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| 26 | Give them nothing. I'm off OLD. | FIELD REPORT | MyGilleyCat | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/01/20 01:31 AM |
| 8 | Telling a guy to cool ot | SEEKING ADVICE | MyGilleyCat | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/12/19 10:16 PM |
| 6 | Did I go to far? | SEEKING ADVICE | MyGilleyCat | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/11/19 10:54 PM |
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| 16 | Please stay woke about the current Male mental health debate- manipulative low value men WILL use this to their advantageI wish I could give you a million up votes. Every. Word. True. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/02/20 04:32 AM |
| 10 | Life hack: dump your controlling LVM and find you a HVM who shares your sense of humor and interests! Your entire relationship will thrive.Him : Try not to cheat on me. Her: Don't worry I wont, it's over. *Get lit with friends* | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/02/20 04:27 AM |
| 44 | Woman seriously wonders if she’s wrong for pointing out that her husband is useless for not knowing where his own kids go to schoolTHANK-YOU!! I always say this. Men get what they ask for when they ask for it. If he's not seeing the kid its because he doesn't want to. They always point to the one man that genuinely got screwed over, and magically 'forget' that they don't see their kid because they didn't show up/ didn't ask. Always easier to blame the mother then to say I'm a shitty dad. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/02/20 04:23 AM |
| 1 | Only a Pickmeisha would endanger and sabotage the life of her child. Don't be her, break the cycle.So I guess when you don't get agreement from other women you call them triggered and push them aside? I tell you how I feel, not the other way around. Side stepped everything I brought up too. Yikes. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/02/20 04:07 AM |
| 1 | Only a Pickmeisha would endanger and sabotage the life of her child. Don't be her, break the cycle.You seem to think you are giving me insight. You are not. I'm aware of how FDS operates, and I have never said that anyone be less then honest. But there is a difference between understanding the circumstances of a womans life that has led her to being in a very abusive situation, having all of the feeling and judgements about how that has impacted your life- which of course is always allowed and should always be made space for ... and victim blaming. I was responding directly to a comment that … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/02/20 03:20 AM |
| 1 | Only a Pickmeisha would endanger and sabotage the life of her child. Don't be her, break the cycle.I have. I read the thread. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/02/20 09:22 PM |
| 1 | Only a Pickmeisha would endanger and sabotage the life of her child. Don't be her, break the cycle.if they do aren't in an abuse situation that is so far gone that they can't get out of. What does this even mean?? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/02/20 08:34 PM |
| 0 | Only a Pickmeisha would endanger and sabotage the life of her child. Don't be her, break the cycle.Like I understand you should always do within your best means to pick your baby daddy's and secure the future. But there are huge dynamics of of classism and woman hating in this thread. I worked for years in a domestic violence shelter and the reasons a woman stays with or returns to her abuser are numerous and complicated. Trauma bonding is real. Having to pick between feeding your kids and being beat or starving is real. Women not having access to or information about birth control and aborti… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/02/20 07:51 PM |
| 3 | I really hope we as a women collective soon retire the phrases “I’ll take your man” ,” but your man wants me” altogether because it’s dusty. They’re not the prize at all.Yes! 1mil upvotes! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/02/20 07:37 PM |
| 74 | MALE LURKERS WILL IGNORE THIS POST: Woman forced to relive nightmare of her 12 hour abduction and gang rape by complete strangers at 14 yrs uploaded to PornHub as “teen crying and getting destroyed'. PORNHUB WAS REPEATEDLY NOTIFIED THAT THE GIRL WAS UNDERAGE AND DID NOT CONSENT BUT DID NOT REMOVE.Everything about this breaks my heart and yet I am completely unsurprised. Protect girls from the womb. That is when they are ready to pounce on us. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/02/20 06:40 PM |
| 3 | A Herpes PSAThank you for clarifying. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/02/20 06:34 PM |
| 6 | A Herpes PSAWait, to be clear, so that we do not go off the rails here I'm going to ask for clarification. You said: If "lowering your standards" means making an educated choice when a man discloses herpes to you, or even lies to you, instead of making a blanket statement "STD's are bad!" I need this to be clarified. Because the way I'm reading it makes it sound like if a man discloses his status to me and I reject him with the reason being "STDs are bad" that is not an informed disicion. I have a real prob… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/02/20 06:22 PM |
| 3 | A Herpes PSAThank you! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/02/20 06:16 PM |
| 9 | A Herpes PSAYes. Outrage. It is outrageous to say it's common and no big deal, I decide what is and is not a big deal when it comes to my body. Its outrageous to say it's expensive to be tested for so why bother instead of fighting for better health care for everyone but especially for women. Like? Once again, you should not be treated with any disrespect for having it. You are a whole person still, regardless of your status and you should always be treated that way. Good information that is backed by scien… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/02/20 06:15 PM |
| 3 | A Herpes PSAYes I read the same information. My point is saying most people have it so its no big deal is not good enough to not do everything in my power to protect myself. Nothing is a guarantee but I have the tools and knowledge I will use all of them to the fullest extent available to me. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/02/20 06:03 PM |
| 2 | A Herpes PSAYou say that as if this is a new realization to me. It is not. Also doing many of these things while they do absolutely have to do with not contracting STIs like herpes they also have other reason as well. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/02/20 06:00 PM |
| 4 | A Herpes PSAI would rather have the best that we have to offer and push for better then throw up my hands and say most people have it oh well who cares. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/02/20 05:58 PM |
| 6 | A Herpes PSAHonestly I disagree. The whole feel of this post seems like it's trying to get people to lower their standards. The first thing I said was it's good to be informed. I have said more then once you should not be stigmatized, or treated poorly and I have also said it's important to have access to free health care and I'm sorry if you dont. And almost every comment back at me has been a questioning of my boundaries. Not ok. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/02/20 05:56 PM |
| 2 | A Herpes PSAI'm sorry you have had to deal with people treating you badly. It's never ok to treat people as less then because of something like this. But I also dont have to change my boundaries for any reason. Period. I will continue to date and enforce my boundaries as I see fit and if my boundaries are not something some else is willing to live up to or respect then I am fine letting them go. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/02/20 05:50 PM |
| 11 | A Herpes PSAYes. 1) I do not share glasses, lipsticks, products etc. 2) yes I will and have asked. Why does this seem to be such a divisive thing? What part of my body my choice is suddenly missing from this sub? I read the same content as you and as I have said if you have it you should not be shamed. But it also does not mean you get access to me. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/02/20 05:39 PM |
| 2 | A Herpes PSAI also think it probably depends on your country. I am sorry to hear you cannot access free and easy medical care. Regardless that is not ok. But it's also not a good enough reason to say it's too expensive. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/02/20 05:12 PM |
| 10 | A Herpes PSAI didnt say you should be shamed. I said my body my choice. Just because you should not be shamed does not mean you get access to my body. It does not invalidate my no. I will blacklist anyone I want for any reason I want. Period. I also dont think its hysterical to want to protect myself from sti's and demand anyone who wants access to my body be checked thoroughly. Because again, my body, my choice. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/02/20 05:10 PM |
