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It sounds like you haven’t actually told most of them that you’re not interested. You’re wasting your own time and theirs. Just tell them that you don’t think that you are compatible. You don’t need to go into a detailed explanation of why, doing so would both be a waste of time and needlessly hurtful. Letting them continue to think that you’re interested isn’t letting them down easy, most people would rather know if you’re not interested.
/r/askFDS15/11/21 01:51 AM
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Statistics about lifespan and general happiness aren’t really about what people wanted in life. Some of the single childless women wanted a family but it didn’t happen for them. Some of the women with a spouse and children probably wish they were single and childless. Regardless, nobody fantasizes about being unhappy or sacrificing their health for a family. I think that it’s great that different women want different things, but the important thing is not being desperate for a certain way of lif…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/08/21 05:21 PM
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I think that this will appeal to a lot of women. The mainstream True Crime community has a tendency to fetishize violence against women under the guise of things like “keeping her memory alive” or “morbid curiosity”. People love to pick apart everything that the victims did “wrong” too, when often their actions reflect the amount of opportunity that they had in life and their background.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/07/21 06:16 PM
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I agree with your sentiment but I also don’t consider the texts that OP received to be get well texts. To me the issue isn’t just that he texted but also that the texts being more for him than for her. He didn’t wish her well once. He wasn’t trying to be supportive or caring, he was trying to get her to give him attention while she was sick. Not all contact is equal and intention matters.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/07/21 05:29 PM
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It seems to be satire, but in the sense of satirizing people because she dislikes them. I thought that it was weird that she threw a pride flag emoji into this video so I looked at her channel and she really does not like gay and bisexual people. It seems like she literally starts with disliking people as a core part of her “humor”, uncaring of if she can actually build a joke around it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/07/21 05:07 PM
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She probably would not have had a 40 year career if she did that. It seems like an easy way to be labeled “problematic” or as someone who causes drama. Pre-smartphones with a clear camera and social media anonymously informing someone would be difficult. Even today if she was the only woman in the group the suspicion is immediately on her. Women should support women, but we shouldn’t put ourselves at risk or sacrifice ourselves for other people.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/07/21 01:10 PM
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A lot of people like the idea of living in a van/RV/tiny-house life in part because it drops lifestyle inflation and helps them see what they genuinely need. Short term van dwelling can be a hard reset on someone’s lifestyle, helping them to appreciate what they have and cut out what they don’t need. There is a huge difference between material things that you don’t actually need or amenities that weren’t really bringing you joy and basics like having access to a shower though.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/07/21 03:49 AM
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Even at 38 full time van dwelling with any quality of life and hygiene would be a struggle unless you’ve been doing it for a decade and have upgraded your van to suit your changing needs. Living in a van is basically full time camping. 38 isn’t old but there is a reason why in most situations where someone would camp full time the people doing it are totally healthy 18-25 year olds, with most of the outliers starting young and just sticking with it. Most people just aren’t cut out to live that w…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/07/21 02:55 AM
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She is playing Nintendo DS(i?). It looks like the idea was she was just sitting there playing and he came up to her. Maybe the date was just going that poorly that she tried to excuse herself to feed her Nintendogs. 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/07/21 07:04 PM
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I feel bad for the kids. Like, it’s one thing for childless people to do the “age is just a number” thing, but it’s a whole different level when someone has children that are the same age as their partner. That is obviously uncomfortable for their children, but they just don’t care.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/21 09:56 PM
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If any of his friends were teen parents they probably have the same age difference with their children that he has with his wife. I feel like when you point that out with extreme age gaps people just use it as an opportunity to shame teen parents.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/21 08:49 PM
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It’s too bad that there is no way for bi and lesbian FDS ladies to connect and date each other. I’ve met lesbians, like out and proud from an early age never fell for comp-het lesbians, who are still desperate for male approval. Same sex dating is already hard to navigate and I feel like finding women with similar values would make it so much less overwhelming for women who are new to dating women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/06/21 12:21 AM
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A lot of plastic surgery needs maintenance as well. I’ve seen a lot of situations where younger or lower income partners are pressured into cosmetic surgery that they definitely can’t afford to maintain if the relationship ends. It’s something that people really need to consider even if they are open to or interested in cosmetic surgery themselves.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/21 02:32 PM
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I don’t think that it’s really specific to men or even about aging well at that point. After a certain age nobody looks good and aging well appearance wise just stops mattering. Taking care of yourself will make aging better, but it doesn’t prevent aging. I did notice that his wife isn’t elderly though. She’s only 56, so in an age group where things like being able to walk distances unaided are still the norm.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/21 04:11 AM
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He is almost 80 years old. Old enough that if you are 40 he could still easily be your grandparent. I am all for calling out people who deny that they are aging, but I also feel like it’s silly to critique the appearance of genuinely elderly people if they aren’t claiming to still be youthful. At 78 alive and not in constant pain is looking good, being able to walk comfortably and unaided is a flex.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/21 03:57 AM
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IMO doing that will lead to wasting time on a lot of men who wouldn’t date you because of your location but who will interact with you for a bit to try to hook up. If you go to events that match your interests in nearby cities it’s a great way to meet people in the area. Other rural people will also be driving in to that event. One thing to remember is that even in rural areas there are more people than you realize, though you don’t cross paths with them. I’ve met people who lived 20 minutes fro…
/r/askFDS02/05/21 12:28 PM
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I think that it’s great that it has helped you and that you’ve found classes that benefit you, but I can totally see why a lot of women would feel this way about pole dancing classes. The focus of the classes seems to vary wildly between studios. One of my good friends does pole dancing at home but decided that she hates classes. She said that the ones that she tried were too focused on sexuality and the idea that even if you don’t feel good about yourself you gain value from others finding you …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/04/21 05:44 AM
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I wouldn’t write off the option completely without speaking to a lawyer. I feel like a lot of times women make their lives harder by following rules to the T instead of acting in their best interests. While a lawyer won’t recommend something illegal, they will tell her what she could do and what the consequences of each option would be. If he doesn’t have any proof of ever living there, no name on the utilities, his moms address on his ID, it might make the most sense for her to do what the pers…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/21 06:41 PM
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If you’re researching how to be attracted to women you may already be attracted to women. 😂 Honestly, some of the “I wish I was gay” comments on this sub make me uncomfortable as a WLW, but I feel like some of these comments could come straight from the journal of a teenage lesbian who hasn’t realized that she is a lesbian yet.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/04/21 05:03 PM
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I agree that people change and that there is always a risk, but from what I’ve seen guys who take care of themselves and want a relationship tend to find one by their 30s. They also tend to stay in them when they are stable as they get older. There will always be people who stop taking care of themselves after a certain age and late bloomers who may not start until later on, but I don’t think that dating a younger (but still age appropriate) guy is more risky than dating an older (but still age …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/21 04:41 PM
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This isn’t how bubbles work. If someone in your household it exposed and they pass it to you, you will pass it to your partner then to his family. You don’t have to meet them directly to pass covid to them. I also think that you’re getting really invested in people that you don’t know. I don’t think that the cookies are inappropriate if you want to send them, but I think that you will be assigning more meaning to that action than you probably should.
