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I think there are a number of factors when it comes cold approaches that determine how they feel. But I think giving your number would be best for a lot of women, especially if you phrase it right
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/26 02:34 PM
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Yes and yes , I actually don’t know want to date cishet men really, I would prefer bisexual, or trans men
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/26 04:52 PM
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I think for me it’s about how people complain, I’ll watch an hour long video about someone complaining about a movie, it isn’t the complaining itself. I think it’s totally fair to be frustrated about not having sex if that’s what you want, and venting frustration is fair. Hell I’ve vented to friends when I was wanting sex, or expressed frustration to partners about lack of sex and intimacy in a relationship. I get annoyed or upset with it when it comes with entitlement or aggressive woman hating…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/26 05:36 PM
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Average to slightly above would probably be preferred but anything between like 4-6.5 would be fine, I think I was only surprised by the size once as it was like the size of my thumb. Honestly don’t remember it really.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/26 05:48 PM
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If I wouldn’t be judged, and would guarantee make a shit ton of money and only had to have sex with my husband, I would do it. Some of those women, very few but some, make millions. If I could make millions I think I would be stupid not to, hell if I made millions I would probably be fine with judgements, especially cause my friends and family wouldn’t give a flying fuck. I would be able to take care of my family. And if I was smart I could save up and wouldn’t have to do it forever. However tha…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/25 05:30 PM
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Kind of both I think, like I am either attracted to someone or not but their is also a gradient for attraction. Though I don’t in my head go that guys a 6 or anything. Also I find certain personality traits and talents can also change the how attractive someone is so it’s definitely not always super defined.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/25 03:33 PM
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How much later in life? I am 30 now slept around a bunch in my teens and early twenties. Now I am married been married for 5 years, have good friends, good family life and a happy marriage.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/24 05:36 PM
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I have dated virgins before. I am married now but if I wasn’t I wouldn’t really have an issue with someone who hasn’t had sex before, and I don’t know any who has had an issue. I mean it happens I’ve just never seen it
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/24 04:39 PM
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I don’t like cold approaches so I wouldn’t do one, also I don’t trust asking out some random guy just cause he is cute. I’ve been with my husband now for almost seven years. But before that I did ask guys out, usually friends or friends of people I know. If I was to be come single now, honestly as a bisexual woman I don’t think I would choose to date men, so if they were interested they would have to approach just cause I would be looking mostly for women partners. But who knows I am not against…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/24 03:39 PM
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Yeah that would fine with me. I don’t care about that really. If he like asked me to a super fancy restaurant and then wanted me to pay I might not be as happy, so I think going somewhere cheaper is better.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/24 07:12 PM
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I think it depends on how it was said, but I don’t think this would ever happen cause I’ve really only dated people who have shown interest in me in at least some way sexually. Also it’s just kinda a mean thing to say so I would also be reacting to why they would say that. I wouldn’t ever date someone who I wasn’t attracted to, I have dated people who I didn’t really think about that way at first but not people I am actively not attracted to.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/24 04:39 PM
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I think it depends on how it was said, but I don’t think this would ever happen cause I’ve really only dated people who have shown interest in me in at least some way sexually. Also it’s just kinda a mean thing to say so I would also be reacting to why they would say that. I wouldn’t ever date someone who I wasn’t attracted to, I have dated people who I didn’t really think about that way at first but not people I am actively not attracted to.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/24 04:39 PM
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I think it depends on how it was said, but I don’t think this would ever happen cause I’ve really only dated people who have shown interest in me in at least some way sexually. Also it’s just kinda a mean thing to say so I would also be reacting to why they would say that. I wouldn’t ever date someone who I wasn’t attracted to, I have dated people who I didn’t really think about that way at first but not people I am actively not attracted to.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/24 04:39 PM
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Yes in important things like values. But I am different from all of my friends. We share values, but are different in tons of ways. I’ve had friends who I love but wouldn’t want to date for plenty of reasons. I know friends who have told me they had crushes on me at one point but both of admit that we would be a terrible couple. Being in a relationship and being just friends do not require the same things. I am not saying every person would date all their friends or that no one would date any of…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/24 02:39 PM
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I am not saying this is every situation obviously. I was answering why someone who has friends, might struggle with relationships. I am not talking about why some girls date horrible guys.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/24 02:09 PM
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Well maybe some people, most of my close friends are all very attractive. I have several friends who are attractive but would mesh for a relationship. Example I am a more needy person, I have a friend who is super independent like can be away from her partner for like weeks, we couldn’t be partners. I have another friend again attractive but they a polygamous and I am not wouldn’t work. My best friend is beautiful however we wouldn’t be sexually compatible at all. My husband was my friend, most …
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/24 03:51 AM
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Personality traits you may be fine having as a friend might not be what you want from your partner for one. A messy person might be fine as a friend but not be something you want in a partner. It’s more than just being nice.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/24 07:11 PM
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I don’t know if I just lucked out or what but my husband is the best sex I have ever had. And I definitely don’t think I “settled” with my husband, he is hot. There no comprising or giving up when I met my husband. If people feel that way they probably shouldn’t be together I don’t miss sex with anyone else, for me intimacy is better when there is emotional intimacy as well. So especially people I just had sex with once or the like one FWB I had it was more a physical act like stretching or scra…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/24 04:21 PM
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Because you also have to be attracted to them. I am a bisexual woman. I love my best friend I think she is beautiful and love her personality. I don’t want to be with her in a sexual manner and never have. I also have another close friend who I was very attracted to when we met, I love her personality but we would but never have worked as a couple we don’t have the kind of chemistry and our relationship styles are very different. Wanting to be with someone comes from many factors.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/24 04:59 PM
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Definitely prefer having to work than having to be married, and I am married but I chose to be that’s the way I like it. Plus stay at home wives/mothers still have to work it’s just a different type of work so when being forced to be married you still have to work but now also have to be married.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/23 05:19 PM
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My husband struggles with mental health, has cried in front of me, has had panic attacks in front of me, I help him all the time and he is like the opposite of toxic masculinity. We’ve been married for almost 4 years now, none of that stuff ever stopped me from finding him attractive. Also being sensitive or “soft” emotionally doesn’t mean they can’t have strong traits and vice versa. My husband is “soft” , but he also mountain bikes, builds things, is a runner, stands up for others and will fig…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/23 07:16 PM
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Hahaha exactly
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/23 06:25 PM
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I don’t have to tell anyone shit and people don’t have to date to me. However I think personally I’d rather tell them because I don’t want to be with someone who cares about that shit and would rather know up front as to not waste my time.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/23 10:26 PM
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Not all of them may, but I sure fucking do, god damn!
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/23 06:40 PM
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I had planned to propose, I wanted to because I wanted more control over when it happened, I started to plan pretty early on what I would do. But then one day we were driving and he casually said like hey I could see us moving up our wedding time line and getting married like next year, and I said yeah. Boom engaged lol
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/23 06:19 PM
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As a bisexual woman I would say definitely yeah, I’ve dealt with both creepy men and women. More men but women can be creepy too.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/23 03:33 PM
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Thank you!
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/23 01:01 AM
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I am glad! Thank you for saying that
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/23 01:00 AM
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When ask this question I always give the answer of there is a difference between public spaces and social spaces, in social spaces you can be more free to approach women these are like bars, clubs, hobby spaces, parties, church, neighbourhood events, university etc, places where it’s kinda expected that people may talk to you. Then in public space be extremely cautious these are place people often have to be to get stuff done like the grocery store, doctors office, transit and work. In these pla…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/23 05:14 PM
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Around 50 I’ve been have sex since I was 15 and I am almost 29. On top of that one of my long term partners and I had an open relationship and we had threesomes and stuff. And I told my husband before we got married idk why but I don’t hide it cause I don’t care lol
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/23 09:48 PM
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Now I am bisexual so maybe how I view things is different but I would when talking about guys around my age, like wandering around my university are attractive or good looking and then a few that just kind exist basically aren’t ugly but don’t tickle my fancy. Very few men or women for that matter that I find unattractive. So how I decide if I am into someone truly comes down more to personality, values, hobbies, etc. But honestly I think for a lot of women men just don’t look that special they …
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/23 07:06 PM
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Married for almost 3.5 years, together for almost 5 years. No kids and currently plans to keep it that way. I am 28 and he is 35 we met in uni.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/22 05:44 PM
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Waiting for a little bit? Sure but till marriage no, I like sex and have a pretty high libido. I was with someone who wanted to wait once and we’ll we didn’t end up waiting but up until we stopped waiting it was extremely frustrating. I get wanting to wait until there is a commitment but outside of that too much. I would just say we aren’t compatible.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/22 03:01 PM
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I think technically twice, once I was drinking at a bar, terrible mistake but again I drinking and really young and my friend was encouraging me to look past several really obvious red flags. And the other time was definitely weird I saw a cute guy on the train and we caught each other’s attention, but then he got off the train, I used to look through the missed connection section on Craigslists haha cause you read some funny stuff, and low an behold the guy was looking for me. Went on two dates…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/22 04:13 PM
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I think what is high or low is probably what is out side of the average range. I think though when be people say a high body count it’s also said as a negative judgment, so for me there isn’t like “high body count” in that way. There are people who no one can deny has slept with a lot of people but as long as it’s between two (or more) consenting people I don’t really care. I have pretty high count by most peoples standards but I’ve been with people who were virgins, people who also had high bod…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/22 04:21 PM
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I am just curious how many people actually know how much their neighbours make? Lol I don’t even talk to mine let alone know how much money she makes
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/22 02:43 PM
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That’s fine I am not saying it happens this way for everyone, or that anyone should dress a certain way, what I am saying is that in my experience, when I dress up more I get it more attention. And for the most part I do wear what I want but when I have interaction like that it does make me think about dressing differently. But again this is about my personal experience.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/22 06:12 PM
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It can reduce risk, the more dressed up I am the more often men approach me. So it does remove it from very happening but does at least for me reduce the amount
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/22 05:56 PM
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It’s great! I went out to meet a friend yesterday and a guy approached me asking me to take his picture I was uncomfortable but trying to be nice, it became very obvious very fast that he did it so he could talk to me. It sucked, I like dressing up and feeling cute but it’s way easier to just look like a potato then you’ll be left alone. So the less men that approach me the better
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/22 08:08 PM
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Half the work? If he doesn’t get to rest why would I? Being a parent is a full time job with often very little breaks regardless of if you’re going to work or not.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/22 04:32 PM
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My husband is seven years older than me, but it’s not just his age. He had similar goals and was in the same place as me, both in university, wanting to get married, thought we wanted kids etc. if I had found guys closer to my age that were the same the age wouldn’t make a difference.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/22 07:24 PM
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No matter who is more conventional attractive any person can leave a relationship at any point. I mean it’s not uncommon for men to cheat with women that others would say isn’t as attractive because they want a certain kink or whatever. So I never dated based on this, I mean I was kinky horny bitch for a guy I dated in high school who I was pretty well matched with, cheated on me with a guy friend cause they were drunk. In life there are very few guarantees.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/22 11:08 PM
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Yes nothing ramps up a man’s attractiveness to me then them being really funny!
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/22 11:07 PM
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I think it doesn’t matter at all, and you can feel however you want about it as long as you’re not an asshole. I personally don’t care and neither does my husband, I have a pretty high body count and he has a low one, and it hasn’t caused any issues at all if anything it benefits him greatly cause I am a big old hoe for him and him alone plus I am adventurous and down try new things. But as long as you aren’t a hypocrite and you don’t talk down to others about what they do I don’t think it matte…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/22 07:52 PM
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But if you look at a real experiment this one would be shit and have no real world generalizations. I make tons of hard decisions all the time, and most of them have turned out, I am in a happy relationship because the way I think things through works for me, I have great decision making skills, your experiment shows absolutely nothing. This “experiment” doesn’t have high reliability or validity which it would need to be useful. I will always tell people listen , try new thing, adapt, don’t be a…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/22 05:13 AM
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This is the stupidest hypothetical thing, this isn’t how the world works, if these people have had such vastly different relationship and sexual histories they aren’t identical people they will be different and it’s in those differences I look. I’d date a guy with 1000 past partners who was kind, generous, engaging, funny, playful, sexual, over a boring ,uninteresting, wet blanket with only two and I date a virgin who was sweet, sensitive, who knows how to handle a woman over a fuck boy with 50 …
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/22 04:59 AM
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No because that doesn’t actually tell you anything about a person, I know people with all different levels of relationship and sexual experiences with many different outcomes, I know many divorced people or people who left their LTR where kids were involved who had low body counts. I know people with high body counts including myself who are married, people change and grow. If you don’t show signs of abuse I am not going to behold you to your past self.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/22 04:29 AM
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Do you care if you partner eats pickles? Likes the colour yellow? thinks pigs are cute? Cause thats basically how I feel about the number of partners my partner has had. I make my decisions about my partners based on other things that matter to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/22 02:59 AM
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Like I have dated a guy many people would call a man whore, a Christian virgin and a guy who had only three partners before me. I do not care
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/22 02:35 AM
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Whoever came first? pull a name out of a hat? fight to the death? I wouldn’t make a decision based on either of those factors so either would be fine
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/22 02:31 AM
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I couldn’t make a decision really based on this little information, I would need to know their personalities, what they like to do, what their future plans are, what are their beliefs, what are their expectations for a relationship. I don’t care at all about how many people they’ve fucked or dated.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/22 04:38 PM
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As hard as this might sound, become happier being alone, go out make friends and deep connection outside of the idea of a relationship. Now this may not get you a girl outright but something it can help with is reducing the pressure in finding a partner. If you can be happy with and get value out of platonic and familial relationships you overall will be happier but also when you go out to meet women you will be able to walk away when a relationship isn’t going to work out, you won’t feel like t…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/22 06:31 PM
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Kind of when I was in high school a guy told his friends that he lied to me but we were actually boyfriend and girlfriend and when I found out and confronted him he definitely seemed like this was something he said to be “cool”. Either way was the first and only time it happened and also the first and only time I have ever been in a fight. Felt upset at the time now I really don’t care,he was tall and skinny skinny. but I have for most of my life been super open person sexually so men haven’t re…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/22 03:51 PM
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Never to late to start! I started during the pandemic and now I sell crochet penis online lol so many YouTube videos on all types of cool fibre arts
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/22 05:21 AM
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Yeah no amount of money would lead me to submit to any man. And money also isn’t what I base my respect for people on. When my husband and I were dating we split most date 50/50, now he pays for most things while I am in school, and currently takes on more house hold stuff cause I experienced the loss of three family members and went through a deep depression, though I am coming out it and are equalizing chores now, he also basically has sex on tap, and someone to emotionally lean on. But in the…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/22 02:45 PM
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I think it would be cool if I could change my gender at will, because sometimes I wish I was a part time dude haha but other than I am happy the way I am, I like the things that you describe as high effort and when I don’t feel like doing them I don’t. I don’t feel like owe the world being attractive, I have other things that I think are more valuable about me. And I am married to man so just being a natural potato ain’t stopped me. I don’t consider myself competing with other women. I am also q…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/22 04:21 PM
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Combination of things, looks, attitude, how they say things, are they funny, there is no one thing. It’s they’re “vibe”
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/22 03:53 PM
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There are no specific words, two men can say the exact same thing and get two very different results even from the same woman, so expecting there to be words for all or even most women is super unrealistic
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/22 03:50 PM
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Anyone can have any standards they want, they might not always get what they want but they can want it none the less. I mean be as frustrated as you want you don’t deserve a yes just because you believe your more attractive than someone, regardless of if you’re right or not. Also if I found out a guy wanted to date me and thought I was less attractive than him I would tell him to fuck off. People can value themselves as highly as they like, no one needs someone else permission to think they are …
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/22 12:39 AM
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Bisexuality makes dating hard for many reasons, all of which you listed, but for my as a bisexual woman I prefer it, I married a bisexual man, and honestly if I was single I don’t think I would date a none lgbtqa+ man.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/22 03:39 PM
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And starts hitting on me? I am going to be extremely suspicious lol also that’s a ridiculous what if, I am telling you in my life regardless of if I ended up giving my number or not I don’t like being approached in public by men.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/22 01:55 AM
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This is my lived experience, hot rich guys are just as likely to murder or rape you, I am as cautious with every guy who approaches me, and regardless of if something ends up going somewhere or not I prefer to not be approached.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/22 11:50 PM
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Feels a lot safer too
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/22 10:03 PM
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I am married now but in general when I was single I didn’t really ever like it, I am barely 5’3” and I have had men who were like super aggressive about it. So being approached by men is more anxiety inducing than anything. If it was going to happen though I would have and have preferred a few things, When reading or having my headphones in leave me alone, unless you are making a direct comment about my book. Only compliments should be polite, and never about the body except may be like hair, th…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/22 03:24 PM
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I mean I’ve been told that the guys I been with aren’t really attractive but it doesn’t really bother me much, and I tend not to think about it. I mean even my family when I was jr high made fun of me cause they thought the guy I was dating was really funny looking.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/22 10:14 PM
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I am a woman, married and my husband is the best I’ve ever had. He is the best for a few reasons, he is a really sweet guy who listens, he was enthusiastic about learning what works for my body, he likes being adventurous, foreplay with him is great, I feel safe and can trust him and the biggest one for me is how much I love him. I don’t think men should care if they’re the best, sex isn’t static it can change, you can get better for one and two sex isn’t the only part of a relationship and ther…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/22 03:07 PM
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No and I wouldn’t hang out with women that do that either, it’s pretty cruel and such a waste of everyone’s time
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/22 07:25 PM
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Both me and my husband are bisexual so if we can’t hangout with any gender we might be attracted to then we would be friendless lol. Actually one of my best friends who I matched with on tinder before deciding we we’re better off friends was in my wedding party, and people he had liked were in his. Of course there are boundaries, and those boundaries are per friend and situations but over all I trust my husband and he trusts me, and if we are feeling insecure or nervous about a friendship we tal…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/22 03:28 PM
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F27 almost 28, husband 35, met in university in an option class (film), I was 23 and he was 30, started dating not to long after he turned 31. Our relationship moved pretty fast, engaged 6 months after we started dating, married about a year after that. In July we will have been together for 4 and a half years and married for 3.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/22 03:10 PM
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You can be attracted to someone and just be friends with them. I mean as a bisexual women one of my closest friends is a lesbian and both of us have found each other attractive but also recognize that we like being friends and don’t feel like fucking, I am married and she is in a serious relationship and we are friends just friends. I have less male friends cause the places I tend to hang out in have a lot of queer women and I tend to gravitate toward female friendships. But through school I’ve …
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/22 10:36 PM
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I have always believed in social places and public places, a bar is a social place and while you might get turned down I think it’s pretty normal for people to try to talk to you, but like a bus or train is public space I am not there to make friends I want to just get where I am going. Now nothing is 100% set in stone and people are different some women don’t care. So if you choose to approach someone just be cognizant of their body language. And if someone says no just walk away. My husband an…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/22 06:28 PM
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If it’s a stranger it’s weird, if was someone who I know than it all depends on the relationship. I f I was single and had a guy friend who I trusted that said that I might be totally down but even if I wasn’t I wouldn’t feel grossed out or insulted or anything. If it was someone I knew and disliked then I would be grossed out but that’s mostly likely cause the thought of having sex with them is gross. For strangers it’s just uncomfortable, men wanting to fuck you isn’t necessarily a compliment …
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/22 06:56 PM
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Well I wouldn’t be in a situation like this as that would be a pretty big deal breaker for me. But if for some reason it wasn’t or if he even just got beaten up, I would comfort him, cuddle him, in general love on him, and help him bandage him up or whatever he needed. I wouldn’t lose respect for him cause he lost a fight cause to me winning a fight doesn’t necessitate respect.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/22 12:49 AM
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Should someone no, that implies that it’s bad if they don’t. Do I think it’s wrong if someone does also no. Some people can’t have sex if they don’t want it, some people can totally go through the motions for someone else. In my relationship sometimes I don’t feel horny but that doesn’t mean my husband couldn’t make me horny. I know that I can trust him to stop at any point and not make me feel guilty so many times I’ll try or let him try and make me horny. But in these situations it’s not reall…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/22 09:47 PM
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All depends on how he views virginity, I have before been with a virgin and if I was still in the market it wouldn’t be something that turned me off of a person
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/22 11:48 PM
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I am married but if I wasn’t it would honestly all depend on the age of the kids, how many, and if he wants more. I don’t want any of my own children, I don’t want to deal with babies and really young toddlers, and I also don’t really want to live in a house with like more than 3 or 4 kids so if he met all that I would be fine
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/22 09:52 PM
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Well married now and wasn’t really super down with one night stands especially with men I have with women , but that’s mostly due to the danger aspect I don’t want to be raped and or murdered but if we pretend for a second that the risk is gone. I would say just on looks alone, height can be a big thing for me, not heavily muscled like very light amount or like skinny boy abs lol, long hair is often a big yes, tattoos always help, big hands especially if they’re on the “shorter” side, dressed in…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/22 10:52 PM
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Preferences to me are like ice cream most of the time, I prefer chocolate, but if someone asks me if I want ice cream but strawberry or vanilla I am not going to say no. I find a wide variety of features attractive on a wide variety of people, so if we click but they don’t meet a preference oh well.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/22 04:48 PM
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If it works for you fine do what you want but don’t tell other women they have to do it or have to want the same things as you. Like if you’re giving advice to women who want to get where you are then fine, but not everyone wants the same thing, or same type of person. I don’t see heavily traditional men as being high value, men who I have to share, or who don’t care about my career don’t really have any value to me so I have no need for advice for how to attract those men. Besides the fact that…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/22 11:51 PM
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Pete Davidson yes, I’ve been attracted to guys who look like that many a times in my life. I grew up dating some like super skinny guys, like really scrawny guys, what can I say it does it for me lol, it’s not the only thing I am attracted to but definitely one of them. Plus I am a tattooed lady so it’s safe to say I am attracted to a tattooed many. He has nice smile and a great jaw line and unlike a lot of men he has lips like actual lips. I also do really like funny guys and maybe it’s a clich…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/22 06:16 PM
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Anything with spit, piss or shit, anything with another person and any type of age play
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/22 03:21 AM
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I was a promiscuous women you could say, and I don’t really feel anyway about it, I slept with people who I liked who liked me, a lot of my experiences were great a couple weren’t, some people I regret but most I don’t. I joke about being a former slut or how all the time cause really to me I just don’t care about how other people feel about my sex life past or present. I am married now and my husband knows all and doesn’t care. And for other women I really couldn’t give a flying fuck about thei…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/21 08:37 PM
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True I mean more for trying to start a flirtation, and these rules aren’t like set in stones more guidelines. And yeah for me there is just places for making social connections especially when looking for romantic connections , and I don’t think the bus is often that place, I use that example as it’s been common to have men try to pick me up in while on the bus or waiting for the train and it’s always super uncomfortable, especially cause you can’t really like get away. That’s also why I added t…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/21 07:14 AM
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I am married but this is what I think and I what I would have preferred before I got married. To me there is a difference between public spaces and social spaces, so like grocery store, gyms,doctors office, buses or trains places where I have to be there but not for social things are public space, we may be sharing the space but that doesn’t mean we should talk, I think the only time someone in this situation should approach for flirting is if you catch each other’s eyes and someone eye flirting…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/21 06:29 PM
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Yeah I don’t really care, like at all how many partners someone has had. I’ve been with total man whores and virgins. If I find out you treat women poorly, don’t understand consent or things of that nature, or if you think that me “having” your “virginity” creates some weird spiritual connection then I am not even a little bit interested but otherwise it doesn’t matter
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/21 04:57 PM
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I mean I have dated people who others thought were unattractive but I have always been attracted to them in some way, if I really thought someone was “ugly” I wouldn’t date them. But I don’t really care if someone is considered attractive to other people
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/21 04:40 PM
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I am bisexual/pansexual, so I don’t need people to fit into an specific gender stereotypes or binaries to be attracted to them, I have the types I go for a lot but I like women who look “like men” or men that look “like women”, I like “manly” men (also long as the muscles are reasonable), I like “girly” women, I don’t mind a man or women who looks like they could toss me over their shoulders, but I’ve also had big crushes on men and women much shorter than me. I think it probably easier to list …
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/21 05:52 PM
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A lot, some relationships, a few ons, a couple friends with benefits and some threesomes in my life. I am 27 female, queer ( so men and women) and married my husband has a lot less but he’s never cared (34). I’ve never cared about the amount people my partners have slept with, I have been with people who practice poly and have had tons of partners and Ive slept with a virgin who was very Christian. Though now if I was single I would probably be hesitant of virgins not because they’re virgins but…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/21 09:45 PM
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Sometimes yeah I assume so. But I know people will say all women settle and that’s why sex is always different when Once married. Sometimes it’s also about being young and insecure. Like sometimes both men and women will do stuff they don’t want to cause they’re insecure and feel like they really can’t no. And sometimes what you likes changes and sometimes your body will get certain limitations as you get older, and your responsibilities change as well and you don’t always have time or energy fo…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/21 05:21 PM
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As a women if another women said that I would think she was at least a little dumb, for one no where does it say you can’t be in a relationship and in therapy, two therapy can be for anything not just like serious mental health issues and last it shows a great deal of maturity and emotional responsibility to go to therapy.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/21 11:29 PM
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27F married and I never take anything here as advice or anything so no. More just here to see the crazy shit people post.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/21 04:52 PM
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I don’t want kids ever, currently using regular birth control, due to past traumas going in to get an IUD has been a no go up until recently, cause they told me that they will put me under if needed. Personally I want to get rid of everything but my ovaries in the future because I don’t want kids, I hate my period and birth control fucks with my mental health, my husband getting a vasectomy would really only get rid of one problem. I think if you can’t have the IUD, know you don’t want kids and …
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/21 11:05 PM
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Well first don’t dress in a way you hate or dislike just to get women that’s stupid. And second if you insist on dressing a certain way to attract women make sure it’s women you like, if you hate women with tattoos then don’t dress in a way that mostly just attracts them. In the end find a style or a couple you like, it’s okay to try different styles and see what kind of people you attract and see if you like the look but don’t keep dressing a certain way if you dislike it. Plus you’d be surpris…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/21 03:45 PM
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It wouldn’t turn me on, and wouldn’t necessarily upset me neither. If I was in the mood I might try to engage him if he doesn’t respond then I would stop, if something like that happened often I would have a chat about sex, does he like it, want it, what’s his sex drive like etc try to see if we are on the same page. If he never seems interested in having sex or initiating it I would probably see him as just a friend.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/21 06:20 PM
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I think in a perfect world where both men and women asked each other out equally then who ever asks would pay, but that’s not the way it is. I think it should always be split, unless the one person picks like a really expensive place or something. I always brought money on dates or if I could afford to go on one I would say so, if the person still wanted to go out we would either have to do something free or they would have to cover it. I think though for first dates it really shouldn’t be expen…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/21 04:31 PM
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Can’t speak for others but I don’t know if I could narrow it down, I’ve dated and been attracted to a wide variety of men and women. Some men look really hot and are like 6’4” some men are hot and are like 5’5”, I’ve like men with short hair and long hair, chubby and like super skinny, glasses or no glasses. I tend to stay away from men that are too muscular, but other than that, it isn’t really xyz traits and more about the package as a whole.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/21 05:05 PM
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Meh can’t speak for all people, I can say my husband is the best I’ve ever had, that isn’t the reason I married him, but it’s a nice bonus for sure. Out of the 24 hours a day, 7 days a week and 365 days a year I have sex doesn’t make up the majority of time, we do way more thing together than have sex. So even if he wasn’t the best, I’d still choose him because of all the other hours of our day.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/21 05:10 PM
