deserve me at my best" as a way to justify truly awful behavior.
/r/RedPillWomen26/09/17 07:44 PM
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I have never liked this quote, and I still don't. Women only seem to use it as a cop out. It's turned into a malicious version of "love is unconditional"...which now means that even when a woman is sexually closed off, and 100 lbs overweight, the man is just expected to 'deal.'
/r/RedPillWomen25/09/17 10:20 PM
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focus on getting some clothes that fit you now. Thrift shops can be a gold mine! You have to ignore his friends, and don't talk badly about them when they aren't around. Despite their words, he is with you. You just need to focus on being happy, making him happy, and enjoying your continued self-improvement. :)
/r/RedPillWomen24/09/17 11:45 PM
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If you find men running away just because you make a mention, then you need to change your vetting criteria. If you are ONLY talking about those things, regardless of the other person's interests then you need to broaden your conversational skills. Where do you live? Everything you mentioned is no longer 'fringe' or 'unacceptable' in the vast majority of places...and I'd be hard pressed to think of a circle that rejects anime....and also more classic shows and movies. Are you sure it's your hobb…
/r/RedPillWomen24/09/17 10:49 PM
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He probably feels a bit embarrassed, but this was a really minor thing. The next time you decide to get together, tell him you want to go to his place. Bring something he likes to eat (maybe his favorite dessert), and wear something he'll enjoy seeing you in. Don't be awkward, apologize once more, and then give him the gift. Make it a fun, low key evening. Don't pester him with additional texts. He knows you've contacted him, so wait for him to reply. If you normally talk to some degree every da…
/r/RedPillWomen24/09/17 10:38 PM
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Now, I'll admit, I'm a geek. I love reading, watching documentaries and old movies, learning in general...and I am a huge fan of things like anime, Kpop, K/J-fashion, and the likes. I'm also kind of artsy and I like to draw and write. I am also a fan of certain shows and musicals. I could have written this...and a lot more. The thing is, none of these things are popular here and I feel like I am a bit of outsider. This sub doesn't focus on movies, shows, music or anime. There HAVE been discussio…
/r/RedPillWomen24/09/17 10:33 PM
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There's no other way to put it: you were a bitch. You overreacted, and were pretty inconsiderate. The minute he said he was feeling under the weather, you should have switched gears, and gone to him. Especially if this is unusual behavior. Now. You are also making a lot of fuss over nothing. Apologize to him for being inconsiderate and stubborn. Take him some hot soup as a surprise, and learn to not freak out over small things. What could have been a really fun and relaxing evening at his place,…
/r/RedPillWomen24/09/17 08:21 PM
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How long have you been together? Has he always been this inconsiderate and rude? If he cared about you, and respected you (and the relationship) he would make time for you.
/r/RedPillWomen24/09/17 08:07 PM
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Hi /u/sheikha4teddies it's not really possible for anyone to give you meaningful advice at the moment, because more information is needed. https://www.reddit.com/r/RedPillWomen/about/rules/ Please use the above link to address all the questions and edit your post. Based on what you have said: it sounds like you don't simply say "I miss you" ...but that there's an edge of desperation, loneliness, insecurity, and extreme neediness. If this is a consistent reaction from the men you have dated...the…
/r/RedPillWomen24/09/17 08:05 PM
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I don't 'ask' to help, I just help, and may or may not comment. If you cleaned his kitchen, made some food, and looked after him without first asking --- then he may have been more likely to accept. The key is to act, and not throw in the step that makes him feel inept and weak. Some men do not ask for help, they rather live on the street than accept a loan from a friend. For those men, it's important to act quietly, efficiently, and without making a production. Approach it more as a nurse and l…
/r/RedPillWomen23/09/17 05:38 PM
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Doesn't seem that way from the way you talk, but this conversation is no longer productive. Take care.
/r/RedPillWomen23/09/17 05:34 PM
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Do you understand what RP is? It's not a political movement. It's not a social one either. Have you read the sidebar? Why are you interested in this community? What are your personal goals? Your original post casts doubt on your motivations, and indicates a severe lack of basic understanding both of RP ideas and men and women in general.
/r/RedPillWomen22/09/17 05:14 PM
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I'm not sure how you developed your perception of men but any group can be subject to 'hive mind', as a whole however, women are far more likely to change and create their opinions based solely on whether or not such opinions will be applauded and accepted by her peers. The US also is not a direct democracy. From the way you word this post, I'm inclined to believe that you are a troll, or at the very least, someone that has no understanding of RP.
/r/RedPillWomen22/09/17 02:00 PM
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As far as I can tell, the liberal side of politics is becoming more and more obsessed by trying to re-create reality and they think they can do so through sheer will power. It's not different from 'health at every size' and the constant attempts to equate 'fat-phobia' with actual racism.
/r/RedPillWomen22/09/17 01:54 PM
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Oh thanks for the information! I have to work on my shoulder flexibility and my wrist strength. The body weight sub has really thorough training programs for things to work up on so you're building up the skills you need. It's really impressive!
/r/RedPillWomen22/09/17 01:50 PM
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Yes they played with the idea of guns and empowering women, and then women proved to be just as violently capable of men. And after the one mass shooting, they passed legislation. The asian chick says "I can't believe they hate women more than they love guns" and the princess cat replies "Really?" It's not really the same as this meme. Since the original poster (for whatever reason) seems to believe that guns have more rights than actual humans (women), and the funny reply is highlighting this f…
/r/RedPillWomen22/09/17 01:48 PM
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You should refer her to this sub, and have her ask for advice if she feels so inclined, read the sidebar and get to know the community. We need to hear from her directly in order to get a sense of her personality, and get a better understanding of where she currently stands.
/r/RedPillWomen22/09/17 01:37 AM
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I enjoy pilates, and the body weight sub is a great place to start developing new skills. When I'm a bit stronger I want to master hand stands. Doing something that you WANT to become proficient at will be the key to sticking to it long term.
/r/RedPillWomen22/09/17 12:25 AM
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If TRP is killing your confidence, stop reading the sub. It does no good to start developing negative self-talk, especially if you end up creating gremlins out of thin air. It's good to want to be your best for him, but not if that desire to improve starts to become too rooted in fear and dread. You should find more comfort in the fact that he's already picked you! He's your BF. If HE is happy with the relationship, and you, then you're worrying for no reason. Make sure you understand what HE fi…
/r/RedPillWomen22/09/17 12:23 AM
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Yes, and you yourself are a prime example of 'not willing to listen even after asking' unfortunately. I do wish you the best, and your friends. If you would ever like to discuss things privately, and you are willing to put aside your strong-headed ego, I do hope you will reach out to me. I have several friends that once upon a time thought and acted as you do now yet were continually confused when met with negative reactions and dislike. Rigidity without compassion and tact are just as unpalatab…
/r/RedPillWomen21/09/17 04:03 PM
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Again, there you go assuming you know him better, that they have never had a discussion, or made a comment. You are injecting yourself into a relationship on the basis of "I've known him longer." You really need to take a moment and consider how much of an ego you have about this. You may be right, you may be wrong. Either way you overstepped in several ways. Being a good friend does not mean correcting or assuming to know best for someone else, and telling them as much without first being expli…
/r/RedPillWomen21/09/17 03:29 PM
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Haha my boyfriend sent it to me, and I had a similar reaction! :)
/r/RedPillWomen21/09/17 03:05 AM
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She wanted location ideas...and your response was to knock her legs out from under her? I hope this experience teaches you to be more thoughtful about what it means to be supportive and act appropriately with close female friends... :/
/r/RedPillWomen21/09/17 01:11 AM
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I understand that you've known this guy for a long time...but don't you think he's already surprised you by the very fact that he's not only dating this woman, but also intends to marry her? I assume he knows about her stance on religion, as well as her sexual and dating history. And he's still with her. I think that should tell you something. Personally, if a friend tried to tell me that they know my future husband better than I do, and that a creative idea I was very excited about would actual…
/r/RedPillWomen21/09/17 01:09 AM
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Relationships require constant attention and work. I am very happy, as is my boyfriend. We are not flawless humans, and we do make mistakes. I think one key aspect is that we know how to forgive each other without holding onto grudges or allowing resentment to build up. Compassion is really important, as is patience. I really and truly live by "if you can't say something nice, don't say anything at all" - Thumper Bambi :) There are many times where it might feel satisfying to make a snide remark…
/r/RedPillWomen21/09/17 01:01 AM
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Nice does not mean: weak, passive, timid, directionless, lacking conviction... Sometimes I see people make this mistake with the very idea of femininity. They think that 'feminine' means a woman that is a polite shell, that is never firm or assertive or expressive. The goal is not to be a mouse that shakes in the corner. You want to be a pleasant and alluring addition to any group, and a well rounded woman that enhances a man's life for the better. This includes making him want to be his absolut…
/r/RedPillWomen21/09/17 12:51 AM
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Relationships form in many different ways, and can revolve around a large variety of core ideas. This sub encompasses a lot more than simply a 'kink', but that doesn't mean a RP style relationship cannot involve kink. Some of the women here prefer a more proactive and masculine man, and one leadership style may encourage a woman to grow; but it would really demoralize another woman. I have seen different terms and systems used to essentially describe similar ideas in slightly different shades. E…
/r/RedPillWomen21/09/17 12:48 AM
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However, one purchase was supposed to be placed in the -80º C freezer. It was not and had to be returned. Did you mention that you only signed for the items and did not put them away? (Don't rat on the person that DID mess up, because that's petty, but it's fair to say "I did not do that") Strictly speaking the person that signs for the shipment, is generally the person that's held responsible for it's safety, placement, and they have to make sure they're actually getting everything that's suppo…
/r/RedPillWomen24/08/17 03:21 AM
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Not really sure why you are bringing up my past relationships? They all ended for good reasons and I don't retain contact with ex boyfriends. I'm in a happy relationship, don't feel insecure, and certainly don't require outside advice about it. If I did, I would post, just as you did. Furthermore, I suspect your anger, particularly because of it's presence for so long after I wrote this comment is very telling. I bet it hit closer to home than you care to admit, and that's fine. My understanding…
/r/RedPillWomen22/08/17 08:56 PM
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Haha :) I have horrible handwriting, but I try. Yes, I mean someone on the sub pics a topic or quote and then people upload photos of their entry...or they could just type it out I guess. I just like seeing what other people do with their planners and journals. I lurk a lot of handwriting and journaling subs...and I still want more haha!
/r/RedPillWomen15/08/17 05:48 PM
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Not a problem. I have a 'nice' voice, but I can sound really scattered and stressed because I talk so fast when I'm excited...and I'm usually excited about something haha! I hope you report back and let us know how it goes. I'd love to start a group on the sub...a writing one I guess. Not a gratitude journal or anything, more like we'd take turns asking a question or sharing a short excerpt. It would be particularly fun if we could share pictures of what we write because I enjoy looking at that …
/r/RedPillWomen15/08/17 05:27 PM
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Form your thoughts fully before speaking. If your mind is racing, don't feel pressured to speak immediately. I am fond of saying "I'd like to think this over. I'll come find you in 20 minutes?" Or I will otherwise schedule another time to speak with them. I depend on my planner. I have to write down what I do each day for work, so I can refer back to those details when something needs to be verified. Along with my planner, I also keep a personal journal. I write out my thoughts and organize them…
/r/RedPillWomen15/08/17 04:24 PM
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I'm glad you were able to support your friend. Fortunately this is a rare experience, that is unlikely to come up frequently in the future. You care for your friend, and caring often leads us to do things we'd rather not. :) I've never developed an opinion about strip clubs, as I don't really think about things I have no interest in or experience with.
/r/RedPillWomen15/08/17 04:10 PM
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The fat acceptance mentality, body positive messages to the extreme are hurting people. The affects of excess fat on a human skeleton, not to mention the heart....this isn't something that can be swept away with 'happy vibes.' There's a biological aspect. Humans value youth, health, we find certain things attractive because they indicate good genes. Anyone that reacts negatively to the obese, has the same instinct as anyone that withdraws from the sick and contagious. We don't value the elderly …
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/17 11:12 PM
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This is very important. How circumstances and expectations change between classes often gets overlooked. There are undoubtedly families involved in crime that give similar prompts to their blood. "If you want to succeed, you have to take what you need" type thinking.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/17 10:54 PM
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The better you are as a leader, and the more you are able to attract your wife...the more she will change and improve. Fix yourself first, you have to be a good leader, and earn her trust and respect and hold her attraction.
/r/RedPillWomen11/08/17 07:31 PM
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Formatting would really help make your comment legible. I disagree with many of your conclusions, but as /u/LuckyLittleStar already said - this is not a a relevant topic for the sub.
/r/RedPillWomen11/08/17 07:29 PM
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Annoying people are insufferable regardless of their political affiliation. I find hardcore liberals just as obnoxious as hardcore conservatives. I think the super MGTOWs are just as horrible as the super feminists. Being a pleasant person has more to do with the personality of the individual than there political beliefs. If someone is annoying as a liberal, I bet they're just as annoying when they talk about their hobbies.
/r/RedPillWomen11/08/17 05:00 PM
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If OP offers clarification, that's the only way to know for sure. The parentheses indicated, in my opinion, that she was classifying those things as masculine and feminine and not the people she's talking about.
/r/RedPillWomen11/08/17 04:52 PM
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As I already said, my experience with older liberals are my family and scientists. I don't know any entitled 40 or older liberals that are brats. I do know a lot of 30 or under liberals that are completely insufferable.
/r/RedPillWomen11/08/17 04:48 PM
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This has nothing to do with the sub. Please delete the post.
/r/RedPillWomen11/08/17 04:08 PM
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I just find older liberals to be more mellow and less pushy. They don't let politics cloud their work environment, and they put work first. They are professional and patient, they ask questions and try to understand a situation clearly before coming to a conclusion. I work with a lot of scientists though, so that may explain their demeanor more than their age. I have noticed similar trends with my relatives that are liberal and older. Flower children of the 70's were nothing like the young liber…
/r/RedPillWomen11/08/17 04:02 PM
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Upvote are anonymous, users are not notified or alerted about changes in points.
/r/RedPillWomen11/08/17 03:57 PM
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If he did not want to be with you, he'd break up with you. You can't make him want it, and I'm sure he is fully aware of your desire to be married. You need to focus on other things and just let it go.
/r/RedPillWomen10/08/17 07:43 PM
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We listen to podcasts together, there are a few shows that we really enjoy. We're going on a road-trip soon, and I'm really excited because I have been building up my list.
/r/RedPillWomen10/08/17 07:41 PM
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I'm not single but here are a few ideas: Get a massage Go to a floating capsule...it's a high salt water solution, and you basically float in it. Many people have reported that it's very relaxing. Babysit, or volunteer to work with kids or even the elderly. Being around people that you can help, even just by spending time with them, may make you feel better.
/r/RedPillWomen10/08/17 07:39 PM
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Ideally I'd like to get this out of the way with as little thought, drama, and/or pain (for both of us) as possible. I'm thinking it will be easier not to tell him, have the abortion, and move on with our relationship. I know you want to believe this...but there is no 'easy' way. There is not skimming through this. You have a baby inside you right now. If you decide to terminate that life, you have every legal right to do so, but you have to accept the gravity of that decision. You will be commi…
/r/RedPillWomen10/08/17 07:33 PM
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Yes and I wrote a helpful comment to you on this thread. I can have my doubts about your sincerity and still provide useful feedback, which again, I did already. I find it telling that you would reply to this comment, and not the helpful one I wrote however.
/r/RedPillWomen10/08/17 07:22 PM
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I agree, this post sounds like a troll, written by someone with only a superficial (biased) understanding of RP
/r/RedPillWomen10/08/17 03:03 AM
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That makes sense. Marriage is not something we are interested in, so he's my husband in every sense. I think we're married because we have been living together for so long, I forget the actual term. I think it might be common rule or something...? I agree that a 2 year bf should not be treated as a husband though. I should have been more specific in my comment about why he is first in my life. :)
/r/RedPillWomen10/08/17 02:30 AM
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Gauchos always reminded me of skirts, and they aren't all that popular. Harem pants came to mind though.