/r/askFDS30/03/21 01:05 PM
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He wanted to see if you would still respond. He got his confirmation and went back to whatever else he was doing.
/r/askFDS28/03/21 02:05 PM
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I think that it’s ridiculous that they have to page someone to open the case, but I also understand having them in a case if it’s a store with high theft. When I worked in retail sexual health stuff was stolen often and the section was vandalized at least once a week, but we didn’t have a case so I would imagine that it takes a lot of theft or vandalism to get one installed. One thing to keep in mind is that once they are all stolen women who need to purchase them lose access to them. I know tha…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/21 01:46 PM
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I know a lot of women who don’t consider it harassment anymore because they are so used to it or because they have been gaslit to the point of believing that it’s flattering. Usually they are incredibly dismissive of other women or young girls experiencing the same situations as well. They experience men shouting at them on the street, strangers touching them or saying sexual things to them but just brush it off as normal or as a compliment because they have been experiencing it since they were …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/03/21 05:14 PM
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Him being disappointed instead of happily surprised says a lot. I feel like if he wanted to try to “save” the situation he would have offered to go get the pizza then grabbed flowers, a card, candy, something on the way back. He did not though. You picked up ice cream. You gave him a gift. You picked up pizza. I like heart shaped pizza and a chill Valentine’s Day, but it sounds like you put together the whole thing.
/r/askFDS18/02/21 06:20 PM
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You’re not being mature by ignoring your valid concerns, you’re just shifting blame onto yourself. He had a woman that he is interested in staying at his house, and is most likely hoping that she will change her mind about him. You deserve better than this.
/r/askFDS15/02/21 07:51 PM
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So many guys feel entitled to a younger woman. I’ve also met a lot of guys who are open to a wide age range, but it goes from a decade younger than them to maybe a year or two older than them, so there’s still definitely the implication that he was hoping to find someone much younger but would settle for someone his age out of desperation.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/21 05:20 PM
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The first one is kind of sad too though. Women shouldn’t feel like they have to apologize for shouting or comfort other people while they are in labor. Women are taught to put everyone above themselves in a way that is problematic. The first tweet can happen to a couple where they are both great towards each other and genuinely happy though. I don’t think that it reflects poorly on anyone involved like the second situation does.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/21 06:36 PM
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I think that it’s partially that guys sexualize everything that makes this feel like male gaze. Honestly, for a clothing advertisement it doesn’t focus on their bodies or clothing much. They have exposed skin and tight clothing, but neither are really the main subject of any shot. They could be standing there in hazmat suits and it would still come off as “sexy” just because they are beautiful young women and their existence tends to be sexualized.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/21 05:23 PM
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I would give him a cute card and some kind of treat. Wine, candy, chocolate covered fruits, a dessert that you both enjoy. If he is really into holidays to the point that it’s kind of cheesy, baking or buying heart shaped cookies can be good. There is an expectation that men will give a bigger gift than women, and I don’t think that you should worry too much about what you choose. When a guy genuinely likes you he will be excited over pretty much any gift. I disagree with the people saying not t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/21 10:29 PM
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I briefly worked in a jewelry store, and at least once a week we would get calls from women who were trying to sell their engagement ring to flee their abusive husband. Probably half of the women that I spoke with were brought to the US from abroad to be wed to a stranger, and it mostly seemed to be arranged by their own parents. I always felt bad because a lot of the rings weren’t actually worth much, and it often took weeks to get the money to them. I would talk to them, let them vent, and wis…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/21 04:38 PM
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Him getting her a different type of ring or earrings just seems silly though. She is still doing all of the work and claiming that he did it so that she can feel better about their relationship. If she couldn’t be happy with what he actually offers her then they would be better off considering if the relationship makes sense. It seems like something that could cause resentment from both sides over time. Also, people from multigenerational wealth tend to use “heirloom” diamonds, regardless of the…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/21 04:20 PM
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What you’re describing is what guys usually consider friendship, and it’s not really what people go to online dating for. Casual in online dating typically means something sexual or physically romantic without a relationship. I know a lot of women who are interested in something similar to what you are, but online dating isn’t really the place to find men who are interested in that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/21 11:47 PM
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I saw a gay bar that has “ladies night” and “bears night” scheduled for the same evening. 🙃 Something tells me that ladies night had the same turnout as pretty much any other night, where it was almost completely men with a few female friends sprinkled in to groups.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/21 10:21 PM
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IMO couples therapy can help a couple who is already good relationship to navigate a difficult situation, but it can’t “fix” a person or relationship. I find it kind of sad that the idea of couples therapy to save an unhappy relationship is so normalized. Seeking couples therapy to navigate a traumatic situation (injuries, loss of a child, etc) is still seen as taboo still, but therapy to hold an unhappy relationship together is almost expected nowadays.
