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It’s exactly in my case. All my ex’s best friends are divorced. The thing that gets me you can’t be that stupid to get persuaded, you right?
/r/Divorce_Men10/03/25 07:58 PM
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Narcissistic and bi polar. They go together.
/r/Divorce_Men13/02/25 07:48 AM
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Nothing will ever improve without accountability. This applies to anyone in the family. Don’t let the unconditional love thing fool you. Not enforcing accountability with my ex during our marriage is the reason why I became a member here. It’s no different for my adult kids. If you truly love them, they need to account for their actions AND the consequences that come with it.
/r/Divorce_Men12/02/25 08:25 AM
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It’s because men are providers and our validation is through appreciation. What hurt me the most above all is my ex wife showed no acknowledgement or appreciation at all and just filed divorce after 26 years. Broke my family then polluted my son’s mind. The vindictiveness and selfishness is insane.
/r/Divorce_Men12/02/25 07:33 AM
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Gen Z is different. It backed fire for me. Don’t pamper your kids.
/r/Divorce_Men12/02/25 06:05 AM
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One thing I learned through my divorce is that lack of appreciation can come from your wife and children. During my divorce, one of my kids got brain washed by mom and our relationship got soured. He’s just like mom had no appreciation for what I have provided to the family. And that’s OK, I’m at peace with myself knowing that I did the best I can and he’s an adult now. It’s now all about me from now on and I don’t need to please anyone. And that’s not to down play what you and I have been throu…
/r/Divorce_Men12/02/25 03:00 AM
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I don’t need to tell them. They saw my divorce in action. No better training than that. They saw first hand what a divorce did to me.
/r/Divorce_Men21/01/25 06:50 AM
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They exist but they want to be the man not the feminine woman you’re looking for.
/r/Divorce_Men07/12/24 03:15 AM
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This is why I now cringe when I see couples do the vows in a wedding ceremony. And I can just see how the man will get destroyed later.
/r/Divorce_Men29/11/24 03:40 AM
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My 2nd for me and it does get better. The first year was brutal because I’m an empty nester as well and felt like I lost my soul with the divorce.
/r/Divorce_Men29/11/24 03:35 AM
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You other option is keep it going and then at 55 or 60 you will hate yourself not divorcing earlier. Can’t get back time.
/r/Divorce_Men19/11/24 04:09 AM
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Don’t blame the man but the mom. There’s no bottom on how low women can go.
/r/Divorce_Men17/11/24 10:04 PM
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You literally wrote my story. Our first house was paid off and sold it and upgraded to a much larger house to please her. Then got the “I’m no longer happy” BS and now I’m stuck with a new big mortgage and a lot of empty house. I told her what the fuck did you do to me? Instead of possible early retirement now I have to start over again. The amount of selfishness is absolutely insane.
/r/Divorce_Men17/11/24 07:28 PM
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I just don’t get it. Why do women destroy their own lives but above all her family. I just don’t get it perhaps because this has happened to me. I’m happy to hear your story and wish you the best.
/r/Divorce_Men29/10/24 06:33 AM
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I was so happy the nonsense shopping stopped after we separated and now divorced. It's insane amount junk she bought over the years. It was during the removing her stuff that I realized how much crap she bought. My credit card balances are so much lower now. That's some we had always fought over and now I don't have to deal with this. Peace.
/r/Divorce_Men21/10/24 04:48 AM
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There is absolutely no turning back for me. I told her I was willing to work out any issues as long there was no cheating. THEN I later found out she cheated. It was then I told her, there's no time to waste, let's finish the divorce. No more begging, negotiation, or talking. All bets are off now. Gents, for those you can't be weak when it comes to this. There is no turning back once your woman rides another guy.
/r/Divorce_Men21/10/24 04:40 AM
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I wish it was that simple. A lot of other issues can cause not wanting to date your wife.
/r/Divorce_Men15/10/24 05:40 AM
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How the hell do you think she end up of having feelings for the co-worker? There’s a lot you don’t know. Wake up.
/r/Divorce_Men15/10/24 05:36 AM
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Wake up man.
/r/Divorce_Men09/10/24 07:30 AM
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Now, when I get invited to a wedding and see the new couple do the oath thing I literally wanted to laugh. I’m sorry, it’s such a joke and insult to us guys.
