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FIELD REPORTAngelFire_3_14156/r/RedPillWives22/04/24 08:41 PM
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LIFESTYLEAngelFire_3_14156/r/RedPillWomen24/09/19 02:12 AM
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This is absolutely unacceptable, and also illegal.
/r/RedPillWomen08/06/26 04:54 PM
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I meant women. I guess the context wasn't clear. I think men measure status differently. I know my husband doesn't particularly care.
/r/RedPillWomen24/04/26 04:48 PM
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I agree with you. However it's been my observation that they frequently want a certain a status in addition to that wealth.
/r/RedPillWomen24/04/26 04:18 PM
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I saw somewhere recently that if an individual is making at least $150k in the US, then they're in the top 10% of earners. Given that and any other additional requirements that a woman might have makes a "rich man" rare. OP is also correct about having to already be in wealthy circles in order to meet a rich man. Being in their habitat and being comfortable in that environment is absolutely necessary. My advice is to look for a good man that has a reasonable amount of ambition and practices self…
/r/RedPillWomen24/04/26 01:08 PM
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I feel like this is probably one of the most common themes on this sub, so I'm going to suggest something that's maybe a bit unusual. First, average looks are fine. Work on looking cute, feminine and above all, a pleasant personality goes a long way. Second, what kind of guy are you looking for? Do you know where that type of guy hangs out and what they like to do? Remember, you go to Australia to find a Koala in the wild, not Alaska. So once you figure that out, try going to those events or han…
/r/RedPillWomen14/03/26 04:25 PM
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This is a very powerful post.
/r/RedPillWomen03/01/26 04:10 PM
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I quit my job after a few years of marriage, after our second child was born. I was off for parental leave and just didn't want to go back. My job was okay in that I wasn't miserable. I negotiated with my husband, who incidentally wasn't too terribly surprised when I brought it up. He said he had a feeling based on my random comments and overall attitude about being home. I have no regrets. My husband has a good salary and does the heavy work around the house and yard. I manage the household, ou…
/r/RedPillWives02/01/26 09:06 PM
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I'm sorry this happened to you at Christmas.
/r/RedPillWomen25/12/25 01:45 AM
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I had a successful career and I voluntarily left it to be a SAHM after our second child was born. I don't regret that I had a career and I don't regret that I left it either.
/r/RedPillWomen04/12/25 03:17 AM
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I smile at my husband seductively and blow him little kisses. Another thing you can do is just be playful with him.
/r/RedPillWomen22/11/25 03:36 PM
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Congratulations! I noticed that you mentioned something about a husband in an earlier comment and I wondered to myself, "Hmmm. When did that happen?" I hope you have many happy years together!
/r/RedPillWomen19/11/25 07:56 PM
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I agree! My husband also manages our investments and does our income taxes. He understands it better than I do
/r/RedPillWomen19/11/25 07:11 PM
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I make sure our bills get paid and do most of the household accounting. My husband and I make most financial decisions together
/r/RedPillWomen19/11/25 05:12 PM
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In my neighborhood many people including us have vegetable gardens and maybe some chickens. In my family we compost all of our vegetable kitchen scraps and anything else that makes sense. We try to minimize the amount of trash that we create. I see to it my family takes appropriate vitamin supplements and eats a healthy, balanced diet. As a result we rarely get sick. With one exception we're also not anti-vax. My point is that if you do some basic, common sense things, you'll be more healthy and…
/r/RedPillWives17/11/25 08:32 PM
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At some point along the line, one needs to realize that for every pet peeve you have about your man, he has one about you. Very true! As my grandmother said to me once, "You have to put up with him, but he has to put up with you."
/r/RedPillWomen14/08/25 01:56 AM
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Both my husband and I can be practical to a fault. LOL! We're both kinda introverted and not what I would consider high energy. Falling into a rut is unbelievably easy and romance requires a conscious effort from both of you. What did you do when you were dating? Can you rekindle some of that or build on what you've already done? My husband will take me to try new restaurants, craft breweries and craft distilleries. Sometimes we'll go for a drive and find some place to go on a hike. There are al…
/r/RedPillWomen07/08/25 01:37 PM
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Maybe I'm missing something here. Usually with a newborn, the parents come to you, not the other way around. How new born is your newborn? Most pediatricians recommend waiting for at least 2 to 3 months before traveling so their immune systems can better develop. Secondly, the key to negotiation is that you both get something that you want. What can you offer him in return for a longer stay at your parents?
/r/RedPillWomen06/08/25 04:30 PM
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I think the amount of time you've spent together is more important than the length of time you've been dating. Even if you disagree you should be able to politely exchange ideas.
/r/RedPillWomen06/08/25 01:32 PM
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In any given week, my husband and I usually spend 5 out of 7 evenings together. Maybe not the whole evening but at least part of it
/r/RedPillWomen02/08/25 01:32 PM
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If a guy has to tell you how "alpha" he is then he probably isn't.
/r/RedPillWomen09/06/25 12:15 PM
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Women are capable of desiring more than they can realistically achieve, so untamed hypergamy may threaten to destroy a relationship that was achieved through successful maximum personal hypergamy in the first place. Very true and eloquently stated!
/r/RedPillWomen08/06/25 01:44 PM
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I feel like he is happy he can provide for me enough to be home So in your opinion he's content with the status quo, but you see limited potential for growth because of your finances. My husband feels like he has everything he needs since he just works and play video games or spend time with me, which makes it hard to bring this up, but I think of course he would also like more income so we could travel more etc. It might be an uncomfortable conversation but I really think you should bring it up…
/r/RedPillWives05/06/25 01:37 PM
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I've been through something similar and I know it's painful. None of us are perfect but that's no excuse for cheating. Some of those people eventually feel remorse and others don't. Do you have family and friends that are supportive?
/r/RedPillWomen15/05/25 07:23 PM
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My advice is if he does come back then don't allow him back into your life. If you do, you'll always be wondering if he's sneaking around behind your back. I recommend avoiding that stress on you and your child. He's made his decision, now he can live with it.
/r/RedPillWomen15/05/25 06:52 PM
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Emotional regulation or emotional intelligence is nothing new. It's actually quite ancient. It's a constant theme in the Old Testament wisdom books and in Greek and Roman philosophy. Many of the world's major religions also emphasize this. For myself, I hit a crisis point after I divorced my first husband. Through therapy, reading and reflection I developed better emotional control. I'm not perfect, but lack of emotional control can be very destructive. Part of it is understanding your own feeli…
/r/RedPillWomen12/05/25 03:34 PM
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I think it's important to remember that you simply can't control other people, but you can control how you react to the situations they create. It's a skill that takes practice like any other. In the examples you gave it sounds like you had good reasons to be upset. The engine revving at 4:30 AM would have annoyed me too. Another approach that could have been effective is to write to your landlord about your concern and perhaps cite where this is a violation of the lease agreement or cite a city…
/r/RedPillWomen06/05/25 06:55 PM
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Can you elaborate more on this "fairytale man" image that you bought into?
/r/RedPillWives06/05/25 06:24 PM
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Okay,I didn't realize you were going back that far
/r/RedPillWomen04/05/25 11:41 PM
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I could be wrong but I'm not sure this is historically accurate. From the history I've read and my family's stories that have been passed down from the early to mid 20th century, single women at least in the cities were likely to have had a job of some sort. Common occupations were office work, housekeeping and nannies. Once they were married they usually took care of the home. That is until WW2. Most of the younger men were in the military and some women went to work in the factories. According…
/r/RedPillWomen04/05/25 04:45 PM
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My advice is to make sure your home is inviting. I presume they'll be sleeping in a spare bedroom? If so, make sure the room is clean, inviting and has adequate room for their belongings. You might consider planning out the meals for the time they'll be with you, including any needed grocery shopping. Maybe plan a couple of activities that everyone will enjoy. Personally that's where I would start.
/r/RedPillWomen03/05/25 03:03 PM
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I think the advice u/_Pumpkin_Muffin gave here is a more subtle and effective approach
/r/RedPillWomen03/05/25 02:47 PM
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I've never given it much thought but I suppose 6 months is a good time frame. There could be other things to consider, such as educational goals, etc. But I also agree that dragging things out almost indefinitely isn't a good idea either. In my case I was still slightly reeling from my divorce and I was being cautious in approaching the relationship with my future husband. He wanted to marry me but I was putting the breaks on. Nevertheless, things took an unexpected turn and we eloped after dati…
/r/RedPillWomen02/05/25 03:06 AM
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Based on my understanding of men, they dislike drama. So I think peace, trust and a soft place goes a long way. And the BJs? On top of all that, that's a huge bonus for him! Edited
/r/RedPillWomen01/05/25 09:19 PM
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Your husband sounds a lot like mine. In the "piggy bank" example that you gave, there are things on my husband's to-do list that don't get done as soon as he would like, or as soon as I would like. Like yours he's not lazy by any stretch. He's ambitious and helps out around the house. It's just that there are other things that we have agreed are higher priority and there are so many hours in a day.
/r/RedPillWomen23/04/25 12:49 PM
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Have you talked to your priest about any of this?
/r/RedPillWomen17/04/25 12:24 PM
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That can happen at any age. My dad is in his 70s. He's active and is still finding ways to repurpose himself.
/r/RedPillWives12/04/25 03:07 PM
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Find someone emotionally mature, that is open, honest,and shares your values and beliefs. I completely agree with this but I'd like to add one other thing to the list. I'm probably stating the obvious, but also make sure the guy you're dating is interested in a commitment. It would be tragic (and I've seen this happen before) where the guy meets your criteria but isn't interested in a long term commitment for whatever reason. While I don't think you should rush things, at the same time I think y…
/r/RedPillWomen11/04/25 01:29 PM
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So if I understand you, the root problem is the CPTSD. I'm not sure how to fix that without therapy, but you've also said that therapy has been counterproductive. It's my understanding that trauma can literally rewire the brain. One thing to keep in mind is that not all therapists are created equal. It's possible that you haven't been able to find a good match. I've experienced this also. In the aftermath of my divorce (due to my ex's infidelity), it took a couple of iterations before I found a …
/r/RedPillWives08/04/25 01:54 PM
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I'm not a professional but I honestly don't think that would count. Another thing you might be able to do is just sit down with your husband and explain that this is a problem that you want to work on. Ask him for his help with this and his patience while you're working on it.
/r/RedPillWives07/04/25 04:59 PM
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Unfortunately I'm not sure what specific skills you would need to work on. Do you have issues with impulse control in other areas of your life?
/r/RedPillWives07/04/25 04:43 PM
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We were having a regular conversation, and he was explaining something about the game. Out of nowhere, I blurted out the phrase, “A painter should not blame the paintbrush.” amongst the conversation. It's not clear what your comment had to do with the conversation It wasn’t something I thought through—it just randomly came to mind, and without thinking, I said it. My brain was on autopilot, and it honestly had no deeper meaning. There's a very old saying and I'm not trying to be mean by quoting …
/r/RedPillWives07/04/25 04:21 PM
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If he's this stressed out over your relationship when it's long distance, imagine what it will be when you're living closer together. It doesn't seem like he's that into you. Your relationship could also be suffering because you're not physically spending time together. I agree with the other comment that said you should be dating locally. We humans are not designed for LDRs, especially for the long term.
/r/RedPillWomen28/03/25 02:16 PM
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That lashing out is also a problem, but IMO is a separate one and but is still a red flag. Please be careful moving forward.
/r/RedPillWomen11/03/25 04:53 PM
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Thanks for the clarification. So you know his love language isn't receiving gifts, and it sounds more like it's either "words of affirmation" or "acts of service". IMO this is the root of the disagreement. Love languages are a little pseudo science-y, but I have found them to be useful anyway.
/r/RedPillWomen11/03/25 04:04 PM
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It finally made so much sense because the gift giving and taking care of probably made him feel less masculine. I'm not sure I'm following you here. Can you provide some more context?
/r/RedPillWomen11/03/25 03:34 PM
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I would leave and take the kids with me. If my husband cheated on me I would lose respect for him. I can't be married to or be in a relationship with a man I don't respect. Secondly my ex cheated on me. I tried to reconcile and it didn't work. I'm not going through that again with anyone. People who cheat frequently have Dark Triad traits and/or are entitled. I really don't want to be associated with anyone like that. My husband knows exactly where I stand on this issue.
/r/RedPillWomen11/03/25 01:35 PM
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Ultimately I think this is a boundary issue. One thing you should probably do is develop self confidence and learn to trust your own judgement. One resource that might be helpful is the book "13 Things Mentally Strong People Don't Do" by Amy Morin. You should be able to find a copy in your local public library. Good luck!
/r/RedPillWomen10/03/25 03:40 PM
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My advice is that honesty is the best policy. My reason for this is that when you get into a serious relationship, if you distort the truth and IF he should somehow find evidence that you distorted things, he could start questioning everything he believed about you. That will likely put you in a very uncomfortable position and could possibly threaten your entire relationship. The conversation will probably be cringe (been there, done that). Since you haven't had PIV could put you in a better pos…
/r/RedPillWomen20/02/25 05:14 PM
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My husband and I agreed on monogamy early in our relationship. I have absolutely no desire to be with anyone else and he has expressed the same. We're also both pretty busy. I don't know when either of us would have time for another partner.
/r/RedPillWomen12/02/25 06:54 PM
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Breakups are never easy, and especially since it's not really clear why he wanted to break up with you. Given his age his reasons are a little odd from my viewpoint. In any case, your feelings are perfectly valid. Are you getting some support from family and friends?
/r/RedPillWomen06/02/25 04:58 PM
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What does he do for the relationship? What do you find attractive about him? Also, what are you doing for the relationship? The reason I'm asking is what if he thinks he is being romantic and you two just aren't on the same wavelength in this regard?
/r/RedPillWomen03/02/25 08:31 PM
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I would strongly suggest that you meet each other in person before having a relationship. Nevertheless, I think it's foolish on his part to promise to send you something and not follow through. Remember that actions speak louder than words, and it's possible he doesn't (consciously or subconsciously) view this as a real relationship. Be careful
/r/RedPillWomen30/01/25 06:24 PM
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You said this is a long distance relationship. It could be a case of, "Out of sight, out of mind." How much time do you spent in each other's presence?
/r/RedPillWomen30/01/25 06:10 PM
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I'll rephrase: You should also be comfortable enough to ask him and have a non-confrontational discussion
/r/RedPillWomen19/01/25 02:05 AM
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He doesn’t pay my bills. He gives me money every month but it’s not a gift, it’s a salary from work. So I don’t think that counts. I agree I’m not sure what he means It's really important that you find out what he means. You should also be comfortable enough to ask him and have a discussion in a non-confrontational way
/r/RedPillWomen18/01/25 07:27 PM
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Thanks! That all makes sense
/r/RedPillWomen17/01/25 04:51 AM
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I'm curious if the "Disasters" were always stressed out in their relationship - even before they married - or if that developed gradually over time.
/r/RedPillWomen17/01/25 04:16 AM
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One caveat though, doing all that isn't going to change a lame horse guy into a champion. Good point and I absolutely agree
/r/RedPillWomen09/01/25 08:13 PM
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It's been my observation that good men want 4 things: Respect. Never, never disrespect your man. Peace. Some drama is inevitable but men want it kept to a minimum and under control. Keep his balls drained. Self explanatory Keep his tummy full with tasty foods. Find out what he likes and you both can agree on. That's basically it. The only other thing is to keep yourself attractive. You don't need to look like a fashion model or sexy all the time but do take care of your overall appearance. Keep …
/r/RedPillWomen09/01/25 07:26 PM
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I'm not so sure this is an absolute. For example I've heard of romantic relationships forming in retirement homes and assisted living places. And even hookups taking place It seems that hypergamy only shuts off when we stop breathing
/r/RedPillWomen08/01/25 06:16 PM
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Thanks! It's worked for us
/r/RedPillWomen28/12/24 02:27 PM
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I think the more transparent you are, the stronger position it will put you in. I told my husband EVERYTHING. My reasoning was that if anything should come up in the future that could raise a question about my body count, then he would already know about it. Further if for some reason he couldn't handle something in my past, I'd rather he find out sooner than later
/r/RedPillWomen27/12/24 08:02 PM
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Merry Christmas everyone!
/r/RedPillWomen26/12/24 01:45 AM
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It could be that he's gotten the impression that you're not really that interested or that he's been friend zoned. If you want this to go anywhere you should give him some indication that you're definitely interested
/r/RedPillWomen21/12/24 07:32 PM
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It looks to me like he's already made a move, several in fact. So to me you wouldn't be making a move but rather reciprocating to his moves
/r/RedPillWomen21/12/24 07:22 PM
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I also suggest that you add "please" and "thank you" when asking him to do things. It makes the request more gentle and teaches him polite manners
/r/RedPillWomen18/12/24 05:08 PM
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I can understand how this could be awkward with the son. I'm not saying that your concerns aren't legitimate but it sounds like your partner is interpreting your concerns as an attack. Body language, tone of voice and word choices are important. This will probably take time but is there any chance that you could gently train the son to care more about his personal hygiene? For example, praise him when he's clean and takes better care of himself? Or gently remind him to wash his hands, etc?
/r/RedPillWomen18/12/24 04:32 PM
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You've talked about your relationship with your partner in regard to his kids, but how is your relationship with his kids? Do they see you as a mother figure or just as their dad's partner?
/r/RedPillWomen18/12/24 04:18 PM
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To me attractiveness, success and loyalty describes a high value man
/r/RedPillWomen17/12/24 03:44 AM
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I've gotten banned from subs that maybe I've visited once or twice. A couple I didn't even know existed until they banned me. I don't really care either
/r/RedPillWomen10/12/24 02:42 AM
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I'm not a big fan of high heels. It's more of a comfort issue. However I know that my husband likes the way my legs look in heels so I will wear them occasionally, particularly when we're out on a date. In this respect I guess it is an act of submission but I've never really thought of it that way, rather I'm just wearing something to please my husband. TBH I don't find it empowering one way or the other
/r/RedPillWomen08/12/24 07:44 PM
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I've heard a lot of bad things about the current dating market, particularly from men but also from some women as well. The consensus is that OLD has "poisoned the well". All I can say is that I'm glad I'm not trying to date
/r/RedPillWomen08/12/24 03:19 PM
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Many people who are unfaithful share certain characteristics - both men and women. Lack of emotional intelligence tops the list, in particular a lack of empathy, lack of self awareness and the presence of dark triad personality traits. So I don't think wealth is a direct causation The other characteristic that many unfaithful people share is that many of them are extroverts. According to a study I saw a while back, introverts are less likely to cheat
/r/RedPillWomen30/11/24 04:59 PM
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You're right. And I've seen the same thing from both women and men
/r/RedPillWomen22/11/24 12:33 AM
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So in other words he wants a monogamous relationship with you, while also seeking out and getting the attention of other women. For what purpose? Sorry, but he doesn't sound like LTR material
/r/RedPillWives20/11/24 04:33 PM
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I am dumbfounded by the amount of women who are being coerced into polyamory situations with their doms and just go on Reddit to bitch and moan about it rather than speak with their partners and put their fucking foot down. There's nothing submissive about this. It's tolerating or enabling bad behavior
/r/RedPillWomen19/11/24 05:02 PM
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I would’ve loved to stay at my parents, but they live in a different country. Sorry, I misread that. You're right, that's not very practical. Thank you for the suggestions. I’ll definitely have a chat when things settle down though I don’t know how far away it’ll be. He’s not well either but we don’t know what’s wrong with him other than mild anaemia so lots of blood work and Dr visits for him. He doesn’t have enough fuel in the tank for my stress and vice versa. You've both got a lot on your pl…
/r/RedPillWomen15/11/24 09:10 PM
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First, this doesn't sound like it's normal for any you to be under this much stress. It also sounds like your husband was engaged and doing what he could and not just sitting around either. Not only are you all stressed out but everyone else is too, and they're feeling your stress as well. Your husband did offer you an out, by recommending that you stay at your parent's house for a little while. I think that would have been better than staying at a hotel. I think the most important thing to keep…
/r/RedPillWomen15/11/24 02:24 PM
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Normally I wouldn't give a Biblical answer but since Christianity is embedded in your question then I will. In Sunday school we learn that a girl's role is to help and support her man. Provide whatever he requires to be successful. But more than that, to submit to him and to serve him as the leader in the relationship. I don't know exactly what you were told in Sunday School, but St. Paul tells us that we're only to submit to our husbands (Ephesians 5:22-24) So my question is does all this only …
/r/RedPillWomen12/11/24 06:02 PM
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It sounds like your relationship has a strong foundation and there aren't any serious underlying issues. That's very important. It sounds like the problem is that you've both gotten into a bit of a rut. It's a very easy trap to fall into. What's great is that you've recognized the problem and have taken responsibility for your part. I think you have a good plan moving forward. The only other thing I can suggest (if you haven't already) is that you also find a way to reintroduce playfulness into …
/r/RedPillWomen08/11/24 02:45 PM
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Also were Christian so heres a big one: “But I say to you that everyone who looks at a woman with lustful intent has already committed adultery with her in his heart” One definition of lust is, "intense or unbridled sexual desire." Noticing a pretty woman or acknowledging that a woman is attractive is not the same thing as having "unbridled sexual desire" for her.
/r/RedPillWomen31/10/24 01:39 PM
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My husband and I eloped. Once we decided that it was what we were going to do it took us about a week to arrange everything. That included getting time off for a honeymoon, buying tickets and making reservations. The time from when we decided to elope to when we got married was four weeks. It was a very short engagement
/r/RedPillWomen30/10/24 05:54 PM
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I'm not sure exactly what you're asking here. Hypergamy gives us the ability to choose a good mate who can provide and protect. It's also very important to vet any potential mates to make sure they are who we think they are or who they claim to be.
/r/RedPillWives27/10/24 03:40 PM
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Hypergamy essentially means that as women, we will instinctively seek out the highest value male we can possibly get. We seek out a male with the highest social status, the best genetics and abilities. It's actually good, because it helps to ensure the survival of our species. It's also is a tool for us to choose a good mate and have a happy and fulfilling relationship. We can talk about certain general male characteristics that are high value, but the specifics can be subjective and depend on t…
/r/RedPillWives27/10/24 02:23 PM
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When you're both living under the same roof there should be some sort of division of labor. It's good that he'll do things when he's asked to. The problem is that it's more passive and not active. To my way of thinking, there should be a conversation on a reasonable division of household responsibilities that's appropriate for what's going on in your lives right now. (Edit: Ideally he should probably lead the conversation but right now it's more important that you actually have the conversation.…
/r/RedPillWomen24/10/24 08:02 PM
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I don't think you're overreacting because it sounds like you're doing all the heavy lifting. It also doesn't sound like he's providing any leadership. Have you sat down with him and discussed yours and his expectations?
/r/RedPillWomen24/10/24 06:51 PM
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You're welcome! I think your marriage can be saved but I also believe that you're going to need someone to help both of you I wish you the best of luck
/r/RedPillWives18/10/24 07:53 PM
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I've been listening to a few podcasts discussing the issue with most Christian marriage advice and how it can be a cover for abusive behavior. Not only overtly abusive behaviors but inequalities in marriage. It's fairly feminist and more progressive. It's not clear to me how this ties into the rest of the post. Also, what "Christian marriage advice" have you been listening to? I was very immature for the first 5-6 years in marriage. How long have you been married? I would do things like overspen…
/r/RedPillWives18/10/24 07:17 PM
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I'm an electrical engineer. I love math, programming, and physics. I'm very anti PC and I love discussing and debating taboo topics. Very cool! I have a STEM degree and I love these topics also. However it's not clear to me exactly what you're looking for. From your post history, it seems like you're traditionally minded and you're a professional engineer. Are you looking for other traditionally minded women or women who are interested in STEM topics? These two groups are not necessarily mutuall…
/r/RedPillWomen18/10/24 02:33 PM
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How much vetting have you done? The one question that IMO you should answer is, is he really who and what he claims to be? For example, have you met his friends and family? How does he handle anger and frustration? How much do you know about his past?
/r/RedPillWomen15/10/24 10:07 PM
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You said that you started dating him "recently". How long have you been dating? Can you be more specific?
/r/RedPillWomen15/10/24 05:02 PM
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Okay. The reason I asked was because I've heard of people having sexual problems stemming from Purity Culture Edit: Do you think he might have trouble viewing you sexually?
/r/RedPillWomen12/10/24 03:26 PM
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Just out of curiosity, where either of you in a church that advocated or taught Purity Culture?
/r/RedPillWomen12/10/24 02:38 PM
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What you really need to look at is his actions, is he taking actions to prepare for a future with you? Not what he says, but what he does? This is exactly what I was thinking when I read your post. Actions speak louder than words
/r/RedPillWomen11/10/24 06:33 PM
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I think that men by nature are competitive in this manner. They do this to each other as a test. Women can also be competitive but we go about it quite differently Modern feminism promotes the idea that men and women are equal and equivalent. They've probably bought into this so they think nothing of competing with you. It could be that as far as they're concerned, you're fair game. That's probably why they're competing with you and they're trying to get a reaction out of you. In other words, th…
/r/RedPillWomen09/10/24 02:55 PM
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What is your view of submission? I believe there have been studies that concluded that the higher a woman's body count, the more likely she'll have trouble with relationship satisfaction. Infidelity and divorce are also more likely. Perhaps the high body count is either a symptom of an attachment issue or leads to an attachment problem. So from that perspective the submission part is almost immaterial. Can she be happy in ANY romantic relationship long term? I think the other issue is, how does …
/r/RedPillWomen07/10/24 05:21 PM
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A. How I dress depends on what I'm doing, but I will get comments that I look nice. I guess my clothing choices are tasteful and classy. People have also told me that I have a pleasant voice and laugh. B. I try to be supportive of my husband's career. He's an engineer and we both have STEM degrees. I don't shy away from him talking to me about technical issues that he's working on. Sometimes I just act as a soundingboard. There's been more than a few times where we had a talk about something he'…
/r/RedPillWomen07/10/24 04:58 PM
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Having a Plan B or a backup plan is always a good idea. In my own life, I've found that having a well thought out backup plan frequently means there's less of a chance that I'll actually need it.
/r/RedPillWomen04/10/24 12:53 PM
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Has always been protective of his phone, overly so in my opinion. I caught him with a secret Instagram to stalk OF girls less than a year into our relationship, so I suppose that’s where my lack of trust comes from. And he knows that this was a boundary violation for you? Then that could explain his reaction. At this point the question is, why are you with someone where there's a lack of trust? If you don't feel you can trust him because of something he's done, then that's a red flag right there…
/r/RedPillWomen26/09/24 05:59 PM
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Phones have opened a Pandora's Box of relationship problems. Just look at any relationship sub for examples and details, particularly the ones concerned with infidelity. The evidence is almost always on their well guarded phone. However it also can depend on your relationship - that is, how long you've been together and the depth of commitment. There's also a difference between "privacy" and "secrecy". Privacy is you basically know what's going on but don't need the details, or it's something th…
/r/RedPillWomen26/09/24 04:32 PM
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I think you're taking things a little too literally. The “baby voice” thing might work for someone in their early-to-mid 20’s… but as someone who has seen 30-something’s try this strategy IRL, it is cringy!! Agreed, but in the author's defense there's more to a "baby voice" than just the octave range, which seems superficial. It's also the tone of voice and a (child-like?) demeanor that goes with it. At that point you lean into your “mature seductress” vibe, not your “innocent kitten” vibe. 😅 I'…
/r/RedPillWomen25/09/24 02:39 PM
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Weak male behavior is correlated with reproductive failure at some level. Interesting. I hadn't heard this before. I just found some peer-reviewed scholarly papers on that topic. Thanks for pointing this out!
/r/RedPillWomen24/09/24 04:26 PM
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I just read this to my husband and he recounted a story from college. He doesn't remember exactly how this happened, but this girl approached him and his buddy and began talking to them. He has seen her before in passing but that was all. He said she came across as charming and alluring even though her looks were pretty average. He said that while she was friendly and outgoing, he definitely felt like she was gathering information on who they were, what they believe, their attitudes, etc. Althou…
/r/RedPillWomen23/09/24 03:27 PM
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I've never heard of her but now you've got me curious
/r/RedPillWomen23/09/24 03:16 AM
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I often find the advice that “men don’t care about your career or how much money you make!” to be at best, an extreme oversimplification, and usually completely wrong, yet it is so frequently given in this subreddit and similar “traditional femininity” circles. I agree. According to this post, education and status isn't important for attraction, but both attraction and status are for commitment. That's an important distinction. I’m prepared to be downvoted to hell but if you’re lazy in your care…
/r/RedPillWomen20/09/24 07:03 PM
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There’s a pop-culture name for this evolutionary male dual mating strategy - the madonna-whore complex. Evolutionary roots aside, you can see how this dual strategy still makes sense and exists today. Modern men’s lizard brains want as much sex as possible, so women who look promiscuous, exhibit sexual openness and adventurousness, and actually are sexually promiscuous are very attractive to men (despite their long-term riskiness), especially for short-term dating and casual sex. On the flip sid…
/r/RedPillWomen16/09/24 06:06 PM
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My husband knows all about my participation in RPW. In fact, he knows about all of my social media. Our relationship didn't start out this way. I always saw the ideal relationship as an equal partnership. My husband's leadership really shined when we had our first crisis as a couple. At the time I thought that we solved the problem together. In reality he came up with a plan, we talked about it, and I cooperated in the implementation of the plan. (Good thing too because I was borderline freaking…
/r/RedPillWomen13/09/24 08:54 PM
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While I personally find the concept of a glory hole revolting, I appreciate the spirit. The glory hole idea doesn't do it for me either. However some of the the techniques that were mentioned did give me some ideas 😉 Thanks for posting this!
/r/RedPillWomen13/09/24 05:58 PM
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Most people when they're enjoying the attention don't mention it to their SO
/r/RedPillWomen12/09/24 01:05 PM
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My guess is that some women might feel uncomfortable doing this which is legitimate even though uncomfortable doesn't equal wrong. Very true And then some might feel that it is somehow demeaning I vividly remember my grandmother telling my sister and I when we were teenagers that, "Men want a lady in the living room and a whore in the bedroom." It was told in an "unfortunate but true" tone of voice. Well, I love my husband and see nothing wrong with being generous and giving him an occasional tr…
/r/RedPillWomen11/09/24 04:51 PM
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That's not at all what I wrote
/r/RedPillWomen11/09/24 03:15 AM
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The irigin of the trust issues is that last year i was texting with someone from my past. I cheated on my last partner and he knows that. You've been evasive about the trust issues so between that and his reaction I suspected that cheating was somehow involved. I think he struggles to believe that i've changed. That might also depend on how he found out. Did you freely admit it or did he find out second hand after you were in a relationship with him? But for me, this night out was unrelated to t…
/r/RedPillWomen10/09/24 06:21 PM
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Then theoretically you both should be able to write this off as a nasty case of miscommunication, decide how you'll handle it in the future and along with expectations, and then move on. Is he overreacting? Maybe, but you still haven't explained the origin of the trust issues
/r/RedPillWomen10/09/24 04:14 PM
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So sifting through all of this... You were originally supposed to join him after his shift at the club he was working at. He said it wasn't necessary but in the end he was still expecting you. You're then invited to another club with a friend that he also knows. You accept the invitation because it will be more fun. On top of that there are also some trust issues. If I've gotten this correct, he's probably upset because he feels like you chose another venue over spending time with him. This coul…
/r/RedPillWomen10/09/24 02:11 PM
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From the overall description in your post, it almost sounds like it's been two people fighting for control
/r/RedPillWomen10/09/24 12:26 AM
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Much to your credit, you're trying hard to make changes and he's noticing your efforts. That's great! It sounds like there's been a lot of competition in your marriage. This isn't healthy. If you want to successfully rebuild your marriage, then IMO this should be fixed. There's nothing wrong with being strong willed. The problem is how you handle your lover with your strong will. Men don't respond well to being disrespected. From my observations, the strongest marriages are when both people resp…
/r/RedPillWomen10/09/24 12:13 AM
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I consider that part of being social. LOL
/r/RedPillWomen09/09/24 01:32 PM
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So in other words be social, friendly and polite, but also have very firm boundaries and make it well known that you're happily taken
/r/RedPillWomen09/09/24 01:22 PM
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I've been much more confident in my overall abilities since I've been with my husband. He's generous with praise and gentle with constructive criticism which has helped a lot. Also my husband has taught me how to think ahead and plan for various situations which is something I was never really good at before. "Supply and logistics" as he likes to call it. This is very important when going anywhere with small children
/r/RedPillWomen07/09/24 08:13 PM
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In so far as losing weight, I recommend that you eat healthy foods. Avoid junk food and fast food. We usually lose weight by creating a calorie deficit. Walking is good to start, but you should work your way to getting your heart rate up also. As for your improvement program, I suggest taking small steps and trying not to overwhelm yourself.
/r/RedPillWomen06/09/24 10:11 PM
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You're very welcome!
/r/RedPillWomen05/09/24 07:49 PM
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I haven't read any of Laura Doyle's books but I'll give you my take on it. I keep meaning to read one but there's a lot of books on my reading list. "Submission" is a tricky word and needs some qualification when defining it for the sake of context. "Obedience" is approximately synonymous to "submission", and I say that because "obedience" frequently appears in the definition of the word "submission". "Obedience" comes from the Latin word "oboedire" which literally means "to hear" or "to listen"…
/r/RedPillWomen05/09/24 02:45 PM
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I've been banned from subs that I've never been to and one I didn't even know existed. So I guess they showed me 😂
/r/RedPillWomen05/09/24 01:24 PM
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The problem with hypergamy is that it simply doesn’t bear out in any research. I can tell you from personal experience that hypergamy and RP theory in general explains a lot about human mating behavior. As my professors in college liked to point out, there's a fundamental and very annoying feature of the universe: The quality of the answer is directly dependent on the quality of the question. Or crudely put, ask bad questions and you'll get bad answers. This is abundantly clear in modern physics…
/r/RedPillWomen04/09/24 03:01 PM
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I've noticed something about the way hypergamy is described. It almost sounds like it has an on-off switch, and we should know when it's on at inappropriate times. Am I interpreting this correctly?
/r/RedPillWomen04/09/24 02:26 PM
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Attraction happens to anyone. What you choose to do with that attraction matters. You cannot control out-of-the-blue thoughts or normal, healthy physical reactions, but you can control your actions. Exactly Some women might pester their men wanting to know if they find anyone else attractive, My husband said he had a girlfriend like that. He said that she sent vibes like, "There's something wrong with me and I hope you never figure it out." Her whole insecurity thing got on his nerves so he brok…
/r/RedPillWomen03/09/24 07:46 PM
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this seems to be true for most men and women, but not for all. i would like to know if the author of the theory acknowledges exceptions We're talking psychology here so there are always going to be some scattered outliers and the occasional exception. And there isn't a theory in existence that doesn't have limitations. The question is, how successful is the theory in explaining something and making predictions? There might be room for refinement but over all I have found it to be remarkably powe…
/r/RedPillWomen03/09/24 05:26 PM
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Cheating is not good, no matter what. You certainly won't get any disagreement from me on that one. However, I think he's also saying that men are hard wired to spread their seed far and wide. That might be true, but Emotional Intelligence is also a thing so they don't have to act on it. What's also interesting is that men seem to have the ability to compartmentalize sex.
/r/RedPillWomen03/09/24 04:42 AM
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Two pearls of wisdom here. From the post: So when that hypergamy drive kicks in and before you decide to monkey branch to a new guy, you need to take a hard look at the new guy. And from the comment from u/RatchedAngle: I would give this advice to any woman experiencing hypergamy: If you’re not willing to be single as an alternative to your current relationship, then you might want to think twice before leaving. I can't tell you how many times I've read of a woman leaving their relationship thin…
/r/RedPillWomen02/09/24 06:15 PM
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This will be interesting
/r/RedPillWomen01/09/24 07:50 PM
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I'm confused by this response and I'm hoping you can provide some clarification. Please keep in mind that I'm still learning, but it almost sounds like she should either bribe him into paying more attention to her or that she should take lead of the relationship
/r/RedPillWomen31/08/24 07:55 PM
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Men are supposed to be the leader in a relationship. If there's something about him that causes you to feel emotionally unsafe or just uncomfortable, then he will not be a suitable leader for you. When someone shows you who they are, believe them
/r/RedPillWomen30/08/24 01:20 PM
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I had missed out on sleep so much the week before that I ended up sleeping in Monday since nothing was too pressing. Self care is important, but for context I'm curious as to why you missed out on so much sleep. What was going on? Now I’d had also told him repeatedly the plan for the afternoon, basically we need to leave the house by 12:50 to go to X, then have to go to Y immediately after that. So it sounds like you clearly communicated what was going on, multiple times. The only other thing I …
/r/RedPillWomen29/08/24 02:28 PM
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A lack of hobbies/friends can also indicate a lack of ambition which should be a red flag
/r/RedPillWomen28/08/24 05:50 PM
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There's a saying - Life is 10% what happens to you and 90% how you react to it. So one thing to look out for are disproportionate reactions to frustrating situations. Other things to look out for would be excessive negativity, angry outbursts or degrading comments about other people.
/r/RedPillWomen28/08/24 05:47 PM
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Anger issues or difficulty controlling his temper
/r/RedPillWomen28/08/24 04:36 PM
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I agree with you and I should have known better. My bad. Language isn't my forte and I sometimes struggle with it. Anyway, you've brought up another interesting point: we want the best and if we have a guy who is just OK, but we find a guy better, well we generally want him. Would you then say that we're then "opportunistic"?
/r/RedPillWomen25/08/24 05:23 PM
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This is really good and thank you for posting it. I have some questions and comments... I find that most women are romantics. I'm still learning and this is a genuine question, but doesn't hypergamy imply that we're pragmatic? Or can we be both romantic and pragmatic simultaneously? Please hear me - if you get stuck in this cycle of falling in love with the fantasy and then being devastated when it doesn't work out. You will start lowering your standards for an unworthy man. You'll begin to chan…
/r/RedPillWomen24/08/24 02:54 PM
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Can you please share your favorite channels for recipes your husband loves? & any go-to books or podcasts you liked? I like allrecipes.com. There's a lot of good stuff there. My husband absolutely loves the potatoes au gratin that I found on there
/r/RedPillWomen22/08/24 02:45 PM
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I hadn't heard this before, but in a way it makes sense. I have heard that in regard to exercise, if you want premium performance then you need premium fuel. I see no reason why nutrient dense foods wouldn't also help us regulate our emotional and mental well-being
/r/RedPillWomen22/08/24 01:57 PM
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And this is on top of him wanting to take a sabbatical and start a business or go back to school which is what you posted yesterday?
/r/RedPillWomen21/08/24 10:55 PM
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and read you poetry on riverbanks… He's more likely to be fishing instead
/r/RedPillWomen21/08/24 02:42 PM
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OP, didn't you post something here earlier today that was nearly identical?
/r/RedPillWomen21/08/24 01:43 AM
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Have you talked to him about this?
/r/RedPillWomen19/08/24 07:55 PM
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What is something about your life/relationship that would horrify the TradCon way of thinking? I enjoy a good intellectual wrestling match (philosophy, theology, science, etc) and my husband is a formidable opponent. I don't mean yelling, screaming and other disrespectful behavior. What I mean is a meaningful and spirited discussion where each of us defends an idea. I also sometimes like doing simple household repairs. I know that if I get into trouble or can't do something my husband will help …
/r/RedPillWomen19/08/24 05:04 PM
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If he blocked you in mid conversation then I agree that it's very possible that he's in a relationship. And if that's the case you'd be wise to just drop him and not look back. If he did that to someone he's in a relationship with now, then he's likely to do it to someone else. Don't let that someone else be you
/r/RedPillWomen17/08/24 01:15 AM
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Thanks for sharing this! Until reading this post, it was never really clear to me what "Nun Mode" is. So essentially it means to shut down certain areas of your life and devote your energy to working on yourself.
/r/RedPillWomen16/08/24 03:03 PM
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As a disclaimer, I'm happily married to a man about 8 years younger. I believe that age gaps can be navigated PROVIDED both people are emotionally mature and recognize that there can be challenges. However there are things here that give me pause... First, this guy is nowhere near being established. If his education enabled him to be in like a junior level job in his career area, then that would be awesome particularly at his age. But that's not the case. You're in your early 30s and he's in his…
/r/RedPillWomen15/08/24 02:27 PM
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I'm basing it on your description and my own gut feelings. I used to be an IT manager and have mentored interns in the past. There were a few that made me wonder why they were there. But there were certain interns that were highly motivated. They're the ones that really excelled and had a positive attitude. That's the way you sound. I recommend that you try to hang out with people who have the same mindset and avoid people who drag you down
/r/RedPillWives15/08/24 04:10 AM
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You got your first choice for an internship, you're passionate about your work and your mentors are happy with your performance. That tells me that you're likely a high achiever. Or if you're not now you will be eventually. The thing is that your friend group's reaction is also telling about your abilities. And it looks like they might be a bit of a problem. That's why I said to surround yourself with other high achievers. That support and influence is what you need
/r/RedPillWives14/08/24 11:43 PM
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First Scenario What you said is likely true, but there can be too much honesty. I think it's best that if you can't spin something in a positive manner then it's best to remain quiet. It's also possible that she intended to be venting and instead of just listening, you gave her a brutally honest answer. That's probably not what she was looking for. Second Scenario Speaking of brutal honesty, you sound like a high achiever. I suggest that you surround yourself with other high achievers.
/r/RedPillWives14/08/24 06:11 PM
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Do you think domestic skills alone are enough to pull in a good man? No, but I think they're good to have if you want to keep him. I wasn't thinking in terms of dating, but to get a man's attention a woman should be fun and engaging, although what that specifically means can vary from man to man. For my husband, it meant me being able to be pleasant, look presentable and carry on an intelligent conversation. If I couldn't have done the latter he would have gotten bored with me really fast. What …
/r/RedPillWomen14/08/24 04:30 PM
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I think what a woman should bring to the table is a decent domestic skill set. Also be willing to learn new skills and revise old skills as necessary. Be able to make a house a comfortable and inviting home. If you're a SAHM, then organizational skills are good to have. Be receptive to your husband and avoid any unnecessary drama. As for the man, he should be able to actively and fully engage in the relationship. This includes providing for his family so their needs are met. He should be able to…
/r/RedPillWomen14/08/24 03:14 PM
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Okay, but how are you going to meet someone if you're not allowed to talk to a man you're not married to?
/r/RedPillWomen14/08/24 02:49 AM
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I'm a little confused. Maybe it's because I don't understand your culture. In one comment you said: I do feel like I stand out, my problem is I don’t drive far so I rarely go out besides my gym or local stable, or hardly leave my house and my family is Muslim so even if I do go out it’s with them and Muslim women aren’t suppose to talk to men they aren’t married to. The usual courtship ritual in the west is to go out on dates and do something that hopefully you both enjoy. But if you're not allo…
/r/RedPillWomen14/08/24 02:09 AM
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This doesn't sound like a cheating risk per se. That's not the problem. I'm not so sure. When it comes to infidelity lying and gaslighting play a significant role. OP has been cheated on before. People who have been cheated on (myself included) pretty much agree that it's not any sex that's so destructive but the lying and gaslighting that does the most damage. This guy for whatever reason isn't being honest and that should be a boundary violation right there, particularly given her relationship…
/r/RedPillWomen12/08/24 06:50 PM
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I would recommend that you get some help for your mental health issues. Unfortunately those can follow you into a relationship and not in a good way
/r/RedPillWomen11/08/24 08:38 PM
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My husband has a bachelor's in electrical engineering and a masters in computer science. He works as a lead on a software team.
/r/RedPillWomen09/08/24 07:38 PM
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Just out of curiosity: What are you looking for in a partner? What age range are you looking at? Where are you looking? What is it about the guys you're dating that makes them unappealing?
/r/RedPillWomen09/08/24 02:21 PM
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Of course the connection is "insane". You've never met this guy and he's able to say all the right things. You wouldn't believe the number of people, particularly women, who meet someone either IRL or on some app and think there's an "insane" connection, only to discover that what they left was better than what they thought they were getting. If your boyfriend is unsatisfactory for whatever reason, then break up with him. After that, and only after that, pursue someone else.
/r/RedPillWomen07/08/24 02:52 PM
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I can tell you how things are done in my household. My secret is that I don't do everything on my own and staying organized is essential. First, there's a lot of automation - washing machine, clothes dryer, dishwasher, microwave ovens, vacuum cleaner, etc. Dinner usually takes around 30 minutes to prepare. I also get my kids to help out as much as possible with tasks they can do - rinsing dishes, setting the table, putting clothes away, picking up after themselves. Everyday we do some cleaning a…
/r/RedPillWives01/08/24 11:30 PM
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Yes he’s diagnosed, was on anti psychotics before and was alot calmer. I bring this up and he stays quiet/ starts blaming me for his outbursts. You're not to blame for any of his outbursts. He needs to take ownership of his condition. Blaming you is him deflecting responsibility. IMO you need to decide what you're going to do. I'm not one to readily recommend divorce, but in this case it's a question of how long you're willing to put up with this, particularly if he's not willing to take ownersh…
/r/RedPillWomen01/08/24 05:29 PM
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You said that he might be bipolar. It sounds like he dumped you during a depressed phase and married you during a manic phase. Now he's going through a depressed phase again. Has he been medically diagnosed? Is he on medication? Or is he self-medicating with weed?
/r/RedPillWomen01/08/24 02:22 PM
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Is it a lack of effort? Maybe. I'm going to play devil's advocate because there might be a disconnect here. As a disclaimer, I'm not in the dating environment and haven't been for some time. I also think that men are uncertain about how to navigate all of this. If there's a high probability that a guy will be rejected on a dating app (and I understand this happens a lot), then he's not likely going to put in a lot of effort. This is just human nature - people aren't likely to put in much effort …
/r/RedPillWomen30/07/24 03:33 PM
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I agree with this. I think a celebratory dinner would be better on Friday evening of his first week or on Saturday night. The idea here is that you'll both be able to relax more and enjoy yourselves
/r/RedPillWomen29/07/24 07:00 PM
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This seems incomplete. Maybe it's the combination of semen and the hormones associated with a woman's orgasm that's the antidepressant IDK, I'm just guessing
/r/RedPillWomen28/07/24 08:57 PM
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The only time I pump my own gas is if I'm out by myself. Otherwise my husband is usually driving and he'll do it
/r/RedPillWomen28/07/24 10:24 AM
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I have way more to love during the dating phase and after children than them so why would I pursue? You have way more to love? I don't mean to be offensive but that sounds egotistical. A lot of men find that to be repulsive This conversation of what do you bring to the table makes 0 sense to me because any man whose goal is marriage and children and who has observed marriage dynamics understand the value of women in a relationship. So a woman just shows up and everything is magically better for …
/r/RedPillWomen25/07/24 01:56 PM
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If hypergamy is a thing and we choose the highest value male that we can, then I guess that makes the man the prize. But that wasn't the question. He definitely pursued me but I also didn't do anything to discourage him either. He asked me out and I said yes without hesitation. In my mind at the time it was mutual. In retrospect, he was more or less leading and I was more or less following. He either planned the dates or gave me a couple of options. For the most part. On the fourth date we were …
/r/RedPillWomen25/07/24 12:27 AM
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This is very helpful. Thanks for posting it!
/r/RedPillWomen24/07/24 02:50 AM
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I do understand, and you saved yourself a lot of future heartache
/r/RedPillWomen22/07/24 06:28 PM
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That he didn't want to meet your parents and he didn't want you meeting his parents after a year of being together are huge red flags. If he's saying at age 36 that he's still trying to figure his life out could mean that he's not sure if he wants you in his life permanently. I know it's painful but you made the right choice
/r/RedPillWomen22/07/24 01:31 PM
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You have a naive view of infidelity
/r/RedPillWomen22/07/24 02:39 AM
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I would suggest that you invest in a cookbook. Go to a bookstore, Amazon or your public library and look around for something that will help you
/r/RedPillWomen21/07/24 08:44 PM
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I'm glad you were able to take some constructive action on that. But I think you lack confidence in yourself and it's coming through loud and clear on your dates. I think u/InevitableKiwi5776 has some good ideas for building your self confidence
/r/RedPillWomen21/07/24 05:31 PM
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I'm just curious, but how are your family relationships and friendships? Do you experience similar feelings or any anxiety with those? Edited for clarity
/r/RedPillWomen21/07/24 04:43 PM
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You're welcome! And thank you for the further clarification. I think a good question to ask is does he always go for the cheapest option or a more expensive option that provides better value? In other words, does he consider price versus quality? Keep in mind that the cheapest option can be more costly in the long run because it may not have longevity or the convenience. To me that's the difference between being frugal and being stingy Edited
/r/RedPillWomen18/07/24 04:14 PM
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I think the fundamental question is, does he have the capacity to provide? Things like ambition, setting achievable goals and meeting them, and actionable self improvement are good indicators. The most clear indicator will NOT be what he says, but will be his behavior. If he's a control freak when you're dating then don't expect that to change as your relationship progresses. Be honest with yourself and take any red flags seriously. Kindness and generosity (or the lack thereof) are good indicato…
/r/RedPillWomen18/07/24 03:00 PM
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The fact that you're feeling shame over what you've done is actually a good thing. Your life is repairable. You just have to decide what you're going to do about it and then take action. Healthy dietary changes and exercise can do wonders for not only your physical health but your mental health as well. I suggest that you start there. I was also in a similar situation. I went through a self-destructive wild phase and my body count is higher than yours. I suddenly decided that a change was necess…
/r/RedPillWomen18/07/24 01:56 PM
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Good luck and God Bless you
/r/RedPillWives17/07/24 05:03 PM
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I feel like this is my fault for going out of town. He's an adult. Not a child that needs supervision. You should be able to visit your family, especially under the circumstances I'm Horrified. And justifiably so that he is able to keep such a big fat lie down his throat for so long. It makes me wonder what else he's lied about. Up to this point I believed even prior to marriage he never cheated on me ever aside from flirting in early yrs. He has an addiction problem and your confidence in him i…
/r/RedPillWives17/07/24 04:37 PM
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You're going to need some in-person support and guidance. I recommend that you talk to your pastor or contact a therapist that specializes in addiction treatment. Unless your pastor understands addiction, then the therapist might be the better option
/r/RedPillWives17/07/24 04:02 PM
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Did you know about the drugs or addiction before you married him? It's been my experience that it takes more than faith to be healed from addiction. It takes faith, commitment, work and a strong desire to change. I think you basically have two choices. Divorce, or insist that he gets treatment. He cannot lead anything in his present state. I would also recommend that you insist that he gets an STD test. Don't have sex with him until he does. At this point it might be wise to talk to your pastor …
/r/RedPillWives17/07/24 03:53 PM
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First of all, never misrepresent yourself. Any high value man will see right through that and it won't end well. Always be your authentic self I recommend that you work on your domestic skill set and have a variety of things (domestic and otherwise) that you can bring to the table. Also I know in my area there are a lot of clubs and activities that anyone can participate in that are very low cost. I also recommend that you look into these to meet new people
/r/RedPillWomen16/07/24 03:06 PM
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I don't think there's anything wrong with having a romantic relationship with him. Age gaps can be very manageable. I don't know what kind of business you're in or what the relationship is between this customer and the business. You should look at your company's policies and make sure it's okay to have a romantic relationship with a customer. Just to be on the safe side
/r/RedPillWomen16/07/24 01:56 PM
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This is a very diverse set of hobbies. I think the problem has to do with the men you're dating. Maybe you should look for men with similar interests. I think a lot of good men would really like to be able to connect with their girlfriend in so many different ways
/r/RedPillWomen12/07/24 05:17 PM
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IMO, I think you should probably sit down with him and have a discussion about expectations. Maybe make some notes ahead of what you want to say. Try to make it a discussion and not a lecture Whatever you do, avoid being confrontational and having this escalate into a fight. If that happens then you're both going to shutdown and nothing will get accomplished. Avoid using phrases like "you always" or "you never". Most importantly, be sure to tell him what he's doing right and give him some sincer…
/r/RedPillWomen11/07/24 10:11 PM
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Okay, thanks. You said he works 5 days a week from home. How many hours does he work in a week and what does he do when he's not working? My question is if this is a leadership problem or a work-life balance problem
/r/RedPillWomen11/07/24 09:15 PM
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Has this always been an issue or did something change along the way?
/r/RedPillWomen11/07/24 08:56 PM
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I agree. OP really doesn't seem to understand that she's playing with fire
/r/RedPillWomen10/07/24 02:05 PM
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My husband is 8 years younger than I am. We've been married for 8 years and have 4 children. When we met he was in his mid 20s and I was in my early 30s. It is said that age is just a number and I think that's true - to a certain degree. With a younger man there are experiences that you've had that he will not have had. If nothing else you remember the history that happened before he was born or before his first memories. Because of the age gap different viewpoints are going to be more likely an…
/r/RedPillWomen05/07/24 11:17 PM
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I understand. It's difficult to tell how he really feels. Men are supposed to be the protector but under the circumstances he's not, nor can he be an effective leader. IMO he either needs to get into therapy or stop drinking. Or maybe both.
/r/RedPillWomen01/07/24 12:45 PM
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Alcohol is a central nervous system depressant and can affect emotional regulation. There could be underlying problems that he's able to regulate while sober. Once that regulation is removed those problems can surface. In any case he sounds like he could use some therapy to figure out what's the cause of this aggression and hostility
/r/RedPillWomen01/07/24 02:00 AM
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I'm sorry you're going through this
/r/RedPillWomen27/06/24 08:45 PM
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There's a lot here, but the one thing that jumps out at me is that you two are NOT working as a team. Even if he's your captain and you're his second in command, it still boils down to teamwork I never wanted or cared for someone else's money. But you're married? In that case there's no such thing as "his money" and "your money". All the money the two of you make belongs to you as a couple. I frequently see this attitude on other relationship subs and probably explains a lot about the origins of…
/r/RedPillWomen27/06/24 03:24 PM
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OP, I think this is the 3rd version of this that I've seen. I'm also going to retract my earlier comment. As for the physical fitness things, what's your physical condition like now? If you're just starting out then I'd recommend doing some research and developing a good stretching routine first. Also try doing planks to get your core solid. (Front and sides, up to a minute and no more than 2 minutes, after that it becomes diminishing returns.) As for the squats, I'd recommend going for like 3 s…
/r/RedPillWives27/06/24 01:02 PM
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Given your location I suspected that you're Orthodox. So am I. I do know that in the Orthodox Church, a civil divorce does not automatically mean that the Church regards you as divorced. In that event, you'd have to apply for a Church divorce. My understanding is that you'd basically pay a fee and if there are sufficient funds, you're granted a divorce. Given the prohibition against divorce in the New Testament this always struck me as institutionalized bribery, but that's just my silly opinion.…
/r/RedPillWomen26/06/24 03:34 PM
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It's not clear why he's so against getting a license. Also, how devoutly religious is he? What does your church recommend? What church are we talking about here?
/r/RedPillWomen26/06/24 03:07 PM
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"Don't" is an understatement. Following this advice could backfire spectacularly.
/r/RedPillWomen26/06/24 01:32 PM
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Does she have health insurance through her or her husband's employer? Sometimes they offer fitness or health coaching. My husband's does and I've used it in the past. If she doesn't know, then she should check with her benefits department or contact her health insurance company
/r/RedPillWomen25/06/24 01:51 PM
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I've wondered this a few times also. It could be either subconscious or malicious. Either way, I think you should only ask for advice from people who have similar values to yours. I'm fortunate enough to have my sister and my mom who I have asked for advice, along with my priest's wife. Sometimes even my dad. Their values are similar to mine and I'm confident they don't have a hidden agenda
/r/RedPillWomen25/06/24 01:43 PM
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For who to ignore her? You or him? Because from your post it sounds like he's pandering to her
/r/RedPillWomen24/06/24 02:42 PM
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What are your interests? Are there recreational clubs that you could join? I think by increasing your social circle you can meet a variety of people in different groups and you could find someone interesting
/r/RedPillWomen18/06/24 08:16 PM
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What's your social life like? Do you get out and meet people? My advice is to avoid the dating apps and try to meet people the old fashioned way. Maybe you can meet a good guy through social connections I'd also advise against having a strict timeline. Relax. Meet people. By taking the pressure off of yourself you might find someone that you might have otherwise overlooked
/r/RedPillWomen18/06/24 07:57 PM
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If you were good looking in your teens and 20’s, and you take care of your skin and weight, you should be good looking into your 40’s and even 50’s. I think this is very true. Take good care of yourself and don't abuse your body. I met my husband when I was in my early 30s and had no trouble with him finding me attractive. I think what's also critically important is having something substantial to offer a man. One might even be able to argue that it's more important than your looks. A man will t…
/r/RedPillWomen17/06/24 07:17 PM
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If he's not in contact with any of his exes then I don't understand why this is even an issue. He's clearly chosen you. Sorry but it looks to me like you're "pain shopping". It's a good way to drive yourself crazy and possibly damage your relationship with him Edited
/r/RedPillWomen17/06/24 05:28 PM
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There's a lot here to unpack. IMO, if you feel the need to take a break from a relationship, then that should tell you immediately that this probably isn't the person you want to settle down with. Maybe it's time to let go and look for someone else. Secondly, he has no obligation to support you or look out for your long term interests unless you're legally married, and he'd be foolish to do so. In fact, it may not even be legally enforceable depending on where you live. Third, in theory if you h…
/r/RedPillWomen16/06/24 02:48 PM
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If he's stopped all communication with her then I don't think you have anything to worry about. That right there shows that it's highly unlikely that anything inappropriate was going on. If you haven't, I do recommend that you get some therapy for the previous experience with being cheated on
/r/RedPillWomen13/06/24 03:14 PM
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Cheating frequently follows a predictable pattern. That pattern varies between men and women. The most important sign of cheating is frequently a noticeable change in behavior and secrecy. There doesn't appear to be any of that here However you have been cheated on before which can leave a deep emotional scar. Did you do any therapy afterwards? This other woman doing OF is also a concern. If this friendship or acquaintance with her is making you uncomfortable for any reason, then he needs to cut…
/r/RedPillWomen13/06/24 03:02 PM
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Another thing is to keep your and your husband's wills up-to-date. If possible, make sure there's adequate life insurance. For example, my husband carries enough to pay off our mortgage, pay the taxes and home owners insurance for a couple of years and bury him if (God forbid) something happens
/r/RedPillWomen09/06/24 05:07 PM
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That's called "rug sweeping". And it doesn't fix anything
/r/RedPillWives09/06/24 02:22 PM
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Getting angry is one thing. Going over the top like that is quite another. It sounds like your husband has anger management issues. Appropriate therapy could help him, provided that he sees the problem and wants to change
/r/RedPillWives09/06/24 01:23 PM
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This is excellent
/r/RedPillWomen04/06/24 10:20 PM
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I think you're about the same age as I am. It also sounds like you've been doing reasonable things to stay healthy. Keep doing those things. Get plenty of rest (sleep), stay hydrated, exercise (to the point of sweating), eat healthy and natural foods and take care of your skin. Take a multivitamin. Unhealthy lifestyles lead to an increased chance of disease (that's what my doctor has told me). Other than that I don't think there's much more you can do, physically. However, mental fitness is also…
/r/RedPillWomen04/06/24 01:46 PM
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Okay, but in any case it doesn't sound like a fair way to argue
/r/RedPillWomen03/06/24 07:29 PM
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It sounds like your husband is trying to use someone else's opinion to validate his point. This is also called "appeal to authority" which is a logical fallacy, except in this case he's just using a random person for validation
/r/RedPillWomen03/06/24 07:18 PM
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Do you have an SO? If so, what does he think? If he doesn't see any problems with your habits then I don't think this is something to worry about too much. I tend to be snarky but my husband finds some of my comments to be hilarious and true, so he usually doesn't mind it. He wants me to be my authentic self. He also wants me to speak my mind and values my opinions. There's a difference between being abrasive and being truthful yet diplomatic. As for talking a lot, do you dominate the conversati…
/r/RedPillWomen03/06/24 03:20 PM
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OP wants a 25-year-old entrepreneur who's established in his career, but has more time off than a guy who works 9-5. I don't think OP is being realistic in this regard. Maybe it depends on your definition of "established", but most 25 year old entrepreneurs might be doing well but aren't what I would call "established" and they put in more like 12 to 14 hours a day which means they get a lot less time off
/r/RedPillWomen02/06/24 01:26 PM
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There's hypergamy and then there's hypergamy on steroids, That's one way to put it. A while back my husband got me interested in Stoic Philosophy, so I was thinking more along the lines of what some of the ancient Roman and Greek philosophers taught along with the wisdom books of the Bible and some other major religions: you control your passions; don't let them control you. That's what I was alluding to in my entire comment. More recently I think this idea was more or less updated and repackage…
/r/RedPillWomen31/05/24 01:45 PM
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Wow! There's a lot to unpack here! check your hypergamy at the door Taken literally this is very difficult to do since we're hardwired for it. Maybe a better way to look at it is to use your hypergamy to your advantage and try to avoid being held hostage by it. Be realistic about what you can attract and more importantly, go for the best you can retain
/r/RedPillWomen30/05/24 02:42 PM
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I'm so sorry for your loss
/r/RedPillWomen27/05/24 07:58 PM
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From what you've written, having chats with other men online doesn't prove anything by itself. The content of the chats is actually more important. Was anything inappropriate discussed? The other problem is that you have a history of not being truthful with your husband. This is probably why he's having doubts. The best way to fix this is to stop lying to your husband. Also stop chatting with these other men, if that's causing or aggravating the problem. Moving forward be completely transparent …
/r/RedPillWives25/05/24 08:32 PM
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The one thing that struck me in your post is your dreams about motherhood and what it would be like. The things you listed are good, but TBH it sounds more like playing with children than actually raising children. Those aren't necessarily the same things. I'd be concerned that your enthusiasm for children would quickly wane once you find out how much work it can be You said that your mother never taught you anything about life. So it sounds like your parental role models weren't the best. Given…
/r/RedPillWomen23/05/24 08:52 PM
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Okay, but we need to get to the root of the problem because there could be lots of reasons he's not following the schedule. For example, you said that you're really busy at work right now and getting pulled in all directions. Was that schedule agreed upon with the assumption that BOTH of you could focus on home tasks when you're not working? Another thing - how important is it that he really follows the schedule as opposed to just helping? Are the tasks he's supposed to be doing still getting do…
/r/RedPillWomen22/05/24 07:57 PM
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Is he helping at all? Or is he helping and not following the agreed upon schedule? What's his schedule like?
/r/RedPillWomen22/05/24 06:41 PM
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I know that in our case my husband would be thrilled! But I think this also depends a lot on the particulars of your relationship dynamic. Maybe you should communicate openly with him and tell him that this is something that you really want him to have but that you don't in any way expect him to give you the equivalent in value I know that would work in my marriage Edit: As for it being a potential challenge to him being a provider, this isn't quite the same since it's one time a gift. Maybe tel…
/r/RedPillWives22/05/24 01:50 PM
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Best comment! 😂
/r/RedPillWomen15/05/24 01:47 PM
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Thank you for this. Unfortunately I'm also a member of the "high body count with a lot of regret" club. I was looking for validation, and admittedly some revenge, after my divorce. All it really did was deepen some already existing problems. I rejected the "hedonistic pleasures" before I met my now husband. I've had zero temptation to repeat that period of my life
/r/RedPillWomen14/05/24 04:50 PM
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42 (me) and 34 (him). We usually have sex once a week, occasionally twice. With all the kid's activities it doesn't leave us much time when we're not tired. But if we manage to get a weekend getaway we frequently can't keep our hands off of each other, LOL!
/r/RedPillWomen13/05/24 06:52 PM
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The problem with posts like those is that they're inherently one-sided. We know all about his faults, but what is she doing? It is possible for her to contribute to the problem. And as my grandmother liked to say, "There's two sides to every story, and then there's the truth."
/r/RedPillWomen13/05/24 04:57 PM
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Yes we do. We both have our own relationship questions and things that have puzzled us. We're both convinced that hypergamy and how men and women approach romantic relationships is key in understanding how these relationships work and how they can go off the rails
/r/RedPillWives13/05/24 04:29 PM
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My bestie and I agree on a lot of different things and she's pretty close to RP. I have some other friends that have similar values to RP
/r/RedPillWives12/05/24 07:34 PM
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When he's like this he does'nt see purpose in ANYTHING yet he remains a hard worker through it all. Wow! This is very impressive and shows a lot of self-discipline. I think a lot of other people would just shut down. I don't have any suggestions, but I think u/anneofgreensuburbs had some excellent ideas
/r/RedPillWives10/05/24 02:46 AM
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This is how I see it. The man in the relationship should be able to lead the relationship. In leadership, there are certain characteristics that are implied. One is the ability to lead by example, and that includes the example of self-control. It might be true that the male nature is to spread their seed far and wide. However, you both agreed to monogamy and vowed to be monogamous to each other. As an adult man and the leader, he had no business making an agreement that he can't or doesn't want …
/r/RedPillWomen10/05/24 12:09 AM
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I love this comment!
/r/RedPillWomen09/05/24 08:53 PM
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OYS Number: 3 Demographics: Me - early 40s. Husband - mid 30s. Married 8 years. Four children, 7, 5 and 3 (twins) Gratitude list: 1) I'm grateful for the life I have 2) My husband. He's a wonderful man 3) My children 4) The new sports car my husband bought me for my birthday 5) I taught a class at the local community college and I'm glad the semester is over Things I Did for My Present: 1) I got all my grades and other paperwork handed in to finish the semester 2) Planned all the meals for the n…
/r/RedPillWives09/05/24 02:03 PM
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I think this is true. I'll admit that our sex life ebbs and flows, depending on what's going on around us. Although it's uncommon for it to be less than about once a week. There can be stress in our life together - we have four kids. They need attention from both of us, they get sick, doctors appointments, homeschooling etc. Then there can be stress from time to time in just maintaining a household. Sometimes we're both just exhausted My husband is a very affectionate man. We're generous with hu…
/r/RedPillWomen04/05/24 04:06 PM
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This reminds me of Proverbs 31:10-31
/r/RedPillWomen03/05/24 06:17 PM
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Sometimes I think men come off as more "needy" concerning sex. With kids, they always need mom - feed them, help them, etc. So, to her it's just another "need". If men were better at the art of seduction and expressing that they desire their wife or partner, it might go better
/r/RedPillWomen26/04/24 11:21 PM
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It's actually not a financial issue. On the infidelity subs it's not at all uncommon to see a woman who left her husband for a guy whose socioeconomic situation is below her husband's. In fact, it's not at all unusual for women, or even men, to cheat "below" in some way what they already have. So I agree - it's not always for financial gain
/r/RedPillWomen25/04/24 06:18 PM
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Overall, I agree. The Reddit relationship subs are littered with stories of women monkey branching to another guy. Come find out, they left a stable relationship for a guy that can't offer a healthy relationship and then wind up alone and miserable However, there's another scenario that I've wrested with. What about the scenario where a woman will have an affair but not want to leave the security that her husband or SO gives her? How does that fit into RP and hypergamy?
/r/RedPillWomen25/04/24 04:07 PM
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Okay, thanks for your answer. The reason I asked is that your comment about that seemed a little out of place. I wanted to know if there was somehow a connection between that and how he treats you. He's not treating you well and you're certainly not a priority. This isn't likely going to get any better.
/r/RedPillWomen23/04/24 10:00 PM
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Why don't your parents allow you to date? Just curious...
/r/RedPillWomen23/04/24 07:07 PM
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Our Red Pill implementation wasn't intentional. When my husband and I met, I was still recovering from my divorce but my emotional and mental situation was definitely improving. My husband would come up with two or three ideas for dates and he would let me choose. Sometimes they all sounded good and I would ask him to choose. He has a way of taking charge yet being willing to listen and negotiate. We've had a couple of serious situations and each time he's led the way through. We have four kids …
/r/RedPillWives22/04/24 10:29 PM
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I would also like to add to be sure you know who you're marrying before you marry them. Know what are red flags and never ignore them
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/24 01:07 PM
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That only works temporarily. You can't conservative your way out of a crisis
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/24 10:14 PM
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It's a problem. If nothing else the tax base will eventually start shrinking, if it hasn't already. A collapsing tax base was also one of the major problems that contributed to the collapse of the western Roman Empire. No civilization has ever been able to withstand this
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/24 03:12 PM
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I have no idea what my cheating ex is doing nor do I care. I saw him several years ago and he looked awful. My husband was there also. He's definitely an upgrade
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/23 02:12 PM
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I don't know of any country or culture in history where a population decline has resulted in a positive outcome
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/23 02:58 PM
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I have zero tolerance for cheating. I don't care how much money the guy has. A truly high value man has integrity and can keep it in his pants regardless of any temptation.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/23 12:44 PM
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For my husband, yes.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/23 02:23 AM
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I'm flattered that they're interested in me but I'm not interested in either of them. I'd rather curl up with a good book. From your description my husband could run circles around both of them blindfolded.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/23 03:37 AM
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In neither case do you mention anything about what they could do to sustain or lead a relationship. What do they bring to the table and what's in it for me? The first one sounds harmless but also sounds like a wuss. The second one sounds like a jerk.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/23 03:17 AM
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Neither sound particularly interesting.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/23 02:51 AM
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Well, I keep track of his paycheck and all of the banking and income tax returns, so it would be pretty hard to hide anything financial from me.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/23 11:22 PM
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I'm not okay with him having a backup plan.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/23 11:20 PM
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We don't hide anything from each other. We have access to each other's social media and all our finances are joint.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/23 09:41 PM
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I prefer healthy children. Both genders have their challenges.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/23 07:12 PM
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Okay, thanks for your opinion. Have a nice day and Happy New Year.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/23 08:29 PM
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No he didn't. But while I was working he was rapidly catching up. Eventually he was making enough and we had the resources that I could quit and be an SAHM. I have no regrets.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/22 03:29 PM
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When my husband and I were dating, I wasn't "dating up financially". He's also younger. But what got my attention was his ambition, intelligence, kindness and sense of humor. We were also in a similar career area and I sensed he had a lot of potential. And I was right.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/22 02:17 PM
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It's called vetting. I didn't wait when I was with my ex and got burned really badly. He was a cheater and if I had waited I would have probably figured it out before I married him. I made my husband wait so I could properly vet him. And yes, I'm very attracted to him.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/22 05:27 PM
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I think sex is necessary in a close romantic relationship. However, I think the highest form of intimacy is the feeling of safety with your romantic partner and the willingness to share your deepest secrets with them without the fear of judgement or ridicule.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/22 04:38 AM
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I absolutely agree with this. I think this is why many marriages go off the rails. Goals can change, but they should always be there and openly discussed. That, and sometimes I wonder what these people talked about and did while they were dating.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/22 02:44 PM
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You have to be realistic and selective of your potential spouse. This goes for men and women.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/22 02:32 PM
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My daughter is in American Heritage Girls. It's a Christian based scouting program for girls that emphasizes community service and leadership. The older girls frequently help mentor the younger girls, with adult supervision. The boy's equivalent is called Trail Life, I believe. There are other programs as well, but I can't remember what they are. You might try Googling "girl scout alternatives".
/r/AntiFeminists22/08/22 03:17 PM
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Given your wording it sounds like you've never been cheated on. I was by my ex, and it was devastating. Frequently it's not only the sexual act and betrayal, but the lying and gaslighting that goes with it that does the most damage. Go over to r/survivinginfidelity or r/AsOneAfterInfidelity and you'll see what I mean.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/22 09:16 PM
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Do some research on Briffault's Law. It explains everything.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/22 12:50 PM
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I answered exactly what was asked. No one asked about specifics. So not only are the specifics irrelevant, they're also no one's business.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/22 01:47 AM
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The "best sex" is what I want, when I want it. Hubby consistently delivers. What's more important to me is the man himself.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/22 05:44 PM
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I like it both ways. Sometimes gentle and loving, other times I really enjoy a good railing. I give my husband clues as to what I want at the time and he usually picks up on it. Or I just let him chose what he wants to do.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/22 04:22 PM
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I was 27 when I married my ex and 30 when we divorced. I had just turned 32 when I met my husband. But here's the thing - he's younger than I am and was 25 when we met. I hesitated over the age gap, but he's a wonderful husband. I know it might be rare, but there are younger men who can lead and manage relationships quite well. We've been happily married for 7 years and have 4 children, with twins born a year ago last January. I haven't done any research, but I can't help but wonder if the woman…
/r/RedPillWomen03/04/22 04:03 PM
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My advice is that you'd probably be better off to get out of this relationship. Don't set yourself up for misery. It can get worse. I'm divorced from my chronically unfaithful ex, and it looks like you might be headed in the same direction. Fortunately, I did meet the love of my life and we're happily married. In a way I think I got very lucky.
/r/RedPillWomen03/04/22 02:07 PM
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I have been cheated on and throwing my ex out was the best decision I made. No woman should waste her SMV on some guy who's going to cheat, when she could find someone that has the emotional maturity not to.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/22 07:00 PM
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Another thing is to make sure you get a good attorney. Get a consultation ASAP. The initial one is usually free. I advise this because you should avoid doing anything that could damage your case. In some states you can actually loose an advantage if you move out too soon. I'm really sorry you're going through this. I really wish you all the best.
/r/RedPillWives27/03/22 08:23 PM
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I'm also divorced, but for very different reasons. This is my advice: take this time and focus working on yourself. Find a good therapist and make an appointment. Not all therapists are created equal. If it doesn't work out with one, then find another. Hit the gym and get into the best physical condition that you can. It helps to work out a lot of frustration. Develop new interests and hobbies. Make new friends. Get out and socialize. I know that what you're going through is very painful, but yo…
/r/RedPillWives27/03/22 04:37 PM
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My husband and I have been married almost 7 years and have 4 kids. We still like to chase each other around the bedroom.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/22 12:30 AM
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When we started dating my husband and I talked about our occupations - I worked in IT and he's a software engineer. But that was finding common ground. I would have been put off if he started asking about finances. At that point it wasn't any of his business. That conversation didn't come up until quite awhile later. I see some potential red flags here and definitely yellow. His questions seem different from taking an interest in you and what you do. My advice is to be very careful with this one…
/r/RedPillWomen16/03/22 05:59 PM
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So are you concerned that he's being invasive? Or potentially controlling? I think I too would be a little concerned, particularly at this stage of your dating him. On the other hand it may also depend on his demeanor while asking these questions. It's possible that he's genuinely curious about your current career since he may know little or nothing about it. Is that a possibility?
/r/RedPillWomen16/03/22 05:42 PM
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I agree. And there should be substantial penalties for paternity fraud. I've read some tragic stories on r/survivinginfidelity of paternity fraud and the severe damage that it does to everyone involved.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/22 05:51 PM
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Sure. That's what my ex said too and every other cheater as well.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/22 09:36 PM
2