/r/askFDS01/02/21 04:34 PM
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Starting later doesn’t necessarily avoid the hardships and traumatic experiences that come with dating though. I don’t think that women should prioritize dating at any age, but I think that there are positives and negatives to starting to date at any age. There is never a good age to be in an unhappy or abusive relationship.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/21 06:47 PM
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I think that different posts attract different demographics. IMO there tends to be a theme among the top posts of the day too which also makes it feel like there is a huge majority from one age group or cultural background. Some posts make it seem like this sub is all teenagers and very confident women over 35. Some posts make it seem like this sub is all 20 something Asian women with very conservative parents. Some posts make it seem like everyone here is divorced. I think that it’s mainly that…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/21 06:02 PM
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A lot of the women who do this kind of work are doing so because they can’t find other jobs or because other jobs available to them won’t pay their bills. It’s not like they are applying because they love the values of the restaurant or are passionate about serving creepy old men. If they were offered a position at a different type of restaurant with the same wages+tips almost all of them would happily change jobs. A different type of restaurant would mean less sexual harassment, but would still…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/21 04:47 PM
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It’s sad that she ends with being unsure if she is “wrong” for feeling that way. I understand that asking that is basically the point of that sub, but a lot of women seem worried that they are being bad or wrong for having feelings and opinions. I feel bad for her and their child. They both deserve better than this, and she should be confident about that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/11/20 01:29 PM
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The nesting doll and Britney Spears perfume make me think it’s more likely that these are his moms things and not a girlfriend. Still a weird and telling choice for a photo though.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/11/20 03:48 AM
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Yeah! I think that he is on the right track and it’s great that you’re offering some guidance. There is so much difference in maturity and tastes at that age, then they also don’t like the same things that an 18 year old would or adult would. I think that applying the values from FDS make sense, but keeping all of the rules on what a proper date is would probably be boring for some kids.
/r/askFDS18/11/20 04:57 AM
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You should still vote. There are people who will make the lives of women better or worse even if we don’t support them completely. When nobody with a chance at winning is acceptable voting for a third party or a write in candidate still puts your voice out there, and more importantly is what leads to that person/party growing. I agree that there is no party that makes us a priority, but making ourselves even easier to ignore isn’t the solution.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/11/20 12:21 AM
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I think that you should talk to him to be sure if he still thinks that the place that you suggested is too much for their age knowing that you will make sure that he can afford it, and if he does you should respect that. It’s really easy for adults to pressure kids into dates that the adults find cute, but that aren’t really the most fun for kids or suited to their personalities. IMO the most important thing to emphasize is that he should be thoughtful, considerate, and want to make a good impre…
/r/askFDS17/11/20 10:02 PM
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I think it depends on why someone would connect with you, and the type of content that is being posted. I don’t think that it’s out of the norm to connect with someone who went to the same college/major as you even though you did not have classes together. Connecting with peers of your peers who you may not have had a chance to meet is also typical, as well as connecting with people who are relevant to your industry. That said, if you manage a retail store in Chicago, and and a web developer in …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/11/20 07:49 PM
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In places where these kinds of offers come up the need likely exceeds the amount of space that shelters have. Figuring out resources is probably also difficult, especially while stressed with the situation that is leading to them becoming homeless in the first place. A lot of women probably think that this kind of arrangement is a better option to get back on their feet or to keep them from a worse situation, and some might get lucky and have the situation turn out better than staying in a shelt…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/11/20 01:55 AM
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A lot of times it comes down to cultural and lifestyle differences. I’ve noticed that some cultures consider long term friendships the norm and allow people to treat those friendships as important. Other cultures definitely see work/biological family/romantic relationships as the priority with friendships being seen as temporary or less necessary. I’ve always felt like I’ve had trouble making female friends as an adult, but after meeting a good friend from a different culture that supports femal…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/11/20 01:59 PM
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Leveling up doesn’t mean the same thing to everyone. I’m sure that some ladies here would consider having the mouth of a sailor and being able to say whatever they want whenever they want a goal. I do think that there are a lot of memes, social media screenshots, and quotes lately. I think that they do well here because they convey FDS values in a very mainstream way and are very shareable to friends outside of the community. IMO we are reaching a point where we could totally have an FDSmeme pag…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/10/20 03:29 PM
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IMO it’s best to unfollow anyone who gets into posting that type of content and oversharing. At least to me it gets kind of depressing, and curating more aggressively helps to keep your social media timelines a happy place. There are a lot of young women who post a lot of selfies or suggestive photos in an attempt at growing their following. I think that a lot of them get caught up in seeing their stats rising and don’t really consider that it may not actually be supporting their goals. That Jim…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/10/20 03:05 PM
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I agree that we need to be aware of the risks of social media and take precautions, but I also feel like sometimes this sub is anti-social media in a way that doesn’t benefit women. We need to balance the opportunity to use social media to our advantage, while also doing our best to minimize the risks. For some ladies having public social media pages in general simply doesn’t make sense, but for others it’s an opportunity to share their skills and talents. I feel like there is a lot of pressure …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/10/20 12:21 AM
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I like that the author makes the guys in union trades all sound like trash. There are decent men in trades, but you shouldn’t have to teach him to pull up his pants or provide him with soap. All of the trades mentioned tend to be stable careers with wages that can support a family and benefits
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/10/20 03:34 AM
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There have always been a lot of posts about guys paying for everything and ladies with differing opinions on the extent that guys should fund the relationship. I think that the big difference is women who want a man to pay for most things versus women who genuinely depend on a man to pay for the things that they want and need. FDS preaches not NEEDING a man. Being able to support yourself so that you can leave if you need to.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/10/20 12:28 AM
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When the male lion can no longer protect his pride another male lion comes in to replace him and massacres the cubs. The females do not stand by their man and typically just let it happen. Maybe guys who compare themselves to wolves and lions think that this still works for them because it means mean that women would abandon their families for him? 🤦‍♀️😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/20 03:07 PM
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I only applied once. I didn’t receive an email update for a long time after applying, then have received a few emails weeks apart.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/20 02:43 AM
