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| 3 | An observation about men, wanted to share with you.Insecure people lie, gender has little if anything to do with it. | /r/askTRP | 21/10/14 03:45 AM |
| 3 | Got nexted by a girl with lower SMV. After TRP for the past year and not being nexted AT ALL, I'm confused?She got bored. She has other/better/less complicated things going on than fucking you and she's devoting her time elsewhere. If all you're offering is the occasional fuck and she's interested in something more than that it's not what you did, it's who you are. | /r/askTRP | 11/10/14 08:59 PM |
| 2 | What my plate's orbiters buy her.I'm sure they do (though I doubt they think about it very hard because it's so insignificant to overall SMV) because, in most cases, attention from the opposite sex in any form contributes to SMV. | /r/askTRP | 08/10/14 07:28 PM |
| 4 | LTR is hyperaware of trp/gameSeems the perfect situation for it, actually. | /r/askTRP | 08/10/14 05:22 AM |
| 18 | LTR is hyperaware of trp/gameSo what if she's aware of it. It's not some deep, dark secret to be ashamed of. Nor should the "game" change simply because everyone knows they're playing. She just called me and said that she noticed if she pulls back or is distant that I will pull back and be distant and or go out / flirt with other girls. Your response? "Well no shit. Why wouldn't I if you're unpleasant to be around? Have you also noticed people put on coats when it's cold? It's a lot harder to make people like you than disli… | /r/askTRP | 07/10/14 09:29 PM |
| 2 | "Tomboys." Good or bad idea?There are negative reasons why women surround themselves with cadres of men, yes, agreed upon. Sure, it's possible this girl has extreme daddy issues and is centering her adult life around the quest to finally quench her desire for male validation. Or, hope you're sitting down for this one, she just prefers doing shit a lot of dudes like doing too. Think about it - what's the alternative? She gives up hobbies she likes to instead go do things where the gender ratio is more in her favor. Hmm. Tha… | /r/askTRP | 02/10/14 05:14 PM |
| 6 | How to respond when a girl completely blows you off?I've owned bars for years and that's a uniquely strong reaction unless Well Dressed Man had been sniffing around earlier and just wasn't taking a polite hint to go pound sand. If that truly was her initial response, I'd smile and say "no problem. Hope your bad day looks up" and walk away. Any comments (short of an apology) beyond that would be ignored. | /r/askTRP | 01/10/14 07:41 PM |
| 5 | Girl i'm interested told me she likes someone elseMove along. You got a consolation BJ because she doesn't want you to hate her for nexting you. You might get another one just to keep you sniffing around, but that hardly seems worth the trouble. | /r/askTRP | 01/10/14 07:31 PM |
| 3 | I shat where I eatTreat her professionally and as you would any other coworker. Review your workplace's HR policy on inter-office relationships if they have one, and if it gets brought up to you stress that you prefer your personal affairs be left personal. | /r/askTRP | 01/10/14 07:28 PM |
| 3 | Communication leading up to date. How much is necessary?Leave a few of the details vague earlier in the planning process. Settle on a date and an approximate time, but don't nail down everything: "Sunday evening sounds good - I've got some plans earlier in the day so I'll text in as we get a bit closer to let you know exactly when and where." "I'm not sure what I'll be up for this far in advance, so you'll hear from me in a few days when I settle on a place." Now you've got a reason to call/text and update your date, escalate a little and not sound n… | /r/askTRP | 27/09/14 09:52 PM |
| 0 | what to say after a girl says she's busy?K | /r/askTRP | 26/09/14 07:21 PM |
| 0 | what to say after a girl says she's busy?I think you're misinterpreting by applying some pretty serious personal bias here - there's no aggression in my statement whatsoever. Sometimes people get busy, they can't make a date, and it actually is too bad because the event would have been fun and it would have been fun to share it with them. If anything, it's a pretty cheerful reply. As for not leading, I'm still making my expectations known and stating what needs to be done to meet them. Responding with a single letter followed me ting s… | /r/askTRP | 25/09/14 10:50 PM |
| 3 | Your meeting a girl for a drink, how do I smoothly, and blunty inform her I'm not paying for her?Whatever wording you settle on, don't wait until the tab comes at the end of the evening to discuss it - at that point the situation becomes an issue for not only you and your date but your unsuspecting server. If she can't or won't pay they're now dragged into the drama. Set the expectation when you get there, let the bartender know in front of your date that the tabs are separate. "We're on separate tabs if you need to know that upfront or we can divide it up at the end if it's easier for you.… | /r/askTRP | 25/09/14 05:30 AM |
| 5 | Your meeting a girl for a drink, how do I smoothly, and blunty inform her I'm not paying for her?♂ Point for bar manners I wish more people considered. (Bar owner, here.) Trading off rounds is fine if everyone is drinking similarly priced alcohol. If he's ordering 15 buck a pour scotch and she's having a light beer, whatever, someone's getting hosed. If you split up the tab yourselves at the end no one is getting shorted. Or, ask the server (if they're open to it) to keep separate tabs, period. Don't wait to discuss this stuff at the end of the evening. | /r/askTRP | 25/09/14 05:25 AM |
| -1 | what to say after a girl says she's busy?While that's a solid little bumper sticker quip, we're not talking about turning your life over to the direction of this girl - we're discussing letting her know that when she puts you off it's her responsibility to reciprocate the offer of a date. If you're going take the metaphor that literally, you're going to have a bad time. | /r/askTRP | 25/09/14 03:58 AM |
| 0 | what to say after a girl says she's busy?Mysterious is one thing, being obscure in terms of planning and logistics is another. If she texts she's busy, replay with "too bad, you'll be missing a good time. I'll leave it to you to plan for next time." Now she knows the ball is in her court. Many women (traditional especially) expect/prefer a man to initiate and will wait for you to make the move even if you've done so once and they've had to turn you down. Make it clear. | /r/askTRP | 24/09/14 07:46 PM |
| 3 | Doing the right thing..If she's cool settling for you right now, that's on her. You've been honest, she can do with that what she will. | /r/askTRP | 24/09/14 07:34 PM |
| 1 | Girls think I have sex with many other girls and this stops them from having sex with me, how could I change my reputation or turn this in my favor?Refer to my original comment. | /r/askTRP | 24/09/14 07:29 PM |
| 3 | Dealing with women does not seem like it's worth all the work and trouble. Why waste time with them?Men and women both live life looking out for their own best needs - women merely accomplish that goal differently. There's nothing inherently bad about that, the only downside is when you give up your best needs to play into theirs and the relationship become lopsided. I own bars and restaurants - I see the worst of the worst on a daily basis and it all boils down to this: you're treated how you allow others to treat you. You don't have to be angry, my man, you don't even have to work that hard;… | /r/TheRedPill | 22/09/14 09:50 PM |
| 7 | How to turn around attempt to be put in orbit?If you want to have sex with her, and she wants to have sex with you, I'm failing to see the problem here. If she asks you to do something you don't want to do, don't do it. If she asks you to do something you do want to do, do it. If she ghosts now and again, live your life in the meantime. Don't make this a bigger deal than it is. | /r/askTRP | 22/09/14 06:22 PM |
| 2 | This shit is too muchAll that's happening here is two people who aren't strong enough to pull the trigger and kill something that's bad for the both of them... You all are doing nothing but prolonging the agony of a breakup. When I was 16 or 17 my buddy and I were driving behind a pickup that hit a deer. We got out, checked that the driver was okay and then went over to where the deer was laying in the ditch. The thing was busted up, man - mangled beyond repair but still alive. This was up by our cabin, everyone car… | /r/askTRP | 22/09/14 06:12 PM |
| 2 | How do I ask my GF if she were more than friends with the guy she hangs out with now.Just ask. Why make this more complicated than it needs to be? When people of the opposite sex like each other enough to be friends, there's naturally the possibility of more. In cases where there's not, the situation becomes a curiosity. If she asks why you're curious or tries to make you feel bad/insecure for asking, I'd be wondering why so strong a reaction? | /r/askTRP | 22/09/14 05:53 PM |
| 1 | Girls think I have sex with many other girls and this stops them from having sex with me, how could I change my reputation or turn this in my favor?Bingo. | /r/askTRP | 22/09/14 05:44 PM |
| 15 | Girls think I have sex with many other girls and this stops them from having sex with me, how could I change my reputation or turn this in my favor?Congratulations are in order here - you've found women who're interested in more than being a notch on some man whore's bedpost. Despite your current troubles, that's actually a good thing. You just need to switch up your game a touch, my man. Some girl brings up your reputation, grin, lean in and say, "I'll let you in on a little secret - I get a laugh about my so-called "reputation," but there's a big difference between girls you can get with and girls you wanna get with. It's harder than you … | /r/askTRP | 21/09/14 04:30 PM |
| 3 | Give GF power/control or just break-up?RedPill isn't about removing another person's right to choose - it's about choosing what's right for yourself and attracting quality people to travel that path with you. If your GF isn't interested in what you have to offer, better off for the both of you if she excuses herself. | /r/askTRP | 21/09/14 04:02 PM |
| 2 | How do you nuetralize irate plates that you've nexted?I suspect I'm older than most of the guys here, and even in my years of dating, spinning plates, etc., I've never experienced a single situation you're describing. Where are you finding these women? The back walk behind a bowling alley?? Don't want to pay for a date? Let her know up front you're splitting. Escalate before you head to dinner so you can gauge if she's interested in something physical with you before you head out. Go to public places where, if she does flip out, you can remain calm… | /r/askTRP | 20/09/14 09:27 PM |
| 1 | Why do the people shitting on the TRP always say that the posts there are made by virgins?As TRP is mainly a sexual strategy, when you go to insult it the obvious jab is right at the carnal success of the followers. And let's face it, that's bound to be a raw nerve because of the number of men who come here to solve the very issue of incompetency regarding opposite sex relationships in the first place. | /r/askTRP | 17/09/14 07:44 PM |
| 1 | Friends' exes always trying to jump on me, how does TRP explain this?Number four was all in fun, mate. Glad you saw through it and gleaned some useful takeaways. Boiled down even further is this: post beakup people are nuts. Don't take anything they do or say too seriouy. | /r/askTRP | 17/09/14 07:32 PM |
| 6 | Friends' exes always trying to jump on me, how does TRP explain this?They hook up with you to "win" the breakup. They're essentially moving on right in front of their ex's face. As a bonus, the past boyfriend can't chalk you up as some loser his girl downgraded to - he picked you as a friend, after all. Checkmate. You're known territory. You're safe. Your status as a boyfriend's friend makes you an orbiter by default of the social situation. Why put in the effort to pluck a brand new man out of the air when there you are cruising nearby in the friend zone? She's … | /r/askTRP | 16/09/14 10:00 PM |
| 1 | How to respond to 'you look good / hot' without sounding too arrogant?Basic etiquette, I've always thought. Appropriate when responding to women or men. | /r/askTRP | 16/09/14 09:38 PM |