Of course I trust him. It's the other female I'm not so sure about.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/22 09:24 PM
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I would not be okay with my husband doing any of these with ANY female friend. Well, I suppose he could go to a drinking party with her provided that I can come with him. But if I can't then he's not going. I really can't see him asking to do any of these anyway. Edited for clarity
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/22 09:12 PM
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It depends on the troop. One of the problems with Girl Scouts is the emphasis on selling cookies. My niece's girl scout troop spent most of their time selling cookies and didn't do that much else by comparison. That's when my sister pulled her out of girl scouts. In AHG the girls learn outdoor skills (fire building, outdoor cooking, etc) arts, science and technology, American heritage, etc. The troops are set up like a boy scout troop and the older girls are encouraged to mentor the younger girl…
/r/RedPillWives08/03/22 01:59 AM
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This is one reason we homeschool our daughter and will homeschool our younger children. The risk is that they grow up too sheltered, but we also hang out with like-minded families. At the risk of shameless advertising, this is a reason my husband and I have put our eldest daughter in American Heritage Girls, which is a Christian based scouting program. My niece was in Girl Scouts and my sister didn't like the overall attitude, and she introduced me to the idea. The other parents have similar val…
/r/RedPillWives07/03/22 03:53 PM
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I understand where you're coming from. When I was younger I remember my elders making the same comment - they too were concerned about unhealthy media influences. It's only gotten worse and this is a concern. However don't underestimate the power of parental teaching, influence and being a role model. I also think it's important to put your children in activities with adult leaders that support the values you are trying to teach them.
/r/RedPillWives07/03/22 02:59 PM
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I suppose that if both people in the relationship are consenting, then it's okay. BUT, I can't shake the feeling that if there's a desire for a sex partner that's not your SO, then at some level there's some serious underlying problems in the relationship. In my marriage this would be absolutely unacceptable and a deal breaker.
/r/RedPillWomen03/03/22 04:50 PM
1