/r/Divorce_Men09/10/24 07:28 AM
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I want you to know that I was on the same boat as you thinking the wife didn’t cheat until I finally found the proof on her phone. I’m now a firm believer that when they check out they already have someone lined up.
/r/Divorce_Men09/10/24 07:26 AM
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You’re forgetting the baggage and emotional traumas that comes with older women. You’re less likely get that shit with younger women.
/r/Divorce_Men09/10/24 07:19 AM
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Don't know how long you been married but you could be on the hook for life-time alimony like me. Imagine that, she can cheat on you and still get alimony for life. Talk about the pain for life.
/r/Divorce_Men09/10/24 03:58 AM
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Even to the very end, she wanted me to do this and that. I came to a conclusion that it's BS. She's not happy with herself and no amount of shit I would buy for her (flowers, vacations, handbags) would help. I told her you think our issues will magically go away if I bought a few hundred dollars' worth of flowers that will die in a few days. She refused to admit fault, refused couple's or even self-counseling. It's all my fucking fault. So, I said let's get this divorce moving. Stop wasting time…
/r/Divorce_Men09/10/24 03:36 AM
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What women don't understand are the chaos and damage they do to their husband and family. We literally work ourselves to death to provide and willing to take a bullet for our family. But yet they be so selfish. It's truly disgusting.
/r/Divorce_Men09/10/24 03:28 AM
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Trying to find yourself at 60? That's crazy.
/r/Divorce_Men09/10/24 02:46 AM
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Women don’t do vows. They may say it during the wedding but is forgotten right after. It’s all about “I’m no longer happy”
/r/Divorce_Men08/10/24 07:31 PM
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This over porn watching? You sure it’s not an excuse for other reasons?
/r/Divorce_Men08/10/24 06:18 PM
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Yes, it's like lottery. There's a winner out there, just not you. I'm with you brother.
/r/Divorce_Men06/10/24 08:20 PM
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Wait, modern women actually cared about others nowadays?
/r/Divorce_Men06/10/24 08:15 PM
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I like to group them into the super liberal chicks. Not for me.
/r/Divorce_Men06/10/24 08:15 PM
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Do these women have nose rings too? That’s always a give away for me
/r/Divorce_Men06/10/24 04:51 PM
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You’re at a good place. You got the chance to get your blood flowing again. I think I know what’s going on in your mind. Coming off from a divorce you seeking out for the replacement of the deep emotional bond again and which probably lacked in your prior marriage. If I am way off, I am only speaking from my own feelings right now. She’s definitely broken goods and she’s definitely not one if you want anything remotely close to be a potential. But then again why not just enjoy the opportunity an…
/r/Divorce_Men06/10/24 04:47 PM
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Haha good one. Imagine the fucking nightmare of meeting your ex here.
/r/Divorce_Men06/10/24 07:50 AM
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Me too. One of my biggest complaint for me was the loss of self identify. She basically destroyed it through our marriage.
/r/Divorce_Men06/10/24 07:47 AM
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This post needs to be on single mom subreddits.
/r/Divorce_Men06/10/24 03:34 AM
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I’ve learned only through the divorce the term narcissist abuse and how she messed me up mentally. She filed because I told her no more abuses for me. It’s hurt me so bad that she’s completely stable during the divorce and I’m a nervous wreck and needed therapy. So, the thing I did learn is that I needed to set boundaries against her abuses. It took 26 years to do it but I did it. It will take some time for me to recover.
/r/Divorce_Men06/10/24 03:11 AM
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But the chances are not good.
/r/Divorce_Men05/10/24 06:26 PM
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She’s a narcissistic abuser and you have become trauma bonded to her. You need to reread your words again. She has no respect for you because of your behavior.
/r/Divorce_Men05/10/24 08:10 AM
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Jesus, you can’t take her back. She will just destroy again and again. I know the pain because I’m going through it myself but you can’t take her back.
/r/Divorce_Men05/10/24 07:53 AM
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Clock is ticking. You can’t get back time. That’s all I have to say.
