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Sometimes people never do cheat again and it is possible to move past infidelity.
/r/RedPillWomen31/05/17 06:26 AM
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Oh I don't disagree this was the wrong way to go about it. And I'm certainly not suggesting he's handling it well now.
/r/RedPillWomen31/05/17 04:42 AM
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And that's a very good point, she very well could be doing that. What about it OP?
/r/RedPillWomen31/05/17 04:28 AM
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True, I'm assuming they both want to work this out.
/r/RedPillWomen31/05/17 04:27 AM
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Oh oh OK my bad.
/r/RedPillWomen31/05/17 04:26 AM
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I'm not sure what part of what I said you're disagreeing with.
/r/RedPillWomen31/05/17 04:26 AM
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Of they're both willing to make it work they can absolutely reconcile.
/r/RedPillWomen31/05/17 04:25 AM
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If you're working so hard to be better for him, one could assume that its because you love and care about him! Many people get cold feet at a wedding. I don't often talk about this but I was engaged before I met my husband. I broke it off three months before the wedding. I don't really want to analyze why on such a public forum but if you want to PM we can talk about it. The TL;DR is that I wasn't in love with him and the panic I was feeling was much more than cold feet. Being concerned about "i…
/r/RedPillWomen30/05/17 02:29 PM
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Why on earth is this comment being downvoted?
/r/RedPillWomen30/05/17 02:25 PM
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An excellent point!
/r/RedPillWomen30/05/17 02:24 PM
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The fact that he keeps making up different lies, and then admits to them, shows that it is compulsive. If he wanted to genuinely convince you, he would have stuck to a story. My husband's ex wife is a compulsive liar, I catch her in lies all the time and they're sometimes about nothing! However he could just suck at lying too. But, OP knows his history better than we do. Maybe he does this all the time.
/r/RedPillWomen30/05/17 02:24 PM
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Oh its too late to initiate sex. You two are way past that point. No one here blames you for not wanting to touch him now, even if this is partially your fault. However, for the record, my husband prefers I initiate. He says its a huge turn on for him and that way he knows I really want it. Plus, I think he was denied consistently and constantly in his first marriage and I honestly think he can't bear to be turned down so he'd rather go without. But certainly now its too late for that anecdote. …
/r/RedPillWomen30/05/17 02:23 PM
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Well said my dear! And so kindly too. This is the way I believe all RP advice should be given to women, they'd be way more receptive to it.
/r/RedPillWomen30/05/17 02:20 PM
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If he has sexually cheated on you, you are so not out of line for asking him to get an STD test. More likely, he's embarrassed and he's reacting in anger to you for that reason.
/r/RedPillWomen30/05/17 02:19 PM
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Certainly now it will be difficult to cultivate that romantic feeling. However, no problem in a marriage is ever one sided. So the prioritization of sex has fallen down the list for both of you. Perhaps you both got too comfortable and stopped flirting and wanting each other. It isn't easy with kids, I know. I have three boys and they're exhausting. But this could be the potential wake up call you both need to make each other a priority.
/r/RedPillWomen30/05/17 02:17 PM
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But it isn't empathy, it very well could be something she did. If OP doesn't have sex regularly with her husband, lets say they have a dead bedroom, would you then agree it isn't her fault?
/r/RedPillWomen30/05/17 02:15 PM
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Perhaps a marriage counselor would help?
/r/RedPillWomen30/05/17 02:14 PM
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I am so sorry this is happening to you. My mother was cheated on by my dad when I was younger. I hated him for a long time when I found out (she stayed) but now that I'm older, I see the problem was two sided. She prioritized being a mother and a homemaker over being a wife. Men have needs and if the wife doesn't fill them, he willseek that fulfillment outside of the relationship. That being said, your husband could just be panicking about being caught, thus all the stories. However you know him…
/r/RedPillWomen30/05/17 02:13 PM
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The best way to get over the unfamiliarity (and the fakeness) and the discomfort is to just do it. The more you dress that way, the less awkward it will feel. If you wear make up everyday it will become habit. Vulnerability is a habit like anything else.
/r/RedPillWomen30/05/17 01:36 PM
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Very true
/r/RedPillWomen30/05/17 01:31 PM
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Good for you. And I wouldn't offer an ultimatum, you don't want a proposal under those circumstances. Just break it off. That's my advice anyway. But I definitely think you're smart for having a timeline. Don't want to waste your time.
/r/RedPillWomen29/05/17 05:13 PM
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Yeah he probably like you said, wanted to keep you on good terms with him for a plate later or he just enjoys making you miserable. Cut him out of your life.
/r/RedPillWomen29/05/17 04:35 PM
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Do what you need to do to move on and don't worry about what he thinks about you. He's manipulating your feelings just to mess with you. He sounds sadistic.
/r/RedPillWomen29/05/17 04:04 PM
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Honestly I think you should have your own timeline that is just for you. Evaluate your relationship and decide on your own. I would trust this guy but not wait indefinitely.
/r/RedPillWomen29/05/17 04:03 PM
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My SIL loves that show 😁 maybe I should watch it so I can learn how to make a sponge cake.
/r/RedPillWomen29/05/17 05:38 AM
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Seriously. Sewing saves money, making bread and other staples keeps my family healthy. Ok it's not sexy but definitely useful.
/r/RedPillWomen29/05/17 01:32 AM
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Wtf is a Victoria sponge cake
/r/RedPillWomen29/05/17 01:31 AM
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That's true. Thanks for the idea!
/r/RedPillWomen28/05/17 04:00 PM
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It did work for us but I mean right or wrong in the sense of, what would I say if someone asked my opinion. I would not recommend how I did it go anyone else. It was a unique situation and I'm lucky it turned into a marriage. It was all pre RPW.
/r/RedPillWomen28/05/17 01:13 PM
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This is amazing! It should be it's own post!
/r/RedPillWomen28/05/17 11:52 AM
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This is such a great point!
/r/RedPillWomen28/05/17 03:03 AM
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I love this! We did a no nagging challenge about a year ago as a community, maybe we should do another one.
/r/RedPillWomen27/05/17 10:59 PM
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Yeah or just being pleasant or if he chooses a date or whatever but don't let him make decisions for you like money wise or other important decisions. It's been a while since I dated so I honestly forget the little milestones.
/r/RedPillWomen27/05/17 08:51 PM
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It's impossible to tell from an online profile. Everyone always tried to out their best foot forward and exaggerate. Meet him and begin vetting him, it's the only way to know.
/r/RedPillWomen27/05/17 07:44 PM
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In today's society the lines have blurred so the two can almost seemingly cannot be separated. Not everyone gets married anymore and many live together before marriage anyway. I think this question more means what do you do early on in the relationship and what do you save for the LTR. That is up to the individual and the relationship. If you do too much too early it can come across as domineering or mothering or the guy will think he has to put forth less effort. Back in the day the things you …
/r/RedPillWomen27/05/17 07:39 PM
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What I would say is you don't blindly submit to a man before you've finished the vetting process. Girl game or not. I think that it's up to each woman to use her common sense about how much to give and when in the relationship. But submission, you don't just give that to any man, he has to demonstrate to you that he's worthy of your submission.
/r/RedPillWomen27/05/17 07:34 PM
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I would have left my husband if he didn't marry me. Its a non starter with me. I wouldn't have children with someone I wasn't married to.
/r/RedPillWomen27/05/17 07:31 PM
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Ooh I like your idea of the vacation. I'm not sure how I feel about the living together situation honestly. I didn't wait but idk if it was a good thing or not.
/r/RedPillWomen27/05/17 07:25 PM
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You're welcome. I honestly think you're selling yourself short with this type of arrangement. Plus, as I understand it, if it were truly a polyamory situation, you would be dating other guys too.
/r/RedPillWomen27/05/17 07:24 PM
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If they were exclusive I would agree with you, but they aren't. She knows he's not monogamous, it's up to her to keep herself healthy.
/r/RedPillWomen26/05/17 07:54 PM
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This isn't the hill I want to die on Uh, him lying to you and exchanging "overly affectionate" texts with an ex isn't a hill you want to die on? Yes, yes it is.
/r/RedPillWomen26/05/17 07:47 PM
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Both parties would need a certain level of maturity and self-awareness too, on top of honest communication. This is true just to have a long lasting relationship. Hopefully you would have vetted for it.
/r/RedPillWomen26/05/17 07:45 PM
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Anything is possible but the chances aren't high for a relationship beginning this way which is why we don't encourage it.
/r/RedPillWomen26/05/17 07:40 PM
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The guy doesn't seem to care one bit about your health It's not his responsibility. It's hers.
/r/RedPillWomen26/05/17 07:38 PM
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A good point.
/r/RedPillWomen26/05/17 07:37 PM
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My dear, this is unequivocally your fault and you don't have a right to be upset with him. He was honest and up front about what he wanted from the very beginning. You are the one that compromised and hid your wants and needs. I'd say let this one go, he's never going to commit to you the way you want. He's already told you that. As for how do you manage the other girls, you don't. You're one of them. You're no different to him than any of the other girls. You are either ok with being a plate of…
/r/RedPillWomen26/05/17 07:36 PM
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Lol good luck! Stay classy! Hold frame!
/r/RedPillWomen26/05/17 03:56 PM
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I had this same problem for a while because I was cheated on in a previous relationship and honestly it was just like going cold turkey and discipline that got me out if the habit. I also asked my husband to change all his password so I didn't know them.
/r/RedPillWomen26/05/17 03:56 PM
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Idk I don't see the description of the rough patch although I can see in other comments it has something to do with him being hit on at work.
/r/RedPillWomen25/05/17 08:57 PM
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Hmm... Rubs eyes
/r/RedPillWomen25/05/17 08:55 PM
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Yes I was asking you and I agree! It would seem you guys are moving toward marriage. I'm befuddled as to why he's balking.
/r/RedPillWomen25/05/17 08:55 PM
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But you he'll humor you, implying you ask or demand or hint that you want to check up on him. This isn't a good behavior. It's controlling.
/r/RedPillWomen25/05/17 08:54 PM
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I see comments referring to the rough patch but I don't actually see it in her post. Am I missing something?
/r/RedPillWomen25/05/17 06:29 PM
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if he's on FB sometimes he will humour me and go into his messages Does this still happen?
/r/RedPillWomen25/05/17 06:27 PM
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I'd be curious to know if this is the case and what sort of standard he has for being a husband. You guys already live together and you're building your career and you're each committed to each other. How is that not already fulfilling the husband role?
/r/RedPillWomen25/05/17 06:25 PM
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Honestly, your relationship isn't "fresh" at a year and seven months, especially if you're living together. I agree. At the very least, you might have completely incompatible timelines, considering he apparently can't fathom one at 29, after dating for a year and a half and living together for six months. It strikes me as odd that he's so evasive at his age about marriage. That's a lot of your best years, to finally realize he's not on board. Yes it is.
/r/RedPillWomen25/05/17 06:22 PM
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Yes!!
/r/RedPillWomen25/05/17 06:19 PM
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Oh OK then I would think yes you are.
/r/RedPillWomen25/05/17 06:14 PM
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I'm so glad things are getting better for you and your family. Y'all will be stronger and closer for it.
/r/RedPillWomen25/05/17 03:58 PM
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Yes! I quite agree this is part of the problem. It's multi-faceted, even within the same person.
/r/RedPillWomen25/05/17 03:56 PM
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That's not true though. My husband and I have the traditional marriage. But I had to wait until he was mature and old enough to want it. You just need to wait for the guys around you to get a little older. Did you think this was going to be easy? I had 4 LTR's before I found my husband. Ask others here, I'm sure many didn't know their SO at age 20.
/r/RedPillWomen25/05/17 03:55 PM
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Motherhood is wonderful. Maybe some therapy for you to work through some of your issues. I'm glad he had the means to support his child. I thought I read you may be pregnant, do you know for sure now?
/r/RedPillWomen25/05/17 03:52 PM
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There's a difference between stormy seas for your captain and him being an emotional tampon. Obviously the latter is unattractive and you don't want that. But men are human they can't hold frame all the time. That's where the woman being a "soft landing" comes in.
/r/RedPillWomen25/05/17 12:29 PM
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Take some time. Don't do it just because of your husband. This child, is also yours. Don't let your feelings about him make a decision like this for you. That's the only advice I can give you, I know not everyone shares my prolife views.
/r/RedPillWomen25/05/17 07:18 AM
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My dear!! I met my husband at 25, married at 26! You're too young to be jaded! Most guys at your age simply aren't interested in settling down right now.
/r/RedPillWomen25/05/17 07:06 AM
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I have 3, 2 of which are my stepchildren. If she doesn't want to keep the child as her own, adoption is always an option. I understand what you're saying though and I do agree with your assessment, just not this solution. But thank you for not personally attacking me for my views! <3 It's refreshing, especially on the internet.
/r/RedPillWomen24/05/17 10:47 PM
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You're welcome!
/r/RedPillWomen24/05/17 10:45 PM
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Lol yes deff
/r/RedPillWomen24/05/17 10:45 PM
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Yeah! Throw him overboard!
/r/RedPillWomen24/05/17 10:44 PM
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I understand what you're saying and is good to start RP thinking young. I'm glad you took my advice in the way I meant to present it, I didn't know if you'd think I was talking down to you or not. <3
/r/RedPillWomen24/05/17 10:44 PM
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I knew typically within 1-3 months of dating someone if I wanted a LTR with them. If I didn't, it ended. But as soon as we were committed to each other, I was Ok having sex. Like, if we both agree to see each other exclusively, then fine, let's do it. But to vet for a year, that seems too long.
/r/RedPillWomen24/05/17 05:40 PM
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If she is visiting the gyno regularly someone would notice it, I would hope. Ugh.
/r/RedPillWomen24/05/17 05:34 PM
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Thats a really good point. I love seeing the "ons" from a man's pov.
/r/RedPillWomen24/05/17 05:30 PM
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I think probably the way you reacted to her reminders is what has made her lose faith in you. I'm not saying it's right or wrong. But being a little vulnerable and saying "studying for finals has been a lot, I'm pressing pause on the extracurricular studying until exams are over" would have been a great way to communicate that to her. You're still young it sounds like you're in high school. You mom is allowed to be in your business. You're her child. If you live in her house and are financially …
/r/RedPillWomen24/05/17 05:26 PM
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Raising a child is never selfish.
/r/RedPillWomen24/05/17 05:21 PM
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No you do not stay with your husband. He cheats on you, plays mind games with you and does not respect you. He's also putting you in danger by having unprotected sex with other women. File for divorce. Get a lawyer. Keep any and all proof you have of him cheating on you. I think the last thing you need to think about right now is another relationship. Give yourself 6-12 months.
/r/RedPillWomen24/05/17 05:19 PM
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Agree
/r/RedPillWomen24/05/17 05:13 PM
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Haha! Yes don't argue! You came to us with a problem.
/r/RedPillWomen24/05/17 05:13 PM
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It's insane. I've been able to sway ppl with more money before but it is so hard.
/r/RedPillWomen24/05/17 03:22 PM
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I hate that!! I had to look for no lie, a year for it new place because I have a dog. Although I refused to leave town too so that didn't help.
/r/RedPillWomen24/05/17 02:37 PM
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My husband (and I) went through a very trying time (about a year and a half's worth) and he was prone to bouts of depression and I guess you could call it uncertainty, he would just go on autopilot, plaster on a happy face for work and then come home and sleep. Wouldn't eat, wouldn't do anything. During these times I always reminded myself that he is human, he is hurting and it's ok for him not to be operating at his best, I don't all the time either. As you said, him feeling like he can fall ap…
/r/RedPillWomen24/05/17 01:36 PM
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Get a cat! 😂
/r/RedPillWomen24/05/17 01:31 PM
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This is a question for your fiance. It's a decision the two of you make together, not internet strangers.
/r/RedPillWomen23/05/17 10:50 PM
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I agree with this! Most women will walk around wearing rose colored glasses and be totally willing to look past every single fault, flaw, or red flag and sex only helps to further cloud perception.
/r/RedPillWomen23/05/17 09:26 PM
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My husband has always accepted responsibility for his actions, positive or negative and I think that his one of his greatest assets. He also considers alternative points of view other than his own in a situation and is always willing to compromise. These are the top 3 reasons he is my husband and captain. I trust that he always has everyone's best interests in mind, not just his own wishes.
/r/RedPillWomen23/05/17 09:24 PM
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What have you been doing to keep his interests?
/r/RedPillWomen23/05/17 04:21 PM
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I didn't start dating my husband until I was 25, we got married when I was 26! Don't lose hope!
/r/RedPillWomen23/05/17 03:50 PM
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I was getting feedback, I think its a go, I've just had a lot going on recently. Give me about a week, I'll announce it. ☺️
/r/RedPillWomen23/05/17 04:36 AM
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Im so glad the"misogynist rumor" was dispelled for you! I think if more people just gave it a chance, they'd see its not woman hating at all.
/r/RedPillWomen23/05/17 04:35 AM
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That's all you can do! He may just have to learn for himself. Good luck to you.
/r/RedPillWomen21/05/17 07:56 PM
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If you want to make him an LTR don't have sex with him. He will plate you.
/r/RedPillWomen21/05/17 06:14 PM
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My husband and I have talked about this before, most recently last night, so funny you asked. Basically I could forgive infidelity (and would work to) if it was a ONS, a one time thing or if he came clean before I found out. I have a baby with him and his two kids have been in my life now for 5 years and vice versa. His oldest went through hell when he divorced his first wife and I wouldn't want to flippantly put him through it again as well as the other two. However if he carried on a relations…
/r/RedPillWomen21/05/17 06:12 PM
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I like this explanation.
/r/RedPillWomen21/05/17 06:05 PM
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You can give your opinion but at some point, he's going to make his own decision. He may just have to learn for himself.
/r/RedPillWomen21/05/17 06:02 PM
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Harmony isn't achieved when all musicians play the violin. It's achieved when each musician plays their part. Well said!
/r/RedPillWomen19/05/17 04:18 PM
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This is a great example of door mat versus submissive.
/r/RedPillWomen19/05/17 04:14 PM
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So I dated a guy from Vietnam back in the day and I think it's a cultural thing. They don't have conversations​ the way we so and a "discussion" can be viewed as an argument even if that emotion we are used to being there for an argument isn't there.
/r/RedPillWomen19/05/17 04:13 PM
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Thanks! I always joke that my husband (the dreamer) keeps me from being too boring and I (the realist) keep him from getting in too much trouble. 😁
/r/RedPillWomen19/05/17 04:08 PM
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That's definitely true, I more meant I had a right to be upset. But I also meant it as my state of mind in the moment, super emotional and thinking "I have a right to do this because I'm mad!"
/r/RedPillWomen19/05/17 04:07 PM
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I was thinking of having ppl contact me here with their private info and then I'd invite them? Of course that does mean I would know who is who. I want to be able to vet women, not just announce what the group is here and have ppl request it, that would leave us open for trolls. How does everyone feel about that?
/r/RedPillWomen19/05/17 04:03 PM
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I am the planner and the detail oriented one. I know what's going on with everyone for the month. I have the most flexible work schedule so I can be many places at the drop of a hat. I'm a sounding board for my husband's ideas. I think of creative solutions to help him manage his ADD in his daily life (before he would just wing it and deal with the fall out later).
/r/RedPillWomen18/05/17 12:58 PM
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If it's private would it show up in people's likes and interests or no?
/r/RedPillWomen17/05/17 10:43 PM
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Yes I've thought of those things, actually I think it's a good idea to not use our Reddit names and maybe we could all vote to let members in once there's an established base. I was thinking of calling it a Ladies Book Club or something.
/r/RedPillWomen17/05/17 09:12 PM
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It's true, I was thinking of having a rule that we don't disclose our RPW names so it's not a totally doxx. Also, is be pretty selective about who joins, only regularly contributing members. And then once we have a core we could all decide together who joins.
/r/RedPillWomen17/05/17 09:11 PM
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It's true, I was thinking of having a rule that we don't disclose our RPW names so it's not a totally doxx. Also, is be pretty selective about who joins, only regularly contributing members. And then once we have a core we could all decide together who joins.
/r/RedPillWomen17/05/17 09:11 PM
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Yes, I thought of that, maybe calling it "Ladies Online Book Club" or something 😂
/r/RedPillWomen17/05/17 09:09 PM
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My husband's ex is still in the picture because they have children together. Not once has he brought her up in the way you're referring. We've been together for 4 years. I know he's over her. The frequency of the nature of what he says about her has never concerned me. Your bf's ex isn't even in the picture! He's had plenty of time to move on and hasn't. It's a red flag.
/r/RedPillWomen17/05/17 03:15 PM
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It doesn't matter what you think, you aren't the one pining for your ex. It matters what he thinks and his actions are showing you that he thinks you're second best.
/r/RedPillWomen17/05/17 03:12 PM
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Well said!
/r/RedPillWomen16/05/17 10:38 PM
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Haha! It's totally just over hyped.
/r/RedPillWomen16/05/17 10:37 PM
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I can agree that the sub had been side tracked by pool jar opinions that aren't inherently RP.
/r/RedPillWomen16/05/17 10:37 PM
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Am I really missing out on anything? No, you aren't. Except for maybe an STD.
/r/RedPillWomen16/05/17 09:41 PM
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Ok, and maybe she's is a bad friend, but if you value this relationship I wouldn't let this one problem ruin that friendship. Just establish a boundary.
/r/RedPillWomen16/05/17 09:39 PM
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Agree.
/r/RedPillWomen16/05/17 09:37 PM
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I don't think that's true at all. Most of the women here are so heavily conservative and just because liberal and progressive minded women are here now doesn't mean they won't come around to our way of thinking. I've been on this sub for almost three years, if anything I've seen more of a shift to sahm's since the "vanguard" as you call them have left.
/r/RedPillWomen16/05/17 05:02 PM
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You are the one who opened this door so no, you can't get mad about it. You confided in her and basically allowed it to become her business. Number one, stop talking to her about your relationship, number two when she starts bringing it up just flat out tell her, "I don't want to talk about that." In a group setting I would have straight up for her to mind her own business, I mean who just puts someone out like that, my goodness. But you created this monster my dear.
/r/RedPillWomen16/05/17 04:56 PM
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There's a balance. Some days are like this, other days are like heaven.
/r/RedPillWomen16/05/17 05:25 AM
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Yeah, it's totally ok to not be sold on it and just hang around, there's a few who do that too and will say so. The generalities here are just that - general and obviously don't apply to everything be it feminism or AWALT.
/r/RedPillWomen15/05/17 07:36 PM
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Work problems are a huge downer. If my husband had a slow sales week or month it affects every part of his life. Hopefully that will help change things for you guys.
/r/RedPillWomen15/05/17 05:14 PM
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Maybe he needs medication? All the surrendering in the world won't help a mental illness.
/r/RedPillWomen15/05/17 04:42 PM
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You are wrong. You can have a job, have kids, have a husband have a boyfriend, be child free, be a dog mom, whatever. We are not one side fits all.
/r/RedPillWomen15/05/17 02:41 PM
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Well said.
/r/RedPillWomen15/05/17 02:39 PM
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We are mostly opposed to the third wave feminism that's occurring now that has virtually no point other than for females to dominate males. My husband often refers to me as "an old school feminist... Back when it had a point". Should marital rape have been abolished? Yes. Should women vote? Yes. These were all good things feminism accomplished. But the safe space we now live in is utter bull shit. You don't need to be conservative or religious to be here. It just so happens that they go hand in …
/r/RedPillWomen15/05/17 02:38 PM
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I totally get that and I see how it could be seen as passive aggressive but we have this joke because the baby is always babbling that we know what he's saying like, "hey mom, why don't you share that last piece of bacon with me?" Or whatever so I knew he'd think it was funny while simultaneously getting that he'd forgotten something. Don't stop moving forward! This journey is so worth it and yes it's harder if you have been together for a long time it's hard but it's worth it and it gets easier…
/r/RedPillWomen15/05/17 02:29 PM
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I thank you. I'm still a work in progress, RP has helped me with my self awareness and that awareness with my control. But it's a daily battle.
/r/RedPillWomen15/05/17 01:50 AM
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Thanks
/r/RedPillWomen14/05/17 02:07 PM
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You're welcome, m glad you found it helpful.
/r/RedPillWomen14/05/17 02:07 PM
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"Traditional" typically means the patriarchal society that used to permeate American culture.
/r/RedPillWomen14/05/17 01:29 PM
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Welcome to RPW! A reactionary movement against feminism if a good way to describe RPW however we aren't a political group - just a community of women who have come to the realization that the way we have been operating in our relationships isn't working in terms of making us happy or empowered. So we take a seemingly huge step back to what some would categorize as the "1950's model" or "traditional model" and we let our husbands do the leading. Its hard to put into one quick synopsis what we are…
/r/RedPillWomen14/05/17 12:59 PM
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Ooh, I will. Headed there now.
/r/RedPillWomen14/05/17 12:27 PM
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Wow this is well though out and great advice! because you don't know how to converse with strangers without using your sexuality and social status to control their perception of you, and to dominate and control the conversation. I think you pretty much hit the nail on the head.
/r/RedPillWomen14/05/17 12:15 PM
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Various women definitely need varying types of dominance from their men in order to feel happy. It's fair to say that there are some who need none at all, though in sure that's not as common as one would think.
/r/RedPillWomen14/05/17 12:02 PM
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My own mother was completely the opposite—if my father screwed up in any way, she just had to tell him about it, at length. So did mine. I decided a long time ago that even though I loved her u did not want to be like her. It's so important to keep in mind that our husbands are operating completely from good faith Yes! Why wouldn't they be?! So many women have this attitude that they're husbands are deliberately trying to piss them off. I don't get it.
/r/RedPillWomen14/05/17 11:31 AM
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I know it. I get sucked in every time too.
/r/RedPillWomen14/05/17 02:16 AM
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😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂 my "passive response?" You mean my just looking exhausted? Yeah that was my bad. You fully just don't get it. Bye.
/r/RedPillWomen14/05/17 01:14 AM
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Ah but which is it? So hard to tell. If it's a troll, it's an expert level one, imo.
/r/RedPillWomen14/05/17 12:54 AM
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Ok I'm done. I'm not looking to have e a pointless argument with you. I told you I agreed with you.
/r/RedPillWomen14/05/17 12:53 AM
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Ok well that quote is what confused me, you asked so I told you... At any rate I agree with you they're just looking for FWB.
/r/RedPillWomen14/05/17 12:52 AM
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Happy Mother's Day!
/r/RedPillWomen14/05/17 12:51 AM
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We go on dates for months, it feels like we are getting closer
/r/RedPillWomen14/05/17 12:50 AM
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Why are you going on dates if you're in monk mode?
/r/RedPillWomen14/05/17 12:33 AM
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Do you understand that you're making your husband responsible for the consequences of the choices you made? I have to work. We both would like me to be home but we simply can't afford it. This is not a choice I made. Of all of those decisions you describe, which were made by your husband? Is he forcing you to work part time, or to work double shifts? As I said, I have to work. We can't afford bills if I don't. I have to work x amount of hours a week for our budget. Being out of the house 3.5 nig…
/r/RedPillWomen14/05/17 12:31 AM
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Wow! Six months! That's intense. It is definitely hard to not micromanage with kids (my husband does it when I'm driving). We definitely just need to realize there's no right or wrong way, just different ways.
/r/RedPillWomen14/05/17 12:22 AM
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I agree. I think it's a very individual line and you ha e to know yourself and your partner very well.
/r/RedPillWomen13/05/17 05:08 PM
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it's how y'all seem to mix up "your honesty" with the actual Truth of the universe lol. Like, JUST BECAUSE you THINK something is True of life...doesn't make it so This was a HUGE revelation for me in my RP journey.
/r/RedPillWomen13/05/17 02:40 PM
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Diane and Ron are great! I love Ron Swanson, lol. I love the whole show but there definitely BP in there.
/r/RedPillWomen13/05/17 02:37 PM
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Thank you!
/r/RedPillWomen13/05/17 02:36 PM
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It's definitely a fine line with ADD between being helpful and mothering. I find that using a bright happy tone of voice and never being condescending when giving him reminders is key. Or I'll phrase it as a question, like, "Honey didn't you say you wanted to bring your battery pack to work today?" or "Do you want me to go grab your battery pack?"
/r/RedPillWomen13/05/17 02:35 PM
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dare to love I love that! Happy Mother's Day to you, too!
/r/RedPillWomen13/05/17 02:32 PM
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while simultaneously making you a little bit blind to your own failings! (Which we all have! Because like you said, we're human and we make mistakes.) Well said.
/r/RedPillWomen13/05/17 04:34 AM
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That's ok, I misunderstood the tone in your comment, I apologize. The internet gets in the way sometimes.
/r/RedPillWomen13/05/17 04:33 AM
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Thank you)
/r/RedPillWomen13/05/17 04:31 AM
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That's funny! You two sound like fun together.
/r/RedPillWomen13/05/17 04:30 AM
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I see what you're saying!
/r/RedPillWomen13/05/17 04:30 AM
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😂😂 I have a dog actually. I've had him since I was 19. But your comment made me laugh.
/r/RedPillWomen13/05/17 03:08 AM
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Thank you so much! I appreciate your words. I'm glad it comes through in my writing.
/r/RedPillWomen13/05/17 01:32 AM
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I'm so blessed by my husband, I feel so lucky and grateful to have him. He's just obtuse sometimes, I think it's the ADD. My MIL says my FIL is the same way, haha. But I thank you for your hindsight!
/r/RedPillWomen13/05/17 12:59 AM
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He has alarms on his phone for midnight and 6:30 now to wake him up. He has ADD and trouble planning things but when we come up with solutions and work around the ADD it helps. I love that the women around you inspire you to try harder. That's so lovely.
/r/RedPillWomen13/05/17 12:54 AM
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I totally get where you're coming from and I do understand your concern. Certainly if he can't get on track, I'll give up my doubles and go back to working single shifts. I'm not going to kill myself and do everything. Over the 4 years we've been together he's shown me he cares and I know he truly loves me. I think because I've been the one exclusively feeding him for the first 8 months he didn't realize the importance of the schedule. Now that I've gone over the time line for both times and sho…
/r/RedPillWomen13/05/17 12:52 AM