/r/RedPillWomen09/08/17 11:47 PM
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"blunt" (masculine) in their communication instead of always praising and essentially telling you "great job" even if it was clearly awful (feminine). I disagree that being direct is exclusively masculine, and pandering is feminine. Honesty is neither masculine nor feminine. Other than that, thank you for sharing your observations. I work with a lot of older, liberal people, and I am around a lot of young liberals. I do think there is a big difference between how professional, older (45 years or…
/r/RedPillWomen09/08/17 11:45 PM
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What he's doing isn't 'RP' it's reactive and stupid. If any guy ever raped me, or ignored my 'no' - I would be out the door. You're with a man that you can't trust, and one that has gone over the deep end with a childish understanding of what it means to be a man. That said, a man also does not go to this extreme when everything is sunshine and lollipops. This is about more than him simply losing a job...I think your marriage was less happy than you think, but he was going along with it. He's ov…
/r/RedPillWomen09/08/17 11:37 PM
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Your response isn't messy, you're just dealing with a lot. Okay, so put marriage on the back burner for now. The more immediate concern is your career. Do you think you could make an LDR work? Would he be open to it? He is definitely trying to dread you a bit and wait you out. Apply to schools in the US. Just do it. There's no guarantee that you will get in, and there's always the option to forgo the opportunity if you do get in, but decide on a different path. Work is important to me as well, e…
/r/RedPillWomen09/08/17 09:45 PM
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At some point you have to decide who is in charge of your life. Your dad, for threatening to not acknowledge you if you marry a non muslim? Your boyfriend for being elusive when you are trying to make plans for the future? Your career, because not being a doctor will make you miserable? It's hard when you are close to family, and something like this happens. Personally, I do not allow anyone to 'hold me hostage.' I will do as I want, when I want. Anyone that would disown me because I found love,…
/r/RedPillWomen09/08/17 08:20 PM
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I didn't think the four months was a prerequisite for you. :) I did want to point out that higher libido men, will be less patient about waiting. Why would he know about you masturbating a lot? You won't be living with him, and even when you do live with someone you can still be discrete. Point being, you can take care of yourself, not rub it in his face how much you masturbate, and have a normal happy relationship. I'm sure my guy masturbates, even though we never turn each other down for sex, …
/r/RedPillWomen09/08/17 08:08 PM
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I think you'll have to add "high libido" to your vetting process then. Unfortunately, this is going to make it a lot harder for you, because a high libido guy isn't going to wait 4 months to have sex with you, may not be open to an exclusive LTR, and might end up being more likely to cheat anyway. I assume you're masturbating when not in a relationship, so I'd say that when you are in an LTR, make sure you're taking care of yourself in other ways. Men don't want to sexually inadequate. So it's h…
/r/RedPillWomen08/08/17 07:00 PM
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Are you being flirtatious in how you come onto these men? Flirting, teasing, even getting each other riled up by talking dirty. Those are all very different from "I want sex now." If you are enticing, and making him feel wanted (you are turned on because you are so attracted to him), then that would probably help a lot. No woman wants to feel like a prostitute, and no man wants to feel like just a dildo.
/r/RedPillWomen08/08/17 06:03 PM
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Thanks! Work has been overwhelming recently, there's so much going on and I've been working weekends too. Every time I get some kind of break, all I have the energy to do really is read and then nap. Thanks again for doing this, it seems like a really popular idea. Maybe you could have a "Tarot Tuesday" once a month, or every few months. :)
/r/RedPillWomen08/08/17 02:14 PM
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How's your diet? The type of food you eat can affect your skin. Also, as weird as it sounds, when you break out a lot, it means your face is dry, in an effort to compensate, you start over producing oil which in turn makes you break out. Be sure to not over exfoliate, or use any products that dry your skin out without also using a good moisturizing lotion after. :)
/r/RedPillWomen08/08/17 02:03 PM
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The tools, and approaches I normally use to create productive regimens in order to maintain personal balance and growth. I'm not surprised, this stuff is always fun :)
/r/RedPillWomen08/08/17 03:34 AM
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Thanks for offering to do this. Why are my normal systems failing me now? What can I do to turn things around?
/r/RedPillWomen08/08/17 03:22 AM
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I'm not sure, it's not something I've done before. I have a friend that does a lot of art projects with felt she makes, among other things. I'm sure there are some blogs, or felting communities though if you do a search. :)
/r/RedPillWomen07/08/17 11:24 PM
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The process of Felting. The wet felting technique we use is a process of laying out combed or carded fibers of wool either in the ultimate shape for their use or as a sheet of fabric later to be sewn into a garment. Felting is using hot water, soap and agitation to change the raw fibers into a fabric. You can create your own felt fabric.
/r/RedPillWomen07/08/17 10:46 PM
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Join clubs, start study groups, take a speech class, and sign up for drama. Force yourself to say hello to 5 new people every day. Even just in passing. Paying compliments to people ("I love that dress, it's beautiful!") to other women. The only way you get over your shyness is to force yourself to engage with other people daily. Volunteer with a charity, work as a checkout clerk at a store. Nothing will get you more comfortable with talking to people, then having to engage with random strangers…
/r/RedPillWomen07/08/17 05:43 PM
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I'm not sure I agree that people in the city are nicer and easier to take advantage of. It depends on the city, many folks in smaller towns are also easy targets. What did he say this in reference to? His work? Salesmen and business professionals often rely on their ability to assess people in this way. I don't find it particularly alarming, because everyone does it naturally to some degree. For example, when you were little and wanted something, I bet you went to one parent over the other first…
/r/RedPillWomen07/08/17 05:37 PM
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What didn't you like about them? What were the red flags? How was he when he was around them? Did his personality and behavior change in negative ways? If you didn't like them because they were loud and crude and boisterous - that's not really a red flag. Male groups interact differently than female groups. Without having more details, it's not really possible to give a whole lot of insight. You may be overreacting to a group of normal people for tiny reasons, or you may be reacting appropriatel…
/r/RedPillWomen07/08/17 02:50 PM
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It doesn't matter if it's perky and shaped well if you don't have that pelvic tilt. It's funny the list suggests tilting the pelvis, and then later on mentions good posture. Having a pelvic tilt is a sign of weak abdominal muscles and bad posture. Also, forcing a pelvic tilt for prolonged periods of time, can lead to back issues.
/r/RedPillWomen07/08/17 02:45 PM
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Someone being fat ruins public accommodations (transport, medical). Smoking is already heavily restricted in many places like Oregon. Some jobs are inherently dangerous, and some people like doing dangerous things but they also conduct research in the process. I can avoid smokers if I want to very easily. I cannot escape fat people in the same way. I highly doubt that the people that do high risk hobbies create comparable health costs as fat people do throughout their lives. Companies don't want…
/r/RedPillWomen07/08/17 04:53 AM
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You know it's out of control when they have to make special oversized medical equipment to accommodate these people too. If you are morbidly obese, you should pay higher taxes, for multiple seats. It sucks that the fashion industry is also catering to these people... Don't get me started on the vanity sizing issue and specialty stores like Lane Bryant. I am currently working on losing some weight and toning. I don't support anorexia, and being under weight is also unhealthy. But we don't have an…
/r/RedPillWomen07/08/17 01:38 AM
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RP applies to the western world. I know of some Germans and Russians, as well as Asians and Mexicans. This is a US based sub, and little time is ever spent discussing skin color or specific cultures.
/r/RedPillWomen07/08/17 01:16 AM
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I wish it was taboo to be fat, and people would unanimously shame people for being fat (men and women). There is far too much celebration for being obese and denial about the health complications that go along with that. Understanding nutrition and being active are really important. That little girl is going to be miserable because her parents have not set a good example for her. Why did you make a fat feminist your gf? Being with an obese person reflects poorly on you and lowers your value too.
/r/RedPillWomen07/08/17 01:13 AM
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I love video games, my boyfriend loves them more. He has a three hour commute both ways...sometimes longer. He wakes up at 4:30 in the morning, and often doesn't get home until 7:30 at night. We go to bed by 11:30. I mention all that to point out that he has limited free-time. I never bother him about playing games. We have friends over to play party games and some co-op ones. When I feel like doing something else, I tell him my plans for the day and invite him along. He usually comes with me. W…
/r/RedPillWomen06/08/17 06:29 PM
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Robot companionship will always appeal more to men than to women, even with ones that can pass the Turing test. A woman's passion and interest depends a lot on the man's accomplishment, his personality and dominance. A female robot just has to be pleasant, clean, and have sex anytime he feels like it, however he wants it. A robot can't be a rugged cowboy or a successful CEO...even if a robot could impersonate specific traits women know it wouldn't be real. A robot can't be dragged into parties a…
/r/RedPillWomen05/08/17 03:05 AM
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I don't think you gave that impression at all. :) I just wanted to give a bit more information and a broader perspective for anyone reading that's also unfamiliar with the system. Humans by nature want to see patterns and organize the world into 'knowable systems'. It makes it easier to go through life when we feel we understand things. I really like this topic and I look forward to reading what others have to share. :)
/r/RedPillWomen05/08/17 01:06 AM
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I think personality typing is a lot of fun, more accurate than horoscopes, but also not exactly scientific. From what I can remember, this is based on Jung's work, and even he said there may be more than the 16 types her mentioned. As a curiosity, and something 'for fun' I really like taking personality type tests. I also don't place an undue amount of trust in any of these things. The most useful aspect of the different types (in my opinion) is the extroverted vs introverted typing. Most people…
/r/RedPillWomen05/08/17 12:02 AM
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Most aren't training to be a leader within a ltr or marriage. They are learning to be desirable guys that play the field and get laid. There have been really good ltr and marriage threads. I'm not sure why you can't find them on TRP.
/r/RedPillWomen04/08/17 04:21 AM
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Did you mean to reply to me?
/r/RedPillWomen04/08/17 04:18 AM
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I don't buy into the feminist revisionist history. Women were protected and cherished. Rich women were educated, and yes, used as political and monetary tools. Life was violent and short. If women were 'owned' as you put it, they also held sway, had influence, and experienced many advantages. Poor women also always worked. Virginity and being a wife were essential because there was no way to determine paternity. All the most powerful families relied on lineage to protect and build their wealth a…
/r/RedPillWomen04/08/17 12:08 AM
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The time for negotiating was before having sex. If he's as masculine and as dominant as you say - then he would have snapped you up already. He only wanted you for sex and fun. Move on and lose his number.
/r/RedPillWomen03/08/17 11:30 PM
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People lie. He wanted sex, and I'm sure he did a great job making you feel like that a relationship would happen 'at some point'...probably after you got to know each other. You had sex, he got what he wanted. You're now trying to negotiate an upgrade...with nothing left to negotiate with. This is why "no sex prior to commitment" is so important. I stand by my first response, and no amount of creative logic on your part will change the fact that you were his sex toy, and now you've been demoted …
/r/RedPillWomen03/08/17 11:17 PM
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You had sex with him without commitment. You were his fun, young, sex toy...until you became a headache. So he distanced himself from your drama, and is still trying to get the closest thing he can from you sexually. He wasn't willing to commit to you, and he's still not willing to commit to you. You need to lose his number and move on. You also need to be careful about being submissive and asking a man that is not your BF or spouse to 'own you.'
/r/RedPillWomen03/08/17 10:32 PM
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I would have a hard time keeping a straight face if I knew any women that proposed. I have asked guys out, but marriage is typically something women want more, which is why it's more appropriate for men to do the asking. It allows men to dictate the pace, and they decide marriage is something they want. This is also why women decide when it's time to have sex the first time around. Men are pretty much always ready and willing, it's the woman that has to give the 'okay' for things to move forward…
/r/RedPillWomen03/08/17 07:31 PM
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You seem to misinformed about a few things. I will do my best to explain things more fully. :) TRP & AskTRP is all about dread and nexting any woman that shows any hints of needing comfort. You misunderstand what the majority of the men there need. Men that have been unsuccessful in having sex, that have been pushed over, too nice, friend-zoned, and totally clueless, as well as divorced men. There is an LTR flair. There are threads and series that focus solely on the creation and maintenance of …
/r/RedPillWomen02/08/17 06:13 PM
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There are some single guys on MRP but not as many as TRP. I agree that TRP is unlikely to welcome a post like this, and that's the point I think. Men are tired of listening to women about dating, and any RP man worth his salt should be looking to other men to learn. Maybe you could start a personal blog? I really dislike the idea of catering to men on this sub, as I am sure the mods on TRP dislike the idea of catering to women.
/r/RedPillWomen02/08/17 02:07 PM
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This is what TRP is for. They have a relationship flair and lots of material about relationships. From what I have observed, the men that participate here are not looking to receive advice, but to dispense it. The purpose of the sub is specifically for women... TRP isn't going to suddenly start nurturing the Female participants to feel at home and on equal footing as the men, because that would undercut the purpose of the sub. I think playing to any men that mistakenly come here for advice would…
/r/RedPillWomen02/08/17 12:18 PM
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Unfortunately this isn't an uncommon issue. How long have you been together? If he's recently stressed out, then that could very easily affect his libido. It's also important to examine yourself: have you been supportive, loving, do you flirt, have you gained weight? It's hard to maintain a sexually charged relationship that's also stable and drama free. Many tumultuous couples have a very active bedroom, but they are also in constant flux with each other. They go from fighting to fucking becaus…
/r/RedPillWomen01/08/17 08:27 PM
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Teasing can go too far...but if this works for YOU and your bf? Then it doesn't matter if it's RP or not. Don't try to fix what isn't broken. :)
/r/RedPillWomen01/08/17 05:19 PM
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Not the other user but my guess would be: sit cross-legged, or tuck one foot behind the other ankle Don't try to do abrupt, masculine movements, or run have a feminine gait don't be crass or really loud
/r/RedPillWomen31/07/17 04:26 PM
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I enjoy the community here. Even though everything is based on these general ideas...so many people walk away with wildly different opinions and outlooks. It's satisfying to have a productive conversation with someone that's willing to dive into their thoughts and figure out exactly where our opinions agree and diverge. I like trying to help people figure out what to do next, or give them feedback that shifts their perceptions about a situation. My favorite thing however, which doesn't have anyt…
/r/RedPillWomen31/07/17 04:23 PM
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Before going to get my nails done, asking him what color I should paint my nails. Unless he cares about your nail color...don't bog him down with things like this. It's important not to mistake mundane/unimportant decisions with submission. If he is particular about clothes, then you should be asking what his preferences are for what you wear and pursuing that more. Please remember that 'submission' isn't really submission until he's telling you to do something you don't want to do, or agree wit…
/r/RedPillWomen31/07/17 04:17 PM
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All around us are BP women who have careers and are independent and strong, yet they still get married, usually to a man who "allows" her to have everything she wants and more. Why should a woman become RPW and submit to her man, when she can be BP and have way more advantages in her choices? Without knowing more about these relationships, and seeing the couple in action, I'd be skeptical that it's happy (active sex, man feels respected etc). I very rarely see women respecting men in a notable w…
/r/RedPillWomen31/07/17 04:12 PM
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You could easily say the same thing about men...and although both men and women are prone to using old photos and deceptive angles, men also tend to exaggerate how tall they are. This is why it's important to vet and talk to someone (even video chat) before actually meeting up. I never had issues, and I dislike misleading blanket statements like your comment. It isn't true, and I think if any man is repeatedly 'duped' by heavy, unattractive women with dated photos then it's because he isn't all …
/r/RedPillWomen31/07/17 12:24 AM
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Physically speaking, your ideal photos feature women at healthy weights...the second batch of photos all feature women that are overweight. If you have weight to lose, then that should be your top priority. Hefty women that try to dress feminine and look polished only evoke feelings of pity and fake encouragement. Your current examples do not feature feminine women trying to attract men. The first one is a dowdy woman with an awkward crop top and ill fitting pants with a belt that's about to bre…
/r/RedPillWomen25/07/17 08:12 PM
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Why are you holding off on sex? He's committed to you...what does waiting a year accomplish?
/r/RedPillWomen25/07/17 03:19 PM
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If you can't pull the kind of man you really want, then you need to raise your value.