| 14 | A Herpes PSASimple. If you cant get tested your not worth the risk. Period. Like I get what you are saying in so much as spreading information and I think being informed is always good. But your attitude of its common and expensive to test and not big deal is very alarming to me. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/02/20 03:38 PM |
| 29 | A Herpes PSAGood information is good, but if I don't want herpes and I choose to weed people out because of it regardless of how they got it I get to do that. My body my choice still applies as always. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/02/20 03:29 PM |
| 4 | Stalker?Tell your employer ASAP, tell your friends and neighbours. If he left you with his full name try googling him or finding a LinkedIn profile image so you can distribute it to all the former mentioned people. Do you have a manager who could email him and under the guise of professional networking to try and get a photo if the above method doesnt work? I am honestly concerned for your safety, this is creepy as fuck behaviour. Dont be silent about this. Honestly go to your local Starbucks or coffee … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/02/20 07:31 PM |
| 34 | A Theory Regarding Male EmpathyI agree that men are capable of empathy. Male children display it the same was female children do. I think just as women are socialized to a certain set of behaviours so are men, and one of those behaviors (or set of behaviours) is a belief that men are superior to women, that men are more honest then women, that men work harder then women do. Men display love and affection and empathy for other men all the time (albeit in socially acceptable ways) by looking out for men, defending men, believe … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/02/20 07:24 PM |
| 4 | LVM and man-child Justin Bieber slams car door on his own wife.You can never deserve disrespect. Regardless of her part in this( if she has one whatever it may be) she cant earn disrespect from her husband. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/01/20 02:43 AM |
| 10 | Weighing choosing my LTR with a LVM, or giving a chance with a very young possible HVMNeither of them seem like great choices tbh. Dump the first guy. I dont know what your waiting for, just because your the first he hasnt bailed on in over three months and the sex is good. Like this is your life. He sounds like trash, also I dont believe that you'll never find a guy as good in bed, they can be hard to find but they are oht there, so are vibrators. Again this is literally your life, your going to put up with a lame LVM because he can make you cum? Nope. Second dude seems sweet, b… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/01/20 05:32 PM |
| 10 | Why do guys idolize Dan Bilzerian? He’s disgusting.I thought until the very end you were talking about Jay's dad from Big Mouth. Very confused. Thank god I've gone this long not know who he is...... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/01/20 05:28 PM |
| 10 | How could I have been so blind??They're not stupid, they know exactly what they're doing. They're being shitbags on purpose, selfishly, consciously. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/01/20 01:38 AM |
| 14 | Unpopular opinionI dont know the type. Is this a troll post? 200 messages sounds like love bombing and manipulative. Your friend sounds like a pickmesha if shes going and staying with this kinda man, finds validation by the attention of men. Even it's a crazy insane level like 200 texts. Yikes. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/01/20 10:36 PM |
| 19 | The Perfect Clap Back for Pushy & Nosey People.Honestly your aunt is who I aspire to be. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/01/20 09:24 PM |
| 13 | The Perfect Clap Back for Pushy & Nosey People.Men used to provide money and security in past Honestly when? Not security, they were abusive and remain so. As far as money the only women who couldn't/didnt work were upper middle class white women, the rest of women were working and pitching into the household finances. They had more legal control over us, but I disagree to say they ever provided security or money. They just made it so we couldn't control our own money, which is not the same as them providing it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/01/20 09:19 PM |
| 1 | Dear men: You’re NOT a necessity (just in case you were confused).Right but that's not what is happening in this post. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/01/20 09:15 PM |
| 5 | Dear men: You’re NOT a necessity (just in case you were confused).Why is female scratched out? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/01/20 07:19 PM |
| 7 | What's the best way to find out if a man is for financial abortion?You have to pay attention to everything about the man. A HVM will handle his shit, a LVM wont and will be a nightmare. Good communication skills before sex, talking about everything from sexual health to possible repercussions about sex (pregnancy) and see how he handles that discussion. But also how does he handle his life in general. Is he responsible in all areas of his life, does he take responsibility for his actions, is he financially independent, does he blame other people for his mistake… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/01/20 07:18 PM |
| 8 | Want to have high standards but I also miss sexOof I'm glad you left. Get a vibrator. Honestly you cant really replace intimate sex and cuddling as you know, so if you do not want a fwb, which is totally fine then the truth is while you take time, learn about yourself, and build yourself up you will probably continue to miss those things. Its sucks, but it's ok. If you get a good vibrator it will obviously help with the sex drive a bit, but it will also hopefully help to ensure you are not making decisions because you are horny. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/01/20 07:11 PM |
| 9 | Want to have high standards but I also miss sexI'd be the same amount of wary, its doesnt seems to me like a great alternative to OP issue, however I'm not OP. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/01/20 07:08 PM |
| 3 | [Discussion] What are some indicators that reveal they person you're interacting with buy into the red pill?No I understand all that, like I get the thinking behind it. It's just that because it makes me feel uncomfortable personally when someone has done this to me it just seems bizarre. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/01/20 07:05 PM |
| 5 | [Discussion] What are some indicators that reveal they person you're interacting with buy into the red pill?Its always weird when people use my name a lot. I dont understand this. I get what they are trying to do but....people who love me and I have a connection with use my name a regular amount. Your description of your name being used as an object is very interesting and very telling. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/01/20 06:06 PM |
| 2 | Is shoving your girlfriend physical abuse?Its physical abuse if he touches you when you dont want to be touched or touches you and intends to cause harm, causes harm, or trys to control your body. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/01/20 04:31 PM |
| 3 | Trans man didn't disclose.Yeah so then I agree. Building a relationship has to mean trust and if you dont know something like that about someone it means you dont get a choice to love them fully or decide to move on. Not fair. For sure in favour of nexting. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/01/20 05:24 AM |
| 5 | I found this sub in the middle of dating a LVM. Now I realized I should've listen to y'all back then.There is no going back only forward. You got this! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/01/20 01:27 AM |
| -4 | Trans man didn't disclose.I dont think it's ok that this man did not disclose to you at this point. But I do have a couple of questions. I'm in no way trying to blame or shame you. You do not have to justify who you date or have sex with. 1) were there any other signs that something was off? I mean you mentioned that he was closed off, in what way? Did he dodge questions or....?? 2) did you do anything that may make him feel like it wasent safe maybe to come out? If you did then he should've nexted you, but if you didnt … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/01/20 01:25 AM |
| 7 | Am I being gaslighted?So he physically moved away from you and didnt want to touch or talk in that moment. He told you he is depressed (a legit mental illness) however apparently he is seeking helping for it in the form of therapy. Your response to that is to inundate him with questions demanding to know why instead of respecting a boundary and giving him a bit of space. Do I think he handled it well? No, he shouldn't have blamed you for his shitty behaviour but I dont think this is gaslighting either, and I think wh… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/01/20 01:11 AM |
