What is your ideal ONS?

Danger3214 · 2021-01-31T15:51:28+00:00

I see this woman, she's of average attractiveness. She walks straight past me, but drops a lottery ticket on her way towards her latest date. I pick up the ticket and try to return it but she is lost in the crowd. So I take the ticket home and see the lottery results. I'm now a multi millionaire.

Snacksbreak · 2021-01-31T17:37:08+00:00

I use my vibrator and go to bed by 11pm. Wake up early refreshed, work out, grab a breakfast burrito, and take my dog to the beach where neither of us get a sunburn while wearing matching crop tops.

AngelFire_3_14156 · 2021-01-31T14:50:48+00:00

My ideal ONS: Meet for a drink, then go to a motel room and enjoy each other. A lot. Afterwards, we pick up the kids and go to the home we share.

alwaysonalongtrip · 2021-01-31T18:57:54+00:00

How good can it be if they never want to see you again?

Gerealtor · 2021-01-31T16:48:11+00:00

Totally impropable scenario, but we're both at a work conference or some other formal event. We randomly are placed beside each other and slowly he starts to put his hand on my thigh. Nobody knows and it's all a bit "forbidden". He's talking to other people he knows at the table, I am too. We hardly, if at all, acknowledge each other. Then I get up at some point to go to the bathroom. He follows. Stuff happens. We go back like nothing did, don't speak of it, but maybe send another glance at each other or a little touch. Then, ideally, we see each other once a year at formal things or something work related, but still never speak. But we always send a little glance each others way, knowing we have this one dirty little secret memory. And we never meet outside of external forces putting us in the same place. Don't know why I like that so much, but I guess everything being unspoken is kind of a turn on

GrandRub · 2021-01-31T16:55:09+00:00

why do you not want to meet them again? in my experience sex gets better if you know each other a bit.

TheBookOfSeil · 2021-01-31T15:11:36+00:00

Someone who I knew previously and was/am interested in. We would smash and then as we're lying in bed, she confesses that she had feels for me that never went away and it turns into another few smash sessions followed by being the only person I smash for the rest of my life.

And then I wake up.

SnooAvocados2224 · 2021-01-31T16:15:37+00:00

I don't really like ONS, so I usually try to turn every lay into a casual relationship, but, they all start as ONSs so here's my ideal.

She comes straight over, split a bottle of wine on my patio or balcony (I change countries often so depends on what I have available), we vibe, build chemistry, escalate and then go for some good kinky sex. 1 round, maybe 2.

I'll usually make a quick dinner or prep a charcuterie board, snack a bit, chat over whatever's left of the bottle of wine, go for round 2. Give her a massage and ask for one back, then go to bed. Rounds 4 and 5 in the morning one before and one after breakfast.

I like a balance between rearranging her guts and some wholesome shit. Only problem is that if I fuck up and invite a girl straight over and it turns out there's no chemistry I fucked up an entire evening and there's no easy out other than making up some bullshit about being tired and jetlagged or smthn

Untoxicmasculinity · 2021-01-31T14:07:13+00:00

They drive to my house, we drink a few beers, we fuck, we get high, we watch it’s always sunny in Philadelphia, we fuck again. Pass out around 2 am, wake up, make her breakfast and she knows enough to not hang out too long, and leaves on a good note. Repeat in 2-3 weeks

LabNo3096 · 2021-01-31T16:37:24+00:00

I met her, she's attracted to me, we go to a few places, we go to my place, we fuck, we sleep, in the morning we fuck again. She dresses up, I make her breakfast and order Uber. If I like her, I will re-engage in a few days. If she likes me, we repeat.

NaturalQueer · 2021-01-31T16:53:04+00:00

I don’t really enjoying having sex with people idk, so it only happen like twice I think but either way not a lot. If single I would probably prefer someone I am friends with or know at least some what, prefer it if it’s with someone I care about.

So my ideal one is not to have one at all I guess

ihavezeropersonality · 2021-01-31T18:39:01+00:00

ONS is fucking disgusting and shouldn’t even be this common.

AngelWeyesDelRey · 2021-01-31T16:54:18+00:00

Ideal would be he wants to date me afterwards.

Thats why I dont do ONS. Too risky. Most men want to fuck and move on. No matter what they say before to try and convince you.

No sex before monogamy. Period.

Banned_BY_SOYMEN · 2021-01-31T17:21:11+00:00

They come over to my place. We get high maybe watch a movie, and makeout and smash during it.