I'm not convinced. My husband is 7 years younger than I am and I'm far, far happier with him than I was with my ex. My ex doesn't hold a candle to my husband and I didn't "settle" for him. Being with him is a conscious choice. He's attentive, very present with me and our children, and awesome in bed. I know of other women who are with younger men and they're perfectly happy too. In a couple of these the age gap is substantial. These are very long term relationships with kids, etc. The most impor…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/22 02:54 PM
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I know this is off topic but you did ask what's on my mind. The current world situation is making me very nervous and it could negatively affect our household. I have been uneasy for the past two years and there's no end in sight. I'm worried about our children's future. When I talk to my husband about it he basically says that we need to stay alert and try to anticipate problems. On a positive note, we have made progress in trying to be more self-sufficient. We have chickens and have had great …
/r/RedPillWives23/02/22 02:44 PM
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I certainly hope not! It certainly helps in carrying small children around and carrying the groceries in. Besides, my husband likes the way I take care of my body.
/r/RedPillWomen10/02/22 06:49 PM
1

I think you're on to something here. People usually want an attractive mate, but to select someone so they can have beautiful kids is a bit narrow and short sighted.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/22 04:09 PM
4

Where's this marriage calculator?
/r/RedPillWomen27/01/22 11:10 PM
1

I also got banned from there because I comment over here. I may have looked at that sub once or twice but I've never commented or posted there.
/r/RedPillWomen27/01/22 10:38 PM
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I've also heard that. I guess with my husband it could be considered that I "married down." When we met, I was in my early 30s and he was in his mid 20s. He had just finished his master's degree and had started a promising career. My career was well underway. I made more money than he did, owned a house, etc. Eventually we fell in love and got married. Is this marrying down? Some might think so. But compared to my ex, my husband is a far more decent and capable man. Although that wasn't readily …
/r/RedPillWomen10/01/22 06:06 PM
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That's quite a list, and for the most part I agree. The one thing I don't remember seeing (although it is somewhat implied) is that a high value man will also take responsibility and ownership of his mistakes.
/r/RedPillWomen23/12/21 01:43 PM
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I'm not sure I agree with you. In my opinion, "value" is, at least, somewhat subjective. Aside from maintaining herself, a woman in an LTR must also remain relevant. If she doesn't take care of herself, do her own self-improvement, and remain an asset to her man, then she can easily become irrelevant. And if that happens then yes, he can become bored with her. The problem for both sexes is that we tend to become complacent, which can be fatal for our romantic relationships.
/r/RedPillWomen21/12/21 10:19 PM
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Then you've got a problem. It's your husband that you should be keeping happy, not some guy at work. If this is the way you want to behave, then you probably shouldn't be married, at least to your husband. You're asking for trouble. Edited
/r/RedPillWomen18/12/21 09:05 PM
2