| 21 | Found this load of utter hooey online. This is straight up TRP teachings.Give a man space- every man needs space. Since fucking when??? I've dated so man guys that are so fucking clingy. Break up with them, then they stalk you. Like????? Honestly ladies though, let's listen to this man and every man that agrees with him, give him space. Wide berth. Become astronauts and go to Mars, that's how much space to give these men. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/01/20 05:54 PM |
| 63 | He did something thoughtful for me.Thank you for such a sweet story. It's nice to hear from time that women are happy and being supported! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/01/20 04:30 PM |
| 74 | I really want to ask this man if he has a job because how do you have so much time to tweet about this BULLSHIT!!??!As an aquarius I would like to accept the award for most toxic sign. It took a lot of hard work dammit. Education, gym time, lots of reading, thinking, seeking out other "toxic" women to guide me on my journey. You non- aquarius women I hope you can look up to me and believe that one day you can be at the top of some fuck bois do not fuck with list. Believe in yourself Queens! Greatness is possible! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/01/20 08:10 PM |
| 30 | Made plans with my girlfriends. Thanks FDS.You handled this perfectly! Your life is good enough without then if they arent adding value they are not adding anything. We are not waiting! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/01/20 06:19 PM |
| 9 | Why hasn’t he told me how he feels about me yet? Or asked me to be his girlfriend?Has she been tagged in this sub? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/01/20 06:16 PM |
| 54 | Where Did Women Learn That Having to Fake Orgasms Was Normal??I always fucking hated that part of that movie. It's funny that shes had so many horrible sexual encounters that left her with nothing that she perfected the perfect ego boosting orgasm and can whip it out at will??? No. What a tragic sexual history Sally must've had. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/01/20 04:57 AM |
| 12 | How mean is too mean?I think you were right to say one thing at a time. If your big concern about him is time management you dont want to block off two days on your calendar only to have him fuck it up. You asked him to make more effort and you feel like he is and hes worth it I would five him your dates and agree to dinner. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/01/20 08:30 PM |
| 46 | One Of These people Aged Like A Fine WineShe is a beautiful woman no doubt, I dont mind his look, he looks showered and has clean cloths I dont mind the alternative thing at all. I mean I hope he treats her as well as she says and deserves, that woman is lovely! Not into a man with too much facial hair tbh.... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/01/20 10:41 PM |
| 9 | Guy on dating app didn’t even go for a low effort coffee date, he asked me out for a walk in a nearby park.A picnic in the park could be super fun as a date after you've vetted him. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/01/20 06:33 PM |
| 5 | Will Holding Men Responsible Improve them?If it's safe to do so you can call him out. But many men react violently to humiliation are you proposing we endanger ourselves so he can be a better person? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/01/20 06:10 PM |
| 3 | Will Holding Men Responsible Improve them?No I dont think laws are a deterrent for rape or murder. I'm not convinced there would be more. I'd be interested though to see if you have any studies that back up that claim. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/01/20 06:08 PM |
| 17 | Will Holding Men Responsible Improve them?Why are we spending our time fixing other adults? I don't see it as my job to fix anyone. My time is valuable, I'm looking for a partner not a project. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/01/20 12:00 AM |
| 3 | Will Holding Men Responsible Improve them?I dont think FDS says older generation didn't have a shortage of HVM, that's one commenters opinion. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/01/20 11:57 PM |
| 9 | Will Holding Men Responsible Improve them?I mean if every woman everywhere had the ability and desire to do this then maybe they would change. But in order for us to hold them accountable they have to give a shit about what we think and also see us as full people. Which many of them just dont. Men need to hold men accountable because they care about what each other think. Edit : but yeah dont waste your time on porn sick men. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/01/20 11:51 PM |
| 19 | When Rejecting A Man Do You Ghost Him without explanation or Tell Him Why?It depends. If I believe we are just no suited I'll say that and wish them well. If they are weird or inappropriate and I know I'm safe ( they dont know where I live etc) ill tell them to fuck off. If I feel they might be dangerous I say we are not good together good bye and block and keep and eye out. Bevause I dont want to provoke someone who could do me real harm. Really the only man I'll explain anything to is a HVM I am rejecting and even then it's likely to be short and sweet. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/01/20 11:28 PM |
| 2 | I REALLY like him, so much that I feel myself falling into the trap of acting like a "pick me". How do I play it cool?Yeah hes already decided what he wants. By you saying you want a relationship he'll say what you want to hear to get sex. Challenging him really does nothing. When people tell you who they are and what they want listen. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/01/20 11:17 PM |
| 2 | Tips/resources on femininityI like r/skincareaddiction I'm really into my skin. Also as far as style goes i usually find a celebrity with a similar body type to mine with a style I like and then I hit up the local second hand stores to try and score their looks that I like for cheaper. You dont have to use second hand store ofc but I'm a student with a small clothing budget. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/01/20 05:58 PM |
| 9 | I REALLY like him, so much that I feel myself falling into the trap of acting like a "pick me". How do I play it cool?What did he say to you make make you feel like he wanted fwb? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/01/20 05:32 PM |
| 1 | How do we handle things when we mess up?Then I'm sorry for the shitty timing, I hope your friend is doing better and I think you made the right choice. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/01/20 04:39 AM |
| 23 | NEVER allow a man around you when you are in a weakened state.First of all, I'm so sorry. You seem like you already know this but ...fuck that piece of dog shit you did NOT deserve it. Second I'm glad you went to the hospital both for panic attacks and it sounds like a rape kit. Even if they find no physical evidence linking him YOUR physical body needs to be taken care of. There is no "wrong" way for you to act after an attack like this. You showered, that's legit. Even if it's not good for forensics if you thought it might help you that's good enough. Yo… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/01/20 06:59 PM |
| 9 | How do we handle things when we mess up?I'm sorry you were in such a tight spot. That sucks. But honestly what were you supposed to do? You can't do it all, and you shouldn't have to try. Something had to give and you made a choice. That's what it means in part to be a HVW the chips are down and you dont panic or run away, you make the hard choices. Now I usually believe friends first, especially before a man you've only been dating a short time. This may change for a significant SO of course but in your situation I think I would have… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/01/20 06:45 PM |
| 29 | "Forever GF" has never heard "I love you" from boyfriend who wasted 6 years of her life. He says these words "ruin relationships"Oof I hope that's a troll post. Because of it's not...move on. Only date men who communicate, and when he does communicate, listen! Not hearing I love you for six years....he doesnt love you! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/01/20 06:17 PM |
| 3 | Okay okay so performing oral sex on menI'm sorry that happened to you. I get it, it's big part of the reason I refuse because after I started treating myself better I realized how much of my life I had convinced myself I enjoyed. I find performing oral sex degrading personally and it was survival to say I like it too. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/12/19 05:54 PM |
| 1 | Pack your gym shit right now.<3<3 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/12/19 04:24 AM |
