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Longevity in this sub doesn't confer status.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/06/17 07:25 PM
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resources I come across are from the feminine perspective. Things like "Talk it out with a close friend". I don't see talking with a close friend as feminine. Not sure why you would either. Iron sharpens iron. Talking through stresses with a wise friend can be a good way to gain perspective.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/03/17 03:18 PM
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If she leaves, then whatever. If she takes the kids from me. I can make more. Do I love them and her? Yes. But I'm not their slave. I'm their leader... That sounds like a bunch of great RP smack talk but it doesn't sound at all like a leader.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/03/17 08:33 PM
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RP theory is a discipline now?
/r/MarriedRedPill18/11/16 02:01 PM
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Anybody writing books about RP theory at this point are just jerking into a full bowl. It ain't complicated.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/11/16 01:25 AM
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I'm with you. I could have written your same response about 9 months ago. Lately I've been shocked just how much value she's bringing. Keep trudging.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/11/16 05:36 PM
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If that's really how it's going, chances are you've got a lot more work to do. Or she's just that way. Before you say it's the latter, are you really so awesome and she's just worthless?
/r/MarriedRedPill14/11/16 09:36 PM
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you will be enlightened if you abstain This works on many levels, not the least of which is the booze. Great observation. Self control > self respect > confidence > attractiveness.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/11/16 04:58 PM
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It's a sad state of affairs. Getting her pregnant would be a big mistake at this point. But you know if she started opening her legs to him again he'd go in there like he just got a day pass to Disney.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/11/16 04:49 PM
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I told her I am not her friend and I am not going to pursue this relationship if the things go this way, and I said I don't know until when I'll carry on. You've said it. Now it's up to you live it. Based on your post, she's told you she's interested in someone else. In my experience, you are naive to think this is just a secret between the two of you. The other guy knows, and knew well before you did. She's increasing/maintaining the distance. She's told you she's unfaithful. She's doing nothin…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/11/16 04:47 PM
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Worth reading the actual story for the butterfly metaphor. From Nikos Kazantzakis, Zorba the Greek: The Butterfly I remember one morning when I discovered a cocoon in the back of a tree just as a butterfly was making a hole in its case and preparing to come out. I waited awhile, but it was too long appearing and I was impatient. I bent over it and breathed on it to warm it. I warmed it as quickly as I could and the miracle began to happen before my eyes, faster than life. The case opened; the bu…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/10/16 08:06 PM
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I always appreciate your input on here, but your dogmatic way of thinking is flawed. Point it out all you want. Sacrifice is compatible with Red Pill. Forget religion, go watch 300, consider Leonidas.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/10/16 07:43 PM
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I'm all ears if you'd like to specify what the "many rational reasons for belief" are. Here's a pretty good book that attempts to show how reason and faith are compatible. And, if you don't feel like reading, here is the author in a video talking about it.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/10/16 07:33 PM
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From a comment really open up about fears Why would you do this with her? This is the poison pill. Sure, you can own your fears, express some version of them, but "open up" That isn't helpful. As stated above, you need some bros to hang out with. I feel like I'm back...... & .... now she cooks, cleans, practices the piano (always wanted to learn), paints... She is a domestic housewife and happier for it. Way happier. You're killing it, your wife is loving it. Why mess with it? She now has this h…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/10/16 01:00 PM
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Maybe she's looking for a little comfort. Maybe she's telling you she wants to trust you but is not quite there yet. Maybe she carries ant hills through the house. I don't think there's a right response. My first thought was, "love you too."
/r/MarriedRedPill16/08/16 09:12 PM
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I like your answer. If she asks, be honest. I don't shy away from telling my wife when her behavior is unacceptable, though I (try to) do it methodically and without emotion. Although, I do have to put it through the sieve of my own mind: Have I been taking care of my shit? What part of this do I own? We talk about removing our presence and attention as a consequence of bad behavior. Sometimes, it's worth saying why. But it's always about what we do, more than what we say.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/08/16 03:42 PM
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It'd be terrible. There'd be a period of doubt, anger, self loathing, fear. I'd swing between optimism and hopelessness. After some period of time, it'd get easier. I'd make the choice to continue improving rather than be destroyed by a woman. Optimism would win out, and eventually I'd make a nice life out of it. Dang, what I meant to say was, I'd tell that hoe to go so I could go bang hoes. Oneitis is a symptom, not the disease. A fish on the hook is not chasing the rod and reel.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/08/16 03:34 PM
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how at this point she is the only "problem" left in my life Reading all your drivel, this is the phrase that stuck out the most. If you really believe this, you've got a way bigger problem than a shitty wife.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/08/16 03:28 PM
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Guys think they're dishing out A+ dread and being SO mysterious by not telling their wives where they're going or why. You nailed it. In my world, two acceptable scenarios. I'm going on a business trip because it's my job, and I'm driven to make more money, grow in the company, meet my boss's goals. It's time for a trip because that is what's required of me. Wife is being a harpy, and I'd really like to get away from her for a few days. A justifiable business trip gives the opportunity to do tha…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/08/16 03:16 PM
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Be on guard brother. I'm one of those drunks too. You know that alcohol not consumed can still be a problem. My wife often drinks too much. Is she an alky? No. "Our marriage got better as soon as I decided to drink more," said no person ever. I recommend you redouble the foundations of your frame on this issue in particular. Resentment is ready to pounce.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/08/16 06:13 PM
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Good idea, but not the best idea. Leaving your drunk, pissed off, irrational wife at a bar after midnight could have worse consequences then what you encountered. I give you kudos for staying somewhat calm and making sure she got home safe. Maybe not the right play in all situations, but in this case, I think you did good by seeing she got home safe.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/08/16 06:07 PM
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So, since my perspective is just that, I don't see the necessity in this "never show vulnerability" mantra. Maybe I'm just not seeing the potential dangers. I make a distinction between showing weakness and being a baby about it. I have the experience also of having my vulnerabilities completely out there and visible, since my drinking was a huge problem and I got help for it. But, in that case, the vulnerability doesn't go away. I'm a drink away from being in a very bad state. So how I deal wit…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/08/16 11:59 PM
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/r/MarriedRedPill03/08/16 10:50 PM
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It's a matter of perspective. That OP sees this as a test has more to do with him IMO.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/08/16 10:50 PM
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Maybe just puff and give next time. Puff puff may be too much.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/08/16 09:17 PM
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I gave myself no choice, I just did the next thing that needed to be done. When I was early in this journey, I was so focused on individual, constant "victories". I was focused on how certain conversations played out, or whether or not there was the "proper" response to my actions. This created a feeling of being in a constant brainstorm. I became weighed down with analysis paralysis. When I began to see that all those tests were covert contracts, and that my motivations were still based on onei…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/07/16 12:38 PM
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Oh yeah, all the time in my 2nd year of MRP. Now it's nothing fewer than foursomes, usually hot models. But I've even had an entire convent ask me to join them for Thursday night charades. This shit works brah.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/07/16 06:16 PM
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Integrity and morality aren't synonymous. I wasn't trying to make a moral argument, guess that didn't come through.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/07/16 12:47 AM
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Well said. Integrity is not dependent on others' morals. It is determined by your own. But at the root of integrity is honesty.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/07/16 08:59 PM
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busted
/r/MarriedRedPill25/07/16 06:22 PM
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I'm not trying to shame. He came here looking for validation. He's not getting it from me.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/07/16 06:03 PM
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So, in a nutshell. You're married and are planning on cheating/have cheated. You don't mention anything about your wife and your attempts to improve the marriage. And you're asking us or advice out whether or not you should be truthful to your plate. "Guys, I'm a liar and want to know if any of you really experienced dudes can tell me whether or not to tell the truth while I'm lying." How bout look up the word integrity. But, but, but TRP is amoral. 15 months in and you still don't have a backbo…
/r/MarriedRedPill25/07/16 05:31 PM
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Given my situation, should I be feeling beta insecurity? No, but you are because you are still a beta. Apparently a mean and nasty beta, but nonetheless... I would tell you about having a MAP, or being an assertive leader, or focusing on self-improvement. But, instead, I think I should just let you stew in this: you are so focused on her that you feel inadequate, and in my experience, ladies sense inadequacies faster than men can cover them. It's like a public boner, and you're in gym shorts. Ev…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/07/16 09:18 PM
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If your wife isn't following you it's because she doesn't respect you. Oh how we love dichotomies and absolutes. Good job getting through this move like a champ. Many men do not do as well in this experience. I moved my family about a year ago, also like a boss. Lead and be confident. The followers and anxious may be grateful. If not, there's always being proud of yourself.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/07/16 09:09 PM
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You're funny.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/07/16 04:25 PM
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Good post. Hits the nail on the head. One reason to hold your throat punch. Men do not raise themselves. We were never intended to raise ourselves. There is no such thing as a self-made man. Boys need leaders and mentors. The cry of so many of the men who stumble in here comes from years of missing out on the healthy man-building relationships in their youth and young adult life. The cry seems desperate because it is. They never saw true manliness modeled during the years it was most important. …
/r/MarriedRedPill14/07/16 03:25 PM
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Or, you know, have a small piece of cake. This is a marathon. You're in no position at a few weeks in to create drama on your wife's birthday especially about something as stupid as cake. Trust me, your wife is going to be on high drama anyway. Fat women getting older always are. Be creative, make some keto cupcakes.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/07/16 09:40 PM
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I would also suggest she immediately receive the repercussions of her decision. She's mentally unstable, and she's obviously not making decisions based on what is best for her or the kids. Since she wants out, out her, like off the property. Since she's not taking care of the house, don't let her use the house. Since she's not living there, change the locks. Make the pain real and immediate. But you are not going to do any of that. You'll continue to be sweet and accommodating, putting up with h…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/07/16 03:57 PM
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What would you do if you were single and your ______ was _______? Go do that. This is my new go to prescription for everything that ails me.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/07/16 08:36 PM
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I'm going to guess that you had a really bad day yesterday. You posted this, and then began awaiting the responses. Your ego came under fire immediately, and you very naturally got dismissive. That happens. You're receiving really good advice, and I'm sure in time you'll see through the harsh words to the wisdom therein. Generally speaking, I just think you should reread your post but in the voice of a sniffling 8-year-old. Then give yourself a lecture in the voice of Jack Nicholson. You can tur…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/07/16 06:27 PM
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I'm already at 11.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/06/16 07:01 PM
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If your wife is improving and you are not, you're not doing MRP Agree. I think the boys on here worrying about their wife's firm tummy aren't doing MRP. I'm not worried cause I am.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/06/16 05:14 PM
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So don't worry about your wife getting too hot. I'm not worried, but I'm not naive. My woman is hypergamous. The hotter she gets, the more guys she attracts. The more attractive she is/feels, the more her hypergamous nature kicks in. It's my intention to stay ahead of my wife on the SMV scale. The trick is, I won't know fur sure I'm ever tracking well ahead or barely ahead, so I have to never let up. If your wife/LTR is improving, and you are not, you're not paranoid. You're on borrowed time and…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/06/16 04:54 PM
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The new guys are important. Their failures are instructive. We should continue to onboard the newbies with firm guidance and patience (as it appears the mods do a fine job). My goal here is progress. I, like many of you, attempt to weigh the advice given and act deliberately. There is a lot of "good" advice on here that can not or will not work for everyone. Nobody here is right all the time. By all means come on in for some support, but be ready to plan and act. That's the goal. The real shitsh…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/06/16 03:59 PM
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Ignore her and finally text that i'm not going to talk to her unless she wants to talk about apologies. By the way I never acted like a child in any of this. LOL Any updates?
/r/MarriedRedPill15/06/16 03:56 PM