/r/Divorce_Men04/10/24 09:08 AM
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This is perhaps why my narcissistic wife of 26 years filed for divorce. I no longer tolerated her craziness (exposing her?) and surprisingly she called it quits. She literally blame anyone and everyone but herself. I was so messed up mentally that it was until I understood what narcissistic abuse recently that I finally got some closure as to what happened to me. For the longest time I wanted closure from her which is the wrong person to get it from because you will never get it.
/r/Divorce_Men04/10/24 08:55 AM
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The last part about counseling being required would have saved my marriage of 26 years. Imagine that, the amount of heart aches, families, and bank accounts that could have saved.
/r/Divorce_Men01/10/24 08:34 AM
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Classic BPD characteristics. Ask me how I know it so well.
/r/Divorce_Men01/10/24 08:21 AM
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Wow, I thought I had it bad but my good sir, you had it worse than me. My wife once came after with a knife, got her arrested, spent $5k bailing her out and she her words was “I just wanted to scare you only.” Let’s just say I’ve seen enough murder movies and I know the difference between scaring you and I’m going kill you type of rage. 26 years in and the torture is about to be over.
/r/Divorce_Men01/10/24 08:15 AM
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It’s not easy. I’m going through it right now and in therapy. It was through the divorce I realized how messed up my mental state. You need more than books, get therapy.
/r/Divorce_Men26/09/24 06:14 AM
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Get this in your head. She has someone already. I was in your boat a few weeks ago. Giving her the benefit of the doubt that she at least has the courtesy to close her legs until the divorce is over. Then I found out she cheated. What you have is codependency. Not sure if she was abusive but mine was but that often is the reason for codependency. It’s done. Move on.
/r/Divorce_Men26/09/24 03:08 AM
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You could have wrote my situation to the T. Her friends and co-workers are all toxic. And despite my plead and warning she still gone to the wrong path. I would not have felt so bad if I didn’t see it coming. I provided it all only for her to destroy it all. I had been abused throughout the marriage as well. It’s gotten so bad I develop co-dependency for her and has destroyed me mentally. I’m in therapy now trying to undo all the years on damage. I didn’t realize how bad a shape I was in until s…
/r/Divorce_Men18/09/24 10:25 AM
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The way I look at it is just destructive behavior on her side. The guy she's fucking doesn't give a fuck about her. All her friends are toxic. We often talked about this kind of behavior ourselves about her friends. Perhaps, it's just me not able to let go of caring for her. It's perhaps I'm co-dependent and that what's coming out.
/r/Divorce_Men18/09/24 01:58 AM
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Yes, that's exactly what happened. She at point wanted to come back to work on the marriage then last minute changed her mind. Even verbally bragged about not sleeping with anyone until it's over.
/r/Divorce_Men18/09/24 01:54 AM
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That's fucking not human.
/r/Divorce_Men18/09/24 12:20 AM
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Omg, my wife of 26 years filed for divorce and hoarding was one of our contentions. We had 4 fridges and she wanted to another fridge. Same here, she would buy food for the kids won’t eat and always in Costco sizes. Mind you that, the kids are all grown but she still thinks she knows best. We get into fights over frivolous spending and having to deal with all the crap she buys. When the fridges are fully packed and food go bad or they’re forgotten completely. So we go in circles about wasting mo…
/r/Divorce_Men17/09/24 07:47 AM
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Yes, and you can’t take back time. That’s the best brutal part of all. It’s so one sided and can destroy your life in a flash. Truly, there’s really no reason for the state to get involved.
/r/Divorce_Men16/09/24 04:36 AM
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It’s the control. You better treat me “right” or I’ll get you financially. Or to prove to her that you’re willing to lose it all if you truly love her. Take your pick and as your answer is already there with 80% of divorces filed by women.
/r/Divorce_Men16/09/24 04:30 AM
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You only get wiser as you get older.
/r/Divorce_Men16/09/24 04:27 AM
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The vow thing is only as good as how she feels.
/r/Divorce_Men14/09/24 07:44 PM
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Hope she won’t change. It appears you got her at time that she hasn’t been brainwashed with the western culture disease yet.
/r/Divorce_Men10/09/24 07:20 AM
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Exactly with my STBX. Never had parents say she’s making a big mistake with the divorce.