| 1 | Is it ever okay to date a project?You are very vague. "You need to do this...." as in pick up your dirty boxers off the floor and do the dishes? or "You need to do this...." as in make a reservation? or "You need to do this..." talking about boundaries, how to meet your needs as a individual? The first two like no, I'm not your mommy. So even if he never leaves dirty boxers around anymore I think it's repulsive he couldn't use his eyes and take care of himself. I'm not really interested in teaching a man how to properly date m… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/12/19 04:14 AM |
| 9 | Okay okay so performing oral sex on menOnly give if a) he's clean -as in showered and also has had a recent STI check even with a condom!!! b) you are into it and c) he does it first always. That being said I hate oral sex and have refused to perform it since my mid 20's because fuck that, I only have/participate in sex I enjoy. But if you like doing it (for reasons unknown to me), then by all means have the sex you like having. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/12/19 04:02 AM |
| 2 | Im 28, I started dating in my early 20's. Embracing my queendom, it isnt too late?As someone who is a late bloomer to dating and hasn't dated much. How do I get over being 28 and feeling like I've wasted so much time not being the queen that I am Be that Queen now. Your crown isn't dependent on a man or on how many men you've dated. You've set some boundaries before, ended a relationship, nexted some losers and learned from it all. Sounds like you've got this. Now all you have to do is decided what are your boundaries now, not when your on a date or have met a potential man… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/12/19 03:57 AM |
| 28 | please help: why is every guy i've encountered showing me red flags.. are my standards too high?ooof, I don't want to sound condescending, young women are smart and contribute so much, I really believe that. But sis, you're 20, that's still soooo soooo sooo young. You dumped your first love and good for you, and while you're probably looking at it with rose coloured glasses truthfully you probably had good reason to dump him. You're standards are not too high. Any man who can't reach them and tells you your standards are too high is doing you a favour, you can next them that much quicker a… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/12/19 03:48 AM |
| 10 | Guy I'm dating suggests spending the weekend in a different city for our 3rd date... Shady or no?You know whats up. He wants sex, he didn't answer a direct question, he's making you doubt yourself. Anyone can be nice for a couple of hours at a time, I'd next him. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/12/19 03:31 AM |
| 31 | Can LVM act like a HVM around a woman they like?Chris Tucker once said "you're not on a date with the person your on a date with their representative." The difference though is that LVM cant keep it up, eventually you should be able to see the cracks. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/12/19 03:53 PM |
| 1 | Hanging out with LV brothers.I'm sorry that's a tough situation. In my experience with men in my family they only change if they want to. If they are open to it. So i think men can change, but it's internally motivated. I dont think wanting to sleep with a women or not would affect it because its more about how they perceive women as a whole. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/12/19 03:46 PM |
| 9 | OLD Scripts & Tips?I totally understand the distance thing. Until very recently I used to live in what sounds like a similar situation- far away from the city but with several close small towns etc. with not much culture. As far as "owing" him, you don't. First and foremost its important that you internalize this if you haven't yet, because the truth is men think you "owe" them just by existing in this world. Wanting to cut down on your driving time is totally justified tbh. I'd never discourage vetting (but then … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/12/19 03:25 AM |
| 12 | OLD Scripts & Tips?Coffee dates are a waste of time. I dont understand the mind set of if something goes wrong I cant leave sooner. They dont chain you to chairs in restaurants, you are allowed to get up and leave at any point. As for checking his cleanliness on a coffee date same rule applies, if he shows up to a dinner date and hasent showered just leave... Safety first you seem to be doing good there. Are there places nearer to you/ in your area at least that you can travel to easier then driving over an hour? … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/12/19 01:24 AM |
| 24 | Hanging out with LV brothers.Men know what they are doing, they dont need an education. The change can only come from within them. Are you able to be part of their babies lives? Be a stable loving auntie? Show those babies that your family does value them? To me that would be the only reason to be part of your brothers lives. Do you communicate to your brothers what they are doing wrong? How they can level up? Or are you just hanging out? I dont know that it would make too much of a difference but I guess what I'm really as… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/12/19 09:10 PM |
| 5 | Something I noticed when I moved hereIt's not about just sex, it is about the game, all Johns are the same in the regard. So no it's not tiring, it's the literal point. It's about the power and the ability to abuse because he paid for it. I'm sorry for your experience but im happy for your eyes being open. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/12/19 09:05 PM |
| 1 | When is it okay to "kink-shame"? Why do guys insist that these are normal desires to have?I'm so sorry that happened to you. Abusing and degrading your partner is not a kink. That's total white washing of abusive behavior. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/12/19 06:23 PM |
| 3 | Men: “We’re the logical gender.”Literally this exact thing has happened to me. After I was back on facebook for a whole hour and my only activity was to try and sell my dying mothers furniture in a local buy and sell. GTFO. Blocked that dumpster fire. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/12/19 06:08 PM |
| 3 | I know of a HVM but hes a good friend and I have no romantic interest in him.I disagree. I think it's rare that men are friends with women unless they have something to gain but not impossible. Just like I think HVM are rare but they are still out there. If this man has the ability to have women friends then I dont think she should compromise a friendship just to get practice working a HVM in a romantic sense. He adds value to her life, just because it's not romantic value doesnt mean it should be thrown away. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/12/19 06:02 PM |
| 39 | Submissive woman?I think you're right. Submissive means shut up and take it. If you never complain their ability to provide is never questioned so they don't have to really step up. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/12/19 04:14 PM |
| 18 | Something I noticed when I moved hereI mean seeking arrangements is for men specifically looking to be sugar daddies or wanna be sugar daddies. So yeah you are going to get lots of men playing games there. They have to pay for sex as it is so they are going to get the most out of it they can. But everything else you said was pretty on point I think. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/12/19 04:11 PM |
| 3 | I would love some perspective from you all right nowYour bar is to low, he's clean, doesn't freak out at a normal and uncontrollable bodily function, he didn't try to force sex before you wanted it and he can hold down a job. That's not HVM that's functioning adult. I don't personally consider HVM having female friends a big deal honestly because as a HVM he would see them as full people and would be capable of friendship with them, including setting clear boundaries - that being said I don't know many men that pull it off. On the other hand he s… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/12/19 05:18 AM |
| 13 | AITA post about guy who brought his wife a christmas Roomba attracts shameless PickmeishaDaily blow jobs for a cleaning appliance?? Know what else would take some of that work load off her plate? Being single. One less person to pick up after and no time spent on blow jobs leaves a lot more time for her kids, fucking with the dog(wtf???) And hopefully reading the recommended reading list here. Ooof. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/12/19 05:21 PM |
| 2 | Guy im dating just SHOWS up out of nowhereYou were right, it is kinda a given. But I'm glad you were clear with him. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/12/19 02:13 AM |
| 7 | Help me analyzePlease block this man. Near the end of your post you said: *He pushed and pushed for me to reveal things before I was ready to speak to him about certain things. *Sexual preferences were discussed- I said I wasn’t into full blown anal and he said we would cross that bridge when we got there. (Lol no) There's a lot of red flags there as you well know but a man who pushes like this will not stop when you are in front of him, when you are alone with him, when you are naked with him. If a man thinks… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/12/19 06:28 AM |