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I took this post as being about people who barely know each other going on trips in his van like 45 minutes after meeting because he basically just wants a beautiful woman as a prop in his Instagram photos. First date, meet up at a bar, second date “let me take you into the mountains this weekend” types of guys. I don’t think that there is anything wrong with people wanting to be an adventurous couple and living how you want to, but being the third girl that he has traveled with in the last 4 mo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/10/20 03:39 PM
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I applied 60+ days ago,received an approval (but did not sign up right away), then received an email stating that my account couldn’t be verified. I’ve received the email that my account could not be verified a few times now with the most recent being a bit before 1AM this morning. I just wanted to mention it since the post says that the data was supposed to be purged for security purposes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/10/20 02:10 PM
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The “love don’t judge” Snapchat stories all seem like they are trying to normalize unhealthy and often just straight up sad relationships. I feel like their audience is mostly children and teens, and they know that. I also feel like there is some sexism to make it more palatable to most viewers. I can’t recall ever seeing a gay male couple, or an age gap couple with the male being the younger one. They feature a lot of “alternative” couples, like lesbians with a 45+ year age gap, women who prete…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/10/20 02:57 PM
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I’m not the person that you asked, but Snapchat was popular for marketing and small businesses a few years ago. It still is to some extent, though not on the level of the custom filter filled craziness that was going on a while back. I’ve never had a personal TikTok account, or TikTok on a personal device, but for a few months last year I was uploading TikTok videos at work as part of our marketing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/10/20 06:33 AM
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If someone is in their 20s and has Snapchat they are probably using it to keep up with friends from high school and college. I’m in my mid 20s and type of content that my friends post have changed over the years but a lot of people still actively share stories. People use it as a more private social media than Facebook stories. People who were too old to be into Snapchat when it was at its peak are a red flag IMO. In my experience they usually use it to either follow a lot of much younger people…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/10/20 06:24 AM
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It’s normal food for a kid, but foodies typically make creative or visually interesting meals for their kids too if they are going to post about it. There are active social media communities dedicated to making cute lunches for kids from kid friendly foods. I wasn’t saying that it’s weird for a kid to eat those things and some kids are super picky, just pointing out the difference in the posts is weird if it’s her hobby.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/09/20 08:43 PM
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The kid is literally getting pizza toppings on a slice of toast and some apple slices. I feel like if it’s her hobby there is something weird about making nice meals for her husband then giving her kid that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/09/20 02:43 PM
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For some reason her being a nurse is not surprising at all. I feel like so many beautiful, educated, young women in nursing are hooked on garbage relationships and MLM makeup.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/09/20 02:35 PM
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The problem is that when females gather it attracts the worst of the males, hoping that females in great numbers give him a better chance to attract a mate. The males will attempt to join the pack offering protection and screeching “I’m not like other men” as his mating call. The females are not impressed, but that will not discourage this male. He continues pursuing until dawn, at which point he returns to his mothers nest for rest and nourishment.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/20 09:39 PM
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I agree with you on IPhones and the constant unlimited access. I think that computer literacy is important from school age nowadays, but I feel like tablets don’t contribute much to that either. About a decade ago I had an acquaintance who took up computer programming as a hobby and made his daughter a private social network style site that only her friends from school could join (with their parents permission). I feel like that kind of situation could go wrong too if made by the wrong person, b…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/20 08:44 PM
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You know that he considers the literal children that he preys on “gold diggers”...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/09/20 04:00 PM
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Music and hospitality are both pretty competitive. Depending on the region and venues it doesn’t surprise me that most people building a career would have a relevant graduate degree. In a lot of fields the degree is basically just an invite into the club and not something that is realistically necessary. The weirdest example of things that require a graduate degree that probably shouldn’t is showing your art. If you make an incredible piece of art but a lot of galleries will not consider you if …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/09/20 03:40 PM
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Women in sales are basically trained to flirt to get men to buy things. I don’t think that she would hook up with them though just because after a couple of weeks of that even if the most handsome man in the world came in you would not notice.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/20 01:31 AM
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It’s almost October! The time when the veil between our world and the world of spirits is at its thinnest. 🧟‍♂️💌📲☠️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/20 01:23 AM
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He is asking because he is hoping that it’s someone’s fetish, not because he is worried about racism. Most men mention race because it’s a fetish to them, or because they hope it is to you. I’m mixed and ambiguous, and I tend to mention it before actually going on a date, but doing so in the first message is literally just fishing for someone who is into it. You would be surprised how many men and women are into it because “You’re different but not too different”.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/20 01:05 AM
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I’m so happy for her! I feel women who are senior citizens sometimes settle because they feel like they have to remarry and not necessarily because they want to. A lot of men want to remarry for a caretaker, not companionship. From what I’ve seen, a lot of the time the women are basically treated like a house elf until she loses her independence because she can no longer single-handedly care for both of them. You would think that two people means almost half as much work, but in reality it often…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/20 12:53 AM
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I’ve read the handbook and I know that it supports women waiting, but the ladies in some of the the comments sections on this sub sometimes act like waiting longer then the minimum 3 months is unrealistic or unpleasant. A lot of times I’ve seen women who mention that they are waiting longer or waiting until marriage downvoted in advice threads. Nobody here is advocating having sex on a third date, but there is still a LOT of variation between what different ladies here find acceptable and desira…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/20 12:08 AM
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Some women are fine with forgoing sex for longer than 3 months, and even 6 months is kind of soon. I don’t know if that’s her situation, but I feel like women who do wait longer or wait until marriage still catch a lot of flack on this sub. I do hope that she’s considering what benefits her and that she is someone who is fine with waiting longer. I do agree that people who want sex while dating should take precautions, but I also think that a woman just forgoing sex until it makes sense for her …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/20 11:11 PM
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I took “if I had the ultimatum of condoms or nothing I’d rather just not bother” to mean that she wasn’t having sex with guys that she’s dating. Like, she’s just not bothering. I hope I’m not being too optimistic.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/20 10:50 PM
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It reminds me of the post joking about how straight women should unionize. These ladies are actually doing it! Good for them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/20 07:25 PM
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Decriminalization helps sex workers, but legalization comes with new issues. Even some sex workers are against full legalization because it can increase trafficking and will lower their income. The amount of people willing to be sex workers does not keep up with demand in areas that have legal prostitution, which is where increased trafficking comes in. A lot of people are cheap and want cheaper services, so many sex workers would have to lower their fees to compete. Decriminalization is just th…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/20 05:39 PM