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I don’t think it exists and I don’t think it really should, . I love my family but my birth mom was abusive I don’t love her because of that it’s a boundary of what I can and will accept in my life. Everyone has different conditions or boundaries and that’s fine and important. I think it can become a problem for a person when their requests are impossible but I think then really they are screwing themselves and the people who get away are lucky lol
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/21 04:18 PM
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Exactly lol
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/21 06:04 PM
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Neither, I use birth control, would get an abortion and I married a super awesome guy, oh and also pretty child free. Do you really think these are the only options?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/21 03:51 PM
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Yeah I like simple, I don’t think it needs to be complicated, good communication can help to keep it from getting complicated
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/21 05:28 PM
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Any sex where there is no intent or desire to have a romantic relationship. Before I got married I had a friend who I cared about deeply and he cared for me and we had casual sex, there was platonic love but no romantic relationship so I considered that casual sex. But if I were to sleep with someone after a date I wouldn’t consider it casual because I was intending to start a romantic relationship
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/21 04:27 PM
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First I don’t want any “head of the home”, in my marriage we aren’t on like different levels. My husband will graduate before me but once I graduate I will earn more, I don’t care about making more money, though I am not really interested in being a sugar mama. I wouldn’t however really be interested in dating anyone younger than me
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/21 04:56 PM
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I think everyone regardless of gender should do what they can at the very least, that might be calling 911, or it might be telling someone off or even just showing that you see what’s going on can sometimes scare danger off. You should never be required to put yourself in danger, but if you can help in any way you should.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/21 04:25 PM
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I am a women attracted to men and women, and honestly no, though dating men has been frustrating and dealing with them has been not only frustrating sometimes scary, I love men and I love women, there is good and bad people everywhere in every group.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/21 05:00 PM
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Love and legal shit. My husband asked me to marry cause he loves and wanted to show his commitment to me, I said yes cause of the same reasons. Also helps us with things like taxes and if something bad happens I can trust him to make decisions that I would want and same for him. It’s also just away of saying that we want to spend our lives together. And I am currently talking with my doctor about getting my tubes removed no babies come out of my body but we aren’t together for kids we are togeth…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/21 05:27 PM
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I don’t really enjoying having sex with people idk, so it only happen like twice I think but either way not a lot. If single I would probably prefer someone I am friends with or know at least some what, prefer it if it’s with someone I care about. So my ideal one is not to have one at all I guess
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/21 04:53 PM
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Like almost none is for anyone but me and other things are for me and a few others. So like physical improvements all for me, some behaviour or social changes are for me but I also do to help maintain relationships with those I care about.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/21 05:18 PM
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Yes, when my husband treats me kindly and does sweet kind things I want to fuck him, hell when I see him being good to those I love it makes me want to fuck him. But some random guy on the street being nice to me? No, but also I like rough sex with my husband but if some random guy tried to be rough with me I would freak out. When you first meet someone kindness can be attractive as a partner but doesn’t mean it’s arousing, but a lot of things are like that, someone might be good with animals wh…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/21 04:30 PM
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I don’t think I’ve ever had that. But I feel like I was before I got married generally pretty good at establishing what I wanted out the encounter or knowing what they wanted out of it.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/21 06:22 PM
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Yeah I think that’s sadly with every relationship though, even friendship. People put their best self forward so it can take a while for us to see what they are really like, and even if it’s not always a bad thing it can be something we don’t like. I wish you luck, I mean it’s not easy out there to find lasting relationships
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/21 06:05 PM
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No, I am the type of person who likes being around my partner like all the time, like if my husband and I spend our day apart but in the same house I’ll text him I love him and then basically sit on him all night cause I didn’t get time with him. But I have a friend (who is gay) and she really values her personal space and I think she would die in a relationship with someone like me. And my ex’s parents were often not together because he is a truck driver and would be gone for like a month at a …
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/21 05:25 PM
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Totally fair it can take a little bit but surprisingly not too long
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/21 07:53 PM
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Crocheting toys is so rewarding!
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/21 06:28 PM
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Lol what? Tons of women are into gaming, computer, lifting and cars. Many of the women I’ve known have liked at least of one those things if not a bunch of them. Also yoga isn’t boring, it’s extremely hard, and takes a lot of strength to get far in. Also if you’re lifting it can actually be great for keeping your body from getting too stiff, and keeping some level of flexibility. Before lock down I lifted 3-4 times a week and did yoga every day. Fitness is fitness and it’s better to do something…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/21 06:28 PM
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A lot I have a habit of collecting hobbies and love trying new things. - I play guitar, and ukulele and I am re-learning piano and learning banjo - embroidery and cross stitching - knitting and crochet - making stickers, and t shirts -card making -painting and drawing - writing poetry -reading - playing video games -cooking and baking -weight lifting and yoga - language learning My husband and I share an office fully of my crafting supplies and books and our living room has a two TV set up for g…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/21 06:20 PM
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I mean some women yeah probably. I chose my husband cause I love him, once we both graduate I’ll have masters and be making more than him, and we take turns taking care of each other, we also don’t plan on kids so I mean like we don’t fit that description as many other couples don’t . Most women I know who are married work or take care of the kids they don’t just sit around and they don’t have their husbands balls in their purses, they either make decisions together or depends on the thing being…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/20 06:24 PM
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Some women like nice men some don’t, like some men like bitchy women and some don’t , thats just how things in life work. Some people have a bad asshole radar and can’t tell till they’ve been there a while and some assholes are really really good at faking being nice. Some people think being nice is all you have to have like no hobbies or other good traits just hey I won’t be a dick and that’s not really enough to expect a partner. Some people actually just have a terrible taste in partners. For…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/20 05:31 PM
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I know lots of married women and none of the ones I know (who aren’t maybe like from the boomer generation) didn’t like their husband when meeting them, most women I know who are married or in long time committed relationships are attracted to their partners and have been since the beginning. I thought my husband was hot the moment I saw honestly one of the hottest guys I think I’ve been with. But I have guys who I wasn’t super attracted to at first who I became friends with and then grew an att…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/20 05:05 PM
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Yeah I mean you can not want to be with someone cause of body count, and then judge them I guess but if you judge them they can judge back, like I am allowed to think it doesn’t matter and that it’s weird to get caught up on but then I just move on cause obviously I don’t want to be with someone who has different values to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/20 05:21 PM
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After reading what you said, I think only if it was for a couple or person that I got to choose, I wouldn’t want to be helping putting kids into bad families or situations.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/20 09:09 PM
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Yes of course, I’ve had tons of male friends in my life some I’ve dated some I haven’t. Also I am bisexual so if I can’t hang out with men cause there might be attraction then I couldn’t hangout with women either. And while it’s hard I am sure to be friends with someone you fell in love with, I don’t find it that hard to be friends with someone you’re attracted too, hell in my wedding party I had at three people I had been previously very attracted to one I met on tinder but when we realized we …
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/20 05:41 PM
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I am not going to sacrifice anything like meaningful, like not smoking? Okay fine , changing my hair, how I dress or what my major is? ? Fuck no, and I don’t think other people should either. The only time I think you should think about it is when it doesn’t matter to you that much, like my husband doesn’t do mushrooms cause I don’t like drugs like that and I don’t smoke, or if it likes toxic and or bad for you like being an alcohol And different things matter to different people if mushrooms is…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/20 07:33 AM
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Depends on the man really. Plenty of men are fine with it, just cause your not or your friends are not doesn’t mean they don’t exist, also women can be queer in which case lots of people in the queer community are more comfortable with that and so it isn’t a problem.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/20 07:27 AM
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I mean like what if he broke his back and couldn’t work anymore? I wouldn’t leave him then either so no him making less money isn’t a problem
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/20 01:41 AM
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Depends on how much I made, like obviously if I made like no money I would be less happy about it but if I make enough money than yeah, I mean the job he wants won’t make as much as the one I want. But people contribute in relationships with more than just money. My husbands dream job definitely won’t make tons of money and I always tell him that I won’t mind cause I’ll be making enough that we can live a good life not rich or anything but I don’t need that
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/20 01:39 AM
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If I liked them than yeah. Like what kinda point you trying to prove?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/20 01:27 AM
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Then he makes crafts?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/20 12:07 AM
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No I don’t cheat cause I love my husband lol
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/20 09:02 PM
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Lol he didn’t know this when he married me but nice try. I didn’t fully decide my career till after we got married. If I decided tomorrow to make crafts for living he would be fine with that, the point I was making is if you don’t want to be with women who use your for your money then you don’t have to be. And believe it or not, not every couple is miserable and thinking about divorce all the time.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/20 07:15 PM
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So don’t date those women. My husband and I are in both in school but once I finish my master I will be making quite a bit more than him, it doesn’t matter to me or him, just find women who don’t care.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/20 06:13 PM
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Fair reason to be upset! Glad you’re not with him any more that’s not fun to be with someone that treats you like that
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/20 05:28 AM
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Oh yikes! Sorry to hear that! Yeah it’s sucks, I am lucky I managed to marry a bisexual man it makes life as a bi person much easier! Plus we check out everyone together lol
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/20 05:18 AM
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I don’t know my husband and I are still both in school but I am on track to make more than him and have a masters while he wants to stop at a bachelors I don’t care and neither does he, and my mom makes more than her boyfriend and they don’t care. I am sure some people do but I am going to make a guess it’s more about the social pressure than it is a deep personal preference. Either way date who you want lol date a rich bitch or a poor one but don’t complain about which you choose
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/20 04:47 AM
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Honest because I grew up in a super Christian household for most my life and I didn’t really see women as being an option that I was allowed to go for, I didn’t learn how to properly flirt with girls so I struggled with dating them, I’ve tried many times but sadly didn’t work out, until university I wasn’t even around that many gay women, and by the time I was I was dating my husband I don’t choose partners based on gender didn’t choose my husband cause he is a man I chose him cause I like him, …
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/20 06:49 PM
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I guess it depends on the people your around, my husband cries to me and I hold him and don’t think much of it, it 10 times better than my ex who never shared his emotions with me. But I’ve also seen wack ass women who don’t like it. Emotions are normal.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/20 04:29 PM
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I mean maybe but my husband didn’t, and I known lots of marriage men who don’t. If someone wants to sleep around idk why they’d want to be with someone who cares about it. Also I don’t care if someone wants to be with someone with a similar body count I don’t think most women would but a lot of time it’s super hypocritical cause then men want to sleep around. But do you choose who you choose.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/20 04:18 PM
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One reason friends are so important, no matter what your partner can’t be everything in your life, besides that’s it’s not healthy it’s impracticable, like for even small things my husband hates fish, if I didn’t have one else I would never get to go out for sushi, or go to horror movies with. I don’t think other people need to be each other’s family necessarily but couples need friends and other people to do things with and to talk to
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/20 10:42 PM
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There is something that can happen to people where when they can’t or aren’t able to get something they can become hyper fixated on it. So for some of these people that could be it. They aren’t getting it so it being push to the front of their mind. Again not saying all men just some could be experiencing this
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/20 03:43 PM
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Cause some guys were talk girls are purposely testing you and some other weird shit. I would want to be with someone who doesn’t want me lol for like any reason whether it’s look or personality
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/20 12:48 AM
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And it not uncommon for it to take more than once and some convincing that you’re really not interested to get them to leave you alone, sometimes you just start trying anything. Had one guy try “come on I can pay your bills” lol
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/20 12:44 AM
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Oh I know, but if a women tells a random guy she doesn’t know that they can just be friends after he asks her out it’s probably as real as this kinda guy asking to be your friend
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/20 10:50 PM
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Hobby noun 1. an activity done regularly in one's leisure time for pleasure. an activity that someone does for pleasure when they are not working noun, plural hob·bies. an activity or interest pursued for pleasure or relaxation and not as a main occupation:
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/20 08:33 PM
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Besides watching tv I guess almost everything can be a hobby, cooking can be a hobby, movies can be a hobby, video game are a hobby so yea, other than like work or seeing people if you don’t have hobby wtf do you do
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/20 08:22 PM
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I don’t think I know any women that have said that to basically complete strangers or people they barely know not saying it doesn’t happen but I haven’t seen or heard of it happening that often with strangers. I’ve maybe said that to someone I was already friend friends with and it hurts cause your losing a friendship that you actually care about. But I also am friends with tons of people I’ve been attracted too, I met one of my best friends on tinder but I am bisexual so if I was just never fri…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/20 04:19 PM
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I mean if you don’t have any hobbies then what do you do? Stare at a wall all day when not at work or with others? As long as we are at least into things that similar or it’s at least interesting to a point than that’s mostly what matters. I like lots of artistic and nerdy hobbies and my hubby is into nerdy things and he likes creating things in wood working so different to like crocheting obviously but still in the maker realm so we can chat about it. We both play video games often interested i…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/20 10:12 PM
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Video games can be a hobby, I mean people read and lots of games are like live action choose your own adventure games or like online lego
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/20 10:05 PM
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You doubt I am a woman? Lol okay sure whatever. Fact is you’re just wrong there are tons of weak men and lots of strong women. Just because a lot of men are stronger than a lot of women doesn’t mean that all men are stronger than all women. It’s not an opinion it’s a fact. There are women who can lift like 300 lbs and men who weight like 120lb there are women who are 6ft tall and men that barely hit 5ft women can be stronger than men. Talking to you is like talking to a brick wall, and I am over…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/20 06:31 AM
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Lol look through my posts I am a bisexual woman and no I actually did take down a male partner when wrestling. Just because lots of men are stronger than women doesn’t mean all men are stronger than all women. I’ve dated men that I was stronger than and when I was weightlifting pre-covid I could squat and lift more than my husband.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/20 06:17 AM
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Bisexual woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/20 06:12 AM
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Nope I’ve date men in all shapes and sizes. My husband and I are both smart in different ways there are tons of ways I am smarter than him. And again I am into weightlifting I will most likely become at least as strong as he is. Don’t project shit onto me, most of the guys I’ve been into have been guys I could probably lift over my head cause I’ve always been into super skinny guys and I’ve also dated and been attracted to men definitely not as smart as me.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/20 06:03 AM
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No? Why would I care if they are stronger, more powerful or smarter? As long as we can have good conversation and get along I don’t really care. I don’t do things while thinking but what if this make men less attracted to me I just don’t care. I am married but even when I wasn’t I didn’t really care, I mean women exist for one so if no man wanted me that would be fine but also I have friends and family love doesn’t only come from a partner. In relationships things won’t always be 100% because ev…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/20 06:10 PM
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I didn’t get married because I wanted to be a wife, I got married cause I love my husband
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/20 03:21 PM
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Oh I am not saying you are. What I mean is everyone should be participating in dating meaning men and women should be sharing the load but If say a women doesn’t want to that’s fine she just can’t expect men to still put in the effort but same goes for men.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/20 04:51 PM
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Yeah, men and women should both be “chasing” each other. I mean it’s going to be hard to shift I am sure but I think it’s important. But also if if you don’t want to chase anyone that’s okay but you can’t then expect others too do it for you
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/20 04:44 PM
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Because even when married it doesn’t guarantee anything? Or because lots of people stay in relationships without ever getting married
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/20 04:04 PM
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I think it depends on a lot of things like what you decide to and stuff like that. My husband took me out on surprise first date and paid for it but on the next dates we split it normally, I’ve also gone on froyo dates and paid for myself. If someone offers it’s fine, if you can’t afford to go out right now and they offer that’s fine. But I think you should always bring money and plan to pay for yourself. If one person wants to do something way out of the other person’s budget they should pay, o…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/20 12:59 AM
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For some but I mean my last relationship before my husband he didn’t work till the end of our relationship but I did, cause he was in school and barely had money, and when I started dating my husband he didn’t have a job and doesn’t have one now cause of school as well. So I think it just depends on the person and the stage of life your in.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/20 12:42 AM
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My husband and I are both bisexual and we check out men and women together. The idea that once any person is in a relationship it means they must stop finding other people attractive is insane, does it happen? Yeah but other people don’t become less attractive just cause I love my husband and other people don’t become unattractive just cause my husband loves me.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/20 02:23 PM
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I’ve never been asked that I can remember, it’s come up later after entering a relationship but it hasn’t really seemed to matter much. Though I could have been asked by guys while online dating, none of my longer term partners have asked and no know I think I’ve even gone on one date with has asked
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/20 02:23 AM
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I wish I knew
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/20 04:04 PM
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Men suck, women suck it just part of life sadly but we can choose to put our time into those who deserve it. It won’t always work out but we can’t just get rid of everyone who sucks, we can encourage kindness to each other and work to be kind ourself that’s about it. My husband isn’t even close to this, but I’ve dated pretty shitty guys and at times probably been a shitty girlfriend, people learn grow and change. Find those who are worth it.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/20 03:44 PM
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I think it should be banned it’s gross and abuse unless actually needed for medical purposes, I know some men who have had to have it done but other than that it should never be allowed
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/20 04:28 PM
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Yeah my hubby took my to this weird like skiing thing, where people skies behind horses and we ate fondue. Cost like 20ish bucks. But it was interesting, and not high effort in the sense that we just drove there he didn’t have to set anything up just bought some tickets. I always much preferred cheap dates cause I always brought money to pay for myself, never assuming they would pay, so I liked going to a place that I wasn’t going to upset if it doesn’t work out. Doesn’t always have to be boring…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/20 12:22 AM
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I mean I am sure lots of people do meet online but all my LTR I found in person and anything online usually only lasted a date or two. And a lot of the people I know met their partners in person. Not saying online dating isn’t a common way to meet a partner but it can happen both way, if you do t want to meet someone online don’t online date
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/20 04:49 PM
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I am like just under 5’3” and I have dated 5’8”, 6’ in LTR and my husband is 5’11”honestly I just y’all men attractive for some reason but I’ve also had tons of crushes on men shorter and casually dated a few. I think it’s like anything else for me when there is options some just edge out the rest for no particular reason. But at the same I wouldn’t be upset to date a shorter guy because a good looking guy is good looking either way but it’s nice if he’s tall. When I was younger I definitely thi…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/20 03:59 PM
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It always makes me really sad that men think like this. Humans all of us have value, someone not dating you doesn’t mean you don’t have value. Someone not valuing you doesn’t mean you don’t have value. Also when you go back to about Homo habilis you actually seen signs of less sexual dimorphism between males and females, both hunted and such, but they think tools was a big factor in changing that. We weren’t always as different as we are now. When we made social changes our bodies most likely ad…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/20 04:54 PM
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If they are assholes to you then ya it’s totally fair to want nothing to do with them. And no that’s not why many people improve themselves, and even when it is it doesn’t mean you want the exact people who turned you down sometimes you might want people like them but it’s fair to not want to be with people who saw you as unattractive before
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/20 06:22 PM
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I was never super chubby, but how I see it is if you were actively mean to me then you can fuck off, if you called me names or shamed me for how I looked then I am not interested, because I don’t believe being an asshole to be people just cause you find them ugly is okay. If they just ignored me or didn’t really pay me any special attention then if they were a nice person then I would be fine. If people were mean and then found me hot I would find it funny, especially if they tried asking me out…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/20 06:20 PM
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Yeah because it’s not really objectification, it’s my husband appreciating and desiring me and since I love him I want that. I do the same to him, and as long as it’s appropriate for the situation I am fine, like he grabs my butt or says he like my boobs when we are at home or no one can see us it just for us. But like partner or not in front of family or friends it would be weird lol. Not everyone likes it but as long as you have that understanding with your partner it’s fine
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/20 05:19 PM
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Some men can’t really imagine being friends with their partner. My husband and I are friend not just sex partners, we spend lots of time talking and doing fun things together, though some things slightly less since Covid. Just don’t date men like that.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/20 03:36 PM
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Because they like travelling? Maybe because they want a partner who like traveling? I feel like it’s not that hard to understand why someone would put something that interests them or something they love into their dating profile
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/20 12:48 AM
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There are whole pages dedicated to narcissistic mothers. It may not be split right down the middle but I don’t think as pushed one way as you think
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/20 11:41 PM
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Oh I see it all the time women get called out lots, but I imagine it’s harder to see that they are
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/20 08:51 PM
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I mean men do that too, lots of men expect women to clean up and take care of them like they are still children. I think men and women are both narcissistic sometimes in different way but it comes down to all people suck sometimes some worse than other but none the less people often have unreasonable expectations of others that come from selfishness. And again everyone wants protection, and I don’t think thats crazy, especially cause so many people have access to a phone to at the very least cal…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/20 06:39 PM
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Well most women I know don’t, I am often the one stepping in to defend people and I would do that for a man or woman. But I think regardless of gender we should stick up for each other, especially when the least you can do is phone the police. Both men and women have been seriously hurt or even killed because bystanders haven’t done anything not even the bare minimum. I don’t think people expect it per say but I think most are hopeful that if the time comes and something bad is happening that so…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/20 03:28 PM
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In a relationship I would want to talk it out and see if we could possibly work on it but if they aren’t putting in the effort I am not going to waste my time. When not in a relationship I would just walk away, maybe when I was a teenager and much more insecure about myself I would have chased a guy for a bit but as I got older I realized I don’t have too, if someone isn’t interested in me I should just move on
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/20 05:14 PM
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Depends on the women, I think equality as far as respect and rights but I mean my husband and I are better at different things so he takes control of some areas and I take more control of others but we make important decisions together, and even though one of us maybe more in control of one area we both get an opinion. We never tell each other “ you have too do xyz” we share in responsibilities and value each other as being separate people. And even in the bedroom we sometimes take turn being mo…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/20 04:58 PM
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I mean yeah probably but I’ve had tons a guys with girlfriends message me. People can be shitty
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/20 05:43 PM
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I mean yeah you can message people but they also will feel a way about it. They aren’t wrong for not liking it, especially if that’s not why they have it, people don’t have to want or like random men who they are sure are interested in them contacting them through DMs or Private messages. I mean no can stop you but they can feel how ever they feel about it. I have had people message me I generally message back but if it turns to them being interested I cut contact and that was before I was marri…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/20 04:21 PM
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Meh I grew up with the saying any port in a storm, so I don’t expect the guys I was with to think I am the most attentive woman ever but I typically slept with people I was interested in dating or friends so I assume they at the very least didn’t find me ugly. I mean I feel like anyone who participates in casual sex is going to sleep with a range of people not everyone is going to be a 10. And I married a man I think is smoking fucking hot so I am not disappointed in the slightest.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/20 04:59 PM
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I mean if it’s casual sex why would I want to meet his family or friends? If someone treats me well and gives me what I need I don’t know if I care to much about what they did or didn’t do before me or in other contexts. I don’t know if I think the girl was a 100% wrong cause I’ve heard of guys doing semi similar things, and another guy might not care but I think he did the right thing in leaving her for sure, make sure your needs are reasonably met. He didn’t like what she did, and she should h…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/20 10:44 PM
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I don’t care what a man does sexually before me as long as it is consensual and not abuse (ie with a minor). Your sex life is yours, I’ve dated guys who’ve slept around and virgins, as long as you’re a good personality and we connect I don’t think it should matter
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/20 06:36 PM
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26, my husband is 33 And it’s played no part in my life, I actually supported one of my boyfriends for a long time and when my husband and I started dating we paid for date by splitting the bill or taking turns, he and I are both students, he works now so he now pays a higher portion but not by much. And what I am in school for means I will make more than him and will most likely end up paying a higher portion of bills and that’s okay with me. I’ve never care to have someone take care of me but …
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/20 05:54 PM
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Yes, of course. I cry and I have protected many people in my life both emotionally and physically. My husband cries in front of my but I also know he would and could protect me if needed
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/20 06:19 AM
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I don’t think I find any job really attractive, there are some jobs I wouldn’t want my partner to have but I care more about the passion my partner has for life, and goals and ambition he or she has for life, not everyone is lucky enough to get a job that always fits into their passion or is exactly what they want to do but as long as they go to work (unless unable for valid reasons) and they have dreams even if not related to a job then I am fine. I’ve had partners with no motivation who didn’t…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/20 04:59 PM
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Yeah, I don’t think sexbots would replace the opposite sex for most people, but if it helps a couple then good on them I guess lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/20 06:40 PM
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Well I hope neither becomes obsolete, but I think being able to have children without an opposite sex partner would be great for a lot of reasons not just single men or women. But yeah I do think we are a long way off from that
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/20 06:29 PM
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I clicked want but it really is, I want them if they help others but I personally don’t care either way. They don’t really affect me.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/20 05:06 PM
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Well not completely independently, you still need the sperm and the egg, even if you don’t need the actual person, and currently getting eggs is an extremely painful experience so most women aren’t going to be out there donating a shit ton of eggs, and it would have to be tons of eggs donated because one egg even when using ivf isn’t guaranteed to produce an actual kid. And even now when women donate or sell their eggs it’s a huge process of being on hormones and check the quality of the eggs. W…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/20 05:03 PM
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Men, do what you want. Want to look for someone ? Do it, want to go MGTOW do it, want to join a seven person orgy ? Have at it. As long as you’re not forcing yourself on anyone or hurting them do what you want.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/20 02:35 PM
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Because they like it and want to do it.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/20 08:44 PM
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I am 26 I have no idea but it ranges probably from a 5 to 7, I mean some days I look a little homeless I ain’t gonna lie Married now but when I wasn’t, average guys is basically all I went for. I am going to say most guys aren’t ugly. I honestly don’t know and I think it changes sometimes based in the community you’re apart of, I hang out with the queers, bisexuals and pansexuals like me tend to find more people pretty attractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/20 04:29 PM
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Then don’t date women with tattoos, I promise most of ladies with ink aren’t interested in being with men who don’t like girls with tattoos. Also don’t date women who you think are promiscuous, or were or whatever. And of course I think it makes sense that certain behaviours are going to be more often found in people with certain personalities but that doesn’t mean they are related. My mom has been with two people and is super Christian has one tattoo and plans on getting a huge piece, I have lo…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/20 08:43 PM
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I mean I didn’t. I am sure some women do, some men do too. I think my husband is hot and has a personality that is amazing, smart and funny. I also think that one some people like others would find settling so you don’t really know how they feel, just cause you see their partner as not being in their “league”. Also as you get older what matter to you changes, we all will get old and then you want to make sure you loved more than just that persons looks. And on top of the liking one type of perso…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/20 06:05 PM
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As women I would actually love to be able to a man not permanently but if I could try it out or go between the two I would in a heart beat.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/20 06:31 PM
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It depends on the poly people there are many who actually don’t have that many more just a hey let know but other than that don’t care
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/20 07:14 PM
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What your describing isn’t really polyamory. I’ve done it before, my husband and meet and dated while I was but now we are monogamous, didn’t work for us but I know many people who it does work for.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/20 07:13 PM
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Nah men are sexy, and so are women. I am also bisexual and my guess is that your just picky when it comes to men and less so with women.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/20 06:17 PM
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Both men and women can have varied sexual kinks and interests I don’t think it’s all that surprising that some like it and some don’t. I know tons of women including myself that do but I also lots of women who don’t.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/20 01:58 AM
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I just think I it’s sad that there are men out there that feel like they have to feel like that or their broken. Like feel your feels but it sticks that so many guys feel like they have to be on all the time.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/20 04:45 PM
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Do looks matter? Yes of course but A. What I find attractive varies and isn’t the always the same as others and B. It’s doesn’t beat out other things. If you’re an ass I will not continue to talk to you.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/20 11:29 PM
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Friendship, romance, intimacy, similar values, beliefs and goals. Also for me personally a sense of adventure.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/20 08:50 PM