/r/RedPillWomen25/07/17 02:26 PM
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Woah, I think that's quite extreme I know that it's a highly unusual stance, especially today. My thoughts are as follows: part of my duty, as a gf is to guard my relationship and my bf's reputation. I have to be a PR person in many ways, because not only do I want people to respect my BF, I want them to respect me for being with him. When a woman vents, she's not only tearing down and damaging her SO and the relationship....she's also undermining her own judgement and ability to handle issues t…
/r/RedPillWomen25/07/17 02:13 AM
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Thanks for the detailed response! Here's where I disagree (bear with me, this is going sound insanely hair-splitting): :) Hahah! That's all right, I enjoy exploring these topics. Not only does it help me figure out exactly what I think, it also demonstrates that a lot of issues aren't so much about 'right' and 'wrong' as they are about personal philosophy and preferences. :) Being proud of your man. I feel that way right now - I'm proud as hell of who he is, he's awesome and brilliant and tough.…
/r/RedPillWomen25/07/17 01:49 AM
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I second /u/teaandtalk here. There's no evidence that /u/fairydust91 is being a spoiled and high-strung woman demanding the moon's weight in gold and diamonds be delivered to her in the form of a wedding and engagement ring. You haven't addressed teaandtalks point and you seem to be ignoring the specifics of this situation in favor of applying the far more common global issue [women demanding expensive rings etc]. If fairy showed any signs of unbalanced entitlement and unrealistic expectations, …
/r/RedPillWomen25/07/17 01:07 AM
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I don't think anyone's sense of self-esteem should derive from the mate they managed to land. I disagree with this. Why do you believe it's a disadvantage or unhealthy to feel proud of the person you're with because of who they are, how they look, and what they've accomplished. Do you think the wives of star athletes, or movie stars, or stars, or military, or police wives don't get a boost of pride and experience an elevation to their self-esteem because of their husband's? I don't think a spous…
/r/RedPillWomen25/07/17 12:41 AM
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Thanks, that would make more sense. :)
/r/RedPillWomen24/07/17 09:35 PM
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I'm confused, from your post: Studio Brule usually does feminism and cultural marxism, but had this video uploaded today: Sex starved husbands Which includes a link to the video. Then you gave a very basic summary of the importance of sex to men: It basically boils down to that men like sex and need sex and it's emotionally painful to be married to a woman who recoils to their touch. Women seem completely unaware (or aware and disregard) a man's need for sex. Relationships are compromises and if…
/r/RedPillWomen24/07/17 08:26 PM
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My time is precious, and even if something can just play in the background, I personally won't take a chance unless there's a compelling reason. :) I hope you enjoy the video, and I hope others are more willing to invest in the video than I am. It basically boils down to that men like sex and need sex and it's emotionally painful to be married to a woman who recoils to their touch. Women seem completely unaware (or aware and disregard) a man's need for sex. Relationships are compromises and if t…
/r/RedPillWomen24/07/17 08:11 PM
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That's a long video. Maybe you could write a summary about it? I don't think people are likely to invest almost an hour of their time on a shot in the dark without a knowing why they should care at all. It sounds like you might be trying to set up a compare and contrast between the two sources?
/r/RedPillWomen24/07/17 07:52 PM
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It's okay to disagree. :) Laura Doyle's work is also meant to help a very specific kind of woman (overbearing, controlling, stubborn, dominant). Venting is an unnecessary indulgence that women justify to talk badly about their relationship, and petty grievances. The thing is, for every vent session, a woman undermines her relationship, airs dirty laundry, and makes both her man and herself look foolish. Venting is dangerous because while you personally may resolve the issue and go back to sunny …
/r/RedPillWomen24/07/17 06:39 PM
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Why do you think femininity has no use in the professional world? It has helped me tremendously. Not only getting people to do what I need them to do for projects, but they are also less rowdy and stay focused when I'm around. Additionally, I have a very easy time working with everyone. Even the people everyone dreads having to meet with, I can have very productive and professional meetings with. It's an invaluable trait that serves me well personally and professionally. If you don't think it's …
/r/RedPillWomen24/07/17 04:44 PM
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It would concern me that he hasn't considered the possibility of living with you....to the point where he said he isn't sure if he'll ever live with someone. Unfortunately talking about the future is more than similar goals and directions...it should also include a similar set-up (live in the city or the country, house, kids ets). You're 27 years old, and you've invested a lot of time into this relationship. If he isn't interested in moving towards a shared life, marriage, and family together wh…
/r/RedPillWomen24/07/17 04:39 PM
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Your thread really isn't relevant to the sub, and this community is for women to ask questions if they need advice. Please delete your thread.
/r/RedPillWomen24/07/17 01:40 PM
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AskTRP would be a more appropriate sub for you to post this question.
/r/RedPillWomen24/07/17 01:16 PM
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I'm concerned that you have never discussed these things at all until now!! Establishing whether or not you have compatible long term goals and desires for life should have been something you covered very early on. Any woman interested in marriage and family should know for certain if the man is also moving towards that path within three months of dating if they are in their 20's. Dating should not be a 'luck of the draw' gamble. It should be a careful and deliberate process. You didn't properly…
/r/RedPillWomen24/07/17 01:13 PM
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I'm sorry for your difficulties, but I'm really glad you posted /u/seekingtruth10 because your post is a prime example why it's so important not to divulge secrets, vent, or ever gossip and talk negatively about a significant other. You are in a really tough spot, and unfortunately it's a prison of your own making. So, what do you do? If you tell him everything that was said, it will hurt his relationship with his sister. If you don't own up to what you did at least then you're lying by omission…
/r/RedPillWomen24/07/17 03:02 AM
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I see what you're saying and what /u/teaandtalk is saying. Sometimes the best way to clear confusion up possible confusions is to describe a hypothetical or actual example that demonstrates what you're talking about. Teaandtalk did this in her response to you with 'chocolate' example. I agree that there are definitely situations where wanting to strengthen the relationship and grow as a couple...but being rebuffed by your man would call the entire relationship into question. It's also very commo…
/r/RedPillWomen24/07/17 01:30 AM
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I agree with /u/Natrix03, knowledge and insight are always useful. Being feminine can help you better navigate familial, professional, and social relationships. I have been able to improve my overall work experience, and even just my day to day interactions when I'm out running errands. :)
/r/RedPillWomen23/07/17 08:55 PM
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Red flags, for RP women, are any criteria that indicate that a potential romantic partner or current boyfriend is not a suitable match. Women won't have the same red flags, because we aren't necessarily looking for the same things and we aren't all going to be attracted to the same kinds of men. Some women like dominant men, others just want a quiet leader. A few common red flags would be: PUA, player, or plate spinner, does not believe in monogamy, does not want to get married (if marriage and …
/r/RedPillWomen23/07/17 08:36 PM
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Haha that's a great point. I must say I do find it concerning how many people want to pretend that 50 is an insignificant age. Yes many people live well into their 80's and 90's now. My grandparents are late 80's and 95...but my very healthy, never smoked or drank a day in her life grandmother developed cancer when she was was barely 60. Things can and will happen that are entirely beyond our control and it's really hard to watch people brush it off like 50 is the new 30 or something. When did w…
/r/RedPillWomen22/07/17 06:37 PM
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Your idea that only parents can have opinions and trained professionals makes it very difficult to engage with you in a sincere way. I am going to end this exchange now because we seem to have very different ideas about what it means to be informed and mindful. Take care.
/r/RedPillWomen22/07/17 06:27 PM
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Agreed! :)
/r/RedPillWomen22/07/17 06:23 PM
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As I said, it depends on the family. There are some that are not so lucky to be healthy and active at that age because of things out of their control. Personally, I don't find misfortune amusing or something to trivialize. I am fortunate to have a very healthy family as well, other people I know and care about are not so lucky. Your luck does not change the pain others are dealing with right now.
/r/RedPillWomen22/07/17 06:23 PM
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I agree with everything you said. It's crazy how much we insist on stunting growth as a society now. Even worse, kids don't even get a chance to be kids (think Sandlot), every minute of their day is planned as part of their long journey to one day get into college.
/r/RedPillWomen22/07/17 06:19 PM
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You seem very angry, if I'm misreading your intended tone, please let me know. Yes, parents get old. What's not fair however, is when they are old and need a lot of financial, medical, and time when their children are just becoming adults. As I said, my friend had to deal with a lot of issues at a young age because her father passed away, and her mother needed a lot of help. She could barely support herself, and then she was wracked with guilt because she could not do more for her mother. I don'…
/r/RedPillWomen22/07/17 06:55 AM
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Yes! That is a wonderful series! :)
/r/RedPillWomen22/07/17 02:52 AM
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The OP was banned from the sub. If you would like to continue the exchange with them, I suggest PM. :)
/r/RedPillWomen22/07/17 01:32 AM
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This is a heterosexual sub for women. Being a lesbian would lead to the same result (having your thread removed).
/r/RedPillWomen21/07/17 11:23 PM
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One of the best feelings in the world: when you're dressed head to toe in all his favorite things. There's a hairstyle I only use on special occasions because he loves it so much when I pair it with a specific dress. It highlights my neck, shoulders, upper back, and collar bone, and it's a bit shorter than anything else I wear. The look he gives me still makes me feel weak in the knees. :)
/r/RedPillWomen21/07/17 10:56 PM
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The good news is that you don't have to be turned on in order to perform oral and be enthusiastic about it. You need to go the extra mile here, and make him feel appreciated, even if your own libido is in a lull. There's another expression "do it until you're in the mood." Women are sexually reactive, I very rarely feel outright frisky until I'm around my guy and he's flirting with me. You need to find some fun and be playful with each other. Just tell him you want to take care of him, and then …
/r/RedPillWomen21/07/17 06:26 PM
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And boxed bye looks like boxed dye. You get what you pay for, imho. Not always, and definitely not in my case. As I said, just about everyone compliments my hair, and doesn't believe me when I tell them I dye it myself. It also depends on skin tone, the natural color of your hair, and what you're changing it to. The color I use looks like it should be my natural color. There are some things that are worth investing more money in (skin care for example)...but the 'you get what you pay for' line i…
/r/RedPillWomen21/07/17 05:04 PM
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Here's the thing about PUA's, they don't want to invest time upfront. You missed the part where I mentioned emailing, messaging, and phone calls. I got to know men first via writing and talking, only agreeing to meetup after 1-2 weeks. PUA's don't have that kind of patience. They won't invest a lot of effort and time on a woman that shows zero signs of putting out. Patience (within reason) is a great way to filter out players and PUA types. I also have a really good BS meter. I've never been 'pu…
/r/RedPillWomen20/07/17 07:51 PM
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Hahah, makes sense! I agree that there can be some really bad results. From what I have observed, that usually happens when someone picks a color that really clashes with their skin color. If the color they pick is an unnatural shade, that always messes with my ability to take them seriously. 'Blue' is now synonymous with 'bitch'...it's just instinctual for me at this point. I just don't trust anyone with crazy hair colors. The ridiculous color combinations (pink to yellow to orange) remind me o…
/r/RedPillWomen20/07/17 04:07 PM
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Ask your bf what place they really love, or what type of food they really enjoy. Definitely don't bring the dinner up ahead of time. Just have your bf make sure that one or two nights before you leave, they will be going out. Make sure to call ahead and make a reservation as soon as you hear back from your bf. Your bf should know about how important your faith is, and that engagement will be a necessary feature for living together. It can be a long engagement, but for now focus on this first tri…
/r/RedPillWomen19/07/17 03:12 AM
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as if two showers a day is unusual anyway. It is unusual, without reasonable cause (working out multiple times a day, swimming etc). Her OP is all about this imaginary issue that she provides no reasonable cause for. I also am very familiar with the female tendency to wear down men and 'work' on them. Changing little thing after little thing until the man is not longer himself. I'm not saying compromise and reasonable changes can't be made. I'm saying I see no evidence [yet] that her expectation…
/r/RedPillWomen18/07/17 05:52 PM
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I used to shower twice a day, sometimes three during summer training and coaching camps. We had two practices, a weight lifting session, running three sessions of camp and a cardiovascular session, all during the hottest time of the year. On top of that our dorms had no AC. There can be a good reason to shower multiple times a day, 'super clean bed' just isn't one of them.
/r/RedPillWomen18/07/17 02:50 PM
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Haha, does the promise of good food and presents temporarily melt her heart?
/r/RedPillWomen18/07/17 03:51 AM
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Haha! Sugar and spice, right? :) Tagging /u/gunfetti to make sure she sees your comment.
/r/RedPillWomen18/07/17 03:28 AM
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I went through public school for 12 years where the genders are treated like the same with mixed home ec, girls on the wrestling team (wtf), manly lesbian P.E. teachers who give you 5 minutes to get dressed even if you're on your period and there are only 2 bathroom stalls. lol This was not my experience so I can't relate. I have played sports all my life, and I got used to changing in front of other people early on. I was fortunate to have passionate P.E. teachers, that also coached at least on…
/r/RedPillWomen18/07/17 03:26 AM
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Hi /u/pisellipod, this isn't about your BF, this is about you. He's dating you. Although he tells me I'm beautiful and sexy He's told you that he loves the way you look. Your insecurity isn't based on what he thinks. Don't blame him, or use him as a scapegoat for the unhealthy habits you are developing. I grew up chubby but I worked really hard to get to a normal weight More proof this isn't something that's manifesting because of your relationship, it's a problem with you and the way you view y…
/r/RedPillWomen18/07/17 12:45 AM
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Makes sense!
/r/RedPillWomen17/07/17 11:30 PM
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Give it time, things may shift when the RPW 'night crew' shows up. :) I've seen vote points make dramatic shifts, but generally speaking, I don't pay attention to them. As long as you can stand by what you write, the rest is peanuts. :)
/r/RedPillWomen17/07/17 11:13 PM
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You shouldn't cater your behavior to suit a stranger. You didn't break any rules, and you and your bf are comfortable with this sort of thing.
/r/RedPillWomen17/07/17 10:32 PM
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I agree with the sentiment of "full and empty" - I disagree with writing such a detailed account of putting it into action. As I said, you may feel differently, and other people may agree with you. I am glad you feel supported by the community. All I can say is that I keep my 'bedroom fun' ideas to myself while you seem more comfortable sharing them. The most important thing is that you are on the same page with your bf. That trumps all else. :) I wasn't offended, stunned? Most definitely. :)
/r/RedPillWomen17/07/17 09:55 PM
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...I'm glad you had a good time with you're guy, I'm just not sure sharing this level of detail is really appropriate for the community? It's hard to be happy and supportive when your thread reads more like cheap erotica. I can't imagine he'd be thrilled to read about these intimate events on a public forum, even if the words are positive. I'm going to focus on the only thing that matters: you had fun with your bf. I'm also going to try and forget everything else you disclosed. It's very out of …
/r/RedPillWomen17/07/17 09:36 PM
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I am also truly sad for me, they say that you should live life without regrets I never trust a person that has zero regrets. I know they have a horrible memory, they're lying, or they lack the ability to reflect. Making any decision means that you're 'missing out' on other options. Your story is not unusual. It's odd, and can be uncomfortable when your orbiter from childhood suddenly has the picturesque life you always wanted. Notice, however, that you never 'realized' that you 'love' him, until…
/r/RedPillWomen17/07/17 08:10 PM
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Feminism is the ultimate lie, leading women by the nose to loneliness and regret.
/r/RedPillWomen17/07/17 04:19 PM
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Self deception and the hamster will be our undoing every time if we're not careful. I see 'regret' in a lot of articles that are meant to be 'inspiring.' Women that brag about their career while insulting men is one of the biggest 'bitter bitch' tells I know of. A woman that truly is happy with her life, and doesn't feel unfulfilled, has no reason to tear other people down. Pretty much any feminist publication or blog is full of these 'modern warriors' that would trade just about anything for an…
/r/RedPillWomen17/07/17 03:55 PM
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We've actually tried to have speed dating events in my library system, but men refuse to attend the age appropriate group events. It's apparently a common problem of speed dating. Thirty-something women go to the thirty-something event and thirty-something men go to the twenty-something event. Yep, and when it comes to online dating, men will generally list younger ages in the 'looking for' column. Sure, they'll include closer ages...but it's one of those unspoken rules that's just for optics. M…
/r/RedPillWomen17/07/17 02:45 PM
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First you identify what needs improving. What about you is 'faulty,' 'broken,' unattractive, and makes you hard to deal with?
/r/RedPillWomen17/07/17 05:28 AM
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When you try to minimize health-risks, and say things that suggest that you do not believe that the wall actually exists, it's hard to see how you support RP ideas. Do you believe the wall is real? If you do believe the wall is real, why did you say otherwise? It's more expensive to have to invest in medical strategies in order to conceive due to being 30+. Poor women have been having babies without issue for all of history. Young women are heavily shamed for getting married and considering havi…
/r/RedPillWomen16/07/17 05:42 AM
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I disagree with that. I have seen many others (including myself) pressing the importance of being realistic about the wall, taking advantage of youth, and being mindful of the pitfalls of high N counts. If you disagree with a comment, your time would be better served explaining your point. Adding value and insight to the community. Your observation certainly hasn't been made in the best interests of the community. It's tiring when people decide to take the lazy route and resign themselves to com…
/r/RedPillWomen16/07/17 04:05 AM
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Physical aggression is never acceptable in a relationship. The fact that you are mutually abusive to each other physically and verbally is evidence enough that this is an unhealthy relationship. I can handle this. This is what every abused person says to themselves. "It's not that bad" and "I know why it escalates, I'm part of the problem." And you are part of the problem. You abuse him, he abuses you. You both lack either the interest, ability, or patience to resolve differences like compassion…
/r/RedPillWomen16/07/17 03:34 AM
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Please only give relevant (and sincere) advice. Your comment is not useful, and I'm not sure why you would write something like that.
