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I’ve seen this and was super grossed out. I can’t believe how widespread it is!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/03/22 05:51 PM
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HAHAHHA love the reference
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/22 06:34 AM
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"Shit like this turn alpha male off fr" EWWWW hahahaha
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/22 07:58 PM
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I've been searching around for any reputable organizations that will help support and protect Ukrainian women during this time. CARE is the only one that even mentions prioritizing women and girls. Found it in an NPR article, so might just go for it. If anyone has input on this or has experience donating to them please let me know. Thanks!!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/22 08:03 AM
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My question as well!! Take care of yourself OP, glad you’re healing up well 💖
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/22 10:05 AM
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ahhhhhhhh
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/09/21 03:57 AM
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Yes, I blocked!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/09/21 03:51 AM
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You's absolutely right. I'm so used to seeing it as passive instead of CALLING OUT THE depraved men who committed the crime.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/09/21 03:51 AM
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Horrific, I'm so sad for her. I hope, but doubt, those men will face charges.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/09/21 03:49 AM
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What a completely sick individual!!!’ Wtf I’m so sorry. Similar thing happened to me in middle school
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/09/21 04:58 PM
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I am cracking uppp😂😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/09/21 10:24 PM
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Yeah he’s so trash. And his album cover being just pregnant emojis??? “Lover boy” YUCK
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/21 02:54 AM
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Chris Pratt in real life and in the show is really gross and immature. I used to love Parks and rec but upon rewatching I was also horrified by Andy. He really is disgusting.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/09/21 05:19 PM
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What an absolute prick, glad you're area of the gooming you had in your upbringing so you never have to go through this again!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/09/21 05:17 PM
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I craked up at the fan part.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/08/21 02:46 AM
2

Yeah I found out he's a real turd.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/08/21 02:43 AM
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How sick, used to be a fan of Rhye but no longer. Horrifying. I hope she wins in the case against him and he loses everything.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/21 03:08 AM
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so proud of you!! I wish you all the happiness, this sounds so painful im sorry
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/21 02:59 AM
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most probably forced into prostitution and they get to keep probably none of the money, or their abuser/pimp got them hooked on drugs and they're obviously now desperate for anything that supports their addiction.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/21 02:50 AM
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Well said, I wish we could actually make this happen. Like the site that tells you sex offenders in the area. And well said, you're so right-" If some women are for sale, we all are."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/21 02:49 AM
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The comments for this post made me laugh so hard, FDS never fails to lift my spirit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/08/21 04:49 AM
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they all got out of their seats and cheered!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/08/21 04:48 AM
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Ugh disgusting- you’re absolutely right
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/08/21 04:42 AM
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He’s a immature “weirdo “ for being grossed out by periods and is absolutely the asshole. If he doesn’t want to ever think about menstruation then he should leave women everywhere alone.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/08/21 04:41 AM
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yeah why does he keep spelling it like that...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/08/21 04:57 PM
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ewwwww HAHAHA
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/08/21 05:54 PM
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SO TRUE AHHHH
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/08/21 05:54 PM
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Hahahahahahw BRIDGE TROLL 😂😂😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/08/21 05:53 PM
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So he was sitting in a closet playing a video game with some sort of wheel and he had the gall to insult her.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/08/21 05:53 PM
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Okay so she’s an incubator for him? Yeah not cute I’m so confused Ew
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/08/21 05:52 PM
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Yikes!! She really said he is her GOD and put a shrug emoji.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/08/21 05:02 PM
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YES!! I stayed in misery for so long and let him continue gaslighting and cheating on the dl.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/08/21 06:00 PM
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Ahhh yes the sunk cost fallacy always gets me!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/08/21 05:59 PM
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Absolutely!!!!! This should be OBVIOUS but it’s so hard to remember especially when struggle love is pushed and being single is considered shameful or whatever
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/08/21 05:56 PM
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😂😂yes that make sense I feel you
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/08/21 10:45 PM
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HAHHAHAHAHA love that she dipped! I love that she didn't wait to "talk it out and communicate her frustration to him" and "hear his side" and wait for reconciliation (ALL things I have done and been advised to do).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/08/21 07:02 PM
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I KNOW I SCREAMED SEEING THAT
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/08/21 06:58 PM
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What a SCUMBAG. Disgusting.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/08/21 04:34 AM
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I know Daily Mail usually really sucks but wow this is really good research??? ​ And to echo what others have said- WHY is this research and whistleblowing on the danger of porn being done by a tabloid and NOT at a national public health level??? SO many women have experienced trauma and I feel like not that many people are talking about it. So unfortunate that being anti- porn is considered to be shaming people and not sex positive.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/08/21 04:33 AM
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AGREED, I can relate as well. Huge dissonance vs what I thought romance and intimacy would be and the abuse I received . ~1.5 years ago, I wrote in my journal that "I don't want to be touched by a man again. I thought I liked sex, but it has never been worth the trauma". I wrote it without thinking it was a big deal, but it absolutely IS. My "intimate" experiences have been traumatic and I struggle to feel like I have ownership of my own body. I haven't attempted to date or talk to a man romanti…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/08/21 04:23 AM
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What's the Tom? Wasn't familiar with that phrase!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/08/21 04:15 AM
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She is so brave!! That is sickening that her family continues to tolerate his behavior, I'm so scared for her little cousins!!! LOVE that she didn't blur out her dad's face. He's disgusting :(
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/08/21 02:55 AM
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sad
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/08/21 12:50 AM
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Definitely- pimps usually prey on women (or, a lot of time CHILDREN) at their lowest.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/08/21 12:50 AM
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RIGHT??
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/08/21 12:48 AM
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Yeah he loves her "heart" but mostly enjoys using her instagram pictures. This was so gross to read, wtf what a sicko.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/08/21 12:48 AM
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My cheating, sleazeball ex is also big into church- watch out friends!!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/08/21 12:46 AM
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Amazing!!! I hope you have a wonderful and safe trip<3
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/08/21 12:36 AM
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Sounds amazing where are your three trips going to be?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/08/21 03:12 PM
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Same! Glad I’m not alone in thinking this- maybe I’ll meet someone, but maybe I won’t 🤷🏽‍♀️. Not going to exhaust myself to find a future husband out of fear like I used to.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/08/21 08:52 PM
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THE REAL ESTATE CONSULTANT guy is appalling. Is that legal? Can he be reported for that?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/08/21 08:47 PM
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because they’re acting irritating haha I feel like I meet so many wonderful women and I think I’ve met under 5 wonderful men 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/08/21 08:45 PM
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How do you deal w friends being pushy about it because my friends ask me if I’m talking to someone at least twice a week. Despite me very firmly telling them to STOP.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/08/21 08:44 PM
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Relatable! It’s been a year+ and I have no desire to try dating again. Was getting a degree and applying for jobs and realized how much time I wasted searching for a boyfriend 🤦🏾‍♀️. Wish I could tell me younger self to just go to sleep and not ruin her sleep schedule stressing about abusive boyfriends.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/08/21 08:43 PM
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Right ??
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/08/21 09:10 PM
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​ Agreed, had a very flaky friend who has done this multiple times but I finally had enough and threw the towel in on that friendship as of this year. She still hasn't texted me since the day she flaked... it was in January 2021. Before I used to follow up or call her but how many times can I keep doing that. It's sad [to realize the friendship is dead] but they're telling you how little you matter and how little they value your time. Super disrespectful!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/08/21 05:10 AM
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I laughed so hard at "he barnacled onto our hangout"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/08/21 05:07 AM
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Yeah that's not even close to the same level of "toxic". The "both sides" bullshit is so dangerous!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/08/21 05:04 AM
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yeah he's a RAPIST. Disgusting.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/07/21 11:29 PM
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You've had so much abuse in your life, I'm so so sorry. I don't even think you should tag this as "Hall of Shame" like oh my gosh your formative years were so traumatic. I'm so so sorry. Sending you a virtual hug, I'm glad you've realized you're worth more than your looks and your body. I have been in this phase too where male validation was the only thing fueling my confidence. I'm proud of you for getting better, and getting out of this mindset, I hope you are proud as well of all that you've …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/07/21 02:56 AM
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AGREED. Only around 25 do I feel like I am strong and mature- and I still know I have growing to do. But the amount of change between 20 and 25 is mind boggling.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/07/21 12:18 AM
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I wish I knew this before college!!! Great post. I was soooo proud of being lauded in my friend group for always having an "interesting" dating life... in reality it was a bunch of guys who were wasting my time bc they knew they didnt have to do ANYTHING to get a hook up. I was brainwashed by hook up culture and the one bf I had in college, I had before I was independent and strong- I put up with serious abuse and ruined my grades, mental health, and friendships. I needed time to grow into mysel…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/07/21 12:17 AM
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Yeah sounds incredible suspicious. And wow he didn’t even try to come up with any good excuse he just expected her to believe that bs
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/07/21 09:25 PM
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Agreed!!!!! I’ve been silently fuming about this for years. Because birth control is automatically a rite of passage for women. Why? Horrible.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/07/21 09:18 PM
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Amazing love to see it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/07/21 07:44 AM
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Would love to learn!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/21 06:59 AM
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❤️❤️❤️good for you!!! For talking yourself out of feeling bad about yourself!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/21 06:52 AM
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Horrible! Those awful comments really get buried deep under your skin sometimes. Wear that dress!!!! Agreed wear it to a fun dinner w friends. Or just inside the house and tell yourself a hundred positive affirmations to replace the disgusting words of your disgusting ex.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/21 06:50 AM
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I like her conversation but yeah, absolutely agree-she shouldn’t even be helping him or on call for help w his love life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/21 06:25 AM
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Basically the guy talking about the tomboy girl likes her because she is “chill” meaning he does nothing but has access to her body with no effort at all. She has lower boundaries and he likes that bc he can use her without exerting any effort. He said he would “hang “ with her “if they lived close”.... which is not at all a compliment. “If it was convenient for me, I would see you so I can continue to use you“ is not a compliment.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/21 06:15 AM
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Disgusting that she was recorded without her consent, I’m so angry for her. Ofc the police did nothing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/21 06:09 AM
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LOVE This. I wish I had friends like this instead of ones who lecture me about being “nice!!!! & treating people like they want to be treated!!!” when I suggest they ignore men who are being really mean to them. 🤦🏾‍♀️ I want them to be angered by men who treat them poorly but I guess they’re not there yet.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/21 06:07 AM
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Extremely disturbing but eye opening because I feel like people don't take things seriously until they see it with their own eyes. This is what anti-porn activists (and ex- sex workers) have been trying to tell people about for so long :(. This is a video fro 2014, I can't believe I'm only seeing it now. How can we support this woman?? I couldn't find her name.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/21 06:18 PM
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Can't wait to listen to it!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/21 06:10 PM
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Yes MA'AM!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/21 06:10 PM
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Couldn't be us <3
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/21 06:10 PM
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AHHH AMAZINg so proud of US <3
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/21 06:09 PM
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Haven't heard of her before, thank you so much for posting this! Listening to her Ted talk now. ​ If anyone else is interested: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=\_YpHNImNsx8
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/21 06:07 PM
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Oh man I will watch it, I'm sure it's very well put.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/21 06:07 PM
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Thank you for all you've done for us, you will be missed. Sorry about the disgusting harassment. That's so trash!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/21 05:54 PM
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oh wow thank you!!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/05/21 06:44 PM
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Thanks for posting, I might buy this book!!!! Should I start with another one of her books and do you have any other recommendations?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/05/21 04:17 PM
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Gross that they wanted to pawn him off to you and were essentially trying to take advantage of you to get rid of him. Glad you left that relationship!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/05/21 04:11 PM
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I've never heard of the Dread Game oh my gosh.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/05/21 04:06 PM
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I'm sorry dude, we've all been easily manipulated. It's hard not to beat yourself up but remember how much you've grown and how far you've come!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/05/21 04:05 PM
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WElcome, friend <3 happy you found us.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/05/21 03:58 PM
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Yayyyyyyy so happy for you!! FDS also helped me turn my life around while I was in a relationship with a garbage, gaslighting, cheating man :). Wish I had found this community sooner. All I did was make excuses for him and listen to others make excuses for him. I made the same promise to myself: never again. :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/05/21 03:58 PM
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I'm so sorry. THis sounds incredibly painful and stressful. You are incredibly strong for even being able to realize what has happened to you and being able to get out of it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/05/21 03:55 PM
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“How ur birthday turnout”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/21 07:47 PM
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Oh thank god, I thought she definitely was murdered by them. So horrible, they're such an angry, violent, mob.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/21 11:44 PM
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I'm glad I didn't see the Dublin video, that sounds horrific.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/21 06:22 PM
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Yuck!! What an asshole! You dodged a bullet.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/21 06:28 AM
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Good luck! I know it's hard to distance yourself from someone you once thought of as a friend, but wow she's been really disrespectful to you.
/r/askFDS11/05/21 10:55 PM
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This part is so important: "Most men only wanting sex from you isn't a reflection of you not being "girlfriend/wife material." It says more about how men see women because it's a universal experience for most women. No matter how pretty, smart, and good-hearted you are, it won't change men's view of women as "something" that they need to experience sexually instead of monogamously loving on a deeper level." Because I was trained to believe that for the right, worthy (white) woman, a fuckboy woul…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/21 07:17 PM
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RIGHT? How insane, and then after doing the switch up in behavior they'll hit you with "oh you have trust issues, you're crazy and jealous and suspicious of nothing". Like their behavior hasn't been completely erratic, strange, and suspicious to cause you question their intentions in the first place. God bless I'm not easily manipulated anymore but these are the things that should've been taught in health class: emotional, sexual coercion, the power imbalance in hooking up, and common tactics ab…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/21 07:09 PM
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When I was 17, this is what I believed but I was convinced out of it by friends and men telling me I was too "cynical and negative" and if I kept thinking like that of course I wouldn't find a good person. LOL. Years of being stupid and going through a phase of casual hook ups because it's supposed to be "fun", right?? only made me realized I was right all along. For the guys who don't care about sex, they're ready to use you in other ways, emotionally, financially, waste your time and drain you…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/21 07:07 PM
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Doesn't seem like she's a friend at all. Unfortunately, even though you want to help her, she's doing all these things that a good friend wouldn't. Just stop talkign to her and enjoy having way less stress in your life :).
/r/askFDS11/05/21 06:44 PM
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"AVOID" haha you're only giving us instructions for what to do with you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/05/21 03:23 PM
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^^^ Yeah it's seriously messed up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/05/21 02:55 AM
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Ew what..........?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/05/21 02:55 AM
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It makes more sense when you realize she's Mormon and you see the huge pro-life propaganda she's embedded. Blech.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/05/21 02:54 AM
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yeah what kind of priorities????????
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/21 08:11 PM
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AHHHHHH you said it. That's so true.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/21 08:11 PM
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CHrissy is the tacky one. Not being an ally to women at all. Wow. Also wow the video really creeped me out (even though I used to think he was super handsome- till I saw his obsession with 19-24 year olds and stopped liking him).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/21 08:05 PM
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Wow you’re so inspiring!!!!!! Incredible. I hope they all rise and rise up the ranks and so do you! 💕
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/21 07:02 AM
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Ew yeah why does he have to pose like this. Such a fragile asshat he can’t just hold the dang picture? But no I guess he has to prove he’s a real man DESPITE the painting or something? 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/21 06:51 AM
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He ...had time to make it happen guys! Wow let’s get him a medal and maybe honor him internationally?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/21 06:49 AM
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Because it’s FUN and EMPOWERING!! Didn’t you read the tweet! Let’s endanger both our physical and mental well-being while trying to convince ourself hook-ups with toxic people is a good time!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/21 06:47 AM
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Love this re-write
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/21 06:46 AM
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The YOLO attitude has only brought me a large amounts of regret. Measured, calculated risks feel much more fulfilling than YOLO.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/21 06:45 AM
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You have "no chill". In the face of disrespect/negging/condescension or showing up hours late to something. It used to scare me to be told this, but NAH it just means I have boundaries and they were trying to make me bend.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/21 05:53 PM
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The peeing part cracked me up omfg.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/05/21 05:24 PM
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That Margaret Atwood quote is what came to my mind as well.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/05/21 04:40 PM
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I’m so sorry this happened to you. How painful!!!!! I’m kind of going through this with my friend right now and it’s so frustrating that she doesn’t try and be supportive. Her response to me describing a very abusive situation and feeling trapped was.. “:(“. Yeah I’m definitely leaving that friendship behind.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/05/21 06:55 AM
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Yeah it sucks that your relationship has become this surface level when you used to be close, but it’s better to just give her no more of your energy. It’s rough but I think it’s the best choice.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/05/21 06:53 AM
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I am in the same boat and it’s the same story- my cousin and I used to be so tight. We used to send each other emails all the time and FaceTime etc. Don’t know what happened. I feel your pain. I can’t truly drop my cousin because we see each other at family reunions. I worked on trying to be unbothered and reminding myself that she is not the gatekeeper to my happiness or how likable I am. It would be great to be friends with your cousin, but she isn’t interested so just don’t reach out but be p…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/05/21 06:51 AM
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After I was cheated on, these were some videos that helped feel like I had the power to stop being overwhelmed by bad feelings. I know this man doesn’t seem like the usual conduit for breakup advice but he really helped me. He simplified it and made me feel like I could get over my breakup: https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=wqr62xIFdq8 https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=guMDhsmVNHA https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=-cecBOlyKDw Give these a shot! Nothing to lose, I was surprised by how much they helped.
/r/askFDS03/05/21 06:48 AM
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I forgot who Elmer Fudd was, I knew I wouldn’t be disappointed when I googled it. HAHAHAHA.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/05/21 07:55 PM
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I love that idea!!!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/05/21 04:46 PM
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Hey! The amount of relief I had that I’m not the only one whose cousin completely ignores me. I was really hurt about it last year since she’s consistently shown she’s not interested in keeping in contact. So I changed my expectations completely and only reply to her and nothing more- no asking questions or calling. It’s really painful but you just have to realize some people don’t care to have you in their life, no matter how good a friend you think you are. They don’t care and I used to be stu…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/05/21 04:46 PM
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He seems rude and he’s not worth thinking about. Just block nothing more to say!
/r/askFDS29/04/21 07:30 PM
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Wow he really thinks he did something.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/04/21 07:07 PM
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I shouldn’t have read this. I feel like lunch coming up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/04/21 06:44 PM
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Right??? Jealousss, I wish I could have her as my mentor!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/21 08:12 PM
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How is he even finding people to date when he's such a despicable person?? Sad for Rose, I couldn't watch he disgusts me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/21 06:46 PM
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<3 hahaha trueee
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/21 06:30 PM
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And she was so sweeet and loving!! She seemed like such a gentle and lovable soul in e movie, along with grace and amazing style.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/21 06:30 PM
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She was iconic, loving, caring, and SO FABULOUS. And ofc a scheming man in her life tried to hold her down and thought he deserved all of her money. LOL, NEXT. He couldn't keep her down. One of the best disney movies <3.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/21 06:29 PM
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I'm sad for her!!! She's been brainwashed:( it's painful to watch. Also the people telling her it's cool and adorable and goals in the comments.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/21 05:15 AM
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What in the world! So sad.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/21 04:09 AM
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Right??? Nauseating. SHe was acting like a kid (because she is)! And him the disgruntled father.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/21 04:08 AM
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I would love to be an accountability buddy!
/r/askFDS22/04/21 01:14 AM
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Oh my dear god, he really dragged me for filth, I am a "hoar".
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/21 05:03 AM
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It won't even be in romance movies because I don't watch them! But that's good advice. For ex: Old guard, I think the relationship between Nicky and Joe iS SO BEAUTIFUL, it makes me heart ache.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/04/21 06:29 PM
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Agreed, thank you<3. I do occasionally see couples in shows/movies and want love. Like moments where I'm watching tenderness, adoration, and mutual respect play out on the screen and I'm clutching my chest thinking oh my GOD how freaking precious. Any advice on how to get rid of that? Other than pouring more love into my family and friends (I don't want a pet right now!)??
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/04/21 05:55 PM
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Before I became celibate I thought it would be so difficult, but i think that was just conditioning to make me panic about not having a man (ANY man) in my life. Almost a year in and I couldn't be happier, I'm sad a younger me didn't realize this sooner; would've saved me a lot of regret.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/04/21 05:45 PM
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My friend, you never deserved this behavior or to be treated this way. You and I are conditioned to stay and to overlook behavior like this, because being in single is so "shameful". Lean into the exciting things you have in your future, congrats on the acceptances and getting into your DREAM SCHOOL. Celebrate these accomplishes and how far you have come!! Please forgive yourself for staying longer than you should have. It's hard to leave, when we have been conditioned to stay. Please be kind to…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/21 08:09 PM
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"Maybe COVID shut off his phone access? What? No - block and delete" HAHAHAHA. <3 this guide.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/21 08:00 PM
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I woudl feel like the world's biggest dunce if someone gave me an award for washing dishes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/21 07:07 PM
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Adorable!! What kind of snakes do you have?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/21 07:05 PM
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DEADD
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/21 07:05 PM
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I'm trying to find friends to do this with!!!! Once some of them stop fearing single life so much, maybe it will happen... :(
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/21 07:04 PM
1