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Echoing rebornred, thank goodness someone who can write right, finally writed. My positive takeaways: Running game on your wife is essential. It doesn't have to be this complicated. As the complexities increase, so do the potential of covert contracts. As the execution gets underway, every ounce of OI needs to be available. Frame seems to have been held. My negative takeaways: This is tons of effort to try to get his wife to really understand just how hot he is, and how other girls like him so m…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/06/16 03:18 PM
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Exactly. Pardon my lazy response. You nailed it.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/06/16 02:01 PM
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Great post. Here's my cliff notes version of how I see how Jesus loved the church, and what that means for husbands. Jesus sacrificed all for the church, on HIS terms. He had a mission and he carried that out. He went against his disciples (the church) and made his own path. He loved the church, so he died for it. But that's not all he did. He also led, taught, rebuked, lifted, commanded, and partied with the "church". In other words, the modern understanding of this directive to love our wives …
/r/MarriedRedPill03/06/16 09:03 PM
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Paul is clear: Submit to one another. Eph. 5:21 That doesn't mean we don't lead.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/06/16 08:06 PM
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it should be a bit of irrelevant fun But it's sex. And for me, sex is never irrelevant fun. I'm not sure what would have to go on mentally for me to make that distinction.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/06/16 08:19 PM
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we will not blame anything on borderline personality disorder here as long as I am around. I get that you've been through some stuff and have self-diagnosed your ex as BPD. So, why keep posting? We get it. Crazy wife, crazy life. Also, you may want to temper all your advice giving. This is just my $.02. You've gone from blubbering idiot to advice giver in the last few months. Who are you really?
/r/MarriedRedPill02/06/16 06:58 PM
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Australian MP utterly offended
/r/MarriedRedPill01/06/16 11:01 PM
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I don't go into other men's houses and fix shit. I'm not the emergency call for grown ups who can take care of their own shit. Good job setting up boundaries, finally,
/r/MarriedRedPill27/05/16 03:56 AM
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Yeah, but kind of manic, right? I mean, I just read through 3 or 4 of his submissions, and frankly, I'm a little concerned this guy isn't on a far swing of the pendulum. I hope not. But just a few months ago he was sort-of getting back with the ex (until she blew it up) and wondering if he should go to the movies with a girl. Lots of words, lots of confidence, hope it's real for his sake.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/05/16 09:37 PM
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Shit.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/05/16 02:12 PM
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You fucking pussy fag, you obviously don't know shit. You're not worth it, weak sauce bitch. How was that? Was I close at least?
/r/MarriedRedPill13/05/16 01:29 PM
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The answer to starfish is caveman. If she doesn't want to engage and just lay there, that's my opportunity to crank up the intensity. 9 times out of 10, the starfish goes away. I've started viewing starfish as less a sign that she's a boring, disinterested, lazy, lousy lover, and more of an opportunity (invitation from her) to take her from frozen to melting. It's a challenge. I like challenges.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/05/16 12:31 PM
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Here you go. You're welcome.
/r/askMRP10/05/16 07:49 PM
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Then do it often.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/05/16 04:57 PM
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Stop doing her laundry This might be the best actionable advice on here, besides LIFT. If she doesn't take care of the house, he can start taking care of his and the kids stuff, and let her figure it out from there. Of course, it all depends on his frame whether this comes off as leadership or passive-aggressive.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/05/16 04:42 PM
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Her parents have more money than god and cutting of her allowance No, this should turn out perfect. now unable to start it up again due to lack of opportunity where we live Thank goodness she has an understanding man who can make excuses for her. You're so supportive. I will lose her if everything goes south Brah, there's this thing here called the red pill. It's a metaphor for waking up from the matrix and seeing things as they really are. You should take it. You obviously haven't. This isn't c…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/05/16 02:07 PM
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Dude hasn't taken the pill. he's looking at it, but he's still out cold.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/05/16 01:14 AM
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Double compliments from you. Gatemouth should just stop while he's ahead.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/05/16 03:09 PM
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OK, I just figured out the win/win. OP gets the dog he wants, and nexts her on the same day. Update FB profile pic with new best friend.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/05/16 03:06 PM
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Dude, why be an ignorant douche? Unless it was a joke, if so, work on your delivery.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/05/16 03:03 PM
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Another Protestant believer here. Your wife has already broken her vows. You have religious grounds for divorce. Adultery in the Biblical sense is not limited to extra-marital affairs. Obviously this is between you and JC, but I just wanted to share that there is other opinions in the community that would say you are justified. I feel for you, and glad you are taking the comments here in the empowering spirit in which they are intended. Be strong.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/05/16 03:02 PM
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she'll be better once... My girlfriend was like that, stressed at all the school work. But she got over it and graduated. She got a job. She was stressed at the job, but she wanted to get a better job, and forunately she did. She was stressed at the new job, but it wasn't so bad cause we were getting married. She was stressed at planning the wedding, man, can't wait for things to settle down after all this wedding stuff and just be married. She was stressed at being married, can't wait for.... I…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/05/16 08:20 PM
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So, I replied to the ban with a simple question, what exactly did I do to get banned? Dude's response was "You know exactly what you've done." Then proceeded to mute me for 72 hours so that I can't respond/message the mods. This is freaking hilarious.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/05/16 02:01 PM
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are they going to build a wall? No, they've started banning apparently. I commented on a post over there this morning and got banned about an hour later. It is strange how they are (he is?) attempting to squash any dissenting opinions. Mr. 10-day old adderallabuse said that MRP was shunned because "some" of the members here gave bad advice. Shunning, dogmatics, banning... eerily familiar.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/05/16 01:42 PM
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Well, I just got banned from TRP, so glad I still have a place to do the secret handshake.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/05/16 01:29 PM
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Im gonna play the devils advocate here and say that not all RP men believe in the mantra of "not to get married" The dogmatics on this sub are freaking troublesome. For a group of men who claim to be all about self-reliance, owning your shit, seeking your own path there sure is a lot of commandments to abide by. Guess what, you can be pro-marriage and have swallowed the pill. Those who can't understand that possibility are welcome to stay in their sandbox. Great post, btw.
/r/TheRedPill05/05/16 12:36 PM
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Didn't get your way. That sucks. I couldn't care less whether we stay under the same umbrella. I doubt many of us really care about being endorsed by TRP. But consider whether the married mods here collectively have a better vision of this sub than your singular pov.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/05/16 12:20 AM
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For the curious and lazy Other subs worthy of mention unfortunately include the Married Red Pill sub, which despite its efforts to give a safe haven to men who married while plugged in, has devolved into an exercise in rationalizing why it was a good idea to begin with. Despite my repeated attempts to help them steer into the right direction, I have been confronted by many members there simply defending marriage as a good decision for a man in western culture, one of whom was a moderator whose p…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/05/16 10:40 PM
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That was a lot of words. Testing never ends. Women test unconsciously. Testing is the woman’s primary method for determining congruency and for discerning a man’s authenticity; his ability to be genuine. The pill finally dissolved when I internalized this concept. Accept this and move on. AA and AM and all the rest are methods for dealing with these tests positively. No need to burden myself with the belief that one of these days she'll get the message and stop entirely, at least in my case.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/05/16 09:00 PM
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What were the two steps forward?
/r/MarriedRedPill27/04/16 07:41 PM
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Is there hope for single young men? Yes Please convince an MRA to defect back to the wife hunters tribe. No
/r/MarriedRedPill26/04/16 07:45 PM
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coolly and calmly take control, then delegate tasks to her I wish I had learned this technique prior to a dozen years of putting up with her crap/yelling at her. Once again, this was one of those things about her I couldn't stand, then later realized it was really me not leading.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/04/16 07:25 PM
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"There is going to be no such thing as bad sex anymore. If one of us isn't loving it, I stop." She didn't say a word. She consented. Small, but a big step. Three-and-a-half things. You've given her a massive loophole. Yes, you are being nice and comforting, but you also are handing over the power. All she has to do is act disinterested or uncomfortable, and she'll expect you to hard stop. Walking away from starfish is not the same thing as telling her, "if you don't love it I'll stop." Now that …
/r/MarriedRedPill25/04/16 04:04 PM
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To criticize just for the sake of criticizing it is fucking stupid. Roughly 80% of the responses in here.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/04/16 03:44 PM
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Many dicks were sucked that night I'm assuming at least one of them was yours?
/r/MarriedRedPill13/04/16 05:28 PM
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Why are you going through all of this to create a fantasy Because that's what princess wants.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/04/16 09:11 PM
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From Dave Berry's "19 Things That Took Me 50 Years To Learn": There comes a time when you should stop expecting other people to make a big deal about your birthday. That time is age 11.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/04/16 09:10 PM
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Tolkien
/r/MarriedRedPill25/03/16 07:09 PM
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Yikes!
/r/MarriedRedPill25/03/16 06:32 PM
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Freaking warm and rainy. What's the last book you read?
/r/MarriedRedPill25/03/16 06:19 PM
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Not too much, you?
/r/MarriedRedPill25/03/16 06:13 PM
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So, are you really angry, or do you just qualify doctors?
/r/MarriedRedPill25/03/16 03:55 PM
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I've been around here long enough to see the post/response quality comes in waves. For the most part, this sub is a like a jukebox. There's really good songs that get played over and over, but there's not much new material. So wade through the shit. Find the nugget that improves you today. Leave the rest. So much of what I "learned" two years ago is really only finally sinking in now. If I hadn't been getting my reps in, I wouldn't be getting stronger. On a separate note, I think the new guy her…
/r/MarriedRedPill25/03/16 03:31 PM
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The TV has become irrelevant. I'm working on getting the damn iPad/headphones out of the bedroom.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/03/16 03:17 PM
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I love hanging out with my wife. Despite our flaws, she's a trip to hang out with. We enjoy many of the same activities, and I enjoy doing them with her. If I maintain frame, we have a great time (nearly every time). When I get my panties in a wad over something too-stupid-to-remember or she tests/flips, we both have a crappy time. She has enormous value, but not for validation.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/03/16 03:10 AM
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I posted here a few weeks back and had to get the same treatment. Better for it now. Checking that ego is a daily discipline. It's like a dog kept on a leash, it's always ready to make a break for it when it's not tethered.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/03/16 12:24 AM
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After a read through the comments, I think you are right. He's even copying and pasting responses.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/03/16 05:42 PM
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Similar experience? Yes. Was she already cheating? Yes. Looking back, did I delude myself with all sorts of rationalizations that maybe I was overreacting? Yes. If I could do it all over again, would I do it differently? Hell yes.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/03/16 05:35 PM
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You were kind of being a Dick. Big deal. There's no single right way to deal with it, and there's tons of bad ways. A different approach: you could have agreed and amplified, got a chuckle at your own expense. From there, you could make your way to the bar and "hang out". Few minutes come by and lady friend is coming looking for you, only to find you hanging out and having a good time with someone else. Wouldn't hurt if it's a pretty lady. If you're smooth bough you can have her drink ready, han…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/03/16 01:30 PM
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Yes. Yes they are.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/03/16 04:56 PM
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Yes running away, that's what you're showing your wife when you do this. You see a problem and your solution is to get away. Note this is NOT the same as withdrawing your presence and attention. Excellent point. If you are not going somewhere with a positive purpose, you are just escaping. And no, sitting in the Taco Bell parking lot at 11pm slamming 3 gorditas does not qualify. If you decide to go, go do something.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/03/16 04:32 PM
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she just stops, giving some or other shitty reason. I was fine with it, kinda expected it, and got up to go shower. That is when the it went south. As I got up I just couldn't help but bite a little. But you weren't okay with it. You tell yourself you were okay with it, you tell us you were okay with it. But you weren't. And that's okay. You are obviously very new. What are you going to learn from this interaction? The devil himself appeared behind me wearing my wife's work clothes. Blah blah bl…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/03/16 04:24 PM
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This is timely. Pre-RP I left all financial matters to my wife. I had two instances when I wrestled control of bill paying and budgeting, but I did a terrible job and then was glad to give it back. As I've made improvements in my life, this is the one area where I have yet to really start doing the work. I did cut down on my discretionary spending in the last two years, but I haven't made the commitment to leading us both to curb our spending, increase our savings, and actually having a budget. …