/r/RedPillWomen15/07/17 05:51 PM
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Inexperience in women is valued. A marker of innocence and youth which is part of femininity and it encourages men to feel protective. Men are valued for ability and strength. A man that doesn't know things cannot be trusted to lead competently. He has not proved himself.
/r/RedPillWomen15/07/17 02:00 AM
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Trigglypuff is the stuff of nightmares.
/r/RedPillWomen15/07/17 01:29 AM
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She should come to the sub and ask for advice herself. Chasing and dating a boss isn't a great idea, especially if the job means something to her.
/r/RedPillWomen14/07/17 10:46 PM
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Ok, yes, she had expectations. I guess we differ about how much she should have expected. Maybe you understand more about the OP than i do. Possible, it could be due to many factors. I don't think anyone is 'bad' for hoping, I'm just a really strong believer in 'make your own luck' and would never be content just hoping for the best if something was important enough to me that, should it not happen, I'd have an emotional break-down. Yes that's a good relationship strategy, being grateful for eff…
/r/RedPillWomen14/07/17 10:32 PM
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Offering insightful responses to elaborate and explain [possibly misunderstood] comments is a more productive option. I also don't put any stock in votes one way or the other. Agreeing with something when you see it, and expanding has been a strategy that's worked for me. Often times it's just a matter of taking some time to better communicate exactly what you and the other person means. Once you figure out what the actual mismatch or disagreement is, then you can work from there. RP is not a un…
/r/RedPillWomen14/07/17 09:08 PM
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One downvote is hardly evidence. Which has now been reversed because I upvoted. You could do so as well.
/r/RedPillWomen14/07/17 08:53 PM
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/u/vanBeethovenLudwig and /u/fetchyminx pretty much covered everything. Meditation, writing, art are all good options. What specifically has you stressed out and worried?
/r/RedPillWomen14/07/17 06:12 PM
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I agree, and I'd respond in a similar fashion. Some groups are more laid back, some are more openly intolerant. I think it partially has to do with age, as well as the overall dynamic of the group. :)
/r/RedPillWomen14/07/17 05:39 PM
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Of course! I'm glad you find it helpful. :)
/r/RedPillWomen14/07/17 03:47 PM
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I'm glad you can focus on the positives. :)
/r/RedPillWomen14/07/17 04:11 AM
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Thank you for expanding. Men and women are very different. Women tend to be more emotional, better verbal communicators. Women seek consensus and approval from friends in a different way than men do. Generally men want to demonstrate ability among friends (pranks, humor, accomplishing things, winning competitions or bets). Women compete as well, but it's a lot more complicated and sometimes not all that obvious. I don't agree that being logical has anything in common with recognizing emotional a…
/r/RedPillWomen14/07/17 01:14 AM
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Definitely. Education, single vs two parent home, if they were adopted, economic social status, race. These things will all play a role. I think education can be a double edged sword. Some people go crazy in college, others shape up, and some don't change. Maybe where they go to college, or the type. I know when it comes to the military, there's an unusually high number of marriages and divorces and cheating. I suspect the same holds true for law enforcement too.
/r/RedPillWomen13/07/17 11:56 PM
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Yep I didn't get a chance to send my response either. I honestly did not mean to attack her in any way. Thank you, I'm glad you are getting the help you need and monitoring your situation. For the same reason an alcoholic, the formally abused, and the those dealing with depression have to factor those things in when talking about behavior and personal relationships. Again, your illness does not and cannot exist in a vacuum. It's part of who you are and it is not unreasonable to ask whether your …
/r/RedPillWomen13/07/17 08:43 PM
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Becoming fixated and obsessed with something or someone can be a symptom though. Especially if it is uncontrollable, and something you cannot stop doing through willpower. A mental illness and disease cannot be separated and isolated from everything else in your life. It's not as simple as saying "this has nothing to do with my Schizophrenia" because if it involves your behavior then your Schizophrenia will obviously be part of that. Again, I am not trying to attack or accuse you. I think the be…
/r/RedPillWomen13/07/17 08:34 PM
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Your preferences make complete sense, and overall I think men rather have direct conversations. Women get uncomfortable with a straightforward approach, to us it feels like we've done something wrong, or that we aren't being understood. The "women are the children of the house" idea stands for many reasons. When approaching a child, you don't show aggression unless you want them to retreat and shut down. If you want them to understand and learn, you have to be calm. Stern is fine, it just has to…
/r/RedPillWomen13/07/17 05:41 PM
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Thanks for the reply! He's not terribly stoic to an extreme, I might have made him look like a bad guy but actually he likes to tell me funny stories about his day and when he was younger. So he's not totally silent 100% of the time. I think he's just stoic maybe 40% of the time. It's really hard to accurately convey someone's personality in a thread. Any attempt to do so, generally requires a lot of irrelevant typing which can mask or hide the actual question being asked. This is why I'm always…
/r/RedPillWomen13/07/17 05:26 PM
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Thank you for the additional information, this really clears things up! Do what you can to pacify her and avoid conflict as much as possible. Make getting out of there a top priority. Has your husband spoken to her at all? Is he surprised by her behavior!?
/r/RedPillWomen13/07/17 04:57 PM
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Looks like you were right! OP provided more details and explained some things that have happened. Her Miller definitely sounds unreasonable and pushy. :)
/r/RedPillWomen13/07/17 04:55 PM
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That depends on the situation, relationship, and leading style of the man. A plate spinner can be seen with other women, but female attention only works if the women are as pretty as the misbehaving woman or prettier. A man that's married or in an LTR and responds to a shit test, which I think of as normal (bad) female behavior, by seeking other women to be 'seen' with is not equipped to be a good leader and the woman should leave. Proportional reactions are important. The goal is to make the wo…
/r/RedPillWomen13/07/17 01:27 PM
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I'll have to take a look when I'm not nodding off. Thanks for the link! Have a great night. :)
/r/RedPillWomen13/07/17 04:19 AM
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I'm glad you liked it! Yes it was really interesting to have all the moving pieces and motivations explained so plainly. :)
/r/RedPillWomen13/07/17 03:20 AM
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Thank you for sharing. Everything you quoted makes a lot of sense and I love the driving example. I might buy both books simply because it sounds like a good read. Maybe we could do a discussion group, quote a few things for those that don't have a copy and more in depth questions for those that do?
/r/RedPillWomen13/07/17 02:38 AM
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Watch His Girl Friday. There are so many great old movies with feminine and intelligent women. Being playful and flirty is good, but innuendo may not be a great idea. It depends on how dirty it is, what he's like (some men prefer a woman that can playfully banter without being a bitch). Other men want a woman that blushes or that doesn't even notice the innuendo at first. I don't think there is a universal answer, and the best I can offer is "it depends".
/r/RedPillWomen13/07/17 02:22 AM
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When you're at the bottom of the ladder, but you try to behave as though you're at the top...in female circles that's a clear act of arrogance or of being clueless. Women ruthlessly guard their standing within a group, especially if it's been around for any length of time. All said and done, it sounds like you got off easy (as crazy as that sounds). If you decide to continue with this group, just keep that in mind next time. Approach one girl on the side and brainstorm ideas together. See what g…
/r/RedPillWomen12/07/17 08:08 PM
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I'm glad to hear it! It's always good when you can laugh about things later. :)
/r/RedPillWomen12/07/17 07:49 PM
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Haha, it's weird that even when I talk about 'down to earth' actors (Keanu Reeves, Tom Hanks) I still don't think of them as normal people. Lawrence doesn't bother me, and I like the snippit interviews I have seen of her. Meanwhile...that chick from Twilight? I cannot stand anything about her. Not because of the trash series. Just the way she looks, her low energy, anti-social...resting bitch face sour puss everything...yuck. Meanwhile I love the chick from Parks and Rec...the one with dark hair…
/r/RedPillWomen12/07/17 06:07 PM
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Haha, I remember when Bullock did "Miss Congeniality". Jennifer Lawrence has an interesting face and features. I think of her as quirky and pretty. But her as Mystique isn't nearly as suggestive as if they cast the actress that played 7 of 9 (I forget her name). I enjoy Lawrence's sense of humor, and she seems like 'one of the guys'. Arguably, most actors 'play the same character' but I don't think that holds true with Hanks, as compared to others. His role in Castaway isn't exactly comparable t…
/r/RedPillWomen12/07/17 05:36 PM
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Agreed! The delayed maturation process today is unbelievable. No wonder people don't marry and have kids, society continues to treat them as kids. There's so much wrong... And just about all of it feels impossible to fix. I think there's hope though all the same. I love the generational breakdowns and descriptions of various traits, beliefs, and motivations. Really great stuff.
/r/RedPillWomen12/07/17 04:14 AM
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Yes, but it actually makes sense. Women like to please, and a woman that is properly attracted to a man and feels the proper amount of dread will be motivated to shape up and fall in line. A man doesn't feel 'dread' the same way women do. They will feel it, but won't be as likely to to take that dread as a sign to step up and be more masculine and lead. Generally it translates to more supplication, attachment, and increased beta behavior. When a woman feels dread and exhibits 'needy' behavior (l…
/r/RedPillWomen12/07/17 03:08 AM
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I think you might have misunderstood the purpose of the post. OP isn't asking for advice on dating men, they are trying to understand an overall trend they have noticed taking place.
/r/RedPillWomen12/07/17 02:15 AM
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Haha, well it's possible some changes have already affected your life in a positive way and you haven't noticed. Do you keep a gratitude journal? Or journal in general? I can understand feeling aimless...it's hard to feel like you're making progress without concrete end goals like "run 10 miles" or something similar.
/r/RedPillWomen12/07/17 01:37 AM
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Haha I think it's been good so far, hopefully you feel the same way! I think there's a feminine way to present yourself, which relates to clothes. How that manifests (like, what clothes exactly you wear) will vary depending on the era and culture. Agreed! I actually do not think it's impossible to have a face full of metal and be feminine, if you live in a culture where your piercings successfully signal feminine traits. That is an excellent point of clarification and I agree. I know that in Afr…
/r/RedPillWomen12/07/17 01:35 AM
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What's that saying? Better to be prepared and not need anything than to be unprepared and find yourself without. I always heard it with guns..."better to need a gun and not have to use it, than to need a gun and not have one."
/r/RedPillWomen12/07/17 01:16 AM
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Yes! That's a great shorthand, much more succinct than my ramblings! :)
/r/RedPillWomen12/07/17 01:15 AM
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:) Thank you!
/r/RedPillWomen12/07/17 01:14 AM
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Haha yep, I tend to shut down if I am overwhelmed by emotion and I'm not ready to talk yet. I've gotten a lot better about opening up in the moment though and not just shutting down entirely. Usually, men will withdraw and women will pursue. Once a woman gets started on an emotional bender, she tends to pick up steam and escalate. The hamster overrides logic and everything around her just has to burn. Not something I envy men having to deal with haha!
/r/RedPillWomen12/07/17 12:58 AM
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I'm glad things are better for you now. It can be really hard to come to terms with many of these ideas...there's a reason men on TRP go through an anger phase. Sometimes that can last for years. Being able to admit failure and weakness is an invaluable skill. The trick is to be realistic without beating yourself up too much. I think you have a lot more influence within the community than you realize. I have noticed several users mention that they respect your perspective just in the past few we…
/r/RedPillWomen11/07/17 10:01 PM
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I'm very sorry for your loss. It's really and truly heartbreaking to watch women that want so badly to be mothers have to try and cheat biology (while racking up massive debt in the process) just for a chance. So much pain and difficulty could be avoided if we were just collectively more honest to women about their choices. I won't pretend that being young, pregnant and relatively strapped for cash is a walk in the park....but I know it's also not the life-ending disaster that people seem to thi…
/r/RedPillWomen11/07/17 09:46 PM
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I could be wrong, it sounds like OP is looking for tips on how to trust her BF and stop feeling insecure and anxious about his work. Given that they should still be in the blissful honeymoon stages of their relationship, her current difficulties don't bode well for them. :/
/r/RedPillWomen11/07/17 08:12 PM
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:) I think everyone had good intentions and desires and I love that this community cares about the people that participate here. Have a good day!
/r/RedPillWomen11/07/17 04:41 PM
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When RP says "intelligence" doesn't matter, I think it means that having intelligence alone is not going to attract a man. Just as having a solid job is good, it won't be the thing that attracts a man to you. Sure, there are exceptions, but RP deals with the largest slice of the population. :) Intelligence can be attractive, as others have already said, it's arrogance and a 'know-it-all' attitude that makes a woman unattractive. /u/Kara_El covered it really well. :)
/r/RedPillWomen11/07/17 03:59 PM
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Femininity is a combination of traits and expressions as well as a mindset. If you've seen the original Sabrina movie, there are times when she is not being positive but still feminine. I think Hollywood has done a favorable job showing that femininity is more than just how you dress and speak. It's a culmination of all these different moving parts, but we must remember that it does not mean always being agreeable or positive. Some may argue that certain activities are inherently unfeminine. To …
/r/RedPillWomen11/07/17 02:01 PM
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If by "walking" they mean hiking (actual hiking on trails with inclines and declines) then that will develop leg muscles and the butt. I'm not sure if walking on sand for long stretches of time helps the butt, I usually just feel it in my calves if at all. Hips too of I haven't stretched out my hip flexors properly.
/r/RedPillWomen11/07/17 07:27 AM
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She insulted the community, and just did so again. How is that not breaking the rules? I have not observed the trends you are talking about. You should report comments that break the rules, create good content, and be an example. I believe I responded to an exchange you had the other day because you were being intolerant and dismissive in your comments to another user. Questioning should start with ourselves first, and others second.
/r/RedPillWomen11/07/17 04:10 AM
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You need to provide more information. How long have you been dating? What exactly is the problem that lead you to ignoring him like this? If I was ignored for a week, without being informed ahead of time about scheduling restrictions, I would assume I'm single and start dating again. I also don't play games, or expect anyone to read my mind. There's a lot more going on here, and you need to be more specific if you hope to receive useful advice.
/r/RedPillWomen10/07/17 11:41 PM
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You will want to figure out how to use reddit properly moving forward. You write messages but you aren't directly responding to a user. This increases confusion and makes it impossible to actually talk to you. Take care.
/r/RedPillWomen10/07/17 08:01 PM
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Same way you get stronger and in shape: you work at it, push your boundaries until they become your new norm. Getting involved with sports will keep you active, allow you to make new friends, and push your communication skills. Competing in front of people. You could also try debate club, take a speech class, sign up for student government, get involved with the drama club. Volunteer within your community to read and mentor kids. Added bonus: all these things look great on college applications.
/r/RedPillWomen10/07/17 07:45 PM
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Most often, people ask for advice when they already know the answer but they don't like it. I always expect people to leave out at least some information. But there's nothing she could say about her own bad behavior that would make this situation an optimal, good, or acceptable one. Regardless of what she deserves, there's a child involved. Her duty should be as a mother first, and this jerk does not sound like someone that should be around a child.
/r/RedPillWomen10/07/17 07:30 PM
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I would never tell a woman, regardless of her red flags and flaws, to stay with a cheating, dishonest, unreliable and emotionally manipulative man. Being a single mom is by no means ideal, but it's definitely better than being married to a horrible man. Additionally, she has to consider what kind of father this jerk will be to her child. No, I stand by my first comment. She needs to leave immediately. She needs to work on herself, and do a better job vetting in the future.
/r/RedPillWomen10/07/17 07:18 PM
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If you marry this man, get used to living with anxiety, suspicion and eventually anger for the rest of your life as a result. This man is not trustworthy, and he has not brought out the best in you or encouraged you to trust him. A wife should not be a secret, a family cannot thrive in shadows. Leave him and try again after you have healed.