| 7 | How to respond to 'you look good / hot' without sounding too arrogant?"Thanks." Don't overthink it. | /r/askTRP | 15/09/14 06:32 PM |
| 2 | How to open with girlsBar and restaurant owner here. Out of the tens of thousands of interactions I've seen, the most successful are little more than a quick, relatable pass. Find something to connect with her over, even if (Hell, especially if) it's simple. Is she wearing a Yankees cap? What's she drinking? What stands out about her? Then make a casual, quick entrance that leaves you both the option to next out fast. For her, that makes the approach more comfortable and less like she's being cornered, for you it's a… | /r/askTRP | 15/09/14 04:48 PM |
| 1 | TRP seems like a coping mechanism for tolerating and exploiting the feminized state of the west. Are there any movements dedicated to actually changing the sorry state of society?When behavior ceases to yield results, it changes. Best case scenario, enough people see the light to encourage a shift in the overall social dynamic. Worst case scenario, a few people are happy and pursuing lives they're pleased with and the rest, well, aren't. | /r/askTRP | 15/09/14 04:30 PM |
| 1 | Calling girls out on their bullshit or when they are rude.If your value is high enough, they wouldn't be on their phone to begin with. | /r/askTRP | 15/09/14 04:20 PM |
| 3 | My girlfriend got out of hand: my reactionLack of accountability = not good. Lack of accountability fueled by alcohol = even worse. When you're in a relationship you represent not only yourself but your partnership, and if she thinks so little of your coupling that she represents it like a booze fueled idiot, I'd be going my own way. | /r/askTRP | 14/09/14 08:38 PM |
| 14 | Calling girls out on their bullshit or when they are rude.I prefer the straightforward approach myself, simply because it cuts to the core of the girl's personality and gives me an almost instantaneous answer as to whether or not I continue to want to spend time. I had a girl respond to me the same way yours did when I called her on using her phone during a date. Next. No accountability. On the other hand is the experience I had with a girl I had been seeing for a couple of months. She works around guys primarily, and as a result has picked up a very b… | /r/askTRP | 14/09/14 08:31 PM |
| 2 | What flaws must a man accept in a woman?Unicorn implies perfection - no woman is perfect, and neither are you. There are simply people out there busting their ass to be decent and successful and better than the average and you had better be doing the same. I'm with a great girl myself - TRP has helped bring some BS and miscommunication into focus, we both read it and are supremely happy. And it's not just us - friends, family, plenty of people out there enjoy their lives and relationships even though they realize a metric shit ton of … | /r/askTRP | 14/09/14 04:13 AM |
| 2 | What flaws must a man accept in a woman?Sorry bud, they aren't tranquilized, tagged and in a database. They're free range. But you'll increase your odds by avoiding bars and parties and heading out to places where people with actual interests group up. You're in college - there are such things as classes, study groups, the lawn in front of the SUB where everyone sits out and studies when the weather is nice, whatever. Next step, talk to these people and weed out the ones whose standards aren't up to par with yours. It's gonna suck, yo… | /r/askTRP | 14/09/14 02:35 AM |
| 1 | How do you deal with women who expect special treatment?Treat everyone (women or men) with basic civility until they give you reason to do otherwise. Special treatment for being in possession of an additional X chromosome? Next. Special treatment because your girl makes it a point to fuss over you too? Damn straight. | /r/askTRP | 13/09/14 07:42 PM |
| 4 | Ex-gf trying to taunt meShe's been your ex for over a year, and that year plus has been drama free. Quit thinking about what or who she's doing, because clearly she doesn't care about what or who you're doing either. Ignore it, go on about your business. | /r/askTRP | 13/09/14 07:35 PM |
| 14 | We hooked up, she flakes last night with a million excusesShe doesn't want to hang out with you/hook up, and she doesn't want you to be mad at her for that. Simple. | /r/askTRP | 13/09/14 07:31 PM |
| 5 | What flaws must a man accept in a woman?These women exist, absolutely. They simply exist in such small quantities and are in such high demand they have their pick of hordes upon hordes of men. That's where RP comes in - you're gonna have to rise to the top. Waiting for her isn't an option, my man. She's being pursued while you're sitting at home being reluctant. I'm by no means telling you to toss time and money at anything with two X chromosomes, but when you see something/someone you want you're going to have to have your A game on. | /r/askTRP | 13/09/14 07:29 PM |
| 3 | How to tell new women my ex-wife cheated on me without sounding beta.While it's true you don't owe anyone anything in the form of an explanation, sidestepping the obvious can very easily come across as dishonesty or shame. Both considerably more Beta attributes than being cheated on. Why create that veil of suspicion? Great people and fantastic partners have been cheated on. Don't make it a bigger deal than what it is: "instead of taking the time to work on herself and on her relationship, my ex wife decided to take the fast way out and cheated. She was right, it… | /r/askTRP | 10/09/14 07:18 PM |
| 1 | Doesn't TRP just mean relationships are SHIT?Not at all. It's a strategy to set realistic expectations. When you're not basing your decisions on fairy tales, everyone is healthier and happier. TRP can easily be warped and abused, but so can most things. If you're an asshole with TRP, you were probably an asshole before TRP. Simple. | /r/askTRP | 05/09/14 08:58 PM |
| 3 | Want to turn an ex from my blue pill days into a plate.If this much thought is being put into one call: don't. Just don't. | /r/askTRP | 05/09/14 08:50 PM |
| 9 | Girl has sudden change, how fast should i next her?Sounds like the nexting has already happened. Let her initiate contact going forward. | /r/askTRP | 04/09/14 03:41 PM |
| 3 | restoring the contact with my female "friend"Don't initiate contact with a person who gives nothing in return - if she asks why, be honest: "our friendship was really one sided. I'm spending time with people who are more into what I'm looking for." Then be done with it. | /r/askTRP | 04/09/14 02:11 AM |
| 1 | How to keep tabs on LTR phone?While blind faith in anything is a poor idea, there's a difference between the occasional check in and becoming your LTRs parole officer. Where's the fun and enjoyment of being with someone you have to babysit at that level? If there's nothing raising a red flag, drop the paranoid Spy vs Spy crap and work on being a decent, attractive, worthwhile guy. | /r/askTRP | 03/09/14 07:12 PM |
| 4 | Should I let friends know I wasn't invited to weddingDon't make it more complex than it needs to be: "it'd be fun to see you all, but I didn't get an invite." If your friends ask why tell them the same thing you posted above, "I didn't keep in touch as much, I suppose." Shrug. Lying about the situation or dodging the question creates the appearance of drama where none exists. | /r/askTRP | 03/09/14 07:00 PM |
| 2 | RP for being friends with a girlI don't see why the situation has to be either/or, bro or plate when there's plenty of room in in between. Take what you know about people and relationships and use it. TRP is a sexual strategy, sure, but the info extends to non sexual interactions as well. | /r/askTRP | 01/09/14 03:55 AM |
| 17 | I'm going back to school to become a Registered NurseYou're overthinking it. If someone has the poor taste to flip you shit, simply smile and say, "yeah, it's terrible being one of the few guys surrounded by hordes of educated, employable, and driven young ladies. TERRIBLE. You'd better steer clear, I'll take this one for the team." | /r/askTRP | 31/08/14 10:00 PM |
| 5 | Taking the LTR plunge after infusing my life with RP theory.If this woman compliments your life and adds to it, as opposed to sucking energy out of it, be with her. RedPill isn't cookie cutter - there are guys who use it to game, to spin plates, whatever. There are guys who use it to maximize their success as individuals, and others who use it to form strategy around LTRs and marriages. Work it to get what you want, not what a bunch of guys on the Internet want for themselves. | /r/TheRedPill | 31/08/14 09:20 PM |
| 3 | When to tell her I'm not interested in marriage?Worry less about time frame and more about context. As the conversation presents itself, and it will, let your thoughts on the topic be known. And don't be that literal, wait until she spells out the question in no uncertain terms guy, either - if she brings up goals for future or expresses her own interest in marriage in any way, tell her it's not your gig. | /r/askTRP | 31/08/14 09:04 PM |
| 7 | What to do when a girl starts being disrespectfulYou're missing the forest for the trees here - even if she wasn't specifically studying, what you were doing could still be considered annoying. A casual, humorous response and then laying off would have derailed her attempt at getting attention if that's what she truly wanted. As it stands, you not only gave her attention, you gift wrapped it and delivered to her doorstep via singing telegram. | /r/askTRP | 31/08/14 04:44 PM |
| 13 | What to do when a girl starts being disrespectfulFirst step: give people legitimate reasons to respect you instead of numerous examples as to why you're a tool. /u/LazySwine is right, making noises while others are studying is annoying. Of course she asked you to stop and of course her response was to lose respect for you when your clever comeback was to tell her to "fuck off." Don't put yourself in a position where you're climbing out of a self dug hole to begin with - when she asked you to stop the first time your response should have been s… | /r/askTRP | 31/08/14 04:23 PM |
| 2 | Is there a male equivalent to Hypergamy?Don't overthink it - at it's core hypergamy is ditching what you've got to grab at something better. A little is healthy, too much will leave you flat on your ass when the branch you're swinging to turns out to be out of reach. When the topic is discussed in TRP it refers to ladies trading up an existing partner for a newer model if they believe the object of their focus is more competent, a better provider, whatever higher value trait trips their triggers, y'know? For men it can be trading for … | /r/askTRP | 30/08/14 09:09 PM |
| 1 | how to get female orbitersI'd known them about two, three days at that point. | /r/askTRP | 30/08/14 08:45 PM |
| 4 | how to get female orbitersHonesty is disarming. Utilize it. When I moved back to the city I'm now in I was out of the old local loops. One afternoon I overheard some of the girls working the day shift discussing evening plans. I walked over, said "ladies, I'm heading out with you tonight to shamelessly flirt with and take home women who don't know me well enough to know better. You're my cover." They got a kick out of it, we went out, and damned if that little pack of ladies didn't wing woman for me like it was their job… | /r/askTRP | 30/08/14 05:19 AM |
| 2 | Professor hit on me.Uh huh. They don't think you're alpha either, they just wanna see the train wreck. | /r/askTRP | 29/08/14 10:47 PM |
| 10 | Professor hit on me.Here's a tip: do your damn schoolwork and don't touch that woman with a forty foot pole. Honestly dude, that's creepy as fuck if you're on the up and up here. Any college professor who's as astronomically out of line as this one is either dumb as a box of marbles or batshit crazy. She doesn't think you're alpha, bud, if anything she thinks you're prey she can manipulate. | /r/askTRP | 28/08/14 09:08 PM |
| 1 | What's TRP take on paying for dinner?This one isn't gender based for me, it's basic etiquette: the person who initiates pays. If you want to split you make it known so the other person has that info before they accept or decline. | /r/askTRP | 28/08/14 08:59 PM |