When have ONSs been elaborate?

velvetunderground111 · 2021-01-31T22:03:04+00:00

I had a one night stand in college with a little hipster girl: it was some of of the most ecstatic sex I ever had in my life. I left my number on a napkin (this was 2000's) and assumed I would never see her again. She called me the next night and and we dated for one wonderful year after that. Best one night stand ever.

nemporisso · 2021-01-31T15:15:22+00:00

I'll have to echo the softies - the ideal one night stand is the one that repeats itself for the rest of my life. Emotions! Feelings! Love 😍

jacemano · 2021-01-31T16:13:19+00:00

Meet at a rave. Lots of substances involved. We go back and have a bit of an afterparty. More than one person too is better also. More substances, less clothes, loud music.

BlackPorcelainDoll · 2021-01-31T19:05:45+00:00

Surprised no one, especially the women, didn't just say "mind-blowing, intense sex with earth shattering real orgasms" since most hardly cum with ONS, yeah not "necessary to enjoy it" but it is like ordering a cake purposefully with no icing when you have the choice. That would be my answer. Ideally, I'd be in so much lust and heat everything before just feels like an uncomfortable cockblock and having the wrong person to begin with. When turned on/horny I do not think straight or care about anything beyond it, so I don't want to be thinking at all. I will say if you have time to think, plan, be neurotic, etc.. he is doing something wrong in the first place. Everything should be reduced down to body and sensation at the simplest most primal form.

For me, going through some whole pre-ritual build up, potential girlfriend rituals, "FWB" stuff, seeing them again, and wasting money to not even enjoy the act itself is crazy. These people need to be honest with themselves with using empty primal acts of hook-up sex to disguise their neediness and desire to fill loneliness/voids for long-term intimacy. This is how you distinguish between people genuinely into pure fucking on nothing but lust (and can handle it) and those that don't really belong in the game.

It is like those self-proclaimed "naturally dominant" BDSM people that need consent to be dominant. Performative contradiction much? Inorganic and unsexy for people who inspire no natural complimentary behavior in others.

RRBeachFG2 · 2021-01-31T18:09:26+00:00

Never had one, I don't give it up on the first date.

AreOut · 2021-01-31T18:55:13+00:00

I see no point in ONS, there is really tough chance you'll achieve chemistry the first time and even if you do you'll feel stupid for not doing it again (and it's not ONS if you do that again). Just a waste of time.

Atlas__B__Shruggin · 2021-01-31T14:07:05+00:00

as someone whos had many many ONS it is literally impossible fo rme to think this way

do people really make up these ideal scenarios for life? how can it serve any purpose but disappointment

flapperfemmefatale · 2021-01-31T18:16:59+00:00

My ideal ONS is nonexistent

Suck-Less · 2021-01-31T16:17:33+00:00

I’m not a fan of ONS. In almost all cases, I was just drunk. I’d much rather have a FWB thing.

angels-fan · 2021-01-31T16:52:59+00:00

Lots of push/pull.

I know a lot of bloops will call it rapey, but smashing through feigned LMR. Like, a girl that is good with her girl game that pushes you away, but the underlying undertone is that she wants you to take her.

And no, all you autistic fuckers that can't gauge sexual interactions, it's not rape.

There's a world of difference between "STAAAAHHHHPPPPP TEEHEE" as she snuggles in closer vs freezing with a deer in the headlights or a flat out "NO! THIS ISN'T HAPPENING TONIGHT!"

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Hoopy223 · 2021-01-31T17:21:44+00:00

She comes over after dinner, we watch a movie and have sex til about 11-12, I wake up at 7 and she’s gone (w/o stealing anything lol).

geyejoe7 · 2021-01-31T17:27:27+00:00

I'm not into it. My best ide is I meet her in a club, we make out, I take her out behind the club, fuck her, and then leave and go home.

DesertWolf45 · 2021-01-31T17:46:52+00:00

Exchange glances, then smiles, with a cute girl and chat up. Nobody's around, both off work/class. Walk away in the same direction to get food or drinks, coming to life more as we keep talking. Evening hits before we know it. "Wanna go to my place or yours?" Book a hotel room if anyone's home for us. Fuck like wild animals. Go to sleep and wake up in each other's arms, meet her majestic gaze in the morning. Fuck again.

Be sure to have each other's numbers by the time we split, meet up again. If our personalities keep linking, keep doing it again and make it an official LTR.