/r/MarriedRedPill02/03/16 12:32 AM
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For clarification, at this juncture, I am not looking to act on anything, just talk, flirt and draw attention from the other moms. What is the point of your dread game, then? Are you looking to increase your SMV to create dread in her and then hypothetically reap the benefits from your wife, i.e. more sex, passion, etc.? Are you looking to just improve your interpersonal skills with women? If it is the latter, I would suggest that everywhere you go is your playground. Like many have said here, r…
/r/MarriedRedPill29/02/16 10:13 PM
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Irrelevant.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/02/16 04:06 AM
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Bout to say that. The family is a first line of defense against tyrannical government.
/r/TheRedPill24/02/16 01:41 PM
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First off, I don't buy into the alpha/beta dichotomy. I don't even buy the red/blue dichotomy. But, but, but... I need my dichotomeez.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/02/16 09:42 PM
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Agreed.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/02/16 08:10 PM
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From stones post: I try my best when putting on my hardcore red hat (and i find most do) to call out action, not a value judgement on the person. We judge action. We don't judge the persons morality. If I read about a guy who decided to go dread level 10 and start screwing a stripper to show his pregnant wife at home that he was the prize, spare me the TRP is amoral tripe. But even in this hypothetical, focus on the actions and not the "moral degeneracy" that may under gird it. We strengthen eac…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/02/16 04:14 PM
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The bluepills love to judge another man on his actions. Is there any other way to judge a man? I think its trite to say BPs do this. It's not that people "cannot handle" other men's decisions. Men have to face the consequences of their actions, and that means other people might think your actions suck.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/02/16 12:31 PM
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We're getting really retarded in here if we have to be reminded of this...
/r/MarriedRedPill22/02/16 07:17 PM
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"Merely a flesh wound." Laugh. Move on. Shut up.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/02/16 03:22 PM
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The jump from two to three was as big as the jump from none to one. Significantly harder to manage, i.e going from man to zone.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/02/16 01:46 PM
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So... What's the plan?
/r/MarriedRedPill16/02/16 04:52 PM
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We must be ductile. Cheers.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/02/16 05:12 PM
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Who is Steve?
/r/MarriedRedPill12/02/16 05:10 PM
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I have two close friends whom I meet with weekly. We study together and discuss our lives. Both of them were very supportive of me taking the necessary steps to get sober, get lifting, get to taking care of my shit. But they recoiled when I started discussing some of the MRP improvements I was making in my life. We continue to have a lot of conversations regarding how this fits in with faith I have. You are correct in pointing out, and it has been a source of a lot of internal debate, about the …
/r/MarriedRedPill12/02/16 05:10 PM
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they know perfectly well that they can get monster erections for such terrible and poisonous females that they would be better off sticking their dick in a bear trap. And immediately her face came to mind. Let us all be thankful for the one's we didn't bang. EDIT:word
/r/MarriedRedPill11/02/16 09:44 PM
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Goodness, this reeks of all sorts of passive-aggressive manipulation. I've got no interest in spending my time, money, and energy creating a fake scenario where some past chick texts me. This is some third-grade boyfriend-girlfriend jealousy scheme. Grow a backbone. Be true to yourself.
/r/TheRedPill11/02/16 04:04 PM
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You cannot save an alcoholic, you cant reason with it, and you can't change it But you can make some consequences that hurt. Speaking from the perspective of an alcoholic, here. Nobody can sober up a drunk. However, you can make life unbearable for them (by simply not putting up with their shit anymore) in order to force some sort of decision. We drunks either wake up and seek help, or snooze and continue to bathe in resentment. His frame can't save her, but it can save him, and it could save th…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/02/16 10:57 PM
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Don't know right now. There's a lot to think through. For starters though, I've got to reorient my next steps in the areas y'all have helped expose. Remember I was going into this angry that my wife's actions had changed and I was trying to figure out why. I'm putting that on the back burner. Setting specific measurable goals will be my next steps. Despite my obvious defensiveness, I appreciate y'all's input.
/r/MarriedRedPill31/01/16 08:25 PM
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I think you are right. I went against my own protocol of STFU. The day I posted this I was obviously in a screwed up emotional state. But posting while emotional exposed some of the areas I've failed to improve. My frame was completely dissolved. Good. Getting this exposed will help focus my next work. This was like a lesson in the law of unintended consequences. I was mostly expecting a bunch of advice on dread, OI, and game. Instead I got spit roasted. A couple days away from it, and the resul…
/r/MarriedRedPill31/01/16 08:18 PM
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if you are committed to making the marriage work, you already lost the ability to make true improvements. How so? I'm not following this line of reasoning.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/01/16 03:24 PM
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K, this is for the readers, and for myself to understand and dissect whats going on here. OP is too invested in his ego, Yes. I'm going to try to respond to the specifics, since it may serve as more fodder for discussion. So what does op want? In His first response was lack of sex drove him here. intially had a covert contract, if he came and lifted, wife would fuck. Not the best footing. then he had the pivot into becoming the best man he could be, and achieving his potential. I'll own this all…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/01/16 03:21 PM
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So your pegging your happiness to your wifes actions, and mad when she doesn't do what you want right? I believe you're right. My ego was telling me somethings wrong with her the last few months, cause I was still working my MAP. But I was overconfident in my own successes, especially in terms of my internal development. You say it's important that she fucks you, why? What are the assumptions here, because I don't see them yet. From my perspective, the assumptions are I was a lazy fat guy who ha…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/01/16 02:28 PM
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True. I was totally out of frame. the good thing about posting this crap is I get to have my BS called. Reflecting back, my frame is weak as lite beer. The external changes have outpaced the internal changes. And since I am going there - examine whether you have had your frame weakened around your wife in the last X months or the last year. Definitely has weakened. What is stopping you from re examining that MAP to make it more congruent to your current situation two years later? That's underway…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/01/16 02:15 PM
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Thanks, dickhead, some good stuff here I need to think about.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/01/16 12:40 AM
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Yep. Pulled one line out of a long post and was able to make all sorts of amazing analyses.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/01/16 11:22 PM
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it sounds like you're not willing to put in the work necessary to reap the rewards. No, I have, do, and continue to put in the work necessary to become a better man. Plain and simple. I'm doing what's necessary and beneficial because it's my choice, my family. That's what we do. I've had the best sex of my life in the last year. Shits gotten fucked up recently and I'm trying to figure out why.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/01/16 11:13 PM
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These are the very questions I've been stewing on. Something is changing. Wtf is it? And thanks for the advice on keeping the shield up and being ready for more tests. One just started within the last hour actually.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/01/16 11:00 PM
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how will you know when you get there? I'm able to meet certain goals, and know I met them. Many I think will only be understood in hindsight. For the most part, I've adopted the mindset of always be improving. I don't think I will know when I get there. No where in there does it matter if your wife fucks you, so why is it important if she does or not? sounds like you could easily just do your thing, and pussy will fall in your lap, and a lot more willing to boot. Why not do that? Cause it matter…
/r/MarriedRedPill29/01/16 10:57 PM
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Or, you know, you can decide I am wrong, and just point it out, or not. That's kind of what I was doing. You were wrong. I pointed it out. And not mad at you. Obviously not having the best day. I know you guys are worth hearing out, regardless of how right I think you are. what the fuck is "practicing OI" at this point? Just the same as it has been from the beginning. Keeping my eyes focused on the next right thing, and not being a beta bitch when things don't go the way I want them to. In parti…
/r/MarriedRedPill29/01/16 09:57 PM
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OK, I was being intentionally vague since I didn't think specifics were relevant. I have actual specific goals, but help me understand what you're getting at here. Having a fun, fulfilling, frequent sex life is also a goal. And I'd prefer that it does require her opening her legs.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/01/16 08:39 PM
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This : I looked at her last night, and just thought, "I'm so f-ing sick of this." Contradicts This : Guys, I deeply love my wife and do not want anything but an awesome marriage. No it doesn't contradict anything. You can be deeply in love and sick of this shit at the same time. Try being married for more than a year-and-a-half before making such ridiculous statements.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/01/16 08:19 PM
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working I experienced a significant transformation after swallowing the pill. Of course, the lack of sex drove me here, and I was initially motivated just by the thought that if I do this, my wife might fuck me. After about 3 months (and 5 books) I reoriented my course with the mindset that it was all about me becoming the man I could and should become. From that time forward it's been about reaching my potential. In a sense "working" means continuing to reap the benefits of my progress. I'm str…
/r/MarriedRedPill29/01/16 08:03 PM
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Yes, I've read it, and no, this isn't bartering or a covert contract. 3 months ago we were having sex every other day and it was great. I'm not aware that I've diverted at all from my RP path. It doesn't mean I haven't, so I'll think on this. But, I totally get that she doesn't owe me anything. EDIT: I'm not sure my initial response is honest. It very well be that I'm working a covert contract angle here. Doing some reflecting. Thanks.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/01/16 07:48 PM
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How are you at home? Are you making your normal everyday life as interesting as when you are on stage? I'll do some thinking on this. A big part of my RP transformation was my at-home life. I quit watching TV, gave the kids the playstation, and started reading nightly. I also started grilling once per week and cooking at least once per week (cause I'm a bad ass wanna be chef), and making a concerted effort to stay on top of man chores. I probably need some more work in that area, though. That be…
/r/MarriedRedPill29/01/16 07:16 PM
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I shaved for my wife. Two years back I grew the beard. Sex was already nonexistent basically, and I felt like growing a beard was going to make me more manly. Eventually, after another whining complaint fest about how she doesn't have enough sex with me, she says, "It's the beard. It's just such a turn-off." What did I do? the perfect bluepill response. Well, if it will make my wife happy (covert contract:have more sex), then off with the beard. Two weeks later, and a sexless two weeks at that. …
/r/MarriedRedPill15/01/16 09:10 PM
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I'm going to throw out something that is not typical for this sub. Check out the book Turn the Ship Around by L. David Marquet. Basically it's a book anybody in here who is in a leadership role could benefit from. I've been using the principles in my marriage and raising kids. Basic tenet is the best captain (Marquet was a nuclear sub captain) is the one who is able to lead their team to think and act knowing they have the captain's support. Being in charge doesn't mean being controlling and dem…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/01/16 08:52 PM
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You should smash some china.
/r/MarriedRedPill31/12/15 03:35 AM
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This was me a year ago. I was direct with her and forced a hard no. Should have been more patient.
/r/MarriedRedPill31/12/15 03:24 AM
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Imagine an alternate scenario. OP looks the brother in the eye, stands up, and basically says kiss my ass and tell your sister to kiss it too. He walks out and goes dark. Imagine the tingles.
/r/MarriedRedPill31/12/15 03:16 AM
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Question all the advice you get here. And don't put these guys' opinions on pedestals. There's some really smart people on here who can say some really stupid shit.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/12/15 07:00 PM
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You can't negotiate or deny attraction. Excellent point. A strong frame should dictate all you need to convey.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/11/15 03:33 PM
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You're attempting to overtly control your woman and that's beta as fuck. I disagree. Putting down your expectations is perfectly fine. What you do next determines whether it's BP or not. The danger in this is it becomes essential when you introduce an expectation, there has to be consequences (both positive and negative) for failing to meet the expectations. This is where we so often fail. We act big and tough about consequences, and when she breaks that, we tuck tail and don't follow through on…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/11/15 03:02 PM
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I wouldn't want to offer you suggestions on what to text. You know the intracacies of your relationship better than a bunch of anonymous guys. I would offer one suggestion, one that I give myself when in this situation. If I'm not sure what to "say" or "text", I don't say anything at all. Silence is always better than stepping in it.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/11/15 04:13 PM
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This post is good for what it is: one guys perspective. It's not even remotely like my experience. I charged and continue to charge. C-level pay in your thirties is well worth it.
/r/TheRedPill12/11/15 09:08 PM
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This is the exact mentality and language feminists use. "Okay, maybe this story isn't true, but it doesn't matter cause my rights....
/r/TheRedPill06/11/15 01:06 PM
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They are ignorant. Not unlike people who actually believe this story, which is a total fabrication.
/r/TheRedPill06/11/15 01:04 PM