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I don’t think women are disgusted with all men not interested maybe but not disgusted.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/20 07:15 PM
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I am bisexual, and I don’t see all men or all women as a possible sexual or romantic partners, lesbians don’t want to fuck every women they see, hell even men don’t find all women attractive or datable. I don’t think it’s weird at all for people to be attracted to certain people but not everyone , straight or not.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/20 07:04 PM
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Yes I don’t find it true because that isn’t my experience or the experience of most of the women I know. I’ve slept with “beta” guys and date “alpha” guys and the reverse. Before I got married I was friends with benefit with an amazing guy who most would probably say was beta but he was a good friend and we enjoyed being together. I also had a situation like that with a guy that looked kinda like Clark Kent. I’ve date alpha like dudes who committed and our relationship ran its course and I dated…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/20 05:38 PM
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I don’t think the two things have anything to do with each other really. If I was feeling especially confident I might flirt with someone who I wouldn’t normally think would like me but who I am attracted to doesn’t change based on if I am wearing makeup or not.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/20 03:05 PM
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My husband is student like me and I started dating him when he had like no money now we are just over no money. We might never have tons of money but I love him and he loves me so it works for us.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/20 07:44 AM
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Uh baby yoda and baby babies are different, like very different, one is unnatural cute and fake the other is pretty cute but something you would really have to take care of and then they grow up..
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/20 08:20 PM
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Yeah it was a question about personal preferences.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/20 01:44 PM
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For you maybe. I don’t care. I’ve known guys who’ve slept around who were amazing and virgins who were giant assholes, I look for more than someone n-count
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/20 01:35 PM
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Also not true.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/20 02:54 AM
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Still doesn’t make you a bad person. People are allowed to go out and have sex
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/20 02:49 AM
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That’s just not true.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/20 02:31 AM
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Nope not really. 1 or a 100 as long as he’s a good guy it doesn’t matter.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/20 02:27 AM
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I have no desire really to be a stay at home wife, I feel like I would melt into a blob. I am in school and I am excited to work, if I got a high enough paying job maybe my husband would stay home. Even then I like things to be split more evenly between me and my partner, both work and both have house responsibilities. Though I cook and clean more and he fixes things more we still both do a little of everything like he cooks when I am to tired and our whole smart home is set up and maintained by…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/20 12:32 AM
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Not to mention that girls only have their looks and when they lose that they have nothing. This way of thinking is so stupid, I don’t know any women who have nothing to offer but looks. They can do many things and have many traits that would be beneficial to a partner. They can be really good cooks or bakers, be good at building or crafting things, be organized, be smart, play instruments, write well, play video games, love going on adventures, enjoy hiking, be a big travel person, be fitness en…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/20 11:31 PM
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I’ve been with both introverts and extroverts, I am more extroverted so in a lot of situations (where appropriate) I chat up even quiet guys. I have some more introverted friends as well. I don’t really judge them though I find dating extroverts just works better, not because I dislike introverts but because I like going out and being with people, meeting new people, or being in spaces where interaction is going to happen. So I like dating people who want to tag along and not feel like I am forc…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/20 04:24 PM
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I think both sides need sex and romance. I buy my husband flowers and write him notes and poems and since he has a lower sex drive, he tries to make an effort to get in the mood if it’s been a while and I am horny lol. On top of that I think sex it’s self can be extremely romantic, sex all on it’s own can make me feel loved. It’s both peoples job to maintain the relationship and if there is something making it difficult like new meds, stress or whatever then compassion and compromise is importan…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/20 06:54 PM
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A guy pulled off his pants, and then proceeded to say “Sorry it’s not normally this small” .... I mean I know there’s a difference between hard and semi hard but this wasn’t that, and I hadn’t said anything or reacted in anyway because size isn’t the only thing that matters. But his comment definitely surprised me. Edit: a word
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/20 12:52 AM
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Is 25 young? Lol
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/20 05:39 AM
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Men play games, and for many years women were shamed for their sexuality and so they said no in that way so they could still seem “pure” many women still feel that pressure, they should say no or yes but that doesn’t mean they don’t know what they want. And men throw tantrums all the time, but that doesn’t mean either side is a child. I make my own decisions if I don’t want sex I say no, if I do I say yes, and if I am not sure I communicate that as well. And many many women I know do the same. T…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/19 06:35 PM
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What the fuck do you mean? Adults have sex, so women want to fuck doesn’t make them children.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/19 06:28 PM
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We aren’t children. Women do many things that children can’t do have brains different than children’s. But you needs something to blame, There’s nothing to admit. Adult aren’t children.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/19 06:24 PM
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I am not trying to advise you, it would be a clear waste of my time. I am always just amazed that men like you exist, women aren’t children but whatever help you deal with life man.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/19 06:19 PM
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Alright sweetheart whatever helps
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/19 06:01 PM
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Lol really? Cause I know when I want to fuck and I make it known. I also know where I want to live, what I want to do, who I like to be with. And I haven’t needed any man to tell me what I want.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/19 04:45 PM
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I always brought money on dates and often would go to pay for myself
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/19 03:27 PM
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First dates with someone you met online should be super cheap, loss pressure, and easy to bail on. It's mostly a test to see if the person is who they claim to be, and if there's any IRL chemistry. The second date is sort of the new first date I think. I agree, I would actually prefer if someone took me for coffee or something for a first date, so if it was weird or no chemistry I wouldn’t feel bad about an expensive date they took me on.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/19 07:04 AM
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Coffee and walking around is just fine, if you want to go all out feel free. But I don’t see a need for a date to be real expensive especially if one person is paying, if your splitting the bill then more expensive could be fine.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/19 08:15 PM
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Coffee and walking around is just fine, if you want to go all out feel free. But I don’t see a need for a date to be real expensive especially if one person is paying, if your splitting the bill then more expensive could be fine.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/19 08:15 PM
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Coffee and walking around is just fine, if you want to go all out feel free. But I don’t see a need for a date to be real expensive especially if one person is paying, if your splitting the bill then more expensive could be fine.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/19 08:15 PM
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25 like once or twice every one to two months it really depends on if I am dressing up more or going out more. I more often than not these days go from home to uni and then back. I also wear headphones and stare at my phone to avoid talking with people when I am alone and otherwise I am with my husband, friends or family. I actively avoid strange men talking with me. When I was like 15-19 and I went out more and dressed up often it was way more like at least once a weekish give or take.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/12/19 09:57 PM
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False, in all three serious relationships I’ve been in, my male partners have turn down sex for many reasons sometimes just not feeling it, sick, tired, or busy. And I rarely turn down sex I would have it basically everyday if my husband was up for it. And I know I am not the only who experiences this.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/19 08:26 PM
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I mean sometimes ya, I have more a sex drive than he does so not often, and sometimes if I don’t want to I am willing to try and get into it but if I remember don’t want sex then I’ll say no. My partner can get sex with me like 9 times out of 10 but if either of us doesn’t want sex we don’t push, if we aren’t having as much sex as we would like we sit down and talk about it.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/19 08:21 PM
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I think to be good at sex you need two things really the ability to listen and the ability to talk. You need to be able to listen to what your partner needs and wants while also being able to explain what you need and want. When both people can do that then sex will grow to be amazing even if it starts out not perfect. I also think both of those skills are things you can learn but you have to care.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/19 06:59 PM
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If they want to be then yes and if they don’t want then no.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/19 08:21 PM
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Funny and silly, we laugh all the time but he knows when jokes aren’t appropriate Intelligent, in academic things but also his hobbies He’s a space nerd and IT guy part time Kind Family oriented, treats my family like his We have similar interests and beliefs but aren’t always the same so he helps me grow in my thoughts as well as pushing me to try new things The best sex of my whole freaking life We travel together He shares house responsibilities He supports my dreams and pushes me to do my be…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/19 01:19 AM
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Of course, you’re always allowed to be not in the mood for physical contact. I mean people can be a little disappointed but they should keep it to themselves unless it becomes a recurring problem.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/19 11:41 PM
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Because they don’t want to? Because they want to do something else? Just because something is “easy”, I mean I don’t think sex work is easy but even if it was just cause something is easy doesn’t mean people will want to. And also some people don’t want to share their body in that way.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/19 02:46 AM
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No, I know lots people turned on by these things. And false again, I find smart responsible men very sexy, so do many women.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/19 01:31 AM
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Again that has happened to me. May not be common and might not be for everyone. But I have friends who only find someone sexually attractive based on personal traits.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/19 12:39 AM
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I don’t think that’s completely true, because I’ve met people who weren’t super attractive to me and became a sexual option because of their intelligence or talent.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/19 12:29 AM
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As a light skinned black women I am good with when I was born.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/19 09:00 PM
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Actually being smart and talented is incredibly sexy, being responsible is also super sexy. Seeing my husband be good to with my family and his only makes me want to fuck him more. I mean being just “hot” with nothing else isn’t that great, and being smart but “ugly” also isn’t great but that doesn’t mean those things aren’t attractive to people. People can find physical and personal traits sexy but often one trait doesn’t make or break a person. Especially when you’re talking about average guys…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/19 08:44 PM
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F25 and I am not sure I remember the last time I knew for sure I was being approached, when I was on my honeymoon at one point my husband was off doing something and some guy started talking to me about why a book costed more in the store and online, which to me was odd but once he realized I only spoke a wee bit of French he seemed disappointed and walked away. Also had a few moments with some queer women where I was like 90% sure they were flirting or eyeing me up. And how often it happens cha…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/19 08:24 PM
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I wouldn’t say anything nor would I feel anyway about it. Whatever makes you happy.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/19 10:41 PM
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He may not be the sexiest man to others, I love him so his emotions don’t bother me.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/19 01:22 AM
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Then you know shitty women, my husband has mental health issues, I’ve seen him have seizures from anxiety and I love him all the same. I’ve seen him bawl like a baby and he is still the sexiest man alive. And I know I am not the only women like that cause I have friends who I know have dated men that are emotional or have mental health issues and didn’t see them as lesser than.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/19 10:11 PM
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Like any addiction it affects your life, if a guy or girl is unable to have a regular sex life but is watching porn all the time, or can’t go a day without it, or isn’t able to experience attraction to their partners or live people then those would be some indications of a possible porn addiction. As I am not a psychologist I wouldn’t say I can tell right away but if I was with someone who was engaging in porn in a way that was affecting our lives I would ask them to seek help, but i don’t belie…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/19 01:07 AM
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I’ve dated some pretty skinny men most taller than me but I am pretty short so most guys aren’t smaller than me. But I’ve been very attracted to guys who are shorter and skinnier than me. Though I usually prefer at least my height but that le not hard I am barely 5’3”. My husband is about 5’11” but I’ve dated shorter and never really noticed it as a problem. I generally in the past like short stocky guys or tall and skinny but people are hot, and if a short guy is hot then he is hot and his heig…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/19 01:00 AM
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I think both can effect people but often doesn’t, it’s really person dependent. Some guys watch porn and are fine and some get addicted, or have issues with real sex after, just like some women have high n-counts and aren’t negatively affected by it emotionally or otherwise but some women get emotionally fucked up because of it. And it can switch high n-counts can negatively impact men and women can be porn addicts.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/19 07:42 PM
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Pretty I would say most of the time, I find most people are at least a little attractive. And like a large portion of people are really hot, maybe it’s a bisexual thing idk but there aren’t as many people I find ugly especially in my age group, under like 23 and I get icked out and over like 35-7 and I am often less likely but still there are some banging 40 year olds. Maybe like 75-80 average, depending on where I am, like downtown 65-70 at uni like 85-90.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/19 06:02 AM
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I doubt it, I don’t know anyone who is married or in a relationship where they don’t find their partner physically attractive. It can change over time but I don’t think many people are out there being with people they don’t want to sleep with. Sex is important to women too. I am married and I am very physically attracted to my husband or I wouldn’t be with him because that’s weird if he is in a relationship he should be with someone who loves all of him.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/19 10:23 PM
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Pretty low number, I would care if it was 4 or 40 he’s a good person that’s what matters.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/19 06:44 AM
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I wouldn't care, I would love to take care of my husband, and he feels the same. If I get paid enough that I can take care of everything thing plus more and he works, it just means we can travel or buy a house or just do the things we love to do together. I will never understand why it matters, especially if it's not cause one person is lazy. Like it's different if one person is making like 50k a year and the other one is lazy or without a job (for no good reason). But if he is working, and cont…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/19 12:15 AM
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I won't do this back and forth with you too much because people like you don't really change no matter what people tell you. So go ahead and think what ever you like. But I'm happier like this and most of the women I know are happier like this. And that's what matters to us. Have a nice day. Well, then you haven't gotten to the slavery yet, you're just being indoctrinated to submit to it right now. No, I've worked before. But I went to school so I could get a better job. I wanted to help more pe…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/19 06:35 PM
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I am married and my husband isn't the boss of me, and never would want to be. I am in school and plan to work. I can have a job, a husband and we can be equals in our relationship. I would rather be single than be with any person who thinks they're the boss of me. Or who would dream of that. Being the boss at someone's job is completely different to being a boss in their everyday life.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/19 08:25 AM
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I mean you don't have to like it, and if that's your boundary fine but she is allowed to go and you just have to decide if that's the hill you want to die on. My husband doesn't like clubbing so he often doesn't come with me but he couldn't give two shits about me going to clubs. Because I am grown ass women. I like dancing, and I like getting ready with my friends all of us looking hot, taking pictures together, getting a little tipsy and having fun. I dated a guy who didn't like it when I went…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/19 06:26 PM
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I think lots of bad things happen in life, things can go either way. People need to just make the choices they feel are best for them, this doesn't always mean everything will work out but that's the risk you take with anything. Women often complain that when they have children their husbands become kinda useless. It doesn't always happen though, so you pick the best partner you can, have kids and hope for the best. Peoples willingness to risk is personal, what's worth it to some isn't to others…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/19 10:28 PM
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Really depends why they are acting that way. Mental health can be a bitch, I'd always fight like hell before throwing in the towel when there is reason for it. But if they don't have a reason and are just being a lazy asshole that doesn't want to change then yeah probably.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/19 07:05 PM
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If it's the exact same woman/ women ya it would be really weird, but people do change over time. If it's not the exact same women you can only speculate how they would have felt. My husband was a late bloomer, I've seen pictures of him in high school and I would have dated him for sure then but one there's an age gap and two we didn't know each other. And this happens with women too, they are awkward looking or shy in high school and no one tries to date them and when learn how to dress and thei…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/19 06:15 PM
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I am women but this all sounds awful. You pay for everything and make all decisions Yeah it's going be hell no from me. No one should make all the decisions for their partner. With money I kinda don't care either way, I have had relationships where I payed for most things, where it's been split down the middle and where he has payed and in most of them it's switched up often because when you're not in a stable job yet of a student money can fluctuate. You pay for all dates during courtship and p…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/19 04:57 PM
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Go to the bisexal subreddit many bisexual women end up with women. I won't deny that many have ended up in opposite sex relationships but the reason for this isn't because men are special. Men want to believe that but it's more to do with the stigma of bisexuality, a lot of women won't date Bisexual men so if they come out they often end up dating guys but they aren't gay. A lot of Bisexual women actually have a hard in the queer community finding female partners. On top of that family expectati…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/19 04:44 PM
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I am a part of the queer community and I don't know any that think that you aren't born gay, I knew I like women since I was 9 it's what I was attracted too. And I know people who knew younger, lots of which came from homes in which it wasn't talked about so yeah I believe a 100% they were born like that. Who you sleep with doesn't actually determine if you're gay or not. Because tons of gay people have slept with people of the opposite sex because that's what they were told was normal and once …
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/19 01:01 AM
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Oh so people on Reddit in this sub agree with you thats has weight on this website but doesn't mean a mass amount of people outside this subreddit would. You're also saying so many things that don't make any sense. You went so off from what I was even talking about in my original post and you're trying to say that men controling women isn't the patriarchy, nope according to you it's cause women are more fuckable which makes no sense. Society gave men power over women that wasn't deserved, they c…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/19 11:05 PM
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Most do not agree with you, I live in reality but ya enjoy you're day.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/19 10:52 PM
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You are born gay. And some men fuck guys for money, but people aren't going to change their sexuality because of a lack of "good" men. Being able to sleep with someone and your sexuality actually changing is not the same thing. And implying that women in mass are becoming bisexual because of this is just false.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/19 10:51 PM
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It's not it's really not true. Lol you're just spouting bullshit.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/19 10:49 PM
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Lol know that's funny! Enjoy your day !
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/19 10:46 PM
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Ah yes so funny.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/19 10:11 PM
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Yes they were convinced that their place was under men. And women being more desirable isn't why we live in a patriarchal society.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/19 10:06 PM
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That has nothing to with anything I've said.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/19 09:57 PM
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That actually makes no sense at all. We are live in a patriarchal society because men took power away from women and brainwashed them into submission. Our society grew on the backs of minorities, not just women. We fought back, minorities stopped letting people take their power, or at the very least started calling it out. Women are complaining about a real power imbalance that has been happening for thousands of years. We aren't complaining because we think men are more talented, or because we …
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/19 09:19 PM
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But if looks are power and men it and talent is power and women want it, then everyone wants power and your point has no value because everyone is a power sexual, it's like saying men want to eat good food, if no one is out here trying to eat bad food and therefore everyone wants good food then it isn't a man thing, and saying it is pointless.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/19 09:00 PM
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But if power is everything then you point is invalid. Humor can be powerful but that doesn't mean it is. My husband is funny but he isn't power because of it. Men want women who are talented at many things so by your definition men are also power sexual. By your definition every human out there is like this because everyone at least wants to be with someone how is skillful in bed which by what you're saying is power.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/19 08:48 PM
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Of course it can but for something like that it would be more linked to trauma not just oh can't find a guy guess I'll start dating women. That's not how it works and implying that more women are bisexual or lesbians because there not being enough men is just silly. People are born into their sexual orientation, it's on a spectrum so some people aren't all the way straight but not fully bi either, and they may usually prefer men but date women because of trauma or not really finding a guy they a…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/19 08:43 PM
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I absolutely can. Men and women are not the exact same and this "its all just the evil social constructs!" crap that blank slate feminists say non stop is dogshit. False, it is a social construct to a point. We know this because there are other societies in which men and women are different because of how that society teach them. Also men's and women's brains have a great deal of variety and I am getting this from psychologists. It's a spectrum of feminine and masculine traits. Also you missed w…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/19 08:37 PM
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That's just not true, straight women do some time experiment but they are still straight and when they realize it they won't be with women no matter what. And as a bisexual women who has been with both and who is active in the queer community you're very very wrong, I can't speak for why straight women fuck. But women in queer spaces are not out for power and attractions varie between people. Almost no humans want to have sex with someone they don't find attractive but I've seen lots of queer wo…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/19 08:09 PM
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And makes it seem like all of women's sexuality revolves around men
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/19 07:51 PM
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I am a university student and so is my husband, but that's cause we met there. I know lots people that would date men or women not in university or college because intelligence is measured one way. And university or college is a place where you can learn many things, my husband is in communication and journalism which is a lot different to my linguistics and languages which is technically a soft science. But we both sit at a similar intelligence level though he argues I am smarter I think he is …
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/19 07:32 PM
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I agree, if I don't feel safe or comfortable with someone then I am not going to feel aroused enough to want be with them no matter how hot. Nervous excitement can be slightly different but at no point is anxiety or discomfort a turn on.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/19 06:45 PM
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That's not how Bisexuals or Lesbians work... Women like other women has nothing to do with men
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/19 06:01 PM
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Yes I am a natural haired queer women, your point?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/19 06:08 AM
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No not really as a woman, who has been both passive and none passive and who has been objectified it hasn't made any difference, because men who objectify women will do so regardless.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/19 01:34 AM
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Not initiating doesn't mean you're opting for objectification.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/19 01:25 AM
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But none of what you're saying implies that women would rather be objectified, I don't think many women want men to compete. Some women are passive and some are not, but I think it's silly to think any woman would rather the objectification, because most don't want to be with men who do objectify them.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/19 01:18 AM
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Of course someone with Daddy issues can be a good mother or wife. Just like people with no parental issues can be horrible spouses and parents.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/19 01:02 AM
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The only men I have ever "enjoyed" objectifying me is the men I was in relationships with, and even then it wasn't truly objectifying because they loved and saw me as a person. Most of the women I know hate it. Appreciating and finding someone attractive doesn't mean you have to objectify them, you can still treat them and see them as a person. And women approaching first doesn't stop guys from objectifying anyone. Also what age are these women that you're hearing from that shame other girls for…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/19 12:57 AM
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That sounds awful, I've had to end relationships with men because they wouldn't show any emotions other than these.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/19 12:15 AM
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All depends, I've split and paid for the whole thing. I think it can be situational.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/19 07:20 AM
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We can't go back we have to adapt.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/19 05:39 PM
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1) What does "banter" actually look like to you? Are there lines that should not be crossed? Where are they? Feel free to give examples Light teasing with someone you know well enough to know or at least guess that they will receive it well. My husband is 7 years older than me and I tease him that I am dating an old man, but I wouldn't just say that to any person. 2) Is banter an essential part of the flirting process for you? Yes and no, at first not as much, later down the road it's nice, but …
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/19 04:10 PM
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Ooh! Thanks! I fix that. And yes, in a partnership everyone should give a 100% that looks different for different people and relationships but no one person shouldn't be able to function without the other. And space a part now and then can be important, having different hobbies and friends is a must.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/19 03:50 PM
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Yes but it's also important to still remain independent to a degree. Because your aren't your partner. Like everything else is life balance is key. I don't want someone who never wants me but I also don't want someone who can't do anything without me.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/19 03:12 PM
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Well first it's called change it happens, shit you might be interested in when you're younger you may not be as into when you're older. You may drink lots in your early twenties and then a heck of a lot less in in your late twenties and early thirties, this is not uncommon it's actually very normal. And even the guys on here admit that women they just want to fuck are different from women they want to date. And when there are men out there that pretend to want to date you just for a fuck and the…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/19 03:07 AM
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Depends, if you're doing it all the time yeah she might think that, or if you met on a website that's used for dating. Just be upfront before you have sex, it's not hard.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/19 01:36 AM
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Lots of women do, I have but when we do society acts like it's the end of the fucking world. One of the biggest issues on this sub is women who have sex just for sex. So y'all need to make up your mind, either you want women that want sex for sex or you want women that only have slept with like 2 people in LTs. Also be honest at the beginning because if you aren't then ya women aren't going to like if you lead them to believe it was going to be more and it wasn't. If you're straight up at the be…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/19 01:27 AM
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I mean attraction isn't black and white. There is wide range between who I find to die for attractive and who I find repulsive. So I may sometimes go for higher on the list and sometimes lower, but if the thought of being with someone sexually makes my lady bits dry up and due then there isn't much I could or would want to do about that. And sometimes there are exceptions to the "rules". And some people don't find some people attractive and no amount of saying, "well you could lower your standar…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/19 11:08 PM
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Nah sex isn't just about an orgasm. As long as you're willing to play beforehand and I get off as well I am not all that concerned.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/19 07:30 AM
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Did I need it? Maybe not but I like being committed to one person and so I want that in a partner. Man or woman. When I found my husband I was looking for a "high value" man, I was looking for someone that was kind, funny, had similar values/beliefs, that I enjoyed spending time with, who liked to talk about life, someone to travel with, maybe start a family with and that I could fall in love with. And no I don't just want sex I wanted a life partner, I don't why that's hard for people to unders…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/19 07:13 AM
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You asked if it's the price women have to pay, as if it's fair to that this happens to them. No it is not on the women alone, women from young ages are taught to people please. And many women have had some form of sexual abuse, or harassment, and there are many stories of women who have said no and been hurt. If a man has every intent to gain full consent and doesn't want to have sex without it then he isn't pressuring her thats what I am saying but that doesn't mean she fully gave consent becau…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/19 09:43 PM
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Omg you're thick, this one women may feel fine with her situation yes but that doesn't mean pressuring someone into sex is okay, she even says she wasn't alluding to feeling pressured. There is a difference between doing something because you don't feel like it but you aren't against it and being forced to say yes out of fear. I have had sex when I wasn't into it as much because I love my husband but one I wasn't against doing it just not into and two he wasn't pressuring me. How can you not see…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/19 09:19 PM
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I am not invalidating their experiences by pointing out that forced consent is wrong, if you feel like you can't say no then you don't actually have a choice and you need a choice for consent. There is a difference between being neutral on something and then deciding you want to and being afraid of violence. And some women may not feel upset or traumatized by a certain amount of it, but I know plenty of women who were greatly traumatized because they couldn't say no.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/19 09:05 PM
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Well being a women maybe you shouldn't invalidate my experience or opinions on the matter. If a women has sex with someone cause they are afraid not to, they're weren't "persuaded" too, that isn't sexy or fun or something where both parties are consenting to something. Forced consent is not consent that's kinda the whole point. Even seduction needs consent, if someone says no and you don't take it then there is something wrong with you.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/19 08:50 PM
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There is a difference between seducing someone and pressure. When someone is flirting with you and playfully teasing, and you haven't said no that's one thing but when someone says no, that should be the end of it.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/19 08:41 PM
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It shouldn't be, pressuring someone to have sex is fucked up. And no I don't think that's the price because many men know how not to pressure women into sexual acts. Some men just can't handle no. Yes you can pursue what you like but not at the expense of others, pursuing sex doesn't mean pressuring someone. Bonus Q: what is the greater injustice: being pressured into sex or not having the freedom to pursue whatever sexual relationship you desire? What do you exactly mean, like it gets chosen fo…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/19 05:48 PM
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Sounds like a cool lady, tell her she just needs to find her ADHD man. Haha my husband and I both have ADHD it makes life a lot easier when you're with a partner or with friends that understand what it's like.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/19 01:49 PM
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How does he looks like? That's a weird range honestly, I don't if I have a perfect looking guy because there are so many types of attractive men. Does he need to be well dressed? Well groomed? Yes and no, like if you smell like shit I am going to struggle, if you show up to a fancy dinner in ripped jeans and a stained t-shirt I won't be impressed. But well dressed is relative, I always prefer when they have a style of some kind and understand time and place. I do love a good hair cut though it d…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/19 07:57 PM
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I can imagine it, would it suck sometimes yeah. But honestly think I am alive for more than just casual sex so I would move on. I've seen tons of women who aren't considered attractive with jobs and partners. If no one wanted to date me I would be sad sometimes but I don't get more worth from if someone wants to date me. And after uni there are tons of jobs I could get that it wouldn't make if I wasn't casual sex "material" The ability to have casual sex only has value to some people.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/19 07:48 PM
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My mom, who had two kids and was struggling but still took on me and my sister cause my birth mother was drug addicted cunt. She is amazingly strong and kind, and she put us before herself. She wasn't perfect but she tried.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/19 06:39 PM