GridReXX · 2021-01-31T17:56:36+00:00

It was a festive celebratory day. Met this guy at a breakfast party / gathering. He and I hung out the entire day and went to various street festivals and coffee shops and vibed the entire day. We went to a few dance parties later that night with mutual friends. It ended up turning into more of a FWB. We didn’t live in same city.

I connect with people too strongly for ONSs to be a staple of my life. It takes some level of intensity and shared experience to get me to “wanna fuck you”‘mode.

Popeman79 · 2021-01-31T17:56:37+00:00

Ideal ONS is with a lot intimate time in bed. Not just fucking, but also talking, learning stuff about somebody you will may never see again, laughing.

I'd rather have these conversations in bed than before, at the bar.

xxpen15mightierxx · 2021-01-31T18:13:04+00:00

The best is when you have a really good connection. Often these turn into LTRs anyway so they often get neglected as ONSs.

passepar2t · 2021-01-31T18:40:23+00:00

I mean... is there such a thing?

ONS are like Cheesy Wotsits, you eat it, enjoy the MSG for a few seconds and forget all about it.

Mimoxs · 2021-01-31T18:48:28+00:00

I'd sooner cut an arm off you're all disgusting degenerates

Gravel_Roads · 2021-01-31T18:48:35+00:00

I met mine at an a capella concert and we went to Body Worlds to look at all the corpses then accidentally crashed a wedding at the Franklin museum and were drunk making out in a fountain by 9pm

sadomasochrist · 2021-01-31T18:49:46+00:00

None of it matters except she is motivated to please and submissive. If both of things aren't true, then she'd need to be unusually attractive in some way.

RunsWlthScissors · 2021-01-31T20:47:04+00:00

Go to the bar with my friends. Talk to a girl who this time isn’t married (two of my last 6 ONS’s), get her number, don’t spend anything on drinks. Go home alone, sleep in my own bed. Nobody stays the next morning till like noon. Woke up remembering everything from the night before. Think about texting the chick then get busy doing things and end up forgetting about it.

ThrowawayCOVID999 · 2021-01-31T21:00:55+00:00

One where my dick actually works

PlanetSquare · 2021-01-31T21:22:30+00:00

I usually don't get out much but every now and then I try to break out of my shell and get into more stuff. I had a few plans that were kinda ruined by the whole covid situation, for example I wanted to try going to a concert and travel up to Oregon for a weekend to attend this convention called Burning Cat and had bought the tickets but everything was canceled. I plan on trying again once things start opening back up. I want to travel and try new things and eat new foods and hear new music.

I like to imagine that while taking a weekend vacation somewhere, I might meet a cute girl, around my age maybe a little younger. We catch each others attention. A friendly compliment turning into small talk. Unsure if she's interested in girls but seeing that we actually have tons in common, I would love to be her friend at the very least. We start hanging out a lot and doing a bunch of fun activities together that I've always wanted to do, like swimming with sharks and trying out different resturants. We become instant best friends, everything just feels easy and despite knowing each other for a very short time it feels like we had known eachother for forever. We make each other laugh so hard that it hurts. I feel happy when I'm with her. I feel like I can just relax and be myself with her without worrying about sounding weird, because our energy just bounces off eachother and we mesh perfectly. We're soul mates.

Maybe on my last night we have plans to go to some event but a bit of downtime before it starts, so we're just hanging out in my hotel room and to pass the time we play little games like two truths and a lie, never have I ever and truth or dare, and during these games it gets more and more sexual and we end up touching eachother all over, passionately kissing and having sex. We enjoy eachothers bodies so much that we miss the event and just prefer to keep having more sex all night until we eventually tire out, and cuddle to sleep.

In the morning we have more sex, get breakfast and she sees me off as I return back to my regular life. We stay in contact though, maybe have a long distance relationship where we text or video chat everyday. When we both have time in our schedules we go traveling together and experiment sexually in exotic places.

I guess this fantasy isn't exactly A ONS since my ideal is to have a loving and passionate committed relationship and not just hookup with a stranger to never see again, but close enough.

moldovan0731 · 2021-01-31T22:54:15+00:00

A woman I can be with while letting myself go over time while she continues to love me, so probably nonexistent.

tiposk · 2021-01-31T23:09:38+00:00

We meet at the public library. He's an inexperienced nerd, but agrees to come to my apartment. He takes his clothes off to reveal a nice athletic body right under a cute face. He seems shy at first but as the night goes on he becomes more relaxed. He let's me ride him and makes me cum 5 times one after the other, but I want more and he's penis is already too tired. He throws me in bed on my belly and eats my ass like a pro. I fall asleep and the next morning I find him cooking me breakfast in nothing but an apron. We eat and on his way out, he grabs my number. He calls me a few days later to let me know that he wants to eat my ass again. I tell him that our night was lovely, but that we shouldn't see each other again.