Does your husband know about this flirting? If not, then how would he react?
/r/RedPillWomen18/12/21 09:00 PM
7

Me too. I'm now married to a wonderful man and am very happy.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/21 06:41 PM
8

Both.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/21 06:31 PM
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I have, sort of. When I discovered that my ex was cheating on me I tried very hard to save our marriage. After two months of that I discovered he was still in contact with her after telling me he wasn't. That's when I threw him out.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/21 06:06 PM
2

It takes some effort. My husband stays in shape, eats healthy stuff (I also feed him healthy stuff), is super useful around the house, is very engaged in our marriage and with our children, and shows appreciation for everything I do. And our bedroom is far from dead.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/21 02:04 PM
7

I'm 40 and my husband is 33. We've been married for 7 years. I didn't go looking for a younger man, but he was too good to pass up.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/21 03:04 AM
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If it is an affair and someone finds out that you saw evidence and didn't say anything, you could still get caught in the crossfire. I've seen this happen before. This is the problem with infidelity - it can impact everyone who knows the people involved and can put them in a very uncomfortable position.
/r/RedPillWomen14/12/21 02:12 PM
8

I guess being poly is one way to deal with a lukewarm husband.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/21 01:59 PM
2

Sounds like a happy ending!
/r/RedPillWomen03/12/21 03:13 PM
0

Do you know his Love Language? If so that's a good starting place. If not, what sort of things usually cheer him up?
/r/RedPillWives03/12/21 03:12 PM
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I don't understand why people find it necessary to make comments like these. My mom of all people reacted negatively when I told her that I was planning to be an SAHM. She said what about all that effort you put into your education and career? You're just going to throw all of that away? I told her that we had decided this, it's what I want and I wasn't backing down. My work colleagues didn't react because I didn't tell them, just that I was going to take a little time off. How you spend your li…
/r/RedPillWomen18/11/21 06:23 PM
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What do you mean by "emotional baggage"? Do you mean they still have feelings for an ex or still have scars from an ex? Or both? We all have emotions and it can take time to heal. But it seems to me that a truly high value man won't be too influenced or controlled by any emotional baggage, at least in the long run.
/r/RedPillWomen22/10/21 03:25 PM
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You've provided almost no information, but in general I would say definitely NO. Although if there are kids involved, that could change the interpretation of "carries a torch" considerably.
/r/RedPillWomen18/10/21 07:45 PM
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When we're super horny is when we're likely to play some lustful bedroom "games." Roleplay or something like that.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/21 03:50 PM
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For my husband and I it's both loving and sometimes lustful and wild. We like both!
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/21 03:32 PM
2

That's wonderful news!
/r/RedPillWives11/10/21 02:19 PM
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I just skimmed this and I'll read it more carefully later. But, it's also important to understand that not all therapists are created equal. I sought out therapy after I divorced my cheating ex and there was one therapist who I don't think really had any clue as to how deep that betrayal was. I only had two sessions with her when I decided to find someone else. It's your time and your money. The bottom line is if it's not working, then don't hesitate to look for a more appropriate therapist.
/r/RedPillWomen11/10/21 02:13 PM
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If that's the case it could be that you have some boundary issues. I would like to recommend the book, "13 Things Mentally Strong People Don't Do" by Amy Morin. In there she discusses boundary issues and strategies for developing healthier boundaries. Good luck!
/r/RedPillWomen06/10/21 09:40 PM
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I understand that you've been friends for a long time and cutting off a long term friendship isn't necessarily easy. But from your description this friendship sounds quite toxic. So I wonder, what are YOU getting out of it? What benefit is there being associated with her?
/r/RedPillWomen06/10/21 09:26 PM
1

Unless you're Lorentz Transformed. Then you might have a tiny vector that's really heavy.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/21 08:33 PM
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Take a red pill and post again in the morning.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/21 08:30 PM
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I guess with my husband it started almost immediately. I thought he was cute and fun to talk to.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/21 04:41 PM
3

I suppose. But personally I prefer to make him wait and find out exactly how interested he is in ME, and not just getting between my legs. I want to be more than just a wet hole for him.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/21 01:27 PM
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You look for red flags, and they're almost always there. My ex had all of the classic cheater characteristics. He was very charming and that's what got me, but... In retrospect he had a tendency to be a little sleazy in any business dealings. He had some narcissistic tendencies, and I realized over time that he could be manipulative. He also frequently exaggerated his accomplishments and abilities. Had I been paying attention and been more objective I would never have married him.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/21 01:22 PM
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He said I was worth the wait.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/21 06:08 PM
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It's likely that they're vetting him for a serious LTR and want more than just sex from him. When I met husband I also made him wait while I vetted him. Sex can cloud your judgement. I didn't properly vet my ex and wound up marrying a chronic cheater.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/21 04:34 PM
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I won't disagree with you.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/21 07:01 PM
2

Yeah. But then it's time for the husband to show her who the alpha is and kick her to the curb and let everyone know why. You wouldn't believe how many people crumble when that happens.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/21 06:41 PM
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Hypergamy would be broken and you'd definitely be in an alternative reality. After that, who knows? But seriously, this actually does happen sometimes. You sometimes see this on the infidelity subs. Some woman cheating on her hard working, decent looking, good income husband to screw an ugly, total looser. I'm serious. The attraction is that the looser is somehow entertaining, and likely the lack of accountability and no responsibility.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/21 04:52 PM
1

I met my husband at age 32. When we met he was 25. I have no difficulty keeping his attention emotionally, intellectually, and sexually. I had all four of our kids in my 30s. Eat well, exercise regularly, drink in moderation, and don't do drugs. Keep your body fat down to a healthy level. The better you take care of yourself, the less this will matter.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/21 02:22 PM
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To be stressed on vacation seems a little odd to me. I mean, sometimes my husband gets stressed but that just melts away on vacation. Between this and the porn problem I'd be hesitant to move further with him. Personally both of these would be red flags for me.
/r/RedPillWomen16/09/21 05:03 PM
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Take a look at a very recent post on this sub : Back to Basics September: Education, Profession, and the RP Woman Posted by u/LivelyLychee You might find it valuable.
/r/RedPillWomen15/09/21 04:09 PM
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So I think this basically boils down to, never underestimate the power of good appearance and good conversation skills. Whatever you do, don't babble uncontrollably. And I actually did something right on my early dates with my husband. I didn't mention my education. Instead, we talked about all sorts of things on a wide variety of topics. I unintentionally showed him that I can hold a fun, intelligent and meaningful conversation. Part of this was him - he's easy to talk to. Finally on our first …
/r/RedPillWomen15/09/21 03:25 PM
1

Not exactly. I do believe that Red Pill is basically correct, but oversimplified in some regards. We're capable of more than just our instinctual drives. We have this thing in our head called a cerebral cortex which allows for higher level thinking. Therefore emotional intelligence should also play an important role - a little emotional intelligence can go a long way. But I was trying to interpret the meme, and don't think that's what it's trying to communicate.
/r/AntiFeminists15/09/21 01:42 PM
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I don't think this is Red Pill, but I'll throw it out there anyway. People will frequently say that communication in a relationship is important. I agree, it is. However, I think that mutual respect is actually more important. I have known of couples that communicate really well, but they didn't respect each other. They're no longer together. On the other hand, my husband and I have to work at communicating. Women and men also communicate differently. With all our responsibilities, we sometimes …
/r/RedPillWomen15/09/21 01:10 PM
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I was asked to interpret the meme. I did so from a Red Pill perspective, and you're taking what I said completely out of context.
/r/AntiFeminists15/09/21 12:51 PM
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That to is an issue.
/r/AntiFeminists14/09/21 07:55 PM
1

No, instead I'll answer your question as to why women refuse to acknowledge that their choices aren't always the best. It's likely because they don't know either. It's a feature of hypergamy which is hard wired into us through the forces of evolution. The guy with red flags is identified as the one who can most likely provide for us and help produce strong children. Remember that today's social constructs are less than a century old. Whereas we've been evolving for millennia. You just can't chan…
/r/AntiFeminists14/09/21 07:49 PM
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It's a Red Pill thing. We like strong decisive men. But sometimes we get confused and choose a jerk instead thinking that he's strong and decisive. In the world today, strong, decisive and decent gentlemen are rare.
/r/AntiFeminists14/09/21 07:19 PM
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I didn't vet my ex properly in my previous marriage. As a result I married a habitual cheater who was good at covering his tracks, which took me quite a while to uncover. It wasn't until he got sloppy that I figured it out, then all hell broke loose. But that's another story. Consequently, I vetted my husband very carefully. I didn't want to get burned again. I wasn't aware of Red Pill at the time, but my therapist told me to be more careful in the future and gave me pointers on what sorts of th…
/r/RedPillWives14/09/21 02:18 PM
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Thanks! One reason I asked is that there's something about Red Pill that while I agree with it, seems to me to be incomplete and sometimes oversimplified. I always see lots of stuff surrounding hypergamy, but not much concerning Briffault's Law. I think it is just as important.
/r/RedPillWomen10/09/21 09:02 PM
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It's been a while since I looked at the basic Red Pill concepts, but isn't Briffault's Law considered to be one of the foundational principles? If so, why wasn't it included in the post? Just curious...
/r/RedPillWomen10/09/21 08:47 PM
2

As much as I resented the lockdown, I must admit that I like having my husband around more often. And we save a lot on gas and the wear and tear on our vehicles.
/r/RedPillWives10/09/21 07:17 PM
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r/FemaleDatingStrategy
/r/RedPillWives10/09/21 07:12 PM
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In either case she doesn't have to make such a big stink about it.
/r/AntiFeminists07/09/21 07:47 PM
38

Sounds like chemical warfare.
/r/AntiFeminists07/09/21 07:31 PM
1

Congratulations and many happy years!
/r/RedPillWives02/09/21 03:20 PM
6

One of my most cherished memories of when we were dating is the first time my husband played the violin for me. He had claimed that he could play the violin and piano, but I had never heard him. My ex had also made many claims about himself, many of which were exaggerations. Because of this bad experience I took what my future husband said with a grain of salt. One day when I was visiting him he offered to play for me. Prior to this I was kinda on the fence with him. He was fun to be around but …
/r/RedPillWives02/09/21 02:26 AM
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I think talking about marriage on the first date is way too soon to say the least, and for me would be a huge red flag. This could be an indicator of narcissistic behavior on his part. Also, you haven't had any real time to vet this guy. How do you know what he's telling you is even remotely true? Sorry, but it looks to me like you could have set yourself up to be strung along indefinitely.
/r/RedPillWomen01/09/21 04:30 PM
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I've never sent a nude, not even to my husband. If he wants to see me nude, I'm more than happy to take my clothes off for him - in private.
/r/RedPillWomen31/08/21 08:09 PM
2

To say women rule society is a gross oversimplification of Briffault's Law.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/21 02:38 AM
3

It's been a while since I looked at the Red Pill documents but as I recall Briffault's Law was sited as part of Red Pill reasoning.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/21 02:25 AM
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Your argument is vacuous and there's nothing to address. You've based it solely on hypergamy. That's only a part of Red Pill ideology.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/21 02:05 AM
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Hypergamy is only part of the equation. Briffault's Law is also an important part of Red Pill and you've completely left that out. I would also say that hypergamy is only a strong tendency; it's not an absolute.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/21 01:50 AM
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Why has your relationship been rocky?
/r/RedPillWomen20/08/21 06:06 PM
5

Just some advice - if a guy shows any narcissistic traits or tendencies, don't walk, RUN!
/r/RedPillWomen30/07/21 08:47 PM
4

Thanks! The problem with my ex is that I didn't vet him nearly enough, and we became sexual too soon. I think it's best to wait on that, and take any potential red flags very seriously. Walking away might hurt, but it will save you a lot of heartache in the long run.
/r/RedPillWomen30/07/21 05:28 PM
7

7 years
/r/RedPillWomen30/07/21 04:12 PM
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I met my husband after my divorce from my toxic ex who was chronically unfaithful. I met my husband when I was in my early 30s. He was in his mid-20s at the time (7 years younger). What I found attractive in him (aside from the physical aspects) is his integrity and intelligence. At the time I met him I wasn't actively looking for anyone and was still recovering from the aftermath of my divorce, although I had made a lot of progress and it was becoming less of issue. Anyway we are happily marrie…
/r/RedPillWomen30/07/21 03:14 PM
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This is why my daughter is in American Heritage Girls and as soon as my son is old enough, we will put him in Trail Life. My husband and I will avoid the traditional scouting programs for the very reasons you gave.
/r/AntiFeminists29/07/21 03:36 AM
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I've always dated men that are my age or just a little older. I had to get over the fact that he's 7 years younger than I am. It all worked out. First of all, you don't have to be an engineer in your personal life. We frequently behave differently in our professional and personal lives. Each are different environments and call for different skill sets and behaviors. Just because you're one of the guys at work doesn't mean you bring ALL of that home with you. Remember he's probably attracted to y…
/r/RedPillWomen27/07/21 06:48 PM
14

Both my husband and I are engineers, although I'm no longer working in the field. I'm a SAHM, which was my choice. As his "second in command" he expects me to be able to banter ideas back and forth, but he has the final say in all decisions. He also expects me to use good judgement in his absence. I haven't read The Surrendered Wife yet, so maybe I shouldn't really comment at all. But in my opinion, books like those provide the theory. It's up to you to implement the theory in an appropriate man…
/r/RedPillWomen27/07/21 04:59 PM
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I have a bachelor's and master's in physics. I never saw the need for a female role model either. My role model was my dad. I had both his and my mom's support and encouragement.
/r/AntiFeminists26/07/21 07:35 PM
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This is completely inappropriate for a workplace. It should be reported to HR. If they fail to act, I would file a complaint or report with the Federal Equal Opportunity Commission.
/r/AntiFeminists17/07/21 03:28 PM
6

I'm glad that the toxic aspects of modern US culture hasn't infected the rest of the world.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/21 01:54 PM
5

Two recent encounters out of how many? What type of environment did these encounters occur in? About how old are these guys (older than you, younger than you)? What about your demeanor?
/r/RedPillWomen24/06/21 07:43 PM
4

At the time, I thought my ex-husband was good. He and anyone else I've slept with was nothing compared to my husband. My husband is caring and attentive to what I want and able to pay attention to what my body is telling him. My husband can certainly take charge and lead when it's needed. I know I can depend on him. And together we make cute babies too! Or at least that's what everyone tell us.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/21 06:43 PM
10

He has repeatedly disrespected you. He has little or no regard for your expectations. Maybe it's conscious or maybe it's not. To compound the problem you're letting him get away with it. You are allowing him to violate your boundaries. This is a problem. What's concerning is that it's possible this is also happening in other areas of your life. This is why I recommended the book by Amy Morin.
/r/RedPillWomen11/06/21 06:21 PM
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First, this sounds more like a boundary issue than an attachment issue. This guy has been repeatedly violating your boundaries. It's not easy, but only you can put a stop to it. I would recommend two things: Read "13 Things Mentally Strong People Don't Do", by Amy Morin. You might want to address the boundary and attachment issues in therapy. In any case, once you free yourself from him you will feel better. Maybe not right away, but you will. Always be sure to take care of yourself!
/r/RedPillWomen11/06/21 02:47 PM
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If the relationship isn't working and you're not happy then you should end it. If you're spending time and effort in a relationship, then you have every right to expect something in return. Regardless of your life goals, you need someone that you can rely on and trust.
/r/RedPillWomen11/06/21 01:33 PM
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I met my true love at a church picnic that I didn't want to go to. I was standing in line to get a drink, and this younger guy struck up a conversation with me. This conversation was interesting and fun and lasted about 2 hours. At the end we exchanged contact info and went out for coffee the following weekend. The rest is history.
/r/RedPillWives21/05/21 08:31 PM
14

Wow. She really knows how to make friends. /S If she actually tries this, no one will ever do her another favor.
/r/AntiFeminists14/05/21 03:14 PM
1

What an insightful post. /S
/r/AntiFeminists11/05/21 10:06 PM
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The cheater always blames someone else. It's always their SO's fault. Cheating was YOUR choice. You could have just simply left, but the fact that you haven't admitted any wrong doing just proves, "Once a cheater, always a cheater".
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/21 08:44 PM
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Cheating is never justified. If you're so unhappy that you want to cheat, then you should get out of the relationship and then you can have sex with whoever you want. As a survivor of infidelity, cheating is probably the worst thing you can do. Lying and gaslighting are the cheater's main tools. This means that cheating is a form of emotional abuse. The conditions that make people want to cheat is that they have absolutely no integrity or self-respect. When people choose an affair partner (AP), …
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/21 08:13 PM
5

Well, if you're both happy and the relationship is working well, then you're probably doing the right things. I wish you both the best of luck!
/r/RedPillWomen06/05/21 05:43 PM
4

My husband is also a Sigma male. Your description closely resembles him. He also values his alone time, but being alone doesn't always mean isolating himself from me. I know that he loves me and our children and is very attentive to us. Just out of curiosity, do you know his Briggs-Myers personality type? My husband is a definite INTJ. I don't know if sigma males are always that personality type. I'm not sure exactly what kind of advice you're looking for. Do you foresee any problems? Are you ok…
/r/RedPillWomen06/05/21 03:28 PM
2

I sympathize. I'm a SAHM, have four kids (two are infant twins), and a husband. Keeping a home clean and orderly can be a challenge. We teach our children to pick up after themselves and we also set the example by also picking up. It's more or less consciously getting into the habit of cleaning up. I also have a cleaning schedule where I spend about an hour every day dusting and vacuuming. That way the house is always clean and it doesn't become an overwhelming chore. Once you get into the habit…
/r/RedPillWomen30/04/21 01:57 PM
4

If they touch you uninvited then you have every right to defend yourself. An alternative is to develop a stance that says, "Don't fuck with me."
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/21 06:11 PM
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And this is exactly why I don't wear sexy clothing in public. The only time I might is when I'm with my husband, and even then it's not too provocative.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/21 03:29 PM
1

Red Pill, for example in r/RedPillWomen, can be used by women for proper mate selection. If you're happy in your relationship, then I don't see the point of your question. Some things shouldn't be questioned or over analyzed, and I think this is one of them. Just enjoy each other and be happy.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/21 01:58 PM
1

Okay. Does your relationship work for you? What's the attraction?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/21 01:36 PM
1

Something more traditional, like the man would be older or at least closer in age to the woman. Frequently women aren't so willing to submit to a younger man. But for me it's worked out really well.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/21 01:30 PM
3

I think your view of non-traditional is pretty narrow. I'm 7 years older than my husband, love him passionately, and am also basically a tradwife. In Red Pill this age gap is not the norm.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/21 01:23 PM
2

That's good, but in the case of my ex he overstated just about everything. He was also likely cheating on me throughout our relationship, which of course was an even bigger problem. Obviously I didn't vet him correctly. When I met my husband I probably over-vetted him, but it all worked out. We're happily married, have four kids, etc.
/r/RedPillWomen07/04/21 02:39 PM
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Make sure he is who he actually claims to be. Verify any claims he makes about himself, and make sure the claims are real and authentic. This is was one of two serious problems that I ran into with my ex. He tended to exaggerate, not a lot but just enough that it was misleading.
/r/RedPillWomen06/04/21 06:06 PM
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In my opinion, these are somewhat subjective. To me, a high value male is someone I can completely trust, depend on, and pull his weight in a relationship. He acts like an adult, and takes an active interest in me and our life together. He can use good judgement and is capable of making good decisions in our relationship. As for success, to me this means setting reasonable goals and making progress towards them and achieving them, and not going to pieces if things don't necessarily work out the …
/r/RedPillWomen05/04/21 08:24 PM
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Get in the gym and eat well, and when you exercise try to get your heart rate up. Keep your foods simple and avoid fast food and junk food. Watch your alcohol consumption and avoid anything else. Take care of yourself physically, mentally, emotionally, and spiritually. I met my husband at age 31. He was almost 25 (and very mature, more masculine, and more together than some guys my own age). It can be done. You determine where the wall is, not the other way around.
/r/RedPillWomen28/02/21 02:53 PM
1

You got it!
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/21 01:36 PM
2

An extreme example would be an abusive relationship, but it can be more subtle. Once you get your brain wrapped around the idea, go to the relationship subs and you see this all the time.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/21 01:35 PM
12

A woman can devalue herself if she demonstrates that she more of a liability in his life than an asset.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/21 05:44 AM
1

I made a comment here earlier today and got a ban message from r/offmychest. I don't think I've ever been to that sub, so it's kinda silly and meaningless.
/r/RedPillWomen24/02/21 04:40 AM
2

Likely a troll. It's a new account and as of right now not email verified.
/r/RedPillWomen23/02/21 07:48 PM
1

As a woman, I don't get this at all. All I can think of is that a violent criminal is the ultimate "bad boy" and some women are really into that. I guess I've known of too many "bad boys" who were in reality just insecure little cowards. Personally, I prefer someone who's stable and can participate in a meaningful and constructive relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/21 04:59 PM
1

Thanks! I think so too.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/21 05:44 PM
1

Thanks for pointing that out. I had never made that correlation before.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/21 05:24 PM
1

Yes.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/21 05:17 PM
3

I think they're quite real. Rare, but real. The omegas I've met don't fit the description OP gave for the sigma. To me, a "lone wolf" means they are their own person and don't need the approval of others. This is why they disregard rules and authorities. Because of this, they can also be a real "thorn in the side" of an alpha. My husband is this way. He's definitely not a beta, and definitely not an outsider either. He can be an alpha when the need arises, but for the most part he prefers to be …
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/21 11:54 AM
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Sorry, that was rude of me. We usually have sex twice a week or so, depending on other household activities, etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/21 01:12 AM
2

None of your business.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/21 12:13 AM
5

We have four kids, two are infants.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/21 08:57 PM
12

I've been married to my husband for 6 years and we've been together for more than 7 years. We don't seem to have this problem. Maybe it's because I'm married to a younger guy?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/21 08:06 PM
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I can't help but wonder how much of this is projection. Either that or she doesn't have a clue how to choose a boyfriend or a mate. As a woman and in day-to-day interactions, I've actually had less trouble with men than other women.
/r/AntiFeminists17/02/21 03:55 PM
3

I think your ability to attract high quality men has little to do with luck. Personality, charm, the way you present yourself, and good social skills can go a very long way. In the past, my problem was just the opposite of yours: little in the way of curves and my social skills could use a good makeover. Anyway, keep yourself healthy and in decent condition and you'll be fine.
/r/RedPillWomen16/02/21 07:57 PM
2

You say that you get short tempered. What's triggering you? Have you established a routine? This is very important because you're basically "self-supervising" when you're a homemaker and it helps to keep you from feeling overwhelmed.
/r/RedPillWives04/02/21 03:05 PM
10

This is a bit tough to put into words. Can you give some concrete examples? What Bible passages were you reading? St. Paul says that women should submit to their husbands. It's my understanding that this is a radical departure from that culture, since women were expected to be submissive to men in general. St. Paul says no to this, and says that a woman should only submit to her husband. Husbands are expected to love and care for their wives. To St. Paul, a Christian marriage mirrors the relatio…
/r/RedPillWives02/02/21 03:14 PM
3

I really hope you're doing better soon. As for books, my two favorites are: "13 Things Mentally Strong People Don't Do" by Amy Morin "How to Think Like a Roman Emperor" by Donald Robertson. This has to do with Stoic Philosophy and psychotherapy. It's a fun and interesting book, and it's got a cool title! Both of these books are really good and fascinating to read. You should be able to find them at your local library. Best of luck!
/r/RedPillWives01/02/21 05:23 AM
126

My ideal ONS: Meet for a drink, then go to a motel room and enjoy each other. A lot. Afterwards, we pick up the kids and go to the home we share.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/21 02:50 PM
10

r/oldfashionedhomemaker and r/homemaking are two of my favorites in the homemaking category
/r/RedPillWives06/01/21 06:22 PM
1

It refers to my participation in the subs RedPillWomen and RedPillWives. My husband also treats me like a princess. It doesn't mean that I act like a spoiled b**ch. He wouldn't tolerate that for a minute.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/21 02:01 PM
2

Just for the record, I take responsibility for choosing to marry my cheating ex and ignoring the red flags.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/21 05:52 PM
2

My parents (adoptive) have been married for years and are still happy together. I'm hoping I can do as well.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/21 03:58 PM
5

I guess that makes sense. I've heard that some guys can sense insecure females.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/21 02:09 PM
7

Unless he's a cute little puppy, it's not going to end well for any random guy who comes up to me and starts licking my face.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/21 02:06 PM
3

Good answer.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/21 04:43 AM
10

I am a trad wife. Welcome to a very elite club! PM me if you would like some trad wife subs.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/21 09:47 PM
6

The most my hubby has had is 3 without me consciously trying. Okay, new goal for 2021!!!
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/21 08:42 PM
10

Given the number of disparaging remarks made to me when I decided to become a homemaker, I had no idea that housewives are put on a pedestal. I doubt that your mother's attitude has anything to do with her being a housewife. If it wasn't that, it could be something else. Also in one of your comments you said that you're 21, which means you're an adult. You can move out and get your own place.
/r/RedPillWomen28/12/20 05:20 AM
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I'm not sure what this has to do with housewives, other than that your mother happens to be one. This sounds more like an issue with your mother.
/r/RedPillWomen28/12/20 05:09 AM
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First, I firmly believe that respect is the foundation for a happy, successful marriage. Communication is also important, but if your communication is good but there is a lack of respect, then there will be problems. With respect should also come mutual support. While my husband leads, he will also help out as needed and sometimes takes over if necessary. We also have a deep desire to do things that will make the other happy. There's another thing that might be a bit controversial. I regard my h…
/r/RedPillWives12/12/20 04:25 PM
9

For parenting, google the Love and Logic Institute.
/r/RedPillWives04/12/20 08:14 PM
9

I'm sorry that you had to cut ties with your friend. As a woman, I do believe that toxic men exist. I also believe that toxic women exist. Therefore when a woman says that all men are toxic it can mean one of two things: they're projecting or they're only attracted to toxic men (I've actually seen this happen more than once). It's also possible that they didn't have a positive male role model when they were growing up. Also if you're going to approach people this way it can become a self fulfill…
/r/AntiFeminists01/12/20 04:07 PM
1

I don't think this is the right sub. Try posting on r/asktrp. But my bet is there's some cheating going on.
/r/RedPillWomen23/11/20 03:29 PM
2