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What?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/19 09:59 PM
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Exactly
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/19 09:57 PM
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Tall for me! Lol
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/19 09:56 PM
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5'10 is pretty fucking tall though.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/19 07:48 PM
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Yeah but also there are tons and tons of men if colour who will not date women in their race so, white guy do often like Asians women but you'll still have tons Asian men that will go for white women. So sometimes it's just who you fall for, sometimes it's the area you grew up in ( I grew up with mostly white people around), sometimes it's because a lot of men "like" you aren't interested so they branch out. But either way people are free too date people of other races if they want too.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/19 05:12 PM
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No, if I think you're my friend I may try to reach out to see if you're okay, or if I hurt or what not but if you doing that shit I'm out.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/19 05:21 AM
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Only if there is some reason for it, like a situation that just happened or if they had like really cool shoes, a car or something. Otherwise no but I never really talked to men I found attractive because I am shy human. Same with women for the most part, I just don't talk to random people that often regardless of my attraction.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/19 03:13 AM
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I am almost 5'3 and my husband is 5'10 almost 5'11 but I've dated guys shorter some close to my height and some like over 6ft. As long as they are taller than me I am usually good. But I wouldn't craft my dating life for others, and if I like someone and they like me it ridiculous to assume I should say no just because someone else might then get a chance. People should date who they want and who also wants them. Tall girls aren't automatically deserving of a tall man. And that's not how genetic…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/19 02:05 AM
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Lol what? That's so fucking stupid. I am a women so no it's not irrelevant or nonsensical
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/19 01:29 AM
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For many reasons but one is trust. If it's not of a one night stand or a short relationship then I am not about to break out the BDSM full force because it requires trust and love for me. Some women will find a guy A really cute and just want a one time thing but with guy B they aren't sure at first. Or are currently not looking for a one time thing. Also preferences change.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/19 11:59 PM
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Uh no, if someone agree to be monogamous then they are free to be upset if that's broken. Some people are in open relationships, or different types of sexual relationships. If that's a couple's choice cool but otherwise it's just not okay to cheat on a partner. Most women do not want to be in a harem of any kind. Lots of women actually don't like the idea of their men fucking other women's. I sure as hell wouldn't be okay with my husband being with anyone else.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/19 11:45 PM
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Exactly
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/19 11:33 PM
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Yeah, I think it's one of those things were people are sooo different so what might affect some people won't affect others the same.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/19 11:21 PM
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That's fair.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/19 11:17 PM
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But I don't think high N-count causes the other. It may sometimes go the other way but not always. Some people have throuples, three people dating that not full monogamy but they may all have very low counts.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/19 11:13 PM
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I don't think that's true though. Ive know tons of people who have high ncounts who prefer monogamy. And who do connect through sex, that's how I connect with my husband. Some people like monogamy some don't, but high ncounts don't mean you're going to be one or the other.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/19 11:09 PM
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I would go "shopping" at the mall. Or commit tax fraud.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/19 10:22 PM
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False but whatever makes you feel better dude.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/19 10:14 PM
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There are lots of hot feminists.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/19 08:52 PM
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I have a crazy high N-count by most standards here, and I have no issue at all connecting to my husband. He is the best sex I have ever had, and I don't compare him to anyone cause I don't want anyone else. I also often had sex with people that cared about me cause they we friends, or short term partners. A couple one night stands but they were always super nice guys that treated me well. Are there shitty people out there? Yeah but that doesn't mean all non marital/ commitment sex is bad. Also n…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/19 08:50 PM
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No! Men you take all the selfies if you want too! You deserve too love yourself. If you feel attractive and want to take a picture you do it!!
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/19 06:33 AM
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I'd rather stay single this sounds insane.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/19 06:03 AM
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Lol oh no married women do things other than suck dick and clean 24 hours a day. I mean most men go one round and need a break anyway, oh and I mean he has hobbies, and I travel by bus which is least a half an hour of free phone time and believe it or not married people aren't together all the time, and you don't actually need to spend every minute cooking and cleaning so it gives you lots of free time to fill with whatever the fuck you feel like. It's almost like wow couples are still to separa…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/19 05:56 AM
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Fair.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/19 05:22 AM
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Yeah I mean I am not really surprised but it's interesting.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/19 05:17 AM
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That's what I am saying.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/19 05:14 AM
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I have never found it goes the other way, black men give zero shits when we get with white men. Lol so that's great I guess /s
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/19 04:42 AM
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You can be as upset and bitter about it as you want. And you don't have to be with anyone you don't want too, so if you think a girl has had to much sex don't date her. And I really don't understand what your last statement has to do with anything. There are people that you might fuck but not date, and there are some people you wouldn't do either and some that maybe over time you would find attractive but when your just looking for a quick fuck they don't catch your eye. What does that have to w…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/19 02:43 AM
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I didn't even know what that was till I looked it up.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/19 02:37 AM
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10!
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/19 02:32 AM
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Well if I am just fucking someone then their looks matter, they don't need to be like super hot but I need to find them attractive if the point of our encounter is just sex, especially if it's like only a one or two off. They don't need to be Chris Pratt of anything super crazy but if they don't give me that feeling then why would I ? It's not about more than just sex. If its a relationship then yeah looks and personality mix and I am looking for a more whole package. Or if it's like a friend th…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/19 02:28 AM
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Aw thanks
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/19 10:26 PM
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Thanks!
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/19 10:08 PM
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?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/19 06:19 PM
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I think people get public spaces and social spaces mixed up. Though it's not a hard and fast rule, I think generally public spaces are places you have to go to do a thing but that doesn't mean you want anyone to talk to you. So the bus is a public space I have to be on it to get where I need to go, doctors offices, the grocery store ect. In these areas I think caution is important and paying attention. If someone is wearing headphones and staring at the floor avoiding eye contact with anyone don…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/19 04:55 PM
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Lucky for them they don't need people to believe their happy to be happy. There are tons of reasons not to have kids, lots of people enjoy it. And they're failing a made up standard of success so like oh well? On my way to my degree and then masters if I don't have kids oh fucking well,my husband and I will enjoy traveling, our hobbies without interruption and do what we want when we want. And if I want to hug a baby there are tons of people who have them. They aren't fulfilling for everyone, an…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/19 04:43 PM
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I mean they can if the want to.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/19 04:17 PM
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After my hair cut. Hello https://imgur.com/gallery/1rpRiGo
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/19 04:12 PM
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Good luck.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/19 11:20 PM
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Yeah some people cheat the world sucks. If you feel like it's a lot where you live maybe go somewhere new if possible I know people who've cheated or been cheated on but most people aren't terrible. Just be cautious and if something seems weird be honest, speak up and ask questions. I mean don't hound every person your with, but if you're struggling explain that to your partner and hopefully they can help ease you. I was in the past cheated on and so I struggled but my partner was always patient…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/19 11:15 PM
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But it's not really doubling anything, if people are going to cheat they will do it regardless of their sexual orientation. Just because your attracted to a gender doesn't mean there is suddenly like a billion people for you to have sex with. I like men and women, but I still have to find people who are attracted to me that I am attracted to, and in the queer community especially with women it's not just like open season on anyone. And I've seen many straight people cheat, so much so that the wh…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/19 11:03 PM
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Don't assume your bisexual partner wants threesome, and especially don't be upset if you want one and they say no. If they do want one have open and honest discussion about it, don't be playful be straight up. If someone gets their feelings hurt in a threesome because someone did what they told them could then it's their problem, and the rules should be talked about again. I mean comfort them and what not but if they get mad at you it's dumb, it what they signed up for. Threesomes can be complic…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/19 10:57 PM
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Bi people can be monogamous, my husband and I are both bisexual and very monogamous. Just because we find other genders attractive doesn't mean we can't be with one person.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/19 10:52 PM
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That's actually not true at all, Bisexuality is about your attraction not who you're currently fucking. Men don't stop finding other women attractive when they are in a relationship. That's the same thing for us bi folks. So no matter who you're currently with you can still find other people attractive which mean you can still be bisexual. I find men hot and women hot, I have slept with women and I have slept with men. But my partner doesn't make me not find other people attractive
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/19 10:50 PM
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It's still bad though it's just changed, ya men don't catcalls as much but online women get harassed a crazy amount. Most of the women I know have been sexually harassed, assaulted or worse. It didn't just disappear, I think may be people are more polite in public areas so it's easy to say it gone away but it hasn't. I am not arguing that some women scew their thoughts based on shitty dating experience, everyone sees the world through their personal lense. What I am saying is people will be caut…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/19 06:56 PM
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Yes and no. I haven't date bad boys I've dated some "nice guys" truely nerdy, "beta" whatever types and some of them turned out to be assholes, and dated more "alpha" types that were super nice. That's not really where I find issue with men. I have though had many many experiences with strange men being totally inappropriate with me. Touching me, or verbally harassing me. That makes me cautious of guys. Lots of women are in the same boat as me but instead of just being cautious they hate men, or…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/19 05:00 PM
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I think that's a sack of shit. The rate of STDs in old folks homes is pretty high. And sexual attraction inside of a relationship is often different, it's not just about looks, but even then when you love someone you often will still find them physically attractive as they age. Aging isn't evil, I mean yeah some age better than others and if you triple your weight your partner might be slightly less attracted to you. But if you age normally and try your best to remain healthy, then if your partn…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/19 04:02 PM
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Oops ment I wouldn't notice. And ya you do you. Most of time I don't really care about what others are doing, as long as they aren't hurting, or harassing someone.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/19 12:06 AM
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I don't care, but it could be depending on exactly he's doing. Like if you're standing alone in a corner staring at a girl it's a little creepy. But in all honesty, I probably wouldn't notice if a guy was alone clubs get pretty full. Edit:word
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/19 11:48 PM
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I way prefer someone ask cause I hate when people would tell me I looked 18 or 16. Lol
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/19 09:10 PM
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No why would I? Can you give a good reason to date them? I care about other women and will not be with anyone that treats them like shit, talks like they're shit or manipulates them into sex I mean we aren't going to agree on most things and I don't have any desire to be with a man that speaks the way they often do about women. I may not know right away but people with opinions like that show their colours soon enough. And I would drop his ass like a hot potato. Plus even when I was into hook up…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/19 01:10 AM
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Still attractive to me but not like he is now and yeah less settled. So I may have been interested but maybe not, who I was back then was different plus o don't think we would have done well at all because of certain things like I hate drugs and he did some back in the day. I was wiccan and he an atheist. We wouldn't have had as much in common.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/19 08:51 PM
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I think I get what you're saying and agree. What people want changes as they grow, I've dated mostly "betas" but also some "alphas". I also had some fun sexually, did what I wanted and enjoyed being a teen and into my mid 20s. I never cared about what kind of sexual past the guys I was with had, unless they were like sexual abusive and what not. I dated people based on the qualities they had I found attractive. Now I married too what I would say is both, he is handsome, sweet, funny, mature and …
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/19 08:46 PM
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Yes, they have to be smart in every way but I wouldn't want to be with someone without any intelligence.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/19 01:31 AM
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Most women I know like height but isn't necessary, so it would be like putting "I don't mind people with blue eyes" on your profile. You might find greens eyes like super sexy but also like blue, and love blue on some people, but it would be weird to throw that out there. Or like if a guy made a point to say I don't care about race on his profile, like it's weird. Say what you want and what you don't want not things you don't care about.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/19 10:39 PM
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Lol alright if you're going to start comparing taxes to being fucked then I am done here. Because working when done right with a job that cares will not fuck you up. But having to give your body to someone even if they say they love you, when you don't want to can leave you so mentally scarred. And as a person who has been sexually abused I think you're a fucking moron. I will gladly work everyday till I die than ever be fucking abused again. Maybe you can't see the fucking difference but there …
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/19 05:57 AM
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Coerced? No but if you murder someone, rape someone ect you go to jail. If you assault someone it's still assault. But you can't make someone use their body for another. If you choose to then that's up to you but like not everyone is going to put their blood and sweat into being a doctor but that doesn't mean some people won't. Some people want to help others and then will but forcing women to have sex is rape, sex isn't just an act for a lot of people.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/19 05:44 AM
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I love when people use that. Taking a dick and having emotional experience with an other person is very different from from a job. But even then no I don't think people should be worked to death. If you make someone have sex it's rape.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/19 05:40 AM
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Sex is your body, it means something and can cause so much damage. And there's lots of non sexual things that you could coerce people to do either.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/19 05:36 AM
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Coercing people to use their body is wrong it's manipulation and sex because manipulation is fucked up
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/19 05:33 AM
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Yes? Because he was a manipulative asshat, what's your point
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/19 05:13 AM
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Because women are people.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/19 05:13 AM
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Needing a new kidney isn't it the same as wanting to fuck. Same with need food stamps, it's different. Many people actually choose to live without sex but not many choose to live with out food or water. But I actually don't care if there government paid prostitutes. But women shouldn't be forced to give that, if the woman wants to be a prostitute and wants to be paid by the government cool, but this only work if people want to work for them. In the end I don't think sexual need is on the same le…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/19 05:12 AM
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Well we need to figure something else out then because it's wrong to expect women to just sleep with men to make them not be violent.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/19 12:57 AM
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So instead of holding men accountable for their actions we punish women ? That's stupid. Men may not have a choice over if they get laid or not but they do get a choice when it comes to being a violent asshole. And a lot of shooting aren't directly related to sex. Maybe we shouldn't baby these men and actually hold them accountable for what they do. Women shouldn't be sacrifices for violent man children.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/19 12:52 AM
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For hookups ya, looks are going to be one of the top priorities.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/19 12:45 AM
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Never too passive but I have been with men that used their emotions in a manipulative way and I was not here for that. I have found it where men weren't open enough. I thought over time they would start to share more with me but instead the would stay hard and we couldn't fully connect.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/19 04:03 PM
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Well don't you sound like a terrible person
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/19 05:05 PM
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No, and I don't need my dating to be communist thanks!
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/19 04:02 PM
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K
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/19 03:59 PM
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No I don't think I will
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/19 03:57 PM
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If you mean physically there are a couple things, things I notice in a guy -Big hands, like my husband's hands cover so much of my back it's great. -I am short so even though yes I find attractive it's kind of relative because 90% of dudes are at least a little taller than me. my "favorite" body types are super super skinny lol or wide with a slightly chubby to dad body. Both of these are yum. brown hair is probably my favorite especially a deep brown colour with hints of grey ugh the best. -che…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/19 10:59 PM
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It's an umbrella term for the gay community.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/19 08:39 PM
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Lol I am a women
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/19 08:34 PM
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Yes?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/19 08:33 PM
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Kind and care about others, funny, driven he doesn't need to have the best job but I want him to want to doing something and work towards that. Communicates well or is willing to work on it. Shows emotions but doesn't use them to manipulate the situation. In the end they don't need to be perfect they just need to be somewhat self aware and can be self critical when needed. A work in progress is fine as long as they are working on it. I'd also prefer if we have similar values but that doesn't mea…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/19 08:27 PM
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I think as long as you can handle rejection then feel free to be interested and pursue who you like. Just remember time and place matters, and learn to read people so that you can tell when they are uncomfortable.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/19 03:02 PM
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I did, I got camper ENF P-a/t
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/19 01:31 PM
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I always think it weird that everyone thinks you have to choose. I don't think I am anything special, so I am not even going to try and rate myself. But I didn't choose between a nice guy and a hot guy. I found a guy that I find sexier than sin who happens to also be the sweetest man alive. Men and women are allowed to be want to be with someone they find attractive. And everyone should be treated well in their relationship. I know it doesn't always work out that way, life can be unfair and some…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/19 05:14 AM
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Yes, and no. I think relationships that had started with friendships are great but if you're interested in someone you should make that sure you're not setting up a friend's only relationship. What I mean by this is, you can be friends with someone and develop feels but if you find someone you like and would like to date be careful about accidentally setting a friend's only boundary that leads to platonic only feelings, those could change but might not and being in a friendship with someone only…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/19 05:06 AM
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Yeah go ahead
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/19 08:33 PM
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Ah is there a link
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/19 08:31 PM
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No I am not, what is that?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/19 08:26 PM
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That's fair, I can imagine for you that might be easier but sadly humans are often irrational especially when it comes to dating, romance and love.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/19 08:22 PM
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But that could be a reason, if you meet some and they ask you out they could be attractive enough but you just don't feel it. You just don't want to. I just think asking for a logical reason might still not get you what you're looking for.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/19 08:04 PM
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Not really, I tend to stay away from those ones. I am just stating that I don't think that necessarily means things will be fair. And that what you think is logical might not be the same as others. What if you were to ask why and their only reason was I just don't want to.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/19 07:53 PM
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I mean I don't know how many people actually want to hears all the things someone thinks is wrong with them. Plus everyone has different tastes. But if thats what you would want I am not trying to change it. I still think though some people don't have a reason you might think is logical and you won't get anywhere.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/19 07:39 PM
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I guess but I just feel like when you've just met someone their reason is going to be they don't find you attractive or they just don't want to with no other reason. So I don't get what more you would expect.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/19 07:28 PM
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But how? I don't understand how someone telling you why is fair, or why it has to be logical.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/19 07:23 PM
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You can't really make it fair. Dating is a personal choice and people can't make it for you. As society we can teach our kids to be kinder and instill confidence and self love but at the end of the day people will date who they want and that's that.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/19 07:20 PM
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But what is logical to you? Like why would someone need to give you a reason. Shouldn't no just be enough? Or just I am not interested. If I asked a guy out and he said no I'd be embarrassed but I wouldn't feel like I needed a reason. Just wanting to is enough.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/19 07:18 PM
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It's not funny when anyone does it, it's stop and immature, and means you're probably not ready for a relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/19 04:40 PM
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Maybe it's just that lots of people no matter their sex can be super insecure and can then take it out on others.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/19 03:22 AM
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I often hear this whole women have a lower sex drive thing and while some do, lots don't. I know tons of women myself included with very high sex drives. I've actually had a higher sex drive than most the guys I've been with. And to your question of what is it like to be with a low drive guy, well depends how low and how much they are at least willing to try. I date one guy where sometimes it was no sex for like three weeks for no real reason and I couldn't deal with it, and he wasn't willing to…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/19 02:19 PM
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I feel like I don't try not but if I realize I am I will look away quickly especially cause I don't want to give people the wrong idea.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/19 06:22 PM
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I am not pro in my porn knowledge, I just know it has lead to things like sex trafficking and has harmed women.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/19 04:48 PM
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Yeah I figure some of it has to be who they are chasing. I've known a couple girls that ended up with bad boys but I won't say they were smoking hot they usually just had the same life style. And most girls I personally know weren't really like that, and would be way more turned off by assholes. Maybe this type of behaviour is more in some areas that others. I usually ended up with guys that were nerdy, chubby or just "different". The only "bad boy" I dated was a metal head that was actually a p…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/19 04:31 PM
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It all depends, can it be negative? Ya, can it ruin your relationship? Ya, is it Satan's underbelly? No. It really all depends on the person, and the relationship. I do however think porn needs to better regulated and talked about more openly to help reduce some of its potential harm.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/19 07:08 AM
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I don't think I necessarily asked tons of guys out but I have often been the one to make a move of some kind of first more often than not just straight up telling them I was interested. I feel like some women have probably gotten use to it that way, when your grow up with that as the norm it can be a hard habit to break it guess Some may feel like men won't like it, because many guys say they do but there are lots that won't, some guys want to be the 'man'. They don't want them to feel emasculat…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/19 07:04 AM
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Enjoy
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/19 07:26 PM
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No you not hurt women is good. You can make jokes I don't like fuck anyone can make any joke but that doesn't mean people have to like it or be okay with it.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/19 07:16 PM
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I don't like when women do it either. And that's good.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/19 07:14 PM
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Yeah but making jokes about sexually hurt women is fucked up but again you do you I am still going to think you're an asshole.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/19 07:08 PM
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Sure making jokes about hurting people. Not funny but you do you boo.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/19 07:03 PM
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Glad you had a laugh.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/19 07:00 PM
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Not a very funny one but alright
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/19 06:56 PM
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I gave the downsides....
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/19 06:54 PM
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I would be fine with that.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/19 04:25 PM
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I don't hate men, I actually love them quite a bit. But I am also angry at quite a few for the toxic hateful behavior and scared of what they can do and sometimes do. I am sad for them also though, not all, but a lot them grew up in shitty situations where they were told they had to be xyz and if not they weren't worthy and thats not true. I wish they grew up knowing their worth and being able to better express themselves. Tv and movies painted a picture of the world that many guys clung to and …
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/19 03:41 PM
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Yeah if he is willing to learn, over time if it comes out we are really incompatible it may end but if we both get fulfilment out of it I don't see a problem. Virgins I may be more cautious with but that's only because I don't think virginity matters and some people do and can get weird about it. But as long as they understand and are cool with my view on it. It shouldn't be a problem
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/19 03:33 PM
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I understand wanting to try other things to spice stuff up but anal sex is often uncomfortable, hurts or just overall doesn't feel good for women, I personally enjoy it but I don't know many other women that do. If she tried it and doesn't like it then you're asking her to do something she doesn't like. If she never wants to try anything and you find sex boring try therapy or be honest that your struggling and she needs to come up with ways she want to spice stuff up that's totally fair. And if …
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/19 03:29 PM
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Do you prefer a partner who doesnt see law as an extention of morality and is comfortable breaking rules they dont agree with (victimless crimes/low risk situations only)? Yes, but only in the sense of things like when weed was illegal or in cases where doing the right thing is made illegal. Do you like the mindset that questions and challenges moral norms that are considered established (if they dont believe anything that really violates your own moral.codex)? To certain point ya. Do you get an…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/19 03:23 PM
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True.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/19 01:02 AM
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You're not completely wrong but videogames is a fine hobby, I've dated many guys with it. As long as they don't become addicted or like completely ignore you for it why care. I know some women don't like it but there are many people with many hobbies, some weirder than others but don't give up what you love because you might get laid. I mean if you can converse about anything but like one hobby not matter what it is it might be hard to find a partner cause that could get old after a while but li…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/19 11:34 PM
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Bisexual women, and if I could choose 4× or more a week probably, as long as my vagina didn't ache lol and I can between 1-2 times a week minimum though it depends what's going on in life.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/19 11:29 PM
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A good man, is someone that treats others with respect, is kind, helpful, someone with goals and ambitious, even if that's just art or music. Someone that really does care for his fellow man, and isn't judgmental of everyone for just being different. I think it's similar for me in what makes a good woman, just being a good person. How you treat others and what impact you have in the world.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/19 11:24 PM
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I don't fully either. I am just glad my husband doesn't care either way. Cause some days I were none, some days a little and for going out I wear a lot. It's fun to wear and when I choose not too I don't really care if others think I am ugly I got shit to do lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/19 10:13 PM
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Try bisexual or pansexual women, we tend not to care as much. Actually there are tons of queer folks that don't give a flying fuck if you're "traditionally" masculine. As a bisexual women I find most humans attractive in lots variations.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/19 09:58 PM
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My first was by myself, and actually it was hard for guys to help me there even after. Also tons of women can't have a orgasm through penetration alone anyway.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/19 09:51 PM
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Yeah it really can depend on a lot of factors, so I think the best thing is to be cautious
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/19 06:32 PM
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I am going to try coming at this from some different angles cause I find arguing to pointless I am going to try to see things as you do to certain extent, excuse me if it sounds off First yeah I advocate for everyone including men to protect themselves. Being cautious isn't a bad thing I wouldn't take it personally and neither should you. Stats don't matter when it comes to personal experience which is what I am saying, I know many women who also know many women who have been harassed so you tel…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/19 04:15 AM
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Yeah, I don't care it's a job and it in the past.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/19 03:33 AM
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I am not advocating for women to treat men in any way. I am not anti-men at all, but you really seem to want it to be that way. I love men, I know they aren't all bad, men are clearly humans I even married one so I don't need "help" with men. I never said don't talk to women, so? I said time and place is important and how you talk to them. I said in my first post clubs, bars and parties are totally fine. And I even said if you're going to talk in other public spaces try complimenting on things o…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/19 12:27 AM
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Well believe it or not I actually know lots of women in real life this isn't based on just my experience, lots of them don't actually like being complimented by random men. I don't mind compliments from women I don't know, because it never feels loaded, and often feel less uncomfortable with males in queer spaces. I am so glad you've had so much success but being someone that is a women and has been around many of them, it makes a lot of them uncomfortable. There also is a chance they were strai…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/19 10:02 PM
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Fair but it's still an option, you don't have to but you can.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/19 09:15 PM
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Yeah so do guys though. It's a risk you take, but you aren't an asshole if you have an agreement and someone catches feelings as long as you've made yourself clear.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/19 09:02 PM
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To be fair you don't always have to lead people on to get sex but it's good that you feel bad show empathy. People who do use fake love to get sex are being manipulative and gross.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/19 07:33 PM
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Also long as everyone is consenting spin as many plates as you like.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/19 07:29 PM
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No I clarified, I would after, just not while they still were. And besides I use police services but would not date a cop. I don't think sex works devalues anyone, but that doesn't mean people want to be with them because they themselves may not have had ton of sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/19 04:36 PM
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It is. Maybe not for all but for a lot.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/19 03:28 PM
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Well in every club bathroom I've ever been in women are always complimenting eachother and lifting eachother up, teenage girls can be mean but a lot of girls do grow out of that and don't care how other women look. If a women is calling another girl a loser for not picking up guys or being "hot" then they are insecure.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/19 03:23 PM
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I don't give shit, if my girl wants to go clubbing in sweatpants no makeup and a bun then that's her business. I don't care how other girls look. Unless I am trying to date them
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/19 03:13 PM
1