Hahaha facts!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/21 05:22 PM
3

I felt like suggesting her to ghost him was the best response. But my other friend descended and started talking about "oh my gosh. you should only put good energy out!! Only good energy always, and treat people like they want to be treated"- like I was the biggest schoolyard bully and needed to be lectured on the golden rule. They also said "NO! Don't do that!! That's so MEAAAAN, ghosting is so mean"- AND? Why are we advising a friend to bend over backwards to be nice to someone who does not ca…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/21 05:20 PM
1

Ahhhh
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/21 08:34 AM
42

I recently got into a fight w my friends because of this. They were really really angry when I suggested my friend ghost this guy who’s flaked on her multiple times and already told her months ago he wanted to stop talking. But she won’t keep messaging and he likes the attention and he helps her so obviously since she’s still highly available, he uses her as a therapist and basically a task rabbit to do his life planning stuff (booking TICKETS, writing resume and editing, thinking of a startup i…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/21 01:46 AM
2

Hey why’s thus count Olaf -Gru hybrid giving advice on tiktok?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/21 01:40 AM
15

Yeah ladies, lower your bar for sex entirely and give up! And don’t forget to “have fun!”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/21 01:38 AM
23

What the hell..? No, thanks. And if anyone told men this there would be a riot.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/21 01:37 AM
48

That disgusting trend makes my break out in hives. It’s so gross
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/21 01:30 AM
1

Lol so why isn't he with her then? Oh wait... was he not ready to "get tied down" and didn't put in any effort to the point where she cut her losses... Go ride your mountain bike dude, goodbye.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/04/21 02:28 PM
5

Hahahahaha this is so hilarious
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/21 05:49 PM
21

THis is so sad :(.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/21 06:15 PM
3

oh my god lmaooo
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/21 01:39 AM
2

Choking because I'm laughing so hard.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/21 01:39 AM
7

GIRL!!!! YOU'RE KILLING ME.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/21 01:38 AM
4

I'm laughing but I'm also disturbed. Ewww I'm calling the police because of the way he looked into the camera.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/21 01:37 AM
3

I watched this and then went to check out what products She defense sells- stun gun, flashlight, and pepper spray ALL IN ONE? I want it for my birthday! I also want the safety alarm.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/21 07:09 PM
57

"THEN MOVE BITCH" hahahahahha amazing. I'm not even looking for a HVM till post pandemic, but from what I've seen on this sub is that OLD is horrible and don't look there.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/21 05:31 PM
16

Right??? HUH wonder why. They're still trying to trap women into "settling" for someone who brings misery into their life, by instilling fear of being "unwanted" and a "cat lady". But I think hopefully more and more people are catching on.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/21 07:45 AM
32

Hahaha thank you for that hilarious look into his mind.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/21 07:42 AM
107

HAHHAHHAHAH, SO well put. I'm cackling.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/21 07:40 AM
6

Hahahahaha
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/21 01:53 AM
19

Gross as HELL
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/21 08:58 PM
15

Yeah he’s grosss I wish people would think more before they put celebrity men on a pedestal. Ex: my friend who thinks Leo is a catch.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/21 08:58 PM
23

hahahahahhhahahahaha oh my gosh you made me laugh so hard.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/03/21 07:09 PM
14

Right :( the religious brainwashing is so sad.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/21 02:32 AM
19

The way she spun the "why's he dragging you to save him now" question into "first of ALL, only Jesus can save." I was out immediately. Brainwashed.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/21 02:32 AM
24

The number of manipulative cheaters who've told me "first off I answer TO GOD" to hear it in his stupid apology video made me laugh. Also, oh word? God forgive him? I guess everything's fair game then.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/21 02:28 AM
27

HIs "Black Man don't CHEAT" shirt did not age well (not saying they all do, but seeing him wearing that shirt all haughtily cracked me up).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/21 02:27 AM
12

Haha, I wish they hadn't asked him anything and gave him no attention.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/03/21 05:25 PM
4

Yah mostly agree with teh message but no, seeing guys do extremely basic things like hygiene and cleaning up after themselves is not a turn on to me. It just ticks a box and nothing more.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/03/21 07:32 AM
8

Thanks for saving me time- someone suggested I watch that movie because it's empowering and funny. #3 &4 seriously happens? My god how did they romanticize that and weave it into the plot?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/03/21 07:29 AM
45

Right? I hate his smirking face. It's so infuriating.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/21 04:53 PM
9

I am angered for you. What an absolute piece of SHIT!!!!!!!!! Glad you're here, glad you're out of that. <3 Good for you, it probably took a lot of strength to get out of believing that you deserve that level of disrespect since it was 3 years.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/21 04:39 PM
10

Do you have any advice? I would love to hear it. It sounds like you have a really healthy mentality. I'm struggling with how I look. It makes me really sad that I'm not "hot". I have a hard time getting over it. I know my entire worth isn't tied to being attractive, but I would like to be because it would make me feel good about myself.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/21 04:29 PM
7

HAHAHAHHA same. I am laughing so hard.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/21 04:25 PM
7

YES. It's a shit test for sure.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/21 04:23 PM
2

​ HAHAHAHAHAHHAHA
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/21 04:18 PM
3

Ahhh right. I can't believe I was trying to convince someone I was worth their time when they weren't even worth mine. Bizarre.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/21 04:16 PM
1

That's so so so sad!!! I've been there except it made me so angry instead of loving men more lol .It makes sense that she's reacting this way, with the amount of shit spread on tiktok glorifying hookup culture and abuse (kinks are hot!!). After spending time with younger friends I would sum up their language towards men and relationships as "choke me daddy", "he could run me over with a car!!!", "he could step on me!!!". It's sickening. This is so sad, I wish I could give her a hug. She's going …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/21 04:16 PM
4

Puke & sick child??? Nooooo (kidding, I get where you're coming from). I would love to read the basket story though!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/21 03:47 PM
1