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I think that her relationship with her kids friend seems weird and possibly predatory, but I haven’t seen anyone actually mention that as the problem. It’s always that she cheated on precious Will Smith and how could she do that to the fresh prince. Honestly, the whole situation just seems weird from the start to me. I don’t think at all that the young man is too old to be Jadens friend or to work with him, but it is kind of weird that someone 5 years older would want to hang out constantly with…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/20 04:05 PM
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You know, it’s rude to be browsing Reddit while you’re on a date!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/09/20 06:35 PM
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I don’t think that the Ipsy packet had been opened when he took the photo. Maybe she cut it from the bottom with scissors, but the top is still sealed. I think he grabbed it from her mailbox to take the photo.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/20 05:45 AM
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I saw this posted on another sub and knew it would end up here. I saw a few FDS style comments, then TONS of replies about how this is an amazing date and that women should be willing to go to a guys house on a first date. Like, there were more angry comments than “wholesome” comments even though this is supposedly wholesome and cute. One thing that really bothered me from the comments were that some people directly explained why most women don’t feel comfortable going to a mans house on a first…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/20 04:38 AM
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Usually guys like this go out regularly with their friends and family, likely never being the one that plans things there either. Not that there is anything wrong with having a healthy social life and spending time with friends and family, but there is definitely an appeal for people who are used to being lazy and never taking the lead.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/20 12:58 AM
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In the US it’s not the law as far as I know, but it’s a political thing just like everything else. Some businesses ask you if you have felt sick before allowing you to enter and would ask you to leave if you seemed sick while other businesses would not mind at all and may not require someone who is visibly sick to wear a mask while indoors. It all just depends on the place and what the owners believe is appropriate.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/09/20 03:21 PM
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I feel like a lot of these comments are great advice for situations when someone approaches you while you’re walking around, but it gets harder when you’re inside of a venue. Having to leave to get away isn’t fair to you and you shouldn’t have to sacrifice your night for a creep. When I’m in the situation where anyone is talking to me that I don’t want to talk to I just say “No, thank you” and do not engage further. If he keeps talking just say “no, thank you” again. I think that tone is importa…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/09/20 01:52 PM
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The letter covers basically every lie that women here are sick of in the parts that are still readable. I’m glad that you are moving on and you definitely found the right community. Glad that you weren’t pressured into “communicating” your life away with someone who doesn’t make you happy! May we all live our best lives!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/09/20 01:11 PM
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Hey! They don’t completely gloss over it!!!! Sometimes they fetishize it. If they are super duper into women’s empowerment they might even give a woman a speaking role where being a victim of sexual violence is either her whole character or a one off side story with no lasting trauma.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/09/20 09:30 PM
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If you’re ever in that situation again use your phone to get directions to the nearest police station. You can also call and let them know that someone is following you. I’m sure that in some areas they won’t do anything for that but in some places they will see if an officer is nearby and can meet you. I know that it can seem silly, but it’s genuinely not worth potentially being attacked and having to try to use a flash light to fight for your life because someone is mentally ill. People have g…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/09/20 07:12 PM
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Men would do the things that you’re mentioning regardless of what women are doing. I don’t think that there is any issue with women looking however she wants for herself, men will sexualize her regardless of what she looks like, but IMO there is a weird dynamic that comes from women who promote physical modification to please men. I’ve had so many guys try to use “bUt sOMe woMEn liKe IT” to try to push physical modifications or fetishes on me. I’ve had guys suggest that I bleach my hair and wear…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/09/20 09:13 PM
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He claims to be that way with all of his friends and family. I almost died when he said “I made a promise to myself and I can’t break that” like he was doing something heroic by openly saying that he doesn’t do things that show that he cares about his friends and family. I understand not being overly generous if the friends and family are financially irresponsible, but I can’t imagine taking pride in doing nothing for the people that you claim to care about. If they have children is he going to …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/09/20 08:25 PM
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I’ve only used OLD a little, but I’ve used it in small towns and in big cities. It’s definitely better in small towns. There are fewer options, but in my experience the options are actually more diverse than in higher population areas where you’re swiping through hundreds of remarkably similar guys. I also think that the cultural difference is huge. Cities tend to have a lot of people who are on dating apps as a hobby itself. They aren’t looking for companionship and are there for the initial in…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/09/20 07:37 PM
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If other women try to neg you I suggest keeping that confidence and saying things that uplift the group. Either your confidence rubs off or they get super bothered for reasons that obviously don’t make sense. People who hate you for that were looking for a reason to hate you. For example if a woman says “Oh, you think you’re so pretty, huh?”, be like “Yes I do. Don’t you think that you’re pretty? We are both absolutely beautiful women and we need to stop letting people make us doubt that”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/09/20 04:22 PM
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A lot of them haven’t actually been on dates where a guy puts an effort in and it feels like an actual date and not like hanging out with a friend. I say this as someone who mainly went on super causal dates in college. It always felt more like hanging out with a friend and had a different tone than seeing a guy who wants it to be clear that it is a date. I didn’t realize that until fairly recently when a guy put a lot of effort into making sure that it was clear that we were going on dates. Eve…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/09/20 02:39 AM
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Honey, if your best friend is a Mormon you have to learn to ignore or be happy for people who choose to follow Mormon culture. I would be concerned if something seemed manipulative or off, but young Mormons typically have a short courtship. I would assume that the house was purchased because they plan to get married soon and probably start having kids. The most you can do is make sure that she is happy and be supportive. You can encourage her to still have expectations of her spouse and want the…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/09/20 03:35 PM
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This thread is literally about the suggestion that this comic would be better with a caricature of a business woman (because who carries a briefcase nowadays?) instead of being something that all women can relate to. There’s nothing wrong with being a high earner or career focused, and that’s a route that I’m hoping to take in life. To me the issue isn’t having some content focused towards high earning women, or having relevant content that is focused towards any group of women, but a lack of em…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/09/20 05:39 AM
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It depends on where people are in life as well as age IMO. Like, with an 18 year old and a 35 year old they are clearly doing to be in different places. A 21 year old in their final year of college dating an 18 year old who is still in high school is weird. An 18 year old and a 21 year old who have work or classes together is less weird. I remember when I was in college my social circle did look down on people who were in college and still dating high school freshman and sophomores.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/09/20 03:05 PM