| 2 | Is it normal to constantly find things wrong with girls you date?While settling for something or someone is never a good thing, if your line of thinking is extreme enough it's stopping you from having a good time with a person and enjoying them for their positive traits, yeah, it's getting unhealthy. If you spend more time looking to trade up than being happy in the moment, dude, you're selling your life experiences short. It's possible you just haven't met anyone who truly trips your triggers, but it's also possible there's some fear and insecurity creeping … | /r/askTRP | 25/08/14 11:28 PM |
| 19 | "Just a heads up"... Need frame adviceSo much can be solved by a clear statement of intent. Say what you're going to do, then do what you've said. If you're interested in being friends, follow through. If you're not, say so. "My intent wasn't to be just friends. I'll let us both off the hook for dinner." Edit for shitty spelling. | /r/askTRP | 25/08/14 11:14 PM |
| 2 | "How much do you love me?"Then you already know the answer to your own question: "we've known each other for three weeks - I'm getting to know you, I'm not in love with you." | /r/askTRP | 25/08/14 01:12 AM |
| 30 | Tried to spin a plate, (ex)girlfriend found out (in college) now I will have both of them in one of my classes.Date someone else and leave these two behind. The ex is an ex and the Asian never happened, so no one can be in the middle of anything because there's NOTHING TO BE IN THE MIDDLE OF. | /r/askTRP | 25/08/14 12:33 AM |
| 2 | I don't have a cellphone and can't really ask for girls phone numbers. Suggestions?Get the job handled and grab an inexpensive prepaid. | /r/askTRP | 24/08/14 09:36 PM |
| 1 | Girl is shit testing me. Texts me "I don't love you anymore" after we made out on 1st date.Unless there's history here you left out, it sounds like a joke that fell flat over text. Respond with a joke of your own. I like /u/jamieoneal82's suggestion. | /r/askTRP | 24/08/14 09:34 PM |
| 9 | "How much do you love me?"You've known each other for three weeks. If there are things in your fridge older than your relationships, perhaps you ought to evaluate how casually you throw love around. | /r/askTRP | 24/08/14 07:23 PM |
| 7 | Beta women?If there's a benefit to the relationship, maintain it. If there isn't, don't. Why overthink something so simple? | /r/askTRP | 24/08/14 07:16 PM |
| 9 | Female aversion to male vulnerabilityThe strongest support I received when a close family member died and when my best friend from childhood passed was from women - don't underestimate the emotional depths a woman can and will understand. I'd argue they as a collective don't "suck this way" at all. I'm not arguing your girl had a shitty response to your down time - she did. And no, you don't need to bring back the dead but give the people around you at least a glimpse you're going to come back from the abyss. When my buddy from the… | /r/TheRedPill | 24/08/14 02:18 AM |
| 8 | Female aversion to male vulnerabilityI've found this to be the case when bitching for the sake of it (something relegated to my past, thankfully), but rarely is it an issue when I vent while still giving an indication of purpose and progress. Frame maintained, no sense of aversion from women or, for that matter, other men. Example One: rough day at work. I come home and complain that I worked another 16 hour day, while my slacker employees have max eight hour shifts. Those jerks didn't even invite me to hang out after we closed up … | /r/TheRedPill | 24/08/14 12:23 AM |
| 4 | GF has a lot of orbitersMaybe it's because I have female friends myself, but my girl's guy friends have never bothered me. We follow a pretty simple formula: is her relationship with them taking away from something that is mine? Yes or no? If they hit on her, she nexts them. They disrespect our relationship, they're gone. I know who they are and they know me. When she sees them I'm always invited, etc. ETA: She works in law enforcement so she's in close proximity to mostly male colleagues, so understand that makes our … | /r/askTRP | 19/08/14 10:15 PM |
| 1 | Women catch you reading RedPill...My fiancé reads RedPill as well. It's not a dirty secret by any means. As for a perfect stranger, I'm not all too concerned. | /r/askTRP | 18/08/14 11:09 PM |
| 1 | Ive been a Blue pill, help me take a Red pill decision.Long, drawn out explanations do nothing for anyone. Say "this isn't a satisfying relationship for me, I'm not going to be contacting you anymore" and leave it at that. | /r/askTRP | 15/08/14 07:21 PM |
| 3 | Try again or stay the course?Actions not words, and it seems like her actions make her out to be the type of person you're interested in even if you didn't initially trust her words. Give it another go - you've survived without her just fine for a year so if she's not into it it's not like you've lost anything but the uncertainty. My only other advice is don't go into it with a "so I was wrong, can I try again?" attitude. Run it the same way that piqued her interest in the first place. | /r/askTRP | 15/08/14 07:13 PM |
| 2 | What are some actual benefits to marriage?The ceremony is the part I'm putting emphasis on as well - the legal part truly is the business end of it. Having built my own businesses a few times over already, I have to say it's also the least interesting part of it but it serves it's underlying purpose. | /r/askTRP | 15/08/14 07:05 PM |
| 1 | How do you handle your time management?A fucking amazing assistant. There came a point where my day was too much and I had to learn to delegate. | /r/askTRP | 15/08/14 05:27 PM |
| 12 | What are some actual benefits to marriage?/u/redpillbanana put together a great, practical list so I won't repeat. I'll just add that, on a personal note, there's an element or ceremony and symbolism to it that are meaningful. I'm gonna sound like the old man on the porch yelling for the kids to get off my lawn here, but I don't want taking on a partner and potential mother of my children to be some casual, bullshit thing like so many people make it out to be anymore. I want it to be recognized and to ask our family and friends to suppo… | /r/askTRP | 15/08/14 05:26 PM |
| 9 | New to TRP, and I have a few questions.These are not questions you need to be asking. The only question in your mind right now ought to be, "why am I dicking around on Reddit instead of calling my now ex-girlfriend's mother and telling her her daughter is popping pills and threatening death??" Turn this one over to the folks equipped to handle it. | /r/TheRedPill | 15/08/14 07:18 AM |
| 7 | New to TRP, and I have a few questions.Threats of suicide are where you take a big, healthy step back, my friend. If she's amping a shit test to this level, this is not a girl you want to be around. Period. If she's serious, this is not a girl you're equipped to be around. Period. You tell this girl her threats are something you're taking seriously, and you're going to call (insert friend/family member/law enforcement here) and then you follow through. | /r/TheRedPill | 15/08/14 06:21 AM |
| 1 | Why is the Redpill against using medicine to treat mental illness?While I do think mental illness is over diagnosed by people who have no business labeling it as such (no, you don't have Aspergers, you're just awkward), I've not seen it or its treatment methods completely dismissed by RP. The only seriously bumpkin level commentary I've been subjected to on the topic has been from a woman who singlehandedly diagnosed a struggling new mother as suffering from "asshole-itis" based on a single Reddit post. She advised going to see a doctor only results in women b… | /r/TheRedPill | 15/08/14 01:45 AM |
| 0 | What would you have done in this guys position?Shot to the ego, sure, but the physical side of a relationship is important and if someone's not satisfied they're not satisfied. Period. | /r/TheRedPill | 15/08/14 01:32 AM |
| 2 | Women Can't be as Cool as GuysWomen certainly can be, but there's no inherent advantage to it like there is for a guy. The genders play to their strengths. Humor, for example. Jokes and funny stories make someone out to be an ass - if the humor is self-deprecating a woman runs the risk of losing a degree of sexual appeal and composure (which is far more valuable than "cool" any day), yet if the joke is on someone else she runs the risk of being perceived as mean or as a bitch because nothing hurts the male ego more than a ch… | /r/TheRedPill | 15/08/14 01:12 AM |
| 5 | [Ask TRP] I am new to TRP and after reading some of the content on here as well as most of the side bar material, I am left with a bitter taste towards women. Can someone explain this bitterness?So your entitlement is starting to hurt, is what you're telling me? You feel like you're owed something here? You're jealous she's happy and isn't sharing? Work on yourself my man and the bitterness will fade. | /r/TheRedPill | 14/08/14 07:36 PM |
| 5 | [Ask TRP] I am new to TRP and after reading some of the content on here as well as most of the side bar material, I am left with a bitter taste towards women. Can someone explain this bitterness?Because when you realize you've been acting foolishly, the natural reaction is to blame the ones you've been foolish in front of. People generally assume most everyone around them thinks like them or can be convinced to think like them. When they don't, it's offensive and hurtful. We can't possibly be wrong, so we point fingers at those who just don't fall into line for us. Bitterness is ego saving behavior when, in truth, the only helpful reaction is to adapt. | /r/TheRedPill | 14/08/14 07:29 PM |
| 1 | This speaks for itselfTakes time to acquire assets, sure. But it's not hard to spot a girl who's on her way. Success and stability can absolutely happen pre-wall. | /r/TheRedPill | 14/08/14 01:39 PM |
| 1 | This speaks for itselfWhile it may not be a "turn on" in the traditional sense, there are distinct positives to this type of woman: considerably less likely you've come across your garden variety gold-digger if a woman has assets and stability of her own making. She's not going to eyeball you as if you're a walking ATM machine. there's a level of intelligence that typically comes bundled in with a successful woman. YMMV but I like to talk to the women I'm into, and having something to intelligently discuss is a plus.… | /r/TheRedPill | 14/08/14 12:13 AM |
| 5 | Guys who you know were crushed by women- what happened to them?I own bars - I've seen it go every direction you'd think and some you'd never suspect. Guys who picked up, dusted off and were good to go; and guys who pinned everything on "the one," never to recover from their downward spirals. Fuck, one asshole left Chicago completely and moved to Arizona to sit and play the djembe and meditate the rest of his life away. The key thing is though, none of these women who "crushed" these men did anything to fundamentally change them - they brought to the surface… | /r/askTRP | 13/08/14 10:05 PM |
| 4 | I need to know if I'm overstepping here or not: want to tell a guy friend not to go through with a marriage.If you've got concrete evidence of your friend's fiancé cheating or otherwise plotting to do him harm, out with it. If this is a gut instinct only, no matter how spot on your instincts are it won't be enough to knock the rose colored glasses off your buddy's face. He knows how old his fiancé is and what her prospects (or lack thereof) are, and he clearly doesn't care. If you tell him your unsolicited thoughts, you'll be doing it for yourself because it's unlikely to have much of an effect on the… | /r/askTRP | 13/08/14 09:52 PM |
| 1 | [FR] Yes, all women are like that, and they should all be spun. Plates and Frame ControlThanks - she's pretty rock solid, that one. | /r/TheRedPill | 13/08/14 09:32 PM |
| 3 | Need advice as a womanDon't bother trying to explain - the people who needle you about your preferences aren't looking for an explanation, they're looking for an in to dismantle your belief system and replace it with their own. It's not your job to educate others who clearly have different goals. You do what makes you happy, let others worry about themselves. As for men? You attract what you put out there, actions as opposed to words. | /r/askTRP | 13/08/14 02:17 AM |
| 2 | [FR] Yes, all women are like that, and they should all be spun. Plates and Frame ControlI think my sister and I both benefited by being twins. We each got a front row seat to what shapes and challenges both genders. She translates women's motivations very well and in a balanced way because she has an understanding and sympathy for both sides of the fence. She was key in steering me clear of the "anger" phase so many RPers wade through, but holds firm that just because there's a reason for behavior doesn't mean there's an excuse. She was a fantastic wing woman (the girl has game), a… | /r/TheRedPill | 13/08/14 12:32 AM |