/r/Divorce_Men05/09/24 04:12 AM
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I'm sure some friend or relative put a bug in her ear about alimony or something. Her bitter divorced friend.
/r/Divorce_Men05/09/24 03:20 AM
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"My money is my money. Your money is my money." Don't ever forget this. Even if you and your wife make the same amount, she expects YOU to provide everything. Think of what you're doing now is preventive measure of a fatal disease that you know you're going to have. With that, you still don't want to do the right thing? Including myself, many here wish we can turn back the clock. So, the stats are not in your favor. This is coming from a guy that was so into doing the noble thing being the sole …
/r/Divorce_Men05/09/24 03:10 AM
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I’m in CA and I’ll be paying alimony for the rest of her life because we had a long marriage. And all it took was “I’m no longer happy” and now she’s in total control of my life. You think about this.
/r/Divorce_Men04/09/24 05:04 PM
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Women like the wedding not the marriage. If we men did the same shit they do with the “I’m not happy” nonsense, marriages would not last a month. You expected to read their mind and she’s always right. Add the woke shit, there you have it. Mine always threatened me with divorce anytime we get into an argument. Then one day she actually filed. Go do it girl! You go! As others have said, she did me a favor.
/r/Divorce_Men02/09/24 05:10 AM
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Same story here. Mine was 26 years long and about to end. I tolerated physical abuse, verbal abuse, belittling when she felt like it. I asked myself why and how I could have tolerated this so many years. For me, it was keeping the family together and the kids. Now the kids are grown, something strange happened. I stopped putting up with her shit and something even more strange happened. She filed for divorce! Holy shit.
/r/Divorce_Men31/08/24 02:23 AM
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Same here brother. Going through depression myself and got worse for me as we got closer to divorce. Hang in there. It's tough and it's a roller coaster ride.
/r/Divorce_Men31/08/24 02:15 AM
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Wait, you got the “I’m no longer happy” thing too? Does your wife know my wife? Welcome to the board.
/r/Divorce_Men31/08/24 01:38 AM
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Very good analogy, thanks
/r/Divorce_Men30/08/24 04:22 PM
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That’s exactly what happened. The more I talk to her the more I say to my felt, this is a monster I'm talking to not even a human being.
/r/Divorce_Men30/08/24 04:17 PM
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So, you don’t feel alone. 52M, married for 26 years and been physically, emotionally, and verbally abused for many of those years. She initiated the divorce last year. Yes, she did. And it’s because she’s no longer happy because I stop putting up with her shit. What’s weird is that, I know deep down divorce is actually the best thing for me but having struggles with letting go of the marriage. I tolerated so much for the sake of keeping the marriage and family together at the sacrifice of my hap…
/r/Divorce_Men30/08/24 04:28 AM
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But the hot sex…(speaking from my early 20’s brain)
/r/Divorce_Men26/07/24 06:47 AM
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Listen to this guy. He’s right on. Mine had BPD and postpartum after our 2nd child. 26 years later we finally in the process of divorcing. Time flies. Edit; get help by all means , try to fix it, but just don’t let it linger all the years like I did. And oh, if you guys fight all lot staying for the kids is not the answer. My own kids are grown now and they hated us for staying to together they suffered a lot during the process.
/r/Divorce_Men30/05/24 05:39 AM
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It's an interesting question it's something I'm pondering while I'm going through mine. I'm very torn because for me marriage is very sacred to me and give it to the very best end to try work it out with my STBX. I guess everyone is in a different situation but there's two things that kills it for me. 1) cheating 2) divorce 3) Accountability. On #3, it's what I got me in trouble the first place because I didn't hold her accountability through the marriage.
/r/Divorce_Men27/05/24 01:06 AM
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Wow, sorry to hear that. Do you feel she done this just for the green card or was there other issues. The timing is very suspicious.
/r/Divorce_Men26/05/24 01:51 AM
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I’m in the exact situation right now and in CA as well. Sole provider, she makes little to no income. She filed with a lawyer for un-uncontested divorce and I decided not to get represented since I see it as pointless. I almost felt that it would make the situation worse by flaming the fire, sort of speak. Also her demands were actually reasonable because she didn’t go for 50/50 including not wanting the house. Mind you that in my situation I would have had to pay both side of the lawyers due to…
/r/Divorce_Men21/05/24 05:26 AM
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Put this in your mind: you’re not helping her but it’s prolong her issues. It’s time her to be accountable for her actions. That’s the only way for her to change.