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Honestly, I get kind of tired of a lot of FDS being focused on super huge earners and the idea that we will all eventually become one. We should all strive to be our best selves, but we also all come from different levels of opportunity and ability. The women who is a manager at a grocery store deserves just as much dignity and respect in a relationship as the CEO of a major company. Women with a modest income level already tend to fall into the trap of thinking that because of their income leve…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/09/20 01:04 AM
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I think it’s fine as is. Most women, or people in general don’t have high level office jobs. Being in casual clothes and coming from the grocery store is a situation that most can relate to regardless of if they are blue collar or white collar women. This comic seems especially relevant for women in fairly average jobs who are being courted by incredibly average or below average men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/09/20 11:01 PM
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Honestly, I feel like the video is kind of silly and isn’t even a “social experiment” type of video since she basically just tells them that she is a catfish. Of course they are going to unmatch or react poorly with how she phrased her messages and claiming that she was fake instead of saying something like “I’ve gained weight”. The comments are a salty dumpster fire and she is handling those super well, but the video itself doesn’t seem very relevant to FDS.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/09/20 08:50 PM
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I’m going to go a different route than others here and suggest that maybe you don’t feel confident because you don’t feel like it’s true that he feels that your possessions are shared equally between you. This is definitely a situation where it’s easy for someone to say “what’s mine is yours” but actions confirm it. If I were in your shoes I would just think about what he has actually done to confirm that he feels that way. Not what he has said that he is going to do, but his actual past actions…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/09/20 04:00 PM
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I’m not totally sure that I understand. OP found this on Facebook and shared it here because it’s absurd. Honestly, I’ve never seen creepy or sexualized things on Facebook with straight men as the subject.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/09/20 06:30 PM
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It sounds like they have already broken up, but if they hadn’t I would skip step 1 with someone who is manipulative. Calling is just giving him the opportunity to draw her back in. I can understand that it was a long term relationship and wanting to offer more closure, but it puts her leaving at risk since he may manipulate her into staying. A thoughtfully written text message and then blocking him is plenty. She shouldn’t put his feelings above hers or be overly kind to the point that it makes …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/09/20 06:22 PM
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Vodka, boobs, travel. I am open to this. I’m seeing a lot of vodka, boobs ladies in these comments, so let me know if we are getting a girl squad together for that part! 💃💃💃
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/09/20 06:10 PM
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I get what you mean, but I think that a lot of ladies here like this as a space to discuss/make fun of these kinds of images since other communities typically won’t be as critical of them. I kind of wish that we had humor posts and non-dating cringe screenshots under a separate sister subreddit though, because it feels like they have a different tone than other types of posts.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/09/20 05:54 PM
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She found out because the doll was on Amazon and a Facebook friend saw it. The Facebook friend may not have been looking for anything graphic, whether that makes it better or worse. Sex toys and dolls come up if you are looking at collectible or novelty dolls that are aimed at adults (think your grandmas porcelain babies or Bob Mackie Barbies).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/09/20 02:40 PM
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I saw this article. The little girl has a disease, does modeling and pageants. Her mom has a Facebook page where they share health updates, community projects, and her modeling work. I know that ladies here are probably not huge on children modeling or doing pageants, but for children with diseases or disabilities it can be an opportunity to feel empowered and seen. It can also provide other kids with the same condition a role model. The whole situation is disgusting. Not even sick children and …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/09/20 02:38 PM
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I’ve noticed that there are more “cool girls” types of comments! I think that this is one of the only women focused communities on Reddit that isn’t still a majority men, so some women want to participate even if they don’t share the values here on dating or lifestyle. A lot of things here are applicable for any women regardless of if she is actively dating or if she does FDS style dating. The focus on self care, self improvement, and enforcing boundaries is applicable to anyone. The memes about…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/09/20 01:49 PM
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I think that the issue is that some non-FDS or straight up unhealthy things get commented on in a positive way and it becomes normalized here like it is everywhere else. There is usually a “nah, sis” type of comment below anything that definitely isn’t FDS approved, but half of the time it’s downvoted because they used harsh language and comes off as rude. I think it’s fine when people post looking for advice or sharing their own experiences, but when they make comments with “not like other girl…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/09/20 01:33 PM
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There’s a difference between being comfortable around each other and being comfortable in the sense of someone feeling like it’s easier to be in a relationship than to break up even though they aren’t interested. I think that one big thing that makes those situations kind of concerning is that often someone who is too comfortable will feel confident that the relationship will continue regardless of what they do. If they are comfortable and have lost interest there is no risk in pushing boundarie…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/09/20 05:16 AM
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I know a few people similar to what you’re describing and one thing to keep in mind is that these men usually aren’t chasing them out of nowhere, or at least aren’t at first. People like this are always “on” in case they see opportunity in someone. They hit on everyone and see who shows interest, then encourage that interest even if it’s through a morally questionable situation. If you went around seeing every man as someone you can potentially use you would probably have similar “success” to th…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/09/20 12:54 AM
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I’m not the original commenter, but women who won’t have sex until engaged or married would have to drop or alter parts of the list. I personally wouldn’t meet his family or introduce him to mine unless things were very serious with real plans to get engaged. Doing so would be taken as us making introductions and announcing the relationship before an engagement, whether we intended it to be or not. I think at the end of the day that’s part of why it’s so hard to make a list of “Girlfriend benefi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/09/20 09:20 PM
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From his list I’m guessing that he is from a religious immigrant community around NYC and basically doesn’t normally interact with people outside of that community. He may genuinely think that 5 kids is a medium sized family because he knows multiple families with 8+ kids through his community. I’ve noticed that a lot of times men are more likely to stay in the community while women often want to marry outside of the community for more freedom, so you end up with guys trying to recruit a bride t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/09/20 07:07 PM
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She’s also comparing herself to (presumably) much younger, much wealthier, childless women. I can understand being frustrated by the financial inequality and that some people are out of touch in that way, but comparing a parent over 30 to a childless 23 year old is just unreasonable. It’s like saying “I’m not 23 and childless anymore, so nobody is allowed to be”. It’s just silly.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/09/20 06:58 PM