Yeah personally but against others wanting to look your best doesn't have to mean others are below you. I loved going out with my friends all of us looking hot, and I know I am not alone. Some women will tear eachother down over looks but I don't think thats a default setting.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/19 03:10 PM
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Yeah some women do but I really don't think that idea is that norm. And I mean they aren't trying to look better than others.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/19 03:03 PM
1

Well that sounds absolutely crazy maybe they are from a different place I am, but idk like anyone that was treated poorly because men aren't complimenting you, actually I think your more likely to be torn down for sleeping with too many guys no matter how hot. Yeah a lot of guys don't know how to start the conversation or when is an appropriate time. Nothing is more annoying then being harassed on moving bus you can't escape.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/19 02:29 PM
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I don't know many who compete, it's not about being best but it is nice when other women notice the work you put in. And they can want that, and as I talked about it's not impossible but complimenting someone in a way that may make them uncomfortable isn't going to make you less of a random.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/19 02:23 PM
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Lots of aren't competing and also I can be sexy without random guys I don't know complimenting me on it. I like compliments from friends and partners. And occasional old ladies give really good compliments.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/19 02:19 PM
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"that dress fits you well". I don't know many women that would like this, it sounds weird and would make me uncomfortable. Yes we men know we are all rapists, stalkers, and criminals and nothing but animals and its women who are the humans Well no that's just stupid. But if women don't look out for themselves then they get blamed when bad things happen. Women have been harassed and even killed for saying no. They should but lets face it women are never going to approach men. Did you read the res…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/19 02:14 PM
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Some might, I personally don't really like it when guys complimentary my looks in general. I got pretty cool hair and that's not sexual so that one isn't has bad but in general not a fan.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/19 02:08 PM
1