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Proverbs 31 The Wife of Noble Character 10 [b]A wife of noble character who can find? She is worth far more than rubies. 11 Her husband has full confidence in her and lacks nothing of value. 12 She brings him good, not harm, all the days of her life. 13 She selects wool and flax and works with eager hands. 14 She is like the merchant ships, bringing her food from afar. 15 She gets up while it is still night; she provides food for her family and portions for her female servants. 16 She considers …
/r/MarriedRedPill05/11/15 02:13 PM
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Best post of the thread.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/07/15 01:33 AM
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I don't know how to work on your poker face. I know how to work on controlling my emotions. As I improve my ability to monitor and direct my emotions, I remove the need to improve masking my emotions. Why work on disguising your emotions, when you can address the root cause? If I'm in control of my emotions, I don't hide them.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/06/15 01:42 PM
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Ok, thanks, now what is this Google and how do I?
/r/MarriedRedPill18/06/15 07:51 PM
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I've read this a few times and can't really make heads or tails of it due to grammar. Let's move on. Rock on bro.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/06/15 07:12 PM
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Also not a Bible scholar, but I have to disagree. Stoicism in 1 century CE was antagonistic to Christianity and Judaism on the grounds that both faiths were monotheistic and taught a God who was separate from nature. Stoics were/are steadfastly pantheistic and believed in a god who was either in two parts (or was two actual deities), one of which encompasses all matter and the other the unseen realm known as Fate. This quote from Proverbs is no more "stoic" then Bobby McFarrin's song "Don't Worr…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/06/15 01:29 AM
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Wait... she doesn't want to watch the show you picked out, so you leave. Way to go captain. Is that what passes for RP these days? Are you seven? This spirals into a 5-day emotional bender followed by puking kids and you're asking us if her ailment is a "headache"? Step back for a second. This isn't about discovering the combination to an ancient lock, or learning some formula to decipher a complex equation. You are the only validation you need. Stop being the hamster.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/06/15 12:58 AM
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One, she's crazy and manipulative. Two, you're irresponsible. You don't mention it, but are you using any protection besides the facial? If not, you're wife likely didn't impregnate herself with her pearl necklace, but you could likely have inseminated her during regular intercourse prior to the pull out. Three, this story seems off somehow...
/r/MarriedRedPill15/06/15 03:54 PM
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I was thinking the same thing. Just plan on every Sunday night to get out of the house, take care of business, then come home, take care of business.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/06/15 03:48 PM
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Agreed.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/06/15 09:19 PM
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In related news, 83% of statistics are completely made up! But I do agree. Unless your motive is to get evidence for divorce, you are focusing on the wrong side of the relationship.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/06/15 08:58 PM
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It's neither better nor worse easier nor more difficult. No, it's definitely better.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/06/15 08:46 PM
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Why can't I jump off this building? And don't give me that "gravity" one-liner! I'm not sure what this means, but I smirked, no chuckled, a little bit. That was probably the intent. TRP has been amoral since it's very inception. That's because TRP is a "philosophy". I would argue that the ideas being amoral has no bearing on the application of those ideas by men. I don't accept the statement (which is actually implied by folks using that tired-ass line) that this means your actions as you apply …
/r/MarriedRedPill12/06/15 03:11 AM
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I'm not as versed on the different manifestations of pimpery as you, but that would make a great name for your book. And yeah, I get there's different types of alpha. Good luck with the new sub.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/06/15 02:55 AM
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I'm agreeing whole-heartedly with the sentiment. In reality I don't give an actual shit because the deeper I get into this way of life the less I am enjoying this subreddit. But in the interest of still being an active member, I throw my $.02. I'm not offended or disturbed by someone wanting a polygamous relationship. I don't want one, don't care whether or not that matters to you. Also, in no way can I fit polygamy into MRP. If you can, well, that's just great. (Please don't troll that "RP is a…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/06/15 02:40 AM
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well played, both of ya.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/06/15 02:33 AM
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So, and I'm not trying to be too provocative with this question, but.... how does an alpha male let other guys bang his woman and remain the alpha male?
/r/MarriedRedPill12/06/15 02:29 AM
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The video comment was for your 2nd installment. I'm not a fan of sandman's vids, but apparently folks are, so just my opinion. I'm just not into using a video viewer as an audio delivery tool unless the audio is improved by the video. In this case, it's not. Also, anything (with very few exceptions) worth reading, watching, or listening to go through significant editing. The person creating the content is almost always the worst editor. For reference, I'm no expert but I have worked in the publi…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/06/15 05:37 PM
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I'm not going to keep beating on you, but I do think it's worth stating again. Stock image use looks weird. Your audio still sounds terrible. Have you looked into a Zoom H2 or Tascam? The content isn't bad, but it kind of comes across as the last least drunk guy talking his ass off around the campfire after everyone else has just shut up cause they can't get a word in. It is not well edited, and it doesn't sound prepped. I would recommend benchmarking yourself against some really good podcasters…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/06/15 10:43 PM
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Wow. I thought you were just being a jerk and got banned. Now I find out that you were, and she was being even more of a jerk in response. This whole back and forth reflects horribly on both of you.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/06/15 10:21 PM
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Nothing there. I think you've been deleted.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/06/15 06:28 PM
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I don't disagree. But I think men mostly give shitty advice as well. And then there's that whole troll thing, where we really don't know anything about the person behind their username, gender included.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/06/15 04:04 PM
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Apparently the RPW mods were pissed that we would not let them give advice to men about relationships and marriage. I'll take advice from whomever offers good advice. Why would MRP ban women from giving advice on here? Some of the douche advice we get from men on this sub destroys the presumption men are giving good advice. And a good RPW's perspective is worth hearing IMO. We don't need fucking approval from RPschool I hardly go over to TRP anymore. I've been on and off that sub for two years, …
/r/MarriedRedPill02/06/15 02:34 PM
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I'm not a red pill woman, so I'm not going to post on RPW. I may go there to lurk, but it's a sub for women... And this post just reeks of butthurt. Big freaking deal. I'm not going to waste my time going through your comment history, but I'd bet you didn't get banned for a "fairly innocuous comment".
/r/MarriedRedPill02/06/15 02:15 PM
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Do you see how much control you are handing over to her? These shit tests should be handled and discarded (easier said than done, I know). The more of a big deal they become to you, the further into her frame you go. If you find yourself getting all worked up about these tests, that's on you. Handle it and move on.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/06/15 12:31 PM
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No and hell no. I'm happy in monogamy now. And there's no way I'd be a cuckold.
/r/MarriedRedPill31/05/15 06:38 PM
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At least read the book before you start pushing it on others.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/05/15 11:58 AM
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Agree completely. Banning him was a douche move. I disagree with his stance, and more align with whine, but what a lousy way to end a discussion.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/05/15 12:56 AM
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It's unwatchable and unlistenable. I couldn't make it past the 2nd minute. Get a decent audio recorder. Here's a good choice. Don't alter your voice, you're not a whistleblower. The stock images were seriously gay. Don't do that. Doing a youtube video has to have actual video, unless your audio is overwhelmingly compelling. But listening to awful audio and looking at stock photos doesn't cut it. Shoot actual video. Take Hunter S Thompson's advice, "Anything worth doing, is worth doing right."
/r/MarriedRedPill20/05/15 07:17 PM
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If I want sex, I initiate sex. If she wants sex, she initiates sex. If I initiate sex and get turned down, no problem. I'm on year 2 of having sex 3-4 days a week. Getting turned down used to be catastrophic. Now, it's an excuse to focus on a hobby and build up another days worth of energy to unleash the next day.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/05/15 06:42 PM
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This is fat acceptance now aimed at men. First, re-define fat woman as beautiful. Next up, the weak beta males. I can't tell you how much I hate this new dad bod talk. And I still have a long way to go to get the body I really want. This is just an attempt by popular culture to reward giving up.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/05/15 06:39 PM
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IF this woman is being truthful... The guys an a-hole. I say he gets what is coming to him. I'm not interested in whether or not he is "red pill." He is a douche, however.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/05/15 06:35 PM
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Strong boundary is key. I failed at this for years. Now, I try to use the shut up rule. I just listen. I give her about 5 minutes of it. If it persists for much more than that, I'll just excuse myself. I might just say, "yeah, that sucks. I'm going to play guitar."
/r/MarriedRedPill14/05/15 11:28 AM
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And getting way more sex.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/05/15 10:55 AM
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In one of the podcasts he talks specifically about keeping his true identity under wraps due to the potential blowback for his business and his family.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/05/15 03:22 AM
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At home, my wife asks about the match, who was there, who I talked to, and when I mention that woman's name, I just get the biggest smirk on. It's ridiculous but I just can't hold composure. My wife keeps asking and everytime that woman comes up I smirk and eventually I have to walk out. My teenage nieces act like this. I can't help but read your whole post like a giddy teen. I sense 0 maturity and OI from you. And this I think would be an aberration, since your posts normally are more worthwhil…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/05/15 01:51 AM
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She's pissed? Good. Let her be pissed. Work on you. If it comes up again, double down. You spoke the truth, don't backpedal a bit. Make suggestions without badgering. Give advice when asked. Control what's in the home.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/05/15 01:46 AM
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Dave Berry wrote a piece years ago called "25 Things I've Learned in 50 Years." 4. People who want to share their religious views with you almost never want you to share yours with them. This goes for RP. I have a co-worker that is so beta it is killing me. I have tried multiple ways of introducing him to the ideas. All to little avail. OK, no biggie. I certainly don't want to hear his BP take on his screwed up LTR. We can't force someone to take it. But we shouldn't be douchebags and look down …
/r/MarriedRedPill13/05/15 01:39 AM
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I don't think it's a problem to ask how she's doing. But don't let her bloviate. After she tells you she's sore, acknowledge that sucks and then move on. I randomly come to the bedroom to see if she's sleeping or not. If she's sleeping, I watch her for a while and go about my work. Dear god why? Is she a hospice patient or something? Why would you check on your wife every soften to see if she's awake and watch her while she sleeps. Seriously.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/05/15 01:20 AM
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I suspect the covert contract here. I travel for business a lot. I've been in similar situations, not where my wife leaves necessarily, but definitely when she dumps the kids off on me and needs some alone time. It doesn't bother me anymore. Big freaking deal! I play with the kids and get caught up on whatever I missed while I was away, and I'll still get mine when I want. Anyway, if it's important to me to spend some time with her right away, communicate it clearly.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/05/15 04:17 AM
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I wouldn't think too deeply on this. While you've been away, she's been single parenting. She's probably "needing" a break. After you get home, she wants to go somewhere she won't hear kids screaming and she can sleep before she has to wake up and go work a 12 hour 3rd shift. Okay, you don't like it. I completely get it. But I disagree with most the takes here. It doesn't mean she's cheating. Yes she's being selfish. No that's not a surprise. Yes it's okay to be a little pissed about it. No it's…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/05/15 04:09 AM
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Who knows? Who cares?
/r/MarriedRedPill11/05/15 09:09 PM
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I found my way here from DB. Your marriage sounds terrible, and too much of it sounds familiar. My marriage of today doesn't resemble yours in any way whatsoever. There is some hope for you. But in our experience it takes work, sacrifice, determination and humility. Work - lifting and reading. Hard physical work. Hard mental work. Sacrifice - Putting aside the habits of your life and adopting new ways to occupy your time. Going without the comforts you've adopted to grow. This includes the "rasp…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/05/15 11:53 AM
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That's not typical for sure. What led to the divorce?
/r/MarriedRedPill09/05/15 11:53 AM
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do you believe in "once a cheater, always a cheater"? No, I believe in grace. But I'm realistic and know that I only change through discipline and diligence. But, I believe you don't ever have to cheat again if you don't want to. But I also think that newbies like myself have to blindly follow RP "rules" until they get a better hold of the game. The core principles I'll hold to, but the details are all circumstantial. I don't think you're pathetic at all. I'm on the path same as you.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/05/15 09:33 PM
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They've already been broken, by her withholding sex and me cheating. That's total crap. Own your shit. They were broken when you started using the internet to screw fat girls and prostitutes. The marriage bed wasn't wet because you allowed your marriage to get into that spot. You are still blaming her for your BP days. Sure she owns some of that, but now you know it was your responsibility to act, and now she can react. That's one of the upsides of complementarianism.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/05/15 01:12 PM
2