/r/RedPillWomen10/07/17 06:33 PM
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You will not get bulky unless you start juicing (steroids) and lift super super heavy. That isn't true. Some women put on muscle very easily. Overall women do not gain muscle at the same rate, or even as much as men do. However, women also tend to have smaller frames and are shorter. This means that it doesn't take a lot of muscle gain for a woman to 'feel' bulky even though she doesn't look bulky. She's not worried about looking like a power-lifter, she's worried about taking up more space, spe…
/r/RedPillWomen10/07/17 05:05 PM
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It is a high risk dating method that is not recommended. You can easily rack up your n count because instead of filtering out men that are not interested in LTRs from the start, you pursue them, have sex, and literally hope he will want to be with ONLY you and all the other women screwing him along with you hope the same thing. Theoretically, being a plate is the only way you can get the top tier world class men (rockstar, movie star). Unfortunately RP men are fond of pretending that they are on…
/r/RedPillWomen10/07/17 01:41 PM
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If you are new to lifting, then I recommend taking a weight lifting class at a local community or junior college. It's a great way to be in a conteolled environment with trained professionals. Personal trainers are a mixed bag, and some are woefully misinformed or lack proper training all together. The internet is your friend. Watch instructional videos and brush up on some of the more technical video presebtations. You should be training with very light weights for the first month at least if y…
/r/RedPillWomen10/07/17 01:32 PM
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This is misleading at best. People can change and improve. If men could not learn to be more dominant, then TRP would not exist. Also, RPW wouldn't be able to help controlling women soften. Alpha describes traits, as does beta. No one wants a man with only alpha traits, or with only beta ones. The biggest issue I see is that OP can't control her man or even make him want to change. He has to decide he needs to and be motivated enough to follow through.
/r/RedPillWomen10/07/17 01:14 AM
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My concern has more to do with plain logistics. Would you have to meet with or video chat with the user? Would you use the username a pseudonym? Why should anyone trust you to be fair with your writing? I have seen really questionable behavior from reporters and grad srudents and wannabe authors whenever they come to a RP sub.
/r/RedPillWomen09/07/17 11:15 PM
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I think OP will find comfort and value in your comment. How long did you wait before dating again?
/r/RedPillWomen09/07/17 11:09 PM
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/u/LuckyLittleStar /u/MissNissa /u/vigilantredrooster ? Teaandtalk mentioned the rules, but maybe it would be good for one of the mods to speak up as well? Also, /u/OwnedAndLoveIt's photo also concerns me.
/r/RedPillWomen09/07/17 09:37 PM
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I think the merit of your comments has been overshadowed by your aggressive tone. Women have different priorities, and what makes a man desirable to one woman may not be the same to another. In general I agree that male N count doesn't particularly matter. A man's ability and confidence is more important than anything, and a very inexperienced man isn't as likely to have the same kind of talent or confidence as a man with many more partners. Then again there are many LTR and marriage minded wome…
/r/RedPillWomen09/07/17 09:28 PM
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Are you by any chance on the spectrum? When environment, noises, and too much stimulation in general has a severe affect on your energy and mood that's sometimes an indication. Or, are you really introverted? I am on the spectrum and an introvert. If possible, I would recommend either wearing earplugs to block out the noise, or wearing headphones and listening to calming 'white noise' sounds. It's not uncommon to have your behavior influenced by the people you spend a great deal of time with. In…
/r/RedPillWomen07/07/17 10:10 PM
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I was never talking to you, I was responding and explaining things to another user. Then you responded to me, and based on how your wrote your comments, you seem either personally offended or you're another user that seems to support feminism. Possibly both, but that doesn't matter. Feminism played a major role in shifting the workforce and employee landscape. I never said anything about wanting to 'take away' the ability for women to work. As I said in my initial comment, poor women have always…
/r/RedPillWomen07/07/17 08:38 PM
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I don't know how this is relevant to a sub dedicated to dating and marriage...
/r/RedPillWomen07/07/17 06:14 PM
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Women entering the workforce drove down wages, flooded the market with workers. Supply and demand, when you have double the work population as before (in terms of office jobs, again, poor women always worked), then everything gets messed up. If only MC men worked, things would be very different for MC families. If the trades were still valued, things would be very different. Now we have kids going into debt they know they won't pay off for a long-time, the cost to own land continues to rise. Fem…
/r/RedPillWomen07/07/17 06:13 PM
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I'm less inclined to take someone at their word, as though they are objectively describing an issue than you are, or at least that's the impression I get. I have seen people tell whoppers here, only to have their lies exposed, and I tend to approach things with an assumption that the person is fudging a bit. Similar to 'one man' s garbage is another's treasure' I find that 'one person's sense of reasonable, is another's sob story'. Only more information can clear things up, either way she is get…
/r/RedPillWomen06/07/17 07:31 PM
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I read it as a mom at her wits end with fanily. I mean, she raised her son so I doubt his slacking was a tital surprise, hence the contract before allowing them to move in. I don't see it as nagging, I see it as a boss tired of being ignored by employees. They are guests and should be bending over backwards to make things as easy as possible. Respect is earned, and it sounds like OP and her husband have not earned it. Hopefully she gives more details though, because this could gi either way.
/r/RedPillWomen06/07/17 07:03 PM
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Why do you feel so confident that the MIL is wrong and not that OP and her H are failing to live up to the terns they agreed to? I think it could go either way, but it sounds like the hisband is slacking.
/r/RedPillWomen06/07/17 02:50 PM
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Possible, I know there was another 'dealing with family' post recently too. I just always think specifically of romantic relationships and dynamics. Agreed, although I am concerned by the number of people that are assuming the MIL is at fault without more information it's hard to tell... But I am inclined to think this is a failure on the part of OP and her H.
/r/RedPillWomen06/07/17 02:48 PM
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Feminism was a ploy from the start, but it didn't happen quietly. Men are at fault for letting things unravel. If the guardians of the home and society are cowed by a collective groyp of angry women, then those men were not diligent or as strong as they needed to be. It's disgusting to me that women demanded to work, and essentially displaced war vets back from fighting in many cases.
/r/RedPillWomen06/07/17 01:14 PM
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I always just say "I'm really stressed, work hasn't been easy lately and I miss you." I really like using that "I miss you". It covers so much, even if you see eaxh other daily, that doesn't mean you are connecting and being close. What do you do when someone misses you? Generally you try to spend more time with them and invest in the relationship. Mentioning stress also lets the other person know you are fatigued and fragile and on edge. That you need help recovering and relaxing. It's the ment…
/r/RedPillWomen06/07/17 12:36 PM
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Great comment! I can understand why it's hard for some people to adjust though. I have a working hypothesis that the strongest love languages a person feels is either the main way they were shown love growing up, or it's something they were possibly denied. As a result they have a lopsided sense of how love is expressed. Not altogether foreign to the "absent dad, bad at picking men later on" trope about women.
/r/RedPillWomen06/07/17 05:53 AM
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"I'm not feeling that lived right now" I apologize for butting in, but I strongly disagree with that phrasing! It doesn't imply a simple need for some 'exyra' attention, it very blatently says "you have not been loving me" and suggests neglect. I can't imagine anyone would be promted into compassionate action and understanding after being told they fail at being loving. More likely they will feel resentful, and unmotivated to do what they have been doing. To be clear, he hasn't failed or faltere…
/r/RedPillWomen06/07/17 05:18 AM
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Ideally, yes, everyonevwould be considerate and mindful of preferences. Although, as you pointed out the instinct is to go with what you personally eant (which is why your friend gives gifts). Ultimately, I always divvy things up as follows: "what I can control" and "what I cannot". Wanting your love ti be perfect and give exactly what you needvis always ideal, but it's more practical to work on how aware and thankful and receptive you are to other types. Depending on how desire is conveyed, ask…
/r/RedPillWomen06/07/17 05:12 AM
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You can always save mementos from experiences together and get the same feeling. Especially if you play a game on a napkin something. It's so so so hard to bring up 'gifts' with most people, because it's easy to sound materialistic and greedy. I am very sentimental as well, and I really don't prefer one thing over another. If forced, I would pick physical touch. Another reason it's important to find joy in all the languages, that way you never feel any kind of lacking. :) Good luck!
/r/RedPillWomen06/07/17 04:31 AM
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Okay good! :) I have seen a few conversations, not necessarily on this sub, from women that are more or less 'blind' to other forms of love. As a result, they ignore everything except the instances that specifically follow their preferred method. As you can imagine, that approach really didn't help things! "I'm feeling really [insecure, low, stressed], can you help me?" Men generally want to fix problems, so if she's seeking him out for a hug and explaining, he will probably ask how he can help.…
/r/RedPillWomen06/07/17 03:58 AM
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Gratitude is like a muscle, the mire you practice, the stronger it gets. Instead of looking for things in exactly the way she prefers, I would encourafe her to recognize the things he does that shows how much he cares. Taking out the trash, sending a message, cuddling. The biggest problem I see with all the love language stuff is that it can kead people to think care is only valid when presented in the 'correct' way. He is likely saying how much he loves her in several ways that just aren't her …
/r/RedPillWomen06/07/17 03:02 AM
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I'm very sorry for your loss. Unfortunately, there really isn't a universally correct way to handle this. For now, continue to focus on healing. If you aren't already seeing someone or going to a support group, you may want to look into that. I have an aunt that met her second husband in a support group for people that had lost their spouse. If you are uncomfortable, and talk a lot about him, then that is going to tell anyone you go on a date with that you aren't ready. I once went on a blind da…
/r/RedPillWomen06/07/17 02:43 AM
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My husband and I currently live with his mom to help us save money for a house of our own. Given your situation, things will be far more difficult for you to either distance yourself or pursue other options. It's very nice of her to open her home to you, and unfortunately that will have a huge affect on the overall dynamic of this situation. Before moving in, his mom made us sign a contract stating everything she expected us to do while living there and said we would be on a 6month lease, renewa…
/r/RedPillWomen06/07/17 02:34 AM
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Aww not a problem, and I didn't want to depress you or anything. I hope you get some happy news before the new year. If you do, please share it with us! I love this community for the same reason, it really is a great way to stay grounded! :)
/r/RedPillWomen01/07/17 12:07 PM
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Dealing with family can be really hard. Be polite, always positive about what you say, and sit there quietly once you are done talking. There's a common reporter trick where they ask a question, then say nothing even after the person they're interviewing has given their answer. They know people are uncomfortable with silence and want to fill it, so the person starts talking again, and potentially says something they shouldn't. After you are finished with your answer, ask them a question. If you …
/r/RedPillWomen30/06/17 11:36 PM
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I have kistened to it on the tune in radio app on myvphone. :)
/r/RedPillWomen30/06/17 03:06 PM
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There's a great podcast called 314. All about feminiity, alt right, and why feminism is a complete farce.
/r/RedPillWomen30/06/17 03:47 AM
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This really isn't true. Most people want to marry someone with a similar educational background, and most college educated men marry college educated women. This only changes if the woman hits some kind of jackpot or if she is dating men significantly older than she is. It may change if both people have a job at the same company. Women are better off educating themselves, and being self-sufficient while hunting for a husband. Career choice can turn iff some men (highly demanding ones like being …
/r/RedPillWomen30/06/17 03:13 AM
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He is the one that stated they should be friends after she shared her marriage boundary. She said they are both conservative politically in a very liberal area, and they share religious backgrounds. They are both interested in each other (that's why they went on a date after all). She is open to him changing his mind, and he is hoping she will change her mind. Unless you are conservative, you may not understand how frustrating the liberal mindset is. For an old fashion woman, following a liberal…
/r/RedPillWomen30/06/17 03:03 AM
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Conservative values Hard worker Good spending habits Dominant Honest Aptitude for technology Enjoys working with his hands Old fashioned Patient Intelligent Charming Strong Good looking Likes to learn Likes to teach Strong personal morals
/r/RedPillWomen30/06/17 02:39 AM
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Knowledge is never a waste! Additionally, even women that want a traditional marriage still need to be able to support themselves until they meet their future husband. Most households cannot afford to only have one person working, ecen without kids. College will also allow you to meet new people, expand your network. Without a college degree, you are essentially cutting yourself off from a large pool of men. Most people today, with the lowest rates if divorce are college educated couples. They m…
/r/RedPillWomen30/06/17 02:17 AM
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:) I was joking with that line. I will remember to add a smiley the next time I make a joke to better highlight what I'm up too.
/r/RedPillWomen30/06/17 02:02 AM
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Why do gay men hang out so much with straight women? Attractive men get orbiter women, just as attractive women get orbiter men. I doubt those attractive men and women really want to have sex with the orbiters. Attractive people have lots of options, orbiters tend to have tunnel vision and they lust after the person regardless of their chances to actually succeed. I'm convinced orbiting is the low risk (the orbiter doesn't seriously put themselves out there, they play it safe and hope their effo…
/r/RedPillWomen30/06/17 01:47 AM
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I think the desirability of fitting in is dependent on the quality of the social circle and the atmosphere. There are still many traditional places where fitting in means being a feminine and likeable woman. I agree these spaces are by no means the majority. Overall, fitting in isn't all it's cracked up to be. But the ability to blend is a good skill to have all the same. Especially in professional settings.
/r/RedPillWomen29/06/17 11:39 PM
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Youthful joy and passion expressed in a positive way is very appealing to men. Femininity depends on ease, joy, kindness, grace, gentleness. Especially for masculine, and sometimes more serious men, watching a feminine woman be happy allows him to feel relaxed and at ease as well. Few things can brighten a man's day like a truly happy and caring woman. Feminine women are emotional, and that doesn't always mean positive expressions of those emotions. There's nothing wrong with being sensitive, un…
/r/RedPillWomen29/06/17 06:35 PM
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I know many women with families where the women were always educated. Great great, great, and grandmothers. All going to college and earning degrees. from the sidebar: Red Pill Wives (RPW) is a subreddit where like-minded women discuss sexual strategy from an anti-feminist, traditionalist, and/or evolutionary psychology perspective. We also explore related subjects such as culture, current events, science, history, and philosophy! from the wiki: This is an anti-feminist community, not a debate f…
/r/RedPillWomen29/06/17 06:28 PM
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I said from the start that it's clear they are attracted to each other. That's why they went on a date after all. They are both flirting and enjoying each other, and that's fine. He knows what her conditions are, and she isn't going to sleep with him. He made the choice to stay, and she isn't solely obsessed with this one guy. She isn't doing anything wrong. Overall I'm confused why a woman should care about beta-orbiters, or why she should feel any kind of responsibility to them. If a woman has…
/r/RedPillWomen29/06/17 05:37 PM
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Hi there! :) My aim is to try and clear up a few things, and possibly give you a different perspective about the thread, and these topics in general. Uh, some people have very fulfilling careers AND fulfilling relationships, and some women have no desire to have children or be married (just like some men don't have this desire either). Absolutely, it's definitely possible for women to have loving relationships and fulfilling careers. However, the overwhelming tendency today is for women to belie…
/r/RedPillWomen29/06/17 05:29 PM
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If your answer is going to be "its your own fault for moving in before a ring", please click the Back button because that's just not helpful unless you have a time machine I can borrow. I think it's a little too convenient for you to say this. It's similar to the reaction of a child, when they know they've done something wrong, trying to head off a lecture without actually apologizing for making a mess. You mention that you live together, and that you moved in quickly, but you have not stated wh…
/r/RedPillWomen29/06/17 04:00 PM
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I disagree with you assessment, but I do not think this coverstlation is productive and I no longer wish to converse with you. I have explained my thoughts and I would like to discontinue this exchange.
/r/RedPillWomen29/06/17 03:23 AM
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I disagree. If she had lied about her intentions, or if she had implied sex might happen, then she is at fault. She told the truth, and he claims to accept that. She is not trying to extract services from him, or use him for money or anything like that. I don't believe single people are responsible for the hidden intentions of others, especially when they have been clear. She stated in another comment that part of the appeal for both of them is shared religious beliefs, political outlooks and ga…
/r/RedPillWomen29/06/17 02:46 AM
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:) I know that trp will sometimes venture into more explicit detail about sex and sexuality. Overall, things are usually only implied at most. I can't recall anyone ever getting into a lot of details about sex. Overall, thank you for sharing your situation with the community. I think it has generated some really good conversations.