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Thank you!
/r/RedPillWomen13/05/17 12:12 AM
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Thank you so much. I do slip up but I caught myself this time.
/r/RedPillWomen13/05/17 12:12 AM
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It's so hard!! I love that you have visual reminders.
/r/RedPillWomen13/05/17 12:11 AM
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Thank you. It was not easy lol but I'm glad now that I handled it this way. Sometimes we speak more to our husbands when we say less.
/r/RedPillWomen12/05/17 11:09 PM
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I would absolutely ask her! You need to know so you can plan or not plan, accordingly.
/r/RedPillWomen12/05/17 11:08 PM
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I quite agree.
/r/RedPillWomen12/05/17 10:24 PM
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"can generally be trusted"? I mean ok maybe he's not as efficient as you but this isn't permanent! Just till you can get back on your feet.
/r/RedPillWomen12/05/17 10:22 PM
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My point is I have put my trust in my husband with more than just trivial things, serious things. I know what surrendering is and I know how hard it can be.
/r/RedPillWomen12/05/17 10:22 PM
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Well said.
/r/RedPillWomen12/05/17 09:56 PM
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the idea of surrendering is all good and well when things are fairly trivial. So you only trust your husband with unimportant things? Can't you see how unhealthy for your marriage that is?
/r/RedPillWomen12/05/17 09:52 PM
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/u/cynicalhousewife for the record, I have been in a similar situation. I have 3 boys and I posted about giving birth to my son here where I had hemorrhaged and almost bled to death and my husband was left to make urgent decisions regarding myself and my son. I don't just sit here and judge people - I'm RPW through and through. I know what I'm talking about, I live it. RPW has changed my marriage for the better. I used to trust my husband as much as you trust yours, I know exactly what you're ta…
/r/RedPillWomen12/05/17 09:50 PM
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Exactly. RPW is for everyone, there is no uniform, color or official beverage!
/r/RedPillWomen12/05/17 05:28 PM
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My husband doesn't seem to understand what a bin, a laundry hamper or a sink is. My other child also wasn't cared for as well as I would have liked him to be. You sound like you have some serious control issues. Just because you're husband isn't as neat or clean as you and doesn't care for the kids exactly as you would doesn't mean he's doing it wrong. What makes you so sure you're doing it right?? his butt was red raw and bleeding This doesn't happen after just one day of a dirty diaper. I feel…
/r/RedPillWomen12/05/17 05:24 PM
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personally really believe there's no such thing as "RPW fashion" or "RPW style There really isn't an RPW uniform although I know a lot of us would love if there was. I think because a lot of us have the trad mind set we make similar fashion choices along those lines.
/r/RedPillWomen12/05/17 05:04 PM
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Kylie Jenner's existence has very little dignity. Well said.
/r/RedPillWomen12/05/17 04:57 PM
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"baddie" and Kylie Jenner really just scream "trash" to me. I didn't realize this was a fashion trend, but I hate it now that I do. "Let's all look like white trash!" No, thank you.
/r/RedPillWomen12/05/17 04:57 PM
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So annoying! Totally agree.
/r/RedPillWomen12/05/17 04:39 PM
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😂 My husband loves that show! I can't stand it!
/r/RedPillWomen12/05/17 04:38 PM
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Yes, I know just what you mean! This is my favorite show, however the romances on Parks and Recreation are so BP it's annoying. All the women have hyphenated last names, Ann rides the CC and still lands a high quality male, April is in love and attracted to her idiot man child.... The list goes on. Also, had anyone else seen that idiotic show American Housewife? Ugh, it sucks! Heavy, out of shape protagonist that gripes and looks down at everyone and takes pot shots at her kids and husband but I…
/r/RedPillWomen12/05/17 04:37 PM
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I need to watch this. A little surprised that's she's encouraging this woman to submit to an improper Captain....!
/r/RedPillWomen12/05/17 04:34 PM
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Maybe he could have included a TL;DR but the in depth analyzing is what makes a good post!
/r/RedPillWomen12/05/17 04:29 PM
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Do you want your husband's approval or other women's?
/r/RedPillWomen12/05/17 04:24 PM
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No one suggested the wife getting a free ride...
/r/RedPillWomen12/05/17 04:22 PM
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"Hard things" doesn't have to be hard work. There something that's hard for you that your man does for you, could be balancing the check book, killing spiders, whatever. Look hard enough and you'll find it. No one suggested you be a man's idle play thing. You've been here long enough, you should know that about RPW.
/r/RedPillWomen12/05/17 04:20 PM
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I've been thinking that we needed a new 'dynamics' post, you beat me to it! Fantastic!
/r/RedPillWomen10/05/17 04:38 AM
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Well said.
/r/RedPillWomen06/05/17 11:54 PM
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So conjecture then.
/r/RedPillWomen06/05/17 11:54 PM
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Yes, came here to say this.
/r/RedPillWomen06/05/17 02:22 PM
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Red pill does not require you to have children or be married 😉
/r/RedPillWomen06/05/17 04:23 AM
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The Bible verses about submitting are instructions from God to men and women. It's not a "do this and I promise you'll get this" they're guidelines to Christian living, as God wants us to live. Wives are supposed to submit to their husbands as the church does to Christ and husbands are supposed to love their wives as Christ loves the church.
/r/RedPillWomen06/05/17 04:21 AM
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Show me a study that says those defines what an alpha is and proves they have higher levels of testosterone. Until then everything you're saying is conjecture.
/r/RedPillWomen06/05/17 02:32 AM
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You have the weirdest outlook on life. RPW specifically preaches that "I can only control my actions" so what you're saying flies directly in the face of a pretty major tenant. I'm not sure what a "modern RPW" is, this is the first time I've heard of it... RPW is a state of mind, not how long your hair is. And what the heck is a feminine career??
/r/RedPillWomen06/05/17 02:31 AM
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No, what I mean is the terms beta and alpha are used to define how they interact with society. Alphas take charge, rise to the challenge, are aggressive, protective. Betas kowtow, shy away from the spotlight, avoid confrontation. Spinning plates or being married have nothing to do with being an alpha or beta trait.
/r/RedPillWomen06/05/17 02:28 AM
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I did the same thing, got lax on my RPW-ing and had to start over. It happens!
/r/RedPillWomen06/05/17 02:26 AM
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Distrust hardens the heart and makes you bitter It certainly does! Marriage is wonderful, I'm so happy I'm married.
/r/RedPillWomen06/05/17 02:23 AM
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If you surrender your agency to men, you will be protected and cared for. Will you quote that verse for me? I've not read it...
/r/RedPillWomen06/05/17 02:22 AM
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So true.
/r/RedPillWomen06/05/17 02:21 AM
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Well said.
/r/RedPillWomen06/05/17 02:20 AM
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You need to apologize. Men are visual creatures, you're basically shaming him for something he can't control. He didn't seek out this image, as you said it took you both by surprise. You need to apologize for acting like this and then don't do it again, ever. Time will heal this wound and it will pass. More importantly, you understand that you overreacted, right? You understand why you were wrong and what you did wrong?
/r/RedPillWomen05/05/17 10:33 PM
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I work part time, my schedule is crazy flexible (per diem) and I feel like it's ideal. I want to be with my baby add much as possible.
/r/RedPillWomen05/05/17 08:59 PM
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Yeah, I think that's the difference. If he wants to be reminded, that's one thing. My husband would forget to put shoes on if I didn't remind him. He asks me to remind him about stuff all the time.
/r/RedPillWomen05/05/17 08:18 PM
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I gotcha. Well don't feel like you're alone, I think we all yell more than we mean to!
/r/RedPillWomen05/05/17 08:17 PM
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Try to stop yelling so much. This one can be hard, I know exactly what you mean. I found that when my boys are tired, they're better behaved. I have an unspoken rule that they are outside for 30 minutes every day (even in the rain or snow). I'll typically go out with them and if after 30 minutes they're bored, they can come in, but typically they find something to do by then. I've also acquired a mass of arts and crafts supplies and use Pinterest for projects, we go to there library 3 times a we…
/r/RedPillWomen05/05/17 03:24 PM
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Yes!!
/r/RedPillWomen05/05/17 03:11 PM
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I love it!! A store near me sells a pineapple flavored one and it's delicious. My husband has a client, a package store that sells only local stuff, and they have an alcoholic one! 😂 Thanks for the idea!
/r/RedPillWomen05/05/17 03:09 PM
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Both of you needed time to cool off and think rationally. I get it. A week is a long time to me personally but I get what you're saying.
/r/RedPillWomen05/05/17 03:06 PM
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He often 'shows' me things in a condescending way. More like he is trying to prove something to me. I thought my husband was doing this to me too because he'd always smile after watching me struggle and say, "do you need me to help you?" And it would piss me off because I thought he was being an ass. But he actually was trying to offer his help genuinely. It was the way I took his body language, which is not his fault. Do you think perhaps you could be inferring things? Maybe you think he's dumb…
/r/RedPillWomen05/05/17 03:04 PM
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No no, we don't advise ultimatums here! That's never a good idea!
/r/RedPillWomen05/05/17 02:56 PM
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Oh, I just said the same thing, should have read through the comments first!
/r/RedPillWomen05/05/17 02:55 PM
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If he's asking you to remind him, than do just that. But the tone of voice and air of superiority are typically giveaways that you're nagging.
/r/RedPillWomen05/05/17 02:54 PM
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Right or wrong, there is a good chance this will always be a bone of contention in your relationship. Can you live with it? Just like men can't will themselves to be attracted to fat SJW's with blue hair, you can't will yourself to be attracted to your BF. No amount of submitting will make that happen. There's no right or wrong answer to this question. If you can't, find someone else, it does no one any good for you to be in this relationship. So you need to figure out if this is a deal breaker …
/r/RedPillWomen05/05/17 02:53 PM
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That's not what an alpha is.
/r/RedPillWomen05/05/17 02:34 PM
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So... Men are making women behave the way that they are? What are you even doing here if you think that?
/r/RedPillWomen05/05/17 02:34 PM
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That's because you're making generalities about the two terms. Plenty of alphas males have families and are great husbands who love being married. Plenty of betas sleep around. How they deal with social interactions with those around them is what makes them alpha or beta.
/r/RedPillWomen05/05/17 02:31 PM
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Well where I live there a big one, but this argument is a little off topic.
/r/RedPillWomen05/05/17 02:27 PM
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The middle class is shrinking but it is absolutely not gone. Fake or not, you take my point.
/r/RedPillWomen04/05/17 05:31 PM
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How non affluent are we talking? I'm middle class, men have options. Even lower class, I mean look at Jerry Springer. He has white trash fighting over the same loser on his show daily. Those men have options, just not as high value as a rich dude.
/r/RedPillWomen03/05/17 03:49 PM
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It could just be social anxiety either due or not due to your Asperger's. I would tell you the only way to get over this is too put yourself out there and do it anyway. When I was 16 I noticed that I was too shy when I didnt know people and had just started my first job. I took that as an opportunity to make myself be more outgoing. It worked and I've been doing things like that ever since then. You just have to make yourself do it sometimes, leave your comfort zone. There isn't always a magic f…
/r/RedPillWomen03/05/17 01:24 AM
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Aw! They sound lovely. My in-laws have a fantastic marriage. 31 years and 5 kids later they still flirt all the time and hug and kiss. The other day my FIL came home from work and my MIL jumped up it of her seat and ran to the door to greet him as if they were teenagers and not in their 50's. She is a true homemaker and mother, he is the provider and handiman. One thing that is also great besides the fact they they go on dates often is they have their own hobbies. He has motorcycles and she play…
/r/RedPillWomen03/05/17 01:21 AM
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When my husband does agree and amplify I laugh at him or amused mastery, I laugh at myself for being ridiculous. The negging, I would gently neg him back. Him: "you should have worn the black shoes" You: "Hmm your shoes are a little boring. Should have gone with anything but black," Men like a feminine​ woman but also someone who can be teased and will tease back. Him: "Can you hook up my feeding tube?" You: "Sure, it's easier than cooking you something!" See what I mean?
/r/RedPillWomen03/05/17 01:16 AM
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But only affluent communities, so the exception not the rule. How do you explain it for non affluent communities?
/r/RedPillWomen03/05/17 01:12 AM
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I had to Google it but I lol 'ed. It's too much for me.
/r/RedPillWomen02/05/17 05:55 PM
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I don't think you can classify all law abiding citizen as betas. They're the reliable men who keep the wheels turning Are you saying alpha men are unreliable? Law breakers? Lotharios? so they often spend their youth as plates of the most attractive men I don't know a lot of women who do this. Actually women who are very attractive typically can lock down a dude easily. Pretty much all women in less affluent western communities reproduce and have sex with the most physically attractive men becaus…
/r/RedPillWomen02/05/17 05:48 PM
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It is hard, but no one is going to protect that baby but you. S/he needs you not right now. You'll find parenting instincts will often bulldoze over any qualms you have about standing up to others. 😂
/r/RedPillWomen02/05/17 02:16 PM
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Thank you!
/r/RedPillWomen02/05/17 02:13 PM
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😂 omg yes
/r/RedPillWomen02/05/17 02:12 PM
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I can't stand the ultra sculpted beard/hair styles for men right now. It's too metro. Some of those dudes are prettier than me and it's weird.
/r/RedPillWomen02/05/17 03:26 AM
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Just take care of yourself. Be selfish. You only have one shot at growing this human being inside you. Nothing else matters more than this right now. Not school, not work, not anything. Edited to add: I'm not saying be a monster to your SO or those around you but don't be afraid to say "I can't" or "I won't". I had it out at work one day with a nurse because I told her "you can send me home but you can not make me go into that patients room" who had pneumonia. She was an asshole and my other cow…
/r/RedPillWomen02/05/17 03:20 AM
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she gave him head he claims he didn't want. 😂😂 Honey, just.... NO!!! Leave. Leave all this baggage behind, go find a new guy.
/r/RedPillWomen02/05/17 03:18 AM
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Omg! Ok I'll wait.
/r/RedPillWomen02/05/17 03:11 AM
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Gotcha! I've heard of manscaping but not manspreading 😂
/r/RedPillWomen02/05/17 03:11 AM
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Once the placenta develops, you typically get some energy back. Right now your body is rapidly trying to form the placenta to protect the baby, hence why you're so exhausted. Once I was in my 4th month I felt fantastic until about 7.5 when I started to wear out faster and easier. I did work full time until 7 months, cut back to 3 days and worked until 12 days before my baby was born. I had, by most women's standards, an easy pregnancy.
/r/RedPillWomen02/05/17 03:07 AM
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Never heard of manspreading and the term makes me cringe but I know what you're talking about. I read somewhere about "power poses" that women should do to appear more authoritative that men do naturally, ie; standing with their feet planned apart and on the ground, standing with their hands on their hips, etc. Also that part about the teenage girls made me LOL, I literally did this the other night with me teenage SIL and two of her friends while we watched La La Land.
/r/RedPillWomen02/05/17 01:44 AM
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Get a pedicure!! I had my first one before my wedding and it was awesome!
/r/RedPillWomen02/05/17 01:37 AM
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What kind of puppy?!
/r/RedPillWomen02/05/17 01:36 AM
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that even though I feel like crap I don't get to treat people like crap around me YES TIMES ONE THOUSAND I'm trying to teach my SIL who is 16 this concept when she's PMS-ing. I remember crying over food my husband ate one time and telling him, "it's not your fault and I'm not mad I'm just hormonal and sad!" 😂😂
/r/RedPillWomen02/05/17 01:34 AM
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I did a drug free pregnancy and home birth! It was fantastic. I can PM you my birth story if you want.
/r/RedPillWomen02/05/17 01:30 AM
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Yes and I do like it, nothing beats a coke-a-cola though!
/r/RedPillWomen02/05/17 01:29 AM
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No soda!!!!! I was so good during my pregnancy and while I was breast feeding my baby and I have fallen off the wagon hard. This whole month I have had 2 (sometimes 3! 😱) sodas a day! So I want to get back on the wagon, no soda!!
/r/RedPillWomen01/05/17 08:17 PM
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Congratulations on your new baby! How exciting! Pregnancy and labor were the two biggest challenges I've faced in my life and they have redefined so many things for me, it was a truly life changing experience. The nursing program is going to be hard though (I was half way through and lost my financial aid, had to drop out) especially pregnant. You're going to be exhausted just being awake, never mind all the daily activities. I would talk to your course advisor or a preceptor and see what they h…
/r/RedPillWomen01/05/17 08:05 PM
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One of the mods is collecting names and locations for potential meet ups. /u/thescarlettwoman
/r/RedPillWomen01/05/17 05:20 PM
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"The One" is a myth. That's not a real thing. The idea of a soul mate is something the media came up with and your hypergamy is what is trying to get you to see if you can land a higher quality male.
/r/RedPillWomen01/05/17 03:42 PM
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I lol'ed at the newspaper thing. I once cared for an elderly couple in their home for 3 years before the husband passed away. They were lovely. They were Jewish so I was with them for holidays, in learned how to keep a kosher house, I saw one of their granddaughters graduate from medical school... They became family. I leave flowers on the anniversary of their deaths and on their wedding anniversary every year.
/r/RedPillWomen29/04/17 07:00 PM
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I meant not being friends with the ex. I think it's inappropriate to maintain friendships with people you've slept with. My other quesrion was more rhetorical like, he probably won't drop his friends so can you live with it or can't you, if that makes sense.
/r/RedPillWomen29/04/17 06:58 PM
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The more I become his first mate, the more I can accept he's never going to compromise our relationship. Yes.
/r/RedPillWomen29/04/17 03:48 PM
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You can't control him. That will drive him away. Ideally, he wouldn't have friends like that, however you can either pick a different guy or adapt to the situation. He chose you. That should be enough proof.
/r/RedPillWomen29/04/17 03:47 PM
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I had similar issues with my parents growing up and I too unfortunately was cheated on with what I consider to be my first adult relationship, so I can empathize. In her book, The Surrendered Wife, Laura Doyle makes a great point about trust. I'm paraphrasing here because I don't have the book in front of me, but essentially she says, you made the choice of dating this guy so you trusting him, in a sense, is you trusting your ability to pick a good guy. Doubting him is doubting yourself.
/r/RedPillWomen29/04/17 03:45 PM
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It will just become a wall in your relationship. That's what guys do in relationships, they build walls when they're nagged or pestered.
/r/RedPillWomen29/04/17 03:25 PM
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Isn't that awful 😡
/r/RedPillWomen29/04/17 03:24 PM
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It almost sounds like there's a FR there... Something to think about!
/r/RedPillWomen29/04/17 01:47 AM
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It's a labor of love, although I imagine you could say that about pretty much anything. You learn not to take things personally, that's for sure!
/r/RedPillWomen29/04/17 01:46 AM
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He's totally fine now but it was pretty horrible when it happened. You can't even tell how though, thank God.
/r/RedPillWomen29/04/17 01:45 AM
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My husband just listened to the audio book a few months ago, he loved it.
/r/RedPillWomen28/04/17 05:32 PM
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And smelled it... And cleaned it... And probably touched it... And maybe even had it wiped or thrown at us...
/r/RedPillWomen28/04/17 05:32 PM
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I replied in my other comment on your post, and I addressed what you said here.
/r/RedPillWomen28/04/17 05:31 PM
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Well, that's a very good answer. I know you didn't like my anulment suggestion. Truthfully, your options are limited in your present circumstance because you guys are already married. If you don't want to legally divorce or anull, and he isn't willing to publicly announce your status, I think you're stuck with his plan of waiting until he's done with college. Look at it this way: you vowed and committed to him, for better or worse. Right now it feels worse for you. Here at RPW, we preach a capta…
/r/RedPillWomen28/04/17 05:29 PM
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TIL! I had no idea!
/r/RedPillWomen28/04/17 05:25 PM
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Yeah, there's so many different ways to use it, he just has to do a little research.
/r/RedPillWomen28/04/17 03:54 PM
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My sister did something similar and had the same troubles you're having. She married her boyfriend of 4 years at age 18 to help him get a green card. My parents were against this because she was too young but they reasoned that they saw marriage in the future after college, so why wait? They got married in secret, his mother was there and I was there and that's it. The problem she had was that even though they got married, they agreed to keep it quiet and not tell anyone and just continue like t…
/r/RedPillWomen28/04/17 03:51 PM
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Do you not trust that he meant the words he vowed because he didn't do it in public?
/r/RedPillWomen28/04/17 03:42 PM
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Nurse's aid! Yay, me too! I'm sure we could swap some stories! 😂
/r/RedPillWomen28/04/17 03:40 PM
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I took care of a guy's parents and he was a medical doctor, never practiced a day in his life, he does stocks for a major pharmaceutical brand. I was talking to his niece's husband one time and he told me this guy is like #3 in his industry. (Needless to say he's loaded.) But it is cool how flexible an MD is, it's not just about seeing patients.
/r/RedPillWomen28/04/17 03:39 PM
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Professor of what? What do you teach?
/r/RedPillWomen28/04/17 03:37 PM
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Haha! I love the self employed, husband employed thing. My husband's long term goal is to freelance in what he does and have me run the day to day. You guys have to have a great dynamic to be able to live and work together.
/r/RedPillWomen28/04/17 03:36 PM
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I bet you've got some stories!
/r/RedPillWomen28/04/17 03:35 PM
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Both of your jobs sound awesome. My dad had to fly in a rescue helicopter a few years ago, he fell and broke half of his face. He said it was scary being in it because it's so tiny, made him feel claustrophobic.
/r/RedPillWomen28/04/17 03:34 PM
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I'm a CNA and have been for 10 years. I love my job, I've worked in every setting imaginable for all kinds of people. I'm a nuture-er and a care taker, that's my personality, so this jobs really suits me. I am able to empathize with people and am very outgoing so I build rapport quickly with patients and their families and they feel comfortable with me very quickly. Being a CNA appeals to me because the qualities that make me a good homemaker also apply to my professional job so its a perfect fi…
/r/RedPillWomen28/04/17 03:33 PM
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actually feels so liberating to trust a person enough to relinquish control to them, It does! Well said! I noticed this too when I began submitting. So you have an interesting relationship history! I don't think it will matter too much, just make an effort to change now. I wrote two posts I think will be helpful to you, one is The Case for the Greater Beta and the other is What To Do When Your Captain Won't Lead. I believe the Captain one is on the side bar, I can't link them at the moment, I'm …
/r/RedPillWomen27/04/17 02:13 PM
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Both are very true. He could also download a pill reminder on his phone! Just thought of that.
/r/RedPillWomen26/04/17 04:34 PM
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Yes, I do understand.
/r/RedPillWomen26/04/17 04:34 PM
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This is what red pill women is built around. When women hit the wall, they realize they can't ride the CC forever and try and settle down with a beta. That's RPW 101.
/r/RedPillWomen26/04/17 04:33 PM
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That's so weird! I would be concerned, what if your marriage is like that too? The only evidence you have to go on is your LDR.
/r/RedPillWomen26/04/17 10:25 AM
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how can i remind him to take his medication - which he says he WANTS to do, now - without nagging? My husband has ADD and he likes to take vitamins and for a brief time he was on an antidepressant which he would forget to take all the time or he couldn't remember if he did or didn't. I suggested getting one of those weekly pill boxes like old people have to help him. He liked that idea and asked me to buy one and if I'd fill it for him. We left it on the counter next to where he keeps his keys e…
/r/RedPillWomen26/04/17 10:23 AM
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Invest in yourself. You're absolutely right that it's rare for first relationships to turn into marriage, so don't put all your eggs in one basket. Continue with your life path that you want for yourself (regardless of your current boyfriend Solid advice.
/r/RedPillWomen26/04/17 10:16 AM
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It's impossible to know if day-to-day you would spend time together because you've never lived side by side or in proximity to each other. If he told you he doesn't value one on one time with you, you have your answer. It's like my mom said, "men don't change and it only get worse after you marry them". I'd be a little concerned also.
/r/RedPillWomen26/04/17 10:01 AM
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Time will tell, but you'll come to regret that cavalier attitude.
/r/RedPillWomen26/04/17 09:55 AM
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He really does.
/r/RedPillWomen26/04/17 09:55 AM
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This is amazing!
/r/RedPillWomen26/04/17 09:53 AM
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You're 22, how much sleeping around could you possibly have done? There has already been a shift to accommodate promiscuous women, hence the need for the red pill.
/r/RedPillWomen26/04/17 04:11 AM
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As two magnets when misaligned always oppose one another they create a strong bond when properly aligned That was beautiful.
/r/RedPillWomen26/04/17 04:05 AM
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This girl is heading down a path many of us who are married and older have gone down and see our friends and sisters go down and y'all are saying "good for you! Do you!" Sleeping around is not good for your value or your self esteem.
/r/RedPillWomen26/04/17 03:52 AM
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Thank God for you, I thought I was going crazy here for a minute.
/r/RedPillWomen26/04/17 03:37 AM
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Riding the CC is proven to be harmful when a girl realizes she wants a relationship and a family. She will have to settle for a lower value male. We've seen this circle play out many, many times. Does no one recognize it's beginning?
/r/RedPillWomen26/04/17 03:36 AM
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Uh I'm shocked and a little dismayed that some girls here are saying it's ok to take what you like from RP and discard what you don't. This girl said she likes sleeping with many guys and exploring her sexuality without a relationship. This is classic CC riding and hypergamy. This is RPW! We most certainly should not be encouraging this!
/r/RedPillWomen26/04/17 03:19 AM
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This is RPW. I think you're looking for a different sub.
/r/RedPillWomen26/04/17 03:14 AM
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exploring my sexuality with different guys This is called riding the CC. The fun and games will end my dear.
/r/RedPillWomen26/04/17 03:12 AM
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When I got married, my husband and I had a serious talk because I did not want children. He already had 2 and was fine with not having anymore. My nephew was born and he completely changed my mind. I knew I wanted my own child because I wanted to raise a child to have the same morals and values as my husband and I. I wanted to invest my time and energy into a young life, to take my views and shape a life the best I could. Is that what you want to do OP? Or are babies just cute?
/r/RedPillWomen26/04/17 03:08 AM
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I see what you're saying. Her success demonstrates her positive character qualities.
/r/RedPillWomen25/04/17 01:58 PM
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A good point. We have no context.
/r/RedPillWomen25/04/17 01:14 PM
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Lol based on these comments it would seem that not all of us are Christians and white the way people think. All though regarding us all being guys.... Well we will have to wait for the RPW meet up to see about that!
/r/RedPillWomen25/04/17 01:13 PM
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It does! I'm so much happier practicing the traditional marriage!
/r/RedPillWomen25/04/17 01:12 PM
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But is it her success that makes you think that? As RP uses the terms they more describe personality.
/r/RedPillWomen25/04/17 01:11 PM
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Hmm, I'm not sure. I've never heard any terms or labels.
/r/RedPillWomen25/04/17 01:10 PM
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Yeah, this is a weird situation. I assumed they weren't exclusive but she said they were together a year. So that doesn't really make sense to me.
/r/RedPillWomen25/04/17 01:09 PM
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Good. That's all you can do, my dear. I would cut all contact with him, block phone numbers and all social media. Don't reach out to him again. I'm sure you want closure but you're not going to get it from this guy.
/r/RedPillWomen25/04/17 01:08 PM
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I need to get better at meal prepping like that, I just don't do it.
/r/RedPillWomen25/04/17 01:07 PM
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Wow. I'm so sorry. I would suggest a period of money move for yourself to get over this relationship and improve yourself. Again, I'm so sorry.
/r/RedPillWomen25/04/17 12:45 PM
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So, this guy is a jerk. That being said, he is telling you something very helpful. You're too needy. You're too available. You're too willing to drop everything for a guy. Invest in yourself, take time for yourself. Also, next time don't give away sex when you don't have a committed relationship on the table. (I'm assuming from context you didn't have that.)
/r/RedPillWomen25/04/17 11:52 AM
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I think that theses terms were used as sociological terms to describe a hierarchy in teenagers. We use it to describe men. Now I could be wrong but we don't use these terms for women and there is no definition of an "alpha woman" as far as RP is concerned.
/r/RedPillWomen25/04/17 10:48 AM
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Just as there are are no life goals,political views, or hobbies that define an RPW, there are none that define an alpha.
/r/RedPillWomen25/04/17 10:45 AM
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Success and alpha are two different things and not mutually inclusive.
/r/RedPillWomen25/04/17 10:44 AM
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are male descriptors. Men and women do not play by the same rules. Yes.
/r/RedPillWomen25/04/17 10:43 AM
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Well said. I'm so sorry, OP.
/r/RedPillWomen25/04/17 10:40 AM
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As long as both partners are comfortable with what's happening in the bedroom, then it's ok. That's true whether RP is involved or not.
/r/RedPillWomen25/04/17 02:56 AM
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Amused mastery and agree and amplify are two things my husband does, but he doesn't know that's what he is doing has a name and a strategy. They do work, it's kind of his nice way of letting me know I'm being ridiculous or silly about something.
/r/RedPillWomen25/04/17 02:50 AM
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Save us! There's a fox in the hen house! 😂
/r/RedPillWomen25/04/17 02:43 AM
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Well said.
/r/RedPillWomen25/04/17 02:41 AM
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I'm a Christian. RP is similar to the traditional model of man and woman (marriage wise) that is espoused in the Bible so they go hand in hand really well to me.
/r/RedPillWomen25/04/17 01:39 AM
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I love these!
/r/RedPillWomen25/04/17 01:36 AM
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😂😂
/r/RedPillWomen25/04/17 01:30 AM
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I really like the comparisons you make between what's important between the sexes. Commitment and sex may be completely different but why both genders want them are very similar.
/r/RedPillWomen24/04/17 07:18 PM
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The girls you work with are probably in their CC riding years.
/r/RedPillWomen24/04/17 07:16 PM
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That's not what alpha widowing is but yes you should stop seeking validation through male attention.
/r/RedPillWomen24/04/17 06:18 PM
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Oh, lol, well he is actually!
/r/RedPillWomen24/04/17 06:14 PM
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What has your husband done to deserve this, Sadie What does that mean?
/r/RedPillWomen24/04/17 05:43 PM
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Or a place where no women visit! :-D BP already thinks its all men pretending to be women here.
/r/RedPillWomen24/04/17 04:14 PM
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are you "subscribed" to the subreddit?
/r/RedPillWomen24/04/17 04:13 PM
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Well thank you! I appreciate the compliment. I'm glad to share my systems and ideas.
/r/RedPillWomen24/04/17 04:12 PM
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When we have the Meal and Simple Questions threads, someone will inevitably ask about meal planning. That's why I thought it may be helpful. I'm extremely type A so I love making a science of things. :-)