/r/Divorce_Men28/04/24 05:17 PM
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Jesus, why did marry her the first place? You need to leave for the sake of the kids.
/r/Divorce_Men27/04/24 05:05 AM
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Respect, you know yourself best.
/r/Divorce_Men24/04/24 02:03 AM
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Mine was for 26 years. I’m with you and you’re not alone. DM me as well. You will be OK!
/r/Divorce_Men21/04/24 03:18 AM
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I think this is a troll post. Fake.
/r/Divorce_Men20/04/24 03:20 AM
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Same here. My adult son went to live with mom during separation and alienated me. I come to the realization that it’s ok. I’ve done my job as a dad. He’s an adult now. If he comes around, great if not it is what it is. Just like the wife divorces me, I’ve learned to accept things that I can’t change and stop trying to please others. From hereon, it's about me now. I have given so much that I have lost myself during the marriage. It was all about providing to the family. We men forget who we, los…
/r/Divorce_Men19/04/24 05:50 AM
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I’m there with you and now I’m a lot wiser. We men don’t generally change a whole lot during our marriage. We’re all in from day one. We men must hold women accountable. Too many times, we don’t because we wanted peace and just give in. Times are different now and we men need to learn to adopt to this craziness.
/r/Divorce_Men17/04/24 05:11 AM
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Why do we all have the same stories here?
/r/Divorce_Men12/04/24 07:01 AM
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I’m surprised your comment hasn’t gotten way more upvotes. Nicely said.
/r/Divorce_Men09/04/24 08:45 AM
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You’re disappointed because you don’t give up a marriage so easily. The betrayal and disappointment will play with your ahead for a while. Just know that you’re not alone in this. We all went through it. It’s tough, I know…
/r/Divorce_Men09/04/24 08:32 AM
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What I learned with my separation is that begging has the opposite effect. She won’t respect you and if your goal is to convince her to stay it won’t work. With time I’ve learned to let go and that’s truly the way to do it. You need to put your confidence back into play and more it’s more attractive to her than begging. So if you want to go for the long shot, don’t beg! Edit: with mine, I told her that if the divorce brings you happiness, let’s do it. Make sure you know what you’re doing because…
/r/Divorce_Men09/04/24 08:22 AM
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This is why I want to just “get away”. Meaning this is why I want to leave this country that has been so tainted by this disgusting sickness. I mean the list goes on and on. Everything seems to be upside down and as if it being force on me. There are things that are so ingrained in you that you can’t go along that you know just not right. After 26 of marriage (read: really fucking hard work), I felt like it’s all a wash. This can’t be it for me, right? On top of it all, our current environment a…
/r/Divorce_Men09/04/24 08:08 AM
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This is just make all more depressing when it’s time for me to get back to the dating marketplace. I really want the traditional roles of a relationship. It really brings the best of out of me because I’m just a strong provider type of guy. The problem is all this has been destroyed now.
/r/Divorce_Men09/04/24 08:06 AM
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Yeah, I get the not doing a lone part. But there’s something doing alone that you can get only get when alone. That is peace and freedom on your schedule.
/r/Divorce_Men09/04/24 08:00 AM
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Welcome to every day life of a typical marriage and dealing with a women’s emotion. The home wrecking continues.
/r/Divorce_Men08/04/24 05:33 AM
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I have to come to discover women are in the for the wedding and not the marriage.
/r/Divorce_Men07/04/24 04:53 AM
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It’s hard for me because despite having been abused through the course of the marriage it seems so easy for her to walk away but it’s hard for me to let it go (at times). It’s burns me inside to have the roller coaster emotional ride. She’s never really gave me the emotional intimacy I crave for so much. The betrayal, the disappointments, and anger all circling and have yet to go away. So much time has been lost and I’m scared to start over again but now forced to. I found out she was horrible p…
/r/Divorce_Men02/04/24 01:32 AM
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Exactly. They seemed to be entitled when it comes to girls' night out.
/r/Divorce_Men29/03/24 09:49 PM
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Too many men refused to come out for boys’ night out because of their wife’s disapproval. I was once that guy. In hindsight, it’s really a healthy thing to do.