So she was cheating on you? Post over on r/survivinginfidelity
/r/RedPillWomen23/11/20 03:21 PM
7

An extreme example: A guy and a woman are dating and serious about having an exclusive relationship. She has a male friend and claims he's just a friend, when in fact she'd go to bed with him in a heartbeat. And yes, I've seen this happen before.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/20 07:57 PM
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Cheating, or making any false or misleading claims.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/20 06:01 PM
1

She's not the vice president yet, the vote hasn't been certified, and there's allegations of voter fraud. So your question is premature.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/20 05:03 PM
1

Another one is that a married woman can get pregnant by another man and by deception, force her husband to raise that child as his own without his knowledge or consent. This happens more than you might suspect. Just look at the infidelity subs and you'll find some examples.
/r/AntiFeminists06/11/20 01:21 PM
6

A woman can get pregnant and end that pregnancy without consulting the man who participated in getting her pregnant, even if the man objects to her terminating the pregnancy.
/r/AntiFeminists06/11/20 04:45 AM
7

So I'm one of those "conservative women" that you said that you hate. "Hate" is a very strong word and there's far too much of it in the world today. Just something to think about.
/r/AntiFeminists05/11/20 10:05 PM
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I don't know of any Red Pill sources, but what my hubby and I did was sign up for parenting classes. I called our county social services and they were able to make some recommendations. They also have a good library of parenting resources like books and videos. Also, you might want to look at the Love and Logic Institute. They have some good resources.
/r/RedPillWives02/11/20 09:24 PM
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My husband and I discussed all of these, and more, right down to what brand of toothpaste would be acceptable (I'm serious). Another big one is career priorities and how to manage moving in the event of a career opportunity. People change and priorities change, so I think it's also really important to revisit these periodically.
/r/RedPillWomen28/10/20 05:40 PM
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I was the same way at one time. My husband is 7 years younger than I am and when we were dating I almost rejected him because of that age difference. I'm so glad I didn't. He's a great father to our beautiful children, a wonderful man and has exceeded all of my expectations. I'll say that maturity, compatibility and respect are far more important than anything else. If he's the right guy then don't worry about any age gap.
/r/RedPillWives26/10/20 12:06 AM
1

Oh, okay. I thought maybe something weird happened and I was getting ready to post over in r/Glitch_in_the_Matrix.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/20 06:20 PM
2

It's been a week already???
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/20 06:10 PM
21

I guess that explains a lot about FDS.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/20 01:04 PM
20

Personally, I would avoid alcohol on a first date or maybe even until you get to know him a little better. You might suggest meeting for coffee or something like that.
/r/RedPillWomen12/10/20 12:49 PM
6

What we like to do isn't necessarily appealing to others, but we like to go hiking, biking, and spend some time at a local lake just relaxing on the beach in the summer. We also play board games and like to dance (Irish and swing). During the COVID lockdown we would put the kids to bed and go down to our basement and dance. That's just a sample. There's a lot of other things we like to do.
/r/RedPillWives01/10/20 10:18 PM
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I think it's critically important that you play together, cherish each other, pay each other compliments, and continue to date each other. And when I say "play together", I mean way more than just having sex. I mean to get out and do some fun things together.
/r/RedPillWives01/10/20 07:22 PM
104

Modern feminism has nothing to do with equality.
/r/AntiFeminists30/09/20 01:49 PM
9

A woman's priorities change after childbirth. That child becomes her focus. The man will put himself at a disadvantage if he doesn't help her out as much as possible. For example with our first, my husband (while I was on parental leave) insisted that I sleep on Friday and Saturday nights and he would take care of our baby if she woke up. This, and helping as much as he could with her and other household chores helped to restart our sex life when I was physically ready.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/20 05:37 PM
1

So by medical help, do you mean physical therapy? If so, not all physical therapists are created equal. If one doesn't do it for you, then try another. I got a recommendation for a physical therapist from a nurse friend of mine and they were great. So you might ask around.
/r/RedPillWomen27/09/20 02:03 PM
6

What brought on the back and leg pain? Just because you're turning 30 is no reason to tolerate discomfort.
/r/RedPillWomen27/09/20 03:31 AM
3

I'm very sorry this has happened. Maybe you could suggest some marriage counseling before heading to divorce.
/r/RedPillWives25/09/20 05:08 PM
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I think your husband is being unreasonable. This was 2 days ago. This seems to be more like an extended passive aggressive temper tantrum. How long is this nonparticipation going to continue? Is there a pattern? That is, do you get into fights just before events such as these? If so, is he using this as an excuse not to attend or to control the situation? In my opinion this is the more serious issue. This is not how he should be leading your relationship. (Edit: This isn't how someone should lea…
/r/RedPillWives25/09/20 02:53 PM
0

Yes, it's 2020 and hypergamy is still a thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/20 06:22 PM
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For starters, how do you know for certain that he and his wife have a terrible relationship and that she's cheated on him? Did you call her up and ask? Then, you turn right around and say that he's hidden important information from you. If that's true, then how do you know that he's telling you the truth about the relationship he has with his wife?
/r/RedPillWomen08/09/20 06:24 PM
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You might consider some counseling before doing anything rash. He sounds like a great guy, but at the same time maybe there's something that's not quite right in your relationship. One thing that red pill teaches is that desire isn't negotiable, and if it's not there, then it's simply not there. It's also not fair to him or yourself to live like this with these feelings indefinitely.
/r/RedPillWomen02/09/20 03:33 PM
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So it sounds to me like you might have some depression. Have you directly addressed this? Talk to your doctor or looked for some counseling? Some things you might try now. Diet: eat basic whole, nutritious foods. Make sure you're getting enough fiber, sleep, and stay hydrated. How much exercise do you get? I mean when you really work up a sweat? Also, be sure you're both taking time to play together. I have come to believe that this is very important and very underated. Good luck!
/r/RedPillWomen02/09/20 03:16 PM
9

Act like a child, get treated like a child. Time to grow up honey!
/r/AntiFeminists24/08/20 03:19 AM
2

That's quite alright. What's unfortunate is that I couldn't come up with a better retort.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/20 02:51 AM
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I was 31, he was 25. The one thing that struck me about him was that he was more mature than my ex, who's 10 years older than he is. As they say, age is just a number.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/20 11:25 PM
1

Very funny.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/20 11:24 PM
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Are you both happy? If so, then don't worry about it. If it works, it works. BTW - I'm sympathetic to age gap relationships since I'm 7 years older than my husband. He's an awesome guy and I wouldn't have it any other way.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/20 08:36 PM
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Yes, I love to spoil him! Rose petals on the bed isn't our style, but having a nice dinner for him when he gets off from work is appreciated. I will also try to at least look presentable and on Friday try to have a drink ready for him. Other than that, I always try to be thoughtful of his needs. Let's face it - if you want to be treated like a princess, then treat him like a prince!
/r/RedPillWomen30/07/20 04:58 PM
11

To me non-monogamy is about having an attachment disorder and making excuses for it.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/20 01:45 PM
3

Astronomy, history, and music. I also like mechanical things - steam engines are awesome! I also help my husband make beer and mead. And I also dress very feminine.
/r/RedPillWomen29/07/20 01:20 PM
2

My husband used to joke that his woman can be better educated, smarter, and make more money. No problem. She just can't be taller than him.😂
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/20 05:34 PM
1

Echo.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/20 12:50 PM
6

I'll have to research this more, but I guess that explains why none of it makes a lot of sense.
/r/AntiFeminists10/07/20 07:16 PM
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I'm going to share some very hard truths. This "I'm unhappy in my marriage so that's why I'm cheating" has got to be the oldest line in the book. I don't know how many times I've seen this happen. And it's usually to women just about your age. He's likely lying to you and will just string you along. You'll be 5 years older and he'll still be telling you the same thing. My advice is to dump this guy pronto and find someone who's willing to commit while your sanity is still intact. Edit: Looking a…
/r/RedPillWomen01/07/20 12:41 PM
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This is probably true for many people. However in looking at the relationship subs, I think a lot of people don't know how to properly manage their romantic relationships, or have unrealistic expectations. That's the real problem in my opinion.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/20 01:13 PM
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I don't regret it at all. My ex was cheating on me, possibly for most of our relationship. I went through a very rough time after our divorce, but I did meet a wonderful man. We're married, with two kids and a third on the way. Life is good!
/r/RedPillWomen16/06/20 06:40 PM
1

I meant that we must respect her freedom of speech. We're not necessarily compelled to agree with what she says.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/20 03:43 AM
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She is completely entitled to her own opinion, to freely state that opinion, and that should be respected.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/20 04:48 AM
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First bullet: I've done this before with guys I was interested in. Careful makeup and cute feminine clothing can go a long way. Second bullet: Sounds like my ex-husband towards the end of our marriage. He'd rather screw his toad of a girlfriend. Third bullet: Probably wonder what I was doing wrong, talk to some female friends about it, get mad, etc. In the end of probably find another place to hang out.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/20 08:29 PM
1

So he's (indirectly) giving you expensive gifts also. And with something like that, how can you dump him if things get sketchy? That's probably how he gets his hooks in a woman. He sounds like he could be a player. Watch out!
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/20 02:18 PM
1

It's still cheating if he knew that they were married. Cheating is a form of spousal abuse, so he was complicit if nothing else. If someone is so unhappy that they are considering cheating, then they should leave the relationship. And watch out for that manipulation. That's another major red flag. If he did it to them, he's likely going to do it to you eventually. Other than that, I don't think there's anything wrong with choosing a man who's younger. If the relationship works, then it works.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/20 02:08 PM
1

Good for you!
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/20 02:01 PM
1

My husband is younger than I am. I think there's a lot of benefits in having a younger man. They tend to be more trainable, loyal, adventurous, and sex is incredible. However, the fact that your boyfriend helped other women cheat on their husbands is a major red flag. If he has a history of being involved with cheating, then he's likely to eventually cheat on you.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/20 01:55 PM
1

I've been cheated on before, so it's a no-go for me too. But the sub I mentioned could give you what you're looking for.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/20 03:55 PM
0

My advice is to ask on r/RedPillWomen
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/20 03:15 PM
8

I had a period in my life that was also very colorful. I told my boyfriend (who I was very serious about) what had happened. My reasoning was that if he was going to reject me because of this I wanted to find out sooner than later. I also didn't want to risk him finding out some other way and have to explain everything to him. We had a very serious discussion about it and I promised that it wouldn't happen again. It really set the groundwork for some very respectful, open, and honest communicati…
/r/RedPillWomen04/06/20 05:13 PM
6

She's trying to create an issue that doesn't exist in reality.
/r/AntiFeminists01/06/20 01:58 PM
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Post this on r/banned.
/r/AntiFeminists27/05/20 08:47 PM
1

Good luck.
/r/RedPillWomen26/05/20 09:43 PM
1

You want a serious discussion after an intro like that???
/r/RedPillWomen26/05/20 09:39 PM
2

Huh?
/r/AntiFeminists22/05/20 02:36 PM
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I'd like to see a citation for her claim, like in a peer-reviewed journal.
/r/AntiFeminists22/05/20 02:24 PM
5

Just one solution - kick the cheating scumbag out. Problem solved.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/20 02:21 PM
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Hypergamy is a thing, but how each woman implements it in their life is (highly) subjective. I think this is where you're running into a problem - you're expecting uniformity and predictability based on your own standards and it doesn't work that way. Hypergamy is only part of the equation. You're not taking Briffault's Law into consideration.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/20 01:45 PM
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At least you didn't get banned. But if you did, then you could post the mod message on r/banned which is what everyone else does.
/r/AntiFeminists22/05/20 12:46 PM
1

That sounds more like a cultural issue, which in my opinion is different. I've known of couples who've had great communication, but were lacking in respect for each other. This caused them to resent each other and eventually the relationship failed.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/20 07:47 PM
2

Respect for each other is more important than communication.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/20 07:19 PM
4

I think a lot of these women blame men when it's them that don't know how to select or keep a mate.
/r/AntiFeminists20/05/20 12:52 PM
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From everything I've seen, r/feminism is probably the easiest sub to get banned from. I also subscribe to r/banned. There's a post from someone getting banned from r/feminism at least once a week.
/r/AntiFeminists17/05/20 08:03 PM
1

That's YOUR claim - back it up.
/r/AntiFeminists15/05/20 10:25 PM
1

Source? And it must be authoritative.
/r/AntiFeminists15/05/20 10:22 PM
1

Women have also killed in the name of love. Sounds like your mate selection skills are lacking.
/r/AntiFeminists15/05/20 08:51 PM
2

I think the most important thing is to create a habit of healthy living and physical activity. Start slow and make it a habit. You'll know that you've been successful when you actually miss whatever physical activity you have chosen.
/r/RedPillWomen12/05/20 07:23 PM
1

Are you sure it's that high? No pun intended.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/20 05:12 PM
1

Short compared to what?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/20 05:10 PM
1

I guess it's still Purge Week.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/20 12:54 PM
3

I haven't read the book (I've heard it's not well written), nor have I seen the movie (it sounds creepy), but from what I've heard you have a good point.
/r/AntiFeminists10/05/20 02:31 PM
2

That could be true for a lot of subs.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/20 01:56 PM
0

I don't know. I mean, why does God allow questions like this? Maybe it's the same reason.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/20 08:21 PM
3

Everything they object to is due to the so-called patriarchy. The fact that the human body is designed to consume animal protein is irrelevant to her. Feminists really want masculine qualities without the masculine responsibilities or consequences. I guess that means they are patriarchal themselves.
/r/AntiFeminists08/05/20 06:12 PM
2

First, the "divorce" word should never be thrown around casually. It seems that maybe both of you might have some anger issues. Have you considered marriage counseling? It seems that you both could benefit from it. In any case, good luck.
/r/RedPillWives08/05/20 06:07 PM
1

Well this is PurplePillDebate! It was either that or "Dark Star"
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/20 05:02 PM
1

Growl...
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/20 04:56 PM
6

The Matrix
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/20 04:55 PM
2

Sorry honey! I got the last one.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/20 03:05 PM
0

Thanks for the update.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/20 01:02 PM
1

I guess you're right. Last night my hubby asked me to go to the fridge and get him another Corona. He also said to get one for myself also. He's so thoughtful.😍😘
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/20 08:16 PM
2

You got pissed off by your own question???
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/20 03:57 PM
1

Opposition is my validation.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/20 03:05 PM
1

A new car. We're married but I still think of him as my boyfriend, lover, fuck buddy, whatever.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/20 12:42 PM
2

Thanks for the heads up.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/20 08:46 PM
3

Oh. Okay. Hmmm. Lovely weather for it!
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/20 08:39 PM
3

Nicely written! BTW - What are you talking about?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/20 08:32 PM
3

I don't know, but I'll tell you what - I like the AutoMod the best. I always up vote it.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/20 06:47 PM
6

I trained my husband to put down the toilet seat. Now is that high value or what?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/20 06:05 PM
4

You have self-respect. Good for you! Make sure you choose an SO that respects you as well.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/20 05:49 PM
2

Thanks for clarifying.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/20 05:42 PM
1

Of course you do.
/r/AntiFeminists06/05/20 05:40 PM
1

And you demonstrated closed mindedness by labelling her as a "slave". And all because she has the mental strength to call you out and live her life as she chooses, and not blindly follow someone else's agenda. It's this very attitude that you have displayed that caused me to reject feminism.
/r/AntiFeminists06/05/20 04:57 PM
2

So you're against slut shaming, but then you shame her for living her life the way she wants to? Just because it doesn't agree with your ideals? This is a splendid example of toxic feminism.
/r/AntiFeminists06/05/20 04:32 PM
2

Why is this just a question for men??? Are you being sexist?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/20 03:56 PM
2

😂😂😂
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/20 01:26 AM
1

I don't zoom in or out. It makes me woozy.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/20 01:10 AM
1

Awesome painting. Who is that?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/20 01:04 AM
9

If my husband took advantage of something like this, then he would no longer take advantage of me. That would piss me off.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/20 09:07 PM
4

I didn't say WHEN he bought them.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/20 08:27 PM
3

My husband bought a couple of cases of Corona, so it's been a non-stop party at my house.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/20 08:19 PM
1

That is more or less the Catholic and Eastern Orthodox position and I'm glad you agree.
/r/RPChristians26/04/20 01:25 PM
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Just for the record, I'm not Catholic but my husband is. I'm actually Eastern Orthodox. At this point, I personally believe that it is a greater priority to maintain a Christian presence in the world, rather arguing over whether this point of belief or that particular belief is the correct one. That seems to be what has already happened in the comments. Taking this into consideration, I doubt that this proposed sub would be appropriate for me and my current interests. In any case, I wish you luc…
/r/RPChristians26/04/20 04:26 AM
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"Salvation = Grace + Faith +0 (i.e. nothing else)" "Salvation = Grace + Faith + Proper Theology on other issues, like the role of works." You claim that this latter one is a false belief. Have you read James 2:14-20? It basically says that faith without works is dead. That's where this false Catholic belief comes from. We Eastern Orthodox believe this as well.
/r/RPChristians26/04/20 04:16 AM
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I think this is an exciting prospect, but I do have some questions or concerns. I'm not sure what you mean by "Reformed Christian". That usually implies a certain set of Christian denominations, of which neither I or my husband belong. Why only limit it to those? As for using the sub as a platform for "teaching theology", it's not clear what that means either. If there's going to be a discussion concerning Christian experience, some theology is bound to surface. If nothing else, how the experien…
/r/RPChristians25/04/20 02:41 PM
1

Probably. Men will stick their dick in anything. And there are some women who totally DON'T get that.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/20 07:01 PM
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I interpreted the question as asking about my life before I met their father. But your right - anything else isn't any of their business.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/20 06:17 PM
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When it comes up, I'll probably just tell them what they need to know and nothing else.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/20 03:06 PM
2

First question - correct. Second question - more or less, but it also to prove to myself that I was still desirable after being cheated on. Being cheated on can really screw with your head, and it can be even worse if you have abandonment issues. I came very close to trying to commit suicide, but decided to go on a anger fueled promiscuous rampage instead. I guess it was kind of a mental breakdown of sorts. Third question - no. The only people who know the full story are my husband and my therap…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/20 03:40 AM
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I had just turned 30.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/20 12:40 AM
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I see your point, but my ex can think whatever he wants. Besides, he didn't dodge anything. The woman he had an affair with dumped him. And he lost quite a bit in our divorce. Before meeting my husband I did a lot of work on my mental health and self-esteem. Despite my prior mistakes, I have a great husband, two beautiful children, live quite comfortably, and with any luck will be looking forward to a third child.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/20 07:30 PM
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He's a pretty awesome guy!
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/20 04:05 PM
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One other thing - he didn't ask, but I volunteered the information. We were almost 6 months into our relationship but weren't lovers yet. I had fallen in love with him and I wanted to know that if he was going to reject me because of this, the sooner I found out the better. I wanted to know before things went any further. He is the only person that knows me personally (other than my therapist) and who knows what happened.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/20 03:46 PM
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The relationship I have with my husband is strictly monogamous, and I wouldn't want it any other way. It's critically important that it stay that way as well. This part of my past disgusts me also, and is the primary reason it stopped overnight. If anything non-monogamous happened, it would probably be the end of our relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/20 03:18 PM
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His interest was less about what had happened, but more about what I learned from my mistakes. What would have been an absolute deal killer is if I had been unfaithful to an SO, which has never happened.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/20 03:11 PM
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Neither of us were interested in a FWB arrangement and I'm certainly not proud of what I did. But, could you have any sort of relationship with someone who had cheated on their SO?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/20 03:08 PM
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I would say that respect is more important than communication. But we've been doing quite well.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/20 01:40 PM
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I don't know how many people do that sort of thing. I know that for myself it caused more harm than anything else. And when I finally met a really good man, I felt very strongly that I should admit what had happened. In the end it was a good call, since it paved the way for some very open and honest communication, which we still have after 5 years of marriage.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/20 01:34 PM
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No, I did about 26 in 5 months, and many of those were at a sex club. It was stupid, but it was my way of getting revenge on my ex for cheating on me.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/20 01:26 PM
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My n-count is 28, most of those were acquired in a 5 month period after my divorce. This is not normal for me, so when my husband and I became serious I told him everything. I didn't want to withhold any secrets from him just in case my promiscuity came out later. Aside from some assurances that this behavior was in the past and that I didn't have any STDs, it didn't affect our relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/20 12:45 PM
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That second sentence is so NOT true, especially when you have an attentive lover!!! I thoroughly enjoy sex with my husband. It's difficult not to, and since we've been in lockdown I've been enjoying him quite a bit.😉
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/20 03:25 PM
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Excellent post! Life choices can make all the difference. I will turn 38 later this month. My husband is 31 and people will think we're the same age.
/r/RedPillWomen16/04/20 01:31 PM
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I think you're asking the wrong question. A woman can be quite confident and not post provocative pictures of herself. So I would say something like this is more about validation, with a healthy dose of narcissism. One thing to remember about provocative pictures, nudes, etc, is that once something go out on the internet, it's there forever. Even if you delete it, someone could have copied it and repost it. Please be careful. Edited for clarity.
/r/RedPillWomen10/04/20 08:38 PM
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People like this should come with a warning label.
/r/AntiFeminists01/04/20 01:04 PM
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My husband is 7 years younger than I am. He's way better (okay that's actually an understatement) than my ex who was 3 years older than me. We make cute babies together also!
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/20 12:54 PM
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I'm a woman. I don't mind my husband encouraging me to improve, but I really don't want to be pushed.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/20 07:16 PM
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I'm a woman and it really doesn't bother me at all. In fact it explains a lot about my past relationships and the relationship I have with my husband.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/20 08:11 PM
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We're having one of my hubby's favorites - cheese ravioli. This with some sauce and meatballs with salad should go over really well. And a glass of Merlot along with it.
/r/RedPillWomen25/03/20 05:23 PM
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Not exactly related, but I've noticed a lot more people going for walks. It's like the foot traffic is much higher than normal. Every time I look out my front window it seems that someone is walking by. As for my household, my hubby and I were a little edgy at first, so we sat down and talked about it. We decided that we need to support each other through this and would do our best not to snap at each other. Since then so far, so good. We're both really good at keeping ourselves entertained and …
/r/RedPillWomen25/03/20 12:28 AM
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I'm sorry, I should have written Saint Theresa of Calcutta. My mistake.
/r/AntiFeminists19/03/20 04:31 PM
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And this is why I use these strong women role models for my daughter: Mother Theresa, Abigail Adams, and Margaret Thatcher.
/r/AntiFeminists19/03/20 01:05 PM
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Thanks for posting this! I really need posts like this right now. Both my hubby and I are pretty much homebodies, but start closing places and talk about self-quarantining and I start climbing the walls in no time. Just my little idiosyncrasy.
/r/RedPillWomen18/03/20 05:40 PM
2

I completely agree!
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/20 06:08 PM
2

At a church picnic that I really didn't want to go to.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/20 06:03 PM
2

Hypergamy is real, but what you find attractive can be subjective and can change over time. For example, historically I've always been attracted to men a little older than myself. However, my husband is 7 years younger than I am. I wouldn't trade him for anything, and I like the idea of having a husband that's not only a good man and very handy around the house, but down right sexy.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/20 01:58 PM
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Okay! 😉
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/20 03:10 PM
2

What I meant is that I've been monogamous in every serious relationship that I've had.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/20 01:04 PM
2

LOL!!! I could definitely describe myself that way.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/20 10:00 PM
2

I disagree with you, but I will add that I'm slowly coming to believe that some aspects of Red Pill might be oversimplified. For example, there seems to be a logical step or two missing between "hypergamy" and the Red Pill assertion of "all women by nature are monogamous". I'm not sure what they might be, but it's just a gut feeling at this point.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/20 09:50 PM
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I guess I don't see that as a real negative, per se. After all, his affairs are in order. Being able to provide is a definite plus, but not a strong determining factor. When my boyfriend (now husband) and I went on our first vacation together, we each paid our own way. At the time, I made more than he did. It's not that he couldn't afford to pay for both of us (although it would have been tight) we just didn't do that, and the subject never came up. So like I said, I've never dated anyone like t…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/20 06:32 PM
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I guess it would depend on other factors as well. Like, how well we "click", and what else he could offer in the relationship. That, and if he's really dependable, has good character, and doesn't sit on his butt playing video games for hours per day then it could work. I don't know. When I was single I used the same criteria for the guys I dated. I've never met anyone like this and I'm married now and an SAHM. LOL!
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/20 06:10 PM
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I'm glad that you recognize that there's a problem, but have you shared this with your husband? In any case, you should probably get into some appropriate therapy, and get your husband involved with helping as well. Good luck!
/r/RedPillWomen27/02/20 03:00 PM
2

Thanks!
/r/AntiFeminists26/02/20 10:27 PM
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Yeah, a long time ago when I was in college. I told some friends that I didn't like some aspects of modern feminism, and they stopped talking to me. I guess they weren't really my friends after all.
/r/AntiFeminists26/02/20 09:39 PM
1

Also Amy Morin's "13 Things Mentally Strong People Don't Do"
/r/RedPillWomen26/02/20 09:30 PM
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Yes it can happen, but there are those of us who don't care either.
/r/AntiFeminists26/02/20 09:27 PM
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Mine are Words of Affirmation, with Physical Touch being a close second. My husband's are Acts of Service, with Physical Touch being a close second.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/20 06:41 PM
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Be very careful of who you choose to be in a LTR with. If you have any hesitations, then don't be afraid to walk away. It could save you a lot of heart ache in the future.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/20 03:29 PM
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We will exchange cards and say, "I love you," numerous times. Hubby will grill some fillet mignon over a charcoal fire and we'll share a nice bottle of wine. Then we'll put our kids to bed and have some intimate us time and fall asleep in each other's arms. That's what we do every year.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/20 05:27 PM
2

First, how can you determine if the accusation is true or false? Second, the title suggests that all sex offenders are male. How would female sex offenders be handled?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/20 03:11 PM
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Play the piano more and I would like to learn to play another instrument also, like the recorder or lute. Get back to my first academic love: physics and mathematics. I have found some volunteer data collection and processing opportunities that I would like to pursue. Build a weather station in my backyard. I'll probably need hubby's help with this one. That's right - I'm a science nerd!!!
/r/RedPillWomen07/02/20 06:28 PM
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If I may, I would like to recommend a book that my husband is reading right now, called "Strong Fathers, Strong Daughters" by Meg Meeker, MD. I've thumbed through it also. The author advocates that strong masculine, loving and engaged father is an excellent role model for a girl, especially when she gets into her middle school and teenage years.
/r/RedPillWomen07/02/20 03:41 PM
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I think I agree with you. I believe in equality of opportunity, and I don't believe a woman should be shamed for choosing a traditional role.
/r/AntiFeminists07/02/20 03:31 PM
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No. I prefer my man to be taller than I am, even if I'm wearing heals.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/20 07:34 PM
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There were a couple of guys I went out with after my divorce. One guy seemed really excited about going out with me, but at dinner hardly had two words to say to me. I tried to be pleasant, but I have no idea if it was something I said or did. The other guy was just the opposite and wouldn't shut up. All he did was talk about how wonderful he was. Was that ever boring.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/20 02:29 PM
3