I'll type it up!! Oh yeah for sure, after they get access to your body suddenly the charm ends and they're "not in the place right now to keep up with a relationship, and it would be unfair to you...". Disgusting. It's like a game to get as much from you as they can and then discard you and laugh about it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/21 03:43 PM
62

Hahahaha good one. TRUE. Not all are like this!!! Generalizations are DANGEROUS and harmful to men's mental health. Wah.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/21 04:32 AM
6

"Wowza" is accurate, did a man write this because what in the hell.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/21 04:31 AM
6

Haha love it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/21 03:49 AM
5

Right?? It seems so see through- he was trying to inauthentically speed up the relationship and thought that's what she wanted to hear. I think because she has things figured out and he thought maybe he could mooch off of her and also probably to get sex from her.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/21 07:20 PM
9

I love it too!! HAHHAA
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/21 05:12 PM
4

you are too funny
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/21 05:46 AM
15

HAHHAHAHAHHAHAH
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/21 05:44 AM
39

Haha "I love that you're independent..." is right there with "I love that you're so chill and we can just do our own thing" ==> I'm really not trying to make this serious and will give you the lowest effort possible to have access to your body. UGH RIGHT THE "I love you" way too early on is SUCH a red flag and I wish I listened to myself and ran far away all the times it's happened. It is NOT A COMPLIMENT, it just means you're interacting with someone who's a liar or who's immature- or both!!! H…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/21 04:44 AM
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I've been meaning to compile!! I will write it up, especially now that you've mentioned you want to hear it :). You know so much of it is what I've believed in my gut how many/most men think, but I was always told I have "trust issues" or am too cynical(either jokingly by friends, or seriously and condescendingly by men) when I don't immediately believe a man's word. For ex: When I told my friend that MANY guys put that they're interested in a LTR just to get in your pants and that the guy she's…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/21 04:40 AM
9

Oh no way haha, that's perfect.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/21 04:35 AM
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Yeah men keep shoving "be chill" at us. So I am/will be chill- by ignoring all your messages or blocking. And YES "give an inch, they'll take a mile" is so true. I had a terrible acquaintance who would run his mouth all the time, and I would listen because it was useful information about the games men play when they're trying to use and dispose of you. He would joke about "shit-testing" women to see how much they would let slide, all the while acting like he wanted a relationship. And I would li…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/21 09:49 PM
3

best news :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/21 06:32 PM
2

This is so accurate. I usually feel super bad for the (women) pick me but I have non for the “male fuck me“.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/21 02:39 PM
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Thanks for sharing, this is good insight. And yeah the “men can’t listen to everything you say. WOMEN talk TOO damn much!” belief can go die. Listening and caring is what all my friends do for me... but I shouldn’t expect it from a male life partner. Sounds like bs. Also wow remembering siblings is the bare minimum. Glad you picked up on it. Hopefully you’re not talking to him anymore!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/21 02:35 PM
2

Haha yeah that's the perfect description.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/21 09:21 AM
2

Yepp!! Great reminder.
/r/askFDS16/03/21 10:03 PM
4

The age gap is a huge huge red flag, he's trying to use you and isn't even a generous person so it's a huge waste of time. Don't know if you're won over by the whole "sugar baby life is so luxe!!!" trend, but it's a life. Drop him and block, no need to even explain to him. This is creepy.
/r/askFDS16/03/21 10:03 PM
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HAHHAHA true.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/03/21 03:37 PM
16

I've had the same exact issue and bought into the "casual sex is FUN and liberating". I've matured now and my eyes are OPEN (THANK YOU FDS). Reminding myself these men are just trying to use me and discard has helped. Even if I just want sex, I've had many experiences where guys are disrespectful as hell about it, when there is absolutely no need to be (I'm already basically asking for the bare minimum, and they couldn't even do that!!). I remind myself they're not worth the disrespect. Also, as…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/21 04:59 PM
2

A woman needs a snake like a fish needs a bicycle. I just looked up this quote and read up on the woman who coined it (Irina Dunn according to google). It made me laugh so hard, I love it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/21 06:56 AM
3

My favorite post was from a woman who said she was walking with her boyfriend to meet his parents since they had recently agreed to be exclusive. On their way there they run into a lady friend of his, and he introduced OP as “just a friend” instead of his girlfriend. OP said they’re actually not friends, they’re barely acquaintances. She tells them goodbye and leaves with the dessert tray. I think about this story a lot. I;ve told all my friends.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/21 06:22 AM
2

REwatching this video for the tenth time because I love her delivery hahaha.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/21 07:50 PM
3

A fool.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/21 06:28 AM
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I think this is a good idea! I think unfortunately, people just want to vent sometimes and this sub is a place for them to find support. Unfortunately it has led to an increase in stressful posts of how much men hate us. Which I definitely do click on to some extent, but am realizing more and more that it does nothing for my mental health other than to make me enraged. Hope your idea gains traction soon!!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/03/21 07:16 AM
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Good point! I'm sorry this sub has been so triggering to you. I hope it goes back to strategies about navigating life etc, soon. But until that happens maybe Ask FDS or the level up sub would be less triggering and actually give you more tips/advice. I wasn't sure if you'd already seen those subs, so just a suggestion.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/03/21 07:13 AM
3

I'm so so proud of you!!!!! THis is a really hard habit to stop and takes a lot of self control and self love!!! Amazing <3 <3. SO happy for you!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/03/21 07:03 AM
2

I've forgiven NEITHER of us. Hahaha. Just kidding, this is a great reminder. Thank you for posting! Definitely working on forgiving myself and making progress. He is trash, and but I am working on indifference :).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/03/21 07:00 AM
1

HAHAH SAME!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/03/21 06:58 AM
1

:) Yeah good reminder! I love indifference.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/03/21 06:58 AM
2

I feel like a man had to write this hahahaha. But maybe I'm wrong and it's really just a woman who hates women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/03/21 06:55 AM
8

Bye Bradley. What a HEADASS. And yes, we do got you <3!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/03/21 06:40 AM
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Disgusting. Hopefully this was eye opening and helped some younger women somewhere out there to stay away from old guys grooming them and NOT TO BE EASILY IMPRESSED. This sub would've been such a gamechanger if I knew of it during my undergrad years :(. Thanks for sharing this- I think it really rips off the bandaid and helps us to better protect ourselves.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/21 10:56 PM
3

Any advice on how you got over the regret?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/21 03:54 AM
29

What was the point of getting her to pose nude while going into detail about painful experiences? How many times is the same, tired, excuse of “naked=vulnerability” going to be used by male “artists”?!?! Her words and story cut deep, they are vulnerable enough.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/03/21 10:33 AM
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This is heartbreaking, I wish I could hug her💔. The quiet, “but it’s okay” after saying she was molested and abused. I’m so enraged. That top comment from that garbage man completely misses the point. Is he not even a human being? How is that all he could say???
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/03/21 10:27 AM
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SICK!!!! This is horrific It breaks my heart to think of this, but in undergrad, I was like this woman- pursuing guys so hard. I would straight up just ask guys I found attractive if they wanted to fuck. 😭It makes me so sad to think about.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/03/21 10:23 AM
32

Same!!!! I'm sad I ever EVER HAD SEX. It makes me so sad.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/03/21 06:08 AM
24

SAME! I thought so too!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/21 06:03 PM
62

Well at least she deleted it. God, the laughing at the end was so horribly mean.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/21 06:03 PM
39

Ew. What the hell. This was so cruel and condescending.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/21 06:02 PM
2

AHHHHH hahahahahahaa I have no words.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/21 05:57 PM
6

Gut stuffed pus bag nooooo I’m crying
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/21 04:49 AM
9

I ran to the comment section bc I knew the comments would be HILARIOUS. And you did not disappoint.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/21 04:49 AM
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He is DISMAYED. HHAHAHA what an idiot. Sorry he's harassing you with his messages when you've made it clear you don't want to communicate.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/21 03:34 AM
43

Love the energy!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/21 05:44 PM
4

Yesssss. Same.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/21 05:37 PM
11

He's disgusting!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/21 06:56 PM
31

Yes the "best friends with ex" being a sign of maturity thing was constantly told to me by my cheating ex. Hahahahhaa never again.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/21 06:55 PM
9

Such a good question!! I completely relate to this!!! I have had this issue for years- I rely on money too much for making myself happy. Clothes and FOOD are my main problem. I get such highs from placing an order and buying myself a pizza. To combat this pattern, I stopped online shopping for clothes (haven't bought clothes since November) and browsing clothes online for fun. I found that the online shopping addiction has dwindled for the most part. The food thing is trickier for me and I somet…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/21 01:16 AM
5

Hahahaha too true.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/21 06:16 PM
123

She's married to a corpse. Sad that this is glorified as "modern love".
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/21 05:15 AM
4

EXACTLY what I thought. Ninja is scum.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/21 05:50 AM
3

Thank you for the positivity and kindness!!
/r/askFDS19/02/21 06:25 PM
3

It's my default mode to daydream. I realized it's a problem for me because I feel trapped in it, I am struggling to keep myself grounded. I feel not in control of my thoughts at all and now that I've noticed it I feel like I'm constantly fighting my own mind. On a more positive note- I've never read Anne of Green Gables, but I think I might now!
/r/askFDS19/02/21 06:06 PM
2

Definitely agree with you here- the daydreaming makes me feel so much worse because I know it's not real. So it's like I'm putting salt on my wounds. Thank you for the advice!!!! Hilariously I generally cannot try reading or watching a show to get my mind off it because I start daydreaming about that content. the last show I casually started triggered daydreams for 9 days and I felt really trapped because I would daydream about it for HOURS and feel like I couldn't get out of it. I'll try to fin…
/r/askFDS19/02/21 06:01 PM
3

Thank you for this advice!! True, I'm definitely trying to get to the next step and improve myself. I definitely feel like whenever I've overcome one hurdle, there's the next one to overcome. For ex: when I first got a job I was happy for a little bit and then stressed about getting a promotion. Basically I'm saying nothing feels like enough.
/r/askFDS19/02/21 05:57 PM
18

Wow the context makes it even worse. Why is he being such a smug piece of shit and coming at someone for wanting to have a washing machine? He's already an unwashed idiot, can't he just stay silent?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/21 08:04 PM
11

Right? WHy wouldn't I want to change after a day.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/21 08:01 PM
14

In awe of you for overcoming SO MUCH. Glad you're ignoring the bozos telling you that your problem is "asking for too much". You are amazing!! I hope you've been able to cut out your dad and I'm so glad you're divorcing your disgusting ex. Sending positivity and love your way. So happy you've found FDS <3 it's made my life so much better.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/21 07:59 PM
38

Yep their needs, their wants, their religion, their mom, their texts with their mom, the funny thing their mom said once, loving their mom, all the times their mom has talked about hating any woman they bring home. YIKES.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/21 04:45 PM
61

BLECH. Vomit inducing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/21 07:36 AM
211

Ridiculous that this is so common. My ex actually debated me on whether brushing twice a day was necessary. The man had a growth on the back of his throat from not brushing (and resulted in horrible breath because it was due to so much bacteria build up) but he still denied it and said it was just a random occurrence and his teeth were "really nice"(they were nice but still. BRUSH YOUR TEETH?!). I was out soon after but should've been gone sooner.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/21 07:35 AM
93

I WISH my friends who have sex on the first date and get HURT repeatedly and would choose to shamelessly VET. Instead they keep getting used and ghosted repeatedly. And its covid so yes, you guessed correctly, they're having sex after a walking date. Anyone witness this repeatedly with their friends and have any tips? I just hear the same stories on repeat and it makes me so, so sad. They're lovely people who are being treated like fleshlights. One guy wouldn't walk my friends TEN MINUTES to her…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/21 01:45 AM
14

hahaha
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/21 01:38 AM
3

Hook up culture is poison. This is why it makes me so so sad that I have several friends on apps right now who thinking sleeping with a guy early on or as soon as they feel like it is necessary and won't get them hurt and used. They always tell me that "closing people off" isn't good. It's better to be safe than be used by some trash person (speaking from experience). I've never ever ever regretted passing up on sleeping with someone. But regret every single on of my hookups. One of my friends w…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/21 01:32 AM
7

Truly!! Without it I'd be in a miserable relationship w a lying cheater and trying to convince myself otherwise. Thank god I saw the light.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/21 12:35 AM
4

I don't even know who the man speaking is, but he sounds truly vile just from this <10 min soundbite.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/21 12:34 AM
1

Yeah speaking for myself, the chase for external validation was very strong when I was 16-21 :(. I really bundled male attention w self worth and it resulted in horrible decisions.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/21 12:33 AM
2

HAHAHAHA who knows he also has a store where he sells bikes? Something. Unsure.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/21 12:30 AM
3

If you look up ADam "No jumper" or whatever you'll find his shit, crass, podcasts. They make me feel really ill so fair warning.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/21 08:07 PM
9

RIGHT????????????????????????????????? WHAT!!!!!!! My mind is BLOWN. These are the men telling us to check ourselves. He looks unshowered.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/21 08:05 PM
3

Wow.... this is so true. I think this absolutely what I've done many times.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/21 08:02 PM
3

HAHAH such a good SNL sketch. And so :( TRAGIC that this has been me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/21 07:51 PM
12

I agree, It really irritates me when I get backlash from my friends who believe rapists and murders deserve a second chance. What about the life they purposefully and violently snuffed out?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/21 07:45 PM
10

Most of the daughter's boyfriends were walking RED FLAGS. So yeah no other HVM in that show. I didn't watch it fully but was the Chef's husband HV?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/21 06:45 PM
7

Yesss how could I forget
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/21 06:44 PM
9

Deaadddd. And I love the username.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/21 06:36 PM
9