| 3 | [FR] Yes, all women are like that, and they should all be spun. Plates and Frame ControlThey're out there, they're just not out there en masse like 99% of the girls a guy is gonna meet at a bar or a party. | /r/TheRedPill | 12/08/14 07:07 PM |
| 10 | [FR] Yes, all women are like that, and they should all be spun. Plates and Frame ControlDo not make the mistake of believing that there some women are too special to be spun. If they're too special to be spun, they won't allow themselves to be spun. Period. Unicorns? Nah, just girls who aren't cool being an option. I think about my twin sister's best friend when we were growing up - raised by a single mom and a big sister who slept with half our high school, teachers included. Sister's friend had it in her head that she didn't want to grow up like that, and so she didn't. Her girl … | /r/TheRedPill | 12/08/14 05:37 PM |
| 1 | Ran into my ex the other day...And what we've learned is a woman cheated, and then tried to talk to him after the fact. My question remains, why is this still in his head like it is and further, what's the plan going forward? | /r/TheRedPill | 10/08/14 02:24 PM |
| 3 | Ran into my ex the other day...Exactly. Which means this person who acted so atrociously is still living inside OP's head, still having enough of an effect on him to walk him over to his computer and get paragraphs worth of reliving old, bad times. My question to him remains - what's lingering that's still allowing this situation this much sway over you? | /r/TheRedPill | 10/08/14 02:17 PM |
| -2 | Ran into my ex the other day...My question is why this warranted four paragraphs of your time and effort? Whether she's a changed woman or not, there's no return on investment great enough to justify you spending another breath on someone who acted so terribly toward you. | /r/TheRedPill | 10/08/14 01:06 AM |
| 4 | Why do women need men more than vice-versa?None of us "need" the other, per se. I'd make it through my day to day in one piece without my fiancé, and she's certainly capable of surviving on her own as well. We're simply better together in terms of what we want and what we like out of life. | /r/askTRP | 09/08/14 07:13 PM |
| 3 | Female cock blockHere's the thing about people who gossip and slander - they do it to everybody, and everybody around them knows it. That behavior can't hide itself for long and what a liar has to say loses steam fast in the face of their target's otherwise solid reputation and frame. Your job here is to focus on yourself. Be the type of person who others won't believe bad things about. If a rumor is brought to your attention, smile and say "I didn't know that about myself. The proof has got to be concrete becau… | /r/askTRP | 09/08/14 07:04 PM |
| 2 | Plate admits hooking up with professor, drop or keep spinning?This woman is a plate, by definition a girl who's hooking up with a guy she's not in a committed relationship with but sees as alpha enough to screw, and you're questioning her now because you discovered she did the same damn thing three years ago? Yeah, it's not the wisest move academically ethically but at the core of it it's not much different than what she's up to now. | /r/askTRP | 09/08/14 06:44 AM |
| 1 | What just happened ?And the next lesson is this: you got laid, but she also avoided confrontation and achieved your "approval" by getting touchy feely and buying your good humor back with nothing more than an orgasm. And we wonder why women think they can get their way with sex... Not a bad thing, just so long as you're aware the ball is not fully in your court and you're okay with that. | /r/TheRedPill | 09/08/14 04:22 AM |
| 6 | What just happened ?Sounds as if she's trying to smooth things over with the most effective tool she possesses in the arsenal - sex. It's a "hey bro, we cool? Let's go back to the way things were, m'kay?" olive branch without the responsibility of uttering the words "I'm sorry." | /r/TheRedPill | 09/08/14 02:36 AM |
| 2 | So my female cousin sent me here and told me that my journey would be complete when I could except woman for their flaws and their strengths and still respect them for what they were. So, knowing what woman are, do any of you guys still find anything to respect about them?Everyone is driven in large part by biological necessities so, yeah, why get offended? Recognize and use that, and be impressed when others recognize and use it to. The biggest disasters in any relationship (romantic or otherwise) occur when we assume everyone does or should think like us and the personal offense we take when it's made obvious they don't. | /r/askTRP | 08/08/14 11:37 PM |
| 2 | So my female cousin sent me here and told me that my journey would be complete when I could except woman for their flaws and their strengths and still respect them for what they were. So, knowing what woman are, do any of you guys still find anything to respect about them?There's plenty to respect in many women, and as most have pointed out here it's simply a matter of finding it in each individual instead of assigning it unilaterally to a gender. My mother is an amazing human being, the foundation my family raised ourselves up on. She's been my father's partner and biggest supporter for over fifty years and would tear apart anyone or anything that messed with her family. My twin sister is a hilarious, sarcastic, ass kicking little human being as well. Owns her o… | /r/askTRP | 08/08/14 08:10 PM |
| 1 | dread game feedbackFirst of all, women are not idiots. They behave in certain ways because it gets them results. When the results fail to occur, they adapt or move on. Saying what you're going to do and then doing it isn't arguing the logic or lack thereof of the situation - it's simply stating the facts. It's further keeping you from dropping yourself to the level of an emotional teenage equivalent, and going on about your life without loading her up with ammo to justify reactive and emotional ranting and raving … | /r/askTRP | 08/08/14 07:53 PM |
| 2 | How should my sister convince her boyfriend to marry her?Your sister is going to have to decide if this is a hill she's willing to die on, so to speak. What's more important to her: marriage and children, or staying with this man and nurturing the disappointment of passing up on a husband and kiddos? If the former outweighs the latter she's going to have to be honest and upfront about that and further be prepared to go find it elsewhere of he's not on the same page. She's either worth it to this guy or not. Period. | /r/askTRP | 08/08/14 01:10 AM |
| 0 | dread game feedbackI'm of the opinion going silent without explanation is as childish as the behavior you're trying to "punish." Lack of communication is a terrible substitute in terms of efficacy for a clear, concise explanation of what you're doing and why. You left this girl hanging and gave her legitimate reason to worry when you blew her off the second night. As a result, this is now a struggle that's as much your problem and fault as hers. It takes five seconds of your time to say "your attitude after I was … | /r/askTRP | 08/08/14 12:52 AM |
| 4 | dread game feedbackHmm. There's RedPill, and then there's being an ass. You're being an ass. You're late to a planned event, then promptly follow that discourtesy up by not showing at all to another planned get together. Would you do that to your friends? Your employer? Of course not - it's an immature, dick move. When you fuck up, you man up and say so and offer an apology. Offer it once, offer it sincerely, and then move on. If she continues to harp on the topic after that it's her problem, but for the moment it… | /r/askTRP | 07/08/14 08:37 PM |
| 2 | What to do with my potential plates?You're asking her over and over to please come hang out with you. She hasn't bothered. You're not a priority, you're a novelty. Long story short, giving her a ride to work would have been the least beta thing you've done since meeting this girl. Next. | /r/askTRP | 06/08/14 07:27 PM |
| 5 | Do you notice any of your plates gaining weight while you're spinning them?Not something I've observed with any of the women I've been with. There's something to be said for complacency as a catalyst for weight gain (either gender, really), but what's so secure about the role of "plate?" | /r/askTRP | 06/08/14 07:21 PM |
| 1 | Shit Test: You Take Too Long to Text Me Back"If I'm free I'll reply, if I'm busy I won't. If it's an emergency, call." | /r/askTRP | 03/08/14 09:12 PM |
| 1 | Thinking about going on an anti-depressant because I can't get over my ex-girlfriendHave a doctor check you out, my man. If you're concerned about having pharmaceuticals thrown at you for no good reason, get a second opinion or even a third before committing to medication. While medical science isn't the solution to everything, why exclude an examination and evaluation as part of your diagnostic process? Some of the most asinine "advice" I see spewed on Reddit is from the people who think they can tell the difference between a legitimate concern and a case of (as one mental mid… | /r/askTRP | 03/08/14 07:54 PM |
| 12 | How do I avoid "the talk" with a plate?Why avoid the talk? Have it, and have it soon. "I'm not looking for anything other than a casual relationship. If you are, I understand if you want to look elsewhere." | /r/askTRP | 01/08/14 06:58 PM |
| 1 | Huffpo Feminist Tries to Justify Women Who Want To Be Strong While Also Rely on MenWhile some of the article was cause for a chuckle and head shake, overall, not much to be infuriated over. Relationships are often (gasp!) places where people take care of one another and just because any person kicks ass in their career/schooling/day-to-day living doesn't mean it's not a pleasure to come home to a pleasant place of respite. | /r/TheRedPill | 31/07/14 04:01 AM |
| 1 | How can you find and identify Giving/Submissive/Feminine women? Who who enjoy giving and pleasing?I suspect it's a relief for many women in positions of power to find a partner who they can trust to take over and, as that woman's partner (sounds like you're in the same boat), I'm happy to know that my girl is choosy in who she's submissive to. | /r/askTRP | 31/07/14 02:21 AM |
| 4 | Confused about anger being a sign of dominance vs being reactiveAnger in and of itself isn't a bad thing - it's how it's channeled that brings about the negative or positive response. Actions, not emotions. Example: there's an event that's important to you to attend. You stress she be ready at a specific time. She's not. The out of control response: you scream that she get her ass ready right this second, you kick something over and bitch about how she ruined your evening while you drive erratically to the event. She sees you as an out of control hothead, he… | /r/askTRP | 31/07/14 01:28 AM |
| 1 | How can you find and identify Giving/Submissive/Feminine women? Who who enjoy giving and pleasing?Be the catalyst the type of women you're looking for will react to. She'll reveal herself to you. My fiancé, for example, works in law enforcement, has studied martial arts for almost two decades, is an authority in her chosen career, and by most outward appearances is an effectively alpha personality. Yet, in the context of a relationship is the most giving, submissive, and feminine woman I've come across. This is in our day to day and definitely in our sexual relationship. I've never been shy … | /r/askTRP | 31/07/14 01:14 AM |
| 1 | co-worker of my LTR said he would take my LTR home and fuck her if not for me...I'm chuckling as I read this, just imagining my fiancé's reaction if a coworker ever busted that line out on her. In response to your actual question, I wouldn't go so far as to pitch a fit or physically threaten this guy but he would absolutely know I know what he said and the consequences of crossing that boundary now and in the future. "LTR told me what you said to her. Completely out of line professionally and personally, and I'm making you aware right now that if you pursue any contact with… | /r/askTRP | 30/07/14 07:19 PM |
| 1 | Can someone explain why cute girls destroy their bodies with lots of tattoos and piercings?I think the men and women who tattoo themselves are split in the forward thinking category - for every regret based on a hasty decision, there's someone who planned and who still enjoys their artwork. | /r/askTRP | 30/07/14 07:08 PM |