I tend to think being a shitty woman is a learned behavior, taught by blue pillers. Certainly some women are just less shitty, but in my experience women treat betas like shit because they let them, and it then becomes part of their personality. I love the shock and awe of confronting a shitty woman who's fed on BP her whole life.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/05/15 01:09 PM
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So basically you have used Craig's List and hookers to screw a few fat chicks and not have sex with hot girls. This led you to believe you were suffering the great malady of Oneitis. Instead, and let's just be honest about this, you're cheater and you may just have figured out a way to justify it. And yeah, go ahead and use the whole TRP is amoral tripe. But remember, that doesn't mean after TRP then your actions are also amoral. You've gotten into some hobbies. You're playing sports, lifting, a…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/05/15 01:06 PM
1

I'm missing something. Why does everyone think this is directed at TRP?
/r/TheRedPill08/05/15 12:13 AM
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She wants a baby and a cat, and she's trying to convince you to want the baby and "she's trying that I get that cat for her"? You haven't swallowed the pill. It's stuck in your throat. Take a shot of courage to wash it down.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/05/15 03:50 PM
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No problem- she fucked you a couple times this week so last weekend is a distant memory. Right? Can you even appreciate now how fucked up this is? For years I could tell myself the lie that one night of sex erased weeks/months of zilch. I would completely ignore my wife- no calls, not texts, no kind words, NOTHING. Agree. Except I would make plans to go out on Friday night myself. Get a babysitter. Let her know plain and simple that you are actively moving on with your life. Strong men don't put…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/05/15 03:47 PM
2