Workaholiconew · 2021-01-31T23:55:15+00:00

What is your ideal ONS? How’s it start,

I don't particularly have a preference, on how it starts, but I guess I would prefer to hit on her on a more gentle and calm place like a night bar close to my old family home, it was a calming and refreshing bar who would be quite nice at night when it was close to closing up, a bit on the costly side but with nice ambiance and relaxing demeanor.

when does he/she leave,

Well... I would prefer not too early, as I like to literally sleep with my partners and take my time waking up... but to make me late for work is very bad, so somewhere in the middle I guess.

do you call them again?

I mean, yes. I particularly do not like the idea of romantic relationships. But I find that ONS where you only meet one time as a waste of potential. I prefer what english speakers call FWB or FB, or what we call "Ficar" (someone you have a non exclusive relationship).

Rbn_-Throwaway · 2021-02-01T00:29:35+00:00

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hesipullupjimbo445 · 2021-02-01T01:07:56+00:00

Average looking, decent shape, good hygiene, gives head and doesn’t cry rape when she regrets it

muffdivr2020 · 2021-02-01T07:30:15+00:00

My ideal ONS would be to connect with this chick on fetlife about our common kinks. One of hers is to be a collared sub. The night before a thanksgiving holiday (2020) we are both alone chatting on the boards when she tells me she is hot, lonely, and is DTF. She says that she doesn’t have a collar, but if I’ll come over, she’ll meet me at the door naked with a belt around her neck. I throw caution to the wind and drive to the address, parking two blocks away and text her that I’m there. She txts me to come in from the carport and I see a light come on and the door swing open.

I enter and damned if she isn’t naked with a belt around her neck! She’s cute, 20 yrs younger and is carrying a few extra pounds. I’m on high alert because I know this is risky. She’s clearly nervous, but I read it correctly that it’s because she just invited a complete fucking stranger into her house.

I grab the belt and pull her to me for a kiss. She’s on, nerves or not. She offers me a beer. She’s been drinking, I can taste it on her. I suggest we sit on the couch and talk. I sit down and she sits beside me. We drink our beers and discuss what she wants, (sex, spanking, anal), establish her safeword and make out. She’s already soaked.

Mid beer, maybe 10 mins in, she stands up and leads me to her bedroom. I toss her on the bed, kiss her deeply and quickly work my way down and bury my face between her legs.

She cums quickly and after the second one, I stand up, strip down and roll on a condom. I spin her around, hang her head off the bed and tell her to double-tap my leg if she wants to stop since she won’t be able to use her safe word. She nods and takes me in with the first slow thrust. I’ve only been deep throated a couple of times, but damn. This girl has mad skills. Best facefuck ever. I lean over for a taste of her and she’s getting even wetter. Once hard, I spin her around again and she cums in minutes. The room is hot, she’s keeping the noise level under control, but I can tell she’s loving it. I flip her over. I really just indicate what I want her to do and she’s immediately compliant. I give her ass a couple of hard smacks and pulling her up on her knees, continue to fuck her doggy style. Close to losing control, I smear her juices up her ass and attempt to enter. I hear a gasp that sounds more like pain than pleasure as my cock begins to breach her asshole. Her had comes back in a “stop” or “wait” motion, but I don’t hear her use her safeword.

I pull away instantly. She says “no that’s too much” and I immediately plunge back into her soaked pussy, pounding away until I explode. I’m pretty sure she didn’t orgasm again.

I roll off and she looks like a scared, but relieved little rabbit. She says “thanks for stopping.” I know she means with the anal attempt. She looks embarrassed. Maybe because that was a big part of her fantasy that she had shared?

I know she needs aftercare, so for the next 90 mins or so, I prop my self up against the headboard and as she settles in next to me we talk. Well, she talks. About what we experienced, about her recent marriage, her husband and PITA 15 yr old stepchild, the tremendous stress in her life and how much she’s glad I didn’t turn out to be an axe murderer. Well, she didn’t actually “say” anything about her relief about me not being an ax murderer, but it was there.

After a bio break where I flushed the condom, I went to the kitchen, grabbed two more beers and returned to bed and cuddled her as we talked.