| 1 | 7 Reasons Why Travelers Suck - A Redpill outlock after 16 months of travelingI have the feeling this gentleman gleaned his observations by inserting himself squarely into the middle of the most touristy hubs he could find. There's a distinct difference between a tourist and a traveler. | /r/TheRedPill | 30/07/14 06:25 PM |
| 4 | When the Woman Directly Addresses Your Shit Test Response TacticsWelcome to knowing a woman smarter and more emotionally developed than a box of rocks - it's not a bad thing. My fiancé can spot game and tactics a mile away and frankly it's one of the things I enjoy the most about her. She'll shit test too on a day she's feeling off or insecure, all people do, and the best response is exactly what your GF is doing to you right now (take your cue from her, my man): call out the game. "I can answer the question, but I think the bigger concern here is why you're … | /r/askTRP | 30/07/14 06:16 PM |
| 2 | Can someone explain why cute girls destroy their bodies with lots of tattoos and piercings?They like them at the time. The list of reasons why anyone likes and wants a tattoo goes on and on: they look cute, they want to do something perceived as rebellious or bad ass, to commemorate an event or person, they dig the pain, they're drunk, they're bored, to impress someone they like, to show membership in a group, on and on and on.... | /r/askTRP | 30/07/14 05:52 PM |
| 2 | My girlfriend is NOTHING like what Red Pill generalized women as. I'm convinced she is literally 1 in a Million.A lot of RP is wading through the things and people who make us unhappy to find the things and people who do - if you're happy, great. Use the productive parts of RP and keep on leading the life that's getting you what you want. My fiancé isn't stereotypical either, but we still utilize RP together and it works great for us. | /r/askTRP | 28/07/14 10:08 PM |
| 1 | Is smoking a redflag?I've not had your experience (and keep in mind, I own bars and restaurants) but it is a huge red flag health and hygiene wise. For a long term partner why would I look at someone playing with their own long term health? For a casual relationship, I still don't care for the smell etc. | /r/askTRP | 28/07/14 09:55 PM |
| 2 | Girl hanging with other guysGotcha. Traipsing over previously established boundaries is a flag for me - it doesn't take much to fire off a text saying "some classmates and I want to head to the pub to celebrate finals, cool?" My only lingering concern is that your actions and your words in regard to this guy don't match - she has "no choice" but to ride to school with him? Really no other option? If he's that bad, you all find a way to create another way, y'know? | /r/askTRP | 25/07/14 02:14 AM |
| 2 | Girl hanging with other guysWhat were your expressed expectations before this occurred? No male friends, period? To let you know where she'll be and who she'll be with? No alcohol unless you're present, etc.? If boundaries were never discussed, you have every right to be angry but very little right to take that out on your girlfriend. You're allowing another guy to drive her to class every day, it would be reasonable for a "socially naive" girl to assume that means you're okay with her in his company. Explain to her y this… | /r/askTRP | 25/07/14 12:15 AM |
| 2 | Would you rather date (or marry) a woman who went to college or one who didn't?Obviously this is a case by case basis, but as a general rule the women I prefer are intelligent and therefore educated. I'd like for our children to be able to look at both parents and see that we valued the pursuit of knowledge, and that we were able to follow through with a program of study. In my twin's case, she had the opportunity to work during and right out of high school, make money, start college but not finish as she moved into her field and excelled quickly. It wasn't until her late … | /r/askTRP | 24/07/14 07:23 PM |
| 1 | Explain to me this:What's to explain? People tend to dislike people who hate them. It's actually more logical than misogyny itself - while misogyny utilizes a generalization, if a man proclaims himself a misogynist, women know for sure that he as an individual hates them. Seems pretty black and white to me. | /r/askTRP | 24/07/14 07:13 PM |
| 2 | Girlfriends Ex tries to get back in touchIn my case, my girl has demonstrated extremely good judgement in the past in dealing with men outside of our relationship. She works with men primarily, and as a result has friendships with them and socially interacts. When a guy tries to step over the boundaries she's set for our relationship she cuts him out of her life. Period. She's neither spoken I'll nor gushed over her couple of exes, so I'd be inclined to have her see what he wants if she was curious. On the other hand, of my girl were i… | /r/askTRP | 23/07/14 04:07 PM |
| 1 | Do you hate male feminists?When something is irrelevant to my life, my reaction is generally one of apathy...lol If you see that as an insult so be it. I appreciate your attempt at bull dogging here, kid, but you're barking up the wrong tree. If you want to have a discussion about soccer, you don't go find some guy parked in front of an American football game and say, "hey, I see you're watching football. That means you hate soccer, right?" and then pursue a conversation about it when he replies "nah, I flip by it on the … | /r/askTRP | 23/07/14 03:41 PM |
| 1 | Do you hate male feminists?I haven't a clue. And I doubt you're a journalist because a reporter would know where to search for information. Asking someone who's apathetic about feminism about feminism is odd. | /r/askTRP | 22/07/14 11:11 PM |
| 1 | Do you hate male feminists?I own bars - I field comments multiple times a week that ladies night/gentlemans night is unfair. That my TVs ought to show equal WNBA and NBA games. That my staff isn't equally divided between gender. There is an argument once a week by someone on the staff because the clothing catalog for work attire has different options for men and women. On and on. Now, go on about your day - what you're fishing for isn't here. | /r/askTRP | 22/07/14 05:48 PM |
| 1 | Do you hate male feminists?Look around your home/office. Wherever you happen to be right now. Somewhere, I bet there's a door. Use it. Go out into the world and interact with people and you'll find plenty of examples on your own. Have a great day. | /r/askTRP | 22/07/14 05:38 PM |
| 1 | Do you hate male feminists?I'm talking about the spectrum of people I come across in real life and otherwise on a day to day basis. How they apply to feminism? Ask a feminist or someone who's invested in feminism one way or another. I'm not, so I'm the wrong person to carry on this conversation with. | /r/askTRP | 22/07/14 05:29 PM |
| 52 | Girl wants to hang out, but doesn't want to meet halfway.Agree with her. "You're right, it is. Text me the next time you're in my city and we'll see what my schedule looks like." | /r/askTRP | 22/07/14 05:23 PM |
| 10 | Is there ever a case for dating over the hill woman.People who speak in absolutes tend to be the lower end of the intelligence spectrum, so take the "rules" with a grain of salt. (If someone tries to tell you something is or is not 100% Red Pill, RUN.) TRP is a strategy to maintain positive masculine/feminine relationships and yours sounds like it's firing on all cylinders. Enjoy it. | /r/askTRP | 22/07/14 05:22 PM |
| 1 | Do you hate male feminists?The people I meet, converse with, and observe who are attempting to do so. I don't keep an itemized list but, as you're interested, I'm sure you could of you were so inclined to start. | /r/askTRP | 22/07/14 05:14 PM |
| 4 | Do you guys hit on/try and get with girls who are in relationships/married?No. Even when I was single myself, taken girls were never of much interest. Cheating generally a sign of low character. Even if it's just for the sex and character is neither here nor there, there's still potential for drama where none is needed. Plenty of single girls. | /r/askTRP | 22/07/14 03:36 AM |
| 1 | Is this a shit test or not?You two sound like a good, level headed pair. Enjoy the sushi. ;) | /r/askTRP | 21/07/14 10:38 PM |
| 3 | Is this a shit test or not?Shit test? If it is, cross your fingers and hope for more like it. This woman is giving something up (her effort and the money she earned from exerting it) in trade for your time. She's interested in you, and (more importantly) isn't afraid to offer something of herself to keep you interested in her. | /r/askTRP | 21/07/14 08:16 PM |
| 1 | Do you hate male feminists?Not what I'm getting at at all, actually. I don't actively concern myself with feminists. I apply my values to the world around me to garner the most optimum result. Let feminists do what feminists do, and if at some point it becomes important to me I'll up and take notice. | /r/askTRP | 21/07/14 08:05 PM |
| 1 | Do you hate male feminists?There is no official source that I can see, although like anything you'll find self-proclaimed experts. I have to say the biggest laughs I've ever had here are the people claiming definitively what is and is not Red Pill. As for most people not recognizing differences between men and women, sure, maybe they do but they certainly don't respect or appreciate them. Rather the opposite, they try to eliminate them. Eh, to each his own I'm perfectly happy with the way my life works. | /r/askTRP | 21/07/14 04:20 PM |
| 14 | Talking to and pulling a higher value woman.You're overthinking it. The Red Pill isn't about scraping the bottom of the barrel, it's about having high standards for yourself and actively bringing quality into your life. If this woman represents values you enjoy, interests you on an intellectual and sexual basis, then ask her out. If we all sat around waiting for women to drop in our laps and allow us to be Alpha the species really does deserve to die out. | /r/askTRP | 21/07/14 04:12 PM |
| 10 | Are her friends more important?Life happens. When it does, it's up to the person it happens to to revise the schedule. Your response was a little heavy handed here - you came across as too put off in relation to the slight, too involved even as you were making your exit. I would have replied with "I'm not thrilled with the short notice, but I'm sure you'll make it up to me." Then leave the ball in her court. If she's interested she'll make it up to you. | /r/askTRP | 21/07/14 03:01 AM |
| 3 | Married guy - Needs help, long postCommunicate if something needs communicating - if she responds positively, thank her for putting her previous attitude aside and reiterate you won't be spoken to like that. If she responds negatively and insists on pushing more buttons, advise her she'll need to approach the conversation as an adult if she expects a response and be done with it. If she doesn't respond at all, continue on with your day and when you return home set your expectations for harmony in the house you're living in. There… | /r/askTRP | 21/07/14 02:40 AM |
| 1 | Do you hate male feminists?I somehow doubt I'm the only one. Just because you're not on the bandwagon for a thing doesn't mean you're out to get it, either. I have my beliefs and I'm passionate about them, feminists have their beliefs and I'm apathetic about them. That's really all there is to it. TRP was pointed out to me by a number of customers - I own bars and restaurants and one of the most popular things we do at my main location is gentlemans' night. Thursday night (traditionally ladies night in the industry) we do… | /r/askTRP | 21/07/14 02:05 AM |
| 2 | Do you hate male feminists?I don't devote near enough concern to feminism to be anti-feminism. That verbiage gives credit for considerably more attention to the topic than I actually offer. | /r/askTRP | 20/07/14 05:32 AM |
| 1 | What women are really doing when taking photos for instagramOf course social media is centered on the person posting. Facebook, Instagram, whatever - it's there to give people a window into you, and for you to gain access to them. It's varying degrees of narcissistic to be sure, it's barely reality, but it's personalized and the people who use it get a kick out of that type of attention giving and getting. Eh. | /r/TheRedPill | 20/07/14 05:25 AM |