/r/RedPillWomen24/04/17 03:28 PM
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Thanks for the shout out! OP when I found RP I tried to introduce my husband too because I thought he would really take to it. He didn't. But I realized when I changed myself he changed too and began to lead. It's sort of q cool cause and effect. I definitely recommend The Surrendered Wide also Fascinating Womanhood.
/r/RedPillWomen24/04/17 01:43 AM
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Red pill isn't synonymous with douche bag. You can give harsh truths and not be rude.
/r/RedPillWomen24/04/17 01:38 AM
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Well this is Red Pill women
/r/RedPillWomen23/04/17 11:08 PM
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You totally do, I saw it earlier! Congrats!
/r/RedPillWomen23/04/17 08:05 PM
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Um, idk actually. I've never been banned from a sub, lol. Ask a mod.
/r/RedPillWomen23/04/17 08:04 PM
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They get deleted by the mods but the problem persists because the men aren't banned.
/r/RedPillWomen23/04/17 07:35 PM
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It's the same redpill information just delivered differently Different ways for the different genders.
/r/RedPillWomen23/04/17 07:35 PM
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I think there should be a flair for men that are RPW endorsed. You and Loneliness should deff have it.
/r/RedPillWomen23/04/17 06:48 PM
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TRP is a male space, are you saying that's a safe space? No, this is just a feminine community. Comments like yours aren't helpful, this post is talking directly to you.
/r/RedPillWomen23/04/17 06:47 PM
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He doesn't have to commit because he's getting everything he would get from a wife without the added responsibility This. He will never marry you.
/r/RedPillWomen23/04/17 03:38 PM
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Is this just a prelude to what could happen in the future? Yes. Is it futile to even continue this relationship? Yes. what would you do in my shoes? Would you stay with him or leave? And if I want to stay with him, what can I do to improve the situation, if anything? I would leave. There is nothing you can do to better the relationship, it's in him. He tried to have his cake and eat it too. You said it yourself, my dear, if not for the STD you wouldn't have found out about this situation. How do…
/r/RedPillWomen23/04/17 03:33 PM
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Yes, that's exactly what's happening. I really think OP needs therapy.
/r/RedPillWomen23/04/17 11:56 AM
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Lol so depressing, but the I lol'ed at this idea
/r/RedPillWomen23/04/17 12:40 AM
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He didn't cheat on her. Its moot. Either she can accept his past or she can't. She can't hold it over his head like this.
/r/RedPillWomen22/04/17 07:26 PM
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Love this suggestion.
/r/RedPillWomen22/04/17 05:39 PM
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That's not always true either.
/r/RedPillWomen22/04/17 05:38 PM
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I wrote a post on keeping house a while back, it's here for you to read.
/r/RedPillWomen22/04/17 12:47 PM
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he just gets reserved and says he is tired of me talking about it Stop. Talking. About. It. but because I am sometimes not pleasant to be around therefore I am not supportive. I tried to tell him that being supportive and being pleasant to be around and that in order for me to fully support him he needs to let me in So he told you something he needed from you (be supportive) and you threw it back at him and told him that's he's doing it wrong and that he needs to do it your way (let me in) so yo…
/r/RedPillWomen22/04/17 10:46 AM
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See I think that preventing yourself from being put in situations that could lead to cheating is an important part of it, which would mean no one on one with the opposite sex.
/r/RedPillWomen22/04/17 02:22 AM
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This. I'm so sorry you invested this time and gave him the space and the good faith and it didn't work out.
/r/RedPillWomen22/04/17 02:17 AM
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Excellent point!
/r/RedPillWomen22/04/17 02:15 AM
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You're very welcome! Thank you for your thought provoking question!
/r/RedPillWomen22/04/17 02:12 AM
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Lol well said
/r/RedPillWomen21/04/17 10:13 PM
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dress for the job you want, not the job you have'. Exactly!
/r/RedPillWomen21/04/17 08:01 PM
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because I enjoy screaming at Bridget to get her life together. Me too!!
/r/RedPillWomen21/04/17 08:00 PM
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I always say fake it til you make it!!
/r/RedPillWomen21/04/17 07:58 PM
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A great point. If the real you is a piece of sh** maybe you should be someone else.
/r/RedPillWomen21/04/17 07:57 PM
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Thank you!
/r/RedPillWomen21/04/17 04:55 PM
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Why oh why will Reddit formatting not make paragraphs for me??
/r/RedPillWomen21/04/17 02:15 PM
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Yes, self not having her do it for him. I'm not going to keep arguing with you. You told OP to make changes to him and in the mean time be on the look out for someone better. This is not RPW advice, and its just bad advice in general. She came here because she wanted RPW advice, not BP, hypergamous, branch swinging advice.
/r/RedPillWomen21/04/17 02:09 PM
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Not at all, I agree with you. Lesbians would not be interested in your husband. That's fine.
/r/RedPillWomen21/04/17 01:39 PM
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Just said the same thing. Great minds and all. ❤️
/r/RedPillWomen21/04/17 01:38 PM
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You're polyamory, not monogamous which is probably why you don't see a problem with it.
/r/RedPillWomen21/04/17 01:37 PM
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No, but that's her choice. In your hypothetical you said "someone who wanted to lose weight" however in your original comment you said You can reprogram your view of your bf by reprogramming the man himself And Work on improving him but simultaneously shop for something better Neither of which suggest the person wants to be changed.
/r/RedPillWomen21/04/17 01:35 PM
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You beat me to the punch, /u/ElfFey !! Well done. If I'm oppressed living like this, then thank God for the patriarchy because I'm happy.
/r/RedPillWomen21/04/17 11:53 AM
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I agree with you. It's inappropriate. Perhaps if she were a lesbian, that's one thing, then she's truly one of the guys, but even a tomboy can grow feelings for a guy friend and vice versa.
/r/RedPillWomen21/04/17 11:50 AM
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Well what is "yourself" really? By "being yourself" do you mean sitting around in dirty sweatpants waving a glass of wine, waving your cat around at neighborhood kids, swearing? People get so caught up in"just be yourself" that they think they can just display the worst posts of their behavior and personality but it's OK because "I'm just being myself!" Be the best version of yourself. RPW isn't a switch to only turn on when you're arrive your SO? Make a list of improvements and do them. Will yo…
/r/RedPillWomen21/04/17 11:46 AM
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It's not real change, it's someone changing because they're being pressured or manipulated or bullied.
/r/RedPillWomen21/04/17 02:57 AM
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Work on improving him but simultaneously shop for something better This is not RPW. You can only change yourself. You're either committed to your man or your don't. Trying to change him and control him doesn't work.
/r/RedPillWomen21/04/17 12:45 AM
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Good point
/r/RedPillWomen21/04/17 12:39 AM
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Just the vows part I wish I had had recorded. But truthfully it's not something I think about often. But if someone asks me this question, that's the answer right give.
/r/RedPillWomen20/04/17 08:15 PM
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Came to leave this and this
/r/RedPillWomen20/04/17 08:04 PM
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The old adage is men mature slower than women. Always YMMV but typically a 25 year old man isn't going to want to settle down, whereas a 32 year old probably does. For the record, my husband is only one year older than me. When I was dating, I would date guys my age, never younger, and the oldest I ever went was 13 years older (I was 24 he was 37). I wasn't RP then but it was just always a thing for me, the age range. I always went older.
/r/RedPillWomen20/04/17 07:59 PM
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I wish I had video taped the ceremony. And the ribbon in our cake was too pink. I asked for peony pink and got Barbie's Corvette pink. But that's it! I also wished I'd work a veil, my husband didn't like them so I skipped it but I would have liked one. We had a tiny wedding, only 30 guests and no wedding party but it was perfect.
/r/RedPillWomen20/04/17 07:53 PM
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Haha you're not in charge here I can comment on whatever I want.
/r/RedPillWomen20/04/17 05:57 PM
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This question has been asked a thousand times, that's why it's on the side bar. If you're that interested when you get home read the material. We don't have to regurgitate it every ten seconds someone asks it.
/r/RedPillWomen20/04/17 04:35 PM
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I love Kitty Foreman too! She's one of my faves. Joan Holloway too, except for the ease with which she slept with guys.
/r/RedPillWomen20/04/17 04:33 PM
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We're all brain washed, didn't you know?!
/r/RedPillWomen20/04/17 09:20 AM
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It's true.
/r/RedPillWomen20/04/17 09:20 AM
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Because those contributing to the hateful discussion on RedPillWomen are indeed women, their input gives men permission to continue to abuse, mock and humiliate women who speak out against it. If a woman wants to participate in some good old fashioned misogyny, she has every right. Even the best of intentions get screwed up "Lauren". You tried, but you would have been doing the community a bigger favor by not talking to her at all.
/r/RedPillWomen20/04/17 12:58 AM
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I use pink pad! I used it when I was trying to get pregnant and I use it now.
/r/RedPillWomen19/04/17 01:33 AM
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Lol, that's just men!
/r/RedPillWomen18/04/17 09:19 PM
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Just like the telephone, women like to text more than men. For every 7 text message I send to my husband I get one back and it's usually 'k'. Communication is different for men and women no matter what the medium.
/r/RedPillWomen18/04/17 11:43 AM
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Unfortunately we can't all live in the same city. Wouldn't that everyone awesome? Redpillopolis or something equally ridiculous. Bloom where you're planted! If you stick to the RP tenants and femininity, you will obtain a high value man no matter where you are. Don't pass up an opportunity for education like the one you've presented. Go, but practice RP. You'll have no problem finding a guy.
/r/RedPillWomen18/04/17 11:40 AM
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NFP is recommended only for couples in a committed relationship and for women who have the forethought to commit to tracking their cycles everyday. It's not for single girls and it's not for girls who forget to take the pill every morning. You will get pregnant if you don't commit of do it correctly.
/r/RedPillWomen18/04/17 10:09 AM
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There is a temperature way of reading your fertility, look into the lady comp. It's a high tech way to track your ovulation. There's also fertile focus, a microscope that you put your saliva on to help you track. You need to figure out which way you what to keep track. I learned from my midwife, I would suggest talking to one (mine does internet consults for tons of stuff, menopause, family planning, herbal remedies - PM me if you want her info) or maybe a DO (like an MD but more homeopathic). T…
/r/RedPillWomen17/04/17 02:30 AM
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Mm, I don't have a good answer for that.
/r/RedPillWomen16/04/17 07:57 PM
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If you honestly don't know what to do, then say that.
/r/RedPillWomen16/04/17 02:28 AM
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Ok, differing opinions on porn aside, I agree with you that the relationship is in trouble. He's weak and should've told her he was going to watch it or stick with it if he wasn't. She does make it seem like it was a rational conversation but it probably was more of a fight and he said it to shut her up. They're both at fault, but I don't like his lying being blamed on her. He could have choose at any time to not lie.
/r/RedPillWomen16/04/17 01:05 AM
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That's hilarious. But if he asks, feel free to give your opinion. But don't interrupt him in the middle of a rant trying to solve the problem. There's a profound difference.
/r/RedPillWomen15/04/17 09:41 PM
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Just because a lot of women are uncomfortable with their men watching porn does not make it feminist behavior. Don't be ridiculous. We are allowed to have it be a deal breaker for us and if the men in our lives don't like it, they can leave. That's the choice, that's the black and white, thats the red pill. It's just like if a guy didn't like his woman having beta orbiters. Well it's female nature to want lots of male attention and validation isn't it? So by your logic men should just accept it …
/r/RedPillWomen15/04/17 09:25 PM
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This is common! So, if he truly asks for your opinion, then give it. You did a good job keeping your mouth shut and letting him vent but if he asks your opinion, give it! He still has the ultimate decision in choosing which course of action to take. He values your listening skills but also your input.
/r/RedPillWomen15/04/17 06:02 PM
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This is why I never get into the porn argument either. People just can't fathom that there are actually men that don't watch it. Like they're either lying to their over bearing wife or they're sexually oppressing themselves or being oppressed. I'm tapping out if this discussion too.
/r/RedPillWomen15/04/17 05:59 PM
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If a girl went to TRP and said "my bf made me lie" she'd be ripped apart. I can't believe this double standard is happening. SMDH
/r/RedPillWomen15/04/17 03:47 PM
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So she made him lie? That's some grade A hamstering right there! Also, she's allowed to have a problem with him watching porn. He's also allowed to do what he wants but if it's a deal breaker for her there's nothing wrong with that. This should have been discussed honestly and openly. She told him she didn't like it and instead of holding his ground he lied and decided he wanted to keep his porn and the relationship.
/r/RedPillWomen15/04/17 03:38 PM
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Yeah definitely birthday cards, Christmas cards, attending these family events, maybe throw your own BBQ, call one or two of them for coffee or to the movies. Everything new is always awkward at first but the more you do it the easier it will become!
/r/RedPillWomen15/04/17 01:38 AM
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😩 I am sorry about your break up. They're always hard.
/r/RedPillWomen15/04/17 01:36 AM
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Are your sure you weren't dating a high school girl?
/r/RedPillWomen15/04/17 12:57 AM
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How exhausting
/r/RedPillWomen14/04/17 05:19 PM
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Doesn't sound like he was really a great captain anyway....
/r/RedPillWomen14/04/17 04:28 PM
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I think that the reality of it would be you would need a feminine man to really be ok with this set up and unfortunately women tend to lose attraction for there types pretty quickly. There is a reason why this set up isn't popular.
/r/RedPillWomen14/04/17 03:24 PM
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Traditional goes both ways. If he wants you in the traditional feminine role of care taker, he should be in the traditional masculine role of provider. Also, you two began your relationship with certain expectations and pretexts. If he is now changing his, you are in no way obligated to stay if you don't care for the change. However I do recommend you stick around here. :-)
/r/RedPillWomen14/04/17 03:19 PM
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Well said.
/r/RedPillWomen14/04/17 03:15 PM
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Well said. I have a moral problem with it, although I do understand others don't. However as /u/crownoffeathers pointed out, the larger issue is why did he try to hide it and lie about it?
/r/RedPillWomen14/04/17 03:13 PM
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Regardless of what society would have you believe, is still largely seen as feminine to stay home. Men typically well feel unfulfilled in this role. What makes you think you'd like your husband to stay home?
/r/RedPillWomen14/04/17 03:10 PM
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I'm with you, I personally couldn't respect my husband if he stayed home, plus I'd be heart broken that it wasn't me! However for some people it works, it just wouldn't for me.
/r/RedPillWomen14/04/17 01:58 PM
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That does seem like a lot, of porn. I don't want to make any judgements here because addictions are so multi-faceted and many contest whether pornography is helpful or hurtful to a relationship. The one thing that did alarm me in this post is that he has videos of you having sex with him. This is a bad idea. If you two broke up, they could get out "somehow".
/r/RedPillWomen14/04/17 08:44 AM
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Yes that makes sense, I know exactly what you mean. In regards to declining sex, I've found that even if I say yes when I don't want to, I get into it a few minutes later and the greatest the frequency, the greater my desire for it.
/r/RedPillWomen14/04/17 03:27 AM
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I was on HBC for ten years almost and when I stopped taking it to get pregnant I felt better, just in general. I told my husband I didn't want to go back on it after the baby was born and I haven't, we've started using NFP. It's nice to have my body operating on its own rhythms. Although orgasms seem to help headaches, ladies, but that's another subject for another time! I read somewhere that it's been scientifically proven to restore headaches and other pains. I forget why, I could look it up b…
/r/RedPillWomen14/04/17 01:30 AM
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Financial in/dependence is not a requirement for RPW.
/r/RedPillWomen13/04/17 06:26 PM
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But if that's true then why did you use it as an example?
/r/RedPillWomen13/04/17 05:42 AM
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😂
/r/RedPillWomen13/04/17 04:27 AM
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Your school can probably help you! I was in come and had a bout of depression and the school psychologist was very helpful!
/r/RedPillWomen13/04/17 04:25 AM
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GAPS!!
/r/RedPillWomen12/04/17 05:42 PM
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Um, this isn't just "negging". He's called you a slut? Not captain material. Poor fella is stuck in the anger phase of swallowing the red pill, this is not a guy to be dating right now. He's going to blame all of the problems of women on you. I would leave.
/r/RedPillWomen12/04/17 05:40 PM
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Ah, ok. I was just checking. I don't want to encourage a bad relationship.
/r/RedPillWomen12/04/17 03:51 PM
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This is a common occurrence, I've heard of men and women not being able to in the morning. My own beloved Mr. Dunham can't first thing in the morning. You're normal and while it's frustrating it isn't something for you two to fret over or get upset over.
/r/RedPillWomen12/04/17 03:00 PM
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Laura Doyle gave a brilliant way to respond to our SO's when they're being hurtful that gets right to the point without being too emotional. You simply look hurt and say, "ouch." It seems like a little thing but I've seen it work in my own life and I've also heard ladies here sway it had worked for them. It lets your SO know they've hurt you without you being overly emotional or freaking out. That being said, is your boyfriend abusive or playing mind games? Before you try to submit to him, do yo…
/r/RedPillWomen12/04/17 02:57 PM
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You sound like you're depressed. I would make an appointment with your primary care physician and start on the road to getting you help. Get a referral for a psychiatrist. Tell a trusted friend or family member so you aren't going through this alone.
/r/RedPillWomen12/04/17 02:51 PM
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Yes, my husband's ex wife claimed to be unable to bear children due to endometriosis.... Then turns up pregnant miraculously in my second trimester. She's been claiming infertility for like 6 years! Her poor "fiancee" has no idea just how crazy she is (yet), or how deep he's in it.... Yet.
/r/RedPillWomen12/04/17 02:49 PM
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Truthfully I'm relieved someone like that can't procreate and psychologically harm more people.
/r/RedPillWomen12/04/17 04:31 AM
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Another way to say that is "sorry not sorry"
/r/RedPillWomen12/04/17 04:27 AM
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He tried to turn a hoe into a housewife and was surprised it didn't work...
/r/RedPillWomen12/04/17 04:26 AM
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your sexism is showing," I already knew what I'd be getting into. 😂😂 yes
/r/RedPillWomen12/04/17 04:24 AM
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It's not her fault she's so pretty but can't find love! She's from LA! 😂😂😂😂😂
/r/RedPillWomen12/04/17 04:23 AM
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Enabled her to continue cheating and behaving badly without putting his foot down or leaving.
/r/RedPillWomen12/04/17 04:22 AM
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She even wanted him to "try" to raise the other man's child... How did we get to a society where a woman thinks this is an ok thing to ask? This is like the worst part to me. I'm asking myself the same question.
/r/RedPillWomen12/04/17 04:21 AM
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Ugh, I'm ashamed to share a gender with her. And yes I saw sooooooooo many RP truths too.
/r/RedPillWomen12/04/17 04:20 AM
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Such bull shit. I feel so sorry for this guy. Yeah, he should have learned the first half dozen times but what are you going to do. The hamster is strong in this woman. One of the men I worked with expressed an interest, even knowing I was married, and I told him no. I told my husband this and he asked me to stop spending time with him outside work. Why tell your husband? Also, he had a genuine reason to ask her for that. Pretty disrespectful. asked me to check in with him if I was out late Tota…
/r/RedPillWomen12/04/17 04:16 AM
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For some things it's easier although it dries bulky so it's not ideal for every situation.
/r/RedPillWomen10/04/17 08:55 PM
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"Well we all practice to be the people we want to be." THIS! Women often day they feel like they're being inauthentic at first with RPW, but it just takes practice to become will you want to be.
/r/RedPillWomen10/04/17 07:05 PM
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Well said.
/r/RedPillWomen10/04/17 06:59 PM
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Oh see, I look for any excuse to use my hot glue gun. 😊 Bread is crazy easy to do, I was surprised. I have a brownie recipe I'm famous for too!
/r/RedPillWomen10/04/17 06:59 PM
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This is such a good way to think about things! We tend to relax around people we are close to, but this can be detrimental to our relationships. If you were worried about him feeling like you're checking out, experiment for a week and then ask him. I did this for my week of no complaining with my husband.
/r/RedPillWomen10/04/17 06:57 PM
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I'm getting really good at baking from scratch, I've been making bread recently, I love doing it. Cooking I'm slower to learn because my husband likes doing it. I've been sewing since I was 16. I've also been crafting a lot recently, my Pinterest boards have tons of ideas I've been using.
/r/RedPillWomen10/04/17 03:18 PM
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It always horse back to the same old rule of "never stop working hard for your SO". It's that simple. However modern society has changed and warped things so badly that we had to create a group on reddit to help teach us this again.
/r/RedPillWomen10/04/17 03:13 PM
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I think it depends on if the guy is looking for an LTR or a ONS. I also think it depends on how high value the guy considered himself.
/r/RedPillWomen10/04/17 03:09 PM
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😂
/r/RedPillWomen10/04/17 02:36 AM
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"bring your captain your problem, not your solution." "Is this the hill you want to die on?"
/r/RedPillWomen10/04/17 01:28 AM
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Totally agree. I've been volunteering at my church every Wednesday with the small girls group they have, mentoring girls ages 6-12. It's a small slice of my time but it is helpful to the community and to the individual.
/r/RedPillWomen09/04/17 01:39 PM
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😂
/r/RedPillWomen09/04/17 01:38 PM
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I do agree with you there! Many women think because they got the bath mat-hand towel- toothbrush cup set from Walmart means their "homemaking" and it's just like.... Ugh. You can do so much better than that!
/r/RedPillWomen09/04/17 01:37 PM
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Homespun wisdom from our country RPW
/r/RedPillWomen09/04/17 01:34 PM
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Of course you can still be feminine. I wear jeans, I love to camp and watch football. That doesn't make me masculine. That makes me a fun person. I'm sure your BF would appreciate you putting more effort into your appearance, but feminity is a frame of mind, you don't need to look like Betty Draper everyday.
/r/RedPillWomen09/04/17 12:33 PM
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Just my opinion but I dont think recommending that women go to fetish clubs to find a captain is a good idea. It goes against everything we teach here about commitment before sex, keeping hypergamy in check, etc. If one couple likes to go places like that so he can watch her get hit on by other dudes fine but RP does not teach this and it shouldn't be something discussed here.
/r/RedPillWomen07/04/17 06:48 PM
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I love judge Judy
/r/RedPillWomen07/04/17 06:42 PM
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OP can correct me if I'm wrong but this list seems to be a very general list of places you can generally go. Fetish places only work if you have a fetish.
/r/RedPillWomen07/04/17 03:35 PM
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very concrete places you can go to or incorporate into your life to meet the kind of men Redpillwomen would want and generally increase exposure. It does not sound like the places you're talking about are for everyone. Just because fetishes involve dominant/submissives doesn't mean it's RP and I don't want people getting confused here. This isn't some sex game - it's our praxology, our system of beliefs. It's not at all similar to BDSM.
/r/RedPillWomen07/04/17 02:48 PM
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You guys could do a small ceremony or just exchange rings privately.
/r/RedPillWomen07/04/17 02:44 PM
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😂😂I know what you mean! We have huge spiders out here where I live (in the New England woods) they're pretty gross
/r/RedPillWomen07/04/17 02:43 PM
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Omg I love your bee story!! My husband does not know how to convey sympathy at all. Whenever I find a spider in the house I put it outside and he's like, "just smush it!"
/r/RedPillWomen07/04/17 03:51 AM
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He could just be one of those guys who use pet names too. Definitely better to not freak out on him, good for you. Those feelings will subside over time, in the mean time, stfu and apologize when you mess up. It's learning new habits.
/r/RedPillWomen05/04/17 05:22 PM
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Well, it's a different time now too. My parents are 53 and 58 and they didn't have those problems... There are new challenges that your generation didn't have, do you know what I mean?
/r/RedPillWomen05/04/17 04:25 PM
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At some point it is hard to say who is better looking, you're comparing men and women. But sometimes it's obvious. 😳
/r/RedPillWomen05/04/17 04:23 PM
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Waste of time. Victim stories, people who would rather blame everyone else for their shortcomings.
/r/RedPillWomen05/04/17 02:57 PM
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Leave. This man is not worth your time. Here's not going to change, you've stayed with him and set a precedent of tolerating his bad behavior from day one. He doesn't respect you and no amount of working on it is going to change this. He's a player. Leave, now.
/r/RedPillWomen05/04/17 02:56 PM
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both people are operating in good faith Therein lies the problem. Most people aren't. Hence the need for TRP, lol.
/r/RedPillWomen05/04/17 02:50 PM
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If you guys live together or if either of you have stuff at each other's places do not be/go there alone . Bring a friend or family member with you. Change your phone number, block him on social media.
/r/RedPillWomen05/04/17 02:15 PM
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Tell him you had it, why hide it? If you mention it a year from now he'll be out off that you kept it from him. I don't think you need to have a "coming to Jesus" talk about it but just steer a conversation your already having to the topic.
/r/RedPillWomen05/04/17 02:10 PM
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how we can clone Sadie for the single guys lol 😂😂 thank you! I second the idea of proclaiming strong, traditional gender roles versus RP theories. Maybe it will just get the reputation for RP and we can include affiliate links to TRP network (it could be a good recruiting tool!)
/r/RedPillWomen05/04/17 02:04 PM
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A lot of guys like when a woman is inexperienced. This is working in your favor.
/r/RedPillWomen05/04/17 01:25 PM
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I would agree with this ratio theory. My husband is better looking than me, at least in my opinion. Guys that I've dated in the past, if I felt like they weren't as good looking, I definitely tried to pull more crap with them or if they got mad at me I'd be furious that they'd be mad at me.
/r/RedPillWomen05/04/17 01:19 PM
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A man that would do anything and put up with anything is a beta and I'm sure you know how this sub feels about them by now...
/r/RedPillWomen05/04/17 01:17 PM
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I totally agree
/r/RedPillWomen05/04/17 02:09 AM
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Mm I think more to the point, you do things because you love the person, not because you expect them to have sex with you or do the dishes.
/r/RedPillWomen05/04/17 02:09 AM
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I totally skimped on the savings part of the post, your right. Thank you for pointing that out.
/r/RedPillWomen04/04/17 07:14 PM
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Homeschooling!!!!! My husband and his brothers and sister were all homeschooled. That's what we're doing too.
/r/RedPillWomen04/04/17 05:44 PM
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😂😂
/r/RedPillWomen04/04/17 05:26 PM
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It seeks to pit men and women against one another, thus breaking down the family unity. Totally agree Live your married life in full devotion to your spouse without expectation of anything in return. This is the definition of love! Many of the seasoned women here can attest to their successes which occurred only after they were consistent in sticking to their end of the deal Raises hand excitedly
/r/RedPillWomen04/04/17 04:56 AM
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There are always exceptions to the rule, but at the end of the day, they're rules for a reason.
/r/RedPillWomen04/04/17 04:40 AM
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Set a timer and see how much you can get done in a set amount of time. I actually unwittingly started doing it when I had my son because I have him on a feeding schedule. I couldn't believe sometimes how much I got done in 2-4 hours or how long I had sat on my phone for!!
/r/RedPillWomen04/04/17 04:24 AM
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What can I say.... If I ever had to do it again Good for you for being so honest. It's hard to be able to admit something like that.
/r/RedPillWomen04/04/17 04:22 AM
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That's the standard guy response when a girl and why they broke up.
/r/RedPillWomen04/04/17 04:07 AM
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Well that's a very broad question and I think it warrants a situation-specific answer. Maybe she is a domestic goddess but also a raging bitch or closet alcoholic. Edited to add: I answered this in my message section, I didnt read all the other comments first, I just want to clarify that I'm not calling you an alcoholic or a bitch, I was speaking in generalities.
/r/RedPillWomen04/04/17 12:33 AM
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Well guys on TRP will tell you, bang a 4 or a 5 when they're available. Abundance mentality.
/r/RedPillWomen04/04/17 12:32 AM
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I've heard this more than once! 😂
/r/RedPillWomen04/04/17 12:31 AM
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SMV is your physical attractiveness, how you present and take care of yourself. MMV is how much of marriage material you are. This can include your SMV but also includes your domestic skills, whether you do or don't want kids, personality and anything else that someone holds important when looking for a mate. They go hand in hand which is why I think some people get them confused. Your SMV will get a guy to sleep with you, your MMV will get him to marry you.
/r/RedPillWomen03/04/17 09:24 AM
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💕
/r/RedPillWomen03/04/17 09:14 AM
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😂😂
/r/RedPillWomen03/04/17 01:47 AM
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It's just that, when we assume we get to pass judgement about things like this on our men, it's doing what BP women do; you're presuming that you're somehow superior. He's cleaning up his mess, fair or not, you should respect him for it. Plus, look at it this way, he's taking care of this woman in this way, think of the way he'll take of the woman he loves.
/r/RedPillWomen03/04/17 01:46 AM
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I just don't know if I can wait that long! You're being so flip about this. Saying you have a short term memory and you'll be fine with it once it's over. Like, how loyal are you being to this guy? If this is honestly how you feel and you're getting resentful then I'm sorry but I truly feel you shouldn't get married to this guy. He's being a decent man! Honoring his commitments! How can you resent that? That is cruel in my opinion. Also, FWIW, I am my husband's second wife but he is my first mar…
/r/RedPillWomen03/04/17 01:24 AM
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Good luck, my dear. I hope everything works out for you. I hope you come back when everything is worked out.
/r/RedPillWomen03/04/17 12:55 AM
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If this is enough to put you off, marriage isn't for you.
/r/RedPillWomen03/04/17 12:48 AM
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My husband pays child support for his sons from his first marriage. If you're not willing to put up with his baggage than don't. I knew what I was getting into and I knew it would always be part of my life. Yes it can be aggravating especially when she's money grubbing but he's honoring his commitments and it think that's admirable. Saying you resent him because he's doing right by his word is a very selfish mentality to have. Edited to add: also, if you guys aren't engaged or married, this real…
/r/RedPillWomen03/04/17 12:42 AM
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Love yard sales
/r/RedPillWomen03/04/17 12:20 AM
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The art of manliness is where he got the idea from!
/r/RedPillWomen03/04/17 12:20 AM
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I bet there's interest in a post like that!
/r/RedPillWomen02/04/17 05:40 PM
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I hear you about the thrift stores! I love them.
/r/RedPillWomen02/04/17 05:40 PM
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My husband likes the idea of a straight razor but he's pretty sure he'd kill himself by accident with it, lol. We bought two handles, one for him one for me and every other month we get a box of razor heads for $6.
/r/RedPillWomen02/04/17 05:39 PM
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Good points, thank you
/r/RedPillWomen02/04/17 10:31 AM
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I totally skipped over the "pretty exclusive"!
/r/RedPillWomen02/04/17 02:50 AM
2