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I normally wouldn’t throw my opinions out there, but it felt like all she wanted to talk about was guys so they would eventually come up. After a while I realized that I needed to cut down on our interactions because it wasn’t a positive and uplifting friendship. All she talked about was men and dating. When I specifically asked to talk about other topics she would just stop reaching out for a while then go right back to talking about men she was seeing. She refused to mention any of it while sp…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/09/20 05:37 PM
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I have had friendships get damaged over disagreements on how big of a deal it is for a guy to lie about his job. I know that education and employment are sensitive topics for a lot of people, but I still find it really shocking how many women will overlook big lies in those two areas. One of my friends got upset with me for “looking down on” the guy she was seeing after we figured out that he was lying to her about his job for over a month. He claimed to be an engineer of some kind working in IT…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/09/20 03:59 PM
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I wouldn’t put your style on the same level as pajamas, and I hope that you don’t feel like there is anything wrong with your choices! Dressing nicely(whatever that means for you) and keeping your hair tidy can still be tasteful without makeup or contacts. You don’t have to dress overly feminine to still be feminine. An outfit that you feel confident in and that flatters you is what’s important and not necessarily what that outfit it. I feel like a lot of times we see women who are overly made u…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/09/20 03:27 PM
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I used to dress appropriately for the situation but not wear makeup on first dates. I recommend it if your skincare routine works without makeup. I never received anything but compliments about it and it made me putting on full makeup seem more special instead of it being the expectation. Nowadays I use sunscreen when I go outside, so I need light makeup to correct the tint from that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/09/20 02:44 PM
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Senior year of college one of my friends dated guy who was 10 years older and the father of two kids from two different women. His youngest child was under a year old when they got together and he had her babysitting for him within 2 months so that he could go have fun on the 1 day of the week that he had the baby. The first time that he left the baby with her she texted me (as well as everyone else she knew) for advice because he didn’t know how to care for a baby. This man left his baby with h…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/08/20 08:36 PM
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Anyone else notice how people who want to “disconnect” and “follow natural law” always flock to major cities? If he genuinely believed that he needed to rejoin nature he wouldn’t be in New York City. He is there because his ex finally stopped taking care of him and he doesn’t want to care for himself or his many children.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/08/20 01:25 PM
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It’s basically all that vice does nowadays. Most of their content is just someone in Manhattan or LA interviewing their friends over text then dramatizing their answers.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/08/20 10:01 PM
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It’s not just weddings. I had a girl basically attack me to rub cake on my face at a birthday party in my teens. Like, chase me down, push me to the ground, and smash cake on me, ruining my hair, makeup, and dress. I feel like smashing cake on someone is one of those “traditions” that is basically just to keep people from enjoying themselves too much. A lot of people do it because they are dumb more than mean spirited, but the main idea is basically to ruin something nice, especially for women s…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/08/20 08:35 PM
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I think that she just mentioned it because it’s part of why meetups that have been mentioned in the past on this sub haven’t come to fruition, not just to be down on your idea. Pre-covid ladies would mention wanting meetups on here pretty often, but as far as I know the concern for privacy and safety led to them not happening (so far). I think that it’s good to have reminders of the risks of being a part of the community, because it’s easy to forget but in situations where it becomes an issue it…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/08/20 07:52 PM
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A break can be a good time to focus on yourself. Do things that you like, decide what makes you happy, and learn more about yourself. If it goes well you will have a better understanding of your standards and needs when you go back to dating. Honestly, if the break is really successful you won’t feel like you NEED to go back to dating and it will be more of a recreation than a necessity.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/20 05:03 AM
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This guy positively evil. A group chat with a (hopefully) trusted adult is a totally reasonable thing for a young person in this situation to do. It’s sad that some people would jump to blaming her for “causing drama” by informing the two people who are most able to make him stop. She doesn’t owe anyone breaking it to them softly or an overly polite response. Ideally she could sent it to them and just hear back “Thank you for letting us know”, then they actually deal with it among themselves ins…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/08/20 11:56 PM
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Who is this “We” that she thinks she represents? Most women I know who are single mothers were married at some point, and it was a mistake. Men who “were going to make us wives” are exactly who wants to knock you up with kids that you’ll have to raise alone wether you stay with him or not.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/08/20 06:57 PM
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It’s always been an issue. I think that one thing is just that the experiences of others are more visible than they used to be. Young women have always been at risk and this has been happening for a long time to kids who don’t have a trusted support system to protect them. While their friends and classmates were still enjoying childhood, some young women had similar experiences to the poster. There have always been some vulnerable girls and young women being pressured into sex and sometimes ende…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/08/20 04:33 AM
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It sounds like he might like giving gifts at random times because there is no expectations or pressure to do well. Some people don’t do great when gifts are expected and there may be expectations. This is not his wife’s fault and should not be her problem. Honestly, this is something that normally wouldn’t even need therapy if he was willing to seek out a solution. A lot of people feel that pressure early in a relationship and just talk to friends and couples that are in successful relationships…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/08/20 08:08 PM
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As a questioning/bisexual woman I find it really disappointing and kind of gross how many musicians, actresses, and other celebrities make a big deal about being attracted to women but only date men or come out only after they are committed to a man. I know that it happens and that it’s not uncommon at all for a woman to feel that way, but I feel like there is a pretty big distinction between actually being willing to date women and just fetishizing them. Some women are sexually attracted to wom…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/08/20 09:40 PM
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Women have to start focusing on women. It doesn’t mean that they can’t care about everyone else, or that they can’t support everyone else, but we all need to be putting women first. Women pour their hearts and energy into their communities and into social movements, then all they get for that is left behind.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/08/20 08:31 PM
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If he is a custodian at a school or hospital and has realistic expectations from the women he is seeking he shouldn’t have much trouble finding someone. Like, custodian isn’t the most glamorous job, but it’s consistent, pays well enough in most areas, and in settings like schools/hospitals/nursing homes people usually have pretty positive associations with them. Of course women who are in careers where they wouldn’t have much in common with him wouldn’t be attracted to it, but there are plenty o…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/08/20 06:10 PM
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I agree. There are so many things on this list that aren’t even just “high risk” but are genuinely poor decisions that can have a long term impact. I’m personally stuck on the one where she suggests that you have sex with someone in a position of authority over you then act like it never happened. It reads like someone who genuinely has never had a normal job to realize that it won’t be this empowering situation. Like, congratulations, you have literally sought out a hostile work environment at …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/08/20 12:32 PM