| 5 | Do you hate male feminists?Why would I say that? I don't know enough of them personally to make such a sweeping call. As an overall ideology, feminism is neither such a strongly emotional nor logistically relevant enough portion of my day to inspire much more than the occasional across the bar chit chat. | /r/askTRP | 20/07/14 05:16 AM |
| 1 | What women are really doing when taking photos for instagramTIL: people take photos with the motive of making reality look better. The Hell, you say... | /r/TheRedPill | 20/07/14 04:38 AM |
| 2 | Do you hate male feminists?I feel the same way toward most people I don't personally know; whether they're female feminists, male feminists, or the red pilliest red piller who ever red pilled. I don't hate, love, or otherwise devote any sort or extreme, intimate emotion to complete strangers. | /r/askTRP | 20/07/14 04:30 AM |
| 2 | New RPer in LTR but I have a unicorn but there's some history...I doubt it has shit to do with him vs you, mate - more a case of, "I think I'll try something new. Fuck! I hate this thing I tried! I don't think I'll try it again because, damn, it sucked!" If it's important to you for reasons beyond a half score old, in your head vendetta against her ex, pursue it. Figure out why it's the issue that it is for her and work from there. But if this is about "winning" only, drop it. | /r/askTRP | 20/07/14 04:24 AM |
| 4 | Do you hate male feminists?On the list of people and things that concern me, you'd be somewhere below the neighbor who forgets to pull his trashcan in after pickup day but maybe, on a slow day, just above the effort it took to think about picking the bad piece of lettuce out of my salad over lunch. While I'm sure there are plenty of folks who love and care about you, why would I, a complete stranger, take notice? | /r/askTRP | 20/07/14 04:14 AM |
| 1 | New RPer in LTR but I have a unicorn but there's some history...Let me get this straight - you're competing with a guy who hasn't even been playing the same game for over a decade, and the contest involves an activity that impressed your woman so much when she tried it she can't even stand the thought of doing it again?? Huh?? | /r/askTRP | 20/07/14 04:07 AM |
| 9 | Feel like this girl is trying to make me an orbiter/teasing me. How to respond?I'm not sure what the question is here... You two have a sexual relationship - you may not be having sex, but you grab her tits and ass, she sends you sexy pictures, so on and so forth. This has been going on for months. You two already orbit each other. If you don't want your relationship to change, don't change anything. | /r/askTRP | 20/07/14 02:41 AM |
| 2 | What to do when you make out with a girl and find her super drunk later that night making out with another guy?She's acting like nothing happened because nothing did happen. A girl who is not your girlfriend got trashed and made out with some guys, one of whom happened to be you. What exactly do you think you deserve here? | /r/askTRP | 19/07/14 10:01 PM |
| 0 | Anybody ever get the "why are you so mean to me?/why do you hate me?" line when teasing a girl?Is she flipping you shit back, or seriously bothered? I assume since you're asking the question, the girls in question are actually bugged by your negging. They don't see it as playful or amusing because a) you're coming across as mean rather than funny, or b) they're just not into that type of humor. I see this go down in my bars all the time - guy goes for the negging approach, girl doesn't respond, guy amplifies, girl asks why he's being a tool, guy continues, girl decides he's a dick and goe… | /r/askTRP | 19/07/14 04:14 PM |
| 7 | Bad at being alpha and just end up angry all the timeIt sounds as if you're basing your "Alphaness" off your girlfriend's attitude rather than your own. She's quiet and aloof, a little different than the typical plate you see in a Field Report, so you're suddenly assuming you're doing something wrong. Nah, you've just met and are in a relationship with a girl who wants an Alpha but could give a shit about the ins and outs of "game." Focus in on maintaining yourself, your confidence, your hobbies, frame etc. Scrap negging, dread, the short term plo… | /r/askTRP | 17/07/14 09:03 PM |
| 1 | How do destroy One-itis?I'm not saying she had those feelings and emotions with anyone else. Not at all. The point is, you had them with her. Hence the paradox - on one hand, you had a great experience. On the other, you're trying to convince yourself there's something bad about this girl because she has a higher partner count than you. Your brain is trying to make the exact same person good and bad, and that takes awhile to work through. Basically, you're going to have to reconcile your dualing opinions of this person… | /r/askTRP | 16/07/14 11:31 PM |
| 1 | How do destroy One-itis?The source of your issue might not be the specific girl, my friend - it might be the circumstances surrounding your breakup. If you broke up with her because she's had more partners than you, yet you still connected to being with her sexually as deeply as you describe, you created yourself a wicked little emotional/logical paradox your brain is still struggling to cope with. You labeled her as bad because of her partner count, but everything you did with her felt good, so your conscious/subconsc… | /r/askTRP | 16/07/14 03:37 PM |
| 2 | Clicking on with a girl fresh out of a relationship?Our fussing over spelling aside, let this one call you back. Tell her to give you a shout when she's ready for something more than buddies. | /r/askTRP | 15/07/14 10:37 PM |
| 3 | why the fuck are women always agreeing with that?My guess is these girls aren't agreeing so much as laughing it off as an attempt at humor on your part. That comment makes so little actual sense that they assume you're joking or will explain further. | /r/askTRP | 15/07/14 10:19 PM |
| 0 | Clicking on with a girl fresh out of a relationship?Or he meant "expected," so she saw them coming and turned him away before getting to sex? | /r/askTRP | 15/07/14 10:13 PM |
| 5 | Woman "stuck in a great marriage".Too late, lol...my wife (fiancé, actually) is a therapist. Of sorts, anyway. Her job these days would be most simply explained as law enforcement profiler (though that may even be a slight exaggeration). If it's her desire to "divorce rape" me she'll have access to some of the top attorneys in the state but, much like in business, I never enter into arrangements I can't afford to have go South on me. Now, as for white knighting? Nah, simply suggesting the landscape be surveyed accurately before … | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/07/14 02:48 AM |
| 12 | Woman "stuck in a great marriage".It's also unfortunate how quickly some people dismiss medical possibilities as a person "being an asshole." The truth is, there's not enough history here about her, her husband, or their relationship to unequivocally state she ought to just rub some dirt on this and walk it off. If sudden, aggressive or unpleasant behavior cropped up in my dog I'd take the thing to the vet within the week. And that's a dog. We're discussing a human being. There's no way I wouldn't encourage and afford at least t… | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/07/14 03:43 PM |
| 1 | Any FRs on narcissism and attraction?Simply, narcissism is a great short term play. It let's the girls who are out to picked up know you're out to pick them up, but they're gonna have to contribute too. It's the "I know I have options, so, whadda you have??" schtick. I absolutely believe both high confidence people and low self esteem folks can be narcissists, it just looks better when it's draped in confidence. | /r/TheRedPill | 13/07/14 03:29 PM |
| 2 | 40 year old living in mom's basement; what do?Simply, we have the resources as a culture to exist without help, so when we choose to live with extended family it's subconsciously viewed as needing aid or support beyond the norm. You're gonna get girls, like I said. Just be prepared to deal with the extra layer of scrutiny and be doubly prepared to have to rethink your situation if an LTR is ever in the cards. | /r/askTRP | 13/07/14 03:14 PM |
| 3 | 40 year old living in mom's basement; what do?It'll work to an extent. Will you never ever get laid living with mom? Nah, you will but, let's be real, your relationships will be threesomes (get your mind out of the gutters, fellas). Even if your mom hides out she still maintains a presence in the home that will be more overwhelming than most girls can handle. | /r/askTRP | 13/07/14 06:34 AM |
| 5 | Woman "stuck in a great marriage".Clearly she realizes there's a problem, or she wouldn't be posting. The writer knows something isn't right with how she's feeling given the totally opposing points of view she alternates between on the very same topic/person. There are certainly times to suck it up and look inward, to kick yourself out of your own wallowing, but I wonder if there isn't some PPD or the like happening here that the OP could look into getting some help for. | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/07/14 06:23 AM |
| 5 | 40 year old living in mom's basement; what do?What you're doing for your mother is great - the stigma isn't surrounding that, thankfully, it's simply the uncomfortable fact that every woman you bring home (short term or long term) won't be coming home, they'll be visiting your momma. Adults tend to prefer their romantic goings on to be between them and their partner, not subject to the rules or scrutiny of the lady of the house. This is not, unfortunately, going to change. Let me ask you this: is it essential you two stay in that particular… | /r/askTRP | 13/07/14 06:07 AM |
| 1 | Letting her pay for movies?Why not? Buy the soda and popcorn and enjoy yourself. | /r/askTRP | 13/07/14 04:33 AM |
| 3 | I am not sure if this is Red Pill. It has worked very well for me. Please let me know if this is or is not Red Pill. Also, opinions are welcome.I shudder to meet the woman who's falling for, much less attracted, to this... | /r/TheRedPill | 13/07/14 04:22 AM |
| 1 | TRP and being in love?For me, RP is about having value and respecting yourself. It's about achieving what you want in life and relationships without bending to the preconceived notions others have about what that should be. It's about being realistic about the cultural trends out there, and idealistic about your ability to work them and rise above them. If you're happy with the partner you've chosen and you don't feel you have to hide or compromise who you are to be with her, if the respect is mutual, if you're both … | /r/TheRedPill | 13/07/14 04:13 AM |
| 2 | Any FRs on narcissism and attraction?I own bars and restaurants. Field Report? Nah, this is my typical evening at the office...lol In my setting, people are either interested in social interaction or, at the very least, prepared for it. They're walking in the door expecting to meet some people and have a good time, and it's overwhelmingly likely they've already set their boundaries (or lack thereof) before they even set foot inside. Basically, if they're interested in hooking up it's now just a matter of who. If they're not, no "ga… | /r/TheRedPill | 13/07/14 12:00 AM |
| 7 | Virgin guy is bothered by his GF's past sluttiness. People responded with "You're the problem. Stop being such a slut-shamer."As a man, I'm going to chime in here with a "yes, it IS his problem." We set standards for ourselves, no one else. We choose the company we keep based on those standards, no one else. If a man elevates a woman to the status of his significant other, if he chooses her as his partner, whether he says it out loud or not he is making a statement he accepts (maybe doesn't like, but accepts) her past behavior. It appears this young man has chosen to stay with his girlfriend and make her troubling past… | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/07/14 09:43 PM |
| 1 | Wife wants to retire at 40, husband wants her to work. Whats a girl to do?And if that's the issue, there are definitely solutions. Just not what this couple has come up with. | /r/TheRedPill | 12/07/14 09:07 PM |
| 3 | Wife wants to retire at 40, husband wants her to work. Whats a girl to do?Exactly. If you want to talk about hamsters, both these folks are the poster children for the definition (assuming the story is playing out like the wife is describing). Rarely is there only one option or another - tailor make a solution. | /r/TheRedPill | 12/07/14 09:04 PM |