| 2 | Did Beyoncé become a pickmeisha by staying with Jay Z? Your thoughts?agreed | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/12/19 06:20 AM |
| 16 | What his deal? Makes a big fuss if I suggest going on a night out together, but he is okay to go with his friends..5 years and you don't know his friends???? You've lost friends because of his behavior?? Girl no one is waving the red flag in front of you, they are BEATING YOU WITH THE FLAG. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/12/19 06:04 AM |
| 8 | What his deal? Makes a big fuss if I suggest going on a night out together, but he is okay to go with his friends..I used to go out 1/2 times a month to a bar/club enjoy myself have 5/6 drinks. Don't really do that anymore as it was a "big issue" for him He sounds insecure and controlling, he has stopped you from doing something that you enjoy for his comfort. NOT ok. I suggest moving on to a bar/club he kicks off.. makes comments and has tantrums.. This is manipulative behavior, he doesn't want you to do something so he acts like a fucking child until he gets what he wants. This is not ok, adults talk, li… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/12/19 06:00 AM |
| 33 | Asian fetish is real - and this LVM thinks the term 'yellow girl' will work in his favourWhat the fuck does he even expect you to say? "Thank you dear sir for allowing my body to be used for your weird racist bingo game..." ....fuuuuuuck off to the dumpster fire of hell you were spawn from, sir. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/12/19 05:47 AM |
| 7 | I’m a stripper & men really do have an undercurrent of hate/disdain for all womenI agree with you though, attractive men can be just as shitty. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/12/19 05:41 AM |
| 61 | NEVER date a guy who studied philosophy.YES. I'm currently in university and taking philosophy (not my major but taking classes), after we had a bit of a class discussion about the place of women in ancient Greece- specifically Athens (couldn't vote, own land, move freely) this dude pipes up and says "Actually Athens was extremely progressive for women, they had a festival for the goddess Athena a warrior and official goddess of their city" and legit is expecting... wet panties just being thrown at him?? Like they had no rights, but… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/12/19 05:36 AM |
| 133 | LolI will respect this man's wishes and do him one better. Not only will I not seduce him I will cross the street if I see him coming. Avoid entirely. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/12/19 03:01 AM |
| 8 | Guy im dating just SHOWS up out of nowhereNot really. Would he show up to his coworkers house umannouced? Does he show up to his friends house unannounced? If he knows it's odd to do that I think he knows it odd to do this. Also it made YOU feel uncomfortable. You've been dating for two months and he hasent figured out some basics about you like boundaries? If you want you can say to him clearly I dont like surprises and I value my space so ask first before you show up. If he argues back or really says any except I'm sorry, full stop, n… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/12/19 10:25 PM |
| 10 | Teasing from menYou seem to be on the money with your analysis. They are trying to bring you down to their level by getting a rise out of you, making you act out prove to themselves youre not above them. Be above them. Your already doing what you need to do, getting your degree moving up. Keep it up. Dont engage that's what they want, they dont affect you and there is no tell off or comeback that would shut them down, what really hurts them is you being you, succeeding and being out of their league. Dont kneel … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/12/19 10:12 PM |
| 23 | Should I even respond?Honestly when a man shows you who he is and what he values believe him. This reads to me like hes looking for a hook up, if your not into it, then dont be in to it. Move on. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/12/19 10:08 PM |
| 14 | Why do men lie about dumb shit?Men dont lie, insecure man babies lie. Men own their choices , men deal with consequences, men believe in transparency because they are independent individuals who have thought about their choices and if they make a mistake they will act responsibly and deal with it. Age does not make a man. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/12/19 06:13 PM |
| 5 | My brother and father treat me like a (non sexual) side chickI'm so sorry this is your family, Ive had similar experiences with one male member of my family. It's hard because with a real boyfriend you can just next them and never see them again but family dynamics can be hard to navigate. Honestly you are better, anyone who treats you like less than a blessing or a gift in their life for who you are does not deserve your time or emotional labour, you acting like a free therapist to them is not free for you, you pay in the emotional toll. As hard as it is… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/12/19 06:09 PM |
| 29 | I slept with him...am I useless to him now. What do I do?Not really. Its low effort for him, also it could easily turn into "hey my place is right around the corner wanna go hang out there?" I would start practicing verbalizing to these men what it takes to be with you. Before you agree to meet them. Him:"let hang out" You:" I dont hang out, I only chose to spend my time with men who have enough foresight to plan a proper dinner at a proper restaurant." At this point he will either grow up and show you hes HVM or more likely he'll bail. But when a LVM… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/12/19 05:56 PM |
| 4 | Pick Me Says What?I'm so sorry you went (are going?) Through this. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/12/19 05:36 PM |
| 50 | Pick Me Says What?Last time I check women who want children and cant have them still mourn their infertility, the difference is now we get greater control on when and with whom we share out fertility with. Weak arguments are weak. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/12/19 05:50 AM |
| 15 | 21F “secretly” dating 51 year old college professor. Doesn’t understand her struggle to get away from controlling parents.So many of the comments assume that the only reason they are dating secretly is because of her family. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/12/19 05:44 AM |
| 3 | My male ex-therapist had some disturbing suggestions and I need feedbackFirstly thank god he is an ex- therapist. Also in case that blowhard loser ex therapist never said it, the assaults that happened to you are NOT YOUR FAULT. Like others have suggested if you feel emotionally up to it report him. He told you, a victim of assault, to go out and get assaulted (BDSM) by older (likely more powerful) man after he "not all men"ed you. Sis this sounds like grooming straight up. However I think you also asked about missing out on dating when youre younger. Girl, dating w… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/12/19 05:31 AM |
| 6 | My profile stated my love language is “receiving gifts”What he says: "I love touching and words of support." What he means: "Fuck me quick and let me emotionally dump on you, likely about how evil your entire sex is." Hes hurt because apparently "recieving gifts" is not a valid love language but "wet peepee" is. Also who uses their friends suicide like that? Say for a moment this is a real story and not a ploy- what a horribly tragic thing, his friend was in an abusive relationship and commits suicide over it and this guy uses it for sympathy point … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/12/19 05:11 AM |
| 3 | What do you do when you’re already in a long term relationship with a LVM?Being low value is a choice. Treating women and themselves badly is something they choose to do. Walking in and seeing the house work half done and sitting their ass on the couch instead of doing the dishes was a desicion that was made by a working brain. Not picking up the phone to make a dinner reservation without being asked , nagged, cajoled was something they didnt do because they decided it wasent worth it. Not pitching in to help with the kids more when they see their wife struggling with… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/12/19 04:59 AM |
| 5 | Ladies, what to do when a man reveals a micropenis?Get me to church, call my family because I'M DEAD. I AM DEAD NOW. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/12/19 04:42 AM |
| 6 | Ladies, what to do when a man reveals a micropenis?No I'd still not pity fuck him. I like a lot of people, we go see movies or go hiking. We dont fuck. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/12/19 04:40 AM |