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Try to become friendly with other women in the building once you get there. It doesn’t always work, but sometimes you’ll be fortunate enough to find a decent female community. Friendly doesn’t necessarily mean friends that hang out in this context, but just having someone to touch base with about things that are going on. The kind of relationship where she might text you if she sees something suspicious outside or she might ask you to come over so she isn’t alone while the cable guy visits, and …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/08/20 03:12 AM
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If they were in a small city he might have been paying attention for months in case he passed her, then noticed her while she was at work. She may have mentioned that she is a beautician but not mentioned where or even the specific services that she offers and he looked in every beauty salon hoping to come across her. Either way it’s absolutely terrifying and he probably spent a lot of time fixated on her.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/08/20 09:37 PM
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I can understand someone around that age worrying that they can’t provide the ring or wedding that they feel like their partner deserves yet and wanting to wait because of that, but he sounds like he doesn’t like the idea of marrying her. I’m curious if they have ever talked about long term plans and how he reacted.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/08/20 06:38 PM
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I think that they might be younger than they seem and it may be more naïve than anything else. A lot of people who are fresh out of college and in their first job do over the top gestures because they are excited by their first “adult” relationship and because for the first time they have the means to make these kinds of gestures. I feel like that is also an age group that is likely to document everything, though doing that is pretty divisive (some people love to do it and others can’t stand it)…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/08/20 06:11 PM
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These kinds of posts are almost definitely popular because of online dating and the feeling of dealing with men looking for hookups there. Few women are actually being swarmed by actual dating options in real life, and even fewer by men who are worth considering as an option.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/08/20 05:04 AM
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I agree! It’s all just decisions, preferences, and opportunities. I feel like someone with a “suspicious amount of money” is way more capable of including children into an active and full life than someone who is struggling can. She can afford to have the large, artsy house at the end of the block which she were will fill with interesting things. If she doesn’t find an adequate partner she can afford to adopt. Though it won’t be as flexible, she can still travel and experience different cultures…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/08/20 06:10 AM
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I had a 28 year old man (whose parents bought his house, so way fewer expenses than most) complain that 18 year olds were “immature” and wouldn’t split the bill on dates. Like, I don’t understand what he thinks that he brings to the table for someone who may literally still be in high school besides that he has a car and can afford nicer dates than someone their age could. 🤷‍♀️ When asked he could not name one reason that an 18 year old would want to date him and continued complaining. It’s (in …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/08/20 03:47 AM
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Give an organ to your lifelong best friend to keep them alive. To your parent or child. Even the father of your children IF you’re doing it with your kids sake in mind and not based on your own relationship (because he might still leave you a month later). Can you imagine your child is sick and needs a kidney, but you donated one to some fuckboy you were seeing and now you can’t give one to your kid? Might as well ask them to take the other one and leave you to die because it would be real hard …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/08/20 02:42 AM
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She’s a bartender. Being nice to people so that they tip well and visit again is kind of their thing, regardless of gender.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/08/20 08:56 PM
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I would suggest working on your confidence with your situation and your leg braces. I also think that you should mention your situation in a phone call before a date if they don’t already know, though there is no need for heavy details. If you inform a guy and he still wants to see you, he doesn’t mind. If a guy that has met you before and knows a bit of your situation asks you out he doesn’t mind. You need to just focus on making sure that these guys have excellent character and that they are k…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/08/20 03:18 PM
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I’ve had a few friends in similar positions where they were 25+ without any work experience at all. My biggest advice is to just take small steps and make short term goals. Eventually you’ll figure out a long term goal and where you would like to be. For you the long term goal may be working your way up to a position where you can work with animals. Typically positions working with animals are pretty competitive, so you may not be qualified right from the start, but that’s okay and you will get …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/08/20 03:56 AM
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When you hear it in FDS the main dividing points are that libfems tend to support kink, fetishes and pornography under sex positivity while radfems are more mixed but lean to being critical of them. Libfems will typically support splitting a bill with men to avoid expectations and believe in providing emotional support to men you’re dating, while radfems tend to be more mixed on both of those things. I’ve never met anyone who self identified as libfem. Online the term is typically used when refe…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/08/20 03:27 AM
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If someone is struggling with mental illness severely enough that it does impact their ability to be in a relationship they shouldn’t be in one and should focus on self care. Just because someone isn’t well enough for a relationship right now doesn’t mean that they won’t ever be. Just because someone can’t be a high quality partner today doesn’t mean that they won’t ever be, especially in situations where they have already started their mental health journey. I feel like this sentiment can be re…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/08/20 01:08 AM
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Disney has been around for almost 100 years. Some of the more modern stuff makes an effort to incorporate themes of female empowerment. A lot of the classics are blatantly sexist, and most likely were made by artists who were racist and sexist because that was the norm at the time. You don’t need to make excuses for them. We basically all grew up on content that had problematic themes or was made by people who are unsavory by today’s standards. You can’t change what you feel nostalgic towards or…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/08/20 06:17 PM
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That would be the reaction to the slides below the crocs. Shamelessly flaunting those toes! Also, modest women wear Jibbits (the rubber charms) to plug the holes in the top of their crocs so that nobody can sneak a peek at their toes. 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/08/20 05:49 PM
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I think that the issue is that he wasted both of their time even having a date instead of just mentioning it before the date. Like, there’s nothing wrong with having preferences and some things aren’t polite to bring up before you know someone well, but just asking “Do you enjoy sports?” isn’t a rude early question.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/08/20 09:01 PM
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It makes me so sad how many of my friends are taking the ‘not afraid to beg’ approach to dating. I constantly hear about how they are disappointed by men that don’t care a tiny bit about how they are disappointed. They blame everything on “communication” even though the issue is that they are choosing men who won’t care no matter how well they articulate what they want. One literally cried and threw a fit about how heartless I am for saying “You can’t beg him to care about you and you can’t forc…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/07/20 11:15 PM
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I feel like a lot of people are poly because they want the convenience of a relationship but the freedom to date. I come across so many poly people in OLD. If their partner doesn’t want to spend time with them why would I? In my experience polyamory is also way more common in expensive cities where people drag things out because they may not be able to afford to break up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/20 03:09 PM
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