Or to be more precise, equal opportunities for both genders.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/20 02:20 PM
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Yes, one can advocate for both. Then on the other hand, it may also depend on what you consider to be a "right".
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/20 02:12 PM
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We already do. See r/RedPillWomen
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/20 07:34 PM
1

I'm glad to have helped!
/r/RedPillWomen01/02/20 04:38 AM
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I hadn't noticed posts being anymore "batshit crazy" than usual. I think some of the comments are more "batshit crazy" than normal, but that might be a separate issue. Edit: Maybe because it's winter and people are acting feral because it's cold outside and they've been cooped up too long.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/20 10:09 PM
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"No one will ever win the battle of the sexes; there's too much fraternizing with the enemy." Attributed to Henry Kissinger
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/20 02:58 PM
2

My daughter will NEVER be a Girl Scout. I've talked to many parents, and they've all complained about the same thing - it all centers on selling cookies. There are several Girl Scout alternatives, and my daughter can join one of those.
/r/AntiFeminists29/01/20 03:07 PM
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I think you've basically got the right idea. The issue is why is it common sense? The evolutionary forces that shaped us are the answer. I will say that once you've made a commitment like marriage, you really shouldn't upgrade. Make sure you know what you're doing and what you've chosen before making any commitments. If you have any hesitations or misgivings, then wait.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/20 03:40 PM
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"13 Things Mentally Strong People Don't Do" by Amy Morin. I think this is just an excellent book for anyone wanting to do some self-improvement.
/r/RedPillWomen28/01/20 02:40 PM
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Sexual attraction is only part of it. There's more to it. For example, what do they bring to the relationship? What do they offer? If a really hot guy does nothing but play video games all the time, then what value is he? I personally would much rather have an average looking guy that makes valuable contributions, than a hot one who's basically useless - and I've known of a few. To me, it's the overall value that creates attraction.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/20 06:52 PM
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Theoretically, but looking at the relationship subs this doesn't always seem to be the case. People will have a lease together, one or both of them own a house, have kids together, and it can be just as sticky if not more so.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/20 06:27 PM
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If my gut tells me that there's something wrong in my relationship, then there probably is. Never, never live in denial.
/r/RedPillWomen27/01/20 03:52 PM
1

I agree with you 100%.
/r/AntiFeminists27/01/20 03:46 PM
1

Sorry, but your question is too general. It depends on where the pain is and the severity. There are also different types of pain. As for myself, in the short term I usually will take an over the counter pain medication. Ultimately I'll go to a doctor if the pain persists, or other health practicianer depending on the pain, where it is, and the circumstances. I think the best thing is to know your body and know what it's telling you.
/r/RedPillWomen27/01/20 03:11 PM
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And the moral of the story is that a little self-care goes a long way.
/r/RedPillWomen24/01/20 07:02 PM
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In my opinion, this type of analysis is what happens when you overthink a fantasy scenario. Maybe it's just me, but first, the guy had no business getting in her space. Second, it seems to me that Captain Marvel really overreacted. But that's the problem with feminism - they can't distinguish between being strong verses being a shrew, and in this scene Captain Marvel is acting more like the latter. The entire scene is set up so she can act like a shrew. Also, this fantasy scenario is highly cont…
/r/AntiFeminists23/01/20 05:39 PM
3

I'd be tempted to sit on your face and fart.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/20 09:36 PM
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Remember that once you send something out on the internet, there will likely be evidence of it for a very long time. Either the picture itself or it will get logged somewhere. And it's possible that it can come back to haunt you. Please be careful.
/r/RedPillWomen17/01/20 03:05 PM
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Where do I begin? I'm in the process of reinventing my life with the full support of my husband. I'm excited and a little scared at the same time. I decided to be more of a stay at home mom, so I'm basically working on getting everything in place for it. Except, I did accept a part time position two mornings a week teaching a class in the same subject area as my masters degree. As long as I can keep myself organized, I'll be good. Edit: So that's my goal - get organized and stay organized.
/r/RedPillWomen15/01/20 03:32 PM
3

As for the person who originally posted the image, what were they doing on a porn site?
/r/AntiFeminists14/01/20 01:08 AM
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I've never experienced or seen anything like that first hand, but I saw the attitude in college. This is one reason I rejected feminism - it's takes too much energy to be a shrew, and I'd rather channel that energy elsewhere.
/r/AntiFeminists13/01/20 05:31 PM
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Take a look at r/feminism. It should be self explanatory.
/r/AntiFeminists11/01/20 04:34 PM
3

"Ful ofte in game a sooth I have herd saye!" "The Cook's Tale", Geoffrey Chaucer, 1390
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/20 05:52 PM
2

If you're a "rabid feminist" as your flair says, then I'm not surprised.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/20 05:45 PM
6

You're reading things into my comment that I never said or intended.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/20 04:07 PM
1

Interesting. I never thought of it that way. Thank you!
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/20 03:32 PM
3

Women.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/20 02:58 PM
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I never said that doesn't happen. There's more than one reason women will dump or cheat. When it comes to cheating, some people are just scum.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/20 02:58 PM
5

I'm not sure what you mean. Please explain further. Specifically, how does this affect their behavior?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/20 02:53 PM
8

I didn't say it did.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/20 01:54 PM
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Of course women don't bully men over their lack of masculinity! Instead, women will either dump their un-masculine man or cheat on him, or both.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/20 01:52 PM
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I began to reject feminism while I was in college. I realized that it wasn't promoting equality, but was more about further dividing people. I decided that I really didn't want any part of that.
/r/AntiFeminists10/01/20 05:08 AM
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Right here!
/r/AntiFeminists09/01/20 07:55 PM
3

So does this mean she's afraid of her own reflection?
/r/AntiFeminists07/01/20 08:12 PM
1

It's important that the couple have many common interests and compatible values. This gives the couple the ability to bond on many different levels. And respect is absolutely essential in any LTR.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/20 06:30 PM
3

And I'm one of them.
/r/AntiFeminists07/01/20 02:32 PM
3

Great idea! Maybe we could also set an example for our politicians.
/r/AntiFeminists07/01/20 02:06 PM
2

Please keep in mind that while I believe that Red Pill is accurate, we also have the ability for higher level, abstract thinking. So it's very possible to override a lot of the behavior that we're hardwired for. Some may have to work harder at it that others, but it's still possible. The Greek and Roman philosophers wrote about this and it's also in much if the ancient world's wisdom literature, including the Bible.
/r/AntiFeminists07/01/20 01:46 PM
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I subscribe to r/RedPillWomen and a couple of other Red Pill subs. I think a lot of the Red Pill ideas are fairly accurate. In fact, they have allowed me to better understand my own reactions. I also hang out a lot on the anti infidelty subs (I was cheated on by my ex), and Red Pill has helped me understand what causes infidelity and how to properly react to it. That is, dump the cheater, but Red Pill has helped explain why they should be dumped. This is important given the emotional upheaval th…
/r/AntiFeminists06/01/20 10:43 PM
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I completely agree with you. They are in marriage, and he has no right to make declarations like this without some discussion. This is why I suggested starting the conversation. Maybe she can get to the root of the problem. But ultimately this could be a deal breaker.
/r/RedPillWives05/01/20 05:52 PM
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I'd be taken aback as well, to say the least. I would start out with sitting down with him and having a heart-to-heart talk. Find out what his thought process is and why he's reluctant. My guess is that he may have a commitment issue. It's one thing to commit to you, and another to commit to having a child. And it is a big commitment. What are your expectations? Is this a deal breaker for you? Is this a deal breaker for him? I think you both really need to lay your cards on the table and talk th…
/r/RedPillWives05/01/20 05:11 PM
1

I would like to suggest going to the public library and see if they have any cookbooks. If they do, then thumb though some and find something simple, elegant, and appealing.
/r/RedPillWomen28/12/19 05:07 AM
2

That has got to be one of the most ridiculous comments I've seen. If we have to go to that extreme to colonize other planets, then in fact we are not colonizing at all. Rather we are creating a new race to do it for us. So the net effect is zero. I hope you're not really serious.
/r/AntiFeminists27/12/19 05:00 PM
2

Charming. /S So we've caused all kinds of problems with our environment, and now you want to do the same thing with our species.
/r/AntiFeminists27/12/19 04:46 PM
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You sound like a Nazi. So what are your plans for creating a master race? I'm not sure if this is a serious question or if I'm being sarcastic. Maybe a little of both.
/r/AntiFeminists27/12/19 04:30 PM
2

So much for equality.
/r/AntiFeminists22/12/19 08:17 PM
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I am so thankful for my husband. He's a good, decent, hard working man. He's quite mechanical and does a lot all of our home repairs. He's very particular, does really good work and has saved us a ton of money. He's also a very good amature musician (violin and piano) and I love to hear him play. He always tries to be available for me and our children. He has taught me what it means to feel cherished. He's open to self-improvement and encourages me to do the same. He has exceeded all my expectat…
/r/RedPillWomen10/12/19 04:05 PM
2

That bad attitude of yours is going to be a problem. If not now, then it will be eventually.
/r/AntiFeminists07/12/19 03:42 PM
1

Google "in vitro fertilization". It would take me too long to explain it.
/r/AntiFeminists06/12/19 02:57 AM
1

I don't understand your question. What is what?
/r/AntiFeminists05/12/19 06:52 PM
1

If abortion is needed to solve overpopulation, then shouldn't we also outlaw in vitro fertilization?
/r/AntiFeminists05/12/19 03:28 PM
3

I understand your frustration, but name calling is counterproductive - don't sink to their level. I think it's true that SOME men are trash and SOME women are whores, but to say that ALL are is probably more of an indication of the type of person that you're attracted to. In other words, if the best they can attract is the trashy type or if they don't know how to manage their personal relationships with men, then that's their problem. It should be clear by now that feminism has little to do with…
/r/AntiFeminists05/12/19 03:24 PM
1

Probably not, since food scarcity was frequently a potential problem up until (maybe?) the late 19th century. It's something we don't even think of anymore. Need food? Go to the grocery store. Can't afford food? Go to the local food bank.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/19 02:38 PM
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If you look at the some of the classical paintings, you might notice that some of the women are on the plump side. So, it could be that what we consider to be attractive is cultural, or what is attractive is whatever is most difficult to attain.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/19 01:52 PM
1

My husband's is 3, including me.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/19 05:04 AM
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I agree in general, but as you implied "high value" is somewhat subjective. There are some more common features as you listed, but it can also vary depending on what the woman is looking for.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/19 05:11 PM
1

I guess he is. He's just the type that doesn't really like sitting around and likes to accomplish things.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/19 05:13 AM
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My husband is 7 years younger than I am. He said that he chose me because I'm more emotionally mature and intellectually interesting than most of the girls he usually met. He's a great guy, lover, partner, and a great dad for our kids, and pretty ambitious. He's really handy around the house (saved us at least hundreds of dollars), a good provider, and talented in several things, including being an amateur musician (violin and piano). And I get to crawl into bed with a sexy younger guy every nig…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/19 05:56 PM
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Since you haven't defined exactly what you consider to be a "High N-count", it's difficult to agree or disagree with you.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/19 05:39 AM
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For me it would be the end of the relationship, already cheating or not. If I'm not enough, then I'm gone.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/19 01:56 PM
2

Thank you! The last time I made a comment like this it took about an hour for someone to take issue based on the approx 3% of the world's population that MIGHT have an anatomically ambiguous gender. (My husband and I had a bet and I lost!) Changing our entire culture for a tiny minority is not only silly but a complete waste of time and counterproductive. But don't let that stop anyone from taking issue. The clock is running and I'm waiting.
/r/AntiFeminists25/11/19 08:42 PM
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Wanna know what gender you are? Look between your legs. That's a dead giveaway. Study concluded. How are the implications handled in our modern culture given our evolutionary history? That would require some very serious critical thought, honest discussion, and imagination. So-called "gender studies" will never figure it out since their assumptions are highly questionable and their reasoning is mostly circular and already prejudiced. They're basically looking for the best policy to persist the c…
/r/AntiFeminists25/11/19 08:24 PM
7

It sounds like you're making appropriate changes. Maybe also start leaving your credit cards home or put them somewhere so they are less accessable.
/r/RedPillWomen24/11/19 05:25 PM
1

I'm still new to this sub. Why did you get banned from r/Feminist? Did they say? To me your post sounds like you support everything they want.
/r/AntiFeminists20/11/19 02:03 PM
1

You didn't really answer the question, but that's okay. First, hypergamy has nothing to do with being or not being inferior. It has to do with the way women select their mates. Men don't select their mates in the same way. Because hypergamy is a thing, to say that gender is a social construct is illogical. The manner in which gender is expressed can be a social construct, but not gender itself.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/19 11:09 PM
5

Then she doesn't believe in evolution either or evolutionary psychology.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/19 10:21 PM
2

"... gender is just a social construct used to pressure people... " Is that true for hypergamy as well?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/19 10:04 PM
1

Me neither.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/19 07:50 PM
2

I thought that's what I basically said, in a kinda cheeky way.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/19 07:49 PM
3

I'm shorter than my husband, even with heels. He says that I can be smarter than he is, make more money than he does. That I'm older doesn't bother him in the least. Just as long as I'm not taller than him.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/19 02:54 PM
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In my opinion, a conversation like this should be done face to face. Since I don't know either of you, my advice is to just make sure that your tone of voice and demeanor are friendly and not accusatory. Make sure your body language isn't defensive. Choose your words carefully so you sound more like your looking for clarification and your not trying to start an argument.
/r/RedPillWomen19/11/19 03:54 AM
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I think I would be concerned, that is if I considered this to be a serious relationship. I think you should probably have a good heart to heart talk with him about this. Maybe ask how this affects your relationship and what this means in the grander scheme of things.
/r/RedPillWomen18/11/19 07:50 PM
1

I'm here because I'm interested in how other people think. The entertainment value is pretty good also.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/19 07:42 PM
8

Huh? I thought all pain is taken seriously.
/r/AntiFeminists18/11/19 07:38 PM
1

TV shows, movies, and fiction all create unrealistic expectations. None of these use the natural evolutionary mating strategies. I'm sure if they did, they probably wouldn't be as popular.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/19 05:25 PM
0

This can happen to men also. It could have a lot to do with the environment that you're working in. It could be a simple case of office politics. My advice is to make sure your skills are in good shape, look into getting some professional certifications, and look for another job. Edit: Sometimes the only way to move up is to move out.
/r/RedPillWomen16/11/19 03:37 PM
2

How much younger is my husband? He's 7 years younger.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/19 06:06 PM
2

Because hypergamy is still a major factor, even if the choice is a younger man.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/19 03:24 PM
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For the most part I agree. But then there are those rare younger men who are smart, ambitious, active, and have so much potential. My husband is one of these.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/19 02:58 PM
1

I'm not sure what you mean by "redpill 'catholicism'". Can you please explain?
/r/RPChristians13/11/19 03:40 AM
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Yes, I would be offended. In fact I would question if I want to be married to him if he even asked.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/19 03:36 AM
2

Oh yeah! I hadn't thought about that. Okay, add that to the mix as well.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/19 07:50 PM
1

Your first example isn't really that extreme. You see this sometimes on r/relationships, r/relationship_advice, and r/marriage. Like about once a week, at least. You can also find your second example on those subs. So this might be more common than you think it is.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/19 05:14 PM
12

It's a huge deal now, considering how much gets spent on plastic surgery.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/19 05:10 PM
2

I think it depends on the insecurity itself. I have passing insecurities, which are probably a reflection of my mood, hormones, etc. These I either keep to myself and I might journal about them. Other insecurities are more persistent. My husband already knows about these. I have been very open about these and it was a good call, since he would have probably figured it out eventually anyway. It saved us some steps and prevented some discussions that would have been unnecessarily awkward.
/r/RedPillWomen08/11/19 03:56 PM
4

Has she said why she wants this? Did this just come out of the blue?
/r/RPChristians07/11/19 10:48 PM
4

I really like your posts! Thank you so much!
/r/RedPillWomen07/11/19 08:42 PM
8

As a musician I tell you that if you were to suppress adultery, fanaticism, crime, evil, the supernatural, there would no longer be the means for writing one note. Georges Bizet
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/19 06:16 PM
3

Thank you for this. I like being a mom and I like being a wife to my husband. I have a preschooler and a baby, but as I recall from my teenage years, that period can be pretty rough. Thanks for the reminder, and hopefully I will remember this when my kids get to that stage.
/r/RedPillWomen31/10/19 03:29 PM
3

Since they are so thrilled about his work, is it possible for him to negotiate a better salary?
/r/RedPillWomen30/10/19 06:59 PM
2

What I really like are ambiguous questions just like this one.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/19 09:18 PM
2

LOL!!!
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/19 09:17 PM
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There's a post about that sub over on r/RedPillWomen. The OP of that post quite eloquently tore FDS to shreds. It was the most exquisite use of logic and clear thinking that I've seen in quite some time.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/19 06:41 PM
5

Maybe you should suggest something new for a date?
/r/RedPillWomen29/10/19 01:00 PM
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I don't understand why this is such a difficult concept. Both feelings and technique are important. I'm not going to analyze it down to the subatomic level. I've had partners that had excellent technique, but there was no emotional connection, so it was empty, disappointing, and meaningless. That's my point. For me, both are important. Fortunately, I have a husband that understands this. I will also add that the more open you and your lover are to each other, the more satisfying all aspects of t…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/19 04:38 PM
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Okay, but I had plenty of random sex during that time after my divorce, and I can honestly say that what I have now with my husband is far better.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/19 02:56 PM
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Not quite. I want more than just sex. I have discovered that the more connections I have with my partner, the better the sex is. In other words, I also need a emotional and intellectual connection with him. Sex is meaningless and unsatisfying without these.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/19 02:43 PM
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I did go through a very promiscuous phase after my divorce. For me it was (3) - validation of being desired sexually. I stopped because I realized that it was not what I wanted, and it was actually counterproductive and causing more problems than anything else. I wasn't being desired, but allowing myself to be used. So I stopped virtually overnight and went into "nun mode". I remained there until I met someone who truly desired me, not only sexually but wanted to spend quality time with me and w…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/19 02:31 PM
1

I have found that hypergamy explains a lot, not only about how other relationships work (or don't work), but about why I chose to marry not only my husband but also my ex. I find the entire concept very interesting.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/19 02:19 PM
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It was just a case where I didn't plan well and then on top of that nothing went the way I expected it to. So the oopsie was loosing control of a situation that I should have been able easily handle. It was a learning experience.
/r/RedPillWomen28/10/19 04:06 AM
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Yes, but they could also be trying to avoid costly lawsuits. Don't get me wrong - I think this whole thing is beyond ridiculous.
/r/RedPillWomen25/10/19 05:39 PM
1

Sure, but the older they get the more likely they could have attachment disorders. When you adopt an older child - or any child for that fact - you really need to understand what you might be getting yourself into.
/r/RedPillWomen25/10/19 05:21 PM
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Honey, you sound really down. What might help is make sure you're eating healthy. Cut out any junk food, fast food, etc. Eat lots of fresh veggies, beans, and some lean meat. If you smoke anything, then I would encourage you to stop, and keep any alcohol to a minimum. Develop a good workout routine. Start slow. Take a brisk walk, try some planks, pushups, and eventually try some weights. Try some regular prayer or meditation. All of these will help you physically and develop a more positive outl…
/r/RedPillWomen25/10/19 01:53 PM
1

If I were so unhappy that I was tempted to cheat, I would leave the relationship. I have been cheated on, and I know how it feels. I would never do that to another human being.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/19 01:06 PM
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My husband does woodworking as a hobby. For his last birthday he asked for some walnut lumber as a gift. Okay! Whatever turns you on lover! I tried to ask him what it was for, but he was kinda evasive. Build something, obviously. A few months later I found out what he did with it. He built me an absolutely beautiful jewelry box for my birthday! To me it's more precious than the stuff that goes in it!
/r/RedPillWomen25/10/19 12:34 AM
1

Why? Just curious...
/r/RedPillWomen24/10/19 05:11 PM
4

Because a woman can't get pregnant with a BJ.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/19 11:58 PM
1

😂
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/19 05:31 PM
3

I don't really "need" anything. It's just a nice to have, because I like it. Besides, where do I say that I don't treat him as a prince?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/19 05:29 PM
4

I think the first one is that if you're not happy before the relationship, then you won't be happy once you're in a relationship. The only thing you can control is you, and you alone are responsible for your own happiness.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/19 02:38 PM
1

I guess no one can accuse you of being polite. It also seems that you have a reading comprehension problem.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/19 02:12 PM
3

Thank you. I think so too! I can also add that together we make some pretty good looking kids.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/19 01:58 PM
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My ideal man is a little taller than I am with dark wavy hair. He's usually groomed except on Saturday or a day off where being a little scruffy would be kinda sexy. His sense of humor could be goofy or dry, and he wouldn't take himself too seriously. He would treat me like a princess and would be polite to everyone. He would be reasonably confident without being too cocky. His n-count would be unimportant as long as could remain faithful to me. He would need to be employed, but his salary would…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/19 01:46 PM
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No, are you? You could have taken a real quick look at my post history and figured that out for yourself.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/19 12:46 PM
2

Of course there's sugar in bread. There always has been. It's needed so that the yeast will make the bread rise.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/19 02:53 AM
1

Google it.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/19 08:54 PM
1

They're desperate and pathetic and have so little self respect that they don't mind eating someone else's leftovers.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/19 06:58 PM
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Oh boy, this is a tough one and I feel for both of you. I've been reading up on Red Pill theory, so I will do my best to express my ideas from that perspective to the best of my understanding. First, procreation is a fundamental drive in all of us. According to Red Pill theory, one of the factors a woman uses to select her mate is based on her estimation of his reproductive ability. If he is aware of this either consciously or subconsciously, then that could be the origin of his feelings. Now, h…
/r/RedPillWomen22/10/19 03:43 PM
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Maybe, but I read somewhere that people that have the same activity level as someone 20 or 30 years ago still tend to be heavier. That's why it is believed that it could be the widespread use of antidepressants that's the culprit. But maybe you're right. Maybe it is lifestyle and that we'd rather sit in front of the computer or on our phones than eat less and be more active. It could be several things that's contributing to the problem.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/19 03:23 PM
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There's been some discussion about this on the internet. No one seems to be to sure why the average weight seems to be increasing. One idea is that there are a lot of people on antidepressants, which can cause weight gain.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/19 02:09 PM
1

Look it up: alpha male and beta male.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/19 01:58 PM
2

To start, I would just Google stretching. If you're going to work on your arms, then you probably should look at stretching your arms, shoulders, and neck.
/r/RedPillWomen21/10/19 07:36 PM
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Please do a little research and find out about stretching and warmup before you start lifting. Also start slow at first and don't over do it. The most important thing is to make it a habit and have a consistent workout schedule. Good luck!
/r/RedPillWomen21/10/19 07:21 PM
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As long as you're eating healthy and well, you shouldn't become underweight.
/r/RedPillWomen21/10/19 07:00 PM
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Strength training shouldn't cause you to loose more weight, at least over the long term. There might be a slight initial dip, but then you may actually gain weight since muscle is more dense.
/r/RedPillWomen21/10/19 06:53 PM
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Thanks for clarifying that. I was confused on that point as well.
/r/RedPillWomen21/10/19 01:25 PM
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I'm kinda the same. I'm on the petite side and almost 38, hubby is 31. People will think I'm the same age or a little younger than he is. I feel like it puts pressure on me to take excellent care of myself. I've never smoked and keep the alcohol consumption down (a couple of drinks a week). I try to take good care of my skin, workout, eat well, and get as much rest as I can with having 2 little kids.
/r/RedPillWomen20/10/19 05:42 PM
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True. Right now she's deep in the "affair fog". It could happen again. What I don't get is what kind of a man would drive 10 or 12 hours to see a married woman and promise to marry her. Like I said before, statistically these types of relationships usually don't work out. They both seem to be a little psycho. She might actually be doing her husband a favor in the long run.
/r/RedPillWomen19/10/19 07:05 PM
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Woman here. First off, she sounds emotionally immature. This whole thing with maybe or maybe not cheating is a dead giveaway. And her excessive drinking is another problem. If she hasn't cheated, this could easily lead her into it. Needless to say, she lacks self-control, which is another sign of emotional immaturity. Second, I'll bet one of her love languages is NOT physical touch. If this is important to you, then there's trouble ahead. Either that, or she really doesn't want to be touched by …
/r/askTRP18/10/19 04:40 PM
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Gaslighting is a form of manipulation and in some cases, is considered to be emotional abuse. It is a technique that is almost always used by a person that is cheating in a relationship. My advice is to cut this person out of your life before this relationship gets any more toxic.
/r/askTRP18/10/19 02:06 PM
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Until a few hundred years ago? The 10 Commandments were written more than 3000 years ago, which includes, "Thou shalt not commit adultery." Every civilization and belief system has condemned adultery throughout history. Another part of the cheaters mindset is that they will go through incredible mental gymnastics to justify their behavior, just like this. And if you got this out of some book, then you can't believe everything that you read.
/r/RedPillWomen17/10/19 05:58 PM
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"...we're naturally polygamous..." There's absolutely no reliable scientific evidence to support that claim. And if that were true, then adultery wouldn't have the devastating effects that it does have on the betrayed.
/r/RedPillWomen17/10/19 05:20 PM
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If he were morally responsible then he wouldn't be having an affair with a married woman.
/r/RedPillWomen17/10/19 03:18 PM
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To be honest, you have the classic cheating mindset. I can't tell you how many times I've seen this before on the infidelity subs. You'd be far better off to leave your husband and hookup with this guy when your divorce is settled. You haven't really vetted this new guy and for all you know he could be stringing you along. He could be married and has no intention of leaving his wife. As it is, you're setting yourself up for a train wreck.
/r/RedPillWomen17/10/19 03:04 PM
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It may interest you to know that relationships that start out this way statistically fail most of the time. Either he will cheat on you, or you will discover that he's not what he appeared to be and you'll grow tired of him eventually. In my opinion you have a lot of growing up to do.
/r/RedPillWomen17/10/19 02:19 PM
2