| 4 | Just wanted to get everyone's opinions about staying friends with an exIn theory I love the idea of men and women being friends. In reality I've only ever seen the man use it as an excuse to either a) get back into the relationship b) continue using the woman as an emotional dumping ground c) have sex until the next woman comes along. I would love to live in a world that men make good friends, until that world comes along....block. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/12/19 04:29 AM |
| 3 | This is why you need to have your own money...Never. Have. Joint. Accounts. Period. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/12/19 04:18 AM |
| 10 | Queen quotes from my aunts and great aunts.Your uncles wife is a boss ass bitch, a true protector of the next generation. Warming about the old men, realizing what they are doing and how damaging it is. " I want to shoot them in the face." A whole mood. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/12/19 04:15 AM |
| 8 | Dating app red flagsGuys who like to "play devils advocate". Genuine good debates are awesome, fun, informative. These fuck boys are using it for let me explain to you why your wrong and never let you speak. Guys who like "low drama" girls, girls who can "ride through the good times and bad" code for shut the fuck up and put up with my shit no matter what I put you through. Dont stand up for yourself. Fuck the fuck off. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/12/19 04:08 AM |
| 3 | A guy I’ve been seeing just got mad at me because I asked him to get sti tested and he doesn’t like blood tests...Yes! Your health before his dick! 100%! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/12/19 04:00 AM |
| 2 | Therapist seems to hate FDS methods - what should I do?You said now you pick a women but at the time you picked a man but you seemed to imply that you cant switch now by saying "what's done is done". Is there some reason you feel like you cannot switch therapists? It seems bizarre to me that you would tell your therapist you are setting the kind of boundaries that you are comfortable with and you get this kind of push back. I dont agree with his POV at all. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/12/19 03:58 AM |
| 12 | Adios trash bag couch creatureHonestly I thank god for these men, they kick themselves to curb so I dont have to scuff my shoes doing it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/12/19 03:41 AM |
| 1 | Telling a guy to cool otThe dates have been top quality, I think that's part of what threw me, they are not half assed in the slightest. But your second point was on my radar right away, I cant answer it so quickly (men lie) but it's a good point. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/12/19 03:38 AM |
| 2 | Telling a guy to cool otAgreed. I'm not your world, you need to be complete to come hang. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/12/19 03:36 AM |
| 1 | Telling a guy to cool otI wish I could stand up and say men cant be trained like dogs.....but that would be lying and Jesus is watching. Everything you said makes so much sense. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/12/19 03:36 AM |
| 4 | What IS "divorce rape" exactly?Honestly jewdy09 just wanted to shout out those math skills sis. Not nearly enough women can break that down and I just wanted sing a few praises 👏👏👏 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/12/19 03:33 AM |
| 2 | Telling a guy to cool otLove bombing is perfect. I've been trying to figure this out come from different angles, sis thank the universe for you and whatever brought you to this sub. Explained. Next! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/12/19 03:29 AM |
| 16 | What IS "divorce rape" exactly?Honestly I think the word rape get thrown around way too much. It's a very specific violation of what not only should be the safest place in the world, but the the place you have complete control and say over- your own body. People , often men, getting screwed over in various ways, or thinking they are is not rape. So divorce rape doesnt exist. However people who have been divorced can often be screwed over by their previous partner no doubt. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/12/19 09:59 PM |
| 73 | I ain’t sitting thereAlso there IS a table. Usually it's just me... literally felling the tree, cutting the wood, building the table..... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/12/19 09:44 PM |
| 7 | How do YOU Get Over an Attachment to a LVM?Time and work. Hard hard work. You were doing the work though and now you've back tracked. But the good thing is, you've done it once you can do it again. First block on everything. Dont give a reason, dont say good bye, dont send an emotion. NOTHING! YOU ARE GHOSTING THIS DUMPSTER FIRE! YOU OWE HIM NOTHING IT WILL NOT MAKE YOU FEEL BETTER! Second you mentioned therapy, good job I hope you find a therapist you love. Go to the recommended reading section of this sub. Start reading. Remember who t… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/12/19 05:06 AM |
| 17 | What in the flappy flip flap ??He's seeing if your still interested so he can get what he wants. He told you already what he wants ( not a relationship) all you need to do is believe him, you two are not on the same page. Block and move on, honestly dont even respond. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/12/19 04:55 AM |
| 41 | Man (25) strings forever GF (25) along in 10 year relationship, develops "infatuation" for another woman (25), who has a boyfriend... admits he's seeking "excitement", having good & bad motives....My mothers best friends husband does this every couple of years. He always tells his wife that hes in love with someone else, but dont worry I'd never cheat on you I'm just bored. So fucking disrespectful. Dump him. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/12/19 04:51 AM |
| 3 | Soooo, why is racism in p**n allowed? And it seems the main consumers are wokebro neckbeards..."Ok" doesnt even factor into it. Literally the whole thought process is just ...men like it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/12/19 02:37 AM |
| 15 | Strategic help for attending the symphony soloYou are interesting without another person, you do interesting things( the damn symphony even!), you have opinions and a viewpoint. You are complete in yourself. It may sound contradictory but because of this you are the person to talk to. The person who can hold a conversation, you look great, you do cool things. When you walk in remember who the fuck you are woman! And if you approach someone and they dont seem interest dont let it diminish how you feel about yourself, remember you are complet… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/12/19 06:37 PM |
| 14 | OPEN Q&A THREAD FOR MEN: Of What Use Is A Man to A Woman? Males, come justify your existence to FDS in the comments! The Floor Is Yours!We are the only reason you exist, without us humans would die out YOU came from the body of a women. Women hate hard labor, men do it for fun, we fix cars, move heavy things, and we take the groceries in one trip My sister is a mechanic, I was raised on a farm by a single mother and two sisters. Thank you, next excuse. we do all the heavy work You mean in all those industries you literally forbid us to work in for 100s of years and which men still refuse to hire women for? Or do you just mean ho… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/12/19 03:26 AM |
| 7 | OPEN Q&A THREAD FOR MEN: Of What Use Is A Man to A Woman? Males, come justify your existence to FDS in the comments! The Floor Is Yours!Also it begins from the literal second we start our degrees or sooner, currently I am a women in university studying STEM and my FIRST semester some asshole posted a 10 minutes video about how women should not be in STEM. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/12/19 03:16 AM |
| 6 | OPEN Q&A THREAD FOR MEN: Of What Use Is A Man to A Woman? Males, come justify your existence to FDS in the comments! The Floor Is Yours!As would I, a heterosexual woman. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/12/19 03:13 AM |
| 11 | OPEN Q&A THREAD FOR MEN: Of What Use Is A Man to A Woman? Males, come justify your existence to FDS in the comments! The Floor Is Yours!Men were credited for making everything around us. Not the same thing. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/12/19 03:11 AM |
| 7 | OPEN Q&A THREAD FOR MEN: Of What Use Is A Man to A Woman? Males, come justify your existence to FDS in the comments! The Floor Is Yours!I know you said you would leave her except for money, so is this even a relationship worth salvaging? If yes why not take some of that income, some of that energy of wanting to go out and do things and go to couples therapy? Also individual therapy both you and her. I believe in a capatilist society like ours money matters I get that, but it matters for what it can do for you. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/12/19 03:07 AM |