HAHAHAHAH one of those southern Spaniards. Lmaoo.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/21 06:35 PM
1

Yikes, I know she's making good money but thought hopefully he was matching her income and not leaching off her.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/21 06:14 PM
2

The white dude with the tattoos is Adam. Don't both watching his stuff because it'll make you feel ill.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/21 06:11 PM
5

Future is SUCH a piece of shit. If anyone sees him they should just run in the other direction, he's poison.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/21 04:26 AM
8

Oh wow really, I'm thinking of doing this haha.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/21 04:22 AM
11

This profile was extra.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/21 04:17 AM
20

"Why do females..." his voice, tone, and pacing of his speech everything is bringing back flashbacks. I've known so many dumbasses who are replicas of this man.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/21 04:14 AM
12

Oooh haven't heard that one yet!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/21 04:10 AM
24

hahahaha she definitely doesn't
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/21 04:10 AM
99

Yes!! I love this song, it's always on my workout playlist. Love the shade. And the media painted her out to be so intolerable and such a "diva". So much hate when a woman has boundaries haha.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/21 04:10 AM
42

Adam is so disgusting. Any video he has with his girlfriend he's just treating her like a thing he can show off. Cannot believe they're having a baby. But ofc he hasn't proposed.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/21 04:05 AM
39

I hope they do!!!!!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/21 04:04 AM
3

Thank you friend!!! <3 Happy for you, and happy he only add positivity!!! That's how it should be :).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/21 04:03 AM
2

Hey!! Thanks for the suggestion! Unfortunately, I have one already and use it every night.
/r/askFDS16/02/21 05:44 PM
2

I'm very very allergic to cats and dogs unfortunately!
/r/askFDS16/02/21 05:39 PM
92

Ugh also "wow you're so petty" or "you have no chill", "I thought you were cool". When it just means you usually have boundaries, and are reacting to someone trying to push your boundaries. Will never be embarrassed when a man makes dig at me using those statements again.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/21 05:54 PM
28

Right? Like I'm good.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/21 08:21 AM
13

Yeah, heck. I'm convinced!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/21 08:20 AM
12

Okay got it! Message received, I won't.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/21 08:20 AM
2

RIGHT I'm AMAZED. Thought you were a godly man, but how are you going to be able to "witness God's love" with your head so far up your own ass? That's my question. ALSO my very very very Christian ex was told by his pastor that he had an ego problem. When I tell you this man was PRESSED about it 4 years later, I laughed so hard when he told me because he was like "can you believe what this pastor man told me??? Told me I have an ego problem. Psh! Craziness." And I was like "yes, I can totally be…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/21 08:15 AM
28

YESS and it's so powerful and beautiful. A year ago I was terrified of being single. I stayed with someone I suspected was cheating and tried to "work on it" because if I didn't try then I would be alone, and who knew when I would find my next partner (and at least he wasn't abusing me like the partner before him). I've changed so much. Being single is never embarrassing
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/21 11:57 PM
46

SERIOUSLY!!! Men claim we're somehow dangerous and toxic when literally all we ask is to leave us alone. And they come here with rape threats, hurling profanities to the point where the sub advises disabling messaging. They're just mad we can't use us.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/21 11:55 PM
3

Adorable!!!! This is so sweet. The cake looks gorgeous, love the color. Also love how it matches the flowers.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/21 11:52 PM
13

Oh word, so she's just a thing to be used to him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/21 11:49 PM
4

Same! The only thing worse than a selfish man with a giant ego, is one who also believes he's God's favorite child.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/21 11:45 PM
18

Awwww!! So sweet!! Sending love and thank you for these beautifully painted flowers and your beautiful message!!❤️❤️💕❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/21 09:10 AM
38

JT is trash. I feel like he never had any repercussions for what he did.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/21 09:06 AM
6

LOVE IT!!!!!!!!! As someone who's trying to work on building upper body strength right now, this is super cool!! <3 Happy Valentine's day!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/21 01:14 AM
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Yeah not sure why people would be mad even if this is fake. Isn't it better than "fake" videos of men slapping their girlfriends, rating women on the street, and verbally abusing women in public?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/21 01:02 AM
2

I'm so sorry this has happened to you again. At least you know you CAN and WILL be able to get through it no matter how painful it seems right now. I just went through this in June and was surprised by how well No Contact right off the bat worked. Are you planning on fully going no contact?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/21 12:59 AM
6

He sounds like a garbage person. I'm sorry this happened to you <3 but I'm so glad you were able to move out asap. Breakups were rough, breakups where there's serious betrayal is even worse. I've been there., Please dm if you need to talk. Here to listen!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/21 07:29 PM
29

Yeah seriously, I don't think they notice any of the cute little moments or small details about a person (that my friends and I notice with each other).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/21 05:28 PM
19

HAHAHHA amazing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/21 05:27 PM
37

HAHAHAHA
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/21 05:26 PM
13

He thinks he's really special and deep..."I appreciate the important things in life more than anything". OKay dude. FAKE. Glad you saw through this bullshit and BLOCKED!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/21 05:24 PM
13

Yeah imagine comparing someone's self preservation/fear for their LIFE, the fear that if they don't pay attention their life will be brutally cut short- with feeling irked like people maybe don't trust you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/21 07:55 PM
65

Same, I hope they get what they deserve. What a heartbreaking story.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/21 05:43 AM
79

Horrific. How heart breaking. And this is why I'm on edge, if I go running, if I'm in the parking lot. Anywhere I am and a man shows up, I keep an eye on them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/21 05:42 AM
10

Right? That's what I thought- I'm surprised people are making fun of her instead of feeling pity. There are so many red flags when seeing these pictures.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/21 06:40 AM
3

This is so sad!!!! I want to give her a hug
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/21 03:02 AM
3

This really scared me oh my gosh
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/21 06:57 PM
8

YIKES!!!!!! I throw a mini party every time a friend breaks up with their disgusting bf. There have been 3 this year! But one of the dead-end relationships has been ongoing for THREE years (but no, at 26, he absolutely cannot imagine marrying her bc of fear of being "tied down" and yes, he still talks to his exes ;) ofc). Don't know when or if the breakup will happen. Totally feel your frustration when he keeps hurting her repeatedly. Oh and they just moved in together :). Into a place that his …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/21 12:58 AM
26

I know it's so exhausting, decided I don't want kids. DOn't want the stress. Amazed at the woman who are able to.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/21 05:04 AM
10

I LOVE HER hahahhaa
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/21 03:35 PM
112

It’s me looking at myself in the mirror
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/21 06:28 AM
37

I think she deactivated? Sadly I can’t find her either:(. Loved this video though!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/21 11:47 PM
21

RIGHT? Who wrote it, it's so sad.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/21 11:20 AM
10

This is just abuse :( so sad that she's scared and thinks this is normal now. He's disgusting.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/21 11:19 AM
13

Yeah that’s what I wondered as welll and I was like nooooo:/
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/21 02:02 AM
41

Oh so true, rap music is basically dead to me other than some female rappers.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/21 07:25 AM
6

Thank you!!!!!! Adding to my list <3
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/21 07:16 AM
1

Thank you! I will try and keep that in mind next time I feel like hurling because of men I've ever let touch me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/21 05:21 AM
3

Wow people are so mean. I LOVE her videos, they make me so happy :) and she looks so happy skating, can't imagine hating on it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/21 11:50 PM
3

Great advice, thank you!! I am working on this :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/21 11:49 PM
15

Which sitcom??
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/21 11:40 PM
1

This is exactly how I've felt for months now- ever since I woke UP. I was also planning on posting this question on Ask FDS too but if anyone can please offer some advice, I've been really struggling with this. I went through a bad phase where I was so constantly binge drinking and felt sex-obsessed (I now realize, I was desperate for validation, looked for it in the wrong places). I had a year where I hooked up with some disrespectful men, but the last one (after which I took a long break from …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/21 11:29 PM
5

Hahaha probably
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/21 02:42 AM
14

You don't understand! Gold retains value! It's worth never changes even if the stock market takes a hit. I remember silently staring at him and thinking "oh my god. I've let someone so unintelligent and arrogant, hurt my feelings...shame on me."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/21 02:42 AM
39

HAHAHA my ex was very proudly telling me his plan to buy and bury gold and gave me a lecture about gold being an extremely secure investment and what I should do too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/21 07:51 PM
61

The lyrics are AWFUL. The first time I listened to it, I had to stop and look up lyrics because I was so sure I was hearing it wrong. Don't even get me started on the "meet your mama on a Monday, then make a lotta love on a Sunday (whatever the heck the day was)." Just sad :( Weird and offensive message. Why are we bragging about switching Positions between the KITCHEN AND THE BEDROOM. It's like going back in time. What happened to God is a Woman? I don't like how this "I'm so submissive I'll br…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/21 05:25 PM
6

This was hard to watch. Yuck. Unsure if she deletes comments but the fact that no one in the comment section is grossed out that this predatory man went after her when she was a teen...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/21 04:43 AM
17

Thank youuu
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/21 04:47 AM
1

wonderful
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/21 08:58 PM
2

HAHAHA amazing
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/21 08:58 PM
5

Proud of you!!!!! Agreed, LET HIM ROT!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/21 04:28 PM
8

I said the same stupid thing, you’re not alone. Can’t believe who I used to be :( so naive and misguided.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/21 04:25 PM
3

HAHAHA
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/21 04:24 PM
9

I’m so sorry! But you’re free now. I hate when gross memories like that resurface :/ so much regret.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/21 04:24 PM
7

Yeah TikTok has really been spreading it around. Also that disgusting movie “365 days” didn’t help- just normalized manipulation and violence even more.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/21 04:08 PM
19

Yep and that being” kinky “is cool and being “vanilla” is worse than death. I remember one year my friend kept saying “choke me daddy” “he can step on me” etc. constantly and I was so horrified. But she really bought into this “he can hit me if he’s hot” idea and thought it was so sexy. I had no words.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/21 04:06 PM
13

She’s amazing!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/21 03:58 PM
19

He looks a little like that creepy statue that blew up on creepy pasta- Momo
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/21 03:58 PM
29

Disgusting phrasing. I can’t believe it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/21 03:57 PM
13

Yesssssss 💕💕💕 Just yesterday after months of me passing along lessons from FDS, my friend finally ended it with her trash bf (who refused to get tested and whined about condom usage, oh and he wouldn’t walk her home late at night). So this is perfect timing
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/21 03:13 AM
4

LOVE Ashniko
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/21 08:25 AM
5

Hahahaha yeah I was just thinking that- the song didn’t match. But it was catchy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/21 08:24 AM
3

Yesssssss I’ve been waiting for this since I saw it in theatres (like in an actual movie theatre which feels like pens ago) pre covid.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/21 08:13 AM
28

Yeah... those feet were disgusting
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/21 05:11 AM
22

HAHAHAHAHA you cracked me up
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/21 05:10 AM
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The word “pounding” is so aggressive I can’t. It sounds so violent to me, I can’t believe it’s normalized.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/21 06:31 PM
24

Oh shoot didn’t realize they dated. All the rappers are so trash. I used to like ASAP till I paid attention to his lyrics and watched an interview. 🤮
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/21 06:29 PM
36

Careful- we wouldn’t want to kink shame anyone who gets aroused by violence would we? 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/21 02:26 AM
6

Lol. I’m never doing it again. Can’t believe I ever did and just like he said- pretended to enjoy it. I’m disgusted.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/21 02:22 AM
6

I wanted to buy it to support the author. Did you like it or was it just okay?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/21 03:16 AM
3

Hilarious.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/21 03:11 AM
1

Um did he say "Jerb". Also the all caps wow, what a crazy, emotional man.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/21 03:02 AM
9

Yesss girl!!! Go get it girl!!! Get that (disappointing) dick!! This is why women need to chase men more!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/21 02:57 AM
4

"Submit" he says. Blech.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/21 02:51 AM
10

I know :( so tragic he said he won't cheat though. You think he'll make an exception? Lmao.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/21 02:50 AM
1

Sounds fishy,
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/21 02:48 AM
13

I never understood the "I don't believe in birthday's/Valentines day/anniversaries" guys. It doesn't make sense to not want to make someone who is special to you feel special. Who cares if these days are a capitalist construct bla bla bla. I'm sorry you were treated this way. LOL my friend is unfortunately dating one of these rich but miserly guys right now- he venmoed her for a $7 uber. Also she is living with him briefly for a short period (maybe 3 months) in a new place he bought - he is char…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/21 02:43 AM
10

I might cry, this is beautiful
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/21 02:34 AM
6

John Krasinski beard is always welcome.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/21 02:27 AM
10

HAHAHAHHA
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/21 02:27 AM
2

Oh well, happens to the best of us. What did you say?? Either way now you can ignore him forever. He is irrelevant. Hope you're not too upset about it! This man was a waste of time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/21 05:16 AM
2

Ignore it Don’t even acknowledge I hope you haven’t already
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/21 05:45 PM
2

HAHAHAH I missed that
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/21 01:24 AM
21

“Nunya”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/21 09:24 PM
2

Adorable!!! This just solidifies my goal of getting a sweet cat someday.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/21 11:58 PM
13

That's a beautiful ring! I'm so sorry that happened to you, I'm happy you're thriving.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/21 11:57 PM
1

Yes. I don't believe in virginity shaming either. I didn't say I was virginity shaming, it was just uncomfortable to watch. Yes, it's part of the times either way I'm uncomfortable with them wanting a blushing, childish bride. That's it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/21 11:56 PM
10