No and yes. Edit for clarity I would date some one who use to be a striper or in porn but not while. But I do think people are allowed to choose not too either way.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/19 02:06 PM
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I think it also depends where you do it and how. Like if I am on a bus with headphones in, it means leave me alone so I would be annoyed. Or places where I have to be and so can't escape the person. Bar, clubs and parties are normally for socializing, doesn't mean I'll actually date the person but I would be more receptive to conversation that could then lead to dating. And how plays a big part, if some one bothers me till I take my headphones off to tell me I am pretty or something it makes me …
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/19 05:55 AM
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Newly married and that for me it feels both the same and different. Loving it!
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/19 11:29 PM
1

Yeah, I am a pretty big feminist I respect strippers but I couldn't date one. But I don't hate them.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/19 09:44 PM
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Exactly! Thank you! People shouldn't be shamed for wanting to be with people who have similar values, we should just understand we can't expect things we ourselves wouldn't or can't also uphold. But we're it can be a problem is when people don't understand that doesn't mean you have to hate on those that aren't with that. You can date only low N-count women but don't have to say other women are the worst and that you hate them.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/19 06:02 PM
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Yeah you can be with a man that want more than sex, though if your not living together then I can understand a little bit why he wants to have sex on those days. When my husband and I didn't live together we definitely had sex when we were together especially if we weren't seeing eachother as much but now it's less (not because I don't want btw) We spend lots of evening watching tv or going out, doing our own thing or just cuddling up. But we also see eachother everyday and can have sex whenever…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/19 05:57 PM
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Thank you. And yes I do think that is possible, I have had male friends gay and straight protect me from guys I haven't even noticed. Self reflection for some of these men could be useful. And we as a society need to start help young men and boys to help keep them from turning out that way.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/19 04:51 PM
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Exactly! I go out and even ... Omg watch Netflix sometimes but I have hobbies, many actually so it so weird that some people actually believe all women just watch reality tv all day
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/19 03:53 PM
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I am in university now and none on the women I know are like that. I am was in theater and now linguistics so maybe they are special there but I doubt it's just them.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/19 03:52 PM
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Thank you
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/19 03:49 PM
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Because it seemed like something that was in tv but not really believed by many but apparently it is.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/19 03:49 PM
1