| 5 | OPEN Q&A THREAD FOR MEN: Of What Use Is A Man to A Woman? Males, come justify your existence to FDS in the comments! The Floor Is Yours!Men could be a support system, but are they is the actual question. And the actual answer in reality is no they have often refused that part of a relationship. Capable has nothing to do with it. Day to day manual labour is only shouldered by men so often because its seen as the man's job and women are discouraged from pursuing it, once again capable has nothing to do with it. my sister is mechanic, my mother does her own home repairs, I could go on. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/12/19 02:59 AM |
| 11 | OPEN Q&A THREAD FOR MEN: Of What Use Is A Man to A Woman? Males, come justify your existence to FDS in the comments! The Floor Is Yours!Maybe when we were warding off sabre-toothed cats with spears this was relevant. Disagree. Women can/have been/ are good hunters and defenders. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/12/19 02:55 AM |
| 16 | How to detect pornsick men? Share you experience.Present day me agrees with you 100%, but the toxic way I was trained to please men is all over my early 20s dating life. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/12/19 05:43 PM |
| 60 | How to detect pornsick men? Share you experience.Explicit**both of these things happened before I realized he watched porn( I never used to ask). Oof poor past pick- me self. Argues with you about what you like . I had a boyfriend about 10 years ago take his dick outta me and like slap my gentiles with it and I was shocked and laughed and I was like "what are you doing? " He smiled at me and was like "that's for you. I know you like that" and I was like no that's weird and it does nothing for me. Later (after we finished) he showed me the porn… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/12/19 11:09 PM |
| 9 | Ladies I need support!Obviously you already are strong, you came to this realization and know you have to act. It's going to be hard (break ups just are), before you make a move my suggestion would be taking stock of your supports. Who are your best friends, are you close to your mom ect., in part to remind you that you are not alone, and also so you have a plan when you inevitably miss him and "just wanna talk" you already know who to call instead of him. Also if you havent already invest in a good vibrator, we do s… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/12/19 10:53 PM |
| 18 | I'm not sure if this is the right place to ask but I have a son. I want to raise him to be an HVM. How old should he be before we have a talk about how damaging porn is?Disclaimer Not a parent. Make sure his empathy isnt stripped from him. I think little boys and little girls can be very sweet and very empathetic. However we double down on that in little girls to the extent is destructive while also stripping it from little boys (ex. Man up, boys dont cry, leadership=abuse). Instill in him good listening skills, and encourage the empathetic thinking he naturally has. Porn and society teach men not to view women as full people, the best way (I think) to undercut… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/12/19 10:46 PM |
| 7 | Advice or tips you would have given your 19 year old selfDo everything possible. Max out life experiences. Volunteer, work, study, try new things, go out /stay in all of it! Also if you are on a date and you are talking and he interrupts you tell him "you just interrupted me." Not because he doesnt know but because it's not ok and practicing standing up for yourself at every opportunity is the only way it will become second nature/reflex... then dont go out with him again. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/12/19 10:40 PM |
| 9 | Porn addiction is a massive epidemic in men that society is choosing to ignore.At no point did I say it was either or, in fact I think that men do in fact get a lot of support and sympathy. But here we focus on women because this is a sub by and for women, so it makes sense that we are focusing on women. Women have a lot of frustration around this topic and others so some comments are venting, sarcastic, or just female focused, our feeling judgements and emotions get to take center stage here. It's a shift from the norm and may take a while to get used to. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/12/19 09:47 PM |
| 19 | Porn addiction is a massive epidemic in men that society is choosing to ignore.There is nothing "wrong" with it. But so often that's all there is. If an issue doesnt affect a man it's not an issue in society at large. Women have been saying for generations the problems with porn and how it affects us (both women who have never participated in the making of porn but also survivors of the sex industry) and women have been treated poorly for speaking up. But if it's a problem for men (erectile dysfunction) NOW it's a problem. Never mind the abuse, neglect, trafficking, hearta… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/12/19 08:34 PM |
| 9 | Spitting TRUTH about making him wait for sex.Yeah, that's the point. It's not fair or right that we are not respected as separate from men, but often times we are not. Which is why it's so important YOU know your worth as a woman outside and away from men. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/12/19 08:19 PM |
| 8 | I may be a pick me.. help me change my ways?Think about yourself. Who do you want to be, what do you find important, what kinds of things do you like? If you dont know get out there and try new things! Being HVW is a verb. It's an action, who you are, what you do, how you think. So what are you doing? And if the answer is nothing or I dont know...change it! The better you know yourself ,what you like and dont and what is important to you the less you rely on validation from a man to give you that and the more fulfilling your life will be.… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/12/19 05:26 AM |
| 88 | WHAT 👏THE👏FUCK!! Wife walks in on husband Jerking off to pictures of their 13yo Daughter!!She is a BABY still. Thank god she has a mother who didnt wait to act. Who believes her own eyes. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/12/19 05:01 AM |
| 3 | Oh look, incels with their tiny dicks calling a woman a slut (but only in a DM) to feel better about their pathetic existence👋🏼👋🏼 fuck your misogyny & patriarchal religionDisgusting. All my love and support ❤❤ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/12/19 12:44 AM |
| 4 | Oh look, incels with their tiny dicks calling a woman a slut (but only in a DM) to feel better about their pathetic existence👋🏼👋🏼 fuck your misogyny & patriarchal religionAll the women here who get these I feel for you. Even if your moving on and not thinking of these loser after deleting and blocking I'm still thinking of YOU ladies and how amazing you are and how much you all have brought to my life!. They're just proving why we are here, HVW stay strong! ❤❤❤ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/12/19 12:42 AM |
| 1 | r/BlackPeopleTwitter, a sub that regularly refers to women as bitches, hoes, and thots, thinks FDS is “misandric” and “unrealistic”. Can Men Hear Themselves Talk? 🤔While I think that's true 100%, I also dont think that is what we are doing here. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/12/19 12:38 AM |
| 8 | Do you expect an Xmas gift from someone you’ve been dating short-term?I'm not a big gift person honestly and I find most people ,dates or not dont get me stuff I really love/can use unless they know me really well. So for me it's not a big deal because I do not like having just stuff around cluttering up my space no matter how big or small. However DOING something with me is a big one. Planning an extra special xmas outing for example where we go look at the lights ,go to the market, go skating and have dinner. Love that. Like a date but on steroids. I have memori… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/12/19 12:33 AM |
| 4 | Nice For What 😂😂😂I disagree. If you are not broke and you know someone is, 5$ can be alot to them. Not flaunting it is one thing but dont take money from struggling people. Also learn how to say honestly " no I'm not comfortable giving/ loaning money. " if the relationship suffers you know where you stand honestly with someone and you're better off anyways. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/12/19 12:27 AM |
| 5 | Nice For What 😂😂😂Gross. All of this, the entitlement of the man, the clear overstepping if the boss, threatening. They feel entitled to every part of us. Never feel bad for a man when you expect something from him during a date/ relationship because even if you are not dating, even if you have said no to dating like OP did they still feel entitled to you. Fuck that noise for life. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/12/19 12:21 AM |
| 9 | How do I justify having men pay for me?HVM are able to take the wheel and have no problem doing it. Like I know I can take the wheel and run the show because it's what I do every day of my life, I can do all the things I'm asking of him on a first, second, third etc. date like making a decision where to go, showing up on time, paying, being respectful, listening, holding an interesting conversation, etc., my questions is, is HE capable of it? If he is, I'm going to need a demonstration. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/12/19 12:01 AM |