/r/Divorce_Men29/03/24 06:28 AM
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Odds are not goods. Same here.
/r/Divorce_Men28/03/24 07:10 AM
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Exactly what’s happening today. It’s not everyday you get a divorce so I’m trying to understand why things comes to be.
/r/Divorce_Men28/03/24 04:42 AM
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What a sad story. Sometimes I feel feminism and society media really get to women’s head and may have contributed to your wife’s issues.
/r/Divorce_Men27/03/24 05:40 AM
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Married a pizza delivery guy? Was she on drugs and not thinking straight?
/r/Divorce_Men27/03/24 05:35 AM
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It’s really tough whether it’s better for kids or not. I guess it depends on their age during the divorce. But then again the toxic environment as I’ve learn does have an effect on kids.
/r/Divorce_Men27/03/24 05:25 AM
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This is exactly my situation as well. Great husband and provider but yet killed it all.
/r/Divorce_Men27/03/24 12:34 AM
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It's so sad when I hear no one wins in a divorce. Why would any woman start these divorces despite knowing it may not turn out good. That's something I will never understand from a man's perspective.
/r/Divorce_Men27/03/24 12:27 AM
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Sounds like that's where I'm headed.
/r/Divorce_Men27/03/24 12:24 AM
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OMG, what you wrote is identical to my situation. My oldest needs therapy and has depression. And he blamed it on our marriage growing up. And honestly, the divorce add more fuel to the fire for his issues. And oh, my STBXW also doesn't a long with their own parents. Wow, your situation is just like mine.
/r/Divorce_Men27/03/24 12:22 AM
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And we men get blamed for not communicating? Are we supposed to be mind readers?
/r/Divorce_Men25/03/24 09:16 PM
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Welcome.
/r/Divorce_Men25/03/24 07:21 AM
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Thanks for this. I’m actually interested in the behavioral aspect because in a way it gives me closure.
/r/Divorce_Men25/03/24 06:34 AM
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After what I have gone, it’s exactly what I tell others that have to deal with a BPD. It’s absolutely the most pain experience I have ever dealt with. Especially hard when kids are involved and it’s a shackle for torture.
/r/Divorce_Men25/03/24 06:27 AM
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I told her during one of our heated arguments that all I felt like I did and only good at was to give and please others. No one gave a fuck about me, my feeling, and happiness.
/r/Divorce_Men25/03/24 06:24 AM
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Even this day my wife has not recognized her issues. This is the part of separation that has disappointed.me. You would think this would allow each side to think it over and recognize their own part in this.
/r/Divorce_Men25/03/24 06:20 AM
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Just know when you pay for her wedding you are building her up to destroy the guy the guy she’s marrying. I’m sorry I know that sounds bad but that’s just the truth.
/r/Divorce_Men23/03/24 06:20 AM
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Omg, I need to add that to mine! Thanks for the great idea.
/r/Divorce_Men23/03/24 06:16 AM
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What was the reason for separation/divorce?
/r/Divorce_Men21/03/24 10:39 PM
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Ain’t that truth. Nowadays, if she’s just average she wants it all. If she’s decent looking watch out and be ready for nightmare of a marriage and get ready to pay some bills down the road.
/r/Divorce_Men21/03/24 04:52 AM
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I think you might have e picked up the battered husband syndrome like me. You could not stop worrying about her. I have the same issue but our separation is starting to help. Just keep busy in life and you will do the same. Stay active and go out with friends. And remember it’s not helping her in the long run.
/r/Divorce_Men21/03/24 04:34 AM
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What you’re going through is normal. At times you will lose your self identity. Concentrate on rebuilding yourself and all those bad feelings will pass. Think how lucky you are to be with your kids.
/r/Divorce_Men21/03/24 04:27 AM
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She’s testing you if she can respect you.
/r/Divorce_Men21/03/24 04:25 AM
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That exactly was me. She was hot and the sex was great and that trump all the red sirens coming out of her. It's easy to reflect on this now when you're older and wiser. I met her young and my hormones in full action. But if I could do it again, I would have stayed away. It's not worth it. I hope the younger guys are reading this and do the right thing!