| 10 | Wife wants to retire at 40, husband wants her to work. Whats a girl to do?If I were this couple's marriage counselor, what you're saying would carry weight. As it stands, this is Reddit. We work with snippets of information. We do what we can with what we have. If OP fills in some additional info or her husband shows I'll happily reevaluate. Cheers, mate. | /r/TheRedPill | 12/07/14 01:25 AM |
| 29 | Wife wants to retire at 40, husband wants her to work. Whats a girl to do?These people are both idiots... If my wife came to me and said she didn't want to work (and yes, I can see where this woman is coming from), yet I still felt it important she contribute career wise, we'd be having one of two discussions: "oh, you don't care for your job and feel you've got nowhere to go? That's definitely frustrating. Find something you do like and if you make a little less, clearly no big deal." Or, "we both work and you're handling the house and kids as well? Money is better t… | /r/TheRedPill | 11/07/14 10:38 PM |
| 1 | Women do owe you sexYou paid for the one you fell out of. Beyond that, your penny for penny contribution earned you enough to watch a beer commercial featuring a model sporting a low cut top. | /r/TheRedPill | 11/07/14 10:26 PM |
| 7 | Trying to one night stand this girl through text messaging, she lives a 80 $ train ticket away.You spend a little too much time worrying about what other people think of you - if you need the validation that much, give the girl the eighty bucks to text your buddy and tell him how good of a lay you were. Same money spent, less time wasted. | /r/askTRP | 11/07/14 05:03 AM |
| 2 | Burning bridgesJust because you don't plan on going over a bridge again doesn't mean you have to take the time and effort to burn it. Relax, man. She's no longer interested so move on. That's cool. You can still be civil at parties and around mutual friends even though your sexual relationship didn't fly. | /r/askTRP | 11/07/14 05:00 AM |
| 2 | Female complains that her husband treats her like a child, replies are filled with rubbish from her man being a 'mental terrorist' to one female saying she'll only leave her man when she gets insurance money. True hamstering nature of females, in all its glory.Treating people as children when they act as children is a way of driving home the point, "hey, you're acting childish. Stop." Being a condescending dick when an adult is paying bills, backing in a car or not, etc., all of that reeks of massive insecurities. Frankly, I'd question the judgement of a woman who thought this was okay. Commenter is right, this has nothing to do with TRP. | /r/TheRedPill | 11/07/14 03:36 AM |
| 5 | Beta level OmegaWait... At what point did a homeless, jobless freeloader become an example of an Alpha anything? He may get a girl now and again but, c'mon, the calibre of woman he's hooking up with is the type a guy would find loitering behind a bowling alley. If this is all it takes to be RP it's no wonder people poke at this sub... | /r/TheRedPill | 11/07/14 03:19 AM |
| 2 | Do you accept abundance, or do you 'counter-attack' when asking a girl out and she plays hard to getIs she playing hard to get, or is she actually hard to get? When it's obvious I'm being asked to jump through hoops for the "privilege" of getting to know someone, woman or man, I move on. When a girl legitimately has a busy schedule, doesn't know enough about me, has enough value and respect for herself to be choosy; yeah I'm going to make an effort to discover and then overcome her objection. | /r/askTRP | 10/07/14 11:04 PM |
| 9 | I come off as uninterestedMake your interest known, just don't repeat yourself. I'm in the restaurant/bar business myself and an interaction I watched yesterday evening is the perfect example. A couple of girls are sitting at the bar being chatted up by a couple of guys. A fella from a table gets up, heads to the bar, orders a drink and says hello to the girls. One of the girls is sporting an MLB key ring and he comments on it, she says she's from that city and they exchange a few words while dude waits on his drinks. Be… | /r/askTRP | 10/07/14 10:54 PM |
| 1 | Developing oneitis for an *actually* unique woman?I'm all for compromise in certain situations - basically, when the compromise is one of behaviors as opposed to nature. If the behaviors you're describing makes the two of you happy, cool, but if her nature is simply to have multiple partners and not to be tied down to one, you're not going to talk her out of it. Be careful with that. | /r/askTRP | 10/07/14 08:41 PM |
| 5 | Hamsterfest of ladies on the wrong side of 30Hmm. I think we're doing ourselves a disservice here to assume any woman who is content, happy, and kicking ass after thirty is somehow hamstering away in a post wall oblivion. Some women are entitled idiots who don't realize they still have to function after their looks fade, but (gasp!) there are a few who realize human beings live a decently long time and prepare for it. As men who will inevitably age ourselves we're all going to be in the company of these geriatric ladies someday, so the fac… | /r/TheRedPill | 10/07/14 08:26 PM |
| 2 | Developing oneitis for an *actually* unique woman?My concern would be her poly approach if you're looking for something monogamous. Oneitis isn't an inherently bad thing if your needs are being met (it's when you're sacrificing needs and standards that you ought to branch out). However, such differing desires make me suspect your needs will not be met in this situation. | /r/askTRP | 10/07/14 07:32 PM |
| 5 | When women only date assholes and then claim that all men are pigs.While some RP truths and strategy can only help, I don't think the issue is rooted in any particular color of pill so much as a severe case of Insecurity 101. Your baby sister is scared of her own shadow and ought to sort that out a little before she even gives a second thought to men, women, or sexual/romantic relationships period. Yes, it's a sad side effect that she's tossing a label into the lap of an entire gender, but I'm guessing she doesn't have great things to say about other women eith… | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/07/14 05:57 PM |
| 1 | This whole thread is about mothers stealing money from their kids savings. Goes to show how irresponsible women can be when it comes to any sort of moneyI've met women who are irresponsible with money, and men who are irresponsible with money. I've met women who are the brilliant financial heads of their households, and men who are the same. Less to do with gender I've found, and more to do with recognizing the effort put into making it in the first place. | /r/TheRedPill | 10/07/14 03:57 PM |
| 1 | Dread Level: Thermonuclear. I told my wife I'm having an affair and I have no intention to stop.Overall, complex doesn't mean bad. Technically, again, you're correct. However in context you're, again, incorrect. OP is promoting a situation that that is escalating potential for fallout in divorce court (even in a no fault state), openly flaunting something that can and will have an impact in the community he surrounds himself with, is ramping up the potential for his wife to react to him in an unsafe and irrational manner, and at the very least is giving his wife ample time and opportunity … | /r/TheRedPill | 10/07/14 03:51 PM |
| 1 | Dread Level: Thermonuclear. I told my wife I'm having an affair and I have no intention to stop.You're right - he's accomplished making the situation much more complex than it needs to be. | /r/TheRedPill | 10/07/14 03:33 PM |
| 2 | Is sex worth the effort?That's the thing though, it doesn't. I own bar/restaurants. I watch people interact for a living. Negging, dread game, etc. takes home the girls who were there to go home anyway. | /r/askTRP | 08/07/14 08:27 PM |
| 2 | Is sex worth the effort?I'm all for presenting yourself in the best possible light and I'm definitely all for establishing and holding firm to personal standards. It's the PUA aspects of game that are wearisome. | /r/askTRP | 08/07/14 08:24 PM |
| 6 | Dread Level: Thermonuclear. I told my wife I'm having an affair and I have no intention to stop.Super. Sounds deeply advantageous. | /r/TheRedPill | 08/07/14 08:16 PM |
| 1 | Dread Level: Thermonuclear. I told my wife I'm having an affair and I have no intention to stop.His wife is absolutely being afforded the same. She, however, has chosen not to engage in an affair. | /r/TheRedPill | 08/07/14 08:08 PM |
| 24 | Dread Level: Thermonuclear. I told my wife I'm having an affair and I have no intention to stop.I'm not positive what's going on here that you've created with dread or manipulated to your advantage. You've already said you want a divorce, have brought that fact up to your wife, and dammit she just won't give you one. Now you're just being a tool because whether you're married or divorced is simply of no consequence to you. | /r/TheRedPill | 08/07/14 02:25 PM |
| -1 | Is sex worth the effort?Most gaming is pretty basic manipulation and tends to work best on idiots, narcissists, and the terribly socially awkward. If there's effort behind it at all, yeah, I have to say I find it tedious to put forth said effort to sleep with idiots, narcissists, and the terribly socially awkward (yes, even if they're hotter than the hinges of Hell). As you raise your personal value and your confidence follows as a natural result, the gaming side of TRP falls by the wayside. There comes a more organic … | /r/askTRP | 08/07/14 02:08 PM |
| 10 | New to 'plate-spinning' - How do I deal with the inevitable "Are we dating?, want to be exclusive?, Be my boyfriend?" questions?Just because "game" exists, doesn't mean everything has to be one. Don't strategize yourself into undo stress and complication, my man. Now, repeat after your third grade teacher: "honesty...is...the...best...policy." Why aren't you actually interested in dating and commitment? Your solo time is too valuable to you? Then say that. "Myself and my job are my key priorities right now. A monogamous dating relationship would take the time away I've dedicated to spending on these things." If you get a… | /r/askTRP | 08/07/14 06:37 AM |
| 3 | Advice needed after failing shit testTrue enough. Instead of worrying about whether or not you're being tested (which simply adds stress to any situation), back up a step and determine what your desired outcome is, what your boundaries are for achieving that outcome, and then stick to your priorities. In this case, instead of worrying about it possibly being a shit test and then how to pass it, just ask yourself, "do I have the time in my schedule to be rescheduled more than once? At what point does the uncertainty become so much o… | /r/askTRP | 08/07/14 12:00 AM |
| 3 | Advice needed after failing shit testDon't overthink this. Sometimes, as the saying goes, a cigar is just a cigar. Go view the room and if you're comfortable with the arrangement, place and price, take it. | /r/askTRP | 07/07/14 11:46 PM |
| 14 | The Repressed Alpha: Married 3 years to fat feminist wife, now I want to spin plates.Repressed Alpha = Beta. Here's the deal... You've got a few good things going for you these days - a decent business and some okay looks, and so you're getting attention you've never gotten before. You haven't swallowed crap yet, you're just basking in the glow of sucking less than you've sucked before. Women hypergamous? You're the definition of it right now with your ""I can have any woman I want so I'm gonna upgrade ASAP!" attitude. I'm not saying you ought to stick it out with a woman you're… | /r/askTRP | 06/07/14 10:25 PM |
| 3 | WTF, happened with this girl? She cares more about her abusive alcoholic bouyfriend. I have my own thoughts but I can use your input RP.Perhaps confirm the girl you're taking on a date doesn't have a boyfriend? Seems like a good place to start. Your mileage may vary. I know there are guys out there who don't care but it's needless drama in my book. | /r/askTRP | 06/07/14 01:34 AM |
| 1 | Online dating easy mode?More responses leading to...? | /r/askTRP | 05/07/14 09:44 PM |
| 1 | Function of women's petty white liesWomen lie, exaggerate and downplay for the very same reasons men lie, exaggerate and downplay: to look better regarding something they're insecure about. Handle it the same way: if the truth isn't critical at that very second, move on with the conversation but watch for the isolated white lie to become habitual. If it is a critical piece of information, ask for confirmation and decide if the lack of trust is something you can deal with in the relationship moving forward. | /r/askTRP | 05/07/14 03:30 PM |