Yeah it was trash. A lot of my friends were lapping it up and cooing over it. Yes Simon is hot- but isn’t it really sad that Daphne has 0 clue about anything. Also she looked 13.5 I was shocked that she is in her 20s! Not sure if that was intention- NOT bashing her looks was just uncomfortable watching it because she looks and acts so wide-eyed and childishly confused about sex and marriage.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/21 11:54 PM
6

What a total creep
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/21 11:48 PM
1

You’re not old! You’re authentic🌸 FYP stand for ‘For You Page’. The KAM is something you should look up for yourself since I cannot explain it on here. But to add some more info, it’s often used and the pressed boys who don’t see why we say it, use a much more horrible thing in response on it, as if it’s not already happening for decades Thank you!! I will check these women out
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/20 03:47 AM
39

Yeah seriously. S/o to my ex and his constant obsession with having 4 children!!! HAHAHA.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/20 03:43 AM
93

Agreed, 19 year olds are babies!! Literally teenagers.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/20 03:33 AM
114

I'm so proud! Not even kinda
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/20 03:30 AM
24

He "stood his ground" HAHHAHA. How brave. Those women are hilarious, the singing part made me laugh. SO proud of them for not just sitting their uncomfortably or letting him linger around and gawk at them like the creep he is.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/20 03:30 AM
27

YEP was just going to comment this. He can definitely choke, I second that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/20 03:23 AM
18

Spat my water out.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/20 03:21 AM
139

Yes when we say it we're man-haters and too angry. We just need to calm down. Right? Barf.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/20 03:20 AM
34

This tweet made me giggle.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/20 03:19 AM
3

It's so depressingly sad :(I wish motherhood wasn't marketed (AKA shoved down our throats) as a cure-all, wonderland where you're a family and the LVM you found turns into a prince because you painfully produced children. Nah jokes, he's obsessed with passing down his genes, but is he going to put in the work to care for those genes of his? Nope.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/20 03:18 AM
1

Really proud of you!!! I know many of the people in the comments say that there are men out there who don't watch porn. I haven't met any (haven't met any HVM period, except some of my family members) and was told by my ex that it was normal. He used to be addicted to porn- like staying at home holed up in his room all day just to consume more and more porn like a sicko, some zealous college friends eventually converted lmao and he became a weirdo fanatic along with them. Because I hadn't met an…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/20 03:16 AM
4

​ Wtf?? Can you send some links, I googled this multiple variations and couldn't find an article about this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/20 03:10 AM
3

Yeah hahaha because cutting men off means we don't give them a thousand chances to use up our emotional energy and use us for sex!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/20 03:01 AM
3

^^ yeah seriously.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/20 02:59 AM
3

​ Proud of you!!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/20 02:58 AM
3

Ew the trying to convert you sound horrible. Been there. Never again. HAPPY FOR YOU!! And same here, my friend was trying to set me up with someone but I told her I'm good. Here's to an amazing 2021 without any background noise and bullshit and the lies<3
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/20 02:58 AM
13

My heart dropped when she started carrying that baby. They have a KID together. But he is not willing to unfollow a girl.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/20 07:12 PM
23

Wild that it took you an HOUR. That's disgusting. Thanks for sending the link to report.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/20 07:07 PM
16

Ethical means... they don't have any of the commitment but expect 2x+ the sex. Wow who wins there?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/20 06:45 AM
71

YEP I agree so much- it's not that hard. It should not be that hard for them to not go on onlyfans, watch porn thrice a day, and also text their ex;).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/20 06:45 AM
29

HAHHAHA you are hilarious.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/20 05:18 AM
41

Thank you for this update!!!!! I was really worried
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/20 05:18 AM
39

This is incredibly scary and nauseating to hear. Is she safe??? Does anyone know. Edit: someone confirmed that she was okay!!! Thank god.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/20 05:16 AM
33

I also somehow doubt he made this and the entire post of his is a lie. Just a thought, and I would have thought that was completely ridiculous (why would someone lie and take credit someone else's work??). But I cleaned my ex (trash)boyfriend very messy room and made HIS BED for him, he proudly took a picture of it and sent a picture in his family group chat. Pathetic!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/20 06:44 AM
2

This was so wisely put. I struggled with this for too long in my last relationship. Thank you for sharing your wisdom with us. Saving this post for the future <3. Thank you and I'm so happy you're leaving a marriage with someone who wasn't worth your time. What a fantastic start to the new year- cutting that dead freaking weight.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/20 06:29 AM
3

YES THIS. My friend has been sexually active for 10+ years and was assuring me "it's okay he (the guy she's been hooking up with for the month) doesn't need to get tested... we use protection." I SCREAMED. And this is all her backing down and thinking it's "too much" to ask because he said getting tested was too expensive. The man makes 6 figures (and makes her pay for everything). I kept screaming and haven't stopped. But at least she uses protection now, I had to convince her it was important.…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/12/20 10:24 PM
25

“No!! That’s not true, they aren’t using the same lines on everyone!! Plus it’s just a dating app so you should expect cheesy pick up lines. It’s not a big deal!!”- my friend when I told her for the 5th time that I KNEW that the skeevy guy on hinge has coincidentally also told someone else I knew that she’s the “most beautiful thing he’s ever seen.” Yeah... 4 months later, after he used her for sex and was extremely pushy she called in tears, traumatized. And he ghosted.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/12/20 09:13 PM
21

HAHHAHA as IF this message would somehow change your mind magically and make you less sure about the no hookups thing. 🤮
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/12/20 09:11 PM
6

Can you report him to whatever company he works for?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/12/20 02:54 AM
3

I've been trying to help so many of my friends but yeah, I can only try and give them advice so many times. I understand your frustration so much. And the worst part is I have to sit and listen to them wonder why they feel hurt and confused all the time. :( One of them has a "boyfriend" who reluctantly got into a relationship with her after a year of pursuing other people openly, he also hits on her friends a lot and repeatedly brings her down professionally (by making her look incompetent in fr…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/12/20 02:35 AM
2

Wish I could send this to my friend but I don't think she's ready.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/12/20 07:49 PM
1

I think I'm going to.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/12/20 07:44 PM
2

LOOL this sad, but accurate correction.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/12/20 07:44 PM
12

Reminds me of Mr. "Incredible"'s (in quotations because I don't know if he deserves the name at all) behavior in Incredibles 2. Incredibly disgusting, immature, and toxic. EW.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/12/20 07:27 PM
3

What a trash person 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/20 10:38 PM
2

That's great!! Yeah having not only bad sex, but bad sex with a shit person, is never worth the attention.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/20 09:15 PM
2

RIGHT??! :) I'm sad and confused by my friends who are devastated that they're single.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/20 09:14 PM
2

Hi!!! Same here!! And thank god for that, I used to be so obsessed with it especially in college. Now that I've stopped thinking about it, there's such a sense of calm.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/20 09:12 PM
6

SAME I HAVE SO MANY. "Sex work is work!!!" I never said it wasn't, I'm commenting on the industry as a whole taking advantage and abusing women. How do you deal with your friends who are trying to "help" sex workers thinking they are paving the way for feminism?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/20 09:01 PM
25

I'm sad for her :( I feel like I used to be this way- overly explicit in an attempt to get validation (because if I mention blowing people- they'll know I'm so fun!!). I look back and cringe so hard.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/20 08:46 PM
4

So pathetic. And disgusting that they're missing the entire point- that PH is a cesspool of rape, abuse, and cp. But instead they're stuck on mourning the deletion of their favorite videos rather than being horrified about the fact that they're supporting an industry and company that has abused people.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/20 08:33 PM
8

Where was this posted and I hope he's getting told that he's disgusting.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/20 06:47 AM
1

ooh what happened?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/12/20 08:27 PM
5

Ew yeah I wish more people knew Jim Carrey was a terrible person. I don't know how they cannot tell. He's always scared me, like I see him and alarm bells go off. I've even had several dreams where the devil is chasing me and he has the face of Jim Carrey.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/12/20 08:27 PM
8

Revolting. How is this funny
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/12/20 03:36 AM
20

Yes we should do this. Leo would win so many of these categories.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/12/20 03:28 AM
6

I’m sad for you Collete.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/12/20 03:23 AM
68

It’s insanity to me that a PUA was invited on a talk show. And meanwhile feminism is a bad word 🤣.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/12/20 03:22 AM
34

Yeah isn’t that fucking convenient that he only knows It after he uses her?? But yeah she shouldn't complain- it’s a problem w her.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/12/20 03:19 AM
12

Yep! It makes me irate to hear buffoons talk about how want “a bunch of kids” or even one idiot who said “I want a small brood”. Ew. I constantly hear this from guys who minimize and trivialize the burden of pregnancy, childbirth, & raising children for women. Trash. Fuck that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/12/20 08:02 PM
10

Yeppp it seems so obvious but the attachment made me second guess myself for MONTHS.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/12/20 08:20 AM
4

I think she’s kidding
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/12/20 08:12 AM
63

What the fuck did I just watch. Wow this is disgusting and so brazenly open about sexualizing children.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/12/20 07:55 AM
12

That behavior defies all logic🤣that’s unreal that they’ll still deny he did anything and that she’s just a lying woman.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/12/20 03:25 AM
7

Was about to post this! Her description of how he tore her down is heartbreaking. She is amazing for coming out of it and having the courage to describe her abuse to the world when she knows shit people will be tearing her down and scrutinizing her.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/12/20 03:24 AM
5

That's so scary!! That's really terrifies- someone who is quality until they suddenly tire of being respectful and flip the switch.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/20 09:07 PM
19

RIGHT???? "Tie her up by his necK". WHat sick, porn-fueled fantasy is this?? He thinks that's okay? It's disgusting.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/20 05:02 AM
26

When I read "Somebody's boyfriend reached out to me today" I thought this was DEFINITELY going a different way. Pleasantly surprised<3.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/12/20 11:15 PM
20

You can't stop biology, women are very visual creatures. Sex is a need for us. She did not mean to hurt him or anything, you can't ask a human to act against their natural instinct. We are biologically created to breed.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/20 04:03 AM
67

Yep also an added BONUS to religious dudes- they always think they're nice and kind just because they are followers of Christ. Have so many notes from my religious ex, could write a book.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/20 03:58 AM
58

"Cristian" LOL
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/20 03:56 AM
6

Same.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/20 07:22 AM
48

She's gorgeous, it makes me sad when people even post on those subs.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/12/20 01:56 AM
6

Yeah this is a really gross and dangerous message.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/11/20 03:00 AM
5

YUP exactly my experience!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! It's not worth the risk and burden we have in terms of sex at ALL>
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/11/20 03:00 AM
3

Is she okay? Also by "Sustainable" does she mean- dry texts and barely any effort... from someone who likes you enough to use your body but no more than that? As someone who was brainwashed as an undergrad into thinking casual sex was so empowering... fwb make you usually feel worse.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/11/20 02:58 AM
4

My friend just did this and was very very very proud of herself. I felt so sad.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/11/20 02:53 AM
2

This is so so sad :///
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/11/20 02:51 AM
6

Well said!!!! Wow, did I need this post months ago. This is a great way to put it. Beware of people who will come at you saying thing aren't "black and white" hahaha boy did I fall for that one. It made me doubt my gut instinct that he was acting really shady.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/11/20 07:00 PM
1

haha I liked the voice too- then I saw this video: https://www.tiktok.com/@carlo.malis/video/6891685167941963013?_d=secCgsIARCbDRgBIAMoARI%2BCjxo%2FiBy1h0mIV7BvPPc8A6d%2F%2Fa609ALgnQCWBkPaCSC%2Fp71QZhRF4IebN%2BESj8vvpNYQcOXTf6uKPdV8isaAA%3D%3D&language=sv&preview_pb=0&sec_user_id=MS4wLjABAAAAbBT6rrkKNn8VdXVTfB1U50z6UZvBukU5L9WLYfBz8E5Am0rru6eW0AEaNWnpB-fb&share_app_name=musically&share_item_id=6891331883032907014&share_link_id=38f6dc10-37c0-485d-9bf9-2a9fcbce0759&timestamp=1604673828&u_code=ddaf…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/11/20 09:56 PM
3

What the hell
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/11/20 09:29 PM
62

Same!!! My friends act so appalled that I would ever say such a thing. Why? The rapists come out of jail to do the same thing and it's such a soul destroying, disgusting act that they have committed multiple times , but suggesting the death penalty is somehow too "extreme".
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/11/20 09:28 PM
25

"Poor doods" what an imbecile.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/11/20 09:37 PM
58

Basically: ​ Narcissist. Narcissist. Narcissist. Narcissist. Narcissist. Narcissist. Narcissist. Narcissist.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/11/20 03:21 AM
16

Yeah I was so confused by that use of "we".
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/11/20 03:20 AM
17

That's so sad :(. She'll probably leave feeling used and feeling like crap but confused because isn't "shooting your shot" supposed to be empowering!!! This has happened to me before, and I was like "wait... I thought hookups were supposed to be fun, why do I feel disrespected?". She's just really drank the kool-aid, I feel for her because I've been there.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/11/20 03:18 AM
3

Agreed!! The face we're shamed for trust issues makes me laugh now. Before it used to make me doubt myself, which I'm realizing is exactly what people wanted- for me to ignore my gut and the red flags. Never again.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/11/20 03:16 AM
42

Why isn’t he driving to her...... Also I hope she realizes she is 100% driving hours and he just expects sex. I doubt there’s going to be much else.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/11/20 10:12 PM
75

Oh my gosh a 40 year old out of shape man with ED??? I want him so bad! LOL the delusion is real, I love how men think we're holding them back. The amount of unwavering confidence men have is remarkable. Especially when the ones who are assholes with no emotional intelligence, mediocre in looks and in bed but believe everyone else just doesn't meet their standards. It's sad that woman do fall for it though :( I definitely have- because if they're so incredibly confident it must be for good reaso…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/11/20 06:25 PM
20