/r/Divorce_Men21/03/24 12:29 AM
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Seriously, what is causing this? Is the water, the food, the feminism or menopause? This is happening way too often from the feedbacks here.
/r/Divorce_Men21/03/24 12:21 AM
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Some women can be very manipulative. It's predator finding their prey. Watch out.
/r/Divorce_Men21/03/24 12:19 AM
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Despite I was the one trying to salvage the marriage I'm do feel it's a blessing in disguise. I'm not going to rock the boat now and let it finish. I know one thing for sure though, if I had been the one filing the divorce, I think it would have been a lot uglier than what I'm going through now.
/r/Divorce_Men21/03/24 12:15 AM
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I’m destroyed beyond what I can put on words. There so much of the abuse I haven’t shared. It really takes someone who’s been through it to truly understand. I’ve cried alone over the years, developed depression because of her, and always asked by myself how she could she treat me this way?? The belittling, the rages, the abuses. It killed me because I had no one to share this with but I had to stay strong for my boys. They were all affected by her and it all came out recently from kids. How can…
/r/Divorce_Men20/03/24 10:44 PM
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She always found ways to punish me if I don’t go her way. During our separation I told I will not apologize. I laid out her issues and I was more than willing to work on mine that’s perceived by her. She refused therapy and says she has absolutely no issues. She always behaved this way during our marriage but no more for me. She would have these rages every so often. It’s like she became pure evil. The only thing I can describe it is bi-polar.
/r/Divorce_Men20/03/24 10:38 PM
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That’s what feminism has taught our women. But unfortunately, there always a sucker out there.
/r/Divorce_Men20/03/24 08:05 PM
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We men cared too much about our wives. I’m guiltyof this, see my thy thread that I posted here. I had a hard time myself as well. You need to let her fall and move on. You’re actually not helping with her behavior if you continue to carry her along.
/r/Divorce_Men20/03/24 08:03 PM
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Yes, it’s truly interesting. As much as I don’t want the divorce, I feel relieved that it’s coming to an end. I have not felt this peaceful for a long time. I now just need to ride the financial hits. Even to this day I still care for her wellbeing but now I want mine for once and willingly come away from it. It's truly my mental shackle for the longest time for the sake of the kids. In any case, there’s no turning back once this is done and I look forward to it. It's actually quite liberating.
/r/Divorce_Men20/03/24 07:44 PM
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Whether it’s diagnosed or not, the abuses don’t lie. I’ve been through so much that I should be certified in mental health. One thing for sure though, you can’t help those that can’t themselves including our wives.
/r/Divorce_Men20/03/24 07:38 PM
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Everyone close to her thinks peri-menopause could be part of it and I asked to her to seek help but she insisted she’s got no problem there. It’s very frustrating. I warned her she will regret the decision. The crazy part was that even her lawyer asked her to really think it over on the divorce but it’s like she’s in a mission and no one can stop her. Speaking of Hannah Peral Davis, I am a fan and wish I could have married somebody like her. Feminism has destroyed marriages and ruined all the go…
/r/Divorce_Men20/03/24 06:16 PM
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It's crazy how our similar our experience is. Everything you mentioned is I what had gone through. You know for me (probably for most men) we go all in in marriages. That's where it hurts the most.
/r/Divorce_Men20/03/24 04:42 AM
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Wow, I feel for you particularly the police arrest part because I had those encounters myself. I had to call the cops when she tried to stab me with a knife. But still I paid to bail her out and never gave up on her. All those experiences had taken a toll on me which caused me to develop depression which I'm still on meds today. Watch out for your mental health and be sure to take care of yourself. I've become an unwilling expert in this field due to my experiences.
/r/Divorce_Men20/03/24 04:17 AM
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Yes, it will take time. At the moment I'm totally lost. I don't even know who I am at times. But I do look forward to meeting new friends, places, and life on my own terms. I totally forgot what happiness is.
/r/Divorce_Men20/03/24 04:14 AM
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Thanks Brother. I used to frown on guys that walk off marriages but after what I've been through, I'm now preaching them to quit early. The signs are out there. I saw them during mine, but I was young and think I can fix it all. Wish I can go back in time.
/r/Divorce_Men20/03/24 03:04 AM
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