Well that's good for your bottom line
/r/RedPillWomen02/04/17 02:46 AM
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😔 8.5 years too late for me
/r/RedPillWomen01/04/17 11:12 PM
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Oh definitely have an emergency fund. And if you live on commission or your pay is dependent on a certain season, have a hills and valleys savings.
/r/RedPillWomen01/04/17 11:12 PM
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😂😂
/r/RedPillWomen01/04/17 11:11 PM
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I love Dave Ramsey so much! He's changed my life!
/r/RedPillWomen01/04/17 11:11 PM
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good credit score will cancel out a high N count. 😂😂 I'm obsessed with Amazon prime too. I do a lot of my grocery shopping on there. Thanks for the tips about the credit cards, I'm utterly clueless about that stuff.
/r/RedPillWomen01/04/17 07:42 PM
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27 when I got pregnant, I had been on the pill for 10 years. Went off at the end of Oct, was pregnant at the end of Dec.
/r/RedPillWomen01/04/17 07:14 PM
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Cats will eat their owners if they die and the cats have no food left. True story.
/r/RedPillWomen01/04/17 06:52 PM
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paying them. This made me lol
/r/RedPillWomen01/04/17 04:14 PM
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😂
/r/RedPillWomen01/04/17 10:07 AM
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Just try not to take it personally. It hurts your feelings because you think he isn't serious about you or that he's hiding you. He just doesn't want to deal with questions and having his privacy invaded. It had nothing to do with you. Try and look at it like that.
/r/RedPillWomen01/04/17 10:05 AM
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I would try and put the hamster to rest then and trust that he's happy with you and this is just a privacy thing. If you force him to introduce you, he could hold this against you later.
/r/RedPillWomen01/04/17 05:11 AM
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I understand why you're hurt. Let me ask you, is he a man that treasures his privacy? His reason could be legitimate or perhaps it's a flag that he isn't serious about you. I'm trying to figure out which it is.
/r/RedPillWomen01/04/17 04:08 AM
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Ah, that one sentence that when uttered, makes you feel like you've conquered the RPW journey! I'll always remember mine. It was around my birthday two years ago and he said, "I can see a change in you and it's never made me feel happier, fulfilled or in control of my family," 💕💕
/r/RedPillWomen01/04/17 03:21 AM
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Why are you wasting anyone's time with this (his yours or mine)?? You know the answer!
/r/RedPillWomen01/04/17 03:12 AM
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Mm, even if that's true (which, pics or it didn't happen) why does he need it constantly. Of course it's going to make you feel inadequate.
/r/RedPillWomen01/04/17 02:03 AM
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Paging our resident husband of the decade... /u/loneliness-inc
/r/RedPillWomen01/04/17 01:45 AM
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Not all men want threesomes and if a guy I was dating ever trying to get me to participate in one... That's a hard next. "Preferably 5" 😂 who does this guy think he is??
/r/RedPillWomen01/04/17 01:45 AM
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Habitat for humanity I've seen men. Also there was a lot of men in the Peace Corps when my cousin volunteered. Well not a lot but 2 vs the 6 girls lol. I guess you're right, there's never as many men. Interesting.
/r/RedPillWomen31/03/17 11:13 PM
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Regret doesn't equal rape. It really sounds like you are shirking your responsibility in this.
/r/RedPillWomen31/03/17 11:11 PM
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Its true but I love to talk. :-D
/r/RedPillWomen31/03/17 07:19 PM
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What is the reason you felt the need to look outside your marriage in the first place? If you're serious about this, I want to help you with your journey.
/r/RedPillWomen31/03/17 07:18 PM
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I'm not saying you can't reform. I am saying your post leads me to believe you think this will be easy or fun or something other than a complete overhaul of your personal theology. Can you understand why I think that?
/r/RedPillWomen31/03/17 07:04 PM
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Popular culture. On TV the man is the idiot and the woman is the boss in the relationship. Everyone thinks this is an acceptable dynamic. Women are encouraged to experiment and find themselves through sex. I think volunteering and being a service to others is a much better way, but that's just me I guess.
/r/RedPillWomen31/03/17 06:42 PM
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This made me cringe. Your husband let you cheat on him and won't leave you. You think you're going to respect him but the second you hit a rough patch or get bored, you'll lose respect for him all over again. I quit my job, with his encouragement, because I couldn't stand what I was doing... My husband is encouraging me to go back to school while he works. He's clearly just kowtowing and telling you what you want to hear in the desperate hope you'll be happy and he'll get to keep you. Beta throu…
/r/RedPillWomen31/03/17 06:41 PM
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Isn't that what I just said? That she shouldn't stay?
/r/RedPillWomen31/03/17 06:34 PM
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I was scouring google for a sub reddit on traditional gender roles in relationships when I came across this one. me too! Try just stfu with the details of your day. It's called word vomit. I do the same thing, lol, it's just a habit you actively work at. Talk to your girlfriends instead.
/r/RedPillWomen31/03/17 04:52 PM
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You do not submit to someone with an active addiction. Of course you can't make up for what's going on. Laura Doyle even says in her book not to submit to someone with an active addiction because the principles will not work properly.
/r/RedPillWomen31/03/17 04:38 PM
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I think it all depends on you, your BF, the comfortability level, etc. It's hard to give a rule for this type of thing. That's like asking when is the right time to move in together.
/r/RedPillWomen31/03/17 04:30 PM
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I love left overs
/r/RedPillWomen31/03/17 04:26 PM
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Red flag! Next. Do not submit to this kind of guy.
/r/RedPillWomen31/03/17 04:25 PM
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So hypergamy is something we all more or less struggle with, but there isn't a secret formula to being faithful. If you can't trust yourself around other men, don't be around them. Don't put yourself into situations where you will be with other men. Don't flirt even though you want to. Just. Don't. Do. It. Its like anything in life. Sure, it's easier and more fun to be a shitty person but if you don't want to be a shitty person just don't do it.
/r/RedPillWomen31/03/17 04:23 PM
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In a few months it will be 3 yrs married. I'll let y'all know. Thanks
/r/RedPillWomen31/03/17 04:27 AM
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My dear, as selfish as you feel for considering leaving, I firmly believe it is the right thing to do. Also, I believe in his heart of hearts, he would not blame you for doing so. You are not married and have no children together, there honestly is no good reason to stay. You said it yourself, he could be like this for life. You will have sacrificed everything for this one man. I know it feels wrong and as if it goes against everything you've been taught, but it is the right thing to do.
/r/RedPillWomen30/03/17 02:35 PM
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That's awesome that you even finished, I think! Races of any kind freak me out. Good for you!
/r/RedPillWomen30/03/17 01:32 PM
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What kind of experience?
/r/RedPillWomen30/03/17 03:50 AM
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Oh OK lol I thought it was weird you asked
/r/RedPillWomen30/03/17 02:44 AM
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Endorsed Contributor. It's why my flair is different than others. Yours is fine, I think anyway.
/r/RedPillWomen30/03/17 02:36 AM
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Ok but the problem just isn't sex, you've said that. Also this is 12 years worth of damage. It will take more than a year of sex to fix it.
/r/RedPillWomen30/03/17 02:28 AM
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Love this! Thank you for the invite Laura! I wish you luck during taping!
/r/RedPillWomen30/03/17 12:58 AM
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I agree with every thing Inc said and I'll add that these problems didn't occur overnight yet you seem to think that you submitting one time or for a week or just during sex is going to fix things, and quickly at that. It has to be all the time.
/r/RedPillWomen30/03/17 12:57 AM
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Mods, if I have an EC flair, you have to update it for me, right?
/r/RedPillWomen30/03/17 12:47 AM
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😂 love it!
/r/RedPillWomen30/03/17 12:47 AM
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Exactly. Can be an uncontrolling shrew, but won't
/r/RedPillWomen29/03/17 04:25 PM
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28, nurse's aide. I'm RPW because I wanted a life where I didn't have to control and run everything. I was so tired of doing it all and it seemed that my husband was not good enough or capable of doing it. RPW promised me if I changed myself, he would change too. And he did! RPW is for everyone and I hate seeing posts that claim they can't be RPW. It is a sexual strategy, so everyone can use it, even if you wear jeans, even if you're a lawyer, even if you make more money than your husband, even …
/r/RedPillWomen29/03/17 12:44 PM
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Write it!
/r/RedPillWomen28/03/17 09:08 PM
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remembers that men aren't the goal. A relationship isn't the goal. A family isn't the goal If these aren't goals than what are they? It's one thing if you say they aren't your goals and that's fine, but these are my goals and a lot of women's goals.
/r/RedPillWomen28/03/17 05:02 PM
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Well if there was a large population of 35+ virgins I'd agree with you, however that is an exception to the rule most of the time.
/r/RedPillWomen27/03/17 02:00 AM
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Virginity has nothing to do with it, you age anyway, don't you?
/r/RedPillWomen26/03/17 10:29 PM
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Women may need to talk about our problems. It's cathartic and women are typically more in touch with our feelings than men, that's probably why we need to do it more than men.
/r/RedPillWomen26/03/17 05:22 PM
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I completely understand what you're saying and I agree about the not just agreeing with you when you're clearly wrong stuff. That being said, for instance, I work in health care with the elderly, we are constantly short staffed and it's just stressful. Sometimes I just need to vent or rant about how much my night sucked. I don't want my husband to tell me "have a positive attitude" or "well what if you fixed this" blah blah blah I just want him to listen, tell me "that sucks" and just agree with…
/r/RedPillWomen26/03/17 01:09 AM
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Mr. Dunham and I lived together before marriage, it was rushed because of financial reasons (neither of us could afford to live on our own). It worked out fine but I remember after we got married, nothing felt different or new, because it wasn't. That was a little disappointing.
/r/RedPillWomen24/03/17 05:50 PM
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An excellent point! I wonder....
/r/RedPillWomen24/03/17 05:44 PM
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Great FR! Love all the points, especially #3, that is super important!
/r/RedPillWomen24/03/17 05:42 PM
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Nonetheless it is good to hear from you again. I'm very well, albeit a bit sleep deprived. That's life with a 7 month old. :-)
/r/RedPillWomen24/03/17 05:41 PM
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My husband and I are evangelical Christians. We read a devotional for couples together, not every night but that's the goal. We also pray together and go to a Bible study during the week together.
/r/RedPillWomen24/03/17 04:03 AM
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I'm glad it helped! What I love about this place is that ppl will think of things you never pick up on on your own.
/r/RedPillWomen24/03/17 04:00 AM
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Lol I can imagine
/r/RedPillWomen24/03/17 03:59 AM
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Omg I love it!
/r/RedPillWomen23/03/17 11:31 PM
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Whether you're serious or not, this made me laugh. I can't tell if that's brilliant or horrible. Maybe both. 😂
/r/RedPillWomen23/03/17 11:30 PM
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Off topic but I almost spit my soda across the room laughing when I saw your reddit handle. 😂😂
/r/RedPillWomen23/03/17 11:29 PM
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ask yourself, how do I feel after speaking to this person? Love this
/r/RedPillWomen23/03/17 11:27 PM
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Hey long time no see Jack! Good to have you back.
/r/RedPillWomen23/03/17 11:24 PM
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No that's ok, lol it's just a pet peeve of mine. RPW is for everybody, I don't want women thinking it can't work for them if they don't stay home. What I meant by the grass is always greener is it mostly sounds like you don't know what you want. I think you need to figure that out, and I would definitely tell you not to go back to school before you're sure it's what you want. Acquiring more debt is going to make it less likely for you to be able to stay home later in life. Regardless of what you…
/r/RedPillWomen23/03/17 11:22 PM
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First off, I need to address this because it really bothers me when people get this twisted: I understand this is different from RPW philosophy - but there's currently no hubby to "provide" for me You can have a job and a career and still be RPW. No where in our theory do we say you have to stay home Ok. Now, you're really all over the place. The grass is greener everywhere except where you are. You've moved away, you've moved back, you liked your other job but it was too stressful, this job is …
/r/RedPillWomen23/03/17 02:11 PM
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Wow way to deflect responsibility for your own actions! This one's hamster is a pro. Smdh.
/r/RedPillWomen22/03/17 06:20 PM
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Haha! I love this and I totally see the inspiration! 😂
/r/RedPillWomen21/03/17 05:47 PM
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Haha
/r/RedPillWomen21/03/17 05:44 PM
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A suicide?? I skimmed the last part, maybe I missed that... I am definitely not supporting that.
/r/RedPillWomen21/03/17 05:42 PM
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I'm with you about the cheating: if you can't do it in front of me you shouldn't be doing it at all.
/r/RedPillWomen21/03/17 02:31 PM
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I'm dying right now. 😂😂
/r/RedPillWomen21/03/17 02:28 PM
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I 100% agree with what you said and I can relate to the feeling tired and unattractive thing. However I also know that women will get on their high horse after having kids and have this attitude of "I just took care of the kids all day and now you want me to take care of you too?" I have shockingly, found that thought crossing my mind twice and shot it down immediately. If it can happen to a RPW, it definitely happens to others.
/r/RedPillWomen21/03/17 02:26 PM
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Ladies and gentlemen, the husband of the century.
/r/RedPillWomen21/03/17 02:21 PM
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I love your metaphors of the house and heat! Also it's refreshing for our community to have a man write about honesty and games instead of women. But wait... I thought all red pill guys were players and douche bags?! :-)
/r/RedPillWomen21/03/17 02:14 PM
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Have you never seen Tara Reid? She hit the wall hard. 😂
/r/RedPillWomen21/03/17 02:06 PM
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reaching point where she is no longer able to attract the quality of men she has previously got. THIS is what the wall is.
/r/RedPillWomen21/03/17 02:05 PM
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I am and I do. Unfortunately, some women will read this and think it's an insult to influence their men this way but it's just the natural balance of things. I don't understand why everyone can't see it.
/r/RedPillWomen21/03/17 02:01 PM
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This is why people hate the red pill. Society has evolved, a hundred years ago men didn't go to college either. Men and women were both on the farm or hunting and gathering. His theory is that women should stay the same as they were a hundred years ago but somehow society will still evolve and men will evolve? It doesn't make sense.
/r/RedPillWomen21/03/17 02:00 PM
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You've hit the nail on the head with this! I love it!
/r/RedPillWomen21/03/17 01:41 PM
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RPW is sexual strategy so obviously a lot of the posts will be relationship-y. But yes we do encourage personal growth. "when will it be MY turn?" If you internalize concepts that make you a better person, isn't it personal growth? Isn't a good relationship good for you?
/r/RedPillWomen18/03/17 12:43 AM
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Oh I get what you're saying. Its not really worth it to pursue any of those without thoughts of grad school, is it? The only thing I ever pursued was nursing so idk about the rest of it all.
/r/RedPillWomen17/03/17 08:06 PM
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Isn't the psych BA the new liberal arts degree? That's what it seems like.
/r/RedPillWomen17/03/17 07:54 PM
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Mr. Dunham and I have joint finances. I work per diem, approximately 20-25 hours a week so he makes a majority of our income. Very little of our income goes to my "beauty budget". I get my eyebrows waxed every 3-6 months, my hair is its natural color and I paint my own nails. I have make up, but I am not picky about name brands.
/r/RedPillWomen17/03/17 07:29 PM
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Good I'm so glad.
/r/RedPillWomen17/03/17 03:47 PM
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It's true. How do you know until it's too late for a guy? Scary.
/r/RedPillWomen17/03/17 04:16 AM
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Lol! I love archwinger. That opening line is a killer.
/r/RedPillWomen16/03/17 05:21 PM
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I had a boyfriend who lied to me all the time and was because he was spineless and told me what he thought I wanted to hear. about actions he has taken but hasn't really that line made me think of him. But if he's sitting around, lying to you about looking for jobs, I mean, that isn't the kind of man you should be depending on. Who's taking care of him in the mean time? Pathological lying is a deal breaker. That is not captain material.
/r/RedPillWomen16/03/17 02:04 PM
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But I allow and very much want my boyfriend to lead our relationship and the building of our lives together and to be my captain. This is RP. We have a lot of trad women here too so RPW does get that reputation but of course you can have a job and love it. Putting your man first and using your feminine powers for good and not manipulation are RP. I believe most women here are pretty evenly split economically and politically. We also have women from all over the world so conservative/liberal all …
/r/RedPillWomen16/03/17 02:02 PM
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Thank you! I had to Google why I had cake next to my name to figure it out, lol
/r/RedPillWomen16/03/17 01:59 PM
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My sister had a breast enlargement and she was still able to breast feed (she had the implants understand the muscle). I know the surgery you're talking about is probably a little different but there's always a chance you could. I breast feed my baby and there are women (myself included) who donate breast milk either through midwife networks or hospitals for mothers who want to give their babies breast milk but can't produce.
/r/RedPillWomen16/03/17 12:38 AM
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It depends on where you are. I work with the elderly. Yes it has its moments but like at assisted living facilities most of their job is paperwork. Nursing homes are busier but it depends on the shift. Hospitals are the busiest. Doctor's offices are probably the easiest.
/r/RedPillWomen15/03/17 09:04 PM
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Regardless of whether or not you agree with the videos, there are exceptions to every rule. Some men like that we are trying, some see it as another tactic. Some women actually are trying to improve, some are just trying to up their manipulative game. I choose to be RPW. I could be just like the stereotypical woman portrayed at TRP. And I have been her before. I choose not to be. My husband is my leader because I chose to defer to him. I could rein over him and divorce him for alimony and child …
/r/RedPillWomen15/03/17 06:11 PM
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How did your family upbringing affect your career choice as an adult? My mom stayed home with us. She worked around the holidays for extra money but otherwise was home. It wasn't until my youngest sister was a sophomore that she got a job again, and by that time I had moved out and was on my own. Family quality time was heavily stressed in my family, both of my parents had rough home lives growing up. They wanted better for us and they provided it. Were you ever forced to fend for yourself? It w…
/r/RedPillWomen15/03/17 06:06 PM
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My mom was a SAHM when my sisters and I were growing up and let me tell you she loves drama. she would martyr herself in any and all ways for her kids and husband and then the second we crossed some imaginary line or didn't act grateful for the right thing, she'd explode. I've caught myself doing it before with my stepsons and my husband and I hate it. My mom was a good mom in many ways, but in plenty of other ways I strive to be nothing like her. The second I need a break or can't handle someth…
/r/RedPillWomen15/03/17 05:46 PM
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Nursing too! The nurses at the AL facility I work at adore drama.
/r/RedPillWomen15/03/17 05:44 PM
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I think this happens because people get bored. They find ways to entertain themselves, either by picking fights or seeking attention in some ways. Came here to say this.
/r/RedPillWomen15/03/17 02:47 AM
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I'm sorry you're hurting. 😟
/r/RedPillWomen14/03/17 02:03 AM
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It's true. We have a plan to design our own home in the next ten years.
/r/RedPillWomen14/03/17 02:02 AM
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I can't speak for everyone but I personally am in love with the tiny houses! I want one! Too bad my family wouldn't fit in one. 😪 Maybe when I retire...
/r/RedPillWomen13/03/17 08:13 PM
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LDR's are hard and difficult. Plus you've added sex into the mix before knowing exactly the parameters of your relationship. For all you know you could be a plate of his.
/r/RedPillWomen13/03/17 07:20 PM
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My sentiments exactly!
/r/RedPillWomen13/03/17 07:18 PM
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😂
/r/RedPillWomen13/03/17 07:18 PM
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Only time is going to help you move on from him. I would encourage you to have no contact with him, if he's on TRP and senses you miss him, he could try to plate you. Don't let that happen. Give yourself time to see results physically! It takes about 6 weeks to notice results! Maybe take some before pictures and chart your progress that way.
/r/RedPillWomen13/03/17 07:17 PM
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In life, there's a balance to everything. Speaking in generalities (men are more logical than women; men are big children) are not helpful to the individual. Perhaps you are more emotional and therefore would benefit from a strong leader. No you're not crazy for wanting to serve your man, just don't go advertising it to other women if you don't want trouble.
/r/RedPillWomen13/03/17 07:14 PM
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Sounds like he's setting you up to be a plate and thinks stringing you along with saying nice things will keep you around... It seems like it's working. What were you doing kissing an unavailable man, by the way?
/r/RedPillWomen13/03/17 07:10 PM
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Its enlightening and a good exercise to repeat every so often, to make sure you're staying in track. I've done it myself three or four times. My husband notices right away.
/r/RedPillWomen13/03/17 07:05 PM
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If you know that you're going to be cranky at a certain time of the month, why, the onus is on YOU Truth!
/r/RedPillWomen12/03/17 10:31 PM
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I was thinking the same thing. I love this place.
/r/RedPillWomen12/03/17 01:44 PM
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The ugly guys who are rich and have all the ladies on their arms have gold diggers and whores. That's different then finding a quality woman.
/r/RedPillWomen12/03/17 01:43 PM
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Try to get in the habit of using the "stfu" method. That helped me a lot. One thing I did about a year ago is I challenged myself to not complain about anything for a whole week. It really put in perspective for me what was worth not picking, what I wouldn't be upset about in 24 hours and what would actually still bother me the next day.
/r/RedPillWomen12/03/17 01:37 PM
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I second that
/r/RedPillWomen12/03/17 03:35 AM
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I agree.
/r/RedPillWomen12/03/17 03:35 AM
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Ooh I totally skipped over that part of the post, idk how I missed that.
/r/RedPillWomen12/03/17 03:34 AM
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This is not hypergamy. Hypergamy is if you have interest in another guy and are all of a sudden nit picking your man to justify leaving him for someone better. This more sounds like you having serious doubts about the relationship. Strictly speaking just based on what you've provided here, I'd say your concerns aren't entirely unfounded. I'd wonder if this relationship had longevity and if I was investing time in a man who was worth it.
/r/RedPillWomen11/03/17 05:29 PM
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But I'm saying that his contributions aren't relevant because he isn't the one seeking advice, she is.
/r/RedPillWomen11/03/17 05:25 PM
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part he plays in your conflicts This isn't relevant. All we can do is change ourselves.
/r/RedPillWomen11/03/17 03:03 PM
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Civil ceremony with a JoP? That's easy and relatively inexpensive.
/r/RedPillWomen10/03/17 02:14 PM
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Like him being tired and staying out late This! It's a good thing he wants to work so hard! Don't guilt him or bitch at him for doing it! Plus, if you make your home a soft place to land, he'll find plenty of time to finish his work sooner or finish up at home. Dunham is a workaholic and if he has a major deadline or a networking event, I don't say anything about it. He's home late from work at least one a week. It's ultimately for the betterment of his career, our financial stability and our fa…
/r/RedPillWomen10/03/17 02:12 PM
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Mm, it's not something I want to be around, legal or not. I have children, I don't want them around it, studies support that it can hurt developing minds. I don't want anyone to debate with me about whether it's addictive or behavior altering but I do believe it's both. Cigarettes are a deal breaker for me too as is regular drunkenness. I don't have a problem with alcohol in moderation, my husband and his dad are beer lovers, it's a hobby for them, but they don't get drunk. Do some research and …
/r/RedPillWomen09/03/17 02:02 AM
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I'm sure there are women who love it I just know myself and I'm pretty sure I'd be bored.
/r/RedPillWomen06/03/17 01:13 PM
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It all depends on what you're comfortable with. That's a deal breaker for me, personally. However other women may feel differently.
/r/RedPillWomen05/03/17 05:57 PM
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The warning, I believe, is largely about women with BPD who do not have it well controlled and who use it as an excuse to be monsters because they can. From the male RP perspective, these women are more dangerous to be linked to romantically, legally or through children because they're twice as irrational and emotional as your average woman and still rely on your self-entitlement and special kid gloves the world handles you with. It could spell big trouble for a man who ends a relationship with …
/r/RedPillWomen05/03/17 05:54 PM
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Yeah I don't agree with that, if you do everything on your power to save money and still can't make ends meet, you need to get a job.
/r/RedPillWomen05/03/17 04:01 AM
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Aaaaaaand breakfast is at what time?
/r/RedPillWomen04/03/17 12:01 AM
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Sometimes you can do everything right and still get assaulted or raped. Ultimately, it is the offender's fault but many times a woman can avoid a potentially dangerous situation altogether by making safe choices and having responsible actions. When I was younger and single I would limit myself to 2-3 drinks an hour and would take my own car everywhere. I still had a good time but I knew that I was the only one 100% looking out for me.
/r/RedPillWomen03/03/17 11:59 PM
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A good question
/r/RedPillWomen03/03/17 07:21 PM
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Agree. You're right about the criticism thing. I think she mistook this for a trad life sub. Post reeks of BP ideals and entitlement.
/r/RedPillWomen03/03/17 07:20 PM
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By the sandwiches we make!
/r/RedPillWomen03/03/17 07:19 PM
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Good job!
/r/RedPillWomen03/03/17 07:18 PM
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You already know what you think you should do. Stop stalling and go do it.
/r/RedPillWomen03/03/17 11:14 AM
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I'm a girl and I can't even do my nails or go shopping Honestly, cry me a river. If you really think that your place is in the home, you will most likely be short of cash always living on one income in today's world. I work per diem and it's a monetary cost we have assumed for me to have a flexible schedule for our family. The last time I got my nails professionally done was for the day of my wedding almost three years ago. If you think you're short of money now, wait for the kids... For sales j…
/r/RedPillWomen03/03/17 11:11 AM
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Haha oh then you've got your supplements covered!
/r/RedPillWomen03/03/17 04:17 AM