Read on the divorce prep. Good on you for attempting to make it work, but from the little you have told us, it's not going to. I don't ever recommend people get married or divorced. Do what is right. But since I'm offering suggestions, don't put another baby in her.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/05/15 03:40 PM
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My suggestion. Reply and tell her no problem. Get a babysitter for the night. Go out on Friday yourself with some friends or solo, doesn't matter. Tell her after the plans are set. Don't back down. Go out and have a great night.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/05/15 03:38 PM
1

Actually this was a guy. Your point is invalid. http://www.reddit.com/r/pics/comments/35314n/three_students_at_unomaha_subdue_another_student/cr0rd10
/r/TheRedPill07/05/15 03:13 AM
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I'm glad you said it. Have an upvote.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/05/15 01:03 AM
2

More will become clear with time and discipline. In the meantime, read and lurk.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/05/15 03:46 PM
4

Imagine if this guy had spent the year learning how to work on cars. He'd have added a manly hobby, upped his SMV, and fixed his wife's car thereby giving himself transportation.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/05/15 02:05 PM
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I have the same strategy. I announce the departure time well in advance, and that's when I leave. Our Sunday mornings are the most difficult. Getting kids ready for church was always to blame for being late. So I stepped in to assist more in getting kids dressed. We were still late. So I set a schedule, and of course wife challenged it. This is where we have to have firm boundaries and defend them. The first time I put the kids in the car and drove to church without her, she lost it. Apparently …
/r/MarriedRedPill06/05/15 12:26 PM
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And a follow up question. Why didn't you fix your wife's car when you became employed instead of buying yourself a new car? I would have thought fixing her car, and reclaiming yours would have been the more financially sound decision.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/05/15 11:28 AM
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Wow. This should be a sticky demonstrating blue pill behavior. He gets "lucky" with a slut and ends up a simpering mess... at McDonald's. Think on how many other guys she's been with just during the time you've been enraptured with her. Now think on your fragility. This is what TRP is intended to destroy. It's time you started your journey from sapling to oak. This doesn't mean you have to go out and start hunting pussy. It does mean you quit being one.
/r/askTRP03/05/15 12:00 PM
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Met a guy 6 months ago and is using the term BFF? Is her job being a 4th grader? She's going out with him drinking on Friday nights. She is showing a remarkable lack of maturity, and disrespect toward you. She can't act like a bi guy is equivalent to a girlfriend. And as you know, if her SMV is above 5, thus bi guy wants to have sex with her. She's found her new BB. The question is, is it you or the new guy? You may quickly find you're being played. Also, the gay/bi scene is heavily focused in u…
/r/askTRP03/05/15 11:51 AM
3

What is it with these psychobabble pseudo theory posts? This theorizing is so much crap. Take your "I read it on the Internet" diploma and wipe. And yes, this is my frame showing.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/05/15 03:08 AM
2

Handle that too. Go and talk to the renter, tell them the new rule. Flat out, don't be ashamed or feel like you need to protect your wife's addiction. This has to come to light. If the renters a problem after that, give them 30 days notice to move on. This is the opportunity to fortify your base. You are under attack, and you need to step up and lead. You haven't been taking charge, which is why it's gotten this bad. You can do this. Do it for you. Do it for her. Alcoholism is a progressive cond…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/05/15 01:54 AM
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Two questions: How exactly do you think this a shit test? Do you think your "monk-mode" could have been "pouty child?" The reason I ask is when I go into monk-mode, I still keep my upbeat attitude, I'm just more focused on certain tasks. In other words, I don't project that anything is wrong.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/05/15 07:24 PM
3