/r/RedPillWomen29/06/17 02:20 AM
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I want my first man to be my only man, and I have faith that I'll either meet such a man or join the convent. It's good that you have a clear idea of your goals. I'm into BDSM but obviously don't need anything extreme to be satisfied. If you are a virgin (no oral, no touching, no messing around), then it's likely you are into the idea of BDSM. Whether you would actually enjoy anything kinky remains to be seen. You really didn't need to go into graphic detail about your sexuality, that's not what…
/r/RedPillWomen29/06/17 02:09 AM
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It's obvious that there's an attraction between the two of you. You were honest about your boundary, and he decided to stick around. There's nothing wrong with flirting, especially if he's initiating contact. He could very well be hoping that patience will win the day and wear you down. As long as you are firm about your boundary, there's nothing wrong with flirting and getting to know him as a friend. He is free to leave at anytime, you aren't luring him in and leading him on by implying that y…
/r/RedPillWomen29/06/17 01:26 AM
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The difference here is that she's already made it clear that sex is off the table. Many women have this boundary to varying degrees. It's not the woman's fault if a man ignores a boundary the woman has clearly stated and instead decides to take a risk by playing the part of her friend. Please explain how her behavior is deceptive, because I really don't see it. Men will always try to push boundaries, and this man probably thinks he can get her to have sex with him if he plays it cool. Unfortunat…
/r/RedPillWomen29/06/17 01:08 AM
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I'm not sure why /u/LifeHasLag has any responsibility to tell a guy that has already agreed he's fine with being her friend, to go away? She already said what her boundary is with him (no sex until marriage). That was something he didn't want to deal with, and then he suggested they stay friends. If a woman is upfront about boundaries, and a man chooses to play the "nice guy" card in hopes that it will lead somewhere, then that's a strategy he willingly decided to play. She isn't tricking him, o…
/r/RedPillWomen29/06/17 01:00 AM
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The problem isn't that men and women can't be friends. When I was single, I had lots of male friends. I didn't hook up with any of them, and they didn't flirt with me. There are a few problems however. A guy friend falling for you, you falling for a friend, a girlfriend or boyfriend having valid concerns about friendships with the opposite sex. When single, I think it's easier and generally smarter to have male and female friends. One of your male friends could end up being your boyfriend, or on…
/r/RedPillWomen28/06/17 10:56 PM
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Most colleges tend to lean on the liberal side. I have seen a few articles, and even watched a documentary highlighting the extreme bias. Feminism has not just been creeping into the educational system, it's been pouring in. Many teachers that may have different perspectives are discouraged from sharing and even trying to expose students to those ideas. Some schools require teachers to incorporate feminist and empowering content for women, even if the course has nothing to do with feminism in an…
/r/RedPillWomen28/06/17 04:53 PM
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It's always best to be clear from the start what you're looking for, this is pretty easy when you're online dating fortunately. If he isn't already aware that you are looking for a committed relationship, then you need to tell him soon. Next, keep in mind that 'dating' is just a process of single people going out together on dates. He's not bound to you at this point, he has not made any promises. It's not unusual for people to actively talk to and go out on dates with 3 or more people at a time…
/r/RedPillWomen27/06/17 10:53 PM
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Very possible. I don't mind religious connections, but I do like to make those instances more accessible to non-religious members. That was my main motivation in trying to parse out the meaning behing 'god' and connecting it to similar secular ideas and values. :) I agree there is probably some disconnect, but it's still something I learned from. Thank you for sharing your thoughts.
/r/RedPillWomen27/06/17 03:42 AM
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Thank you for the alternative perspective. :) I'm not sure that's what the other user means however, simply because they did not agree with my point about personal morals, or simply valuing life. The emphasis on the word 'god' is inherently tied to religion, vs personal values and morals which can be based on many things that are not related to religion or any notion of god.
/r/RedPillWomen27/06/17 03:24 AM
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Thank you for the explanation. I don't think it's too far off what I would recommend for a woman in her early 20s either, I think halving the guidelines you listed seems about right. Then again there are so many other things to consider... So now I'm waffling haha
/r/RedPillWomen27/06/17 03:21 AM
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One of the great things about red pill is that it encourages women to value their body, to only share it with men that have earned that level of intimacy. It's an old idea, women remaining chaste until marriage, and while red pill is not that severe and there are no religious decrees, the practice of keeping a low partner count is for the benefit of the woman, and to raise her value in the eyes of men. You are so young, and you have so much life to live. I'm sure evrything feels consuming and an…
/r/RedPillWomen27/06/17 02:37 AM
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Did you create that timeline specifically for the woman that posted the thread or is that the timeline you also personally followed? I hope that's not too intrusive! : /
/r/RedPillWomen27/06/17 02:29 AM
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I definitely understand having an averse reaction to the idea when you are with a man that is so far from everything it describes. I'm on the fence so to speak because I was engaged to a man that loved me tremendously, but cheated on me twice over the course of dating each other. The second time I believe he only told me because we were engaged and he didn't want to promise to honor and love me in front of people, when he had not done so privately. My husband sounds similar to your's. He has ama…
/r/RedPillWomen27/06/17 12:21 AM
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I understand what your objection is, and I tried to be clear in my own comment that men can love a woman, and cheat "with no qualms." I'm not sure I know how to rephrase my point in a different way...I know that doing so can sometimes help ideas to be better understood by others, so that's the limitation I'm facing right now. It sounds like you understand what I and the other user are saying, you just disagree. Men have done what I have described repeatedly throughout history, and in Christian, …
/r/RedPillWomen27/06/17 12:09 AM
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Unfortunately I am inclined to agree with /u/gloopgloop22 about this. Men can desire sex purely for physical reasons and not feel anything emotionally for the woman. Women are generally the ones that require a connection between emotional fondness and sexual desire. Historically, men have almost always had a mistress. They were upstanding husband's in every way, and they chased skirts at the same time. Overall, women can't bear to know that a man is cheating, because it's a personal offense that…
/r/RedPillWomen26/06/17 10:58 PM
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Thank you for the response, I'm sorry I misread your tone. I've been reading the sub for a little over a year, but have only recently decided to work up enough nerve to actually start commenting on reddit. I'm happy that so far it's been a very positive experience. Belief in G-d and religion aren't one and the same. I spoke about the belief in G-d, not about any specific religion. That's a useful distinction. I wonder what your thoughts are about something like the eight fold path, or practices …
/r/RedPillWomen26/06/17 09:20 PM
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People often move away and live in new places. It could be a lack of having their childhood and school friends close. Some people are very shy and don't really enjoy being social. Maybe some of the women you see talking about that here have friends, but not feminine ones that share a red pill outlook? I live in a densely populated area, but not an area like NYC. The friends I grew up and went to school with all live in different places around the country. I have people I know and can hang out wi…
/r/RedPillWomen26/06/17 08:49 PM
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Your post sounds very firm and absolute in its phrasing. It could be a difference in writing styles, the impression I got was that "this is respect." The absolute nature of your writing is also evident in this response because you say "if you don't believe in god and that humans are created in the image of god, what reason is there to not take advantage of others?" Your logic has an absolute morality to it, as though without religion, humans cannot function properly. I know many athiests and sci…
/r/RedPillWomen26/06/17 07:51 PM
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I think your comment right here really emphasizes why you should be excited to get married to this man, and that everything you are worried about is manageable. :)
/r/RedPillWomen26/06/17 06:21 PM
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I'm not sure I really agree with your concept of respect being something that makes a person only hold back and refrain. Respect has spurred men to fight and die for a general they believe in. I think of respect as a shield. You protect the people you respect from your negative outbursts and cutting words. You also shield your relationship from outside criticism because you love and respect your husband. Respect can spur women to do better and strive for more especially when it's coupled with de…
/r/RedPillWomen26/06/17 06:19 PM
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How old are you? I don't think any relationship is perfect. Having a good relationship doesn't mean you never have doubts or problems. It means that when doubts and problems arise you know how to handle them. Money is often a concern. Do you trust his spending habits? Is he good with money? Do you have any debt you should be trying to pay off before getting married? It's important to remember that when he's stressed, he's not ignoring you. He's processing everything and figuring out what to do. …
/r/RedPillWomen26/06/17 06:03 PM
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Yes, I agree that the 'cock tease' is largely a huge red-flag for men. If you advertise slut behavior (talking dirty, being sexually overt) but then play 'prude' men will run if they are smart. The upfront approach has never failed me. Not that it always ended with a relationship, but it did save us both from wasting time on each other.
/r/RedPillWomen25/06/17 06:50 PM
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Easiest way to avoid this is to be clear from the start that you are dating because you want an LTR. This in turn is generally easier to do if you are dating men 3-5 years older than you are as well. Dating today is so muddled and everyone is walking around with different expectations and timelines and experiences. It can be hard to balance everything all at once, so your best option is usually to be honest (without being pushy or desperate or crazy). It's hard to explain really, I have always b…
/r/RedPillWomen25/06/17 06:47 PM
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You cannot survive infidelity if you hold onto what happened in the past. You can only let it go and decide to trust him completely, or you should end the relationship. 'Half-trust' and repeatedly demanding that he 'prove' himself to you will not re-build your relationship with him in a healthy way, and it's only a matter of time before he becomes tired of trying to meet your demands. You can only take a chance and trust him, or end the relationship.
/r/RedPillWomen25/06/17 06:07 PM
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Relationship development sometimes happens very quickly, and it's not a bad thing. Overall it will depend on the age, compatibility, and long-term goals of the people involved. He's 30 and he knows what he wants. Generally, men will start thinking about settling down (if they are family focused) at and shortly after 30. If they have been honest with each other about what they want, then there's really no reason to delay things. My only concern would be for the woman. I don't think it's a great i…
/r/RedPillWomen25/06/17 06:04 PM
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I don't know why gay couples would be any less capable than straight couples. And there are lots of shitty straight couples that neglect, abuse, or just don't have the resources to give a child a good chance at a happy life. I think it's more baffling to assume that being heterosexual is better just because of the sexual orientation of the parents. I'd care more about, available time, resources, and personal philosophies than if the couple is two men or two women.
/r/RedPillWives11/06/17 11:42 PM
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I agree that sameness without variation or differences would be very boring! Thank you for explaining.
/r/RedPillWives11/06/17 11:18 PM
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Thanks for the source. If I read it correctly though, that's still ten million people. When that many people have been killed, it certainly hasn't been considered insignificant. I know there are also people that identify as pan...and other terms that I'm not really informed on. Do you think it is easier or harder for people in smaller groups like that (gay, trans, pan) to find people to date and marry?
/r/RedPillWives11/06/17 11:17 PM
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I see a lot of claims of behavior driven by biology, and then the brushing aside of people that don't fit the norm (gays, bis, lesbians, trans). How and why does RP claim to know all about nature and biology while ignoring those groups? I understand that the number of people within those groups are not as numerous as the heterosexual slice, but I'm not sure a solid theory should try to sweep them under the rug. It seems like a definite weakness in the overall theory so far. African Americans and…
/r/RedPillWives11/06/17 10:29 PM
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So more in line with mainstream ideas of feminine dress, and beauty standards then. I'll have to look at the sub more later. I can get behind the personal accountability, and even putting the person you love and your relationship first. But I'm not sure why having sex matters either way? If a woman isn't looking for a relationship, shouldn't she just do whatever, and focus on vetting for a decent guy later on? I realize now that a lot of this has to do with women wanting a leader, and everything…
/r/RedPillWives11/06/17 10:19 PM
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That makes sense. Does pretty have a universal meaning here, or is it dependent on what the woman and the man and the woman want specifically? I agree two parents are always better than one, i also belive in lesbian and gay couples having the opportunity to adopt. I dont think people should have a harder time giving a loving home to a child jist because of their sexuality. Criminals and pedophiles are a different thing to consider. Thanks for sharing.
/r/RedPillWives11/06/17 08:29 PM
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Ok I think I will leave it all up for transparency then. And take more time to think and ask questions moving forward.
/r/RedPillWives11/06/17 04:58 PM
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Thanks for the response. I don't know if it was you or someone else, but they mentioned how a personal choice in their relationship lead to a lot of scrutiny and disapproval and personal attacks from TBP. Relationships are personal and I think whatever works for a couple is their business. I guess if they are being violent and shitty to others then that changes things. Okay another sub!? I may check it out later. Right now there's already a lot. I appreciate the focus on personal responsibility.…
/r/RedPillWives11/06/17 04:55 PM
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Thank for the response! Would you recommend that I delete the thread and the comments I made there then? Or should I ask the mods to review first so they don't think I'm trying to be deceptive?
/r/RedPillWives11/06/17 04:50 PM
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Yes, the comment about your ability as a mother was low. I can understand disagreeing with someone, but I don't think insulting people directly is helpful. I think there are reasons why people see things differently. I am sorry that my shock spurred me to post on a sub that I think is not at all about anything other than laughing at people. At first I didn't really think anything of it, but I was hasty to post on TBP as though it was an objective community without also considering that this comm…
/r/RedPillWives11/06/17 04:48 PM
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Also, I thought it would be more dishonest to delete my other comments and TBP post. I have been upfront and sincere. I don't think shock is all that common to this community when someone discovers things for the first time. Is it normal for people to just slip in and understand and agree with everything?
/r/RedPillWives11/06/17 04:26 PM
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I don't know if you have been reading my comments here or not. The only BP comments I have made since I posted this thread are: https://www.reddit.com/r/TheBluePill/comments/6gi5m5/obesity_single_mothers_and_objectification/diqz6hh/ Someone said that TRP is good for a laugh. Someone else said users here post on TBP. I assume they aren't posting about this sub. It's odd that TBP is not a sub that supports RP but RP users still comment there? and I replied to a user that is from this sub but comme…
/r/RedPillWives11/06/17 04:21 PM
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I guess there's a difference between personal opinions about groups of things (for example: I still have a hard time seeing what's wrong with single moms) and personal opinions about how you live your life. I don't think it's nice that you were attacked about things that you do for yourself or in your relationship. Attacking larger ideas seems less about the person and more about the idea. You did something that works for you, they may have wanted to attack the idea but really they only focused …
/r/RedPillWives11/06/17 03:56 PM
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Thanks for the response! What are the major traits of women do you think? And men? I will be looking at the sidebar, I just noticed that I missed your comment!
/r/RedPillWives11/06/17 03:37 PM
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It seems that outsiders that don't know anything about RP are routinely shocked, and a bit disorientated. I am trying to understand and learn because I said that I don't judge people, but then did exactly that with rp. So I'm here trying to talk and understand. I hope you get some rest if you're tired!
/r/RedPillWives11/06/17 03:31 PM
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I just mentioned to another user that I definitely made the post while in shock. They pointed out that it's unfair to pick the unpopular opinion thread, but it seemed like the ideas are very popular here? I did write in another comment on TBP that I don't like to judge people on race, sex, sexual orientation, geographical location (if you get the drift). I realized that I was doing exactly that with the thread. That's why I mentioned it in my post, I wanted to try and talk to people here and lea…
/r/RedPillWives11/06/17 03:30 PM
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What did you post about? That's a good point. I know that sub is against red pill, and I asked if people had talked to users here. The response was that it's a waste of time and doesn't work. I'm sure they have more experience than I do, but I'm still learning. I said in another comment that I don't like to judge people based on race, sex, sexual orientation, where they live...and I realized that I was doing exactly that with my TBP post. That's why I decided to comment here and hear from RP dir…
/r/RedPillWives11/06/17 03:22 PM
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Do you think reality can be subjective and different among people?
/r/RedPillWives11/06/17 03:17 PM
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I think this sounds horrible! Love is far more than physical acts, and it certainly should not be defined by them. Love is also about give and take, reciprocity, and respect. By everything said here, she needs a butler, not a BF.
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Yes that's an excellent point. When you see celebrities popping out kids in their 40's and 50's, and then you see a show like "Teen Moms" it's not hard to understand that wider society is pushing a very specific narrative. It's almost to the point where we are told that biology is a problem to be fixed (IVF, freezing eggs and sperm etc), and not something to take advantage of. There is definitely an attack on motherhood, and a concerted effort to tell women that they 'aren't ready' for motherhoo…
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Yes, you can give opinions on topics with no experience or interest in the subject, but it's an opinion that lacks credibility. I disagree. Many fields of study have nothing to do with experiencing things first hand, but depend on observation (anthropology, historians etc). A doctor does not need to be pregnant to understand how the process works. If the rule for understanding something required that the person live that experience, many people would be out of a job. Anyway, just because it take…
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Please re-read my comment, at no point did I say "it's not possible to have a healthy child after 35." There are increased health risks the older a woman is and the longer she waits. A woman's fertility also starts to decrease dramatically. Another possible issue with waiting until after 30 to have kids is finding out that IVF, which is expensive, might be necessary. Even if the child is healthy, the parents will still be much older when the child is just becoming an actual adult, and that in tu…
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I think 32 is a reasonable 'last call' mindset because it can take some couples 1-2 years to actually conceive. If a woman is unfortunate enough to miscarry (this happens more often than you'd think), then she may need to take a break to recover before trying again. If a couple starts trying at 35, she may be 37 by the time she actually conceives and close to 38 by the time she gives birth. I like that this community urges women to work with their biology and take advantage of all the perks that…
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Hello /u/sweetpotatoesqueen. I've never wanted kids, and I'm with a man that could go either way, but prefers to not have any. He's older than I am, and knows that wanting children will bring an end to our relationship. I'm not going to hold him hostage if he discovers that it's really important to him. I'm 30, and could have children if I changed my mind, but the window is rapidly closing and I understand that. Even if I wanted them, I would not have children if I were 32 or older. At that poin…
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If you actually had a genuine concern for the quality of this sub, you'd be taking your 'concerns' directly to the moderators. Instead you're just being a troll. I have nothing more to say to you. Goodbye.