Same. It’s sad that some of my friends are quick to call me untrusting and cynical (for what? I was totally right that my boyfriend was a cheating piece of shit). A lot of them are in relationships with guys who play them and given them the bare minimum. So I don’t feel bad for being told I have “trust issues” anymore... seems like they’re just calling me that when I’m actually just awake and aware. Better than being played like a fool like I have been before.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/11/20 07:11 PM
9

I'm surprised as well!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/11/20 10:42 PM
53

Wow I wonder who he votes for. It's a mystery.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/10/20 06:43 PM
7

Hi, it's easy to think that your major isn't "worthwhile" based on how everyone around us perceives success. I felt this way as well in college and was scared to dream of getting a job because I felt like it was pointless. Talk to your career counselor at school, find a mentor- someone who is in the same major as you OR has a job you find interesting and go to career fairs. A huge part is about how you talk about yourself and the skills you have. You would be surprised by how many people have hi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/10/20 06:35 PM
12

yeah "fuggit"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/10/20 06:31 PM
14

Yeppp even the middle eastern friends of mine who are women try to shove this misogynistic stuff down my throat. It's so uncomfortable and sad how brainwashed they are.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/10/20 09:57 PM
17

Disgusting and the man in the sketch looks like a fucking tool. He looks like a complete idiot.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/10/20 09:56 PM
24

POOPMAN hahaha so depressingly true. Do it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/10/20 11:56 PM
7

Yeah he was awful during the pregnancy. She was scared and he kept telling her "well my mom did it" and told her she should give birth naturally. Her youtube channel where she vlogged the pregnancy, every time he was on screen he was an asshole minimizing her feelings (along the lines of "giving birth is the most natural thing ever, it's what your body is designed to do") and not really caring about her feelings. It's HER pregnancy, unless he's carrying the baby he should be supportive not a pie…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/10/20 11:51 PM
20

Her boyfriend is such a prick. Sad she puts up w it if they’re still together.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/10/20 09:34 AM
8

I loved this trailer and can't wait to watch it!!!!! I love when she flips to being stone cold sober with that guy and he looks so fucking ashamed. Trash.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/10/20 04:39 PM
8

Ew.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/10/20 04:34 PM
1

I’ve requested to join askFDS. However, It won’t let me comment on your post in ask FDS can you dm me, if you are comfortable. This is what I tried to comment there - hopefully you see it. Hi friend you are not alone, I have to go to bed rn to wake up early. But tomorrow I’ll write out a longer reply of what helped me because I was in the same spot as you- feeling like I was unable to leave. Just wanted to send a virtual hug so you don’t feel like no ones heard you. I hear you and I feel for you…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/10/20 06:42 AM
2

She is so calming, I love this video thank you for sharing!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/10/20 03:07 AM
45

yeah why would I worry about sounding “hysterical” if what I’m saying is the truth?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/10/20 03:02 AM
28

I feel like it during a pretty dead time and after hours maybe. And she only parked there for the video right? She probably knows her clients aren’t about to show up after a certain time so she probably filmed this then.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/10/20 03:00 AM
2

YESSSSSSSSS. LOVE THis.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/10/20 02:58 AM
3

I'm waiting for mine to come in-- would love for someone to do a review of this once they read it!! Excited to read it:)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/10/20 10:43 PM
3

This was creepy, stay safe so sorry you are dealing with this!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/10/20 05:47 AM
3

I'm sorry friend!! I hope you feel better soon. Remind yourself that the heartbreak will pass even though it's hard to believe that right now.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/10/20 05:27 AM
1

True true, like you I have a close friend like this and I just don't talk to her much anymore. It's disappointing, I am sorry :(.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/10/20 07:50 PM
10

Thank you!!! This makes me feel better <3 I appreciate it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/10/20 07:50 AM
7

HAHHAA thank you for making me laugh more in one sentence than this man could've in an entire day.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/10/20 07:15 AM
15

Yeah incredible that it's just used as a segway into another thing about them. This man should get a trophy for making TEXTING emotionally draining when I've only know him for 4 days. Like how are you a fucking headache without being here physically.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/10/20 06:46 AM
8

Yep!! Glad I paid attention to it and monitored it. It's a shame he didn't prove me wrong.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/10/20 06:40 AM
22

Very true, he will disappear eventually. Do you ever still feel a little offended that they didn't take the time to care. Especially when I thought this seemed to be someone with potential. I would love to learn how to be unbothered by it rather than disappointed and kicking myself for thinking he wouldn't let me down.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/10/20 06:39 AM
8

Thank you!! Great advice! I explained why I haven't ghosted him outright in my edit. Honestly, I think I might still feel disappointed when he eventually loses interest in me. This is because I thought he seemed great initially and I haven't had fun banter and conversation with a new person in awhile.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/10/20 06:38 AM
6

The audacity.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/10/20 06:36 AM
21

Dude, I LOVE this summary of star wars without the name of the characters. This is the summary I have in my head as well, because I too haven't seen it. You're right though. Why is her burden to lift him up when she has suffered so much lol. Why didn't he think to comfort her. Amazing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/10/20 06:36 AM
18

Oh my god the accuracy!!!!!!! That's so icky. It's pathetic that so many of us have experience this. Thank you for making me feel less alone though <3
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/10/20 06:20 AM
4

YESSS hahaha I loved the railroad tracks part
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/10/20 06:56 PM
8

I argued with my ex about this. He thought it was optional and once a day was enough. I was like no.... it’s always been twice. He ignored every article I sent him about it too. I stopped trying obviously. But so baffled by his stubbornness. Hope his teeth fall out!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/10/20 11:21 PM
5

Also "I'm a nice guy.. I wouldn't do anything to hurt you". LOL.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/10/20 08:24 PM
9

NOOOOOOOOO Cardi! I was so proud of her for finally divorcing him!! Also wtf the dick is never worth the emotional trauma, stress, and pain!!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/10/20 08:41 PM
13

Great reminder. Also it’s the SAME WITH FRIENDS. I have a friend who constantly overlooks her toxic horrible friend because “she’s nice to me!!!”. It’s so odd made me lose some respect for her.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/20 10:43 PM
14

What a smug asshole. He has such a punchable face.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/20 04:28 PM
12

I was wondering where "Cheater" was but Fuckboi works too!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/20 03:52 AM
10

^^^Same haha I was wondering where that one is. But Trumper satisfies that category just fine.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/20 03:51 AM
3

Thank you!!! That's kind of you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/20 03:49 AM
5

Wow he's truly an idiot. He failed at even getting her a cheap sentimental gift.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/20 03:48 AM
4

Wow I had no way there was an ending. Good for the friend.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/20 03:42 AM
55

I get that he's doing no work and putting no effort in and lettering her bear the brunt of it all. But, what does he mean I need to talk about my inner life?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/20 03:31 AM
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"I really love my wife but I want to fuck other, younger, hotter women. She gets really sensitive when I bring it up, especially because I've been hitting on her 17 year old hot sister. I'm not sure why my wife is so insecure about all this though. It's just biology."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/20 03:30 AM
61

Hahahahha oh no :(
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/20 03:28 AM
88

She’s too sensitive to understand his top tier humor.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/20 06:07 PM
44

He’s trash and her friends are trash too!!! So proud of her. That’s what I regret- swallowing my pride at the first sign of disrespect. I let it slide and it only gets worse from there!!! She nipped it at the bud and dipped. I hope she doesn’t slide back.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/20 06:04 PM
4

“Interesting & taboo”=sex tourism I would bet a lot of money that this is the case. Fucking disgusting.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/10/20 08:32 AM
18

.... what???????
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/10/20 08:30 AM
2

Same 💀
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/20 08:47 AM
10

💀💀💀
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/20 08:19 AM
5

HAHAHAHAHA
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/10/20 04:54 AM
2

Same!! It doesn't matter how high your sex drive is, if they want to cheat they will.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/10/20 04:38 AM
3

Yeah I noticed that. Very telling way to describe yourself.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/10/20 04:32 AM
9

And another fond memory of a day that he remembered to ask her how her day was. "He really cares about me you guys!!!!!!!!!!!!! He asked me about my day right before asking if we could have sex because he's an empath who loves me! Also I had such a good laugh because he forgot where I worked! Ha ha this man is so silly sometimes. "
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/10/20 04:22 AM
8

Yeah.. I'll pass. AND with the added bonus of him cheating because I "look different". Heck no.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/10/20 04:19 AM
9

This is the bare fucking minimum. It's really sad that this was a "memory" she thought to share because she thought it was just that sweet :/. How is the bar so low.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/10/20 04:18 AM
15

I think you would be helping us all if you passed along that contact info to him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/10/20 04:10 AM
19

What the actual hell I had no idea there were animal brothels in this world. How are people this sick???
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/10/20 09:17 PM
21

All her songs are so amazing. "Hi it's me" is the best breakup anthem yet. I found it the day before I dumped my trash ex and I think it was fate. Would LOVE to go to her concert someday... whenever this pandemic ends.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/10/20 07:53 AM
10

I didn't realize this was just me getting played again. I was like "aww that's a sweet thought" the first time it happened. By the fifth or sixth time I was like "huh.. awfully convenient of you to think of doing something nice and never following through but to blame it on my "bad" behavior each time". I was blinded by the fake nice (Christian) guy act.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/10/20 07:49 AM
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^^^Yes this is so accurate. My trash ex told me he was planning on getting my flowers after I got laid off but didn't because I was "acting up" .... due to him reaching out to his ex.... so due to my bad behavior there were no flowers for me. There were several times he would tell me there was something he was going to do. But decided against it since I was "acting up". AKA getting upset when he pushed my boundaries and made me confused. Hilarious. Like brownie points for the thought without fol…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/10/20 04:43 AM
5

Why is he acting like he was led one when he reveals his motives here: "So why did I do it? Why did I go out with a hard right-winger for a whole year? The first reason is both very predictable and something I’m now a little ashamed of. On hearing about the relationship, my current partner asked me, "Was she really attractive and were you so shallow that you overlooked everything else because of that?" "Yes, that's basically it,” I answered." Wow..
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/09/20 08:38 PM
14

He makes me so uncomfortable and grosses me out. He's often cruel with hiscommentary and has no empathy or self-awareness.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/09/20 08:24 PM
1

That sounds great!! I tried to go hiking on a trail I was really familiar with because I love the idea of trekking through the woods alone. However, it didn't go as planned, I was getting really nervous and decided the solitude wasn't worth the off chance I have bad luck and run into a potentially dangerous man on the trail
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/09/20 08:12 PM
1

Oh no!! I'm so sorry you were threatened that is horrifying and scarring. Amazing that you got through it and were able to beat the fear. Why I'm unsure of getting a permit-- Haha I'm scared of injuring myself on accident. Also, I'm scared that if I'm attacked and I defend myself because I'm being threatened, they will still haul me to jail because a lot of rapists are portrayed in a positive light if they don't fit the profile that the general public likes to see as rapists. And then the victim…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/09/20 08:10 PM
2

That is so disheartening to hear, I'm so sorry you experienced judgment and condescension when you came for advice and help. That can be so hurtful, and I've experienced that elsewhere on reddit so I get how that feels. Please dm if you have other questions I can try and help out. The internet in general can be a mean place. I would like to believe that the wrong people saw your posts and that's why you got judgement instead of support and understanding. I know this probably isn't enough to make…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/20 04:30 PM
5

Haven't seen any way to buy it in English but maybe I missed it somehow? Can we sell it on her blog I wonder, so she doesn't need to worry about a company trying to ban it?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/20 03:56 PM
3

I'm not dating because of the pandemic. Idk why people still are honestly. Meeting new people? Exposing myself? Especially people who are going on other dates with other people. Nah. Makes no sense.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/20 03:34 PM
3

Did he even bother to read your words or did he go straight into the least effort possible. Wow.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/20 03:33 PM
3

Right?? It's so fucking pathetic.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/20 03:32 PM
3

"Lol it doesn't have to be a date". He really doesn't even want the label of a date because what? It's "too much too soon" or something? Pathetic.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/20 03:32 PM
2

Hahaha this is such a good quote. You're right.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/20 03:30 PM
1

This whole thread slkdfjsldkfjlskfjlksdjf. I love the person just telling him to take a shower.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/20 03:26 PM
1

NOPE its so common and disgusting. My friend's friend (who's trash) went to Med school and got some heat (for probably 2 seconds, let's be real) for setting up an entire page and chat to rate girls. Disgusting.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/20 03:24 PM
7

I laughed out loud omfg
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/20 03:23 PM
7

That's way too generous. For personality alone he's already in the negatives and I didn't look too hard at his face. Are people too shy to give him a low score because "it feels mean". I get that, but like I said his personality alone is ugly as it is.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/20 03:23 PM
2

Who the fck is her. I think it makes low men happy to try to knock a confident girl "down a peg" probably some gross pick up artist logic he's applying here consciously or unconsciously.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/20 03:21 PM
3

This post was so eye opening. I read it and re-read it. Wish my younger self had read this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/20 03:20 PM
1

Can't believe this is real :( they called it business school. I feel bad for them, please get out of that industry!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/20 03:19 PM
2

You're not alone friend!!! <3
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/20 03:16 PM
2

This is disgusting. Are you still on tinder? I hope he's blocked.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/20 03:14 PM
8

What a parasite!! She just let him stay?? He sounds gross.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/20 03:11 PM
17