Yeah. Really easy
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/19 04:41 AM
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My ADHD brain prefers porn lol but I guess I like a wide variety. I don't think you find something that appeals to all so maybe try writing some samples put them out there and just see what gets the best feed back.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/19 04:35 AM
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I mean if you don't want kids then don't have them fuck what a women wants. That's one sure fire way to fuck up a kid. There are lots of women that don't want children. If you aren't sure if you'll want them wait but otherwise just look for CF women, I know lots of them. My husband and I are talking about these things now and I wouldn't leave him if he said he didn't want them.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/19 04:33 AM
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It's not even the amount of times it happens, it's more that most women face at the very least sexual harassment or assault. I don't think I personally know more than a couple women who haven't been sexually assaulted in some way. When I was a teenager I got the cat calls and harassment a lot, which happens tons due to the fact that young girls are really easily targeted for it. Now it happens occasionally online or when I go out with friends but headphones and good if looks could kill thankfull…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/19 04:29 AM
2

I think it depends, I want my partner to show me his emotions all of them because I love them and want to share in all of his life but if it's used a manipulation tool or only when they want something then I am not interested. I work very hard to keep my emotions in check, I am an emotional person (go ahead and say it's cause I am a women idc at least I am aware) I track that shit and try to deal with it and I expect the same. I am not going to never cry in front of you but I am also not going t…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/19 04:15 AM
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I think it's depends on the person, but ya to a certain extent. Like if I found some one truely ugly their personality may make me want to be friends but I might not want to fuck them, though that has happened before. But if I find someone averagely attractive or at least I am apathetic about your looks then ya a great personality can make me go damn! But in the flip side if you're hot but stupid, mean, racist, homophobic or just generally an asshat I will not be interested.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/19 04:06 AM
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I was surprised when I first learned that there actually are men out there that think all women are truly stupid and have no hobbies or interests. I've seen that a lot of men don't see women as people. It's so bizarre because I see men as people, I mean not always good but with hopes and dreams and feelings. I have also learned that women's fear of men is correctly placed, we need to be careful and watch out for men that are good at pretending that they are just average guys down on their luck b…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/19 04:02 AM
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Thanks
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/19 01:06 AM
2

I got married because I love my husband, meeting him was like meeting the person I dreamed of end up with one day. Because I wanted to share his last name, and maybe one day have kids. He's my best friend and I wanted to celebrate our commitment in front of those we love. For a long time I wanted to get married because that's just what you do. But I was engaged once and it didn't turn out and I realized that marriage wasn't a guarantee and that I needed to get married because of love and not jus…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/19 12:03 AM
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University. I am female 25 and my husband is 32
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/19 11:26 PM
1

Oh okay! Sorry mixed up what you were saying
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/19 07:07 AM
1

So? Then my point still stands.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/19 06:44 AM
1

Well you can feel like that all you like. It's not true many girl go out to have fun, just because some people only focus on people they want to fuck doesn't mean everyone else does
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/19 05:32 AM
1

I have a wide range of what I like attractive. I like super tall and super skinny but I also enjoy around 5'8" to 5'10" with broad shoulders and skinny to slightly overweight dad bod. I like all colours of eyes, and teeth isn't something I care about. I do enjoy big hands. Facial hair is attractive but so is none, so no real preference there. Something kinda funny I use to hate chest hair then one day I got old and now I love it. For famous people I find attractive, a lot some ones you'd expect …
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/19 10:25 PM
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Well thats not 100% true, lots of women do go out for that. But a lot of women go out because they like getting dressed up, drinking and dancing with their friends. Sometimes they aren't against the possibility but for a lot of women that isn't their focus.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/19 09:53 PM
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Are they beneficial or detrimental? As long as your happy it's fine, if it start to hurt you or others not fine. How long should they last? You do you, however long you want Would you marry someone who had one? Would you want to know if your partner had one? Yes and if they wanted to tell me How many partners is too many? It only to many when you keep going after your personal boundaries say stop again you do you. Did you have one? How was it? What conclusions did you draw from it? Yes, it was a…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/19 09:50 PM
1

Yes, because what someone does with their body isn't my choice. But there should be rules and regulations just like any job.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/19 09:45 PM
1

This isn't gravity, it's a opinion
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/19 09:20 PM
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No it's really not, if you think it is then I don't think you know what a fact is. That might be your personal opinion but since attraction is relative it's not something you can prove as fact.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/19 01:05 PM
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I think that's a personal preference and not fact.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/19 05:27 AM
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What?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/19 12:12 AM
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Ive made out with a guy or two in a club or party but I wouldn't go home with them, if we exchange numbers then something could happen down the road, but I am not about to end up on dateline. Going back to peoples homes is dangerous and in my opinion the chance of having good sex goes not out weight the possible danger. And with women in gay clubs I feel like it happens a lot without any expectations really. You go have fun makeout maybe exchange numbers maybe not but it fun. Maybe there is disc…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/19 11:24 PM
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Sometimes yes, but I think more often than not they are trying to be friends with you. A lot of guys can't tell the difference between a girl wanting you and just being friendly and nice.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/19 10:47 PM
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I've tried it, doesn't work for me but I respect that choice. Different relationships work for different people.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/19 10:34 PM
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Probably one, if he has a personality that matches mine then I would hope he would want more in the future then minimum wage. But there isn't really enough info, because if say he wasn't interested in doing more with his life and just wanted to work at McDonald's his whole life it wouldn't matter how attractive he is, I would not be interested. My income doesn't really matter because it not about what he does but it's about motivation and goals. I don't care what friends or family think so.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/19 07:26 PM
3

Versatile maybe but long hair can also be a giant pain in the ass. It can age you a bit but very few women end up looking that much older. There are tons of women that look beautiful with short hair.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/19 07:17 PM
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Lol bait and switch? I cut my hair after my wedding because I had had long hair for so long but I really wanted it for the wedding once it was over I was ready for a change. If a man feels like I tricked them because if that then I probably married the wrong person
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/19 07:16 PM
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Some people just like the change, when life changes sometimes it feels good to have your outsides match that. But I mean lot of people just like changing it up. I had long hair got married and cut it all off, it's not to have feminist hair or show my womanly strength. Just felt right in the moment so I did it.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/19 07:13 PM
1

It doesn't change how attracted I am to them, I've date guys with high N-counts and virgins. My husband has a really low n-count especially compared to me. To be honest sometimes I think I am just slightly more hesitant or cautious, they are still attractive and if I liked them I'd date them. With dating as long as they are willing to work shit out and have conversations about boundaries in the relationship I don't mind, but with virgins it can feel uncomfortable. Not because of not having exper…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/19 10:35 PM
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I never expected anything really, I was shy and so often I just wouldn't cause I felt unattractive and didn't feel like there was a chance they were interested. As I got older and more confident I would approach men I was really interested in. I think it can also just be ways of flirting and how women are socialized, flirt and be alluring so they approach you, because men will sometimes say they don't like direct women. And for Rejection it's often because one I don't want to hurt the person, or…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/19 07:51 PM
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Yes, my husband has something that makes it so when he gets stressed out he has seizure like episodes, sometimes which makes him cry. I am still very sexually attracted to him, and I knew this when we first started dating and it never change how I felt about him. I encourage him to open up to me as much as possible. I actually would be less attracted to him if he didn't, someone who is open and honest about their feels show some emotional intelligence and that's very attractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/19 07:29 PM
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Yeah, and that's fair. I just found out wants and needs matched up better
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/19 10:03 PM
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Actually I found it made a huge difference, the closer guys are to my age the less interested I am because I haven't really had great experiences with that. My husband is a great deal more responsible and mature than men my age. Besides OP said girls 18-25 with men 25-40. And we fit in that range.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/19 03:18 AM
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No? Why would I? If I am with some one then I like them and if I like you I am going to treat you how I treat people I like. The only time that changes if they act a certain way. Example, if a guy doesn't go down on me I don't go down on them but nothing to do with their attractiveness. Though all guys I've dated I found attractive at the time.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/19 10:08 PM
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When I was weirdly awkward loud girl lol, I grew up with undiagnosed ADHD. I like to talk about things I liked a lot like too much, and I wasn't always aware of how loud I was. And I didn't connect long term with people. Now I am confident, well spoken, linguistics Major with a lot of cool talents! (Thanks ADHD for making it so I cycle through hobbies!) And I am much better at connecting.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/19 10:04 PM
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I don't think I change too much, I just flirt with them or maybe I'll be a tad bit more shy. Though with girls I do notice a difference, when I am attracted to women I feel the more masculine traits of mine come out.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/19 09:53 PM
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Should it be? If they touch you yes, but I don't often do that cause I don't want get into a fist fight, if a guy puts his hands on me I grab it and remove it while telling him to fuck off, it generally works.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/19 09:49 PM
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I did look for older, I actually found that I was unhappy with guys closer to my age. So I ended up marring a guy seven years older than me. I am 25 and he is 32 we wanted the same things out of life. For your question it's probably a mix of things some of what you have said. - they may not be attracted to older. - they maybe wanting marriage but other thing might not line up (parties, travel, kids) - maybe they met young and while they could date a more successful older guy they love the man th…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/19 09:41 PM
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Most women I have known personally don't really go home with or bring home anybody. It's dangerous as fuck. But I assume it's because with the average guys they just aren't attracted to them but it's often easier to come up with an excuse than to just say no, and some times it's safer. Men have been known to react aggressive or violent when rejected. They go home with the other guy because they are attracted to him and something about him, weather correct or not feels safe. Also I imagine they d…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/19 01:12 AM
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I think also people are multifaceted, I can be attracted to multiple different types some more than others, and sometimes one thing will over ride another. Take muscles as an example, I have dated mostly guys that don't have six packs and huge arms cause in general I don't really care to much for them, kind of indifferent if you will. But am I attracted to some men that happen to have abs, some famous men are very attractive but I am not attracted to them because they have abs, they might be tal…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/19 05:50 PM
1

Well I found mine in university but there are many place people meet other people
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/19 01:49 AM
1

Well often you have to decide what's most important and find someone that is compatible with that, and things that are less important you compromise on. I mean you don't have a guarantee that you get what you want, but if you aren't getting what you need sexual you don't have many options but to leave. No one is perfect everyone is different it's about finding what a good balance between what you want and what's realistic.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/19 01:41 AM
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I have a high sex drive like once a day would be almost perfect and my husband doesn't we go through dry spells here and there but we talk about it. In the end I love him for more than that, and don't want to have sex with anyone else. And he is willing to try to work to get into the mood once and a while. But more than once a day isn't in my opinion a reasonable expectation, but you can always find someone that has the same desires. Masturbation is also a thing I have my toys and they keep me s…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/19 07:16 PM
1

High/low SMV; - Popular/unpopular; - Jock/skater/musician/weed dealer/math genius/chess club/Lvl 65 Paladin; - Car/no car; - Rich/middle class/poor; - Location you lost it; - etc; probably would have been considered low. Unpopular I don't actually remember we only went to school together for a year and then he moved but we slept together years after that. No car Lower middle class I think? And someone's house I believe, idk we did it a couple times most of which were pretty unremarkable. I've sl…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/19 07:05 PM
1

Oh cool!
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/19 06:41 PM
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What's NCBI
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/19 05:01 PM
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Perfect
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/19 05:00 PM
1

Hmm and in depth look into sex drive difference between partners and the affect it has a person's self image and societies role in that?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/19 04:52 PM
1

Haha or at least a really good article!
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/19 04:38 PM
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Truth! And both people need to see there isn't anything wrong with either person just the way it is.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/19 04:28 PM
1

Yeah, I feel like though if you can talk and listen. You can come to agreement and understanding. I had to learn my partner not wanting me didn't mean he doesn't love me as an example. But I guess it also depends how big the gap is. Doesn't help that often in the "honeymoon" phase you fuck all the time just cause it's new. Then one person can slowly stop or drop off without explanation it can be quite jarring
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/19 04:19 PM
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Ya, once you know at least you can choose to work on it or leave.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/19 03:23 PM
1

Yeah it's sad if different sex drives were normalized I think it would help.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/19 03:16 PM
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That's fair but had a reason I think it's really hard for men that are just born like that though.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/19 03:12 PM
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You think so? I always found it pretty equal no one wants to feel not good enough
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/19 03:07 PM
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Or the man, I know guys sometimes end up feeling bad but they shouldn't
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/19 03:04 PM
2

I have a pretty high sex drive, I was told growing up that men always wanted sex but I found out quick that was not the case, made me feel very uncomfortable in my skin for a while. I definitely have a higher sex drive than my husband but when you care about some (on both sides) you figure out a way to make it work.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/19 07:41 AM
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I don't think there should be an overall leader, I think each person will have places they excel in and things they suck in. My husband knows cars so I trust him to make decisions and I am a way better cook so make food decisions. Though at the end of the day unless it is for safety, health (physical or mental), or a personal thing (like what haircut to get) we don't make decisions without talking to eachother and we don't have final say if I want to buy a car he doesn't like I can still buy it,…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/19 07:35 AM
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Sometimes I've gone out to have a fun, sometimes hopefully for some hot making out(mostly with other women, because men aren't normally okay with just kissing). But not really for sex that night, to meet someone and flirt a little but not really thinking about sex, I don't remember a time I ever cared if I didn't meet anyone either. The main focus has always been fun with my friends and usually dancing. And a lot of the girls I know are like that but I am sure some of them went for that reason b…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/19 09:23 PM
1

Sexier well probably looks for somethings like soccer, football, hockey those kinds of sports but for things like karate and dance probably leaning more to skill but that's because I find them sexy to watch. But who I think is slightly more sexy doesn't really play into who I date, love is more than looks so for dating or who I would approach I honestly don't think I could pick between the two though in truth because it depends on much more than looks and athletic skills. Is the hot guy just hot…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/19 09:16 PM
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As a bisexual woman, I've have tried dating women but I felt honestly like women weren't interested in me because I am bi so why would I keep trying? Being bisexual is actually pretty difficult you don't really fit in any where and people always claim you choose a side no matter who you end up with I didn't choose between men and women I chose a person and I would still have chosen them if they were different. I was in love with two girls in high school didn't work out, dated a guy for a while a…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/19 06:21 AM
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Probably not, if I am still looking at this person and thinking they are ugly (which is super rare for me) then I would have to say no. I think people deserve to be with people that desire them and in sex especially looks have something to do with that. I don't think most people are ugly though.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/19 06:10 AM
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Yup! A 110% my husband and I thought that the first time we were had sex. Which was like in a week of our first date.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/19 06:05 AM
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Well I am 25 and I wouldn't mind staying here but I would not want to look younger, I was happy when I finally started to look older. I would only change my partner if I kept him around longer as well. We are seven years apart. And if I could only use it once then my partner again only if returning his youth made him live longer cause I like how both of us look.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/19 02:45 AM
1

I like to buy my husband flowers :)
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/19 01:18 AM
1

Nope, as long as he doesn't have anything I don't give a fuck. And if he has something it depends if it can be cured or if I'll get it.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/19 02:58 PM
1

True but not impossible!
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/19 10:58 PM
1

No because that's what I want to do. I been shit in lots for doing things I want to do because society doesn't like it. I feel like your missing my point. Women and men shouldn't do things just for eachother, if a women wants to be a cam girl she should and as long as she doesn't give a shit what men think she can just live her life. If a guy plays videogames he shouldn't stop because some girls may not like it. Don't live your life for other people.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/19 09:17 PM
1