| 1 | Stolen from ig👏👏👏 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/12/19 11:53 PM |
| 6 | Men with sisters are more likely to be high value?I dont agree, from a personal experience stand point this hasent been my experience at all. But the other part that I dont like is it puts a burden on women to be the corrective force in a man's life. Men, despite all evidence, are capable of empathy, thoughtful thinking, communication just as we are the difference is they choose not to act this way and it's a choice that is reinforced and rewarded by society (I.e. other men). The men who I've dated who have been good people have somehow managed… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/12/19 11:47 PM |
| 27 | Leveling up100% this forever. I have wonderful female friends who are smart and career orientated and just cant be single, the level of shit they put up with to have a man around....nope! Single life is more satisfying than dating a man baby....or worse | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/12/19 11:32 PM |
| 10 | Reminder that men just aren’t like us, ladies. I don’t know one mother who can seriously say that they regret having their childrenI used to work in a battered womens shelter and I 100% know for a fact that some women do regret their children. Not talking about women who were not allowed to get abortions or were tricked into getting pregnant either. It was part of my job to have these conversations with women about what would your life look like if you got 100% of what you wanted and I've met women who have said they want the father/someone else to take their children because they do not want them. It's a difficult thing to… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/12/19 11:26 PM |
| 3 | I think checking a Sex Offender Registry should be a thing in dating.Expedia? The travel website? ( I don't get it), can you explain | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/12/19 05:12 PM |
| 6 | Need help implementing FDS and becoming a high-value lady.Honestly therapy. I think you mentioned your insurance has not kicked in yet but in the meantime I think there are recommended readings in the wiki if you are interested. There is a lot in your post, and I'm not sure a hunch of internet strangers would be the best equipped to help you through all of it, but I do think you can make improvements. Good luck. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/12/19 12:55 AM |
| 4 | This is why even high paid men are LVM ... Dont be this chickCame here to say this. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/12/19 04:20 AM |
| 38 | It should be a given that slavery jokes are off limits, especially in the Deep South.He said it was NOT intended as a joke? Like he meant literally??? Is.He.Brain.Damaged.??? Thankfully you are not his doctor and do not have to deal with that. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/12/19 04:15 AM |
| 84 | RED FLAGS: Signs a Man Should Be Cut OffNot "allowing" disagreement. For instance you have a conversation and he has an opinion he is expressing and you start with" that's interesting but," and he never again let's up so you can talk. Any man I've brought this up to has always pretended like he was just " passionate" or just "opinionated "or just" trying to express himself". All those things are fine but at some point shut up let me say something. It doesnt have to be out right "forbidding" but he knows if you can't get a word in, it'… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/12/19 03:48 AM |
| 26 | If they don’t compensate you, they don’t get your attention.So disappointing that you are so on the money because I love minimalism and it has been a godsend in my life in so many ways. But then I meet these man children who say they're about minalmalism and it's just code for I havent found a mommy /girlfriend yet to do everything for me so I'm going to not own/be responsible for anything until I do. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/12/19 04:14 PM |
| 0 | Did I go to far?I'm trying to understand you better, I don't mind being rude when its called for, I feel like wasting my time is rude, and with such a classless non-pick up line too. But I also don't want to over react either thereby bringing myself down , so I guess my question is would it have been better to just block and move on or is being rude back and letting him know like... talking like that to me is not ok and kinda gross. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/12/19 04:31 AM |
| 1 | Did I go to far?This is the entire thing from beginning to end. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/12/19 04:25 AM |
| 2 | Did I go to far?Thanks everyone, I'm new to this and I just wanted to double check my instincts here. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/12/19 01:04 AM |
| 3 | Did I go to far?I blocked him right after this, I guess my question is, is my take on this wrong? Felt like he was fishing for a hookup which it says on my OLD profile I'm not looking for. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/11/19 10:57 PM |
| 5 | Needed to read this!Good god if that isnt he truest statement of the year idk what is. Men protect their own, cops have high high rates of committing domestic violence and rape. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/11/19 09:55 PM |
| 16 | Anti abortion bill: Physicians must 'attempt to reimplant' ectopic pregnancy or face murder chargeI'm so sorry to all my sisters in the US who have to live under a goverment that see your right to your body, health, and future as at best debatable and at worse ridiculous. ❤❤ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/11/19 03:59 PM |
| 7 | After being stood up twice, I stopped responding. It’s “my fault” we broke up, he deserved a conversation!Perfect translation! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/11/19 09:14 PM |
| 18 | After being stood up twice, I stopped responding. It’s “my fault” we broke up, he deserved a conversation!Long story short, I dumped him had sex with his friend and now I’m gay, so things get better. Amazing!! I'll say they got better! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/11/19 09:13 PM |
| 53 | Men Who Think They're The Prize 🤢I dont think men of my generation are worse, I think women are more vocal and more willing / able to walk away. Instead of being married off at 18 (or younger) and having to raise your husband for the next 20 years no complaints while giving the outwards appearance that he takes care of you and is a good provider women are now saying fuck that I bring this what do you got? And if you dont got....bye. Boomer men, now that (some of them) have grown up thanks to their wives sacrificing literally ye… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/11/19 10:58 PM |
| 6 | What to do if guy shows up unprepared?All the advice here is basically do not let it get to the point. So say you are talking or texting before hand. And he says "hey I'd really like to see you on friday night are you free?" Your response to that should be something like " what do you have in mind for us to do?" And if he says anything remotely like "idk lol". At that point you should be saying "well you seem interesting but without a plan I dont know that I'm interested. Let me know when you do know." Now if he says "let's get dinn… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/11/19 03:20 AM |
| 2 | Queen Sh*t MegathreadLiterally yes to everything. QUEEN. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/11/19 08:27 PM |
| 6 | Why the hell do they gas light ????I once knew a woman in a extremely abusive relationship. Her husband would yell at her and accuse her of not cleaning up the table after dinner. Except that she was standing beside that table and it was cleared and done. And he kept screaming "cant you see? are you blind? look at these dishes!" and point to the table and run his hand over the table and act like she was crazy. He did it for so long she began to think she was going blind or crazy because she couldn't see the dishes (dishes that we… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/11/19 08:55 PM |
| 32 | This is so tiring, they need a section for singles looking for couples, bc I don’t care about ur relationship goals...When I've done online dating I've specifically put "no couples" and they still reach out. Right from the jump they disrespect boundaries and then have literally messaged back "lol" or laugh if off. Never an apology. Like we havent even met and your already trying to push boundaries. Nope. If your into it stay safe, I hope you have fun but for those of us who arent please leave us alone. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/11/19 08:45 PM |
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