Happy for the author!!!! Hahaha Has anyone on here been successful at buying it?? Did anyone like it?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/20 03:05 PM
19

I know!! I didn't think I was this scared till I realized I schedule my day and errands around the safest time where the least dangerous men will be around.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/20 03:03 PM
15

AGREED!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/20 03:02 PM
37

Yeah I really love night walks!! But I have a strict (self imposed) curfew since who knows which men are lurking around at night.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/20 03:02 PM
6

I would go on a late night walk and look at the stars. I would go on a hike alone without the fucking FEAR. I would wear a crop top and be comfortable in it without worrying if anyone has mistook that the tiny sliver of my skin that's showing means that I'm ready for them to leer or approach me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/20 03:01 PM
15

Happy birthday!! That sounds so lovely! I've been wanting to picnic alone at sunrise at this trail near me but I'm worried about going alone because crazy stuff happens. Did you feel safe?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/20 02:56 PM
6

Oooooh see I thought he was a lying piece of shit for a sec, but then he said he hasn't gotten around to changing it yet. He's just really really really busy with the working weekends and all. How did he really expect you to fall with that weak ass lie. He's been lying his whole life you'd think he'd be better at it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/20 07:02 AM
7

Yeah its to weed out the liars. Haven't done it yet since I'm not on a dating app but it's a good idea!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/20 07:00 AM
10

Hi!! Welcome new friend! Have you read the FDS handbook? This sub isn't 100% about just dating but also how to navigate this patriarchal society we're in and avoid the traps. If you've browsed this sub enough,then the takeaway you would've gotten thus far is-- NO! DO NOT LOWER YOUR STANDARDS!!!!!!!!!!!!! Online dating apps aren't that great. The general consensus on this sub is that they suck and have just allowed more men access to a huge population of women they endlessly swipe through and try…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/20 06:56 AM
58

I audibly gasped. He started crying saying she looks good in NOTHING? What is this garbage. Wow, also the victim playing after he says something terrible- he acts all sad and says he wishes he could help HER be more attractive (for him) what a true saint. What an angel. Barf.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/20 06:42 AM
8

Just wondering because I'm childfree myself, how did you find your current partner? I've met a single childfree person in my age group and she's a woman. Every man in my genera; vicinity is talking about having a brood, "4-5 kids minimum", etc. And it makes me super uncomfortable and makes me feel like I'm the only cf person around.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/20 06:40 AM
6

Makes sense! Stay safe. Can you change your name legally right now? So you don't need to get married to do so? Just wondering- unsure on the rules.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/20 06:36 AM
12

AGREED. I don't understand why I would change it. Hyphenating is an option. My friend said she will take her boyfriend's because "I don't know I guess it's a fresh start!". Then why can't he take yours? The fuck? Why doesn't HE care about the fresh start. It's kinda disrespectful for me to change my name for you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/20 06:35 AM
9

Good luck friend!!! I’m going through the same process and it’s easy to feel dejected sometimes 😣. Hang in there!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/20 02:20 PM
14

I was already grossed out, but when he taught her how to heel. That was humiliating. Also the "head game" rating. He is so low.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/20 01:59 AM
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He wanted her to be shocked or be willing to do it. Also I love the fake niceness "I hope I don't offend". Sure you don't jackass.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/20 01:57 AM
12

HHAHA the MAXI PAD wrapper was the best part
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/20 01:54 AM
22

I'll plan a late date for myself post finals! :)Good idea
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/20 01:50 AM
6

This is wonderful!!! I hope you had a fabulous time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/20 01:49 AM
12

SHE IS THE COOLEST!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/20 01:44 AM
38

What do you do if someone's pushing you to split?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/20 01:40 AM
9

wow I’m dyingggg😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/09/20 01:56 AM
2

Ofc!! Stay safe, stay vigilant, never trust their words only trust the test results from the doctor's office or PP.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/20 06:36 PM
2

I actually don't know what that means, looked it up on urban dictionary but none of the definitions seemed to match.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/20 06:34 PM
12

ew!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/20 05:44 AM
41

hahahhaha too funny
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/20 05:42 AM
6

Lol also my friend's boyfriend lied about being a virgin sooooo.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/20 03:12 AM
11

^Yes!!! Good point!! Keep this in mind before starting to be sexually active with someone and also when you are getting tested. Because doing so a week after your last exposure to a man might result in you thinking that you are good to go when really due to the incubation period you just won't test negative yet. I honestly just keep getting tested every 4-6 months whether I'm in a relationship or not, whether I'm sexually active or not. Might seem like overkill but I am just disgusted at the tho…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/20 03:10 AM
6

^^YEP disgusting people are willing to lie to you and potentially impact your health. So please make sure you are 100% sure. Also sidenote: I would feel so bad about lying about an STI test and potentially giving someone an STI. I would feel so guilty. People are really out here with no fuckign morals. Disgusting.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/20 03:06 AM
7

Dude yes I used to be dumb and only just ask them. The reason I stopped "just asking" and actually asked for physical proof (not an online version) is that 1 of them lied to me and said the health center only gave him a physical copy. LIES, I went to the same damn health center and you can log in and access your health results at any time. For my last partner, who was also a garbage can, I waited to do anything till he got tested.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/20 03:04 AM
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Hahahaha oh my god the comment section never fails to crack me up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/20 02:56 AM
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I'm pissed at how obvious this should've been!!!! I guess how much work is too much work? I really feel like I don't know sometimes. Especially with someone telling me that my anxiety and confusion was my own fault because it was all in my head (nope! it wasn't he was a cheater and just used technicalities so that he could claim he wasn't a cheater). Obviously when I'm out of the relationship it's obvious to me that I should've left. But when I was in it, a combination of him telling me that my …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/20 02:42 AM
5

Yeah it's like he's self aware that he doesn't care and but still fully expected to have this girl wrapped around his finger. Haha I think he expects her to be aware that that's all she deserved since she's just some "someone he never seen".
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/20 02:36 AM
2

Aww
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/20 08:33 AM
4

Same! The mods remove posters who aren’t member, I didn’t think they check to see if you’ve talked shit about FDs as well?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/20 08:31 AM
8

Yeah I didn’t believe myself because cheater Ex would keep telling me I had trust issues. No? I have issues trusting YOU because You are shady.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/20 08:09 AM
8

What’s rpw
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/20 07:51 AM
12

DUDE TRUE- i found out he was messaging an ex flame and his ex. FANTASTIC. What a piece of shit. And he made me feel crazy because I got caught and he was all "ugh trust is everything.. my ex did the same thing to me." Then don't be a shady piece of shit? Maybe then people won't be so distrusting.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/20 06:49 AM
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I've asked the same thing, from what I've been told by my sources (trash dudes who weren't trying to fuck my so they were being as honest as they could be)-- it's not about fun its about the amount of effort they have to put in before they get sex out of someone and then move on to the next once someone else is also down for coffee & immediate sex.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/20 06:29 AM
7

Thanks for sharing this is a really good advice and a powerful reminder!! This seems so obvious to me now but I used to just let men treat me basically any way they wanted if it wasn't completely horrible I would just accept it even if it was way less than what I wanted or hoped for. Do you have any nervousness that you're passing up a potentially good guy who just doesn't For ex: letting the guy I was crushing on basically invite me over to netflix and chill. Ugh. Wish I could go back in time a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/20 06:27 AM
29

Yeah unfortunately what I've heard and learned from men at work talking about OLD, is that "talking" to woman on dating apps means close to nothing to them. From everyone I've heard talk about it- doesn't matter if it feels like you have chemistry over text (or even in person) and like your personalities meld together well, they're very very open to replacing you. Looking back on my experiences haha this is so depressingly true, now that I hear (many) men talk about how they view women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/20 05:56 AM
49

No that would make you a gold digger right?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/20 05:25 AM
98

How does he not re-read what he wrote and realized how rude and low effort it sounds. Specifically that he says “just” coffee. Lame.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/20 05:01 AM
5

A pretty good Sushi dinner does not have to be $60......
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/20 04:54 AM
5

Birds?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/09/20 07:22 PM
5

Horrible news. I couldn't believe it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/09/20 07:16 AM
5

This is so scary, I'm glad people on the sub understand the way I feel (hopeless and terrified). I was afraid I would post and people would tell me to stfu and stop being dramatic.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/09/20 07:12 AM
2

YESSSS the indie look. You're exactly right.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/09/20 11:46 PM
3

I hope Jennifer knows better than to fall for this bullshit. He publicly leaves her by having an affair with a costar in a movie and now that he's hit the wall, his children dislike him, his ex-wife kicked him to the curb, and he has a drinking problem, oh now he's flirty? Lol yikes. Miss me with that bullshit. don't tell me he drank it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/09/20 11:45 PM
7

I was being sarcastic too sorry haha
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/09/20 11:42 PM
7

Yeah for sure, the amount of previous kids he had from other women is a major red flag. Also the fucking stinginess when it comes to actually providing for them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/09/20 11:42 PM
10

She has "WAP x10", but you have to give him more. What didn't you understand?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/09/20 11:36 PM
10

doesn't deserve shit
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/09/20 11:35 PM
7

What a reach. Also oh no whatever will we do, if giving our bodies to a man isn't enough to make them stay. I guess we'll just give them our whole entire soul like a good wife would out of desperation.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/09/20 11:34 PM
6

"phew" my trash ex's favorite word, still makes me feel a little small to hear it sometimes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/09/20 10:55 PM
6

“People look so different once you don’t care about them anymore… You begin to notice how ordinary they are, how it was your love that made them special; that placed them on some sort of pedestal.” 💖 Where is this quote from?? I really like it! I heard it in a youtube video but unsure the origin.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/09/20 05:34 AM
5

This is pathetic
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/09/20 05:33 AM
4

Oh gosh yes. I have this friend too. Under a month in, they've hung out THRICE and she said "I think I want to marry this man". He told her he loved her.... BUT "doesn't know exactly if he cant say where this relationship will go". Basically he doesn't know if it's even going to turn into a relationship but wants to throw out the I love you. Maybe wait until you know you want to date someone and start dating them before throwing around the I Love you's. Dumbass.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/09/20 03:27 PM
2

I will!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/09/20 03:24 PM
8

"Strut out of a room in your leggings" ... you mean like when I throw on plain black leggings because they're comfy and walk out of my room it's actually for your viewing pleasure? Ugh I didn't know, I'm such a sly little minx sometimes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/09/20 03:20 PM
10

YAYY I'm glad you didn't take the bait on the "there's another woman to choose" and just left. Happy for you. That's power. And congrats on the house & no kids. Sounds amazing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/09/20 03:17 PM
8

HAhaha glad you're here!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/09/20 03:15 PM
5

GREY ANATOMY MAKES ME CRINGe so hard. Ew, she's begging for this guy back :/ I'm sad for her.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/09/20 03:15 PM
11

You were being super generous and also he's hideous on the inside which makes him somewhere in the negative thousands.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/09/20 03:10 PM
26

I choked on my water. FROG OUT OF 10!!!!!!!!!!! AHHHHH
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/09/20 03:08 PM
21

^^^^^^^ MADE ME FURIOUS
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/09/20 03:06 PM
9

I knew he was going to irritate me the minute I saw that smug fucking face. The fucking scoffs, and the childish lack of handshake. She shouldn't have even reached her hand out. What's the hat. He's trash imagine waking up in the morning with the idea to knock people down looking like a smug piece of shit. ​ Also.. is his underwear showing? Did he think that was fashion. Nasty.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/09/20 03:05 PM
17

and birth him 5-6 legacies don't forget the LEGACY!!! He needs them young so they can waste their youth raising his wack genes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/09/20 03:02 PM
22

Don't!! Only because of the doxxing and stalking issue. He's trash and we know it, linking him here won't make him believe it. He'll continue believing he's justified and it will probably just be more of a headache for you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/09/20 03:01 PM
6

Why are there always so many excuses for going to a strip club. "I would freeze outside if I don't go in" "I'm only going because my FRIEND wants to, not me!!" My ex used this too and I was deeply uncomfortable but didn't know what to say. I told him I didn't think it was okay for him to go, but he went anyway stating that I didn't really tell him it wasn't okay (.... I did...) and that he only went because his cousin wanted to go. The fuck does that mean. If he didn't want to go he wouldn't go.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/09/20 02:59 PM
12

same!!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/09/20 02:56 PM
4

"minor slights"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/09/20 02:54 PM
9

Cut him loose, because he is most certainly not waiting on you and sees you as the back-up plan if he can’t get his lawyer bae by May. I saw this A LOT in law school: guys with gfs who acted as their emotional punching bags and piggy banks through law school, dumped them to get with one of their cohorts towards the end, because they felt like they “deserved” a woman who was their “intellectual equal” as opposed to a woman with just their bachelors, despite them being good enough to sleep with an…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/09/20 02:50 PM
3

You summed it up so well in the first sentence!! I know that you feel like it's too hard to walk away but I promise you can do it. Don't make the same mistake as I did- and lag out the breakup I knew needed to happen because I was emotionally attached!! I wasted my own time on a man who was worth nothing. Long distance is hard and he has told you up front that he's not willing to put in the time. Don't put in the time despite all that! Walk away now. I'm sorry you're dealing with this. Also the …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/09/20 02:47 PM
14

I LOVE that her username is "@astar4real"!!!!! She really is!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/09/20 01:24 AM
2

You perfectly described my ex- love bombing and seemed SO genuine. I felt like he waited till I was emotionally attached and then revealed little by little what a piece of shit he is. Fake "nice guy" and a cheater, but its so confusing when they're so sweet from the start and seemingly genuine. It's smart because it leaves you confused and I didn't break up with him quick enough because my heart hadn't caught up to my brain yet. ​ BE WARY ALWAYS. Being amazingly sweet for 6-8 months and showing …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/09/20 09:40 PM
10