| 1 | Online dating easy mode?Here's the thing about online dating: people post on websites designed to encourage communication because they...wait for it...want to communicate. The fact that you've accomplished said communication is about as impressive as being handed a menu in a restaurant. Yes, you've managed to add a little "shock value" to your profile, but my question is "to what end?" Has the approach done anything for you other than an IM conversation? | /r/askTRP | 05/07/14 03:18 PM |
| 4 | A woman is looking for my friend to give her money. What should I do?If you were a man you shouldn't make that choice, er, series of choices either - cheating on your wife, voicing intimate grievances, so on and so forth. OP, if your friend doesn't deal with stress well, just think of how much more stressful this is going to be when she does find him and shows up on his front doorstep. Not a good time to mention, "oh seriously dude? So that girl from Craigslist last year finally found you, huh?" Tell the man. | /r/askTRP | 05/07/14 05:57 AM |
| 2 | How to overcome shit tests about my height?Ask the girl who just negged you - that girl has got RedPill game down pat. Seriously though - ask a silly question, expect a silly response. I doubt this girl was even shit testing you, more than likely it was the least awkward response she could come up with on the fly to a really bumbling question. I mean, what did you expect her to say? "Oh yeah, rip my clothes off now you almost but not quite physician!" Short of cracking a joke, there was no way to answer this - she's clearly not at a poin… | /r/askTRP | 05/07/14 12:01 AM |
| 3 | Revenge or leave be?If you want to have sex and don't care of it's with a girl who blew you off, go over there. As for revenge? It's infantile and silly. | /r/askTRP | 04/07/14 11:44 PM |
| 7 | Introducing a Stress Monster Mega-Beta to TRPIn the spirit of "being the real thing," don't play with this guy any more than you'd game a girl. Pull him aside and say "there's some competition here that I don't think needs to be happening. Why stress ourselves out with that? Let's grab a beer and I'm sure you'll find out I'm not that terrible." | /r/askTRP | 03/07/14 09:01 PM |
| 2 | Women tries to logic away finding and being attracte to an alpha maleShe claims, he claims, blah blah. All speculation as neither one of us know either one of them. Here's hoping they're happy and I'll leave it at that. | /r/TheRedPill | 03/07/14 08:39 PM |
| 2 | Women tries to logic away finding and being attracte to an alpha maleMmm hmm. I'll shore it up a little more: woman leaves man she's not in love with. Not enough info to know why. Woman marries man she's in love with. Not enough info to know why. | /r/TheRedPill | 03/07/14 07:17 PM |
| 1 | How dare you say I look just "alright"!!!I certainly hope the comment was there just to "get some lulz," as another poster mentioned, but it's still an odd and insecure strain of humor. It's already obvious what kind of reaction a comment like that is going to get, not exactly an experiment. As for the humor in it? My theory has always been "just because you can tip a five year old off their tricycle, doesn't mean you should." Maybe I'm just a tad older and less humorous than the average RedPiller. | /r/TheRedPill | 03/07/14 06:21 PM |
| 4 | How dare you say I look just "alright"!!!She's not my type at all, so I'd echo the "meh" sentiment. However I can't think of a single reason why I'd bother to type it out. If your feelings are truly so ambivalent, why comment? The truth? It's a sad and pathetic case of "I'm too cool to like things that are cool syndrome." Dude just made himself look as bad as the attention grabbing insecurity of the girl posting and commenting in the first place by making it entirely obvious he does, indeed, allow his jimmies to be rustled by someone o… | /r/TheRedPill | 03/07/14 06:08 PM |
| 1 | Thoughts about a plate-LJBF situation?This is where being upfront works in your favor - she'll probably make an attempt at stirring something up if she's the type of girl you describe. Yet when your actions are transparent and you carry a reputation of addressing things calmly and directly, her drama won't find traction. | /r/askTRP | 03/07/14 05:47 PM |
| 6 | Her ideas for activitiesYou are aware women can be creative, plan, and occasionally are tons of fun, right? Right? Some of the best dates I've been on have been pulled off by ladies who executed without an ounce of effort on my part. I see no reason to be afraid of her coming up with "her own idea." | /r/askTRP | 03/07/14 05:01 PM |
| 4 | How do I reply? Shit test to avoid planned sex?Basic manners dictate you check in when you're going to be arriving somewhere late. She's being polite. If after ten is fine, say "sure, after ten is fine." | /r/askTRP | 03/07/14 04:54 PM |
| 1 | Thoughts about a plate-LJBF situation?You've written paragraphs on a topic that requires three sentences and you're still skirting the most obvious and effective plan of action: say what you're going to do, and then do it. Done. Girls flake. Boys flake. Women and men are upfront. | /r/askTRP | 03/07/14 04:34 PM |
| 1 | Thoughts about a plate-LJBF situation?The next time she calls or texts, reply with "I just don't see much of a connection between us. See ya' around." Why are you insisting on making this so difficult? | /r/askTRP | 03/07/14 04:27 PM |
| 1 | How far is too far for cheating? Am I setting my standards too high?All women do this? I've yet to meet a woman who habitually engages in mentally unfocused, wildly unstable, frankly dangerous flirtations with potentially unstable strangers, including but not limited to getting felt up on a train. Huh. Maybe I don't get out much... But that's not the issue - the issue is your woman does this and will continue to do this. So, can you put up with it or not? I couldn't, frankly. | /r/askTRP | 02/07/14 07:57 PM |
| 2 | Thoughts about a plate-LJBF situation?If you're not interested in seeing her one on one, don't see her one on one. Period. So you see her around or out with your friends. So? What are you scared of? Tell her you feel like things have cooled off between you and you'll see her around, but decline any invites for other time together. | /r/askTRP | 02/07/14 07:38 PM |
| 2 | The unbeatable shit testIt's sufficient to be aloof if you can dance, and simply don't. Take a quick turn around the floor and then say, "nah, I'm good," and you're all good. It is not sufficient to be aloof if you can't dance, because at that point you're not being aloof, you're being the asshole who can't dance and is trying to pass his lack of skill off as some bullshit attempt at cool. Learning a few simple steps doesn't turn you into "something you're not" any more than mastering a couple good dishes makes you Gor… | /r/askTRP | 02/07/14 05:20 AM |
| 2 | Girlfriend tells me another guy approaches her/asks for her numberClearly Dread Game! Beware, your woman has been reading /r/theredpill!! Or... Someone hit on your girlfriend, she got a got a little ego boost from the compliment and is getting another self-administered one by pointing out, hey, the relationship she's already in is worth more than some jerk with a pickup line. | /r/askTRP | 02/07/14 05:07 AM |
| 3 | Left a Hungarian chick at the bar. I need feedback.I've never actually heard of a girl doing this, beyond bad date urban legend. | /r/askTRP | 02/07/14 04:57 AM |
| 1 | Is she stringing me along?Why does asking a simple question seem so hard for so many people? While the gentleman here on /r/askTRP are a font of wisdom, go to the source. "L," I'm getting mixed signals here. Friends or something more? This is what I want: (fill in what you want here). If we're not on the same page lets both move on." | /r/askTRP | 01/07/14 11:17 PM |
| 4 | Left a Hungarian chick at the bar. I need feedback.It's not even Beta, it's asinine is what it is. | /r/askTRP | 01/07/14 11:06 PM |
| 12 | Left a Hungarian chick at the bar. I need feedback.Power =/= snuck out the back. State your position out in the open and walk out through the damn front door when you go. | /r/askTRP | 01/07/14 07:07 PM |
| 3 | Dealing with an insecure SO?Be very clear that if anything is going to make you exit the relationship, it's going to be her accusatory attitude toward a glance here and there, not the girls you're glancing at. Not dread, just the facts. Point out it's easier to connect with her when she's trusting of you, that gives you a better outlook on the relationship overall - a trusting, confident outlook makes her more your partner and less your judge. Give her something to work with too to promote that attitude - don't gawk or gus… | /r/askTRP | 30/06/14 08:51 PM |
| 5 | Using Dread game properlyQuit trying to "prove a point" - have a little respect for yourself and the rest will fall into place. Instead of worrying whether or not you're playing the dread game correctly, simply ask yourself if you're getting what you want. What you want: an attentive, flirtatious girlfriend who gives something back when you're investing in her. What you're getting: someone who can muster up the energy to go out and do what she wants, but is casual at best about nurturing you. Say very simply and clearly… | /r/askTRP | 29/06/14 02:42 PM |
| 6 | How to convince friends not to buy girls drinksWhy is this any of your concern? If you're happy being who you are and they're happy being who they are, drop it. "Backhandedly rude" isn't everyone's style (whatever color pill you happen to swallow). So be it. | /r/askTRP | 29/06/14 05:00 AM |
| 1 | How can I deal with her friend interrupting our conversation?Too soon for names? Why? One of the first things any salesman is taught is to introduce himself, get his customer's name and to use it often in the conversation. And speaking of introducing yourself, it works with her friend too. Give her your name, get hers, give her the courtesy of being polite while she says hello to her friend. If your initial interest is truly interested she'll find a way to keep you in the conversation or get you alone again. If she's not, or if she's simply too guilty to … | /r/askTRP | 29/06/14 04:55 AM |
| 2 | What do you do when a girl does this to you?Call. Have a conversation. Send a text saying "I'm going to give you a call tonight around six so we can make plans. If that doesn't work send me another time" and then call tonight at six. If she flakes, leave the ball in her court and go on about your business. | /r/askTRP | 28/06/14 10:53 PM |
| 1 | Internet hero bsWhat are you trying to diffuse, exactly? She's quick and kind of funny. If you're not up for that go find a dull chick. | /r/askTRP | 28/06/14 10:48 PM |
| 0 | Keeping her interest up over time?Be interesting. Have high standards for yourself. Tricking people into thinking you're worth hanging around if you're not doesn't work "over time." | /r/askTRP | 28/06/14 10:45 PM |
| 2 | Going "gold" with the hot girls and "cold" with the not-so-hot girls... Explanation? Thoughts? Experience/story inside.Lol...no... The girls you "bagged" were the former. Out there looking to actually meet and interact. The girls who aren't responding are the ones just checking things out, getting a little esteem bump from someone viewing their profile and dropping them a note. | /r/askTRP | 28/06/14 10:36 PM |
| 2 | Going "gold" with the hot girls and "cold" with the not-so-hot girls... Explanation? Thoughts? Experience/story inside.People use dating websites for two primary reasons: they want to get to know and get together with others, or they need to know others want to get to know and get together with them. Guess which girls are replying to you? Don't overthink it. | /r/askTRP | 28/06/14 04:40 PM |
| 19 | Dealing with mall saleswomenWhat's the end game, exactly? Improving your own game or just screwing with salespeople because they're a captive audience at the mall? Knowing a salesman sells (male or female) isn't exactly a strong insight - everyone with half an ounce of common sense knows their "game." But, if you're so inclined to watch and interact with the good ones there's always something to be learned about making people comfortable, opening up a conversation, finding triggers, etc. | /r/askTRP | 28/06/14 02:30 PM |
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