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<3
/r/RedPillWomen03/03/17 04:16 AM
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I hope it gets better soon! We all have those trying times in our lives but they do end. Also, just because other ppl have bigger problems or worries does not invalidate yours. I live in America, I'm aware there are people with MUCH bigger problems than I, but I'm still allowed to have a bad day.
/r/RedPillWomen02/03/17 02:19 PM
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Typically if there is no life event that brought in anxiety or depression, it's about your body being imbalanced. My husband has SAD, every January since I've known him, without fail, he gets depressed. His mother suggested vitamin D supplements and they have worked wonders! Other things that work are cod liver oil (if you get one with a fruit flavoring it doesn't taste half bad) and essential oils.
/r/RedPillWomen02/03/17 02:16 PM
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Get over him and move on. He's told you you're to good for him, believe it and be glad you didn't waste two years before realizing it.
/r/RedPillWomen02/03/17 03:50 AM
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....what was your question?
/r/RedPillWomen02/03/17 03:47 AM
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Do the winters being shorter, darker days where you live? (Is it even winter?) You might try vitamin D as a supplement or cod liver oil.
/r/RedPillWomen01/03/17 11:30 PM
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I've also just been in a really terrible mood lately, like extra self critical, etc. What's up, buttercup?
/r/RedPillWomen01/03/17 07:24 PM
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Men have a very "if it isn't broken, don't fix it" attitude toward things. They aren't likely to notice the little touches until they aren't there and they wouldn't realize they wanted them without being shown what life was like with them first.
/r/RedPillWomen01/03/17 06:56 PM
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Then my advice is to just stay away from there. I enjoy the theory but I also am pretty good at sifting through what is personally helpful and what isn't.
/r/RedPillWomen01/03/17 06:55 PM
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Lol, don't go to a male space and then be surprised that it gives you anxiety because they're mad about stuff. That's like being surprise a stove top that's hot burned you when you touched it!
/r/RedPillWomen28/02/17 06:05 PM
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That's different than sleeping with a guy with no commitment which is what being a plate is.
/r/RedPillWomen28/02/17 06:00 PM
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Thank you! It's true, being a wife and mother can be thankless, if all you look for are verbal affirmations.
/r/RedPillWomen28/02/17 05:19 PM
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Try reading "The Rules". It's filled with a ton of good advice about how to be flirty yet mysterious and feminine.
/r/RedPillWomen28/02/17 02:47 AM
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You're welcome :-)
/r/RedPillWomen27/02/17 08:40 PM
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It sounds like by being physical and messaging friends you find "cute", people are reading you as being too forward and agressive, the way a more experienced woman would be.
/r/RedPillWomen27/02/17 01:57 PM
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Everyone has already said it all. You're being manipulated (or hamstering) into sticking around. He doesn't want a relationship or you'd be in one.
/r/RedPillWomen27/02/17 01:52 PM
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Those are just achievements he is used to seeing so he is used to complimenting them. Do not read into this. All the feminine stuff you do is appreciated, he'd definitely notice if you stopped doing them. Many of women's jobs go unnoticed or unappreciated. That's why feminists refuse to do them. They don't want a thankless job. Cultivating a loving and cozy home isn't something you notice or appreciate everyday. But if you stopped doing it, he'd miss it. Maybe it shouldn't be this way but that's…
/r/RedPillWomen27/02/17 01:46 PM
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Vitamin D supplements help a lot during these dark months. My husband takes them because he has seasonal affective disorder and my brother in law works overnights and he takes them too. The 5 pounds, I understand, I've got 12 to go and some tone to regain from my baby but your SO wants you, even if you're not happy with the way you look. Pay attention to the way he looks and responds to you, not how you feel about yourself.
/r/RedPillWomen26/02/17 06:16 PM
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I said it was a reading list, not an exhaustive list of RP sources.
/r/RedPillWomen23/02/17 04:09 AM
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I keep meaning to, lol
/r/RedPillWomen23/02/17 04:06 AM
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If you search through the other posts for the podcasts and what not you'll find good lists. The reading list is obviously just books.
/r/RedPillWomen23/02/17 04:05 AM
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She can only control get own actions, not his. She should have realized the potential hazards of being involved with this man. Unfortunately she didn't, but don't say she did nothing wrong. This is the red pill.
/r/RedPillWomen22/02/17 09:19 PM
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There a reading list a bunch of members compiled here and I believe if you search the sub reddit you can find a few posts about podcasts.
/r/RedPillWomen22/02/17 05:41 PM
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Thanks Law Bot, lol
/r/RedPillWomen22/02/17 03:51 PM
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I see. That's too bad. I assumed she hadn't met him and would have advised you against getting involved with a married guy. I am my husband's second wife, we actually met while he was still married, but I was cautious about dating him until their divorce was final. He didn't ask until it was, but it was definitely something we talked about. I'm sorry this happened to you. Truthfully being naive about dating a married man is the only mistake I see here, to answer your question.
/r/RedPillWomen22/02/17 03:49 PM
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Hey, just a coding tip, if you put brackets [] around a word like, dress, for example, and then use parentheses () around the hyperlink, leaving no space in between the ] and the (, when you post your comment you will have a click able link like this: dress Idk if you knew that or not, took me forever to learn how to do it.
/r/RedPillWomen22/02/17 03:36 PM
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almost at a decent bob The struggle is real! ugh it's agonizing, all the waiting. Femininity isn't about dressing up and this is a good reminder. Excellent point!
/r/RedPillWomen22/02/17 03:33 PM
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Make up everyday! My hair is short, I cut it to donate it and went with a cut I've always wanted to try and now I'm growing it out, so I can totally sympathize with you. Make up and earrings help me feel more feminine. Also, you could start taking prenatal vitamins, they make your hair grow faster. I'm still taking them because I nurse my 6 month old and my hair is growing pretty rapidly.
/r/RedPillWomen22/02/17 03:32 PM
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You were dating a married man. Regardless of what he says, if there's a marriage (or even a LTR) he's unavailable. Did your mom know about this relationship?
/r/RedPillWomen22/02/17 03:29 PM
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Haha
/r/RedPillWomen22/02/17 03:26 PM
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I'm still trying to figure out a collective definition for what an alpha male is. I like to use that quote from Supreme Court Justice Stewart, "I can't define it, but I know it when I see it." Now obviously be was talking about pornography, but I think it still applies.
/r/RedPillWomen22/02/17 01:43 PM
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Exactly. Don't read too much into it. Good luck!
/r/RedPillWomen22/02/17 01:38 PM
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I think if this wasn't a potential mental disorder this would be the best course of action. But she can't treat him like a captain if he isn't one.
/r/RedPillWomen22/02/17 01:36 PM
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My grandmother has been like that her whole life. The person I really feel bad for is my mother for having to deal with throughout her marriage. Grandma lives in Florida now and visits one a year so I can and do deal with her. Do what feels right to you. This is your life. Your choices and mistakes are your own. It truly sounds like your mom regrets aspects of her life and is trying to avoid those "mistakes" for you.
/r/RedPillWomen22/02/17 01:34 PM
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Hmm this seems excessive to me, but maybe it's a man thing. Paging the husband of the decade and the mod of the decade... /u/loneliness-inc /u/VigilantRedRooster
/r/RedPillWomen21/02/17 10:11 PM
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Yeah exactly
/r/RedPillWomen21/02/17 09:58 PM
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You're welcome! You deserve it, all your posts are amazing.
/r/RedPillWomen21/02/17 09:34 PM
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Well said!
/r/RedPillWomen21/02/17 09:28 PM
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I wouldn't date an 18 year old guy, but I would date a 38 year old. I think that there can be a double standard, like a woman can date an older guy and have things in common with him, but the opposite isn't always true.
/r/RedPillWomen21/02/17 09:27 PM
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Your mom sounds like a feminist. My grandmother always have me similar advice. I've been married for almost 3 years and she still addresses mail to me with my maiden name or my maiden name-married name. And there is no hyphen, I took my husband's name. She always encouraged me to work and date casually. Do what you want, trust your boyfriend. You probably have a better had on your shoulders than you realize. When you're younger parents know better but truthfully as you become an adult and start …
/r/RedPillWomen21/02/17 09:24 PM
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I love your input in this sub. You are such an asset to this community, I love your theory posts!
/r/RedPillWomen21/02/17 09:16 PM
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I do not think that you two splitting things is a sign of future unwillingness to lead. You guys aren't exclusive so maybe that's why he isn't paying for the dates. Could you imagine how expensive things would be for him if he was casually dating and paid for every single date?!
/r/RedPillWomen21/02/17 09:15 PM
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My closest work friend is a pagan liberal. I am Christian conservative. We agree on nothing but respect each other and don't try to change the other. We both agree that our work is one of the most noble professions and take immense pride in patient care. That's what matters most to us. My point is, you don't have to agree on everything to have a friend.
/r/RedPillWomen21/02/17 09:09 PM
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I would seek professional help for this. Let a professional diagnose and treat him while you be supportive. Don't step into a superior role by trying to help him yourself. But he definitely needs help. This can effect your kids, it can be a very unhealthy environment for them. You can't allow that.
/r/RedPillWomen21/02/17 09:05 PM
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This was the best lesson for me too! It's liberating.
/r/RedPillWomen21/02/17 09:03 PM
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I feel like women to to bars to hang out with each other, men go to hit on and pick up women.
/r/RedPillWomen21/02/17 09:01 PM
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Relevant how?
/r/RedPillWomen20/02/17 10:43 PM
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😂
/r/RedPillWomen20/02/17 10:40 PM
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Bingo
/r/RedPillWomen20/02/17 10:40 PM
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Willing took the advice or were so hen pecked and desperate to get these women of their backs?
/r/RedPillWomen20/02/17 10:39 PM
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There's a nice way to encourage and support someone though rather than nagging and goading.
/r/RedPillWomen20/02/17 03:09 AM
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I agree. You've said your piece, now let him make the decision.
/r/RedPillWomen20/02/17 01:27 AM
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"I'm just trying to help," in woman translates into "I'm going to nag you to death," in man.
/r/RedPillWomen20/02/17 01:25 AM
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My husband and I do not engage one on one with people from the opposite gender. It's an agreement we've always had. He also doesn't go to bars with his single friends without me. I'd do the same except I have no single friends.
/r/RedPillWomen19/02/17 12:28 AM
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Really good post! Love the examples!
/r/RedPillWomen18/02/17 06:18 PM
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FWIW, what we are all almost 100% sure he's doing is something I personally would consider a deal breaker. It's obvious, since you have already told him you don't like it, that he isn't going to stop. You can't change him. Can and are you willing to live with it? Answering that question will tell you what you're supposed to do next.
/r/RedPillWomen17/02/17 03:51 AM
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As someone who works in nursing, which is 90% women, I totally agree with you. But as for school, I think I would have done better if there hasn't been boys around. I was boy crazy.
/r/RedPillWomen16/02/17 10:26 PM
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I have trouble swallowing this, but he seems to be in earnest when he tells me this. Because you know deep down, it's bull shit.
/r/RedPillWomen16/02/17 02:53 PM
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holding the fact that you're good at something over someone's head... wanting to do everything yourself because you feel that nobody else can get things done. These are not being a captain or good leader, these are being a control freak and jerk.
/r/RedPillWomen16/02/17 02:44 PM
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Agree
/r/RedPillWomen16/02/17 04:26 AM
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I agree. If Ana came here looking for advice, I'm pretty sure we would all tell her to next him!
/r/RedPillWomen15/02/17 11:07 PM
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Same!
/r/RedPillWomen15/02/17 11:05 PM
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His actions don't sound alpha, he sounds like a controlling jerk with some women issues. A man will show you he's a leader by being a leader, not by demanding you follow him.
/r/RedPillWomen15/02/17 03:23 PM
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Ladies who gave advice in this post, you gave solid advice and a lot of truth. Good job! ❤️❤️ So proud of this community right now!
/r/RedPillWomen13/02/17 04:59 PM
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lol that's my husband.
/r/RedPillWomen13/02/17 04:52 PM
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😂 it's a very good post.
/r/RedPillWomen13/02/17 04:52 PM
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Female empowerment starts at home, not on the streets shouting about the right to wear a miniskirt. Truth! Career =\= Empowered woman Double truth!
/r/RedPillWomen13/02/17 04:45 PM
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Don't allow yourself to go on cruise control now! I made that mistake once. Maintaining is key!
/r/RedPillWomen13/02/17 04:43 PM
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TRP is amoral. How you choose to use it makes it im/moral
/r/RedPillWomen13/02/17 04:42 PM
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NEXT
/r/RedPillWomen13/02/17 04:40 PM
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That's what happened with Mr. Dunham.
/r/RedPillWomen13/02/17 04:40 PM
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I think what you plan to say is good. You're bringing him your problem.
/r/RedPillWomen12/02/17 02:33 PM
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There is nothing wrong with you wanting a little clarification on the future of your relationship before you uproot to another country. I would talk to him about it.
/r/RedPillWomen12/02/17 02:31 PM
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Lol it happens.
/r/RedPillWomen12/02/17 04:14 AM
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Thank you
/r/RedPillWomen12/02/17 04:14 AM
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Harsh truths being downvoted....
/r/RedPillWomen11/02/17 08:45 PM
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Your relationship sounds like a standard BP relationship. If you are both happy with it then fine. Some people are truly fine with it, but not as many as there are who pretend to be fine with it. I never asked my husband if he wanted to lead, I just began submitting. I suspect he would have thought I was nuts if I said, "hey babe want to captain the ship that is our family? I'll let you." If you want to be BP then it's your life, your decision. It's just that often people who do aren't happy or …
/r/RedPillWomen11/02/17 08:44 PM
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the " final baby". This is totally thing! My husband's sister is the baby and she's 16 and she's babies by everyone.
/r/RedPillWomen11/02/17 04:52 AM
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I also have apologized in the middle of rants or being bitchy. One time I was just snapping at him and he said, "are you mad at me? You seem really upset," and I yelled, "I am upset! But I don't know why! I'm sorry!" 😂 and then it made us both laugh. Hormones are real and ridiculous.
/r/RedPillWomen11/02/17 01:38 AM
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I found your remark funny, if that helps :-)
/r/RedPillWomen11/02/17 01:36 AM
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Well I was and still am, but to a lesser extent a practicing minimalist so neutrals were an easy minimal wardrobe. But I've added light pink and lavender to the rotation as well as pastel blue.
/r/RedPillWomen11/02/17 01:12 AM
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Ghost write That's cool! What genre or what kind of books?
/r/RedPillWomen11/02/17 01:09 AM
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I noticed that too
/r/RedPillWomen11/02/17 01:08 AM
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not to be a kiss-ass Haha! You're too funny!
/r/RedPillWomen11/02/17 01:08 AM
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Its okay to have comfy days! Maybe he just feels like he can't relax because you don't? Also a lot of guys say they don't like make up but they really prefer natural, light make up. Could that be it?
/r/RedPillWomen10/02/17 07:22 PM
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I think she is just worried you're going to take her attention and get brother away. Maybe you could take her out with you guys, make it your idea, maybe even one-to-one time with her?
/r/RedPillWomen10/02/17 07:17 PM
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I went through this. It got better after the 4th month but in the mean time I just stfu when I was moody. I legit was stewing one night because I thought he was breathing too loud through his nose. 😂I also just got really good at apologizing even right in the middle of me blowing up and cutting it out as soon as I realized it. 'Rainbow baby'? Did you have a miscarriage previously? If so, I'm so sorry and congrats on your new baby! Motherhood is wonderful.
/r/RedPillWomen10/02/17 07:15 PM
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We aren't here to try and change men, and you shouldn't try to change anybody. You either love and accept someone or you don't. That's why you vet before entering a relationship.
/r/RedPillWomen10/02/17 07:10 PM
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Came by to drop this
/r/RedPillWomen10/02/17 07:09 PM
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Dating is the time you vet a man for a relationship. Your vetting already haves you wanting to change him. Next him and find someone with a little more alphaness. This!
/r/RedPillWomen10/02/17 07:07 PM
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I know and I know it is. Just makes me sad. :-( I voted for Trump, I'm glad he's doing the hard work because I couldn't.
/r/RedPillWomen10/02/17 07:04 PM
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Its on my "to watch" list. Thank you for the link!
/r/RedPillWomen10/02/17 07:02 PM
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I'm glad it rang true to you. Thank you!
/r/RedPillWomen10/02/17 07:01 PM
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Thank you!
/r/RedPillWomen10/02/17 07:01 PM
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A good point. Didn't think about it like that.
/r/RedPillWomen10/02/17 07:00 PM
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no man is rightfully a leader in every situation Very true! We all have strengths and weaknesses. Reality and what I read in TRP are often quite different worlds. I can agree
/r/RedPillWomen10/02/17 06:58 PM
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old fashioned family man Yes! This is definitely Mr. Dunham
/r/RedPillWomen10/02/17 06:54 PM
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Maybe you could help that poor woman that was just deported back to Mexico from Arizona. :-( Did you hear about that?
/r/RedPillWomen10/02/17 06:53 PM
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But I'm old fashioned. We used to just be called men. Love it! Thanks for your thoughtful response. Is true there is like one thousand different ways to look at alpha/beta and define them.
/r/RedPillWomen10/02/17 06:50 PM
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That sounds like a difficult balance to strike! Good for you!
/r/RedPillWomen10/02/17 01:44 PM
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I love my job! Cultivating relationships with my residents has always been my favorite part.
/r/RedPillWomen10/02/17 01:43 PM
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I thank you!
/r/RedPillWomen09/02/17 08:55 PM
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My husband prefers I wear bright colors compared to my extremely neutral palette of clothes. But he has never asked me to do it, he has just expressed that he prefers it. I suppose it did make me wonder if he felt I was attractive, but that's just the hamster. Of course he does! Why would he have married me otherwise? I have branched out in my color choices and if he says he likes a certain color shirt or dress I'll buy it because he vocalized his opinion and his opinion greatly matters to me.
/r/RedPillWomen09/02/17 08:23 PM
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I love parks and recreation but the feminist slant drives me nuts sometimes. I died laughing at this part.
/r/RedPillWomen08/02/17 10:45 PM
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I think to a degree, each woman needs to work on nagging. I found a lot of things I needed to work on when I was reading Surrendered Wife and Fascinating Womanhood . Make a note whenever you think of something.
/r/RedPillWomen08/02/17 04:06 PM
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Oh I totally mistook your intent! I'm so sorry!
/r/RedPillWomen07/02/17 06:38 PM
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I thought it was odd to bring it up with a female friends but then I had the same thought as you. I don't really know what to make of it.
/r/RedPillWomen07/02/17 03:19 PM
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Whatever your reason, I think it's a good decision.
/r/RedPillWomen07/02/17 03:17 PM
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How heartbreaking! Instead of feeling like you have to mother, what if you look at it as being the fun aunt or just an older friend?
/r/RedPillWomen07/02/17 03:13 PM
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Most of my BP thinking sounded ridiculous once it was pointed out to me.
/r/RedPillWomen07/02/17 03:07 PM
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I have to laugh because men and women think so completely differently! It's interesting and frustrating how we approach the same situation two totally different ways.
/r/RedPillWomen07/02/17 03:06 PM
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I am not inferior to my husband. I defer to his leadership. It's a choice. I'm not less intelligent than he is or stupid or easily manipulated and that's the reason why. I chose to. Saying I'm inferior implies that I'm not as good as he is. We are different but the relationship doesn't work without both of us, this equal. alpha female/beta male relationships can work out You've never seen a BP relationship?
/r/RedPillWomen07/02/17 02:52 PM
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Ohhh ok! That makes more sense! I suppose all you can do is suggest he talk to his doctor, and never do or say anything to suggest that you see him as less of a man because of it. Maybe do some research on foods or bad habits that could exacerbate the situation, or tips on how to be intimate while working around the problem. That's what I would do.
/r/RedPillWomen06/02/17 10:31 PM
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I'm not really sure how much you can do or what is appropriate for you to do if you aren't in a romantic relationship with this person. I mean, whats a friendly way to support a friend's erectile dysfunction? This really seems like a problem you handle with your doctor and your wife.
/r/RedPillWomen06/02/17 05:48 PM
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I'm not a doctor so I'm not going to speculate on what obese pregnant women should do. You should talk to your doctor or your midwife. But losing weight and calorie restriction while growing another human being sounds dangerous to me. Making healthy choices about eating is what keeps you from gaining an inordinate amount of weight. Eating salads and fruit and protein is better for you than big Macs pregnant or not. Talk to your doctor or midwife
/r/RedPillWomen06/02/17 05:44 PM
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Probably not even if you do buy a ticket, lol. My dad preached a sermon many years ago and phrased the question to our congregation, "which team does God pick when both sides pray to win the super bowl?"
/r/RedPillWomen06/02/17 04:20 PM
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Very true. I'm not sure why the idea of soul mates is pushed on people in the church but it definitely is, especially when they're trying to get us to promise to stay virgins. It doesn't jive with the whole, God gave us free will which is in the Bible.
/r/RedPillWomen06/02/17 04:18 PM
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Echoing what Silver spoon said, the internet is not the place for this question. You should not be trying to control your weight while pregnant. That is dangerous for your child. You make the healthiest choices you can, eat when you're hungry, stop when you're full and clean up the mess afterwards. I'm in the process of reclaiming my body postpartum. But don't do it while pregnant! That is so dangerous for your child. Being a mother is making scarifices and right now the sacrifice is you feeling…
/r/RedPillWomen06/02/17 04:10 PM
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My husband said the main reason he looked past his ex-wife's indiscretions and "unpleasantness" was for the sake of his two boys.
/r/RedPillWomen06/02/17 04:05 PM
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There are many men out there I could get along with and live with and be just as productive with other than my husband. I know that. And vice versa for him. I just happened to snag him first. I do not believe in soul mates.
/r/RedPillWomen05/02/17 06:40 PM
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Fantastic! I love the way you broke everything down into super-readable blocks and it's very easy to understand. I believe this is the problem in 90% of marriages. it won't help him nor will it change his perspective. Yelling at him or pointing out how wrong his perspective is will only alienate him further. This will likely cause him to withdraw and no one wins. You mean shaming a man isn't good for our intimacy or his self esteem??!
/r/RedPillWomen05/02/17 06:38 PM
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I just read that article in The Atlantic the other day! So good.
/r/RedPillWomen05/02/17 06:32 PM
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Welcome!
/r/RedPillWomen05/02/17 01:28 AM
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I do too. I learned a lot about myself, living and dying by my own decisions, so to speak. Plus I always look back fondly on the memories of my 600 sq ft studio I shared with my Boston Terrier in the city. <3
/r/RedPillWomen04/02/17 06:13 PM
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Totally agree
/r/RedPillWomen04/02/17 06:08 PM
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Trade the word "inferior" for submissive or deferrent and I'll agree with you.
/r/RedPillWomen04/02/17 06:07 PM
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In your case and mine Willow, we did not go the way of money and status however I would maintain that women often do this, although there are always exceptions to the rule (like us).
/r/RedPillWomen04/02/17 06:06 PM
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My dad was a very strong and dominant figure growing up, definitely the leader. That said, there were things he did that I didn't agree with and he gave me advice when I was a young adult on stuff that I felt was wrong. (IE; he advised me at 20 to buy a house with no money down because there are great incentives for first time home buyers). I moved out when I was 19 so I had been on my own for a while before I got married so it wasn't a transition that was hard. If anything I had to break my ind…
/r/RedPillWomen03/02/17 06:20 PM
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😂😂
/r/RedPillWomen03/02/17 06:14 PM
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Whhhhheewwwwww. Do you have any wine? I friggin love you
/r/RedPillWomen03/02/17 05:13 AM
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Is this the hill you want to die on? He is not going to change his habits. Can you live with that, yes or no?
/r/RedPillWomen03/02/17 05:12 AM
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She has lately been talking about wanting God in her life which is right up my alley, I've been encouraging that.
/r/RedPillWomen03/02/17 05:07 AM
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I was interested and talking to this guy that was 13 years older than me (24, 37) but I didn't think my dad would like me dating someone that much older than me and I didn't want to cause problems so I never seriously pursued him.
/r/RedPillWomen02/02/17 09:16 PM
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This is very true. You probably just don't remember the super tiny house you guys were crammed into when you were a toddler or your parents always presented a united front so you didn't realize they hit a rough patch.
/r/RedPillWomen02/02/17 09:11 PM
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It seems that you want the benefits of a high salary but you are not prepared or even open to doing the work to get there. You don't need to go to grad school or go further into debt. You need to take one of the entry level jobs and work really hard at it for 2 years. Then jump ship to the next job where you will ask for at least a 20% raise. Then you keep repeating this process. Watch your expenses and save a little of every paycheck. Yes
/r/RedPillWomen02/02/17 05:21 PM
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I understand what you mean. My husband and I groan about the college lie we bought into too. I dropped out before I got too heavily in debt, he finished. You can still stay home, but life won't be an instagram album or a mom blog. Living on one salary looks like driving 15 year old cars, the very occasional dinner out, and finding good deals secondhand. My family chooses to live debt free so we don't use credit cards or take out loans for anything. Are things perfect? No. Do I want things? Of co…
/r/RedPillWomen02/02/17 05:19 PM
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😂😂😂
/r/RedPillWomen02/02/17 01:30 PM
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haha! its not a perfect analogy but a good one
/r/RedPillWomen02/02/17 12:40 AM
2