While it's great that he's being honest about at least this stuff- he really shouldn't be looking for people to fuck
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/09/20 08:23 PM
8

Thank you for sharing!!! I will remember this next time a man's treatment of me making me feel like I'm worth less.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/09/20 08:17 PM
55

"Gezzzzzz" what a fucking tool.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/09/20 08:09 PM
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HAHAH a lot of men wants kids so bad just to check it off the list as proof they're a "real man". But the minute those little "legacies" of theirs get in the way of getting immediate sex, then they're somehow from the past.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/09/20 08:09 PM
65

Yeah how vague.... I doubt he has anything impressive going on but he's just throwing out buzzwords.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/09/20 08:07 PM
12

I've been trying to tell my friends this to warn them but they just call me cynical. One of them keeps getting won over by a guy who told her "sincerely" that he LOVES her a month in (they've been on 4 dates, and had a bunch of long phone calls but.. that's it) but "can't say where their relationship is going for sure". Then... don't say "I love you"? Unless you're just lying, which is exactly what I think, it was said just to be said. I'm not cynical, I'm just awake haha. I've heard it straight…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/09/20 08:00 PM
6

Wow he's such an asshole.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/09/20 06:09 AM
3

Glad after 4 years he finally "be thinking". Please tell me you ignores this text, he just wanted you to tell him everything was okay and its water under the bridge so he can plague someone else's life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/09/20 05:53 AM
10

This is pathetic
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/09/20 01:51 AM
9

Okay!!!! YEs, I stopped subscribing as she started talking about sex more and more because it was really uncomfortable. I didn't dissect exactly what was making me uncomfortable but you basically perfectly described it. A lot of "heyyy, I'm quirky and I know I'm unassuming but I'm a total freak" said under the guise of being SEX POSITIVE. The "daddy" comments always made me cringe, and yes exactly she has a video where she talks about how she thought being friends with girls was "uncool" and bei…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/09/20 09:27 PM
7

Just saw the trailer because I heard about all the outrage.. the most accurate comment under the trailer is "Rated E for Epstein". This is vile, I can't believe no one told them it wasn't okay.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/09/20 08:18 PM
11

Basic respect and not being disgusting == propaganda to these nasty people? What's the logic, also I love that he uses the words "nasty, crude, downright vile" so he knows they are those things but then reallllly jumps through hoops to find an argument to how men should be allowed to say it. Pathetic and shocking to read.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/09/20 08:14 PM
12

THis is too funny oh my god
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/09/20 08:09 PM
16

This is how I thought the woman Kobe assaulted probably felt when his pictures was painted on murals everywhere. It must be traumatizing. Lol my ex's ex (who facetimed him incessantly late at night during our relationship, for "support") tweeted that the "world was a darker place without Kobe, wow 2020 is wildin'"or some shit like that. Which was unsurprising to me. But I was surprised by the number of people I actually respected who tweeted that their "heart was broken, I am in pieces over the …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/09/20 12:35 AM
1

Did anyone feel like the sister was really unfair? I wanted to like her and at least AT LEAST she was super disgusted by Nick's affair with a very young woman who he was just using for sex because he got bored in his marriage (great excuse!!!). But either way, I feel like in the beginning of the movie (prior to the disappearance and the reveal of the set-up) she didn't see that Nick was an asshole to Amy and stopped trying in their relationship. She was very much on board with calling Amy a bitc…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/09/20 12:03 AM
1

I loved this movie, felt 0 pity for Nick and his trash.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/09/20 11:28 PM
1

years Agreed!!!!! His new 20 something girlfriend looks like his child after him. I'm sad for her, I'm sure its his next quest to get her knocked up. She seems amazing, and was great in Knives out! Hope he doesn't waste her life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/09/20 11:21 PM
2

Thank you for saying this!!!! I feel this exact same way as and I just recently woke up to my idiocy in believing random hook ups were fun and "empowering". I really fell for that one.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/09/20 04:02 AM
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"You could offer to train me". HAHHAAH. Like be my personal coach but for free and oh have sex with me a bunch while you're at it. Yeah right. He just doesn't like being on the other side of rejection.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/09/20 03:58 AM
1

This is the most pathetic thing. He really acted like it was casual- like he just happened to want to show you where to get a tattoo and just happened to NEED to expose his disgusting self to you. Did you reply, ignore, or did you block immediately?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/09/20 02:26 AM
44

YEAH WHat the heck. He left her at home to take care of the kids while he got to live the bachelor life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/09/20 02:22 AM
24

Karen was my favorite. You’re right, Pam was so passive she was difficult to watch.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/09/20 02:19 AM
9

So much of this sub feels like a FDC lit analysis class where we identify the red flags, flagrant lies, and traces of narcissism in trash/manipulative men's writing. Love it!!! One of my most useful classes to date.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/09/20 08:31 PM
12

Aww someone made a gofund me for my ex and his next partner.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/09/20 05:04 PM
12

Hahahaha truly a crock of shit. Thanks for pointing that line out, I missed it. I can't believe he said that and expected you to believe it. A complete fraud who is also very confident in his lies. Amazing. I know this is always said but I'm shocked by the audacity.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/09/20 04:59 PM
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You're right at least for determining if another person is "good" or not I feel like we know in our gut but we wither ignore all the red flags to "give them a chance" or we save ourselves time and leave.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/09/20 03:52 PM
7

This sentence made me laugh so hard.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/09/20 03:04 PM
10

This article is really well written!! Thank you for sharing
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/09/20 03:01 PM
1

How can he type this with 0 self awareness? Incredible.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/09/20 05:18 AM
5

That's so insanely restrictive. How do they expect people to live that way.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/09/20 02:21 PM
16

Unbelievable, that makes me sick
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/09/20 09:38 PM
19

How is this NOT BLACK AND WHITE??? SOMEONE SENT her a video of her getting raped, and only thought of how her rape impacted HIM, but she's still making excuses for him?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/09/20 09:38 PM
50

that's so sad :( wow
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/09/20 09:27 PM
7

Disgusting.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/09/20 09:26 PM
4

ugh its frustrating when I look back and remember the times I've replied to fake apologies as well.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/09/20 05:04 AM
5

Olivia from Fringe. What an incredible badass individual.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/08/20 06:58 AM
4

Love this!!!! Love the energy
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/08/20 06:51 AM
3

I had this same reaction. The lengths they go to justify.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/08/20 06:37 AM
5

This is revolting
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/08/20 06:37 AM
1

YUP, disgusting. Also hilarious because most of them are shocked when you ask if they've been tested. The lack of respect those dudes have for other people they might be putting at risk is remarkable.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/20 05:08 AM
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He genuinely looks like a corpse at 37. Like he looks like he died SEVERAL days ago and there’s no ac in the morgue. Still working a shitty job, djing weddings and swearing he’ll write a novel one day, divorced, all his friends are married and more successful and seem a million times happier. I'm glad she told him to fuck off. Too many women are pressured to let toxic guys back since they're the "father!! and you don't want your kid not to have a father right??". Ahem- Khloe Kardashian.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/20 04:17 AM
1

Wish I was here already!!! Hope he's miserable both mine and yours.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/20 04:16 AM
8

Don't date right now. If you feel like you "need" it to not feel lonely, then now is not the time to date, now is the time to focus on you! I promise. If you don't like this answer, I'm sorry about it, but... also there's a pandemic. Perfectly good time to not be meeting new people in public and exposing yourself unnecessarily.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/20 04:10 AM
3

I am wheezing
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/20 04:08 AM
1

I'll join you in this bet
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/20 04:04 AM
2

^^^^^ wow I couldn't have said it better. Yeah it's still about ownership (of us-- the women) and not respect lmao.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/20 04:03 AM
3

Sounds lovely, I'll join- tell him a friend will be joining and is interested in a threesome.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/20 03:59 AM
1

HAHAHHA
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/20 03:59 AM
3

Haha "walking STD risk". Ain't that the truth. "But, but, but, ...I've never had any symptoms so I don't need to be tested. I'm clean," he'll assure you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/20 03:58 AM
2

What a trash bag of a human
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/20 03:57 AM
1

Hahahaha I didn't deduce that he probably doesn't have a pool after all. That's hilarious
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/20 03:55 AM
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What a dummy. "In all honesty..." also I feel like he wanted that "since we're no longer married" comment to be a sick burn. But nah, what a piece of shit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/20 03:51 AM
5

STRAIGHT FACTS
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/20 03:37 AM
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EW Matthew was trash. He really THOUGH he was so cool with his bluntness. You just know that "Sorry I'm just sarcastic , I dont' mean to be mean but I guess I am to sensitive people who don't get me lolll" is just around the corner. Fuck off Matt.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/20 03:35 AM
1

Oh wow, I didn't catch that at all. I really just thought it was some weird inside joke that I didn't understand about knees and growth.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/08/20 04:34 AM
1

This is really well written, thank you. Good reminder for myself.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/08/20 06:32 PM
20

Wow I just realized that their twitter profile is a picture of Shane Dawson (pretty sure). Very fitting for them to have that picture and be proudly sexualizing a child.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/08/20 05:56 PM
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Fcking disgusting. People really think it's funny and acceptable. Nope, its damaging and unacceptable
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/08/20 05:54 PM
21

AGREE this is so dangerous
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/08/20 05:53 PM
1

how bout no.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/08/20 05:03 AM
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Read it all, I feel your pain. You looked bomb by the way!!! If you need to chat or vent lmk Recently broke up w a trash boyfriend too! Sending love, I’m so sorry you had to deal with this dead weight in your life but I’m so proud of you for getting rid of it 💕
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/08/20 04:49 AM
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YIKES. This was exactly what I was afraid of happening. And I verbalized that I didn't want to be a rebound since he wanted to date me soon after their break up. I waited a couple of months prior for us to be official and before doing anything physical because I didn't want to feel used at all. I waited until he had committed to me and openly communicated through his words and actions that he wanted to commit to me. And I still felt so freaking betrayed at the end of it all. It took me awhile to…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/08/20 03:42 AM
2

My heart goes out to you. Many LVM (or Medium/Mediocre Value Men) will pine over exes and love bomb the hell out of the new girl—it is like a weird high for them, a fantasy. I have seen it and experienced it. I know you had a lot of green seeming flags to give him the benefit of the doubt but... avoid any man still hung up on his ex and trust your gut. I meant early on *in our relationship. What had prompted it is since she had made a move on him during our relationship- I had asked him to let m…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/08/20 02:32 AM
3

Yes, she told him so and kept popping up in his messages, calling, and facetiming.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/08/20 02:30 AM
3

Not even bitchy at all. You're awesome. Glad you stood up to her. Men like him are used to letting his gross, trash behavior slide because more often than not women don't want to come off as "overly sensitive" and "make things uncomfortable" especially when there are mutual friends involved. He was probably expecting an apologetic text from her after sending a manipulative, shitty message, because that's what he's used to getting. FUck that. And fuck him for even thinking he deserved anything fr…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/08/20 10:44 PM
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Yay!!!! I'm so happy for you. I'm a newbie myself and this sub has supported me and helped me SO MUCH.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/08/20 10:35 PM
4

Greg Derrien
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/08/20 10:32 PM
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yep!! s/o to her, hope she has gotten over this trash bag of a man
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/08/20 09:57 PM
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"Now that you know I'm shady.. let me avoid my ego getting bruised and reject YOU first. ha ha"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/08/20 09:57 PM
24

What a lackluster non-apology where he took responsibility for nothing. I hope you blocked, instead of trying to explain to him what he did was wrong and that his apology was garbage.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/08/20 09:56 PM
3

Disgusting. Clearly they thought it was funny and got off on placing the button there.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/08/20 09:45 PM
3

This was difficult to read
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/08/20 09:42 PM
1

This happens to my friend all the time!!! It's really disgusting and she leaves feeling so confused (when really I wish she would leave angry and telling them to FUCK OFF) and asks me "why did they do that? I didn't give them any signal". I'm so sorry this happened to you. Disgusting behavior, I'm glad you end the date and don't tolerate it. I know too many people who would stay out of politeness, because they are uncomfortable, and try to find some excuse for the awful date's behavior.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/08/20 05:27 PM
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I love that he thinks this is a selling point. I bet he's even prouder if they're from different women because he got to waste time and energy of different people. It's a trophy for him- look how many children I have produced!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/07/20 07:37 AM
13

ew looks like a tool
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/20 05:54 AM
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SO DISAPPOINTING. I'm so sorry he's like this that is so disrespectful. Also disgusting that he lied to her.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/07/20 02:41 AM
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YES exactly, the "you're crazy, I wasnt even trying to talk you in that way" statement is so manipulative and clearly made to make you doubt yourself (oh maybe I was too harsh without understanding the intention).. but when you break it down like that. it's so obvious- you chatted ME up but are now acting like I've made up your interest because of my ego
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/07/20 02:40 AM
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Hennyyenni omg I am shook by your username because my ex was obsessed with a girl name Enni lmao. For a second I was like oh my gosh I can never escape
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/07/20 04:06 AM
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Just wanted to say I definitely have felt this way before, you're not alone!! I think it's gotten better, but I remember how torn up I would be when a guy be nice to me up until the point of sex and then ghost. And then my texts would go completely unanswered and he would act like a douche when he did answer (ex: "you talk too much" um okay? you were talkative until you got in my pants as well). Fuck him for being a jerk, and I'm sad that I let it hurt my feelings. Hopefully I can remember that …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/20 04:13 AM
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