At some point she introduced herself because we had never shared names. I thanked her for helping me cross off a goal on my “fuckit” list (fucking a complete stranger without knowing her name) and she laughed hard enough that she didn’t catch the fact that I didn’t return the favor by introducing myself.

When she seemed put together enough and stable emotionally, I dressed, put the condom wrapper in the watch pocket of my jeans and she walked me to the door. We kissed again and I left promptly forgetting her name in the way out.

I forgot she had my number. A few days later and I receive a txt asking if I would consider being her Dom.

Now she comes over every week or so for “lunch.”

RIPBernieSanders1 · 2021-02-01T07:46:59+00:00

ONS are a paradox IMO. If you have a bad ONS, it was a mistake and you wouldn't have wanted it to happen. If you had a good ONS, you should want to do it again. At least a few times. So frankly I don't really understand. I think it's more of a psychological reason that people do them, like it boost their self-esteem or something like that, the quality of the sex doesn't even matter to them.

ivy176 · 2021-02-01T08:52:16+00:00

One that doesn't happen. I'm not into cheap fast food or people

theswampnymph · 2021-02-01T10:29:38+00:00

My ideal ONS: doesn’t exist. ONS are gross and I am not going to risk an std

Aldabruzzo · 2021-02-01T14:50:35+00:00

Ideal ONS

--with someone I have just met and am unlikely to meet again. Have fun, have laughs, have drinks. Go back to her place, so I can leave early if I want, she's on her home turf and will feel more comfortable. Great sex at least a couple of times. Probably do not spend the night. Maybe get her number. Maybe if I like her, it won't be a ONS.

Karmanger · 2021-02-03T15:36:56+00:00

Ideal would be a FWB but alas.

For a ONS I'd talk to her online, I'd say lets gets some Chicken and dicken. She comes over we have a fun time, she either leaves between the time were done or the morning and we go our separate ways.

Bitchmcmuffin · 2021-02-04T13:12:37+00:00

Why would I wanna have a ONS? If he's hot/ good enough personality to get me interested in the first place, why would I fuck him right away rather than test him to see if he's relationship material?

How can sex be good if it's with a stranger? Especially for women? I never understood.

Lokipoki29 · 2021-01-31T15:10:22+00:00

My ideal ONS is when she leaves in the morning without even waking me up.

Y'all sound really lonely fantasizing about having breakfast with someone.....Bitch I got shit to do and already used your body all night, go to McDonalds on your way back home if you're hungry.

2021-01-31T16:13:57+00:00

Fucking a model tier hot 25 year old Russian sailor all over a 19th century barquentine yacht, then leaving the country.

Lokipoki29 · 2021-01-31T16:26:54+00:00

Thiccc body don’t care about face

GreatRedYonder · 2021-01-31T16:38:34+00:00

Never

moneygang4life · 2021-01-31T17:24:58+00:00

She better be experienced, hot, and heavily into kink or i’m probably not down. Or if a girl wants to give me their virginity maaaybe id be down then too. Not really into ONS tho

Brainless-Wonder · 2021-01-31T17:40:10+00:00

Be younger me, in a foreign country. Cute girl sitting at the bar approaches me. Time to put my foreign language skills to the test. Her friend comes back and she’s even hotter. New priority. We talk all night about life up to that point. Get progressively drunker til last call. First girl leaves, I wind up with the hot friend. She wants to hook up, gets a cab and takes me to this sleazy hourly motel on the edge of town. Proceed to have the craziest sex of my entire life, with things even degenerate American college art hoes wouldn’t even dream of. Drink more, vent about our unfulfilled lives in the candid way that only unattached strangers can, watch porn and critique for laughs, fuck more. Repeat several more times.

Time for the room’s about to be up. She rolls over to me and says, “what if I told you I’m married?”

godfuckingdamnit.jpg

Cut to a few years later where I’m posting on PPD about why I don’t do one night stands. Guess it all worked out!

Sid_Insidious · 2021-01-31T22:28:51+00:00

Have fantastic sex with a very horny woman who is "my type" in every possible way.

We vow that it's just a ONS but I break at the last minute and ask for her number.

She reluctantly gives me her number.

And when I call it later that week, it's the wrong number.

Bless her little soul.

iamthemovie1992 · 2021-01-31T16:22:55+00:00

Idk, one that involves having sex with a woman with no strings attached and I didn’t have to literally pay her for it to happen?

Title	What is your ideal ONS?
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