Horse and buggy thinking. LOL!
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/19 11:14 PM
1

Divorce first, ask questions later.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/19 11:13 PM
1

Fortunately, no.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/19 11:11 PM
3

The Ring. It gave me the creeps for a couple of days. Oh, and try going for a hike in unfamiliar territory after seeing The Blair Witch Project.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/19 10:03 PM
4

My husband rolled me out of bed one night. I woke up in midflight. He woke up also with me glaring at him. He moved over and said, "Please come to bed honey," then rolled over and went back to sleep.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/19 01:29 PM
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This is actually an older confession - an oopsie that happened a while back. When I was on parental leave, I would like to take a shower before my husband got home from work, freshen up, smell nice, etc. It was a nice "welcome home" for him and helped me feel better about myself as well. A win-win for both of us. It was a way of telling him that I'm present physically and mentally and that everything is under control. On Fridays I would try to have a drink ready for him also. Sounds great, right…
/r/RedPillWomen15/10/19 09:24 PM
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Thanks for posting! After reading to this, I've realized that I have not become Red Pill, but rather I've been Red Pill almost all along in the relationship I have with my husband. I look forward to seeing more of your posts!
/r/RedPillWomen15/10/19 08:36 PM
9

"Submission means to trust on a profound level." Very true and eloquently stated.
/r/RedPillWomen15/10/19 07:05 PM
1

Share and enjoy!
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/19 02:00 PM
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I was still recovering from divorcing my cheating ex. We met at a church picnic that my sister and her husband dragged me to. I was standing in line to get a drink and this cute guy struck up a conversation with me. It turned in a conversation that lasted almost 2 hours. We exchanged numbers. The following weekend we got together for coffee. Shortly after we started dating. He made some claims that I found to be extraordinary about what he was doing and into (I can't go into due to doxxing conce…
/r/RedPillWomen14/10/19 07:15 PM
2

"Pretty much all the women here are blue." I'm not. I'm actually quite happy.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/19 05:24 PM
1

This looks like bleu cheese (I think that's how it's spelled). What does this have to do with Red Pill vs Blue Pill? If you don't like it then fine! Don't eat it. There's not enough for you anyway!
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/19 08:28 PM
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Oh I get it. Purge week means that everybody can act like an asshole with no consequences. Okay, if that the case, then people like OP should be castrated. There's my contribution.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/19 01:49 PM
1

She does and she's a human being.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/19 01:45 PM
1

Because it was done without her consent. As such, it is a violation. This should be intuitively obvious. Stop being stupid.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/19 01:43 PM
2

Thank you for your kind words.
/r/RedPillWomen13/10/19 03:03 AM
6

Why do you assume that just because a woman is bisexual that she's going to want to have threesomes? I have some bisexual tendencies, in that I do find some women sexually attractive. Just because you find someone sexually attractive doesn't mean that the possibility of having sex is an option, or even a good idea. If my husband suggested a threesome, he'd be out the door. He married into strict monogamy. For both of us. Period.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/19 06:35 PM
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I'm almost 7 years older than he is. I know it's probably a bit unusual. But the truth is that my husband has more integrity and has more strength of character than my ex did, and he was 3 years older than I am. I think that chronological age and maturity frequently do correspond, but not always.
/r/RedPillWomen12/10/19 02:51 PM
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I am older than my husband. We had a similar discussion a long time ago. He said that he chose me because I'm more emotionally mature and intellectually interesting than most of the girls he was meeting. I suppose he could be an exception to the rule. As for procreation, we have two children. So that's covered. And despite the fact that he's younger, he lead our relationship quite well.
/r/RedPillWomen11/10/19 08:37 PM
1

There was plenty of good advice given on that post. Did anyone read any of it?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/19 04:54 PM
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I'm just so thankful for my wonderful family. My husband is such a good man. He leads us and tries hard to set a good example. My daughter is doing well in preschool. And my baby son is sleeping through the night again!!!
/r/RedPillWomen10/10/19 04:41 PM
2

If I didn't believe that my husband is a very intelligent man, there's no way I would have had sex with him, much less married him.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/19 04:45 AM
1

OP has an interesting idea, but it also hinges on the definition of "open minded". This term can mean different things to different people.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/19 01:58 PM
2

This is a weird question. But, the answer is obvious: they should date narcissistic, misogynistic guys.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/19 02:34 AM
23

Yeah, and OP could also file charges and probably should have.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/19 12:49 PM
5

She's probably using you as Plan B. Don't fall for it.
/r/askTRP07/10/19 03:19 AM
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You might try scrubbing the toilet bowl with Comet or my favorite, Barkeeper's Friend. Use a scrub brush if necessary. If the stains are really bad, it might take a few times. I recommend wearing rubber or nitrile gloves, especially if you have sensitive skin.
/r/RedPillWomen06/10/19 04:28 AM
2

True. And she has no idea what Red Pill is. I mean if she did some honest research, she might even be interesting.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/19 08:22 PM
4

Since the question asked about early 20s, I didn't include my ex, whom I met in my mid 20s. As for me and my ex, I would have vetted him better and then wouldn't have married him.
/r/RedPillWomen04/10/19 02:20 PM
2

I have always been glad children weren't involved! I saved that for my true love, to whom I am married to.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/19 01:36 AM
3

In short, it became apparent that he claimed to be something much greater career wise than he actually was. I should have asked better questions, require him to introduce me to ALL his friends, etc. He also preferred women with bigger boobs and I'm not very well endowed in that area.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/19 01:27 AM
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Not so much what I would do, but how I would think. I would get into some therapy to help me better deal with my insecurities.
/r/RedPillWomen04/10/19 01:04 AM
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I'm not sure that I understand your question, so I'll answer as best as I can. My low n-count was because I'm Christian, and I was busy getting started in life (college, working, etc). My ex was only the second person I had sex with. We married, then I found out he was cheating. We divorced, and I went crazy (abandonment issues, depression, and questioning if I'm attractive) and my n-count skyrocketed. It stopped over night, mainly because I got disgusted with myself and realized that my behavio…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/19 12:52 AM
0

No. Double. It was over a 5 month period.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/19 11:23 PM
3

I told my future husband about my n-count. The reason I did was because on the off chance that he discovered that I had a high n-count, it could damage or destroy our relationship. Second, if he decided that my n-count was a problem, then I'd rather find out sooner than later. I acquired my high n-count during a very bad and dark time in my life. As far as he was concerned, as long as I could remain monogamous, he would overlook my n-count. I also volunteered the information on my n-count. I wan…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/19 10:20 PM
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I think OP is going to have to do some serious work on herself to increase her SMV. And she must be honest about her past and clearly demonstrate that she's not that person anymore.
/r/RedPillWomen03/10/19 02:42 PM
4

Hello mods! Is there any truth to this?
/r/RedPillWomen01/10/19 09:20 PM
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My goals are about the same as they were last month, but now I'll have to put in more effort. My workout routine got disrupted - I stopped running in the evening because it was too hot. Someone here suggested that I try swimming instead. Well duh! Why didn't I think of that? I talked to my husband about it and before I was even done talking he said to go for it. Great! Then within 24 hours, I started to show the symptoms of a cold that's been going around. Not so great. So now that I'm all bette…
/r/RedPillWomen01/10/19 05:02 PM
4

I have been Eastern Orthodox most of my life and agree with what you have written. My husband is Catholic and I have an appreciation for the Catholic faith, but I still prefer the earthy mysticism of the Eastern Orthodox faith.
/r/RedPillWomen01/10/19 04:30 PM
3

THIS!!!
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/19 06:54 PM
4

Thank you for your kind words!
/r/RedPillWomen27/09/19 08:20 PM
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Maybe I'm way off, but... To me, red pill is a set of guidelines, or ideals that we can aspire to. It's not a series of check boxes that if you get at least 8 out of 10 then you're red pill. To be an introvert or extrovert is more of a personality type. Either can be feminine or not, and at the same time, I think both can easily work within the red pill philosophy. If nothing else, an introvert could have an easier time being quiet and demure.
/r/RedPillWomen27/09/19 06:48 PM
1

Your argument is irrelevant since most of the examples that you provided are as about as far from red pill as you can get.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/19 06:17 PM
1

I think that's because women should have a low n-count. Ideally this is probably true. I just wanted to be open and honest with my future husband. If he was going to reject me because of it, I wanted to find out sooner than later. I did it out of respect for him and as an act of self-protection.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/19 09:16 PM
1