You can be social and help people out without living your life for them. Example if my friend needs help moving of course I will do what I can to be there and help even move my schedule around, but I am not going to stop going out dancing and dressing sexy cause some guy wouldn't want to marry me because of it.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/19 09:05 PM
1

Probably not a lot but I don't think people should live their lives for who will and won't marry them. One day I am going to die and I don't want to look back and see I lived my life for others, I am sure there are parts of me that not many guys would want but I am here for me so.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/19 08:40 PM
1

Because often just a no won't work and also I run the risk of getting hurt.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/19 08:26 PM
1

You can still be the best even if your girl has a high n-count, I have pretty high count and my husband doesn't but he is by far the best I've ever been with. I think that probably makes his ego feel pretty good.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/19 08:25 PM
1

I think someone being passionate about what they do is hot. So I don't think any job is boring, might be something I wouldn't want to do or might be a little gross but if they are passionate and care about what they are doing I'll find an attractiveness in that.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/19 08:18 PM
1

Eh, I find value in myself so do my friends and family. I don't really care if random guys I don't know think I have devaluated myself because of my n-count or what pictures I post online. Women are worth more than their sexuality anyway, my value comes from way more than that, I know that so that's all that matters.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/19 08:12 PM
1

Yeah if these were my options I would choose to stay single.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/19 05:59 AM
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The plan originally was that I would, we had talked about it, I've been burned in relationships in the last so I really wanted to make sure I was ready. If I asked then I'd feel better but it ended up being him. In the end it wouldn't have mattered to him or I. We are married now and that's what matters.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/19 05:05 AM
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I am a feminist and so is my husband we are pretty equal. I mean in every relationship someone will be better at something's but we both give a 100% to eachother. And no I couldn't be with a traditional guy tried that once it didn't work, I don't need or want a man as my leader, and the money thing can and will fluctuate as we are both in school and not always both working. I like kinkier sex so I sometimes let him take control but I let him he doesn't just decide this, and I also take control. …
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/19 05:01 AM
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No never, I am there to work. I just wanna get my pay check and go home. It made my skin crawl when this has happened to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/19 07:40 AM
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Sex is great though as been said before sex is more than penetration, and the best sex I've had has been with someone who pays attention and listens. Someone who cares and want to share in a good and loving experience.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/19 07:37 AM
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To some women ya, I personally don't care. I worked when my ex didn't and paid for a lot of stuff, and I've paid for dates or at least half of a date many times. I would rather have a good man (or women) than a rich one. But I am also going to uni so I can have a job and not rely on someone else. I also think it can depend on if you want kids, and what they expect out of you. If a guy wants me to stay at home he should have some money, but I don't plan on being a stay at home mom.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/19 06:37 PM
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Sex education needs to be changed. People need to be taught that everyone is different. First I have many friends with no sexual desire at all. Second I think it less about teaching about biology and more not setting people up to think that x,y,z will happen. Not everyone will have access to sex easily but that doesn't determine their worth, society has changed and what people want can change, marriage isn't the end goal for everyone anymore. We also need to stop holdinf sex on a pedestal, its f…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/19 02:48 AM
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Yes proper education, on sex and relationships as well as normalizing therapy, and changing people's expectations of life. Cause we can't make people be with others or just force people to have sex. The change needs to happen in how we treat single people, and not set these unattainable goals for people.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/19 02:13 AM
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And they need to punished, just because people do it doesn't mean we just accept it.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/19 01:55 AM
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Yes but you personally won't die without sex. It's fair to fight for water. It's completely unacceptable to react the same way over sex
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/19 01:48 AM
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Yes but water is needed for basic survival.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/19 01:45 AM
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I am saying that the "value" of vagina isn't important or the most important thing for a relationship. Many people still get married for many reasons.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/19 01:15 AM
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My fiance get companionship out of our relationship, someone to talk with, someone to support him when things get hard, sex pretty regularly, we take turns cleaning, I usually cook, and I mean I am not the worst to look at and I am university to become a linguist so not dumb. We haven't decided fully if we want but that's something we decided together. I think there is lots of reasons people still get married, most of which aren't about sex. If you want to find something more traditional go for …
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/19 06:08 PM
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Unless someone wants to ask me for help. I just don't really want to talked to people in random public places. Like the bus is for traveling I have to be here but that doesn't mean I want to chat. I never assume anything unless it seems obvious, sometimes I work in my fiance just so we are on the same page because if you don't then later they might accuse you of leading them on. But I don't say "hey I have a fiance" I will just mentation it if they asked what I am up to today or how my weekend w…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/19 06:01 PM
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Not into it, I want full attention.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/19 04:18 AM
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Haha I am not good at the watching and fucking needs to be one or the other lol
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/19 04:08 AM
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Perfect day would be in a hotel so you could fuck all day and just have them bring you food!
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/19 03:58 AM
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They all say they do but when it's time to pony up lol
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/19 03:52 AM
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I mean my fiance is one of sweetest guys I've ever met, I don't put up with assholes. But I do think it's important that they can stand up for themselves, not because I am out here being a bitch, though everyone has their days. But because everyone should be able to stand up for themselves. I don't want some to always be debating with but we don't have to agree on everything, and good sense of humor is a must. Assertiveness can be fun and sexy but only in some contexts, like my partner being ass…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/19 03:51 AM
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Ya! It's a myth that women hate it and men want it all the time.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/19 03:34 AM
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It's less about my pussy being made of gold and more I want to be with someone I am at more than a little attracted to.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/19 06:43 AM
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Yeah it's a life long commitment.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/19 05:13 PM
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I don't believe in eternal but yeah it a beautiful way to show you love someone
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/19 05:12 PM
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Lots of people do LTR trios. But yeah I figured, casual might be one thing but getting married soon so not really into it these days
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/19 05:08 PM
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Emotions definitely complicates things. And yeah it's about everyone satisfying each other. It works okay but isn't something I find work for a LTR
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/19 05:03 PM
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I guess, it's just what I prefer.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/19 04:59 PM
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People would do what they wanted, sometimes that would end good and sometimes badly just like most things. Also some women care but also a lot of us don't, most the people I know make their sexual choices regardless of others think.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/19 04:58 PM
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I've seen it lots, I use to be in the poly world till I realized it really doesn't work for me. But I've seen lots of relationships that are perfectly fine.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/19 04:55 PM
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I like one partner at a time.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/19 04:53 PM
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For the women: I have dated people with children though at the time I was with them they never saw them. 1. I am child free 2. Nope. I love all kids at all ages. 3. Nope. 4. No lots of people have kids and are still shitty people. 5. No, people do things in their own time. I don't judge. 6. I think it depends, it can be pretty difficult.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/19 04:52 PM
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Yeah it's cool I guess. I mean I am only with one gender at a time. So not much different from gay or straight people
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/19 04:47 PM
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Nope I love men and women
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/19 04:45 PM
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Nope bisexual
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/19 04:43 PM
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Then hang with queer women lol
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/19 04:42 PM
1

I think I'd rather cut my own eyes out but thanks for the offer lol
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/19 04:40 PM
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Also! So many men can't even make a girl cum once what makes you think the average women is having more than one
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/19 03:47 AM
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Orgasms are great, but sex is about more than just the finish. So many people don't look at it that way which is why good sex is hard to find and great sex is almost impossible. I have had amazing sex that didn't end in an orgasm.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/19 03:38 AM
3

Sex isn't all about orgasms
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/19 03:32 AM
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The weird idea that all women want no sex and are these weird creatures that only do it to please men or for some kind of gain are stupid. Lots of women like sex, love it even. But depending on where you grew up you can have to hide it, I grew up in a very christian home and was made to feel like sex was dirty so I hid that part of me for a long time. Then I realized religion is bullshit (in my opinion) and I left a lot of the guilt behind. I generally have a higher sex drive than most men I've …
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/19 02:27 AM
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I would disagree can women get sex more often ya probably but good sex? No, I don't understand why anyone would think that, not all people are good at sex and lots of people dont mesh well sexually. I've had some pretty awful sex, and I would have rather just not fucked at all. I'll also say I've had times of "starvation" because of being picky cause I don't feel like just fucking any random person, I'd rather masturbate, at least I know how to fuck me. If you choose bad sex rather than no sex t…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/19 02:21 AM
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Idk I've always had a higher sex drive then every man I've dated, and I've known many women like that, and known a lot of people who have said they lots of friends that are also like that
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/19 02:09 AM
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For me I am only cockblock for two reasons because they want me too and or for safety. Otherwise I mind my business. Some guys get upset but they don't realize that the women was to nervous or afraid to say no themselves so their friends do it. Or if a friend is to drunk to properly consent then I will always step in, because I would rather her be a little mad, then raped or dead. And every time later that night or next day they thank me. There are someone women that meddle in others relationshi…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/19 11:05 PM
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I wish I had meet my partner sooner so I could be with him longer, but I don't regret my partner's before. I learned a lot and I loved most of them in at least some way, and I am glad I knew them.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/19 10:57 PM
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What is it like when a man you are not interested in asks you out? Depends if they are nice then it's a little awkward cause I don't like hurting people's feelings. If they are being assholes I just get grumpy What is usually the source of the disinterest? Again really depends I have a weird variety of things I find attractive, but sometimes I just don't feel a click. How do you usually let him down? Try to be up front and honest, just say I am not interested, it gets uncomfortable sometimes whe…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/19 10:51 PM
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Not with me or anyone I know, but to me if you have a back up you aren't really in the relationship cause you already have your toe out the door. I think people that do are afraid to be alone and aren't in the relationships for the right reasons. I also think some people fall into relationships right after out of grief, and was stated above somewhere some people have friends that are waiting in secret hoping it will break off but they themselves see it as just a friendship
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/19 10:42 PM
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My fear is based on what has happened to me and many of the females I know, and they know. I am a fourth generation sexual assault survivor. I know what they can do and have done, and my fear keeps me safe.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/19 10:37 PM
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When was the last time you felt you were in danger or uncomfortable around a man or woman? Last time I felt uncomfortable was probably comic expo when so old guy just put his arm around men when we were standing at his booth talking about his book. It was super weird and I kinda froze, my fiance was so shocked we both walked away like wtf. How old were you when you first found yourself in a dangerous or uncomfortable situation? Around 8. Birth Mother's boyfriend. When did you first start to worr…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/19 10:34 PM
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Depends on the days where I am going what I am doing. The only man I dress for is my own, other wise it's cause I feel good in what I am wearing. And putting effort into how I look is a form of self care for me cause I am spending time on myself. Or sometimes though rare for my friends and other people that love makeup and fashion, so we can bond over our mutual love of it and how good we look I know I don't do it for random guys outside because if I like it but they would find it weird or ugly …
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/19 10:17 PM
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I get sexy to sit at home. I love playing with makeup or clothing, and looking like a hoe but staying in.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/19 10:06 PM
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I don't know, I don't think I am all that special and I hate that whole " I am not like other girls" mentality. I am mixed raced, bisexual women. I keep my hair in its naturally curl state, and wear glasses. I don't have a set in stone style but I find I dress in a couple styles I like to call 70s mom/teacher style, hobo chic, hippie or stripper who's rent is due. I have a wide variety of hobbies reading, writing, painting, makeup, golf, photography, cooking, and guitar. I like to read comics an…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/19 10:01 PM
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And now you're being butt hurt about it, because a girl looked at you like come on. Just cause someone looks at your doesn't mean they are interested. And even if she was, people change their minds. No need to be acting like this about it.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/19 07:01 AM
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Everyone sucks, no matter gender, age, race, or beliefs. In every group people suck. Humans make mistakes, people get hurt. I think pointing out toxic behavior is important, I think being careful with tone is also important. I think anything that points to abusing another person as "pay back" isn't okay, don't try trick people or cause harm on purpose.But I mean if someone is hurting people then someone should say something.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/19 06:59 AM
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Most of the women I know don't actually care. If you don't want to get married then don't. Also ya the idea behind marriage has changed, a lot in life has changed that's what happens with time, people change, the world changes. Marry people that share the same morals as you, or don't, be in a LTR without marriage, just have fuck buddies or be poly if that makes you happier. At the end of the day just do what you want as long as no else gets hurt by it. I am glad marriage isn't like it use to be,…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/19 06:50 AM
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She probably did have a boyfriend but even if she didn't, from the shit I've seen you saying in this thread it's a good thing it ended there, she really dodged a bullet.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/19 06:31 AM
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Only if they have a sti or child, otherwise even if they are in my life it doesn't affect me at all. I mean some people would call me a slut but I don't have kids or a disease, just a good health love of sex and that doesn't bug my partner one bit.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/19 09:29 PM
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Weird! Maybe I am just a hoe but I have found many of my male friends attractive. And I would say I find at the very least like 70-80% of men attractive in one way or another. I mean not everyone is going to be a sold 10 out 10 but most men aren't ugly hell most people aren't ugly. I walk into a class at uni and most of the people in there are pretty cute.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/19 09:26 PM
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What you watch on porn and who you want to be with can be very different. I don't care if my partner watches porn along as its not an addiction or ruins our sex life. My partner and I don't really talk much about what kind of porn we watch, cause we have a healthy sex life so it doesn't really matter. (Unless it's child porn or animal porn)
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/19 09:22 PM
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I've told guys I was interested and had guys ask me out. I guess it depends on the situation and the people. People should do what they but can't expect others to fill in the void, and that goes for men an women if you don't ask people out you can't be upset that people don't ask you out.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/19 09:17 PM
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I only find "thirst" attractive from a partner because it's about us connecting, and wanting me for more than just my vagina. Also I like when a man I love and trust is feeling "crazy" for me but if a stranger was saying that I would feel in danger. When a random guy is thirsty I just don't care it doesn't turn me on or off really, I mean I feel gross if they push it on me or whatever but a random guys thirst has nothing to do with me. I mean when I am single and horny I can just masturbate if i…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/19 09:12 PM
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Yeah I think it's all in tone. You can say cute and mean like "aw adorable, but not fuckable" or it can be "damn you fine" lol. Context, and tone matter. When I am talk to my partner it's means like sexy in an emotional way. But like if I was commenting on guy my friend thought was sexy but I didn't it would mean like he's not ugly but not my type .
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/19 08:57 PM
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I am bisexual so maybe this plays into it but I find many different types of men attractive, short, tall, black, white, chubby, skinny. Now I have some limits within some categories but for the most part it's wide spread as far as features go. I have found that I find people think my taste is weird when it comes to some men I am attracted to. And I feel like most of women I have known all had different idea of really attractive men. I know like when it comes to celebrities it all seems like one …
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/19 08:54 PM
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I would say do it and ignore the people that day stupid shit
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/19 07:37 AM
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I think it should be more normalized that women treat their partners like the stereotypical way a man is "suppose" to treat a women, (with in their partners comfort level). I mean things like buying flowers, taking them out, being the big spoon. I know women do it but I feel like you don't see it in the media or talk about as much. What ways do you ladies treat your guy to some romance?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/19 08:17 PM
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Yikes! Sorry to hear that one of my best friends is a pretty masculine in the she dresses so she is wearing a suit, is there anyway they would let you do that instead?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/19 08:13 PM
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25, Canada and about 50, when I waa between like 16-20 my partner was really into three sums and we were poly for a short time so that helps up the number. Plus I am bisexual so women and men, plus 4 LTRs. And couple short relationships and one amazing friend who was a fuck buddy. Edit: oh and I am a lady person
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/19 05:24 PM
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Sex with a partner for me has always been better. But also I like building memories, fucking is cool and stuff but I like someone I can stay up all night with watching stupid YouTube videos, making dinner with, traveling, and someone there for the sad stuff. I want kids, and I want someone that can be with me the rest of my life. Fucking does a lot of great things but it doesn't scratch the itch I can't reach on my back, go to comic expo with me or buy me cute succulents. And no one is "beautifu…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/19 05:18 PM
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A lot of people don't care. I just think it sounds stupid but also your preference is yours and yours alone. Go live your best life, but don't expect people to pat you on the back for not sleeping with "slutty" girls. And I mean as long as you are respectful to people even the ones you aren't dating it isn't really a problem.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/19 05:14 PM
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No, but I prefer a emotional connection. I think it also depends on the women though some women really do need it.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/19 05:10 PM
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No, I feel like it should be worked out between the two people, either split down the middle or taking turns at least when you're dating. When you're married or living together money can change though and then again it's about open conversation.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/19 05:08 PM
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I don't need one but I prefer it, and too me it means some kind of relationship, even if that is just good friendship
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/19 05:07 PM
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Every single day maybe even twice a day. Three if we don't have work or class. Unless sick or otherwise unable of course
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/19 05:04 PM
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We meet at school through a mutual friend. Became friends and then dated. But the whole time he was respectful, and kind.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/19 04:58 PM
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Exactly! People aren't one dimensional, you can like cooking and watching Netflix but if you ask someone to name things other Netflix then they will.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/19 09:45 PM
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Depends on the day and how tired I am, but I like to play guitar and sing, video games, make art like painting and drawing. I also write poetry, cook and am learning French as minor but also language learning is a hobby. I also like to read. Going out with friends to eat or dance. But again sometimes that depends I am a university student so sometimes after a test I like veg around a bit.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/19 09:42 PM
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I am queer I am attracted to way too many types of people lol, but I do have somethings I find especially attractive. As long as I find you decent looking and we have something in common I am normally willing to try a date, so I've ended up with people that weren't my "type" often.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/19 07:14 AM
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Yeah! I mean I am sure it's not that way for all women everyone does different things for different reasons, but me and most the women I know do it cause it's fun and we enjoy it. I dont do it for anyone but me, and I most the time I do pony tail and no makeup but it's fun to get dressed up and hang with some friends.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/19 02:44 AM
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Not really, mines pretty damn high myself. For me it's about how he treats women if he is fucking and chucking while pretending to love them and stuff I would be wary but I like guys that are experienced. Not that I would reject a guy completely that was a virgin but I prefer someone that has some experience. I think that the most important thing is what happens when we are together.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/19 02:32 AM
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