SMV-auditing! I love it!
/r/RedPillWomen02/02/17 12:15 AM
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I too find it entertaining. I know he's happy right where he is so I'm not threatened. However I did tell one girl to keep her hands to herself because she kept touching his arm. My husband is a museum: you may look but you may not touch!
/r/RedPillWomen01/02/17 11:58 PM
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60 percent of Americans are overweight/obese, and having RPW as a tool in the toolkit helps so much with landing and keeping a good man. Well said.
/r/RedPillWomen01/02/17 11:54 PM
1

So, one project that was super easy was I collected glass pickle jars (Clausen to be exact) and when I had 4, I scrubbed the labels off, spray painted the caps a pale pink and hot glued antique drawer knobs to the top. The look like trendy little apothecary jars in my bathroom, the hold Qtips, band aids, etc.
/r/RedPillWomen01/02/17 11:52 PM
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I thank you!
/r/RedPillWomen01/02/17 11:49 PM
1

What is Manic Pixie? I've never heard this term before.
/r/RedPillWomen01/02/17 11:39 PM
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She claims is her anxiety that makes her talk. I am sure she has a few diagnoses but I'm also sure she's exaggerating on some as well. It's as if she prides herself on being a wreck.
/r/RedPillWomen01/02/17 11:38 PM
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This girl is a hot mess. Mr.Dunham has referred to her less kindly as "trailer trash". And the guy she accidentally cheated on him with? His cousin.
/r/RedPillWomen01/02/17 11:37 PM
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As long as drinking isn't your hobby it's OK. The girls (and guys) that binge every night and use it as an excuse to do stupid things, that's the kind of drinking you want to avoid.
/r/RedPillWomen01/02/17 11:36 PM
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Let me give you a quick glance at the other side of this. There is a girl I work with and she tells everyone her life story. Nothing is off limits. One night as we were pouring coffee for our seniors in the dining room, she was telling me about her brother's girlfriend's abortion. Not joking. She has told everyone about how she was molested as a child, her sexual history, her drug use in her past, she keeps us up to date on her open case with social services because they supervise her and he rhu…
/r/RedPillWomen01/02/17 06:00 PM
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The culture paints people who are a mess as the most interesting, but they aren't feeling too good at all. So true
/r/RedPillWomen01/02/17 05:56 PM
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I get a lot of ideas from etsy and pintrest. I can look at a project now and see how they did it, but pintrest will have step by step instructions. I just did this yesterday.
/r/RedPillWomen01/02/17 05:41 PM
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My MIL has been a great teacher, lol. I'm capitalizing on her 30+ years of homemaking.
/r/RedPillWomen01/02/17 05:39 PM
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He doesn't expect you to be as together as he is, and I bet you he wasn't this put together when he was your age. Has he ever told you your questions and indecisiveness annoy him or are you hamstering?
/r/RedPillWomen31/01/17 11:47 PM
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Endless patience it comes from my job, I believe. But I am one of the most patient people. Baking I make everything from scratch and everything I bake is always a big hit Crafts I love to do crafts and I'm good at them. Sewing, arts and crafts, card making etc. Organization I am my office's unofficial bookkeeper. I keep track of all the paperwork and organize and file it all. I love doing that kind of work. Handwriting everyone always comments I. How neat and perfect it is.
/r/RedPillWomen31/01/17 11:44 PM
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I was hoping my post would allay fears and cut the posts about the wall but it hasn't....
/r/RedPillWomen31/01/17 10:32 PM
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precision of getting the polish just right My type A personality loves this! I started painting my nails for DH, he prefers them painted. Getting my eyebrows waxed, boiling, steeping, creating the perfect cup of tea, mixing essential oil blends in my diffuser, daily walks with the baby, applying make up. I don't always want to do the last one but it feels good once it's done.
/r/RedPillWomen31/01/17 05:12 PM
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My hair I cut all my hair off and donated it. Then I saw a cute pic on pintrest I wanted to try so I cut it even shorter. It looked really cute but of course now I'm growing it out and I feel so shaggy and frumpy! 😫 Baby belly a work in progress! I look about 4 months pregnant still. Something I'm actively working on but it is nonetheless still there. I wear a body shaper under my clothes to help me during the day while I'm adjusting. Too loud I'm super loud, naturally, plus at my job (with the …
/r/RedPillWomen31/01/17 05:09 PM
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Fantastic sister piece! I knew you'd do it justice!
/r/RedPillWomen31/01/17 05:03 PM
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Don't let this one aspect of your life isolate you. It's so tempting to want to fix your friends and family one your eyes have been opened to the RP (I truly believe RP could have saved my parents' marriage) but don't. This is just like choosing not to express any other opinion you may have. You can always just not express your opinion. That's allowed today, despite what it seems on the internet. You also don't have to listen to your friends opinions, or anyone else's for that matter. Just refus…
/r/RedPillWomen30/01/17 04:32 PM
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My sister gets beeped at all the time, I do not. The difference? She always wears clothes that are tight and form fitting/revealing, I do not. Don't use this as a yard stick for being attractive. That's the wrong kind of attention. Those men are not men you'd want in your dating pool.
/r/RedPillWomen30/01/17 04:23 PM
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tough to be mindful of it constantly, but it gets easier after a while Practice makes progress!
/r/RedPillWomen30/01/17 04:21 PM
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When I worked in retail my boss told me I would get too involved in a project while on the floor and I'd get this ultra serious look on my face because I was focused - but it made me unapproachable to customers. She told me to try and repeat to myself "look pleasant, look friendly, look welcoming," to remind my face to relax. It helped a lot and I still do it today.
/r/RedPillWomen30/01/17 04:20 PM
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This is awesome! It's definitely got me thinking about my goals now!
/r/RedPillWomen30/01/17 04:13 PM
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Yeah, it was just him and I for a long time but he has adjusted to my husband and his two sons. He's afraid of the baby at the moment!
/r/RedPillWomen29/01/17 03:16 AM
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Thank you!
/r/RedPillWomen29/01/17 03:15 AM
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He can have a fetish and still be completely happy with you! I wouldn't worry about it. If you're keeping your house in order, I'm sure he's very into you. Men are just visual creatures and its fun to fantasize. Edit: "crush" to "fetish". Thanks auto correct.
/r/RedPillWomen28/01/17 03:45 PM
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At 28, it's a component getting carded! 😂
/r/RedPillWomen28/01/17 03:43 PM
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Divorce is all too common, but how do you leave your children?
/r/RedPillWomen28/01/17 03:42 PM
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Thank you for your insight!
/r/RedPillWomen28/01/17 03:42 PM
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😂
/r/RedPillWomen28/01/17 03:41 PM
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Exactly! It's good to be aware of it, but don't obsess over it. I've seen too much obsessing over it lately.
/r/RedPillWomen28/01/17 03:41 PM
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There's an old saying about how trust is like a crystal vase, it takes a second to break, a lifetime to repair. It you're going to be in a relationship you have to learn to fight fair because all the things you say when you're mad will take around his heart forever.
/r/RedPillWomen28/01/17 03:39 PM
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😂 I've had him for 9 years! Lol. He was born at a puppy mill, I got him when he was 4 months old.
/r/RedPillWomen28/01/17 03:36 PM
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My dog is the same! Nothing bad ever had happened, he was born in a puppy mill but I got him when he was 4 months, he's 9 years now.
/r/RedPillWomen28/01/17 03:35 PM
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Sunscreen! A hat!
/r/RedPillWomen28/01/17 05:52 AM
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I see, thank you for clearing that up. I agree, a harsh truth isn't any less true!
/r/RedPillWomen28/01/17 03:19 AM
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I know it definitely doesn't affect as many people as there are just obese people.
/r/RedPillWomen28/01/17 02:21 AM
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I do see your point.
/r/RedPillWomen28/01/17 02:20 AM
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I've heard hypothyroidism can lead to weight gain but beyond that idk. But I do know there are glandular disorders that make some obese.
/r/RedPillWomen28/01/17 02:00 AM
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I disagree about the teenager thing. My sister in law is 16 and awkward. Most teens I know are.
/r/RedPillWomen28/01/17 01:57 AM
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😂
/r/RedPillWomen28/01/17 01:56 AM
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I agree, it's definitely something seemingly everyone has forgotten nowadays. It's tempting to want to gossip but it's unnecessary. I've never had a problem with my husband that was solved by me talking about him to someone else, but things were always resolved talking to one another. If I need advice or counsel, I talk to his mom. But I never badmouth him. Needing advice and talking shit!T are two different things.
/r/RedPillWomen28/01/17 12:25 AM
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People have thyroid or glandular disorders that cause them to be obese.
/r/RedPillWomen27/01/17 10:54 PM
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I knew you were coming.... lol
/r/RedPillWomen27/01/17 10:53 PM
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oh ok got ya
/r/RedPillWomen27/01/17 10:50 PM
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I'd call you purple pill and as long as you aren't here to debate every last issue (which it appears you aren't) I'm glad you're here. You add a lot to the conversation that I typically haven't thought of.
/r/RedPillWomen27/01/17 10:50 PM
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lol I actually said to one, "If you're hitting the wall at 22, wtf am I at 28?!"
/r/RedPillWomen27/01/17 10:47 PM
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"she's unhaaaaaapppy." A friend of mine I've known since high school has been married for the last six years. They have three kids, ages 5,3, and just turned 1 about two weeks ago. His wife, 24, just decided she's too young to be a wife and mother and is leaving him and the kids. I got in touch with him ASAP as I have experience with the family laws and courts, and made sure he had all his ducks in a row. But yeah. What a basic bitch.
/r/RedPillWomen27/01/17 10:46 PM
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See that's what I'm trying to avoid have happen. You have all the opportunity in the world right now! You can learn skills, keep your n count low, get in the beauty habits, master a feminine look for yourself and work on your character and personality to attract a high quality man. Don't even think about it!
/r/RedPillWomen27/01/17 10:44 PM
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Thank you for this story! This is an example of being realistic with your expectations.
/r/RedPillWomen27/01/17 09:56 PM
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Oh dear, my dog is skittish and anxiety ridden, I hope you're wrong! 😂 But he's also a rescue.
/r/RedPillWomen27/01/17 09:36 PM
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Basing "objective facts" on your life experiences is the opposite of being objective.
/r/RedPillWomen27/01/17 09:34 PM
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Women's RP strategies are different from mens. Your "candid" advice is actually just really bad advice.
/r/RedPillWomen27/01/17 09:33 PM
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Because it's a poor example to set for your children.
/r/RedPillWomen27/01/17 09:32 PM
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/u/deadsandsushi uses RPW but if I'm correct doesn't subscribe to the whole ideology. But we like her here.
/r/RedPillWomen27/01/17 09:31 PM
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And this is why I largely have a problem with you giving advice.
/r/RedPillWomen27/01/17 09:29 PM
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I love it and I didn't get to pick it either, it's from the RM post.
/r/RedPillWomen27/01/17 09:28 PM
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I'm about to hit you 😂
/r/RedPillWomen27/01/17 09:21 PM
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I thank you! I'll add the tldr when I get home, I'm on mobile right now.
/r/RedPillWomen27/01/17 09:20 PM
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Well said.
/r/RedPillWomen27/01/17 09:19 PM
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There needs to be some degree of chemistry and compatibility there, and unless you have silly dealbreakers then finding someone is completely possible. This is spot on. The rest of it is, well, not the norm. I know you are not in an ideal situation with your boyfriend but that doesn't mean the majority of the world has had you experiences. I think at times your words of caution are definitely worth hearing for many women. I also know that I have a very ideal relationship but I don't assume every…
/r/RedPillWomen27/01/17 05:48 PM
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I have mentally half written a post about this, but my precious infant son won't take his ****ing nap so I haven't written it down yet. :-D
/r/RedPillWomen27/01/17 05:18 PM
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I think a lot of women get the alpha-good beta-bad thing from TRP where alpha is glorified. However, our sexual strategies are different, so of course our taken on alpha/beta will be too!
/r/RedPillWomen27/01/17 05:08 PM
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sometimes, a "beta" actually has a lot/some of alpha traits and more often than not, it is enough to have a great and happy relationship. Also known as a "greater beta"! If my darling baby ever takes a nap today, I plan on writing a post about the different kinds of men, including the greater betas!
/r/RedPillWomen27/01/17 05:07 PM
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You've already stated you want an older man, so why are you looking in your generation?
/r/RedPillWomen27/01/17 05:06 PM
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Its so true! If you want or need to work, by all means! It doesn't mean you're any less RPW.
/r/RedPillWomen27/01/17 05:04 PM
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Which I loved.
/r/RedPillWomen27/01/17 03:52 PM
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If we're looking back through history, it is riddled with affairs. That doesn't exactly bode for a strong argument for a settled marriage.
/r/RedPillWomen27/01/17 03:51 PM
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Well said.
/r/RedPillWomen27/01/17 03:13 AM
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I'm so glad I was helpful. Best of luck!
/r/RedPillWomen26/01/17 11:44 PM
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I said we shouldn't use other humans and act as if we care about them because we are uncomfortable being alone. I get it, life isn't fair when you're not attractive or wealthy or smart. No one has it all. But to just take a guy because he isn't a drug addict and you don't mind having sex with him is just wrong and a disservice to both of you. God forbid you bring children into an arrangement like that!
/r/RedPillWomen26/01/17 09:34 PM
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Take any man that is at least remotely educated and sensible that you don't mind having sex with. Unless the guy knows he's what you settled for and you'll never be passionate about him and he's OK with it, it is mean and cruel to waste someone else's time. Don't just grab a man for the sake of having one, and don't waste someone else's time. I can't believe this comment was upvoted.
/r/RedPillWomen26/01/17 08:01 PM
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Good luck, I know families are hard. <3
/r/RedPillWomen26/01/17 07:56 PM
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Chances are he'll be moved again won't he? Or he can put it for a transfer? I can imagine you feel unfulfilled at home, it's just you all day, how much housework could there possibly be?! I recommend a part time job doing something. So what if it isn't media related? It's better than what you're doing now, isn't it? It's OK to need more than sweeping and scrubbing in your life. As I said, I work too, 21 hours a week at an assisted living facility. I love it, I get a chance to miss my baby and hu…
/r/RedPillWomen26/01/17 07:52 PM
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that he followed his job to the military. It's not more important than yours His dreams definitely don't outweigh yours but I'm sure there was a discussion before you guys got married or moved about it. If you weren't on board, the time to say something was then. If you thought it would be OK and now you find out it isn't, it's time to have another conversation. But whether you did or didn't, you allowed the decision to be made for you.
/r/RedPillWomen26/01/17 06:48 PM
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Either you hide how you feel and do it because you want him to be happy or you tell him how you feel and let him try to fix it. You don't get to do it both ways. You don't get to hide it from him and then let resentment build because you're unhappy.
/r/RedPillWomen26/01/17 06:46 PM
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Being red pill does not equal housewife. Gosh I'm so sick of saying that! By all means, go get a job! I work! If you can't find one in media, do something else. It also sounds like you're keeping score in your relationship and follow what your husband wants without throwing in your two cents. That's being a door mat, not a first mate.
/r/RedPillWomen26/01/17 06:44 PM
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Good luck!
/r/RedPillWomen25/01/17 06:29 PM
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No I don't disagree, it definitely happens.
/r/RedPillWomen25/01/17 06:27 PM
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Mark my words, this will be the death of your marriage if you don't. My grandmother constantly interfered in my parents marriage and my father always allowed it. This was a large part of the reason for their divorce after 30 years of marriage and three kids.
/r/RedPillWomen25/01/17 06:27 PM
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Mmm, idk if I buy it. Undergraduate implies a certain age range that is not indicative of men as a whole.
/r/RedPillWomen25/01/17 06:25 PM
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OK thanks for clarifying!
/r/RedPillWomen25/01/17 06:22 PM
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I agree birth control should be funded. For those that want to have abortion clinics defunded, then we have to find birth control. You can't have it both ways and you certainly can't force your religious views on other people.
/r/RedPillWomen24/01/17 10:46 PM
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I love this! Especially the part about the balance! So true!
/r/RedPillWomen24/01/17 02:49 AM
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There are a few members who have vocalized they won't be having children. They certainly aren't a requirement to be RPW :-)
/r/RedPillWomen23/01/17 04:46 PM
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Looking forward to the FR!
/r/RedPillWomen23/01/17 04:45 PM
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Feel free to ask questions! Even if you need help setting goals for yourself.
/r/RedPillWomen23/01/17 04:41 PM
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Is controlling a relationship to ensure that it is prosperous, and sustainable in the long run bad? If by controlling you mean making decisions based solely on your perspective and desires, then yes it is bad. But I hardly see how that would ensure success in a relationship. What would you consider the difference between your SO protecting you, being territorial, versus being needy and insecure? I expect him to protect me from harassment, violence, and other various circumstances where I couldn'…
/r/RedPillWomen23/01/17 04:38 PM
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Yes, you can go LDR or one of you can move with the other. Are these good compromises...? No. I'm sure you two have already had talks. What's left to say? No. You two aren't married and don't have children. Truly, it sounds like he is planning his exit from the relationship. He's going across the country, all of a sudden he'll claim LDR is too hard, you'll break up. I could be wrong, but that's what it sounds like.
/r/RedPillWomen23/01/17 04:25 PM
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You need to put your foot down and let your sisters know you will not take them being rude to your fiance anymore. As soon as a remark is made, you nip it in the bud. Make it clear to your family and your husband that the two of you are a package deal and an insult to him is an insult to you.
/r/RedPillWomen23/01/17 04:20 PM
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We speak in generalities because we are trying to reach a large audience. Obviously we all know there are exceptions.
/r/RedPillWomen23/01/17 04:14 PM
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50%? Can you cite your sources on that figure?
/r/RedPillWomen23/01/17 04:13 PM
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Advice of the decade from the husband of the decade.
/r/RedPillWomen22/01/17 04:23 AM
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If something bothers you actually, don't do it. There are two things I will never participate in and my husband is aware (one of them is threesomes). That being said, anything else isn't slutty if you're doing it with your partner! Giving your SO a blow job (or whatever) isn't slutty. Now if you were say, giving any pain old guy a blow job, that is slutty. I think your view on sex acts is what's getting in your way.
/r/RedPillWomen22/01/17 04:20 AM
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Lol well it can be, how do we know?
/r/RedPillWomen22/01/17 04:10 AM
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Oh, well that's actually helpful. I was waiting for a punchline.
/r/RedPillWomen20/01/17 04:27 AM
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I don't know, what?
/r/RedPillWomen20/01/17 04:08 AM
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I believe /u/loneliness-inc answered that question.
/r/RedPillWomen20/01/17 01:45 AM
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Welcome. Please read through the sidebar material to answer your question.
/r/RedPillWomen19/01/17 08:41 PM
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I really liked The Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands, I think it does a good job of showing common pitfalls and attitudes of wives today without using such trigger words as "submissive".
/r/RedPillWomen19/01/17 06:04 PM
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What qualities about him make you say he's an alpha?
/r/RedPillWomen19/01/17 02:05 PM
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Lol but- but the health benefits!
/r/RedPillWomen19/01/17 05:09 AM
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Its hard to say. I suppose you never know if you can handle a friendship like that until you are. My closest guy friend is now my husband so I guess that's one vote for they can't be just friends 😂 But I also would not feel comfortable with my husband having a close female friend now for the same reason and I wouldn't pursue a friendship with a male.
/r/RedPillWomen19/01/17 05:07 AM
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I used to think that if I had an opinion on something, I had a right to announce it and people should listen. It isn't true. There are plenty of people who never give their opinions on things. It's not that they don't have opinions, they just don't broadcast them. The only thing that helps me is to just stfu. There's no magic trick to doing it, just practice!
/r/RedPillWomen18/01/17 03:41 PM
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A fantastic explanation why it isn't a good idea to have close guy friends!
/r/RedPillWomen18/01/17 02:41 AM
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RPW's official stance is no sex without commitment. I don't think your inexperience is a bad thing. I feel like you're over analyzing things mostly. If your bf is happy, I just don't understand the problem. You fell like you don't measure up, but that's a problem you're creating in your own mind. If your BF thought that, he wouldn't be with you.
/r/RedPillWomen18/01/17 02:37 AM
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he's always liked a more natural look and still thinks i'm beautiful with no makeup. I took this as an excuse to not look 'good' and make an effort around him. I fell into this trap too!
/r/RedPillWomen17/01/17 10:26 PM
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It's not beneficial for you psychologically is what I'm telling you. If you haven't realized thaf casual sex does something negative to your self esteem, you will at some point. How about STD's and the risk of unplanned pregnancy? Herpes is unaffected by condoms and everyone knows someone who used birth control 100% correctly and got pregnant anyway. I also will tell you that "sex as she pleases" isn't as much fun as the feminist agenda promises you it will be. But by all means, go out and learn…
/r/RedPillWomen17/01/17 06:44 PM
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You don't see how sleeping around and having a reputation for being a slut could be detrimental to a woman?
/r/RedPillWomen17/01/17 05:52 PM
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I love fall and winter fashions more than summer's lol. But summer is my favorite season because I love to camp, kayak, hike, etc.
/r/RedPillWomen17/01/17 05:50 PM
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My husband suffers from SAD. Every single January, it's inevitable.... I load him up with vitamin D supplements which help some. He refuses to take cod liver oil though!
/r/RedPillWomen17/01/17 05:49 PM
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Hypergamy as a base instinct is a positive thing for a woman and her children. It has become negative because women leave perfectly good men nowadays and screw them financially and family-wise during a divorce. I would even venture to say there is little use for it in general in today's society.
/r/RedPillWomen17/01/17 05:48 PM
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True
/r/RedPillWomen17/01/17 05:45 PM
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My husband's ex is in our life constantly as the two share children. I have gone out of my way to never cause drama between them or between her and I. I am always civil and was typically always pleasant. For reason that don't pertain to your questions, I no longer speak to her, but I feel my experience is relevant just the same. I would be nice and pleasant and yourself around this girl. Go out of your way to set the expectation that you will be friendly and nice early on in the evening. I would…
/r/RedPillWomen17/01/17 05:44 PM
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It seems as though the family had it covered. Just be there for emotional support. His parents are very fortunate - I've worked hospice and sometimes there is no one there when a patient passes. I'd say cooking and cleaning are good things, maybe if you notice some supplies are getting low, grab them. Try to anticipate needs and fill them.
/r/RedPillWomen17/01/17 01:58 PM
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Make sure to give us an update about your beautiful new home!
/r/RedPillWomen17/01/17 07:31 AM
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the real issue The real issue is just your crazy hormones. Don't use it as an excuse, use it as a reminder for when you're about to (or in the middle of) freaking out.
/r/RedPillWomen17/01/17 02:54 AM
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😂
/r/RedPillWomen17/01/17 02:48 AM
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Omg I'm so sorry that happened.
/r/RedPillWomen17/01/17 02:45 AM
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Well, my reasoning is she's 23, still young enough to move on. If she's not that invested in the relationship she doesn't have to stick around. How about 3 months?
/r/RedPillWomen16/01/17 11:25 PM
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WOW what a snap decision to make of someone who, if I read correctly, didn't ask!
/r/RedPillWomen16/01/17 11:21 PM
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The comments here are being super negative for a new comer who just wanted to share a small success story. 🙁 Welcome to RPW. I'm so glad what we say and think here rang true to you and you think they will improve your life. They sure will if you work hard and give things a chance. I would say that all men handle pregnancy and babies differently, perhaps he feels weird having sex with the baby in the bed. Maybe moving the little tyke to a cosleeper while you guys fool around would be an option yo…
/r/RedPillWomen16/01/17 11:19 PM
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A term for when a man gets sick and, in his partner's mind, begins acting like a "child" or "drama queen" because he is sick. The rationalization is typically "I still go to work and take care of the kids and refuse to allow myself me time when I'm sick so you should have to martyr yourself too.'
/r/RedPillWomen16/01/17 11:14 PM
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you feel a certain level of obligation to your family that is unhealthy. I second this
/r/RedPillWomen16/01/17 11:09 PM
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Then the situation is where you want to be, it would seem. Perhaps you may still find a man despite it. But RP is about recognizing the truth no matter how harsh. Please realize you are at this point in life because you choose to be.
/r/RedPillWomen16/01/17 11:07 PM
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Ha! What a coincidence! This is merely a pen name, not my actual name.
/r/RedPillWomen16/01/17 11:05 PM
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you're holding yourself back or are afraid of looking dumb. Spot on! This is so true about the RPW journey. You must be a pretty insightful guy to pick this up. Good job!
/r/RedPillWomen16/01/17 09:11 PM
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Hello! The day after Christmas last year my husband and I found out that we were pregnant. I write this as my 5 month old son sleeps next to me in bed. One of the things I never expected was how much pregnancy would change our sex life. I always just figured women used pregnancy as an excuse. WRONG!! The number one symptom I had my first trimester was exhaustion. And moodiness! I mostly just stfu for three months so I didn't lose my shit on everyone. I legit got pissed one night because my husba…
/r/RedPillWomen16/01/17 08:55 PM
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The over exaggerated-ness of the theory.
/r/RedPillWomen16/01/17 06:52 PM
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Lol yes thank you, it was quite an accomplishment in my old age.
/r/RedPillWomen16/01/17 06:50 PM
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Yes, troll alert went off in my head.
/r/RedPillWomen16/01/17 06:50 PM
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Very true. It's a strong held belief here that traditional families and roles are the only accepted format here, but it isn't.
/r/RedPillWomen16/01/17 06:48 PM
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If you live in the US there are service available for the disabled you can try to arrange for your dad and sibling. my father and sibling are antisocial, and have communicated to me that I am expected to look after them. This is not your problem. You have a life, they need to respect that. You being there for them and supporting them does not mean you should be martyring yourself. It's not up to them the kind of help they get, they can't make you do it. You're allowing them to treat you this way…
/r/RedPillWomen16/01/17 06:46 PM
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RPW is not a set of rules to follow, like women shall only wear dresses and shall not work in STEM. It doesn't appear you really understand what this praxeology is all about.
/r/RedPillWomen15/01/17 10:49 PM
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If by approaching you mean you have seven more years before it needs to be a thought in your mind, then yes you're approaching the wall.....
/r/RedPillWomen15/01/17 10:47 PM
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Same!
/r/RedPillWomen15/01/17 10:44 PM
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You are letting your emotions get in the way of a decision. Let your husband shop around a bit. You're ready to make a snap decision and settle because you have anxiety. Trust him and he will find you a great new home.
/r/RedPillWomen15/01/17 10:42 PM
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I second this! My dad gave me this book years ago and I'm re-reading it right now.
/r/RedPillWomen15/01/17 03:44 AM
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I'd wait, maybe he's getting cold feet and will get over it. Give him six months of this 3 days a week thing, maybe he'll snap out of it. If not, I'd begin reevaluating the relationship. This is what I would do if I was in your position.
/r/RedPillWomen15/01/17 03:37 AM
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I'm excited for it!
/r/RedPillWomen14/01/17 03:46 AM
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My in-laws are doing dance lessons! They have so much fun. DH wants to do it too, he's always wanted to. I signed up for a 6 week challenge at my gym. Basically it's 6 weeks and you commit to the classes, all krav maga and they take before and after pictures of you and give you a meal plan. I'm looking to drop 16 pounds and get my tone back. I WILL NOT BE A FAT MOM!!
/r/RedPillWomen13/01/17 03:45 PM
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I think it was an intended troll.
/r/RedPillWomen12/01/17 10:50 PM
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Yes! Be feminine now! You can practice and get mistakes and problems worked out while still working on losing the weight. We are all a work in progress!
/r/RedPillWomen12/01/17 05:18 AM
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I would truthfully just ignore it. The person who said it was probably just trying to get a rise out of either one of you. Don't concern yourself with the the opinions of morons.
/r/RedPillWomen12/01/17 05:16 AM
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Good point. Especially if it's herpes, the gift that keeps on giving.
/r/RedPillWomen12/01/17 05:13 AM
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That's been debated here. My opinion is, if your captain is delegating something to you, take it. However first, you have to relinquish your control over it.
/r/RedPillWomen12/01/17 02:19 AM
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I totally agree about the false lashes and contouring. You can recognize me without my make up on, lol. I wear cover up, foundation, blush, mascara, eyebrow filler and eyeliner. That's it. Not even sure shadow on a normal day. It's minimal but I enhance the good parts (nice eyebrows, blue eyes) and cover up my under eye bags and even out my skin tone. The goal I think, should be to present your best version, while still being able to recognize yourself in and out of make up.
/r/RedPillWomen11/01/17 10:13 PM
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Let him manage it. See if he does a better job. My husband didn't want the extra job and always forgot to set aside for savings and actually gave it back to me. But the point is that I did relinquish control.
/r/RedPillWomen11/01/17 10:08 PM
1