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I'm not sure you really understand TRP or RPW. They are different communities, with vastly different purposes. The 'harsh' view of women is more like a training tool. A way to help previously meek and unsuccessful men develop a more confident and 'surplus' mentality. RPW is often about helping dominant and pushy women find a softer side and learn how to vet. In this way, TRP focuses on building men, and RPW focuses on calming and humbling them. I don't know why you think RPW is a democratic sub …
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Hi /u/Luvanalplay, there are quite a few moderators here, but only a few are actually active. /u/MissNissa /u/vigilantredrooster and /u/LuckyLittleStar are the only people I see taking care of moderating duties. It's possible that other people on the moderating team do functions that aren't readily visible to normal members though. It really isn't about what normal users 'allow' moderating decisions aren't voted on here. TRP is not RPW, and a lot of the language there is 'harsher' than the langu…
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Again, your willingness to go immediately to snooping is really concerning. That's not healthy. The idea that it takes an inordinate amount of time to get a feel for someone is also odd. Yes there are skilled liars, and you won't be able to pinpoint them easily, if ever. It sounds like you aren't familiar with phone locks, passwords, codes, or again, secret phones and accounts. If someone wants to lie and deceive you, snooping won't expose them if they have even a basic level of caution and inte…
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That's great! My guy has access to everything of mine as well, but not having access to those things doesn't make someone a cheater...also, people can have secret accounts and phones. It's really not hard to be deceptive and lie, which is why understanding the person and trusting them and vetting thoroughly are all so important.
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I'm not sure why you think I'm bs-ing you? I never said "women today are chaste," particularly by any historical understanding of the word. like 90% of hot millennials ride the carousel in some way. There are different things to consider here, and it isn't only the hot women that are having sex. The less attractive women are also more likely to put out due to the fact that they don't normally get as much male attention. When it comes to n count, many factors go into figuring out if the woman has…
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What does 'ease of lying' have to do with the very real repercussions of these behaviors? Women with high n counts may have the ability to lie about being a slut, but there are other accompanying traits that become visible. A woman that craves male attention and approval never loses that, and it's only a matter of time before she becomes restless. I'm not so sure men are fooled by ex-sluts, as they are willing to just overlook that in order to settle down. There's a reason many formerly hot and …
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He has been my whole life for so long, I can't imagine a life without him in it. Sunk cost fallacy. You think the time you have already spent is why you should continue to stay. If you are unhappy after five years, do you think you'll be happier with him after 10, 15, 20 years? You are in college, this is literally the easiest time to make friends and grow as a person. There are numerous clubs, ways to volunteer, play sports, and chase your academic interests. Study abroad programs, ways to shad…
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Hahah I like your descriptions. :) I was even more straightforward than that. I'm not sure if it's the way I talk about subjects, but I love digging into personal philosophy, and how people view the world and approach things, and I like hearing people talk about their passions. So, at some point after sharing funny stories, and some favorite lectures or books, it was always the guy that'd ask me "what are you looking for" in one form or another. When I did online dating, I had a very nice, short…
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I only went on dates with men that understood I was looking for something long-term. I also made a point to bring this up on a first date, just to be clear. Not in a heavy, mood-killing way. It was always really easy for me to be clear about my intentions while being fun. If you know this guy isn't interested in a relationship, then you're letting your attraction dictate your actions, which is dangerous if you haven't been thorough about vetting a man. I'm not sure why you picked 'alpha widowed'…
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Haha, people never think my hair is dyed, and always say how lucky I am. :) It really depends on your skin tone, your natural hair color, and what you're changing it to. I always think the salon work tends to look more artificial, but it really depends on the look they go for.
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The silver and grey hair trend has always reminded me of anime where it's not uncommon for characters to have this color. Unnatural hair colors have become very trendy, so lots of people seem to chase the "a rainbow barfed on me" look. Thing is, RP is right that a lot of these unusual colors, tattoos, and facial piercings more often than not indicate that the woman is possibly a feminist, or has other undesirable personality issues. It really depends on how you look, as others have mentioned. I …
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Then the key is to be gentle and have no expectations. Your OP should be edited to include these details. :) There have been some good gentle approach comments others have written that you should definitely read. :)
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I'm not in the habit of scrutinizing my bf's hygienic routine, he's an adult. If he had obvious errors that brought his lack of hygiene to my attention, we would not be dating. That's just a personal line I have. Again, OP didn't make any of these stipulations. "He sweats a lot" or "he has a very physical job and smells at night." As I have said a few times now, I could be wrong, but more information is needed to determine that. OP strikes me as overly controlling, and hyper-sensitive about a re…
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Since when does this community encourage trying to change a man's behavior? This is not a 'reasonable preference,' and no matter how nicely she phrases things, she'll still be trying to change him. It's also not about this particular thing. Today it's showering twice a day, later it's something else. So many women pick, and poke, and wear down their men until they are unrecognizable. RPW is about doing things differently, differentiating the important things from fluff. This isn't even up to flu…
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As I said, I may be wrong. OP hasn't been very chatty so far, but hopefully she offers more information at some point. I also have relatives with really sensitive allergies. Washing the bedding every two days, vacuuming daily, and keeping special lotion in stock. Even they only shower once a day. :) I have some friends that will obsess and fixate on something that really isn't functional or beneficial. My roommate in college would compulsively clean, and wash things...and something about the way…
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I agree with your reasoning, and I have been in situations where training made multiple showers a day a necessity. She didn't want him to switch the time of his shower though, she made it clear she wants him to add a second one, just as she does. I am on board with your reasoning, but OP sounds more wrapped up in what showering twice represents to her heightened sense of cleanliness than it does practicality. I could be wrong though. More information from the OP would be helpful.
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Hi /u/1337bun. You are being manipulative and worrying over something very minor. Believe me, over the years and decades that you spend together, you will see, hear, and experience things far less cleanly than the fact that he only showers in the morning. Don't sweat the small stuff, and this is really microscopic. He's going to think of you as an unreasonable blowhard because that's how you're acting. Stop trying to change him. Today showers, tomorrow how he ties his shoes and opens doors or an…
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Yep I was able to find it. Here are my results. This is a test that assesses universal ideas without qualifications, context, or concrete situations. This test isn't meant to highlight things such as loyalty, selflessness, or protectiveness. Don't use an interesting test to redefine how you think of your friend. If she's never given you a reason to doubt her as a quality friend, then continue on as normal. Everyone has some capacity for holding a grudge, and being petty. If her outlandish behavi…
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Link to the test?
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I agree with everything you said. :)
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Thanks for expanding on what drew you to the material! I think the other user with the '....' response [possibly] thinks that you're an aspiring elitist snob. :) Everything you wrote sounds sensible, and I'm glad you are learning about ways to improve your long term prospects.
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Being emotionally 'cool' and composed isn't a very unique idea, especially among the wealthy [old] English families. By 'not show emotion' I take that to mean negative emotions and outbursts? Mostly I wish I could tell the entire world to not text, email, or call...friends would think it's weird, and work wouldn't listen. There were definitely advantages to not being available at any given moment like we are today. The traditional kind of upper class lifestyle described in the article really isn…
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Welcome to the wonderful world of feminism, where women aren't allowed to have being a wife and mother at the top of their 'life goals' list. I'm sure their comments are meant to 'comfort' and 'encourage' you, they have no idea that they're basically ignoring your preferences and saying "you're wrong about everything." It's belittling and humiliating. What's worse? There's nothing you can say to change their mind. When I'm in the company of people I know do not share my personal or political val…
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Does not personally consider a lifelong, monogamous relationship to be of greater value than short, less committed relationships Has a more nonchalant attitude toward sex; seems accustomed to getting sex on the first or second date, seems almost 'amused' by my more traditional attitude Has a history of 'spinning plates'. The first time he asked me out, it was an obvious 'will you become my plate'. I said 'no, but if you somehow manage to put down your other plates, hit me up.' We didn't talk for…
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Part of being a good leader means delegating tasks. Does he give you things to tackle that help him achieve his overall vision? Tell him that you support him, and that you want to help him, and he can utilize your skills.
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Oh, certainly. Women just tend to overestimate what they bring to the table. Absolutely! Women general think all they need to do is look good, and smile...as though that will be enough to build a relationship on, and then a marriage. Now, at 42 and with a child conceived by donor, she's trying to date and realizing that the only men interested in her are men in their 50s, who she doesn't find attractive. I may have read an article about her now that I think about it. I know the name looked famil…
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It's funny that you mention this, because I find this criteria to be one of the silliest women list, right behind height, just for statistical reasons. I have a fairly economy based view of dating and relationships. The more attractive a person is, and the more they bring to the table, the longer their deal breaker list can be. I agree it's folly for a thirty something woman to count balding as a reason to 'pass'. So, all of these women who are frustrated with the single life, but list balding a…
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Sent too soon! This is so true. When you're a teenager and you're fantasizing about Prince Charming, he's not losing his hair. He's 22 and has the body of a frat boy. It's hard to let go of that image and expectation, for a 42-year-old dad bod, but more often than not, that's the most realistic LTR option. Yes! What's funny, is that I still feel the same as when I was 21. Putting on weight is a gradual process, people rarely notice it at first. Then they see a photo and realize they packed on 30…
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I always thought it was interesting. 20-somethings can be a bit too naive, 25-29 year old women are generally thinking a bit more about the future. They tend to have a better idea of what they want. As soon as a woman turns 30, a huge swath of the male population 'nopes' out purely because of the symbolic marker that age represents. Even 35-40 year old men will try to avoid their age appropriate peers in many cases, in an effort to chase youthful femininity without all the tears and weight of ex…
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I think it's asking a lot of each other to try and have a visit with his family right there. Have you ever met in person before? If you have met up previously then that's a little better at least. Yes it is customary to bring gifts for your hosts, you should also bring a thank you card. Fill in the card the night before you leave. Be sure to include details from the trip and a few highlights. I'd also arrange for his mother's favorite type of flowers to be delivered along with his father's prefe…
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ABCD Ability Women are attracted to men that are capable. That demonstrate talent and ability. Fixing cars, figuring out complicated tasks, how to move furniture, how to find their way through the woods. Anything that demonstrates knowledge, effort, and skill. Beta Every woman requires some amount of beta traits. This is a double edged sword as too many beta and comforting traits will repulse a woman, and not enough will leave her feeling manic. Confidence Being able to trust a man is impossible…
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The wall is in your head. Please explain how this is inline with red pill. The number of women that require medical interference due to waiting until they are 35 or older to conceive also puts them in debt. Red Pill advocates for women to work with their biology and take advantage of their youth. Anyone telling women it's a good idea to delay childbirth until they are in their mid-thirties is irresponsible and not giving RP advice. The wall is not imaginary, and no responsible, young, and health…
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That's less relevant to the conversation than the questions I have for you: "are you red pill? Do you believe red pill ideas are useful and accurate?" To answer your question, I am a woman. I am active here because I am a woman, and I know that RP is useful.
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The wall is not an imaginary hypothetical. There is a point in every woman's life where her youth diminishes and she ceases to pull the same kind of attention from men that she once did. The wall does not always happen at 30. For some women it happens sooner or later. The biological wall is a fact, and although science now allows women to push her reproductive boundaries, that doesn't undo the serious health issues both she and her child can face. Not to mention that even with a healthy birth, a…
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Stay positive and happy humping! :) I hope you come back and give an update on how things go! :)
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All the biological reasons you listed are understandable, But do you think your body will 'snap back' and recover quickly the older you are? Having kids young means that your body will be better equipped to heal, and recover from pregnancy. The other complication concerns you have due to your body shape will always be there, but again, youth is your ally here. There are some things you can't predict or really prepare for. Stop worrying about disaster scenarios so far in advance when they may nev…
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Haha, don't go on a rampage! :)
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I think change is always possible, and largely dependent on: willpower a good support system creating better habits mindfulness and reflection If rehabilitation and improvement were impossible, then why bother with things like rehab centers, or therapy, or AA? Not that having a high partner count is the same as an addiction. If it's an out of control behavior, then something is driving it. There's a root issue that is being covered up and ignored. It might be earlier trauma or abuse, or deeply r…
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I think it is talked about, but more indirectly. For example, we warn women off players and plate-spinners (men currently and actively raising their N counts and displaying no interest in monogamy and LTRs). I also agree that men can have higher N counts without experiencing any negative affects. Women are affected much earlier on, or, they fact that they raise their N count is a side-effect of other problems. It's a bit of a 'chicken and egg' scenario in that regard. I also agree that men with …
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It's not even only women, I have listened to news reports on radio shows with both men and women doing this. I think when men do it, that's just male humor. Slap-stick comedy, fart jokes, grossing each other out. It's not meant to be malicious when men are 'crude' with their humor, but women often identify it as 'rude.' When women laugh at people though...it's more malicious by default. I agree that men faced with violence and pain are far too often minimized and dismissed. In an odd way, it's o…
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You have displayed you don't know much about the topic, and you talk in a way that only makes you impossible to take seriously. From the rules of the sub: This is NOT Purple Pill Debate RPW does not exist to justify our beliefs. If you have a problem with this sub, its overall mission statement, or any of the users on this sub – move along. We are not going to engage in useless debates. This topic has nothing to do with the RPW sub, you are a man that doesn't seem to have any goal other than to …
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You are way too focused on a topic you clearly know very little about. You do not belong on this sub.
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Female circumcision is done to babies too. So it does not traumatize women in africa. Now you are showing how ignorant you are as well as dishonest. This is NOT true. Have you ever looked into this topic? Many women are cut shortly after or right before puberty. It's sometimes a 'coming of age' ritual performed by people with no medical training, no anesthetic, with one knife used between many women. Circumcision for men has historically had a medical purpose, as improper care and cleaning could…
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Apparently OP is fairly obsessed with this topic and active on the Men'sRights sub...otherwise. It doesn't have a purpose that relates to this sub. You can report the thread so the mods will be notified.
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Your 'counter-argument' makes no sense. Circumcision does not eliminate a man's ability to enjoy sex and feel pleasure. It does for women. Circumcision is done to babies, so it does not traumatize men in the west. Female mutilation in 3rd world countries however....THAT is traumatizing and dangerous. You are being dishonest with your logic. Many men, for religious reasons, have gone without sex for their entire lives. No one 'needs' sex to live. They like it, and want it, sure. you are only inte…
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/u/BoozeBumAddict this isn't a debate sub, and I think your post would be better suited for /r/PurplePillDebate. Your logic is also faulty, and untrue. There are many women that have sex drives as high, or higher than men. There are many women that enjoy sex. There are many men that have ED, or a low drive. If your argument is: "the people with the highest sex drives should not be circumcised" then the best way to go about that is to wait until people reach sexual maturity before deciding who to…
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That's a great point! Just as religion plays a role, actual location and culture will as well. I'm sure there are better resources, but I found this after a quick search: http://www.businessinsider.com/average-number-of-sex-partners-2015-4 I'd love to see some more thorough studies that track things over a longer span of time, and also divvy everything up by gender, and age group.
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Everything counts, but you can clarify exactly to the man too because most would prefer to know that instead of having intercourse with 6 guys, you actually gave hand jobs to four and had sex with 2. Keep in mind that most guys more or less expect a woman to lie about her count. If you have a good reputation among friends and with him (honest) then he'll be more likely to take you at your word. Reasonable N count also depends on age. If you are 25, then anything under 5 is pretty uncommon. The i…
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Please answer the questions I asked. Are you in a support group? Are you seeing a therapist? Are you off your medication? Do you see a doctor for your Schizophrenia regularly? http://www.everydayhealth.com/schizophrenia/guide/treatment/
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Please re-read my comment. That's not what I said. You skipped over all the actual practical advice I gave and jumped to an inaccurate conclusion. Additionally, you have not answered the questions I did ask (medication, support group, are you in an LDR?) I did not say "you cannot be RPW" or anything similar. I said that this community, and the tactics that are promoted have limitations. If you clingy and obsessive behavior is a result of you being off your medication, or your Schizophrenia in ge…
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OP's history indicates she is Schizophrenic and [possibly] in an LDR.
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Self control. You don't pick up the phone to text or call. You occupy yourself with hobbies and friends and give him room to breathe. Being clingy is a combination of desire, anxiety, and insecurity. It's a very feminine response women have when attracted to a man. You think "if I'm always in touch with him or next to him, I'll be happy." It's possible there are problems in your own life that you are running away from. Maybe you worry about being abandoned. Maybe you think he can shield you from…
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Thanks for the clarification. :) Can you please answer the other questions I asked? Have you noticed him treating anyone else in a similar manner? How does he treat your DH? Does this man have a history of abusing his position to grind someone down? Do other people notice how he treats you? Is there an HR department where you can file a complaint? How long will you be staying there? Do the other people you report to have similar criticisms?