Exactly. Communication with the wife doesn't always have to be this game of wolf vs. hamster. Noobs here are always concerned they somehow are hanging in the balance with their alpha status. If you're the alpha, you're not going to lose it on your way out the door to the gym. If your situation is that precarious, still just go to the freaking gym. This is a long term discipline into the man you're supposed to be, not a witty way to woo the women self-help group.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/05/15 07:21 PM
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Let me interject here. Nothing will change with her if she keeps drinking, and she has to get sober herself. You will not be able to "make" her. But if she agrees to get some help, but says she can do it tomorrow or next week, or she'll look at calling a counselor, call BS. If she starts using her new job or any other crap as an excuse why she can't immediately act to change, then she's not ready to stop, and the choice is clear. Some alcoholics need to suffer more than others before they stop. …
/r/MarriedRedPill01/05/15 07:12 PM
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You are also a codependent by enabling this bad behavior. Yes, the alcoholic wife is definitely a major problem, but by not the only one. OP will have to do some serious soul searching about his own part in allowing this to become so bad. I don't suggest people get married or get divorced, but I do think the shock aspect of what u/UEMcGill is suggesting may be essential. At the very least, if he confronts her today about the drinking and she shows any reluctance to stop, this would be the next l…
/r/MarriedRedPill01/05/15 07:08 PM
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She's going to have to change her entire life in order to get and stay sober. I had to cut ties with many "friends" and quit going to many places in order to get through the first months of sobriety.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/05/15 07:04 PM
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I'm a recovering alcoholic, my wife is an alcohol dependent drinker. First, my side. 6 years ago, my wife sat me down and said it was time for me to choose, my family or alcohol. I was told if I didn't go to rehab, it was divorce. I went to rehab, and have stayed mostly sober for the last six years. Recovery actually was the initial push that got me started into becoming the man I am today. Next, her. She was drinking a lot in those days too. She still drinks 3-4 nights a week. She has gotten he…
/r/MarriedRedPill01/05/15 07:02 PM
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A female orgasm is based on emotion and feeling dominated, not any particular physical act. Not exclusively. I've learned how to give my wife orgasms in many different situations, dominating and non-dominating. Remember, non-dom doesn't have to mean giving up dominance. Caveman is just one technique of many. From SGM "...In any sexual relationship is to always mix it up on every level. Sometimes you want to provide intensely dominant sex, sometimes intensely emotional. Sometimes you want to do l…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/04/15 07:46 PM
2

Why leave the room? I prefer to stay and enjoy the view.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/04/15 11:12 AM
1

We cannot just snap our fingers and get over our deep resentments. I wasn't telling you to blink and be a different man. But I am encouraging you to put this revelation into perspective. I can tell you that a major revelation for me came a few weeks after finding TRP. For months I still held out hope that AWALT was really AlmostAWALT and my "soul mate" was the exception. It turns out TRP was just stuck in my throat. Let me put it this was, the hardest part of TRP for me was the very obvious trut…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/04/15 02:33 AM
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If you lose 20-30 pounds you'll be good for her again? That's toxic thinking. You don't have to increase your SMV to get her back. She's aware of your financial state, because you told her, I assume. Now she's texting and innocently flirting with you. Maybe she's throwing all these lures in the water hoping she'll get a bite. Do you feel like being hooked again? Have you considered a scenario where she moves back so that you can be with the kids more often, but doesn't involve the two of you liv…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/04/15 12:53 AM
1

I'm more interested in telling a man straight up he's acting like a childish brat than giving him advice to bury his anxiety in a young prostitute.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/04/15 04:18 PM
5

This. Don't do this.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/04/15 11:51 AM
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I'm not going to tell you it's not a big deal, because it is... To you. But you have got to get a grip. You're acting like a hysterical woman who needs a slap to regain a modicum of sanity; or a child who believes the splinter in her toe is catastrophic. From my perspective, you are out of line. I'm familiar with some Muslim cultures (not sure where you're from). And from my experience within those cultures, you're still way out of line. Doting wife, sex 7 days a week, fully appreciated head of …
/r/MarriedRedPill25/04/15 11:51 AM
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You're a self acclaimed noob and you went to level 10 dread. You see anything wrong with that? You're asking for beginners advice and you're rejecting sex and simultaneously telling wife "fuck me, or fuck you"? You see anything confusing about that? It sounds like you may be making the noobiest of mistakes. You read a little then skipped to what you thought was the end (dread 10). But it turns out the end of this is a confident, desirable, fit, smart (at least learned) captain. I'm not saying yo…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/04/15 12:49 AM
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Why not go study abroad yourself somewhere else? If you stay and she goes, that's 10 weeks to do your thing. Add 10 lbs muscle and read 10 books. Also, if you classify a girl as an 8 and then say if she lost weight she'd be a 9, you're actually talking about a 6 that could be a 7.
/r/askTRP23/04/15 03:44 AM
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Not all say yes. Just move on. Don't over analyze one-offs.
/r/askTRP23/04/15 03:39 AM
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You've got the same problem as most of you on here: you read a little shit, start thinking you're the shit, and your just full of shit. Going dread weeks after TRP is freaking amateur hour at the Apollo. You have to read, internalize, lift, improve yourself, learn frame. All of this over the course of months displays alpha game and creates soft dread. You decided to think you could act like a man while you're obviously still acting like a boy. Ever heard of outcome independence? Let this guy ser…
/r/askTRP23/04/15 03:32 AM
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I'm with you 100%. I found my way to TRP from DB. After doing the sidebar reading, I realized the marriage didn't have to be over. Found my way here. I don't mean to sound critical of TRP sub, but there is more wisdom on this thread. Getting advice from college students about relationships is risky. I also think it's hilarious that Rollo is their sage, and the guys been married 15+ years.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/04/15 06:15 PM
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She absolutely would. There's been a lot of great thoughts on this thread. As I said earlier, my SMV is higher than her, but not high enough for me. Work to do.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/04/15 01:12 AM
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Do some reading on the sidebar. Do your own research. Don't come here asking people for definitions. TRP even has a damn glossary. Come on man!
/r/askTRP21/04/15 02:23 AM
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You're handling it fine. If you really want to up the hamster wheel, up the ante. She's already threatened to delete you, like you give a damn. You sure don't to her. So on the next text, wait for a while then respond with, "who is this? Don't have your number in my phone." Maybe you shouldn't do that after all. Regardless, she's set the rules with her ultimatum. You live or die by what you say next. Alpha up.
/r/askTRP21/04/15 02:19 AM
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If my GF was snapchatting any man other than me, it would be over shortly. If she hid it from me, it'd be over immediately. If the guy has snapchat stories to tell, it's already been over for a while and I'm just now learning about it.
/r/askTRP21/04/15 12:54 AM
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It's a teachable moment. Actually came here to say quitting alcohol is part of my RP life. No doubt, my best me is alcohol free.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/04/15 11:22 PM
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You wanted to tell her so you would feel better. Do not pull the ethical thing to do bs. You acted selfishly, and then got a case of virtue. That's crap. And telling her the next morning was a huge goof. But what now? Go back and read above.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/04/15 11:21 PM
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She "forgave" you. Don't buy it. This isn't over by a long way. Take others advice. Quit even mentioning it. Read, lift, do. When it comes back up, at some point, you will have the opportunity to simply say it was your mistake and a direct result of a DB. This isn't blaming, but neither is it ignoring reality. You're not a martyr, nor are you a scumbag.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/04/15 11:19 PM
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Agree, except this guy ain't the prize. Not yet anyway.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/04/15 11:13 PM
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One simple question to ponder. Why do you give a shit? I'm married. I have been in your shoes. I grew resentful because she didn't acknowledge my greatness. This was pre-RP. Guess what, I was an ok guy, but I was stuck on how she felt about it that I lost perspective. It turns out, my wife knew how much control she had over me, and used it accordingly. I was a beta and needed her affirmation. Fast forward 5 years. I'm a company owner, fitter than her, making jack like never before, doing things …
/r/askTRP20/04/15 08:09 PM
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You have to decide what you want, then go after it. I'm all for LTR, if that's what I want. The problem comes when you are getting played into the LTR, and you even convince yourself it is what you want. But you're really just doing her bidding.
/r/askTRP20/04/15 08:01 PM
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"How many people have you met online?" "Millions." Amused mastery here goes a long way. And don't back down. "No, seriously, how many, like, really?" "Hmm, perhaps tens of millions." Feed the hamster. If it escalates, a firm "I'm not going to tell you. Quit asking." Throw in a bit of kino, works wonders.
/r/askTRP20/04/15 07:57 PM
2

She's going to freak out when you tell her you don't want kids? But you've already told her you had a vasectomy. That's about the most definitive way a man can say, "No more kids." Hot or not, you are supposed to get what you want. You do no intentional harm by being honest.
/r/askTRP20/04/15 07:53 PM
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Never stop reading.
/r/askTRP20/04/15 07:49 PM
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Yes. Read above twice. In that same thread he said that since he's implemented his new self two things have stopped. Nagging and arguing. Now both those things have happened and he's lost again. T-dog, read, read, read. Lift, lift, lift. You're making classic beginner mistakes. You read some shit and now you think you are the shit but in reality you're just mostly still full of shit. Give this some time. Read, lift. Become a better you daily. And on leaving without a kiss, don't be a dumbass.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/04/15 12:42 PM
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She just had the experience of running away from you and toward you while you say in the truck, the ogle throne. Then you mention the running shoes. I would assume in this scenario you weren't just asking about her shoes because you just happen to remember she hasn't gotten them yet. It sounds exactly like you were prodding her. Making a subtle comment about her chubs. If so, that's very ladylike of you. Maybe I'm wrong, but in this case i think you were the one giving the shit test.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/04/15 12:31 PM
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His concern is that things are going (according to him) so much better now. He found out about this while they were on a vacation, and they just had sex for the first time in months. He says she seems really invested into their relationship again, and wants to plan vacations and date night for them regularly now. That is the classic blue pill mindset. Months of DB, single night of sex on vacation (alcohol?), conversation about doing fun stuff suddenly equals things are going much better. No. The…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/04/15 06:55 PM
1