I just saw your flair update! Wedding planning! So fun! <3
/r/RedPillWomen11/01/17 05:24 PM
1

This! So many women think being ambitious is being an agressive ball buster. They are two different things. You can be ambitious and feminine. You can even be a ball buster at the office if you want but go home and be a wife to your husband.
/r/RedPillWomen11/01/17 05:22 PM
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I 100% agree. I was surprised at the comments I was reading here. Very well said! Glad I wasn't the only one.
/r/RedPillWomen11/01/17 05:17 PM
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Yeah I see what you mean, the whole guy hot vs girl hot thing. Same thing with make up, girls think one thing guys think another.
/r/RedPillWomen11/01/17 05:10 PM
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So on the one hand, it would put me off if some guy generalized that all women are liars and can't be trusted but on the other, despite the fact that you said you've never done it before, you ghosted him. Thus proving you can't be trusted! They being said, there is a whole lot for drama here for a relationship that isn't long and isn't exclusive. I say next.
/r/RedPillWomen11/01/17 05:07 PM
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Thank you for pointing that out. I suppose when I say I gauge myself I am doing it based on what men prefer. Thanks for making me think about it.
/r/RedPillWomen10/01/17 09:44 PM
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Traditional life has taken a beating - you just can't beat instant gratification! It depresses me sometimes too. I think we will swing back around as a society at some point. Just hang on...!
/r/RedPillWomen10/01/17 08:26 PM
1