Yeah, you're probably right.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/19 08:20 PM
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I just feel that honesty and disclosure is the best policy. That way you know exactly what you're getting. For example, I saw someone over on the Adultery sub say that they were very promiscuous in college and she never told her husband. Well, she never lost the habit and, unknown to her husband, is still sleeping around. She thought it was real funny. That's the risk.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/19 07:05 PM
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I'm flattered. I'm also married. Unbeknownst to me, I'd been living in a semi red pill state for about 6 years. It's only been in the last 6 months that I have become cognizant of it and fully embraced it. After I threw my ex out due to his chronic infidelity, my previously extremely low n-count skyrocketed. After about 5 months of going crazy and getting pretty well plowed I went into nun mode virtually overnight. Then I met my true love and found myself feeling that I should share the uncomfor…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/19 06:27 PM
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I don't understand why people don't disclose this sort of stuff when in a serious relationship. I think it's a mistake not having an open and honest discussion about your sexual past and sexual attitudes before you marry each other. If one of you can't handle it, then the sooner you find out, the better. If you're wondering, my husband and I disclosed EVERYTHING when it was clear that our relationship was serious. This includes the number of partners (serious and casual), any details, etc. So fa…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/19 04:10 PM
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As for the flakey scalp and sensitive skin, you might talk to someone who works at a salon. They might know of some products that might help. If that doesn't work, then I would recommend talking to your doctor. As for your bf's mother. How does your bf feel? Is he happy with the way you handle yourself? Also, I don't think being feminine means being quiet all the time. There are times when being a little forceful might be appropriate, especially where your interests are concerned. But, you also …
/r/RedPillWomen25/09/19 01:56 PM
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I think the overall trend of selfishness over serving is, in fact, a trend impacting almost everyone in modern society The good news (or bad news) is that this is nothing new - this topic came up in the New Testament: "...whoever wants to be great among you, let him be one who waits on you." (Matthew 20:26) And yes, I need to be reminded of this once in awhile as well. Thank you for posting OP!
/r/RedPillWomen21/09/19 04:23 PM
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Based on my life experience, I think you're right. Except it can be more than just "daddy issue holes".
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/19 03:48 PM
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I think you have some interesting ideas here, but you might be better off posting this on r/askTRP
/r/RedPillWomen21/09/19 04:32 AM
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Physical looks are important. But for me personality, integrity, and intellectual ability are also very important.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/19 10:56 PM
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I'm still kinda new to Red Pill but I was wondering, why do you want to marry by age 25? I'm just curious. Aside from being your best self, I think the most important skill you will need is the ability to vet potential husbands. Learn to recognize red flags. My first marriage failed. First, I'm not sure Red Pill was around then as a guiding framework. Second and in any case, I didn't vet my future husband correctly. I ignored a couple of red flags. In part, we became sexually active too soon, an…
/r/RedPillWives20/09/19 06:05 PM
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I saw that article last night. I'm still kinda new at Red Pill, but I think I'm catching on. That article stated some things that just didn't seem right, but I don't know enough yet to figure out what specifically is wrong. Thanks for pointing out the flaws.
/r/RedPillWives20/09/19 05:30 PM
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Narcissism has always been a problem.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/19 06:28 PM
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OP, you seem to be almost obsessed with finding fault with anything Red Pill, as if it's a threat to your very existence. Your view of Red Pill is unreasonably narrow, almost to the point of being ridiculous. If you look for opportunities, then you will find opportunity, If you try to find fault with anything, then you will find nothing but faults. Just a little wisdom from Stoic Philosophy.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/19 03:53 PM
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I guess you're right!
/r/RedPillWomen18/09/19 07:21 PM
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I got married because I was in love with my future husband. He's stable, fun to be around, he tries to be fair, and I believed that he would make a good father. He's a good, principled man. We got married (eloped) sooner than we both had planned because I discovered that I was pregnant. Neither of us have regretted our decision.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/19 07:20 PM
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My husband does notice how I'm dressed. He will complement me on my appearance, but he's also not consistent, or so I thought. For example, I could look practically sloppy (old clothes when I've been weeding outside and my hair's a mess) and he will tell me that I'm sexy. I eventually realized that it was a way of saying, "I love you."
/r/RedPillWomen18/09/19 06:51 PM
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My understanding is that Red Pill is about being your best self, and being free to express your femininity, and your husband being free to express his masculinity. You both get to work out the details. If the details include children, then so be it. If not, then I would presume that it's okay as well.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/19 04:32 PM
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Your argument is illogical, since it depends on how you define "far-right". According to some, good manners are considered "far-right".
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/19 01:58 PM
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OP, you seem to have distorted view of "Red Pill". One of the principles of red pill is that men and women are different and that we each have our strengths and weaknesses. But together we compliment each other. Red pill does not necessarily mean that we strictly follow traditional gender roles.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/19 01:51 PM
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I think there could be several reasons sexual interest falls off. First, there's day to day stress, which can be compounded with children. Second, if the couple doesn't grow together and do fun things together - continuing to date each other is essential to keeping the spark alive.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/19 02:46 AM
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My goal was to be the very best for my husband and children. For me it was a mixture of things. "Emotional Intelligence" and "13 Things Mentally Strong People Don't Do" were two books that really made an impact. Reading some things on Stoic Philosophy also helped a lot. I've also been in therapy for a lot of things from my past and it's also helped a lot. I have realized that self improvement is a continuous process and should be revisited periodically.
/r/RedPillWomen17/09/19 01:57 PM
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Personally I'm not interested in formal studies, I really prefer to do my own research. My lover (husband) is an excellent research partner.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/19 01:08 PM
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Communication is important, but I think respect is even more important. I've seen couples that communicate really well, but it was clear that they did really respect each other.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/19 01:06 PM
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LOL! Okay, that makes more sense!
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/19 03:03 AM
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For me it's not so much about "sexual compatibly" as it is finding someone who cares enough to find out what is pleasurable. If you can find someone who is willing to find out what you like, then you've found the right lover. After that, the size of his penis becomes a secondary concern, if not irrelevant.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/19 03:02 AM
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I'm sorry, but I don't understand your question.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/19 02:56 AM
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My husband tries to sexually please me 100% of the time, and does so 98% of the time. So maybe it's their choice of male partners.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/19 02:41 AM
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I'm straight (mostly) and I've never had difficulty having an orgasm with anyone. However, I discovered that to have a good quality orgasm (the deep, Earth shattering kind) that I must have an emotional connection with my lover, which I have with my husband. It also helps that he's masculine, good looking, and one hell of a lover. So I don't see your point, or even why anyone would care.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/19 02:35 AM
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I've thought about this, but I work full-time and with 2 kids it's a bit of a logistical problem. I'll talk to my husband about it. Maybe we can work something out.
/r/RedPillWomen17/09/19 12:05 AM
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I'm really sorry that this happened to you. Good men are out there, you just have to know where to look. I met my ex in college (who cheated on me, so I sympathize with you), and my husband at a church picnic. My advice is to look in a church community. Or maybe stop looking altogether - that's when I found my husband.
/r/RedPillWomen16/09/19 11:57 PM
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Just out of curiosity, where did you meet these guys? The reason I'm asking is that could be part of the problem.
/r/RedPillWomen16/09/19 08:27 PM
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I need to get back into my physical fitness routine before I loose a lot of what I've accomplished. Not necessarily an oopsie, it's just been a little too hot for all that physical activity. On the good side, I've been making good progress with my piano skills!
/r/RedPillWomen15/09/19 04:12 PM
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The words that you used indicates the problem. It's not real to you, and it's not going to be until you apply it to your life. To me it's real because the problems that they had aren't much different than the problems that we have today. For example, if you read the Wisdom books in the Bible, the advice that they give isn't significantly different from a lot of what's already in many modern self-help books. Emotional Intelligence comes to mind immediately. It's an idea that runs through the Book…
/r/RedPillWomen13/09/19 12:44 AM
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I think I understand where you're coming from. My situation is somewhat similar, but also different. I guess we have this ideal and when it's not fulfilled in some odd way, we're not sure how to interpret things. I'll use my situation as an example. Historically, I have been attracted to men a few years older than myself. My ex was 3 years older. Our marriage fell apart. My husband and father of my children, my captain, lover, and confidante, is 7 years younger than I am. I could describe him th…
/r/RedPillWomen12/09/19 02:43 PM
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At a church picnic that my sister and her husband dragged me to. I didn't really want to go, but they talked me into it. I was standing in line to get a drink, and this cute guy and I started talking. We sat down together and a couple of hours later exchanged contact info. A week later we met for coffee. He had this habit of opening the door for me which I found cute and charming. Anyway, we started dating after that. One thing lead to another, and we've been married for 4 years, have 2 kids, a …
/r/RedPillWomen11/09/19 04:28 AM
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If you think something's amiss, then there's nothing wrong with looking though your husband's phone or social media. If nothing else, you need to protect yourself and your interests.
/r/RedPillWomen10/09/19 03:54 PM
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Okay, but I think the older man, younger woman scenario is more traditional. I remember being in a historical museum and seeing 19th century records of men in their 30s marrying 16 year old girls. Even here on Reddit it's not too unusual to see older men in relationships with younger women with age gaps anywhere from 3 to 10 (and sometimes more) years. But an older woman with a younger man always seems to get some attention. The term for the older woman is "cougar". I don't believe there's a sim…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/19 03:25 PM
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And some people raise an eyebrow because my husband is 7 years younger than I am. Okaaaaay...
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/19 07:33 PM
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Why are you just applying this to the manosphere? There are plenty of women who do this also. I've seen tons of examples in life and in other subs. As to why anyone would do this? Good question. Maybe it's a case of, "Better the devil I know than the one I don't know." Or maybe they believe that they'll never find anyone else. Or maybe they're just plain afraid. Personally if I were THAT miserable in a relationship, I'd first do everything I could to fix it, but in the end if I couldn't, I'd lea…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/19 06:26 PM
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That's probably because you want a relationship, not some kind of trophy. That says good things about your character.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/19 02:51 PM
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The same can be said for hot guys. Edit: To add to what you wrote, someone can be a 6 or 7, but as you get to know them they can become more physically attractive. The opposite can also be true. Someone can be a 10 and become less attractive due to personality defects.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/19 01:45 PM
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To me this seems intuitively obvious. People will look for that which they consider to be healthy. It's a genetics or evolutionary thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/19 12:56 PM
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Good for you!
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/19 02:18 PM
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"They have the choices." You're right. And so do women. Which is why I don't let anyone bang me that I wouldn't consider a good partner and good baby making material. If you want validation, then look elsewhere.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/19 02:10 PM
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Okay, thanks!
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/19 03:58 AM
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True, because on the red pill subs you rarely, if ever, see any comments about blue pill.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/19 12:49 PM
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Actually I'm red pill. I just like to see how other people think. Edit: Down voted for being open minded?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/19 03:37 AM
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I'm sure that Lizzie Borden and every woman who's murdered her children will agree with you. /S
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/19 10:06 PM
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Bullshit. There are just as many crappy women as there are crappy men.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/19 09:39 PM
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Whenever my captain treats me like a princess.
/r/RedPillWomen30/08/19 06:24 PM
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I realize that it would require some effort, but maybe you should look at my post history to find out why I feel this way about my ex before making judgmental statements.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/19 01:33 AM
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This is a weird question. Breed with people? It sounds more like raising puppies that a child. You sound more like you're concerned with looks. Given that intelligence and behavior also have a genetic component, then what about intelligence or integrity?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/19 06:47 PM
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I have done this for my husband more than a couple of times. I don't see what the big deal is. I see it as an opportunity to do something nice for him when he's probably been doing nice things for me all day. Besides, it's also an opportunity to just be close to him physically and to show my love without any pressure or expectations. Edit: He's done it for me also.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/19 12:37 AM
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Okay, that makes more sense. If you don't see any other red flags, then I think it's safe to assume that this was an accident. That is, someone else's panties got mixed up in his laundry. His being open with his social media is also a good sign. BTW - It's not unusual for cheaters to accuse their SO of cheating, so I wouldn't be surprised if his ex was cheating on him without his knowledge. Her accusations could also explain his defensiveness.
/r/RedPillWomen26/08/19 04:28 PM
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I've been cheated on before so this one hits a nerve. I don't fully understand what happened based on your narrative, but since he's doing his laundry in a public place, this is a mistake that is possible. Evidence of cheating is frequently convergent. That is, it's not just one thing that pops up. Are there other anomalies? Do you think he was lying? If so why? Body language? From your story he sounded a little defensive, but I don't think there's enough to go on right now. I would advise you t…
/r/RedPillWomen26/08/19 03:52 PM
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I met my husband at a church picnic that my sister and her husband dragged me to.
/r/RedPillWomen26/08/19 02:14 PM
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What are your ages?
/r/RedPillWomen26/08/19 03:55 AM
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And beauty is in the eye of the beholder.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/19 03:01 AM
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That's definitely true if you're just acting.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/19 08:14 PM
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As a woman I can tell you that we don't like jerks. We prefer strong, confident men. My ex came off as a nice guy, but in reality was a spineless jerk and treated me like shit. My husband is strong and confident, and treats me like a princess. That is, he's not a jerk. TRP works.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/19 07:21 PM
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Thanks, but I didn't feel strong at the time. I DO NOT recommend the debauchery that I went through in the months following my divorce. In the end, it only compounded some existing problems. And since I wanted to be completely open and honest with my future husband and what happened, I felt compelled to do a lot of explaining. My advice is to hold true to your values no matter what. I do recommend finding a good therapist that can help you navigate the rollercoaster of emotions that if they have…
/r/RedPillWives23/08/19 03:25 PM
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In my situation there were no children involved. I married him at 27 and was divorced at 30. I didn't handle the breakup well. I think this was due to my insecurities - body image issues (not at all helped by his infidelity - he apparently like his women more "fleshy") and abandonment issues (I'm adopted). But I did survive, and a year and a half later met a wonderful man. We are now married with 2 kids. The general advice for surviving is to work on yourself. What ever that means for you. Physi…
/r/RedPillWives23/08/19 02:31 PM
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I am so sorry that you're going through this. I know because I've been in a similar place. You might consider posting your story on r/survivinginfidelity. They can give you lots of support and advice. I wish you the best of luck and hope that you find happiness.
/r/RedPillWives23/08/19 02:00 PM
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I'm not sure what a "GP" is, but in my opinion he may not be good "captain" material. To me he sounds selfish. Your birthday only comes once a year, his lessons probably once a week. No matter how stressful things get, your birthday is still your birthday, and if you're a couple then things like this need to be taken into consideration and if needed, negotiated. In this case, there was no negotiation. Being a good captain means that occasionally he will put your needs above his own. Secondly, un…
/r/RedPillWomen22/08/19 06:05 PM
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I was wondering what happened to you over on r/RedPillWomen. Just for the record, I always liked your comments over there.
/r/RedPillWives21/08/19 10:17 PM
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Very well. Then she should probably breakup with him. If I'm going to call a guy "captain", then I have to also have the confidence in him that he can lead the relationship. That also directly implies that I can depend on him. This behavior from OP's boyfriend demonstrates that he doesn't have the necessary maturity.
/r/RedPillWomen21/08/19 08:42 PM
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Agreed. OP, you and your boyfriend should also have a conversation on appropriate and acceptable boundaries.
/r/RedPillWomen21/08/19 07:09 PM
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My husband and I dated for 5 months before we had sex. He knew that I was still recovering from a marriage that ended badly, so he didn't push. I didn't want to have sex too soon because I was afraid it would cloud my judgement. In the end I think it worked out really well.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/19 06:41 PM
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I'm not talking about society. High value is a general guideline to help select an appropriate mate, instead of going with the first thing that comes along, and more importantly knowing enough to ask, "What's in it for me?" The entire point of both these concepts is, "Don't settle." If I had known this before I married my ex, it's very likely that I wouldn't have.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/19 04:17 PM
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Dry skin has always been a problem for me, especially in the winter. I'm definitely going to try this. Thanks for the tip!
/r/RedPillWomen16/08/19 02:42 PM
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My husband thinks I'm a goddess. That's all I need to know.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/19 02:11 PM
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You may have misinterpreted something. Red Pill theory says that women should seek "high value" men. This doesn't necessarily mean that the man has to out earn her. I will agree that "high value" is subjective, but it does mean that the man makes meaningful contributions to the relationship and will take the lead. It does NOT mean that the man is domineering.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/19 02:08 PM
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Maybe you both are naive, maybe not. As for your n-count, I don't think that matters as much as some would have us believe. For example, my n-count is much higher than my husband's (mine in double digits, his is in single digits), but as a lover he's awesome. In other words, a high n-count doesn't necessarily make you better. A caring attitude, concern and generosity toward your lover is far more important in my opinion. I think the most important thing in a romantic relationship is mutual respe…
/r/RedPillWomen15/08/19 02:57 PM
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I think the reason for this is that men see themselves as being rational and logical, but women can have an "enchanting" effect on men. Due to hormones, women can sometimes get men to do things they wouldn't normally do. So men see this as a form of control, when in fact the real issue is their lack of self-control.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/19 02:18 PM
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That is until the computer does something that's non-intuitive.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/19 02:13 PM
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My ex would have.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/19 02:24 PM
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I (38F) showed this post to my husband (31M). He acknowledged that for some it might be true, but he also scoffed at it. He suggested that it could be evolutionary, since a younger woman is more likely to be able to have children than an older woman. Also in the past, a woman needed a man to take care of her, so an older man, being better established, would be better able to do this. I agree with his reasoning. But for him, he says he couldn't stand 15 year old girls when he was in high school, …
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/19 01:57 PM
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I'm just so grateful for the man I'm married to: he's my captain, my wonderful lover, and my confidante. And our two beautiful children! I'm just do blessed! Life is good!
/r/RedPillWomen12/08/19 02:00 PM
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I completely agree! I frequently go to the gym with my husband and will get very sweaty while working out. He doesn't care how I look at the gym, so I dress to remain as cool as possible. It's the results that I'm most interested in, so I save looking good for outside the gym.
/r/RedPillWomen12/08/19 01:53 PM
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Married woman here. We both have our preferences as to what chores we're willing to do. I do most of the cooking during the week, we both help with the dishes and in taking care of the kids. My husband pays the bills, then shares with me what he did. He takes care of most of the yard work with my help and maintains any machinery. I do most of the grocery shopping. In other words, we play to our strengths and try to work together to get done faster. We both try to keep the house picked up and hav…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/19 05:43 PM
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What I said has been documented in psychological studies and is considered an evolutionary method of vetting potential mates.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/19 01:53 PM
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I'm sorry that you don't like the answer I gave. However if you're smart, you could do a little research on the female perspective and use this knowledge to your advantage when approaching women.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/19 01:37 PM
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It can be a way that we (women) vet a potential mate. It's not even likely conscious. I've done it and wasn't even aware of it nor could I explain why I did it. It was explained to me that we want to make sure that you're serious and are dependable. Somehow this has a ring of truth to it.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/19 02:18 PM
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Agreed. And when you do need to buy something that's on the pricy side (new appliance, phone, electronics, etc), do some research to make sure you're getting the best deal possible.
/r/RedPillWomen05/08/19 10:36 PM
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I understand where you're coming from. As a related example, I remember once being out with my boyfriend (now husband) and another woman struck up a conversation with him while I was in the restroom. I returned and his attention came back to me, but she persisted. Fortunately my glare was enough to get her to back off. In the scenario that you gave, it's your opinion of what he's thinking that's causing you to react this way. How do you actually know this is how he feels? What does his body lang…
/r/RedPillWomen26/07/19 02:38 PM
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Thanks!
/r/RedPillWomen25/07/19 06:12 PM
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This sounds simple and could be something my husband would like, so If I may ask... Is that all or is there a sauce added? Or does the sauce come from the baked beans?
/r/RedPillWomen25/07/19 06:10 PM
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Sorry, but "comfortable lingerie" is subjective. Any clothing should be comfortable, or at least not uncomfortable. Anyway, when it comes to the sexy stuff I wear for my husband's viewing pleasure, I usually don't have it on long enough to notice of it becomes uncomfortable or not.
/r/RedPillWomen24/07/19 06:52 PM
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Thank you for your posts; I've really enjoyed them. The comment, "Obsessing over equality could make everyone unhappy," is probably very true and certainly profound. This book is on my list, but maybe I should read it sooner than later.
/r/RedPillWomen22/07/19 03:26 PM
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Chronic lying.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/19 06:35 PM
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Wrong. I didn't say it was unremarkable, I said that there are other things that are more important - to me. You assumed a little too much.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/19 02:59 AM
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The only penis I care about is the one that's attached to my lover, who is also my husband. His is just fine. Although to be completely honest, for me it's way more than just his penis. It's his hands, the way he touches me, holds me, kisses me, etc. Also that I know how much he cares for me and that he will be there for me. In other words, it's the whole package.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/19 07:17 PM
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I don't think that shaming is ever a good idea. First, I agree that there are a lot of guys out there that think they're great but are absolutely horrible. A better method is rejection. Just tell them that they're terrible in bed and that you want better. If you want, you can tell them that they can either learn to do better or they're history. Either way I think they'll get the message and learn their lesson fast. Edited for clarity.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/19 02:05 PM
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I'm glad you made these changes! Some people live their lives without realizing what you have already figured out. Good job and keep up the good work!!!
/r/RedPillWomen16/07/19 01:42 PM
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Agreed. Your validation should come from within, not from others around you.
/r/RedPillWomen16/07/19 01:37 PM
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We have a maid service that cleans the house once a week. As for the day to day stuff, my husband will help out as needed, but it's mostly me. That doesn't mean he's just sitting around, there are things for him to do also, mostly the traditional male stuff. And the sexual part of our relationship is great!!!
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/19 02:07 AM
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I agree with the comment on posture. Other than that, it really depends on the guy.
/r/RedPillWomen15/07/19 05:35 PM
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Why would she want to fake her virginity? What else would she be hiding?
/r/RedPillWomen07/07/19 03:09 AM
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I use Lime Away, Scrubbing Bubbles (or whatever it's called), and a properly sized scrub brush. I've had luck with Comet and a scrub brush for really tough areas. I haven't tried it, but vinegar might also help with lime deposits. You might also look in Home Depot at their cleaning supplies and see if they have anything more heavy duty.
/r/RedPillWomen06/07/19 03:44 PM
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Good point.
/r/RedPillWomen06/07/19 12:22 AM
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Personally I find the "tree falling in the forest" arguments to be silly. Sound is a vibration of air molecules and will happen whether there's a receiver or not. Whether they get caught or not, they are still violating an agreement, or more importantly, a vow. They are cheating regardless. It's not so much a question of doing harm, it's more a question of integrity.
/r/RedPillWomen05/07/19 09:52 PM
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Sexual neglect - more commonly called a "dead bedroom" Husband sexually cheats on his wife, does he hurt her? There might be something you're not taking into consideration. I personally would say yes, he is hurting her. If she is having sex with him under the agreement that they are monogamous, then it can be argued that the sex he has with his wife is non-consensual. That is, she did not agree to have sex in an open relationship or something similar. (This gets very muddy and sounds a little "r…
/r/RedPillWomen05/07/19 09:25 PM
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Okay, but logically we can't have a meaningful discussion unless we agree on certain terms and definitions.
/r/RedPillWomen05/07/19 07:21 PM
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Very well, then maybe we should be more specific. According to Psychology Today, an accepted definition of an emotional affair is: When a relationship with someone outside the marriage (or relationship) affects the emotional distance, intimacy, and overall balance and emotional dynamic in the marriage (or relationship).
/r/RedPillWomen05/07/19 07:05 PM
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P in her v is the criteria for cheating? What about touching (non-sexual), then toward a peck on the cheek, then toward a kiss on the lips, then passionate necking, then sexual touching, then sexting, exchanging sexual pictures. Still no p in her v, so are they cheating yet?
/r/RedPillWomen05/07/19 06:51 PM
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I feel quite passionate on this topic since I'm a survivor of my ex's betrayal. First, according to several articles on the Psychology Today website, emotional cheating can be just as destructive as physical cheating. Both can lead to deception and gaslighting - this is what makes any type of infidelity so destructive. Second, emotional cheating is frequently the first step toward physical cheating. If one starts down this path, physical cheating can become easier to justify. If your emotional n…
/r/RedPillWomen05/07/19 06:21 PM
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I've been wanting to post this one, but I'm at a disadvantage on the proper terminology, so I'll give it my best shot. The vent covers on the underside of a microwave over the stove will eventually get greasy from just normal cooking. To clean them, I remove them from the underside of the microwave and spray them with a water soluble engine degreaser (borrowed from my husband). After letting them soak for a little bit, I wash them under running water. If they are particularly filthy, I might do …
/r/RedPillWomen05/07/19 06:07 PM
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You're 24 years old. Relax! There's a lot of good advice that's already been provided others. There's a book I've been reading that you might consider called "13 Things Mentally Strong People Don't Do" by Amy Morin. It's easy to read and could help you gain some self confidence, or at least help you not sabotage yourself. You should be able to find it at your public library or an online audiobook. Good luck!
/r/RedPillWomen03/07/19 01:21 PM
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Enjoy your trip!
/r/RedPillWomen01/07/19 05:16 PM
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The second movement of Vivaldi's Winter concerto, Beethoven's Moonlight Sonata, and Debussy's Clair de Lune.
/r/RedPillWomen01/07/19 01:30 PM
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One thing I can tell you about birth control pills is that when they say they're not 100% effective, they're not kidding. My daughter is living proof.
/r/RedPillWomen01/07/19 12:51 PM
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I think you need to be careful with this. My husband didn't really come across as "dominant" when I first met him. He was and still is quiet, a little introverted, kind, and gentle. Kinda like a "lone wolf" type. After dating him for a little while it became apparent that there is a tremendous strength under all that. He is confident without being cocky. He will take the lead and I have no doubt about his ability to be a protector. I have seen him a couple of times kindly call-out and even upend…
/r/RedPillWomen28/06/19 01:39 PM
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Sounds like the Russian Orthodox Church I used to go to. The women also wore veils.
/r/RedPillWomen28/06/19 01:12 PM
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I wish I could up vote this one more than once. I would add that if you're interested, be receptive, but don't chase. Let him take the lead. And if he doesn't want to or can't, then the sooner you find out, the better. Edited: spelling corrected
/r/RedPillWomen27/06/19 02:59 PM
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I'm still new to the red pill, but you've mentioned several things that to me would be red flags (or at least yellow), red pill or not. His "immaturity", sexual and otherwise, makes me raise an eyebrow. That you sent him a "bombshell" picture and his reaction was meh, is also of concern. But then, if you're not in a relationship, it's not clear why you would do this. It seems to me that maybe you're asking for a casual sexual relationship. If there's a libedo mismatch (and from your description …
/r/RedPillWomen27/06/19 01:41 PM
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I'm very sorry that this happened to you. What you have experienced is not unusual. I don't really understand why, but it's not unusual for people, men and women, to have affairs with low value people. It's counter intuitive, but they frequently will trade down rather than trade up. You will see this ALL THE TIME on r/survivinginfidelity. That he's a player is a massive red flag. In my opinion, this negates any other high value qualities that he may have. There's nothing wrong with you, other th…
/r/RedPillWomen25/06/19 01:50 PM
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"Girls with attachment difficulties or unstable homes have more partners." I've seen some articles on the Psychology Today website that agree with this, and it makes sense. It's kind of like the kids from an orphanage who didn't get enough attention who will go up to anyone and hug them. Yeah, it's cute but also a major red flag, and one that's well documented in foster care and adoptive circles. It has been documented that the child, when they grow, will have multiple partners and have trouble …
/r/RedPillWomen23/06/19 04:03 PM
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Excellent advice! My husband and I are in a similar situation. I do make more than he does, but at the same time he's certainly no slouch. I agree that the important thing is what value you both offer and bring into the relationship.
/r/RedPillWomen22/06/19 03:04 PM
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You're 15 years old! Give yourself a break! A lot of what your describing is normal teenage awkwardness that you will grow out of. I was much the same, along with many others. My advice is to relax. Keep your goal in mind and you'll get there.
/r/RedPillWomen21/06/19 08:03 PM
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Personally I don't find you entertaining, but you certainly are getting the attention.
/r/RedPillWomen21/06/19 05:31 PM
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Respect for each other is more important than good communication. I know of some couples who claim to have good communication, but they also say they're not happy. They start talking about why they feel that way and it usually boils down to one thing: it's debatable how much they respect one another.
/r/RedPillWomen21/06/19 05:22 PM
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I'm working on that also. What I've been doing is toning things down gradually. I have found some women in my circle who can do this. It's almost an art. They can speak in a feminine manner and still get their point across. So I'm trying to adopt their techniques into my speaking style. Although I do think that sometimes sarcasm and wit is appropriate, it's just knowing when, where, and how to use it
/r/RedPillWomen21/06/19 02:08 AM
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The biggest challenge in creating a workout routine is carving some time out of your day and making it a habit. Maybe during your kid's nap time? You may find that by doing a workout that you have more energy overall and feel better. Good luck!
/r/RedPillWomen20/06/19 05:20 PM
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Look for supplements that will help your skin. I believe that fish oil might be one, but maybe do some online research or ask your doctor. And don't discount a good exercise routine!
/r/RedPillWomen20/06/19 05:04 PM
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This, and some supplements might be a good idea, along with an exercise routine - something that tones and gets your heart rate up.
/r/RedPillWomen20/06/19 02:31 PM
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I've had to think about this one for a little bit. I'm new to the "red pill" philosophy so please be patient with me, but I think that "high value" is a little subjective. I'll start with my husband. He's a good looking guy and fit, a senior engineer who's respected at work, an officer in the part-time military, plays soccer recreationally, plays two musical instruments pretty well (piano and violin), and manages to keep all of the household and yard machinery maintained and running well. While …
/r/RedPillWomen20/06/19 01:54 PM
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My goal this month was to increase my run by a half mile. Well, I found out that my run was already over a mile, so that goal wasn't as challenging as it was intended to be. Anyway, I've also decided to finish swallowing the red pill and fully embrace my femininity. I need some new clothes, so I decided to start there. I did some shopping and found some clothes that I really like. I showed my husband to get his buy-in. This is somewhat of a style change and I did NOT want to raise any red flags.…
/r/RedPillWomen15/06/19 05:30 PM
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I feel like I've spent half my life in therapy, and I'm in therapy now. Most of this has to do with my past; I'm adopted and my ex cheated on me. That's just for starters. Anyway, if it will help you be a better partner, then by all means do it. However, if your sadness is chronic, then you might start by taking to your doctor first. It could be related to a physical condition. How's your exercise and nutrition? Improvements there can also help. If you decide on therapy, then look for a good the…
/r/RedPillWomen15/06/19 04:39 PM
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I'm really curious about this one, so I'll give it a try. Ketchup certainly smells better than Brasso!
/r/RedPillWomen13/06/19 01:33 PM
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I used to be a feminist, then I realized in college that feminism was counterproductive. It was doing more to alienate that anything else. Also, I have some very feminine tendencies and I felt like I had to surpress them to fit in. So I rejected feminism, but the problem is that I didn't really replace it with anything, so I sat on the fence for a very long time. A lot of things changed when I met my husband; I'm just beginning to realize how much. I have accepted that my feminine tendencies are…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/19 04:02 AM
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We were 32 (me) and 26 (him) and had been serious for about 6 months when the subject first came up. Neither of us remember exactly how it came up either (yes, we were both completely sober). We were both pretty stable and he had just gotten a promotion. I wouldn't have called him "high value" at the time, but definitely "high performance". He took me to a picnic with a group he is still involved with. I remember the other men and women congratulating him on his promotion (lots of handshaking). …
/r/RedPillWomen11/06/19 07:40 PM
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I'm just so grateful for my family. My loving, supportive husband and our two beautiful, healthy children (one is an infant). After all the crap I've been through in my life, I feel loved and have the family I always wanted.
/r/RedPillWomen10/06/19 05:11 PM
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I try to keep our foods simple and our diet balanced. Not too much salt and keep the processed foods and sugars down to a minimum (thank you instant pot and crock pot!). Regular sleep and exercise are not always easy with an infant, but I do what I can, and since my husband and I both work he helps out as much as possible. I can't offer him or my children my best if I feel tried and dragged out all or most of the time. My husband is very supportive and says I look better than a lot of the other …
/r/RedPillWomen10/06/19 02:01 PM
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You might consider posting this on r/SurvivingMyInfidelity They specialize in this sort of thing.
/r/RedPillWomen09/06/19 04:43 AM
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Thanks for sharing that article!
/r/RedPillWomen07/06/19 11:29 PM
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Ketchup for cleaning brass? That's a new one! Does it polish it? How does that work?
/r/RedPillWomen07/06/19 03:19 PM
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That last sentence could easily be the root of the problem. If that's the case, then no wonder you feel flat. In my opinion you should focus on getting that taken care of. Before we married, my husband told me that he believed it was important that we each practice a reasonable amount of self-care. If either of us is in a depleted state, then it will make caring for the other more difficult and could put a strain on our relationship. That was 5 years ago, and so far, so good.
/r/RedPillWomen06/06/19 01:51 PM
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Sorry if I sound like an ad, I love Bar Keeper's Friend for cleaning sinks, glass top stoves, pots, and getting KoolAid stains off my counter tops. It also doesn't seem to be as toxic as other cleaning products. I do recommend wearing rubber, vinyl, or nitrile gloves when using it especially if you have a tendency towards dry skin.
/r/RedPillWomen05/06/19 06:49 PM
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I think I agree with you; we're basically talking about the same thing, but using different terminology. I agree about being overly specific. I wouldn't call my husband "high value" at the time we met, but I would call him "high performance". I almost rejected him for one thing - he's 7 years younger than I am. Anyway, he has exceeded my expectations in all areas, and in a few has far exceeded them. I couldn't ask for anyone better.
/r/RedPillWomen05/06/19 05:09 PM
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If that's the case, then how do you distinguish between the ones who are acceptable and those who aren't? One limitation of the analogy is that we aren't mass produced products. We're unique individuals seeking SOs that are a good match. From your description, you could wind up with a lot of men who are inappropriate. Thus, you waste time on them, rather than targeting the ones who are more likely to be better suitable. A better "marketing campaign" could weed these out before you waste any time…
/r/RedPillWomen05/06/19 04:38 PM
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I'll admit that I'm new to the "Red Pill" philosophy. In my opinion, "SMV" implies that finding a suitable SO is similar to a marketing campaign. If that is true, then the more specific the target audience, the more successful the campaign. The question is, are the typical men that want a shaved pubic area the type I want to respond to my marketing campaign? Answer: Probably not. Counterargument?
/r/RedPillWomen05/06/19 02:32 PM
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Good point! I never thought about it that way before. Although I've heard that it has become popular because of porn - I guess you can see more without the hair in the way. My husband has respectfully asked me to keep mine intact. I shave my legs and under my arms (spring and summer), but other than that he believes that I'm beautiful just the way God made me.
/r/RedPillWomen04/06/19 09:37 PM
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Personally I don't think it's a good idea to remove your pubic hair. It's there for health and sanitary reasons. Just my $0.02
/r/RedPillWomen04/06/19 06:46 PM
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This. And as my husband explained it, you also take care of yourself. If you're not in a healthy state, you will less effective in taking care of those you love.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/19 01:41 PM
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All of these are excellent! Your first one, healthy boundaries, is critical. If you look at any of the relationship subs where there's a difficult or intractable problem being discussed, it is frequently related to poor boundaries. Good fences make good neighbors, and healthy boundaries make happy relationships.
/r/RedPillWomen04/06/19 01:24 PM
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Your question is ambiguous. What kind of weird hangups are you talking about?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/19 05:32 PM
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This, and try not to hang around others with low self-esteem or low self confidence. If you do you risk getting dragged down with them.
/r/RedPillWomen03/06/19 05:06 PM
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First of all, his comment wasn't classy at all. Second, if you're going to have casual sex like this (sex with not even a hint of commitment), then (and I'm sorry to say this) you're asking for it. Don't cheapen yourself, and don't allow yourself to get into a position where you can be devalued like this.
/r/RedPillWomen03/06/19 01:07 PM
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I can run a mile now. I would like to increase it by another half mile. Plan (from easy to harder): Get my husband's buy-in. Make the time commitment for it. I have a particular landmark that I would need to run, so I will run a little further toward it on each run. Maybe take it a little slower to start with.
/r/RedPillWomen01/06/19 07:31 PM
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I'm not sure that I entirely agree with you. It also isn't clear if you have children or not, and to be honest you sound rather naive. I agree that good guardianship is important, but as a parent and an aunt, boundaries are also critical. Boundaries are also important in any relationship, whether it be friendship, marriage, or a parent-child relationship. I also firmly believe that good boundary skills are important in promoting s sense of emotional intelligence and emotional maturity, which are…
/r/RedPillWomen31/05/19 06:51 PM
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AHG rocks!!! My niece is in an AHG troop and my daughter will be when she's old enough. From what I've seen its a much more healthy environment that Girl Scouts ever was for either me or my sister.
/r/RedPillWomen31/05/19 04:21 PM
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I completely agree with this. Smartphones are for adults, not children. I saw an article a while back that many Silicon Valley executives don't allow their children to have smartphones. Smartphones can be difficult to monitor even with parental monitoring software.
/r/RedPillWomen31/05/19 02:51 PM
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I too would like some Rid Pill parenting sources. I will say this much - much of the toxicity in the world revolves around external validation. I am trying to teach my little daughter that by virtue of the fact that she exists means that she has value. Validation should come from within, and not from external things (material, others opinion of you, etc). I feel that this is an important lesson to learn at an early age, and I would have had much less pain in my life if I had learned it earlier.
/r/RedPillWomen31/05/19 02:27 PM
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My first wedding was on the big side and rather expensive, along with the honeymoon. It was stressful and that marriage fell apart 3 years later. For my second marriage we eloped, then went away together for a week. It was one of the most fun and romantic weeks of our lives. That was 4 years ago, and we're still going strong. Later we had our marriage blessed in Church. We invited some family and close friends. We kept our budget on the low side and had the ceremony in the chapel and focused mor…
/r/RedPillWomen31/05/19 01:25 PM
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No, we are not doomed to get fat. It's a good idea to start some healthy habits now. And the key word is HABITS. Eat right and develop a good exercise routine. Once it becomes part of your life, then you'll have a good healthy foundation. Good luck! Edit: Start slow and eventually start to challenge yourself. Try to avoid going overboard or trying too much all at one time.
/r/RedPillWomen29/05/19 01:23 AM
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Aveeno works well for me and Oil of Olay on my face.
/r/RedPillWomen27/05/19 12:38 PM
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I gave birth to our second child a couple of months ago, so I'm on parental leave. I always like to put on something nice to look presentable for him when he gets home. I'll freshen up and put on a long flowing skirt and blouse, dress, or something like that. Except a week ago, I put on something kinda sexy. He got the message loud and clear.
/r/RedPillWomen25/05/19 01:27 PM
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For me it was gradual, but it was our conversations and the things we would do together. Prior to us becoming lovers, he never pushed sex, but was caring and affectionate. When I finally admitted to myself that I love him, it actually caused me to want him more. We've been together for 5.5 years and married for 4. I wouldn't have it any other way!
/r/RedPillWomen25/05/19 01:21 PM
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I agree that it can be genuine. My advice is to know your boundaries and act in accordance with them.
/r/RedPillWomen24/05/19 03:10 PM
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As for your last sentence, that's the way I am and I can't help it - I'm a scientist by training.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/19 05:15 PM
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I think you're missing the point. I agree with OP on unconditional love, except for one particular point. Specifically, I think including God's love is actually irrelevant and incorrect by definition. And no, I won't elaborate nor enter into a theological debate. It never ceases to amaze me that all you have to do is mention "God" and you get an automatic shit storm. As for Heaven and Hell and the existence of God, there are literally 1000s of volumes that have been written on that topic since t…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/19 04:58 PM
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"I may get a loom soon" Very cool! I've been thinking about getting a spinning wheel. Or getting my husband to build me one.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/19 02:01 PM
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I play the piano (digital keyboard). My husband plays the violin, so we will also play together. Sometimes we will play for family and friends. I also like to do needle crafts and work in the garden. In the winter I like to go snowboarding and snowshoeing, and in the spring and summer I like to go hiking, swimming and camping. I also like to workout and keep physically fit. Between these and being married with a couple of small kids and working, I really don't have time for Netflix.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/19 01:56 PM
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Overall I agree with you. All relationships are two way. Except the last paragraph. God doesn't punish us for our sins. In effect, we punish ourselves.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/19 12:14 PM
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Okay, maybe no-fault divorce should remain as it is. But, there should be some recourse for a betrayed spouse in the case of adultery. Of nothing else, this becomes a mental health issue.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/19 02:13 PM
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Interesting. I had never really thought about it that way.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/19 08:34 PM
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I broke up with one guy I really liked because he hinted more than once he was adverse to marriage or any kind of a permanent relationship. I dated my ex for 3 years before we married. I dated my husband for almost 16 months before we married. I guess it depends a lot on the personalities involved, their ages, maturity, commonalities, etc. If you could put all that in a formula, then there are probably a lot of people that shouldn't be together.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/19 05:32 PM
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I'd label it as, "Mostly harmless".
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/19 05:02 AM
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37F here. I think that the "bad bitch" is an attempt at being assertive, but in fact is actually being just plain disrespectful. And yes I have run into these. To be honest, I did go through a promiscuous phase after my divorce, but I realized that it wasn't healthy for me. So I stopped. I must have an emotional connection with my lover for sex to be truely satisfying. Under what conditions would I be true to one lover? There must be mutual respect. Everything else follows from this.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/19 05:52 PM
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Being a "nice guy" and good moral character are not necessarily synonymous. Frequently "nice guys" do not have healthy boundaries, which is what makes them "nice". I find myself attracted to men of integrity, but that doesn't mean they're pushovers.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/19 05:12 AM
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For me [37F], I'm rather independent (or at least I think so). I consider any man that needs frequent validation is too needy. I have dated guys that are too clingy, and it drives me nuts. I also value my time alone, if for nothing else, just to think. I also find frequent texting annoying. Don't get me wrong - sometimes these things do happen, and even I do them once in a while. Its when it's a frequent occurrence that it gets to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/19 02:44 PM
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I don't know. My husband sees me as desirable. That's good enough for me!!!
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/19 10:11 PM
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I disagree. My Ex's love language was "Gift Giving." He was always giving me some trinket or something else I didn't really want.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/19 09:30 PM
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Both my husband and I have the same love languages: Acts of Service, with Physical Touch being a close second. As a result we communicate well and are always content to do things for the other. Not to mention a wonderful sex life. On the other hand, this does produce some interesting arguments sometimes. "I'll do this." "No, you go relax. I'll do it." It can be annoying at times, but I wouldn't have it any other way.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/19 09:21 PM
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Deal breakers regardless of how attractive he is: If he had cheated on a previous partner. Lack of maturity (I have found a lot of men like this, regardless of age). Either controlling or not assertive (one extreme or the other).
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/19 09:30 PM
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THIS!!! And the one who cheats should next to nothing from the shared assets.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/19 01:51 PM
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My husband is 7 years younger than I am and I wouldn't trade him for anything. I also have friends that married younger men or are in relationships with one and they are all happy. Younger men are awesome!!! BTW - I met an elderly woman a couple of weeks ago. She's 80 years old. Her husband is 5 years younger and they've been married for years. I told her that my husband is also younger than me. She looked at me and said, "We're cougars." That made me laugh!
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/19 03:21 PM
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Good for you OP!!!
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/19 03:15 PM
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I think the so called "wage gap" is really more of a skills gap.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/19 03:14 PM
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As someone who has been cheated on, I can say that you're very naive.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/19 06:29 PM
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Well, she knew that she was having an affair. Therefore she also had to have at least suspected that the kids weren't his, since she also knew whether or not she and her AP used condoms. In any case, she let him believe a convenient lie.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/19 06:16 PM
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You age poorly if you don't take care of yourself.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/19 04:04 PM
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Maybe it would be better to focus on the emotional maturity of the people involved.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/19 04:01 PM
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She lied to him everyday and more or less forced him to raise kids that were not his.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/19 03:59 PM
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My husband and I eloped, so my parents weren't told until after the fact. When I married my ex I did not take his last name, but I did with my husband. It just seemed appropriate and I like his last name better than mine. It goes well with my first name also.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/19 06:36 PM
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I for one corrected my own mistake. My ex was a narcissistic POS. When I chose my husband, I did everything I could to make sure I wasn't repeating a mistake. So far, so wonderful!
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/19 12:38 AM
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