Using Dread game properly

Johnny10toes · 2014-06-29T14:11:41+00:00

Dread is a lot more subtle. Not yelling "hey I'm fucking other bitches!" It subtle where there are doubts on if you are or aren't fucking or capable of fucking other bitches. Letting the hamster run instead of giving the hamster direction of travel.

KyfhoMyoba · 2014-06-29T13:38:18+00:00

Did you play this correctly? Kinda, sorta. It's a bit much for your first try at Dread Game, but better than staying a BP beta bitch. Check out therationalmale.com. Rollo has a couple of good articles on Dread.

As far as when you should contact her, I'd say 3 days, and act like nothing happened. If she pitches a bitch, refuse to discuss it, don't back down on this, and if she insists and won't shut up about it, go dark again. If she contacts earlier, play it by ear. An apology and a commitment to change is mandatory.

Mr_Reardon · 2014-06-29T14:42:01+00:00

Quit trying to "prove a point" - have a little respect for yourself and the rest will fall into place. Instead of worrying whether or not you're playing the dread game correctly, simply ask yourself if you're getting what you want.

What you want: an attentive, flirtatious girlfriend who gives something back when you're investing in her. What you're getting: someone who can muster up the energy to go out and do what she wants, but is casual at best about nurturing you. Say very simply and clearly what you want, and explain what will happen if that doesn't occur. And then stick to that. "I'm under the very distinct impression you're only interested in spending time when I'm spending on taking you out. I want more than that out of a relationship. If you can't sustain that, that's alright but that's not for me."

Johnny10toes · 2014-06-29T19:59:03+00:00

Dread is what she does to herself. It's basically show, don't tell. Just leave some very subtle hints there, without directly talking to her about it. She'll do the rest for you.

3Gf93bMtX3 · 2014-06-29T14:26:47+00:00

New here,

I would ignore her for a week or so. Meanwhile picking up new plates to reduce outcome dependancy.

What do you think?

_and_a_PhD · 2014-06-30T00:24:52+00:00

First thing, women with health problems are never worth it. As soon as they nail you down with marriage, then the sex ends full stop under the guise of "health problems". It can also start when you become a LTR. Sure, when she is showing off she will work around her health problems, but after you are nailed down that effort will end, sooner rather than later. Next here immediately.

Girls know one of the best ways to betafy a man is to withhold sex. It kills a mans SMV, self worth and makes them beta orbiters all in one easy step.

Good job on plating her. She has had you orbiting for 3 years it appears. From here on out make her pay for dates or go dutch.

todaysShadow · 2014-06-30T15:28:29+00:00

dude fuck this bitch. you trying to marry someone with health problems? No! so why date her and put up with her shit like a pussy. walk away. I guarantee you'll be nailing another broad within a month

drrtyfrrnr · 2014-06-30T20:54:59+00:00

She already considers you done. No woman says that kind of stuff without meaning it on a subconscious level.

Pretentious_Designer · 2014-06-29T13:34:31+00:00

You have to know when to hold them and when to fold them. You are using dread game well, but the f its totally a 180 you might not be doing it very well. It seems like to her, you're either attempting a fadeout or playing games with her. I wouldn't call those good. It might still work if she likes you enough, but it might backfire.

LukeMooney · 2014-06-30T14:03:49+00:00

You have got a long way to go. A long way. I can see a lot wrong with your behaviour just from that post, let me see if I can help;

My GF of two years and I have been through quite a lot

This suggests to me that you have been using her as an emotional tampon at times, you can't do that. You are the rock, she can use you to cry etc. but it doesn't work both ways. Show weakness, even if your mum dies, she will remember it.

We have been off and on

She has fucked others, is using you until something better comes along, get rid, you don't want to be some bitches branch until she swings to something better.

First two weeks were great. She was ideal. Then I started going beta provider without even realizing it and she started taking me for granted, texting less, flirting less, etc

There is the problem - you. Act like a man and she'll behave like a woman. Act beta, you know what to expect.

want to come upstairs?

Don't ask, just lead, take her by the hand and walk her to your bed, then just start, never give a woman a decision to make, just make it for her, if she wants to disagree she can, just don't expect them to make decisions, they're too emotional.

I'm sensing a pattern here. Don't worry about it.

That is a really beta thing to say, just sounds proper butthurt and faggy. If you wanna break up, or do dread, call her, say you need to talk, refuse to discuss what it's about over the phone, meet her (she'll soon find time), and explain in an adult way that you're not satisfied in the relationship, and that it's over. Leave. That's how you do dread. You gotta be willing to actually walk away!!!

No more free dates

Again, very cringe and beta. Do not send messages like this. ever.

6/29 update I plated her

I find that difficult to believe from how invested you sounded in you original post, but if you have then more power to you.

Thanks TRP I am just going to lift, game, handle my own shit

That is what you actually need to be doing. Remember that.

All the best Luke

Title	Using Dread game properly
Author	Thedestroyer51
Upvotes	10
Comments	19
Date	June 29, 2014 12:32 PM UTC (12 years ago)
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