glaring defects (STDs, disabilities) I never even thought about STDs but can we actually factor that in to a HB scale? Typically you can't see an STD.
/r/RedPillWomen10/01/17 08:24 PM
1

I'm curious about your plate theory. Can you elaborate?
/r/RedPillWomen10/01/17 08:12 PM
1

This is currently in my Crock pot. We'll see how it tastes tonight!
/r/RedPillWomen10/01/17 08:03 PM
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i'm clearly not over him or the break up If he was looking to win you back, he would have reached out to you. He's on TINDER. He's more likely than not trying to see if you'll sleep with him. Continue with NC.
/r/RedPillWomen10/01/17 07:58 PM
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they're comparing you to the 20somethings who are a decade younger. This. My MIL is 55 and had 5 kids. She looks fantastic for 55, she looks good for 45. But if she tried to compete with college girls or 20 year olds... Suddenly not so great. The sexual marketplace encompasses all ages, not just your age.
/r/RedPillWomen10/01/17 07:52 PM
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I think we objectively all know what a 9 or 10 in real life looks like. (I have a sister who is a 9.) Now while I know my sister is prettier than I am, I can objectively place myself at a definite 7, probably an 8, but definitely a 7. If you're honest with yourself, you know which of your friends or girls you know that you're prettier than.
/r/RedPillWomen10/01/17 07:49 PM
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In the beginning of my RP journey I had this problem too. To keep myself from taking things out on my husband I would stfu if I couldn't trust myself to be nice and if I caught myself in the middle of it I would immediately stop and apologize and tell him why I was mad. If I didn't know why I was being bitch, I would say that. When I was pregnant at the beginning of last year I was being moody and caught myself being nasty about the route he chose to drive to the next town over. I stopped right …
/r/RedPillWomen10/01/17 07:41 PM
2

There are men who are naturally Red Pill or who possess the traits without knowing it.
/r/RedPillWomen10/01/17 07:36 PM
1

Sales are his best friend and his worst enemy, depends on the day.
/r/RedPillWomen10/01/17 07:33 PM
1

It sounds like you need to get rid of this guy. Never mind your attraction to him. He's being disrespectful and you're staying. You are allowing yourself to be treated this way.
/r/RedPillWomen10/01/17 07:32 PM
1

Very true
/r/RedPillWomen10/01/17 07:31 PM
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It depends on the guy. If you get a guy who wants a sahw then your career will be a problem. But if you meet a guy who is ambivalent, that's better. It will vary from guy to guy but it doesn't necessarily bring you down in RMV.
/r/RedPillWomen10/01/17 02:50 AM
2

This is kind of vague. What happened exactly?
/r/RedPillWomen10/01/17 02:40 AM
3

Rockette just about covered it all, I would suggest Fascinating Womanhood for feminine energy and vulnerability, Mrs. Andelin covers that really well in the book.
/r/RedPillWomen09/01/17 11:39 PM
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There's always going to be things that will buy you about every guy. The question is can you live with him how he is, if he never changes? (Because he wont.)
/r/RedPillWomen09/01/17 11:36 PM
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If your problems are as you bad as you say, maybe this is the best guy you can get. If you rate yourself a 4 SMV, you aren't going to be able to get a 7 or 8.
/r/RedPillWomen08/01/17 09:10 PM
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Plenty of people have cheated because they feel they aren't getting the attention they need/want. I believe that's probably the main reason most people do. If you know something is childish, just stop. It's called discipline.
/r/RedPillWomen08/01/17 09:00 PM
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Great job and it's definitely true. Christmas is a slow period for my husband's sales job believe it or not, and he had been stressed by it. This was great, I'm also looking forward to the men's answers to your questions.
/r/RedPillWomen07/01/17 07:21 PM
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You're a plate. We don't encourage women to pursue this type of relationship nor do we encourage women to try and turn this into a LTR. You gave away sex without commitment. There are all sorts of red flags in this relationship! You should be bettering yourself for yourself not for some guy. How do you know he isn't sleeping with other girls? What if you get an STI from him??
/r/RedPillWomen06/01/17 06:23 PM
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I know exactly what you mean. It's really the perfect saying!
/r/RedPillWomen06/01/17 05:58 AM
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This stuff works! I was so surprised when these tips and rules started working for me. It's almost too simple!
/r/RedPillWomen06/01/17 03:01 AM
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She's my rolemodel. My MIL is mine <3
/r/RedPillWomen05/01/17 05:35 PM
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Mr. Dunham and I have very similar tastes and he is one of those men who doesn't notice fine details, so as long as the whole house isn't floral, he doesn't mind. Blue is my favorite color so I unconsciously have it in every room, I just noticed because of your question! We enjoy a minimalist asthetic however not to an extent where the home loses the "home" vibe and instead feels like a museum. I collect Willow Tree figurines, DH bought me my first one a few years ago, I got one for Mother's Day…
/r/RedPillWomen05/01/17 12:42 PM
2

Darling husband, dear husband
/r/RedPillWomen05/01/17 08:34 AM
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Well said! OP, this man is not captain material.
/r/RedPillWomen05/01/17 08:33 AM
1

A common mistake! Try again, you'll find the balance.
/r/RedPillWomen05/01/17 08:26 AM
2

I went through the same thing. I never even stoppee to consider worst case scenario. Once I did it was like, "what was I so afraid of?"
/r/RedPillWomen05/01/17 08:24 AM
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Thank you!
/r/RedPillWomen05/01/17 08:22 AM
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How about her being happy with the way she looks? She didn't say anything about other men.
/r/RedPillWomen05/01/17 02:15 AM
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I agree with you. I don't think anyone should be sleeping around, it's one of the problems that has contributed to our societal decay over the last 50 years. Women can vet sexual promiscuity out in a relationship, same as men though. If a woman doesn't approve of a man's other count she can next him.
/r/RedPillWomen04/01/17 06:54 PM
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If your boyfriend is more concerned with his immediate comfort rather than your health, that doesn't say very much about him as a person.
/r/RedPillWomen04/01/17 06:45 PM
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You don't need RPW my dear, you need to get yourself and your kids somewhere safe!
/r/RedPillWomen03/01/17 10:48 PM
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I've had this happen to me before, yes. But it's typically immediately afterwards and does not carry on for days.
/r/RedPillWomen03/01/17 04:36 PM
3

The single mother stigma is aimed at a particular subset of single mothers. The ones who divorce-rape their ex husbands and use the kids to wield emotional warfare. The users of society, the ones who believe things should be handed to them. You're a widow, that's different. You were married and lived through a devastating life event. (I'm so sorry you and your children had to go through that, by the way.) There's still a good chance you can find a man and have a relationship with him. You have w…
/r/RedPillWomen03/01/17 04:34 PM
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Just came here to say I love your username, made me laugh. And no, I'm not a ginger, before you ask! 😂
/r/RedPillWomen03/01/17 04:31 PM
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Lol, I know what you mean, it's easier said than done. But with practice it gets easier to do. What's the worst that could happen? Are you going to die? Are you going to be homeless? Probably not. So trust him and watch how he surprises you.
/r/RedPillWomen03/01/17 01:06 PM
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I have found that jumping in and trusting blindly even when you're scared of the outcome helps to get rid of the fear. Sometimes the only way to get rid of a fear is to face it.
/r/RedPillWomen02/01/17 11:50 PM
3

Thank you so much! That made my day.
/r/RedPillWomen02/01/17 09:17 PM
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I'm sorry to see you go. I will miss reading the thoughtful mini novels you write on the comments seconds of the threads. 💕
/r/RedPillWomen02/01/17 04:35 PM
5

Well said.
/r/RedPillWomen02/01/17 02:42 PM
2

I'm going to go back through my resolutions with this post handy! Happy New Year!
/r/RedPillWomen01/01/17 10:50 PM
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finish losing the baby weight tone up no soda!! That's all I can think of at the moment
/r/RedPillWomen01/01/17 04:35 PM
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You may be doing too much! You're doing things thinking you're helping and he's feeling "She's doing it all so there's nothing for me to do because she doesn't trust me". So one thing I would do is begin asking him before you do things. "I was going to make steak tips tonight for dinner, does that sound OK?" "Do you want me to pay the cell phone bill or wait?" Another thing could be the way you're presenting things when you do them. Are you being controlling or demanding? When he tries to do som…
/r/RedPillWomen01/01/17 04:31 PM
2

You're making a general statement about all religious people when the experience you're referring to are hardly the norm. Far from being right.
/r/RedPillWomen01/01/17 11:01 AM
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Fantastic! This was your first big step! Remind yourself of it the next time you doubt him!
/r/RedPillWomen31/12/16 03:04 PM
2

I'm forming an idea for a post regarding this, it's a problem for sure.
/r/RedPillWomen31/12/16 02:54 PM
1

That's a largely unhelpful comment to make and offensive to at least a few members in this community.
/r/RedPillWomen31/12/16 02:54 PM
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This sub tells it like it is, from a woman's perspective. And I was genuinely curious about your child.
/r/RedPillWomen31/12/16 02:53 PM
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I'm wondering about the kid thing too. Why doesn't she have physical custody of her son... And she wants more kids?
/r/RedPillWomen30/12/16 10:49 PM
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Not surprised that a religious male waiting for sex has a mental disorder. Are you implying that people with religious convictions tend to have mental illnesses?
/r/RedPillWomen30/12/16 10:42 PM
1

Oh ok, that makes more sense. If he likes me, I don't get why he does not directly ask me out. Personally, if he didn't ask me out, I wouldn't pursue him. I need someone to be bold enough to make a move. He may not be confident enough or perhaps you aren't sending the right signals?
/r/RedPillWomen30/12/16 10:40 PM
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You did not have a captain, you had a man taking up space in your life and giving you little in return. The reasons why are not really relevant. He has made the decision easy for you now - leave. He's only sling to work on things now because he's worried he may lose you. It's too late for that. Do yourself a favor and leave.
/r/RedPillWomen30/12/16 07:03 PM
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It's being thrown around here all of a sudden as if it's synonymous with "SO". You're right, they're not the same thing. I totally agree.
/r/RedPillWomen30/12/16 07:02 PM
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What if you just stopped spending time there?
/r/RedPillWomen30/12/16 01:40 PM
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I have a 4 month old son and two step sons ages 6 and 10 that alternate staying with us and their mother, just for background information. I was completely against having children and my husband knew and accepted that when we married. Then my sister had a son and my whole world changed. I love my little nephew more than I thought possible. He made me feel like I could be a mother. Have you been able to maintain a positive marriage dynamic with or without kids? It takes work! You have to be more …
/r/RedPillWomen29/12/16 11:55 PM
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Yes, that clarifies, thank you. Too often I see that misconception touted here by people who misunderstand what we do here and I try to cut it off right away! But I really feel like those books, particularly Dr. Laura's may be helpful to you.
/r/RedPillWomen29/12/16 11:40 PM
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My mind is filled with these ideals of highly educated women who work full-time or win the bread, or at least get a say in every decision. Just because you stay at home doesn't make you uneducated or mean you can't make decisions. This is nonsense. You have every right to voice your opinion in matters and decisions and have them considered. When it's different from what your husband wants, the decision defaults to him, if you two can't compromise. This is to ensure that everyone is on the same p…
/r/RedPillWomen29/12/16 06:54 PM
1

If he's going to study abroad soon, is it a good idea to consider a relationship? Do you want to be in a LDR?
/r/RedPillWomen29/12/16 04:04 AM
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I just use a separate razor than the one for my legs. I haven't tried any other methods. Waxing may be a good alternative.
/r/RedPillWomen29/12/16 03:59 AM
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Don't argue with idiots; they'll drag you down to their level and beat you with their experience. Try leaving the room abruptly. When she starts in on you say, "excuse me for a moment," and just leave. Keep doing it every time. She'll either get the hint of she won't but either way you don't have to deal with it. If she follows you or this method doesn't work, just don't respond. Smile and say, "OK". Then it's over. You know you didn't move the tea pot lid. Who cares what she thinks?
/r/RedPillWomen29/12/16 03:57 AM
1

Oh, well thank you very much!
/r/RedPillWomen27/12/16 12:17 PM
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I agree. It's one of those things that's hard at first but gets easier with practice.
/r/RedPillWomen26/12/16 10:38 PM
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I agree with this. People who are passive aggressive usually aren't comfortable with people who are direct so I bet she'll cut it out. You don't have to be rude, definitely be aware of your facial expressions and tone of voice, but be firm and look her in the eyes.
/r/RedPillWomen26/12/16 10:35 PM
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I see what you're saying. I'm fond of the maxim, "you can't fill another's cup of yours is empty". Taking time for yourself will in turn make you better able to focus efforts on him. You won't feel stressed about dropping other things.
/r/RedPillWomen26/12/16 10:32 PM
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I don't think there's an easier way to do this other than to make yourself until it becomes second nature again.
/r/RedPillWomen26/12/16 03:06 PM
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I love this description!
/r/RedPillWomen25/12/16 08:35 PM
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Its a fine line to walk. Complicated things, these social interactions!
/r/RedPillWomen25/12/16 12:04 PM
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Lol yeah you're right I am. I'm glad he doesn't take any shit but he's not a dick about it which is refreshing. It's hard to resize that you still do shit like this. I've been RPW for almost 3 years and it's like... You think I'd be past this by now. It's definitely infrequent but I'm battling against subconscious will. It's aggravating.
/r/RedPillWomen25/12/16 03:46 AM
1

Thanks so much
/r/RedPillWomen25/12/16 03:44 AM
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You're looking at this from the wrong lens. How do you know you're right? Maybe you're wrong and there is a God and you're going to hell. My point is everyone thinks their own opinion is correct. You can speak your mind and so can they but don't be arrogant about it thinking you're helping them rexamine their lives.
/r/RedPillWomen25/12/16 02:19 AM
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Well options a and b would have been a fail but all I did feel was embarrassed when he made fun of me. Embarrassed because I should know better than to do things like that. But it's a good learning experience lol.
/r/RedPillWomen25/12/16 02:16 AM
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The mods will come by at some point and get rid of his nasty comments. To everyone on the sub, don't forget, if you see a post or comment breaking the rules, report them! This makes it easier for the mods to find them.
/r/RedPillWomen24/12/16 10:52 PM
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This post is a helpful example for women who need to know what sort of shit tests they may pull with their men. That's what this community is for. I have a wonderful marriage. Is it lonely up there on your pedestal?
/r/RedPillWomen24/12/16 10:51 PM
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He's (my husband) really great at calling me on my BS, lol. It gets easier with time. I wonder if it will ever fully go away. It's honestly been a while since such a thing has happened.
/r/RedPillWomen24/12/16 10:51 PM
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It's awful how it creeps up on you but it does get better the more you work at it. I thought it was a perfect example so I'm almost glad it happened.
/r/RedPillWomen24/12/16 10:50 PM
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I've gone on a couple of dates It doesn't seem like you know him well enough to say one way or the other definitively! You're young, spend some time getting know what you want. Maybe this guy just doesn't lay all his cards out on the table right away. Maybe he doesn't know if he wants to invest the time with you yet.
/r/RedPillWomen24/12/16 06:24 PM
1

We love our local library! We go every Saturday. So cool that you do that.
/r/RedPillWomen24/12/16 06:22 PM
1

Well put
/r/RedPillWomen24/12/16 05:15 PM
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I agree with you but I don't want to alienate ppl based on their political views, no matter how misguided (kidding!)
/r/RedPillWomen24/12/16 05:08 PM
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You can lead a horticulture... but you can't make her think. Dead 😂😂
/r/RedPillWomen24/12/16 09:15 AM
1

Thank you
/r/RedPillWomen23/12/16 02:31 AM
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Definitely another generalization that has been overblown. Good one!
/r/RedPillWomen22/12/16 10:33 PM
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I can accept that I can let him lead to keep the peace, to make him feel better about himself, because I don't really need to be in charge and because having him call the shots is actually easier on me. If there are two capable adults in our family, what he decides is just as good as what I'd come up with, sometimes better, that's fine. This is all you need then. Maybe your man wouldn't like you as a submissive and quiet lady. My husband likes that I can "take care of things," as he puts it. His…
/r/RedPillWomen22/12/16 10:31 PM
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do you agree with every single user and every single post on every reddit sub you are a part of? Yeah...that's what I thought. Exactly! Most RPW info has helped me improve my relationship immensely, 100% agree. If there's some part that you don't care for, don't use it. Women get offended by AWALT - so don't think about it. Men can think AWALT if they want and you can't stop them. That doesn't mean the other stuff isn't spot on and helpful.
/r/RedPillWomen22/12/16 08:37 PM
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I see what you're saying. I wish I could edit the title. Thanks for your feedback!
/r/RedPillWomen22/12/16 08:34 PM
2

My husband definitely shows his love (and judges himself on being a good husband and father) by working and providing. He hates to have a bad sales week, it gets him super down because he feels like he isn't providing for us. It was a huge bone of contention in his first marriage that he worked so often and sometimes so late and it was a problem early in our relationship. However we were talking one day and he had mentioned something about providing and working and I realized that's how he shows…
/r/RedPillWomen22/12/16 06:17 PM
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My husband definitely shows his love (and judges himself on being a good husband and father) by working and providing. He hates to have a bad sales week, it gets him super down because he feels like he isn't providing for us. It was a huge bone of contention in his first marriage that he worked so often and sometimes so late and it was a problem early in our relationship. However we were talking one day and he had mentioned something about providing and working and I realized that's how he shows…
/r/RedPillWomen22/12/16 06:17 PM
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My grandma is like this too! Such a good parallel to draw, I love it!
/r/RedPillWomen22/12/16 04:13 PM
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I'm so glad
/r/RedPillWomen22/12/16 04:07 PM
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Do you know I actually thought this exact thing as I wrote it?! I agree with you, I think I'll edit it.
/r/RedPillWomen22/12/16 04:06 PM
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I just was too chicken to ask and figured I would learn on my own. Haha! I suppose it's a common problem, perhaps even a reason why some people don't stick around, which is sad.
/r/RedPillWomen22/12/16 02:27 PM
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Thank you
/r/RedPillWomen22/12/16 02:25 PM
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Ah, OK. I didn't realize you were new. I actually just wrote a post addressing this particular misconception and others. It is called "Misconceptions", give it a read and if you have any other questions, post on the comments and we can talk on that thread.
/r/RedPillWomen22/12/16 02:25 PM
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I agree with everything you said. /u/catzandtatz could he possibly have reacted that way because of the way you broached the subject? Perhaps he took the manner in which you said it offensively?
/r/RedPillWomen22/12/16 05:13 AM
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Thank you, I'm relieved to hear that! I was a bit heated composing it and was worried it would come off as more of a rant than helpful.
/r/RedPillWomen22/12/16 05:09 AM
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