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RPW is specifically for how we behave in our relationships with one man. Yes you can be feminine and polite and get along with others, but you only treat one man as your leader (in the romantic sense). I'm not sure why this man has a such an obsession with you. Have you noticed him treating anyone else in a similar manner? How does he treat your DH? Does this man have a history of abusing his position to grind someone down? Do other people notice how he treats you? Is there an HR department wher…
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I agree women have a dualistic mating strategy, just as I agree with AWALT. I disagree that women are destined to be controlled by those things without any hope of change. If men and women could not change their situations and improve, then both TRP and RPW are useless. I happen to believe that both communities are unique and necessary. When a man is too dominant, it's not unusual for a woman to desire more comfort. I agree this can be a slippery slope that eventually leaves the man demoralized …
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I can't say I agree with your analysis. There are many ways to communicate, and there are several 'straight talkers' here still. What you won't find are threads where someone is piled on and beaten down with an endless barrage of nasty comments. Comments that don't offer any insight or advice, they just exist to be mean. There used to be a 'piranha' methodology that was so finely tuned, that even mentioning the system could improve was enough to make you the next victim. Femininity, awareness, i…
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Haha some consider them to be, yes. I have a soft spot for the hardy quiet man's man, brooding, logical, and quirky humor type. It depends on a few things, but it generally compliments my own personality a lot because I seem to drift between somber practicality and excessively giddy.
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Meyers Briggs personality classification. There are tests you can take online and different types. It's interesting to read about. Basically this type describes logical (to a fault sometimes), detached emotionally. Men tend to be this type in higher numbers than women. There have been some conversations about it here in the past and I have been working my way through old material. :) It's fun, but not strictly scientific or anything. I believe it's based on Jung's work, but even he wasn't happy …
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INTJ men can sometimes just completely not understand something. So an emotional problem may exist to the woman, but he has no idea and just thinks "oh she's being weird again". He assumes it is separate from him because when he is irritated he says so directly. This sounds like a simple case of men and women not understanding each other. I find it promising that he does apologize. I can see things going either way (your description and my own). I can definitely see how this is plain ignorance o…
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That sounds very interesting, can you share a few things that were surprising to you, or that helped you understand something new?
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Hello friend! He didn't grow up with any sisters, so he was very rarely around women in close proximity as a child. (I just find that men with sisters tend to understand women better) He has predominantly male friends and the only reason he would befriend a woman is if she would be useful to him in networking. Otherwise he doesn't really care for female friendships. Yep, and if he's anything like my guy, he also horses around with them a lot. Banter, jokes and so on. With his closest friends he …
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It was my birthday and my bf didn't have much time to give me attention and today I was a bitch about it. I am so stupid. He came to me at night seeing I was upset, I kept being pretty upset for 10 minutes and then he got this look that he was tired of me, got up and left. I came to his room 15 munutes later and apologized. He said it's ok but he wishes he locked the door. He acted so cold, like he felt nothing for me and was done with me. She got upset because she covertly expected that he woul…
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No, after she made a covert contract about how he would treat her on her birthday, and then made a mess of everything. If her goal is to change, and fix things, then she needs to stop expecting things without being clear with her BF. If he doesn't normally spoil her in this way, it's illogical to assume he would suddenly change. He's the one ready to dump her and leave, so if she wants to avoid that, she has to pull out all the stops. I don't particularly understand holidays, anniversaries, or b…
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You disobeyed and tried to explain. You aren't changing! He asked for space, you should have given him the food, nodded, and left. Stop trying to push him and just cool your jets. Please! Listen to him and wait.
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If he's asking for space, trying to violate that will not end well. Men often need space to calm down. They retreat so that they can avoid reacting angrily or make any kind of hasty decision. I'm not sure trying to arrange a day with friends when he doesn't want contact with you is a good idea. He could see it as a deception and a clear example of you not listening to him. The best you can do is wait. In the meantime, as another user suggested, you should journal. Write about how you have been f…
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You can't change what has already happened, but you can apologize in a meaningful way. Go to his closest four friends, get them to make plans with your bf on a weekend day. Then get to work. Make a massive pile of his favorite foods, get reservations and a card for his favorite bar or find an upscale 'old fashion' one in your area. Or if he likes a specific place, set it up there. The idea is to spoil him and allow him to spend the day with his closest male friends. Swear them to secrecy. Then s…
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Sometimes I think I am living in Bizzarro world, it's so different from what I expected life to be like when I was little. I'm glad I graduated from college when I did, I feel sorry for everyone in school now. Between the debt, feminist agenda and general intolerance, and absolute decay of normal values it' s a complete horror show. I am hopeful that a new conservative movement will undo some of the damage, but it's clear that young conservatives are very different from the traditionally conserv…
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Dating today is so upside down and backwards. It's equal parts 'wild west' with rampant "anything goes" trends as it is 'boy meets world.' The truth is, no one under 30 knows what they're doing really. The rules are always changing and shifting. Where you live, who you hang out with and so many other things play into expectations, possibilities, and likelihoods. With the decline of communities, traditional gender roles, religion, and something resembling a cohesive dating world....under 30's are…
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I'm so glad you have a good relationship with your father. I believe it's the one relationship that most affects a woman's sense of self and general mindset throughout her life. I'm so glad that you and your boyfriend have such a fulfilling relationship. You also have a very unique life experience. Have you written a thread talking about growing up with a single dad? It sounds so interesting and I'd love to read more about what you have to say on the subject! :)
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Haha, suits are great too...but there's just something about a uniform. It represents power, integrity, ability, and trustworthiness. Someone that can handle pressure and act accordingly. I think it's similar to why some women fall really hard for the 'bad boy' gangster or criminal. It's just more raw expressions of masculinity and daring. Women love strong men, and true masculinity is catnip to women.
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Yes, power-couples often involve two independent and driven people or one person that can be uncharacteristically understanding and patient and supportive. Being able to switch between soft and happy and needy, to more independent and emotionally content on your own is really hard. It takes a special kind of personality to navigate the changes from one mode to the other seamlessly. I'm so glad that you and your boyfriend have been able to create a strong relationship despite the many demands of …
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This is why vetting is so important. :) I love a man in uniform, and I have dated men in dangerous lines of work. It was so hard to deal with and I learned that I cannot spend my life with a man where death is a known and common side effect of work. Women that are strong enough to deal with that kind of stress have my admiration and well wishes. Even if your LTR wasn't an actor - he would still be hot. Good looking people get attention, it's just a fact. It would be really hard for me to accept …
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Not at all! The woman can attempt to be aggressive and undermine the man, but he can diffuse the situation in several ways. Agree and amplify, ignore, and leave are a few options. Just about every woman will give shit rests, regardless of how well tempered she is. Stress, hormones, insecurity. A man has to keep a woman attracted to him and make sure she feels enough dread to be on her best behavior without creating so much she is overwhelmed and can't function. Men definitely have ways to deal w…
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!!!!! Do you still feel embarrassed thinking about it? I hope things have improved since then!
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Hahaha yep that sounds like a shit test! Even the most wonderful women can fall into bad habits when stressed or tired. I'm glad everything worked out all right though. :)
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Shit tests are often instinctive reactions, when a woman is thoughtless and aggressive towards a man. Shit tests are any attempts to undermine, embarrass, or belittle a man. A fitness test would be a willing display of trust, or just stepping back to see how a man behaves under certain conditions. A comfort test is when a woman values the man and seeks his approval and support. Shit tests mock or deny a man's value, and a fitness test is an attempt to gauge and evaluate a man's ability and value…
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Diet plays a bigger role in weight loss than exercise. If I remember correctly, it takes 30 or 60 minutes of elevated heart heart to burn a measly 200 calories? Much easier to adjust how much you eat. Track all your nutritional intake including what you drink for a week. There are many sites that can help you figure out how what your daily intake should be. Keto is great for weight loss, but as long as your eat less than your body burns, you will shed weight. :)
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Yes and please let me know what your thoughts are. :)
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Found it!! http://theredpillroom.blogspot.com/2012/05/female-social-matrix-introduction.html?m=1
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This is a fantastic comment thank you for all the explanations! You should do a stand alone thread about this. It also falls perfectly in line with the Female Social Matrix blog post I read a while back. Female socialization, ranking, and behavior generally isn't explored in depth beyond "crabs in a bucket" mentality and a few other things. I am on mobile right now but I will try to grab the blog post I am referring to! This is so interesting all around, and I would love to read more on this top…
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I love that quote you shared at the end! I may steal it in the future. I agree with everything you said except for one, arguably minor point. the "dumb blonde" thing, for example, quite attractive - the ditsy factor. I agree this is often something men enjoy and find attractive. I'm not sure it's only present in 'dumb' women. Femininity, being youthful and innocent are all general traits that men find attractive. I think it's sometimes harder for intelligent women to be playfully innocent and fu…
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Perfect! And I do agree with all your points about visual interest. I didn't know about the Heath Ledger aspect, that's fascinating. Thank you for explaining your thoughts and your point of view. I think it would be fun to do a thread about this topic. Comparing visual appeal to women, and sexual appeal to men. For example, I have a theory (that I'm not sure how to prove hahah) that certain actresses are cast for a role because they look like the celebrity equivalent of 'everyday woman'. On this…
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See, you're looking at this as a hetersexual woman studying other women. It's not uncommon for both men and women to misunderstand what men are attracted to. Women are always going on and on about trying to be svelt, thin string beans. This was in fact a very popular look in the 70's and 80's. It's true some men are attracted to very thin women, it's more accurate to say however that the bulk of men are attracted to women with a great WHR. Women don't have to be stick thin, they need to have a g…
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It's an interesting idea, I'm not sure if I agree though. I agree with you and /u/hecate9 that femininity involves more than physical appearance. I disagree that femininity has nothing to do with clothes however. A sweet, gentle, feminine demeanor will not endear a woman to anyone if she looks like an unkempt man. Feminine behavior is meant to accentuate and highlight the fact that a woman is a woman and not a man. Femininity is meant to create consideration, favorable treatment, politeness. If …
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I'm genuinely curious, can you share an image of a celebrity woman that looks better with short hair and worse with longer hair? The celebrities I commonly think of that look good with short hair like Audrey Hepburn, or Robin Wright (House of Cards, Princess Bride) do look absolutely stunning with short hair, but even prettier with longer hair. When you have a short haircut, your entire bone structure and features are exposed. There's no cushion or way to soften in the same way women with more h…
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If you don't already wax or shave your bikini area, it may be a good idea to pay a professional the first few times. Invest in a good lotion with a cooling element (like aloe Vera). It also might be worth looking into laser hair removal. Expensive upfront, but over the span of a lifetime you end up saving. I prefer to shave with men's razor brands. They are sturdier and the extra blades make such a difference. Also try shaving with hair conditioner instead of shaving cream. I have been doing tha…
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Yeah, nothing you have said convinces me you should try to make this work or waste anymore time on him. Run.
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First of all, if you had an abortion and he was not there for you...block his number like yesterday. He doesn't sound like a boy you can trust. I say 'boy' because nothing about him indicates that he's a man in any way. Run. Run and never look back.
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Not really, I honestly don't understand comments like this which clearly break the community rules. Explain to me why you waste your time on something you don't value.
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Skepticism is useful, and I have watched first hand as significant facts that were initially omitted come to light thanks to comments the OP makes or their posting history. I don't think /u/scallopkid is wrong for being critical and doubting how a situation is presented. The only reason I disagreed with her at all is because in my opinion, no amount of omitted 'bad behavior' on the part of the OP would be enough to make staying with this jerk a 'good idea' or favorable for her daughter. I'm also…
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As others have mentioned, he has to be motivated to change. No degree of femininity or being a wonderful woman will make him more dominant. RPW is about how to improve yourself, if you're working from a deficit due to a lacking partner, there's no RPW fix for that. It's one of the reasons vetting is so important. :/
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This is very interesting advice. My question would be, do people in that line of work want to take on potentially additional work in their personal relationships? I know some people have a 'savior' mentality. They seek out broken and struggling people, fall in love with them, and try to fix them. This is true of both men and women. Sometimes it works, sometimes it doesn't. I dated an EMT, his ex had a long list of mental problems. He was so tired of dealing with messes everyday in his profession…
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RPW is honest about biological limitations. /u/OwnedAndLoveIt is right. She is speaking from experience. Just because a doctor says a thing can be done doesn't make it the best choice or the most healthy. There are so many problems that happen after 30 and while most women may be able to do all these things with some sense of safety 'before 35' things can go wrong even under ideal circumstances. The other woman is free to do as she wants, but Owned is not wrong for stating her opinion and sharin…
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They're open ended goals I guess. Like if I develop these habits and stick to them, the coming years will be better. Curating new habits can be really hard, so I understand your impatience. I may be wrong...but I remember reading that it takes 90 days of consecutive repetition and execution for something to start to become a habit. What are you working to change specifically? Like if you're nicer or work on improving yourself or what have you, you don't really know where you'll actually end up, …
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What kinds of goals? Moving to a new place, losing weight, mastering a new skill?
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Just noticed that no one has responded to you yet! In what way do you need patience? Do you find yourself trying to 'rush' people through conversations at work or in your personal life? Possibly interrupting? Or do you have a hard time making goals and sticking to them as time goes on? Maybe you are quick to feel anger or get frustrated in situations where you shouldn't? Without knowing what you're talking about specifically, I can only offer some general tips. Organization: it's easy to feel im…
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Your explanation really only proves the point /u/HelloNeo was making. If the man put out the same message to multiple women, and the message is such a simple one...then he's putting in the least amount of effort necessary in hopes of succeeding. I don't believe any man that claims he'd turn down the opportunity to have sex on a first date with a woman he's attracted to. He can have a desire to avoid wasting his time (investing too much when there isn't much chance the return will be equal to wha…
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She made an edit elsewhere clarifying she topped out at 270, not 170.
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Which she clearly didn't know about ahead of time. Newsflash: people can be assholes and liars. Goodbye.
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Well, you've accomplished two things: you have proved beyond a doubt that not only have you not read a single word of the actual post, but also that you have no intention of being genuine. They broke it off because he had a gf (did you miss her comment to you somehow?). She's only lost 7 pounds at this point, she's still very much overweight. Please take your paranoia and misplaced anger somewhere else.
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This is really rude and uncalled for. First of all, /u/gyrogoddess already said in her post that his honesty made her realize that she needs to lose weight. She's started working on that. Second of all he volunteered to help her meet her goals. If her 'fat ass' was really that off-putting to him, he would have ended the date early, stopped communicating with her all together....any number of things. In addition to being unnecessarily rude, you also didn't offer anything insightful to continue a …
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:) Hahaha, it's all too common for 'deceptive' photo posting to happen. Not only on dating sites but also on social media. Even slim women aren't above trying to manipulate a photo through various tricks. The use of filters has become the fast and easy way to instantly photoshop images. I agree that working out and changing your eating habits to get back down to your old weight will improve your dating experience dramatically. :) Good luck!
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Great post! This is a really important message. I'm glad you are making changes in your life, the only thing I'd suggest is that you need to update your profile pictures on any dating site you're using so that they accurately reflect what you look like now, so the conversation he had with you won't happen again. :)
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You clearly have no interest in giving helpful advice or having a sincere conversation. /u/luckylittlestar /u/missnissa /u/vigilantredrooster
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It's not RP though, it's just your opinion. It's also not useful. OP isn't trying to date you. Additionally, OP is highly unlikely to ever run into a TRP reddit reading man in her actual life. She isn't trying to date a TRP reddit reading man, she's just trying to find better men. Many people have given useful advice, all you seem to offer is angst. Please give actionable, RP advice that is relevant to the OP. "Have fun being raped" is entirely inappropriate. You insulted the OP, which is agains…
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Please delete your comment, or edit it to include helpful RP advice. What you wrote has nothing to do with RP and it isn't useful.
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Is there something I missed?
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Hahahaha that's still cute though. When something's right, things can happen quickly. Keep enjoying your time together, but be careful about expectations. Good luck!
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This is such a fun update, thank you for sharing! I'm glad everything is going so well. How long have you been together?
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It sounds like you are at the bottom rung in terms of reputation and influence with this group. You know that because when you tried to take the lead on something, you were either rejected or ignored. Women generally only fall in line if the most influential woman makes a suggestion or a plan. For everyone else, it's a matter of getting consensus and working together with a close friend within the group. It doesn't sound like any of these women are close confidants and trusted friends to you.
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