When to commit to the cue ball is the question. I'm aware of my thinning top, but I'm 6'2" and have enough still I'm told it's not noticeable. My wife is begging me not to shave it, cause she says I still got plenty and she likes it. She said she'd tell me when she thought it was time. I'm going to make the final decision, but I do trust my woman to offer her opinion since she's into me and doesn't want her man to look like a neglected lawn.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/04/15 11:31 PM
2

Don't console. You did nothing wrong. She erred, and now she feels the response to that. If she's coming around to the new rules, and it is working out well for both of you, why not celebrate a little? But it's not done because you hurt her precious little feelings. Also, since we don't really know your situation and therefore don't really know what's going on, I'll offer another observation. A woman sleeping on the floor at the end of the bed because you left the bedroom seems really extreme. Y…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/04/15 02:37 AM
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I agree. The process should never stop. The situation changes, and since we're not robots or mindless disciples of some cult, we can adapt and modify where we see necessary. The occasion of your in-laws sickness is a terrible situation. I don't read one hint of compassion in OP's post. Damnit man, it's her mom dying. So, what do you do? The same freaking thing you always should be doing, being the Alpha. Someone else mentioned being the oak. Damn right. Does an Alpha walk around demanding cold c…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/04/15 12:03 PM
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Damnit man. I'm definitely not doing the complete asshole game with my wife, but a sprinkling here and there is useful. But two examples of doing little favors, and I'm still the beta bitch who hops out of bed to get a glass of water or the reluctant but chipper chauffeur for some errand. Thanks for the post and link. Up the game.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/04/15 11:20 AM
3

My 2 cents. I'd call her. No more f'ing texts. You suck at it. I'd ask to talk to the kids first after some initial howdy. Then I'd tell her unequivocally what the sleeping arrangement is. If you're going to be a douche and basically act like you might cheat tonight, then oh well. If you're not going to cheat, I'd tell her that. Leave it at that. Tell her I'll call in a day, etc. From my perspective, your dread is dreadful. Good luck. EDIT: I also think it's a bad idea to go. I try to ask myself…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/04/15 01:15 AM
0

Midterm prego? Dread in any form is dangerous, dangerous territory. I wouldn't go there. Being upfront about wanting some space for a night to work on the house could be better. Good luck.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/04/15 07:27 PM
1

I've got a buddy who had a similar house situation. He set up a cot, sleeping bag, coffee maker, etc. when he felt like it, he'd just say I'm staying late working and sleeping over here. At least once, he used it after getting tested to death. It was freeing for him. Do recommend, but be careful.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/04/15 06:38 PM
1

Temp, you've got to be you, only amplified. You can't all the sudden turn on cocky/funny/stoic or anything else. This isn't mind tricks. You've been lifting and PRing for a week. You've got months of work ahead of you. This RP change is not an overnight fix. Too many folks around here seem to think they can read a couple of books, start using acronyms, consider themselves Stoic and all the sudden be fixed. It doesn't work like that. Keep your eyes focused on being the best YOU. You are not tryin…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/04/15 06:26 PM
3

He's 6. What the hell are you doing? If he enjoys soccer, let him play soccer. If he likes judo, let him do that too and figure it out. I'm going to go out in a limb here and say if you are so concerned with your 6-year olds future sports prospects rather than giving him fun experiences and exercise, you've got issues. Also, your wife blowing up like that is a huge red flag. Are you being honest, though? My guess is this just one of many things she's irrational and controlling about. She still h…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/04/15 03:48 PM
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Reject the taunting, accept the sex. I experienced this taunting, and rejection is the only answer unless it leads to sex. Also, when faced with the "woe is me, why are you rejecting me" shit test, just reply with "I'm not. Drop your panties and get over here." If she declines that, maintain frame, move on. Lack of accountability for shitty behavior encourages said behavior.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/04/15 03:39 PM
5

I had that talk exactly 3 months after TRP. I quickly put my MAP into practice, and within 2 months was angry. I had to be honest with myself and her. I didn't want to leave, I don't want to divorce. But I came to the conclusion that I wasn't willing to live in a shitty relationship - especially after I realized the shitty relationship was primarily my fault. She was just acting naturally to a beta husband. We take responsibility for the failures of our past, the condition of the present, and th…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/04/15 03:21 PM
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I went through this two years ago. Just like you, my wife showed off but then was always rejecting me. I sat her down one night, and NOT after getting turned down for sex (this is important), and told her the new rules. We are going to have sex at a minimum of twice per week. Refusing sex starts me in a path out the door. I didn't go immediately to dread btw, I'd been working up to this (i.e. Losing weight, increasing time in gym, focusing on me, working MAP). But I told her unequivocally this w…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/04/15 02:31 PM
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You mean reading very little Marcus Aurelius, working on not acting like a whiny man, and looking thoughtful don't make me a Stoic? Seriously, all this "Be Stoic" shit is exactly one of the ways TRP is becoming a parody of itself.
/r/TheRedPill07/04/15 08:26 PM
1

Lifting is a great way. Lifting is not the only way. It is amazing how many RPers on here are just lemmings who think they know shit cause they read some shit and now they keep repeating shit. Seriously some of these posts are starting to sound like parodies.
/r/TheRedPill07/04/15 06:16 PM
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Your post was directed to betas who don't lift, but you specifically say don't comment if you don't lift. Ditch the complex. Btw, I thought your post was good. I think the concept of your body as the ship is pretty fascinating.
/r/TheRedPill07/04/15 05:15 PM
2

How you actually are doing it. http://www.reddit.com/r/AdviceAnimals/comments/31avvg/its_sad_but_true/
/r/MarriedRedPill03/04/15 08:04 PM
7

I wouldn't think her saying "I can't take this anymore" is a shit test. She seems way more balanced and in control than you. I think she is straight up telling you, get your shit together or she's gone. Agree with previous comment, get help for your mental issues. RP afterward.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/04/15 12:21 PM
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I'm a married guy who swallowed TRP and a year later is getting sex on demand, 3-4 times per week. When I was a total Beta I walked around moody, hoping for a little attention. I had sex about once every 3 weeks. It's got less to do with the her and so much to do with me. Once I grow into the Alpha, she's in love and grateful.
/r/TheRedPill01/04/15 12:01 AM
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I agree completely. What my wife needs is a consistent Alpha. Not a guy who read some things and is putting his foot down finally. I moved into this stage slowly with my wife, but ultimately she was completely agreeable (well, maybe not completely) because she clearly felt like I was in control and loved it. This is key: we change first. She will follow. We don't try to force others to change so that we can escape betadom. We own our own, then lead.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/03/15 03:43 PM
1

Overcome fear. Recognize the emotion then rise above. We have fight, flight, AND verbal confrontation/negotiation skills. He flew. I've been in a similar situation, but I confronted. No tears, no jeers, no girly drama. What I did, what he could have done: walked over with a smile. "Hey Exxy, how are you?" Look dude right in eye and give him a firm handshake. Mention something about how good the food is, recommends the whatever, give one last look to Exxy, tell her she looks good and tell the bot…
/r/TheRedPill29/03/15 12:58 PM
1

Or as a last ditch effort, just send him the link to this thread. He'll get the experience of having his manhood questioned by dozens of alphas. That would have been a sobering crash into reality for me two years back.
/r/TheRedPill29/03/15 12:31 PM
4

You may need to rewrite this. I'm not really following...
/r/MarriedRedPill29/03/15 02:13 AM
1

When my wife launches into advice mode, which is fairly rare now that I'm better at controlling my words/emotions, I've got one line that ends it every time. "I got this."
/r/MarriedRedPill28/03/15 03:46 PM
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They can't go all the way down b their push-ups the next morning at PT. Awkward for everyone.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/03/15 11:28 AM
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I don't disagree. I just also think that he could figure out a manly way to stay. Folks in here are acting like leaving is his only option. Screw that.
/r/TheRedPill22/03/15 12:06 AM
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Guy screwed up not knowing more about his future wife. But I wouldn't say he needs to leave her. That's his call, but leaving could be beta. Staying could be beta, too. There is without a doubt a way to stay the Alpha way.
/r/TheRedPill21/03/15 08:35 PM
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A woman telling a r/relationship her side of the story. Yeah, your definitely not getting the full story. The obvious follow up, what else in her past is going to devastate her husband. A girl doesn't just have 15 3somes and that's the only skeletons in the closet. She says they have sex 3-4 times a week. So he's getting laid more than most of y'all. Here's the thing though, this guy is now realizing his wife not only was promiscuous, but was a freaking slut. College years and excuses be damned.…
/r/TheRedPill21/03/15 08:24 PM
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